I’ve had an abusive partner who has physically and sexually harmed me. It’s a good thing that I left him. Because it was so toxic that I began to wonder: “Will I survive if I stay with him”?
oh you forgot Change your address block them from social media change your social accounts (if blocking them doesnt work) DO not go back wanting a second chance get cameras for your knew house make sure they are not showing up to your work place Move.....yep move to a new country ,planet even (jk) Get them mental help (from afar distance dont go near them ,like send mial from a public location) move on
If you are in a abusive relationship you should Leave....Its hard, sometimes you feel traped but you can`t let it put you down.....Use the internet,find a good job follow your passions aand it will be fine :-)...,Eat healthy,stay calm and don`t let the messed up situation drive you mad! ;-)
One of my friends was in a abusive relationship and she didn't tell anyone for almost a year. She finally got rid of him and now he's moved out of the state
THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH You're the BEST! My cousin was in this and I told her about your vid, she was scared but you helpt her and she contact one of them THANK YOU SO MUCH subscribing you was not a mistake I Can't THANK YOU ENOUGH!!!!!!!!! : )
Thanks for uploading, even if I may not need this now, it's helpful. If you need suggestions, why not what to do when two best friends fall out, and you're stuck in the middle? Even worse, it's over a boy...
+Emma Wish lol what happened. did she kick him in nuts so hard, that he could not sexually abuse you anymore :D? If yes.........That is what I call revenge!
DV is also family members as well children against parents and parents against children ? Child against child that goes well beyond normal sibling rivalry.
Easier said than done. What if this person trying to leave doesn't have a job or family support, or afford shelter, food, health insurance for their children? All the things he's provided?
Had this problem with an old Girlfriend. Tried to seperate me from friends who I have known and grown super close too over years, multiple people had warned me after I started dating her. I'm generally a nice person so anytime I couldn't talk forever I had to deal with her pretending to be super depressed and I felt obligated to help her. Only after a few months did I realize what was happening so I got the fuck out. Texted me a few months later and asked if I still cared about her, I just said exactly what I saw and felt and said don't bother responding to this cause I am not gonna answer anything you say
Moldymortz0720 Wellcast have been reuploading.She means that there is only a few videos to reupload and hope a the cycle doesn't start again. Hopefully that made sense and helped. :)
Hmm, anyone here to see if they're a suspect? I am :( but that's only because I am a victim too! I started abusing when she did. I'm ending the relationship tomorrow.
Watchwellcast thank you so much you helped me leave from my ex girlfriend she was a psycho and she drained my bank and make her pregnant that's when she took it too far thanks and bye
What about if you realize that you're being abusive but don't know how to keep yourself from flaring up? I haven't actually been an abuser, but I feel like I've gotten close. While I don't want to ever become one, I even less want to become one and not know how to stop it.
One of the ways is to recognise that not everyone thinks like you do and therefore would have different priorities. With that in mind, consider that the other person has a different view on a situation you both are facing and therefore ask yourself this question: "If I was in their shoes, would I like it if I had said/done that to them?" When asking this question, aim to be honest; be transparent to your rational mind and leave no stone unturned when doing this. Having a neutral party who would look at the situation rationally without any expectation of reward or punishment from either of you would be helpful. This could be a family member like mother or father; but that depends on circumstances. Even better would be to get a professional counsellor to see it from the neutral stance. Ofcourse, don't expect the counsellor, whoever it may be, to fix the relationship. They can only facilitate the healing, like how a band-aid would on a wound. They simply make it easier. However try to see it from their point of view yourself. After you've tried it yourself and there was little/no success, you may move on to a support. :)
so we're talking about leaving abusive relationship,what about how to stop being abusive?Recently I fucked up a bit(a lot) cuz I felt jealous and Insecure and now my partner claims it's straight up abuse,but even though I did it on purpose not gonna lie I love them and I don't want to fuck up any further..though Im scared I might jump at me out of nowhere and would mean the end of my relationship..
Except for the sexually part. This all applies to me, but I can't get out of it because it is my mom. I have no friends to help me. Any advice? I'm scared.
Not sure how old you are. Good for you reaching out for help. It would be a good idea to call a number in your area violence and abuse in your area. That would be a start and you probably don't have to say alot to get very helpful information. You need guidance and support. There is mention of teacher or guidance counsellor. It would be nice to know how it's going. Best to you brave soul for trying .
I have a friend who doesn't want to talk to me any more. It's my fault, I shouldn't have left her alone for a long time. Do you want to talk about what she has done? Fix it Felix can fix it, but I can give you tips.
Gemene tell you counselor you should have one at your. school or if you are getting hit, go to a friends house after school tell their parents and ask them for help. If its really bad tell the police, they should call up a social worker. DO NOT TELL YOU FATHER he might try to look as good as possible
Steven Lariz Well, I'm kinda conflicted now, in a hand, I'm happy to hear that you're safe and that you aren't in an abusive relationship after all, In the other hand, I kinda feel like fooled since I was being sincere, hoping that I was helping someone with a problem. And in another hand (Three hands? Wow XD) I thank you for consider me a good person after all, I also hope that there are other nice people out there. But anyway, hope you the best. =)
i thought its normal your parents abuse you?well to me its normal...its already a habit and they torture my feelings,i deserve it tho cuz i fight with my younger brother
Same vapid shallow video as the Toxic people video... you might as well have just re-uploaded the Toxic video and added a short bit about dial-ling 911 or whatever emergency number in your area if in immediate danger. But, seriously, unless you are in immediate danger, why should one follow the steps in your video? There IS a reason you entered into the abusive relationship (or that it became abusive later on). Generally, it takes two to tango, so the comment by the video that it isn't *your* fault is not accurate. Usually, it is the fault of both parties to some extent or no one's fault at all and you just need healthier communication. If you are abusive to your partner, he/she might avoid you or abuse you back. If you allow yourself to be a doormat, lots of people will walk all over you, not just your partner. Heck, your kids will too if you're not careful. Relationships should be about love, romantic or not. It doesn't help your abusive partner to abandon them.. it will only make him/her feel rejected or isolated.. making the abusive anger worse or making the sadness/depression causing the anger they had worse. At the same time, you cannot help someone if you're dead or too shocked from abuse to do much. Don't make excuses for yourself or your partner, regardless of which of you you think is being abusive. Just like the one and only good suggestion made in the toxic video...set reasonable boundaries for yourself and the partner. You cannot make your partner behave a certain way but you can try to set up an environment of mutual trust and respect. You might still have to leave the partner or let them leave you, but your goal shouldn't be to leave or judge or hurt the person, nor should it be to stay in the abuse. The goal should be to be safe and to love the partner if still possible. You cannot love the partner if they won't let you, or if you're not safe and relatively healthy yourself. And think about these various possibilites: What is to prevent the abuser from abusing you or someone else again in the future? Are they really an abuser or just a person who happened to have been abusive for specific reasons? Again, don't excuse, just try to understand so that you can forgive and find a way to correct the bad behavior or help them to do so. Are you really blameless? Was the abuse isolated or a pattern of behavior? What is to prevent you to entering into another almost identical relationship again? This is why I said the video is shallow. Relationships are much more complicated than the video lets on. If it were as simple as this, people would never be in abusive relationships (at least not for long). But this isn't realistic. People tend to re-enter the same relationship and set up the same dynamics over and over. People have habits, good and bad, and it is important to recognize this. It is also important to notice what is good and bad about your relationship, was it this way the whole time and you just did not notice or did something cause it to become this way over time (or a traumatic event)? It is all well and good to escape further abuse but whether you make up with the same person or find someone new, you'll likely fall into the same habits again if you don't do something about it. Go to counseling with your partner. If they refuse or you're already broken up, go yourself.. examine yourself.. Ask yourself, am I attracted over and over to a certain kind of person or was it just this one relationship? And ultimately, stop labeling and blaming and excusing yourself or others. It isn't a toxic or abusive relationship. Like showing care and love, being cold or abusive are actions. They may be bad habits, but they're still conscious decisions by people to do what they do. Plus, there are grey areas here. Feeling disrespected and being disrespected are not the same things. Sometimes people are too hard on themselves, other times, they're too full of themselves. This is why open and honest communication made in a loving logical constructive manner is important. Unlike in the video, in real life, people need to make adjustments and compromises, both people (or all people if talking about families, schools, businesses etc). The goal should be to work together so that everyone can prosper. While this is not always possible, it generally is possible and while it is hard work, it is generally easier than people might think. But remember, you should not force others .. even if you could and usually you can't anyway. This means, even if you want to communicate and work towards the common good and foster an environment of mutual trust, love and respect, it still might not happen. This is a hard lesson I've had to learn in life lately, having recently been on both ends of this issue. Yet another reason why communication, if possible, is important.
I’ve had an abusive partner who has physically and sexually harmed me.
It’s a good thing that I left him.
Because it was so toxic that I began to wonder:
“Will I survive if I stay with him”?
Can you make a video for all of the selfharmers?
Giada Johnson ^^
I love the lack of gender, it makes this whole thing more equal.
I thought about this then read this
Having investigated DV it doesn’t matter the nature of the partnership there is always a dominant and submissive in DV .
That's good that the characters of this video look unisex, otherwise there would be a flame war going on in the comments.
How to stop self harming
please.
Well, the first step is to call 911.
oh you forgot
Change your address
block them from social media
change your social accounts (if blocking them doesnt work)
DO not go back wanting a second chance
get cameras for your knew house
make sure they are not showing up to your work place
Move.....yep move to a new country ,planet even (jk)
Get them mental help (from afar distance dont go near them ,like send mial from a public location)
move on
What if the abusive person is your dad
***** thanks
***** ♡♡♡♡
+Lori Batton get him arrested
+Lori Batton tell your mom
Lori Batton get help
My mom was in this kind of realation ship with my dad. He even tried to hurt me and my brother. Luckily, my parets are divorced.
Congratulations
The moment you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do. So leave. I know it isn't easy but know that it'll be worth it.
If you are in a abusive relationship you should Leave....Its hard, sometimes you feel traped but you can`t let it put you down.....Use the internet,find a good job follow your passions aand it will be fine :-)...,Eat healthy,stay calm and don`t let the messed up situation drive you mad!
;-)
One of my friends was in a abusive relationship and she didn't tell anyone for almost a year. She finally got rid of him and now he's moved out of the state
good for her 😜🙋
Good For Her She Deserves Better
Dad Yeah
Yay! They picked mine ! This was really helpful.
THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH
You're the BEST! My cousin was in this and I told her about your vid, she was scared but you helpt her and she contact one of them THANK YOU SO MUCH subscribing you was not a mistake I Can't THANK YOU ENOUGH!!!!!!!!! : )
Woow!!!!! you guys are great I love the advice that you give out.
You guys down there at watchwellcast are awsome! you guys should post more!
I really love these videos
I love y'all you helped me get out of drama and toxic
Thanks for uploading, even if I may not need this now, it's helpful. If you need suggestions, why not what to do when two best friends fall out, and you're stuck in the middle? Even worse, it's over a boy...
What do you do if the toxic relationship is with your parents? What do I do?
Since the person is abusive, I think it is better to do it over the phone or send a text.
What if you have no one to help you get out
I'm 15 and I was in a abusive relationship (emotionally and sexually) with my ex boyfriend for seven months thanks mom for saving me!!!
Just pointing out... Don't have sex at 15 BIG mistake
+zJay I have I am 15 bro so
+Emma Wish lol what happened. did she kick him in nuts so hard, that he could not sexually abuse you anymore :D? If yes.........That is what I call revenge!
I have to show my mom this
If I showed my mom this she would be like,"Oh, he's being nicer now. We're getting along." THEY FOUGHT YESTERDAY WTF
Kenneth Prado Why? Is she in an abusive relationship?
+Abigail Hurst that's exactly what my mom would do!
Nice!
how to make a GREAT relaishonship plz!!! You mean so much to me and I love ur channel!!!
they stopped getting sponsored so they won't make anymore vids
DV is also family members as well children against parents and parents against children ? Child against child that goes well beyond normal sibling rivalry.
What if you are in an abusive relationship with yourself.
I have a question.
Can you do a video presenting the topic of knowing who you can trust?
Even a video gamer can be in that type of situation
1:50
1.Yes
2.No
3.Yes
4.No
5.No
6.Yes *my friends warned me about her*
all this equals tooooo... my teacher :P
You okay?
Hophop2004 sam Yeah. but it seems my teahcer isn't
Easier said than done. What if this person trying to leave doesn't have a job or family support, or afford shelter, food, health insurance for their children? All the things he's provided?
but what if you're in an abusive relation ship with your mind?
Or have a calm conversation I mean maybe it will work
make a video about. . . .HOW TO REUPLOAD!
Can u do one how to deal with mean girls who think they are all that???
Hello we'll cast please make a video about how to admit to your crush that u like them
Had this problem with an old Girlfriend. Tried to seperate me from friends who I have known and grown super close too over years, multiple people had warned me after I started dating her. I'm generally a nice person so anytime I couldn't talk forever I had to deal with her pretending to be super depressed and I felt obligated to help her. Only after a few months did I realize what was happening so I got the fuck out. Texted me a few months later and asked if I still cared about her, I just said exactly what I saw and felt and said don't bother responding to this cause I am not gonna answer anything you say
First comment!
Only a few videos left to upload!
Hopefully the cycle won't start again...
W, w-what?
Moldymortz0720 Wellcast have been reuploading.She means that there is only a few videos to reupload and hope a the cycle doesn't start again. Hopefully that made sense and helped. :)
That cleared a lot up, thank you!
Hmm, anyone here to see if they're a suspect? I am :( but that's only because I am a victim too! I started abusing when she did. I'm ending the relationship tomorrow.
Watchwellcast thank you so much you helped me leave from my ex girlfriend she was a psycho and she drained my bank and make her pregnant that's when she took it too far thanks and bye
my friends
Who the f would dislike this
I think they dislike the fact abusive relationships happen maybe I'm thinking backwards
Thx u so much U deserve more credit and sub U help Me so much!! I luv u!!!! Well not love like sexually love as a thank so much...
Why do you have to explain to them why you are leaving?
What if it isn't romantic. What if it is within your family....like a brother
Usually referred to as a toxic relationship.
What about if you realize that you're being abusive but don't know how to keep yourself from flaring up? I haven't actually been an abuser, but I feel like I've gotten close. While I don't want to ever become one, I even less want to become one and not know how to stop it.
One of the ways is to recognise that not everyone thinks like you do and therefore would have different priorities. With that in mind, consider that the other person has a different view on a situation you both are facing and therefore ask yourself this question: "If I was in their shoes, would I like it if I had said/done that to them?"
When asking this question, aim to be honest; be transparent to your rational mind and leave no stone unturned when doing this. Having a neutral party who would look at the situation rationally without any expectation of reward or punishment from either of you would be helpful. This could be a family member like mother or father; but that depends on circumstances. Even better would be to get a professional counsellor to see it from the neutral stance.
Ofcourse, don't expect the counsellor, whoever it may be, to fix the relationship. They can only facilitate the healing, like how a band-aid would on a wound. They simply make it easier.
However try to see it from their point of view yourself. After you've tried it yourself and there was little/no success, you may move on to a support. :)
If your partner comes back, but a gun
One of my friends were so abusive they made me bipolar
Wellcast I meant I hate autocorrect
😊
so we're talking about leaving abusive relationship,what about how to stop being abusive?Recently I fucked up a bit(a lot) cuz I felt jealous and Insecure and now my partner claims it's straight up abuse,but even though I did it on purpose not gonna lie I love them and I don't want to fuck up any further..though Im scared I might jump at me out of nowhere and would mean the end of my relationship..
But it's so hard to leave your firstt love who has done so muuucch for yooouuuu ughhh
I would almost say its higher than 28% :c a lot of my friends have been in abusive relationships >
my friend once also was in an abusive relationship he sexuly abused her my friend ditched him in a fun way
Except for the sexually part. This all applies to me, but I can't get out of it because it is my mom. I have no friends to help me. Any advice? I'm scared.
I suggest you should go to your teacher and talk to they.
Obtain evidence and call 911
Not sure how old you are. Good for you reaching out for help. It would be a good idea to call a number in your area violence and abuse in your area. That would be a start and you probably don't have to say alot to get very helpful information. You need guidance and support. There is mention of teacher or guidance counsellor. It would be nice to know how it's going. Best to you brave soul for trying .
Wellcast, what do you do when your best friend betrays you?! ouo
;-;
Better leave him or her
I have been In a abusive FREINDSHIP Samantha Rodriguez is that horrible person once i had a nightmare about her :( but luckily she moved schools :D
Wow
How to deal with a frenemy :D because I have a frenemy and she tried and said sorry but she did something really bad.
I have a friend who doesn't want to talk to me any more. It's my fault, I shouldn't have left her alone for a long time.
Do you want to talk about what she has done? Fix it Felix can fix it, but I can give you tips.
Dear wellcast please make more videos did you die?? Please respond a fan Bella❤️
How too leave an a abusive relationship - just leave
you haven't done a video in ages.
Or in da UK 999
What shall I do if the abusive relationship is between my father and I and I'm still a minor (12)
Gemene tell you counselor you should have one at your. school or if you are getting hit, go to a friends house after school tell their parents and ask them for help. If its really bad tell the police, they should call up a social worker. DO NOT TELL YOU FATHER he might try to look as good as possible
but it is emotional abuse, not physical, and i live in Florida
WhateverArts, don't worry, I already have my ways to cope
why am i watching this
How do u know there's only 20%
they know everything
They're probably using all these uploads as buffer time for new content. At least, I hope so. Otherwise it would be a bit of a waste and time.
hey well cast can you make a video on how to tell your crush you like them!:3
were is it
Abril Diaz /watch?v=miTPjiHmDos
thank you
There's a lot more than 20% believe me
Well its sad how im not even in a relationship lol
Me to lol
I had a boyfriend who beat up two of my best friends :(
Break up with him!!
I HAD a bf who did that it has been almodt a year since then
What if its your mom
Domestic abuse. Call Childline at 0800 1111
My girlfriend and me were good I felt she wasn't the one the next day she gave me a black eye
Brian Marroquin Get out of there! Good luck soilder
Cocoa Cakes I got out like yesterday
deez signs has happened
to ME
Im always punished and beaten by my boyfriend!!!! Thanxs
If that's true, I really hope you find the way to safely break up, and find a better boyfriend if possible. Hope things end well for you.
Thx but this was a test to see what people would say and im pretty happy theres people like you to help out :)
Steven Lariz Well, I'm kinda conflicted now, in a hand, I'm happy to hear that you're safe and that you aren't in an abusive relationship after all, In the other hand, I kinda feel like fooled since I was being sincere, hoping that I was helping someone with a problem. And in another hand (Three hands? Wow XD) I thank you for consider me a good person after all, I also hope that there are other nice people out there.
But anyway, hope you the best. =)
how to leave a bad realationship😃😁😀😉
What do you do
*subscribe person slowly comes in screen*
YOU SUBSCRIBE?!?!?!
BITCH THIS CHICKEN IS COLD
i thought its normal your parents abuse you?well to me its normal...its already a habit and they torture my feelings,i deserve it tho cuz i fight with my younger brother
XD i.. cant fix it lol
Well ... I guess I'm abusing my boyfriend ..
And he does to me...
I'm really jealous...
and he loose easily his temper ...
fiuh atlesst a
Are they dead or something???
Same vapid shallow video as the Toxic people video... you might as well have just re-uploaded the Toxic video and added a short bit about dial-ling 911 or whatever emergency number in your area if in immediate danger.
But, seriously, unless you are in immediate danger, why should one follow the steps in your video? There IS a reason you entered into the abusive relationship (or that it became abusive later on). Generally, it takes two to tango, so the comment by the video that it isn't *your* fault is not accurate. Usually, it is the fault of both parties to some extent or no one's fault at all and you just need healthier communication. If you are abusive to your partner, he/she might avoid you or abuse you back. If you allow yourself to be a doormat, lots of people will walk all over you, not just your partner. Heck, your kids will too if you're not careful.
Relationships should be about love, romantic or not. It doesn't help your abusive partner to abandon them.. it will only make him/her feel rejected or isolated.. making the abusive anger worse or making the sadness/depression causing the anger they had worse. At the same time, you cannot help someone if you're dead or too shocked from abuse to do much.
Don't make excuses for yourself or your partner, regardless of which of you you think is being abusive. Just like the one and only good suggestion made in the toxic video...set reasonable boundaries for yourself and the partner. You cannot make your partner behave a certain way but you can try to set up an environment of mutual trust and respect. You might still have to leave the partner or let them leave you, but your goal shouldn't be to leave or judge or hurt the person, nor should it be to stay in the abuse. The goal should be to be safe and to love the partner if still possible. You cannot love the partner if they won't let you, or if you're not safe and relatively healthy yourself.
And think about these various possibilites: What is to prevent the abuser from abusing you or someone else again in the future? Are they really an abuser or just a person who happened to have been abusive for specific reasons? Again, don't excuse, just try to understand so that you can forgive and find a way to correct the bad behavior or help them to do so. Are you really blameless? Was the abuse isolated or a pattern of behavior? What is to prevent you to entering into another almost identical relationship again?
This is why I said the video is shallow. Relationships are much more complicated than the video lets on. If it were as simple as this, people would never be in abusive relationships (at least not for long). But this isn't realistic. People tend to re-enter the same relationship and set up the same dynamics over and over. People have habits, good and bad, and it is important to recognize this. It is also important to notice what is good and bad about your relationship, was it this way the whole time and you just did not notice or did something cause it to become this way over time (or a traumatic event)? It is all well and good to escape further abuse but whether you make up with the same person or find someone new, you'll likely fall into the same habits again if you don't do something about it.
Go to counseling with your partner. If they refuse or you're already broken up, go yourself.. examine yourself.. Ask yourself, am I attracted over and over to a certain kind of person or was it just this one relationship?
And ultimately, stop labeling and blaming and excusing yourself or others. It isn't a toxic or abusive relationship. Like showing care and love, being cold or abusive are actions. They may be bad habits, but they're still conscious decisions by people to do what they do. Plus, there are grey areas here. Feeling disrespected and being disrespected are not the same things. Sometimes people are too hard on themselves, other times, they're too full of themselves. This is why open and honest communication made in a loving logical constructive manner is important. Unlike in the video, in real life, people need to make adjustments and compromises, both people (or all people if talking about families, schools, businesses etc). The goal should be to work together so that everyone can prosper. While this is not always possible, it generally is possible and while it is hard work, it is generally easier than people might think.
But remember, you should not force others .. even if you could and usually you can't anyway. This means, even if you want to communicate and work towards the common good and foster an environment of mutual trust, love and respect, it still might not happen. This is a hard lesson I've had to learn in life lately, having recently been on both ends of this issue. Yet another reason why communication, if possible, is important.