How to Always be Happy! | Antony Gordon | TEDxHultLondon
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
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Pop Culture has a chokehold on today’s generation in many ways, and numerous ideas have arisen from the pop- industry that continues to influence people around the world. Antony Gordon has worked closer than most with some of the biggest names in the industry and the learnings he has taken from observing these people and how they affect us, are not few. He joined the TEDxHultLondon stage to dismantle the notion that a happy life equals a pain-free life, which he cleverly breaks down and demonstrates through his own life experiences. Antony explains that the reality that is shown by influential celebrities, a pain-free and blissful life, is far from the truth, and it’s important to understand it in order to live a fulfilled and happy life. Antony Gordon's background, training, and experience, including academic excellence; the representation of some of the most prominent personalities in sport and entertainment; select training in the human psyche blended with his success as a stand up comic and raw authenticity places him in a unique position to ignite a spark in a dark world and to become the voice for a generation looking for tools and direction to navigate through the landmines along the journey of life. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
The part about not waiting for the storm to subside but dancing in the rain really hit home for me. It's a powerful metaphor for living life to the fullest.
I can relate to the emotional moment the speaker had while walking his son down the aisle. It reminds me that true happiness often comes from meaningful and heartfelt experiences.
The THINGS that make us most HAPPY are not THINGS ... they are PEOPLE and memories and special events connected to these PEOPLE ...
I like the end bit about not waiting for the storm to subside.... we're all in this together, learning to dance in our own unique storms. That's a good reminder
I genuinely thought this was going to be another talk about "FIND YOUR PURPOSE!" "BE AUTHENTIC!" but nope. Here we are in 2023 finally delving into the spectrum of emotions and how they ALL serve a purpose in our life. Love it! ❤❤❤❤
I very much appreciate your kind feedback Hyper Diva!
Same! This whole talk was not what I expected in such a wonderful way
@@therealmr.unicorn - Thank you!
Your story about the wedding and the tears hit me. It made me think about my own moments of happiness and how they often come intertwined with some pain. Real eye-opener.
Spot on about how to perceive challenges Antony, I've always said a problem is just an opportunity to find a creative solution and then be really proud of ourselves for resolving it!
Thank you. Problems should be stepping stones, not stumbling blocks!
There are a few generations in many parts of this world who would benefit from adhering to this man's gospel. Discomfort leads to personal growth. And THAT is the most fulfilling journey any one could ever take.
Thank you @SweetPeePandora. One can never attain greatest while coasting in life. It is only through overcoming challenges which cause us to become bigger people that we can grow and develop.
This talk definitely struck a chord with me. I agree that we often confuse fun with happiness, I think it's because when we're having fun we're distracted and in that moment
I appreciate the emphasis on embracing pain and not avoiding it. It's through challenges that we grow and find our strength.
I like what he says about cultivating gratitude... practicing this and appreciating what we have can really help shift our focus away from the things we might feel we're lacking.
Khloe - one of the easiest tried and tested tools to ensure you live a happy life is to focus on being gratitude. By so doing, you train your mind to see what you HAVE rather what you DO NOT HAVE and THINK YOU NEED. Keeping a "Gratitude Journal" is one of the most powerful way to rewire your outlook and change the way you see your life.
Your enthusiasm is infectious Mr Gordon
Thank you! ❤
I'm inspired to shift my focus from avoiding pain to embracing life's challenges and growing from them.
The idea that pain makes us stronger is powerful. It makes me reflect on my own life and the challenges I've faced. It's a different perspective worth exploring.
We all face challenges @scottzsanders, but if we understand that these challenges are essential to help us become the people who we now are, we no longer view these challenges as obstacles in our lives!
His commitment to dedicating his life to dispelling popular myths is inspiring. It's refreshing to see someone challenge the beliefs that many people hold.
Dino - you have no idea how much I appreciate your comments! It is never easy taking the road less travelled. I deeply appreciate everyone's support. The fact that my TEDxTalk has been so favorably received tells me that there are millions of folks like you who on reflection are prepared to question the veracity of many concepts that pop culture wants us just assume is accurate!
Your talk made me appreciate the struggles that shaped me. It's in those broken parts that we find our strength. We're all in this together, dancing in the rain 💖🌦🌈
I never thought about the difference between fun and happiness before. It's true, fun is fleeting, but happiness is long-lasting.
Your videos are so positive and uplifting. ❤
Thank you Levent - We have been working for months on streamlining my content. The best is yet to come!
Damn receiving a call like that at 24 years and calling it 'a jolting experience' is such an understatement!
True - although sadly I know many folks who had similar experiences and simply continued their lives as if nothing had happened! That Joseph is a true tragedy.
How incredible that the mother of the bride had such a strong intuition to sense that something was wrong with the speaker's health. It goes to show how powerful our instincts can be, even in seemingly ordinary moments. Her awareness potentially saved a life.
Excellent point @averagestudent4632. She was so convincing that I knew I could not ignore her intuition!
This talk challenged my preconceived ideas and left me with a powerful message to live a life of excellence despite the storms we face.
At my lowest point I realised the one thing I was missing in my life was that little spark of magic, of joy and you brought all back, TNX!
You have no idea how much joy that gives me ... You sound like a special person ... I wish for you special things!
that spark is always there Reis just sometimes it gets buried!
I appreciate the speaker's honesty about personal struggles. It takes courage to share such experiences. Looking forward to hearing more about dispelling life myths.
@tonyiquintero - thanks for your kind words. I am relaunching my podcast "The Antony Gordon Show-Lessons for Life I did not learn at Harvard" - next month - early 2024 - I think you will enjoy checking it out!
The illusory truth effect is such an eye-opener! It's essential to question what we hear and not blindly accept everything as true
@rainithacker - the reason why I did the interactive display to show the impact of the Illusory Truth Effect is hopefully for people to realize how quickly it is to stop thinking critically and start functioning like a zombie ...
I love his message - embracing pain and finding happiness in the midst of life's storms is a powerful message because if you can do it during those times, imagine how easy it will be during the smooth times!
Some of my happiest moments have been when my husband and I are dealing with something awful and even though it's really tough there's still so much kindness and support that we show each other despite the difficulties we're navigating... That makes me so happy.
I totally get the pressure to avoid pain. It's like we're programmed to seek comfort. Your talk made me rethink how I approach challenges.
The choice people need to make in life is between comfort or greatness!
I'm not sure Antony gave me the recipe on how to always be happy but he opened my eyes to shying away from pain.
This talk reminds me that no matter how meticulously we plan our lives, the universe has a way of surprising us with unexpected events and challenges. It's a reminder to stay adaptable and resilient in the face of life's unpredictability.
@Elusive-Khan - you are 100% correct. While we cannot control the "surprises" in life, we have full control over the way we respond to the inevitable surprises in life!
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, listen to this TEDx Anthony puts in a good effort.
I appreciate your support Muhammet!
I appreciate the idea of pain and happiness being intertwined. That really is the balance of life, like yin and yang.
The idea of not waiting for the storm to pass really resonates with me. I need to stop delaying my life and start living fully.
@zeldasesta - two of the most profound growth points I see with many people is FIRSTLY, the realization that so many people postpone their life until "everything is in place" - not realizing that this way of thinking is based on a false premise and SECONDLY, taking active steps to begin to DANCE IN THE RAIN! It sounds like you can check off the box of PAIN POINT # 1. Now you need to move to PAIN POINT # 2 - Plan and Execute. Start by writing out where you would like to be 3 years from now and 3 steps that you can take TODAY to move in that direction ...
Wow I literally just had a conversation over lunch with a friend of mine about how nothing's exciting anymore (compared to our 20's) but that things are a lot nicer, and the stability makes for an overall much more consistent and happy life.
I'm inspired to dance in the rain and embrace the challenges that come my way. Happiness is not about avoiding pain, but about finding meaning! Or at least honoring the pain as it passes through...
@theonlyway977 - excellent summation!
I've always believed that a pain-free life is the key to happiness. This talk challenged that belief and now my brain is in over-drive...
I love the idea of dancing in the rain.... life is all about facing adversity and finding strength within 💙
@lola-l-o-a-lola - it is amazing how many people commented about the phrase I used to end my TED Talk - i.e. - "dancing in the rain." Everyone has pain/challenges but people who are able to focus on their blessings and choice happiness despite the bumps in the journey of life will live a wholesome and happy life!
Being happy is my life goal Antony
If that is in fact your goal Stephen, my best advice to you is NOT to be fixated on pursuing happiness but rather focus on living a moral, honest and selfless life ... happiness will result as a by product!
A powerful reminder that happiness isn't about avoiding pain, but rather embracing life's challenges and finding strength in them.
@IAmThe NeuroticSpy - the best you can hope to achieve by avoiding pain is a painless life! That my friend is a far cry from a life of happiness!
Happiness is the goal and the measure of true success
This video is gift for making people comfortable
This is a really touching personal story that emphasizes the importance of focusing on what truly matters in life 💚
@abradisme - thank you. While I do not wish the experience I had on anyone, in retrospect I am grateful for the "cancer scare" - my perspective in life is laser focused on keeping the main thing the main thing - something that sadly alludes most people.
"We are not here to wait for the storm to subside... We are here to dance in the rain"
💥 💥 💥
As soon as people realize that life is a journey and is not supposed to be a trip to Disneyland, one's perspective and outlook changes for the good!
I've been chasing pleasure thinking it's the key to happiness. This talk made me reconsider my perspective.
@jordynejong - few things give more more joy than to know that I have been able to make a positive difference in a persons life.
The law of polarity springs to mind when I listen to your ANTONY
@NikelieManning - there is an underpinning of The Law of Polarity in as much life is a series of choices - very often the choice is between something that will bring us closer to a meaningful, purposeful and spiritual life or the opposite ...
Mr. Gordon that was FANTASTIC!
I appreciate your kind words very much. Thank you Loss!
You are so well connected Antony Gordon, super impressive
I feel very blessed but I also feel that I have a responsibility to help give guidence and encouragement to the millions of mainly youngsters who are collateral damage to many erroneous ideas disseminated by pop culture ...
The illusory truth effect is a fascinating concept. It's alarming how easily we accept information as true after hearing it repeatedly.
Andrea - anything that is repetitive can potential cause us to function like robots. There may not be much at stake when a person works at a bakery and has to pour chocolate coverings on muffins on a moving baking belt, but it is scary to think to think that life changing decisions are also made without considering the consequences.
Yes! Happiness is a mindset, a choice! It is not something that just happens to you.
100% correct @allwiseelvisisme - you are in control of how you reframe things which impacts your attitude and happiness
Appreciate you sharing your story and journey in this fantastic talk.
I appreciated this a lot. I have been on my own journey for a few years now and realising that my pain teaches something, it helps me to grow and hold onto my contentment for longer periods of time.
Thanks for your kind words. Your outlook is healthy and is the key to moving forward with grit and a positive outlook.
Los Angeles finest in this one, bravo Antony Gordon
Your insight into the lives of celebrities challenges the common narrative. It's easy to assume they have it all, but your perspective shows how they're subject to the same things as the rest of us.
@moneymaker324 - I would say more than that - they have many things harder than us - maintaining an impossible facade. The celebs who I am close have heard from me more than one the importance of just being authentic and real!
Inspirational, simply inspirational Mr Gordon
@KathySmith-fh2gr - Thanks!
What a wonderful talk! Thank you for your insights!
My pleasure. Thank you for taking the time ...
sometimes life just throws curveballs, but it's how we choose to view them that really matters.
loved the talk
Thank you! You are correct. It is not what happens to you in life but rather how you react to what happens to you that will determine whether you will actualize your potential in the journey of life.
I'm only a minute and a half in and already feeling so seen, thank you Antony.
It is my pleasure Ben. Thank you!
Some fascinating insights here in this one, thanks tedx
We all go through something at some stage- thanks for the perspective you have shared hear.
You are 100% correct. The difference between people who reach greatness are those that utilize the stumbling blocks as steppingstones ...
i need this guys energy.
Ha ha ... it truly is a G-d given gift to have the energy and passion I have had my whole life. Think of something you would do if you knew you could not fail - you will find you have more energy and drive than you would believe!
Love the positivity in this one Antony! Will definitely be sharing.
I appreciate you Janice 🙏
it's so uplifting!
I'm not sure Anthony has the formula for me to be happy always but I enjoyed his take on the difference between fun and happiness.
Onur, I appreciate your kind words! 🙏
I salute you Antony, loved this
@Danieli9Araujo - Thank you man!
I think everyone has their challenges and our duty as humans is to negotiate them with dignity and integrity.
I never thought about the difference between fun and happiness before, but this talk really got me thinking about how It's time to break free from the myths that hold us back and start living life authentically and fearlessly.
@ILoveWildBling - your comments underscore the thrust of my message. There are millions of smart and wonderful people in the world who have never had reason to stop and think whether the ideas/content they are exposed to are accurate and helpful. Clearly it is time to think about alternatives.
Happiness is a choice, a state of mind, I believe that people can decide to have at any given moment in their lives.
Antony is the best, a being who only knows how to operate from a place of authenticity. His wisdom needs to be shared more with the world.
I once saw a quote about how, before you decide you're depressed you should make sure you aren't just surrounded by a*holes lol and the point he makes about building positive relationships just reminded me of that so much.
We are all impacted by the company we keep. Emotions are contagious. If you are hanging out with people with a negative attitude, keep in mind that a negative attitude never yields a positive life!
Thanks for your perspective Antony! Love this and your attitude is awesome.
@alionafrunza5838 - Thank you Aliona! I owe a great deal to the attitude I have had my whole life - give credit to my late folks for the 'can do' attitude!
Thank you for sharing your wonderful, heartfelt message.
It is my honor and pleasure Mustafa!
Thank you for such a clear explanation of differences between happiness, fun, pain & pleasure
My pleasure Lucy! It breaks my heart to see hundreds of thousands of youngsters being sucked into counterfeit happiness - fun and pleasure - only to realize the feeling of emptiness that meaningless bliss brings in the long run!
I'm so glad I was shown this talk to watch, I've learnt alot
Thank you Avarie ...
Great advice Antony, thank you!
Thanks for sharing
Congrats Antony! Thank you for sharing your valuable insights and personal story.
Jim - it is my pleasure. I appreciate the shout out - Especially coming from someone like you!
you slayed my heart
LOVE U SO MUCH!!!
This is an absolutely great TED talk, one of the BEST i have listened to
I am humbled and honored. Thank you Samet!
Very confident speaker , impressive
@TheodoreBrunson - I appreciate your kind words. Thank you!
Wow, that talk really opened my eyes to the illusions we buy into. It's time to question everything....
It's all about a holistic approach baby! Take care of yourselves, mind, body and spirit ❤❤
Timo - you are 100% correct my friend. Sadly, the majority of people focus mainly on the body which results in a feeling of emptiness and living a life that lacks meaning and purpose
Delighted you had that critical dialogue with God
Love this ANTONY
I appreciate you!
This is an eternal talk for anyone that is lost and confused, including myself. the more apply it the better you will be
Armut, I am very grateful for your kind words! I have heard similar comments from many people and, thank G-d, I believe your sentiments are accurate!
Pain is not the enemy; it's a part of life that shapes us and makes us stronger.
@Judeblyth3603 - you are 100% correct - once you change the paradigm in which you perceive your life and circumstances, you will find yourself no longer asking WHY? (WHY me? WHY now etc) and pivot to more productive questions like HOW? (HOW do I move forward? HOW do I respond in the best way to this situation?
The opposite of pain is not pleasure - it is no pain -AGREE
Nobody has ever achieved greatness by avoiding pain ...
Wonderful speech on the red dot
This is a really wonderful perspective, thank you
My pleasure and thank you @elizabethbernard3135!
This content is really needed around the world now!!! Thank you and cheers.
Discorddd, you are 100% correct - stay tuned for me to come ...
Happiness is the ultimate success
Keep in mind Jason that a person can live a life of happiness which does not satisfy pop cultures definition of success!
You painted the picture very well in my mind, great talk
@WilliamBrogan-qn8kl - it's all about created a picture in the mind of the audience!
The concept of happiness vs. fun is intriguing. It reminds me of the age-old debate about hedonism and eudaimonia. Can we truly find lasting happiness without pursuing a meaningful life?
One of the subtle unsaid subtexts of my TEDxTalk is exactly your point @carolanneoswald2551 - i.e. - happiness cannot exist without meaning being that happiness is connected to our souls which cannot thrive in a nihilistic existence.
No one is getting out of this life alive, find happiness and be present !
Well said Shealynn
Go Antony you legend!
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Great talk Antony
Oh wow the point he makes about how people are trying to live pain free definitely struck a cord within me
People are either moving towards pleasure or away from pain. Everything we do is either one or the other and life gets so much easier once you get that.
@lam-ob-liv-ious - that is one of the reasons which made Scott Peck's classic "The Road Less Traveled" such a classic - he started the book with the point of departure that "life is tough." Once you know that life will not dedicate itself to your happiness, you have won half the battle.
Thank you for sharing.
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Inspirational
Very well delivered speech
AMAZING
My friend has been isolated since her son died in a tragic accident for three years and things only got worse during Covid 19 the last few years. Shes been getting a lot of help from phycologists and stuff like that really down, i watched this video with her and it really picked her up, thanks Anthony.
This means so much to me. Makes all the preparation and delivery all worth it. Please send my best personal regards to your friend!