Time, space and freedom is the best gift you can give someone. Let them experience life without you. If they wanted to be with you, they’d make the effort.
It’s soothing to hear someone say “it is unrealistic to just turn off emotions and feelings when they were genuine.” Remaining in No Contact is soooooooooo painful, but at this point, my self respect is worth more than anything. One thing I’ll NEVER EVER do again is beg someone to stay and correct their mistakes. I don’t want things to end due to the amount of love I had, but it’s out of my control. If they never come back, at least I’ve learned Im stronger than I thought…Everyone in the midst of a heartbreak, you are not alone.. I am going through it at this very moment!
At 61 I’ve been through a lot of trials and tribulations, pain , loss , I’m well armed against loss , but moving on from a woman I’d take a bullet for is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life , bar none , these videos help , thank you !
My fault it broke and she doesn’t love me anymore,I hurt her and myself in the process.never felt pain like this in my life and I’ve been through allot of bad things in life! Will never forgive myself for this! Hugs to all in pain and suffering right now! God bless you all 🙏🏻
@@teresebjorsenius6432 thank you I will have to try my hardest as she’s gone! I’ve been making myself ill,not eating and losing weight and getting ailments from lack of vitamins.😰
To all the strong men and women out there watching this video, ignore the negative comments. You’re here to listen to Coach Lee and not to read comments and take their advice. If you TRULY love someone, hang in there. Don’t give up, not giving up is strength itself, it’s the kind of strength not everyone has.
@@Cuernx So she was dating someone after me and was trying to tell me about it gently without hurting my feelings even tho I already knew. long story short, She broke things off with the other guy and is living her life without anyone that I know of (per her therapist's advice). She is supposed to be working on herself and healing from her past before me (which was part of the reason we split). Last I time we spoke was December 4th. Im staying in no contact for preservation of myself and open to any new romantic connections if they occur but am open to a reconciliation if she comes around. that's where were at at the moment.
@@thurtythree9668 that is precisely the exact situation i’m in right now. we broke up basically around new year’s eve, i was still living at her house for the whole month of january until i found my own place and during that time she was seeing someone else. yea imagine how painful that is, living there and knowing when she leaves the house it’s to go see another guy when you made so many memories in that house together lol. and that when you leave all you’ll think about is how good they’re doing. anyways i’ve been moved out since the 28th of jan., we have been on and off cutting contact during this week, after just 2 days of cutting contact we had a short phone call in the morning on feb 9th and when i went to hang up she told me not to, and then she started crying saying this is hard for her still and that she misses me (keep in mind she’s been talking to this new guy for over a month now and hanging out constantly and having sex) which was pretty powerful to me. after watching coach’s videos i’m completely cutting things off with her starting today. this weekend is hard right now because it’s valentine’s day weekend and she’s currently with the new guy as i type this and is spending the night with him. it’s killing me. i hope she realizes what she lost with me and that this new guy is just a rebound. this is the hardest thing i ever had to do we dated for just over a year and she was the one i wanted to marry. guess i’ll hope for the best and let her go
The one who lets go first does not deserve to be chased. Loyalty is only reserved for the people who stay with you even if the attraction has faded away. That's why it's so important to love a person beyond looks. Because once the physical body no longer attracts the other person, the love and respect will carry the relationship.
@Belltown Daisy I'm sorry for what you are going through. It's very hard when you are invested in somebody else. But what's even harder is when you lose your self respect in your pursuit for fighting for the wrong person. Sometimes they are not the person we thought they were. The reality does not match the ideal image in your head. Words mean nothing, actions are everything. Don't worry, you'll be alright. The first step is to take back the dignity that you lost. And you can only do that by walking away and never looking back. You deserve a better person. Always remember that love is not found in other people, but it's always within you. Start afresh because life is too short to keep wasting your time with people who do not appreciate the things that you do.
Margo Mazzeo "When people can walk away from you, let them walk" Always remember that when people leave you, it is because there's no love left within them. There is nothing more dangerous than to be with somebody who does not love you.
Right there with you on that. A rebound on their end prevents their opportunity to reconcile. Honestly, if they are going to rebound, that is the easiest way to permanently let them go, especially if they know you wanted the relationship.
100%, just hoping she doesn't do it, she isn't the type but you never know. Being young, pretty, newly single combined with alcohol and hordes of thirsty dudes, don't want to think about it but I can't stop.
The most powerful way of saying I love you in this case is to give them give them what they want Time /Space use that time to work on oneself: finance health mind spirit It hurts like a mf
Sometimes during no contact you’ll realize that you actually don’t want them back because you realize they aren’t good for you, but you can’t decide that if you don’t gain perspective from no contact
Thank you for defending us fools who still believe in love. We have broken up before, this time she said Im not returning this time. Sorry, it was a five year relationship, I will explore all possibilities before I give up. You just cant throw ALL those years away.
My grandpa is no coach Lee. But he has some experience. He told me the same things coach Lee is. But he also said remember “if she wanted to, she would and if she doesn’t want to, it’s out of your hands already”
I was one of the individuals that no contact didn't work for. Sometimes it just isn't God's will no matter how bad you wish it was. After a bit (2-3 months), youkind of just gotta stop watching these videos and move on. They kept giving me hope that wasn't there. After 3 agonizing months, I reached out, got some questions answered, and slowly moved on. It was worth it for me to reach out because I was no longer wondering what he was thanking. I had my answer. It hurt bad, but I could finally close the loop. Coach Lee has a lot of great advice and has been a rock for me. It doesn't always workout but he has taught me a lot about self-respect. That said don't let yourself suffer too much. DO NOT reach out until the 2-3 month mark, but if it's still eating at you by then, you really have nothing to lose. Stay strong, lean into your friends, and lean into God. Nothing hurts like a broken heart. Xoxo
"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was." Susan Polis-Schutz wrote this 40+ years ago when I was a teenager. I remember it well.
I did the same for my man and told him with tears in my eyes. "I love you and I just want you happy even if it doesn't involve me in your life anymore." He dumped me a few days later. That was 8 weeks ago. 😔 I miss him dearly and love just the same despite everything.
We are all in the process of becoming ourselves in life, and sometimes that person won’t help you become who you are meant to be. Maybe your paths don’t align anymore but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing, you just don’t need each other now like you once did. They served their purpose and you are strong enough now to continue this road without them and with the knowledge they left you.
Together 4.5 years, LDR 10 months. He got more and more absent, I've asked many times what's going on, response was always the same usual stress. Less than a month ago he broke up with me, reasons he gave didn't make any sense and I pushed him. He confessed he met someone else. My heart sank, my world collapsed.. I thought we were going to marry. You think you know someone, and they surprise you. I developed anxiety, waking up from bad dreams, and after 3 seconds you remember the loss, everyday.. Week 2 of NC... Coach Lee's videos is what keeps me getting through the day.
Shelyn, I am so sorry to hear that. Do you listen to Coach Lee's Anxiety videos? If not, Coach Lee has a Library of videos which include 2 or 3 on Anxiety. Go into Coach Lee videos and you will find them. Also, I highly recommend you join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you to. It's excellent and it will help you. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
@@preetyrahman7512 it’s been nearly 5 months since, we hadn’t contacted each other. I’m still very much in the healing process, think about him some days and still cry too, but it’s much better than the first month. I had mild anxiety from it first 2 months, so I watched videos to manage it. Life goes on, I’m proactive to make new experiences, like learn dancing, more hikes, new friends, backpack traveling. I learn about myself as I do all of this. When I have moments to myself and not busy doing stuff, it can feel lonely & sad to be reminded of what was, but I realise it’s necessary to sit with those feelings. I journaled when I needed, that helped a lot with reflection and perspective. I opened my heart to new people too, it’s proven to be a difficult journey, esp for us dating in 30s and beyond, sometimes I worry about my future if I’ll ever meet a great partner. But in the end, the helpful things you can do is be your authentic self, be a kind & nice person and do what expands your life.
similar, together 4 years, ldr 8+1 month, first relationship I was stubborn, she broke up with me, used NC, she came back to ask me to be friends so I said sure but later on invites me a play with her boyfriend together so I walked away, I then came back again a month later and found out they already broke up with her rebound, and another month later, I thought she was dating a cheater ex before me again so I wrote a letter about how I felt, turns out, it wasn't the case and I mistook a person, called me being jealous cute, after that a week later, which is a day after new year's day, I asked her out again, we lasted for a month, she got insulting, unnecessarily insulting me, I then asked her what should I do to stop her from doing that, she asked me what good things I did so she could work out on me, because she told me she forgot, I ended up broking up with her right away, that was three days ago and I wondered if it was really a good decision or should I have treated it more stoically, I broke up with her but I feel like a mess again... it wasn't that I thought of it on a whim though, I did thought of it a lot and decided it that time, maybe it was just my first time making such decision... was letting her go the right choice? I had my doubts when I watched this video again
YES, if you love someone you don't give up easily. I felt like crying when I watch this, everyone around me said that I just wasting my time and how silly I am to try get him back. Thank u Coach Lee, you are a comforting angel !
Follow ur heart this person,I love very much we haven't even been on a date there's a strong connection there have been other guys money educated etc I could have dates but my heart is with him,I'm afro American hes italian
Also my mom,passed 2 years ago now,he's going through the same thing he's been distant he's grieving I'm gonna just be patient god bless you my sister .💝💝💝
I’m going through a divorce after a year of marriage, she decided she wasn’t happy and left, I haven’t begged, I’ve tried to make this divorce easy for her, and I continue to work on myself and the issues I had during the marriage, become the best you can be! Cause when they do come back, you want them to see how much you have changed and matured! God does miracles everyday! Trust in him and change your life!
He ghosted me so many times and he comes back whenever he wants only. I never initiate a conversation with him either. I just let him do whatever he wants to do and just reciprocate the same amount of energy he gives me. With or without him I know I will be fine anyway.
Did you ever ask why I'm doing the same to someone now because I fed up with having to do all the work I don't enjoy it but I guess I'm protecting myself and I started making moves towards someone new . I like her a lot but this time I go away Im never coming to her . Because see she do not want to give anything …..
Nicole Cedervall i learned this after this girl broke up with me, alot of relationships end because of immaturity. Instead of finding solutions they choose to leave then come back later. No relationship is perfect but both sides need to be mature enough to come to solutions to make it last
dont listen to other people. They dont know what you feel or how your relationship was with your ex. You may have complained like I did about my ex, but that doesn't mean they really know even if they heard you complain, just to give one example. It's a complicated situation and people are trying to just make you feel better. It's akin to when someone tells someone to stop looking for a romantic partner then they'll find one. Of course a lot of that is nonsense but it's meant to be fluff a friend or family member will tell someone to feel better and not as anxious. Only go with your heart. Timing is often the reason and you're totally correct.
I feel that this relates to my situation, or at least I hope it does. I think in my heart that we had a good relationship. He told me that the right person at the wrong time is the wrong person, and that we just weren't meant to be. I think his explanations reveal that timing was our main issue... and so I truly hope that eventually, the time will be right again for us. I still think he's the right person for me, whatever the timing is.
I feel that. I started dating a girl. Everything seemed to be fine, then the pandemic hit so we couldn't hag out. After 4 months of that, she told me she was already dating someone else. Defenetly, the timing was really Bad, but that also showed me, she never felt anything for me if it was si easy for her to dump me considering the situation
Awesome words!! This is what everyone told me, let her go. None understood my feeling, no one understood that she leaving actually ripping my heart from my chest...... It has been 2 months and till now I am typing and tears come to my eyes.... Please come back I LOVE YOU A LOT and want to take care to the end of my life.
I discovered your videos in my sorrows the last couple of weeks. Luckily, I unknowingly enacted the No Contact rule and am so glad I did. Me and my ex had an absolutely amazing and intimate relationship but had some unfortunate circumstances surround us. I believe in the process! If I don't hear from her, I get to walk away with a stronger sense of self and a more grounded presence for my future relationships. If I do hear from her (which I am becoming certain I will) then we get to come back stronger and will be able to work through these issues in the future. Coach Lee, you are a legend!
If they never come back I 100% understand but because of the time and space we had Im forever grateful they granted it because I’m a better person for it. I’m actually making changes and making moves because if they EVER come back they won’t come back to the same person or situation. That would be insane. Lesson learned. I love you forever Matthew Stephen Bull.
I just went through this. My parter of eight years moved out a month ago. She said logically our relationship was perfect and I uphold my end of being a partner, but her gut told her it wouldn’t last. I was nice and helped her move out and haven’t spoken to her since. It’s very hard. It’s been 35 days since she moved and my emotions are still a rollercoaster. But, deep down I know that I tried my hardest.
Willielowman, she told you her "gut" told her it wouldn't work out is her way of saying she lost attraction. She's not even contacting you. Let her go Willie! Move on. Don't call her or contact her in any way. You deserve better! Hugs...⚘️⚘️♥️
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you for your kind words! I'm doing pretty well now and we have managed to hold a decent relationship in order to trade off our dogs. I made the conscious decision to not see her or the dogs for five months, but after that I just had to see my pups. I'm feeling really good about it.
@@sandraluder3004 doing well. Funny thing, I still see her once a week to get the dogs and I'm perfectly fine at this time. I've realized that maybe right now in life I'm content being alone! I love the businesses that I won, I love surfing, I love playing in bands with my friends, I love traveling....... I've been living life in some great company. Just not a romantic kind of company. 👌
Thank you. I needed to hear that. I really dont appreciate reading peoples comments saying you should just let your ex go. They have no idea what kind of relationship you had
It’s been 4 weeks and my ex contacted me once and unblocked me from all social media, I’m not chasing her anymore and keeping the no contact well so far and so far so good. Now she’s posting things like she’s so alone and blah blah and posting marriage related things but I’m not falling for it, I will keep the no contact until she ask me to come back otherwise it will be the same again ❤❤❤I’ve never imagined my ex contacting me after 3-4 weeks. Thank you coach Lee
royromero5329. I'm sure Coach Lee would be happy to hear that. I'm writing bcse I want to congratulate you, and highly recommend Coach Lee's Workshop which is fantastic! You will learn more about yourself than you ever imagined. By the way, Coach Lee also helped me years ago.
Man i love you from the bottom of my heart. you do not just talk black and white but real things. You said in a video about the sings that the rebound relationship it will fail! One of them is the intimacy and how that makes it hard to have a real relationship with others. My ex is reaching out to me desperetly and sometimes softly but not very direct. I just went out with a cute girl for the first time since the BU( 8 months ago). I thought im totaly over my ex but as soon as i sat infront of this cute date the intimacy hitt me right thru the brain flashing out from my eyes and i said to my self the words you used about intimacy. I relized i wont be over her anytime soon. I know she still loves me but she is also talking to other dudes i see and i think she is the kind of person who likes the newness and a new person and find anther one and find anther one and another one... and how my nc would help her get out of that type of behavior. Thank you sir. I would like to have her learn about lemerence and infatuation that comes with it and understand it an learn to stop her self from this in the wrong way! Ofcource without watching your amazing videos about this subject or knowing that im watching how to get your ex back and things!
Belltown Daisy yeah maybe there is and thats why my nc nay help her and also getting her back. It doesnt matter if any one still wants her. Its what she wants. Im the only one she fel in love with, im the only one who used the nc and i think i came far far in becoming 3% man so i can keep my girlfriend not just gett her back!
My ex just got married. Been watching your videos since she cheated and there were so many signs that she’d return, and today I saw her last name changed to the person I knew she cheated on me with. But I’m okay, just a little sting. Once a cheater always a cheater, so it’s his problem now. But thank you Coach for being there for me. Even 3 months ago she still looked at my story, and I stopped contacting her a year and a half ago. Maybe it’s doomed. Who knows. I’m working out these days and I used to never do that. So I’m prospering. It’s not my problem. It will be okay.
He is spot on. If you can just let someone go like that then you have to question if you truly loved them in the first place. ESPECIALLY in a marriage of many years and children. Naw I’m going to fight for mine until the last round. Until I win or get knocked out.
Same here my friend I’m going to fight for my 9 year relationship till my last breath or that she just goes with someone else idk I’m in so much pain and it’s been 55 long days and we have a 5 year old son together and I get the hot and cold days I love my girl with all my soul and just want my family back keeping the faith and hope I am so glad I found these videos I binge watch them constantly and they make me feel better like their is always hope I won’t give up
Tabitha Richwine basically same thing here. There loss, trust me we are number 1. We are amazing, they will regret leaving us for someone else. When it all goes down hill I won’t be there at the bottom that’s for sure
Crypto Universe that’s what he did he started to talk to them right away and they are still together. I waited and never gave up on him but he betrayed me. Now I’m just damaged
Tinsha Thomas as days go on I’m training hard in the gym and starting to realise I’m the prize not her. I have a successful career and we made some amazing memories together unlucky for her a new woman will eventually join me on my journey and she will definitely wonder about her choice.. let them go and focus on yourself
I'm letting go! I just asked the girl i was dating for like 6 months for a closure and she told me that she only sees me as friend, so i'm said no, i do not want to be in the friend zone. I do not want to be the back up guy, so i'm moving on. My time is precious to be holding onto something that will probably not happen. There are plenty women out there! Good luck guy! Always ask God for fast healing🙏❤
I really appreciate your words. I'm honoring my love with no contact..I do believe that if we can come together again that we will be stronger because of what happened..and having learned from it. You just put into words what I could not.
Makes a lot of sense, I started giving her space after baking a little bit and I just realized I have to give it time. And I got a respect myself, one more thing don’t let other people determine your relationship you do it yourself .
Coach Lee, omg this is actually a very good video. I've watched almost all of your videos already but sometimes i re-watch them. Sometimes I get excited about going home because when i've done too much overthinking at work, I know i'd be able to access your videos the moment I get home. You are truly a big help in this journey. Thank you so much for helping me get through this misery. I know healing is a very long process, but I also know that soon enough, I will be happy and at peace again. I just have to go through all of this to get through this. Thank you for being my light. It hasn't been easy but i can feel that everyday there is some progress, however small it may be. I know my ex still loves me, but he's just really a coward. I think he just wants me to beg and chase after him and after that I know we'll get back together. Egoistic behavior right there. But that's never happening, bec if I expect him to grt back with me I also have to make sure that this never happens again. No matter how much I long to hug him and see him. He has to learn his lesson so that he will know how to treat me right. In every step I take, I always make sure to check it in your videos; I always seek for comfort in it. Whether I get him back or not, i'm just glad i came across your channel. All my praises goes to you. Thank you so much for helping everyone out here! 💕
Some people say why would you want an ex back yet fail to realize that the heart wants what it wants and for a reason. & depending upon how much you've invested into this person and the length of time you were with them can make it that much harder to walk away from and forget.
For me it was an engagement 10 years of friendship an 1 year pre engagement I have the feels of that but I know she not go forget me somethings like that you don’t forget in a short time
After being nearly one half of a century on this earth in my life....I've had a chance to learn a little bit about love and this is my simple point of view... If I ever loved someone I'd have 3 choices for them, first choice is to try my best to keep them before the second choice to let them go and the last choice is to accept them back if they still loved me...
I was with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months she said she didn’t want to be with me cause she wasn’t happy anymore was the most painful thing that has ever happened to me I fully believe that I was responsible for it I would give anything for a 30 minute chat just me and her see if I can Convince her I have changed from the person who I was. Being able to let go and let another person be happy is the most selfless thing a person can do the world is so set on tearing itself apart because of people being selfish. The world needs to heal just like everyone human who suffers a heart break. I believe in the human race succeeding we where created for a reason and I live by that everyone has a purpose people seek others who also have the same purpose. When that person leaves you you feel the world has stopped but don’t give up on yourself. Happy 2020 I hope this is your year X
You know if she says she's not happy anymore does not mean she can't be happy with you. It's a somewhat momentary thing. I don't see it as a selfless act to let someone go.. it's stupid actually if you are mature enough to see that it can work. The other person just might not see it without breaking up first. I don't believe that potential partners can be found everywhere.. it took me a long time to find my last one. I don't give up easily and I know what I want.
No im in no contact for 7 months, lately she was unblock me. Now im slowly move on. trust me everyone will feel happy after no contact. Youll find happiness and no contact train dumpee to becomes mature and strong. Thnks to coach lee. You will learn many life lesson in no contact.👍 Goodluck yall.
No contact. Day 7. Miss him every day but want to be there more for myself now. Taking the focus off of him and putting it back on me. Time will reveal the rest.
Kris H “boring ass married life to a beta male provider” hahaha good for you! Keep enjoying your travels! I’m sure if you haven’t already you’ll meet a lovely lady you can share your travels with.
Well thank you for your help my gf came back from 71 days no contact and she reached out told me she was wrong the grass was not greener and I works hard on my self and maid changes over what separated us and i love her so much I let her go and she has come back and is ready to fix us and told me she never stopped loving me it just took her time to tell me she was sorry for haste decision and all the stuff said is true listen. And keen work hard on your self and we were in 4 year relationship no contact means no contact and don’t reply to not important msg only if there is feelings and love not do I hate me thanks coach you have saved my family
Well we are back together we have fixed a lot of the things and we are engaged planning on getting married in October it works if u go no contact and work on your self fix the things u did wrong learn from your mistakes and grow together and communicate communicate is very important
this is inspirational. I hope I get my ex back...I told her that I cant be friends with her because I think were more than that. she kept saying she missed me, loves me and that this is all hard on her. she even got jealous of a pic I posted of our old hangout spot. she told me that she was not over me. while she is in a rebound. I told her to not contact me out of respect for her new relationship and went into no contact. it has only been a week and its painful. I want her back so bad
I had an ambiguous relationship with a man for three years!He never told me what we are even I asked.He asked me to borrow money,I didn’t want to but in order to prove my love I gave him .He is frustrated with his life ,i can understand him but I am done taking the blame all the time.I am tired of the ignoring and feeling I am worthless.I let him go two months ago,it’s not easy but I am working on it.
Going through an emotionally challenging breakup with my Fiancée I’ve been in relationship with for almost 7 years. It’s really hard to accept even though it seems like I need to move out. Your videos have been super helpful, so thanks!
I’m so glad you went over this,,, I woke up one day after 17 years of marriage and relationship with the same man to hearing him say to me I haven’t loved you for the past five years,, I went no contact,, he had found someone else, ,I live with my daughter and her husband now, I’ve decided to stay single from here on, it’s been two years since my divorce and I’m happy. Of course, there are still down days but I think how happy I am and finding myself again. Him n his gf didn’t work they broke up but power to him hope he finds whatever he’s looking for, I know Ihave…
I love and miss him but I know that he needs this space in order for him to grow. We had a perfect thing going and he even cried when he ended it, but I know he was just scared, scared that things were too perfect, so he panicked and let fear consume him. It's been 16 days of no contact and although I miss him, I know that he will come back and this will only make us stronger, like Coach Lee mentions.
Perfect Storm me and my boyfriend just ended thing a month ago and at the beginning I was begging and crying to him not to let me go and he did so I gave him his space and I did the no contact and I texted him today asking him how he’s doing and he seems better than before because he was breast and numb to everything but he kept telling me he’s so sorry and that it wasn’t his intentions but yea today he was telling me he’s just been busy with work and school and I told him I’m doing the same and He seemed proud of me and he said I could text him when I could and he told me he was going to text me tomorrow because he had to go to school so what should I do should I keep doing no contact or should I be nice to him and keep talking to him because I do want him back so bad and the thing is I moved to Arizona right after we broke up because we were living at his parents house so idk what to do HELP ME PLEASE!!!😔😔💔
@@Banana-lk7tf It has been 61 days of no contact for me. After the breakup, I made the mistake of contacting her too much, begging and pleading over the course of almost 4 months (not constantly, but here and there). I regret that every single day. She is somewhat introverted, so I know how important space is to her. I lost sight of that after the breakup and wish I could take it back. I panicked too much and for too long. I told her I loved and missed her more than anything, and hoped we could see each other again. I made myself look weak and desperate. I am much stronger than I was. Giving her the breakup and the space is essential. It does scare me though, being that she's introverted, that maybe she won't want to reach out, or she would be scared even if she does want to reach out. I've thought about everything, like what if she thinks I'm mad at her or don't love her anymore because I haven't contacted her? I certainly don't want to reach out again and erase any progress that I've made. It's still hard but I'm pushing myself through every day.
Coach Lee you are such a great guy.. .. you have helped me through so much... I was so lost without these videos . I'm doing slightly better.. it takes a while to heal.. i just realized I was with a covert narcissistic for 8 years. What a waste of time. ..
@@Whatsthedealio1977 its only last for three months and got dumped again This time I m staying strong an accept the breakup. Make good and strong rules when you come back together We didnt and everything was going back as it was before I learned my lesson and still say NC works Stay strong everybody and Greetz from the netherlands
We create our own history in life; it doesn’t matter of how someone lived or how they passed through during their relationship that you’ll have to follow the same pass. Create your story,fight for it, be positive to it no matter what, PUT GOD FIRST AND TRUST IN HIM IN WHATEVER PROCESS YOU CARRY, be nice to yourself and the one you love and finally believe in yourself 🕊❤️
Great video Coach Lee! I love how your replied to those shallow people who say let go. Those people don't understand what does emotional connection mean.
This video helped a lot. Gave me a lot of hope. Thanks. I'm 7 weeks exactly into the breakup and NC following exactly after she ended it. She wanted me gone from causing her disappointment and there was lots of anger on the breakup. But I'm giving her what she wanted. The relationship didn't end from lack of feelings though. But the relationship ended with lots of angry words said from both of us.
Truth be told, my ex is hurting over having broken up with me. However he is not ready to reach out. At first he literally expected for me to reach out to him. I refused to do so. These videos have given me the patience to wait. I’m paying attention to myself and my grown daughters. He misses my daughters, too (not his blood children). Unfortunately my daughters are upset with him. What do I do if I want to get back together with him and my daughters would not like it at all if I do. I respect my daughters and their opinion. However I told them I’d speak to my ex when he reaches out. I’m grateful for the six weeks we haven’t spoken. In the meantime I mostly healed and relaxed. Then a bit of a problem arose. I will have to make a choice between a man who asked me out (I said Yes) for coffee. I like him a lot. However I still miss and love my ex. I’m in a quandary. 🤦♀️ 🤷♀️ I figured that I could go on dates in the meantime (I won’t post them I promise). But, the “what ifs” start rolling around in my head. What do I do?
I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 2.5 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.
I really appreciate you bringing some sanity to that saying, its rattled around in my mind for years, and always bothered me, i just hadnt put the thought and analyzation into it in order to actually logically lay it out. Thank you!
glennvaughan203, Glenn, I highly recommend you join Coach Lee's Workshop. He would be happy you did. It's excellent and it will help you immensely. It has strategies that you would not believe! Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant
HANDS DOWN, YOU ARE A GENIUS!!! such a wonderful human being you are. Besides, you are just an expert in your field.. No one, I repeat NO ONE has this much clarity to offer on breakups and reconciliation. Thank you ❤
I thougth I did the right thing because of family and cultural reasons but when in fact I truly love her. I never left because the love was fading and it is the same for her. 7 months later here I am grieving the loss. We still had contact but this December was the worst. Been in depression and having anxiety attacks because I saw her with someone new and take note he is my co-worker. We both work at the same company btw but she's currently WFH. She said that I was the best thing that's ever happened in her life and we share the same sentiment. She can't delete all of iur pictures and even our very first conversation and even gifts are still with her. She says she has moves on but also states that she can never forget me. This is probably the worst year and birthday month for me. Never stopped crying ever sincs.
Well said Coach Lee. Even though my ex-girlfriend cheated on me, I'm still willing to forgive her & want her back to my side & I was also want to spend my whole life with her. This is the my true & unconditional love for her.
"if they return they are yours, if they don't they never were" is a horrible statement. Nobody is someone else's property. If you think your ex was "yours" or should be "yours," that indicates you are a possesive person and that's what drove them away in the first place. They were genuinely with you. Feelings change, people change. If you want someone to be yours, you'll never get it.
Onur Böle wrong. I could say i was all hers because i truly was. And i wouldve had no problem it being that way for a very long time but she ended it. She left. Then months later tries to see how my dog and I are doing?? Bullshit.
I appreciate your videos, they give me some sort of hope and comfort. I watch them during the day and before I go to sleep. Im on the first day of NC, I broke it yesterday after maintaining it for a week. I intend to stay strong this time, either way I see 3 possible outcomes, she contacts me again, I contact her after 1-2 months, or I get on with life and NC will help with this. Trying to get some daily routines, studying, working out, seeing family/friends, learning a new language, improving at cooking. I hope it works out.
Your video is very realistic we have to face the rea what's going on , yes you're right it depends on the situation, easy to say but hard to do it specifically you love the person !
Thank you very much for this video. I feel so much stronger, after your videos. I love them all. I love one person for 23 years, I just saw him again, after 7 years break. We are back and forward for many years to each other, both have families and kids with other people, but the connection of our hearts are strong. I felt, it became stronger even last time we saw each other. But, I started to have fears and pushed him away, again. I felt, that I destroyed the relationship, again... So, we separated last week and I felt to chased him, but left with No contact. It is hard for me, but first time, I let him go... I love him deeply, my heart is on fire, when I see him. My feelings are strong... but I am letting him go with Love, even pain is very strong. Thank you for your work.
if you lv someone sometimes you u are holding on so tight they will never grow and develop their feeling I m living this as we speak . I have a younger women in my life who I can see she needs to grow I need never try fake it or pushing for a relationship if she really want it she will let me know it . But my life do not stop for anyone and I m okay with leting her go so I can live with someone else and I'm openly told her that . All people should set their other go .
Thanks fof this video coach Lee. I am currently in no contact. She's reached out but I don't initiate plus she still left her stuff at my house & didn't collect all of it when she came by. I've realized what needs to be worked on in our relationship. I've been with her for 2 years & am optimistic of having many more years together. ❤🤞
Steve, I am more than happy to hear that and I know Coach Lee would be very happy also. He has a Workshop that he would want you to join and it's fantastic! You will learn more about yourself and your partner. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Lee you have a wonderful gift & I'm so grateful to have you to listen to. You are very wise for your years. I've learned to trust you because what you teach does work. Thank you & Happy Holidays!
Been in no contact for like 4 months and still no message but she did tweet the other day saying crazy how someone u haven’t spoken to for months is always on your mind. Obviously it might not be me but I think it’s working
just be careful, if you're still waiting and still have feeling for her for that long, the worst scenario is to assume everything she wrote/talked is about you... i wish during 4 months of no contact, things in your life are getting better and you started enjoying your life without her... so when she reaches out to you again someday, she will see you more attractive as a person...
Breakups happen for a reason, but to think that it completely closes a book off is more of a protective notion to avoid potential hurt. In reality it's the end of a chapter in the greater novel of your life, and a new chapter with that ex is always possible if both parties learn and come back together better and stronger than before with renewed purpose and determination. Sometimes it very much can be the case of "right person, wrong time". Not always of course, but I think second chances are important if the ex is willing to reconcile, ask for forgiveness, and is willing to try again out of a genuine desire to write more chapters together in life. Obviously it comes with risks, and many don't want to risk further hurt. But typically the easy paths in life are the ones that are less fulfilling and meaningful.
“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” Ernest Hemingway
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We all seem to do that all to often!
Thank you for sharing this quote. I wrote it in a piece of paper and hung it in my mirror so I don’t forget it.
that is so true
Then he killed himself. Individualism is wrong.
Time, space and freedom is the best gift you can give someone. Let them experience life without you. If they wanted to be with you, they’d make the effort.
Jas Soul agreed
Already figured that one out thanks.
Amen to that, sir/ma’am
Yes indeed I had to learn this the hard way of course
Beautifully said.
Letting them go is sometimes your only choice, especially if they left you for someone else.
yes
Exactly
Facts
Right! You have no choice.
At some point they had to make a choice between you and someone else. They chose the other person! Let them own it
It’s soothing to hear someone say “it is unrealistic to just turn off emotions and feelings when they were genuine.” Remaining in No Contact is soooooooooo painful, but at this point, my self respect is worth more than anything. One thing I’ll NEVER EVER do again is beg someone to stay and correct their mistakes. I don’t want things to end due to the amount of love I had, but it’s out of my control. If they never come back, at least I’ve learned Im stronger than I thought…Everyone in the midst of a heartbreak, you are not alone.. I am going through it at this very moment!
We all are. I'm 4th week no contract and I'm getting stronger by the say
Did no contact work?
@@lorismith2591 NO Contact DOES WORK!
Hello, does no contact work ? I'm in the first week and this s**t is painful af 😫
At 61 I’ve been through a lot of trials and tribulations, pain , loss , I’m well armed against loss , but moving on from a woman I’d take a bullet for is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life , bar none , these videos help , thank you !
I feel you brother. Have a drink with me in mind. Cheers
Sending you brotherly love glen. Keep pushing forward .
My fault it broke and she doesn’t love me anymore,I hurt her and myself in the process.never felt pain like this in my life and I’ve been through allot of bad things in life! Will never forgive myself for this! Hugs to all in pain and suffering right now! God bless you all 🙏🏻
@@mikeyates1178 forgive yourself. I was in guilt feelings for years and I don’t recommend it. Forgiveness is a decision.
@@teresebjorsenius6432 thank you I will have to try my hardest as she’s gone! I’ve been making myself ill,not eating and losing weight and getting ailments from lack of vitamins.😰
To all the strong men and women out there watching this video, ignore the negative comments. You’re here to listen to Coach Lee and not to read comments and take their advice. If you TRULY love someone, hang in there. Don’t give up, not giving up is strength itself, it’s the kind of strength not everyone has.
Thank you. I love her and let her go because of how much love I have for her. I hope she comes around and see's my value as a partner...
@@thurtythree9668 update?
@@Cuernx So she was dating someone after me and was trying to tell me about it gently without hurting my feelings even tho I already knew. long story short, She broke things off with the other guy and is living her life without anyone that I know of (per her therapist's advice). She is supposed to be working on herself and healing from her past before me (which was part of the reason we split). Last I time we spoke was December 4th. Im staying in no contact for preservation of myself and open to any new romantic connections if they occur but am open to a reconciliation if she comes around. that's where were at at the moment.
So well said!!!
@@thurtythree9668 that is precisely the exact situation i’m in right now. we broke up basically around new year’s eve, i was still living at her house for the whole month of january until i found my own place and during that time she was seeing someone else. yea imagine how painful that is, living there and knowing when she leaves the house it’s to go see another guy when you made so many memories in that house together lol. and that when you leave all you’ll think about is how good they’re doing. anyways i’ve been moved out since the 28th of jan., we have been on and off cutting contact during this week, after just 2 days of cutting contact we had a short phone call in the morning on feb 9th and when i went to hang up she told me not to, and then she started crying saying this is hard for her still and that she misses me (keep in mind she’s been talking to this new guy for over a month now and hanging out constantly and having sex) which was pretty powerful to me. after watching coach’s videos i’m completely cutting things off with her starting today. this weekend is hard right now because it’s valentine’s day weekend and she’s currently with the new guy as i type this and is spending the night with him. it’s killing me. i hope she realizes what she lost with me and that this new guy is just a rebound. this is the hardest thing i ever had to do we dated for just over a year and she was the one i wanted to marry. guess i’ll hope for the best and let her go
The one who lets go first does not deserve to be chased. Loyalty is only reserved for the people who stay with you even if the attraction has faded away. That's why it's so important to love a person beyond looks. Because once the physical body no longer attracts the other person, the love and respect will carry the relationship.
@Belltown Daisy I'm sorry for what you are going through. It's very hard when you are invested in somebody else. But what's even harder is when you lose your self respect in your pursuit for fighting for the wrong person. Sometimes they are not the person we thought they were. The reality does not match the ideal image in your head. Words mean nothing, actions are everything. Don't worry, you'll be alright. The first step is to take back the dignity that you lost. And you can only do that by walking away and never looking back. You deserve a better person. Always remember that love is not found in other people, but it's always within you. Start afresh because life is too short to keep wasting your time with people who do not appreciate the things that you do.
@@ramonvillaster609 🙏💖
@Belltown Daisy Same happened to me...Im letting him go now..No Contact..
@@ramonvillaster609 Thanks..that was helpful...yes..we need to regain our dignity..he didnt want to discuss solutions..
Margo Mazzeo "When people can walk away from you, let them walk" Always remember that when people leave you, it is because there's no love left within them. There is nothing more dangerous than to be with somebody who does not love you.
I'll let him go as soon as he dates someone else. Rebound or not it doesn't matter. As soon as he crosses that bridge, ours burns 💯
Causeandeffect yea they started to see someone else as soon As we broke up. It’s heartbreaking and he don’t care
Right there with you on that. A rebound on their end prevents their opportunity to reconcile. Honestly, if they are going to rebound, that is the easiest way to permanently let them go, especially if they know you wanted the relationship.
@@marcwatkins3996 glad to know I'm not the only one.
100%, just hoping she doesn't do it, she isn't the type but you never know. Being young, pretty, newly single combined with alcohol and hordes of thirsty dudes, don't want to think about it but I can't stop.
@@23pyromaniac any update?
The most powerful way of saying I love you in this case is to give them give them what they want Time /Space use that time to work on oneself: finance health mind spirit
It hurts like a mf
You're right Jimmi.
Ifkr. My ex one minute was saying we r getting married and the next ghosting me like shit. Its twisted how people are
Didier Mukendi I feel you brotha
@@soulsearchin2093 so very sorry..
Hurt is an understatement 😪
Anyone else feel like he is the only one who understands? Thank you sir you are helping me through devastating times!
Yesenia, I believe in him. He helped me years ago. I am fine now.
Sometimes during no contact you’ll realize that you actually don’t want them back because you realize they aren’t good for you, but you can’t decide that if you don’t gain perspective from no contact
Coach, you are a gift from the Universe..you we're put on this planet to help the broken hearted...thank you.
Paladin Tactical yessss he is
Yes he’s the best I have found.
Without him idk what to do after break up, because i was so lost.
I agree with you 💔❤❤❤
This is his true gift and calling
Very difficult to let go after 6 years. Journaling and listening to you coach Lee. Thank you. Stay strong everyone. One day at a time.
How are you doing now
Tell me about it I can relate 100% I hope you are doing well now
Same here. 4 years. Marriage talk and all. Sucks
Loving the new hair cut.
RUclipsr still no ears
Lee is cool ..so thankful for him.
Coach lee, your videos are very helpful. What do you think about the red pill movement?
Thank you..
@@antithesispistopheles937 buy it
Thank you for defending us fools who still believe in love. We have broken up before, this time she said Im not returning this time. Sorry, it was a five year relationship, I will explore all possibilities before I give up. You just cant throw ALL those years away.
Break ups suck
Can we have an update? Any news from your ex?
Dude update, im in the same situation!!
exactly. you cant beat that history/bond
You have to cut loose, if they want you they will return 💔
"You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free." Thich Nhat Hanh
My grandpa is no coach Lee. But he has some experience. He told me the same things coach Lee is. But he also said remember “if she wanted to, she would and if she doesn’t want to, it’s out of your hands already”
Love is so precious. We don't know we have it until it's gone.
I was one of the individuals that no contact didn't work for. Sometimes it just isn't God's will no matter how bad you wish it was. After a bit (2-3 months), youkind of just gotta stop watching these videos and move on. They kept giving me hope that wasn't there. After 3 agonizing months, I reached out, got some questions answered, and slowly moved on. It was worth it for me to reach out because I was no longer wondering what he was thanking. I had my answer. It hurt bad, but I could finally close the loop. Coach Lee has a lot of great advice and has been a rock for me. It doesn't always workout but he has taught me a lot about self-respect. That said don't let yourself suffer too much. DO NOT reach out until the 2-3 month mark, but if it's still eating at you by then, you really have nothing to lose. Stay strong, lean into your friends, and lean into God. Nothing hurts like a broken heart. Xoxo
"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was." Susan Polis-Schutz wrote this 40+ years ago when I was a teenager. I remember it well.
She'll always have a place in my Heart coach Lee I want to see her Happy & if that's means not being in her life anymore well.. I Love her alot
Brandon Lyon takes a real man to do that, good on you.
🤣🤣🤣this is real love
She will comeback to you.
I did the same for my man and told him with tears in my eyes. "I love you and I just want you happy even if it doesn't involve me in your life anymore." He dumped me a few days later. That was 8 weeks ago. 😔 I miss him dearly and love just the same despite everything.
That's a good thought but it all depends on the person and your history. It seems like you have a substantial history with her
If I truly love myself, I'll let him go.
We are all in the process of becoming ourselves in life, and sometimes that person won’t help you become who you are meant to be. Maybe your paths don’t align anymore but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing, you just don’t need each other now like you once did. They served their purpose and you are strong enough now to continue this road without them and with the knowledge they left you.
Together 4.5 years, LDR 10 months. He got more and more absent, I've asked many times what's going on, response was always the same usual stress. Less than a month ago he broke up with me, reasons he gave didn't make any sense and I pushed him. He confessed he met someone else. My heart sank, my world collapsed.. I thought we were going to marry. You think you know someone, and they surprise you. I developed anxiety, waking up from bad dreams, and after 3 seconds you remember the loss, everyday.. Week 2 of NC... Coach Lee's videos is what keeps me getting through the day.
Shelyn, I am so sorry to hear that. Do you listen to Coach Lee's Anxiety videos? If not, Coach Lee has a Library of videos which include 2 or 3 on Anxiety. Go into Coach Lee videos and you will find them. Also, I highly recommend you join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you to. It's excellent and it will help you. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
@Shelyn update!?
@@preetyrahman7512 it’s been nearly 5 months since, we hadn’t contacted each other. I’m still very much in the healing process, think about him some days and still cry too, but it’s much better than the first month. I had mild anxiety from it first 2 months, so I watched videos to manage it. Life goes on, I’m proactive to make new experiences, like learn dancing, more hikes, new friends, backpack traveling. I learn about myself as I do all of this. When I have moments to myself and not busy doing stuff, it can feel lonely & sad to be reminded of what was, but I realise it’s necessary to sit with those feelings. I journaled when I needed, that helped a lot with reflection and perspective. I opened my heart to new people too, it’s proven to be a difficult journey, esp for us dating in 30s and beyond, sometimes I worry about my future if I’ll ever meet a great partner. But in the end, the helpful things you can do is be your authentic self, be a kind & nice person and do what expands your life.
I was in a LDR as well. 2.5 years together, broke up because she lost attraction to me.
similar, together 4 years, ldr 8+1 month, first relationship I was stubborn, she broke up with me, used NC, she came back to ask me to be friends so I said sure but later on invites me a play with her boyfriend together so I walked away, I then came back again a month later and found out they already broke up with her rebound, and another month later, I thought she was dating a cheater ex before me again so I wrote a letter about how I felt, turns out, it wasn't the case and I mistook a person, called me being jealous cute, after that a week later, which is a day after new year's day, I asked her out again, we lasted for a month, she got insulting, unnecessarily insulting me, I then asked her what should I do to stop her from doing that, she asked me what good things I did so she could work out on me, because she told me she forgot, I ended up broking up with her right away, that was three days ago and I wondered if it was really a good decision or should I have treated it more stoically, I broke up with her but I feel like a mess again... it wasn't that I thought of it on a whim though, I did thought of it a lot and decided it that time, maybe it was just my first time making such decision... was letting her go the right choice? I had my doubts when I watched this video again
If someone walk away from your life let them go.
Thank you Coach Lee. Love your videos
YES, if you love someone you don't give up easily. I felt like crying when I watch this, everyone around me said that I just wasting my time and how silly I am to try get him back. Thank u Coach Lee, you are a comforting angel !
jalin chen EC sometimes not giving up is a sign of strength
Follow ur heart this person,I love very much we haven't even been on a date there's a strong connection there have been other guys money educated etc I could have dates but my heart is with him,I'm afro American hes italian
Also my mom,passed 2 years ago now,he's going through the same thing he's been distant he's grieving I'm gonna just be patient god bless you my sister .💝💝💝
Me to love I'm with you it hurts like helllllll
How did it turn put for u??
I’m going through a divorce after a year of marriage, she decided she wasn’t happy and left, I haven’t begged, I’ve tried to make this divorce easy for her, and I continue to work on myself and the issues I had during the marriage, become the best you can be! Cause when they do come back, you want them to see how much you have changed and matured! God does miracles everyday! Trust in him and change your life!
He ghosted me so many times and he comes back whenever he wants only. I never initiate a conversation with him either. I just let him do whatever he wants to do and just reciprocate the same amount of energy he gives me. With or without him I know I will be fine anyway.
Did you ever ask why I'm doing the same to someone now because I fed up with having to do all the work I don't enjoy it but I guess I'm protecting myself and I started making moves towards someone new . I like her a lot but this time I go away Im never coming to her . Because see she do not want to give anything …..
@@JaJa-tb9pv Funny, this feels like you're "him" talking to me...lol
Great!!
A ghoster is normally an ex,player or Narcissist
update?
I’m sick of people saying that they are your ex.... there’s a reason. Yes but what if simply timing is the reason and you are meant to be?
Nicole Cedervall i learned this after this girl broke up with me, alot of relationships end because of immaturity. Instead of finding solutions they choose to leave then come back later. No relationship is perfect but both sides need to be mature enough to come to solutions to make it last
dont listen to other people. They dont know what you feel or how your relationship was with your ex. You may have complained like I did about my ex, but that doesn't mean they really know even if they heard you complain, just to give one example. It's a complicated situation and people are trying to just make you feel better. It's akin to when someone tells someone to stop looking for a romantic partner then they'll find one. Of course a lot of that is nonsense but it's meant to be fluff a friend or family member will tell someone to feel better and not as anxious. Only go with your heart. Timing is often the reason and you're totally correct.
TheMadMattster thank you for your kind words
I feel that this relates to my situation, or at least I hope it does. I think in my heart that we had a good relationship. He told me that the right person at the wrong time is the wrong person, and that we just weren't meant to be. I think his explanations reveal that timing was our main issue... and so I truly hope that eventually, the time will be right again for us. I still think he's the right person for me, whatever the timing is.
I feel that. I started dating a girl. Everything seemed to be fine, then the pandemic hit so we couldn't hag out. After 4 months of that, she told me she was already dating someone else. Defenetly, the timing was really Bad, but that also showed me, she never felt anything for me if it was si easy for her to dump me considering the situation
The same people who say move on, let them go would probably freak out if you took and hid their cellphone
ha ha ha ha nice !!!
😂😂😂
Ok, so don't move on. Your business.
Marriage should be the rest of our lives. We made a vows; we stay forever.
A messenger of God ❤️ thankyou coah lee ur saving many broken souls ❤️
True
Awesome words!! This is what everyone told me, let her go. None understood my feeling, no one understood that she leaving actually ripping my heart from my chest...... It has been 2 months and till now I am typing and tears come to my eyes.... Please come back I LOVE YOU A LOT and want to take care to the end of my life.
Same here...but I'm a man crying for another man...its too difficult
How are you today?
I discovered your videos in my sorrows the last couple of weeks. Luckily, I unknowingly enacted the No Contact rule and am so glad I did. Me and my ex had an absolutely amazing and intimate relationship but had some unfortunate circumstances surround us. I believe in the process! If I don't hear from her, I get to walk away with a stronger sense of self and a more grounded presence for my future relationships. If I do hear from her (which I am becoming certain I will) then we get to come back stronger and will be able to work through these issues in the future.
Coach Lee, you are a legend!
You sound pretty legendary yourself!
If they never come back I 100% understand but because of the time and space we had Im forever grateful they granted it because I’m a better person for it. I’m actually making changes and making moves because if they EVER come back they won’t come back to the same person or situation. That would be insane. Lesson learned. I love you forever Matthew Stephen Bull.
I just went through this. My parter of eight years moved out a month ago. She said logically our relationship was perfect and I uphold my end of being a partner, but her gut told her it wouldn’t last. I was nice and helped her move out and haven’t spoken to her since. It’s very hard. It’s been 35 days since she moved and my emotions are still a rollercoaster. But, deep down I know that I tried my hardest.
Willielowman, she told you her "gut" told her it wouldn't work out is her way of saying she lost attraction. She's not even contacting you. Let her go Willie! Move on. Don't call her or contact her in any way. You deserve better! Hugs...⚘️⚘️♥️
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you for your kind words!
I'm doing pretty well now and we have managed to hold a decent relationship in order to trade off our dogs.
I made the conscious decision to not see her or the dogs for five months, but after that I just had to see my pups. I'm feeling really good about it.
Any news ? How are you today (february 2023
@@sandraluder3004 doing well. Funny thing, I still see her once a week to get the dogs and I'm perfectly fine at this time. I've realized that maybe right now in life I'm content being alone! I love the businesses that I won, I love surfing, I love playing in bands with my friends, I love traveling....... I've been living life in some great company. Just not a romantic kind of company. 👌
Your videos are the only thing giving me peace from the hurt I am feeling. Thank you.
Thank you. I needed to hear that. I really dont appreciate reading peoples comments saying you should just let your ex go. They have no idea what kind of relationship you had
It’s been 4 weeks and my ex contacted me once and unblocked me from all social media, I’m not chasing her anymore and keeping the no contact well so far and so far so good. Now she’s posting things like she’s so alone and blah blah and posting marriage related things but I’m not falling for it, I will keep the no contact until she ask me to come back otherwise it will be the same again ❤❤❤I’ve never imagined my ex contacting me after 3-4 weeks. Thank you coach Lee
royromero5329. I'm sure Coach Lee would be happy to hear that. I'm writing bcse I want to congratulate you, and highly recommend Coach Lee's Workshop which is fantastic! You will learn more about yourself than you ever imagined. By the way, Coach Lee also helped me years ago.
Man i love you from the bottom of my heart. you do not just talk black and white but real things. You said in a video about the sings that the rebound relationship it will fail! One of them is the intimacy and how that makes it hard to have a real relationship with others. My ex is reaching out to me desperetly and sometimes softly but not very direct. I just went out with a cute girl for the first time since the BU( 8 months ago). I thought im totaly over my ex but as soon as i sat infront of this cute date the intimacy hitt me right thru the brain flashing out from my eyes and i said to my self the words you used about intimacy. I relized i wont be over her anytime soon. I know she still loves me but she is also talking to other dudes i see and i think she is the kind of person who likes the newness and a new person and find anther one and find anther one and another one... and how my nc would help her get out of that type of behavior. Thank you sir. I would like to have her learn about lemerence and infatuation that comes with it and understand it an learn to stop her self from this in the wrong way! Ofcource without watching your amazing videos about this subject or knowing that im watching how to get your ex back and things!
Not nice. 8 months isnt a long time. Some people get back after a longer break.
Belltown Daisy yeah maybe there is and thats why my nc nay help her and also getting her back. It doesnt matter if any one still wants her. Its what she wants. Im the only one she fel in love with, im the only one who used the nc and i think i came far far in becoming 3% man so i can keep my girlfriend not just gett her back!
My ex just got married. Been watching your videos since she cheated and there were so many signs that she’d return, and today I saw her last name changed to the person I knew she cheated on me with.
But I’m okay, just a little sting.
Once a cheater always a cheater, so it’s his problem now.
But thank you Coach for being there for me. Even 3 months ago she still looked at my story, and I stopped contacting her a year and a half ago.
Maybe it’s doomed.
Who knows.
I’m working out these days and I used to never do that. So I’m prospering. It’s not my problem.
It will be okay.
He is spot on. If you can just let someone go like that then you have to question if you truly loved them in the first place. ESPECIALLY in a marriage of many years and children. Naw I’m going to fight for mine until the last round. Until I win or get knocked out.
That's awesome
Same here my friend I’m going to fight for my 9 year relationship till my last breath or that she just goes with someone else idk I’m in so much pain and it’s been 55 long days and we have a 5 year old son together and I get the hot and cold days I love my girl with all my soul and just want my family back keeping the faith and hope I am so glad I found these videos I binge watch them constantly and they make me feel better like their is always hope I won’t give up
@@denislasalle5137
Work on yourself and don’t chase.
Don’t ignore her but don’t chase her.
@@RodneyD thank you man I appreciate the input
Do you see hope for me
If I have anxiety. I will watch your videos to calm me down. It’s been a month but, it’s still sting. Thank you Coach.
You're videos are healing me and keeps me motivated to keep the faith and the no contact I have started 5 days ago.
I feel like if you let them go they might find someone else... man I hate this feeling
Watch this video all the way through: m.ruclips.net/video/1oWyD1l56M8/видео.html
I tried holding on. He found someone else anyway.
Tabitha Richwine basically same thing here. There loss, trust me we are number 1. We are amazing, they will regret leaving us for someone else. When it all goes down hill I won’t be there at the bottom that’s for sure
Crypto Universe that’s what he did he started to talk to them right away and they are still together. I waited and never gave up on him but he betrayed me. Now I’m just damaged
Tinsha Thomas as days go on I’m training hard in the gym and starting to realise I’m the prize not her. I have a successful career and we made some amazing memories together unlucky for her a new woman will eventually join me on my journey and she will definitely wonder about her choice.. let them go and focus on yourself
I'm letting go! I just asked the girl i was dating for like 6 months for a closure and she told me that she only sees me as friend, so i'm said no, i do not want to be in the friend zone. I do not want to be the back up guy, so i'm moving on. My time is precious to be holding onto something that will probably not happen. There are plenty women out there! Good luck guy! Always ask God for fast healing🙏❤
I really appreciate your words. I'm honoring my love with no contact..I do believe that if we can come together again that we will be stronger because of what happened..and having learned from it. You just put into words what I could not.
Makes a lot of sense, I started giving her space after baking a little bit and I just realized I have to give it time. And I got a respect myself, one more thing don’t let other people determine your relationship you do it yourself .
Coach Lee, omg this is actually a very good video. I've watched almost all of your videos already but sometimes i re-watch them. Sometimes I get excited about going home because when i've done too much overthinking at work, I know i'd be able to access your videos the moment I get home. You are truly a big help in this journey. Thank you so much for helping me get through this misery. I know healing is a very long process, but I also know that soon enough, I will be happy and at peace again. I just have to go through all of this to get through this. Thank you for being my light. It hasn't been easy but i can feel that everyday there is some progress, however small it may be. I know my ex still loves me, but he's just really a coward. I think he just wants me to beg and chase after him and after that I know we'll get back together. Egoistic behavior right there. But that's never happening, bec if I expect him to grt back with me I also have to make sure that this never happens again. No matter how much I long to hug him and see him. He has to learn his lesson so that he will know how to treat me right. In every step I take, I always make sure to check it in your videos; I always seek for comfort in it. Whether I get him back or not, i'm just glad i came across your channel. All my praises goes to you. Thank you so much for helping everyone out here! 💕
Let them go, if they come back is because someone else kicked them out.
lol truth, that def. happened with an Ex of mine!
Let them go. If they come back, it means nobody else wanted them. Let them go again!
@@neerajgupta7532 lol
Neeraj Gupta lmao I love you 😂😂😂😂. Damn u made my night 😂😂😂😂
@@bernardlartims9114 hahah :P
We may be working on being on our own, but we're doing it together!
Some people say why would you want an ex back yet fail to realize that the heart wants what it wants and for a reason. & depending upon how much you've invested into this person and the length of time you were with them can make it that much harder to walk away from and forget.
For me it was an engagement 10 years of friendship an 1 year pre engagement I have the feels of that but I know she not go forget me somethings like that you don’t forget in a short time
After being nearly one half of a century on this earth in my life....I've had a chance to learn a little bit about love and this is my simple point of view... If I ever loved someone I'd have 3 choices for them, first choice is to try my best to keep them before the second choice to let them go and the last choice is to accept them back if they still loved me...
This is the state in which I have found my self
idk what it is about this man, but this man speaks logically, and it just damn, you good as hell, he must be a psychologist as well
I just love the way he explain. With examples. It really makes the point much more accurate and understandable
But it hurts so bad. The pain is indescribable
I love you so much 😭😭 I'm in bed depressed but your advice is so powerful and strengthening. Thanks Coach
Coach Lee to the rescue!
Man, THANK GOD FOR THIS!!!
I was with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months she said she didn’t want to be with me cause she wasn’t happy anymore was the most painful thing that has ever happened to me I fully believe that I was responsible for it I would give anything for a 30 minute chat just me and her see if I can Convince her I have changed from the person who I was. Being able to let go and let another person be happy is the most selfless thing a person can do the world is so set on tearing itself apart because of people being selfish. The world needs to heal just like everyone human who suffers a heart break. I believe in the human race succeeding we where created for a reason and I live by that everyone has a purpose people seek others who also have the same purpose. When that person leaves you you feel the world has stopped but don’t give up on yourself. Happy 2020 I hope this is your year X
You know if she says she's not happy anymore does not mean she can't be happy with you. It's a somewhat momentary thing. I don't see it as a selfless act to let someone go.. it's stupid actually if you are mature enough to see that it can work. The other person just might not see it without breaking up first.
I don't believe that potential partners can be found everywhere.. it took me a long time to find my last one. I don't give up easily and I know what I want.
Hayden baxter@ DON'T CHASE IF SHE LEAFT YOU
@@hgzmattexactly! Know your worth!
This video made me tear up but gave me so much hope. Thank you, Coach Lee, for always motivating us and giving us hope.
No im in no contact for 7 months, lately she was unblock me. Now im slowly move on. trust me everyone will feel happy after no contact. Youll find happiness and no contact train dumpee to becomes mature and strong. Thnks to coach lee. You will learn many life lesson in no contact.👍 Goodluck yall.
No contact. Day 7. Miss him every day but want to be there more for myself now. Taking the focus off of him and putting it back on me. Time will reveal the rest.
Belltown Daisy thank you. Same to you.
Canis Lupus same page 💔😭
Rizwaan Khan It sucks but we will get through this. Best wishes to you in your recovery.
Kris H Ha! Clearly she has some regrets. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Kris H “boring ass married life to a beta male provider” hahaha good for you! Keep enjoying your travels! I’m sure if you haven’t already you’ll meet a lovely lady you can share your travels with.
Well thank you for your help my gf came back from 71 days no contact and she reached out told me she was wrong the grass was not greener and I works hard on my self and maid changes over what separated us and i love her so much I let her go and she has come back and is ready to fix us and told me she never stopped loving me it just took her time to tell me she was sorry for haste decision and all the stuff said is true listen. And keen work hard on your self and we were in 4 year relationship no contact means no contact and don’t reply to not important msg only if there is feelings and love not do I hate me thanks coach you have saved my family
Travis Baker i dont know if its works but its really hard to survive in NC. how you managed things during NC.
Well we are back together we have fixed a lot of the things and we are engaged planning on getting married in October it works if u go no contact and work on your self fix the things u did wrong learn from your mistakes and grow together and communicate communicate is very important
this is inspirational. I hope I get my ex back...I told her that I cant be friends with her because I think were more than that. she kept saying she missed me, loves me and that this is all hard on her. she even got jealous of a pic I posted of our old hangout spot. she told me that she was not over me. while she is in a rebound. I told her to not contact me out of respect for her new relationship and went into no contact. it has only been a week and its painful. I want her back so bad
@@thurtythree9668 update?
its 7:30 a.m. and i'm listeming to you... when will anxiety stop kicking me out??? Its unbearable...
stay strong. you can do it. time heals all.
I had an ambiguous relationship with a man for three years!He never told me what we are even I asked.He asked me to borrow money,I didn’t want to but in order to prove my love I gave him .He is frustrated with his life ,i can understand him but I am done taking the blame all the time.I am tired of the ignoring and feeling I am worthless.I let him go two months ago,it’s not easy but I am working on it.
Forget ex , you look handsome coach ❤️
Going through an emotionally challenging breakup with my Fiancée I’ve been in relationship with for almost 7 years. It’s really hard to accept even though it seems like I need to move out. Your videos have been super helpful, so thanks!
@@edinlawrence2801 So, let me get this straight. The man is powerful you say?
@@margaretidoko7323 y’all are real classy trying to take advantage of the heartbroken. Reporting your fake ass accounts!
@@vivianalex3151 STFU
I’m so glad you went over this,,, I woke up one day after 17 years of marriage and relationship with the same man to hearing him say to me I haven’t loved you for the past five years,, I went no contact,, he had found someone else, ,I live with my daughter and her husband now, I’ve decided to stay single from here on, it’s been two years since my divorce and I’m happy. Of course, there are still down days but I think how happy I am and finding myself again. Him n his gf didn’t work they broke up but power to him hope he finds whatever he’s looking for, I know Ihave…
J Nez, God bless you. You're better off...Hugs.I ❤️⚘️
I still love and miss her, so I don't want to let her go. Simple as that.
Keith shit you and me both.
I love and miss him but I know that he needs this space in order for him to grow. We had a perfect thing going and he even cried when he ended it, but I know he was just scared, scared that things were too perfect, so he panicked and let fear consume him. It's been 16 days of no contact and although I miss him, I know that he will come back and this will only make us stronger, like Coach Lee mentions.
Perfect Storm me and my boyfriend just ended thing a month ago and at the beginning I was begging and crying to him not to let me go and he did so I gave him his space and I did the no contact and I texted him today asking him how he’s doing and he seems better than before because he was breast and numb to everything but he kept telling me he’s so sorry and that it wasn’t his intentions but yea today he was telling me he’s just been busy with work and school and I told him I’m doing the same and He seemed proud of me and he said I could text him when I could and he told me he was going to text me tomorrow because he had to go to school so what should I do should I keep doing no contact or should I be nice to him and keep talking to him because I do want him back so bad and the thing is I moved to Arizona right after we broke up because we were living at his parents house so idk what to do HELP ME PLEASE!!!😔😔💔
@@Banana-lk7tf It has been 61 days of no contact for me. After the breakup, I made the mistake of contacting her too much, begging and pleading over the course of almost 4 months (not constantly, but here and there). I regret that every single day. She is somewhat introverted, so I know how important space is to her. I lost sight of that after the breakup and wish I could take it back. I panicked too much and for too long. I told her I loved and missed her more than anything, and hoped we could see each other again. I made myself look weak and desperate. I am much stronger than I was. Giving her the breakup and the space is essential. It does scare me though, being that she's introverted, that maybe she won't want to reach out, or she would be scared even if she does want to reach out. I've thought about everything, like what if she thinks I'm mad at her or don't love her anymore because I haven't contacted her? I certainly don't want to reach out again and erase any progress that I've made. It's still hard but I'm pushing myself through every day.
If she walk away from you....let her walk..shes not the only woman in this world wake up!
Thank you! It’s not easy to just let it GOOOOOOO even after the BREAKUP!
Coach Lee you are such a great guy.. .. you have helped me through so much... I was so lost without these videos . I'm doing slightly better.. it takes a while to heal.. i just realized I was with a covert narcissistic for 8 years. What a waste of time. ..
You are my inspiration
Just got dumpt after 12 years
Its not me its her.
Staying strong With your video’s
After three weeks of NC she called
Today we had our first date again
It was fantastic
Just like in the beginning
@@Whatsthedealio1977 its only last for three months and got dumped again
This time I m staying strong an accept the breakup.
Make good and strong rules when you come back together
We didnt and everything was going back as it was before
I learned my lesson and still say NC works
Stay strong everybody and Greetz from the netherlands
We create our own history in life; it doesn’t matter of how someone lived or how they passed through during their relationship that you’ll have to follow the same pass. Create your story,fight for it, be positive to it no matter what, PUT GOD FIRST AND TRUST IN HIM IN WHATEVER PROCESS YOU CARRY, be nice to yourself and the one you love and finally believe in yourself 🕊❤️
Great video Coach Lee! I love how your replied to those shallow people who say let go. Those people don't understand what does emotional connection mean.
This video helped a lot. Gave me a lot of hope. Thanks. I'm 7 weeks exactly into the breakup and NC following exactly after she ended it. She wanted me gone from causing her disappointment and there was lots of anger on the breakup. But I'm giving her what she wanted. The relationship didn't end from lack of feelings though. But the relationship ended with lots of angry words said from both of us.
I think you’re doing the right thing to give yourself the best chance. I wish you the best Tom.
I can feel the pain but i know I need it to make me strong 💪. Cheers to that.. Thank you coach!
You just don’t understand the blessing in your work. I listen to you everyday. I wish you the best in life Coach Lee
Truth be told, my ex is hurting over having broken up with me. However he is not ready to reach out. At first he literally expected for me to reach out to him. I refused to do so. These videos have given me the patience to wait. I’m paying attention to myself and my grown daughters. He misses my daughters, too (not his blood children). Unfortunately my daughters are upset with him. What do I do if I want to get back together with him and my daughters would not like it at all if I do. I respect my daughters and their opinion. However I told them I’d speak to my ex when he reaches out. I’m grateful for the six weeks we haven’t spoken. In the meantime I mostly healed and relaxed. Then a bit of a problem arose. I will have to make a choice between a man who asked me out (I said Yes) for coffee. I like him a lot. However I still miss and love my ex. I’m in a quandary. 🤦♀️ 🤷♀️ I figured that I could go on dates in the meantime (I won’t post them I promise). But, the “what ifs” start rolling around in my head. What do I do?
I am doing a SuperChat at 6 pm central which is in about 2.5 hours here on my channel. I’ll be answering questions live and you are welcome to ask this one there.
I really appreciate you bringing some sanity to that saying, its rattled around in my mind for years, and always bothered me, i just hadnt put the thought and analyzation into it in order to actually logically lay it out. Thank you!
glennvaughan203, Glenn, I highly recommend you join Coach Lee's Workshop. He would be happy you did. It's excellent and it will help you immensely. It has strategies that you would not believe! Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant
I blocked him from everywhere..
Later he came back saying wants to make things work 😆
HANDS DOWN, YOU ARE A GENIUS!!! such a wonderful human being you are. Besides, you are just an expert in your field.. No one, I repeat NO ONE has this much clarity to offer on breakups and reconciliation. Thank you ❤
Andrina, thank you for your kind words. I’m honored.
I'm in " No Contact" with that new hair!
I thougth I did the right thing because of family and cultural reasons but when in fact I truly love her. I never left because the love was fading and it is the same for her. 7 months later here I am grieving the loss. We still had contact but this December was the worst. Been in depression and having anxiety attacks because I saw her with someone new and take note he is my co-worker. We both work at the same company btw but she's currently WFH. She said that I was the best thing that's ever happened in her life and we share the same sentiment. She can't delete all of iur pictures and even our very first conversation and even gifts are still with her. She says she has moves on but also states that she can never forget me. This is probably the worst year and birthday month for me. Never stopped crying ever sincs.
Finally doing justice. I was waiting for a video of yours with *THIS* message.
You’re absolutely right, coach! However, some days I’m down.
Well said Coach Lee. Even though my ex-girlfriend cheated on me, I'm still willing to forgive her & want her back to my side & I was also want to spend my whole life with her. This is the my true & unconditional love for her.
Update?
"if they return they are yours, if they don't they never were" is a horrible statement. Nobody is someone else's property. If you think your ex was "yours" or should be "yours," that indicates you are a possesive person and that's what drove them away in the first place. They were genuinely with you. Feelings change, people change. If you want someone to be yours, you'll never get it.
That is so not the meaning of the quote....no one is saying they're suppose to or meant to be property....
Don't overthink it Onur. That's not what they quote is implying.
Onur Böle wrong. I could say i was all hers because i truly was. And i wouldve had no problem it being that way for a very long time but she ended it. She left. Then months later tries to see how my dog and I are doing?? Bullshit.
2 months nothing I’m gonna keep working on myself and hope for the best
Yes Coach! ❤ I agree with you 100% !!! I LOVE YOUR Videos and you are my lifeline!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Much love from India 🇮🇳
I appreciate your videos, they give me some sort of hope and comfort. I watch them during the day and before I go to sleep. Im on the first day of NC, I broke it yesterday after maintaining it for a week. I intend to stay strong this time, either way I see 3 possible outcomes, she contacts me again, I contact her after 1-2 months, or I get on with life and NC will help with this. Trying to get some daily routines, studying, working out, seeing family/friends, learning a new language, improving at cooking. I hope it works out.
Any updates?
Your video is very realistic we have to face the rea what's going on , yes you're right it depends on the situation, easy to say but hard to do it specifically you love the person !
What a great video. This makes me feel so much better and helps me to understand the dynamics of NC.
Thank you very much for this video. I feel so much stronger, after your videos. I love them all. I love one person for 23 years, I just saw him again, after 7 years break. We are back and forward for many years to each other, both have families and kids with other people, but the connection of our hearts are strong. I felt, it became stronger even last time we saw each other. But, I started to have fears and pushed him away, again. I felt, that I destroyed the relationship, again... So, we separated last week and I felt to chased him, but left with No contact. It is hard for me, but first time, I let him go... I love him deeply, my heart is on fire, when I see him. My feelings are strong... but I am letting him go with Love, even pain is very strong. Thank you for your work.
if you lv someone sometimes you u are holding on so tight they will never grow and develop their feeling I m living this as we speak . I have a younger women in my life who I can see she needs to grow I need never try fake it or pushing for a relationship if she really want it she will let me know it . But my life do not stop for anyone and I m okay with leting her go so I can live with someone else and I'm openly told her that . All people should set their other go .
Thanks fof this video coach Lee. I am currently in no contact. She's reached out but I don't initiate plus she still left her stuff at my house & didn't collect all of it when she came by. I've realized what needs to be worked on in our relationship. I've been with her for 2 years & am optimistic of having many more years together. ❤🤞
Steve, I am more than happy to hear that and I know Coach Lee would be very happy also. He has a Workshop that he would want you to join and it's fantastic! You will learn more about yourself and your partner. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.
Lee you have a wonderful gift & I'm so grateful to have you to listen to. You are very wise for your years. I've learned to trust you because what you teach does work. Thank you & Happy Holidays!
Glad you provided your own views on these casual shallow uncommitted relationships and people's attitudes and misplaced comments.
Been in no contact for like 4 months and still no message but she did tweet the other day saying crazy how someone u haven’t spoken to for months is always on your mind. Obviously it might not be me but I think it’s working
just be careful, if you're still waiting and still have feeling for her for that long, the worst scenario is to assume everything she wrote/talked is about you...
i wish during 4 months of no contact, things in your life are getting better and you started enjoying your life without her... so when she reaches out to you again someday, she will see you more attractive as a person...
Breakups happen for a reason, but to think that it completely closes a book off is more of a protective notion to avoid potential hurt. In reality it's the end of a chapter in the greater novel of your life, and a new chapter with that ex is always possible if both parties learn and come back together better and stronger than before with renewed purpose and determination.
Sometimes it very much can be the case of "right person, wrong time". Not always of course, but I think second chances are important if the ex is willing to reconcile, ask for forgiveness, and is willing to try again out of a genuine desire to write more chapters together in life.
Obviously it comes with risks, and many don't want to risk further hurt. But typically the easy paths in life are the ones that are less fulfilling and meaningful.