Mistakes You Must Not Make In No Contact

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  • @Tacticalsquid
    @Tacticalsquid 5 лет назад +4205

    Whoever breaks up with this guy is screwed lol.
    Edit: Its been 2 years since I wrote this comment and I just wanna say that I was so deeply hurt and heartbroken at the time I wrote this. I just wanna go back in time and give myself a hug. But I want everyone to know a couple things, 1. My ex ended up reaching out to me about a year later. 2. It didnt matter because I found my true love already. I never in a million years would have thought i would get over my ex, I watched every freaking video this guy made. But I PROMISE, time will heal all wounds, and the right person WILL COME. I am happier now than I ever was with my ex and the person I’m with now makes me feel more loved than anyone. I remember clear as day how everytime I used to think of my ex, it would LITERALLY feel like someone is stabbing my heart. It actually hurt. It was a sharp pain in my chest I could never forget. But I actually laugh because now, its NOTHING. I laugh at the fact I even thought that way ab my ex lmao. Sometimes even cringe. But anyways, just want yall to know it will be ok, and as much as I know you dont wanna hear that your ex isnt the one for you… I would say that if they hurt you once, it means they really dont have much love for you anyways and it probably wont last. HOWEVER, I promise God has someone out there for all of us. Sometimes we are put through these difficult times because I KNOW it makes us stronger ( It definitely made me stronger ) So use this time to focus on yourself, improve on yourself, and eventually when the time is right, they will come. My mom always said our timing and Gods timing are very different. God always knows the best time. Just be patient. :) Glad this comment got so many laughs, but please keep in mind what I said if you read this far.

  • @olamideadio
    @olamideadio 4 года назад +1527

    "If you love them, you'd do something difficult to get them back. This is that something difficult."
    Slaps.

  • @Sabrina-lc1ux
    @Sabrina-lc1ux 4 года назад +505

    I have done no contact once. It worked. He came back after 3 months. By then I didn’t want him anymore. If i can survive 3 months without him i can go on my life without him at all. During the no contact period I slowly realise what an axxhole he was and how blinded i was.

    • @chait2345
      @chait2345 4 года назад +22

      Sound toxic , sound like you didn’t love and were only attached . Learning to love without attachment is the key

    • @ManviSharma1994
      @ManviSharma1994 3 года назад +32

      chait2345 that’s true but at the same time people have boundaries. After being dumped/rejected, told they no longer have feelings for you- you have every right to reconsider and lose those feelings for them as time passes. It could have 100% been love at the time but after they treat you badly/hurt you...you can lose that love because they’re no longer the person you thought they were.

    • @chait2345
      @chait2345 3 года назад +25

      Manvi love isn’t something you lose it’s attachment you lose , your parents never stop loving you no matter what the distance or how long you see them. It’s attachment you lose which 90% of people mistake for love . And humans are slaves to their habits . Your reply shows that they made you love yourself in the moment , and it was nothing but attachment . Because love is a choice and true love never dies you continue loving them from a distance knowing they ain’t good for you

    • @Luxeamirah
      @Luxeamirah 3 года назад +4

      @@chait2345 you’re right

    • @divinedigitalpro
      @divinedigitalpro 3 года назад +22

      Yes!👍 I'm realizing I don't really want him either. It's been almost two months and sometimes I miss him, but he lost a wonderful loyal person. I'm not perfect, but my heart is pure.

  • @halloooo1duuuuu
    @halloooo1duuuuu 5 лет назад +1648

    You should ALWAYS do "no contact" after a breakup. Not necessarily to get your ex back, but for your own sake and your own health.

    • @vicrollon3140
      @vicrollon3140 3 года назад +2

      Yes

    • @deirdremarshall-greene1181
      @deirdremarshall-greene1181 3 года назад +10

      I've been dumped 5x by the same person Husband #2. We resume where we left off. So NC does work. I did everything thats you not supposed to do.

    • @lutaayam
      @lutaayam 2 года назад +9

      Its the hope that is killing me. I had given up hope and was on the way to healing, then she posted about her heart being in smitherens after 8 days of NC. This gave me hope and I waited for direct contact from her, but its been another 10 days now and I'm trying to forget about her again

    • @rooroo8767
      @rooroo8767 2 года назад +10

      @@lutaayam forget about her my brother. I’m in the same spot as you. My love of my life had an affair and is openly looking for someone else. It’s just not worth the trouble. You will only feel more pain.

    • @coralfrancis1766
      @coralfrancis1766 2 года назад

      Hey friends do you need on getting back your ex partner,broken relationship,get rid of third parties and attractive love for better and permanent,,,,

  • @mere4414
    @mere4414 4 года назад +1810

    after being dumped i haven’t really been able to eat or drink anything.. i’ve had no appetite at all... watching ur videos and reading the comments on them really helped restore my appetite

    • @mightyobserver12
      @mightyobserver12 4 года назад +12

      Woah! I stressed ate!

    • @Mistressillyanna
      @Mistressillyanna 4 года назад +9

      @@mightyobserver12 same! I have been eating everything in sight

    • @demabildolevi9427
      @demabildolevi9427 4 года назад +2

      Indeed

    • @Vanilladye
      @Vanilladye 4 года назад +13

      Same. Although I'm going through dumper's remorse but I feel like I've been dumped.

    • @Mistressillyanna
      @Mistressillyanna 4 года назад +20

      @@Vanilladye same as that too! The tables have turned and now he appears fine after I dumped him and I'm the one in tears! The no contact is working though as at least I'm not making a fool of myself and showing how regretful and needy I am. Stay strong. After time things should improve and we'll all be happy enough to move on, reconcile or whatever!

  • @Empzzz1
    @Empzzz1 4 года назад +724

    "When you really want something, You have to be disciplined " - Coach Lee .. Best relationship advice so far for me

    • @chelseaalex9601
      @chelseaalex9601 2 года назад +4

      100%.

    • @urdadshusband781
      @urdadshusband781 8 месяцев назад

      What if you broke up with them and they left them you want them back and now they're telling you they need time to think. She told me she was not saying we cannot get back together and she doesn't was not saying we could. She needs time to think

  • @NA-xg1ji
    @NA-xg1ji 5 лет назад +1733

    The camera angle, your facial expression and your tone of voice makes me feel like I'm being briefed for some sort of military operation.

    • @squarepeg9484
      @squarepeg9484 5 лет назад +49

      Tsar Nicholas II 😂 I thought I was was being hypnotised, I was listening so intently. He’s good 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @irenejasmin2982
      @irenejasmin2982 5 лет назад +7

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @j.pdiantonio9147
      @j.pdiantonio9147 5 лет назад +26

      I'm dead. 😭 He's military for sure

    • @CookieBagTv
      @CookieBagTv 4 года назад +3

      Tsar Nicholas II 2 years & 6 months I’ve finally arrived.....Sheeesh 🤦🏻‍♂️

    • @mifasola1
      @mifasola1 4 года назад +20

      Hahaha! Thats so true! He looks like Dexter

  • @MrBlackbeamer
    @MrBlackbeamer 5 лет назад +1279

    whoever read this PLEASE ..... Please love and respect yourself before you start any relationship. Please do not get attached so quickly and always use your brain and don’t listen your heart.
    And lastly. Please do yourself a favor and DO NOT GIVE YOUR HEART TO ANYONE. Let them EARN IT 😉

  • @kenf.2413
    @kenf.2413 2 года назад +40

    No contact means: Dumpee DUMPS the "dumper", so the dumpee becomes the dumper! Game changer.

    • @yezir2906
      @yezir2906 27 дней назад

      Well shit... Never thought of it that way

  • @tiatorus
    @tiatorus 5 лет назад +1031

    People need to forget other coaches : this coach is the ultimate ✅

    • @allqueers
      @allqueers 5 лет назад +15

      tia torture he’s the best out of all I’ve watched

    • @Lazy_Prophet
      @Lazy_Prophet 5 лет назад +10

      Brad Browning is really good too though.
      Edit:, I was clearly ignorant when I made this statement. I prefer Lucia with art of love and the dating guy, also Spartacus fortune is pretty good for guys.

    • @chitownboxer88
      @chitownboxer88 5 лет назад +10

      Brad will serve this dude

    • @carolrucker4563
      @carolrucker4563 5 лет назад

      I agree!!

    • @gabrielbenefield2908
      @gabrielbenefield2908 4 года назад +8

      Coach Corey Wayne

  • @samsunggalaxyj3prime889
    @samsunggalaxyj3prime889 4 года назад +561

    2 days of tears, but also 2 days of no contact! My mission has begun

    • @lafamilia3239
      @lafamilia3239 4 года назад +8

      Samsung GalaxyJ3Prime
      same😭

    • @houdinitj37
      @houdinitj37 4 года назад +21

      Just stared today as well 😢 we're all in this together

    • @neffyvirtual326
      @neffyvirtual326 4 года назад +15

      Same here I started a week ago, it's so painful 💔

    • @lafamilia3239
      @lafamilia3239 4 года назад +6

      I'm back all I can say the best decision we did was separate we are happier and I'm thank ful for that god bless y'all hope that helped alil bit
      An smilie it's doesn't hurt or cost a thing god bless y'all much love
      ❤💙💜❤💜💙

    • @CamoKKing
      @CamoKKing 4 года назад +30

      NeffyVirtual i started 2 weeks ago. The first week is always painful but now i dont care what happens. If we get back together, great. If we dont get back together, great. It gets better... just keep improving yourself and living your life. Eventually you’ll forget about the whole no contact thing and be surprised to a text or phone call.

  • @John-uy6ks
    @John-uy6ks Год назад +375

    This man has actually saved my life and sanity over the past month. Every time I come close to breaking no contact I just watch some of these videos and it gives me the motivation to carry on. You’re a life saver coach Lee 👏👏

    • @Robertsswan
      @Robertsswan Год назад +11

      I wish i had seen these a month ago. I have been doing the worst stuff for the past few weeks. Ugh

    • @elenavblt
      @elenavblt Год назад +4

      Yes, same with me 😢

    • @yashara1e
      @yashara1e Год назад +3

      Please update if no contact worked for you

    • @edgartaracena1094
      @edgartaracena1094 11 месяцев назад +2

      I do the same , whenever I have anxiety to want to reach out , I listen to video and it gives me relief and makes me focus on my healing stage

    • @darksideofthebright4284
      @darksideofthebright4284 9 месяцев назад +2

      Good one

  • @yunhao5645
    @yunhao5645 5 лет назад +571

    Makes me laugh when he said some people tell the ex that they are doing on contact. 😂

    • @sda9995
      @sda9995 5 лет назад +23

      Right me too that was funny lol

    • @angeliqueesprit9155
      @angeliqueesprit9155 5 лет назад +6

      😂😂😂

    • @kat-pg5cx
      @kat-pg5cx 5 лет назад +4

      🤭😃😃😃

    • @austinmunfer811
      @austinmunfer811 5 лет назад +26

      It's a mature thing to do you will literally make them feel like shit if you don't tell them that you want to attempt this method. It will drive them insane and most likely into somebody else's arm

    • @rarirover44
      @rarirover44 5 лет назад +34

      U cant tell the oposition team where u shooting the ball thats a retarded move🤣🤣🤣

  • @duchessofpotatoland
    @duchessofpotatoland 3 года назад +439

    1. Breaking No Contact, keep yourself strong for not breaking the no contact rule.
    2. Telling your ex you're in No Contact right now, don't give away your strategy to them.
    3. Checking with other person during no contact period to see if they've had enough space and time.
    4. Overanalyzing. Basically overanalyzing and overthinking things, it will make you look PATHETIC and WEAK.
    5. Social pouting, posting sad posts on social media.
    6. Doing no contact only to get your ex back. It's for your own healing, it makes yourself strong and makes your ex realize they miss you.
    7. Not controlling your own thoughts.
    8. Not going out and have fun during the no contact period, there's nothing to tell your ex when they do come back or when they reach out to you.
    9. Falling for loss vs love. The sense and feeling of loss is so powerful and often times we mistake it for love. Try to separate the feeling of loss from the feeling of love.
    All of this honestly makes us look SO weak and miserable and pathetic. I never knew I did all this in the past oml.

    • @elysia_sky1525
      @elysia_sky1525 2 года назад +15

      Why is that weak, or pathetic? It's love. If someone wants me for my indifference rather than for my genuine care they deserve neither (and need some therapy for their issues).

    • @coryleblanc
      @coryleblanc 2 года назад +4

      nah, go out and have fun, make them mad

    • @betinaaksoz6246
      @betinaaksoz6246 2 года назад +17

      @@elysia_sky1525 It is not love actually. The pain comes from losing something you are attached to because you made them the source of your happiness. Attachment and love are very different. Love is giving rather than receiving.

    • @shaunnodrick5303
      @shaunnodrick5303 2 года назад +1

      i hear that!

    • @adaptercrash
      @adaptercrash Год назад

      When you go to the psych ward

  • @MSLcreations
    @MSLcreations Год назад +167

    Been 3 weeks since the breakup. 2 weeks since no contact. Came out of nowhere and I felt so lost when it happened as it was a loving and complete relationship of 3 years. Day to day has been hard, but watching these videos have put some things into perspective for me. It has given me some hope, not just the relationship but for my mindset as well. Thanks Coach!

    • @jarrodoberg2078
      @jarrodoberg2078 Год назад +7

      How’s everything going?

    • @moogsify5718
      @moogsify5718 Год назад +3

      @@jarrodoberg2078yeah hard

    • @benrawarg
      @benrawarg 10 месяцев назад +2

      Howre you feeling now

    • @lineakristensen1821
      @lineakristensen1821 9 месяцев назад +4

      how are you now?❤ I'm on day 5 of no contact and I feel completely lost and hollow 😢

    • @lolxd4688
      @lolxd4688 9 месяцев назад

      @@lineakristensen1821I feel you 14 days

  • @allqueers
    @allqueers 5 лет назад +631

    My biggest problem is over analyzing 😪

  • @dennisrod5808
    @dennisrod5808 5 лет назад +926

    The longer I go into no contact the more I realize I “want” my ex back bc of the feeling of “loss”. I am mainly doing no contact out of respect for myself. Just letting things be. Good luck to everyone out there going through rough times. Thanks for the video Coach Lee. On point!

    • @Edenculverhouse
      @Edenculverhouse 5 лет назад +27

      I am also doing the same we literally broke up today and hense I am here as I'm so messed up now in the head x glad there are other people going through the same

    • @elkantotero3156
      @elkantotero3156 5 лет назад +13

      Its been only 3 months since our break up ( she broke up with me) . My ex had been into 1 short relationship and now as of today her latest bf . Damn . I'll only start doing no contact today . I wont do the same thing she did to me. She cheated and I wanna move on.

    • @pahriz
      @pahriz 4 года назад +19

      @@elkantotero3156 hey, if she's a cheater and she takes you back she'll only cheat on you again. Do you want to go through a break up again? People who change for you. Sorry. Just do no contact, each day gets easier and don't go back. I've been down that lonely road, and with time you'll blame yourself more and more because that's what she'll say or hint and that will make you feel so weak and insignificant that you can't make her happy. The truth though is that you can't. She was broken when you found her. Take care bro, love yourself first. God bless

    • @petervoss7041
      @petervoss7041 4 года назад +5

      @@pahriz this happened to me 3 days ago. It sucks so bad. I feel like it's a lot of love and some loss. That question crosses my mind a lot. Can she be faithful? Only I can make that decision to take her or leave her. I'm weighing out my decision. Last talked today, but it was that "wish you luck" message. No more. No contact starting today.

    • @pahriz
      @pahriz 4 года назад +3

      @@petervoss7041 I'm no expert, I'm here trying to learn too...in the end, look in your heart. Ask yourself, "will she cheat again?" I don't think most guys can live with that. If it's less than cheating and you can forgive...go back, I'd say. I'm a sucker like that, and all couples have drama...cheating - if you go back, go to all the black dating coaches, they're like Corey but more raw...at the end of the day, forget what anybody says do what makes you happy but step you're game up. AMS, Myster Lemba, blackram 313, coach bill lee, stephiscold and a couple others for good advice

  • @sarahghafary2856
    @sarahghafary2856 Год назад +23

    screw my ex… i want coach lee… he’s so comforting

  • @marianacampos7959
    @marianacampos7959 5 лет назад +856

    Lmao....this guy is genius...I love how he basically has no facial expression...it makes it humorous for some reason. Also, great advice.

    • @LionessTribe
      @LionessTribe 5 лет назад +6

      It annoys me. 😂 (no offense)

    • @manfish6183
      @manfish6183 5 лет назад +6

      This comment made me smile Haha thanks!

    • @lyneadetyfitness
      @lyneadetyfitness 5 лет назад +2

      💯....haha....

    • @Snickers9991
      @Snickers9991 5 лет назад +2

      HAAHAHHAHAA I KNOW IVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS SO MUCH

    • @crystal_2020
      @crystal_2020 5 лет назад +17

      His hair is absolutely PERFECT. I’m dead serious

  • @celiasmith7434
    @celiasmith7434 5 лет назад +259

    That hair is pure magic!

  • @ivyamber
    @ivyamber 3 года назад +40

    Going no contact for good.😂
    He can't have me back after dumping me. It's honestly getting better everyday.

  • @Cegorachthelaughinggod
    @Cegorachthelaughinggod 5 лет назад +86

    Meditation is highly beneficial. When the uncomfortable thoughts come up. Ignore them. Let them pass. Like clouds. Do NOT act upon them.

  • @hads5279
    @hads5279 5 лет назад +453

    A lot of these comments are talking about how we shouldn’t want our ex back because they don’t deserve us, they didn’t realise what they had, and they’ll never change. Have you ever thought that maybe we were dumped for a reason, we didn’t realise what we had, and that we need to change some things about us? I’ve been really looking into the part I played with my fear of abandonment. I was so needy and suffocating. I’m addressing that issue in therapy and starting to really understanding whymy ex wanted to leave. I would want to leave me too.
    Also instead of social pouting, if you need to get some stuff out, write. Journal it. Write whatever angry, sad thing you want and don’t ever share it with anyone. Except maybe your therapist if you want to 😂

    • @DarknessIsThePath
      @DarknessIsThePath 5 лет назад +43

      Finally an intelligent comment, I was dumped 6 days ago and in a way I understand why he broke it off because I became too pushy, HOWEVER, at the least half if not more of my pushyness was because he procrastinates everything, he promised me that he had this very important thing he has to do ready and was going to be done by the end of September last year.
      Nothing happened, that is why I started going off more pushy than normal which started to stress him more but he stressed me even more by this, then on xmas he calls me and was already about to give up cuz he felt his plan was still not going anywhere, if he had told me that a lot earlier then I would have stepped back with my pushyness and stress.
      So in my case, HE should re-earn me if he wants me back, I know my part in it but he is responsible for most of it and he even admitted that during the breakup, in essence he broke it off cuz he couldnt handle the mess he started.

    • @Outsider_aa
      @Outsider_aa 5 лет назад +32

      these are my thoughts exactly, I made mistakes that triggered her response, this is a call to make me grow

    • @allqueers
      @allqueers 5 лет назад +9

      Hads I relate to this, cause I know a lot of my past actions are the reason she broke up with me. I know I need to fix so many things about myself

    • @SexyWellness
      @SexyWellness 5 лет назад +15

      Such a nice comment - and great that you are seeking healing for your emotional issues. That way, maybe one day a healthy relationship with someone great will just fall into your lap. I also work with healing for people in relationships. Wish u all the best.

    • @wmrwmr8970
      @wmrwmr8970 5 лет назад +2

      👌

  • @jenjohnson1747
    @jenjohnson1747 4 года назад +61

    This is 100% effective...each time I have done this it has worked....and as Lee says, it is also for you...you get the time to think if this person is really worth your time

  • @show_me_your_kitties
    @show_me_your_kitties 5 лет назад +300

    I swear to god there are times that it looks like he's about to bust out laughing. I sense he's super sarcastic. Love you Coach Lee. Thank you for tricking me into forgetting about my ex!

  • @dasbose4962
    @dasbose4962 5 лет назад +76

    "Just do it, fake it till you make it" love it!

  • @PAppMundo
    @PAppMundo Год назад +20

    This is 100% facts! The issue is people think to themselves, if I go no contact this person will forget about me and move on. No contact actually does the opposite of this! It creates mystery and distance.
    If the other person actually does forget about you and moves on, then that person truly does not want you in their life and you must accept and respect this!

  • @jasminethaye1681
    @jasminethaye1681 5 лет назад +271

    You really help me out. My ex is chase me now. But during no contact I also realized that I did not want him back. Its hurt in the bigining messy in the middle but gorgeous at the end. Sorry for my English. Just wanan say thanks

  • @sda9995
    @sda9995 5 лет назад +227

    No contract one year today!!
    Good video!
    Edit
    I do not want my ex back i have my freedom!

  • @JMillerBayRidge
    @JMillerBayRidge 4 года назад +163

    I will be honest...without calling out other coaches...I just came across this channel today. Though the content of the words and advice might be consistent with what these other coaches are preaching, I like the fact that Coach Lee is not cocky..in fact..down to earth..realistic about the true emotions and difficulties in overcoming these situations.
    Great job!

    • @Flan90
      @Flan90 3 года назад

      Exactly!

  • @akachiakachi5445
    @akachiakachi5445 5 лет назад +123

    looooool "He called her the next day and asked if she'd had enough space" hahahha. Coach Lee's straight face when saying that as well.

  • @AlexanderBeenGreat
    @AlexanderBeenGreat 5 лет назад +259

    Thank you so much Lee. The longer I stay into no contact the easier it gets. I've built some good momentum and am on my 3rd week. I'm getting to the point to where I would rather watch movies and enjoy my day than to sit around thinking of someone who did not appreciate me . My exs birthday was a few days ago but I held my ground and stuck it out.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 лет назад +92

      Good job holding your ground. She’s not your girlfriend so she doesn’t deserve the privileges of that title. Stay strong.

    • @Rizu-kc3ze
      @Rizu-kc3ze 3 года назад

      @@RealCoachLee how do I respond if she only wishes me "Happy birthday, stay well" And rest of the year nothing... This is the second time she left btw..

    • @kahponeboneruthlessrecords356
      @kahponeboneruthlessrecords356 3 года назад

      @@Rizu-kc3ze that's what my Fiancee did she only text me happy birthday after weeks of no contact I do even know if we broken up she went silent after one major argument

    • @edwinasword8285
      @edwinasword8285 3 года назад +4

      Hey Alex mine was different the first time breakup. I told myself watch he is going to come back because his birthday is coming up. Lord behold he did come back for his present but he brought his girlfriend with him, which i found out later. The intentions of his heart slowly I have found out. Am smiling and enjoying my recovery right now plus my peace of mind which i am gathering from Coach lees videos.

    • @coralfrancis1766
      @coralfrancis1766 2 года назад +1

      Hey friends do you need on getting back your ex partner,broken relationship,get rid of third parties and attractive love for better and permanent,,,,

  • @carmenstefano7875
    @carmenstefano7875 4 года назад +64

    I’ve been listening to Coach Lee’s advice off and on for the past year. In all honesty, I initially blew off his advice, but I’ve come to realize he is spot on. Whether your ex comes back or not, his advice can only improve your life. I appreciate his genuine compassion and logical reasoning.

  • @Optimo69
    @Optimo69 5 лет назад +84

    a lot of these relationship videos teach how to manipulate them back to you but you actually give real usable advice

  • @azazel3944
    @azazel3944 5 лет назад +169

    Guys dont bother to text the dumper not worth at all or stalking or showing at their places etc.

    • @oddentertaining6234
      @oddentertaining6234 5 лет назад +9

      There's a difference between texting and stalking. In NC you wouldn't do that anyway. Only respond when they respond.

    • @justinowens2077
      @justinowens2077 5 лет назад +5

      Odd&Entertaining and even them is say you shouldn’t be looking for things to respond with. Let the convo end organically

  • @XtremeChiliPepper
    @XtremeChiliPepper 3 года назад +44

    Took me a while, but found this video again. Over a year ago, me as an adult, found this and this entire channel the help that I needed. Never before in my life has someone looked me straight in the eyes and talked to me like this. Tonight, I shared this with my 19yo son, who is now going through his first 'breakup'. Thank you, for everything you do and say that I cannot.

  • @my_dixie_rect8538
    @my_dixie_rect8538 5 лет назад +36

    I feel sad and lonely all the time since I was dumped; but every time I feel like crying, I watch your videos. Gets me through.

    • @mikeman5505
      @mikeman5505 5 лет назад +2

      Stay strong your not alone.

  • @micahmoffett1379
    @micahmoffett1379 5 лет назад +71

    Coach Lee is the true GOAT of breakup advice

  • @DamnGina02
    @DamnGina02 4 года назад +91

    Makes you look clingy, weird, pathetic and weak...😬😂 your bluntness is great! Way to combine humor and straight facts!👊🏼

  • @nelsonnolasco9390
    @nelsonnolasco9390 4 года назад +88

    2 weeks of No Contac! I know she misses me but she wants the one who broke up with me and i begged her for 2 months like a loser. I'm moving on even though i miss her so much!

    • @taolang603
      @taolang603 4 года назад +14

      Don't ever do beg for love again bro, you deserve better that that.

    • @BestPropertyDealz
      @BestPropertyDealz 3 года назад +11

      Welcome to my miserable world bro. I begged her for 3 months. The day I told her I was moving on, she began to apologize.
      I didn't take her seriously. She did so for 2 days; for a week now, she hasn't called again, neither have I.
      I just want to keep my sanity bro. I was running mad from the heartache.
      Still willing to take her back, but only if I see her work to get us back together. I was doing all the work of keeping us together for most of our relationship.
      Women cannot be trusted with love. Once they realise that you love the? Boom! They'll take it for granted and treat you like trash.

    • @sigmachad8878
      @sigmachad8878 3 года назад

      2 months damm !!!

  • @melwill9868
    @melwill9868 5 лет назад +207

    This has been extremely helpful. Breaking up really sucks😥

    • @sboonthae
      @sboonthae 5 лет назад +2

      Yeah its suck but now I'm getting stronger

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 5 лет назад +1

      Stay strong, Mel.

    • @bipinkohli1033
      @bipinkohli1033 4 года назад

      Never get to pass five days !!!

    • @supahotfire655
      @supahotfire655 4 года назад

      Especially you when you did everything right and still because of their own issues

    • @melwill9868
      @melwill9868 4 года назад +7

      @Andre Baldwin one year later I have completely healed spiritually, mentally, emotionally. He texted me in early June which is the anniversary of our first meeting we met which I had no clue of until I thought about it. I happened to be looking in my blocked messages and his text had been sitting there for six days(😅). He asked me how I was doing, stated his favorite aunt had asked about me, said he often though about me when he would drive by my job etc...my responses were polite and short. He even had the audacity to ask me if i could make him some tacos 🌮 oneday (his fav)...i ignored that part🙄 rather than tell him helllllll naaaaw😅😅😅. Ive stayed single within this year and truly done an overhaul, got in shape, got closer to God and right now continuing to do me😍. He truly doesn't realize what a favor he did me by dumping such an awesome and amazing woman who just needed t remind herself of such😉 I have never been so much at peace within myself. Whatever your situation is dont give up on yourself. God loves you and he is protecting you❤Thankyou for asking! Listen to Coach Lee. He guided me through my situation and was spot on with his advice!!!

  • @frostbyte9770
    @frostbyte9770 3 года назад +17

    2 weeks of no contact= 2 week of tears ever single day. Trying to stay strong. Hope she come back soon

    • @sarahbryce8800
      @sarahbryce8800 3 года назад

      Any luck?

    • @frostbyte9770
      @frostbyte9770 3 года назад +6

      @@sarahbryce8800 she got new boyfriend during the second week... and I accidentally saw them and she straight away call me and accuse me stalking them. Heart break to this moment... crying day and night

    • @IgiveSolutions
      @IgiveSolutions 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@frostbyte9770hey how is everything now?

  • @jeanethia751
    @jeanethia751 5 лет назад +127

    The pain he gave me brought me here. Thanks for this wonderful video!

    • @Zaina66
      @Zaina66 4 года назад +1

      Same here the pain she gave me brought me here. Thanks to this gentleman.

    • @shaniecegullison
      @shaniecegullison 4 года назад

      Same ♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @anio2346
      @anio2346 3 года назад

      Same here boo

    • @ivy3839
      @ivy3839 3 года назад

      Same

    • @kettymulauzi6124
      @kettymulauzi6124 3 года назад

      And am here today

  • @laurelgreen4469
    @laurelgreen4469 5 лет назад +72

    It's as though Coach Lee was talking directly at me.

  • @vicrollon3140
    @vicrollon3140 3 года назад +8

    Good luck to all who are in NO CONTACT... God bless your emotions. I wish you all good luck... ⚘

    • @vicrollon3140
      @vicrollon3140 3 года назад +1

      @@aliyumuhammad8176 ok. Bless you.

  • @mnothem1
    @mnothem1 5 лет назад +103

    THIS GUY IS TRULLY AMAZING. This is exactly what I needed. It works.

  • @roc8083
    @roc8083 4 года назад +71

    You have to disappear and do not reach out when they break up with you. Truth is, alot of times we displayed weak behavior that pushed them away. You have to go away for atleast 2 -3 months to repair yourself and time for them to forget the mistakes you made. Usually it's not until they've dated someone else before they come back to check on you. But honestly, if she isn't ready to shovel shit to get back with me, then i aint Going back bc i dont want my heart broken again. Get strong and move on to a better woman

    • @waitwhat6882
      @waitwhat6882 3 года назад

      Exactly!!!

    • @nedfara9428
      @nedfara9428 2 года назад

      Kudos

    • @politicalpulse45
      @politicalpulse45 4 месяца назад

      There’s almost always somebody else. People rarely break up without somebody else ready to go.

  • @AlexanderBeenGreat
    @AlexanderBeenGreat 4 года назад +80

    I broke up with my ex because she was disrespecting me. I was tired of it

  • @badboymedz
    @badboymedz 5 лет назад +15

    i learned this when i was young .......you need to disapear and not chase ......let them start thinking about what youre doing , where you are and who you might be with

  • @ahepping
    @ahepping 5 лет назад +63

    It was a bit of an epiphany to realise the fact that the pain is about a sense of loss rather than the loss of love. That actually helps a lot. Thank you. Fascinating and helpful, and it makes a lot of sense.
    I will be able to deal with my situation with way less emotional pain or involvement working it out from this wY of thinking. So helpful!

    • @jonsmith8083
      @jonsmith8083 5 лет назад +1

      Anne H the hurt is from being abandoned, rejected .Not in losing the person

    • @jmb4975
      @jmb4975 2 года назад +1

      Yesss my friend always asks, why are you so stuck on me him?! It wasn't him, it was me not wanting to lose something

  • @gelc9041
    @gelc9041 3 года назад +7

    No contact is an ONLY WIN SITUATION because you will learn to be strong and that will bring you much internal power . Winning your ex back is just a bonus. It is hard to lose your ex sure but it is devastating TO LOSE YOURSELF that is the worst

    • @gelc9041
      @gelc9041 3 года назад

      Why am i getting these weird spam messages?

  • @alegnarolyart5133
    @alegnarolyart5133 4 года назад +25

    If you walked away due to the man seeing several women, you can go into "no contact " mode to avoid being with someone who has obviously decided that you're not a woman he values. Let those other women have the luxury of sharing him while you move on and give yourself permission to accept better. Sometimes, it's not worth it to contact an ex after the no contact period is over. He's probably not going to change anyway. He just likes knowing you like him. Let him go!

  • @besimam4759
    @besimam4759 5 лет назад +25

    What an OUTSTANDING video. I had just gotten out of a breakup that I thought I wouldn’t be able to get over, but this video helped me so much. There’s something about his voice that’s so soothing and makes it seem like everything will get better. I absolutely love this channel. Thank you so much!

  • @michaelvargas82
    @michaelvargas82 3 года назад +7

    Best advice. Give them the gift of your absence and respect their decision. Back out of their life and go No Contact. Work on bettering yourself and stay No Contact.

  • @theseattlegreen1871
    @theseattlegreen1871 4 года назад +34

    My girl left me and I'm glad...
    She was a basket-case🤯

    • @dz.coleman8408
      @dz.coleman8408 4 года назад +5

      That's how a alpha feels after betrayal. Hoorahh whoop whoop lol

  • @RedPillAware
    @RedPillAware 5 лет назад +62

    Your message is so powerful in these videos about breakups that now I respect myself so much that I don’t even want to get back with my ex. Now that you have taught and teach me how to have respect for myself I want to spend all my energy on my next relationship and start a new life. By the way the formats of your videos and the way you look directly into my eyes it’s so effective that it feels like you are a loving and caring brother I never had. Thank you so much. God bless you.

  • @manahilsiddiqui4006
    @manahilsiddiqui4006 3 года назад +9

    Thank you so much for this. 16 days in and today I had the worst impulse to contact him. I also realized that I was doing no contact to mainly give him space so he would come back. But now, I'm going to continue no contact with the intention of focusing on my self, loving myself and not expecting anything from him. Whatever is the best for me will come to me. I'm manifesting everything good for me to come to me.

  • @simplicitytrading245
    @simplicitytrading245 4 года назад +141

    Im currently in day 3 of no contact, its been the hardest 3 days of my life and have never felt so sad and guilty for my mistakes in a relationship (i never cheated but had problem with drinking too much) ive completely cut that stuff out of my life and am working on myself to improve who i am. every morning i run and listen to your videos to set me up for the day. I dont know if she will reach out or not but i trust in what youre saying, i really hope she will! thanks Coach Lee!

    • @stealthassulter
      @stealthassulter 4 года назад +21

      I'm on no contact for almost 3 weeks. Welcome to boot camp.

    • @lovingme6896
      @lovingme6896 4 года назад +4

      Me too i drank too much and he saw it as an issue. He warned me many times to stop or he will leave me and i didnt listen. Not only that but other stuff too. I really messed up guys! He told me and i didnt listen or respect him enougj and it wasnt until he left i realized i need to make new changes in my life. I lost the love of my life. Im on day 1. We were only togethr for a month and knew eachother a total of 3 months. We had many good times inbetween tho. He said he was inlove with me but i kno he lost attraction he told me when i drink he thinks im disgusting and how i act. Any update ?

    • @stealthassulter
      @stealthassulter 4 года назад +2

      @@lovingme6896 my person of interest fucked some guy .. had one night stand.
      So I don't even know what I want anymore.
      She text me yesterday. I don't know why even seeing her text pains me . To a pt that is unbelievable. And I'm the one who initiated the no contact.
      I sent a dull short response ... 3 word .. even that took Soo much energy for me to type.
      What she did makes me want to drink and do drugs to somehow not feel or think about it. Which I don't even like doing.
      she always get close. Then then fucks me over. I just don't know what's worse. Or Why does it make my blood boil when her fucks someone. I wish I can become immune. I just can't live a normal life because of her .. I can't stand it when she becomes a slut. Nothing worse than loving a whore type girl.

    • @NintendoFan8877
      @NintendoFan8877 4 года назад +1

      Ryan Topp HOW DID IT GO!

    • @simplicitytrading245
      @simplicitytrading245 4 года назад +33

      @@NintendoFan8877 were back together! Happier than ever!

  • @hunteradams9662
    @hunteradams9662 4 года назад +91

    9th day... this is so tough.. hardest thing I’ve had to do in my life. I love her. She was my everything and I blew it because I was too clingy and had mood swings. I got my bipolar disorder diagnosed from a doctor shortly after the breakup and received medication and wish she knew that I’m trying to fix myself.

    • @Modi_
      @Modi_ 4 года назад

      Any updates?

    • @hunteradams9662
      @hunteradams9662 4 года назад +10

      Modi she actually just texted me today. Asked me how I was doing. I haven’t replied and don’t think I will.

    • @mickeyts5626
      @mickeyts5626 3 года назад +1

      stay strong, quit rationalizing and blaming yourself

    • @Prince-vv8wk
      @Prince-vv8wk 2 года назад

      Same man your litterly me from the Tee I got diagnosed as well.But I hope everything went well and if you could respond to let me know what happend it would be greatly appreciated

    • @hunteradams9662
      @hunteradams9662 2 года назад +8

      @@Prince-vv8wk I haven't spoken to her in over a year. I had blocked her on everything for some time then unblocked and nothing since. I have moved on with another relationship.

  • @pinayakoluera
    @pinayakoluera 3 года назад +5

    Sign of maturity, self discipline, respect for the other person, stay strong... LOVE IT!!!

  • @MsGG623
    @MsGG623 5 лет назад +52

    I was feeling down about my break up, watched this video and literally LOLed thanks coach Lee. Great advice too.

  • @moonhendrix7681
    @moonhendrix7681 4 года назад +23

    Block their phone #
    Delete their contact info.
    Learn to not expect a contact. It creates anxieties while taking away your strength to move on.
    Thanks Coach Lee 💪

  • @AminataD26
    @AminataD26 3 года назад +5

    I have called, text, cry involve family members n even drove to his house still d same. . I’m starting my no contact tomorrow Dear lord please help me 💔🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🗣

  • @oddentertaining6234
    @oddentertaining6234 5 лет назад +146

    Coach Lee, can you post a video about success stories? This would really help people who need inspiration.

    • @jordanlongley3776
      @jordanlongley3776 5 лет назад +1

      Odd&Entertaining facts

    • @ygsbyme
      @ygsbyme 4 года назад +1

      Yes yes please coach..

    • @cynthiarankin5499
      @cynthiarankin5499 3 года назад +2

      I went NC and 14 days later he called. He sounded distraught. But... he disrespected me on the phone so I am once again in NC. We’ll see!

  • @drexelking8792
    @drexelking8792 4 года назад +31

    CHRIST I should have had this advice when I needed it most. I know without a doubt I would have gotten her back had I had access to this information. I did everything wrong and made an utter spectical of myself (damn shame).Truly effective information. Thanks for sharing.

    • @saulw6270
      @saulw6270 3 года назад +1

      Yea bro important life lessons

  • @elfin1277
    @elfin1277 4 года назад +24

    “You want to be yourself!” ------- So powerful and so true!

  • @kenwilson4477
    @kenwilson4477 5 лет назад +19

    BUT don't drop everything the moment she calls you at some point during no contact. If you legitimately have plans, keep them and schedule a time when you're free to reconnect after that call from her. Most importantly, review why you broke up in the first place. Sometimes walking away and staying away is the best solution, regardless.

  • @leisonsaintil1013
    @leisonsaintil1013 5 лет назад +80

    First in foremost the “no contact rule” works, surprisingly in my situation it works twice! This the second time I use it on the same person but I’m at a point I realize I deserve better sadly and plus she’s in a rebound relationship and still reaching out too me like crazy asking mad questions about our relationship but how long does it start working? As soon as you stop reaching out! Yea I know crazy but as soon as you stop reaching out is when it works. If you were in a long term relationship 3 to 6 years, just know your in luck unless you was shitty as person than your out of luck but if you was in a long term, it will start working as soon as possible, so stick to no contact and don’t try to break it and if you do, redo it again cause I know it’s hard

    • @StephenLeemasterslave
      @StephenLeemasterslave 5 лет назад

      leison saintil haha why am I in luck..!?

    • @oddentertaining6234
      @oddentertaining6234 5 лет назад +1

      How long was it for you? 2 days? 2 weeks? 2 months? It was 7 years for our relationship.

    • @leisonsaintil1013
      @leisonsaintil1013 5 лет назад +3

      Odd&Entertaining mines was like 1 month and 2 weeks when I finally did not contact her cause I kept messing up before but I realized the only reason why she ain’t call me before cause someone else had her attention

    • @swamidude2214
      @swamidude2214 5 лет назад +4

      7 year relationship, I did no contact for a week, gave her a talk + letter after 8 days when picking up my stuff. Then went into no contact again for 5 days, had some casual texts, didnt mess anything up really. Then I did no contact for 4 more days and did a fucked up desperate call... fuck myself, I was actually playing it pretty cool up to that point.
      So guess Im now definitly implementing no contact. Hope I didnt fuck up to much. Its just that I dont know, I thought 2.5 weeks was long enough...
      She does respond normally to everything btw, she isnt really pushing me away or rude or anything. But thats just her being nice. She actually told me she felt releived and thinks she did the right thing. Nothing to save here anymore but to do no contact and move on, even though it hurts

    • @leisonsaintil1013
      @leisonsaintil1013 5 лет назад +2

      _ BUDDHA _ yea most definitely, the table turn and she will start begging and wanting to talk

  • @GabriellaTafoya
    @GabriellaTafoya 10 месяцев назад +5

    I don’t want my ex back
    He was not the person he portrayed himself to be when I first met him 😢
    I just trying to run as far away from him and never look back

  • @carolrucker4563
    @carolrucker4563 5 лет назад +11

    I am so grateful I found you. In times past I have listened to other coaches and it was always about sending certain texts or certain words that should be spoken...I never tried any of those approaches because I saw it as a form of manipulation. My 2 year relationship just ended 4 days ago. It has been so hard but I have called friends or family members every time I wanted to call him. Friends and family are great to have at times like this. It makes the "no contact" much easier. Now when I cannot sleep at night, I have you at the click of a mouse to bring me reassurance I am on the right path for me. It will be interesting to see what the future holds. Thank you for your time and energy that you spend to help all the hurting hearts out here. You are remarkable!!

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 лет назад +6

      Thank you for your kind words. I wish you the very best Carol!

    • @tyetr9853
      @tyetr9853 Год назад

      Update us Carol

  • @sharamrock2580
    @sharamrock2580 5 лет назад +13

    To me, not only coach Lee seems to be a genius, but he has the most unique intense humor with a glance of non offensive sarcasm that he uses to make everyone understand the deep meanings of his teachings.
    You really believe are also a good friend to have around.
    Miss my girl and you help me be optimistic.
    Respects.

    • @dakotakerr6467
      @dakotakerr6467 3 года назад

      How’d it go?

    • @sharamrock2580
      @sharamrock2580 3 года назад +1

      @@dakotakerr6467 we got back together and we were ok. We’re still ok but our specific issue is that we have haters who try everything they can to hurt our relationship, AND SHE IS NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON TO TELL THEM: He’s my man! If you don’t like seeing us together, then SHUT THE F UP

  • @ironclad452
    @ironclad452 2 года назад +7

    I think the #1 mistake people make in this type of situation (I'm in it right now myself) is they go no contact IN ORDER TO get their ex back. I'm struggling with that motive myself. But the main purpose of me going no contact is to get back to the me I was before knowing her. That guy was happy and on his path. And as a bonus, he's the guy she was originally attracted to anyway, so IF IF IF no contact has an effect on her, and she comes back to the same person who's in the same place she left him, she won't feel that attraction. She'll just be reminded of why she left. So do this for YOU, my friend. Not to manipulate someone into doing something for you. As you improve yourself and "level up", you'll find you no longer NEED her. And truthfully, don't we all want to be in a place where we don't NEED externals for our happiness? That's where I want to be.
    Wish me luck. This is day 4 of no contact. She's texted me every day since... we didn't have a negative breakup. She just realized she's not emotionally available. So I'm giving her that space. But it's killing me... it really is. I miss her a lot 💔

  • @buntingsmith
    @buntingsmith 4 года назад +31

    I’m on day 2 of no contact right now, I listen to a playlist of these encouragement videos to keep my mind occupied when I’m struggling to feel strong. I made progress today, when I saw a new story had popped up on my exes Instagram profile, instead of opening it so that they could see I viewed it if I chose to, I muted it, that temptation won’t be there again. It’s hard, but I already feel stronger. Thank you for your videos xxx

    • @paladintactical8250
      @paladintactical8250 4 года назад +1

      good work, keep it up!

    • @buntingsmith
      @buntingsmith 4 года назад +11

      It’s now been 7 days and I’ve also found not drinking alcohol has made it a lot easier to control being strong.

    • @Zaina66
      @Zaina66 4 года назад +6

      I'm on day 3 and this person really motivated me on No contact and makes me feel better and strong. Many Thanks young man. Funniest part I told my mother in law that I'm gonna be starting No contact 😂

    • @dakotakerr6467
      @dakotakerr6467 3 года назад

      Update?

    • @buntingsmith
      @buntingsmith 3 года назад +5

      @@dakotakerr6467 I no longer think about my ex, by the time I realised that he hasn’t reach out 1 and a half years later, I realised that it would be awkward if he did. My life is great. I recommend after a while to stop watch relationship advice videos, they help at the start, but in time they only can tell you what you already know

  • @starstell3019
    @starstell3019 5 лет назад +130

    So the tables have turned following no contact for 3 weeks....he’s reached out

    • @thejedi5079
      @thejedi5079 4 года назад +2

      Did you get him back ??.
      I hope you did and that you are happy....

    • @alisafeerhyder1994
      @alisafeerhyder1994 4 года назад +7

      @@thejedi5079 you commented this on the day of my breakup
      So sad

    • @thejedi5079
      @thejedi5079 4 года назад +11

      @@alisafeerhyder1994
      Hi my friend and fellow brother..
      I did no contact and she was back in my arms last night..
      I am so happy but I think she is still on the fence!!..
      We was supposed to be going out tonight to the movies and then a meal for Valentine's day but she was tired after sitting up talking all night last night till 7am this morning....
      But she asked if we can do it tomorrow night so let's see if it happens?
      I hope it does....
      When I was with her last night we was in a shop and I told her how much I missed her and she put her arms around me and held onto me like she never has before...
      Coach Lee is right on everything he says..
      Like she did miss me when we was apart once I started no contact...
      She was telling me she was out shopping with her mum in a shop we shop in and it felt so lonely to her and she got upset when she was in this shop cause of memories of me acting silly when I was with her....
      So listen to coach Lee and get his emergency break up kit as he has really helped me...
      And I just want to thank you coach Lee for giving me strength to get through the last month...
      God bless yo you all who are in this position but it will get better...

    • @alisafeerhyder1994
      @alisafeerhyder1994 4 года назад +5

      @@thejedi5079 that's so good for you
      I've started my no contact fingers crossed

    • @rachealkiconco6955
      @rachealkiconco6955 4 года назад

      Day 2 of no contact guys, will update you guys

  • @flower_7890
    @flower_7890 4 года назад +27

    I've done 3 weeks of NC so far...still very uncomfortable, some days I feel extremely anxious...but I'll never reach out first that's for sure! Thank you coach, your videos calm me down 🤗

    • @erickmarroquin123
      @erickmarroquin123 3 года назад

      Did they reach out?

    • @flower_7890
      @flower_7890 3 года назад +1

      We work together and yeah this person is always first to start the conversation and ask questions....I wait for something significant though, not just " how are you" etc...

    • @nedfara9428
      @nedfara9428 2 года назад

      @@flower_7890 how are you kinda thing is annoying

    • @randommf3549
      @randommf3549 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@flower_7890update

  • @Ayaa888
    @Ayaa888 4 года назад +46

    What a beginning to the year.
    Day 1 realised what I want to do for a living. My passion is back.
    Day 2 realised that my relationship is a dead end. Breakup.
    Day 3 my heart is in pieces. I’ve decided to walk away and now I regret it.
    Found your videos and feeling now so much better 😇🙏🏻❤️

    • @merciakruger5271
      @merciakruger5271 2 года назад

      If your ex break up with you for another women but he dont want you to b cross and want still b friends with you

    • @Ayaa888
      @Ayaa888 2 года назад

      @@merciakruger5271 and what do you want? Has anyone asked you that?

  • @Starmatthewuk
    @Starmatthewuk Год назад +6

    The only mistake I made was being too nice. But I am a nice person, generous, caring and will always help my partner no matter what. I am not prepared to change. If all they have on me is "Being too nice" I can live with that :)

  • @sabrinacz
    @sabrinacz Год назад +2

    I am an attractive person. I can get someone that’s better for me.

  • @aduron9422
    @aduron9422 5 лет назад +64

    This break up has been difficult ): thank you for your words.. it’s been therapeutic and helpful.

    • @prettyrican34
      @prettyrican34 4 года назад

      Alisa Kristen Duron hows it going. He left 3 weeks ago. Devastated

    • @aduron9422
      @aduron9422 4 года назад +2

      Nakia Hill Hi (: We’re back together better than ever. From this past breakup, I learned that distancing yourself is what will save your relationship. It’s the most simplest things you can do, such as cutting out contact, that can make drastic changes. You are stronger than you truly know Nakia. Much love from my way to yours.

    • @linmutum6986
      @linmutum6986 4 года назад +2

      I'm starting no contact from now🙏 bless me lord

  • @justStardust940
    @justStardust940 4 года назад +23

    all the other coachs market no contact as some manipulation tactic that will "always work" but you explain it is also the respectful and mature thing to do. You also explain that it works if the breakup and relationship were not too bad, which gives us context to why it works and when it works . A+ coach

  • @ASPAseethrough
    @ASPAseethrough 10 месяцев назад +1

    This goes for all the videos I have watched from you coach Lee and I have to THANK YOU for your wisdom. So much so that after doing your videos, therapy, talks with friends etc etc I came to realise it is time for me to check-out…this is not a “I got my ex back” story but rather a story of me realizing my value and under no circumstances will I be stuck in gloom and doom anymore. I am moving forward and forward means without my ex, even if she shows at my door it’s a no from me. Before someone judges my decision the background of the story is filled with belittling, abuse, gaslighting, not being good enough (ever) and more…
    I am done but will for sure take the wisdom from your channel with me. I hope for all of you that you find your path, be patient and take care of yourself whatever that means for you but don’t forget to:
    -sleep
    -meditate
    -sports
    -eat healthy
    -do NOT drink or abuse anything
    -hangout with friends
    -go out
    - don’t get laid just for the sake of it you’ll regret it the moment you wake up the next day
    -walk walk walk walk…moving forward physically while being stuck in your head has therapeutic results (I have walked over 100km last week)

  • @theyorkshireguy829
    @theyorkshireguy829 5 лет назад +13

    Absolutely brilliant information on all your video's. I'm now focused a lot better after my wife ended our 38 year marriage. Thanks.

  • @Lavida-melody
    @Lavida-melody 4 года назад +8

    I just got dumped today. It was pretty much mutual. He thought he had feelings for his ex. And he was advised that he’s better off single. Which, I am too. I rather be single than be insecure in a relationship. I’m going to stay firm on this. We had a GREAT relationship, almost perfect. Maybe we’ll be in each other’s lives again. Until then, NO CONTACT. also, I’m gonna take some boudoir pics in a couple of months. I think all women should try this. It’s a huge confidence booster.

  • @Flan90
    @Flan90 3 года назад +4

    This guy deserves a much greater recognition.

  • @eeke7438
    @eeke7438 5 лет назад +14

    Felt like shit until i watched this video, i am 100 times better now.

  • @spykeebrar6973
    @spykeebrar6973 5 лет назад +9

    Iam in great pain coach... I love the way you teach.... But it's very difficult to live without her.... Respect from India.... You are awesome teacher... God bless you sir..

    • @Abc-zb3ld
      @Abc-zb3ld 5 лет назад +1

      Rh skta bhai.. Kuch ni hota

  • @NomadNurseZ
    @NomadNurseZ 4 года назад +7

    I made one of these mistakes. After 7 days of NC I reached out for something I thought was ok (half of wedding costs since ex fiancé broke off engagement). I thought this would be ok BUT IT WASN’T! His response was anger and told me I kept inserting myself into his life and turning anything he had for me into hate! Y’all don’t try to convince yourself that your reason for contacting them is ok- cause it’s probably not! You can wait most likely. Think about it. So now I’m back into NC day 11, and at this point it’s easier than that first week. The first week is the hardest. I’ve been marking Day - in my phone on the calendar to help me see my progress. Seeing it makes me not want to ruin all the progress I’ve made too. Other things that have helped- giving my phone to someone else for a period of time if I’m feeling like I may contact my ex. And of course, pulling up these videos and listening to Coach Lee’s voice of reason. Reading comments on the videos also helps to see that this process works for people. So let’s keep our eyes on the goal! Good luck everyone - stay strong 💜

    • @Veronica-rf6lv
      @Veronica-rf6lv 3 года назад

      What happened? Any updates?

    • @NomadNurseZ
      @NomadNurseZ 3 года назад +4

      @@Veronica-rf6lv wow this was a year ago! He eventually reached out around month 2/3. He wanted me back. I had questions and was unsure but not turning him down. One of the issues for why we broke up was brought up. We still disagreed. Maybe not the best time to bring it up. He ended up engaged to another girl 11 months after we broke up and 5 months after saying he wanted me back 🤣 good riddance

    • @ivy3839
      @ivy3839 3 года назад

      @@NomadNurseZ oh he is so messed up good he did not marry you , he is trouble .

    • @NomadNurseZ
      @NomadNurseZ 3 года назад

      @Blythe Girl he tried to after 2-3 months. We couldn’t see eye to eye. I’m with someone new and happy. Realized my ex was toxic. He got engaged to someone else under a year. Seems sketchy. Wish him the best 👋🏻

  • @mrthug101
    @mrthug101 5 лет назад +25

    coach lee is a legend. respect man

  • @Dandre3172
    @Dandre3172 4 года назад +10

    This is probably one of the best of HUNDREDS of these videos I've seen. Thank you! I am going through this right now

  • @MultiRonnn
    @MultiRonnn Год назад +2

    I don't know is it work or not, but give me a hope there is any mutual future.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад

      MultiRonnn, WHERE THERE'S LIFE THERE'S HOPE!
      I never used to believe that until I saw soo many great things happen to me and around me.
      You can get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. It's a POWERFUL Kit that has strategies for every situation including yours.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk

    • @xcoachkim
      @xcoachkim Год назад

      I totally understand how tough it is, and trust me, I've been there myself. I wanted to let you know about Coach Lee's live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's seriously amazing and I can't stress enough how valuable it is. The focus is on saving a relationship from a breakup or separation and then keeping it strong afterwards. The workshop includes a coaching call every month for 6 months. You can reach out to Coach Lee's team, specifically Johnny, to set up an appointment and discuss it further at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I believe it's an eye-opening and incredibly helpful experience that you won't want to miss out on.

  • @SPsychoX038
    @SPsychoX038 Год назад +8

    I needed this, after my 5 year relationship. They moved on and I haven’t but with the help of this guy. I feel like I’m seeing through the fog easier

  • @jenalastephenson5755
    @jenalastephenson5755 3 года назад +3

    Thank you coach Lee.
    I was dumped on suspension on cheating because some girl that knows my ex went and told him I was trying to steal her man's friend because he was talking to me alot at the party. Though her and her BFF were there too and we were all having a good chat at the party. Her BFF at the time was an ex trying to get him back and he wasn't paying her any attention. Long story short, he broke up with me cause he believed that story. It was actually a respectful break up with so much love and sadness for both. You are very right when you say they didn't just wake up and decided to end the relationship. He was dealing with this for 3 months and I noticed hot and cold from him since that incidence. He only told me he wanted a break up over the phone while I was away on a girls trip. I asked him why he was being cold and if he didn't want to be with me anymore and he said it's best we should be friends, I know you're seeing other people. My heart shuttered. We had a face to face 2 weeks after cause he was out of town and he were in each other's arms as I explained the incident and he had already made up his mind, but he said I should give him space to think it over. We said our love yous, we ate, he kissed me and went home. He texted the next morning as usual and we had light chats the whole week. My friend decided to go talk to him on my behalf and he unloaded on her what he was feeling and what he wasn't happy with me and how I carried myself in the relationship. I was in the trunk of her car during this conversation but when I sent him a voice note afterwards, I told him I heard the conversation because I put a recorder in my friends car. He was so angry and said I invaded his privacy as his a Dr and that's a big deal. He said he was considering working things out and now he won't and it's over and doesn't even want a friendship. His colleague and friend advised me to tell him the truth about being in the trunk other than saying I recorded him. I sent a clean slate text, apologized and gave him his space. It's been 4 weeks and nothing from him and I'm in no contact. Hardest thing ever

  • @heidiarmstrong5464
    @heidiarmstrong5464 3 года назад +2

    This is really helpful. Benefits of doing no contact is not only to MAYBE get your ex back. But to make yourself a strong person. When you are strong and secure in life, that is very attractive to other people. Thank you for all the videos, and The Emergency Break-up Kit. They are great!

  • @pinkyangel02
    @pinkyangel02 3 года назад +4

    Coach, I really love your videos! NC is really helping my get myself back. Day 9 of NC. I pleaded for like 5 days after the breakup before going NC. Now, I’m realizing all of my issues and I’m working on them. He broke up with me cause he got tired of me and my emotions but he told me he still loves me but he’s just tired. He told me he’s never coming back. Since I know we still have feelings for each other, I asked him to block me (REAL immature I know) during our last talk because I told him that I might’ve breakdowns (i have anxiety) which can lead me to messaging him and I told him I didn’t want him to suffer cause of my breakdowns. Right now, I am not really thinking if he will come back cause it seems impossible tbh but I am really loving how I’m discovering myself so much right now!
    To all people, we can survive this breakup! We’re a heartbreak closer to our happy endings 😂 Thanks Coach! Everyday is not easy but slow progress is still progress

    • @davidmowbray7885
      @davidmowbray7885 2 года назад

      How did you get on?been 3days for my girlfriend breaking up with me she said she loves me too but it’s just to much I’ve cried and showed to much that I am useless without her need to get the last of my stuff and that will be the last visit am so scared she hugs me and is being civil but when I do get my stuff my only options is try the no contact any advice I would be thankful.

    • @iselarichards
      @iselarichards Год назад

      He just broke up with me yesterday bc of the same issue. I've really cried and pleaded but he doesn't even pick my calls or reply to my messages. I don't know how I'll cope but I think it's time I try NC. My fears are that he might not come back. But I'm hopeful he does and I'm praying even if he doesn't come back that I'll be able to heal and move on.

  • @Jeremy_alfa
    @Jeremy_alfa 5 лет назад +23

    It's really weird, I was doing really good on working on myself and staying no contact. Then this past week I became really sick and kind of delirious, IDK why but it clicked in my mind the times she took care of me and I messaged her. I looked at the messages I sent and JESUS, I just messed up all that progress I made for myself. So pretty much starting over and absorbing all your videos again coach, thanks!

    • @IrishCassidy
      @IrishCassidy 4 года назад +6

      Your human, and were not feeling well. its ok.

  • @misslucky93
    @misslucky93 4 месяца назад

    He called me twice. I didn't hear it because it was on mute.
    I will continue no contact.
    I feel, this is the best way to do.
    Gain my power back.

  • @raindroplove4270
    @raindroplove4270 5 лет назад +32

    Coach Lee, you are truly awesome and such a blessing to the heart broken! You are helping many of us, obviously many from the many comments, get through one of the toughest parts of our lives. I will refer anyone I come across that is going through this kind of pain to your videos and links. Thank you so much for your service in helping us. Please know that you are appreciated so much.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 лет назад +3

      Thank you very much for your kind words. I’m sorry that you are going through this and hope that your ex comes back. Always take it one day at a time. Follow me on Instagram @RealCoachLee

  • @MrDeano8888
    @MrDeano8888 5 лет назад +12

    18:48 he is so right. We all to often confuse loss and love. I was doing this myself

  • @MsMalae
    @MsMalae 10 месяцев назад +2

    Thank God for the coach. Going through it now but im learning that the wrong person will lev u in pieces but the right one will bring you peace!