I have two best friends but part of me knows that one likes the other more as they like the exact same things. They both like Ariana grande and I like Lady Gaga they have both gone to one of Arianas concerts together and I didn’t go.
That really does sting, especially when it feels like making new connections gets harder as we age. If you're going through this, we recently released a video on *how to deal with losing a best friend*, which might provide some helpful insights. You can check it out here: [Watch the video](ruclips.net/video/v1kw5Il1FFM/видео.html). Hopefully, it can offer some support during these tough times.
@@Psych2go I think it has something to do with how we view and value friendship and romantic relationships and also Friendships invest more time because before one can become lovers, they have to be friends first, right?
@@Psych2go i always felt like my escape from bad things in relationships is talking with my best friends, when i lost my best friend i felt like im alone and too exposed to my boyfriend.
@@Psych2go i mean... People have many gf's and bf's but best friends are like more special and rare.. It's just different... It's just different and friends are more important to me than lovers
I once had a really close best friend, but like this video, I had to let her go. We had become distant and when we did talk, it was fights. It was still hard though. To whoever needs to hear it, it’s all right to let go of that friend. It may hurt at first, but it’s better than constant pain from trying to keep it together
I left my best friend after reevaluating the last few years. Constant put downs repeatedly breaking confidences trying to control me and re writing history to their benefit I don't regret moving on it's them that forced the split but they play the victim and blame me even though they know they caused it
Mind if I ask could it be a good thing to try and connect with that memory? Cause I guess a friend of mine kinda cut me off and idk I still kinda see her as a friend
Summary: 1. You’re second guessing your friendship 2. You don’t communicate anymore 3. You want different things 4. You’ve found other friends 5. They’ve broken your trust 6. You’re the only one holding on
2nd one is a bit misleading. I left for another state 3 years ago and hence was unable to meet my friend. We rarely talk like once every 2 months. But when we do, we talk for hours. We share everything, even the most embarrassing thing like old times. We trust each other a lot. We both are busy with our lives but if anyone of us decides to initiate a chat, the other doesn't hold back. Both of us have found new best friends but we can't ever forget each other. It's complicated I know but we're far from letting each other go.
@@sinister2423 agreed. My bff for over 6 years is a grade above me. So when she gets time (which is once a week usually a weekend.) We talk our hearts out and it feels like there was never a time gap. Even my ldbff. We've been bff's for 2 years. And we have a rule (due to circumstances) that we only get to talk on sundays. And boi do we utilize it. Every goodbye feels heartbreaking but the hello the next sunday makes it all worth it.
@@sinister2423 i think communicate means in general interacting with each other. And even when they do you don't get the same joy of meeting them as before....
I have a friend but I'm trying to avoid her. I have told her in the past that I didn't want to be her friend anymore and that I wouldn't talk to her for now. She would keep coming back with her problems. She still keeps coming back with her problems which is why I don't want her as a friend.
im litterally crying right now thinking if my first best friend. i was friend with her for my whole life until she moved when we were 5 and i havent seen her since. our parents stillknow each other and im debating if i should reach out and talk to her i dont know what to do but i miss her so much and i feel like if we met up it wouldbe very awkward because we would be like strangers. i dont know what to do but cry. help me decide plss
Very timely. I just acknowledged to a "best" friend of 35 years that I was carrying the burden of single-handedly trying to maintain the friendship, but no more. A short letter, only best wishes, inside a lovely card, and I felt very sad, but relieved, to finally articulate what needed to be said. 🙁
Well done and brave. She will have discovered all too late how she should have valued your friendship. Her loss. She wasn't worth your efforts. Be very proud of yourself.
Same... I have a bestfriend but I still overthink a lot. I even check my messages properly to see if I appeared rude and try to message them and hope that I didn't bother them...
Well, I had a bit of a morbid curiosity, and am kinda paranoid, but none of the people who I consider my best friends have a 1/6 at most. And that's only cause college, but we all still make an effort to talk to eachother, at least once a day or more.
Me too I realized that they changed and now they think "acting" older is cool but instead it just makes them immature and they are rude to everyone and they never talk to anyone is the group anymore me and my friends miss him but we all know that's it time to let him go:(
@@hell1942 he does things like having a “Gf” and was texting on ROBLOX about having seggs at school and other things he’s also under 13 so it’s disgusting for them to talk as if they are adults and the one time he joined a call after like a year because my friend and I said “wow you changed a lot S” (not saying his real name) and he said “NO MOMO CHANGED A LOT NOT ME” (my friends nickname) also all he does is cuss and say things like the n word
@@LikeableAden I'm sorry. You should never beg for someone to stay in your life especially if they're making you feel like that. If you haven't tried talking to them about it, you should. If you have and they dismiss it, you're better off without them.
@@LikeableAden then stay away from him! Be with who you love to be. or you should talk to him and if he does not listen, be with other friends. you are better than him!
It hurts to know the best friend you’ve always had a bold bond with is slowly drifting away... especially when they have been with you for more that 6 years
The worst feeling in the world is when you're practically begging for their company and they constantly have excuses why they can't but then willingly and effortlessly do the same things you wanted but with someone else.
same thing is happening to me right now. My best friend got a boyfriend two months ago and i’m happy for her. But when I went to see her a few weeks ago I begged her not to go to to a practice that she didn’t have to go to. She just wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend and told me straight to my face that she had nothing better to do even though they were seeing each other again the same night and I live 30 minutes away so I only see her a few times a year. Then she invited me somewhere, never gave me the details and went with her boyfriend instead. It’s truly the worst feeling
Yes this is me!! Especially on holidays. Birthdays etc. but when they see me living my life & moving on, they want to know why I didn’t include them… we deserve so much more so I’m cutting those people loose, grieving/healing & find people that want me just as much as I want them..
@• K a z u k i • i’m sorry you’re going through it too it’s been 6 days with no communication and this morning she tried texting me to crack a joke like everything’s fine. I tried talking to her about it last week but she kept dodging my calls and never texted me back. I haven’t even been referring to her as my best friend anymore lately. I hope things are reconciled for you eventually love I’ve made peace with the fact that she probably won’t be a part of my life anymore :(
how can they do that so easily?? why do people can easily forget the person that shared their lives for a long time? just because they have busy schedules? a lot of work to do? have a family? have kids? no!!!! thats not a valid excuses! have seen these kind of people with busy lifestyle but still can manage to meet their friends even in short time! the reason is its either you found another friend, you replace so easily! or you're in a relationship and you just set aside your dearest friend for a new person of your life or worst you don't value your friendship anymore!!! those kind of people disgust me! because they don't know how it hurst so much!!!
Yeah they easily replaced me when we stopped being friends -and broke up- with my other best friend too and that best friend acted like nothing happened :/
@Lilo Is the baddest Thanks for asking dude. "Out of the blue" means for something to happen unexpectedly. The event was so sudden you don't expect it to happen.
as my mom says “friends come and go” now i understand that i don’t need to hold onto people who don’t take the time to even try to keep a conversation going.
what's worse is finding out how much of a narcist that person is. When you're ignorant about narcissism it will take years until you realize their true character and what they really think and feel about you. my advice to everyone out there is to really understand what makes a narcissist and think carefully about that person.
1. You’re second guessing the friendship 2. You don’t communicate anymore 3. You want different things 4. You’ve found other friends 5. They’ve broken your trust 6. You are the only one holding on
My mom was so right when she said you won’t have the same friends from school all your life. Sadly it’s so difficult to find friends once out of school and entering the big world
@@jaydabot2661 The friends I had in school weren’t close enough I guess so when we graduated we just stopped talking, the friends I have I still talk to sort of are busy with college and don’t really reach out to me at all like I do to them. So I’ve honeslty given up, I’m also busy with 2 jobs and I take time to ask how they’re doing lol
ii jxzzy yh me and my bff have never been apart since the start of reception /kindergarten and we dont understand how ppl can just gonand find a new friend
ii jxzzy i lost my freind because i had to move away........our 5 year friendship is a heartbreak to me..............i hope she found some body better,caring,loving and not as annoying as me.we are still in contact so I’m happy
It hurts particularly because they're the only friend I have, they were the reason I woke up in the morning, and now I'm starting to think that they've just grown tired of me and want me gone
It's the same for me... My "best friend" now has new friends, yet I can't find anyone to befriend. I live in a small town where there aren't many options in people befriending.. so I am just waiting to go to my new school where I will hopefully make new friends🙏✨
I miss the way we shared interests I miss the way we laughed together I miss the love we gave each other I miss the memories we told I miss the person she was and is now gone...
I get it... My friend WAS a true friend, until I moved to another country. We kept connection but until we found out we played the same video games, every time she messaged me was about offering for my stuff... The offer was bad.. I really think she was taking advantage of me being her friend so she could get what she wants.
My best friend passed away last year. She was and will be irreplaceable. After losing her, I realized all my other friends were not truly friends. I’m grateful I got to have her in my life. I am learning to be happy without friends.
Dogs are the best for sensitive, loyal and kind people. Humans are mostly a liability. I have learnt the hard way not to trust them. A dog would never betray you. But they are so precious that they can not live as long as we do. The loss of my Dog, who was my family and best friend, broke my ❤to the core, but I feel she is still with me, as a Spirit guide.
It hurts a bit more when a friendship die off in the silence. No fights no Last conversations...it just dies away, despite the best efforts put from one side to hold it back
@@franziskawalser301 I advise you to write them letter telling them how amazing they were and how much you loved them, and then write everything bad they've done to you, and how much they hurt you, address them in your letter like they're in front of you, and when you're done your feelings will be relieved, then just burn the letter (or delete it if on mobile or pc) and don't you ever let them read it. That friendship is over Period.
Losing a romantic partner is too painful. But losing a partner and a bestfriend altogether is on another level of pain. You don't just feel twice as broken, you feel like your heart is shattered into a million pieces and there's just no way of putting it back together. What's worse is the post-breakup period. You feel so lost and it seems that the more you exerted an effort to forget, the more it seems that the world is brushing it to your face.💔🖤
I had a friend like that from high school. She used to have my back and vice versa and I had to let her go coz her boyfriend is a controlling prick and eventually she sided with him and thus I left.
@ron donnis sorry I'm going to disagree with you on that one just because my "friend" was one that I could easily recognize however when someone tries to control that person and "friend" sides with the boyfriend-they weren't my friend to begin with. They actually failed me if you really think about it.
@ron donnis no it’s where they’ve got to the point where they’ve changed into a different person and judging by this comment you’re probably one of them
All the more reason to cherish those in your life. People might not stick around forever but that doesn’t mean having relationships is pointless, the times you had together still meant something. “ ‘tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” -Alfred Lord Tennyson
@@Armyblink-sq2cd Oh no! That's not good! But don't worry, I'm sure you guys will reunite again, everything happened for a reason, so you'll be good for now.🤗❤️
I let go of my bestie of 42 years in February. We had been through so much together and were always there for each other. My dad died last December and she couldn’t be bothered to come and see me, and my son reminded me that it had been over 4 years since she had visited me. It was always me going to her, I’m slightly disabled and it’s a bit of a drive. She had surgery to remove large benign cysts from her ovaries and I took my own shower chair for her to use at home and went to stay for a week to help look after her through the day. This was last June 2022, and I have a carer myself. I sent her a message telling her that I didn’t want her to contact me anymore. And it hurt to do that. We had been besties for 2/3 of my life, her kids are family to us. But she just didn’t want to bother and to be there for me as I was for her last year. So that’s it. Never had the decency to return my shower chair either, I had to get another. Said all I needed to know about her. Her oldest and dearest friend she called me, what a joke. Bye Jan.
Same had a kindergarten friend been few years had to cut few "friends" out my life. Learned that at 35 not everyone is a "friend" best decision I could have done. It has been hell but being on your own means less issues. We become dependent unfortunately.
I am very sorry that you did not have the support you needed and I hope you are well. I lost my childhood cat several months back. My ex-bestie could not even bother to reach out to me personally and say sorry for your loss or even ask me how am I doing. She hung out with other people so she clearly had 5 seconds to type how are you doing. Recently, she had a party and I was clearly not invited as I saw the photos on social media. I stopped initiating the conversations and am learning to just let them. People will tell you who they are once you let them.
6 signs let Go of good Friends 1. You're Seconds guessing the friendship 2. You don't communicate anymore 3. You want different things 4. You found other friends 5. They've broken your trust 6. You are the one Holding on
I searched up “how to deal with best friends leaving you out” because I’m in a group of 3 friends and it’s so difficult, and I’m always the one that’s left out and the other 2 have so many inside jokes and it’s so heartbreaking because I’ve known her for 6 years and she’s only known the person we’re in a group of 3 with for less than a year and it sucks.
@@sidharthsharma2637 thanks, my real best friend gave me some advice and it made me realise “what’s so great about them anyway? all they do is leave me out”
It just gives me anxiety and overthink things. But I know it's in my recommendations, because I've had past experiences with this, and this was more of a reassurance that I did the right thing. I am VERY happy in my current best friendship! Sure, we do get busy, and we both deal with being distracted easily, and college, but over the years we've grown together, and even if it's not every day, we both put an effort into the relationship. We're both there for eachother, and we have been for years. She's always been there for me through some of the toughest times in my life, and I do whatever I can to be there for her too. Though since I've lost so so many friends, even one that was my best closest friend for nearly 10 years.....I'm terrified of losing her too........ So....this really is making me overthink everything in the worst ways....... Stupid GAD and OCD.
I don’t agree with you, yes, a large part of Your friendships end, but some stays. For exemple, my dad has been best friends with 2 guys since 35 years, they still laugh, eat, and travel together and our family are really close.
I was already having problems with my bff and the fact that this shows up and I can relate to everything makes me want to end it cause I know it needs to.😭❤
It sucks when you have the best friend title but don’t feel treated like one Edit: thanks so much for all the replies! I thought I felt so alone before this but I hope everything gets better for you all!
Omg literally the same i was given that title but my friend always choose others over me like for example she choose other partners for group and stuff so I'm thinking of cutting her off slowly cause i deserve better? But i don't have any friends except her what do y'all think?
Yeah we text and she blocks me when I talk to much and when ever I talk with her and tell her stuff she just says k also she’s been hanging out with my other friend we still talk tho but barley
same i never said good buy too that friend i new they was no real friend they would never talk too me really and he was a hacker and he hacked me well hes still hacking me i should have let go of him when i seen him acting like that
@@angela-sh8zy sorry to hear that, it is probably most common to be for the worse, it have happened to me too once, but I also know some people who became close friends after being not so close friends and falling apart
omg same like my friends were ghosting me for a while and then out of nowhere I see this in recommend. And turns out every single thing that was said in this video turned out to be true like iam seriously surprised but atleast I get all the toxic waste out of mah life UwU
My friend has just kinda changed, she’s kinda super rude now. It’s not the same. For example: she does things she *knows* make me uncomfortable, but treats me kinda like oH yOu pOoR tHinG when I try to communicate my discomfort, She’s more focused on being cool than nice. She has a “bOyFrIenD” that she keeps from her parents. She gossips about people behind their back. We’ve been friends for eight years now, it’s just so hard to let go. -edit: thank you guys so much, I find it so sad that so many people relate. Just remember, this pain never lasts forever
Same. (I hope she doesn't read this-) She's an internet friend of mine. I met her a year ago. We're at 6th grade at that time. She's really kind (to me to say the least) and we made a little group and that's where we make more friends. When she's going into 7th grade, she changed completely. She's started to ignore me and the group. Btw the group is also my best online friends. She keeps bragging how cool her new school is and I can't really question that. Days and days turning into weeks she keeps bragging about her new classmates and such and me and the group just got sorta tired of it. We didn't want to offend her by saying "dude shut the hell up, no one cares" since that'll be rude. One of her new friends made a Yt channel and that's what she brags ever since. When I saw the video her friend made, I said "it's okay..". The video might need some improvements and such. But then all of the sudden she texted "SSSSHHHHHHH I'M TALKING TO MY NEW FRIENDS" like omg, that caught me off guard. She keeps bragging about the things that's happening in her life and she doesn't care about me and the group anymore. Then she has a new friend that has a Yt channel too. He was her crush (And my new online bff/twin). She keeps bragging stuffs and keeps spamming on the group chat. I literally got sick of it, as well as the group. Then that's where she started being a brat which wasn't like her before. She was angry after what me and my friend said. Then we're all okay again. I got close to her crush (not romanticly) since whenever we're (me, the girl and her 2 friends) in a group call, she and her friend always hung up with no reasons. So that made me and her crush talk more often to each other. That made her jealous and she said "you don't care about me and *insert her friend's name here* anymore. You only care about *insert the girl's crush name here* " I was so confused since I did treat them equally. I saw hi to her whenever she's online. Always ask her "wassup, how's your day??" And she said I have a special hello towards her crush. Wtf is even a special hello?? I just call him "Sup dude". Then some time later she and her friend suddenly said I'm a liar, two faced, pretend hero, and all of that junk and I was literally confused and asked what's going on. The girl said I was going to kick her and her friend off the group and steal her crush away from her (literally saying I have a crush on him which I don't. I have feelings towards someone else) and I have no idea where that came from. Then they're mad at me and shaming me and such. Her crush just feels guilty. I private chat him and asked him what happened and he said that it's all his fault and how sorry he is. He explained everything and I actually understand. So I told him it's okay it's not his fault. After all of that went by, those two just left the group. Idk how are they but I know it's time to let go of the girl that I knew a year ago since she changed completely. Like I don't even know her anymore. Btw she did admit she was jealous of me, it's in her channel.
Same luckily my best friend is nice but my friend just kinda changed since a gossiper joined our group now theres drama everywhere she changed so much the gossiper once told tumours I watch porn to my friends when I don't and they a created a groupchat about me it's just sad
I recently let go of my best friend and it all started when he moved to a different country. He found a new best friend in his newfound country with his parents and he started playing with him the same amount of time as we used to play when he was still in my country. Then he stopped texting me as often and calling me. My usual schedule was wake up, eat breakfast and play with my friend all day long, but when he got his new friend he started playing with him on the daily. I understood that the timezones with a little bit different like an hour difference, but that wasn't the answer. He started playing a new game with his NEW friend and left me behind. I struggled to keep this friendship on and i just gave up. It wasn't worth keeping this friendship alive because i was the only one keeping it still, like building blocks. The moment i gave up on my best friend made the boulder get off of me. But there came another problem which is still relevant to this day. I am very shy and can't make new friend all of the sudden. I want friends like my old best friend, i am doubting that if i even can make a new friend like him. And now I'm lonely, without a sibling to play with because I'm was a single child and no one to play with. I don't want virtual friends, i want real friends but i can't make new friends because im shy. being on the computer just feels like wasting time on playing games and torturing my mind.
The worst feeling of all is when your best friend is simply just replacing you with another friend it kinda sucks seeing them while you scroll down your memories together or your texts 😭
guys i suggest you delete the chats and any past photos, it will make u feel better and easier to move on.. if he/she does not care for you anymore, you are wasting your time crying over what has happened in the past. They played a part in your life and now their part is over and they have left you.. the positive points you can take from this incident is to not to do the mistake your bestie did with your future friends
@@kishanjethwani5565 same and it hurts so bad... I had gotten in a relationship with my best friend and we did everything together and then she got distant and one day just told me she didn't want me anymore and she had a new crush. I feel replaced but I haven't been able to remove the love I had and still have for her so its so much harder. I think about her every day knowing she wont be thinking of me and doesn't love me. Then I found all our conversations that I'd gone to when I felt alone to make me smile, and the only picture of us kissing and other pictures of us on a date were all deleted... gone just like that. Its so hard but she wants to be just a friend now... we've become distant and she gets angry with me a lot... I can't tell her how I feel and all the dreams and hopes of a future together are just gone. I don't know what to do anymore.
It absolutely does. I'm in a place right now where my friend and I are just super distant. I don't feel like she wants to even be around me. I feel like I'm the only one trying, and friendships are supposed to be two ways. Recently I made a new friend, and we've been hanging out a bit more, and have a lot of fun. I'm not trying to replace my friend, I still want to be friends, but, as I'm being pushed away, despite the hurt I'm continuing life, hoping we can work things out eventually. It definitely hurts though. Many many tears shed lately.
Totally sucks. Happening to me where they're replacing me and it hurts. I've tried imbedding myself so we all could all be friends but they don't want any of it. They legit replacing me before my eyes and it hurts. Gotta move on tho I think. Been overlooking to much crap lowkey.
After her pulling away for months I just asked her do you not want to be friends anymore she said "yeah, your just not someone I want to be friends with" probably the worst pain I've felt in a long time
Yeah just think long hard beforehand though. I cut off my best friend bc of signs like this without realizing our communication was completely different. We had a big talk today and she had no idea she went away when I needed her the most bc I did not communicate! But she always communicated when she felt something or needed something. I may be off but I sense you are a very giving person who caters to people’s needs constantly you make sure ppl are okay, things are okay almost like you are holding the weight of the world on your back! And when you do that you forget about yourself and you forget that you also need someone to reach out too, to talk to etc. but if you keep that all in while helping everyone else you will feel isolated, alone, neglected and misunderstood. Hope I don’t sound like a crazy person lol
Omg same! She was like my sister. But since high school started I barely talk to her anymore, and she’s making more friends while I’m all alone. It breaks my heart
I can relate. It’s hard for me to allow myself to ever start to think of someone as a “best friend,” even after reaching many years of being friends. Anyone I’ve ever felt especially close to has gone out of their way to let me know that I’m not *their* best friend. It’s a perception that feels so unlikely to ever be reciprocated, it sucks :/
I had a best friend but then I moved almost 3 years ago it was really hard at first but know I’m just used to it. When I first moved we called a lot and now we don’t as much anymore. We are still friends but our bff relationship started falling apart since I moved it’s time to forget the fact will never be bffs again.
This is so true😔(my best friend once unread my messages for 3 days and when she finally answer on the 4th day, she told me our conversation was dead and boring and that when I have something important or good news to Tell her, that's what she said😔😭
For those who don't have time :: 1:22 You are second guessing your friendship 2:01 You don't communicate anymore 2:35 You want different things 3:00 You have found other friends 3:35 They have broken your trust 4:15 You are the one holding on
Finally I just realized that I don't have friends. It was my imagination that I thought I had them, but they've already left me. Ahahhaha well this video is so helpful!!! I just need let them go!!!
For six years this channel have been randomly poping out in my recommendations once half a year , and it always was on spot... now I finally decided to watch all of videos
it hurts when you feel like your close/best friend is replacing you with someone else but you know you cant do anything about it. Update if anyone cares: the person i made this comment about still talks to me and still friends
Same my best friend and me have the same friend group and one weekend she any everyone else was invited to this girls house and I wasn’t their excuse was I was and you didn’t answer Their text to invite me was “hey girl” like come on like am I not supposed to be mad And when I confront them about it they brush it off or make it seem like I’m overreacting Please comment some advice should I just drop them
@@clownoftheyear8425 if they're treating you like that maybe it best to find more friends who are more considerate of your feelings and will invite you when making plans to hang out instead of staying with the people in your current friend group.
The worse case scenario is that, your BESTFRIEND was your childhood friend. Whenever you think of your past especially your childhood and that BESTFRIEND was always there in your memories. That BESTFRIEND is always present in ur memorable moments. I'd say, it FVCK!NG HURTS SO MUCH! Much hurt than losing your bf/gf. Imagine after decades of friendship, it just suddenly snapped and "IT'S OVER." Remember, aside from ur family, Friendship is the second relationship we have after our families or relatives. So yes, losing your Bestie hurts more than losing your BF/GF.
@@alytwen879 “hold on help is on the way” let go of them my cousin and the friend group I was in they all made fun of me and said that I was the one starting it so it’s ok I will rather stand alone then stand with people who hurt me and I’m ok 🙂 it’s gonna hurt for a little probably for a week but trust me sooner then ur gonna forget that they even exist
Don’t let anyone make you think you’re not good enough. If you need to cut them off, do it. If you’re afraid of being alone, it’s better than being stuck with someone whose toxic and doesn’t make time for you. Getting some space can also help boost your self esteem. Once you’re comfortable with yourself and confident, new people will start to be drawn to be your friend. And you’ll know when you’ve got a real friend. Fuck em. They aren’t worth your time girl 💕
Oh my goodness the hurt among you young ones! I'm 69 and a mean 'friend' at ages 8-14 or so coloured my view of friendships for ever. She wanted me as her 'best friend' but on condition she had other best friends too and I wasn't 'allowed' to have any other friends. Proper childhood manipulation - she made me feel as though I was weird and unworthy of friendships. I was probably insecure and therefore vulnerable but I could never pull away from her until I was 14 or 15. We went our separate ways thankfully but I've always struggled with friendships. I've got and have had, lots of dear friends over many years, am happily married with grown-up children and gorgeous grandchildren - but I don't like getting too involved with friends. I've got so much to be grateful for, just wish I'd been able to stand up to that girl all those decades ago. My message is clear - Don't stand any nonsense from anyone as YOU are worth so much more than that. It's actually character-building and liberating being on your own for a while but don't fret because you will soon discover other friendships in the least likely places. Warmest wishes.
This happened to me for about a month, and he only knew the person for 3 months while we knew eachother for 3 years. He just never wanted to talk to me anymore and when we had plans to call he would always just call with the other.
yeah i feel you 😭 but i know now she is a toxic person, but it still hurts tho, and i am not really good with making friends but once i do why does it have to be toxic person..
@@nadiaelsa3850 yeah its hard for me to make friends too now, from what happened it made me develop trust issues and i cant really decide if i want to be someones friend
Can we talk about how friends can not talk for a long time, yet still remain connected? Like nobody has to be at fault, and drifting away doesn't have to be a breakup.
This can happen certainly. It depends on the people and the situation. I just want to say that I relate. As an adult who is only getting older with more major responsibilities, this happens, but you know it’s mutual when you finally do get to talk with the other person and it genuinely feels natural, as if nothing changed.
@@yayaraft actually best friends can go without talking for months then one of them randomly send a message and it’s like you never stopped talking, that’s an example of a healthy friendship
Exactly! Everyone drifts away but if it’s true it’ll come back together. People need to learn to stop giving up on their friends it’s the same like all relationships.
Same she was so nice to me before and never fought irl but now we fight so often and mostly irl but there is no one else I can be with :/ everyone likes her more than me
Alycia Cardamone bro meeeee. she has been my best friend for the longest time, but she is a bitch lately. but I don't want to loose her cause she knows everything about me. I'm afraid she will expose me is i make her mad. also we have way too many fights. so I just want to stop being her friend, but I can't for some reason.
I've had both lost friendships and rejections and trust me the former hurts more because they know you yet they don't feel it's worth it to be in your life.
I’ve dropped quite a few “friends” because it’s all been one sided. I finally realized that I have taught them how to treat me. It all stems from childhood hurt. As you grow, and understand this, it is incredibly painful, but necessary for your inner peace to let go of people who are only there when they need something.
I dropped 2 of my best friends a couple of months ago because of their ignorance and boyfriends controlling there every move and words that come out of their mouth. It’s sad because it’s not even them talking to me truthfully because of the toxic lies being fed to them that are brainwashing them while I’ve always been open with genuine love and care I had for these people. But, it will always be one sided so I’ve been dealing with a lot of emotions such as anger and sadness. I tend to project to the people that actually do care about me and are in my life right now. I hope you find friends that are good and genuine to you. ❤️
@@brianaramos489 I’m so sorry:( thank you for sharing. yes, it is incredibly painful, and makes you feel all kinds of emotions. I had the same experience as your friends. With a toxic, abusive marriage. I could not see what it was doing to me at the time, and especially people around me. I truly hope they are able to get out of those relationships before it’s too late. Just a word of advice, (you don’t have to take it, As I am just a stranger) from someone who has lived it; when they finally get out, and see that you were a good friend, who genuinely cared for them, allow them to apologize, with an open heart. But, never forget how they treated you, and create boundaries for yourself, so it never hurts you again. People have become very mean, and are lashing out a lot lately. I don’t understand it. I’m actually past the sadness, and enjoy my new very small circle of friends, who align more with my values. I will never again allow one sided friendships. It drains you of everything, to the point of having nothing left to give. Hold the friends that love you, and treat you with respect tightly. I’ve realized they are very hard to find.
My old bestie left me in the matter of days to be another girl in the friend groups’s bestie and so I see them every day in school so I’m experiencing grief
I have too. I feel the exact same way. It was a while ago that I didn't even know if I should consider myself friends with the person, and after carefully re-evaluating my options I decided to end it. It was the right decision for myself and I knew I had to do it to help myself because if I didn't do anything, the person wouldn't care about me anyway, which wouldn't be a win for myself. Sometimes, it is essential to do what is right for yourself, especially if other people won't do it for you.
It’s worse when they show their true colors when they’re around others. It completely demoralizes you because you second guess if you had that connection to begin with.
My dad has had a best friend for over 20 years, they have lived across the country for nearly a decade, they can go without talking for a year but when they get together again it’s like they never separated. They are so close we call him our uncle. I want something like that.
This is like my used to be best friend, which for a long time I went through denial, until finally I accepted and moved on. I tried to hold on, but she wasn’t trying at all. Now she sometimes tries to catch my eye and talk to me, but it always gets awkward. She SOMETIMES tries to get our friendship back together, but I know she’ll just leave me again. Thank you to anyone who read this full comment because I’m kinda still in denial.
I have literally been trying for so long to keep our friendship because we've been friends for so long watching this video just made me realise how much me and her are exactly like this and its sad :/
Me and my best friend used to have very good friendship u til this girl came,she taught her a lot of bad stuff and I my best friend talks to her more than me how... I don’t want my best friend to do bad things,but she’s my best friend so I just decided to let it go,but right now I’m thinking if we should break up...
Someone I once called “best friend”, treated me like an option. I’m having all the traits in this video. I guess, friendships really never last. Time to let go.
I have been away with my friend last weekend she has always been bossy but boy she was on high bossy that weekend, she screamed at me for two trivial things i did and i really wanted her to leave me alone after that. No there is no going back she made me feel awful and hurt.
- *When you feel like a lot of these apply to your friend but you’re too scared and you feel like they’re still good for you but you still don’t know if you’re overthinking it or not* - (Wait what the heck I’m at 1k?!?! Oh my gosh what the heck thank you all so much this is the biggest amount of likes I’ve ever got!)
I've been with my bestfriend for 11 years and today, I remembered her again. I watched her socials, she already removed our pictures and also realized she doesn't follow me back anymore. We never fought, it's just we went to college and never talked again. I see her sometimes but she acts as if she didn't see me. I don't know how we got to this point, I mean for 11 years, we used to treat each other as sisters then this year, we just *poof* fell apart. What hurts me is the fact that we were on good terms before all this went down. I probably neeed closure but--all I know is that right now, it would have been great if we were still hanging out on a cafe and talking about our current lives like we pictured when we were younger.
Comment the name of your enemy below and we shall slay them for you. =)
me, kill me
TheEggMan
Well it's a boy but he hits me and his name is kody
also slay me in the process
Jamie
The worst feeling is seeing how your best friend slowly gets another best friend and stops caring about you.
Ikr.
Felt that
that happened to me before...
i lost my best friend in the 6th grade , and we had been friends since pre-k
I know how that feels, except that my friend's friend is actually his childhood friends.
I have two best friends but part of me knows that one likes the other more as they like the exact same things. They both like Ariana grande and I like Lady Gaga they have both gone to one of Arianas concerts together and I didn’t go.
Not friends, not enemies, just strangers with memories.
that is true
This comment is underrated
I love this quote but I'm not sure who made it
Same
this Hits me so hard
The fact that this appeared in my recommendations is a sign on its own.
omg i love your profile pic XD
I think my phone listens to my conversations 0_0
After whats my current situation same it did come up on my recommended but im in denial im loosing her..
Same and I’ve been going through this
Same
Yep. It stings as you get older, especially when it's already difficult to make new friendships, and your circle is already very small.
That really does sting, especially when it feels like making new connections gets harder as we age. If you're going through this, we recently released a video on *how to deal with losing a best friend*, which might provide some helpful insights. You can check it out here: [Watch the video](ruclips.net/video/v1kw5Il1FFM/видео.html). Hopefully, it can offer some support during these tough times.
"Sometimes you miss the memories; not the person..."
-Anonymous
Lol
Yep
I really miss all of those happy and fun memories we shared
the_ fucking_weeb same😔
Me too but I don't miss the person just the memories
broken friendship hurts more than relationships break up.
What do you feel is the main difference?
@@Psych2go I think it has something to do with how we view and value friendship and romantic relationships and also Friendships invest more time because before one can become lovers, they have to be friends first, right?
@@Psych2go i always felt like my escape from bad things in relationships is talking with my best friends, when i lost my best friend i felt like im alone and too exposed to my boyfriend.
@@Psych2go i mean... People have many gf's and bf's but best friends are like more special and rare.. It's just different... It's just different and friends are more important to me than lovers
Yea i know
Losing your bestfriend is like losing apart of your heart, it sucks. Bad
Me yesterday 🥺
Najmaa Ali I'm sorry to hear about that
@@naj8324 same me and me best friend broke up yesterday
It does, im crying as i watch the video, it just makes me so sad
@@TheVeryObliviousOne same
I once had a really close best friend, but like this video, I had to let her go. We had become distant and when we did talk, it was fights. It was still hard though.
To whoever needs to hear it, it’s all right to let go of that friend. It may hurt at first, but it’s better than constant pain from trying to keep it together
First reason and the reason of getting new friends and getting diverted are most reasons for letting go
I left my best friend after reevaluating the last few years. Constant put downs repeatedly breaking confidences trying to control me and re writing history to their benefit I don't regret moving on it's them that forced the split but they play the victim and blame me even though they know they caused it
Same I had a best friend but we started fighting and we broke apart and now I’m still crying and trying to fix our relationships❤😢
Same I had a best friend but we started fighting and we broke apart and now I’m still crying and trying to fix our relationships❤😢
The saddest part of life is when the person that gave you the best memories becomes a memory.
Yeah
damn
Yeah :(
Mind if I ask could it be a good thing to try and connect with that memory? Cause I guess a friend of mine kinda cut me off and idk I still kinda see her as a friend
@@wyattlee4188 what exactly is that?
Summary:
1. You’re second guessing your friendship
2. You don’t communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You’ve found other friends
5. They’ve broken your trust
6. You’re the only one holding on
Thanks.
Hatice Aydın You did what was right for you and that’s what matters.
2nd one is a bit misleading.
I left for another state 3 years ago and hence was unable to meet my friend.
We rarely talk like once every 2 months. But when we do, we talk for hours. We share everything, even the most embarrassing thing like old times. We trust each other a lot. We both are busy with our lives but if anyone of us decides to initiate a chat, the other doesn't hold back.
Both of us have found new best friends but we can't ever forget each other. It's complicated I know but we're far from letting each other go.
@@sinister2423 agreed. My bff for over 6 years is a grade above me. So when she gets time (which is once a week usually a weekend.) We talk our hearts out and it feels like there was never a time gap. Even my ldbff. We've been bff's for 2 years. And we have a rule (due to circumstances) that we only get to talk on sundays. And boi do we utilize it. Every goodbye feels heartbreaking but the hello the next sunday makes it all worth it.
@@sinister2423 i think communicate means in general interacting with each other. And even when they do you don't get the same joy of meeting them as before....
The worst insecurity in a friendship is when you don't know if they're genuinely as busy as they say or just try to avoid you
AWARD WINNING COMMENT RIGHT HERE💀💔💯
I have a friend but I'm trying to avoid her. I have told her in the past that I didn't want to be her friend anymore and that I wouldn't talk to her for now. She would keep coming back with her problems. She still keeps coming back with her problems which is why I don't want her as a friend.
@@user-oz2ur5gd8x at that point just cut her off bro.
@@stargamer8878 you're right. I have to.
im litterally crying right now thinking if my first best friend. i was friend with her for my whole life until she moved when we were 5 and i havent seen her since. our parents stillknow each other and im debating if i should reach out and talk to her i dont know what to do but i miss her so much and i feel like if we met up it wouldbe very awkward because we would be like strangers. i dont know what to do but cry. help me decide plss
Very timely. I just acknowledged to a "best" friend of 35 years that I was carrying the burden of single-handedly trying to maintain the friendship, but no more. A short letter, only best wishes, inside a lovely card, and I felt very sad, but relieved, to finally articulate what needed to be said. 🙁
Im proud of u, thats very brave
35 years… wow❤
Well done ❤
Well done and brave. She will have discovered all too late how she should have valued your friendship. Her loss. She wasn't worth your efforts. Be very proud of yourself.
❤
When you feel like your bestfriend that you have had for seven years doesn't feel like a friend but just a stranger
😢
Mine feels like an opstacul in my life
7? Try 17.
Yea 😔
I had a best friend since kindergarten and she hasn’t even called me since December
I always envy people with bestfriends... I just want someone to talk to without overthinking if I bother them.
Hey
If you want to talk with a stranger with out overthinking ,I'm here
Me to ill never judge you ur thoughts are valid
Me too! Way to go awesome people! ✊🥳
Today I shattered my heart for the 1000th time by making friends my friend started ignoring me and told me to shut up so I unfriend him
Same... I have a bestfriend but I still overthink a lot. I even check my messages properly to see if I appeared rude and try to message them and hope that I didn't bother them...
the biggest sign is that you're thinking of someone while watching this video,
and that's what really sucks.
Well not even a single point in the video implied to me but your comment......your comment killed me from inside
Well i was thinking of all of my friends and they all got 6/6 or 5/6 signs..
i have to agree with you
Im attacked
Well, I had a bit of a morbid curiosity, and am kinda paranoid, but none of the people who I consider my best friends have a 1/6 at most. And that's only cause college, but we all still make an effort to talk to eachother, at least once a day or more.
I just ended a friendship with a person who turned out to be a toxic, narcissistic, guilt tripping, manipulative bigmouth. I feel a lot more free now.
❤
Same
Me too I realized that they changed and now they think "acting" older is cool but instead it just makes them immature and they are rude to everyone and they never talk to anyone is the group anymore me and my friends miss him but we all know that's it time to let him go:(
Example? @@Sweetmelfan
@@hell1942 he does things like having a “Gf” and was texting on ROBLOX about having seggs at school and other things he’s also under 13 so it’s disgusting for them to talk as if they are adults and the one time he joined a call after like a year because my friend and I said “wow you changed a lot S” (not saying his real name) and he said “NO MOMO CHANGED A LOT NOT ME” (my friends nickname) also all he does is cuss and say things like the n word
Who else is crying over the fact that you need to let go of your bestfriend who doesn’t really care.
Allie Serignet me
Me
😭😭😭😭
They say online friends are worse than real, but we’re not even sure that our “real friends” are real.
@Loco
I’m crying because I’m confused
Saddest thing is watching your best friend get closer to someone else.
happened to me too!!!😰
I feel like my friend is avoiding me
@@LikeableAden I'm sorry. You should never beg for someone to stay in your life especially if they're making you feel like that. If you haven't tried talking to them about it, you should. If you have and they dismiss it, you're better off without them.
@@LikeableAden then stay away from him! Be with who you love to be.
or you should talk to him and if he does not listen, be with other friends. you are better than him!
I want to tell my best friend this, but I’m afraid of my ex friend seeing the messages and insulting me.
It hurts to know the best friend you’ve always had a bold bond with is slowly drifting away... especially when they have been with you for more that 6 years
it doesnt have to be that way. You neednt listen to these type of vids. We are free
I feel like that 'cos my rival stole my best friend and I am desperately trying to get him back 😔
Me and my best friend have been friend now for 4 years and I would never want to let that go
I haven’t talked to my best friend in 3 years...I’m really sad now
Edit: I’ve known him since we were babies
beephybo hehe is even more sad when you alredy have drifted away but they still talk to you but very little
I stopped talking to my best friend of 10 years 1 year ago and this is kind of helping me let go. Ty for helping me feel a bit better!
True
The worst feeling in the world is when you're practically begging for their company and they constantly have excuses why they can't but then willingly and effortlessly do the same things you wanted but with someone else.
Same is happening 😢😕
same thing is happening to me right now. My best friend got a boyfriend two months ago and i’m happy for her. But when I went to see her a few weeks ago I begged her not to go to to a practice that she didn’t have to go to. She just wanted to spend more time with her boyfriend and told me straight to my face that she had nothing better to do even though they were seeing each other again the same night and I live 30 minutes away so I only see her a few times a year. Then she invited me somewhere, never gave me the details and went with her boyfriend instead.
It’s truly the worst feeling
Yes this is me!! Especially on holidays. Birthdays etc. but when they see me living my life & moving on, they want to know why I didn’t include them… we deserve so much more so
I’m cutting those people loose, grieving/healing & find people that want me just as much as I want them..
@• K a z u k i • i’m sorry you’re going through it too
it’s been 6 days with no communication and this morning she tried texting me to crack a joke like everything’s fine.
I tried talking to her about it last week but she kept dodging my calls and never texted me back. I haven’t even been referring to her as my best friend anymore lately.
I hope things are reconciled for you eventually love
I’ve made peace with the fact that she probably won’t be a part of my life anymore :(
how can they do that so easily?? why do people can easily forget the person that shared their lives for a long time? just because they have busy schedules? a lot of work to do? have a family? have kids? no!!!! thats not a valid excuses! have seen these kind of people with busy lifestyle but still can manage to meet their friends even in short time! the reason is its either you found another friend, you replace so easily! or you're in a relationship and you just set aside your dearest friend for a new person of your life or worst you don't value your friendship anymore!!! those kind of people disgust me! because they don't know how it hurst so much!!!
That's so terrible when our special people start evolving to be strangers....
Mine is never letting go
@@tabbywaslostflyhightweek4992 The rope is kinda breaking every day, you sure bro?
Katelyn UwU it’s not gonna break cause it’s made out of true friendship not a fake one
not evolve to stranfers, but devolve to strangers
I still never have a fight with my bestie and we are not even at the same class but we still best friend ^^
“Are you lucky enough to have a best friend?” I felt that.
Same
I gave up already and have myself as my best friend.
Same Im a loner
I have
I'm happy I have. Don't give up. Ur best friend ist waiting for u anywhere :)
I love the objective advice. Sometimes people grow apart and it’s hard to let go but we have to to keep moving forward
The worst feeling is when you think you two are close, and then you find out you aren't even that close to them
frrr its genuinely so hurtful to me😫
Ouch
frik all of it i just lost mine
Like when you think their your bff but they have a diff bff that’s not you
Yeah they easily replaced me when we stopped being friends -and broke up- with my other best friend too and that best friend acted like nothing happened :/
it hurts the most when the person you used to make memories with becomes a memory
True
It happened to me as well. He started drifting away out of the blue, even though I don't see anything wrong with the things I've done with him.
@Lilo Is the baddest
Thanks for asking dude. "Out of the blue" means for something to happen unexpectedly. The event was so sudden you don't expect it to happen.
Stop I’m crying and your making it worse
@Lilo Is the baddest How old are you? 7 years old? 8? Nevermind, your definitely still in kindergarten.
as my mom says “friends come and go” now i understand that i don’t need to hold onto people who don’t take the time to even try to keep a conversation going.
Yup I need to learn the same
Very true
@Lisa Burns u know it's so nice to see ki some people understand us becouse they have been from the same
True my mom said that too.
Parents only appear foolish until we encounter the same hardships they did.
what's worse is finding out how much of a narcist that person is. When you're ignorant about narcissism it will take years until you realize their true character and what they really think and feel about you. my advice to everyone out there is to really understand what makes a narcissist and think carefully about that person.
i’m so sorry you had to watch this but nothing lasts forever i love you
😔🤧 ily too
ily too
My best friend said they couldn't trust me because I said I wouldn't post song lyrics anymore and I did. That how stupid things got.
im showing this video to my best friend, who has another best friend that became more toxic
@@TamWam_ life is so toxic
1. You’re second guessing the friendship
2. You don’t communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You’ve found other friends
5. They’ve broken your trust
6. You are the only one holding on
Thanks! Saved my time :D
My bff has been mad at her stepsister and I did something "wrong" after she pranked me then she stopped talking to me the 24th
Thanks! This saved me 5 minutes and 55 seconds! :) I'll subscribe
I just-, Idk, I still am holding on because...
Memories..
Yep,it’s time to let go…
My mom was so right when she said you won’t have the same friends from school all your life. Sadly it’s so difficult to find friends once out of school and entering the big world
why??
@@fmatozo what do you mean ‘why’
@@Ad0814 explain this big world and if your comfatbale your situtaion
@@jaydabot2661 The friends I had in school weren’t close enough I guess so when we graduated we just stopped talking, the friends I have I still talk to sort of are busy with college and don’t really reach out to me at all like I do to them. So I’ve honeslty given up, I’m also busy with 2 jobs and I take time to ask how they’re doing lol
My bully is steel he is a boy
The worst is that I’m always the person that has to try and save the friendship. After this video I want to give up
If you are the only one making the effort, it's time to give them up.
It’s sad when people move on, and leave you and find a new bestfriend.
ii jxzzy yh me and my bff have never been apart since the start of reception /kindergarten and we dont understand how ppl can just gonand find a new friend
ii jxzzy i lost my freind because i had to move away........our 5 year friendship is a heartbreak to me..............i hope she found some body better,caring,loving and not as annoying as me.we are still in contact so I’m happy
I have feel that once in middle school
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 so true
You're right💔
It hurts particularly because they're the only friend I have, they were the reason I woke up in the morning, and now I'm starting to think that they've just grown tired of me and want me gone
It's the same for me... My "best friend" now has new friends, yet I can't find anyone to befriend. I live in a small town where there aren't many options in people befriending.. so I am just waiting to go to my new school where I will hopefully make new friends🙏✨
Yeah well i am right with you guys cause i dont really have any friends beside the one I lost.
I know how that shit feels:( gone through it
I'll be ur friend if you dont mind:)!!
I’m with she was new friends and I have another who is a fake one but I don’t want to be lonely 😔
Cheer up guys, I hope one day you'll find someone who understands you better, just believe that what's coming is better than what's gone
I miss the way we shared interests
I miss the way we laughed together
I miss the love we gave each other
I miss the memories we told
I miss the person she was and is now gone...
💔
I get it... My friend WAS a true friend, until I moved to another country. We kept connection but until we found out we played the same video games, every time she messaged me was about offering for my stuff... The offer was bad.. I really think she was taking advantage of me being her friend so she could get what she wants.
*It can take a while to get a BFF,
And lose them in a second.*
-mE
@Yasmina Saad Is a quote that’s why I put -mE
@@yourlocalsam5820 haha your funny but yeah it's sad
My best friend passed away last year. She was and will be irreplaceable. After losing her, I realized all my other friends were not truly friends. I’m grateful I got to have her in my life. I am learning to be happy without friends.
Oh my gosh! I feel so bad for you! 80 8(
Dogs are the best for sensitive, loyal and kind people.
Humans are mostly a liability.
I have learnt the hard way not to trust them.
A dog would never betray you.
But they are so precious that they can not live as long as we do.
The loss of my Dog, who was my family and best friend, broke my ❤to the core, but I feel she is still with me, as a Spirit guide.
It hurts a bit more when a friendship die off in the silence. No fights no Last conversations...it just dies away, despite the best efforts put from one side to hold it back
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better that way i know from personal experience.
i wanna cry
If your heart hurts after watching this, just let go.
Wish me luck with letting go, I'm gonna cry!
@Paritosh Jadhav why?
I am so sad because my heart hurts so much
@@therealdeal5844 does what he wrote even have a meaning? LMAO
@@franziskawalser301 I advise you to write them letter telling them how amazing they were and how much you loved them, and then write everything bad they've done to you, and how much they hurt you, address them in your letter like they're in front of you, and when you're done your feelings will be relieved, then just burn the letter (or delete it if on mobile or pc) and don't you ever let them read it. That friendship is over Period.
The man with Ocean eyes Thank you I will definitely do that!
The worst feeling is passing your best friend like strangers..
i need someone.
me too, you can talk to me if you want :)
We are here for u :>.
@@mlzxs_ thank you 🥺
I’m here for you❤️❤️🥰
I use to have lots of friends but I ended my relationship with my friends because it’s really hard 🥺😭💔and I will never make friends again
Losing a romantic partner is too painful. But losing a partner and a bestfriend altogether is on another level of pain. You don't just feel twice as broken, you feel like your heart is shattered into a million pieces and there's just no way of putting it back together. What's worse is the post-breakup period. You feel so lost and it seems that the more you exerted an effort to forget, the more it seems that the world is brushing it to your face.💔🖤
When you realize your best friend has become someone you don’t recognize anymore, it’s time to let go.
I had a friend like that from high school. She used to have my back and vice versa and I had to let her go coz her boyfriend is a controlling prick and eventually she sided with him and thus I left.
true 😭
@ron donnis sorry I'm going to disagree with you on that one just because my "friend" was one that I could easily recognize however when someone tries to control that person and "friend" sides with the boyfriend-they weren't my friend to begin with. They actually failed me if you really think about it.
@ron donnis no it’s where they’ve got to the point where they’ve changed into a different person and judging by this comment you’re probably one of them
@ron donnis funny how you can judge someone else’s situation, but the second it gets turned on you, you cry about it. Have a good day.
I stopped having a "best friend" when I realized that they'll just leave you in the end anyways, people don't stick around forever.
All the more reason to cherish those in your life. People might not stick around forever but that doesn’t mean having relationships is pointless, the times you had together still meant something. “ ‘tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” -Alfred Lord Tennyson
Actually some people do stick around. My current bsf is my bsf since the day I was born, she's my cousin, and we hung out like almost everyday.
@@kimjisoo7844 my best friend love me so much and I also love her so much but she is moving to Dubai forever 😭😭😭😭😢
@@Armyblink-sq2cd Move with her
@@Armyblink-sq2cd Oh no! That's not good! But don't worry, I'm sure you guys will reunite again, everything happened for a reason, so you'll be good for now.🤗❤️
The worst feeling is when the person you explained your pain to....leaves you in ultimate pain..
ikr .... hi army :(
@@MintyMinho heya💜 BORAHAE💜
@@MintyMinho but I have bangtan....which can get me out of any situation☺️💜
@@anusha2938 exactly, "you know that... liking BTS was the best decision ever!" - hobi (its hobi day soon)
@@MintyMinho yes☺️💜 no regrets being an army☺️💜 and hobi day coming soon!!! In few hours!!💜
I let go of my bestie of 42 years in February. We had been through so much together and were always there for each other. My dad died last December and she couldn’t be bothered to come and see me, and my son reminded me that it had been over 4 years since she had visited me. It was always me going to her, I’m slightly disabled and it’s a bit of a drive. She had surgery to remove large benign cysts from her ovaries and I took my own shower chair for her to use at home and went to stay for a week to help look after her through the day. This was last June 2022, and I have a carer myself. I sent her a message telling her that I didn’t want her to contact me anymore. And it hurt to do that. We had been besties for 2/3 of my life, her kids are family to us. But she just didn’t want to bother and to be there for me as I was for her last year. So that’s it. Never had the decency to return my shower chair either, I had to get another. Said all I needed to know about her. Her oldest and dearest friend she called me, what a joke. Bye Jan.
Same had a kindergarten friend been few years had to cut few "friends" out my life. Learned that at 35 not everyone is a "friend" best decision I could have done. It has been hell but being on your own means less issues. We become dependent unfortunately.
I am very sorry that you did not have the support you needed and I hope you are well.
I lost my childhood cat several months back. My ex-bestie could not even bother to reach out to me personally and say sorry for your loss or even ask me how am I doing. She hung out with other people so she clearly had 5 seconds to type how are you doing. Recently, she had a party and I was clearly not invited as I saw the photos on social media. I stopped initiating the conversations and am learning to just let them. People will tell you who they are once you let them.
❤
It’s hard when you were best friends for years but then you go so far apart you can’t even call them your best friend
i can relate brother
Relatable..
Relatable, but my bff was a bitch
It hurts when they back stab you...
Out of nowhere my "friend" just started chatting rubbish about me and just hates me and it really confused me.
6 signs let Go of good Friends
1. You're Seconds guessing the friendship
2. You don't communicate anymore
3. You want different things
4. You found other friends
5. They've broken your trust
6. You are the one Holding on
This is me and my friend
Alivia :3 we stopped being friend a week ago. I feel so bad.
ohgod
ohno
Thank you!
@@SealsLoveAseel Me too actually and the person that doesn't communicate anymore
It hurts to let someone go
But it hurts more making someone stay, when you know they don’t want to stay
yeah
yeah it breaks my heart 😞
@@MKAnimates :)
I just lost my best friend a few days ago. They started bullying me. This video really showed me how a good friend should act. 🙂
I was in the same situation.
The fact that this wasn't in your recommend and some people had to search it up,that in itself is sad dude :/
I searched up “how to deal with best friends leaving you out” because I’m in a group of 3 friends and it’s so difficult, and I’m always the one that’s left out and the other 2 have so many inside jokes and it’s so heartbreaking because I’ve known her for 6 years and she’s only known the person we’re in a group of 3 with for less than a year and it sucks.
@Airyana De Leon oh I’m so sorry
@@aiyanaharleyroberts7533 if it's making you unhappy, leave it asap
@@sidharthsharma2637 thanks, my real best friend gave me some advice and it made me realise “what’s so great about them anyway? all they do is leave me out”
@Airyana De Leon thank you
the fact that this was even in my recommend
despite not having any friends.
komo cakeps omg relatable
It just gives me anxiety and overthink things. But I know it's in my recommendations, because I've had past experiences with this, and this was more of a reassurance that I did the right thing. I am VERY happy in my current best friendship! Sure, we do get busy, and we both deal with being distracted easily, and college, but over the years we've grown together, and even if it's not every day, we both put an effort into the relationship. We're both there for eachother, and we have been for years. She's always been there for me through some of the toughest times in my life, and I do whatever I can to be there for her too. Though since I've lost so so many friends, even one that was my best closest friend for nearly 10 years.....I'm terrified of losing her too........ So....this really is making me overthink everything in the worst ways....... Stupid GAD and OCD.
Zero friends gang assemble
saaaaaaamne
Relatable af
Friends come and go. Nothing lasts forever, sad but true.
FriEND BestfriEND
when you accept its happy
Agreed
Thank you for that
I don’t agree with you, yes, a large part of Your friendships end, but some stays. For exemple, my dad has been best friends with 2 guys since 35 years, they still laugh, eat, and travel together and our family are really close.
I was already having problems with my bff and the fact that this shows up and I can relate to everything makes me want to end it cause I know it needs to.😭❤
It sucks when you have the best friend title but don’t feel treated like one
Edit: thanks so much for all the replies! I thought I felt so alone before this but I hope everything gets better for you all!
It does hurt alot, but eventually you get over it. Happened to me once
Also nice pfp :P
Eiman B yeah Ik it’ll get better soon :/ and wow matching :)))
@@Hi-sj4xg I hope so too! Yep haha
Eiman B tyyyy :)
Omg literally the same i was given that title but my friend always choose others over me like for example she choose other partners for group and stuff so I'm thinking of cutting her off slowly cause i deserve better? But i don't have any friends except her what do y'all think?
This goes for any relationship. not just Besties.
oof thats actually kinda true
Sorry mom your going up for adoption
Joke btw I love you mom
@@agachabored3682 lol
I was about to ask 🙂
2 minutes in and i'm crying. Matched my current "best friend" perfectly.
The worst part of having a best friend is when u dont know if u are close to them anymore. its heartbreaking to leave and say good bye...
Yeah we text and she blocks me when I talk to much and when ever I talk with her and tell her stuff she just says k also she’s been hanging out with my other friend we still talk tho but barley
@@lpbg2273 she BLOCKS you?- for literally no reason- drop her that’s toxic
@@campbellmorris430 oki ^^ she kicked me the other day anyway
same i never said good buy too that friend i new they was no real friend they would never talk too me really and he was a hacker and he hacked me well hes still hacking me i should have let go of him when i seen him acting like that
@@imlookingatyou8428 wow im so sorry my friend is always jelly just bc i got new friends i think it may be time to let go
Guys remember, “Friendship is like a piece of paper, it can be crumbled and smoothed out again, but it will never be the same.”
Soo truee
But not Necessarily worse
Eli Lundberg It can be for the worst, some friendships aren’t meant to last. Ik it hurts to say that but it’s happened 2+ times to me,
@@angela-sh8zy sorry to hear that, it is probably most common to be for the worse, it have happened to me too once, but I also know some people who became close friends after being not so close friends and falling apart
AngoTheBanjo man wise words but honestly just fuck off
The fact that this video is in my recommended while I'm in a situation where my best friend is ghosting me. Is it the universe? I don't know
JaeJae Chicken Me too.. 😔
Same 😔
I thought I was the only one😭😭😭
It’s the government analysing your data
omg same like my friends were ghosting me for a while and then out of nowhere I see this in recommend. And turns out every single thing that was said in this video turned out to be true like iam seriously surprised but atleast I get all the toxic waste out of mah life UwU
Just because you lost me as friend doesn’t mean you gained me as an enemy. Im greater than that. I still want you eat but not at my table.
-Tupac
nice quote
well said.
i thought that said trump
@@weskerposting as for my research it was qoute by Tupac
This
Nothing hurts more than getting hurt by the person who u thought would never hurt u 😢😔
I know that feeling
Yes. My BF crushed my soul and I never thought that would happen.
Stfu nigga
my friend. if i say somthing i dident mean to say he hits me or drops me for no reason :(
It’s the the most hurtful thing ever 😭
My friend has just kinda changed, she’s kinda super rude now. It’s not the same.
For example:
she does things she *knows* make me uncomfortable, but treats me kinda like oH yOu pOoR tHinG when I try to communicate my discomfort,
She’s more focused on being cool than nice.
She has a “bOyFrIenD” that she keeps from her parents.
She gossips about people behind their back. We’ve been friends for eight years now, it’s just so hard to let go.
-edit: thank you guys so much, I find it so sad that so many people relate. Just remember, this pain never lasts forever
Just like my cousin..😒
Exactly like mine, shes not as nice anymore :|
Same. (I hope she doesn't read this-)
She's an internet friend of mine. I met her a year ago. We're at 6th grade at that time. She's really kind (to me to say the least) and we made a little group and that's where we make more friends.
When she's going into 7th grade, she changed completely. She's started to ignore me and the group. Btw the group is also my best online friends. She keeps bragging how cool her new school is and I can't really question that.
Days and days turning into weeks she keeps bragging about her new classmates and such and me and the group just got sorta tired of it. We didn't want to offend her by saying "dude shut the hell up, no one cares" since that'll be rude.
One of her new friends made a Yt channel and that's what she brags ever since. When I saw the video her friend made, I said "it's okay..". The video might need some improvements and such. But then all of the sudden she texted "SSSSHHHHHHH I'M TALKING TO MY NEW FRIENDS" like omg, that caught me off guard.
She keeps bragging about the things that's happening in her life and she doesn't care about me and the group anymore.
Then she has a new friend that has a Yt channel too. He was her crush (And my new online bff/twin). She keeps bragging stuffs and keeps spamming on the group chat. I literally got sick of it, as well as the group.
Then that's where she started being a brat which wasn't like her before. She was angry after what me and my friend said.
Then we're all okay again. I got close to her crush (not romanticly) since whenever we're (me, the girl and her 2 friends) in a group call, she and her friend always hung up with no reasons. So that made me and her crush talk more often to each other. That made her jealous and she said "you don't care about me and *insert her friend's name here* anymore. You only care about *insert the girl's crush name here* " I was so confused since I did treat them equally. I saw hi to her whenever she's online. Always ask her "wassup, how's your day??" And she said I have a special hello towards her crush. Wtf is even a special hello?? I just call him "Sup dude".
Then some time later she and her friend suddenly said I'm a liar, two faced, pretend hero, and all of that junk and I was literally confused and asked what's going on. The girl said I was going to kick her and her friend off the group and steal her crush away from her (literally saying I have a crush on him which I don't. I have feelings towards someone else) and I have no idea where that came from. Then they're mad at me and shaming me and such. Her crush just feels guilty. I private chat him and asked him what happened and he said that it's all his fault and how sorry he is. He explained everything and I actually understand. So I told him it's okay it's not his fault.
After all of that went by, those two just left the group. Idk how are they but I know it's time to let go of the girl that I knew a year ago since she changed completely. Like I don't even know her anymore.
Btw she did admit she was jealous of me, it's in her channel.
MEDIA: VIDEP GAMEZ
Same luckily my best friend is nice but my friend just kinda changed since a gossiper joined our group now theres drama everywhere she changed so much the gossiper once told tumours I watch porn to my friends when I don't and they a created a groupchat about me it's just sad
I recently let go of my best friend and it all started when he moved to a different country. He found a new best friend in his newfound country with his parents and he started playing with him the same amount of time as we used to play when he was still in my country. Then he stopped texting me as often and calling me. My usual schedule was wake up, eat breakfast and play with my friend all day long, but when he got his new friend he started playing with him on the daily. I understood that the timezones with a little bit different like an hour difference, but that wasn't the answer. He started playing a new game with his NEW friend and left me behind. I struggled to keep this friendship on and i just gave up. It wasn't worth keeping this friendship alive because i was the only one keeping it still, like building blocks. The moment i gave up on my best friend made the boulder get off of me. But there came another problem which is still relevant to this day. I am very shy and can't make new friend all of the sudden. I want friends like my old best friend, i am doubting that if i even can make a new friend like him. And now I'm lonely, without a sibling to play with because I'm was a single child and no one to play with. I don't want virtual friends, i want real friends but i can't make new friends because im shy. being on the computer just feels like wasting time on playing games and torturing my mind.
"You can pretend to *Care*
But, you cannot pretend to *Show* *Up* "
Very Rightly said .
I just “ended” it with my best friend of 8 years, she seemed so fine about it😔, I guess those 8 years were nothing
Same here
I am so sorry. I really hope you have better experiences with people
Same, except it was 5 years. 😔
10 years here 😢
Omg.. 😔
The worst feeling of all is when your best friend is simply just replacing you with another friend it kinda sucks seeing them while you scroll down your memories together or your texts 😭
Same happens with me i also used to read chats of us😭
guys i suggest you delete the chats and any past photos, it will make u feel better and easier to move on..
if he/she does not care for you anymore, you are wasting your time crying over what has happened in the past. They played a part in your life and now their part is over and they have left you.. the positive points you can take from this incident is to not to do the mistake your bestie did with your future friends
@@kishanjethwani5565 same and it hurts so bad... I had gotten in a relationship with my best friend and we did everything together and then she got distant and one day just told me she didn't want me anymore and she had a new crush. I feel replaced but I haven't been able to remove the love I had and still have for her so its so much harder. I think about her every day knowing she wont be thinking of me and doesn't love me. Then I found all our conversations that I'd gone to when I felt alone to make me smile, and the only picture of us kissing and other pictures of us on a date were all deleted... gone just like that. Its so hard but she wants to be just a friend now... we've become distant and she gets angry with me a lot... I can't tell her how I feel and all the dreams and hopes of a future together are just gone. I don't know what to do anymore.
It absolutely does. I'm in a place right now where my friend and I are just super distant. I don't feel like she wants to even be around me. I feel like I'm the only one trying, and friendships are supposed to be two ways.
Recently I made a new friend, and we've been hanging out a bit more, and have a lot of fun. I'm not trying to replace my friend, I still want to be friends, but, as I'm being pushed away, despite the hurt I'm continuing life, hoping we can work things out eventually. It definitely hurts though. Many many tears shed lately.
Totally sucks. Happening to me where they're replacing me and it hurts. I've tried imbedding myself so we all could all be friends but they don't want any of it. They legit replacing me before my eyes and it hurts. Gotta move on tho I think. Been overlooking to much crap lowkey.
After her pulling away for months I just asked her do you not want to be friends anymore she said "yeah, your just not someone I want to be friends with" probably the worst pain I've felt in a long time
Comes near me when she is feeling sad but goes away when i need her .
I can understand u I too have one who comes to me for her needs and leaves me all the remaining time...
And she even found other Friends too
@@sreeharshini3286 same goes with me
Yeah just think long hard beforehand though. I cut off my best friend bc of signs like this without realizing our communication was completely different. We had a big talk today and she had no idea she went away when I needed her the most bc I did not communicate! But she always communicated when she felt something or needed something. I may be off but I sense you are a very giving person who caters to people’s needs constantly you make sure ppl are okay, things are okay almost like you are holding the weight of the world on your back! And when you do that you forget about yourself and you forget that you also need someone to reach out too, to talk to etc. but if you keep that all in while helping everyone else you will feel isolated, alone, neglected and misunderstood. Hope I don’t sound like a crazy person lol
@@cakedup757 I feel like this
So related
I wish that our friendship will last like my uncle and his friend. They have been best friends since they were in kindergarten till now.
Omg same! She was like my sister. But since high school started I barely talk to her anymore, and she’s making more friends while I’m all alone. It breaks my heart
nice how old are they
@@ashimates enjoy own company
How blessed everytime I made a friend they moved the next year
I had a friend since 11 years now but she ditched me for someone she just got to know about a year ago 😭
well this hits deep.
What hurts is when you think of them as your best friend but realize they don't feel the same
I can relate. It’s hard for me to allow myself to ever start to think of someone as a “best friend,” even after reaching many years of being friends. Anyone I’ve ever felt especially close to has gone out of their way to let me know that I’m not *their* best friend. It’s a perception that feels so unlikely to ever be reciprocated, it sucks :/
This one I can relate so bad
I had a best friend but then I moved almost 3 years ago it was really hard at first but know I’m just used to it. When I first moved we called a lot and now we don’t as much anymore. We are still friends but our bff relationship started falling apart since I moved it’s time to forget the fact will never be bffs again.
Yea
@Abbi-sr7il I’m so sorry I know what it feels like
When your friend barely talks to you and sometimes ignores you for a love interest...
I'm going through the same thing 😣
This is so true😔(my best friend once unread my messages for 3 days and when she finally answer on the 4th day, she told me our conversation was dead and boring and that when I have something important or good news to Tell her, that's what she said😔😭
Same..
Yes! That's always what my friend does 😖
IZZY WHO
For those who don't have time ::
1:22 You are second guessing your friendship
2:01 You don't communicate anymore
2:35 You want different things
3:00 You have found other friends
3:35 They have broken your trust
4:15 You are the one holding on
Thank you
Thank you
Finally I just realized that I don't have friends. It was my imagination that I thought I had them, but they've already left me. Ahahhaha well this video is so helpful!!!
I just need let them go!!!
@@animaaliv1615 Aww just remember there are many people for you! 🤗
i dont communicate with a best friend and found another one...
For six years this channel have been randomly poping out in my recommendations once half a year , and it always was on spot... now I finally decided to watch all of videos
it hurts when you feel like your close/best friend is replacing you with someone else but you know you cant do anything about it.
Update if anyone cares: the person i made this comment about still talks to me and still friends
Same my best friend and me have the same friend group and one weekend she any everyone else was invited to this girls house and I wasn’t their excuse was I was and you didn’t answer
Their text to invite me was “hey girl” like come on like am I not supposed to be mad
And when I confront them about it they brush it off or make it seem like I’m overreacting
Please comment some advice should I just drop them
@@clownoftheyear8425 if they're treating you like that maybe it best to find more friends who are more considerate of your feelings and will invite you when making plans to hang out instead of staying with the people in your current friend group.
@@aleezaa13 I ended it with them today 🤠👌
@@clownoftheyear8425 i hope you find more caring friends! :D
The worse case scenario is that, your BESTFRIEND was your childhood friend. Whenever you think of your past especially your childhood and that BESTFRIEND was always there in your memories. That BESTFRIEND is always present in ur memorable moments. I'd say, it FVCK!NG HURTS SO MUCH! Much hurt than losing your bf/gf. Imagine after decades of friendship, it just suddenly snapped and "IT'S OVER."
Remember, aside from ur family, Friendship is the second relationship we have after our families or relatives. So yes, losing your Bestie hurts more than losing your BF/GF.
I am the only one who's holding on.
I am so pathetic, and it hurts so bad.
you’re not the only one, i feel left out but they are my only friends, and i don’t have any other friends because i just switched schools
Yes it hurts..😔
@@alytwen879 “hold on help is on the way” let go of them my cousin and the friend group I was in they all made fun of me and said that I was the one starting it so it’s ok I will rather stand alone then stand with people who hurt me and I’m ok 🙂 it’s gonna hurt for a little probably for a week but trust me sooner then ur gonna forget that they even exist
felt this on a whole new level.
Don’t let anyone make you think you’re not good enough. If you need to cut them off, do it. If you’re afraid of being alone, it’s better than being stuck with someone whose toxic and doesn’t make time for you. Getting some space can also help boost your self esteem. Once you’re comfortable with yourself and confident, new people will start to be drawn to be your friend. And you’ll know when you’ve got a real friend. Fuck em. They aren’t worth your time girl 💕
*It hurts when you realise you aren’t as important to someone as you thought you were*
Oh my... 1.7K likes; thanks so much!
Scary Mclairy it hurts even more when you know you’re not important to anyone...
Scary Mclairy
*it hurts when someone takes all of your friends and they all turn against you.*
XxRidgedWarsxX yea lol
...
it does hurt
Oh my goodness the hurt among you young ones! I'm 69 and a mean 'friend' at ages 8-14 or so coloured my view of friendships for ever.
She wanted me as her 'best friend' but on condition she had other best friends too and I wasn't 'allowed' to have any other friends. Proper childhood manipulation - she made me feel as though I was weird and unworthy of friendships. I was probably insecure and therefore vulnerable but I could never pull away from her until I was 14 or 15.
We went our separate ways thankfully but I've always struggled with friendships. I've got and have had, lots of dear friends over many years, am happily married with grown-up children and gorgeous grandchildren - but I don't like getting too involved with friends.
I've got so much to be grateful for, just wish I'd been able to stand up to that girl all those decades ago.
My message is clear - Don't stand any nonsense from anyone as YOU are worth so much more than that. It's actually character-building and liberating being on your own for a while but don't
fret because you will soon discover other friendships in the least likely places.
Warmest wishes.
Seeing your bestfriend hanging out with other people when (s)he didn't try to get in contact with you hurts more than any break up
Or "hey, I want to spend some me time, just alone, i hope it's not a problem!" then seeing they were actually hanging out with other people...
This happened to me for about a month, and he only knew the person for 3 months while we knew eachother for 3 years. He just never wanted to talk to me anymore and when we had plans to call he would always just call with the other.
yeah i feel you 😭 but i know now she is a toxic person, but it still hurts tho, and i am not really good with making friends but once i do why does it have to be toxic person..
@@nadiaelsa3850 yeah its hard for me to make friends too now, from what happened it made me develop trust issues and i cant really decide if i want to be someones friend
i feel you 😔🙏🏻
Can we talk about how friends can not talk for a long time, yet still remain connected? Like nobody has to be at fault, and drifting away doesn't have to be a breakup.
This can happen certainly. It depends on the people and the situation. I just want to say that I relate. As an adult who is only getting older with more major responsibilities, this happens, but you know it’s mutual when you finally do get to talk with the other person and it genuinely feels natural, as if nothing changed.
For normal friends yes, people deserve more than that from bestfriend
@@yayaraft actually best friends can go without talking for months then one of them randomly send a message and it’s like you never stopped talking, that’s an example of a healthy friendship
With out notice means they were using you. meditate on that shit. 30 years invested. and boop boopout go the lights.
Exactly! Everyone drifts away but if it’s true it’ll come back together. People need to learn to stop giving up on their friends it’s the same like all relationships.
I've had so many people breaking my trust I've stopped calling anyone my bestfriend
That is the definition of ME.
Ikr
Facts
Same
Same as f
you always help me,a young kid understand because of these videos I can understand the reasons I should not have that one friend
Friend: "Alright, I gotta log off. See you tomorrow."
_Last seen online: 3 years ago_
that hits diff :(
Deadmeme
Bruh this happened right now it’s already been a month
Fake friends is your stalker social media
..my friend and i mutually "saying im not gonna disturb u then"...she has anxiety ..but it okay may she's. happy then...
Me: doubting my (kinda toxic) friendship.
RUclips:
Feels like it's an old marriage? Cause sure mine's do and some people have told me about it
Same she was so nice to me before and never fought irl but now we fight so often and mostly irl but there is no one else I can be with :/ everyone likes her more than me
Before this school year we were sooo close now.. they have a new best friend (who hates me) and I feel like they say stuff behind my back...
Jill Msp same here
Omg literally today my friend did something I didn’t like and this gotten recommend
Who else doesn’t want to let go of their friend but knows they should
Me but ive tried and he dint let go so......who is the one really hurt here
Alycia Cardamone me
Me
Alycia Cardamone bro meeeee. she has been my best friend for the longest time, but she is a bitch lately. but I don't want to loose her cause she knows everything about me. I'm afraid she will expose me is i make her mad. also we have way too many fights. so I just want to stop being her friend, but I can't for some reason.
me
I've had both lost friendships and rejections and trust me the former hurts more because they know you yet they don't feel it's worth it to be in your life.
I’ve dropped quite a few “friends” because it’s all been one sided. I finally realized that I have taught them how to treat me. It all stems from childhood hurt. As you grow, and understand this, it is incredibly painful, but necessary for your inner peace to let go of people who are only there when they need something.
I dropped 2 of my best friends a couple of months ago because of their ignorance and boyfriends controlling there every move and words that come out of their mouth. It’s sad because it’s not even them talking to me truthfully because of the toxic lies being fed to them that are brainwashing them while I’ve always been open with genuine love and care I had for these people. But, it will always be one sided so I’ve been dealing with a lot of emotions such as anger and sadness. I tend to project to the people that actually do care about me and are in my life right now. I hope you find friends that are good and genuine to you. ❤️
@@brianaramos489 I’m so sorry:( thank you for sharing. yes, it is incredibly painful, and makes you feel all kinds of emotions. I had the same experience as your friends. With a toxic, abusive marriage. I could not see what it was doing to me at the time, and especially people around me. I truly hope they are able to get out of those relationships before it’s too late. Just a word of advice, (you don’t have to take it, As I am just a stranger) from someone who has lived it; when they finally get out, and see that you were a good friend, who genuinely cared for them, allow them to apologize, with an open heart. But, never forget how they treated you, and create boundaries for yourself, so it never hurts you again. People have become very mean, and are lashing out a lot lately. I don’t understand it. I’m actually past the sadness, and enjoy my new very small circle of friends, who align more with my values. I will never again allow one sided friendships. It drains you of everything, to the point of having nothing left to give. Hold the friends that love you, and treat you with respect tightly. I’ve realized they are very hard to find.
My old bestie left me in the matter of days to be another girl in the friend groups’s bestie and so I see them every day in school so I’m experiencing grief
I. Have too
I have too. I feel the exact same way. It was a while ago that I didn't even know if I should consider myself friends with the person, and after carefully re-evaluating my options I decided to end it. It was the right decision for myself and I knew I had to do it to help myself because if I didn't do anything, the person wouldn't care about me anyway, which wouldn't be a win for myself. Sometimes, it is essential to do what is right for yourself, especially if other people won't do it for you.
It’s worse when they show their true colors when they’re around others. It completely demoralizes you because you second guess if you had that connection to begin with.
this.
This is the one.
Agree man. That is why it is very important to find happiness and be confident when we are alone.
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My dad has had a best friend for over 20 years, they have lived across the country for nearly a decade, they can go without talking for a year but when they get together again it’s like they never separated. They are so close we call him our uncle. I want something like that.
I hope also have a friend like that
Bring Your Zella same
Redrum Stop being such a party recker.
Great
Me too.:)
The worst thing is the sacrifice, time, money, and it all got invested into nothing in the end. Best friend for 12 years and it's just so over.
“What’s hurting more than losing you is knowing that you are not fighting to keep me.”
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This is like my used to be best friend, which for a long time I went through denial, until finally I accepted and moved on. I tried to hold on, but she wasn’t trying at all. Now she sometimes tries to catch my eye and talk to me, but it always gets awkward. She SOMETIMES tries to get our friendship back together, but I know she’ll just leave me again. Thank you to anyone who read this full comment because I’m kinda still in denial.
Yah,it’s true. That’s when you turn it around and move forward. You become a little more particular to whom you let in your life .
This video is making me cry so hard. Guess it’s time to let some people go. :(
Cutting people out of your life is okay. Not everyone is meant to stay. 🙌🏻
Agreed and I need to let go of my best friend.
Hey it’s two weeks later and I hope you’re feeling better❤️
Yea
yeah i think its time 🙂
I have literally been trying for so long to keep our friendship because we've been friends for so long watching this video just made me realise how much me and her are exactly like this and its sad :/
Me and my best friend used to have very good friendship u til this girl came,she taught her a lot of bad stuff and I my best friend talks to her more than me how... I don’t want my best friend to do bad things,but she’s my best friend so I just decided to let it go,but right now I’m thinking if we should break up...
It’s ok I’m the same
Same, I’ve been trying to communicate with my best friend but she hasn’t respond to my texts or calls, it’s been months sense we’ve talked
Me to me to
I'm feeling the same thing
Someone I once called “best friend”, treated me like an option. I’m having all the traits in this video. I guess, friendships really never last. Time to let go.
For me the saddest part is when you're overthinking that your friend is annoyed because of you and it becomes true.
that’s what’s happening to me rn 💀💀💀
Same. I lost my best friend today and its on my birthday as well.
I have been away with my friend last weekend she has always been bossy but boy she was on high bossy that weekend, she screamed at me for two trivial things i did and i really wanted her to leave me alone after that. No there is no going back she made me feel awful and hurt.
@@gehrmansparr0w I am so sorry to hear that. Are you good now?
@@hi.......9799 I'm fine, thank you for asking 👍
- *When you feel like a lot of these apply to your friend but you’re too scared and you feel like they’re still good for you but you still don’t know if you’re overthinking it or not* -
(Wait what the heck I’m at 1k?!?! Oh my gosh what the heck thank you all so much this is the biggest amount of likes I’ve ever got!)
fuck. i feel like i'm looking at mirror rn :')
Or when they are bad for you, but you don't wanna hurt them though recognize their attachment to you is co dependent.
dude fuck it.
Trueee
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It’s so hard to let go of a friend that’s been cool with you in elementary school and we barely talk to each other
and the memorysssssssssssss ;ccc
Well you shouldn’t just give up. Reach out and don’t just let it die.
I've been with my bestfriend for 11 years and today, I remembered her again. I watched her socials, she already removed our pictures and also realized she doesn't follow me back anymore. We never fought, it's just we went to college and never talked again. I see her sometimes but she acts as if she didn't see me. I don't know how we got to this point, I mean for 11 years, we used to treat each other as sisters then this year, we just *poof* fell apart. What hurts me is the fact that we were on good terms before all this went down. I probably neeed closure but--all I know is that right now, it would have been great if we were still hanging out on a cafe and talking about our current lives like we pictured when we were younger.
me : *shows all these signs for most of my friends*
also me : tHiS iS fInE
another me: TOTALLY FINE *cries in corner*
felt this
Your not alone (´°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥ω°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥｀)
That's life🤗
Hahah same I’m in denial rn 😭😔
It hurts because she's the only one who's stuck with me for years.
Ah sh!t. That hit DEEP
Honestly- she’s my only friend but I just can’t trust her anymore 😢
Sameeeee huhuhu I don't know what to do now huhuhu
Same
It hurts a lot.. seriously
I’ve been through that more than 5 times 😕