Why Many Indians Don't Want Babies
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भाई natalism वाले मांस खाने वालो की तरह बात कर रहे हैं।😅
Non veg वाले कहते है हम नही खाएंगे तो संख्या बढ़ेगी और ये उल्टे ही है उनसे।
दोनो ही विनाश के रास्ते पर है।
वाकी समाज को दिशा देना सरकार का काम है जोकि लोगो को 2 बच्चे पर सीमित कर रही है।
अब से 15 साल बाद ये दिक्कत सबको दिखेगी और इसे कोई control नही कर पाएगा।
I'm really inclined towards people who don't want kids and are aware about it. Some people are not even good parents but they keep the baby even if they become parents accidentally. I really like that these people are thinking beyond 'have kids' thoroughly. The population of India is already worst. Glad these people are choosing not to hv kids.
You should speak more confidently. Your contents are superb but it asks for more confidence from the person who speaking.
Hold the Individualism in the cities. Let rural people live comfortably, because they won't be able to deal with fallout from it.
जो घट रहा है वो प्रकृतिका वरदान समझो।उसमे क्यू टांग अड़ाते हो।तुम लोगो को ये बिना अनुभव पता नही है।की स्त्री पुरुषों में १३ तेरह तेरह प्रकार के किन्नर दक्ष प्रजापति होते है चुटिए बस हिंदू शब्द उच्चार करने से कोई हिंदू नही हो जाता
It’s better to be childless than a neglecting parent.
Yeah but this axiom is being used as a justification. "There will be moments where I regret my actions" + "I might put my child to harm" = I will be a bad parent for sure= not having children makes me a good person.
childless hota h bhai, parentless kaise hosakte ho
@@numairx6034 u spotted 😂😂
Parenting is not an easy task , specially in this gen z times
As American President I really support NO CHILD MOVEMENT❤❤❤😊😊😊
You could've added one more point that is:
OUR EXPERIENCE : Growing up in an household where you see your parents continuously fighting or you can simply say in abusive environment tends to plant a seed of "How better it would've been if i was born in this-that household". This thought continues to grow a insecurity in ourselves that "What if we can't be good parents and end up like ours". This can be a reason not a major one but still I guess.
This is so true. Not blaming my parent but I see their struggle and got that mentality
We are living in the best era of human history and you're still complaining about some family issue
@@roger_x_edits bro just because there's lot of technology around you doesn't mean all the other prblm can be neglected and I don't know about you but yeah being grown in an environment like that I am very sure about my future plans of marriage and babies.
So true
Very true. MONEY doesn't make a good parent. OBVIOUSLY. Or a household that's good to grow up in.
It's not selfish to not have a child.
In fact,
it is very much sefish to have a child just because YOU want to or under societal pressure and then not having enough time and resources to spend on him and give him a good life.
It a bigger crime than murder to give birth to someone without their consent .
True labors and beggars in India have so many children and they use them for child labor or begging. That no way a respectful or good thing.
So true. Ive also seen an argument against not having children that you'll be left alone in old age. I dont know whats more selfish than that. They are seeing seeing children as some sort of future investment or insurance.
@@alphiwilson2657 yes so what? the biological reason is so that you want to increase your progeny, having children so you have someone to take care of you at old age is a good reason to have child. At least then you will take good care of your child
@@Aksarallahbut what if I don't want to? You can't force me to you'll face consequences if you do so.
I am a single man decided not to marry but soon will adopt a baby girl(actually my mother will) and i will take care of everything like medicines, lifestyle, studies and all.
I always wanted a baby girl daughter/ sister now my dream is coming true i am so much happy and excited 🎉
Adoption is the best thing any human can do to help another human
So happy for you and your baby girl 🤍
Take care of her
Congratulations 🎉 dear
Then why not your own child who carries your values and virasat 😂
Thank you for caring. Wonderful of you!
Rich people who can afford to raise children don't want them.
Poor people who can't afford to raise children want them
Complicated
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@@ApulicaOfficial can we relate poor people to uneducated people?
Because most poor people think they would need support from their children when they grow old. They know they don't earn enough to support themselves once they can't work, so they want children as support stick
So true
Our generation is so lucky to be having the wisdom that they can also NOT have a child. Previous generations just blindly followed the norm.
And they regret now because their kids sent them to old age home and many even committed property fraud against their parents. So it's better to die peacefully without kids rather than die of poverty because of fraud.
Overpopulated
That's why we are 1.42 billion including all of us.
Bro no offence but that sentence sounded more like “our generation knows all, the previous gens shit”
the previous generation knew everything and they ignored except a few.@@manvithamin5894
As a 22 year old woman. I also decided not to get married or have children in future. It's not because I'm selfish it's because I've seen more people with failed marriages than successful ones and as a woman in India I'm not ready to accept the indian marriage system.
Oh yes!! I have to say I've got the best parents and I love children too but the relationship part scares me because my parents were the best parents but they weren't the best husband and wife. It scares me for a fact that what if I end up in a situation like them
Amen girl!!
People are talking about kids. Here I am, who doesn't even want to get married or get into a relationship.
Tera PM banne ke lakshan he 😜
😂
Us bhai us
Right decision. This world is not sustainable anymore.
Likewise 😂
We don't like to repeat the mistakes our previous generation did. It's okay to be unmarried and also okay to not have a child
@@brigadier_pratap6207 If you can;t even afford 1 child, then you definitely deserve to live on street, not me. So basically you are saying you and your wife are working every single day and can't feed 1 more member. Which means you are under poverty line and are not willing to upskill
@@siddharthatalegaonkar3890the child doesn't need to be theirs they can adopt
@@averil560 How? They have no money and no strong Will. They just want to enjoy the whole life, for themselves. And spend money in Bar every Friday.
@@siddharthatalegaonkar3890yeah we want to enjoy life , whats wrong with it ? Im selfish and very proud to say that
@@Ayeinnn69 selfish?
What is it like to be selfish?
What is the ideology to be Liberal?
What is that one God?
Enjoy life by what means?
Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child. Having the self awareness or caution to just not have kids if you don't feel capable is honestly admirable...
That is exactly why I did not become a doctor. Doctors can make mistakes that can result in lifelong injury or death. 😢
@@rutvikrs😂bs logic . We're not saying that parents can make a mistake thus they shouldn't have kid . But if they DON'T WANT to have one ,then why tell them to have one . How miserably will an unwanted child grow
@@rutvikrsyou'll be trained for that they don't neglect you ...like that brain of yours.
@@rishabhadiga8864why motivate children to become doctors engineers and scientists when they want PhD in underwater basket weaving?
it's called iotrogenics. Every medicine carries potential for harm. Better not take them.
@@tanishkasingh3365 for the perpetuation of culture and humanity? A miserable child is still better than no children. If your noodle is having a hard time, I am presenting the upper limit of harm principle. Overcautiousness is the deadliest killer.
"Kya maine kaha tha mujhe paida karne ke liye."
This conflict between Sacrifice and Selfish has both good and bad consequences.
Yes but they dont have equal pros and cons ,, for now selfishness is better.
The same line I've repeatedly said in my 16-17teen don't know how many times. Now I really regret it bcuz now I can feel that words when keeping myself as a parent. I really don't want to hear that from my kid.
Every action has consequences...we r living and breathing as humans is a consequence that every other living being has to pay for....we r dooming ourself anyway why not have less and less kids..it would be better for everyone...only bad for economy on paper.But if there are less people fight for resources will resolve too.
@@meetcharubala you said right
Matlab tujhe bhi nahi hona chahiye tha
For me it's mainly financial.. Being middle class to lower middles class I've always felt broke and I've just earning and saving and slowly feeling I can buy the things I want, travel and basically enjoy a little freedom. I love kids but the thought of going back to that financial burden just scares me.. I've seen my parents struggling to pay my and my Sister's education fees or the sacrifices they've made to give me whatever I wanted. My father couldn't even buy new clothes for some festivals and it broke my heart man. I'll just earn as good as i can and I'll buy whatever they want and take care of them that's it. I don't want to have kids and again fall in the same loop. In today's world raising kids is a HUGGGE financial matter to consider. One can argue you can try to earn more. But there's no end to it. I'll lose myself trying to earn and struggle for my kids and it scares me that one day I might not like them for spending all my money on them. I Just want to live peacefully.
Its ok bro...u have got one life enjoy it..Dont worry earn live a peaceful life ..take care of your parents
Yes! Anyways kids won't come to help you in your death bed. I mean they literally kid their parents out of their own house and take away money and property.
Your decision is correct
Dil ki baat keh di bhai ne...
Fr bro
Even keeping aside the financial aspect, having kids is a HUGE responsibility. Only people who are ready to be parents should have kids.
very true, the responsibility is immense and most of these parents don't realise how much these responsibilities shape their kids mindset and the personalities of the kids, overall make them a good person for the future.
No one should have kids, then.
Running away from a responsibility is a game nowadays
@@SG-xd1sbdon't share your childhood memories in public
@@SG-xd1sb true.....
Not having kids because of any reason and accepting it frankly is the most noble act rather than becoming a bad parent or being selfish.
Dont make a child.. this world is criminal and predatory.. there is no need to bring in .. yet another TOY for God to play with
Look and visit the western village. Rich people are selfish thats why they blindly follow west and are trying to destroy the society like western youth less (young generation) society
Agreed, but having children and then leave them "ram varose" , is not acceptable, or arguing with own wife not having child just because a man can sleep with other woman or claim other persons child just because that child is blessed with fortune.....what are you call these people...
I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT SHOULD I CALL THEM...JUST ASK ..NO PROBLEM IF YOU DON'T ANSWER.
iam Gen Z and I am not even getting married and you are talking about childfree couple 😂😂😂
Same
Hn yr pr family ko kaise convince kre is topic pe😢
family hota bhi he iss duniya me? 2 din inlogo ka baat na suno to esa behave karte he hume iss duniya me laake bahut bada paap kar diye. So the question is...... do we deserve to be born?@@KaurPreetamn
@@jeet-smokey I have only one hope that is god cause hor koi to sunega nhi soch soch k dimag khrab ho jnda k ki bnuga life da
arre to apne decision me datt ke raho. kisi aur ke liye apne life ko compromise mat karo. 2 din bolenge, 3 din chillayenge.....aur 5 din ke baad bhul jayenge. its your life.@eetamn
I am into kids free marriage for the last 13 yrs , but our reason is we want to take care of our parents and we want to dedicate our time to our parents but everyone around says" ek bachcha to hona hi chahiye" people around us are not happy with our decision but I have nothing to do with them this is our personal decision.
Right
If they continue bothering you, just tell them directly that they can mind their own business instead of poking their nose into someone else's private life.
Great
Good for you !
@@amd.amdamdyeah true right their own life and they can decide what they want
Being childless is better than being a terrible parent
Because people are irresponsible
Then work on wisdom and ethics
@@roshinitoenlightenment exactly
Then learn to be responsible. How pathetic
@@yashtapase3821when you work on wisdom you will naturally be would not like to have kids
I respect these couple who just decided they don't want to be parents and not ruining another kid's life rather than being parent due to societal pressure and giving the kid trauma for life and leaving to suffer...
Exactly...
Did ur parents ruin ur life?
It's not always like if they have child, they will ruin their lives. It's just a choice.
@@Shaktiman-dz4vq no because my parents wanted to be parents... They had me when they want... Their life was sorted... But I have seen many examples who didn't want to be parents... Became parents untimely and ruined the child's life.
Apni mom dad se pucho unhone tumhe kyu paida kiya
Why is it selfish? You are being so very generous to the environment, the planet and the other humans who share this planet with you. How can you be selfish towards someone who doesn't exist?
Exactly how can someone be selfish to someone who doesn't even exist
That's the whole point like the child do not even exist and people say it's selfish to not have a non existing child like bruh
Married for 9years and we are childfree. I love kids but not enough to have one of my own. I don’t even feel that my life is empty or joyless. My husband and i are both doctors and honestly we don’t even have the time. We also want to retire early and we are slowly moving towards that. We are both actively involved with animal welfare and would eventually like to get more involved with that. We also support education of our help’s kid. My parents were doctors as well and i had a very neglected childhood. I won’t say i had a bad one but my parents weren’t always there for me. They made those sacrifices for me and i am grateful for them but it affected my bonding with them at a psychological level. No child should be neglected like that.
@@Amitraghaatabefore you tell someone to do something, first check whether you have ticked that box.
Have a great and adventurous life ahead❤.
@@Amitraghaatayou should focus on your life.
Maam You must be vegetarian or hypocrite
@@Amitraghaatanot at all. But see to it that you've done your fair share before telling someone else.
" A poor/ middle class person with a small mindset wants only to exist, while a wise and stable person wants to live.. "
Kya baat hain sir….kya baat hain …hamesha yaad rahegaa mujhe ❤
And according to you who is stable?
I don’t want kids because of my mother. I want to break the generational trauma.
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20 year old Gen Z boy here. Decided to not marry/have children in 2020 when i was 17 years old. I ll be turning 21 in September this year and i m still very firm on my decision. Brahmacharya for life 🙏!!
I do not practice celibacy ... And even in future too but I i respect for you.. let's not bring child into this cruel world
Raising a child is no joke ...here i am at 3:15 am watching this video with head phones on and chasing my toddler as he is not sleepy ...being parents need loads of patience and sacrifices
True❤
Having a child is a big responsibility and one should take it if they are really committed to the child.. because it will be unfair to the new life if we don’t give a stable emotional security to them
I agree Ma'am. Hatsoff to you.
And lots of podcasts😂
@@hazy76 ya thanks to the Bluetooth earphones 😝that helps to stay awake and meanwhile play with the baby as well
honestly being in a toxic household where moms were forced to make babies within 9 month of marriage or where parents treat you like shit, it's better to not have kids.
Irony is people like us will be better at handling kids than the toxic kind lol, coz we know exactly what it feels like. And yet its the toxic ones that want kids. Feel pity for the kids of those people.
@@Vedantindian2012 ikr! it makes me frustrated all the time.
It's better you don't get married
@@playbeatsantali why?
@@playbeatsantalijust because someone doesn't want to have kids doesn't mean they shouldn't be entitled to marriage (as long as it's a mutual decision.)
There is no need to glorify parenthood. Having a child for yourself is also selfish. One wouldn't ask the child if she or she wanted to be born, would you?
NB: I am a parent myself.
Same thoughts here, mate
Childbearing is a must for survival and survival by nature is selfish. So to categorising having a child to selfishness is basically questioning your own existence. Think about it.
@@dineshkrishnan4029 dont want to produce more souls on this planets
A bad parent you are
A bad influence you are @@rintuiam6503
My husband and I are married it's been 11 years, and we are so happy to be childfree😆
Its too long.
@@Upanishadicsaint So???
What does your parents say about BEING barren ?
@danish_thelearner my parents have always been supportive about my decisions. BTW, why do you care what my parents think about me being barren?
Hi I don't want kids my wife keeps forcing me what should I tell her, I don't have the financial backing or an mature enough to see myself as a parent any suggestions what to do@@blossomfernandes9475
"Not having children isn't selfish; it's making a well-informed decision about the kind of life you want to live." - Emma Thompson
Is it allowed in Islam
But there are many elements involved whether you have to or not to have a child
1.local caste or religion community create a certain peer pressure on couples
2. Then comes the family and relatives
@@PrithaBhowmick-cb1czEven Hinduism doesn't allow it.
@@PrithaBhowmick-cb1czislam talks about family system and it believes that mothers build foundation for society and yeah islam says be what's natural and allah said that women have been given the responsibility to build and give birth to new generation.
And yeah Islam thinks this system of husband wife and children is important and people who run from this are on right path.
And i think they are right regarding this because by Nature that's good.
You mf always take castism in any situation
I am 40 and my wife is 37. I am proud of myself for remaining childfree. It was a good decision. So happy in life .
Me khud shadi karke bacha paida karnewala hu but anti natalist ka fan hu ye log bache nahi paida karke competition kam kar rahe hai
Glad that you found a CF partner 🎉
good decision
If possible adopt a child or atleast finance a orphan's education.. i have not decided on having my own kids but i am going to finance atleast one child for sure..
@@shubhounofficial5125 I don't kids. So no point of adoption. Yes I may donate for some kids
we are the generation who will help our country to get rid of overpollution problems which we were hearing from our early ages....and am so proud of our generation for deciding to be a DINK.there are a lot of peoples like me and am happy haha
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WTH... You are deciding to not have a child because of "overpollution"?!
@@PzZulqar yes kind of
True
I have some kind of hope with the new generations coming up, they will help to reduce the population
People who are saying its selfish to not have kid's are just hypocrite cuz people who are having kid's is because they want their life to be secure once they grow old and it has always been like that
The more I see this, the more I think of the movie "Idiocracy". Smarter people don't give birth and not very smart people give birth by the dozens.
It’s my fav horror film
True
I think the thought of not wanting kids was always there, people just ignored their thoughts cause they felt it was a part of life and they just have to do it as a part of growing up. This just led to bad parenting and unhappy marriages just because it was not something the parent wanted. I'm not saying having kids is bad, I'm just saying it's a big life decision that not everyone wants to take and there is nothing selfish or wrong about it.
" I think the thought of not wanting kids was always there" - Absolute TRUTH. A lot of times children happen by mistake and obviously there is no going back.
This is so damn true...at least there are people like us who understands these things...if I go out and talk to anyone about this people will definitely call me insensitive.
Its all about survival man those who don't want children are just choosing not to survive through their offspring.
It's easier to conform rather than walk your own path. Only secure individuals or couples can take such tough decisions. Choosing to be childfree would be a disaster for someone who has no life of their own or are mentally dependent on others for their happiness. Being childfree makes you directly responsible for all your life decisions. Whereas I see most parents shift blame of all their bad decisions of life on their kids or their 'family responsibilities '.
Its so funny that people today having kids thinking that their kids will take care of them in their old age😂😂😂😂
They literally need some therapy and should know the practical as well as ground reality😅😅
I may be the only one here who has a kid. And trust me, it's not the best decision we made.
I had to make serious changes in my career, personal life and my overall behaviour. I am a totally different person now, coz I am responsible for another tiny human being.
I didn't want this in my life. And many ppl hate me for saying this upfront.
What would you list as the challenges on your experience?
It's not the child's fault, also neither yours, you didn't know that you would face the problems... I hope everything gets better with time🥹
It's okay, your kid is a blessing for you. Don't take it as a burden, specially after what happened in the suhana Seth case. Your child will feed you in the future and help your family get wealthier
You're honest. Motherhood is difficult and will change your life forever no matter how much others try to tell you otherwise.
@missionpehlapageair1holypd324 lol ok mr fortune teller!
Please spread this msg as far as possible. No kids can be blessing for over populated India. Poor and Illiterate people must also be encouraged to have no children or fewer children.
Finally people are taking good decision in india, this is a good thing that we can reduce the population and competition and contribute to the environment
Kids? I'd even avoid marriage in today's date💀
Seconded
Having a child and keeping it physically and mentally safe is anxiety..
Dont make a child.. this world is criminal and predatory.. there is no need to bring in .. yet another TOY for God to play with
Wise decision
U r right marrying in these generation is not worth it ...u can just be single and enjoy ur freedom and money 🤑
This is why our court allowed live in
No kids no responsibilities no expenses. Just saving and happiness.
Dont make a child.. this world is criminal and predatory.. there is no need to bring in .. yet another TOY for God to play with
Saving for what ? When you dnt have a future generation?? What's the purpose?
@@dhineshkumars1991she can donate to ngo's or fund a child s education also , there are many ways!
@@dhineshkumars1991 saving for themselves.
@BARBIE..111love❤
I'm currently a student and even I'm not planning to have kids simply because I want to live a free life and want to do many things which I'll simply have to compromise for kids. I don't want to be a father who's salty on his own kid so it's better to be childfree
Don't type such things..one random uncle will come and judge you for your own decisions.
This explains why I'm still unmarried. Living has become more expensive than dying since things are getting very difficult.
Children should be an option not an obligation. Many women in our country still don’t have any say in this. Sad state!
पुराने लोगों ने जो 8-10 बच्चे पैदा करके देश का बेड़ा गर्क किया है, तो अब balance करने के लिए एक भी बच्चा ना पैदा करने वाले लोग भी चाहिए।😐 So happy to seeing this.👍
एक दम सटीक बात 👌🏼
Ye mast aadmi
Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child
My husband (now) was married with another woman almost 10 years ago... Had 2 kids with her... Now they are divorced and fighting for their custody... Realizing how toxic my husband is, it's better that we don't have one... I don't want to have kids with him... And honestly feel sorry for his sons... Many parents raise their children to be toxic and narcissists.. making them raise another generation of toxic mentality...
You dont need child you need divorce.. you dont even had to marri3d ever
@@srikanthsv79 did you understand what she said?
@@hobi_water_cant_help1472 actually replied to wrong person, my bad
Mohak, you completely missed one point. The physical pain which a woman goes through for birth. Post partum depression etc. I don't have the heart to see my wife like this. Plus risks, what if something happens to her. The thought is terrifying! 😢
Then how do you live bro. Maybe your building collapsed, the car you are driving got accidented. Everything is so uncertain and you are terrified from having a baby. No issues if anyone not want babies, but these reasons that I became terrified by thinking of the process is just mockable.
Your wife is blessed to have a husband as loving as you. Most men rarely consider what the woman has to endure during pregnancy, as well as after giving birth simply because they don’t have to experience it. Also, regardless how involved a father is towards the child, he/she will always naturally seek out the mother more, so of course a lot more is at stake for the woman.
@@navneetyadav5275it’s really not a joke as even in the richest countries many women still die in childbirth despite all the advances in medicine. Furthermore, a woman’s body is never the same after pregnancy and birth.
A loving husband will consider all this with his wife before they agree on taking this major life changing event, and not just treat her as a baby making machine.
@deckhead33 so who is telling you to make a cricket team. Go for 1 or 2 after 2 3 year of marriage.
@@navneetyadav5275even one pregnancy is a huge toll on the body of a woman, and a natural delivery is the most painful process. We have huge respect for our mothers because of this, but many men often forget this when it comes to their wives. Very happy to see this gentleman is thinking of his wife❤
*No wife, no child, no Tension = Happy Life. Travel the world guys. Let the world surprise you.* 🌍
Loneliness??
@@SurajKumar-mw5hxlife is happy when u hv people by ur side cause we live around with people who are selfish nd evil. Yea have money but without money nd u live this world without family ur easy target 🎯.
No wife ki baat nahi kar raha hai, no kids topic hai
@@SurajKumar-mw5hxthey will know when they cross 50
Open challenge single reh ke dekh lo
The education system and syllabus is no less than a joke today in India. Parents should consider online learning for kids.
Having a child is like at least 15 years in Jail and 2-3 Lakhs penalty annually.
It's not exactly penalty it's kind of investment but anyways I'm anti birth guy so lmao hail no birth!!!
I am 40, married for the last 11 years and decided a long time back not to have kids.
I work as an animal activist, and have my own stray cat rehabilitation home. I enjoy spending all my money for the betterment of animals ( stray and farm) and environment. I enjoy more my giving to the earth in whatever way I can, rather than taking 🌱
Respect 👍
Respect for you.. I believe everyone has right to decide how do they want to spend their life.. 😊
Thats good but if you had kids, it only adds to the blessing in the world and more people to take care of animals and the environment.
@@akhiljames8807 seriously? More people, less humanity. That's how world works. We should think quality over quantity.
@@S-tx2lkexactly as we see we cut the forest and made roads and buildings so not making baby is a contribution to environment.
"To reduce human suffering due to pollution, reduce humans" Such an amazing thought😂😂😂
Do some research. it is logical and scientific
@@S-tx2lk It is scientific but not logical. The philosophy of reducing suffering by not being born is stupid. By this logic, humans should not have existed in the first place.
It actually is an amazing thought. Because its the humans that create pollution. Less humans means less pollution. Apply brains
@@S-tx2lkyou should begin with yourself & your bloodline then 😂
@@S-tx2lkpractice what you preach
I chose K.V rather than private school for my son, though I could afford any high class school. He is getting quality education at minimal fee of Rs1850 for 3 months. It was the best decision of my life.
I am genuinely interested in knowing how you got your child admitted in KV. Are you or your spouse a central government employee? I am expecting a baby (by choice, happily) but seriously concerned about the schooling situation.
Financial freedom should be given first privilege rather than marriage or having kids😎
In India it is very necessary to teach the male child to do the housework chores…we talk about gender equality only in corporates but not at home… from past few decades majority of the women started working and shifted to metropolitan cities where raising kids along with their job is a big task and dear husband behaves like 2nd child
I am 41 n married for 15 years but childfree n i have never regretted my decision. We travel, learn new things, take care of our health, do social work, animal welfare, care for environment . If not having a child is being selfish then having a child doesn’t make you selfless you just enlarge the circle of your selfishness . If one love children better serve in an orphanage or adopt a baby which is already born
Lol
बूढ़े होने पर कौन साथ देगा?
तब समझ में आएगा
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@@abhisheksinha3915bacche to jaroori nhi ki saath denge, or ydi aap sirf old-age ke liye baccha paida krte hai to aap selfish h
@@abhisheksinha3915 वैसे भी बूढे होने पर सब अकेले ही पड़ जाते है। बच्चे ख्याल रखेंगे इसकी कोई गारंटी नही होती। तो आप की बात बिलकूल बकवास है।
India should have population 20 crore rather than 140 crore ....
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Even in 1947 India had population of 50 crore bro
Tell that to the Muslims
Then why Hindus grew from 30 million in 1960 to 1.3 billion in 2020@@vickyv6645
@@vickyv6645true
@@vickyv6645 India me Muslims se Kai Guna zyada Hindus Hain aur kai Hindu families me bhi bohat se bacche Hain, na ki sirf Muslims me..
I was having similar thoughts for a while now. Good to hear this discussion and analysis.
Now I know that I m not the only one who doesn’t want a child😂
Kudos! I believed the same but we are not alone ✌🏻
We all feel like that sometimes 🤣🤣😭
Good 😂😂 when you cross 40 mentality will be different
Same here
Baring kids… adapting to an old system … “listening to society conditioning … putting so much pressure on there mental health … and then when ur kid choices to b different ( dyslexia) they will call u disabled
Protect ur womb by saying no to babies … because who will do what when they are born u just can’t trust
World is to polluted with mindsets …. Don’t have babies in the material world
Giving birth is a bigger cruelty than killing someone.
- Acharya Prashant
Most foolish statement it should have been
Raising a child in a bad way is bigger cruelty than killing someone
Jese log bache paal rhe h us hisab se yhi sahi lgta h ....
@@Parabrhama I think you didn't faced this worlds true colours... Hope someday you'll be understand this quote...
@@Parabrhamaif the world is not a good place then you can't raise your child in good way so ultimately that statement is correct.
True, it could lead to disaster for everyone. It affects parents, children, and everyone's life. However, a life with extreme drama is arguably better than a life with zero drama. We must consider the future, not only for ourselves but for everyone, as everyone's productivity contributes to building a better future. At least, we have to work towards it until AGI arrives. And that is why we should prioritize reproduction to ensure the continuation of life and contribute to shaping a better future for generations to come.
Who cares about the societal impact of being childfree. Its my choice!!!
It's a good choice
@@Crownking999 I'm glad there are people out there who are nonjudgmental :)
But I seriously judge people who have kids. I mean, how dare you bring another life without its consent and let it suffer for an indefinite period of time?
i cant bring any soul to suffer in this world by giving pressures of jee /neet,government exams,boards exams etc etc
since we didnt taught any morals ,remembering the book "the values,morals and ethics "from 1st -10th we were purchasing books but none of one word is taught in school
wasted my 10k due to this waste ,hopeless books
btw why we should bring soul for suffering for saving humanity !!!
we should look ourself how we possess ethics morals isnt it?
Finally some worth full comment
Someone got same thoughts like me ❤
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Bhai ya.. I had a special request: recently in Bengali society there is a trend of distance babies(maybe an age gap of more than 10+ years among two babies.. )... if u could do a video on that.. 😊😊
@@azurqasm2746beet gya mangalwaar
Ab sahi hai HINDU population jaldi jaldi Kam hogi or MUSLIM population lagatar BAdh Rahi h,ab 2050 tak INDIA Muslim country ban jayega
Islamic country India or inke jese youtubers Muslim country bnana chahte hai
Bhaiya
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Ab gaon jaake hi dhundhni padegi bhaiya ko 🙃
My parents are poor we don't have a good lifestyle, good higher education and healthcare. My parents don't go to hospital even when they are ill because we don't have money. I respect decision for not having children. Only those should have children who have money and can raise children with better lifestyle.
Greed of few people (primarly those who r involved in making everyday life or essential commodities expensive) has led to this scenario.
I wonder when the sun will become a red giant and just engulf earth and other planets. No earth no problems. 😂😂
Beautiful yet extremely crucial topic, I personally feel adoption is the best option coz there are many homeless lives that deserves decent living. But my husband is not very accepting to the idea of adoption, he wants to have our own kids. But this video gave me great perspectives by giving me right information of all aspects of today. Thanks again for the efforts.
Am going through similar kind of thing.. what you ll suggest as a friend..what to do .how to convince him..
Convince with a motive, facts and reality, first be sure of why you want to adopt. You sound like a young woman, generally you are expected to have the physical tendencies to carry a healthy baby but when you go against this and choose adoption, you must have a strong reason to go against your own capabilities. Next, understand what your partner wants, their idea of having a family, extending it, etc. Also, think about the reality of responsibilities of having a child, evaluate if whether you are capable physically, mentally, financially and in every other ways to include an extra life into your lives. First you should have a strong idea on your opinion, try to convince your partner with facts and reality. I suggest you to never force your partner into anything they don't want to be a part of, especially when it is about a child, a family. You could only try to convince them. All the best to your future, hope my answer helps.
An Assamese from Guwahati here sir.Never expected the video to start with such North East reference thanks a lot for your constant refferences and efforts to help us North-East Indians gain some attention.❤
Hosake.. I am from guwahati too
Irresponsible
Do north eastern Indians really think that people in the plain don't know anything about them or see them as different or non Indian?
In Assam hindu fertility rate is 2.0 while muslim fertility rate is 4.1
I am from Maharashtra and i love North East people. I find them cute, their accent, their tradition are things I like the most.
I used to think the same thing that we will live a carefree life without kids.... we had decide it very early when my husband was my boyfriend..we got married nd after few years surprisingly i came to know about my pregnancy..it was unplanned that too with twins....we decided to keep the babies....currently my kids are 1.5 years old.... for kids we changed city to our nearby hometown so that they can have time with grandparents we both are working but i having kids is best decision....me nd my husband used to be so workholic busy in party nd carefree life...but now we want to spend our time with our kids nd family nd our parents we learn so many things.... our kids bring simile on their grandparents face.... i feel like our parents are sooooo lively when they are with grandkids....nd believe me its satisfaction over any monetary thing....
Exactly
Happy for you that you feel this way but everyone has their different opinions on what they want.
@@saileekalekar708 ..u r right everybody has different opinions.... I have just shared my personal experience how me nd my husband's perspective changed towards life and family.... I feel like we enjoyed everything from partying to raising kids.... We r right now 29 years many people will think we are to young to have kids...but i don't feel like that way infact when we will be 49 or 59 our kids will be adult nd we r happy that things were unplanned but happened at the right age and time..... Kids r like a dot that connects each nd every family member..
good for you. doesn't mean others would feel the same, especially for unplanned kids
@@nessie1010 even if the pregnancy was unplanned but that does not make me feel stressed or less happy ....u don't get my MSG the purpose of this msg is different.. it was about priority nd family importance....rather than growing old in loneliness we would have family not like others .. nd right now I m 29 years my kids r 1.5 years people say It was too early but I think it other way when I will be 49 my kids will be adult already..... Planned or unplanned it all depends how we r handle the situation,in a positive way or negetive way
While poor who cant feed himself have 12 kids
3 years back I took the decision for not having a child for whole life, now you are motivating me a lot.
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I hope you will don't regret in your 60
Thanks for deciding to destroying the next upcoming generation. Stop earning money then. Bcs who will have it if you dont
@@GreatWebSeries1 regret and happiness is an option. And also remember those who had children already regretted it..
@@GreatWebSeries1he won't, he/she ll happily live their last days together as a financially stable and at a retirement home of their dream with no worries in this world. It's just you who has equated taking responsibilities in your head with happiness.
I am gynaecologist , when i went for an interview for job after my marriage, I was asked - when I am planning pregnancy instead of my work experience and qualifications. I was kept on adhoc only (for 1.5years) and they never made me a permanent resident as they feared that I will take maternity leave 😢
That is so scary
That sounds like an irony ..
I also face this situation
Can’t blame them. Imagine running a business and having an employee not coming to work for half a year and still having to pay them.
I'm glad that this video has given a chance to the ones who want to remain childless to put forth their thoughts. I'm one of those and I have zero regrets about being childless. Best decision ever.
Me being an 18 year old girl always used to think that its literally our duty to produce children i never thought about it as a CHOICE even coming from an educated family. I think it's mostly the impact of our society on us and our way of thinking. I knew many families and specially women who wants to be a mother ( who don't get pregnant that easily or had complications). It's totally normal to not have any child and live life happily but personally when i was younger and introduced to pregnancy by the first time , the very first thought came to my mind is that i am not going to do this all as i was really scared of all those things (imagine being 9 months pregnant with a heavy bump and then giving birth is going to be the hardest part ever) i knew that I can't do it and kept this thought with me for years but now as i grew older my mind is changing and it's convincing itself that no having a family is so important. And somewhere i also want to build a sweet family.
I'm glad to see that sane people still exist because I doubt they'll in future. People are sacrificing their responsibility for freedom and 'choices'. Having a choice is nothing wrong but there should be limit. If doctors chose to do whatever they wanted then it'll result in many deaths. If soldiers forsake their discipline and decides to be lazy then our borders will be flooded with terrorists. We're here to comment and write only because our parents gave us birth.
We're safe and secure only because responsible people still exist and if they all chose to do whatever they wanted then everything will be chaos.
I have mad respect for people who don't want children. If you like children so much, go and offer your service to an orphanage for a few days. The world population needs control and these conscious men and women are way more mature. But also at the same time having children is beautiful. WE NEED MORE CONSCIOUS PEOPLE ON THIS PLANET WHO NEED NOT TO BECOME MOTHER OF A CHILD BUT THE MOTHER OF THE WHOLE PLANET. HARI OM TAT SAT
Yes if you want children then adopt children.
Tuk rok ke dikha de low income families ko toh mein maan jaaunga
The world population needs more babies. Your comment has no evidence backing it just opinion based. Most countries have negative birth rates and will lead to population collapse. Not having kids is a personal decision but they are part of the problem which u cited as “Maturity “ 😂😂. Don’t judge the world based on Indian perspective
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@@asm427 Aadmi hai ki Underwear??? Uss hissab se toh masturbate krna paap hai, right??
But log karte hai, uss time na sochte ki khi mein apne kisi bete ya beti ko toh mhi bha rha.....
I'm 25 years old and jobless. Since 2011, I have decided to remain unmarried and childfree. At first, everybody thinks that it's stupidity but now plenty of them plan the same. Thank you for this video❤❤.
Toder jonno banglar obostha ki je hobe vaba mushkil
@@AlcoWholethey are the reason why bengal is having so less hindu population. Yesi thinking muslims main nhi milti. Pseudo liberals
@@PrithaBhowmick-cb1czhow is it pseudo liberal??? People want to live their life on their terms.
I'm 28 years old & jobless. Don't worry I will marry you then together we will buy a rickshaw and will do business in kolkata😂😂😂
@@PrithaBhowmick-cb1cz jaldi se topic mein religion ghused detaa hu. bahut cool lagungaa !! 😂😂😂
Raising children is very expensive.
Are you childfree?
Kaash apki maa bhi same sochi , brother listen to me they're expensive to raise I agree but they take care of you when you become old
@@shinchan_1337irony is shin Chan died earlier with her sister and had a gave a Life time trauma to his parents... Life is not a fairy tale brother... Nothing happens the way you expect 😢
It is yours mind delusion to keep yourself positive and happy.
Mohak, I have always been a fan of your capabilities of selecting a topic for video essay. You have really made portal to learn about the topics that are in the back of our head aka Shower ideas. Moreover, these are the topic that concern us but mostly ignored. Thank you and good luck for the future. 👍
Thanks for the video. My husband and I had always been of the thought of being childfree even when we were dating. Never in the last 8 years did either of us had a feeling of change of heart even after seeing our best friends having kids, in fact our decision got stronger! We are absolutely happy the way we are. Having a child is an irreversible process and you are stuck for life.. and that commitment we are not willing to make
May be You're right! But I guess after some more time You'll feel for this, because it's natural!
The lifestyle People of Eastern Countries are now trying to live the Western Countries have already experienced it, and majority I'm sure everyone is doing wish to change their past!
Because Family System is important in Our Culture!
@@memyself9959 family system is important in every culture, but choice is also important. nothing's Western about it, please don't hold West to such a high standard that everyone is following them. We are capable enough to make our own decision, thanks.
I think it's a good choice
@@memyself9959Culture doesn't define us. Please don't impose your beliefs on anyone no one is forcing you to not have kids
@@Molden-Mat O Really! If Culture or Religion (probably) doesn't describe Us then what's next ??
2nd, as You're "imposing" your view on me the same way I'm trying as well ☺️
Considering the population of India and the expenses as well described in the video, this isn't a bad thing by any means. People spend decades to finally live a stable life. Let them enjoy that stability for a few years at least
People should stop blaming childrens for only cause of global warming and climate change and thinking becoming child-free somehow solve the problem. I mean they are still will be a big population who wouldn't be dying anytime soon and will be more likely to consume more than most people. There is another big issue which should be addressed but no one wants to address that is rise of consumerism because everybody enjoys that. In recent years consumerism and over consumption is growing rapidly in India people are eating more meat than ever which is already takes a lot of resources to produce plus there is brand fan boys like the apple fan boys in most modern cities who buys every new iPhone every year but doesn't think about the effects of it in the environment
Exactly! This
Very well explained. It's really a personal choice. We have such diverse mindsets in India that have different perspectives from place to place, cities, towns, villages, traditions. You have only talked about the urban population but what about the small town and villages which does not like this at all. We are not going to see population decline until we have reached a development threshold and we are still not there yet.
Not having kids has no negative impect in a country like india where everyone is suffering from over population problem
Yes
It do have negative impact except in overpopulated states in India
@@muhammedjaseemshajeef6781 almost every in india is overpopulated now .... People should give birth less and less childs for a generation ... Otherwise it would be the difficult to have a own house for the next gen
It's even more helpful if the govt comes up with a plan to unalive a million people every month. Because overpopulation is a problem. 💪
if mature ppl decide to not have any kids thenthose good genes will get lost.. but mean while those who don't planfamily and uneducated and poor states show highest fertility due to various social norms.. then those immature parents cant raise good citizens eventually over a very long time these ppl gain majority leading to countries downfallll....
I just wanted to give an example:
One of my relative both husband and wife in their early 30's and have 2 year old daughter when they were searching for her school they told me how expensive education is in Nodia they were talking about schools charging about 8-10K per month. They were finding it expensive.
But at the same time On Diwali they both purchased New Iphone 15 Pro coz it was in trend.
I feel nowadys people want to spend more on Trends just to be accepted in the society even if they face a financial constraint for that.
8k to 10k for a month is hell expensive for school.
@@kondareddy-oc3inachhe school ki fees and environmenta yahi milega warna rskv toh hai he kabhi bhi krlo admission
@@kondareddy-oc3in Indeed It is but so is a n Iphone..But pple don't think twice while buying it but will think 100 times before investing in something that will benefit them in future..
No iphone buying n all is a problem but at what cost?
Yes. Ppl not differentiate between need and showing off
How much is their approximate salary will be ??
Mereko shadi hi nhi karni bache to dur ki baat h 😂
I'm so so glad that this topic is being brought up and people are coming forward to discuss the issue. Being child-free is a choice and it should be respected. Thank you for making such a well researched video!
I belong to a middle class family, lower middle class to be precise. Presently I'm doing a decent job in a government undertaking sector so I live a good life. It's not too good but it's obviously better than most indians. The two of us earn enough to go on holidays throughout the year, we can spend money on ourselves without worrying much. We surely know that once we have a baby it's only downhill from there. Once again we are in the lower middle class section. So no thanks, we don't need a baby.
I have a feeling that the part of the decision of not having kids is loosing their personal lives and interests which is because of the hustle high life we live through our 20s like studies & career. So i think they use their 30s to explore and enjoy the time they have lost instead of raising kids. Just a theory!
On a sidenote: if the IT industry move to remote wfh, then the hyper population in major cities can be reduced to some extent and cost of living crisis can be reduced for individuals.
It's true I got married before 2 years & since never planned for a baby but my in-laws force me to have a child. But I can see that if I give a birth to a child than my career will fall..
You dont need to destroy your present for the future. Having kids would make u dependent and powerless, and career will set you free , you can always plan your retirement and be sure of what you'll have in old age, rather than depending on your children and spouse for your rest of your life.
In India government should open new CBSE schools to provide quality education Free of cost to everyone, and this is basic job of government, we are not asking for freebies.
Private schools have started looting parents and this is on of the reason why HNIs are leaving India and getting settled in other countries as of their perspective India has high taxes but getting nothing back from that
Taking more responsibilities is glorified in india and leisure time, mental health preference is seen as laziness.. I m glad ppl r taking wise decision nd prioritizing themselves first before taking such huge decisions
Very true. It's perceived as laziness and being selfish
Having a child and keeping it physically and mentally safe is anxiety..
Dont make a child.. this world is criminal and predatory.. there is no need to bring in .. yet another TOY for God to play with
@@SiSi-ju1xk Exactly
Its due to our so called indian tradition. N hindu gods values !
Thats why today more people are suffering emotionally!
I won't have kids in ANY situation cuz no amount of money can save me from traumatic pregnancies and post partum depression & etc etc problems that comes to our body as being mother. Although I might had kids if I was a male cuz then it wasn't my body who had to go through all the sh*t.
Very very correct and honest statement
haha ..nice to hear what other side think as well... u have a valid point girl
Pity to hear you are not strong like your mother.
@@pranjalbhokare6126it's her choice lol!
Brilliant attention to detail. A much needed topic of discussion. 👏
I thought only I am thinking about no kids cause of financial and emotional unavailability. Not be able to give time for anything in life working in mnc like rat. Trying to save and invest money. And from younger age took financial responsibility of family and now tired of responsibility, so not getting married as well. Just want to live love and be relax.
This video makes me realise that how much sacrifice our parents have done for us. Keeping us, our choices over them is what they always do. Kudos to all the parents out there for being so amazing and special. We love you❤🙏
Yes, they did make a sacrifice for their children, but their monetary sacrifice was not comparable for our generations where the expenses are at a higher ratio of our income, think about this, our parents could raise us with a single income, had a home, and still had time for us, but for us, we would need to be double income, would have no time for our children, and can't afford a home and also take care of them.
Absolutely right 🙏
Yeah but let's be realistic. Many parents put lot of pressure on their children to fulfill their dreams. Their love vanishes quite quickly when you are unemployed or don't get good job. In my opinion, having children is more selfish than not having it.
But doing that so parents think they own you . Parents can be the medium for your birth but they down own us
Let's be real. You are their retirement plan. You are a show piece for society.
The current scenario is really shocking.
The poor are having 5+ children and riches desire merely 1 or 2.
Conclusion - India is getting poorer 5 times higher than its getting richer. Isn't it an alarming situation.
Actually agree
Poor? Even beggerrs are having 2-3 kids
Rich people in India wtf there is only 1 percent Rich
Who cares! Overpopulation, pollution, climate crisis, food with chemicals, less nutritional!!
@@milli3leven377 to garner sympathy
I am a millennial and I am still adjusting to the world. The world is definitely not a better to place to live. I do not trust people so I cannot further bring in a latter one and let the child go through this effed up world. I am scared living now, I don't want the next to live dreadfully.
No child... save Earth please 🙏 🌍❤
You are not saving anyone, you are just making sure your ideas and ways of thinking go extinct.
I'm 25 years old, I live in Mumbai with my parents. Last month I talked to my parents about not marrying. They were shocked, and are still trying to persuade me to marry at the age of 30. But I want to earn money, lots of money, I want my parents and my younger brother to travel and see the world, I really don't any life partner. I want money, good friends, my parents, my brother and memories to cherish for a lifetime. This is my road map for the next 15 years. When I'm 40, then I'll decide my life's course for the next 20 years.
You do you, small advice though- don't expect good friends to remain in your life after 30 or so. Cz they will get married and focus on their own family. Speaking from personal experience
Some states like Bihar and Uttar Pradesh need to have population control bill they are the only regions in India where massive population is still on an increasing graph
Muslims need birth control bill, their share in population increased from 9.8% to 15% in 70 years and will be 18.5% by 2050, it's alarming and tensing
Yes
Only bihar
Bro my aunt literally have 3 children just because she wanted boy 🤡
It is right...pehle khudka education career marriage ki chinta karo fir bacche paida karo unko bada karo khilao pilao...fir unka education career marriage ki chinta karo..usse accha hai ki ya toh marriage na karo ya fir bacche na karo.. better to break this sad chain
I am glad I am not the only one who is an anti-natalist. There is an entire community out there. Further, by deciding not to have kids we are practicing our reproductive rights , which were for long controlled by our families.If finances permit, I would definitely like to adopt a kid though. There are enough kids out there who need a home.