Yes! No matter if we want our ex back our not these videos really give the best thing any individual can gain: Encouragement to stand as a sovereign and powerful individual, moving forward with purpose no matter what happens. Great show!
No contact does work guys my ex gf ended our 3yrs relationship and i begged and cried for about a week , tried no contact for 7days then break it. I came back to this channel for guidance and now I’ve been in no contact for 4 week guess what…. she just contacted me i feel so happy and am going to apply what I’ve learned from coach Lee. Don’t give up guys there’s light at the end of the tunnel.
@@AnastasiaWarden if he is avoidant sometimes you reach out to them after a month or so about something small or bills ect. and see what they are like, be indifferent too , let them see you are over them and moved on. they hate that
He did reach out when I sent him a follow request then unsent it.... it was really weird because he pretended as if nothing happened... then the conversation didn't go anywhere and he started stalking my instagram, then after he looked at my story 12 times he blocked me @tankthearc9875. So yeah, don't know what's gonna happen at this point.
More than a month in no contact and it feels fucking good. Move on guys. There is a world waiting for us. We all deserve better. We all have got golden opportunity to develop ourselves.
It still feels new after 3 months . I wake up in sadness everyday but trying to be positive because I deserve the world. These videos have been comforting me deeply when nobody else understands the pain.
@@hellomybaby7486 yeah I started NC the day we broke up and I didn’t know what it was till I came across these videos so apparently I was doing it right. But he hasn’t texted or called for 3 months . It’s crazy.
@@Sarahh_ I’m sorry that your in so much pain. I’m going through it right now NC 2 weeks . Do you know what attachment style he is? Look it up Mine is a dismissive avoidant those are the hardest to reached out
@@hellomybaby7486 mine definitely had a big ego he probably thinks I have to be the one to call or text which in and of itself is an issue. But we’re in February and I didn’t receive a single text. Not even a “hey how are you” . Nothing. While it really hurts I believe our dignity and self respect is more important. We should and will not reach out to someone who easily let us go. If they deserve us, they’ll find their way back. Stay strong and do a lot of self care. I was neglecting my self care and fell into depression , isolating myself at home. I realized that in this life nothing is really ours and we should never get attached to any human being as they will disappoint us. I pray more and got closer to god from this. Pray god gives you an amazing spouse.
We are in the same boat ! I wake up everyday depressed but as day goes by I feel better. It’s just not getting off my head, especially when she doesn’t care what is happening to me or miss me after leaving.
Anxiety and depression are full blown during the holidays for a lot of people. Re-living our traumas, missing people we can no longer be with during the holidays. Please keep the helpful videos coming. They do help.
IASOU2005 exactly what I’m going through right now. It’s harder during holiday season because I was with her for 2 years and birth years we’ve spend with each others families. Sucks.
I started volunteered right along with my uncle who was going through a divorce I have children so I started a new tradition with them its ok to miss someone but still show the people who are still in your life appreciation
@@flowfactoryinc07 What's crazy is when I first met this girl she was extremely attractive and a knockout under the sheets! I mean she was the best I've ever had and theres not going to be anybody that could top her! I basically knew I was in trouble when I was dating her because nothing last forever. During the first couple of months I said to myself "Frank you're going to be in a lot of trouble one day when this girl leaves you because there's nothing out there even close to her"! But I told myself it's better than being alone and I have the hottest best girl in the world! And the day she left me was 50 days ago, she's all I think about everyday every minute every hour. The only time I'm not thinking about her is when I'm working at my job because I do electrical work and I have to be 100% focused or I'm going to die and kill myself from being electrocuted. All I want to do is work just so I can keep my mind off of her. Seriously bro i found the best hottest girl ever and I was fortunate enough to have her for seven years! She's gone dude. At least when she left I just told her "okay see ya" I didn't beg her cry none of that garbage because I knew you not supposed to do that if I have any chance of getting her back. This girl gave me so much sex all kinds of sex to the point where I had to turn it down because I was shooting blanks! Once I met her at a hotel I knocked on the door she opened it and her exact words were "hey can I get you off right now"? I mean who says this? She swallowed every single time bro! I would be getting woken up by her going down on me dude... On top of all this she was the hottest chick ever! Anyways I am 39 years old and I don't want anyone else unless it's her because if I get anyone else it's going to be a downgrade and I won't be happy. So I'm fine never having anyone else again. I'll just keep thinking about the memories I have videos of us too (if you know what I mean) but I try not to watch those because its too powerful.. So unless she comes back I'm done with women at the moment. I don't want to downgrade that would just make me even more depressed I think. Wish me luck bro. And good luck to you
He left me a week ago. First 2 days we stayed in contact. Then I found Coach Lee’s videos and stopped replying to his breadcrumbs. He eventually sent me an “I miss you” text after 2 days NC, bc he was feeling I was slowly detaching myself… I replied “you’re the one who broke up with me” and he said “yes I know”. Unless he follows this up by an “I want you back”, then it’s radio silence from me! Listening to Coach Lee made me realize… begging for someone to stay is betraying yourself. I will never lower myself to this level ever again! Have dignity & respect for yourself! That is the most attractive thing you can do❤️ We can do this!!!
Just know your worth you guys, I know when your heart Broken or confused we watch these types of videos, I’m telling you know if he/ she really loves you, you will never have to watch these type of videos. When a man loves you, you can be the craziest, wildest, quietist, loudest etc person ever and he will love you. So take time for yourself and thank god that he blessed you and let that person go, it’s not healthy waiting on someone. Live your life and let love find you! Please
You couldn't have said it any better. My ex dumped me and came back. I accepted her, and then she dumped my ass again. Then she came back, and because I genuinely loved her, I accepted her back again. Then she dumped my ass again. And her reason each time was that I deserve someone better than her. She couldn't be anymore right! She is permanently banned from my life now.
Been almost 4 weeks nc for me. Last night was the hardest one yet. Part of me wants her back and part of me wishes I can just forget she exists. It hurts but I know this is the best thing no matter the outcome. The breakup brought clarity and I know not to make the same mistakes as before in my next relationship, whether it's with her or eventually someone better. Stay strong guys, dont let someone else control your happiness
I'm just snuggling up to bed and I'm looking forward to watching this tomorrow You help me getting out of bed in this dark period Thank you coach No one motivates me more than you
@@rateorhate11 only 5 days because he reached out to complain that l didn't think of his birthday... Before that little encounter it have been two months. He's in a rebound relationship, but as you see Lee is right, he's still thinking about me 👍
Lena Schaef ooh ok. Mine has been 2 months and few days now. It was my bday last week but she didn’t reach out lol. Doesn’t really bother me though. I know she’s on a rebound too.
@@khawlabintal-azwar2 So you didn't even get back to the text? Always surprised to find people who have actually moved on in comments under those videos 😳
Ya know coach Lee? Everytime I feel down and hopeless I watch your videos and its uplifting. Even if she doesn't come back you're getting me through this. Thank you.
I don't have money to tip or buy the kits, but I do my best to watch full ads on your channel and every second, the only genuine coach out there . Much love
First day, of no contact is the hardest a lot of emotions, fifth day, you feel a lot wanting to contact questioning yourself, tenth day, you start to have some clarity bit of a breakthrough clouds are breaking, fifteenth day, analyzing the relationship but also the sun is starting to shine through a little, twentieth day, put your shades on so much sun in your view, and ten days after yeah you still think about it because you loved them so much but you realize how much of a better person you are without them. Everything is a process and during this time its like grieving just endure it and love yourself the way you want it reciprocated back. Peace and love whoever is going through heartache... you will love again. 🙏 Coach thanks for the vids amazing words.
Coach Lee thank u for bringing the love of my life back, after nearly one month of no contact he reached out! I took your advice just keep it casual, let him initiate all the conversations,just like you said absent is powerful, he was so curious about me. The day before yesterday we had sex. Can't thank u enough Coach Lee, you are almighty!
Coach lee I’m almost 3 months into no contact. I’ve often wondered this exact question. Thank you for making this video, it helps so much. I wanted to reach out for thanksgiving and I didn’t. The holidays will be hard but your videos are getting me through it. Thanks again coach Lee.
Margo Mazzeo How so? I was in the same boat too... crying over my ex.. thinking about her every damn night... it hurts and it sucks.... I’m not going to continue to WAIT any longer than 3 months personally... I wouldn’t hang on for someone who hasn’t realized they lost a great man after 3 months... after 3 months... it’s their loss and it’s time to move on...
@@Gilly209x my last ex came back after 3 months of no contact. We got married and had a baby. Split up again 4 years later. Then she tried to come back after 7 months of no contact but I had moved on.
Shawn Jesseman OMG that’s crazy! Why didn’t it work out after 4 years? If you don’t mind me asking? Was it for the original reasons? Or different ones? Did she cheat?
It’s been 4 weeks to the day since she broke up with me, and I’ve been in no contact since. It’s been very difficult. We were best friends, and it was really unexpected. Coach Lee’s videos give me hope that she’ll come back one day
Karl Legson I’m still going to wait. I’ve been strong so far. And with Christmas coming up, and our anniversary in late January, I have some hope that she’ll contact me first. Especially since both fall in between the 45-75 day period of separation anxiety. I’ll feel much better about being with her again if she reaches out first.
Coach Lee, I just wanted to thank-you. You have really helped me through this hard time and your calming yet direct demeanor is exactly what I and so many others, need. Thank-you so much.
Coach Lee there are coaches out there that I listened to some contradict themselves on what they say. I listen to you and you seem to have so much more knowledge then everyone else. I talked to you about a year ago when my break up first happened and I didn't really listen. Year later I see that I messed up and I lost her. My point to you is I believe in your words I just wish I'd listened a year ago. And I'm sure people listen to you they will understand what to do. Keep helping people because being dumped by someone you love sucks.
Thanks to your videos I’ve been in such a better place, my ex and I broke up about 7 months ago I went into no contact for the second time back at the end of August. She contacted me in October and I ignored her because I didn’t want her to think she could have me back that easily. Just last weekend I saw her at a funeral and paid no attention to her and my God I looked really good and felt really good and she was there with her current boyfriend, just last night she followed me on another social media account. Now I feel like I’m a better person and I’ve moved on significantly but no contact seriously works, listen to coach!
idk how you do it but you always manage to make me feel better when im having a day where im all caught up in my thoughts. I dont know if im perpetuating my pain by listening to stuff like this. Its been 5 months NC and im improving a lot but i still miss him and wish i got some text from him that would validate all this pain. Thank you for your help coach lee.
I'm very sorry you had to wait this long. It's been only one week of NC for me and i really hope i don't have to wait this long. BTW I'm curious to know what happened with you if you can update please.
@@tyetr9853 Don't want to discourage anyone but it's been over 5 months and my ex is happy with her rebound, still hurts that they are living together but the pain is a bit less now. I've learnt to live with it. Trying to move on still but somedays are still rough. Hopefully others have better luck than me.
@@tyetr9853 weird to think about the time when i wrote this comment honestly. I was convinced I’d never feel better or get over him but i can honestly say you will and once you get to this point itll be such a relief. you wont even realize when it happens, one day you just wont care anymore. And no, he never reached out. He did look at my linkedin which i got a notification for (this was almost 2 years after we broke up lol) and i kinda thought it was pathetic. just live your life and focus on improving yourself. I’ve also met someone who cares about me so much more than he ever did
You can’t even imagine how much this helps me.I was led on by a guy for a year only for him to tell me finally that he just wants to be friends.Yes I was over investing,yes I treated him as a prize...every day I watch your videos to kill my desire to contact him.
Angela, same for me.... So relieved after Coach Lee's videos..he explains all features so easy to understand, and often repeats the most important subjects so you remember them.. 😉 😉
I believe my ex is gone forever but thank you for these videos. Sometimes it seems unbearable but other times, I feel empowered. I am moving on with my career. My real estate career is doing so much better. I relaunched my other business and I am moving on slowly.
You're the man pal. I'm in radio silence at the moment as we had a lockdown wobble after 4.5 yrs and I was a bit needy. I'm doing weights, earning more than ever and doing some work to be an upgrade of the best me. If she doesn't want me back I'll move on. Ouch.. Love this lady dearly.. Finger crossed. I'll be strong if she texts and gauge it carefully. I won't be running straight back until I'm in boooooom mode . Cheers dude 👍
@@JorDel_1111 It's been almost 3 months since my breakup as well. My ex was severely damaged because of her previous abusive relationship. I thought I could fix her by treating her incredibly well and being there for her emotionally, but I was completely wrong. You can't fix a partner, they have to want to fix themselves. Anyways, my ex basically told me I treated her too well and she didn't deserve it. She immediately got into a relationship with a sleazeball who is currently cheating on her (she knows he's cheating and she doesn't even care)... truth be told, I was probably monkey-branched, so I guess that's karma. Regardless, the whole thing is too crazy for me. I'm a good guy who would never cheat or hurt anyone, and I treated her like a queen. I know my value and I now realize I don't deserve drama like that. I don't know what the future holds, but I will never invest my heart into another damaged woman again.
Stef Bohn same here a 16 year marriage finished the mad thing is we never argued she just left we went through ivf it was hell ... I am leavening the country going to go live in Asia for a while heal and find myself hope you feel better soon ..remember life is short and time is a healer it’s not what you want to hear but it’s true 👍👍👍👍
@@tatts_with_traps hey just checking in to see how things are going for ya today ? I actually am on day 23 of NC after 13 months and im also about to leave the country for a couple months lol So wanted to see how it worked for ya ???
@@joshmcgowan4376 wow I can’t remember writing that I lived in Thailand and Cambodia for a while Singapore come back to England started my own business was really successful trust me the hardest and most real thing I can tell you about break up is it’s tough no sugarcoating it it’s been 2 and a half years and I never really got over it I got better at hiding the pain remember heal yourself good luck bro 👍👍
My 8 months relationship ended last December, my bf dumped me saying he don't want to be in relationship, but within a week of break up, he jump into other relationship. When I asked him why you're in new relationship, he said to me he is not serious about his new relationship, I wish karma teach him good lesson for life that he never forget till he is alive. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
When someone asks for water ,what do we do we give them water, when they ask for help we help them so if an x asks for a brake up and space , GIVE THEM THE BRAkE UP AND SPACE
This comparison is incorrect. Will you cut your limb off if someone asks you to without even explaining why do they need that? What if someone cheats on you and dumps you for that person, will you go around smiling like an idiot afterwards because apparently good thing happened? Please.
I broke no contact twice. First time after a week second time after 21 days. I was crying and desperate. Made myself look like a fool. Now it’s at 2 weeks no contact again. This is so hard.
Listen to this, it seems like you have power to change something if you just say the right thing but it’s not about convincing the other person, it’s about becoming best you. Stop thinking you gotta save it, it’s a very one sided task. Don’t make rash decisions or reach out too soon
I have decided to diarise my no contact and with each passing day i write what i feel and i put on paper what i want to say to him without actually saying it to him. I get to express how and what i feel in that moment even if i write whole day. It helps me alot. After my first day of no cantact he reached out to me and told me he thinks of me everyday and he wants me to be safe when im travelling and i simply replied with a " thank you" so that he knows i acknowledge that he still cares and i left it there. But still applying my no contact rule... Thank you coach Lee you're really helping me cope through this very difficult time in my life. Most days it feels i am suffocating cos this pain in unbearable.. But i know things will get better for me ❤️
I wish I could tell u all my story but RUclips deletes it each time I post it. Coach Lee your videos keep me sane and calm. U are a blessing to us all. thank u for all that u do!
No contact has been pure agony for me so far. With any other girl it would've faded after a couple of weeks, but I am only recently getting brief periods of... just relief from the pain but by comparison it feels better than orgasm. This is even with having lost 20 pounds, put on a bunch of muscle and started improving my financial situation. I moved to a new city recently where she is the only person I know..... So I have nobody to lean on. And it's difficult to feel good about my improvements because I can't show them to her right now...... All of this to say the only thing keeping me from cracking and breaking no contact is watching these videos. If Coach Lee is good at nothing else, he is good at supporting those of us going through this.
I've been waiting for Thanksgiving...been in NC for 2 months by then...to shoot my shot and wish him Happy Thanksgiving & ask him how he is....but I do think the biggest impact will occur IF I DON'T after listening to this..Thank you Coach.
Every. Single. Video helps me throughout this sucky time. It’s been two months since my ex bf broke up with me. I’ve been following what you say with no contact and working on myself. It also sucks because I have to see him every day at school, as he is in my chemistry class. I’m at the point were I have the rest of his stuff and I can’t stand to look at it and I almost dropped it off for him in one of his classes today with a note in there that he doesn’t deserve to get but I didn’t as today would’ve been our 10 months and I do not want to seem petty or break no contact. I really do love him, I’m only 17 but we went through so much in only 8 months and he made me a better me. I’d like him back but he’s been acting like a total jerk and different person at school, blocked me on everything, and from what I’ve heard talks bad about me. No contact started 10 days after the break up. I’d really appreciate it if you could help me out. Should I give him his stuff back? Or just wait until or if he contacts me? Thank you again for these amazing videos! You’ve helped me so much!!
Hi coach Lee Big big thank you, after i listened to your advice with no contact after i begging, cry. After 3 and a half months, i do no contact. He reaches out and says, "wanna try again he say i need to adjust my mistake in the past. Keep strong everyone
From my experience during this break up the more you accept that it’s over the better you will feel. I was with my ex 8 years and at times it was toxic we broke up 4 months ago and I was devastated I begged cried all of that. Big mistake!? I wish I saw these videos and knew of no contact so I could have applied it right away. Eaither way it’s been allmost 4 months and I feel stronger everyday and the more time that goes by the more I realize maybe they weren’t right for me . I love her but sometimes you have to realize you aren’t the right person for them and march forward?! Stay strong people
I broke down and reached out after 3 weeks of NC i started to get panic attacks at work and had it hard to breath. She told me she dident miss me during this time and was happy with her decision. Hearing her say that killed me it was a dager straight to the heart 😔😔😔
iceon8312 Brother, please go check out Ronin Man’s MGTOW content here on RUclips, it will help you to make sense of true female nature. Most MGTOW guys have experienced what you’re going through right now, so you’re not alone. You will come through this.
I left her alone and she met another guy we was together for 6 years and we have been broken up for 2 years ive been nc , she reaches out here and there for dogs that are staying with me. Im trying to stay strong and stay away from her I still have dreams/nightmares about her , i miss her so much but i can never tell her that
Coach Lee I have been dating a guy for 6 months, it seems like we have a misunderstanding or some type of break down in communication once a week normally via text that causes him to go silent. The last one we had was on the phone he hung up on me. I texted him and told him that it was rude and we didn't work. He texted back agreeing and then a thinking emoji (I wasn't asking to breakup, more or less an observation). I didn't contact him for a couple of days and found he had blocked me. After about a week I went to his house we talked but he really didn't have much to say about me that was nice other than I am a good person. I told him that I will respect that he don't want to talk to me. After leaving a few hours later he texted me with the message unblocked. I apologize for my abruptness and any offense he texted back with "Forgiven" then I went into no contact. Other than the misunderstanding in communication we have had some good times together he says he enjoy the times we share together. Should I be in no contact at this time?
If you want your seed to germinate, put it in the soil and hide it. After that give it time to germinate, when it's ready you will see healthy seedling 😊
Great video! A week or two ago, I found myself pursuring this women who had became distant with me. I knew I shouldn't have been, but I had a moment of weakness and corrected myself. I had made an invitation with her to spend time with me. She said okay. A few days later, I told her it felt forced, and it's not the way I'd want it. I rather have her come to me when she knows for sure she was ready not when I'm trying to force things. I doubt I will ever hear from her again, but hey. Atleast she knows I respect her, and I have enough respect for myself to walk away and not take her bread crumbs.
"Relationship Recovery Service"... might sound (no offense) cheesy at first but in reality it is as critical to the human walk as medical doctors. I've known people kill themselves over a broken heart. If you follow his advise, it will most likely increase your odds of getting your ex back. At the same time, if you follow his advice (as I have) it also gets you to understand the dynamics of what you and your ex are going thru and you may come to a place of peace to move on. I was a bit skeptical at first, but I think his work is a good thing - IMO. Too bad I have to go thru a painful mind-numbing breakup to discover this stuff.
FIERY JAY, LET me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I feel like I've completely messed up! I begged, I pleaded. Every time we spoke I offload my pain and hurt, asking why he didn't care or why he didn't love me. I literally did all the "donts". We broke up 4.5 months ago, it was an awful time. We stayed in touch almost daily but the interactions werent nice. He wasnt nice a lot. Telling me he didnt love me. Leave him alone, but then would reach out asking me to game with him. Then another day blocking me, or telling me again he didn't miss me or love me. Unblock me and repeat the cycle. 3 weeks ago, he asked to "build" and i agreed, and i got WAY to ahead of myself, too excited. The first week went well. He was like a different person, he was affectionate and complimentary. However, it was still ME who arranged the times we met. I then pulled back on week two, and he never tried to see me. I got in my head and became overbearing over the course of 4 days. Asking why he wasn't trying, why he was avoiding me. I recognised i did wrong (bare in mind we broke up because i was begging him for him to spend time with me, affection) He moved in with his mum and for a week it was almost like it was from the excitement if a new home, regardless I apologised for being paranoid. I communicated that i was fearful of him pulling away or losing him, and I implemented change instantly. But now he says we are done forever. He said he isn't trying anymore. He doesn't think we are compatible anymore. He then starts the nastiness again after saying he was scared to lose me, and he valued what he lost. I said I'd come and speak to him instead so that it wasnt over text, and we could talk, and he started threatening me to never go to his house or he would escalate it. I get hes mad and wants me to leave him alone. But that scared me. Seeing him threaten me like that. In these months i have chased, there was a time he told me his mental health was so bad and i knew he had no one else and i called the gp for him and went to the appointments with him because i was so worried about him. I supported him and put aside my own hurting. I love him a lot and if we were ABLE to just communicate. We'd truly be fine. I just.. i worry now that hes truly done. He blocked me on eveything he has (he doesnt have social media) and one of the days i noticed he unblocked me on snapchat for an entire day and then blocked me again. I'm 29, and he's 38. We were together 11 years. He says he doesnt like this version of me. That he doesnt trust things will change. Im really confused how hes managed to put this entirely on to me. He said i dont make him happy or bring him peace because obviously the last few days of talking i was crying and hurting. He then said im ruininh his life and dont contact him. That was the last ive heard from him. He has been nasty with words before. But i dont understand how weve gone from "building" and him being so kind and sweet and everything we spoke on. To this, again. It's like we are back to when he first ended with me. I've not reached out in any way. Im on day 4 of not contact. 😢😢
Wow coach you helped me so much to get out of a dark place in my life thank you so much For bringing clarity and truth into things I always look forward to your videos thank you man
I forced myself on my ex when he broke up with me. I wouldn’t let him leave me. I kept hugging him and pulling him towards me. I begged him to give us another chance, I told him I loved him and he’s been the best thing that has ever happened to me. After an hour of back n forth, I got in my car and told him I hope this break make him realized we are good for each other and I left. I haven’t heard from him in 3 days and I haven’t reached out. I was on the fence to text him but after rewatching these videos, I think it’s best that I don’t reach out, even if that means never hearing from him again. 😔😔💔
I've been in NC for 25 days now, my ex has reached out for the third time today, I feel more confused and feel like Im back at square one for the third time since NC, the first time was how are you? Every time I responded accordingly, second time a week later was sorry I hurt you, then today he messages saying we need to sort our belongings and where we go from here, we lived together 8years, we only discussed this, he thanked me for making this easy. He feels further away now.
I have been listening to your videos since 10 days straight - they have been comforting me in each hour of doubt and pain. Thank you so much for this. Never thought I could find so much relief and comfort thanks to a person in a youtube video. Again, thanks for your words, advice and wisdom.
I think the longest movie or series I've been watching is your channel ,i actually found brad browning first ,when the first time i saw your video i was like he is looking so serious ,finally i started to watching your video ....then i cannot even stop , you are the best ! I want to buy emergency kits ,i dont think i still need it but i want to donate ,since im a Chinese i have much limitation on pay ...but yes i want to buy 😕😕 ,you are saving my life , because im getting stronger here with you and all the others who is heart Broken
30 years of UP's and downs, during this time he got sick and l stayed with him and prayed for him. One day he decided to move to another state, life turned turned him upside down. He got in trouble, ended up in jail for six months. He started to contact me and eventually got out of jail. He came back to me for four years(living together) but he really changed (drinking) and l put him out. This man is 70 years old and he dyes his hair to look younger, wears clothes that are for a younger person. Now he is with another woman, l am devastated. Lord help me, l blocked my phone although we have a 35 year old daughter. HELP
Yes. It works like this. After one week of no contact and after being blocked, my ex unblocked me and texted me admitting I did nothing wrong and what a good woman I was.
@@brielleharmony7568 my ex still hasn’t reached out. But enough time has passed that it doesn’t tear me down anymore. I have focused on myself and personal growth, with casual dating and hookups here and there, and lots of time with friends.
@@Priest945 I still think about them from time to time, but I have accepted the breakup, and they have not reached out to me. But I have had many more wonderful memories and experiences with others in the meantime
It’s been almost 8 weeks after 8 1/2 years and engaged for a year, planning the wedding up to the last day. She dumped me on 1/1/22… she had been cheating on me for a month. We were living together and she kept contacting for apartment stuff. I did some fighting to keep her until mid-Feb. But now she’s with the affair partner and has only texted me happy birthday since NC started, I said thanks… still trying to understand even though it’s not something that I think will ever come. The videos you have made give me hope but it’s hope that something better will come out of this. Working on the things I can control, I’ve asked myself if its love or loss, it’s definitely a bit of both. I still miss her and part of me does want her back. Hopeful for the change that’s coming is better.
If you don't contact them they will reach out to you. It may be 3 or 4 months but they will call...Where I messed up at was ..I made myself available once he reached out to me...Dont be available all the time..don't ever call them..cause just like lee said..they will think they can come and go as they please..don't make yourself available the first time that they reach out.
Its been 3 days of no contact and it has been rough. I'm trying not to break so I been watching your videos for encouragement. My ex-girlfriend is really jealous and kept assuming I had a thing for her friend which was totally false. So eventually her jealousy was just too much that she eventually dumped me for no reason other than the fact she was really insecure. I really love her, miss her and want her back badly. I keep thinking about her constantly and it is starting to effect my daily life. I feel if it wasn't for her past relationships were her exes actually cheated on her, she would not be so jealous. So hopefully no contact with her will help her heal and realize that I was loyal and faithful to her. I can only pray at this point.
It doesn't hurt if u are alone u should be happy regardless have self love we came in this world alone and we die alone..when we start living for us u will always be happy even if yr x stays or go
Coach Lee you're nr 1!!!!! I've seen videos of all relational coaches... But you're just the best... So easy understanding, so clear details,.... I'm following all suggestions... THANKS 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻
Thaanks for the video. I have to say its day 5 of my ex leaving me. By listen to your videos its helping me get through my situation. Im learning alot. And day by day Im getting stronger
I love watching this guy's videos but at the same time I don't want to nurture any false hopes or fantasies that might not happen in real life lol I keep on saying to myself He couldn't care less, He doesn't care at all... The period after a breakup is all about internal fighting to keep your mind sane!! That's the only thing that I need to and want to hold on.
@@aishikadas526 thanks for asking! It’s been a roller coaster of emotions as everyone else I think. My ex had dated sb before actually saying goodbye to me when he got back to his hometown on vacation. It’s been tough for me day by day. I realized I overestimated my own power that I could make him open his heart but finally I was just a temporary fulfillment for him lol. Girls and guys don’t trust the stories like you can help sb change only with your care and kindness. I’m way too stupid
@@aoyenngoc502 I'm so sorry to hear about this sis, I hope you are doing better now and I wish your life ahead will be full of love and happiness. Stay strong you are amazing and you deserve the best ❣️
We are back together! But now he just wants to hang out with his friends and doesn’t plan anything with me. I don’t want to be “controlling” and tell him he needs to make time for me because he does sometimes but it’s always on his time. It’s almost like I feel as though I have to keep myself open all the time(because I want to be ready to hang out if he wants to) just in case he says let’s hang out. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. We are getting back into the groove of things but we used to live together so he lives with his parents again. His best friend is always over there or calling to hang out with Him. I’ve been to his house for dinner and he has left with him to go hang out somewhere else and asks me to stay and just hang out with his mom (we are good friends but still) so I can sleep over. Weve gone to my cabin and the weekend is amazing but then when we get back to reality he’s the same. Not sure what to do.
I made all the classic mistakes after the breakup, now I’ve been blocked. 35 days into no contact. (Easier when you’re blocked) I’m doing better every day and working on myself. Wish me luck!
@@ConceptHut thanks for asking. The thought of getting back with my ex is revolting. She hasn’t attempted contact but I’m happy about it. I’m actually recently married to a wonderful wife that treats me well.
Am I the only one that finds Coach Lee’s videos comforting and empowering? Look forward to new ones all the time.
Yes! No matter if we want our ex back our not these videos really give the best thing any individual can gain: Encouragement to stand as a sovereign and powerful individual, moving forward with purpose no matter what happens. Great show!
Me as well
100% I am glad i found these video's.
I wish coach Lee was a therapist id definitely be open to speaking to him
@@dudleylandsberg1747 Check out Craig Kenneth.
No contact does work guys my ex gf ended our 3yrs relationship and i begged and cried for about a week , tried no contact for 7days then break it. I came back to this channel for guidance and now I’ve been in no contact for 4 week guess what…. she just contacted me i feel so happy and am going to apply what I’ve learned from coach Lee. Don’t give up guys there’s light at the end of the tunnel.
Happy for you man
Happy for you man, how are the things going now betwen you two?
It's been a month, he still hasn't come back... not sure whether he ever will tbh... but happy for you🎉
@@AnastasiaWarden if he is avoidant sometimes you reach out to them after a month or so about something small or bills ect. and see what they are like, be indifferent too , let them see you are over them and moved on. they hate that
He did reach out when I sent him a follow request then unsent it.... it was really weird because he pretended as if nothing happened... then the conversation didn't go anywhere and he started stalking my instagram, then after he looked at my story 12 times he blocked me @tankthearc9875. So yeah, don't know what's gonna happen at this point.
Never ask your ex if they miss/love you after the breakup. Even if they do they are gonna hide behind that mask. Keep up the spirit. ☺️
My biggest mistake. Everytime I would see or talk to him. I would ask. I give up now.
@@hopelessromantic1763 I wish you a happy life... 😊
@@hwdareu5848 thanks
True
Strongly agree
This guy comforts my anxiety.
Same
Aye true story..I need to put him under my pillow
Same
Absolutely true, me too😊
Yes me too 👍🙏
In order be to missed you have to be gone
Fucking truth
thecollinzboy calm down neck beard
Well said!
Man that’s the fucking truth!!! Can’t be missed if y’all always contacting !!!
Does it really work if I go away, is she going to miss me?
More than a month in no contact and it feels fucking good. Move on guys. There is a world waiting for us. We all deserve better. We all have got golden opportunity to develop ourselves.
Did you move on or got back together??
Only a month!? Your relationship and partner can’t have meant much to you.
It still feels new after 3 months . I wake up in sadness everyday but trying to be positive because I deserve the world. These videos have been comforting me deeply when nobody else understands the pain.
U been in NC for 3 months
@@hellomybaby7486 yeah I started NC the day we broke up and I didn’t know what it was till I came across these videos so apparently I was doing it right. But he hasn’t texted or called for 3 months . It’s crazy.
@@Sarahh_ I’m sorry that your in so much pain. I’m going through it right now NC 2 weeks . Do you know what attachment style he is? Look it up Mine is a dismissive avoidant those are the hardest to reached out
@@hellomybaby7486 mine definitely had a big ego he probably thinks I have to be the one to call or text which in and of itself is an issue. But we’re in February and I didn’t receive a single text. Not even a “hey how are you” . Nothing. While it really hurts I believe our dignity and self respect is more important. We should and will not reach out to someone who easily let us go. If they deserve us, they’ll find their way back. Stay strong and do a lot of self care. I was neglecting my self care and fell into depression , isolating myself at home. I realized that in this life nothing is really ours and we should never get attached to any human being as they will disappoint us. I pray more and got closer to god from this. Pray god gives you an amazing spouse.
We are in the same boat !
I wake up everyday depressed but as day goes by I feel better. It’s just not getting off my head, especially when she doesn’t care what is happening to me or miss me after leaving.
Anxiety and depression are full blown during the holidays for a lot of people. Re-living our traumas, missing people we can no longer be with during the holidays. Please keep the helpful videos coming. They do help.
IASOU2005 exactly what I’m going through right now. It’s harder during holiday season because I was with her for 2 years and birth years we’ve spend with each others families. Sucks.
I started volunteered right along with my uncle who was going through a divorce I have children so I started a new tradition with them its ok to miss someone but still show the people who are still in your life appreciation
@@flowfactoryinc07
Try 7 years together and engaged
TheSeattlegreen I couldn’t even imagine bro hope all is way
@@flowfactoryinc07
What's crazy is when I first met this girl she was extremely attractive and a knockout under the sheets! I mean she was the best I've ever had and theres not going to be anybody that could top her! I basically knew I was in trouble when I was dating her because nothing last forever.
During the first couple of months I said to myself "Frank you're going to be in a lot of trouble one day when this girl leaves you because there's nothing out there even close to her"! But I told myself it's better than being alone and I have the hottest best girl in the world!
And the day she left me was 50 days ago, she's all I think about everyday every minute every hour.
The only time I'm not thinking about her is when I'm working at my job because I do electrical work and I have to be 100% focused or I'm going to die and kill myself from being electrocuted.
All I want to do is work just so I can keep my mind off of her.
Seriously bro i found the best hottest girl ever and I was fortunate enough to have her for seven years!
She's gone dude. At least when she left I just told her "okay see ya" I didn't beg her cry none of that garbage because I knew you not supposed to do that if I have any chance of getting her back.
This girl gave me so much sex all kinds of sex to the point where I had to turn it down because I was shooting blanks! Once I met her at a hotel I knocked on the door she opened it and her exact words were "hey can I get you off right now"? I mean who says this? She swallowed every single time bro!
I would be getting woken up by her going down on me dude...
On top of all this she was the hottest chick ever!
Anyways I am 39 years old and I don't want anyone else unless it's her because if I get anyone else it's going to be a downgrade and I won't be happy.
So I'm fine never having anyone else again.
I'll just keep thinking about the memories I have videos of us too (if you know what I mean) but I try not to watch those because its too powerful..
So unless she comes back I'm done with women at the moment.
I don't want to downgrade that would just make me even more depressed I think.
Wish me luck bro. And good luck to you
He left me a week ago. First 2 days we stayed in contact. Then I found Coach Lee’s videos and stopped replying to his breadcrumbs. He eventually sent me an “I miss you” text after 2 days NC, bc he was feeling I was slowly detaching myself… I replied “you’re the one who broke up with me” and he said “yes I know”. Unless he follows this up by an “I want you back”, then it’s radio silence from me! Listening to Coach Lee made me realize… begging for someone to stay is betraying yourself. I will never lower myself to this level ever again! Have dignity & respect for yourself! That is the most attractive thing you can do❤️ We can do this!!!
My ex contacted me today after a 4 month block. Thank you Lee, your advice works.
Nice bro
4 Month Block
I Would’ve Told Her Keep The Block Going Or I’ll Jus Put Her On A Permanent Block 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
@@kidcre_dandelin2292
And you're here because..??????
Can you update us on how it’s going right now?
@@TheKG636 I've started 3 days ago but I think it's going to take awhile
Just know your worth you guys, I know when your heart Broken or confused we watch these types of videos, I’m telling you know if he/ she really loves you, you will never have to watch these type of videos. When a man loves you, you can be the craziest, wildest, quietist, loudest etc person ever and he will love you. So take time for yourself and thank god that he blessed you and let that person go, it’s not healthy waiting on someone. Live your life and let love find you! Please
You couldn't have said it any better. My ex dumped me and came back. I accepted her, and then she dumped my ass again. Then she came back, and because I genuinely loved her, I accepted her back again. Then she dumped my ass again. And her reason each time was that I deserve someone better than her. She couldn't be anymore right! She is permanently banned from my life now.
That made no sense whatsoever.
Sadly life isn't this simple fairytale. People go through different phases and make mistakes.
@@nbafan3021 Sounds like your Ex probably has Fearful Avoidant attachment style or Avoidant attachment style.
Thank you :( it's just so hard loving someone who will never love you back anymore
Been almost 4 weeks nc for me. Last night was the hardest one yet. Part of me wants her back and part of me wishes I can just forget she exists. It hurts but I know this is the best thing no matter the outcome. The breakup brought clarity and I know not to make the same mistakes as before in my next relationship, whether it's with her or eventually someone better. Stay strong guys, dont let someone else control your happiness
andynator149 it’s been almost 4 weeks for me too and I struggle sometimes but I’ve been working on myself and I feel great
Any contact?
Amen
Same here, 5 weeks but am still struggling, today I felt like the first day. Omg this is the first time am going through this.
Hey bro how is the situation now? Did you hear anything from her?
I'm just snuggling up to bed and I'm looking forward to watching this tomorrow
You help me getting out of bed in this dark period
Thank you coach
No one motivates me more than you
How long has it been since no contact
@@rateorhate11 only 5 days because he reached out to complain that l didn't think of his birthday... Before that little encounter it have been two months. He's in a rebound relationship, but as you see Lee is right, he's still thinking about me 👍
Lena Schaef ooh ok. Mine has been 2 months and few days now. It was my bday last week but she didn’t reach out lol. Doesn’t really bother me though. I know she’s on a rebound too.
@@khawlabintal-azwar2 2 years? Did they reach out? Did you reach out?
@@khawlabintal-azwar2 So you didn't even get back to the text? Always surprised to find people who have actually moved on in comments under those videos 😳
It's been 10 days of no contact, I can see things clearly now. I don't need my ex anymore. Goodluck to you guys! You can do it! ❣️
Update:
It's been almost 2 months, I still don't hear something from my past. But I feel much better now than before.
@@vesvxofficial4290 update us and give us some details. How long were you together, why did you break up.
Any update?
Ya know coach Lee? Everytime I feel down and hopeless I watch your videos and its uplifting. Even if she doesn't come back you're getting me through this. Thank you.
I don't have money to tip or buy the kits, but I do my best to watch full ads on your channel and every second, the only genuine coach out there . Much love
same, coach lee is great
Same. He's the only one I watch
Coach Lee knows what he is talking about.
Veteran at life
Andre Lewis Exactly.
Every time I see a video of coach lee it calms me down and gets me through the day without being negative
The worst feeling is to want the closeness of your ex, but feels like you are holding on to sand.....it keeps slipping through your fingers......
First day, of no contact is the hardest a lot of emotions, fifth day, you feel a lot wanting to contact questioning yourself, tenth day, you start to have some clarity bit of a breakthrough clouds are breaking, fifteenth day, analyzing the relationship but also the sun is starting to shine through a little, twentieth day, put your shades on so much sun in your view, and ten days after yeah you still think about it because you loved them so much but you realize how much of a better person you are without them.
Everything is a process and during this time its like grieving just endure it and love yourself the way you want it reciprocated back.
Peace and love whoever is going through heartache... you will love again. 🙏
Coach thanks for the vids amazing words.
Too true. Absolutely correct. U r a wise person
Coach Lee thank u for bringing the love of my life back, after nearly one month of no contact he reached out! I took your advice just keep it casual, let him initiate all the conversations,just like you said absent is powerful, he was so curious about me. The day before yesterday we had sex.
Can't thank u enough Coach Lee, you are almighty!
Hope this help me man
You're the Man, no contact an leaving them alone obviously is best thing you can do for yourself and later it pays off
Coach lee I’m almost 3 months into no contact. I’ve often wondered this exact question. Thank you for making this video, it helps so
much. I wanted to reach out for thanksgiving and I didn’t. The holidays will be hard but your videos are getting me through it. Thanks again coach Lee.
Gabriella Causi after 3 months I’d just move on sis ... lol
@@Gilly209x Dont laugh at her..ur disrespectful..
Margo Mazzeo How so? I was in the same boat too... crying over my ex.. thinking about her every damn night... it hurts and it sucks.... I’m not going to continue to WAIT any longer than 3 months personally... I wouldn’t hang on for someone who hasn’t realized they lost a great man after 3 months... after 3 months... it’s their loss and it’s time to move on...
@@Gilly209x my last ex came back after 3 months of no contact. We got married and had a baby. Split up again 4 years later. Then she tried to come back after 7 months of no contact but I had moved on.
Shawn Jesseman OMG that’s crazy! Why didn’t it work out after 4 years? If you don’t mind me asking? Was it for the original reasons? Or different ones? Did she cheat?
It’s been 4 weeks to the day since she broke up with me, and I’ve been in no contact since. It’s been very difficult. We were best friends, and it was really unexpected. Coach Lee’s videos give me hope that she’ll come back one day
Peter White time To contact her bro❤️
Karl Legson I’m still going to wait. I’ve been strong so far. And with Christmas coming up, and our anniversary in late January, I have some hope that she’ll contact me first. Especially since both fall in between the 45-75 day period of separation anxiety. I’ll feel much better about being with her again if she reaches out first.
Peter White good choice. My Ex contacted me just after 4 days 🤦🏻♂️. I was being short with her, and she desperately told me to talk with her.
Karl Legson did you take her back?
Peter White Yeah, but we dont have any labels
Coach Lee, I just wanted to thank-you. You have really helped me through this hard time and your calming yet direct demeanor is exactly what I and so many others, need. Thank-you so much.
Coach Lee there are coaches out there that I listened to some contradict themselves on what they say. I listen to you and you seem to have so much more knowledge then everyone else. I talked to you about a year ago when my break up first happened and I didn't really listen. Year later I see that I messed up and I lost her. My point to you is I believe in your words I just wish I'd listened a year ago. And I'm sure people listen to you they will understand what to do. Keep helping people because being dumped by someone you love sucks.
Coach Lee I just want to say I love you. You are so intelligent , handsome and helpful. Keep it up we appreciate you 🙏🏻
Coach Lee, you look so handsome. The new haircut looks super good on you. You look even younger. Wow!!!. Good advice too!
Thanks to your videos I’ve been in such a better place, my ex and I broke up about 7 months ago I went into no contact for the second time back at the end of August. She contacted me in October and I ignored her because I didn’t want her to think she could have me back that easily. Just last weekend I saw her at a funeral and paid no attention to her and my God I looked really good and felt really good and she was there with her current boyfriend, just last night she followed me on another social media account. Now I feel like I’m a better person and I’ve moved on significantly but no contact seriously works, listen to coach!
idk how you do it but you always manage to make me feel better when im having a day where im all caught up in my thoughts. I dont know if im perpetuating my pain by listening to stuff like this. Its been 5 months NC and im improving a lot but i still miss him and wish i got some text from him that would validate all this pain. Thank you for your help coach lee.
I'm very sorry you had to wait this long. It's been only one week of NC for me and i really hope i don't have to wait this long. BTW I'm curious to know what happened with you if you can update please.
Update us
@@SauravKumar-ek1gw what happened
@@tyetr9853 Don't want to discourage anyone but it's been over 5 months and my ex is happy with her rebound, still hurts that they are living together but the pain is a bit less now. I've learnt to live with it. Trying to move on still but somedays are still rough. Hopefully others have better luck than me.
@@tyetr9853 weird to think about the time when i wrote this comment honestly. I was convinced I’d never feel better or get over him but i can honestly say you will and once you get to this point itll be such a relief. you wont even realize when it happens, one day you just wont care anymore. And no, he never reached out. He did look at my linkedin which i got a notification for (this was almost 2 years after we broke up lol) and i kinda thought it was pathetic. just live your life and focus on improving yourself. I’ve also met someone who cares about me so much more than he ever did
You can’t even imagine how much this helps me.I was led on by a guy for a year only for him to tell me finally that he just wants to be friends.Yes I was over investing,yes I treated him as a prize...every day I watch your videos to kill my desire to contact him.
Seriously your videos save me... i need this advice right now. I feel much more relaxed after these videos.
Angela, same for me.... So relieved after Coach Lee's videos..he explains all features so easy to understand, and often repeats the most important subjects so you remember them.. 😉 😉
I believe my ex is gone forever but thank you for these videos. Sometimes it seems unbearable but other times, I feel empowered. I am moving on with my career. My real estate career is doing so much better. I relaunched my other business and I am moving on slowly.
It's been nearly 4 days of no contact, and I feem empowered! No longer am I giving him the control!!
Im on day 11. It sucks so bad, can't believe it's already been 11 days. I'm at a stage of bitterness and anger now
I was being blocked too with my ex and it was so painful
You're the man pal. I'm in radio silence at the moment as we had a lockdown wobble after 4.5 yrs and I was a bit needy. I'm doing weights, earning more than ever and doing some work to be an upgrade of the best me. If she doesn't want me back I'll move on. Ouch.. Love this lady dearly.. Finger crossed. I'll be strong if she texts and gauge it carefully. I won't be running straight back until I'm in boooooom mode . Cheers dude 👍
Did she ever get in touch with you? Hope you're doing alright
It’s a month today. Thought I was done with crying. But I cried all night until my head hurts.
Same man it’s been basically a month
You got this! Keep it up!
Almost 3 months
Still same situation like u !! 😭
@@JorDel_1111 It's been almost 3 months since my breakup as well. My ex was severely damaged because of her previous abusive relationship. I thought I could fix her by treating her incredibly well and being there for her emotionally, but I was completely wrong. You can't fix a partner, they have to want to fix themselves. Anyways, my ex basically told me I treated her too well and she didn't deserve it. She immediately got into a relationship with a sleazeball who is currently cheating on her (she knows he's cheating and she doesn't even care)... truth be told, I was probably monkey-branched, so I guess that's karma. Regardless, the whole thing is too crazy for me. I'm a good guy who would never cheat or hurt anyone, and I treated her like a queen. I know my value and I now realize I don't deserve drama like that. I don't know what the future holds, but I will never invest my heart into another damaged woman again.
Same here
You are amazing. I am going thru the worst time right now, and you help me so much. Thank you!
Stef Bohn same here a 16 year marriage finished the mad thing is we never argued she just left we went through ivf it was hell ... I am leavening the country going to go live in Asia for a while heal and find myself hope you feel better soon ..remember life is short and time is a healer it’s not what you want to hear but it’s true 👍👍👍👍
@@tatts_with_traps hey just checking in to see how things are going for ya today ? I actually am on day 23 of NC after 13 months and im also about to leave the country for a couple months lol
So wanted to see how it worked for ya ???
@@joshmcgowan4376 wow I can’t remember writing that I lived in Thailand and Cambodia for a while Singapore come back to England started my own business was really successful trust me the hardest and most real thing I can tell you about break up is it’s tough no sugarcoating it it’s been 2 and a half years and I never really got over it I got better at hiding the pain remember heal yourself good luck bro 👍👍
My 8 months relationship ended last December, my bf dumped me saying he don't want to be in relationship, but within a week of break up, he jump into other relationship. When I asked him why you're in new relationship, he said to me he is not serious about his new relationship, I wish karma teach him good lesson for life that he never forget till he is alive. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
When someone asks for water ,what do we do we give them water, when they ask for help we help them so if an x asks for a brake up and space , GIVE THEM THE BRAkE UP AND SPACE
This comparison is incorrect. Will you cut your limb off if someone asks you to without even explaining why do they need that?
What if someone cheats on you and dumps you for that person, will you go around smiling like an idiot afterwards because apparently good thing happened? Please.
Margarita M. You really just made no sense at all 😂
@@margaritam.9118 ur not that important
@@Tai2617 u make no sense in this universe
@@Tai2617 but I understand ppl like dont understand 😂😂😂
This man is comforting and empowering. 💯💯
I broke no contact twice. First time after a week second time after 21 days. I was crying and desperate. Made myself look like a fool. Now it’s at 2 weeks no contact again. This is so hard.
I broke no contact after 7 days via text. I felt like crap after . I had done well. Now I know how drug addicts feel when they relapse.
Listen to this, it seems like you have power to change something if you just say the right thing but it’s not about convincing the other person, it’s about becoming best you. Stop thinking you gotta save it, it’s a very one sided task. Don’t make rash decisions or reach out too soon
I have decided to diarise my no contact and with each passing day i write what i feel and i put on paper what i want to say to him without actually saying it to him. I get to express how and what i feel in that moment even if i write whole day. It helps me alot. After my first day of no cantact he reached out to me and told me he thinks of me everyday and he wants me to be safe when im travelling and i simply replied with a " thank you" so that he knows i acknowledge that he still cares and i left it there. But still applying my no contact rule... Thank you coach Lee you're really helping me cope through this very difficult time in my life. Most days it feels i am suffocating cos this pain in unbearable.. But i know things will get better for me ❤️
Update?
I wish I could tell u all my story but RUclips deletes it each time I post it. Coach Lee your videos keep me sane and calm. U are a blessing to us all. thank u for all that u do!
No contact has been pure agony for me so far. With any other girl it would've faded after a couple of weeks, but I am only recently getting brief periods of... just relief from the pain but by comparison it feels better than orgasm. This is even with having lost 20 pounds, put on a bunch of muscle and started improving my financial situation. I moved to a new city recently where she is the only person I know..... So I have nobody to lean on. And it's difficult to feel good about my improvements because I can't show them to her right now...... All of this to say the only thing keeping me from cracking and breaking no contact is watching these videos. If Coach Lee is good at nothing else, he is good at supporting those of us going through this.
Everything you say Coach Lee is gold and it has come true. Thank you so much for your help! God bless you!
I've been waiting for Thanksgiving...been in NC for 2 months by then...to shoot my shot and wish him Happy Thanksgiving & ask him how he is....but I do think the biggest impact will occur IF I DON'T after listening to this..Thank you Coach.
I bursted into crying ... how rude and heartless some people are ...
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@@karennaiga2496 hi
The golden spear of whatever is not as powerful as time.... and thats just science. Fight on my friends. Stay smooth.
Every. Single. Video helps me throughout this sucky time. It’s been two months since my ex bf broke up with me. I’ve been following what you say with no contact and working on myself. It also sucks because I have to see him every day at school, as he is in my chemistry class. I’m at the point were I have the rest of his stuff and I can’t stand to look at it and I almost dropped it off for him in one of his classes today with a note in there that he doesn’t deserve to get but I didn’t as today would’ve been our 10 months and I do not want to seem petty or break no contact. I really do love him, I’m only 17 but we went through so much in only 8 months and he made me a better me. I’d like him back but he’s been acting like a total jerk and different person at school, blocked me on everything, and from what I’ve heard talks bad about me. No contact started 10 days after the break up. I’d really appreciate it if you could help me out. Should I give him his stuff back? Or just wait until or if he contacts me? Thank you again for these amazing videos! You’ve helped me so much!!
Hi Karmen, any feedback on this? Did he reach out to you?
Hi coach Lee
Big big thank you, after i listened to your advice with no contact after i begging, cry. After 3 and a half months, i do no contact. He reaches out and says, "wanna try again he say i need to adjust my mistake in the past.
Keep strong everyone
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From my experience during this break up the more you accept that it’s over the better you will feel. I was with my ex 8 years and at times it was toxic we broke up 4 months ago and I was devastated I begged cried all of that. Big mistake!? I wish I saw these videos and knew of no contact so I could have applied it right away. Eaither way it’s been allmost 4 months and I feel stronger everyday and the more time that goes by the more I realize maybe they weren’t right for me . I love her but sometimes you have to realize you aren’t the right person for them and march forward?! Stay strong people
Even though it has just been 2 days without any contact im proud of my self man. I've watched over 10 of your videos just today and learned so much
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Same here 2 days & no contact!!!
Me too!
Did you guys get back together?
I find him very comforting and full of knowledge,thank you coach Lee 😊
So much help in these videos. Thanks Coach Lee. You’re really helping with the mental and emotional pains of a separation.
My ex text me today after a 4 day NC.
This man is terrific.
I broke down and reached out after 3 weeks of NC i started to get panic attacks at work and had it hard to breath. She told me she dident miss me during this time and was happy with her decision. Hearing her say that killed me it was a dager straight to the heart 😔😔😔
forget her and never get feelings for a woman again
iceon8312 Brother, please go check out Ronin Man’s MGTOW content here on RUclips, it will help you to make sense of true female nature. Most MGTOW guys have experienced what you’re going through right now, so you’re not alone. You will come through this.
If you go into NC and work on yourself give her time and space chances of her coming back are greater. 3 weeks is nothing. Try 3 months.
A2Kaid shit try 11 years 😂😂😂
You are a Jedi Master Coach Lee. Thanks for your gracious delivery of difficult truths. Your advice has been invaluable.
I left her alone and she met another guy we was together for 6 years and we have been broken up for 2 years ive been nc , she reaches out here and there for dogs that are staying with me. Im trying to stay strong and stay away from her I still have dreams/nightmares about her , i miss her so much but i can never tell her that
I'm in the same position man
Coach Lee
I have been dating a guy for 6 months, it seems like we have a misunderstanding or some type of break down in communication once a week normally via text that causes him to go silent. The last one we had was on the phone he hung up on me. I texted him and told him that it was rude and we didn't work. He texted back agreeing and then a thinking emoji (I wasn't asking to breakup, more or less an observation). I didn't contact him for a couple of days and found he had blocked me. After about a week I went to his house we talked but he really didn't have much to say about me that was nice other than I am a good person. I told him that I will respect that he don't want to talk to me. After leaving a few hours later he texted me with the message unblocked. I apologize for my abruptness and any offense he texted back with "Forgiven" then I went into no contact. Other than the misunderstanding in communication we have had some good times together he says he enjoy the times we share together. Should I be in no contact at this time?
If you want your seed to germinate, put it in the soil and hide it. After that give it time to germinate, when it's ready you will see healthy seedling 😊
Great video! A week or two ago, I found myself pursuring this women who had became distant with me. I knew I shouldn't have been, but I had a moment of weakness and corrected myself. I had made an invitation with her to spend time with me. She said okay. A few days later, I told her it felt forced, and it's not the way I'd want it. I rather have her come to me when she knows for sure she was ready not when I'm trying to force things. I doubt I will ever hear from her again, but hey. Atleast she knows I respect her, and I have enough respect for myself to walk away and not take her bread crumbs.
"Relationship Recovery Service"... might sound (no offense) cheesy at first but in reality it is as critical to the human walk as medical doctors. I've known people kill themselves over a broken heart. If you follow his advise, it will most likely increase your odds of getting your ex back. At the same time, if you follow his advice (as I have) it also gets you to understand the dynamics of what you and your ex are going thru and you may come to a place of peace to move on. I was a bit skeptical at first, but I think his work is a good thing - IMO. Too bad I have to go thru a painful mind-numbing breakup to discover this stuff.
We fight a lot in the end and he was cheating on me with an old friend of mine, so it's done. He's never going to think about us
Valentine’s Day is upon us. I’m doing the no contact rule but after 4 years of saying I love you this will be a hard one for me..
FIERY JAY, LET me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I promise you will not regret it.
Hair looking good Coach Lee
I feel like I've completely messed up! I begged, I pleaded. Every time we spoke I offload my pain and hurt, asking why he didn't care or why he didn't love me. I literally did all the "donts". We broke up 4.5 months ago, it was an awful time. We stayed in touch almost daily but the interactions werent nice. He wasnt nice a lot. Telling me he didnt love me. Leave him alone, but then would reach out asking me to game with him. Then another day blocking me, or telling me again he didn't miss me or love me. Unblock me and repeat the cycle.
3 weeks ago, he asked to "build" and i agreed, and i got WAY to ahead of myself, too excited. The first week went well. He was like a different person, he was affectionate and complimentary. However, it was still ME who arranged the times we met. I then pulled back on week two, and he never tried to see me. I got in my head and became overbearing over the course of 4 days. Asking why he wasn't trying, why he was avoiding me. I recognised i did wrong (bare in mind we broke up because i was begging him for him to spend time with me, affection) He moved in with his mum and for a week it was almost like it was from the excitement if a new home, regardless I apologised for being paranoid. I communicated that i was fearful of him pulling away or losing him, and I implemented change instantly. But now he says we are done forever. He said he isn't trying anymore. He doesn't think we are compatible anymore. He then starts the nastiness again after saying he was scared to lose me, and he valued what he lost. I said I'd come and speak to him instead so that it wasnt over text, and we could talk, and he started threatening me to never go to his house or he would escalate it. I get hes mad and wants me to leave him alone. But that scared me. Seeing him threaten me like that.
In these months i have chased, there was a time he told me his mental health was so bad and i knew he had no one else and i called the gp for him and went to the appointments with him because i was so worried about him. I supported him and put aside my own hurting. I love him a lot and if we were ABLE to just communicate. We'd truly be fine. I just.. i worry now that hes truly done. He blocked me on eveything he has (he doesnt have social media) and one of the days i noticed he unblocked me on snapchat for an entire day and then blocked me again.
I'm 29, and he's 38. We were together 11 years. He says he doesnt like this version of me. That he doesnt trust things will change. Im really confused how hes managed to put this entirely on to me. He said i dont make him happy or bring him peace because obviously the last few days of talking i was crying and hurting. He then said im ruininh his life and dont contact him. That was the last ive heard from him. He has been nasty with words before. But i dont understand how weve gone from "building" and him being so kind and sweet and everything we spoke on. To this, again. It's like we are back to when he first ended with me. I've not reached out in any way. Im on day 4 of not contact. 😢😢
You are so young to suffer for love,you are only 29 years,leave that man and build your life,you will find a better man
@dianacrafts5660 thank you so much
we got back after a month of no contact thankk coach
I used to watch your videos cause I was so heartbroken. But now I’m healed. I’m better and I don’t care about ex.
I’m okay. I don’t feel anything for my ex anymore. I believe what’s meant to be will always be. Thanks though!
Wow coach you helped me so much to get out of a dark place in my life thank you so much For bringing clarity and truth into things
I always look forward to your videos thank you man
I swear that intro background music is clutch. Subliminal calming start.
Thank you so much Coach! If I didn’t have your videos for reassurance I would be a mess
I forced myself on my ex when he broke up with me. I wouldn’t let him leave me. I kept hugging him and pulling him towards me. I begged him to give us another chance, I told him I loved him and he’s been the best thing that has ever happened to me. After an hour of back n forth, I got in my car and told him I hope this break make him realized we are good for each other and I left. I haven’t heard from him in 3 days and I haven’t reached out. I was on the fence to text him but after rewatching these videos, I think it’s best that I don’t reach out, even if that means never hearing from him again. 😔😔💔
Loving the new hair style 👍
I've been in NC for 25 days now, my ex has reached out for the third time today, I feel more confused and feel like Im back at square one for the third time since NC, the first time was how are you? Every time I responded accordingly, second time a week later was sorry I hurt you, then today he messages saying we need to sort our belongings and where we go from here, we lived together 8years, we only discussed this, he thanked me for making this easy. He feels further away now.
Your eyes are so blue in this video, it's like looking into the ocean 🌊👀
Thanks for the great content!
I have been listening to your videos since 10 days straight - they have been comforting me in each hour of doubt and pain. Thank you so much for this. Never thought I could find so much relief and comfort thanks to a person in a youtube video. Again, thanks for your words, advice and wisdom.
I think the longest movie or series I've been watching is your channel ,i actually found brad browning first ,when the first time i saw your video i was like he is looking so serious ,finally i started to watching your video ....then i cannot even stop , you are the best ! I want to buy emergency kits ,i dont think i still need it but i want to donate ,since im a Chinese i have much limitation on pay ...but yes i want to buy 😕😕 ,you are saving my life , because im getting stronger here with you and all the others who is heart Broken
30 years of UP's and downs, during this time he got sick and l stayed with him and prayed for him. One day he decided to move to another state, life turned turned him upside down. He got in trouble, ended up in jail for six months. He started to contact me and eventually got out of jail. He came back to me for four years(living together) but he really changed (drinking) and l put him out. This man is 70 years old and he dyes his hair to look younger, wears clothes that are for a younger person. Now he is with another woman, l am devastated. Lord help me, l blocked my phone although we have a 35 year old daughter. HELP
Every video you make helps me be positive and help me move forward as much as it hurts. Your knowledge has helped me alot. Keep them coming
Yes. It works like this. After one week of no contact and after being blocked, my ex unblocked me and texted me admitting I did nothing wrong and what a good woman I was.
Been in a year since I was dumped out of the blue by my ex. Still struggling but still staying in no contact. It does get easier over Time
How do you feel now what have you done in the meantime?
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@@brielleharmony7568 my ex still hasn’t reached out. But enough time has passed that it doesn’t tear me down anymore. I have focused on myself and personal growth, with casual dating and hookups here and there, and lots of time with friends.
@@Priest945 I still think about them from time to time, but I have accepted the breakup, and they have not reached out to me. But I have had many more wonderful memories and experiences with others in the meantime
It’s been almost 8 weeks after 8 1/2 years and engaged for a year, planning the wedding up to the last day. She dumped me on 1/1/22… she had been cheating on me for a month.
We were living together and she kept contacting for apartment stuff. I did some fighting to keep her until mid-Feb.
But now she’s with the affair partner and has only texted me happy birthday since NC started, I said thanks… still trying to understand even though it’s not something that I think will ever come.
The videos you have made give me hope but it’s hope that something better will come out of this.
Working on the things I can control, I’ve asked myself if its love or loss, it’s definitely a bit of both. I still miss her and part of me does want her back. Hopeful for the change that’s coming is better.
If you don't contact them they will reach out to you. It may be 3 or 4 months but they will call...Where I messed up at was ..I made myself available once he reached out to me...Dont be available all the time..don't ever call them..cause just like lee said..they will think they can come and go as they please..don't make yourself available the first time that they reach out.
That's were i ruined everything when she missed call me i went bla bla bla I can't live without you 💔 an then bang she went cool ab bitchy 😎
Are you sure he will come back? 🥺
Its been 3 days of no contact and it has been rough. I'm trying not to break so I been watching your videos for encouragement. My ex-girlfriend is really jealous and kept assuming I had a thing for her friend which was totally false. So eventually her jealousy was just too much that she eventually dumped me for no reason other than the fact she was really insecure. I really love her, miss her and want her back badly. I keep thinking about her constantly and it is starting to effect my daily life. I feel if it wasn't for her past relationships were her exes actually cheated on her, she would not be so jealous. So hopefully no contact with her will help her heal and realize that I was loyal and faithful to her. I can only pray at this point.
It doesn't hurt if u are alone u should be happy regardless have self love we came in this world alone and we die alone..when we start living for us u will always be happy even if yr x stays or go
Good point
Thank you so much! I watch you at work, before bed. Etc. You bern a blessing by breaking things down. You are awesome.
U have me hooked Coach Lee. Liking the advice
Coach Lee is blooming!
Coach Lee you're nr 1!!!!! I've seen videos of all relational coaches... But you're just the best... So easy understanding, so clear details,.... I'm following all suggestions... THANKS 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻
Thank you coach Lee for being there for those person lost in Love. Wish you the best
Thank you,, right on time. I’ve actually stayed away, it truly works. Thank you. You’re always on point. 😘
Thaanks for the video. I have to say its day 5 of my ex leaving me. By listen to your videos its helping me get through my situation. Im learning alot. And day by day Im getting stronger
I love watching this guy's videos but at the same time I don't want to nurture any false hopes or fantasies that might not happen in real life lol I keep on saying to myself He couldn't care less, He doesn't care at all... The period after a breakup is all about internal fighting to keep your mind sane!! That's the only thing that I need to and want to hold on.
How's everything now? Are you doing ok?
@@aishikadas526 thanks for asking! It’s been a roller coaster of emotions as everyone else I think. My ex had dated sb before actually saying goodbye to me when he got back to his hometown on vacation. It’s been tough for me day by day. I realized I overestimated my own power that I could make him open his heart but finally I was just a temporary fulfillment for him lol. Girls and guys don’t trust the stories like you can help sb change only with your care and kindness. I’m way too stupid
@@aoyenngoc502 I'm so sorry to hear about this sis, I hope you are doing better now and I wish your life ahead will be full of love and happiness. Stay strong you are amazing and you deserve the best ❣️
@@aishikadas526 thanks bud! I wish you the same.
We are back together! But now he just wants to hang out with his friends and doesn’t plan anything with me. I don’t want to be “controlling” and tell him he needs to make time for me because he does sometimes but it’s always on his time. It’s almost like I feel as though I have to keep myself open all the time(because I want to be ready to hang out if he wants to) just in case he says let’s hang out. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. We are getting back into the groove of things but we used to live together so he lives with his parents again. His best friend is always over there or calling to hang out with Him. I’ve been to his house for dinner and he has left with him to go hang out somewhere else and asks me to stay and just hang out with his mom (we are good friends but still) so I can sleep over. Weve gone to my cabin and the weekend is amazing but then when we get back to reality he’s the same. Not sure what to do.
Your Wife must be lucky to have you. You're more than the complete package Coach😊
I made all the classic mistakes after the breakup, now I’ve been blocked. 35 days into no contact. (Easier when you’re blocked) I’m doing better every day and working on myself. Wish me luck!
@@ConceptHut thanks for asking. The thought of getting back with my ex is revolting. She hasn’t attempted contact but I’m happy about it. I’m actually recently married to a wonderful wife that treats me well.
Day 70 still feels like the first
Does no contact apply to relationships that only lasted for 5 months?
Yes. Do you have my Emergency Breakup Kit? There’s info for short term relationships there. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@@RealCoachLee Thank you. Will check it out.
Hey coach lee, you got a video for dealing with the break up blues during Christmas? It would be very helpful
You advice is life chaging! Keep it coming!!!