I HATE MY 4C NATURAL HAIR
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when u hear families members say "oh she lucky she got that good hair" and apparently yours doesn't look like what they call "good hair", hearing the insult nappy headed, always seeing dry tangled 4c hair in slave movies (which can lead to a negative association), never seeing 4b/4c hair when curly hair is being talked about or shown...these things can influence a person to hate their 4c hair. glad there's more ppl showing the beauty of 4c hair like Chizi!
nadeerah A YEEEESSSS!!!
Bridget Burkett glad u agree😊
nadeerah A right when im at my friends house im told to perm my hair
Gift Chima I mean its no doubt that 4c hair gets your arms toned 😂 but every hair type has it's difficulties: limpness,excessive dryness,breakage(i remember all my straight hair friends whose jackets would be covered in their hair😬),etc but that's why its great that there's more 4c girls showing how to simplify routines, and showing simple hairstyles that can be achieved. There's sort of a stigma that being natural means u don't have to do anything to your hair..but just as you(not you specifically but in general) made sure to keep track of when to get another perm, remembered to wrap at night, use the right shampoo...that same dedication applies to natural hair. The good thing tho is that you can have a lazy day(or more) with natural hair (incl 4c) and get away with it.
Dawanna Munnings I feel ya. I was in class one day and these guys were telling a girl that she "needed to perm that shit bc its nappy" like wtf??
Black is beautiful. 4C hair is beautiful. I've learned to love and embrace my hair because it is so unique and versatile. ✨
ZBeauty Amen sis! People are always shook when I switch up my hair styles like every week 😂😂 its that Black Girl Magic lol
ZBeauty I still learning to embrace mine
we can do so much to our hair that others can't
we can do so much to our hair that others can't
I don't know I had the honey blond hair dye and it was to strong for my hair and I cut all of my hair off and also my blood pressure med make it sheds so I'm buying all the oils and shampoI need for natural hair
This right here.... I'm going to start by stating the obvious (as evidenced by my profile pic) that I am not black. I do not have 4c natural hair and yet this video has had a profound impact on me. I have a mixed race daughter who has 4c natural hair and there is nothing that I can say to her that she views as substantial in regards to her hair since I have very long straight hair. Since I dont understand. Since society doesn't tell me my hair is unruly or out of control when I wear it natural. My heart is broken that she hates her 4c natural hair. I know its beauty. I kept it chemical free moisturized and in protective styles 12 years of her life and then I started letting her manage it on her own. Her father (who is African American) and the women in his family have been largely responsible for making her feel insecure about her hair. They would see her fro and say "What is your Mama doing with your hair? You look wild and crazy. Your mama needs to do something with that wig...its because she aint black she don't know how to take care of it." Last year she was with her dad's mother and they permed her without my permission. Needless to say I was furious. None of the women in his family have natural hair....it's all permed, short and unhealthy looking. Since then she has flat ironed it a few times and kept it in a tight ponytail and it is all but completely broken off. Her hair was soooo long. If not for the shrinkage it was to the middle of her back. We are now at the point where I have to get it cut into a very short style to be healthy and she is dreading it. We have to start all over with her hair. My biggest obstacle is trying to instill confidence in her. How can I teach her to love her hair for what it is, accept its appearance in its natural state and stop expecting it to look like the media portrays "mixed hair" should be. How do I counter her black family telling her she wasnt blessed with "good hair" . I love her hair more than she does. But again in her eyes since my hair is exactly what society says pretty hair is, I don't know the struggle, and my appreciation and pride for her hair doesn't mean anything. I guess it's just going to be work. But I'm going to let her watch this video and read the comments and I hope it impacts her as much as it has me. Additionally, going to subscribe and seek out advice on starting over with 4C natural hair. What products to use to promote growth and healthy hair etc. Thank you for this. You are absolutely stunning and I hope my daughter has the confidence you do in her hair one day soon.
Dezarae Murguia looks like ur doing a great job, just find RUclips video of 4c ppl with kids . There natural4c she great with tips. Also yes family is being mean but they also know how she will be treated by non black ppl. Yes Work place An school discriminate against natural hair. So be prepared for that too.
But also wait too see what ur daughter wants to be . If she light An can pass as white she might want to keep her hair relax to be considered pretty ( white women are still at the top pedestal the. Asians women) good luck :)
Your a good mom that is trying ur best to understand an Encourage
Big props to you for doing your best for keeping the chemicals out of her hair as long as you did. I would be beyond furious if my in laws permed my kids hair without my permission! That was completely out of line and I probably would have cursed them out! You probably know more about natural hair than those women! It is a complete shame for her own father and other family members to shame her for what God placed on her head. The self-hate is REAL with a lot of black folks sadly! I do NOT suggest relaxing her hair as the other comment suggested, hell no. All you can do is continue telling her how beautiful her coils and curls are. Buy products that will enhance the natural beauty of her hair. Your hair can do things her hair can't do, but her hair can do things your hair can't do! Straight hair is EASY to take care of but that doesn't make it BETTER! I have two daughters and all 3 of us are natural. You can see my older daughter (TL) and her friend here: ruclips.net/video/gP2vWSE1cIQ/видео.html
She absolutely LOVES her hair! I've told her that her hair was beautiful since she was a child and she embraces it. She has 4c natural hair and it is one of her best features! I was natural in 2008 and relaxed my hair again, and currently back to natural. Not gonna lie, our hair is high maintenance hair...water, oil, moisture is necessary on a daily basis. Just keep working with your daughter, have her subscribe to a bunch of natural hair care channels and watch them for tips and encouragement religiously! Teach her that God does not make mistakes and he created her hair that way because He thought it was beautiful. Who is anyone to say that it's not! Screw the status quo and rock that natural hair with pride! Her confidence will grow over time :D
Im black and my kids are half Mexican. The baby girl and baby boy have loose curly 3a hair but their older brother has 3c/4a kinda hair. And my family is the SAME way with my eldest son like ur daughter's father's family. Calling his hair nappy and saying he got "nigga" hair (sorry for the bad word) & its really not nappy, just very frizzy. My eldest child is the reason I went natural these past 2 years. Im 4c and its so hard to grow it out and its breaks and dries so much i HATE it but I'm trying to love it. My son loves playing in my hair and pulling on it (he's autistic). I went natural so he can love his hair too no matter what my ignorant family says. But its so cute my daughter says she loves my hair and she makes me try to love it too. She says her 3a hair is too long and gets in her face too much lol but she says mine looks like a crown and that ima queen lol so i know she will encourage her bubba to love his hair too.
Dezarae Murguia healthy hair is good hair. Keep encouraging her to love what she has. I have looser curls but love the versatility of 4C hair
Dezarae Murguia Awwwww.....Dezarae, My name is Christina. I am a licensed hairstylist and I have 4c hair as well. You arw doing an amazing job on raising and teaching your beautiful your daughter is my showing her to embrace her natural hair. Now as far as her dad's side of the family, they were dead wrong to begin with. Not only they put a harsh hydrogen ion with sulfur in her hair, but to have to give her the big chop to have her hair healthy again had me in tears. If you want any tips on how to style your daughter's hair or products to use, you can hit me up on Instagram. My Instagram name is DaRadiant1 ( pronounced The Radiant One) or just like the ladies said up here. Find some videos who have ladies that embraced their 4c hair. Show your daughter these self taught videos on how to maintain and style her. Again, if you have any questions, don't never be afraid to ask for help okay. ❤ ya! P.S. You are doing an amazing job with your daughter and I am so proud of you! ❤
I currently hate my 4c hair because despite all my efforts, I can’t find styles with my 4c hair that make me feel beautiful. I’d be so willing to put in all the time and energy if I actually liked the outcome, but I don’t. I feel like it limits me in looking how I want. It’s a real conflict because I want to embrace my natural beauty but my natural hair also makes me feel deeply insecure.
I just want to be able to put it in a bun or pony tail. Or be able to wear a nice fro without prestretching it😞 or have my natural hair look good in a hat too, it be looking like george jefferson💀
agreed.
And the whole downfall is the only thing people can tell you is to accept it and love your God given hair.... fuck that I’m soo over 4c hair I can’t do shit with it!!
I understand completely. I’ve been trying to grow my hair since last fall and I put it away recently so I won’t have to manipulate it so much (since I’m remote).
It’s difficult to say that every time I take off my silk scarf, bonnet whatever you want to call it, I feel...ugly. I feel like I probably will never see my hair at it’s full potential because for so long I’ve been trying to figure it out. Some say to leave it alone others say to wash it every week. I’ve tried so many products, I tried to not look at it, I don’t even know if what I’m doing now is helping it. And don’t get started on the other things I’m insecure about on top of my hair not doing what I want it to.
It’s difficult for sure, I’m learning to love it everyday and I don’t want to give up on it. So...I just keep going
@@tsks5939 you said everything i was thinking!! same here ! i’m learning to love it but i, too, get pushed back two times every time i take a step forward
I think having type 4 hair in a society where Type 1-3 hair is celebrated is the issue. I'm an older woman who grew up in the 60's and 70's and the natural movement was full force among women and men. Everyone was growing their natural hair. We didn't have all the products you have today and yet our hair kept growing. We did braid our hair mostly every night. That was just something you did, like brushing your teeth. We didn't consider it a chore because we were in love with our hair. We didn't have all the fancy styles they have now(I wish we had that would have been fly) but we enjoyed the freedom from the straightning comb. It's important to know who you are and not compare yourself to anyone else. Love the skin you're in and the hair you wear and keep it simple.
Tara Quinch .... A M E N!!! Back in the day, the A-fros were bomb. I remember family and friends wore it well.
Tara Quinch what happened between now and then? Why did people go back to relaxers and weaves??
I love hearing from our more seasoned or older sisters about how natural hair in the context of the 60s and 70s. I'm a little younger, born in the 80s so my generation seems to have a different approach to natural hair. I could be wrong but back then, it didn't seem like there was as much of an emphasis on curl pattern and silky loose textures. Back then it almost seemed like kinkier hair was more desirable because that's the texture that would form the nicest Afro. It just seems like there was more unity and I wish we had more of that now.
If there was so much unity back then, why did those same people go back to relaxers and weaves, then?
I can't imagine that going from not having to braid your hair and then suddenly having to braid it every night was so effortless, especially for kinkier hair. Looser textured hair gains length faster than kinkier hair and I can say that people did still praise looser hair back then just like now. Bigger longer Afros were more coveted than the shorter ones or the kinkier ones that shrank or didn't stretch to ever even look long in the first place. It's all the same, people just use different lingo.
well some ppl don't have hair so I'm just grateful God gave me something 😂💕
Breezy Breeze okay! 👏👏
Made my night\day
Breezy Breeze exactly lol
Breezy Breeze lol true
Breezy Breeze I literally laughed out loud! 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
OUR HAIR LITERALLY DEFIES GRAVITY. YOU CANNOT TELL ME WE AINT MAGICAL YALL!!!!
yesss, it used to make me upset though, because people at school would just pull mause it stuck upy hair up and start yelling unicorn c
Lol.
4c hair is bougie, you can't treat her any kind of way. Be good to her and she'll be good to you. Patience and a good healthy routine is key for growth and health.
Exactly 🔥 She doesn't like wriggry wriggry. 😄😄 Leave her alone.
She askin for too much tho
I love the way you put this. We've gotta change the mindframe.
Or maybe 4c hair is fucking disgusting
I don't care if my hair is Beautiful at this point I just want to be able to put it in a ponytail! Comb it without it tangling right after. I'm desperate, don't want to put chemicals on it but...what else to do? Live a life of braids? I'm tired of never seeing my hair. Who relates?!
MEE 😩I can't stand braids anymore
Me I can't stand braids and jot being able to free my hair but I can't handle the wildness of the kinky hair...i hate saying it but I miss my relaxed hair
Totally get it! The struggle is real!
ElizaLanga yessss❗️❗️like i would detangle my hair and it shrinks back up
Me. That's why I wish I had asian or white hair
I LOVE MY 4C NATURAL HAIR 👑
R St33l3 🙌🙌
R St33l3 same I have 4c hair too and I love it
Me too sis!
R St33l3 I hate mine
Yea girl! Same :)
My hair ain't 4c this thing is 4e!
LMFAOOO no fr
cynthiana246 mannn lol mines 4z
cynthiana246 lmao, I feel you
😂😂😂 how i feel lol
cynthiana246 lol
If I had black daughters and they had 4c hair, I would make sure that the environment they grow up in *embraces* their hair type. 4a and 4b are also important (I have 4b), but I think 4c girls need sooo much love because of texture discrimination. Your hair is so gorgeous, Chizi. Keep up the good work. 💕💕
Kodama agreed i have 2 girls(and 2 sons but this isnt about them lol) ages 7&10 .they both have long healthy hair but the color and texture is different... we talk about hair care and the beauty of natural hair a lot... i dont do she has good/bad hair, your texture is better/worse than hers nonsense it will only breed division between them. We tell our girls they are beautiful and we love them. If we speak negatively over them we can destroy their self esteem.
Kodama My daughters and I are 16, 17 and 42 and all natural now We love it! We are all 4b and 4c texture. This is my second time big chopping as an adult. I had to stop relaxing my older daughters hair several years ago to about 2 inches and it was a struggle but I taught her what to do and eventually she did it LOL. Now she has big beautiful black hair! I've always told them how beautiful and unique they and their hair is that they even encourage me now! My mother struggles with acknowledging the beauty of natural hair and my kids and I have discussed this. I however have taught them better! We love and embrace the fro in our house!
For some people it's not that we hate our hair because we think 4c hair is ugly. Sometimes you just don't have the time, luxury, or attention span to deal with it!
It's honestly depressing when I think it's about time to wash my 4c hair, because I know it will literally take ALL DAY LONG. And yes I do envy my fellow sistas with looser curl patterns because they can take a shower, wash their hair, blow-dry it or even just let it air dry AND GO! And they look perfectly fine. They don't have to worry about their hair shriveling up, drying out and breaking off. They don't have to spend hours detangling and then trying to style it so that it doesn't look like an unkempt mess! Not to mention they can just run a brush through their hair without worrying it's going to set their hair growth back 2 years!
And yes I know you can just wear 4c hair in a fro, but that's not always acceptable in all work situations, and I don't always feel like being stared at or having people walk up to me with curiosity, wonder, and appreciation for the volume of my fro! I mean yes, it's nice, and I appreciate that you appreciate my boldness and my hair texture, but I don't want to hear it every time I walk into a room by EVERY PERSON IN THE DAMN ROOM!
So yes I do hate my 4c hair and I'm unapologetic for it. That doesn't mean I love myself any less.
Haikupixie Wooz....thank you!!!! Hit the nail on the head....I can't stand when frustrations with our hair are automatically considered "self hate"...
Haikupixie Wooz 🤦🏾♀️ u've gotta be kidding me.
Haikupixie Wooz I get where ur coming from, but it is ultimately a feeling of self hate. To hate ur god given texture and u wish u had somebody's else's hair texture. Yes it stems from the fact that 4c hair is hard to maintain and the frustration is very justified but Ik many naturals that get frustrated with their hair but still love it and wouldn't wish for it to be looser or straighter. It's a very thin line between justifiable frustration and hating for your hair texture/ having envy for a looser one. I'm a 4c chick and I definitely get frustrated and know the struggle but it becomes self hate when I start thinking mixed hair is superior to kinky hair even when I can take care of it, and seeing a mixed chick walk by me and wishing I had her hair. It can be a paper thin line sometimes. Which side are you on?
LadyJ2389 I don't think it should be automatically self hate, but just because it stems from frustrations doesn't mean it isn't self hate either. People honestly don't know the difference between genuine frustrations with their hair and wanting a break and genuinely hating their texture and envying others. If it isn't self hate, then it's something else that's just as disgusting. Because the next generation will watch that and they will grow up with relaxers on their hair (just like we did) because they think it's the worst hair texture to have because society genuinely thinks that. Can u imagine a world were certain hair textures are considered less than? What does that tell to the younger ones growing up? It's literally the same as hating ur skin and wanting to bleach it or hating any part of ur body and wanting to surgically alter it. (Extreme examples I know) but it's the way U we're born and it isn't right that some feel that they NEED sodium hydroxide to relax their hair and make it manageable
I get where you are coming from I feel you tbh but hates a strong word is it just that you hate the amount of work it requires
This topic is so important to talk about. I've been natural for 3 years and girl... OF COURSE there have been times where I got so annoyed with my hair and just wanted it gone, or wanted a different texture (who doesn't feel like that sometimes) but as I kept progressing through this hair journey I realized just how amazing 4c hair is. It's so liberating having 4c hair knowing that no one can even begin to emulate the same kinks and coils that we have. Our hair is SO unique it's almost unfair. And yes, 4c hair is difficult to take care of, but sis, would it really be a journey if it was easy? I hope that all the natural 4c girls, and all textures as well, grow to accept and love their hair. It takes WAY too much energy to hate the texture you were given, loving it is a much better option. Great video!
Elise Osafo WELL SAID HUNNI 😍😍🤗
Well said!
Amen! I have different textures (which is nerve racking) but I'm 4b/4c. I do have those moments where I'm like...I want a relaxer..but what keeps me going is the desire to learn my hair and understand what works and what doesn't...I want to see my hair at its optimum health in its natural state. I feel like learning yourself is the best way to love yourself and learning your hair is a great accomplishment. it definitely is challenging but I just think about how I will feel when I've mastered and understood my hair.
Amen! I have thought about reapplying the creamy crack but whenever I wear it out folks want it! It's always a journey -but that's one of the great things about being black! We all have different hair which makes us unique
Elise Osafo wow 👏🏾
I JUST finished reading "The Bluest Eye" by my fairy Godmutha Toni Morrison and the overwhelming theme of the book coincides perfectly with what you're discussing. The disillusionment of beauty and beauty standards in America are especially poisonous to black women because we are at the opposite end of the spectrum. The negative feelings we have towards or hair and skin are not our own and because we live and participate in culture that glorifies ,what it seems to be, everything we are not we are constantly in a state of contentment and dissatisfaction with our physical selves. It does take a strong mind to break away from all the noise telling us that we are not good enough because there are so many voices that speak to the contrary. For me it was realizing that I saw beauty in my fellow black sister who had kinky, thick, coarse hair, no matter what anyone else said they were beautiful because they were who they are organically. There ain't nothing wrong with our beauty. The issue lies in people's reaction to it.
Briana Janae i am sooo proud to be a black woman with kinky hair there is no better feeling than when i see my sisters rocking there natural hair with pride and confidence. I've also md many friends as we conversate on ways to take care of our hair and exchanging style ideas . I'm jus so overwhelmed with the versatility of our hair and how we were taught it wasn't acceptable. CHANGES 😍😘😘
PREACH
That's an awesome book! And so relative to this video. We have to create our definition of beauty before we allow society to do it for us.
Briana Janae Amen!
I'll have to add that on my list of books to read this summer! I love what you said - You need a strong, sound mind to understand that it's not our hair that is the problem rather, it's peoples' reactions towards it.
Thanks for your comment!
Before I met you at Curl fest, I was hating the way my hair looked. To me, it wasn't flourishing. It looked dull and when i compared it to other naturals I saw, I felt even worse. When I met you and you said "I love your hair" I felt a little better about it because you have the same hair texture as me which meant even more to me since you know the exact struggles. That simple compliment you gave really reassured me that my hair is beautiful and I should learn to embrace it even more. Thank you so much :)
What a beautiful story :') 😊😊😊
Aly Ariel thank you lovely 😘
Oretha S 😊😊😊😊😊
Awww, I love this girly!! Thanks for sharing with us all. We as women, and honestly, all of us as humans, need that reassurance. I know I do. Thank you for this story, it kind of reminded me of why it's so important to tell our fellow sisters when their hair looks nice!!
Tiffany T I'm glad you love it ❤️ I hope you find that same reassurance beautiful 😘
At first I worried about how I would be perceived. Especially by men! For some reason I thought I'd never be desired by a man if I rocked my 4C hair. But I took the plunge and it really was a freeing experience. In a world where women are constantly trying to alter their appearance I feel so bold to be able to embrace my looks in this way. I'm also the mom of two biracial boys with what people consider to be "good hair". But at my house, healthy hair is the only kind of good hair! They hear me speak positively about my hair. They see the pride I take in caring for it. They compliment it. They love to dig their little hands in my fro while telling me how soft it is. I'm realizing that I'm shaping their perception of beauty and I couldn't be more proud.
Vamica Bony Thank you Vamica! You're an amazing mother😍
karen horton thats so sweet of you to say Karen!!!! Thank you 😁
Vamica Bony omg I can totally relate about feeling like men wouldn't like my 4c hair unless it was straightened but eventually they got used to it and came to love it
A A seriously! With all these dudes looking for girls rocking the Kim Kardashian weave I really thought this would be the end of my dating life. But then I told myself "good men weren't lining up at your door when you had weave on so might as well do what you wanna do!" and now I attract different men... No complaints. Lol
Vamica Bony aww your story is so sweet 😊
I'm 15 and I've been natural my whole life which is something I'm thankful for. When I got to middle school I didn't like my hair at all but then I just stopped caring what people thought and started to take care of my hair and it grew a lot :)
Nina Grapi yes ma’am you go👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼
Michel Mez thank you ❤️😁
you’re an adult now
@@chaiboix Haha yeah im 19 now and in college...scary
@@ninagreatie715 wow! that’s amazing. thank you for replying, I’m 14, soon 15. (:
4c hair is VERY VERY high maintenance.... I HATE DEALING WITH IT... My texture I love but the maintenance of I cant take😤
akeshia williams No it’s not, lol! I’m 4b-4c majority 4c and my hair is not hard to manage. It’s just people believe they have to do certain things when they really don’t. All you need to do is wash it, moisturize it, put it in a protective style, and keeping those ends trimmed.
A Dream ☺ This comment was made a very long time ago 😂😂😂😂... Girl I cut all my hair off now... But thanks sweetheart😃
akeshia williams Hey! If you feel good with the cut rock it! 😂
Broken Dreams Agree. It's not high maintenance unless you make it.
@M P its not that easy for everyone
I'm 4c... I hear things like.. I'm glad my hair isn't nappy or your hair is too big or I'm glad I don't get tangles or it's just too much to deal with ... But I love my 4c. It's beautiful in my eyes and it's extremely versatile.. Not to mention how big and full it can get.. It demands attention when you walk into a room .. Funny how when people buy an afro puff it looks similar to 4c, texture!! I'm just saying..I rolls with my 4c dark skinned sistah's yeah thats all me and I'm black and proud say it out loud!! Lol... Much respect to all the natural women in the world it's all beautiful!
YES TO EVERYTHING YOU JUST SAID
Chizi - thanks for a thought provoking video. I agree, after being natural since 2011, I rarely have time or inspiration/motivation to do anything new to it, meaning at times it feels like a bit of a chore to take care of it. But always, always, our hair is worth the struggle! 2 questions;
1- what are you wearing on your lips
2 - can we see a hair tutorial for the beautiful style you are wearing?
xoxo
TheLeeyvonne I'm 4c too but I'm light brown skinned
and we love YOU TOO!
I just think that some people just won't accept their texture and they can't let go of social conditioning. Just the other day....my 4-year old niece told my daughter (6 years old) that her hair was nappy.... My daughter didn't even know what she was saying. That's how much of a difference it makes. Proof that hair hatred is taught. I think you get over it by accepting it and living with it all the time.
Antoinette Daniels ou
Antoinette Daniels I am taking back the word 'nappy'. If people call my hair nappy, I tell them "I know! Isn't it gorgeous!"
big question; Why are those who seemingly have 'good hair' care so much to do down the 'bad hair'. by the way i'm a 55 yr old granny who has been natural for the best part of my life. interesting to tell you that every where I go when wearing my hair down every age, sex colour turn their heads, and I'm super 4C. thats the credit of loving me. I love God who created 4C.
Today, I showed a picture of my daughter to a co worker, a man also looked at the picture and while flailing his hand above his head said, what's wrong with her hair, which was a luscious Afro. I think one of the reasons we struggle with our kinkiest hair texture is because the societal views of beauty affect how we see ourselves. I hate my natural hair sometimes, but I hated my permed hair sometimes too. I don't beat up on myself when I'm not feeling my hair, I usually just get a long term style and am always glad to see my hair again.
MsCkelle ...did you tell the man where to go? I would have lit a fire under his azz.
luvzNPR I didn't let his ignorance take me out of my character.
MsCkelle Good for you. But I had a stroke a couple of weeks ago a while I was wondering if I was going to survive and regain my speech, or not, I decided that if I regained my speech I tell people what I really feel. Life is too short.
I learned to not care with what people have to say about my hair. His way of thinking is what is raises up thinking and one day he will learn all hair beauty or not. I just ignore it and keep it pushing.
I've NEVER hated my 4c hair, I LOOOOVE it, I have had moments of immense frustration with all the work I have to put in. But all in all I LOVE MY FRO.
I get what you are saying. I love my hair! I did a response video to Chizi's video months ago.
I hated my hair so much I cut it. The maintenance and energy required just really got to me. I still hate it though. I just feel so helpless everytime my wash day is close
I feel ya. I hate my hair. I want to cut is so short and wear wigs.
Same
I feel the pain, i need 3a hair
Pathetic
I hated my 4c hair. I'm Puerto Rican & Cuban so NO ONEEEE in my family had hair like mine. No one could explain to me how to care for it. I would watch youtube videos and everyone had like type 3 texture. It was frustrating. My family would say things like "just go get a wash & set" it was the ultimate struggle. I love my hair now. I said SCREW EVERYONE lmfao and embraced what was on my head.
Casey Joe i am Dominican and have family that can identify with your story. However, how did you get 4c hair if NO ONE in your family has/had 4c hair?
Y do u have 4c then
Multiethnicgirl 6foot Obviously someone has it in her family. It could be down the line bc hair texture is an inherited trait.
jlyn sevi obviously someone in her family had it at sometime maybe even 100 years ago
Casey Joe That's okay baby. I am 42 years old with 4c hair too. We can both embrace our nappiness together. ❤ ya!
How to love you hair:
1.Realize that your hair is unique and gorgeous
2. The volume!!!!
My daughter had a visitation with her dad. She's 11 and does her own bomb Bantu knots. She said her dad asked her what was wrong with her hair? My girl told him nothing. SMH Be careful who you pick as a mate and educate your daughters. They are in for a ride this new generation. 3c, b, d, 4a, 4b, 4c still .......(insert JayZ line)
EverythingImani , lol girl I swear you right. You have to be careful when picking your mate. My child's father was so concerned with the texture of her hair when she was born. Fast forward she has beautiful healthy 4C hair so forget him.
EverythingImani what an ass! She’s strong for an 11 year old but just constantly affirm that she has beautiful unique hair
EverythingImani this!🙌🏾 my dad said similar BS to me when I went home for Christmas break. He asked me to comb my hair or some idiotic thing like that. I gave him the side eye and walk out of the room. All I could think about was how beautiful my high puff looked that day tbh😻
Today I’m hating my hair😢 I just wanna get up brush and go without having to go through a 4hr manipulation process
When you’re in your room, crying, trying to understand why you hate your hair so much. I could take care of it but for some reason dealing with my hair atm is super depressing. It’s not hair to maintain, or to manage... something in me right now can’t understand why but I just do. I’m actually crying right now because I don’t expect no one to understand but tbh I’m just wishing someone would say ok and they got me
I get you
Society has really fucked me up in terms of my hair. I always felt like I needed to have long straight hair to be considered beautiful. I'm on a natural hair journey now and I've been natural for a year and a half. I'm just trying to learn to love myself and my hair. I'm 4C
Kyra Cheera Aww that's good. Been natural for 5 years and I took me some years to learn to love myself. Now I wear no make up which is crazy because I have a lot acne scars on face. I just love how God made me.
Don't forget about our fros sis!!!! Our texture makes afros afros. 4c is made to defy gravity✊🏿
Jasmine Jackson You know that's right!
Lol ain't that the truth
Love this topic Chizi....I was at the saloon the other day wanting to get my hair done...and this lady was just there like "so what happens when this natural hair trend is over" I tried my possible best to not be rude like.....I went natural for a reason and not to join the bandwagon....all these natural Nazis soo frustrating 😡😬😧
Boluwatife Adeyemo wow. The things people allow themselves to say!
Vamica Bony like!!😬😬
Boluwatife Adeyemo If I meet her I'll ask "Trend? With so many of us not only learning of the harm we'd done using chemicals for so long and now falling in love with our God given textures our great grandchildren will tell stories of how long ago when we didn't know the truth, what maniacal things we did to our hair, in search of the beauty that was always there" No trend has this much Power😍
Preach! why does it have to be a trend, can't we just be? I didn't want any more fried hair and relaxer burns, I don't follow trends like that.
Boluwatife Adeyemo That lady sounds super ignorant! If I recall correctly, black people have had kinky natural hair SINCE HUMANS EXISTED. We've only started straightening for the last few decades. This "straight hair fad" is a blip on the entirety of our existence.
After watching, listening and reading. I have to say the only ppl that love 4c hair are ppl that do not have it...is there anyone like me with the 4c hair also tenderheaded as well, so much pain while combing. Thank you for the video.
Yesssss
Me. I love my beautiful hair!
For real
Yep. I'm tenderheaded, get scalp pain as well as headaches just from touching my hair. Imma be honest, I hate my hair sometimes. I go from accepting it to hating it. But I never actually love it. I'll be lying to myself to say I love it
I most definitely love my 4c hair I am tenderheaded as well and get blisters on my scalp if I am not keeping my scalp moisturized. But in the 2 years since I've gone natural I have learned so much about my hair and wouldn't trade it for the world
This shrinkage, OMG!!! it's so amazing, it is magic. That's why i love my 4c natural hair
I have 4C hair, have been natural since 2014 and I am growing to dislike it more and more. It's now 2017 and I'm about to start my freshman year in college. I feel like it's just gonna be so much extra work that I don't have the time for. My hair is always shrunken and I never see any length in it. Braid outs are pointless because my hair just shrinks back up as soon as I step outside. Ugh, it's so annoying. I always resort to protective styles and I feel some kind of way when I don't have my braids in. I wear a puff almost everyday and even that shrinks up by night time. It's just so stressful, lol. I just needed to rant real quick
Ashthekween, first, congratulations on beginning your first year in college! Don’t forget to visit your college library, I’m a college librarian, and we got what you need boo! Second, if that is you in the profile pic, you are lovely, and your puff is on point! One thing that I just recently learned that helped combat shrinkage, especially in humid climates,is to use moisturizers that do NOT have humectants in them, like glycerine, honey, and propylene glycol. You will still shrink a bit, but not as much. Wishing you great success in all that you do!
katmahasti thank you so much for those tips! I'll make sure to keep those in mind when I go shopping for my hair products. Wishing success for you as well! & I will most definitely be in the library, lol!
It sounds like you need better products. Some prevent shrinkage better than others look for stuff reviewed by 4c people.
I love my hair but it's costing me a pretty penny 😭
KashaGlamorous Stars Omg me too! 😫😭
Ladies, I hope you find a simpler routine that is easier on your wallets!
theebajanqueen oil is the one costing me the most because my hair gets dry like everyday or every other day
try using a small application bottle and measure out the oils. i use a small spray bottle and use r oils. and measure them eith measuring spoons. the bottle is no more that a couple of ounces and what started as 1-2 uses i can get 3-4 uses out it. and i apply it by making chunky parts and appying it to my scalp or close to my roots (for moisturizers think applying a perm) and rub down the shaft vs when i use to rub products in my hands and my hair was not thouroghly moisturized or i have to use alot of product.
those have kelped me alot with keeping my hair moist and stretching the products
so true :( diy products save a lot of money . The only think i don't make is my leave in and gel .
Good topic.
The only thing I did not like about my 4c hair is that even after five years; it was still not at my desired length. This caused me to not experiment with as much styles and as a result I relaxed again in July 2016. Since then I have transitioned and big chopped again for the umpteenth time. So my journey begins again.
All I need to do now is come to a mental place where I feel just as glam with my natural hair as I do with the wigs. (I want to look like an adult not a child when I wear my natural hair).
Beautiful Dreamer ...... you will get there. It's not that difficult to maintain. Natural hair...moisture and keep clean. I did the big chop from perming decades ago... Fell in love with locs and still locing.
im hoping to big chop my perm and start over tooo.. but low manipulation styles and yes you do have to clip your ends..are necessary for hair growth
Beautiful Dreamer To the looking like an adult thing, just feel like one. Even when I don't have adult-y makeup on or when I wear cutesy clothes (Even more reason for someone to confuse me for a child), people sure as he'll don't treat me like a child. If it helps, just imagine you look more youthful and lively, rather than like a kid (a slight, but important distinction haha). Good luck sister
Im relaxing my hair today. I feel awful with a 4c blues effect
"I hate my 4c hair!"
Me: ohhh I'm stayin
Me too
Lmao Same
I don’t even wanna look at myself in the mirror when I wet my hair because of all the shrinkage 😟.
oh my god me tooooooooooooo!!!!!
Same here. I look so ugly.
@@TigerheartedWolf Same i just want 3a hair. I wanted to texturize my hair but my mom won't let me, my mom has 4a hair and I'm like bitch shut the hell up cause you don't fucking understand why i wanna change it any God damn way. She doesn't understand the struggle of 4c hair
Me too
@@munchies08 girl chill.. I understand but.. You gotta relax with that mama comment.. 🤣
I've been in the "I HATE my 4C hair" stage ever since my big chop in October 2016. I watched RUclips videos before and after the chop to get a feel for how to nourish and style my hair, but it hasn't seemed to work for me. I've been feeling a lot of regret, if I'm being honest. But I'm going to stay the course and figure it out, because it IS a journey. And by the way, I LOVE the style you're rocking in this video!
Jaqueta84 I'm so happy you've chosen to stay on course...it makes me feel proud. Sistas are so strong 💪🏽
I love my 4c hair and I love your 4c hair. I love every woman with 4c hair 🙌🏾🙌🏾
I'm happy that you've talked about this. There are so many ppl that think 4c hair is unpretty because it's not a looser curl smh. I see that a lot in our community, this is why I embrace my kinky hair at all times. Going natural a few years ago was the best decision I ever made. Yeah it might be a little more work but it's definitely worth it.
Yeah it's so "beautiful" until you've got to do that ish. I'm over it.
I was so discouraged about my hair today. I actually typed 'hate my 4c hair' into the search box and was expecting a video full of venting. But I watched this and feel so much more empowered and hopeful! Thank you for sharing this!
TBH I've kind of given up with my hair😂 I have VERY THICK hair. I don't hate my hair, I just don't care much about it anymore. Every time that I grow out my hair, I will for some reason always have to cut it off because of very split ends. Now I just put my hair in cornrows and go lol. I've watched so many RUclips videos about how to moisturize my hair, what products to buy blah blah blah, but nothing seems to work so I just do protective styling pretty much all the time. Thanks for the video! Your hair is so pretty btw😍
Riyanna Williams do you trim your hair? What about products? Are they moisturizing your hair or just sitting on top of it?
Ehizogie Obahiagbon I trim about every 3 months, but I always get single strand knots eventually. The products that I use will moisturize, but my hair drys so fast.
Riyanna Williams then it might be the product, maybe your hair isn't taking in all the moisture. Do you know your hair porosity? That can help you find products that will work
Ehizogie Obahiagbon I tried looking into, but I wasn't sure about my hair porosity. I'll look into it again though:)
Riyanna Williams I realized how important it was because it's the same with me, my hair didn't really get moisturize I mean it had an overload of creams, but idk if I've actually felt my hair actually moisturize
It took me a month since my bigchop to start embrassing my 4c hair. I was kinda feeling confident when I cut all the relaxed hair. But then the female people that surounded me killed all of it specially my mom . The natural hair movement is nt well popular in where I leave. I remember 4 days after I went natural I was in the living room and then there was my mom who started to critisize the way my hair looked to her guest. I got so mad so before I beak in front of everyone I sudently went to my room and got eveyone's attention. Couple minutes ago my om came into my my room and started to scold me by saying how I was disrespectful and so weak whenever someone say something that I don't apreciate, thta I should accept people critics, that I'm acting like a white girl...etc. I was like REALLY? but I didn't dare to say anything cuz all my life I was taught to not respond back when adults talk to you for "respect" they say --". The relation between my mom and I wasn't even good before, I was like forcing myself to have at least a conversation with her. But after what she said to me, it was worst. I don't even try anymore.
Thank god now I'm proud of my hair and I seriously love it. Whenever I look at the mirror while doing my hair I always have a smile in my face thans to you and all the other youtubers who showed the good side of 4c hair. Now theonly thing that bothers me sometimes is just how short it is but I'll get over that 😂😂
PS: Sorry for any mistaxes english is not y first language and bless to whoever read all of this long ass text!
_.CrazyBunny._ You go girl! I bet your hair is really beautiful, and I am happy you love it:)
Kamisama thank you 😊
_.CrazyBunny._ It is all about YOU and your love for yourself! I love my curly hair too! It so important that we don't let people, even moms, tell us how to hate ourselves even if they don't mean it or know they are doing it. Remember it was what they were taught to believe was beautiful. The white girl remark has nothing to do with getting talked down to in front of guest. Love that you smile, me too. with my curls❤️👍🏾
Crazy bunny I accept your apology. I am happy that you are loving your hair because at the end of the day your mother is not taking care of your hair. You are, you are the boss of it. Yes when I did the big chop (cutting off the perm) I felt like a guy walking the streets...LOL....shoo do some twists on your head, style it with some accessories girl there are sooo much styles that you can do with your hair being short as well....😍😍😍😍😍😍..... change starts with one person and a domino effect would soon follow....have crazy fun time with your beautiful 4c hair which I am as well and the stinkage girllllllll....LOL ANOTHER TIME CRAZY BUNNY
Lisa Pierce on't you're so sweet! I just needed these types of comments to motivate me more💗 Thank you😙
I am a 37 year old light skin black woman with freckles and light brown hair...my mother hot combed my 4c hair until I was old enough for a perm. So all my life I believed my hair texture was bad and I never went without a perm or weave. 8 months ago something snapped in me after watching on RUclips black women embracing their natural hair. I did the big chop and started to wear wigs...I struggle with my hair because of the lack of knowledge. So watching this was very empowering for me and I'm learning more and more how to manage my beautiful 4c hair. Thank you Chizi
I feel like If those of us with 4c hair weren’t always trying to make our hair fit western beauty standards, make it longer , make every curl defined, make it fall down instead of stuck out, the we would have an easier time with our hair. But ultimately I think we’re obsessed with making it so things that it was never meant to do
Facts. I can admit it. Even tho my hair is longer I braid it to show the length and it’s a lot of maintenance
Respect to all 4c girlies out there❤️
With the wisdom of a woman 3X your age you speak so eloquently. I'm in the type 4 family and I love my hair Now...transitioning and the nightmarish tangles made me want to quit but I quickly realized it was my relaxed, limp and lifeless hair that I hated... I'm 3 months fully natural and my hair love could not have come to fruition without the support of my 4C RUclipsrs. Thx Chizi for teaching me how to truly love my hair🌹
Thank you! I wish all the ladies would show their daughters and nieces this video. It's powerful I start loving your hair younger.
I'm transitioning now for 7 months and I have 4C hair. It's getting harder and harder to manage and I have second guessed myself sometimes but this video just made me feel a lot better about things. Thank you!! More positivity for natural 4C hair!! 💕
nranderson778 how has ur natural hair been going
mrsnatadair I have mostly 4c hair (esp in front) and 4b in the back. I gotta ask how are you combing your hair???
I'm quite tender headed but my hair hasn't hurt me with combing since I was a kid and my mom used to yank my hair by combing when dry!
The comb doesn't glide through at all times obviously, but it never hurts me anymore now. Are you still coming your hair dry? You should be doing it when damp with product or oils. If you are maybe try detangling in the shower with slippery conditioner(even the cheap ones). I can't see how if you use proper technique that combing should hurt.
I almost went back a couple of times but I'm so glad i didn't. I have been natural since 2015. Years ago I never ever would have thought to go natural, it wasn't beautiful to me then. My sister went natural and I gained a lot of respect and appreciation for our hair. I started experimenting. Recently I started cowashing with a mixture of raw apple cider vinegar and a detangling conditioner, and i love good deep conditioner.
@@chrisnicoleofficial Sometimes I wonder if store bought hair products for black hair are a scam. Sometimes they seem to make the hair worse and you end up going back and spending more money on more products, repeatedly.
I literally was just crying the other day because my natural hair has never done what I wanted it to and every time I went natural my texture was different but for the first time I felt so ugly and upset and frustrated with my hair I don’t want to wear a wig and protective styles to feel beautiful and I felt so defeated but this video is exactly what I needed like I legit stood in the shower crying praying to God to show me why he blessed me with this hair (I’m crying while typing this) but you just gave me so much life and happiness and I’m so happy about my hair right now most definitely have to watch your videos to see what to do with my hair I need to know best products and how to re-moisturized my hair and bring my curls back You are Blessing!!!!
Whenever I wet my 4c hair and stare at it, I think.. wow, how am I going to detangle this 😭😂
Hell yeah 😂👍
God made every "hair type" and the beautiful thing is no 2 people will Ever... have the same exact hair strand on their head. If you have hair then it's GOOD HAIR. When we say things like this its so hurtful to God because we're basically saying God you failed and screwed up because my hair or skin isn't like everyone else's. Stop comparing, We are fearfully and wonderfully made.. Embrace it, and research how to take better care of it
TheBritFix Well said👍
I love this comment, man these comments are so good in this section! Thank you so much for this. Thank you.
TheBritFix Amen
Wow amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Milly x X well said amen
I hate my natural hair and I’m just being honest. 🤷♀️
Same
@Fluffy pillows very funny..idiot!!🙄
I have 4c natural i big chopped about 3 or 4 years ago and the first i wanna say 5 months i hated my hair i wanted it to be curly and do all these styles that people with other hair types do and o truly hated my hair but now 3/4 years in im in love with my hair and i think that that only happened when i accepted that my hair is like that my hair has it's own beauty and doesn't need to be able to do all that extra to be beautiful and for some reason the more o grew to love my hair the more i grew to love the time it took to style the more i appreciated the way it looked and soon i learned how to properly take care of my hair and it was growing and i could do cute ponytails and since my hair is still short i learned that Bantu knots work and look better than buns on 4c hair and see for all y'all 4c gal complaining about not being able to do that and this and "ahhh i hate my shrinkage and i can't do ponytails" calm down because that's not true shrinkage is beautiful i actually find it very convenient for when i just wanna pop out side or when i want to have a shorter look and it shows how healthy and tight our coil and kinky hair is and it's beautiful and for those complaining about "oh my hair is so time consuming and wash days are hair and i don't know how to properly take care of my hair" one stop letting your hair feel like a chore make it and adventure and an experiment make it fun because it is and two the is no way no secret cure all routine that works on all 4c hair you need to take the time and learn about you hair like for the longest time i was following every youtuber with 4c hair and trying to get my hair to define the one day i said screw it and i just figure "4c hair does define" but i was very wrong be cause when i started loving my hair and it stopped being a chore i learned that all i was missing was oil and after that my coil defined and they were beautiful and that kept me pushing to be great and i soon after learned that all those styles i wanna do i can i can do them and so so much more so want im gonna say to y'all is WOMEN UP our hair is a goddess and should be treated as such our hair is one of the purest parts of history and most lovely parts of ourselves so if i a 15 year old can figure that one out than so can you
@@sweetiecakes252 wow, ths has got 2 be the LONGEST comment ive ever read on youtube, plus there are no periods separating the sentences..sorry, not being mean, jus sayin. 😐
@@sweetiecakes252 cap
I used to hate my 4c hair, i dont hate it anymore but i get bothered by it sometimes because it doesnt grow fast at all. if it was long i wouldnt mind wearing it out, but my twist/braid outs never come out cute, it takes too long to dry, then when its dry its like desert dry. cant put too much oil in b/c its waaaayy to hot in houston! im sweating all day!
so all i do to it is crochet braids and high puffs....
wash day i put in twists and a beany hat on top for like 2 days
all i want is for it to grown past my damn shoulders :(
This video is still helping 4c girlies 3 years later ❤️
I want to be rich just so that I can have someone on hand to take care of this head of 4e hair🙄
Same
I think it's time consuming. A real wash and go is not what a 4c person truly does. You can't just comb it. You have to be gentle with it. Any kind of breakage can set you back a whole years worth of growth and sometimes you don't even know why you got the breakage. Hours upon hours every week or so gets really tired. That's why people don't like 4c hair because a lower curl pattern is not a fragile and usually the growth pattern or cycle is better. When a woman says she gets 1/4 of growth a month you can believe it now retaining that growth is a whole other issue.
I do get that tho I'm not 4c.... I got a straighter 4b like my hair when twisted looks like synthetic hair..... I never got a perm but oooh I longed for it and thus learned to love it no matter what. thanks for the topic
yea I did that watching tyra banks show.... I may be weird but my dorm mates hair was 4c and the puffs were bannging.... like flawless
It's a love and hate thing . I love my hair when it's done but I hate doing my hair if that makes senses. For some of us it's really just laziness tbh lol at least for me but yeah I started following 4C girls on my SM platforms it changes the way you think of beauty
lauren felton I agree, right now I have a scarf on my head because I'm too lazy to moisturize and twist my hair of a twist out or finger coils. I'm frustrated all the time, because of the detangling, shedding, and the type of course hair on my head. My hair has got to be past 4c, it has to be. I'm happy when someone else does my hair, but hate my hair when I have to do it. SMH
lauren felton i tell bw that all the time wen they complain about their hair... I’m like your hair is not doing anything different than any other black womans... just be real... your lazy! And that’s alright! 😭
lauren felton same lol
I've been natural my entire life with 4C hair, I've always have lengthy hair but it was most time tough, dry, frizzy and annoying. When I was in high skl I use to get upset bcuz whenever I tried to wear my hair in a puff my Vice Principal wud tell me to do something with my hair bcuz it's looking untidy but the laid hair girls cud have their hair down but As I grew older I realize that there r other ppl out there with bigger struggles than I have with their hair won't grow but they cherish it. And with the whole natural hair movement it gave me the courage to appreciate my 4C hair more and give more attention to it in hair care. Now I'm loving my loving my hair and is loving me back. Now I'm 3 inches from waist length, it's just growing like crazy and I love that.❤️ 4C hair rocks!!! Ain't nobody can rock an Afro like us and them big juicy puffs🙌🏼❤️💯 #AppreciateIt #LoveIt #EmbraceIt #4CLove!!!
Ilonka Elskamp with length..... I do hot oil treatments, I do egg masks, I clip my ends like twice a year, let my mom massage my scalp to promote blood flow, I do protective styles sometimes to reduce the amount of friction to my ends.... that’s pretty much it. Ohhh I don’t do this all in a month, I space them out because I realize when I do not bother my hair a lot I see much more growth, well everybody is different what works for me, may not work for u.
I'm still upset with my hair. I literally wake up sad because I'm not in love with my fro. I regret going natural its been over a year.
How do you feel now love? 🙁
When it comes to Leave in conditioner, choose a Cream formula & for straight/relaxed hair choose Liquid (spray) leave in conditioners. I'm natural & cream formulas really moisturize my hair
Corey Miller - What kind of creamy conditioner do you use?
Ese Elaiho Ogx argan oil of Morocco leave in conditioner
Reasons why I have disliked my 4c hair
-Seeing youtube and other forms of media (ex tv commercial of the new shea moisture #canceled) showcase natural hair mainly as curly hair even though most black people, as far as I know, have coily hair
-Additionally in the media, when black people are shown they tend to have type 3 or straight hair and its very rare to see coily hair that isn't shaved off or extremely short
-Hair not as accepted in society compared to other hair textures (especially in the job field)
-SINGLE STRAND KNOTS
-Its more harder to find a salonist who know how to deal with your texture
neon5311 They are the problem, not your hair. God created you, and you are beautiful.
I do have a strong dislike for my 4b/c hair that I'm not sure will ever go away. I've been natural for 17 years, years before the natural movement became popular. I've tried countless different methods and advice. I've been on hair forums, watched RUclips videos, blogs, read books, lived healthy, protective styling, you name it I've tried it. I've experienced my hair at it's healthiest and not so much. I just don't like this hair because it requires so much maintenance to be healthy, grow long, and stay on my head. I hate wearing false hair, but I feel it's so necessary at times because this hair just won't cooperate. I just want hair that grows fast, doesn't break, and requires little maintenance.
I just want hair that grows fast, doesn't break, and requires little maintenance. - Type 3 hair in a nutshell.
I fully agree "k". I wish I didn't have to spend hours washing, styling and maintening. It's so time consuming.
koolyokam007 wow that's really sad😢. I'm a natural hair advocator but if u've been doing it for 17 years and it still doesn't make u happy then u should texturize/relax it. I hope I never get to where u are and if I do it doesn't take me two decades to get out of that place. Gods speed, and I wish u the happiness you hope to find in your hair.
Maxayne Spencer u don't have to😐 no body with a regular life has time for that. U don't need to pre-poo if u have a good shampoo, shampooing should literally take 50 secs coz u don't have to part in sections or detangle before it. Wash ur hair as is with something that cleans but doesn't strip ur hair. Then use a slippery Rinse out and wide tooth comb conditioner to detangle, in larger sections (about 4-6) that should take u about 10-20 mins. Then for deep conditioning u can rinse out the conditioner and just go deep condition you already detangled twisted up sections. Let the steam get in you hair while u shower. I take 15-20 min shower so it's perfect😂 and then for styling get a great moisturizer (I can recommend u some of u want) and it doesn't matter how great that moisturizer is if u don't seal. Seal. Seal. Seal all that good ness with a moisturizer. Then plait your hair in like four braids for an elongated moisturized fro. Then go about ur day. My ENTIRE wash day routine takes me 1 hour- 1hr and a half depending on the styling. This includes washing, conditioning, detangling, deep conditioning, and styling. (Doesn't include drying time which for me is overnight or air drying as I get work done) but yea it doesn't have to take forever and I swear it does get easier. Most of the things that I found that cut my hair time by like 80% were discovered on accident. Watch "the chic natural" wash day routine. She literally does everything in this long ass dissertation in a few mins and makes it easy to understand.
Maxayne Spencer watch "the chic natural" wash day routine and I swear it'll cut ur wash day by like 80% u don't need to do a lot of extra things that people do. Ur wash day will literally only take u an hr. And I have the kinkiest hair there is and her video works great for my hair too. Pls @ me or reply if U have any questions😁
I love love love my 4c hair. I love the way it looks (i've gotten to the point where I prefer the way 4c hair looks over other textures). For me its easier to manage than my relaxed hair (but that could just be because I know more about taking care of my hair now than I did when I was relaxed).
A big thing for me is I will go outside with a fro. I'll wake up, pull it out a bit and go (i'm known for not giving a f*ck what other think about my hair/clothes/etc choices tho lol). I've stopped caring too much about twist outs and trying to "define" it. The cotton look is SO PRETTY!
I hated my 4c until I got dreadlocks!!! Now I love it more than ever
It sometimes grow faster than 3c
I love my hair. I HATE the comments I get about it. Some just dont see the beauty in it and it can really mess with your self esteem if you let it. For me, I'm trying to learn that everything that is said, I dont need to always take in. Its their opinion. That's all. I love me and my 4C hair and I feel sorry for those that don't. Keep your head up, Queens!
I was really curious about how my natural hair would look for the longest (my mom glorified me getting a relaxer and I got one at the age of 10 until I was 19). At 19 I started to transition until eventually.....i had a big ass fro lol. & the fro is sooooo dope. Feel like Pam Grier. & I should probably change my profile pic on here lol but what makes me appreciate the texture I have is knowing that it is unique to me. There is no other hair that grows from someone else's head the same way it does for mine. & also silencing naysayers because there are always people who won't appreciate Type 4 hair because they are jealous of your confidence & beauty. Having a strong sense of self and love for self is important with things like this (well all things lol)
Cello21777 😀 I love that!!!
One of the previous commenters was comparing the natural hair movement of today to that of the 60s and 70s. She mentioned that nowadays there are far more styling options and products to experiment with. That much is completely true. I'm telling my age here, but what made the previous natural hair movement more positive, was that it wasn't about length-retention or "curls-a-poppin'" or reaching "hair goals" or any of that. It was simply about being BLACK. The movement came at the height of the Civil Rights era and being Black was IT. So, as she said, some people braided their hair at night and picked it out in the morning to have a looser afro, but most people just slept on theirs, applied a little AfroSheen, picked it, patted it, and rocked it in a completely natural state. Now THAT was a REAL "wash-n-go". Many women wore short afros and never looked sexier and more feminine and beautiful. It wasn't about getting one's hair to look or behave a certain way, or to be like so-and-so's hair, or reach a certain length. It was about letting your hair be and look like YOUR hair. Black women with loose curls were trying to make their hair curlier so they could rock an afro too. People whose hair hung down were mad about it!!! Even White people were getting perms so they could flaunt a gravity-defying "fro". Hopefully, with time and continued discussion we can have a natural hair movement that grows and evolves and is more than just a trend. A movement not so aimed at achieving a certain 'look' or length that, for many of us, may be unattainable, unrealistic and, ultimately, unimportant. Seeing 75-85% of Black women and girls in weaves and wigs is disturbing and disheartening. All that pulling, stitching and those heavy wefts of hair are killing our follicles AND our self-image! I miss the days when we rocked what GOD gave us, short or long. Keep the videos coming, +Chizi Duru, and the dialog going . . .
To be clear, I am all for style versatility and growth-retention aims. And I am certainly all about healthy, moisturized, thriving hair. What I don't think the natural hair movement should generally be about are the ideals of super-defined, big, silky curls or having hair that is waist length or longer. I mean, that's cool if you can do all that without spending all your free time in the attempt. But the main goal should be to discover, appreciate, cultivate, love, and admire the beauty in you and your hair in all your GOD-given glory. And you, Black woman, ARE glorious and wonderfully made.
Haha. My father had silky curly hair and grew up in the 70’s/80’s. He was one of those men that tried his darnest to get a kinky Afro. Since the 90’s/2000’s he has been wearing it completely curly. I can completely relate to your comment
Your Boo's Boo I’m rite with you. I wore my Afro in the 70s and braiding at night pick it out in the morning was all I did my hair was big and flourishing well . When I went back 5 years ago I first jump on the high maintenance wagon lol but after I chopped my hair off I went back old school and it’s once again growing and flourishing out my scalp beautifully. Love my hair, love being a black queen as well 😉
Your Boo's Boo
I am not and will not go back to getting a perm and I will not for dang sure do a texturizer AT ALL....now every once a while I’ll be a wig on and crochet but I just can’t. I can’t.
I feel inspired😇
i loved my hair frm day one I went natural 2014 and said my only regret is I WISH I HAD WENT NATURAL 20 YEARS AGO🙁 .....😍😙💋I LOVE MY 4C HAIR 💖💖💖💖💖💖💕💕💖💖
Bridget Burkett yasss! I love my curls. And I really don't find it that difficult to take care of. I have multitexture, so my hair is doing the most, and I still will never be going back to any chemical, nor do I flat iron, nor do I wear wigs or weaves. I love my hair. I tried it in college and I wish that all this knowledge would have been available then.
I'm just tired of the fact that all these other people big chop and in a year their hair is at their shoulders I'm 2 years in and it's just now reaching my ears 😑
@didi you’re probably not retaining length…make sure you
trim your ends when they appear see through . make sure to keep your hair moisturizer. sleep with silk pillow case or silk bonnet. try to finger detangle before using comb or brush. i suggest using wide tooth comb and not brush because the bristles can be a little harsh on delicate afro hair, but you can use what you want. make sure you also
drink water .. make sure to be careful with your hair as afro hair is delicate. try to wash your hair more often and deep condition
On time video.... I was literally saying to myself this morning " I really just don't find myself sexy with my natural hair." It's cute I can make it stylish but I feel like I look older and I do not feel like I look sexy. But I know that this is a journey and in order to reach my destination as successful I have to keep walking my journey. #GOALS
Me too... that's why I have become a protective style girl. Just last week I tried wearing my hair and it's a hot mess. After 2 weeks of the consistent failure (wash n go, twist out, flat twist, new products etc) I gave up. Ran to the beauty supply and finished another crochet style in 4 hours. Just don't need all the drama in my life these days. Need to keep it simple!
When I first went natural, I did the big chop and had 1cm of hair on my head. I felt so uncomfortable even though the ppl around me complimented me. For me to get over it I stopped wearing hats, earrings and any type of make-up (I wasn't really into make-up at the time anyway) for weeks and here I am ~7yrs later going out with no shame in the hair or face that God gave me. Nowadays I even prefer to see myself with short hair!
Is it weird that as a 4b/4c girl that I have always loved my hair. And I don't think it happened by pick or chance, but just by the kind of environment my mother have me growing up. My 4b/4c, THICK (I mean NO mercy in the thick department), bra strap length hair has always been something my mother and father told me was the best thing about me. I NEVER had a relaxed but my grandmother did give me a texturizer and my mother nearly chocked her🤣🤣 But my parents always told me how beautiful my hair was even if society wasn't going to do it. My thing has always been length. I loved my hair but I've always had a lot of it and it was very long so have been contemplating big chopping in order to really gain more confidence in how I would look with no hair at all. Because when you big chop I notice my friends that have, first of all have BOMB FEATURES 😂😂😂, but most of all have a better understanding of themselves and almost hold up the middle finger to society's beauty standards. That their own standard of beauty is the one they make.
I told my mother and father this and they were actually more than supportive. I remember my father even telling me that a black woman's strength, courage, and passion is what makes her truly beautiful. That in the face of societal pressure to adhere to a more European standard that there still some of us that go against the grain and accept and love ourselves for who we really are.
As a type four girl I never hated mine either. however I didn't have the same support. took a while for my mom to warm up
I'm going through the same situation at this very moment. I'm getting there...
4c hair is the most unique and magical hair type.
The amount of sh*t that I have done to my naturally course hair is astonishing. The fact that I still have hair on my head is a testament to how strong this hair type is . I love my hair now after understanding it and how to take care of it.xoxo
I'm gonna have to disagree on that
These ladies have my respect, not nice your hair hurts you sometimes and all the work you put in x
4c hair is very pretty when its taken care of and styled right. However, having thin/fine 4c hair is another story, which is what I have, b/c no matter how I style it it just doesn't look right b/c it's not full which takes away from the look of it, and it breaks easily. But i guess I should be grateful as I'm not bald.
Sarah P. My 4c hair is fine/ thin too and it's so frustrating because I replicate these styles that other 4c youtubers do and mine just looks like crap. I'm so tempted to just cut it all off but it'll prob still regrow fine/thin again so I don't get the point.
Sarah P. I also have fine 4c hair but ok let me help 1) get a water filter if you live in a state with hard water the minerals in the water will build up on your hair and break it off. It also effects shampoos and conditioners 2) don't mess in your hair too much our is is the most fragile hair type like thin glass 3) olive oil lol 4) alphgee protein treatments 1 a month 5) keep your scalp clear.. if you have scalp issue looking into onion and garlic shampoo 6) lco liquid/bottle water cream/any leave in and oil/olive oil 7) keep it down like I do the lco method every other night and braid it down put a scarf on and wear a wig. 8) no small combs only big tooth combs or finger comb 9) scalp message.... that all for breakage as far as thin hair for me it's genetic nothing I can do about that but find styles(braids or wigs lol) for thin hair.
Sarah P. YES!!!! I have 4c hair which is very short and very thin. I have never tried any of the styles because I KNOW they will NOT look right so all i do is wear braids because Im to embarrassed to do anything else. And Lately it has been falling out like crazy. So now it really looks a mess.I cant win for losing.
ladydede88 good tips thank you😊
My hair is just like this and I can't stand it. I want to wear it, but 15mins later it is a hot mess. The shrinkage is real. I like to have a more polished looked but I can't with my texture. I am considering shaving it off and putting a texturizer on it and be done. Low and easy.
i love a good twist out on my 4C hair
Cashmera Huddleston unparalleled. Unmatched. Love my 4c twist out weapons.
Sometimes I just feel like mostly men like curly hair I think 3a 3
Canal Da Ina you mean BLACK men 😂, my husband is hispanic and loves my 4b hair lol
jamie andersonn dude yes lol my bf is Hispanic to and he love my hair fuck
Hell Queen LMAO YOU JUST DRAGGED A BITCH
jamie andersonn
Many people who come from those Spanish speaking countries discriminate against afro latinas too lol
That’s so true
Perception is key. This is negative af. Loving my 4C/B hair and loving myself completely 🥰🥰🥰
I have 4c hair n sometimes i get annoyed with it but wouldnt trade it for anything else i know why i went natural n im happy with the results i came a long way lol
my mother despises my 4c hair. not only her my dad wants me to get a perm too. the only person who likes it is my sister. they don’t like it because it’s not the “social media type” curly hair they see. she calls my hair nappy and I should cut it off because I’m “at that age”.
I’m so sorry, what did you do?
Im 13, I have NEVER hated my 4c hair! I dont think its hard to manage, even though its barely collar bone length I still love it with all my heart. I dont think anyone could ever change that either🤷🏽♀️ I really be feelin myself when i take my box braids out 🤪😂
PrincessEdits frl girl I’m 15 and when I be taking the box braids out I be geeked like yes sis how many inches did I grow this month🔥🔥🤙
Yasss! Loved this video! People with 4c hair have the most and are the most unique people in the world, because nobody share our hair around the globe.
Thank you, again for your honesty and for having this conversation! There are many of us who feel or have felt this way and no one should be scrutinized for their feelings. Unless you have our hair...you don't know the struggle! lol The other side of this issue is something you've captioned and that's self acceptance. We have to know that even though we experience our own level of frustrations with managing our texture (as everyone does), proper care and truly embracing our mane gives our kinks and curl new life!
I personally like a more controlled look and with my active lifestyle, I tire of trying to maintain the look that I want daily, so I have heavily relied on Senegalese twists. I stumbled upon your channel because tomorrow I will be getting a wash, treatment, and twist out--wearing my own hair (sans braids) for a while, which I haven't done in almost 5 years. Your channel is honest and informative. Keep it up!
I think in the USA it is more difficult to love black hair because of the media. Here in Latin America it is a totally different story the media here it is not as agresive and you can do anything that you want with your hair. The only ones that give u issued are your own families
Mai R. Now that's a bold faced lie. Even Latin Americans like Amara Le Negra have spoken up about being singled out or teased because of her dark skin and hair texture. In Latin America, the lighter the better and same goes for hair, the straighter the better. For example, in Brazil they don't accept darker women in the media. They didn't want a dark Brazilian to be Miss Brazil a few years ago and it was a whole media frenzy. In DR, there's a campaign to send dark and Haitian/Dominicans to Haiti. And Mexicans are flat out racist against Blacks and darker Mexicans. Please let me know which parts you are talking about so I know where to go when I visit.
you named three countries and spoke only of what you heard through the media...but you're doubting an ACTUAL latino who is stating facts..uh ok
@@jaedawilliams8162 that happens in some latin countries,(I'm Brazilian)
Great video. I have 4c hair growing up my no one had anything positive to say about my hair type. My sister who had "the good hair" was the hair topic of praise lol. Knowing what I know now and having grown out my hair to a decent length I can now look after my two daughters hair who both have different textures which echo my sister and i but now I know how to empower both my daughters who are still little to love their hair and each other's as well as my son to love and appreciate our type of hair and the women who own it! I proudly own my hair without the fuss of styling, but keep it healthy and lush, it's coily, thick and prone to tangles but love it still. Just own with pride and heads will turn on awe x
I come from Africa and in there most girls relax their hair because they want it to be straight. Growing up I started perming my hair when I was younger. I didn't hate my natural hair, I just didn't know about it because most girls straightened it. My mom and sister growing up had huge Afro,'s and Afro's were a thing in the 70's in Ghana but they straightened it not cause they hate it. I started doing natural because I just wanted to have the hair I was born with. Some children in Africa see straighter hair as better. And they grow up seeing white dolls (not hating on any race) instead of themselves so they feel self conscious about their skin and hair. And result to bleaching hitch leads to skin damage and over relaxing which damages the scalp. I wish people struggling can see this because I love my hair.
Barbara Marbell I was relaxed too. I transitioned and I am one year and some months natural
@Samara Mutinda it depends on which country
This actually made me cry because I’m struggling so much with loving and caring for my hair. I constantly am bombarded with appreciation for 3B-4B hair; that 4B seems to be the most kinky “acceptable” grades. I’ve been asking a lot, why don’t women with 4C hair get the same amount of appreciation and recognition, and when we do, why is it only when we stretch and manipulate our hair? What’s wrong with our hair in it’s completely natural state? It’s gotten to the point where I look at my hair when the Bantu knots fade and when it shrinks back after I’ve picked and detangled and be so unhappy with it that I want to curl in a ball and cry. Hearing you speak so positive about our hair really made me feel not only guilty about how I felt (I don’t mean this in a negative way) but you made me feel like I actually could do this and start learning to appreciate my hair. You’re literally the voice I need.
I get those moments almost everyday, but I care for it anyway. And the results that I get from caring for my hair are phenomenal that I even fall in love with it all over again. I just love it 💕💕💕💕
I absolutely love my 4C hair ! I always get complements on my hair and I love how versatile & big it gets ✨😍😍 yess the shrinkage is real! ❤️ but I’m embracing my natural hair journey 3 years.
Serious question, what lipstick are you wearing!!!! I love that shade, and its so hard to find a pinkish shade that works on dark skinned girls.
I totally understand this video. My frustration with my natural hair is how unpredictable it is. You can do a twist out on Monday and Wednesday and come out with 2 different looks.🤣
I'd just like to take a minute and say thank you so much for posting this video. EVERYTHING you said I could totally relate to. My mom and sister have looser curl patterns than me and I've always wished I had their hair and wondered why I was the oddball. I used to always hide my hair under "protective styles". If I had to take it out, I would only do so over the weekend and come in with a brand new "protective style on Monday. I never saw my hair as beautiful because I could never find someone around me with my hair texture. I just learned to let my hair do its own thing and to love it even when I wanted to pull it all out. This video was a reminder of where I was during that time and how far I've come. Though it may not always cooperate, I love my 4C hair.
I'm actually really glad I decided to look up things on natural hair today and that I found your videos. I love that you brought this topic up because it's one that I really needed to feel free enough to talk about. I started my natural hair journey 2 years ago because my friends started it too and encouraged me to join. Now while some of my friends had it easier and had their hair growing quickly, I and some other friends had ours grow slowly. Right now I feel like I'm the only one still behind on this journey (although I started later I guess). I expected mine to grow as fast and full and thick and luscious as theirs but over the last 6 months, I feel like my hair has been stagnant and so stubborn. To me it looks so dry and scanty (although I've had random people tell me my hair looks beautiful) I just feel like it could be fuller and thicker. I feel like my hair isn't at the length it should be after 2 years. My shrinkage is just ridiculous. Like if I stretch my hair it's fairly below my shoulders but when it shrinks it look like I just had a fresh cut. Asides the length I feel like my hair doesn't curl beautifully like other peoples do even when I put all the products in. I've come to understand that part of it is that I am still learning about my hair, and what works for it and what doesn't. I truly do love my hair. I love it so much but I'm just trying to navigate ways to better help my hair grow and flourish so that it can reach that level of beauty that I know it has potential to have :) It's a matter of patience and care right now
I have a daughter with 4c hair, and Lord Jesus it’s hard for me to do! I wish I knew how to cornrow myself, cause it’s hard getting other people to do it on the regular. That’s what brought me to this video. Your hair is cute like that!