Teach Your Ex This After Breakup. By Coach Lee

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  • Опубликовано: 23 июл 2024
  • Coach Lee tells you what your response to a breakup teaches your ex.
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  • @R3GALMUSIK
    @R3GALMUSIK 4 месяца назад +38

    Everything Coach Lee says is correct 100.
    No contact is powerful because the circumstances surrounding my situation was complex. I thought it was hopeless. She reached out on day 46( when those chemicals that create the fear of loss reach their peak) asking for a meet up saying we need to talk. We met and she apologized about everything saying She made a terrible mistake she also said she has worked on her self and she’s asking for another chance to make the relationship better. I told her I’m open to it, but I want to take things one day at a time and she agreed. If you did have a decent relationship that they can look back and miss you, be rest assured that they will comeback. You just need to leave them alone for them to know your value in their life.
    Coach Lee, despite the fact that she gave a reasonable reason to get back on the relationship, I still don’t want to give it all back at once, but she’s coming so quick expressing how much she missed me. She also called me after our meeting thanking me for giving us another chance. What do I do about this, being that I want to take things slow. I don’t want to be too reserved and seem like I’m ignoring her in a way. Any insight coach Lee? Thank you Coach Lee for all you do. You expanded my knowledge!

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  4 месяца назад +16

      Thank you for your kind words. Don’t be too reserved, but still be a bit reserved. Give a bit each day but take your time. Have great experiences with her and let her feel progress but not that she gets it all back at once. Be playful with her often.

  • @dianasunday9461
    @dianasunday9461 3 года назад +1104

    No contact is actually more poweful than i thought... it's funny how doing nothing and feeling nothing brings them right back. Funny thing is i don't even want them back anymore

    • @1madinjun
      @1madinjun 2 года назад +54

      Same. I'm at the 6 week mark and I realized in a few weeks I couldn't imagine going down that road again

    • @Nathan-sq9xv
      @Nathan-sq9xv 2 года назад +10

      I was in a extremely short term relationship and she left it’s been 6 days of no contact but she left 2 weeks ago. She ain’t returning. She straight up said she doesn’t want me in her life 2 weeks ago

    • @serenity8295
      @serenity8295 2 года назад +30

      I thought I wanted back but talking to him gave me anxiety and the way he treated me was a nightmare! Things I see now....I was like hello no.

    • @billyb3105
      @billyb3105 2 года назад +40

      My ex told me she gained feelings back for her ex while we were dating. He would text her and never told me about it. I wouldn’t think twice to look back. She used to tell me how toxic he was. They can have fun being toxic together

    • @Nathan-sq9xv
      @Nathan-sq9xv 2 года назад +20

      @@billyb3105 my ex said she was over her ex yet she’d cancel our plans to have dinner with him. Like, bro....

  • @walterestrada9523
    @walterestrada9523 3 года назад +1796

    For all those broken hearts out there , stop counting days of no contact. It gets easier with time . Use no contact to get ur self back not ur ex . I did no contact for 18months . approximately 2 yrs ago my ex fiancé cheated on me and that broke me to pieces . She put me in a very dark place that I will never wish anyone to be in . If your ex didn’t value ur presence, make sure you give them ur 100% absence. Use that pain they caused you to ur advantage. My pain fueled me and motivated me to do better and bigger things in life . I’m a different person now 100% thanks to her ... keep ur head up people . God sent u that pain embrace it and do not fight it . God bless u all .🙏

    • @martins8761
      @martins8761 3 года назад +20

      brilliant

    • @joshpage3911
      @joshpage3911 3 года назад +26

      Thank you so much for your wisdom. God bless you

    • @cincerepaco
      @cincerepaco 3 года назад +44

      This is the best, most positive comment I have read since I’ve been dealing with the pain of a broken heart. Thank you so much! God bless 🙏🏽

    • @walterestrada9523
      @walterestrada9523 3 года назад +30

      @@cincerepaco keep ur head up . Go though the process . It will get better . It’s up to u and you only how to deal with the pain . Don’t let no one determine ur future. We have all been heartbroken once . It sucks but thats life . Good luck and happy holidays . Stay safe . It could be worse .

    • @katemate1034
      @katemate1034 3 года назад +16

      Well done, that's great for you. It's only been a week for me, and just 4 days no contact, I'm still hurt and a bit emotional but slowly feeling more in control of myself and feel a bit proud of myself for how I've been handling things since I stopped begging 😳

  • @yeoldeseamonster
    @yeoldeseamonster 3 года назад +1379

    I got my hair done yesterday and I feel like a new woman. My mindset has switched from “how could he do this to me” to “how dumb he must be to do this to himself.” Do the work, make the changes, take back your power. Your ex will notice eventually. They better hope you’re still interested in reconciliation by the time they wise up.

    • @miqualhebrewkingrobinson1556
      @miqualhebrewkingrobinson1556 3 года назад +16

      Beautiful

    • @jonathanmcmenemy103
      @jonathanmcmenemy103 3 года назад +58

      Good for you !!! Gems don't stay unnoticed for long .... If they can't see what they are losing, they never really saw your worth.

    • @MD-tf7ku
      @MD-tf7ku 3 года назад +17

      Going on to 4 months, ex broke up w/me. He has moved away a couple of weeks after, hes disconnected himself entirely from everything, that surrounded me. I know nothing of him and yet, I keep hoping he comes back, plus, I dont have social media, so he cant just look me up. It's been difficult, still hurts the same.

    • @etam.5787
      @etam.5787 3 года назад +9

      What a beautiful reaction/action! Perfect! I am happy for you, excellent!

    • @MD-tf7ku
      @MD-tf7ku 3 года назад +6

      Well, done and said.

  • @laceycastillo6598
    @laceycastillo6598 3 года назад +801

    My ex broke up with me for about a month now. He broke up with me for another girl and just last night I have found out that the girl dumped him, well I guess the last laugh is mine. That's what we call KARMA! He is cruel! Good for him!

    • @kimsikorski5691
      @kimsikorski5691 3 года назад +26

      Yep Karma at its best. 😂

    • @benhartart9487
      @benhartart9487 3 года назад +16

      Karma relates to experiences in his Next Existence 😙👍

    • @marcmalabuyoc4016
      @marcmalabuyoc4016 3 года назад +24

      This happened to me, after she got dumped by her new guy she came back to me lol

    • @heartmendoza3361
      @heartmendoza3361 3 года назад +9

      i'm very relate on this bit similar in my case he dumped me for someone else which is his neighbor girl, then asking me forgiveness and if i trust him, i said yes but since we're back together our relationship would never be the same again haist i'm very tired and hurt specially i am the one who always chased and pleading him, and now it's like he doesn't want to stay away from that woman i don't disrespecting myself again no way🥺

    • @laceycastillo6598
      @laceycastillo6598 3 года назад +9

      @@heartmendoza3361 I know the feeling of loving a guy to death, but there's a limit... love is blind for lovers can't see until we're sick and tired of their lies and eventually Waking up to their unfaithfullnesses.

  • @ZeroShift5000
    @ZeroShift5000 3 года назад +202

    “Perhaps you are overvaluing what you don’t have and undervaluing what you do.”
    ― Jordan B. Peterson, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos

    • @angelk8136
      @angelk8136 3 года назад

      Great!

    • @Rosinchenrobi
      @Rosinchenrobi 2 года назад

      Really awesome book!
      Started reading it a week after the breakup and it helped alot to get myself together and find new goals in life!

    • @justcharlie6038
      @justcharlie6038 2 года назад

      That man is changing my life

  • @tnt3266
    @tnt3266 3 года назад +13

    When you've been dumped .. move on! Don't look back it's not worth your time. God has a better relationship in store for you.

    • @tnt3266
      @tnt3266 3 года назад +1

      I stepped up, I'm not about to step down!

  • @kepistevoloboo6916
    @kepistevoloboo6916 3 года назад +299

    I hear you coach, the narcissist is the most disgusting person you can ever deal with

  • @Dieseldickrick
    @Dieseldickrick 2 года назад +59

    “Those people are small, and selfish, and perpetual children…”
    LOVED

  • @cheskavergara8192
    @cheskavergara8192 3 года назад +504

    it's been 3 months of me using the no contact rule and my ex has already started dating somebody else. At first, my mindset was: "i need to do this no contact for me to have a better chance in getting us back together." but now, my mindset changed to: "i don't care now if he's gonna come back or not.." The no contact taught me that I can live without him even before our relationship, and I admire myself now for moving forward everyday without his presence and this, is how I found myself. I love myself more than anyone else and I wouldn't sacrifice this life for a stupid man. trust me, no contact works in getting yourself back up together. the bonus part is just getting your ex back if you want to.
    edit: Coach Lee's videos really helped me. Thankyou

    • @Daniel-fb1qd
      @Daniel-fb1qd 3 года назад +18

      I feel the same way, my ex wife starting dating her coworker right away as soon as I left. But feel much better doing me and want I want to do. I still have a long road ahead me since we still have to do the divorce stuff but we deserve better.

    • @cheskavergara8192
      @cheskavergara8192 3 года назад +4

      @@Daniel-fb1qd i'm glad you're moving forward, congrats i'm proud of you!!

    • @Daniel-fb1qd
      @Daniel-fb1qd 3 года назад +6

      @@cheskavergara8192 thx, we weren’t the perfect marriage but I did my best and towards the end I noticed and did everything I could to try to fix it but she didn’t. I fought with every ounce in my body and she didn’t try nor didn’t want to. And now I should do the same.

    • @opjade
      @opjade 3 года назад +3

      @Cheska Vergara, I can truly relate. We only know we are stronger (and, maybe better) when we r up against "challenges" in life. And time does heal.

    • @Annie-to8ef
      @Annie-to8ef 3 года назад +4

      3 months of no contact here too! I feel so good!

  • @idropagearbabye6822
    @idropagearbabye6822 3 года назад +490

    I taught all my ex's the sound of CRICKETS 😆

  • @rivv010
    @rivv010 3 года назад +271

    When my ex gf broke up with me I fought to win her back for 2 months and it just got more pathetic by the day.
    I loved her more than life itself and all she did was string me along and confuse me with her misleading behavior.
    I finally decided that I deserve better for myself and gave her an ultimatum because I was in pain.
    She didn’t take me seriously so I walked away, 2 weeks later she sent all kinds of text messages from “I’m horny” to “why are you ignoring me “
    It’s sad that you have to walk away to get respect and appreciation

    • @theory2314
      @theory2314 3 года назад +9

      this is exactly what happened to me basically. a week in now of nc. everytime i would try nc she would drag me out of it somehow then give me breadcrumbs and sex then back ignoring me hardly messaging me. how did it work out for you?

    • @dandee28
      @dandee28 3 года назад +13

      Man, I'm even more pathetic lol. This is our 4th month and I decided to stop and walk away today after seeing all these videos. Never saw how sad I looked from a 3rd party perspective. I want my self respect back and confidence. I don't know if she'll ever reach out again. She seems to have narcissistic traits. All in all I hope she is healthy and happy if this is really want she wants.

    • @reshyn
      @reshyn 2 года назад +13

      only with toxic people, healthy people won't need all this

    • @H2oSANIOX
      @H2oSANIOX 2 года назад +2

      Unless she has a backup 🥲

  • @1908DIVA
    @1908DIVA 3 года назад +300

    Thank you for your videos! It’s been 30 day no contact of a 6 year relationship. He wanted out so I respectfully gave him what he wanted I didn’t beg I walked away gracefully cause he wanted out. Each day I’m getting stronger & realize my worth & what I have to offer. I’m not perfect I have my faults but I’m a good person. I realized he not perfect either after we broke up I blamed myself for everything but God reminded he is not perfect so he had faults too. I pray everyone get through there break up it’s not easy but remember it’s there lost. Stay positive everyone when it seems impossible keep telling yourself this too shall pass 🥰

    • @Thessaloniaworsley
      @Thessaloniaworsley 3 года назад +13

      Sounds like my situation. I hope we all heal soon

    • @1908DIVA
      @1908DIVA 3 года назад +3

      @Thessalonia Worsley me too! We will get through this within time. That’s the part that sucks the time but we must take this time to make ourselves better for ourselves. It’s a process but we can get through it.

    • @antilaw9911
      @antilaw9911 3 года назад +9

      He will be contacting you guarantee!

    • @1908DIVA
      @1908DIVA 3 года назад +11

      @@antilaw9911 that’s what I’m praying for but until then I’m working on myself on being a better version of me. I think of him daily but I can’t stay in the sunken place if I want to be happy meaning making myself happy with myself. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond 😊

    • @Silver-Lining1111
      @Silver-Lining1111 3 года назад +13

      It's not the Breakup that's diffucult. It's the Memories that Follow.
      Stay Strong and keep Your Worth.

  • @oldangels4449
    @oldangels4449 3 года назад +28

    11:02 Don't accept friendship with them. Best thing to say is: "That's fine. Hope you doing well" or say : "Yah sure" . Don't act like a friend ! They must not have that control over you. Don't beg them or chase them to take you back. Don't give them an ego boost/ego High. Do not bail them out of their decision of braking up with you. Let them feel the consequences of their decision to brake up with you.

  • @gracecase998
    @gracecase998 2 года назад +74

    I disagree on the let's be friends advice. I told my ex if want to leave and end this romantic relationship, you lost the right to access of any kind to my life. I cut off all contact. At that point why tease myself with friendship when he broke up with me? Being friends keep you hanging, let's them off the hook with guilt, keep tabs on us. Cut it off, no contact. It feeds their ego. Don't do it.

    • @marcinbenedek789
      @marcinbenedek789 2 года назад

      yes, you are right, but... you do not want the ex to think that he can't contact you unless he wants to marry the dumped person straight... that puts impossible pressure. At the same time... if they want to play with you, treat the dumped as a dancing monkey, the coach recommended cutting out 100%, never looking back.

    • @billzco6137
      @billzco6137 4 месяца назад

      I feel the same. I know coach Lee means well when saying this...but I feel I didn't get to know her to be friends. If she did ask this I would probably in the most polite way or calm way say I'm not interested in being friends.

  • @danielc5205
    @danielc5205 3 года назад +90

    I've been through so much in my life, that I just want a relationship that works, without all of the b.s. If I have to play head games to keep someone in my life, it's a sign for me to move on.

  • @micallll100
    @micallll100 3 года назад +139

    Give this man a T.V show! You are a star, coach Lee!

    • @lesliejohns987
      @lesliejohns987 3 года назад +5

      Yes I AGREE!!! And I must say YOU ARE SO HANDSOME.. I AM SO HAPPY THAT YOU FOUND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE COACH LEE! Thank you for ALL YOUR HELP

    • @richricogranada9647
      @richricogranada9647 Год назад +2

      Nobody watches the stupid TV anymore as YT is far better.

    • @brandonmoskos9149
      @brandonmoskos9149 Год назад

      This man is a genius.

  • @freepressright
    @freepressright 3 года назад +148

    When you get dumped, detach from them emotionally. Immediately look within and work on yourself. Build a better you. Be present in your daily life. Do things you enjoy, and if you haven't done so, study the Law of Attraction and the Law of Assumption. Both will empower you in ways that not even mental health counseling can. You'll build a stronger and healthier YOU that manifests all the things you want in life. In addition to videos by Coach Lee, I recommend videos by Robert Zink, Sammy Ingram and Kim Velez. You can go from devastated to either getting your ex back and being able to enjoy a different version of them, or you can move on happier and more secure.

    • @freepressright
      @freepressright 3 года назад +3

      @1Scuter it's costed me zero dollars

    • @freepressright
      @freepressright 3 года назад +5

      @@holyhyenas1759 I've experienced the opposite. It was absolutely life changing for me. But, in fairness, your criticism could be applied to just about anything that has a belief system, such as Christianity even. But, there's quantum physics and science behind the power of the subconscious mind and turning thoughts into reality. It healed me in ways I cannot explain. Most people fail because they cannot get beyond the negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. But even Coach Lee is a believer in it. He did a great video on law of attraction. I would urge you to try it again, detached from anything you are overly emotional about. If you want help, hit me up. I don't charge. My name is Adam K. Taylor on Facebook. If not, I wish you well and hope you find nothing but happiness. Have a wonderful weekend!

    • @thesoulfulscorp
      @thesoulfulscorp 3 года назад

      @@freepressright you have a good point here. I’m interested in learning this more

    • @freepressright
      @freepressright 3 года назад

      @@thesoulfulscorp if you need any guidance, please let me know. Helping other people is just plain good karma.

    • @thesoulfulscorp
      @thesoulfulscorp 3 года назад

      @@freepressright I would like guidance. I want to be better in my mental state. This last breakup has me devastated and completely drained mentally.

  • @constancempofu5400
    @constancempofu5400 3 года назад +47

    Coach lee is the best guys....my ex started contacting me after l stayed away from him and focused on my health and work and looking after my face😊...he even said l look attractively changed lol...now he wants me back so hard and he tells me everyday how super sorry he is and l feel great guys...im still flirting with him but l still love him so much...hoping and praying we'll now get back together permanently 😍
    I just want to encourage everyone who are going through a hard breakup that if you know you still love your ex please follow coach Lee's advises coz it works guys...thumbs up to coach lee

  • @Maya-gi8kt
    @Maya-gi8kt 3 года назад +95

    9 months no contact... at the point where I just want whatever makes him happy, if that means us not being together then be it ✌🏽

    • @harveychiefe8508
      @harveychiefe8508 3 года назад +10

      115 weeks no contact, trust the process

    • @lyricalprophet100
      @lyricalprophet100 3 года назад +9

      That’s what love is.

    • @spongedebfatpants1308
      @spongedebfatpants1308 3 года назад +27

      Not me. I hope he suffers. That doesn't mean I don't love him. I still do. But he doesn't deserve to be happy after what he did to me.

    • @NinjaOutfitInTheWash
      @NinjaOutfitInTheWash 3 года назад +5

      What about what makes you happy? You will find someone else eventually. Put yourself first.

    • @thornodell8680
      @thornodell8680 3 года назад +4

      @@spongedebfatpants1308 that’s not love sorry to break it to you. True love is setting someone free and hoping they are happy no matter what.

  • @mlong506
    @mlong506 3 года назад +280

    Oh, snap. "I AM NO ONE'S EGO TRIP" awesome Coach Lee!!

  • @thetrunkinator85
    @thetrunkinator85 3 года назад +22

    My ex and I will probably never get back together again, watching these videos just make me feel happy and gives me some sort of hope

    • @bosa5315
      @bosa5315 3 года назад

      You are better off, live your life, but they always call u back. So I suggest started dating

  • @agnesmarieriischristens6569
    @agnesmarieriischristens6569 3 года назад +25

    1 week of No contact. Still hartbroken, but I AM begining to feel hapines again. I AM slovly getting to now myself better and lovning the woman in the mirror again. 🙏

    • @agnesmarieriischristens6569
      @agnesmarieriischristens6569 3 года назад +6

      Update. He want to get bac together. We Are takling it slow, and starting a New more lovning realationship. This is the man 🌼

    • @Renren625
      @Renren625 7 месяцев назад

      @@agnesmarieriischristens6569 how long were u in no contact

  • @marcg1464
    @marcg1464 3 года назад +77

    What coach lee says works! I swear to it, I did it for two weeks and it absolutely worked! Stick to your guns and reach a point where your doing NC for YOIRSELF. It’s difficult and honestly doesn’t get easier but just do it and remind yourself it is a gift to have even had love ever. There are people starving, children crying alone, and many more terrible things. It’s going to be ok. I promise. Thanks coach lee

  • @Bossjennyb
    @Bossjennyb 3 года назад +316

    Having a really hard time tonight missing him terribly it’s been 4 weeks no contact. I want to reach out but I will not...my body and heart physically hurt. :(
    Trying hard to be strong.
    Just needed to vent.

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад +16

      J B,you deserve a better man cause you are a precious being!

    • @Bossjennyb
      @Bossjennyb 3 года назад +10

      @@lioydwilliams1850 thank you, that made my morning 🙂

    • @prasanjaniweerasinghe5537
      @prasanjaniweerasinghe5537 3 года назад +8

      yes you deserve better dont worry 😍😍

    • @lukeskywalker313
      @lukeskywalker313 3 года назад +9

      J b Remember coach Lee said use your mind not your heart Remember he said your heart can steer you wrong

    • @youloveemelia
      @youloveemelia 3 года назад +2

      Any update?

  • @sweetluvgurl
    @sweetluvgurl 2 года назад +7

    I think it’s bad for people doing no contact with the expectation of getting their ex back. I haven’t had the hope that he’ll reach out or anything or that it’ll fix anything. I’m just tired of him decreasing time spent with me and never compromising. He has seemed to not really care much anymore if I’m in his life at this point. So, I left him to be truly alone and see how it really is.

  • @jlorenzoval.1750
    @jlorenzoval.1750 3 года назад +110

    Please listen to Coach Lee. It is true that when you be showing how mad you are or beg, you are just feeding their ego and loose more power, once you back up, you gain more value and you can see how that hurts their ego and you even feel more confident. Because oneself loose a lot of confidence after someone breaks up with you and one way to get is back is by backing up and stop acting mad or begging. If we don't get them back, at least we get our value back.

  • @truthunknown789
    @truthunknown789 3 года назад +40

    "The most sexiest person to ever sexy" haha. In a time where myself, and I would assume anyone watching this, is in the midst of great suffering - that made me chuckle. Thank you!

    • @crudemood
      @crudemood 2 года назад +1

      Yeah, same here.

  • @kratosfury0018
    @kratosfury0018 3 года назад +49

    Msg - Never bail her out wen she's the dumper.

    • @patrickdolan8388
      @patrickdolan8388 3 года назад +1

      @Johnathan Greay id bet a few bucks my gf will not im employing nc now but its five months later didnt know about coach lee until 2 months ago

  • @Bulldog19547
    @Bulldog19547 3 года назад +25

    I cannot even put into words how much Coach Lee and his videos have helped my mental state. This guy is the best

  • @angiemail8459
    @angiemail8459 3 года назад +46

    As i watched your video, all the time my mind was saying "so true, so true" to every word you're saying. Thanks so much, coach Lee, you excel again!

  • @josemontana7840
    @josemontana7840 3 года назад +6

    We are Adults here. We all know the rules. Don't deal with bullshit behavior. Lay down the law

  • @tsharlye2924
    @tsharlye2924 3 года назад +11

    Your videos seriously cure post breakup anxiety lol keep uploading them they're amazing!

  • @harshan.njk03
    @harshan.njk03 3 года назад +44

    You're the best Coach Lee...your videos keep me going everyday...trust No contact and let it go...it will come back in lot of different ways and situations

  • @dannyboii1288
    @dannyboii1288 3 года назад +20

    Trust the process, you learn more about yourself!!

  • @Gracie.Gardener
    @Gracie.Gardener 3 года назад +51

    Coach Lee was the best thing to come from being ghosted! I still love to watch even though I’m no longer hung up.

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

      Gracie Gardener,hope you are with a better man cause you are too precious!

  • @idaliak5194
    @idaliak5194 3 года назад +9

    Thank God we've got amazing professionals like Lee helping us tell up from down in these situations... As someone with a propensity to constantly blame myself which was very quickly and cowardly picked up by my wasband, I can tell that a healthy dose of protection and righteous anger like the one coming from Lee is life-saving. Thank you for your work x

  • @ladifajavnyuy7644
    @ladifajavnyuy7644 3 года назад +52

    It's been one month two weeks today still can't hear from him yesterday was like the first day of the breakup. I cry like never before God heal my heart 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

    • @gaoang3391
      @gaoang3391 3 года назад +3

      same boat

    • @heartmendoza3361
      @heartmendoza3361 3 года назад +4

      @Ladifa Javnyuy i feel you i am the same boat but you need to help yourself focus on yourself improvement. feel the pain until it hurts no more dear❤ always put the god to the center of your life❤ don't let your fears be bigger than your faith🙏❤

    • @gaoang3391
      @gaoang3391 3 года назад +1

      @@heartmendoza3361 I’m talking a long and think about everything over and over then I don’t feel it anyone one day , beer and road with music it’s what I have now .. so pain

    • @heartmendoza3361
      @heartmendoza3361 3 года назад +1

      @@gaoang3391 hi dear, sorry to hear that i am also going through hearbreaks because my ex betrayed me before i meant he dumped me for someone else and when we're back together would never be the same anymore we are on and off he always initiate the break up and he just stick to his perspective which is i'm so hurt and feel like he doesn't really loved me because he didn't respect me anymore because he is blindsided for what he have done to me he didn't face the consenquences so i came to the point right now that i need to let him go and didn't look back because i'm being loyal and faithful towards him despite what he have done to me and even we are in LDR. but he doesn't really value how i felt it hurts but i need to accept that we are not meant to be so i will tell you just focus on yourself improvement get yourself back and don't waste your time with someone who doesn't really value your worth feel the pain until it hurts no more❤ by the way sorry i'm not good speaking in english. greetings from philippines🇵🇭💕

    • @gaoang3391
      @gaoang3391 3 года назад +1

      @@heartmendoza3361 thanks for the encouragement my ex didn’t betrayed me and he has been good person as always just he said he is not ready for marriage anymore then that is .
      I’m just think the bad way of him and I ve done all I can , except I’ve been stressed out this summer but he dumped me so .. I’m still missing him and I have to move on and let’s moving on together

  • @MSmith-rx6bo
    @MSmith-rx6bo 3 года назад +11

    Wow! This hits me in a good way Coach, thank you very much ❤. I'm so tired of on-again and off-again relationship. I surely give him his own medicine.
    I am no one's ego trip.

  • @RichGT350r
    @RichGT350r 3 года назад +21

    Coach Lee, I wish I found you a long time ago! Your words speak volumes! Now!! Thank you for the inspiration! Keep doing what your doing! Best Regards! And thanks again!

  • @aDaySurf
    @aDaySurf 3 года назад +7

    Coach Lee, your all of videos help me for 2 years every time I was hurt. Thank you so much. I’ll purchase your guidelines soon.

  • @allaboardthegravytrain5987
    @allaboardthegravytrain5987 2 года назад +11

    Coach Lee this is amazing. I feel stronger day by day knowing I was the best he ever had and he will now have to walk this earth alone, for the rest of his life, without my love and support.

  • @lesliejohns987
    @lesliejohns987 3 года назад +16

    Honestly!!!! You are MILLION TIMES OVER BEAUTIFUL! What a AWESOME VIDEO!!! Thank YOU ! I still watch you even though I have my EX BACK BECAUSE I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOUR MESSAGE

  • @sharanpatil7575
    @sharanpatil7575 3 года назад +20

    @coach Lee, You are a healer and wise beyond words . It’s awesome to see some one like you here 😊!

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад

      Sharan patil,your pretty smile can make the news

  • @davidlehighiii9446
    @davidlehighiii9446 3 года назад +6

    Thanks soooooo much coach. I listen to you several times daily. You make so much sense thanks for sharing I feel so lucky to have come across your channel. I'm a very religious man and feel god has given us people like you to help us in our journey. And you are certainly one of them

  • @renaee6986
    @renaee6986 3 года назад +20

    This is great advice 💯...Focus on yourself guys!! Invest in your happiness at any cost and always be kind and positive. The universe always rewards those with great intentions 🙏🏾🙂. Forgiveness is the ULTIMATE key to happiness

  • @tebampamonyane9818
    @tebampamonyane9818 3 года назад +91

    been 2 months of no contact. i’m in a much better place . i doubt he’ll come back cause i think he was using me as a rebound . but thank you . you kept me strong 😭✨✨

    • @miqualhebrewkingrobinson1556
      @miqualhebrewkingrobinson1556 3 года назад +5

      You're gonna make it and so will I keep the Faith Queen

    • @shai-fj1ri
      @shai-fj1ri 3 года назад +3

      Stay strong

    • @tebampamonyane9818
      @tebampamonyane9818 3 года назад +2

      @@miqualhebrewkingrobinson1556 thank you so much

    • @tebampamonyane9818
      @tebampamonyane9818 3 года назад +1

      @@shai-fj1ri thank you

    • @nekotfarmer
      @nekotfarmer 3 года назад +7

      Not to give you false hope, but everytime I've been used as a rebound the girl always came back eventually. Last time it took 3 months, but it happens. By that time I didn't really want her anymore though

  • @jonagarcia2677
    @jonagarcia2677 3 года назад +35

    I wish I could have listened to you years ago, as this could have saved me and my heart and time. But some life lessons need to be learned from experiences. However, I am still grateful that I have found your channel. Keep on replaying this video in my current encounters. Thank you for giving me clarity and condition me to do the right thing for myself via your videos. More power coach Lee!

  • @sergiogodinez2496
    @sergiogodinez2496 3 года назад +32

    Thanks Coach Lee. Almost 4 months since the break up. Bought your emergency kit. Shoot. It’s hasn’t been easy. Lots of ups and downs. I’m not sure how ready I am to move on. But know this is the time that I will. I won’t reach out to her. I’m ok with that. Your videos have kept me grounded. I’ve remained in NC since the break up. I appreciate the advice and thank you for making me 💪🏽 strong 😎

  • @JC-KH
    @JC-KH 3 года назад +8

    These videos make me feel so much better. Thanks coach Lee

  • @randomdude9384
    @randomdude9384 3 года назад +183

    Im putting all my trust in No contact rule. First time im using it. Been 38 days and still going , no sign so far. We gotta be strong and to trust no contact .

    • @JPogi690
      @JPogi690 3 года назад +25

      Oh it's going to be a long time. 30 days is bullshit. It will probably take months bro for your ex to contact you again. So yeah don't wait and worry about her. Just find a new hobby and focus on yourself. That's the only thing you can do right now.

    • @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO
      @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO 3 года назад +17

      Even when it doesn't "work" it's always the best route for self-confidence and sense of worth. It ended up working for me and I married the girl that I went "no contact" with after 3 months. I even blocked her on Facebook and my phone - I didn't even do it to win her back. I did it to get over her faster and it worked anyway. Thing is - she was a horrible person and I never should have taken her back.

    • @mr.t5388
      @mr.t5388 3 года назад +3

      Stay Strong...
      Stay The Course...

    • @James-jx3ro
      @James-jx3ro 3 года назад +2

      @@KenRFoxNashvilleSEO but you went and married her? Are you now thinking about divorcing her?

    • @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO
      @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO 3 года назад +5

      @@James-jx3ro We divorced 4 years ago - she was diagnosed BPD with imminent rage disorder. I was focused on winning her back to prove my love I didn't see how obvious it was that she didn't actually love anyone.

  • @Simon_Velu
    @Simon_Velu 3 года назад +3

    Dude, you are hilarious! You are soo on point and your delivery is so blunt, it's refreshing!

  • @decklensworld1755
    @decklensworld1755 2 года назад +20

    Love Coach Lee!!!❤️❤️❤️ Your videos taught me so much and helped me get through a four week breakup. I connected with a guy and after a year he thought I was moving away and found someone else. After telling him I wasn’t he still wanted to stay with her. I was broken. He revealed his true feelings to me which surprised me and made me want him more. Well after realizing he made a mistake he came back. I followed your advice and kept my dignity. He ended the other relationship and committed to me. Thank you for all you do!

    • @alisachaise3
      @alisachaise3 7 месяцев назад +1

      You were the back up plan honey
      But best of luck to you.

  • @toxic-freearmy8949
    @toxic-freearmy8949 3 года назад +4

    Coach Lee. This video made me feel so strong. I'm grateful. 🖤

  • @tkoolofson6256
    @tkoolofson6256 3 года назад +2

    The REsponse Shows everyone including ME that I HAVE POWER to Place my needs and wants above others

  • @margomazzeo1680
    @margomazzeo1680 3 года назад +21

    Starting a new job next week..that will keep me super busy and distracted from thoughts of him..time for me now!!

  • @lauraluluxx
    @lauraluluxx 3 года назад +59

    Great video as always Coach Lee. Its been 6 months since the split of my 4 year relationship and I’m still in a lot of pain, he has strung me along since the break up and I’ve realised this now, it’s all mind games to keep me trapped and prevent me moving on. I am slowly starting to find myself again and get better day by day now I’ve stopped the contact. Thank you for helping us 🙏💙

    • @lauraluluxx
      @lauraluluxx 3 года назад +4

      Update - he has blocked and deleted me this evening due to me going no contact with him 😒

    • @mlong506
      @mlong506 3 года назад +3

      @@lauraluluxx stay strong. Think of it as a blessing. Just do you. Mine played terrible mind games and strung me along for 6 months before I finally blocked him. He is seeing someone else and just wouldn't leave me alone.

    • @lauraluluxx
      @lauraluluxx 3 года назад +6

      @@mlong506 I struggle to understand him... he got so mad I went no contact for 2 weeks he blocks me... tbh I think it’s just control, he doesn’t like to be treated disrespectfully and this to him is exactly that. I can’t wait to be over him :(

    • @ahmed15661
      @ahmed15661 2 года назад

      @@lauraluluxx update?

    • @beingfree7172
      @beingfree7172 9 месяцев назад

      Any Update?

  • @davidv.3135
    @davidv.3135 3 года назад +3

    Great info. Coach Lee! I wish I would have found your videos before I made all the mistakes with my break-up! I've finally gone into no contact.

  • @sabajanjua9323
    @sabajanjua9323 3 года назад +1

    Got to see this video at the right time to give myself a high because I am sticking up for myself. I feel that I am grounded and almost as if ive gotten the power back. Not scared of what will happen but shows him that he needs to respect me more and tthat I am highly valuable. I have withdrawn Coach. Just shut down!

  • @lemfinagokrsa2101
    @lemfinagokrsa2101 2 года назад +18

    Instant anxiety relief. Thank you ❤

  • @harrisonayodi1529
    @harrisonayodi1529 2 года назад +3

    Dumpers are egocentric and you have to take that power from them. Thanks Lee. Im so calm and collected since my break up. Best coach👍🇰🇪

  • @bluefan651
    @bluefan651 3 года назад +3

    Lee, you taught that hair and shirt to be sexy!
    I love your no B.S. delivery and how you do not sugar-coat things. Thank you for being direct, for me, this is easier to understand AND saves time.

  • @hopewilson5359
    @hopewilson5359 3 года назад +4

    When someone gives you a run around and no answers and basically plays games and the argument goes on for 4 hours you're bound to eventually get pissed and say something not so nice. I did and don't regret it now because he wasn't a man and couldn't communicate. All he wanted to do was avoid it and run away so good riddons. In this case he didn't have the looks and showed me an ugly side when he left. I know I deserve better. Men who are 40 shouldn't be playing games......PERIOD! He needs to grow up.

    • @spacegirl226
      @spacegirl226 3 года назад +1

      Sounds like my husband. He is a coward. He would rather run away than deal with the problems. It was easier for him to run and hide rather than to learn and grow to be a better man. Good riddance indeed.

  • @zeniz8
    @zeniz8 3 года назад +8

    8 months.. Still feeling terrible man. I never loved someone so much as I still love her. After six years being togheter, after everything we've been through.. She didn't want to continue with me. I became a different person.. new job, own house.. but still so empty. I love her with my whole heart, always did. I don't contact her because I deeply respect her own freedom, it's the only thing I can do. Still hope she will come back. She ain't coming back but I am fine on my own, I never want someone else, I just can't anymore.

  • @chevy2583
    @chevy2583 3 года назад +5

    Thanks Coach Lee. I usually watch your videos several times, very impowering!

  • @r.m.weisensee9287
    @r.m.weisensee9287 3 года назад +4

    Coach Lee :”The Best of the Best”
    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tkoolofson6256
    @tkoolofson6256 3 года назад +1

    The Response is All the Power that is Possible and WILL give me Power and Strength

  • @mixmatchchannel959
    @mixmatchchannel959 3 года назад +2

    Being sexy is being consistent, Faithful, insensitive won't make your gf or bf feels insecure. Should have security for your partner is a kind of sexy to secure them that they don't waste their time loving you emotionally.

  • @teamjesus6383
    @teamjesus6383 3 года назад +5

    4:29 heed Coach Lee’s Warning of Narcissism/Jezebel Spirit ✝️

  • @Mooncat222
    @Mooncat222 3 года назад +4

    Sometimes it’s a Y instead of an X - everything is for the learning and that is self value self love and learning boundaries ! Put yourself FIRST always!,,

  • @lokeshthakur5715
    @lokeshthakur5715 3 года назад +4

    Yes coach ....it doesn't last... It happened to me.... We Break up I begged we got together.... Broke up again
    I encourage everyone to watch and follow coach lee..... He is the best

  • @emmaamundsen8951
    @emmaamundsen8951 2 года назад +4

    Hello coach Lee!
    I just want to thank you for your videos. I’ve learned a lot from your advice in every video. I just recently got ghosted, and it was suddenly. I didn’t expect this at all, because it was actually the second time he’s done this to me. Fortunately, this time, my guard was up, by not letting my emotions control me. I’m ok this time. I’m not even broken with a bleeding heart this time either. I think I’ve gotten stronger, and I’m not going to allow him to hurt me ever again. That’s not going to be a third time. I don’t really want him back, but I still feel something for him, but my emotions are being controlled by me. I feel good that I feel and acting this way. I don’t want him to think that he can crumb me along. I’m just so angry that he got to used me again. I feel so stupid. Thanks so much for the great advice...

    • @lexicon4u
      @lexicon4u 2 года назад +2

      Getting ghosted is the most immature response and these ppl deserve the worst. I got ghosted and blocked from my ex fianceé and it's the worst breakup by default

  • @bailey1493
    @bailey1493 3 года назад +4

    Such good advice! I asked him if i could repair this, even as friends... he asked if I could deal with being friends, I said I’d like to try.... That message was exchanged a week ago. Right now, I’m respecting his space

  • @hurtandbrokenshell7015
    @hurtandbrokenshell7015 3 года назад +4

    So finished listening to the video and I agree with you fully. I feel like these things happened to me, and I guess the thing I said about wishing her a happy birthday would give her control back. I begged and pleaded and was in an on and off relationship over and over and we tried being friends for 3 months and fought constantly until she didn’t want to talk to me anymore, and I feel like we are in no contact now at least, and I believe it isn’t too late, but I agree she needs to have this movement inside of her for things to work.

  • @idade4024
    @idade4024 2 года назад +1

    I just love coach lee. Sometimes in life , limits must be tested.

  • @tkoolofson6256
    @tkoolofson6256 3 года назад

    after watching this I want to move forward learn more things Coach Lee has to teach apart from attempting to get someone back that clearly is not capable of being in a relationship........I visualize Coach Lee teaching wisdom on everything under the sun....what a flawless teacher humble kind and so clear and speaks slowly ...so u have time to digest

  • @Gigatt06
    @Gigatt06 3 года назад +3

    So true! Because of this advice, when he tested the waters to come back, I responded "I could possibly be open to considering us being friends again, but we'll just have to see." He totally did a 180% turnaround and slowly (and I made sure I kept my excitement in check) earned my trust again.

  • @queenbee8990
    @queenbee8990 3 года назад +4

    I went through this 3 times by a guy. He toyed with me like a cat and mouse. The last time he came back after not finding someone better. He was cruel when I was heartbroken. He even used pictures I took of him on our dates to post on a dating profile to snag another woman. It took me a year and half to realize I was truly beautiful and unique and not the type of woman that is easily let go . I finally moved on , found my self-worth and found a good man ! He btw is still single . Not so easy to replace a person who was decent and truly loved you .

    • @zeroonezero7852
      @zeroonezero7852 3 года назад +1

      Mines is currently using selfies they sent me that I told them I liked on the dating app we met on and posted a pic in the birthday outfit I brought them, then wrote a very passive aggressive bio I already know it’s an attempt to get me to reach out it’s day 31 and I no longer care or feel anything about the break the way I see it is if you’re okay dumping someone for such trivial reasons and don’t have the courage you had when dumping me then just keep on keeping on because I just don’t have the energy to care anymore

  • @OneEyedLion
    @OneEyedLion 3 года назад +2

    This was a reminder of misplayed and properly played situations.

  • @mr.visionaryandpurposet.v.3739
    @mr.visionaryandpurposet.v.3739 3 года назад +3

    My man I fell into these type of relationships all the time appreciate the advice

  • @SuperXChronic
    @SuperXChronic 3 года назад +7

    I’m determined to get my ex back she isn’t thinking straight we have such a great relationship and I’m such a great man. No one will ever come close to the amount of love and compassion I give to her. It’s only been 1 day and I’m glad I found you from a friend. God bless you man

  • @curtisotieno3292
    @curtisotieno3292 3 года назад +111

    Maybe its time we gave Lee a governor position.

    • @TheCc064
      @TheCc064 3 года назад +7

      Give him an entire Presidency! He’s educated and people-smart

    • @lesliejohns987
      @lesliejohns987 3 года назад +1

      Yes I agree!!!!!! He would be Perfect!!!

    • @lesliejohns987
      @lesliejohns987 3 года назад +3

      And I am SO GLAD AND SO GRATEFUL THAT I FOUND HIM THROUGH ALL THE FAKE ONES! He literally and I sincerely mean this ! Knows the truth .. He tells you how it is and doesn’t beat around the bush... There are SO MANY ONLINE THAT ARE DESPICABLE COACHES !! I don’t know how they make it becauseTHEY LIE THROUGH THEIR TEETH! I would DEFINITELY VOTE COACH LEE FOR A PRESIDENT OR A GOVERNOR! This is Coach Lee’s Calling in Life to do EXACTLY WHAT HE DOES FOR HIS CAREER! Don’t EVER STOP COACH LEE ! We all LOVE YOU!

    • @margomazzeo1680
      @margomazzeo1680 3 года назад

      Yes..absolutely! President Lee!💝🎈

    • @tkoolofson6256
      @tkoolofson6256 3 года назад +1

      got my vote :) thank u for this reflects how i feel i didnt have the words

  • @lizetterocha2587
    @lizetterocha2587 3 года назад +2

    OMG something not related to my heart break. Coach Lee gets more handsome! Not only does he have great advice but he is easy on the eyes.

  • @Calminthechaos.
    @Calminthechaos. 3 года назад +3

    Coach Lee, you are very wise. Not entirely sure if I'll get my ex back or more importantly if I will even want him back after all this as its early days but your videos are keeping me motivated and giving me the strength to heal and move forwards. I no longer feel like I'm at his mercy or like he has all the control any more. I managed to find the strength to move all of my stuff out of the house we shared together after watching some of your videos and he even messaged me to commend me on my strength and bravery and that he was thinking about me. 💪 Thank you so much, you're a diamond. Will be purchasing your emergency break up kit, it would have cost me more than that in therapy! Love the hair btw! I wish you well sir!

    • @Calminthechaos.
      @Calminthechaos. 3 года назад

      @@DavidLee-zq4kiin a bin bag do you mean? No thanks, I'm not a psycho

  • @earlblink477
    @earlblink477 3 года назад +11

    Very sound advice and very hard to do . I'm trying to stay strong after being duped . How many of you were also totally blindsided by the "I need space to work on me" . Its been 4 weeks and Ive been weak but have a new resolve . I've spent too much time trying to make sense out of nonsense .

  • @softskin100
    @softskin100 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for this video. So clear and it guided me "no contact".

  • @emilhansen3806
    @emilhansen3806 3 года назад

    This is golden advice in the purest form!
    Amazing contet. You got a new subscriber!

  • @lerakrasimirova2179
    @lerakrasimirova2179 3 года назад +2

    This is the BEST advice that I have listened to. Thank you so much!

  • @emkruz9391
    @emkruz9391 3 года назад +8

    Those people are small narcissistic users manipulators cheaters I love you Coach Lee you're awesome

  • @lindageiling5922
    @lindageiling5922 2 года назад +3

    This happens with grown men also. I made the mistake , begging. Crying . He ripped my heart out. Cruelty. He came back , left, came back. He became more abusive. He knew every time he left I would take him back n I did. He actually said that at first to be friends n he would call sometimes. I said no that I wanted a relationship. I screwed up . I'm over 50 n I never had to deal with these things thru life. Never had experience. I was married 24 yrs , when that ended my self esteem was way down

  • @maryuibhe
    @maryuibhe Год назад +1

    Thank you for all the videos.
    Am facing it right now, but I am also seeing myself getting better, I will be stronger If ever I find someone again in this life I will be the right person for her.
    God bless us all.

  • @mohammedtimimi4262
    @mohammedtimimi4262 3 года назад +2

    Being watching coach Lee for ages,
    I learnd allot from him even thaugh I never have relationship problems like many, reason why I value my self ( hard) I respect my self, and what I love about lee he help you but he make sure you leave winner regardless you back with your x or not.

  • @darlenepaulo9153
    @darlenepaulo9153 3 года назад +14

    Thanks coach Lee, almost 2 months since he broke up with me. Since I discover your Chanel I feel happy and better now.

    • @joycesexton2495
      @joycesexton2495 3 года назад +4

      @@poejohhh8034Be strong don't let no one,break,ur spirit

  • @domeniccoccio558
    @domeniccoccio558 3 года назад +4

    Thank you once again coach Lee. You have helped me through the hardest Time of my life

  • @gc825
    @gc825 3 года назад

    Coach lee is such a relief, plus a handsome guy would push you to be better! GOD bless you coach Lee!

  • @clydehiggins5254
    @clydehiggins5254 3 года назад +1

    Coach Lee you are the Best! I watch every chance I get, you answer all my questions, going to get break kit, God Bless!!

  • @h3arty
    @h3arty 3 года назад +11

    ❤️ *MAD LOVE FOR COACH LEE* ❤️

  • @yowhatupmain
    @yowhatupmain Год назад +3

    You are no one’s ego trip straight facts 🔥

  • @elharrop
    @elharrop 10 месяцев назад +2

    Just texted back 'Ok no worries, all the best' and now he's watching my stories. I'm becoming a pro at this now haha. Seriously don't put up a fight, you can't get through to anyone when they are I that mood.

  • @jinyiduan2546
    @jinyiduan2546 2 года назад

    Masterpiece!!! Never heard of it ever anywhere else, brilliant brilliant brilliant