Grooms Ruining Their Own Weddings
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The ones where the bride is literally backed up into a corner, clearly asking the groom to stop, and he smashes the cake into her face hard enough that she falls back and he's still smearing it when she fell, GENUINELY triggers me. That's quite literally assault, idc what anyone says.
yeah and its crazy how everyone is just acting like its normal cause wtf
Remove the cake and it clicks.
Its not even playful its just straight up "im going to fuck you up cuz you got cake on me/i wanna fucking humiliate you with or without force cuz i think its funny and dont care about you"
@@fobo3361 that's what these all are, their "manlyness" is threatened and they react with being rough and violent
@@DeezN00tz99 yea its beyond infuriating, my dads one of those special types of man children, and he never fails at showing me how NOT to be a man everytime i see him lmao
I went to my best friend’s wedding recently. The groom was trying and failing the whole ceremony to hold back tears and had a VERY used handkerchief in his pocket for the whole thing. When the bride started to choke up, he pulled out his clean pocket square to give to her so she wouldn’t mess up her make up and then took it back and neatly folded it up and put it in his other pocket just in case she needed it. And then there’s these assholes…
That’s very sweet, congrats to your friends!
Your best friend found a winner, I wish them so much happiness.
thats so adorable 🥺 congrats to them they sound like lovely people!
That is so sweet!
That’s so cute! A welcome refresher after this video
Interesting how the women are playful and the men are AGGRESSIVE. How are these behaviors overlooked to the point of agreeing to marriage?
Many times the guy will say, “it’s just a joke.” Or “I didn’t hit you that hard” or “you should’ve made me angry.” And blame the partner, and if a close friend or family member says something, the abused partner may get defensive and explain away the behavior using the abusive partner’s reason.
It’s not that it isn’t noticed before, but it is minimized. (Sometimes even the people the abused partner goes to for advice will normalize it and minimize it too)
It is possible that it changes over time or they only dated for a short period.
Gaslighting is an art form
Super duper red flag
This is the concervative values wich ocidental world was built upon, men are supposed to be nochalant or agressive and women are supposed to be lovely and emphatetic, those are the differences that complet each other.
@@grazielaalmeida8438you couldn’t be any more WRONG. People need help ! They shouldn’t be getting married! No emotional intelligence AT ALL!!
SAFETY WARNING: a lot of cakes have toothpicks or rods in them for support and people have gone blind from blunt force trauma of a support to the eyeball
Depends in the country, i guess. Here in Mexico, smashing someone's face onto a cake is more common than i'd like, and i've never heard about toothpicks as supporters for cakes.
@@TheJosmanthe toothpicks are usually only found in cakes with multiple layers to act as support so it doesnt cave in. birthday cakes are safe to smash your face into, so theres no physical damage you need to worry about lol
this was my first thought at the cake smashing stuff. wedding cakes are one of the main culprits of having rods in them like wtf
yeah i watch creators who make cakes and when they have multiple tiers the cakes have skewers in them. one of the reasons i won't get multi tiered cakes for events where other people are around, in case they smash my face into it
@@koiifshBig wooden dowels too in the larger cakes! I feel like it should be common sense to not smash someone’s face into their cake without their permission :(
Funny thing is that, alot of wedding goers and photographers have said that whenever a groom ruins the wedding (cake smashing and shitty vows), the chances of divorce is super super high.
How STRANGE. What a WEIRD C O I N C I D E N C E !
huh i wonder why
Damn a lot of marriages could've lasted longer or forever if the groom didn't smash the cake
Good!
Wow i would not expect that!
When I got married (am now divorced) the groom insisted during the entire planning stage that he wanted there to be cake smashing involved at the wedding, despite my protests every step of the way. My dress was the most expensive part of our wedding, and I put so much time and effort into my hair and makeup that if I got cake smashed, the reception would be over. I'd rather leave than try and recover. We eventually decided to have our guests put donations in jars with our names on them and whoever's jar had the most money when we went to cut the cake would get smashed. That way it was a 50/50 shot and he would have to take the risk of losing instead of it being guaranteed to be me. He lost, despite spending a lot of time at the reception convincing his family to put money in my jar. I don't know why it was so important to him, it's not even funny, but I'm grateful that at the end of the day, he was the one with cake on his face and he realized exactly why that isn't a cute, fun, nice thing to do.
Hopefully you are happier post-divorce, he sounds like an asshole…
clever solution that backfired on him. I’m glad he could finally at least somewhat see things from your perspective!
Glad your divorced
Glad you divorced him ❤
It can be cute to gently put a dab on the tip of the other person's nose as a playful gesture but the smashing is just stupid.
The worst part is wasting all that cake when some of us attend weddings just to eat cake.
Cake!!
Right, keep your nasty hands off the food! I only came for the food!
Wedding cake just hits different.
No pun intended
Not to mention a major waste of money, too. A decently-made wedding cake can probably go for over a good 300$, so for most of these cakes to be super intricate and layered, these cakes would probably cost up to 700-1000$. And that’s not even mentioning all the work that goes into making those cakes! So all of that time and money, just for it to end up on the floor.
I dated a wedding photographer years ago. She would check in on couples afterwards to see if they wanted to do another shoot, and genuine interest. She said that 100% of the couples she worked with who smashed cake into each other's faces got divorced.
There was a 50/50 chance they would anyway.
@@druidriley3163 factsss
My ex was married once, the only photo where hes happy from their wedding day was when hes aggressively shoving cake into her face while she looks visibly upset. They also got married on April 1st and he immediately left the reception to work on his truck, idk how many signs that girl needed 🤣🤣🤣
Hey kara , ^^^ the red flag is him marrying someone he didn’t love in the first place BTW ! it’s not her fault he made the decision to marry someone he didn’t love ! Just in case you needed some clarification on that point ☺️
@@karabartleyima just say he proposed to her most prob and he decided to stay have that wedding and marry her clearly he wanted to at one point and her fault he just was shit 🤷🏻♀️
I think the bad groom behaviour is a mixture of the man-child 'pay attention to me' and a 'for the bros' mentality where weddings are deemed to be another frivolous girly thing (and like all girly things, inherently silly and wasteful) that grooms are forced to endure, so they "joke" around "for the bros" to win their social approval, establish a sense of dominance and get to be the centre of attention while also punishing their wife for her "silly girly indulgence". Especially with the cake smash where they ruin her expensive makeup, dress and any later photos, as well as the expensive cake, which are all still considered to be feminine things. They don't ruin the booze or the rest of the reception, or prank their best man or ruin the buck's night, which are just fun guy stuff. Even during the wedding, these guys don't respect their brides
Oh my gosh this is so accurate
This is a very good analysis!!
nobody is gonna say it better this guy did it everyone go home
Ding ding ding! I did a project in my master’s degree about wedding culture and male socialization, you literally got it SPOT ON.
holy shit right so it’s almost an act of saving face, like yes I’m participating in this dumb, girly thing but I want you guys to know I also think it’s dumb and girly
This just goes to prove how much men act on pure emotion. “Women are so emotional” *a man throws a cake at his wife after she stuffs some in his mouth*
true but a lot of men still don't see "anger" as an emotion like who's gonna tell them...
FRR like you could actually see his whole face shift from happy and loving to fucking pissed as soon as she shoved the littlest bit of cake in his mouth
You could see how he felt so humiliated that for once he doesn't have complete dominance and how quickly that embarrassment turns into anger and physical violence.
if it walks like a duck, it MAY be a goose, sure, but its more likely just an abusive duck.@@GuzzlingDuck
I was thinking that too 😂😂 they must be some red pillers. They are total cry babies.
ugh the husbands who don't respect their wives telling them to stop remind me of my dad. if he's jokingly doing something to annoy my mom or me and we tell him to stop he gets so offended. it's alarming how many men can't handle being told no even when someone is setting a simple boundary that should be easy to respect
My ex did this shit every single time I would tell him to stop doing something I didn’t like he’d get really mad and snap at me but acted like a “ angel “ around everyone else nobody knew how evil and toxic he was except for my mom she saw right through him but he had everyone else fooled before my mother exposed how he really was.
I’ve had experiences with both women and men, and I’m a male.
@@alectricalexia Congrats on breaking free from that toxicity. I hope you’re happy and healthy.
Then they get mad when you joke with them but they are petty so they get huffy and mad despite trying to gaslight you your entire childhood that you "need to take a joke". I will never marry a man.
Unless it's a twink femboy, and that's a hard maybe. 👹
My dad does the exact same thing. Idk how to get it thru his thick head that if I say “no” or to “stop” he shud, bcuz I’m either upset or uncomfortable, but he still does stuff anyway and completely ignores me when I try to set boundaries. I’m pretty sure wen it comes to situations like these, cutting them out of your life is the only real option you have when it comes to not having to deal with their toxicity
i fully believe the cake face smashing to be fully about power dynamics. especially if the bride surprised the groom by doing it, the groom’s cake smash HAS to be bigger and more embarrassing for her to put her back in place.
Totally. It makes me think of my abusive brother. He used to hit me all the time "for play", and ONCE I would hit back gently (like a tap), he would hit 5x harder to the point of making me cry because it's actually not about being playful. It's about dominating and having the excuse of calling it a joke.
No excuse for it. Nasty at a wedding
The women doing it is like a smudge, a playful thing. The men makes it a complete competition and tries to humiliate the wife lol.
my favorite part about the cake smashing stuff is that when the bride does it first you can actually see the moment the groom feels emasculated and decides to completely obliterate his new wife in order to establish dominance
and IMAGINE paying all that money for hair, makeup and a dress just to throw food on it 😐
I read this comment in David Attenborough's voice 😭
Especially the establishing dominance part. Sounds like something off animal planet....
Exactly 😭 thats what i thought too, these man are just so proud and fierce they cant handle a silly joke they would 100% do their wife with a big smile, without caring abt theur wives feelings 😭
@@BILLCIPHER8 That's true. These grooms aren't humans. They lost their morals long ago.
@@dawn593imagine assaulting your husband on the wedding day. Hmmmm
As a professional wedding cake decorator smashing someone’s face into the cake is incredibly dangerous. We put supports in there to hold each tier up shoving someone’s face into that cake could very well lead to a hospital visit.
You spend thousands on cakes, makeup, dress, hair etc. don’t start a marriage by ruining any of those for a laugh. Trust me, no one’s actually laughing.
There's been multiple occasion when it actually has led to hospital visits it's honestly insane how stupid these guys are
Thank you I have never once heard someone talking about the fucking cake supports. I’m not even a baker I just really love cake and I’m aware of this.
I've seen some photos of a girl getting injured from cake support and they still haunt me to this day, please don't smash cakes everyone
and we all saw the comment on here where the bride got hit in the eye with a cake dowel and spent the night in the hospital while the groom partied ;-;
Fr also cake is delicious I’d just be mad they wasted it I wanted to eat that shit
Read about a bride who requested to not have cake shown in her face because of trauma. Her whole childhood, her family would ruin her birthday by pressing cake in her face. No matter how often she told them that it upsets her.
So she begged to at least have her wedding day without a cake in the face, yet her husband did it anyways to ”get closer to her family”.
She did not continue that relationship.
Oh my god that's absolutely heartbreaking... I hope she dumped the family too :(
I told my mum about this and said "if someone did thst to me id get a divorce" and she went "why go through divorce when you could be a widow"
(Specifically the cake stuff)
Your mom is the type of woman I aspire to be 😂
Your mom is so real for that.
She's a gangster
Cool as fuck
Is she implying she’d KILL them?
What really scares me is how quick the groom goes insane. In all of those cake smash videos, the bride only puts a tiny piece on the groom's face, yet the groom immediatly yanks the whole cake and throws it at the bride. Like, what is your problem? They're so quick to turn to violence instead of just laughing it off and throwing a tiny piece back
Exactly. It's so terrifying. I would not want to go ANYWHERE with a man after he did that to me, especially not on a honeymoon where it's going to be nobody but us.
It's because he feels emasculated and it's desperate attempt to assert dominance. It's scary how quickly the embarrassment turns into anger then into physical violence
im not seeing enough comments about this! im genuinely terrified for all these women. like kurtis implied, if these men are willing to treat her like that in PUBLIC, how are they treating her in private?
@@Random-sk6hmthats so fucking barbarik, these men are so immature that they act like actual wild animals
@@camtyto0777 exactly! If they behave like that in front of a huge crowd for 'laughs', and thus getting a sense of validation, imagine what could happen behind closed doors
as a baker the only thing i can think when i see those men throwing entire wedding cakes at their wives is that its dangerous as fuck. wedding cakes have wooden dowels and supports to hold their weight, they can take your eye out (and yes, people have legitimately been stabbed in the eye from this before)
This should get pinned it's very informative. I had no idea about this. 😢
i made a wedding cake and had to carry it about 200 meters. i’m a baker first, rock climber second so i don’t say this lightly. wedding cakes are HEAVY too. those ladies were probably sporting a sore neck the next day, and not from consummation of the marriage, that’s for sure.
@@georgiadavies147😂😂😂
I was wondering this. I know its a cake but... do they think the entire, like 3 foot structure, is made of icing? Im no genius.. but, structural integrity is a thing.
@@EternalCrimson.Just don't throw cakes at people 😅
I think grooms that do this resent their brides consciously or unconsciously. The groom crosses boundaries and ignores their bride's wishes in most of the scenarios because there was already a discussion that the face caking is a no-go. It's like a behavioural Freudian Slip.
These types of grooms are on the road to enjoying that Rodney Dangerfield "I hate my wife 😆"-brand jokes
Someone who did a similar video posited a theory that the men who do things like this were told by their at-the-time girlfriends “either we get married or we’re through.” And, for whatever reasons, they went with the former despite not really wanting it.
@@animeotaku307then just dump the girlfriend. Obviously they don't respect the man's wish to stay unmarried. Let them find people who want to marry too. And don't even BS about that these kind of men love their partner. That is some twisted love and petty revenge. And these happened in public.
@@LA-ly1ntI feel like there is often communication issues going on at that point. It’s why I feel that anyone who wants their relationship to get serious should have an open discussion about what each of them want in the future, which should include marriage and kids. If what one person wants doesn’t line up with the other’s and there’s no room for compromise, then they should end things there.
That being said, if they both agreed that they wanted to get married and an ultimatum gets laid down later on, it usually means someone wasn’t being honest.
No ...they just jerks who geniuely don't care
the cake part reminds me of guys who keep coming up with scenarios where theyd be allowed to hit a woman. The husbands saw an opportunity where its "socially acceptable" and ran with it.
Former wedding industry worker here: most grooms I encountered do this bc they feel invincible on their wedding day and think since they got the bride to marry they can do whatever they want and she won’t leave him
That’s so shitty, especially since they usually don’t. People don’t see just how mean this “tradition” is
yeah no this never happened
@@scanbbb happened when I worked in the wedding industry. Some grooms just have no care for their brides and embarrass them bc they think they’re will be no consequences at their wedding day. Like no one is gonna interrupt a wedding to call out the groom so the guests are just gonna be uncomfortable and have to go along with it
@@scanbbbhappened a lot actually. My dad turned into an ab*sive a s s hole when he married my mom. Ab*sers can manipulate specially in my country where divorce is illigal...
@@scanbbb It's actually a pretty common mindset, sorry to tell you. A lot of people think that once they get married, they've locked everything down and it'll be too inconvenient to leave each other so they stop trying to be as nice. A lot of shitty partners expose themselves this way by acting extra good long enough to get married and then letting the façade slip.
Kurtis invited me to his wedding and then actually threw his wedding cake in my face and did a kick flip over me before feeding me to some wolves. Pretty solid wedding honestly 9/10
As long as he threw it at you and not Jenna things will be fine 🙏🙏
if he ever threw cake at me like that I definitely would of fought back that shits not cool and it's ultimately fucked up idc how tired you are that's not an excuse
y'know the weirdest part, she started throwing the knives at me@@alpaca6462
What's keeping you from rating it a full score?
@@kzjha not enough wolves
As a married person I just watch those cake videos and think about how upset I’d be if my husband destroyed the most expensive cake I’ll ever buy in my life.
And your face dress and makeup too
Dookie mcfarter
It’s all so infantile
Your guests probably will be as upset girl , some of us just wait to try the cake
Dude on his phone better be texting his mom who’s in the hospital and telling her how happy he is to married to his wife.
I heard he was buying tickets to a game
I feel like that one was staged, at least I hope so...
That’s how IPad kids will be like in future
I read about a bride and groom where the groom shoved a huge piece of cake into his bride's face. She had asked him not to do this and he promised her that he wouldn't, but he did it anyway and laughed at her. The bride then announced that reception was over and everyone should take their gifts back as she was getting an annulment. AND SHE DID! That very smart lady dumped his lying ass as fast as possible. Major props to her!
FINALLY! AMEN, PROPS TO THE GIRL
I REMEMBER THAT!! I think I saw the video too!! She had trauma from being in a car crash and he knew that she was incredibly claustrophobic and it would’ve made her freak the fuck out so he promised not to, but he did it on their wedding day anyway completely disregarding her
She is ready to divorce him at the wedding if he does a despicable behavior.
Does anyone have yhe link to this
@@Jackieeeisvibinghonestly 100% fine if someone asks just because they don't want cake shoved in their face, but these reasons make it 1000% worse
Fun fact, the cake smashing is a sign for future abuse and/or divorce. At least in the case where the bride specifically asks the groom not to do it and he does anyway. It shows a lack of respect for boundaries and a need to display dominance. It’s a BAD sign unless it was planned or gentle.
i feel so bad for the bride who literally ran away from and got cornered and tackled by her huge ass groom like what the fuck is wrong with you dude she was literally cowering from you and u used that to display ur dominance
@@necobubbles exactly, like wtf?? literally took her down wwe style like holy shit??
@@necobubblesshe looked like she was pleading for him to not smash the cake
It's like when you BEG your family or friends not to tell a restaurant its your birthday because you have anxiety or whatever and they do it anyway because it's SO FUNNY.
@@necobubbles if i ever had a partner feel the need to cower in fear at me like that i'd be so fucking disappointed in myself. i just can't understand how they get to that point and think "yeah this is okay".
That poor woman excusing those horrible wedding vows… the way he belittles her and publicly degrades her and she defends it as “his sense of humour”.
It will take time to recognise abuse in a relationship. I hope she gets there soon.
Another reason as to why the cake-smashing tradition can become a red flag sign is because, if your husband can't respect your "no" over something as menial as shoving cake in your face, it won't exactly paint a pretty picture of how he'll take any other "nos" down the line
Not to mention, it's a red flag because of how inappropriately excited he is to borderline assault you
As someone who's planning a wedding I can't fathom the financial decision of tossing an entire wedding cake at someone in a wedding dress.
It means they weren't involved in the planning at ALL and therefore have no concept of how expensive all that stuff can really be IMO.
not to mention, what if they rented the dress? Those extra fees are gonna hurt
With a full face of (probably) professionally done makeup! When there's still a reception to go through!!
@@israsawyer the cake is typically cut towards the end of the reception, after most of your photos have been taken.
@@jacobkalbfleisch5431 eh before all the dancing and party fun parts of the night where theres often the less formal photos, sure, but still photos you want your dress & makeup to not be ruined for. & I've been to a few that had after party stuff for the adults after all the kids get cake and go home, still doing "candid" photos
These men absolutely HATE their wives. Them being physically violent to the bride for a laugh is such a red flag
I’m a male and seeing these men doing this, at the wedding is pretty disturbing. One time it was a bride, that was aggressive with the cake, so my cousin Alec saw the red flags that day.
I think they’re trying to test their s/o’s boundaries. Idk how to explain it, but essentially it’s like “oh, if I can get away with this on wedding day, what else can I get away with during our marriage?” Which is so… ick. Basically a precursor to a potentially abusive/toxic marriage.
@@parkchimmin7913the beginning of distroyjg her self respect, humiliation ritual in front of the people that care for her to see what he will ever get away with and family and friends will tolerate.
@@seanceknowles2911 THIS! Absolutely spot on.
I don’t even think they were doing it for laughs I think they literally hate their wives
On my moms wedding my stepdad slightly pished the cake on her nose a bit and she was smiling the entire time and did the same to him. There is absolutely no reason for your bride or groom to be on the floor from it
Exactly, I think the issue with these guys is that they overdo it unnecessarily. Like she's doing it playfully, just put some frosting on her nose or something, don't double down by smashing the whole cake on her face WTF.
I just wanted to remind yall of a potential nightmare that lots of tiered cakes have RODS in them to keep them straight. You can blind someone smashing a cake into someones face. Like. Blind your bride!!!!
Exactly! There was a viral story in my country some time ago about a teenage girl that got half-blind because they did the cake smashing in her birthday without realizing there was a suport rod inside the cake
the fact that kurtis just uses his green screen to make him marry himself instead of just asking jenna is so fucking funny man i love him his humor is the best
dude this and the blood related video, its so fucking funny. Jenna? no. Jacob in a wig? YES
it kinda seems like she's just not that into being on camera, and he respects that, and that's really healthy
@@KaelWrit yeah exactly!!!!!! it's sweet and respectful and mindful and aa
Kurtis x Kurtis
Fr that's hilarious
Any time a man says something super inappropriate and someone tries to justify it by saying “that’s just his personality :)!!!” I hear nothing but alarm bells in my head
yea, they have terrible personalities lmao
yeah, always a huge red flag. i used to know a guy back in high school who always made super gross sexual remarks and jokes about people, and his friends and his gf would write it off with "He's just joking/It's just a joke" "That's just his sense of humor" or "That's just his personality/He's just like that sometimes lol". unsurprisingly mans went to jail for SA only a few years after we graduated high school. 🙃💀
My old boss at McDonald's hit on underage girls and slammed my fingers in my till when I didn't reciprocate and pointed out how disgusting he was. The other supervisors said "That's just his personality."
cause its NEVER helpful to the situation either, like how do people not realizing that saying "its just a joke, its his personality" not only immediately dresses up the person defending them in a clown suit, but also immediately makes the person in question look WAAAAAAAAY worse. Like, oh so this wasn't a fluke? He's just like this you say??? comically, and concerningly, NOT a flex.
Fr
The cake smashing thing bums me out. Feeding each other is the simplest gesture of trust between two people.
Yeah, I would think it's supposed to illustrated mutual trust, the desire to care for each other, and a sweet shared future. Not distrust, assault, or humiliation
It's assault. These men should be in jail, wedding annulled.
The fact that that woman ran away and begged him not to, for him to proceed to do it so hard she hits her head on the wall and falls down☠️ I would immediately annul that marriage.
My prayers are that, for that one video, it was staged/agreed on beforehand as a joke. The way she ran felt a little too theatrical, so that’s my sincere hope - because otherwise… yeah, she’s marrying a serial killer.
@@phastinemoon to me, it looks like it starts out kind of playfully like "don't push cake in my face I don't wanna get messy!" but him getting so aggressive and her falling looked very real
@@phastinemoon Have you ever tried running in high heels? You can fall very theatrically, very easily.
Honestly as a guest seeing something like that I’d be sincerely concerned for her safety in that relationship
@@phastinemoonshe ran that way because she was in heels. Nothing theatrical. It is even more disturbing considering she couldn’t even run away and he saw that and took advantage of that.
A groom freaking out about a little cake on his face and going ballistic is the epitome of “women are afraid men will kill them, men are afraid women will laugh at them”
True
kind of insane to think 2.7 thousand people agreed with this
@@user-pj2so3qv4lIf you got any argument to defend a guy making his own wife bleed on their own marriage we're all here to hear it. But if you just wanna bitch around because the comment hurt your ego then you're kinda proving their point
@@rafaellarenayou devoured that😭‼️ pop off because you cleared them easily in one paragraph omfg 😭
@@user-pj2so3qv4lbecause it's true 😔 congratulations on not having to experience it yourself 👋
The saddest part is, this is probably just the tip of the iceberg. If he behaves like this on his wedding day, with everyone looking, imagine behind closed doors 🤐
And later, if there are kids...
If a man smashes a cake into your face at such a special day in front of others, its not a sense of humor. Its humiliation. He sees his woman as a thing that he has to tolerate just to use her for his convenience. He hates her. He wants to show that she is more interested in the wedding than him. That he's just decided to do this so she would stop annoying him about it. There is nothing funny about destroying hours of make up and hair and expensive dress on your women's special day. I cannot imagine seeing my partner being so beautiful and festive and just disrespect her by ruining her look.
The bar has been lowered so far down that having a guy not assault you with cake is considered a catch.
This is why the marriage rate is going down.
@@gladitsnotmeThat and how expensive it is
The bar is in hell, I hate straight men 💀 and I also hate that I’m a straight woman attracted to them 🥲
nice one 😆
Ah, the pressure of having to “be cool” about a crazy bachelor party yet the groom can super slam cake down your throat and out your asshole
There’s a huge correlation between the cake smash and divorce. I remember reading wedding photographers tells if the wedding will last. And all of them said if the groom smashes the cake on the brides face it’s over. It’s absolutely to humiliate her in my opinion.
They don't all end in divorce, and sometimes it's the bride who smashes it into the groom's face (and in my sister's case, she got it right back, along with a dressing-down from our parents).
@@jacklow9611what’s yours point here? Oh it’s not all bad and women do it too?? That’s bullshit and you know it. Men do this 99% of the time, women like your sister are an anomaly. Women who stay after being humiliated like that have been manipulated enough to accept abuse. Sure there are couples who do this for fun but most times it’s not and to pretend otherwise is either willful ignorance or plain stupidity.
@@jacklow9611 There's definitely a difference between agreeing to throw cake at each other vs. "my spouse said 'no' but I'm gonna do it anyway because I think it's funny" and the difference is communication and consent
Almost like cake smashing is bad no matter who does it.
@@kimielle but it’s not no matter who does it because it’s overwhelmingly men who do it to their wives. Obviously I agree with the sentiment that no one deserves this and any woman doing it is awful as well but let’s not ignore who the main problem is
When my mom and my ex-stepdad got married he shoved a whole cake in her face. She ran to the bathroom and cried while the women in my family tried to fix her hair, face, and dress. I ran to my then stepdad and told him he hurt my mom while I myself was on the verge of tears for her (I was like 6). I still think about that moment occasionally. He turned out to be a drunk and abusive...so I guess it was foreshadowing.
Wow, you were a brave little kid. I'm glad you were there to stand up for your mom, you must've been a huge comfort to her in such a dark time. I hope you both are doing much better now ❤
My husband and I, gay wedding lol, had a very normal and orderly wedding party. We actually made most everything, including the cake. He's vegan, I'm not. But at least I know vegan food is real food. We made a home made vegan tiramisu that was to die for. And, nobody died for it either. Win-win
Wow! Sounds like you had an amazing and lovely wedding! Happy for you both!
My boyfriend is veggie and I’m vegan and we plan to have our wedding with lots of lovely vegan meals in the future 😊
@@Monochidraws We made this amazing and very rich tiramisu that's 100%, or there is this place in Cali that delivers vegan cakes. They are to die for. And coming from a non-vegan. The real tiramisu and the baker made one tasted so similar, I could barely tell.
That actually sounds so delicious!!!
@@addyrovirosa1800 it really was. Pain to make, but we think it's worth it once a year or so
I work in weddings, and I’ve heard vendors say that if a groom smashes a cake in the bride’s face, it’s a telltale sign that the marriage won’t last
what about if they throw the whole cake😅?
@@msjupiter5divorce the next day
@@msjupiter5She's too scared to leave him and the father will go on to raise more kids like him!
also a sign that they're abusive. A loving husband wouldn't want to smash a cake in your face. Playfully smearing frosting on her mouth or nose is one thing, but it's definitely not okay to smack your wife with a piece of cake in your hand.
@@reaverkai Or an annulment.
It’s kinda ironic how when it comes to weddings, it’s mostly the brides who are seen as the crazy, insufferable ones, that stress everyone out, just for wanting to have a nice wedding, while it’s almost always the men who are out here acting a fool
ironic? it’s pretty damn infuriating
Like, maybe they’re pissed off because they had to do everything and the groom was fuckin… playing CoD or something. Like, yeah, the bride often is stressed and on edge, because she cares about her wedding and is doing all the work. And he’s just like “I got a suit I wore to my grandma’s funeral last year, I’ll just wear that. Hey, dear, you have everything right? Me and the boys are gonna have a gaming night with pizza at Jared’s house.”
Like seriously. Weddings vows being about only sex, being on your phone walking with your wife for the first time, fuck, even just wearing those… tuxedo shorts. Like, guys. You’re getting fucking married. Both of you. DO something. Hell give her a massage and do the house chores. God knows she isn’t going to want to after taking care of everything.
Or blame gets deflected on her.
I read about a bride who was stood up at the altar. She and her bridesmaids went out and like splattered paint on the dress.
Some dude commented “wow she’s so immature - no wonder he left her.”
But it was sooo mature of him to just not show up for the wedding as opposed to ending things in person?
@@alteregobruh I mean, how often do they _want_ help? You always hear "MY" dream wedding rather than "OUR" dream wedding.
You should see how big of a diva the father of the brides can be. Yikes.
Fun fact about the smashing cake in your face. I found out that there was a study done on that. They found out that if the couple smashed cake in their faces most of those couples ended up divorced
jesus the bride is always like "hehe i got cake on ur face!" and then hERE COMES THE GROOM WITH THE STEEL CHAIR-
There’s this story about “the shortest marriage”, which lasted three minutes because after saying their vows, the groom and bride began to walk together down the aisle and the bride tripped. The groom laughed at her and she ended up filing for divorce then and there.
good for her
as she should
i would too ngl
W bride
Based
I once went to a wedding where the bride’s father passed away so she danced with her brother and as this nice and sentimental dance was happening, the groom ran up to her and smashed cake in her face. the bride actually laughed it off but I was disgusted. and yes they are still together
bro how is that groom even getting married with that childish sh*t
Do you know if they're still together cause not for nothing, I hope not
seriously, is smashing cake on the face in wedding day actually a thing? I'm spechless :'
No way- 🤢 ARE THEY STILL TOGETHER?!? My mental health needs to know 🙏
Did she still marry him 😮
What breaks my heart is I know these women have been dreaming about their weddings for their entire lives. I know that everyone of those women had everything planned in great detail, probably since she was a kid. One of the major things we dream about is what our wedding cake will look like taste like, who bakes it, how big its is, etc. so for them to destroy it like that is truly astounding.
No, few of us plan our weddings since we are young girls, in this country, at least. Probably a myth left over from the 50's.
I won't say that people dream about their wedding since they were a child , but I get what you are saying
@@SunnyGirlFlorida Probably an American woman not realizing the rest of the world doesn't share their stone age values.
Get out of this fantasy talk, and wake up to reality 😂
@@likmijnreet4542 ??? Romance and love are stone age values
it's concerning how aggressive these dudes get with their wives as soon as they're given the opportunity
I'm sure I saw an AITA where a woman talked about having asked her husband not to smash the cake in her face at the reception. He did it anyway she immediately filed for divorce. You have *got* to be able to trust your spouse, no matter the situation. Very much feeling the wedding-day-behaviour-is-a-litmus-test statement.
I was about to reference that same story! Or at least, I think it was the same. I believe the bride had issues with claustrophobia because of an accident she was in when she was younger and that's why she requested no cake smashing. Which was clearly discussed before the wedding, so I can't blame her for getting mad when the groom did it anyway. She had every right to divorce him, honestly. If you can't trust your spouse to keep his word with a little thing like that, how can you trust him at all in the future?
Yes I saw that story too!
What is aita?
@@levar6618it’s best if you don’t know, stay innocent
@@levar6618it means am I the a**hole?
i took a marriage and family class at my college and fun fact: people who smash the cake in the partners face are statistically wayyyy more likely to get divorced
not surprising. if a groom can’t even respect his wife in front of dozens - sometimes _hundreds_ - of people, then he probably has no sense of boundaries in private. i find it especially worrying when i see a groom cornering or physically overpowering his wife in order to smash cake in her face cos that’s like…weirdly violent?
@@666_cthulhu It's a straight up disturbing and concerning sight.
Makes sense. My husband and I gently fed each other small bits of cake and it was really cute. Our guests loved it and the pictures were great.
My sister in law told me it was a waste to not smash his face with it. I won't be surprised if she gets divorced someday, honestly. They have a terrible relationship
A lot of people have commented about the safety concerns of cake supports being thrown around, and Kurtis mentioned how crazy expensive the cakes can be, but also I can't stop thinking about how long it must have taken these women to get ready with their hair, makeup, and dress, all to look beautiful on their wedding day, just to have cake smashed into all that hard work. Like what next? Do they have a change of clothes? Do they have to wash their face and hair? Or do they just get to spend the rest of the night covered in bits of cake and frosting that's just gonna end up getting sticky. I would be absolutely livid.
On a positive note, Curtis' wedding photos are awesome. They both looked amazing and no cake fight. Congrats.
Ruining an almost painfully expensive cake, full face bridal makeup, bridal dress AND your reputation on your wedding day?? We love a husband who lacks financial, social and emotional awareness 😍💗
Hell I swair that I've seen a video of one of these cake smashes where the bride ended up bleeding from how rough the groom was smashing her face into the cake and just walked away laughing as she bleed onto her really beautiful wedding dress. Add in the fact that all hetreosexual men are expected to do at their wedding is show up not drunk and ontime while the brine must be perfect at all times just adds another level of what the fuck to all of this.
@@Lolalolo1996its the truth for straight men tho, i know this because i am an empath
@@DungEnjoyerr oh so your a narcissist who can mask well good for you I guess.
@@Lolalolo1996Empaths are an actual thing. Chill.
dude dont demonize npd, theyre literally just people with a (most likely) trauma based disorder trying to live@@Lolalolo1996
Uhhhhh.... The man forcefully throwing an entire cake at his wife's head is actually scary. You could see his expression change to actual rage after she smushed the little slice on his cheek. I'm actually concerned for how he is behind closes doors.
Yeah like dang chill lol
By the looks of him, he is likely a steroid user and yeah, no surprise he is aggressive
Yeah I definitely also immediately got the vibe that the guy was somehow legitimately angry about it. Like what a baby bitch dude holy shit
Men be like that
Hey, I rewatched this and there's another angle where you can clearly see he's smiling. It's definitely a joke! still not very safe tho
If my partner shoved cake in my face, after in specifically told them not to. And ruining my dress and make up, I got all nice and done up for the day. I’m getting an anullement straight up. And they can pay for the wedding they ruined and not getting. That’s a massive red flag and they can deal with the fact they ruined their chances at love
I absolutely loath cake smashing, I remember for my 14th birthday my friends smashed my birthday cake on my face without warning and it ruined my whole day especially when everyone was laughing at my expense. I don't talk to any of them anymore but I have stopped celebrating my birthday with others ever since . I just buy myself a small cake and go to restaurant to eat by myself to enjoy my day without those vindictive and vile people ruining my peace.
someone else pointed it out in the comments but i’d like to echo it: isn’t it funny (infuriating) how brides are typically portrayed as unreasonable during weddings, like bridezillas, but theres no equivalent for unreasonable, awful, borderline to straight up ab*sive grooms, even though this kinda stuff is like.. super common?
🤔 ...Brozilla?
@@colleenorourke6934Groomzilla?
I was my sister's wedding planner. It was an outdoor wedding and I was having trouble getting the wedding arch fabric to stay in place. The photographer had put pressure on me because the wedding walk needed to happen on 'golden hour.' So here I am trying to tie the cloth to a flower basket full of stones, but the wind shakes the basket around. "Why don't you put rocks in the basket?" the photographer asked. I was panicking and trying not to cry so I slightly hysterically said, "I already did!" He took such a shocked, disgusted step back, muttered, "bridesmaidzilla," and left me there. Maybe instead of calling people irrational for being overwhelmed, the person being Paid to make the wedding look good should help out?
@oliverfulayter5515 there's an option to translate this to English and all that changes is the space??? Like how can a space be language specific😭?
It's not even like the space shrinks, it just becomes more space
when you think about it bridezillas most of the time are just women who don't want the +32k dollars they spent on their wedding to go to waste, so they're very stressed because they want everything to look good
There was a groom that shoved his bride's face INTO the cake. He didn't know that there were wooden skewers in it to hold up the layers and he nearly put her eye straight through one. It missed by less than an inch but they stabbed her face in several places. She was bleeding like crazy and I think needed stitches. She divorced him when she was out of the hospital. The pictures of her face were BAD.
Yes, there have been cases where people are literally blinded (either from wedding cake or birthday cake skewers). It's just an awful prank. If you want to prank/surprise your spouse I swear there are better ways.
do you have a link to an article or something? i always get curious hearing stuff like this and want to see the pictures myself :p
Ever since I heard that story, I've been too scared to watch any cake face smashing videos😢. Never liked them but that's so scary
Jfc, fuck men like these. They deserve to be alone forever. Women deserve better.
@@user-tu2qb3fk9tayo? 🤨
10:27 - genuinely looks like assault
Dude beat her to the ground
The cake smashing thing is actually very dangerous. Because bakers use wooden dowels to hold together tiered cakes. If you smash someone's face into a cake like that they could get impaled in the face with one of those dowels. I believe someone lost an eye that way.
The groom's one job: don't mess up the wedding. It's like being handed a glass slipper and accidentally turning it into a pumpkin
that's quite an accident
@@AwkwarddFoxxa true piping mishap!
I guess the slipper beat level 2
Well no, but the joke is funny
@@actually_a_wyrmthat is such a deep cut reference
Really sad to see these women dealing with bullshit from their partners and feeling like they have to rationalize and defend their husband's behavior. 🙄
That's just the standard for women through out history. Your husband cheats on you with a 14 year old girl? That's just how it is with men it's not their fault they don't have the ability to control their desire.
The standard is h3ll
Yea cuz they don’t wanna be seen as irrational or “can’t take joke” kind of woman… or they don’t want to ruin their husband’s fun.
And i’m 100% sure if women get mad, they will be called some sexist stuffs and like “irrational” “women can’t take jokes” “always ruin the moment/fun” and men can get away of course cuz well they’re men… when did men ever take any blame right 🫤 they can always do things without thinking of others while women have to endure everything to not ruin their “fun”
Yup.
Always protrct the weaks: those dudes.
Again, people, dont wed and better yet dont date men.
You'll find one with a brain at some point, but you'll end up with LOTS of garbage before that, so not worth all the mental and physical pain
This is what the "cool girl" has in store for her. I'd rather not be that😂
@@Mizushimeee Thank you!! I'm so tired of the lack of empathy for women!
this is a common phenomenon where women will want to play around or play fight with their boyfriend or a guy friend and they feel the need to show complete dominance over the situation to the point where its really scary as you realize they're overpowering you and you can't get away from them, and they won't back down. but they'll act like it was just a silly thing afterward. i see a lot of women talking about it and before i transitioned it was a very real traumatizing experience i had with some family as well.
The guy at 4:24 pisses me off so much. It’s such a blatant display of him saying “look how unimportant this is to me!” Like, my brother in Christ, why are you GETTING MARRIED if you don’t care?!
Imagine paying that much for a wedding and shit like this happens💀💀💀
Imagine being a guest. Taking a whole day to dress up and travel and be around people you mostly don't know for a wedding you may or may not really care about, but are socially obligated to go to, and the bride and groom themselves openly disrespect the whole event.
As someone who hates weddings, I would be so annoyed. I'd be annoyed being there, so double annoyed.
@@HumanPerson_final if the groom did any of this shit at a wedding I'm attending that bride is going to become a widow real fast
Some of those cake messes look like they make a splash zone. I go all out of my way for your special day, Hair makeup and outfit, and then YOUR husband gets cake all over MY DRESS?? I’m fighting your man and then sending a bill for dry cleaning my clothes
Off topic, but omg a kitty pfp
@@ImNotOFuckingKay OMG emma
There’s is something so violent & disturbing about the way these men are SO forceful over a bit of cake
It's about feeling emasculated and desperately trying to assert dominance
@@Random-sk6hmif you feel entirely emasculated by getting a dollop of frosting out on your cheek you are the weakest person of all time
The “bloody cake smash” guy is scary. You can see him going to grab her either by the sides of her head or the neck before remembering where he is.
My parents had a very casual wedding when I was a kid. They flew to New York, got married there non religiously (it was a much easier process there than here in Ireland, at least back then), and when they got home we had a bit of a party at a pub. They had no ceremony, they wanted something simple. I was about four at the time, and even though since it was at a pub everyone got inevitably shitfaced nothing went wrong. Sure, my mom was drunkenly dancing and my dad was having conversations with the pub owner’s dog but nobody disrespected the other. That’s the important part. You can get drunk, you can be silly or make jokes, but don’t be a jackass to your spouse! The idea of actively disrespecting your spouse at your wedding is so ironic, the whole point of getting married is to show your dedication to the other.
These dudes are the same ones who make “I hate my wife” jokes
i also read about this woman who divorced her husband a literal day after their wedding because he smashed her face into the cake *even after* she repeatedly insisted she didn't want him doing that, and honestly? i don't blame her one bit. the wedding day is the one day where you can shine not only for your beauty, but also for the love a couple supposedly shares for one another, so if your partner can't respect that you don't want any shenanigans happening that day, maybe you're better off without him!!
Yo I just read that one on Reddit
@@juliawillett3264can u link me the post?
Is that the same one whose mom smashed cake in her face at 17, called her a brat for being upset (rightfully), and the soon to ex knew about it and did it anyway? Of course he gave the "you can't take a prank" excuse
Exactly. Wedding day is to be respected. If you don’t respect your wedding day then you don’t respect the marriage or your spouse 🤷🏻♀️ especially if one partner specifically told you to not do anything weird and if you still do it anyway then… in the words of Adele, “divorce babe, divorce”
based as hell, it's the only correct decision really in those circumstances
God, the cake shoving thing makes me incredibly annoyed. Not only is it horribly disrespectful, especially since the wives are usually trying to get away, but having your makeup professionally done is EXPENSIVE
ITS ALSO DANGEROUS!! if that was a tiered cake, there are often wood rods (dowels) to hold the tiers together. people have lost eyes (and likely worse) and sustained severe permanent injuries from careless (abusive) cake face smashes.
these men going overboard with it are ABUSIVE. this quote describes it best, "it is a chance to (publicly) humiliate and/or physically assault your partner under the guise of playfulness."
@@lunaskisses if you hadn't mentioned this, I would have.
I get so worried about the dress cause damn they ain’t cheap
That got me fuming lmao. It's so damn enraging.
Not just that, but it COULD‘VE been the cutest thing ever. Imagine this: you cut the cake together, you hand them a piece, they hand you a piece, symbolizing how you‘ll take care of each other. You eat it, and then it makes your commitment to each other doubly official. Would’ve been so damn beautiful, but it got lost in it‘s own sauce.
He did that to that cake on purpose, his expression doesn't change until the guests react poorly, going silent and making a "what the hell?" type comment, /then/ suddenly he changes his expression to "I have no idea what I did!"
13:40 My absolute favourite part in this video has to be him picking up that bottle of beer acting all confused after he literally destroyed that cake.
What I pictured the cake smashing tradition to be: Cutely smearing a dab of icing on each other’s noses and lips.
Reality: Wrestling the bride to the ground and throwing the entire cake at her head.
I have witnessed the version you imagined. It was adorable. Some people do manage it.
This is kinda unrelated but as a half Mexican, at almost every kid's birthday party there is a similar tradition where you shove the kid's face into the cake. Growing up, it is embarrassing to me that I found this kind of stuff entertaining because not only is it actually dangerous, but now that I think of it, most of the time the kid just falls to peer pressure by family members chanting... so I am _beyond_ delighted that these idiots do the same thing 🙄
This!!!! This iss what i imagine, something which is cute, easy to clean and then you can give a small kiss. Not destroying the make up and cake.
I have to admit, reading that the first time was a little funny, but i do genuinely agree; just somewhat smearing cake around the mouth or nose is obviously fine and adorable, not assaulting your wife or partner with the ENTIRE DAMN CAKE
Smash cake to establish dominance. Quite literally I'm afraid. Took 30 years and hours upon hours of horse videos for me to make sense that all the bullying behaviours are literally just an instinct to show dominance
My aunt had her cake thrown at her during her wedding to her now-ex husband. One of the wooden dowels in the cake hit her in the eye, and she spent her wedding night in the hospital while the groom partied.
omg he still partied?? what an asshole I'm glad it's now ex-husband
He injured her and he PARTIED??? Just let her go to the hospital and left her alone??
Wtf poor aunty :((
Very glad that she got away from that shithead
“The dowel hit her in the eye and she spent her wedding night in the hospital” oh maybe a moment they can look back on in years and laugh……
“While the groom partied” aw hell nah
Wow
I’m a wedding DJ in my free time and my coworkers and I will rip on grooms who refuse to dance with their brides. It makes me so sad sometimes honestly
why in gods name would you marry someone if you won’t even dance with them??
@@SnowySunflowersSome people just don’t enjoy dancing.
My partner and I make spicy jokes to each other a bunch, but if he did shit like that during our wedding, i'd be walking out before saying "I do"
My mom always had this sort of superstition that couples who smashed cake in each other’s faces would end up getting divorced and in our experience she hasn’t been wrong about that
It’s not a superstition actually. A lot of wedding photographers/planners say the same thing lol
bit random but there's an old music video for a song about a man "putting away with" his new wife -- and they feature a lengthy cake-smashing scene...
I just saw an article saying there's statistics that support this actually. It was about how people who feed each other cake usually end up breaking up if they smash it
If my husband had pulled such a stunt I probably would have immediately lost a lot of respect for him, so yeah... makes sense.
I mean it goes without sayin that marriage between two very immature people will fail. No superstition needed.
the fact that the couple from the shrek themed wedding probably have a better marriage than ANYONE who appeared in this video is astounding
Same thing for the couple that got married at the Taco Bell they met in
@@bitchslapthesunaw, that sounds actually really cute
shrek is love 😍 shrek is life 😍
Imagine the groom chucking the entire cake at the bride and her responding with, "This wedding is ogre!"
because people who chose what they want is what makes them happy
Lot of the people in the video do not want to be there and the grooms are acting like assholes
Guy Fieri once officiated 101 weddings at once in honour of his sister and he wore the most amazing purple suit to do so.
Men NEED to realize how dangerous smacking cake into a persons face can be especially if it’s a home baker or a large cake. I’ve seen a wooden dowel go into a persons eye! And a girl get a gash on her face from the support between layers when he threw the whole top smh
Okay okay but can we talk about how fucking cool Jenna and Kurtis look? Like their photos look like an aesthetic 70s glam photoshoot and I’m HERE for it
It literally could never be me 😭😭😭
i was looking for this comment! they slayed and im so happy for them
@@puffd4nny wdym ”fine”😭 jenna looked amazing. that limo dress was everything! they both looked so dope
THEYRE SO FUCKING GORGEOUS they ate left no crumbs and I hope all their days together are great
RIGHT!!! They looked amazing 😭 I want to dress like that if I ever get married (either outfit would be fine w me)
there's nothing like being physically overpowered and humiliated by your husband on your wedding day
the entire cake smashing part of the video makes me so sad and honestly like... dissappointed?? how are some men so fragile....
Me must KILL WIFE for putting cake on my face.
@@mexyeet6569yeah it’s like they’re insulted that their wife might’ve somewhat embarrassed them so now they need to “win” the food fight by chasing her down and physically overpowering her to the floor.
@@mexyeet6569why do you feel it’s fragile to do it to the bride but not fragile to do it to the groom?
@@strictnine5684Its supposed to be a fun and cute little boop of icing to the face, the men in the video were quite obviously talking it to far.
My understanding is that feeding each other the cake used to symbolize and demonstrate their promise to nurture each other physically and emotionally.
These assholes promised to love, cherish, an honor her literally 3 hours earlier. Feel SO sorry for these brides and am glad to hear that at least some of them kick him to the curb with a husband less honeymoon and an annulment.
"when two dudes get married, gay style" jfkskd I am cackling
This implies two dudes can get married straight style.
These instances are not about "ruining" the wedding. They are displays of power, rage and resentment. These men want to humiliate their brides in front of everyone, and to do it in a way where the woman will feel pressured to go along with it and laugh it off. It's even worse that none of the onlookers seem to be calling this behavior out, further gaslighting the bride. This is also emotional and physical abuse, assault, and battery. So many of these women beg the men "please don't do this", "no", etc - and the men still do it. If you changed the context, this would be very, very obvious. Some of these men shove and push the women so forcefully, they basically push them to the ground. If you remove the layer of the cake between the man's hand and the woman's body, you would see a man putting his hands on a woman aggressively and without her consent in front of a crowd of people. Destroying an expensive cake that she clearly put a lot of thought into isn't much better - intentional destruction of a person's property is also abuse. This whole thing is honestly sick. It terrifies me to think what these men do behind closed doors. For anyone reading this - a person who truly loves, values and respects you will never put their hands on you without your consent, and especially not when you have asked them not to. They won't even dream of intentionally doing anything that hurts you. Violence, pain and fear do not equal love.
Very true
Honestly you’re making an excellent point!!! These men truly do not respect their wives and women in general and we should treat that with the proper level of concern instead of laughing it off
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Very well said 👏
I agree these men suck but I think throwing labels like ‘abuse’ and ‘assult’ are not making either side better off.
The cake smashing tradition is low key concerning cause anytime I see one where the wife clearly says "Please don't smash cake on my face" and then they still smash the cake in there face it shows me the husband has no boundaries for consent.
I'm glad it's a mostly american one, because if someone tried that in my family we'd tie them to a post in the outback and leave them there.
@@kimielle yeah I think it’s a cute and harmless tradition if both spouses agree to have it done to one another but it’s definitely an odd one for sure especially if ppl aren’t familiar with it.
Also, there is such a difference between smearing some cake on their cheek or nose and kissing it off again, whereas some of these just look like a highschoolbully on meth.
@@babybuttonto be fair, there are a lot of customs in American weddings that I, as a born and raised American, don’t understand myself. Like the part where the groom is supposed to duck under his new wife’s dress and remove her garter with his teeth…in front of all of your friends and family?? 🤢
I just saw a comment that said the cake feeding is suppose to signify how the couple will feed each other and that makes it so much worse😭
I’m so glad I married a man that loves me and doesn’t think borderline abusing me in front of people is fun. Like some of these guys are really intense with the cake; like it feels abusive to watch 😅
why is no one talking about the man getting breast fed by his mom 💀 how long has this been happening, WHY IS IT HAPPENING? HOW DID SHE EVEN HAVE MILK?
The feeding each other cake is a symbolism of how you are going to treat and care for your partner. So smashing the cake into their face... says some words.
How is there 1.1k likes and now two replies
Are you making this up or is that actually the true symbolism?
@@CyberWarezz05 I just looked it up and first thing that pops up is... "Feeding each other cake - Another customary tradition is the bride and groom feeding each other a small piece of cake. This romantic and sweet gesture symbolises the commitment the couple has made to provide for one another and it is a display of affection and love between the two"
@@CyberWarezz05it’s the true symbolism. It symbolizes the joining of humanity as far back as human civilization has existed. Think about it, sharing resources at a time when they were scarce and took a lot of effort to find and gather is like, the biggest show of acceptance to someone that is joining/creating a family unit. To smash the food into someone’s face would have been the ultimate insult to someone sharing their food with you.
the "post cake smash clarity" is so fucking funny like the bride is just bewildered probably saying "why...did you do that" and he's just shamefully like "uh...idk"
My fiance's birth mom accidentally did that to her husband. It sounds so embarrassing for both of them!
Her husband is from a different country that doesn't do cake smashing and didn't know that he should tell her that he didn't want to do it. He was completely taken by surprise when his new bride smashed cake in his face.
I have never known a marriage to last when a cake smash happens at the wedding. Seriously, every single one I have known ended in divorce.
brides will go and professionally have their makeup done for the wedding day and then have their groom shove a cake in their face and ruin it all, id be pissed as hell
I once heard this story of a bride and groom that got divorced on their wedding day after the reception. She asked him specifically not to shove cake in her face and he decided it would be hilarious to shove her head into the cake. She was lucky that it was a fairly simple cake because people have gone blind after being shoved into cakes with dowels in them
That story was disturbing. He held the back of her head to make sure she couldn’t get away. I was nauseated by the look on his face while he did it.
@@alexwyatt2911 Didn't he also hold her there for an uncomfortably long time, some light suffocation
where can I read this story I'm curious now
@@noriiiFor me, i found the article in The Independent. It was called "Bride asks for divorce a day after wedding due to groom's cake prank"
I feel like that article title could make people think the bride was just being too sensitive or something which is a bummer because to me it’s not just about this one small cake incident- it’s about the fact that you give someone who supposedly loves you a firm boundary and they literally trample all over it and in fact go even further than normal just to spite you and your boundary. And that to me, is the part worth the divorce, not the cake messing up my makeup or hair
My cousin ruined his wedding before it started. He was telling his groomsmen how he doesnt 'go down' on her because he's a king while the bride was getting ready. Word got to her, and the wedding was canceled within half an hour.
he totally deserved it 💀 disrespecting your bride isn’t very kingly behavior if you ask me
deserved. she dodged a bullet w t f
Why tf would you brag about that lmao
'My imminent wife ain't ever getting sexually satisfied because I'm a dick! Pretty cool amirite?'
can't believe she would agree to marry a man who wouldn't go down on her in the first place tbh
Is your cousin dj khalid 💀
I got married nearly right when this video was posted, and I’m so glad my husband didn’t do any of these things lol he’s just a calm man that matches my energy. We didn’t want a huge ceremony or huge crowd and definitely didn’t want any additional attention drawn to us than was already directed at us, and seeing it get so close to literal physical harm and completely inappropriate speeches makes me so thankful. If they’re happy that’s what matters but certainly not my taste.
On a happier note, you guys are a gorgeous couple! Thanks for sharing some of your wedding photos with us Kurtis :)