If I Leave My Ex Alone, Will They Miss Me?

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  • Опубликовано: 22 окт 2024

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  • @MsGG623
    @MsGG623 4 года назад +1387

    Am I the only one that finds Coach Lee’s videos comforting and empowering? Look forward to new ones all the time.

    • @kasperfriberg5077
      @kasperfriberg5077 4 года назад +17

      Yes! No matter if we want our ex back our not these videos really give the best thing any individual can gain: Encouragement to stand as a sovereign and powerful individual, moving forward with purpose no matter what happens. Great show!

    • @doralinda81
      @doralinda81 4 года назад +5

      Me as well

    • @lornemalvo565
      @lornemalvo565 4 года назад +8

      100% I am glad i found these video's.

    • @dudleylandsberg1747
      @dudleylandsberg1747 4 года назад +7

      I wish coach Lee was a therapist id definitely be open to speaking to him

    • @donnaschmitz5025
      @donnaschmitz5025 4 года назад +4

      @@dudleylandsberg1747 Check out Craig Kenneth.

  • @christinalewis3635
    @christinalewis3635 4 года назад +682

    In order be to missed you have to be gone

    • @gyastly2737
      @gyastly2737 4 года назад +39

      Fucking truth

    • @gyastly2737
      @gyastly2737 4 года назад +4

      thecollinzboy calm down neck beard

    • @_xxkittiixx_
      @_xxkittiixx_ 4 года назад +3

      Well said!

    • @Himothy_xx
      @Himothy_xx 4 года назад +14

      Man that’s the fucking truth!!! Can’t be missed if y’all always contacting !!!

    • @yasim
      @yasim 4 года назад

      Does it really work if I go away, is she going to miss me?

  • @hwdareu5848
    @hwdareu5848 4 года назад +459

    Never ask your ex if they miss/love you after the breakup. Even if they do they are gonna hide behind that mask. Keep up the spirit. ☺️

  • @AlexBalde-k6w
    @AlexBalde-k6w 8 месяцев назад +43

    No contact does work guys my ex gf ended our 3yrs relationship and i begged and cried for about a week , tried no contact for 7days then break it. I came back to this channel for guidance and now I’ve been in no contact for 4 week guess what…. she just contacted me i feel so happy and am going to apply what I’ve learned from coach Lee. Don’t give up guys there’s light at the end of the tunnel.

    • @kagamitaiga9167
      @kagamitaiga9167 8 месяцев назад +4

      Happy for you man

    • @daveedesanta6318
      @daveedesanta6318 6 месяцев назад +1

      Happy for you man, how are the things going now betwen you two?

    • @AnastasiaWarden
      @AnastasiaWarden 4 месяца назад +2

      It's been a month, he still hasn't come back... not sure whether he ever will tbh... but happy for you🎉

    • @tankthearc9875
      @tankthearc9875 3 месяца назад

      @@AnastasiaWarden if he is avoidant sometimes you reach out to them after a month or so about something small or bills ect. and see what they are like, be indifferent too , let them see you are over them and moved on. they hate that

    • @AnastasiaWarden
      @AnastasiaWarden 2 месяца назад

      He did reach out when I sent him a follow request then unsent it.... it was really weird because he pretended as if nothing happened... then the conversation didn't go anywhere and he started stalking my instagram, then after he looked at my story 12 times he blocked me @tankthearc9875. So yeah, don't know what's gonna happen at this point.

  • @आदित्य-फ4प
    @आदित्य-फ4प 4 года назад +165

    More than a month in no contact and it feels fucking good. Move on guys. There is a world waiting for us. We all deserve better. We all have got golden opportunity to develop ourselves.

    • @arturotabares9813
      @arturotabares9813 2 года назад +3

      Did you move on or got back together??

    • @norswil8763
      @norswil8763 4 месяца назад

      Only a month!? Your relationship and partner can’t have meant much to you.

  • @Sarahh_
    @Sarahh_ Год назад +126

    It still feels new after 3 months . I wake up in sadness everyday but trying to be positive because I deserve the world. These videos have been comforting me deeply when nobody else understands the pain.

    • @hellomybaby7486
      @hellomybaby7486 Год назад +1

      U been in NC for 3 months

    • @Sarahh_
      @Sarahh_ Год назад +5

      @@hellomybaby7486 yeah I started NC the day we broke up and I didn’t know what it was till I came across these videos so apparently I was doing it right. But he hasn’t texted or called for 3 months . It’s crazy.

    • @hellomybaby7486
      @hellomybaby7486 Год назад +4

      @@Sarahh_ I’m sorry that your in so much pain. I’m going through it right now NC 2 weeks . Do you know what attachment style he is? Look it up Mine is a dismissive avoidant those are the hardest to reached out

    • @Sarahh_
      @Sarahh_ Год назад +1

      @@hellomybaby7486 mine definitely had a big ego he probably thinks I have to be the one to call or text which in and of itself is an issue. But we’re in February and I didn’t receive a single text. Not even a “hey how are you” . Nothing. While it really hurts I believe our dignity and self respect is more important. We should and will not reach out to someone who easily let us go. If they deserve us, they’ll find their way back. Stay strong and do a lot of self care. I was neglecting my self care and fell into depression , isolating myself at home. I realized that in this life nothing is really ours and we should never get attached to any human being as they will disappoint us. I pray more and got closer to god from this. Pray god gives you an amazing spouse.

    • @daarshanpatell
      @daarshanpatell Год назад +4

      We are in the same boat !
      I wake up everyday depressed but as day goes by I feel better. It’s just not getting off my head, especially when she doesn’t care what is happening to me or miss me after leaving.

  • @mikeerickson3924
    @mikeerickson3924 4 года назад +286

    This guy comforts my anxiety.

  • @jada2858
    @jada2858 4 года назад +245

    Just know your worth you guys, I know when your heart Broken or confused we watch these types of videos, I’m telling you know if he/ she really loves you, you will never have to watch these type of videos. When a man loves you, you can be the craziest, wildest, quietist, loudest etc person ever and he will love you. So take time for yourself and thank god that he blessed you and let that person go, it’s not healthy waiting on someone. Live your life and let love find you! Please

    • @nbafan3021
      @nbafan3021 4 года назад +25

      You couldn't have said it any better. My ex dumped me and came back. I accepted her, and then she dumped my ass again. Then she came back, and because I genuinely loved her, I accepted her back again. Then she dumped my ass again. And her reason each time was that I deserve someone better than her. She couldn't be anymore right! She is permanently banned from my life now.

    • @aliray1165
      @aliray1165 4 года назад +6

      That made no sense whatsoever.

    • @pinminhav
      @pinminhav 4 года назад +21

      Sadly life isn't this simple fairytale. People go through different phases and make mistakes.

    • @zacx5188
      @zacx5188 4 года назад +6

      @@nbafan3021 Sounds like your Ex probably has Fearful Avoidant attachment style or Avoidant attachment style.

    • @frozenangel7460
      @frozenangel7460 4 года назад +8

      Thank you :( it's just so hard loving someone who will never love you back anymore

  • @Dad_Brad
    @Dad_Brad 4 года назад +387

    Anxiety and depression are full blown during the holidays for a lot of people. Re-living our traumas, missing people we can no longer be with during the holidays. Please keep the helpful videos coming. They do help.

    • @flowfactoryinc07
      @flowfactoryinc07 4 года назад +4

      IASOU2005 exactly what I’m going through right now. It’s harder during holiday season because I was with her for 2 years and birth years we’ve spend with each others families. Sucks.

    • @christinalewis3635
      @christinalewis3635 4 года назад +1

      I started volunteered right along with my uncle who was going through a divorce I have children so I started a new tradition with them its ok to miss someone but still show the people who are still in your life appreciation

    • @theseattlegreen1871
      @theseattlegreen1871 4 года назад +2

      @@flowfactoryinc07
      Try 7 years together and engaged

    • @flowfactoryinc07
      @flowfactoryinc07 4 года назад

      TheSeattlegreen I couldn’t even imagine bro hope all is way

    • @theseattlegreen1871
      @theseattlegreen1871 4 года назад +1

      @@flowfactoryinc07
      What's crazy is when I first met this girl she was extremely attractive and a knockout under the sheets! I mean she was the best I've ever had and theres not going to be anybody that could top her! I basically knew I was in trouble when I was dating her because nothing last forever.
      During the first couple of months I said to myself "Frank you're going to be in a lot of trouble one day when this girl leaves you because there's nothing out there even close to her"! But I told myself it's better than being alone and I have the hottest best girl in the world!
      And the day she left me was 50 days ago, she's all I think about everyday every minute every hour.
      The only time I'm not thinking about her is when I'm working at my job because I do electrical work and I have to be 100% focused or I'm going to die and kill myself from being electrocuted.
      All I want to do is work just so I can keep my mind off of her.
      Seriously bro i found the best hottest girl ever and I was fortunate enough to have her for seven years!
      She's gone dude. At least when she left I just told her "okay see ya" I didn't beg her cry none of that garbage because I knew you not supposed to do that if I have any chance of getting her back.
      This girl gave me so much sex all kinds of sex to the point where I had to turn it down because I was shooting blanks! Once I met her at a hotel I knocked on the door she opened it and her exact words were "hey can I get you off right now"? I mean who says this? She swallowed every single time bro!
      I would be getting woken up by her going down on me dude...
      On top of all this she was the hottest chick ever!
      Anyways I am 39 years old and I don't want anyone else unless it's her because if I get anyone else it's going to be a downgrade and I won't be happy.
      So I'm fine never having anyone else again.
      I'll just keep thinking about the memories I have videos of us too (if you know what I mean) but I try not to watch those because its too powerful..
      So unless she comes back I'm done with women at the moment.
      I don't want to downgrade that would just make me even more depressed I think.
      Wish me luck bro. And good luck to you

  • @polished_woman
    @polished_woman Год назад +8

    He left me a week ago. First 2 days we stayed in contact. Then I found Coach Lee’s videos and stopped replying to his breadcrumbs. He eventually sent me an “I miss you” text after 2 days NC, bc he was feeling I was slowly detaching myself… I replied “you’re the one who broke up with me” and he said “yes I know”. Unless he follows this up by an “I want you back”, then it’s radio silence from me! Listening to Coach Lee made me realize… begging for someone to stay is betraying yourself. I will never lower myself to this level ever again! Have dignity & respect for yourself! That is the most attractive thing you can do❤️ We can do this!!!

  • @andynator149
    @andynator149 4 года назад +355

    Been almost 4 weeks nc for me. Last night was the hardest one yet. Part of me wants her back and part of me wishes I can just forget she exists. It hurts but I know this is the best thing no matter the outcome. The breakup brought clarity and I know not to make the same mistakes as before in my next relationship, whether it's with her or eventually someone better. Stay strong guys, dont let someone else control your happiness

    • @aprilzoe_4494
      @aprilzoe_4494 4 года назад +20

      andynator149 it’s been almost 4 weeks for me too and I struggle sometimes but I’ve been working on myself and I feel great

    • @Hosedinho
      @Hosedinho 4 года назад +1

      Any contact?

    • @mifasola1
      @mifasola1 4 года назад +2

      Amen

    • @BanksdaLoneTraveller
      @BanksdaLoneTraveller 4 года назад +4

      Same here, 5 weeks but am still struggling, today I felt like the first day. Omg this is the first time am going through this.

    • @hwdareu5848
      @hwdareu5848 4 года назад +1

      Hey bro how is the situation now? Did you hear anything from her?

  • @nicklasklitgaard2876
    @nicklasklitgaard2876 4 года назад +290

    My ex contacted me today after a 4 month block. Thank you Lee, your advice works.

    • @oldcunt574
      @oldcunt574 4 года назад +5

      Nice bro

    • @kidcre_dandelin2292
      @kidcre_dandelin2292 4 года назад +9

      4 Month Block
      I Would’ve Told Her Keep The Block Going Or I’ll Jus Put Her On A Permanent Block 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

    • @theseattlegreen1871
      @theseattlegreen1871 4 года назад +39

      @@kidcre_dandelin2292
      And you're here because..??????

    • @Cesar-qf3ip
      @Cesar-qf3ip 4 года назад +2

      Can you update us on how it’s going right now?

    • @staril.l.c.staril.l.c.4574
      @staril.l.c.staril.l.c.4574 4 года назад

      @@TheKG636 I've started 3 days ago but I think it's going to take awhile

  • @lenaschaef6714
    @lenaschaef6714 4 года назад +414

    I'm just snuggling up to bed and I'm looking forward to watching this tomorrow
    You help me getting out of bed in this dark period
    Thank you coach
    No one motivates me more than you

    • @rateorhate11
      @rateorhate11 4 года назад +1

      How long has it been since no contact

    • @lenaschaef6714
      @lenaschaef6714 4 года назад +9

      @@rateorhate11 only 5 days because he reached out to complain that l didn't think of his birthday... Before that little encounter it have been two months. He's in a rebound relationship, but as you see Lee is right, he's still thinking about me 👍

    • @rateorhate11
      @rateorhate11 4 года назад +2

      Lena Schaef ooh ok. Mine has been 2 months and few days now. It was my bday last week but she didn’t reach out lol. Doesn’t really bother me though. I know she’s on a rebound too.

    • @lenaschaef6714
      @lenaschaef6714 4 года назад

      @@khawlabintal-azwar2 2 years? Did they reach out? Did you reach out?

    • @lenaschaef6714
      @lenaschaef6714 4 года назад

      @@khawlabintal-azwar2 So you didn't even get back to the text? Always surprised to find people who have actually moved on in comments under those videos 😳

  • @crking36
    @crking36 3 года назад +9

    The worst feeling is to want the closeness of your ex, but feels like you are holding on to sand.....it keeps slipping through your fingers......

  • @n_jv782
    @n_jv782 4 года назад +99

    First day, of no contact is the hardest a lot of emotions, fifth day, you feel a lot wanting to contact questioning yourself, tenth day, you start to have some clarity bit of a breakthrough clouds are breaking, fifteenth day, analyzing the relationship but also the sun is starting to shine through a little, twentieth day, put your shades on so much sun in your view, and ten days after yeah you still think about it because you loved them so much but you realize how much of a better person you are without them.
    Everything is a process and during this time its like grieving just endure it and love yourself the way you want it reciprocated back.
    Peace and love whoever is going through heartache... you will love again. 🙏
    Coach thanks for the vids amazing words.

    • @lizxu322
      @lizxu322 4 года назад +1

      Too true. Absolutely correct. U r a wise person

  • @vesvxofficial4290
    @vesvxofficial4290 2 года назад +26

    It's been 10 days of no contact, I can see things clearly now. I don't need my ex anymore. Goodluck to you guys! You can do it! ❣️

    • @vesvxofficial4290
      @vesvxofficial4290 2 года назад +9

      Update:
      It's been almost 2 months, I still don't hear something from my past. But I feel much better now than before.

    • @tyetr9853
      @tyetr9853 2 года назад

      @@vesvxofficial4290 update us and give us some details. How long were you together, why did you break up.

    • @SurajMishra-wg9rx
      @SurajMishra-wg9rx 6 месяцев назад

      Any update?

  • @conniewilbourn8221
    @conniewilbourn8221 4 года назад +59

    Coach Lee knows what he is talking about.

  • @Crocodilelovesrain
    @Crocodilelovesrain 2 года назад +23

    I don't have money to tip or buy the kits, but I do my best to watch full ads on your channel and every second, the only genuine coach out there . Much love

  • @BuckRogers007
    @BuckRogers007 4 года назад +35

    Ya know coach Lee? Everytime I feel down and hopeless I watch your videos and its uplifting. Even if she doesn't come back you're getting me through this. Thank you.

  • @theodoremacuka4418
    @theodoremacuka4418 4 года назад +48

    Every time I see a video of coach lee it calms me down and gets me through the day without being negative

  • @gabriellacausi7375
    @gabriellacausi7375 4 года назад +86

    Coach lee I’m almost 3 months into no contact. I’ve often wondered this exact question. Thank you for making this video, it helps so
    much. I wanted to reach out for thanksgiving and I didn’t. The holidays will be hard but your videos are getting me through it. Thanks again coach Lee.

    • @Gilly209x
      @Gilly209x 4 года назад +3

      Gabriella Causi after 3 months I’d just move on sis ... lol

    • @margomazzeo1680
      @margomazzeo1680 4 года назад +31

      @@Gilly209x Dont laugh at her..ur disrespectful..

    • @Gilly209x
      @Gilly209x 4 года назад +8

      Margo Mazzeo How so? I was in the same boat too... crying over my ex.. thinking about her every damn night... it hurts and it sucks.... I’m not going to continue to WAIT any longer than 3 months personally... I wouldn’t hang on for someone who hasn’t realized they lost a great man after 3 months... after 3 months... it’s their loss and it’s time to move on...

    • @shawnjesseman664
      @shawnjesseman664 4 года назад +13

      @@Gilly209x my last ex came back after 3 months of no contact. We got married and had a baby. Split up again 4 years later. Then she tried to come back after 7 months of no contact but I had moved on.

    • @Gilly209x
      @Gilly209x 4 года назад +1

      Shawn Jesseman OMG that’s crazy! Why didn’t it work out after 4 years? If you don’t mind me asking? Was it for the original reasons? Or different ones? Did she cheat?

  • @sameichang3928
    @sameichang3928 4 года назад +40

    Coach Lee thank u for bringing the love of my life back, after nearly one month of no contact he reached out! I took your advice just keep it casual, let him initiate all the conversations,just like you said absent is powerful, he was so curious about me. The day before yesterday we had sex.
    Can't thank u enough Coach Lee, you are almighty!

    • @nsosawetrust7895
      @nsosawetrust7895 4 года назад

      Hope this help me man

    • @amscared2764
      @amscared2764 3 года назад +1

      You're the Man, no contact an leaving them alone obviously is best thing you can do for yourself and later it pays off

  • @vannhelsin2434
    @vannhelsin2434 4 года назад +76

    When someone asks for water ,what do we do we give them water, when they ask for help we help them so if an x asks for a brake up and space , GIVE THEM THE BRAkE UP AND SPACE

    • @margaritam.9118
      @margaritam.9118 4 года назад +2

      This comparison is incorrect. Will you cut your limb off if someone asks you to without even explaining why do they need that?
      What if someone cheats on you and dumps you for that person, will you go around smiling like an idiot afterwards because apparently good thing happened? Please.

    • @Tai2617
      @Tai2617 4 года назад +7

      Margarita M. You really just made no sense at all 😂

    • @vannhelsin2434
      @vannhelsin2434 4 года назад

      @@margaritam.9118 ur not that important

    • @vannhelsin2434
      @vannhelsin2434 4 года назад

      @@Tai2617 u make no sense in this universe

    • @vannhelsin2434
      @vannhelsin2434 4 года назад

      @@Tai2617 but I understand ppl like dont understand 😂😂😂

  • @abeltesfaye_
    @abeltesfaye_ 3 года назад +35

    Coach Lee, I just wanted to thank-you. You have really helped me through this hard time and your calming yet direct demeanor is exactly what I and so many others, need. Thank-you so much.

  • @ForeverAutumn77
    @ForeverAutumn77 4 года назад +26

    It's been nearly 4 days of no contact, and I feem empowered! No longer am I giving him the control!!

    • @Luminous.Dynamics
      @Luminous.Dynamics 4 года назад +4

      Im on day 11. It sucks so bad, can't believe it's already been 11 days. I'm at a stage of bitterness and anger now

    • @pinkysam4255
      @pinkysam4255 4 года назад

      I was being blocked too with my ex and it was so painful

  • @peterwhite4429
    @peterwhite4429 4 года назад +57

    It’s been 4 weeks to the day since she broke up with me, and I’ve been in no contact since. It’s been very difficult. We were best friends, and it was really unexpected. Coach Lee’s videos give me hope that she’ll come back one day

    • @karllegson1592
      @karllegson1592 4 года назад

      Peter White time To contact her bro❤️

    • @peterwhite4429
      @peterwhite4429 4 года назад +2

      Karl Legson I’m still going to wait. I’ve been strong so far. And with Christmas coming up, and our anniversary in late January, I have some hope that she’ll contact me first. Especially since both fall in between the 45-75 day period of separation anxiety. I’ll feel much better about being with her again if she reaches out first.

    • @karllegson1592
      @karllegson1592 4 года назад +1

      Peter White good choice. My Ex contacted me just after 4 days 🤦🏻‍♂️. I was being short with her, and she desperately told me to talk with her.

    • @peterwhite4429
      @peterwhite4429 4 года назад

      Karl Legson did you take her back?

    • @karllegson1592
      @karllegson1592 4 года назад

      Peter White Yeah, but we dont have any labels

  • @husseinduale1779
    @husseinduale1779 4 года назад +27

    If you want your seed to germinate, put it in the soil and hide it. After that give it time to germinate, when it's ready you will see healthy seedling 😊

  • @angelastopics5423
    @angelastopics5423 4 года назад +52

    Seriously your videos save me... i need this advice right now. I feel much more relaxed after these videos.

    • @francescofashionconsultant4659
      @francescofashionconsultant4659 4 года назад +2

      Angela, same for me.... So relieved after Coach Lee's videos..he explains all features so easy to understand, and often repeats the most important subjects so you remember them.. 😉 😉

  • @patriciajonas1546
    @patriciajonas1546 4 года назад +49

    Coach Lee I just want to say I love you. You are so intelligent , handsome and helpful. Keep it up we appreciate you 🙏🏻

    • @chichinwosu5007
      @chichinwosu5007 4 года назад +3

      Coach Lee, you look so handsome. The new haircut looks super good on you. You look even younger. Wow!!!. Good advice too!

  • @that.ethanguy
    @that.ethanguy 4 года назад +12

    Thanks to your videos I’ve been in such a better place, my ex and I broke up about 7 months ago I went into no contact for the second time back at the end of August. She contacted me in October and I ignored her because I didn’t want her to think she could have me back that easily. Just last weekend I saw her at a funeral and paid no attention to her and my God I looked really good and felt really good and she was there with her current boyfriend, just last night she followed me on another social media account. Now I feel like I’m a better person and I’ve moved on significantly but no contact seriously works, listen to coach!

  • @anastasiaalekseeva1910
    @anastasiaalekseeva1910 3 года назад +6

    You can’t even imagine how much this helps me.I was led on by a guy for a year only for him to tell me finally that he just wants to be friends.Yes I was over investing,yes I treated him as a prize...every day I watch your videos to kill my desire to contact him.

  • @michellemontgomery8153
    @michellemontgomery8153 2 года назад +5

    I believe my ex is gone forever but thank you for these videos. Sometimes it seems unbearable but other times, I feel empowered. I am moving on with my career. My real estate career is doing so much better. I relaunched my other business and I am moving on slowly.

  • @ProudToBeVeggie
    @ProudToBeVeggie 4 года назад +52

    idk how you do it but you always manage to make me feel better when im having a day where im all caught up in my thoughts. I dont know if im perpetuating my pain by listening to stuff like this. Its been 5 months NC and im improving a lot but i still miss him and wish i got some text from him that would validate all this pain. Thank you for your help coach lee.

    • @SauravKumar-ek1gw
      @SauravKumar-ek1gw 2 года назад

      I'm very sorry you had to wait this long. It's been only one week of NC for me and i really hope i don't have to wait this long. BTW I'm curious to know what happened with you if you can update please.

    • @tyetr9853
      @tyetr9853 2 года назад

      Update us

    • @tyetr9853
      @tyetr9853 2 года назад

      @@SauravKumar-ek1gw what happened

    • @SauravKumar-ek1gw
      @SauravKumar-ek1gw 2 года назад

      @@tyetr9853 Don't want to discourage anyone but it's been over 5 months and my ex is happy with her rebound, still hurts that they are living together but the pain is a bit less now. I've learnt to live with it. Trying to move on still but somedays are still rough. Hopefully others have better luck than me.

    • @ProudToBeVeggie
      @ProudToBeVeggie 2 года назад +3

      @@tyetr9853 weird to think about the time when i wrote this comment honestly. I was convinced I’d never feel better or get over him but i can honestly say you will and once you get to this point itll be such a relief. you wont even realize when it happens, one day you just wont care anymore. And no, he never reached out. He did look at my linkedin which i got a notification for (this was almost 2 years after we broke up lol) and i kinda thought it was pathetic. just live your life and focus on improving yourself. I’ve also met someone who cares about me so much more than he ever did

  • @Csi807
    @Csi807 3 года назад +47

    It’s a month today. Thought I was done with crying. But I cried all night until my head hurts.

    • @owenpeters4266
      @owenpeters4266 3 года назад +6

      Same man it’s been basically a month

    • @The_Darrell
      @The_Darrell 3 года назад +2

      You got this! Keep it up!

    • @JorDel_1111
      @JorDel_1111 3 года назад +4

      Almost 3 months
      Still same situation like u !! 😭

    • @The_Darrell
      @The_Darrell 3 года назад +7

      @@JorDel_1111 It's been almost 3 months since my breakup as well. My ex was severely damaged because of her previous abusive relationship. I thought I could fix her by treating her incredibly well and being there for her emotionally, but I was completely wrong. You can't fix a partner, they have to want to fix themselves. Anyways, my ex basically told me I treated her too well and she didn't deserve it. She immediately got into a relationship with a sleazeball who is currently cheating on her (she knows he's cheating and she doesn't even care)... truth be told, I was probably monkey-branched, so I guess that's karma. Regardless, the whole thing is too crazy for me. I'm a good guy who would never cheat or hurt anyone, and I treated her like a queen. I know my value and I now realize I don't deserve drama like that. I don't know what the future holds, but I will never invest my heart into another damaged woman again.

    • @sharonharding8797
      @sharonharding8797 3 года назад

      Same here

  • @stefbohn1790
    @stefbohn1790 4 года назад +105

    You are amazing. I am going thru the worst time right now, and you help me so much. Thank you!

    • @tatts_with_traps
      @tatts_with_traps 4 года назад +4

      Stef Bohn same here a 16 year marriage finished the mad thing is we never argued she just left we went through ivf it was hell ... I am leavening the country going to go live in Asia for a while heal and find myself hope you feel better soon ..remember life is short and time is a healer it’s not what you want to hear but it’s true 👍👍👍👍

    • @joshmcgowan4376
      @joshmcgowan4376 2 года назад

      @@tatts_with_traps hey just checking in to see how things are going for ya today ? I actually am on day 23 of NC after 13 months and im also about to leave the country for a couple months lol
      So wanted to see how it worked for ya ???

    • @tatts_with_traps
      @tatts_with_traps 2 года назад +3

      @@joshmcgowan4376 wow I can’t remember writing that I lived in Thailand and Cambodia for a while Singapore come back to England started my own business was really successful trust me the hardest and most real thing I can tell you about break up is it’s tough no sugarcoating it it’s been 2 and a half years and I never really got over it I got better at hiding the pain remember heal yourself good luck bro 👍👍

  • @mac1294
    @mac1294 4 года назад +16

    Coach Lee there are coaches out there that I listened to some contradict themselves on what they say. I listen to you and you seem to have so much more knowledge then everyone else. I talked to you about a year ago when my break up first happened and I didn't really listen. Year later I see that I messed up and I lost her. My point to you is I believe in your words I just wish I'd listened a year ago. And I'm sure people listen to you they will understand what to do. Keep helping people because being dumped by someone you love sucks.

  • @jeff-crypto7565
    @jeff-crypto7565 4 года назад +16

    You're the man pal. I'm in radio silence at the moment as we had a lockdown wobble after 4.5 yrs and I was a bit needy. I'm doing weights, earning more than ever and doing some work to be an upgrade of the best me. If she doesn't want me back I'll move on. Ouch.. Love this lady dearly.. Finger crossed. I'll be strong if she texts and gauge it carefully. I won't be running straight back until I'm in boooooom mode . Cheers dude 👍

    • @TeKNiQ50
      @TeKNiQ50 Год назад

      Did she ever get in touch with you? Hope you're doing alright

  • @deja_poo
    @deja_poo 3 года назад +2

    My 8 months relationship ended last December, my bf dumped me saying he don't want to be in relationship, but within a week of break up, he jump into other relationship. When I asked him why you're in new relationship, he said to me he is not serious about his new relationship, I wish karma teach him good lesson for life that he never forget till he is alive. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @ruandavanwilling3204
    @ruandavanwilling3204 4 года назад +5

    I have decided to diarise my no contact and with each passing day i write what i feel and i put on paper what i want to say to him without actually saying it to him. I get to express how and what i feel in that moment even if i write whole day. It helps me alot. After my first day of no cantact he reached out to me and told me he thinks of me everyday and he wants me to be safe when im travelling and i simply replied with a " thank you" so that he knows i acknowledge that he still cares and i left it there. But still applying my no contact rule... Thank you coach Lee you're really helping me cope through this very difficult time in my life. Most days it feels i am suffocating cos this pain in unbearable.. But i know things will get better for me ❤️

  • @BlackgirlJane
    @BlackgirlJane 4 года назад +29

    If you don't contact them they will reach out to you. It may be 3 or 4 months but they will call...Where I messed up at was ..I made myself available once he reached out to me...Dont be available all the time..don't ever call them..cause just like lee said..they will think they can come and go as they please..don't make yourself available the first time that they reach out.

    • @amscared2764
      @amscared2764 3 года назад

      That's were i ruined everything when she missed call me i went bla bla bla I can't live without you 💔 an then bang she went cool ab bitchy 😎

    • @phoebec4307
      @phoebec4307 2 года назад

      Are you sure he will come back? 🥺

  • @fernandoochoa1426
    @fernandoochoa1426 4 года назад +12

    Even though it has just been 2 days without any contact im proud of my self man. I've watched over 10 of your videos just today and learned so much

  • @auronguy
    @auronguy 4 года назад +5

    No contact has been pure agony for me so far. With any other girl it would've faded after a couple of weeks, but I am only recently getting brief periods of... just relief from the pain but by comparison it feels better than orgasm. This is even with having lost 20 pounds, put on a bunch of muscle and started improving my financial situation. I moved to a new city recently where she is the only person I know..... So I have nobody to lean on. And it's difficult to feel good about my improvements because I can't show them to her right now...... All of this to say the only thing keeping me from cracking and breaking no contact is watching these videos. If Coach Lee is good at nothing else, he is good at supporting those of us going through this.

  • @damientheomentrites6463
    @damientheomentrites6463 2 года назад +3

    From my experience during this break up the more you accept that it’s over the better you will feel. I was with my ex 8 years and at times it was toxic we broke up 4 months ago and I was devastated I begged cried all of that. Big mistake!? I wish I saw these videos and knew of no contact so I could have applied it right away. Eaither way it’s been allmost 4 months and I feel stronger everyday and the more time that goes by the more I realize maybe they weren’t right for me . I love her but sometimes you have to realize you aren’t the right person for them and march forward?! Stay strong people

  • @LieutenantCaine9
    @LieutenantCaine9 4 года назад +19

    Everything you say Coach Lee is gold and it has come true. Thank you so much for your help! God bless you!

  • @karmenfields5849
    @karmenfields5849 4 года назад +3

    Every. Single. Video helps me throughout this sucky time. It’s been two months since my ex bf broke up with me. I’ve been following what you say with no contact and working on myself. It also sucks because I have to see him every day at school, as he is in my chemistry class. I’m at the point were I have the rest of his stuff and I can’t stand to look at it and I almost dropped it off for him in one of his classes today with a note in there that he doesn’t deserve to get but I didn’t as today would’ve been our 10 months and I do not want to seem petty or break no contact. I really do love him, I’m only 17 but we went through so much in only 8 months and he made me a better me. I’d like him back but he’s been acting like a total jerk and different person at school, blocked me on everything, and from what I’ve heard talks bad about me. No contact started 10 days after the break up. I’d really appreciate it if you could help me out. Should I give him his stuff back? Or just wait until or if he contacts me? Thank you again for these amazing videos! You’ve helped me so much!!

    • @Fazefazefaze25
      @Fazefazefaze25 6 месяцев назад

      Hi Karmen, any feedback on this? Did he reach out to you?

  • @TheMisssy2
    @TheMisssy2 11 месяцев назад +2

    I've been waiting for Thanksgiving...been in NC for 2 months by then...to shoot my shot and wish him Happy Thanksgiving & ask him how he is....but I do think the biggest impact will occur IF I DON'T after listening to this..Thank you Coach.

  • @lalosmith6303
    @lalosmith6303 4 года назад +8

    This man is comforting and empowering. 💯💯

  • @Karl-wx8zx
    @Karl-wx8zx Год назад +2

    Listen to this, it seems like you have power to change something if you just say the right thing but it’s not about convincing the other person, it’s about becoming best you. Stop thinking you gotta save it, it’s a very one sided task. Don’t make rash decisions or reach out too soon

  • @blumenthol
    @blumenthol 3 года назад +6

    "Relationship Recovery Service"... might sound (no offense) cheesy at first but in reality it is as critical to the human walk as medical doctors. I've known people kill themselves over a broken heart. If you follow his advise, it will most likely increase your odds of getting your ex back. At the same time, if you follow his advice (as I have) it also gets you to understand the dynamics of what you and your ex are going thru and you may come to a place of peace to move on. I was a bit skeptical at first, but I think his work is a good thing - IMO. Too bad I have to go thru a painful mind-numbing breakup to discover this stuff.

  • @littlemiap6264
    @littlemiap6264 2 года назад +2

    I wish I could tell u all my story but RUclips deletes it each time I post it. Coach Lee your videos keep me sane and calm. U are a blessing to us all. thank u for all that u do!

  • @mesopotamialover905
    @mesopotamialover905 4 года назад +8

    I bursted into crying ... how rude and heartless some people are ...

  • @tbrtrading9056
    @tbrtrading9056 2 года назад +6

    So much help in these videos. Thanks Coach Lee. You’re really helping with the mental and emotional pains of a separation.

  • @Franklasalona
    @Franklasalona 3 года назад +2

    The golden spear of whatever is not as powerful as time.... and thats just science. Fight on my friends. Stay smooth.

  • @spicyjedi4584
    @spicyjedi4584 4 года назад +7

    You are a Jedi Master Coach Lee. Thanks for your gracious delivery of difficult truths. Your advice has been invaluable.

  • @trillmix0652
    @trillmix0652 3 года назад +2

    Great video! A week or two ago, I found myself pursuring this women who had became distant with me. I knew I shouldn't have been, but I had a moment of weakness and corrected myself. I had made an invitation with her to spend time with me. She said okay. A few days later, I told her it felt forced, and it's not the way I'd want it. I rather have her come to me when she knows for sure she was ready not when I'm trying to force things. I doubt I will ever hear from her again, but hey. Atleast she knows I respect her, and I have enough respect for myself to walk away and not take her bread crumbs.

  • @luisabattimelli2867
    @luisabattimelli2867 Год назад +3

    I broke no contact twice. First time after a week second time after 21 days. I was crying and desperate. Made myself look like a fool. Now it’s at 2 weeks no contact again. This is so hard.

    • @Rhammer251
      @Rhammer251 7 месяцев назад

      I broke no contact after 7 days via text. I felt like crap after . I had done well. Now I know how drug addicts feel when they relapse.

  • @rinanuryani
    @rinanuryani 5 месяцев назад +1

    Hi coach Lee
    Big big thank you, after i listened to your advice with no contact after i begging, cry. After 3 and a half months, i do no contact. He reaches out and says, "wanna try again he say i need to adjust my mistake in the past.
    Keep strong everyone

  • @Fiery_Jay
    @Fiery_Jay Год назад +5

    Valentine’s Day is upon us. I’m doing the no contact rule but after 4 years of saying I love you this will be a hard one for me..

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад

      FIERY JAY, LET me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which is excellent. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @ivamayorga4911
    @ivamayorga4911 3 года назад +1

    I forced myself on my ex when he broke up with me. I wouldn’t let him leave me. I kept hugging him and pulling him towards me. I begged him to give us another chance, I told him I loved him and he’s been the best thing that has ever happened to me. After an hour of back n forth, I got in my car and told him I hope this break make him realized we are good for each other and I left. I haven’t heard from him in 3 days and I haven’t reached out. I was on the fence to text him but after rewatching these videos, I think it’s best that I don’t reach out, even if that means never hearing from him again. 😔😔💔

  • @iceon8312
    @iceon8312 4 года назад +6

    I broke down and reached out after 3 weeks of NC i started to get panic attacks at work and had it hard to breath. She told me she dident miss me during this time and was happy with her decision. Hearing her say that killed me it was a dager straight to the heart 😔😔😔

    • @SFBay69
      @SFBay69 4 года назад +3

      forget her and never get feelings for a woman again

    • @gunofapreacherman1340
      @gunofapreacherman1340 4 года назад +1

      iceon8312 Brother, please go check out Ronin Man’s MGTOW content here on RUclips, it will help you to make sense of true female nature. Most MGTOW guys have experienced what you’re going through right now, so you’re not alone. You will come through this.

    • @A2Kaid
      @A2Kaid 4 года назад +4

      If you go into NC and work on yourself give her time and space chances of her coming back are greater. 3 weeks is nothing. Try 3 months.

    • @Himothy_xx
      @Himothy_xx 4 года назад +1

      A2Kaid shit try 11 years 😂😂😂

  • @tieshajackson9361
    @tieshajackson9361 4 года назад +3

    Coach Lee
    I have been dating a guy for 6 months, it seems like we have a misunderstanding or some type of break down in communication once a week normally via text that causes him to go silent. The last one we had was on the phone he hung up on me. I texted him and told him that it was rude and we didn't work. He texted back agreeing and then a thinking emoji (I wasn't asking to breakup, more or less an observation). I didn't contact him for a couple of days and found he had blocked me. After about a week I went to his house we talked but he really didn't have much to say about me that was nice other than I am a good person. I told him that I will respect that he don't want to talk to me. After leaving a few hours later he texted me with the message unblocked. I apologize for my abruptness and any offense he texted back with "Forgiven" then I went into no contact. Other than the misunderstanding in communication we have had some good times together he says he enjoy the times we share together. Should I be in no contact at this time?

  • @maxhedge9535
    @maxhedge9535 4 года назад +15

    I left her alone and she met another guy we was together for 6 years and we have been broken up for 2 years ive been nc , she reaches out here and there for dogs that are staying with me. Im trying to stay strong and stay away from her I still have dreams/nightmares about her , i miss her so much but i can never tell her that

    • @flippnoy171
      @flippnoy171 4 года назад

      I'm in the same position man

  • @joannecleveland7827
    @joannecleveland7827 2 года назад +1

    30 years of UP's and downs, during this time he got sick and l stayed with him and prayed for him. One day he decided to move to another state, life turned turned him upside down. He got in trouble, ended up in jail for six months. He started to contact me and eventually got out of jail. He came back to me for four years(living together) but he really changed (drinking) and l put him out. This man is 70 years old and he dyes his hair to look younger, wears clothes that are for a younger person. Now he is with another woman, l am devastated. Lord help me, l blocked my phone although we have a 35 year old daughter. HELP

  • @fiammagroen1226
    @fiammagroen1226 4 года назад +3

    I think the longest movie or series I've been watching is your channel ,i actually found brad browning first ,when the first time i saw your video i was like he is looking so serious ,finally i started to watching your video ....then i cannot even stop , you are the best ! I want to buy emergency kits ,i dont think i still need it but i want to donate ,since im a Chinese i have much limitation on pay ...but yes i want to buy 😕😕 ,you are saving my life , because im getting stronger here with you and all the others who is heart Broken

  • @kellycarlson8799
    @kellycarlson8799 5 месяцев назад +1

    I find him very comforting and full of knowledge,thank you coach Lee 😊

  • @metalmami7862
    @metalmami7862 4 года назад +15

    Happy New Year’s Coach. Thank you for all that you have done for helping us who lost a love. Even if I don’t get my ex back I still constantly listen to your videos and your kit to make myself feel even more confident. Best of luck for you and your family this year!

  • @rebeccajohnson5658
    @rebeccajohnson5658 4 года назад +8

    Breaking up was the right decision to make with my ex Robert he turned out to be a Narcissist.

  • @Manu-od8du
    @Manu-od8du 4 года назад +11

    We fight a lot in the end and he was cheating on me with an old friend of mine, so it's done. He's never going to think about us

  • @STEPHANIEEVUE
    @STEPHANIEEVUE 3 года назад +1

    I used to watch your videos cause I was so heartbroken. But now I’m healed. I’m better and I don’t care about ex.

    • @STEPHANIEEVUE
      @STEPHANIEEVUE 3 года назад

      I’m okay. I don’t feel anything for my ex anymore. I believe what’s meant to be will always be. Thanks though!

  • @amymitchell1054
    @amymitchell1054 Год назад +3

    Thank you so much Coach! If I didn’t have your videos for reassurance I would be a mess

  • @RedZorn
    @RedZorn 3 года назад +1

    I have been listening to your videos since 10 days straight - they have been comforting me in each hour of doubt and pain. Thank you so much for this. Never thought I could find so much relief and comfort thanks to a person in a youtube video. Again, thanks for your words, advice and wisdom.

  • @guslucero2249
    @guslucero2249 4 года назад +7

    Wow coach you helped me so much to get out of a dark place in my life thank you so much For bringing clarity and truth into things
    I always look forward to your videos thank you man

  • @carlosanagustin3987
    @carlosanagustin3987 4 года назад +1

    Its been 3 days of no contact and it has been rough. I'm trying not to break so I been watching your videos for encouragement. My ex-girlfriend is really jealous and kept assuming I had a thing for her friend which was totally false. So eventually her jealousy was just too much that she eventually dumped me for no reason other than the fact she was really insecure. I really love her, miss her and want her back badly. I keep thinking about her constantly and it is starting to effect my daily life. I feel if it wasn't for her past relationships were her exes actually cheated on her, she would not be so jealous. So hopefully no contact with her will help her heal and realize that I was loyal and faithful to her. I can only pray at this point.

  • @TheCc064
    @TheCc064 4 года назад +15

    Hey coach lee, you got a video for dealing with the break up blues during Christmas? It would be very helpful

  • @justinelange3048
    @justinelange3048 4 года назад +2

    We are back together! But now he just wants to hang out with his friends and doesn’t plan anything with me. I don’t want to be “controlling” and tell him he needs to make time for me because he does sometimes but it’s always on his time. It’s almost like I feel as though I have to keep myself open all the time(because I want to be ready to hang out if he wants to) just in case he says let’s hang out. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. We are getting back into the groove of things but we used to live together so he lives with his parents again. His best friend is always over there or calling to hang out with Him. I’ve been to his house for dinner and he has left with him to go hang out somewhere else and asks me to stay and just hang out with his mom (we are good friends but still) so I can sleep over. Weve gone to my cabin and the weekend is amazing but then when we get back to reality he’s the same. Not sure what to do.

  • @samboriboun7866
    @samboriboun7866 4 года назад +5

    It doesn't hurt if u are alone u should be happy regardless have self love we came in this world alone and we die alone..when we start living for us u will always be happy even if yr x stays or go

  • @zeepuggy__125
    @zeepuggy__125 9 месяцев назад +1

    I feel like I've completely messed up! I begged, I pleaded. Every time we spoke I offload my pain and hurt, asking why he didn't care or why he didn't love me. I literally did all the "donts". We broke up 4.5 months ago, it was an awful time. We stayed in touch almost daily but the interactions werent nice. He wasnt nice a lot. Telling me he didnt love me. Leave him alone, but then would reach out asking me to game with him. Then another day blocking me, or telling me again he didn't miss me or love me. Unblock me and repeat the cycle.
    3 weeks ago, he asked to "build" and i agreed, and i got WAY to ahead of myself, too excited. The first week went well. He was like a different person, he was affectionate and complimentary. However, it was still ME who arranged the times we met. I then pulled back on week two, and he never tried to see me. I got in my head and became overbearing over the course of 4 days. Asking why he wasn't trying, why he was avoiding me. I recognised i did wrong (bare in mind we broke up because i was begging him for him to spend time with me, affection) He moved in with his mum and for a week it was almost like it was from the excitement if a new home, regardless I apologised for being paranoid. I communicated that i was fearful of him pulling away or losing him, and I implemented change instantly. But now he says we are done forever. He said he isn't trying anymore. He doesn't think we are compatible anymore. He then starts the nastiness again after saying he was scared to lose me, and he valued what he lost. I said I'd come and speak to him instead so that it wasnt over text, and we could talk, and he started threatening me to never go to his house or he would escalate it. I get hes mad and wants me to leave him alone. But that scared me. Seeing him threaten me like that.
    In these months i have chased, there was a time he told me his mental health was so bad and i knew he had no one else and i called the gp for him and went to the appointments with him because i was so worried about him. I supported him and put aside my own hurting. I love him a lot and if we were ABLE to just communicate. We'd truly be fine. I just.. i worry now that hes truly done. He blocked me on eveything he has (he doesnt have social media) and one of the days i noticed he unblocked me on snapchat for an entire day and then blocked me again.
    I'm 29, and he's 38. We were together 11 years. He says he doesnt like this version of me. That he doesnt trust things will change. Im really confused how hes managed to put this entirely on to me. He said i dont make him happy or bring him peace because obviously the last few days of talking i was crying and hurting. He then said im ruininh his life and dont contact him. That was the last ive heard from him. He has been nasty with words before. But i dont understand how weve gone from "building" and him being so kind and sweet and everything we spoke on. To this, again. It's like we are back to when he first ended with me. I've not reached out in any way. Im on day 4 of not contact. 😢😢

    • @Msusiengineer
      @Msusiengineer 3 месяца назад +1

      You are so young to suffer for love,you are only 29 years,leave that man and build your life,you will find a better man

    • @zeepuggy__125
      @zeepuggy__125 3 месяца назад

      @dianacrafts5660 thank you so much

  • @rachaeladeline
    @rachaeladeline 4 года назад +2

    Your eyes are so blue in this video, it's like looking into the ocean 🌊👀
    Thanks for the great content!

  • @lalosmith6303
    @lalosmith6303 4 года назад +2

    My ex text me today after a 4 day NC.
    This man is terrific.

  • @jackl6928
    @jackl6928 4 года назад +3

    Every video you make helps me be positive and help me move forward as much as it hurts. Your knowledge has helped me alot. Keep them coming

  • @DigDugDubbs
    @DigDugDubbs 2 года назад +1

    It’s been almost 8 weeks after 8 1/2 years and engaged for a year, planning the wedding up to the last day. She dumped me on 1/1/22… she had been cheating on me for a month.
    We were living together and she kept contacting for apartment stuff. I did some fighting to keep her until mid-Feb.
    But now she’s with the affair partner and has only texted me happy birthday since NC started, I said thanks… still trying to understand even though it’s not something that I think will ever come.
    The videos you have made give me hope but it’s hope that something better will come out of this.
    Working on the things I can control, I’ve asked myself if its love or loss, it’s definitely a bit of both. I still miss her and part of me does want her back. Hopeful for the change that’s coming is better.

  • @francescofashionconsultant4659
    @francescofashionconsultant4659 4 года назад +3

    Coach Lee you're nr 1!!!!! I've seen videos of all relational coaches... But you're just the best... So easy understanding, so clear details,.... I'm following all suggestions... THANKS 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

  • @justinrees2400
    @justinrees2400 3 года назад +1

    I made all the classic mistakes after the breakup, now I’ve been blocked. 35 days into no contact. (Easier when you’re blocked) I’m doing better every day and working on myself. Wish me luck!

    • @justinrees2400
      @justinrees2400 2 года назад +2

      @@ConceptHut thanks for asking. The thought of getting back with my ex is revolting. She hasn’t attempted contact but I’m happy about it. I’m actually recently married to a wonderful wife that treats me well.

  • @larrylovejr5682
    @larrylovejr5682 4 года назад +10

    I can’t sleep I’ve been with this woman for nine years ! I’m about to turn 40 in November she’s the mother of my only child ! I miss her so much and I feel so weak and depressed and my anxiety is killing me I haven’t been the best boyfriend in the past few years but 2020 I put my mind in love into this woman and I treated her with so much love this year to a point where she stressed me out and I can say mean things !!!she just walked out of my life like if I was nothing to her ! I never felt this way before in my life sometimes I feel like I don’t want to live we live in separate apartments and all I wanna do is be there with her every night but I know I can’t she asked me to leave her alone she told me she doesn’t want to marry me and it hurts so bad pray for me

    • @lizxu322
      @lizxu322 4 года назад +3

      I pray for you...to love yourself first and find the strength to move on
      If she does come back, I hope you are a changed man, stronger and better

    • @larrylovejr5682
      @larrylovejr5682 3 года назад +2

      @@lizxu322 thank you Liz

    • @applesnicolle5144
      @applesnicolle5144 2 года назад

      @@larrylovejr5682 / Did she come back? 🌷

  • @charleshixon1458
    @charleshixon1458 2 года назад

    I swear that intro background music is clutch. Subliminal calming start.

  • @jaynefernandez483
    @jaynefernandez483 4 года назад +5

    Thank you,, right on time. I’ve actually stayed away, it truly works. Thank you. You’re always on point. 😘

  • @mymphoenix
    @mymphoenix 4 года назад +3

    hello Coach Lee! I found your Videos just today and they are really giving me hope. The thing is , i only found videos about break ups... i think my BF and i are having a break but it certainly feels for my heart like a break up... He doesnt see a future with me anymore but said that he just wants time alone. We are having a long distance relationship (3h by car) and are together since 7 y. I have Borderline so i know i gave him lots of hard times ..he said he often feels not valued at all by me but often i never notice that i'm like that. it's often when i think everything is ok, that he then says that he's unhappy in the relationship... so now he took the step and wants distance and a break... i'm planning on doin it like you say and have no contact with him. The only fear i have is that he will like being alone and tell me in a few weeks that he prefers it that way. the thing is he hasnt said a thing about organizing ourselves to get my stuff from his place and vice versa. my fear is constant that when we talk again together that he will adress this .... so i'm worried if the break will cause the opposite of making him miss me...that he will actually like being alone and not hearing from me. I just wanted to know if i can have some sort of reassurance that applying your tips during a relatsionship break will work too. thank you for your wonderful encouraging videos! have a nice day!

  • @lynshinluuyun3771
    @lynshinluuyun3771 3 года назад +2

    Your Wife must be lucky to have you. You're more than the complete package Coach😊

  • @greengoddessof75
    @greengoddessof75 3 года назад

    Coach Lee, I’m in a fall back situation. And I brought this to his attention. He said he was really busy with working on his own business. Which he said I inspired,since being a business owner. I was hurt when he pulled back. So, I really let him have it!! I texted him and he replied with a heart ❤️ on the iPhone. I told him I wasn’t going to text or anything. Then I got nothing. So, I pulled back also. Not running behind anyone!!! We met in July 2020 and the madness is taking place now. And I’m not texting him at this point.

  • @remojoeyrome6630
    @remojoeyrome6630 4 года назад +28

    we got back after a month of no contact thankk coach

  • @brandylee2434
    @brandylee2434 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much! I watch you at work, before bed. Etc. You bern a blessing by breaking things down. You are awesome.

  • @pinminhav
    @pinminhav 4 года назад +9

    A week ago my bf said to me he wants "a break". This is his first serious relationship. I thought he was going to simply leave me. He has been having a little crush on a married woman, they work together. I found about it three weeks ago and was shocked. He says he doesn't know what is going on in his mind and that he loves me, doesn't want me out of his life. I still went NC after he said he wants a break. Am I doing the right thing? On 4th day he contacted me and asked how am I doing and said he thinks about me. I lied and said I'm doing just fine, concentrating on my studies and socializing. After that it has been quiet again. It's very hard to not know what he's thinking and what's going to happen. Our relationship was a peaceful one, we never tried to lock each other down and supported each other's goals and friendships.. I hope he will value me again like he used to.
    I'm trying to stay strong! Thanks coach Lee for this channel, so happy I found it before this happened. I've watched almost every video already, too bad there isn't anything about this "break" situation but maybe it's all the same?

    • @sziami09
      @sziami09 4 года назад +2

      Stay in no contact! I think he will come back to you soon.

    • @pinminhav
      @pinminhav 4 года назад +2

      @@sziami09 you're right. he contacted me yesterday saying the break was a huge mistake

    • @sziami09
      @sziami09 4 года назад

      @@pinminhav oh i am happy for you!:)

    • @tacobelle69
      @tacobelle69 4 года назад +1

      Eww why would you want him back? He’s just keeping you there for when the married women affair implodes... that’s not going to work out...sounds like a creep. She’s MARRIED

  • @troytroy4191
    @troytroy4191 4 года назад +1

    Thaanks for the video. I have to say its day 5 of my ex leaving me. By listen to your videos its helping me get through my situation. Im learning alot. And day by day Im getting stronger

  • @jessteubner9928
    @jessteubner9928 4 года назад +6

    Hi Coach Lee, My bf broke up a months ago, went no contact since two weeks now and THIS is what he texted about an hour ago:
    "Hey dear Jessi, I know it was an eventful year. We have experienced a lot together and will soon face new challenges. But I would like to tell you again that after all the time with you was very special. I wish you a great Christmas and wonderful holidays 😊 All the best, Tobi"
    What does that mean? Is he over everything , is he testing the waters, etc? PEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE ON THAT. WHAT SHOULD I ALSO REPLY?

  • @firemedic542
    @firemedic542 2 года назад +1

    Coach Lee. We broke up 10 days ago. Been in no contact ever since. I bowed out graciously and with class. I was my true authentic self. It was only 3 months. She told me she was falling for me and then came the pull back. She’s a widow of just over 4 years now. She kept me at arm’s length. I never met her friends or her family even tho she told me she loved me. She later said she’s not as attracted to me as she’d like to be because I’m “not what she’s used to.” She isn’t attracted to me because I’m bald. 😞Will she miss me? I sense she put walls up because she’s afraid to let go of her husband. I didn’t even get to see her bedroom or her kids rooms. I assure you I was patient and kind. I feel bamboozled. Hurt. Sad. Rejected. But staying strong. I will not contact her. No matter what, I have to let go. Thank you for everything.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад

      Michael H, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It's a POWERFUL kit, and it has strategies for every situation.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

    • @firemedic542
      @firemedic542 Год назад

      @@jannlewandowski5540 I’m going to take a hard pass. I’ve learned that when someone wants to let me go… I let them. I absolutely refuse to swim against the current. She selfishly texted me 2 months later to wish me a happy birthday. She did that for herself, not me. When I run into her now, I feel NOTHING. I’m good with letting her wander through life searching for her perfect man. I say all of this with respect. Peace and love to you and your family.

  • @adamj4606
    @adamj4606 4 года назад +7

    Loving the new hair style 👍

  • @justtoobeautiful1
    @justtoobeautiful1 4 года назад +1

    And what about when you've been together 2.5 years, and he comes out and says he never loved you or wanted you, but fooled himself into thinking he did because he didn't want to be alone? That he was faking the whole time, doesn't want you, and never will?

    • @gal1885
      @gal1885 4 года назад +1

      Sounds like a total jerk who doesn’t deserve you

  • @Lisa-ms8dz
    @Lisa-ms8dz 4 года назад +5

    First day of no contact. I'll update this if he reaches out and let you know how it goes

  • @marquetan6291
    @marquetan6291 4 года назад +2

    Hi Coach Lee, my ex broke up with me last week, she told me she is tired, needed space but she still loves me. I guess my case is quite exceptional. She agreed to attend a theatre show I bought for her before the breakup, and during the day she breakup with me she said she will still attend the show with me. 2 weeks later of no contact, I have no choice to tell her I'm not ready to see her and have found a friend to go to that show with me, for me to continue no contact I have no choice to make this decision. Later on, I got soft and I told her I have not promised my friend yet and offer her the chance to attend it with me. Then she replied that If I am not comfortable, go with my friend, then said, "we need time". Did I do anything wrong in this situation??

  • @nates-nano
    @nates-nano 4 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for your videos. They truly help a broken heart stay strong!