Right??! What a shitty attitude. You don't love her if you're willing to do shit that will upset her that she will need to "forgive you" for. It's also completely ass-backwards because being forgiven ideally involves you being SORRY... But you cannot possibly be sorry about something you INTENTIONALLY, UNAPOLOGETICALLY CHOSE TO DO knowing she would have to "forgive you". That phrase is actually lowkey giving abuser vibes... "Hey, this thing that I intentionally did, knowing it would hurt your feelings? Yeah, you HAVE to forgive me (despite the fact I'm not even sorry), or else you don't love me. and PS it's your fault"
someone else commented that the… *devisers* of the show deliberately give the groom a higher budget for his suit and less for his wife’s wedding dress and things like that.
Straight people cannot conceive the idea that the female doesn't get all the benefits while the man sacrifices everything. Why are you so keen on upholding the patriarchy?
At least he listened to the sand delivery guy. Honestly you can get that way cheaper/better. My cousin recently married in our garden. Alternatively you can find a field quite cheaply, plus seating, tents, music and lighting for 100-150 people can be sourced fairly cheap as well, if you have a couple of hands. You could set that up for
I mean sure, but it seems weird to single that out when literally everything he said and did in that episode was a huge red flag. The man is just one giant walking red flag.
@@ScoopMeisterGeneralactually it’s extremely important to call out his specific actions of abuse. it shows that each action doesn’t go unnoticed and may help other survivors recognize abusive behavior in their own lives. being able to articulate to yourself the abuse and understand the tactic can be so important to deprogramming yourself from tolerating that behavior and helps you learn the signs to better avoid abusive people going forward. yes, he is an entire walking red flag. it’s important to talk about why
@@ScoopMeisterGeneral I mean, yeah, but the fact that his first concern is to reserve all power to himself and find the flimsiest reason to justify saddling her with all the responsibility (in his mind) on what is clearly an incredibly-important topic to her is approaching the Platonic ideal of "red flag". It's like the point at which a red flag is so red and such a flag that it collapses-in on itself and consumes reality.
I felt so bad for the woman. I mean, she must have seen the episode and heard him say these things, yet she didn't leave him till he went and cheated on her. And this was all on camera! How shitty did he treat her off camera? Probably why there was that 10 year age gap. He was taken advantage of her.
there was a kid's version of this where the children planned their parents wedding, and it was always so wholesome. they always really tried their best and knew their parents well.
this one was peak cbbc!! - I remember several where the kids made the decorations by hand, did the cake tastings (what kid wouldn't enjoy that) and made deals and shook hands with vendors like tiny business people!!!
The show made the questions, the guy created the choices. “You’re in charge of planning your wedding with your 7 month pregnant fiancée. Which wedding venue do you pick?” Airplane Aisle vs Prison Worst part is that he gave no thought about his partner’s wishes and then attempted to pin the blame on her as he hid the answers and made her pick one at random. At least Episode has the decency to show you your choices.
This is like the worst game of MASH ever. "Looks like you're getting married in.... A plane! You'll be wearing.... A burlap sack! You'll marry... An asshole! Hehehehe"
Honestly, having the bride pick her wedding from two anonymous envelopes could have been really cute….so long as the options were stuff like “ballroom reception” vs “garden reception” and NOT “shitty warehouse” vs “shitty prison” 💀💀
Totally agree. There absolutely are couples out there who would have fun gamifying their wedding and creating surprises for each other, but that working requires both partners to know each other well to anticipate their taste, and to CARE about how the wedding turns out. This man neither cared about the wedding nor did he know her well at all.
To be fair - warehouse and prison themes are not bad in themselves (just like ballroom and garden receptions can be made into an absolute disaster by simply making the same choices for decor and ideas from the warehouse reception presented here) - you can go a long way by being imaginative and doing some research and maybe bouncing some ideas off of people who are capable of grounding some madness to a level. I can imagine how - given a 14K GBP budget and some 3 weeks of time one could do a makeshift prison wedding. Like stick to one venue (this could also work as confinement theme) - the dirty warehouse (or a cleaner one - there are probably plenty of places to find with the brutalist architecture in UK industrial area one could rent for cheap, which has a roof, plumbing and electricity), next - get a prison chaplain and put some protective riot gear he might be able to borrow from the actual prison, maybe cuff the newlyweds. One could probably rent park picnic tables with benches attached to the tables themselves - reminiscent of the jail. You find all sorts of signs from actual prisons saying which direction one needs to face, which line not to step over, caution signs and stuff like that - print and put those up, but don't overdo it and maybe even find ones appropriate for certain areas pointing to lavatories and what not. Hardware store - find chains. Buy several handcuffs at one of those military stores selling airsoft equipment and military uniforms - weld or just attach those to chains and attach to some walls. You can even let the guests arrive in regular non-themed attire and have a set of orange overalls (also from a hardware store - maybe get some print on them). Then do some research on chairs someone sells - maybe there is a big and sturdy one - one could dress up as an electric chair using a pasta strainer, old belt, a bunch of wires and maybe some dark varnish or wood stain, maybe get a an old switch somewhere. Now you have a photo corner where people can put on the provided overalls and pose as prisoner in the chair, the person who pulls the switch and maybe someone else who soaks the sponge or does the strapping in or just puts the hand on the shoulder and pretends to be executed as well. Check the budget - enough for a wedding band to dress up as prisoners or guards and play like top 20 songs about prisons lifted off a list somewhere or just put the same songs on the sound system and then play them without the band. Shivs instead of knives at the table, plastic cutlery... one could go all the way and buy a toilet and put punch there. Divide tables into gangs. Let people get tattoo-like face-paint on premises - like hire an artist who looks gruff enough for a day. Use friends and colleagues from prison who would be willing to come and pose as actual guards at the wedding. Maybe get overalls for caterers. Maybe rent some cages. Plan the layout. Could work.
@Jack-px8lf Before this, there was the show, I Propose. Which was about guys getting money to set up the perfect engagement moment. It was all positive tasteful stuff that suited both. And it was popular. My fave was when he hired a private island for a beach picnic, then hid a clam shell with the ring inside for when they comb for shells.
Adam really is just the final boss of weaponised incompetence huh, like even after volunteering for a situation where control is explicitly put entirely into his hands he *still* finds a way to deflect responsibility (and in his eyes, blame for his own thoughtlessness I guess) onto Bianca. Insane.
@@myonlybeauty Yeah it made me think of my dad. Whenever he doesn't want to do something, he childishly pretends to be too dumb for it. Mostly in regard to cooking or playing board games with my mom. (Not cleaning, since he's a clean freak.) It's not a lot of the time, but it's still something I've noticed. He's a smart guy. He went to MIT. He should be able to figure out how to cut a cucumber.
I actually got emotionally distressed for her, she seems so sweet and hearing her voice crack when trying to remain rational on TV made me so sad actually because wow. Imagine knowing that your husband would value you so little and then clearly care more about himself, think selfishly, and be a foolish fucking idiot. I'm glad she left him
theyre both on a fucking SHOW getting their wedding PAID FOR this is just brainless fake media. what happened to the world? we went from knowing this was completely staged bullshit to using reality shows as a gauge for human beings. get real.
@@ٴٴٴٴ_0 Yeah how EVIL. No no no there is no responsibility on the woman in this at all. No sir! She married a literal terrorist after 9 months and let a tv show decide her "most important day(LMAO)" But yeah sexism is cool I guess
The fact that Adam’s brother cared more about Bianca’s comfort, especially as a pregnant woman, is extremely telling. All of it is really, but that one especially stood out to me
@@chickenfoot2423exactly 🙏 they only marry for the perks, aka: a stable source of sex and the status that being married and having kids gives men.. thats pretty much it. they dont marry women because they actually like them loll thats LAME 💀🗿💪😎🔥🔥
@ville__ Are people really dense enough for these obvious clickbait comments to have any positive impact on your viewer count? Wouldnt it be easier to channel all this wasted energy into actually making passable content? Anyone falling for this clickbait will immediately leave and block your channel, because you're obviously dishonest and have to resort to underhanded tactics because your content is lacking.
"She hasn't got a choice, this is the situation I've left her in" applies to both the pregnancy and the wedding, I guess. This guy is just *so* classy.
@ville__ dude are you the asshole in the video? I wouldnt be bragging about providing this content 👀 if you mean you talked about this first....there is no monopoly on commenting on tiktok videos.
The fact that she stayed with him after that terrible wedding and HE STILL cheated on her is BAFFLING shoulda had the wedding in the prison so this man could be swiftly arrested for these absolute crimes against humanity
Him being a total idiot is a red flag but women love idiots because they sometimes are easier to control. ..not in this case, she probably loved his big wang but so do the other kooks.
@@SpikeTaunt I scourge the internet to find any records of this series and this particular episode, and let me tell you, no, he's not joking, he literally guilt-tripped his wife. 💀
I’m British and grew up watching this. When I was a kid, I didn’t want to get married because I thought this is how all weddings were planned, and I was NOT about to have an ugly ass wedding
The thing is- men are COMPLETELY capable of planning elaborate and big things. Men are not inherently dumb, they are willfully making selfish and mean choices because they do not care for their spouses/women in general. Guarantee you that he could do most other things with reason if he cared.
Yeah that's the one thing I didn't like about this episode. This isn't happening because men can't plan good weddings. This is happening because that guy is an asshole.
I bet it's the kinda men who would participate in a reality show like this. The kinds of men who could plan a good wedding would never do so without involving their partner. It's a diabolic plan from the show creators. I bet they knew that only the dumbest of idiots would sign up to be on such a show (and they probably further filtered to make sure they got the worst people).
Yep. I had an ex who could figure out complex physics but not how to plan a date. He mysteriously figured out how to respond to my concerns seriously when I broke up with him, but experience with him told me it was a temporary enlightenment so I didn't stick around any longer. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who came "out of the box" knowing how to pick things based on my interests and make plans to make me happy. Men can do it if they want to, watch a man play Arma and just try tell me they can't coordinate, plan, and remember details.
He's definitly intentionally planning the worst things on purpose to see how much he can get away with. He knows her being preganant means she'll probably stay with him
to get all analytical about it… probably bc that’s where he was in control, a place w a system of authority and ppl w their agency taken away makes him feel at home.
One of the worst ones was the groom who made it like a jacuzzi wedding with everyone in swimwear, and the worst part was the bride was allergic to chlorine 😭 how do you forget your wife's allergy??
W HA T?!?! like okay the premise is super funny to me because, "average straight man plans a wedding by himself" is pretty much doomed to have at least a few overlooked details, but. Jacuzzi themed. Wedding. With the bride. Allergic. To chlorine. Huh. I wasn't expecting much from them, but they somehow failed even the lowest expectation? And I didn't even think chlorine even went into Jacuzzis???
Peak of around, what, late 2000's early 2010's full moon and rave warehouse parties with fish bowls of booze and neon. Aviici, David Guetta, Lonely Island Boys. I'm sure I've mixed my eras but you get me 😭
They got divorced because Bianca found texts on Adams phone while he was in a coma after an accident, and they only got divorced because of that! She's so chill.
Ive seen a fair bit of this show and only remember one thoughtful husband, They were both larpers so he planned it in the woods, with all the guests coming in medieval/fantasy dress, custom designed her a beautiful fairy inspired wedding dress and had a blueberry muffin tower cake as that's what he brought to their first date It was so lovely
I know that most reality tv is meant for shock value to trigger emotional responses and hook viewers. But tbh, I would LOVE a version of this show that’s just wholesome partners going above and beyond to give their betrothed the wedding of their dreams.
I would have gotten the marriage annulled after he married me on the plane with no cows or anything, ESPECIALLY if I was pregnant like wtf why would he do that
“if she loves you, she’ll forgive you” how did i immediately know this guy was a cheater solely based on that sentence. if he’s applying it to ruining her wedding, you better believe he’s applying to everything else he does
Bet he would NEVER think about it the other way 'round - if HE really loved her, he would never do this to her and abuse her love to him... Edit: "loved", not "lived" :)
That woman deserves a fucking Nobel prize for waiting until he recovered to leave him. Who gives a fuck if it affects his recovery, she should have left him the moment she found out.
Don’t know the legalities in the UK, but the reason you’d wait to divorce here in the states is the alimony laws. Leaving a spouse who is critically ill leaves you responsible to help pay for them while they can’t work depending on the state you’re in.
@@ojs5988that man clearly doesn't understand what loving someone more than yourself is like... and he is just utter moron. I can basically feel his stupidity.
I think she stayed to prove she was the better person, for herself and for their VERY young son. This wasn’t ’stand by your man’ this was ‘I didn’t walk out on your dad when he nearly died’ so nobody can drag her over it. Also I absolutely heard the Welsh accent in ‘that’s a bit cosy’ and I wish nothing but happiness and love for this woman, as she absolutely stuck out that god awful ceremony, that building site of a reception and that dress.
Bro what? That is a weird thing to say lol. Pretty sure most do. Ohh I forgot this was Kurtis Conner, who has a community with a lot of deluded people... The replies just further proves my point lmao. It's actually sad.
@@idkwhattoputheretbhbutherewhen people say that it refers to how men treat women. Like yes men may be attracted to women but do they even LIKE them. As in like them as people or respect them as people and treat them accordingly.
@@idkwhattoputheretbhbuthere It's a hard thing to believe when a prevailing attitude among men is that women are uptight prudes when you can't have them, oppressive nags when you keep them, and crazy bitches when you lose them. Like if you honestly feel that way, just go after men and save you and half the human population the trouble.
@@iop1898 Yeah and it's reasonable to say that most men do respect women. Sure there are loads of men who do not but there are loads of women who don't respect men either, and those are a minority, not most. It's just bad people.
Getting married and having to walk around in the sand sounds like a literal nightmare. Any shoes you wear? Ruined. Dress? Ruined. Food? Extra crunchy and ruined.
i know that literally anyone can agree with this but my star wars brainrot cannot stop me from claiming that only anakin skywalker has made this comment
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I used to binge watch this and one moment that sticks out in my memory is the bridesmaids telling the groom that the bride won’t like the dresses he’s chosen for them to wear, and he responds with “well it’s not about her, is it?” There was only a few eps I ever saw where the groom was super dedicated to making it a special day for both of them, those were sweet
My poppy was an outstanding ex- prison guard in England & been married 57 years to my Nana. Also the guy wasn't abusive more like didn't care about her. You can tell cause the first thing that he liked & was interested about her was he saw her photo & guessed she swats so probably had a big arse which is cringy AF!
I dated a guy who ended up being a creepy stalker who was also a prison guard. He technically treated me really well but was toxically jealous, had questionable morals/values and was desensitized to violence
£, not $ (500£ is 635$). And that is a crazy amount to spend on the suit considering the budget. I have to attend two weddings this year so I bought a new suit for 180€ (154£), tailor fitted for me that I'm just going to straight up say looks way better than the one he got
@Jack-px8lfit's less about that and more about, there is a budget, you are in full control over what it gets used for, and you decided your part of it deserves more of that limited budget than the other person.
@Jack-px8lf"i mean i hate to be the"- proceeds to be that person. Dude. If I got married and for whatever reason my husband really cared about his suit, the materials, cut etc then obviously there would be no problem with spending more money for that reason. I doubt this dude actually cares about that, but it's clear his wife did and honestly he should know that because most women do, I do too and I couldn't even tell you why exactly, but you can at least expect a woman to want to look the most beautiful she can on the day of her wedding. He made no efforts to make that desire come true. He had the choice of how much money went into what, and decided that *he* was more important than her on something that he doesn't care about and she does. Because, let's be honest, that man wouldn't know the difference between a designer tailored suit and a cheap suit from the thrift
Why couldn't he just have the reception at an actual beach???? WHY rent out a dirty warehouse, fill it with sand and pretend its a beach when you could just go to a beach!? I mean even if they dont live near one, its not like they didn't already have access to a private plane or anything where they could just fly everyone to an actual beach!!
Not solicited but it's a well known saying that in the UK you're never more than 70miles from the coast, so like yeah they definitely could have made it lol
@@AFiasco Wait, but they get MARRIED on the plane itself, which is definitely not a licensed venue? And there's no way the warehouse is a licensed venue. Which it doesn't need to be, anyway- they're already married by the reception, the reception is just a party.
21:00 Imagine *not* having a passport, being told that you need one, jumping through hoops for 3 months to get one and then finding out you don't actually need it. Jfc
I remember watching this as a kid, the craziest wedding I remember a groom pulled off was making a zombie themed wedding. Like he let the bride pick her dream dress then tore it up and added fake blood. I think there were zombie actors involved too like to chase people.
There’s a famous episode of this where the wedding idea and execution is so bad that he runs out of money and can’t afford to fly any of her family out etc. She then refuses to get on the plane arguing with the film crew, her entire family is in floods of tears while she’s having a breakdown, her sister goes mental at him to the point of near violence. It is unbelievable.
@@michaelccozens I honestly think the Vegas episode was the one that made the producers realise that train wreck was the way to go. The season with that episode and the one before it is pretty normal, the biggest drama is that the dress isn't quite what the bride would have picked herself but she still really likes it. But after the Vegas episode, it's not an immediate change but things start to go...weird in the seasons following, getting worse and worse before eventually arriving at stuff like this episode. You can just tell applicants that say they will do crazy themes and have a total disregard for what their wife to be would like are the ones they snap up to produce.
I saw one episode in which she said "I want a small intimate wedding, nothing football related". And he made her get married in a football game halftime in front of the entire stadium...
@@chloep8808 Pretty sure there would be a hefty fine if you agreed to be part of a tv show and then didn't go through with it. That on top of the already high costs? The pressure on these women must have been unreal. I would have went ahead with it, too I guess so I'm not blaming her at all.
@@Shirumoontotally understand. But I personally can’t be humiliated in front of the nation like that. Certainly wouldn’t want to marry him either… but I see where you’re coming from
@@Shirumoonthere was a woman who said no. Realised that he hadn't been messing, they were really getting married in a brewery and told driver to go round the corner and pulled into KFC so she could get changed in their bathroom. They did a exchange of vows but instead of signing papers they agreed on councilling. There have been women going through with it while crying and you know they getting divorced tomorrow.
His logic is scary and his lack of intelligence and empathy he doesn’t know how to take care of someone he loves , how to budget how to please her …. So many things aren’t right at all or maybe do something cheap but keep the money for the babie so many good ideas but he only had the worst ones
There is a show called 'Where Are They Now? Wedding Left to Chance Revisited | Don't Tell The Bride: Revisted' where they interview Bianca and her mother (whose hair is still wild!) and Adam
“men shouldn’t be in charge of large decisions” isn’t the right conclusion here. that’s further putting the responsibility on women for their partner’s lack of care or thoughtfulness. men are perfectly capable of making big decisions, many of them just don’t care enough to.
i still do think the takeaway could’ve been phrased differently. maybe “ladies, find a thoughtful partner who puts in effort” or something other than just “men are incapable.”
As a Brit who grew up watching this, the show was wild. The show specifically picked husbands who had the craziest ideas then presented it as if it was typical of all men. The show had insanely sexist undertones, implying that all men are incapable of planning weddings and that women all behave the same.
i think we should realize that not every adult male human is a man they're just huge kids and you don't let a kid be in charge of anything serious or important
10:39 this conversation legit went like “Oi mate, do you think your heavily pregnant bride-to-be is going to be happy, comfortable, and having a good time at the wedding you’re planning for the two of you?” “Lmao I literally do not care, who said I was doing any of this with her happiness or comfort in mind?” What a wretched stain.
It’s doubly cruel that she’s going through all the steps for her dream wedding while he’s planning this disaster. You know, so she can envision her perfect day and then get all her dreams crushed.
There was one genuinely upsetting episode where the groom spent almost the entire budget on his bachelor party in Vegas and then didn’t even have enough money left after to fly out the brides entire family. The groom was a selfish pos and they eventually divorced.
I remember that one! That's also a common theme in this show where the husbands spend way too much money on their bachelor party and don't have enough left for the wedding
I wouldn’t go through with the wedding in the first place. Or if there’s a “completion clause” to get the money, head straight to the courthouse for an annulment right after the ceremony.
I remember this episode she cried in the airport after only her mum and dad arrived but no other family did, not even her brother. She phoned the groom in tears saying "You've ripped my whole family apart". It was genuinely heartbreaking...
@spencersdilaudid This comment should be pinned at the top. I wish I could give you a hundred thumbs up. The mental 🤬 inflicted on the brides in tantamount to emotional cruelty.
luckily enough the weddings on the show aren't actually legally binding. they often have pictures at the end with the couple at a registry office/courthouse making it official
I'm British and I've never been able to watch this show because I get so angry at how frustrating the groom is. One episode he arranges for them to jump out of a plane to get to their wedding and the bride is just like "No, I'm not doing that." and then he got upset. I'm sorry but I'm on the bride's side, I'm not jumping out a bloody plane!
Omg yes! I always hated the grooms. None of the dudes seemed to care about their to-be-wives. All of them seemed like gigantic man-babies. I will never understand what those women saw in those men
Especially for a wedding, like?? Aside from the obvious "absolutely not" factor most people would have at being asked to jump out of a plane with zero prior warning, I'm not ruining my hair and makeup for my WEDDING to jump out of the fucking plane. Men like this are why I have commitment issues lmao.
A woman flew in a helicopter to her own wedding as like a grand entrance, but the weather was bad and ultimately she and the other 3 in the helicopter crashed and died. Yeah I'm alright driving 😭
I agree, but, on the other hand, how foolish do you have to be to think this kind of unilateral arrangement of what should be fundamentally a very-collaborative event has any chance of going well? Part of me suspects at least some of these brides agree to the show hoping, on some level, that it will provide them with a spectacular reason to leave the relationship they already don't like.
15:12 Pregnancy is beautiful in theory only 😂 It was quite a messy and uncomfortable process indeed. Trust me. I did it four times and have three sour patches to prove it. Lol.
if there was ever a man who gave “i’m gonna work out so hard that i fall into a coma which will lead to my wife finding out about my side chick” energy, ‘twas this man.
And for nothing big as well, it should be minor parts of the wedding like roses or lilies, beach wedding or indoor wedding, steaks or lamb chops, like for stuff that won’t ruin the day
@@tabelaskade4888 DEFINITELY for the small stuff, custom things like the dress are a little too far beyond. But if your relationship is closer and less toxic than theirs I could even see bigger things like “honeymoon destination” being an option if both people set a budget and the one doing the surprising knows the other one really well. I actually love this idea as someone who’s not a big “traditional wedding” person, but I also couldn’t see myself getting married to someone who doesn’t know me well enough to pull something like this off lol
A key feature of abusive relationships is that when the victim looks at it, they dont see the abusive logic etc. so when bianca rewatches the video, high chance she wouldnt see the flawed and fucked up logic as exactly that.
Not to mention his definitely constantly gaslight her. Like using the envelope trick so that he'll always have a way for him to blame everything. Not to mention when she cried and say "why is he playing games now", he definitely 'jokes around' and hurt and play with her feeling saying that 'it's just a joke, your being dramatic"
There was a British kids tv show called “marrying mum and dad” which was a similar premise except the kids usually did a better job than the grooms in this one
That sounds incredibly wholesome. My husband is pretty considerate but I would prefer our kiddos plan our wedding. Easily. The perspective of kids is top tier.
"if she loves you she will forgive you" works for, like, forgetting to hang the laundry or making a reservation at the wrong restaurant, not for intentionally making their wedding day the most disappointing wedding to ever grace the wedding world.
Weaponized incompetence is literal spousal abuse.. I can't imagine what her life is like trying to raise children with this dingus, he would probably put the diaper on the baby head and be like idk babe what you want from me you deal with it until it can go to the gym
Read an article where she was interviewed about the affair and she mentions that he never learned how to put a diaper on right. Good job with that prediction!
if it was abuse professionals in mental health and the law would agree. having an immature spouse doesnt turn someone into a victim, they chose poorly and that is on them.
@@deusexmachina9776 omg use your common sense and human empathy. the people in such situations are victims, due to the fact that another person is treating them horribly. loads of people choose to marry or stay with abusive partners for many reasons, but that doesn’t mean the abuse is justified or deserved.
This is flipping hilarious but also. I'm imagining a cake in a honey glaze. It would be in the woods of course. Likely salmon as one of the food choices.. with berry fruit salad? He would do the beary best he could.
The Bear is every day getting more and more like an acceptable option. They are big, sweet, cute, they can protect you and your home, they wouldn't blame you for sht they do... A real catch, ngl...
Guys aren't dumb. It's a rampant selfishness and weaponized incompetence. He didn't even seem to really care about the wedding, as they usually don't and certainly didn't care about her feelings. Chalking it up to "men being dumb," perpetuates this existing stereotype hurting men and women further.
agreed and glad you pointed this out. otherwise loved the video but this was a surprising takeaway to hear from kurtis. it reinforces the notion that wedding planning is "women's work" and that we are expected to take on that labor when it 100% needs to be collaborative. anyone who truly loves and knows their partner could plan a dream wedding. this episode specifically showcased an inconsiderate person planning a wedding for someone he didn't really care about. he made no attempt to make her feel special, and all of her humiliation was intentional, not bc he was some dumb clueless clown.
Yeah, no matter how small the guy's brain is there's no way he thought neon dresses and a warehouse full of sand with one teeny tiny sky backdrop is in any way ingredients for a good wedding. Dude just wanted to get it over with and thought it was funny.
THANK YOU, Also cause as a dude who absolutely loves planning (not sure if I ever plan to get married myself but I've considered going into wedding planning as a job) I hate it when people see men like this and go "Ah well, men are just bad at planning" literally the only thing this even has to do with gender is reinforced stereotypes, so if we were to actually stop viewing behaviour like this as expected then it would be a lot less of an issue.
I once saw an episode where the husband decided to have the weeding where they first met, which just so happened to be on a boat where they nearly went overboard and the show made a point to say that it was a ‘very traumatic experience’ for the bride.
Weaponized incompetence at it's best. I'm so glad she left him, but also so surprised she didn't leave as soon as he purposely ruined their entire wedding and blamed it all on her, wtf 😭
Well she was 8 months pregnant. She probably wanted to save the relationship for the sake of the baby. Guys like this always know how to put women under pressure so they can do whatever they want. It's honestly gross.
its so sad watching her try to keep a smile while she's witnessing the horrors of Adam's choices - she's trying so hard not to get mad and be categorized as a "bridezilla" on TV
I would like to hope these are scripted or something cuz I can’t believe someone is that dumb right? Like men are not always the smartest and many guys don’t understand women at all. But come on 😭 the plane with a pregnant wife, and then a warehouse where Saw 4 was filmed!!!! What is happening …. Every choice was hands down the worst possible choice he could have made lmao 😂
apparently there was a show on cbbc (children's version of bbc) where the kids planned their parents weddings. From what I've read, most if not all the kids really tried planning things that they thought would make their parents happy, if sometimes a bit off the mark. Like they're a bit confused, but they got the spirit. Very wholesome to my knowledge. And as for this show...it actually started out quite wholesome. The earlier seasons you could see most of the grooms actually planning the weddings that he knew the bride would enjoy even if they seemed a bit wacky. But yeah shock value and drama is what sells and latter seasons just went absolutely downhill with rampant manipulation behind the scenes.
@Fen_Fox Don't tell Mom and Dad and it's super sweet because like there's one episode where the kids plan a doctor who wedding for their mom and mommy and their mom and mommy loved it so much and another one where the kids did a Roman Themed wedding for their dad and Daddy and their dad and Daddy had a lot of fun with that one. Like it's super sad that the kids put more thought and effort into their parents' wedding then these grown men did for women that they allegedly love
@@koira163 Truth be told, "Don't tell Mom and Dad" sounds way better as a title. It has this mischievous vibe around it of a kid being worried about making their parents mad. Perfect title for that kind of show.
there was a few really sweet episodes from what i remember. a guy custom designed the dress for his fiancé and she immediately started crying when she saw it bc it was her dream dress
This show is basically about weaponised incompetence. That's why I hated Kurtis' conclusion "guys shouldn't be in charge of big decisions". I know it was half joking, but still: please don't perpetuate the opinion that man don't have do X because they are not capable. They are. They are capable of remembering the kids' medical info, they are capable of planning the family trip, they are capable of knowing what to clean in the house without having a list made by their wife and they sure as hell are capable of talking to their fiancée about their wedding plans & taking active part in executing them. They can do all that stuff, they just choose not to because it's easier. But this is not partnership is about. A woman in a relationship needs a partner, not another child.
Thank you its everyone on the internet who tries to put an entire gender down 24/7 Also if he feels that way did he just hand his wife 100K and say do whatever?
I think there was a similar show on cbbc (basically bbc but for older kids/ teens) that was called 'marrying mum and dad' where the kids got to plan their parents wedding. The parents wouldn't know what the wedding was themed on until the end. A lot of the kids based the wedding on things they knew their parents would like, and everyone always seemed happy at the end. Crazy how those kids cared more about their parent's wedding than these husbands care about their own wife and wedding
That show was actually really great and the children put lots of effort into it. The parents always seemed to appreciate the effort they’d put in and it was an adorable way of including them in the wedding itself. They never seemed to make selfish, unappealing choices either, they’d say ‘dad likes history so we should have it in a castle!’ and duly design a nice castle wedding.
He really tried his best to mess this up, like even if you are COMPLETELY clueless about what your wife wants, you'd still go for something more simple and socially acceptable than whatever this was.
So he love-bombed her by following her on a 9 month trip, trapped her by proposing and is now planning a wedding in the most selfish way possible WHILE manipulating the situation to blame her. Maybe not a full-on narcissist but definitely has some of the traits at least.
He does a poor job of the manipulation, too. For example, he cannot blame the theme on her if there was no way for her to randomly pick the option of "no theme", like she wanted. In my mind, this suggests he has gaslighted her enough to get away with such logical fallacies. (Obviously, there is no proof of this and this is merely how it comes across to me.)
As soon as he said the bit about his dad’s advice-I knew it was advice from one cheater to another. Crazy part is how the cheating isn’t even the worst part-his overall attitude towards her and lack of caring is much more than just the physical affair.
Honestly, this guy is what most British men are like. I dated one British guy and that was more than enough for one lifetime. Now I'm in a happy long term relationship with a Dutch man and I've never been so happy and treated so well ❤️ But yeah, what friends I do have that are still dating British men, they suffer through stuff like this all the time. British men are very babied by their parents and society in general, they tend not to see women as anything more than free 🐱 and a free maid that needs to treat him like he's her son, and they're brought up to believe they're entitled to women and treating them however they please.
@@fawnieee A very good rule worth following in life: If someone generalizes a whole people on very limited experience, their advice isnt worth much. Some people are dicks, some arent. Dicks attract other dicks making the amount of dicks seem immense on first glance, but the amount of dicks never changes. Just as positive events arent remembered as clearly as negative ones, good people are often forgotten when you get riled up about bad ones.
You can't convince me that that man didn't absolutely hate her guts. That was such a bad wedding, it can't even be quantified. It completely missed the mark of anything she'd like. And then he cheated on her. That coma was karma.
The crazy thing is that they live in the UK, in Wales. there are so so so many beaches in the UK, particularly beautiful ones in Wales. Why did he hire out a terrifying warehouse to fill with sand for crazy amounts of money when he could have put a gazebo on a beach ? It's not like the warehouse of sand would be more like Thailand than an actual real beach
@jamiesteaparty that’s such a good point, even with the flight being in Bristol they could have gone to any of the local beaches like Weston super mare. They’re only 30 minutes away and are mostly sandy beaches, only issue would have been making sure the weather was good.
Dresses $10 Rings $5 Venue $20 150K tons of sand $20000 Plastic buckets $100000 Can someone who is good with economy help me budget? My fiancée is pre-divorcing me
The thing that surprised me the most is how the wedding dress actually fit her. I expected the guy, that didn't at all care for his wife, to not even know her size. Especially since she's pregnant. I was expecting him to have bought a dress that was like 3 sizes too small and still somehow blame her for it 🥲
I’m assuming the film crew tells the husband the sizes, since the dresses fit in every episode. Wouldn’t be as funny if the bride couldn’t wear the disastrous outfit the husband chose.
Behind-the-scenes info but the brides do get the dress professionally altered for them to fit better, and can 'secretly' change the sizing if it was way off. Although any obvious changes have to be done with the £14k budget
Actual wholesome wedding planning reality show idea: They pick a couple who really love each other, get to know them and give them each a budget, each person plans a wedding for their s/o, and the weddings are merged into one beautiful event with each spouse's unique tastes and their love for one another shining through each detail of the wedding and everyone cries at the end when the details are revealed.
They could give them both a catalogue to pick out stuff they would pick for themselves (colors, fabric samples, etc), and have booth scenes where they go over their choices. That way those can be played between scenes of their partner planning what *they* think their soon-to-be spouse would like! I think it'd be fun to see and especially hear their respective explanations. Little stories and memories that influence their decisions. Her saying she'd want a colorful dress and her partner reminiscing about the lavender sweater she wore on their first date (and picking a dress to match). Things that show us that they truly know each other beyond having rehearsed their answers beforehand.
@@steves1015 very true, but it's a cute idea still! to get the shitshow aspect it could still result in a chaotic wedding maybe? less trying to combine the ideas elegantly and more "one of you picked an ocean theme, the other went for goth, have fun at your deep sea themed wedding!" but with both of them consenting to it potentially turning out all weird
The real crime is how men like Adam are just allowed to be stupid and malicious, and then think women will still love them for it....tbh that guy is a super-sized red flag. I can see why he isn't with a 30yo woman, most would run away from this guy, so he goes for someone far younger and naive.
The women don't normally get much a choice. A lot of it has to do with manipulation and younger women are more naive. We just have to not trust older men at this point but who really would believe that their whole lives? Especially with all of the push some of them do to get to know you and trick you that they're different, they're nice, they're good, they make you and others around you think they're kind and safe, a lot of times they get you trapped into a kind of dependence and make it hard for you to leave and even baby trap you or abuse you.
She isn't just young and naive, she also seems to not ask for much for her wedding. He only had to find some options that were reasonably priced but still did the job, and I am sure she would have been fine with it. She doesn't strike me as a bridezilla who needs to control every detail, but by completely ignoring her most basic wishes - which they MUST have discussed at some point before entering this show - he may turn her into a control freak by showing her not even her partner can be trusted to get anything right.
This series always seemed to go the same way. 80% of the budget is blown on the stag party. Groom forgets how half the wedding party is to get to the wedding venue, and that guests expect to eat and drink during the day
Dude, I have so much respect for her. Divorced the slime as soon as he was out of his coma. I hope she hovered above his bed waiting for him to either flatline or wake up, knowing either way that it was over.
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"if she loves you, she will forgive you." if YOU love HER, then YOU shouldn't willingly do something that will make you hope she's a forgiving person.
Right??! What a shitty attitude. You don't love her if you're willing to do shit that will upset her that she will need to "forgive you" for. It's also completely ass-backwards because being forgiven ideally involves you being SORRY... But you cannot possibly be sorry about something you INTENTIONALLY, UNAPOLOGETICALLY CHOSE TO DO knowing she would have to "forgive you".
That phrase is actually lowkey giving abuser vibes... "Hey, this thing that I intentionally did, knowing it would hurt your feelings? Yeah, you HAVE to forgive me (despite the fact I'm not even sorry), or else you don't love me. and PS it's your fault"
what a nice version of this sentence
Profound!!! And agreed.
He's a complete A- Hole , and i'm not surprised he cheated on her . He put zero thought and zero care into that wedding , it was a big fat joke .
@@gemstar7286 unfortunately he's the very stereotypical British man lol.
The difference in price between his suit and her dress says everything it needs to
Powerplay. The word is powerplay.
Or you know, the first every scene of them talking about each other and how they met and why they liked each other 😭
someone else commented that the… *devisers* of the show deliberately give the groom a higher budget for his suit and less for his wife’s wedding dress and things like that.
@@a-noobis1689it’s a dating app tho you literally are just going off who you think is the hottest
Straight people cannot conceive the idea that the female doesn't get all the benefits while the man sacrifices everything. Why are you so keen on upholding the patriarchy?
Watching him plan the wedding feels like those mobile game ads where they pick the worst option every time.
Bro frrr 🤦🏿♀️
lol when there’s 3 options & 1 is free & ugly, 1 makes you watch an ad but looks good, 1 you pay real money for & looks great
Or you pay real money for & it still looks just okay
At least he listened to the sand delivery guy. Honestly you can get that way cheaper/better. My cousin recently married in our garden. Alternatively you can find a field quite cheaply, plus seating, tents, music and lighting for 100-150 people can be sourced fairly cheap as well, if you have a couple of hands. You could set that up for
He honestly shouldn't be allowed to be with any woman, he's too fucking dense.
He’s 33, she’s 23. She didn’t want anything serious, he stalked her.
Yep. That coma really came for him.
A walking red flag since the beggining. Pretty scary honestly
It's basically a 2000's rom com
@@mipmipmipmipmip-v5xor a 2024 horror film
coma or KARMA???
This is the norm in England…
"the bridesmaids have their neon dresses, bianca's mom has her neon hair, bianca's gonna have her.... knee on adam's neck" killed me
that line was excellent
One of Kurtboi's best ever lines tbh
Came to the comments to say this
one of his best jokes ever
LITERALLY
The whole "then it's Biancas fault" thing is a huge red flag
I mean sure, but it seems weird to single that out when literally everything he said and did in that episode was a huge red flag. The man is just one giant walking red flag.
That guy is a walking red flag
@@ScoopMeisterGeneralactually it’s extremely important to call out his specific actions of abuse. it shows that each action doesn’t go unnoticed and may help other survivors recognize abusive behavior in their own lives. being able to articulate to yourself the abuse and understand the tactic can be so important to deprogramming yourself from tolerating that behavior and helps you learn the signs to better avoid abusive people going forward. yes, he is an entire walking red flag. it’s important to talk about why
@@ScoopMeisterGeneral I mean, yeah, but the fact that his first concern is to reserve all power to himself and find the flimsiest reason to justify saddling her with all the responsibility (in his mind) on what is clearly an incredibly-important topic to her is approaching the Platonic ideal of "red flag". It's like the point at which a red flag is so red and such a flag that it collapses-in on itself and consumes reality.
I felt so bad for the woman. I mean, she must have seen the episode and heard him say these things, yet she didn't leave him till he went and cheated on her. And this was all on camera! How shitty did he treat her off camera?
Probably why there was that 10 year age gap. He was taken advantage of her.
there was a kid's version of this where the children planned their parents wedding, and it was always so wholesome. they always really tried their best and knew their parents well.
this one was peak cbbc!! - I remember several where the kids made the decorations by hand, did the cake tastings (what kid wouldn't enjoy that) and made deals and shook hands with vendors like tiny business people!!!
I watched that and it was so cute lol
! I would love to see the reaction to this series! After this video he owes us something not so damn sad.
what was this series called cause this sounds so cute
Oh my gosh this sounds so adorable and wholesome🩷
I would love to see THIS show.
"a big part of how we met was travelling, so maybe a travel-themed wedding?"
> picks the single worst part of travelling
ikr i was expecting him to base it off of a pretty place they went to XD
Even a wedding at a fancy hotel or resort would be better….
every choice the husband makes while planning the wedding makes me feel like he's playing episode irl with no gems
Makes sense to me🧐
The show made the questions, the guy created the choices. “You’re in charge of planning your wedding with your 7 month pregnant fiancée. Which wedding venue do you pick?” Airplane Aisle vs Prison
Worst part is that he gave no thought about his partner’s wishes and then attempted to pin the blame on her as he hid the answers and made her pick one at random. At least Episode has the decency to show you your choices.
LMAOO like actually 😭😭😭
@@JBC352no fr😭 at least I can see what kinda shitty choice I’m making. THIS, this however is pure hell.
Lmaoo truuuuu😂😂😂
This is like the worst game of MASH ever. "Looks like you're getting married in.... A plane! You'll be wearing.... A burlap sack! You'll marry... An asshole! Hehehehe"
I haven't heard of that game in years...
holy crap.. yeah- it really is
the "hehehehe" is killing me 💀
Oh my god I'd completely forgotten about that game. I'm not sure if I'm happy or upset with you for bringing back those memories
The reception will be...in a dilapidated warehouse! The bridesmaids will be...neon!! 😂
Honestly, having the bride pick her wedding from two anonymous envelopes could have been really cute….so long as the options were stuff like “ballroom reception” vs “garden reception” and NOT “shitty warehouse” vs “shitty prison” 💀💀
Totally agree. There absolutely are couples out there who would have fun gamifying their wedding and creating surprises for each other, but that working requires both partners to know each other well to anticipate their taste, and to CARE about how the wedding turns out. This man neither cared about the wedding nor did he know her well at all.
So accurate 💯💯
@Jack-px8lf What? Who cares? No one said anything about audiences.
To be fair - warehouse and prison themes are not bad in themselves (just like ballroom and garden receptions can be made into an absolute disaster by simply making the same choices for decor and ideas from the warehouse reception presented here) - you can go a long way by being imaginative and doing some research and maybe bouncing some ideas off of people who are capable of grounding some madness to a level.
I can imagine how - given a 14K GBP budget and some 3 weeks of time one could do a makeshift prison wedding. Like stick to one venue (this could also work as confinement theme) - the dirty warehouse (or a cleaner one - there are probably plenty of places to find with the brutalist architecture in UK industrial area one could rent for cheap, which has a roof, plumbing and electricity), next - get a prison chaplain and put some protective riot gear he might be able to borrow from the actual prison, maybe cuff the newlyweds. One could probably rent park picnic tables with benches attached to the tables themselves - reminiscent of the jail. You find all sorts of signs from actual prisons saying which direction one needs to face, which line not to step over, caution signs and stuff like that - print and put those up, but don't overdo it and maybe even find ones appropriate for certain areas pointing to lavatories and what not. Hardware store - find chains. Buy several handcuffs at one of those military stores selling airsoft equipment and military uniforms - weld or just attach those to chains and attach to some walls. You can even let the guests arrive in regular non-themed attire and have a set of orange overalls (also from a hardware store - maybe get some print on them). Then do some research on chairs someone sells - maybe there is a big and sturdy one - one could dress up as an electric chair using a pasta strainer, old belt, a bunch of wires and maybe some dark varnish or wood stain, maybe get a an old switch somewhere. Now you have a photo corner where people can put on the provided overalls and pose as prisoner in the chair, the person who pulls the switch and maybe someone else who soaks the sponge or does the strapping in or just puts the hand on the shoulder and pretends to be executed as well. Check the budget - enough for a wedding band to dress up as prisoners or guards and play like top 20 songs about prisons lifted off a list somewhere or just put the same songs on the sound system and then play them without the band. Shivs instead of knives at the table, plastic cutlery... one could go all the way and buy a toilet and put punch there. Divide tables into gangs. Let people get tattoo-like face-paint on premises - like hire an artist who looks gruff enough for a day. Use friends and colleagues from prison who would be willing to come and pose as actual guards at the wedding. Maybe get overalls for caterers. Maybe rent some cages. Plan the layout. Could work.
@Jack-px8lf Before this, there was the show, I Propose. Which was about guys getting money to set up the perfect engagement moment. It was all positive tasteful stuff that suited both. And it was popular. My fave was when he hired a private island for a beach picnic, then hid a clam shell with the ring inside for when they comb for shells.
Adam really is just the final boss of weaponised incompetence huh, like even after volunteering for a situation where control is explicitly put entirely into his hands he *still* finds a way to deflect responsibility (and in his eyes, blame for his own thoughtlessness I guess) onto Bianca. Insane.
"Weaponized incompetence" is so accurate ngl. Now I've got a name for it
@@Jupiter-Tmy friend!! how have the last 2 months been knowing this term? i feel it changed a lot for me when i initially heard it.
@@myonlybeauty Yeah it made me think of my dad. Whenever he doesn't want to do something, he childishly pretends to be too dumb for it. Mostly in regard to cooking or playing board games with my mom. (Not cleaning, since he's a clean freak.) It's not a lot of the time, but it's still something I've noticed. He's a smart guy. He went to MIT. He should be able to figure out how to cut a cucumber.
More like war crime incompetence with how bad he was
Its so sad when the bride first sees her dress because she starts to realize how little he actually values her
I actually got emotionally distressed for her, she seems so sweet and hearing her voice crack when trying to remain rational on TV made me so sad actually because wow. Imagine knowing that your husband would value you so little and then clearly care more about himself, think selfishly, and be a foolish fucking idiot. I'm glad she left him
"why play games with me now?" oh no girl I'm so sorry ☹️
theyre both on a fucking SHOW getting their wedding PAID FOR this is just brainless fake media. what happened to the world? we went from knowing this was completely staged bullshit to using reality shows as a gauge for human beings. get real.
I think buying a teeny tiny dress to your 8 month pregnant wife is just evil
@@ٴٴٴٴ_0 Yeah how EVIL. No no no there is no responsibility on the woman in this at all. No sir! She married a literal terrorist after 9 months and let a tv show decide her "most important day(LMAO)"
But yeah sexism is cool I guess
i think any man who forces his pregnant partner to be on a plane and walk on sand in heels on her wedding day should be in jail
too bad that’s not where they had the wedding 😔
That's not even that bad though
@@ricksanchez7540 definitely shows his priorities and concerns tho
It is that bad @@ricksanchez7540
@@ricksanchez7540what?
husband plans the wedding, wife plans the divorce
Ngl that warehouse is better suited for a divorce than a wedding
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That's factually correct . Wives initates most of the divorces in heterosexual weddings.
@@VanerSplanerLMAOOOOO
"So I'm thinking for this divorce we're gonna need sand and tetanus"
"If she loves you, she will forgive you" what a disgusting, manipulative thing to believe.
Oh yeah she can forgive. Doesn't mean she'll forget. OR STAY.
Literally! How about: If he loves her, maybe he'll goddamn plan the wedding alongside her as a partnership!!
That sort of saying is for mistakes like breaking a mug she gifted you, or buying the wrong thing at the store. Not ruining her dream wedding.
Explains a lot about why he is the way he is …
@@DeviBuster It's also the kind of thing you'd say if you're acting in earnest with the person's best interest in mind, but Adam was not
The fact that Adam’s brother cared more about Bianca’s comfort, especially as a pregnant woman, is extremely telling. All of it is really, but that one especially stood out to me
And the fact that his response was "she has no choice/her fault she picked it (even tho she didn't, she picked a random envelope)" is heartbreaking.
@@blueismylove3128 It made me see red I'm ngl, and cheating on her is the shitcherry on top. Glad she served him the papers
Did they get divorced
@@joannegutteridge3843 see the end part of the video
@@joannegutteridge3843 yes they did
It's not "guys shouldn't be in charge of large decisions" it's men are capable adults and shouldn't act like immature children.
and they should probably not marry a woman they clearly already hate. although i suppose that would narrow down their prospects quite a bit
@@chickenfoot2423exactly 🙏 they only marry for the perks, aka: a stable source of sex and the status that being married and having kids gives men.. thats pretty much it. they dont marry women because they actually like them loll thats LAME 💀🗿💪😎🔥🔥
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I agree. love kurtis but he was wrong for saying that at the end
@@essielecl im hoping he was being sarcastic, but in any case no one needs to marry a man who can't make big decisions
'How can he be in a coma when THERES ALREADY ZERO BRAIN ACTIVITY' omg that roast was godly
"She hasn't got a choice, this is the situation I've left her in" applies to both the pregnancy and the wedding, I guess. This guy is just *so* classy.
Yuup
It also applies to the cheating….
and he cheated on her sooo
@@kiddieos yup saw that after i posted this comment. Smh.
@ville__ dude are you the asshole in the video? I wouldnt be bragging about providing this content 👀 if you mean you talked about this first....there is no monopoly on commenting on tiktok videos.
The fact that she stayed with him after that terrible wedding and HE STILL cheated on her is BAFFLING
shoulda had the wedding in the prison so this man could be swiftly arrested for these absolute crimes against humanity
That means she divorced him, right? Thank God!
Yeah something tells me she is not the sharpest either
Bcz baby
Ikr what a total dirtbag. I feel bad for her and their kid
she’s kinda dumb for staying with him though let’s face it
He had to be the one who planned the Glasgow Wonka experience 😭😭
the glasgow wonka experience was clearly more well planned anybody can see that
The Glasgow Wonka experience sucked because of artificial intelligence
This wedding blew because of natural stupidity
@@april-lemonokay Willy
you mean *devised* :)
HAHAHHA
Stalking, weaponized incompetence, and gaslighting. What a keeper.
Him blaming her for her "choices" is a huge red flag.
This is a perfect visual representation of the “make better choices!!!!” argument they make when blaming victims
Him being a total idiot is a red flag but women love idiots because they sometimes are easier to control. ..not in this case, she probably loved his big wang but so do the other kooks.
That's clearly a joke, some of you need to understand a little more about relationships and basic human communication
@@SpikeTaunt I scourge the internet to find any records of this series and this particular episode, and let me tell you, no, he's not joking, he literally guilt-tripped his wife. 💀
@@tengentoppagurrenlmao5907 yeah sure dude
I’m British and grew up watching this. When I was a kid, I didn’t want to get married because I thought this is how all weddings were planned, and I was NOT about to have an ugly ass wedding
omg that so funny 😂
Youre so real for this
😂😂😂😂
Had you never been to a wedding during this time you had this opinion?
That’s actually hilarious
The thing is- men are COMPLETELY capable of planning elaborate and big things. Men are not inherently dumb, they are willfully making selfish and mean choices because they do not care for their spouses/women in general. Guarantee you that he could do most other things with reason if he cared.
it's weaponized incompetence at its worst
Yeah that's the one thing I didn't like about this episode. This isn't happening because men can't plan good weddings. This is happening because that guy is an asshole.
I bet it's the kinda men who would participate in a reality show like this. The kinds of men who could plan a good wedding would never do so without involving their partner. It's a diabolic plan from the show creators. I bet they knew that only the dumbest of idiots would sign up to be on such a show (and they probably further filtered to make sure they got the worst people).
Yep. I had an ex who could figure out complex physics but not how to plan a date. He mysteriously figured out how to respond to my concerns seriously when I broke up with him, but experience with him told me it was a temporary enlightenment so I didn't stick around any longer. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who came "out of the box" knowing how to pick things based on my interests and make plans to make me happy. Men can do it if they want to, watch a man play Arma and just try tell me they can't coordinate, plan, and remember details.
But not all men 🙄
He's definitly intentionally planning the worst things on purpose to see how much he can get away with. He knows her being preganant means she'll probably stay with him
*pragnet
@@goldensloth7pregnant, actually
The “getting married in a prison” option coming from him previously being a prison officer and not a prisoner really shocked me.
Yeah that was really weird
to get all analytical about it… probably bc that’s where he was in control, a place w a system of authority and ppl w their agency taken away makes him feel at home.
Lol
Why would it shock you?
@@Crochetemsno but i was thinking the same thing, esp with all the other red flags like the blaming and guilt tripping 😭
One of the worst ones was the groom who made it like a jacuzzi wedding with everyone in swimwear, and the worst part was the bride was allergic to chlorine 😭 how do you forget your wife's allergy??
NO 😭
I need to watch this show. This sounds like peak entertainment
Huhhhh????
I was at that wedding
W HA T?!?! like okay the premise is super funny to me because, "average straight man plans a wedding by himself" is pretty much doomed to have at least a few overlooked details, but. Jacuzzi themed. Wedding. With the bride. Allergic. To chlorine. Huh. I wasn't expecting much from them, but they somehow failed even the lowest expectation? And I didn't even think chlorine even went into Jacuzzis???
He literally planned a themed rave as the reception. The abandoned warehouse, buckets, no food, the lights, the neon dresses- that’s a rave, babe.
Peak of around, what, late 2000's early 2010's full moon and rave warehouse parties with fish bowls of booze and neon. Aviici, David Guetta, Lonely Island Boys. I'm sure I've mixed my eras but you get me 😭
Legit! That was the kind of party my parents didn't want me going to...for all the worst reasons.
They got divorced because Bianca found texts on Adams phone while he was in a coma after an accident, and they only got divorced because of that! She's so chill.
She’s hot and she’s kind
the fact he could've easily made the reception a beach instead of making this hell warehouse barely look like one is so annoying wtf
Especially considering beach wedding in wales are actually pretty cheap too
Like he literally could have flown everyone to the beach with a reception set up for their arrival. Instead he chose to create this chaos
im still so confused why a warehouse was the first idea before an actual beach like what 😭
The UK has SO much coastline
@@sineadscholl7088and so little sand beach
Ive seen a fair bit of this show and only remember one thoughtful husband,
They were both larpers so he planned it in the woods, with all the guests coming in medieval/fantasy dress, custom designed her a beautiful fairy inspired wedding dress and had a blueberry muffin tower cake as that's what he brought to their first date
It was so lovely
I know that most reality tv is meant for shock value to trigger emotional responses and hook viewers. But tbh, I would LOVE a version of this show that’s just wholesome partners going above and beyond to give their betrothed the wedding of their dreams.
@@ducktelepathy8352 100% I'm such a sap! Why can't I just watch people be nice to each other and express genuine feelings?! Grrr
“Say I Do” on Netflix is kind of like that. It’s really sweet :)
I remember this one, such a breath of fresh air!
@@sentientsquid7069 I’m gonna add this to my queue!! :)
If he treats the wedding like a joke, I think the wedding just doesn’t count, the entire marriage is a joke
*Laughts painfully in british*
The entire relationship* is a joke
I would have gotten the marriage annulled after he married me on the plane with no cows or anything, ESPECIALLY if I was pregnant like wtf why would he do that
@@polarbear9232 I’m sorry, but did you say you wants cows 🐄 🐮 at your wedding?
@angel-starr111 Omg that makes so much more sense 😂😂😂
“I came up with the idea of making the rose petals in a heart shape” yes you thought of that how origonal
Weaponized incompetence: the series 💀
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@@luvxloux ?
Partially weaponized incompetence, partially egotistical stupidity :')
@@luvxloux It does mean be so for real, but people don't normally say that as a form of agreement
"Be so for real" does not mean you are agreeing with someone, it means you strongly disagree
He's not dumb he's EVIL. He knew he was hurting her and thought it was funny
the most valid comment
Hurting her and then threatening to gaslight when he will eventually call it her fault and her choices.
He's very clearly a narcissist. Narcissists are fucking incapable of love, so of course he's evil and not empathetic.
He's only thinking of himself
just because he's evil doesn't mean he is not dumb...
Right?! It didn't feel like he didn't know her; it felt like he was *trying* to hurt her. Malicious, imo
“if she loves you, she’ll forgive you” how did i immediately know this guy was a cheater solely based on that sentence. if he’s applying it to ruining her wedding, you better believe he’s applying to everything else he does
"Mk. Well I'm not forgiving you so I guess I don't love you anymore!" Is the response this dude deserves.
And he did!
yeah, like, if you’re knowingly doing something your partner will have to forgive you for it’s more of a question if you truly love them or not 😭
He doesn't understand that you can love someone and not forgive them because forgiveness is earned and not given out of entitlement
Bet he would NEVER think about it the other way 'round - if HE really loved her, he would never do this to her and abuse her love to him...
Edit: "loved", not "lived" :)
Wife "can you plan the wedding?"
Husband "yes i can Plane wedding"
That woman deserves a fucking Nobel prize for waiting until he recovered to leave him. Who gives a fuck if it affects his recovery, she should have left him the moment she found out.
Don’t know the legalities in the UK, but the reason you’d wait to divorce here in the states is the alimony laws. Leaving a spouse who is critically ill leaves you responsible to help pay for them while they can’t work depending on the state you’re in.
@@veronicashields4405 UK doesn't have alimony so that's not an issue here and also his treatment would be free on the NHS anyway
She should have annulled the wedding immediately after the reception. That man clearly did not like her
@@ojs5988that man clearly doesn't understand what loving someone more than yourself is like... and he is just utter moron. I can basically feel his stupidity.
I think she stayed to prove she was the better person, for herself and for their VERY young son.
This wasn’t ’stand by your man’ this was ‘I didn’t walk out on your dad when he nearly died’ so nobody can drag her over it.
Also I absolutely heard the Welsh accent in ‘that’s a bit cosy’ and I wish nothing but happiness and love for this woman, as she absolutely stuck out that god awful ceremony, that building site of a reception and that dress.
this is what people mean when they say "do men even like women?"
Bro what? That is a weird thing to say lol. Pretty sure most do.
Ohh I forgot this was Kurtis Conner, who has a community with a lot of deluded people...
The replies just further proves my point lmao. It's actually sad.
@@idkwhattoputheretbhbutherewhen people say that it refers to how men treat women. Like yes men may be attracted to women but do they even LIKE them. As in like them as people or respect them as people and treat them accordingly.
@@idkwhattoputheretbhbuthere It's a hard thing to believe when a prevailing attitude among men is that women are uptight prudes when you can't have them, oppressive nags when you keep them, and crazy bitches when you lose them. Like if you honestly feel that way, just go after men and save you and half the human population the trouble.
@@iop1898 Yeah and it's reasonable to say that most men do respect women.
Sure there are loads of men who do not but there are loads of women who don't respect men either, and those are a minority, not most. It's just bad people.
lets play a game: spot the defensive man in the comment section
Getting married and having to walk around in the sand sounds like a literal nightmare. Any shoes you wear? Ruined. Dress? Ruined. Food? Extra crunchy and ruined.
I mean ideally if you’re planning the marriage around a beach you’d choose a dress without a train and simple shoes you could take off imo
Perfect for those crunchy parents, truly connect with nature
@alo2285 not to mention some sand is chewed up corral. Literally shiet sand.
i know that literally anyone can agree with this but my star wars brainrot cannot stop me from claiming that only anakin skywalker has made this comment
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ain’t no way he was like “i’m gonna put sand in a dirty moldy warehouse so that it’s like a beach” INSTEAD OF JUSG GOING TO A BESCH
I used to binge watch this and one moment that sticks out in my memory is the bridesmaids telling the groom that the bride won’t like the dresses he’s chosen for them to wear, and he responds with “well it’s not about her, is it?”
There was only a few eps I ever saw where the groom was super dedicated to making it a special day for both of them, those were sweet
Oml. That actually makes me want to throw up.
That’s probably because they WANT bad weddings
of COURSE the hopeless and abusive groom is an ex-prison guard 😭
wait i havent finished the video… how is he abusive??
@@rayvamp000he genuinely doesn't love her and says it's her fault if she doesn't like it, also he cheated on her.
My poppy was an outstanding ex- prison guard in England & been married 57 years to my Nana. Also the guy wasn't abusive more like didn't care about her. You can tell cause the first thing that he liked & was interested about her was he saw her photo & guessed she swats so probably had a big arse which is cringy AF!
I dated a guy who ended up being a creepy stalker who was also a prison guard. He technically treated me really well but was toxically jealous, had questionable morals/values and was desensitized to violence
@@rayvamp000he literally also shared photos of the women he had an affair with in underwear
him spending $160 on her dress but $500 on his suit is actually so gross
£, not $ (500£ is 635$).
And that is a crazy amount to spend on the suit considering the budget. I have to attend two weddings this year so I bought a new suit for 180€ (154£), tailor fitted for me that I'm just going to straight up say looks way better than the one he got
@@jorgedaniel9656 i know its pounds im american and on a laptop so i dont have the symbol lol
@Jack-px8lfit's less about that and more about, there is a budget, you are in full control over what it gets used for, and you decided your part of it deserves more of that limited budget than the other person.
@@jorgedaniel9656 $ means money in general, you are dense
@Jack-px8lf"i mean i hate to be the"- proceeds to be that person. Dude. If I got married and for whatever reason my husband really cared about his suit, the materials, cut etc then obviously there would be no problem with spending more money for that reason. I doubt this dude actually cares about that, but it's clear his wife did and honestly he should know that because most women do, I do too and I couldn't even tell you why exactly, but you can at least expect a woman to want to look the most beautiful she can on the day of her wedding. He made no efforts to make that desire come true. He had the choice of how much money went into what, and decided that *he* was more important than her on something that he doesn't care about and she does. Because, let's be honest, that man wouldn't know the difference between a designer tailored suit and a cheap suit from the thrift
15:24 “the birthplace of hepatitis for a wedding reception” please 😭😭😭
Why couldn't he just have the reception at an actual beach???? WHY rent out a dirty warehouse, fill it with sand and pretend its a beach when you could just go to a beach!? I mean even if they dont live near one, its not like they didn't already have access to a private plane or anything where they could just fly everyone to an actual beach!!
Not solicited but it's a well known saying that in the UK you're never more than 70miles from the coast, so like yeah they definitely could have made it lol
The worst part is that the theme of the reception was LITERALLY THAI BEACH PARTY😭
So in the UK you can't get married in any location. You have to have a licensed venue.
@@AFiasco Wait, but they get MARRIED on the plane itself, which is definitely not a licensed venue? And there's no way the warehouse is a licensed venue. Which it doesn't need to be, anyway- they're already married by the reception, the reception is just a party.
Yeah considering they live in the uk they wouldn’t even need to get a flight to a beach they could just drive
21:00 Imagine *not* having a passport, being told that you need one, jumping through hoops for 3 months to get one and then finding out you don't actually need it. Jfc
and it costs like 40-60€ in my country to get one...
my thoughts too!!!
HAHAHAHAH😂😂😂
@@sturmfrei5853u have no idea
He was making sure everyone was hyped so he could absolutely destroy his bride and blame it on her. Kurtis nailed it with ‘bring a bathing suit!’
Fortunately for Bianca, the embarrassment of the wedding is overshadowed by the embarrassment of marrying Adam.
I remember watching this as a kid, the craziest wedding I remember a groom pulled off was making a zombie themed wedding. Like he let the bride pick her dream dress then tore it up and added fake blood. I think there were zombie actors involved too like to chase people.
did she like it? because that actually sounds like a fun time if they were both into that
@@chesesie nahh she cried because her dress is ruined and she wasnt a fan of zombies
@@UserisAeiyah man... thats so disappointing
There’s a famous episode of this where the wedding idea and execution is so bad that he runs out of money and can’t afford to fly any of her family out etc. She then refuses to get on the plane arguing with the film crew, her entire family is in floods of tears while she’s having a breakdown, her sister goes mental at him to the point of near violence.
It is unbelievable.
The vegas one!
no way what episode
tell us the episode pls!!
This is 100% the kind of ending the producers envisioned for every episode.
@@michaelccozens I honestly think the Vegas episode was the one that made the producers realise that train wreck was the way to go. The season with that episode and the one before it is pretty normal, the biggest drama is that the dress isn't quite what the bride would have picked herself but she still really likes it. But after the Vegas episode, it's not an immediate change but things start to go...weird in the seasons following, getting worse and worse before eventually arriving at stuff like this episode. You can just tell applicants that say they will do crazy themes and have a total disregard for what their wife to be would like are the ones they snap up to produce.
I saw one episode in which she said "I want a small intimate wedding, nothing football related". And he made her get married in a football game halftime in front of the entire stadium...
I wouldn’t go ahead with it. I don’t care if I’d have to pay the costs back..
It’s a fake show.
@@chloep8808 Pretty sure there would be a hefty fine if you agreed to be part of a tv show and then didn't go through with it. That on top of the already high costs? The pressure on these women must have been unreal. I would have went ahead with it, too I guess so I'm not blaming her at all.
@@Shirumoontotally understand. But I personally can’t be humiliated in front of the nation like that. Certainly wouldn’t want to marry him either… but I see where you’re coming from
@@Shirumoonthere was a woman who said no. Realised that he hadn't been messing, they were really getting married in a brewery and told driver to go round the corner and pulled into KFC so she could get changed in their bathroom. They did a exchange of vows but instead of signing papers they agreed on councilling. There have been women going through with it while crying and you know they getting divorced tomorrow.
He probably gave her an envelope that said "have an affair" on it, so it was clearly Bianca's fault 🤷♂️
He gave her two envelopes each with a different woman's name inside
@@Rachely24💀💀💀
@@Rachely24Yep, no good choice for her, but somehow still 'her fault'
His logic is scary and his lack of intelligence and empathy he doesn’t know how to take care of someone he loves , how to budget how to please her …. So many things aren’t right at all or maybe do something cheap but keep the money for the babie so many good ideas but he only had the worst ones
best thing about this comment is bianca divorced him for having an affair
There is a show called 'Where Are They Now? Wedding Left to Chance Revisited | Don't Tell The Bride: Revisted' where they interview Bianca and her mother (whose hair is still wild!) and Adam
Where can i watch this?
@@Devilish.Kitten There's clips on RUclips or on the UK streaming channel Channel 4
@@carmykins2011 tysm!
“men shouldn’t be in charge of large decisions” isn’t the right conclusion here. that’s further putting the responsibility on women for their partner’s lack of care or thoughtfulness. men are perfectly capable of making big decisions, many of them just don’t care enough to.
Yeah, and Kurtis's commentary makes it clear he would make better decisions. The guy in the show was just a bad person.
I think he was just joking when he said that it was meant to be taken ironically because most large decisions are ruled by men
i still do think the takeaway could’ve been phrased differently. maybe “ladies, find a thoughtful partner who puts in effort” or something other than just “men are incapable.”
As a Brit who grew up watching this, the show was wild. The show specifically picked husbands who had the craziest ideas then presented it as if it was typical of all men. The show had insanely sexist undertones, implying that all men are incapable of planning weddings and that women all behave the same.
i think we should realize that not every adult male human is a man they're just huge kids and you don't let a kid be in charge of anything serious or important
10:39 this conversation legit went like
“Oi mate, do you think your heavily pregnant bride-to-be is going to be happy, comfortable, and having a good time at the wedding you’re planning for the two of you?”
“Lmao I literally do not care, who said I was doing any of this with her happiness or comfort in mind?”
What a wretched stain.
@UTTP-142you have no friends at school so you have to say dumb things for attention online?
@UTTP-142okay 𝒻𝓇ℯ𝒶𝓀
@UTTP-142 Somebody's triggered, you're a 🤡
😂😂
@UTTP-142 I'm gonna touch you lil bro
She ends up leaving him bc he cheated on her
The fact Bianca and Adam have even been together for more than a few weeks, let alone in the vicinity of each other, blows my mind
Exactly. If my fling showed up unannounced to my 9 month vacation place. I would call the police
She def stayed because she was unfortunately pregnant with that thing's baby
Frrrr
It’s doubly cruel that she’s going through all the steps for her dream wedding while he’s planning this disaster. You know, so she can envision her perfect day and then get all her dreams crushed.
There was one genuinely upsetting episode where the groom spent almost the entire budget on his bachelor party in Vegas and then didn’t even have enough money left after to fly out the brides entire family. The groom was a selfish pos and they eventually divorced.
they didn't even make it a year into the marriage if I remember correctly
I remember that one! That's also a common theme in this show where the husbands spend way too much money on their bachelor party and don't have enough left for the wedding
Not surprised they divorced a year after, bet she was left doing everything with the baby too while he was off being a useless scrote.
I wouldn’t go through with the wedding in the first place. Or if there’s a “completion clause” to get the money, head straight to the courthouse for an annulment right after the ceremony.
I remember this episode she cried in the airport after only her mum and dad arrived but no other family did, not even her brother. She phoned the groom in tears saying "You've ripped my whole family apart". It was genuinely heartbreaking...
the caveat for this show should be that if the wife hates the wedding, the divorce is free :)
@spencersdilaudid This comment should be pinned at the top. I wish I could give you a hundred thumbs up. The mental 🤬 inflicted on the brides in tantamount to emotional cruelty.
luckily enough the weddings on the show aren't actually legally binding. they often have pictures at the end with the couple at a registry office/courthouse making it official
@@MeganGrace130513 actual mental gymnastics 😭
That's a lot of free divorces.
I'm British and I've never been able to watch this show because I get so angry at how frustrating the groom is. One episode he arranges for them to jump out of a plane to get to their wedding and the bride is just like "No, I'm not doing that." and then he got upset. I'm sorry but I'm on the bride's side, I'm not jumping out a bloody plane!
Omg yes! I always hated the grooms. None of the dudes seemed to care about their to-be-wives. All of them seemed like gigantic man-babies. I will never understand what those women saw in those men
At least one episode had to have been some kind of murder plot, type “get married to a rich woman and immediately give her a heart attack”
Especially for a wedding, like?? Aside from the obvious "absolutely not" factor most people would have at being asked to jump out of a plane with zero prior warning, I'm not ruining my hair and makeup for my WEDDING to jump out of the fucking plane. Men like this are why I have commitment issues lmao.
A woman flew in a helicopter to her own wedding as like a grand entrance, but the weather was bad and ultimately she and the other 3 in the helicopter crashed and died. Yeah I'm alright driving 😭
I agree, but, on the other hand, how foolish do you have to be to think this kind of unilateral arrangement of what should be fundamentally a very-collaborative event has any chance of going well?
Part of me suspects at least some of these brides agree to the show hoping, on some level, that it will provide them with a spectacular reason to leave the relationship they already don't like.
15:12 Pregnancy is beautiful in theory only 😂 It was quite a messy and uncomfortable process indeed. Trust me. I did it four times and have three sour patches to prove it. Lol.
if there was ever a man who gave “i’m gonna work out so hard that i fall into a coma which will lead to my wife finding out about my side chick” energy, ‘twas this man.
That’s hilarious
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The thing is, having a “choose your own wedding” envelope thing would be dope as hell, if both options were things the couple enjoys.
And for nothing big as well, it should be minor parts of the wedding like roses or lilies, beach wedding or indoor wedding, steaks or lamb chops, like for stuff that won’t ruin the day
@@tabelaskade4888 DEFINITELY for the small stuff, custom things like the dress are a little too far beyond. But if your relationship is closer and less toxic than theirs I could even see bigger things like “honeymoon destination” being an option if both people set a budget and the one doing the surprising knows the other one really well.
I actually love this idea as someone who’s not a big “traditional wedding” person, but I also couldn’t see myself getting married to someone who doesn’t know me well enough to pull something like this off lol
Yeah but not if the reason is so your partner can blame you if everything goes wrong. Such a cool idea lol until he says why he's doing it that way...
A key feature of abusive relationships is that when the victim looks at it, they dont see the abusive logic etc. so when bianca rewatches the video, high chance she wouldnt see the flawed and fucked up logic as exactly that.
Not to mention his definitely constantly gaslight her. Like using the envelope trick so that he'll always have a way for him to blame everything. Not to mention when she cried and say "why is he playing games now", he definitely 'jokes around' and hurt and play with her feeling saying that 'it's just a joke, your being dramatic"
@ville__grow up and stop being an annoyance my god 🙄 i’m tryna read comments here
@ville__ remember to report these kinds of comments! Don't translate if you get Paranoid easily!!
My dude it's a scripted reality TV show. Noone would watch average classy weddings they are acting along.@@adrenalineactivate
@ville__hop off ur own meat dude
1:34 imagine objecting an they throw darts at you 😂😂😂😂
Can we talk about how he missed the perfect opportunity to dress the bridesmaids up as flight attendants
Working out too hard put him in a coma, imagine what thinking too hard would do to him!
@ville__ stop spamming your pointless comment all over the place
@ville__ He did no such thing
He missed a lot of opportunities…
No see that's clever and well thought out, which the groom is not capable of.
There was a British kids tv show called “marrying mum and dad” which was a similar premise except the kids usually did a better job than the grooms in this one
Looks Like the kids care more about their family than the "husbands"/manchildren did in this show
That sounds incredibly wholesome. My husband is pretty considerate but I would prefer our kiddos plan our wedding. Easily. The perspective of kids is top tier.
"if she loves you she will forgive you" works for, like, forgetting to hang the laundry or making a reservation at the wrong restaurant, not for intentionally making their wedding day the most disappointing wedding to ever grace the wedding world.
Nah she should
@@tfordham13nah, she really should not, she should run fast
@@wendypeeters3675 weddings aren't important
@@tfordham13 yea, it is but you spoken like a true man
@@tfordham13well you should be pretty happy with nobody wanting to marry you then 😂
my guy wanted his wedding reception in a Silent Hill level
The kurtlings have awoken from their slumber
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fr i thought we were going into hibernation again
@ville__ Wow my favourite bot is here :D
awaken, my kurtlings
Why would you say that
Weaponized incompetence is literal spousal abuse.. I can't imagine what her life is like trying to raise children with this dingus, he would probably put the diaper on the baby head and be like idk babe what you want from me you deal with it until it can go to the gym
Read an article where she was interviewed about the affair and she mentions that he never learned how to put a diaper on right. Good job with that prediction!
if it was abuse professionals in mental health and the law would agree. having an immature spouse doesnt turn someone into a victim, they chose poorly and that is on them.
@@deusexmachina9776 “and that is on them” no it isn’t. this is literal victim blaming. everyone can learn to be better. him choosing not to is on him
@@井雯暄 show me any law or ethics scholarly debate that frames women in such a situation as victims
@@deusexmachina9776 omg use your common sense and human empathy. the people in such situations are victims, due to the fact that another person is treating them horribly. loads of people choose to marry or stay with abusive partners for many reasons, but that doesn’t mean the abuse is justified or deserved.
I feel like the Bear would’ve planned a better wedding than Adam
HAHAHHAHA
you're so right
This is flipping hilarious but also. I'm imagining a cake in a honey glaze. It would be in the woods of course. Likely salmon as one of the food choices.. with berry fruit salad? He would do the beary best he could.
At first I thought you meant the dude from the cooking show and I was thinking, “Well, yes!”
The Bear is every day getting more and more like an acceptable option. They are big, sweet, cute, they can protect you and your home, they wouldn't blame you for sht they do... A real catch, ngl...
I refuse to believe that this wasn't 1000% scripted because holy hell
Guys aren't dumb. It's a rampant selfishness and weaponized incompetence. He didn't even seem to really care about the wedding, as they usually don't and certainly didn't care about her feelings. Chalking it up to "men being dumb," perpetuates this existing stereotype hurting men and women further.
agreed and glad you pointed this out. otherwise loved the video but this was a surprising takeaway to hear from kurtis. it reinforces the notion that wedding planning is "women's work" and that we are expected to take on that labor when it 100% needs to be collaborative. anyone who truly loves and knows their partner could plan a dream wedding. this episode specifically showcased an inconsiderate person planning a wedding for someone he didn't really care about. he made no attempt to make her feel special, and all of her humiliation was intentional, not bc he was some dumb clueless clown.
100% agree this is just a representation of the lack of love and respect some men have for their partners
@@tubiescubieright i was kinda shocked to hear that take from himmm anyone can plan a wedding for their partner with love
Yeah, no matter how small the guy's brain is there's no way he thought neon dresses and a warehouse full of sand with one teeny tiny sky backdrop is in any way ingredients for a good wedding. Dude just wanted to get it over with and thought it was funny.
THANK YOU, Also cause as a dude who absolutely loves planning (not sure if I ever plan to get married myself but I've considered going into wedding planning as a job) I hate it when people see men like this and go "Ah well, men are just bad at planning" literally the only thing this even has to do with gender is reinforced stereotypes, so if we were to actually stop viewing behaviour like this as expected then it would be a lot less of an issue.
I once saw an episode where the husband decided to have the weeding where they first met, which just so happened to be on a boat where they nearly went overboard and the show made a point to say that it was a ‘very traumatic experience’ for the bride.
I was like aww at first but then continued reading
That escalated quickly 😭
Weaponized incompetence at it's best. I'm so glad she left him, but also so surprised she didn't leave as soon as he purposely ruined their entire wedding and blamed it all on her, wtf 😭
Well she was 8 months pregnant. She probably wanted to save the relationship for the sake of the baby. Guys like this always know how to put women under pressure so they can do whatever they want. It's honestly gross.
EXACTLY!!
28:22 hits hard with the recent usa election results
its so sad watching her try to keep a smile while she's witnessing the horrors of Adam's choices - she's trying so hard not to get mad and be categorized as a "bridezilla" on TV
thats so sad fr. the angry bride/wife stereotype is so shitty
@ville__Kurtis better + nobody knows who u are😂 you
I would like to hope these are scripted or something cuz I can’t believe someone is that dumb right? Like men are not always the smartest and many guys don’t understand women at all. But come on 😭 the plane with a pregnant wife, and then a warehouse where Saw 4 was filmed!!!! What is happening …. Every choice was hands down the worst possible choice he could have made lmao 😂
I mean that might just be British culture setting in
I know reality TV is all shock value and drama, but honestly a wholesome version of this show would’ve been so nice to see.
apparently there was a show on cbbc (children's version of bbc) where the kids planned their parents weddings. From what I've read, most if not all the kids really tried planning things that they thought would make their parents happy, if sometimes a bit off the mark. Like they're a bit confused, but they got the spirit. Very wholesome to my knowledge.
And as for this show...it actually started out quite wholesome. The earlier seasons you could see most of the grooms actually planning the weddings that he knew the bride would enjoy even if they seemed a bit wacky. But yeah shock value and drama is what sells and latter seasons just went absolutely downhill with rampant manipulation behind the scenes.
@Fen_Fox Don't tell Mom and Dad and it's super sweet because like there's one episode where the kids plan a doctor who wedding for their mom and mommy and their mom and mommy loved it so much and another one where the kids did a Roman Themed wedding for their dad and Daddy and their dad and Daddy had a lot of fun with that one. Like it's super sad that the kids put more thought and effort into their parents' wedding then these grown men did for women that they allegedly love
@@mamabear1394 actually called Marrying Mum and Dad
@@koira163 Truth be told, "Don't tell Mom and Dad" sounds way better as a title. It has this mischievous vibe around it of a kid being worried about making their parents mad. Perfect title for that kind of show.
there was a few really sweet episodes from what i remember. a guy custom designed the dress for his fiancé and she immediately started crying when she saw it bc it was her dream dress
you can FEEL her whole demeanor shift when she realizes that the plane wedding was, in fact, the whole wedding.
This show is basically about weaponised incompetence. That's why I hated Kurtis' conclusion "guys shouldn't be in charge of big decisions". I know it was half joking, but still: please don't perpetuate the opinion that man don't have do X because they are not capable. They are. They are capable of remembering the kids' medical info, they are capable of planning the family trip, they are capable of knowing what to clean in the house without having a list made by their wife and they sure as hell are capable of talking to their fiancée about their wedding plans & taking active part in executing them. They can do all that stuff, they just choose not to because it's easier. But this is not partnership is about. A woman in a relationship needs a partner, not another child.
!!!!!
I also get Kurtis’ joke but this is so important!
It's obvious the producers purposely picked guys they knew would make poor decisions. Basically rage bait.
Preach
Thank you its everyone on the internet who tries to put an entire gender down 24/7
Also if he feels that way did he just hand his wife 100K and say do whatever?
I think there was a similar show on cbbc (basically bbc but for older kids/ teens) that was called 'marrying mum and dad' where the kids got to plan their parents wedding. The parents wouldn't know what the wedding was themed on until the end. A lot of the kids based the wedding on things they knew their parents would like, and everyone always seemed happy at the end. Crazy how those kids cared more about their parent's wedding than these husbands care about their own wife and wedding
i hope this video gets a sequal where he watched that
That show was actually really great and the children put lots of effort into it. The parents always seemed to appreciate the effort they’d put in and it was an adorable way of including them in the wedding itself. They never seemed to make selfish, unappealing choices either, they’d say ‘dad likes history so we should have it in a castle!’ and duly design a nice castle wedding.
That's actually so cute!!
I used to ask my mum if we could go on that as a kid! I wanted her to have a meerkat zombie wedding lol
@@yellowpurple500 I would definitely want to go to that wedding!
The age gap between these two, his liking of prisons, warehouses, planes, and going to Thailand are suspicious as hell
he's also a pig, so there's that
Yeah! Fuck Thailand!
For the honeymoon, he will be shipped by plane to a warehouse in Thailand. 😍 (it is a prison.)
Eh, my parents have a 9-year age gap.
Bruh its not the age gap that's the biggest problem. Its all things mentioned together that make this guy sus af.@user-ud1cd7qq4q
He really tried his best to mess this up, like even if you are COMPLETELY clueless about what your wife wants, you'd still go for something more simple and socially acceptable than whatever this was.
He obviously thought it was fun.
So he love-bombed her by following her on a 9 month trip, trapped her by proposing and is now planning a wedding in the most selfish way possible WHILE manipulating the situation to blame her. Maybe not a full-on narcissist but definitely has some of the traits at least.
I wouldn't be suprised if he had tricked her into pregnancy.
for real wouldn't be surprised he also messed with her birth control to have an accident baby at that point
Yep. I also feel he got her pregnant on purpose to “trap” her.
He does a poor job of the manipulation, too. For example, he cannot blame the theme on her if there was no way for her to randomly pick the option of "no theme", like she wanted. In my mind, this suggests he has gaslighted her enough to get away with such logical fallacies. (Obviously, there is no proof of this and this is merely how it comes across to me.)
Not to mention she's just 23 and he's whole 10 years older
As soon as he said the bit about his dad’s advice-I knew it was advice from one cheater to another. Crazy part is how the cheating isn’t even the worst part-his overall attitude towards her and lack of caring is much more than just the physical affair.
It's also super gross that he was sending sexy pics of the woman he was cheating with to his friends 🤮
Honestly, this guy is what most British men are like. I dated one British guy and that was more than enough for one lifetime. Now I'm in a happy long term relationship with a Dutch man and I've never been so happy and treated so well ❤️
But yeah, what friends I do have that are still dating British men, they suffer through stuff like this all the time. British men are very babied by their parents and society in general, they tend not to see women as anything more than free 🐱 and a free maid that needs to treat him like he's her son, and they're brought up to believe they're entitled to women and treating them however they please.
I was actually relieved to hear he cheated so she could leave him. Coparenting tho😢
@@fawnieee A very good rule worth following in life: If someone generalizes a whole people on very limited experience, their advice isnt worth much.
Some people are dicks, some arent. Dicks attract other dicks making the amount of dicks seem immense on first glance, but the amount of dicks never changes.
Just as positive events arent remembered as clearly as negative ones, good people are often forgotten when you get riled up about bad ones.
@@fawnieee lmao, you dated one British man so now you know what all of them are like? No, most are NOT like this.
You can't convince me that that man didn't absolutely hate her guts. That was such a bad wedding, it can't even be quantified. It completely missed the mark of anything she'd like. And then he cheated on her. That coma was karma.
He was probably mad that she "decided to get pregnant and tie him down" like he wasn't involved in any of it
I got whiplash reading your comment before getting to that part of the video 😂
@@theclaybor4352 DUDE THIS ACTUALLY HAPPENMS? I'm only at 20 minutes
He was cruel. I feel bad for her and their son. Can you imagine having to grow up with that guy as your dad???
He was a 33 year old man child who had no respect for her. Obviously, because he went on to blatantly cheat on her.
This man is why i dont talk to men unless ive scouted them for a LONG time. They tell on themselves.
I'm literally 7 minutes in, and I've already lost track of the red flags in this relationship...
The "Bianca’s fault" thing boiled my blood
The crazy thing is that they live in the UK, in Wales. there are so so so many beaches in the UK, particularly beautiful ones in Wales. Why did he hire out a terrifying warehouse to fill with sand for crazy amounts of money when he could have put a gazebo on a beach ? It's not like the warehouse of sand would be more like Thailand than an actual real beach
@jamiesteaparty that’s such a good point, even with the flight being in Bristol they could have gone to any of the local beaches like Weston super mare. They’re only 30 minutes away and are mostly sandy beaches, only issue would have been making sure the weather was good.
So in the UK you can't get married in any location. You have to have a licensed venue.
@@harloday id rather get married in the warehouse rather than weston super mare 😭
Even Cornwall in England have amazing beaches. Like there is so many options
@@gee6474 Exactly. Somewhere on the Gower Peninsula maybe that's a beautiful location. Weston, however, is a verified sh*t-hole.
Dresses $10
Rings $5
Venue $20
150K tons of sand $20000
Plastic buckets $100000
Can someone who is good with economy help me budget? My fiancée is pre-divorcing me
prevorce
your suit $500
her dress $160
"Spend less on sand and buckets"
"No"
What about the cleaning fee? I doubt warehouse owners were happy about all that sand. They could have had a better wedding anywhere on a coastline.
I had to pause the video when it got to the reception venue reveal and just take deep breaths and try not to cry, poor Bianca 😭
The thing that surprised me the most is how the wedding dress actually fit her. I expected the guy, that didn't at all care for his wife, to not even know her size. Especially since she's pregnant. I was expecting him to have bought a dress that was like 3 sizes too small and still somehow blame her for it 🥲
I saw him hovering over the size 2, and really thought it was gonna happen! Honestly, a bit surprised it didn’t 🥴
Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if the family and brides maid had to scurry to try to find a way to alter the dress so it can fit her :/
I’m assuming the film crew tells the husband the sizes, since the dresses fit in every episode. Wouldn’t be as funny if the bride couldn’t wear the disastrous outfit the husband chose.
Behind-the-scenes info but the brides do get the dress professionally altered for them to fit better, and can 'secretly' change the sizing if it was way off. Although any obvious changes have to be done with the £14k budget
same pfp! thought this was my comment lol
Actual wholesome wedding planning reality show idea: They pick a couple who really love each other, get to know them and give them each a budget, each person plans a wedding for their s/o, and the weddings are merged into one beautiful event with each spouse's unique tastes and their love for one another shining through each detail of the wedding and everyone cries at the end when the details are revealed.
They could give them both a catalogue to pick out stuff they would pick for themselves (colors, fabric samples, etc), and have booth scenes where they go over their choices. That way those can be played between scenes of their partner planning what *they* think their soon-to-be spouse would like!
I think it'd be fun to see and especially hear their respective explanations. Little stories and memories that influence their decisions. Her saying she'd want a colorful dress and her partner reminiscing about the lavender sweater she wore on their first date (and picking a dress to match).
Things that show us that they truly know each other beyond having rehearsed their answers beforehand.
Sadly it probably wouldn't get as many views.
Look at most successful "reality" tv - people like watching when it turns into a sh*tshow...
@@steves1015 very true, but it's a cute idea still!
to get the shitshow aspect it could still result in a chaotic wedding maybe? less trying to combine the ideas elegantly and more "one of you picked an ocean theme, the other went for goth, have fun at your deep sea themed wedding!"
but with both of them consenting to it potentially turning out all weird
You don't need it
@@marveludus Seriously sounds so wholesome and cute!!! I personally love a good feel good show that highlights people's love so I would be TUNED IN!
The real crime is how men like Adam are just allowed to be stupid and malicious, and then think women will still love them for it....tbh that guy is a super-sized red flag. I can see why he isn't with a 30yo woman, most would run away from this guy, so he goes for someone far younger and naive.
The women don't normally get much a choice. A lot of it has to do with manipulation and younger women are more naive. We just have to not trust older men at this point but who really would believe that their whole lives? Especially with all of the push some of them do to get to know you and trick you that they're different, they're nice, they're good, they make you and others around you think they're kind and safe, a lot of times they get you trapped into a kind of dependence and make it hard for you to leave and even baby trap you or abuse you.
Exactly he loves the power
She isn't just young and naive, she also seems to not ask for much for her wedding. He only had to find some options that were reasonably priced but still did the job, and I am sure she would have been fine with it. She doesn't strike me as a bridezilla who needs to control every detail, but by completely ignoring her most basic wishes - which they MUST have discussed at some point before entering this show - he may turn her into a control freak by showing her not even her partner can be trusted to get anything right.
Exactly 👏
And she was pregnant 🤰 pretty sus😒
This series always seemed to go the same way. 80% of the budget is blown on the stag party. Groom forgets how half the wedding party is to get to the wedding venue, and that guests expect to eat and drink during the day
Dude, I have so much respect for her. Divorced the slime as soon as he was out of his coma. I hope she hovered above his bed waiting for him to either flatline or wake up, knowing either way that it was over.
Not having watched the video yet ... This is a wild comment to read 😂 like coma ... Pardon? 😀