I’m a survivor, too. I was age 5 - 7 in 1959 - 1961. Never told anyone until 2013. Fest, shame, regret and simply having no recollection of the abuse made it difficult to put the pieces together into some kind of narrative. A skilled therapist gave me the structure in a safe environment to do so. I was given the “tools “ to work through the dreams, the intrusive thoughts, the day to day thoughts and feelings that ran unchecked through my mind. Yes, I sought help to untangle these things. Yes, those thoughts and emotions still come, they have and will all of my life. I’ve learned how to handle them much better. I’m pushing 70 and I’m a survivor.
Omg...This story is a lot like mine. Same age, an uncle, Parents not believing me, yelling and screaming at me. I wish I could meet the person who went through the same thing.
Who in the world down-thumbs this?! Thank you for sharing your story brother 💗 you are setting people free _right_ now! It's ok that you were happy when he died, forgive yourself for that. You are strong, beautiful, talented, worthy, worthy of love, protection, worthy of being believed, adored, delighted in. This is for anyone reading this who's been abused.... You *are* lovable. ❤️🙏🏻
So sad that you were subjected to abuse, no matter what words I say they will have no power to remove your fear and sadness. I wish you peace and many friends.
It happened to me. I was molested at least three times an my childhood was stolen from me. Took me over 25 years to forgive the three guys an even made a video sharing my story. There has been serious consequences because of it. Just know that it wasn't your fault. An forgiveness is possible. By the way i am also a long term recovering addict alcoholic.
I have suffered child hood abuse by both men and women but it is still hard to talk about. I have been in so much pain no matter what kind of pain medicine i was on I was still in pain. I have been in and out of the hospital as a kid for so many years. Again it its really hard to talk about.
A person I know told me that he does not need help with his childhood traumas. But is it even possible for anyone to just get over it on their own? I think the crash will come sooner or later. He is so young (18) that I think he's still in survival mode.
I agree.. I would never go to a support group that was a front for religious nonsense, usually Christian. Religion and prayer are not solutions to any problem.
I can tell my own story without reading or writing it...coz I know exactly what happen that night I was 11 yrs old....I thought my uncle is stabbing me with a knife...thats all I feel and remember...and when he is done I look for the area where I was stabbed and how much blood I lost but I only see little blood on my underwear....and I still feel that pain...I really wonder so confusing what had happen....and the 2nd time he did to me I saw him playing before he stab my behind and now I have an little idea what is he stabbing me...he's private...and I was a boy that time ....thank u and God bless u all
Lots and lots of children go thru this as a child and when it happens, (your scared), your afraid to tell anybody, n if u do, they don't believe you and or if not they'll threaten you, I feel for everybody who goes thru these discusting aweful senerios in their lives, their have been scared forever and their childhood is lost forever, and scarred forever, for nothin can bring that back, and all victims must move forward, but many can't, I know it's extremely difficult hard, for it's not easy, nobody said it would be easy, i've been thru this, now as an adult I've learned to move on, I don't need to experience depression, or any low down feelings of what I've experienced, it happened, and it's over with, I'm alive I've moved on with my life, I look up, pray, and pray and pray for them poor victims, who've been thru this, everybody needs a positive out look their lives, for your alive and thriving.🙏🙏🙏
Sorry my above message got sent by mistake before I could edit it. What I was saying is that among the available therapies for trauma survivors there are unconventional ones such as grounding/ earthing, bioenergetics, dancing, ayurvedic massage, yoga, vipassana meditation & the like, that enable us to release past trauma, thus liberating us from the potentially devastating effects of the traumatic experiences of the past, which would otherwise have kept us bogged down in the horrifying mire of subconscious imprints that can wreak havoc over an entire lifetime, or worse, even end in suicide!
I feel that ..... same happened with me but i don't know that person. ..... but now i feel alone and galti infect that was not my fault.... that time i don't even know what was happening....
I think it'll be hard for me to believe my kid too if he says my brother did something like that to him but I would never yell at him. The least I could do is to listen to what the kid has to say and decide if it sounds true or not. But I don't think any kid would be lying about this.
When kids say something about abuse or sex or them getting touched by an older person,u have to believe him/her,....bcz kids as young as 4 yr olds have no idea about that stuff yet.so most probably they would be saying the truth.
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I can rate to.you brother having myself been introduced to sexual acts as a child. Inedd it does rob one of one's childhood & leaves subconscious imprints that cause problems in later life. However serious problems can occur if the 'inner child' is not healed, if the trauma of the past is not processed Various healing modalities can help in this process, amomng them the less conventional ones such as conventional
Sorry the above message got sent by mistake before I could complete it. Well, I was talking about unconventional methods of trauma release such as grounding/earthing, bioenergetics, dancing, yoga, vipassana meditation & the like, which enable us trauma survivors to come to terms with the past & live life to the fullest extent possible rather than get bogged down in a horrifying past that can make the present miserable. Wish you a great life ahead!
Unfortunately those of us who were taken advantage of had no one to talk to in the 50's and 60's. If you spoke out people back then blamed the victim for allowing it. They would label you as gay. I didn't have a prayer.
Unfortunately reading the story makes me think this an actor reading a script. It must be because real victims won't talk about what happened like this they just won't.
What a stark contrast between this man's bravery and your callous disregard. Hopefully, you will never know the pain of being raped and having someone like YOU tell you what 'real victims' are supposed look and sound like when they tell their stories.
As the man (Gen 1:26-28) KJV, a husband (Gen 2:21-25) and a father (Gen 3:16), the minister of God (Rom 13), teacher (Eph 4) and one of the survivors who was bullied in school, I am so sorry this happened to you. If I could have protected you from being harmed by "it", I would have, but I can not be everywhere all at once. (1 John 4)
I'm glad more men are coming forward to tell their story as a victim myself
But u didn't share ur story huh
Im so happy you found healing. Shame on your Mom and any parent that does not believe their child! Shame on them
I’m a survivor, too. I was age 5 - 7 in 1959 - 1961. Never told anyone until 2013. Fest, shame, regret and simply having no recollection of the abuse made it difficult to put the pieces together into some kind of narrative. A skilled therapist gave me the structure in a safe environment to do so.
I was given the “tools “ to work through the dreams, the intrusive thoughts, the day to day thoughts and feelings that ran unchecked through my mind.
Yes, I sought help to untangle these things. Yes, those thoughts and emotions still come, they have and will all of my life. I’ve learned how to handle them much better.
I’m pushing 70 and I’m a survivor.
I’m proud of you!
Omg...This story is a lot like mine. Same age, an uncle, Parents not believing me, yelling and screaming at me. I wish I could meet the person who went through the same thing.
Who in the world down-thumbs this?!
Thank you for sharing your story brother 💗 you are setting people free _right_ now! It's ok that you were happy when he died, forgive yourself for that. You are strong, beautiful, talented, worthy, worthy of love, protection, worthy of being believed, adored, delighted in.
This is for anyone reading this who's been abused....
You *are* lovable.
❤️🙏🏻
The question I always asked myself is "is this abuse?" For what happened to me.
I'm a survivor since the age of 4
I was abused by my female Cousin who was was like 15 years older than me and I was just 7 by then..
So sad that you were subjected to abuse, no matter what words I say they will have no power to remove your fear and sadness. I wish you peace and many friends.
.how i wish i can turn back time..how i wish i've never slept in the same room with my uncle tht night..i was nine back then. :(
It was not in your control
He wouldve found you
You were a baby
You can not see what the monster sees
It's wasn't your fault, and it will never be your fault.
Same here it's not our fault
It happened to me. I was molested at least three times an my childhood was stolen from me. Took me over 25 years to forgive the three guys an even made a video sharing my story. There has been serious consequences because of it. Just know that it wasn't your fault. An forgiveness is possible. By the way i am also a long term recovering addict alcoholic.
I was 6 similar thing
@@hoplophobic you shouldn't either
I was 8 went it happen too me thru 12 he’s in jail already but I still had too deal it
I've been through sexual abuse so much as a child that I can't even remember half of my life.
I have suffered child hood abuse by both men and women but it is still hard to talk about. I have been in so much pain no matter what kind of pain medicine i was on I was still in pain. I have been in and out of the hospital as a kid for so many years. Again it its really hard to talk about.
My first memories were of abuse
I was abused almost daily until I was 7 when he was killed in a car wreck as well. 💔💔💔💔
A person I know told me that he does not need help with his childhood traumas. But is it even possible for anyone to just get over it on their own? I think the crash will come sooner or later. He is so young (18) that I think he's still in survival mode.
What I hate is when they say its a support group and they involve religion and want you to pray with them and pray over you ...
I agree.. I would never go to a support group that was a front for religious nonsense, usually Christian. Religion and prayer are not solutions to any problem.
Why so bitter?
🙂🙂🙂🙂 Will always support you, Caleb 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I can tell my own story without reading or writing it...coz I know exactly what happen that night I was 11 yrs old....I thought my uncle is stabbing me with a knife...thats all I feel and remember...and when he is done I look for the area where I was stabbed and how much blood I lost but I only see little blood on my underwear....and I still feel that pain...I really wonder so confusing what had happen....and the 2nd time he did to me I saw him playing before he stab my behind and now I have an little idea what is he stabbing me...he's private...and I was a boy that time ....thank u and God bless u all
So touching! 😓
There are times that telling the truth is not received well and the belief is not there. some of us become self loathing and submit.
YOU my friend , are a hero !!!-
Things like this hurt me to my heart.
My heart breaks for ik what he's going through...
You are such a handsome young man and I'm so sorry for your abuse God bless you
It wasn't his abuse. He was reading someone else's.
God bless you 🙏 and all the best in life 💖
Lots and lots of children go thru this as a child and when it happens, (your scared), your afraid to tell anybody, n if u do, they don't believe you and or if not they'll threaten you, I feel for everybody who goes thru these discusting aweful senerios in their lives, their have been scared forever and their childhood is lost forever, and scarred forever, for nothin can bring that back, and all victims must move forward, but many can't, I know it's extremely difficult hard, for it's not easy, nobody said it would be easy, i've been thru this, now as an adult I've learned to move on, I don't need to experience depression, or any low down feelings of what I've experienced, it happened, and it's over with, I'm alive I've moved on with my life, I look up, pray, and pray and pray for them poor victims, who've been thru this, everybody needs a positive out look their lives, for your alive and thriving.🙏🙏🙏
Stay strong Caleb God bless you 🤗🤗
Sorry my above message got sent by mistake before I could edit it. What I was saying is that among the available therapies for trauma survivors there are unconventional ones such as grounding/ earthing, bioenergetics, dancing, ayurvedic massage, yoga, vipassana meditation & the like, that enable us to release past trauma, thus liberating us from the potentially devastating effects of the traumatic experiences of the past, which would otherwise have kept us bogged down in the horrifying mire of subconscious imprints that can wreak havoc over an entire lifetime, or worse, even end in suicide!
I feel that ..... same happened with me but i don't know that person. ..... but now i feel alone and galti infect that was not my fault.... that time i don't even know what was happening....
I think it'll be hard for me to believe my kid too if he says my brother did something like that to him but I would never yell at him. The least I could do is to listen to what the kid has to say and decide if it sounds true or not. But I don't think any kid would be lying about this.
When kids say something about abuse or sex or them getting touched by an older person,u have to believe him/her,....bcz kids as young as 4 yr olds have no idea about that stuff yet.so most probably they would be saying the truth.
1 in 6 men will experience sexual abuse
Watch the 5th Story here:
bit.ly/1j8Wz2N
#sexualabuse #sexualabuseprevention #sexuality #childabuse #abuserecovery #the26thstory #stopabuse #stopabusers #abuseprevention #sexualviolence #childabuseawareness #childabuserecovery
I can rate to.you brother having myself been introduced to sexual acts as a child. Inedd it does rob one of one's childhood & leaves subconscious imprints that cause problems in later life. However serious problems can occur if the 'inner child' is not healed, if the trauma of the past is not processed
Various healing modalities can help in this process, amomng them the less conventional ones such as conventional
Sorry the above message got sent by mistake before I could complete it. Well, I was talking about unconventional methods of trauma release such as grounding/earthing, bioenergetics, dancing, yoga, vipassana meditation & the like, which enable us trauma survivors to come to terms with the past & live life to the fullest extent possible rather than get bogged down in a horrifying past that can make the present miserable.
Wish you a great life ahead!
Unfortunately those of us who were taken advantage of had no one to talk to in the 50's and 60's. If you spoke out people back then blamed the victim for allowing it. They would label you as gay. I didn't have a prayer.
Men Too!!!!!!!!!!
Sending support...Dr. Kelli Palfy Author of Men Too: Unspoken Truths About Male Sexual Abuse
Unfortunately reading the story makes me think this an actor reading a script. It must be because real victims won't talk about what happened like this they just won't.
What a stark contrast between this man's bravery and your callous disregard. Hopefully, you will never know the pain of being raped and having someone like YOU tell you what 'real victims' are supposed look and sound like when they tell their stories.
As the man (Gen 1:26-28) KJV, a husband (Gen 2:21-25) and a father (Gen 3:16), the minister of God (Rom 13), teacher (Eph 4) and one of the survivors who was bullied in school, I am so sorry this happened to you. If I could have protected you from being harmed by "it", I would have, but I can not be everywhere all at once. (1 John 4)
he appears to be one that would enjoy it