I know exactly what you said in this episode. I can relate completely. You are so BRAVE!!! You are going to help little girls and boys women and men everywhere!!!
This just came up on my feed….and listening to her is like watching my son with his now wife. My son is narcissistic and absolutely started like this. He still now 13 yrs into their marriage, is worse than ever. I adore my daughter in law, I love her like my daughter. I’ve told her time and again, I will support her leaving, and help her in every way possible. My sons father was extremely abusive in every way and was an extreme narcissist…but back then that wasn’t even a thing….I had no clue in 1981. All 3 of my children and I, have CPTSD. The trauma that occurs in these relationships have a ripple effect. Even acquaintances were effected..
I would assume it's usually societal, whether from parental influence, generational influence, cultural differences or things they've witnessed in life/media. It often starts as something with good intentions and then spirals out of control because they don't understand what they're doing. By the time they're done, they're the monsters they probably tried to originally avoid being themselves. Of course, this is not always the case. There's definitely twisted people in the world who could use what I've said as an excuse to continue their depravity, so it's often difficult to tell the difference between the two, though at the end of the day, the result is often the same.
I really hope they do a segment on abused men, as it’s just as prevalent, as abused women. Sadly, men are the hidden abuse victims. Btw, that’s not to discount the abuse of women, as no one deserves to be abused.
Is it just as prevalent? Wheres that statistic? Genuinely never heard that it’s JUST AS prevalent. I know it happens but the statistics I’ve come across say it happens with women more .
@@beyondmeasure9903 Okay, per CDC statistics on DV, 1 in 3 women experience DV during their lifetime, compared to 1 in 4 men during their lifetime. So, according to the stats, it’s not quite 50/50, but keep in mind, men as a whole, are less likely to report abuse, than women.
@@JaneA544 I never said they were the same. There are many different types of abuse. It’s comments like yours, that minimize and dismiss the abuse the abuse of men, that I was directly referring to. Thank you for making my point.
True and if we really look into it we might find that a % of the coercive control victim's also abuse their male partners. In a different way. Men are definitely getting abused emotionally and sometimes physically but to be honest nobody cares.
no fault divorce, no re- distribution, just a clean break. reform the family courts as well. the data shows theres a massive imbalance with the consequences distributed to men when it comes to the courts. women are now claiming what was once known as charm and confidence, as abuse.
When I read Helen’s book it resonated so loudly my alarm bells rand for the first time…right down to having an opinion about clothing, telling me I’d look better if I dropped a few pounds, late for every date, later physically abusive (strangling me), called me every day at work, he took my resources, contributed little to the house … and so yes, divorce rebalanced everything. He had lied and cheated and stolen from me for 20 years … too right he had to repay me! My ex husband was just as Helen describes.
@@Jane-rc2rk havent been touched in 4 years by mine. Still stand by her, no physical violence but shes very verbally and mentally abusive but if i divorce her, i lose my child and my assets. Shes the one at fault here but regardless i have to pay if i want my freedom back... Seems like because women have suffered abuse by bad men, now all men have to pay...
Same, I only realized after 18 years and I'm now working my way out
I know exactly what you said in this episode. I can relate completely. You are so BRAVE!!! You are going to help little girls and boys women and men everywhere!!!
It lives a mental scar on, I have witnessed many go through this kind of behaviour.
This just came up on my feed….and listening to her is like watching my son with his now wife. My son is narcissistic and absolutely started like this. He still now 13 yrs into their marriage, is worse than ever. I adore my daughter in law, I love her like my daughter. I’ve told her time and again, I will support her leaving, and help her in every way possible. My sons father was extremely abusive in every way and was an extreme narcissist…but back then that wasn’t even a thing….I had no clue in 1981. All 3 of my children and I, have CPTSD. The trauma that occurs in these relationships have a ripple effect. Even acquaintances were effected..
These were some great interviewers.
This is resonating 😢 can relate to forgetting lot of what happened
the thing I don't understand is HOW the men know how to do this. It is the same pattern, but I find it baffling how someone knows how to do it.
I would assume it's usually societal, whether from parental influence, generational influence, cultural differences or things they've witnessed in life/media. It often starts as something with good intentions and then spirals out of control because they don't understand what they're doing. By the time they're done, they're the monsters they probably tried to originally avoid being themselves.
Of course, this is not always the case. There's definitely twisted people in the world who could use what I've said as an excuse to continue their depravity, so it's often difficult to tell the difference between the two, though at the end of the day, the result is often the same.
I've always wondered that too. Do they take classes on it? Read how to books?
@@oldbuzzard8536 i heard someone say it is instinct. How weird. very mysterious. If it is just a n ingrained pattern? But it is sooo specific!!
Thank you for speaking out sorry I will not apologise for remaining single
I really hope they do a segment on abused men, as it’s just as prevalent, as abused women. Sadly, men are the hidden abuse victims. Btw, that’s not to discount the abuse of women, as no one deserves to be abused.
Is it just as prevalent? Wheres that statistic? Genuinely never heard that it’s JUST AS prevalent. I know it happens but the statistics I’ve come across say it happens with women more .
@@beyondmeasure9903 Okay, per CDC statistics on DV, 1 in 3 women experience DV during their lifetime, compared to 1 in 4 men during their lifetime. So, according to the stats, it’s not quite 50/50, but keep in mind, men as a whole, are less likely to report abuse, than women.
A lot of women die at the hands ofcabusive man, not the same thing at all
@@JaneA544 I never said they were the same. There are many different types of abuse. It’s comments like yours, that minimize and dismiss the abuse the abuse of men, that I was directly referring to. Thank you for making my point.
True and if we really look into it we might find that a % of the coercive control victim's also abuse their male partners. In a different way.
Men are definitely getting abused emotionally and sometimes physically but to be honest nobody cares.
no fault divorce, no re- distribution, just a clean break. reform the family courts as well. the data shows theres a massive imbalance with the consequences distributed to men when it comes to the courts.
women are now claiming what was once known as charm and confidence, as abuse.
this is not a video about divorce
When I read Helen’s book it resonated so loudly my alarm bells rand for the first time…right down to having an opinion about clothing, telling me I’d look better if I dropped a few pounds, late for every date, later physically abusive (strangling me), called me every day at work, he took my resources, contributed little to the house … and so yes, divorce rebalanced everything. He had lied and cheated and stolen from me for 20 years … too right he had to repay me! My ex husband was just as Helen describes.
@@Jane-rc2rk havent been touched in 4 years by mine. Still stand by her, no physical violence but shes very verbally and mentally abusive but if i divorce her, i lose my child and my assets. Shes the one at fault here but regardless i have to pay if i want my freedom back... Seems like because women have suffered abuse by bad men, now all men have to pay...
How to say you're an abuser without actually saying it
@@Spanglefangle im the one being abused.