Lonely in Bali. Is it a thing?
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- Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024
- On today’s morning walk around Ubud, Bali, I stumble upon a creative village which has decorated it’s paths with inscriptions as well as hanging recycled bottles on its walls to hold plants.
I talk with a palm leaf seller and ask him about his day, where he lives, and whether his business is busy or not.
We also meet a fish seller in the market who explains where his fish comes from and the local name for prawns. He tells us where he operated previously in central Ubud.
The question was raised to me about loneliness and if I experienced it and I offer my thoughts on the people I’ve met who may be a little lonely and what you might be able to do to combat the issue.
Another great day walking the lanes of Ubud.
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Emma and steve here. Thank you once again for your wonderful content Wayne. yes, we're stuck here in Ubud for another week.
not complaining though. 😂❤😂
Our love and thoughts are with those affected by this event 🙏.
Suksma 🙏
I guess if you've got to be stuck somewhere, Steve...Hope everything goes smoothly from here.
I travel on my own to bali and I am never lonely always someone to talk to from locals to other tourists .
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Hi Jos. I think that's one of the bonuses of Bali that most people regardless of whether they're local or traveller are happy to have a chat.
Wayne, I liked listening to your thoughts on being alone vs. being lonely. You are a deep thinking man!
Hi Sudden. Thanks. I'm not sure whether I'm a deep thinker or not - maybe. :)
Hi Wayne, love what you bring to RUclips and I'm so envious, its very different to all the other blogs and I thank you for that. I only have one complaint - not long enough, we want more! Maybe add an afternoon segment if you're not to busy :). Sunny regards Lawrence.
Hey lozz, that's very kind of you, thanks. I am considering starting another channel which would be just a walk and talk through the streets which doesn't take much effort to edit and manage - this would be done in the afternoon. I'm still considering it ands will announce it when a decision is made. Appreciate you taking the time. Cheers.
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Thanks.
Hi Wayne you're very busy making videos every day!! Very kind of you to remind viewers and those inconvenienced by the volcanic eruption of the Indonesians who have died and been displaced by this event. Your word of the day was from the seller with the ute when you asked him if home was far away he replied kurang lebih satu kilo = more than or less 1klm. Kurang = less or minus and lebih = more than.
Hi Daniel. iHa! I'm going to have to start paying you for your language help soon - thanks! And I have a new found respect for those in the RUclips community who produce daily vlogs for months on end - it's certainly a busy morning. Appreciate you taking the time as you do, Daniel. Cheers.
I look forward to coming home to watch one of your vlogs..... thank you
That's a lovely thing to say. thank you, Deb.
Wow, big respect for you that you touched this subject! 🙏
You are so right, the Balinese are so welcoming and friendly, there is no real need to be lonely in Bali, a real contrast compared to the Western world.
If people suffer from mental health issues, then they should seek help, probably best to do so in the country where they're from, happiness comes from within! 😊
Hi Steven. These are things we need to talk about. Asia can be a lonely place for a few. Cheers.
Valuable musings: especially as one gets older (I'm now in my 80s) loneliness is a well-recognised problem for many, whether in Bali or on home turf. Fortunately for me, my wife insulates me from this. And I agree that it's important to limit the temptation of the beer-fuelled social life! Hope the volcano disruption is over by the time you have to leave.
Hi kmcg. I'm quite envious of those like yourself who've a staunch partner by your side to ward against potential loneliness as we get older. And I'd wager the chances of becoming part of the beer-fueled expat community for single guys is a lot higher than some might consider. It seems planes are flying again so hopefully there'll be no need to change the return ticket to KL or Singapore.
Hi Wayne I’m the same , When I travel I’m always chasing that elusive photo keeps me alert no way I can get lonely
Hi paul. It';s really important to have somethinh like a hobby if you're staying somewhere long-term. photography is a great one to have.
Wise words Wayne, love ya channel.
Hey Jonesy, thanks. Always grateful you take the time. Cheers.
The locals really warm to you because you have taken the time and trouble to learn Bahasa Indonesia. I decided that I would learn Basa Bali which is considerably more difficult due to the caste system and lack of resources but it is well worth the effort in terms of reactions alone. Bali can be lonely, Its nice to have a girl on the back of your motorbike and prepare your temple offerings for you. If you get lonely go for a massage and chat with the massage girl while she works her magic on you. Another great video Fiasco.
Hey retribution. thanks as always for contributing as you do.learning the language even with the most basic understanding reveals so much more about where you are. The local people are much more willing to engage and by extension creates a closer relationship to them. cheers.
By the size of the fish, clearly they have out fished the place. I travel solo and never get lonely, l get out a lot and walk too. For someone staying there long term doing nothing it could for many be lonely without having interests. I was there for 3 months during covid and l was on my own in Ubud, l was more anxious not knowing when l will eventually get home, in fact Ubud was scary during that time. Thank goodness for travel insurance they paid everything.
I think walking is one of the best things you can do for yourself. I find it not only helps physically, but also seems to make you just feel better overall. COVID must have been a frustrating experience for many people, I reckon.
Hey Wayne, 'Wherever you go, there you are' Mind if I use that please? Great words and very meaningful.
Thanks Ian👍
Hi Ian. You may. Good to see you.
Keren 🇮🇩👍.
Thank you.
Some really poignant statements amongst those few short minutes. Very well said. 👍
Thanks, Kirk. Having had a look down some dark tunnels while living and traveling in Asia I think it's something we should talk about more - especially for those who spend extended periods of time here. Thanks for stopping by.
Yes very true
Great advice. If one's soul is sated, one will be happy wherever they are.
Just on volunteering, just be aware that some visas do not allow volunteering. I don't know why, and I doubt authorities would do anything, but just to be aware.
Thanks Jenny. It's important to remind people there are visa restrictions on certain activities. and each person should check to see what they are and are not allowed to do.
Yea mate. I have seen many people drink themselves to death in bali. Always good to keep busy and active, i was like.that 10 yrs ago so i stopped drinking and bought a boat, it gave me so much to do to keep busy😊
A few of us have been caught in that trap I think, SC. It's a lot of fun of course and keeps you entertained but long term I think it has its consequences. Good one on getting a boat!
even the smallest walkways seem to have a fair share of traffic nowadays. A real killer IMHO. Regarding loneliness it is crucial to stay long enough in any place to make some "friends". Beeing constantly on the run will make it pretty difficult to have enough social interactions (locals and not). Hanging around in expat bars (remember Harry's in Cambodia?) is pretty boring as those places tend to be infested with that hard drinking part of (s)expats. Not my cup of people.
I agree you have to stay long enough to develop a network of friends as it's near impossible to cultivate relationships otherwise. And it's probably advisable to spend some time in the place you're thinking of moving to long-term before actually doing it. The hard drinking bar life might suit others but I like yourself find they become rather predictable and boring. Although you can meet some characters there occasionally. :)
@@fiascodagama1 judging from your videos you seem to have found a sweet spot for a long term stay. Why not try to settle in Bali and deepen the relationships you started? Long term visas seem available with little hurdles.
@@Trufflefairy You're onto it, Truffle. I'm considering planting myself in Ubud with a long-term visa as the place seems to suit me well. And as you say this will allow the relationships I've fostered here to develop further.
Bagus sekali brother 🫡
Cheers, db. Appreciate it.
Kalau kesepian tinggal main kewarung beli jajan sambil ngobrol dengan pemilik warung.
Hopefully they will extend the visas for people who can't fly out now, without extra costs.
Hi Ninette. You'd hope with these types of events beyond people's control that certain concessions would be made for potential visa overstayers, wouldn't you?
@@fiascodagama1 I sure would ;-)
Selemat sore, Wayne, Baru dapat dari toko kopi di CA. Lots of old, white people sitting alone drinking coffee, while women with dogs sitting in their cars, alone! What's great about Bali is the social interaction with locals & tourists to raise your dopamine levels, not happening here! Consider getting a skin check in Australia. Now researching since my recent diagnosis of skin cancer from long ago fun in the sun in Indonesia. Statistics in Australia shown 1 in 3 men with actinic kerotosis(precancerous lesions) & basal carcinoma(bcc). Envy your public healthcare with medicare rebates, especially on the Gold Coast for skin cancer treatments. Are you concerned about unexpected, health events in Bali? I've had dengue fever in Bali & malaria in Timor, was treated very well but now have different health issues. Terima Kasih.
Hi Liz. I have annual skin cancer checks as public awareness has improved dramatically in Australia concerning the dangers of the sun. Last year I had two small basal carcinomas removed and expect more will present themselves in time due to being uneducated in my youth. Health concern are always there I guess as we get older but I don't want to live in much fear about it, preferring to live life to the full while I can. i've also had a swath of illnesses like dengue but it kind of goes with the territory a little, I think. You sound like you've been quite the traveler.
It's actually impossible to go for a walk on your own in East Java. Someone will ask you where you're going. And then accompany you, as it is considered 'mentally unhealthy ' to do so alone.
That's quite caring isn't it? That your community would consider it unhealthy for you to be alone and take the measure of accompanying you on your walk so you feel better. I'm really enjoying your insights to living in Indonesia, Ed. Thanks for your contributions.
Interestingly, although Indonesia has, allegedly, the largest Muslim population in the world ... Bali is home to a huge Hindu population! 🎉 The back story is very interesting, to say the very least! 😊
Bali's history is something i'd personally like to understand better.
@@fiascodagama1 bali history is very sad... so sad
I think over the years as families have gotten smaller and many people are single and the internet provides entertainment and information many are leady more solitary lives , but that isn't about lonely , it's about alone ,2 vastly different things , 🤔
Hi veronica. I agree, being alone is vastly different to being lonely. And with the advent of the internet we have become a little more insulated in life, I think. Compulsory attendance at the dinner table for all family members should possibly be a thing. :)
@fiascodagama1 Interesting you make the comment regarding the dinner table ,the grandkids are coming for a few months , teenagers and one of the rules is dinner table and no phones 🤗
@@veronicabatteham9864 Glad to hear it!
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