How To Date Someone Out Of Your League
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When it comes to dating, most people don’t have as many options as they’d like.
Or the options you do have feel like settling, and you have this nagging feeling that you want to do better.
Then you see some people who consistently date out of their league. How do they do it?
In this video, we’ll breakdown the start to several unlikely celebrity couples, and use them to show you seven tips to help you date out of your league.
Later in the video, we’ll explain why “leagues” are problematic. But for now, assume “out of your league,” refers to anyone you believe is above you in attractiveness, wealth, fame, or social status.
We’ll be focusing on men interacting with women since that’s my own personal experience, but similar principles will apply no matter who you like.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro
1:36 - #1: Have access to the person
2:58 - #2: You have to stand out
3:47 - #3: Playfully tease
6:50 - #4: Prioritize being honest
8:01 - #5: Have other good things in your life
11:50 - #6: Minimize your nervousness
13:19 - #7: Dating "out of your league" is a bad goal
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LMAO the fact that Pete Davidson has become the universal sign of dating out of your league is my favorite thing that's ever happened in pop culture.
Girls like his looks. So he’s not a good example
@@grantelbart477 girls like his looks, now. I clearly remember when Ariana Grandes entire female audience was confused as to why she dated him lol. He definitely wasn’t seen as universally attractive at the time, but now that he has that reputation all of a sudden I’m seeing women develop crushes for him, and I personally find it hilarious
Pete is way out of that girl's league. A genuine, honest, flawed but working on it, humble individual who happens to be hilarious and vulnerable. Win in my books.
@Egusi Soup He's a rake. His reputation now just makes him even more desirable. Plus he's already good looking, funny, and charming.
Hes always been hot@ any guy funny is awesomely attractive
As it’s been said elsewhere. “If you treat her like a celebrity, she’ll treat you like a fan.”
Wow 😳
No cap
Someone here is following hoodville
It is what it is
@@jovannovakovic1279 or coach Corey Wane
“If you’re ugly make her laugh. Her eyes will be closed more”
Lol
😂
i love this loool
Loll
That is funny, but sadly, might be true!!!
You need to level the playing field by raising your value internally. You do that by changing your self beliefs. What you tell yourself determines the way to act, speak, walk, behave. You could be good looking and strong and act weak because you believe you are not good enough.
I.e. first actually become attractive and THEN display it with social cues. Working backwards will only lead to heartbreak and feeling gaslit.
I learnt that this year…
@@RubiscoTalks You on the right path 💪🏻
Thanks mate. I'll remember this
been trying to build my self worth/work on my internal image.
"If you put someone on a pedestal they have no choice but to look down on you"
forgot who said that
Wow wise words
Seth Rogen can be wise whenever he's not quite himself if you know what I mean.
If you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan. (Rollo Tomassi)
Cool sentence. Has sense. But isn't that what love really means? What people mean when they say show me you love me don't tell me. Putting someone on a pedestal is the act of being able of sacrifice yourself for another, you desires or time and such. Not all of course but at least some of that. Otherwise you are distant, uninvolved, you don't care and so on. And that has sense too.
@@somnorila9913 no, she has to put in effort too
Step 1. Stop thinking ANYONES out of your league strictly based on their appearance.
Game, social status and money are a crutch for bad genes. I can act more or less however i please because I'm 6'8" tall with a chad jaw. If you're not a hot guy, there's always money, social status and game if you desperate enough to be a con.
Exactly, there are lots of things that make someone attractive: looks, smarts, heart, drive and a special knowledge of experience that only comes from having a hard life. A man can bring nothing to the table except for a good heart and that can still make him even more attractive than good looks may to some people
That's a good one tbh !
@@lafe6183 No. That's the exact opposite of true. Women like hot guys. Wealth and social status is a crutch for bad genes and game is for conning women to your bed for the night. Women do not care about our emotions or how we feel. The nature of your heart matters even less to them. They will almost always pick the hot guy given choices. Welcome to real life.
@@mordredstein9553 I'm a chick and trust me, looks aren't everything. As long as a guy is close to healthy looking and actually showers, having a great personality makes anyone attractive if that's what's important to the person
If you believe that someone is out of your league, then you're right. Looks, wealth and status can only take someone so far. Confidence, kindness toward others, and a lifestyle that you enjoy go much further in the long run.
Truth. I had so much anxiety about talking to women until I started working on myself, and eventually not giving a crap anymore due to getting some rejections. Getting the rejections was a positive thing. I started to look at potentials as friends instead of dates. I began to engage them in genuine conversation instead of trying to impress. I started to feel more confident. Amazing how far the act of genuine human connection goes when you can just be yourself and connect with others who vibe with your energy.
Keep coping with that vibe bull jive.
LOL looks, wealth, and status is 99% in relationships. Women like confident and kind.....if their rich. Otherwise its friend zone and if she's in the mood a booty call. Go read some evolutionary psychology.
People can be out their leagues in different areas. Someone may be out of someone’s league on looks but not on personality. Or money buy not on looks.
@@OMAR-vq3yb get your nose off of those "human psychology" books -not that I believe you read books, you probably read some redpill articles and think that's human psychology LOL- and go socialise. How do you think Pete got Kim? Because the guy is lovely enough to entertain millions of English speakers on stage and on camera. The other dude Kanye was also a rapper, same base different flavor, both of them are good with words, heck they even have the same psychological disorder (both Kanye and Pete are bipolar) so Kim has a type. The ability to communicate and sway your partner -doesn't matter if you do it with your eyes or with your words or with your touch since everyone has their own type- is %90 of the relationship not looks or status. Grow up and actually work on yourself. Also a tip: stop putting women on a pedestal as if they are some shiny object. They are human just like you, they eat, they poop, they like fun and dislike being belittled or hurt. Try to get to know them like how you got to know your bros just be a normal human ffs
As a woman, it's actually not a compliment to be put on a pedestal. Mens lust often drives them to do very dehumanizing things because they want the validation and goal of getting the attractive woman forgetting that she's human with her own flaws, traumas, fears, agency, autonomy etc
Being the target of this feels very lonely.
I'm not saying that's what the video stated but it could easily go in that objectifying direction if not mindful.
Just treat her like she's normal
Wasn’t this quite literally one of the points of the video? Not to treat the person your attracted to like your a fan but rather treat them like a equal? He then said it’s generally not a smart idea to specifically shoot for someone out of your league because it means your often insecure and looking for outside validation. He said to be honest instead of lying to appease them. And he said to have other things going on in your life so you don’t end up viewing them as the center of your universe…
…Feels like this video was very much anti “put on a pedestal” from my pov
Well stated, a very useful affirmation 👌
Thanks for your input, appreciated.
Because the person they have on the pedestal isn't really you; it's a fictional character they've created within their own imagination.
Wstfu
1) Have access to the person
2) Stand out from the rest
3) Playful teases
4) Be honest and don't be FAKE
5) Have other good things in your life apart from the person
6) Minimize your nervousness
7) Dating "out of your league" is a bad goal because of reasons mentioned in 13:18
COPY PASTA WITHOUT THE PASTA TIMESTAMPS LOL
Also be Mentally, Financially Stable. Then you should start putting yourself onto the market.
If you don't have both... you're going to be miserable with what you find.
Number 5 is a big one
@@blairsmith3199 absolutely. No one wants to be the only good thing in your life.
8) Don’t be ugly
For men, pre-selection by other women is also a huge thing. As someone who has always dated women “out of my league” looks wise (I consider myself fairly good looking but if you saw them you’d be like, wow wtf) I think a large part of it was getting the first girl out of my league and then staying friends with her. Not only did this allow me to meet more people, but also hinted to other girls “there must be something about him”, since my first gf gave me a shot. Make friends with other women. Seriously, I owe a lot to her actually.
It lets them know immediately that you’re likely not a creep, and have desirable qualities. Also, once it happens once, you’re no longer intimidated. I always just remember this line “every single person you’ve ever met has had explosive diarrhea or an embarsssing memory”. I may lack some things socially, but I’ve never had issues with self worth or being intimidated by people. Stand your ground. For every person who you’ll piss off, another will like it, and you want strong feelings either way. It is easier to turn hate into attraction than indifference into attraction. Attraction and hate are fairly similar from a brain chemistry standpoint
Really appreciate this advice man, it helps a lots
@@redactedthemask2198 just learned it through trial and error. I was able to find commonality with my first major gf (hence why I still consider her a very good friend), and ever since then I think “if I could date her, no one I will realistically meet is unattainable”.
FACTS I have trouble with online dating because I meet these guys and don't know anybody they know. I trust the women in a man's life more than a man trying to make a good impression.
Wow someone that actually makes sense💯💯💯💯
You had me agreeing until your last two sentences. That just sounds toxic af. Real, lasting relationships are smooth sailing from the get-go. No hate involved.
Keep in mind that judging what "league" you'd put someone in depends on what you value.
Some supermodel could be dating someone way out of her or his league intellectually.
A billionaire could manage to attract a life partner in a whole other league of emotional maturity and qualities for an ideal supportive relationship.
Sounds good
i thought my boyfriend was out of my league, i still do, but i made him laugh and was always genuine with my intentions. still together 3 years later
@@boylumbago1590 stop trolling bro lmao
@@boylumbago1590 Cap
Good head helps a lot
Dating someone out of your league could also mean dating someone wayyyyyyyyyyy below your league
what???
@@juanmora2608 you heard them
Soo, you also need someone to tell you how to not do that?
@@Edwin6264. i really don´t understand the point of lockie
He’s saying that if you date out of your league but you’re treated like sh*t then that person is below your league bc let’s be honest guys we want looks AND kindness am I right?
I thought I was well versed on this topic but you are correct a goal of dating out of your league is not a good goal. There is still beauty in finding the right one in common or you just clicked . It’s a bonus really if you find the one that everyone thought was above your leaque. Great charisma, thoughtfulness & attentiveness emotionally helps. Thanks again. Great video
I am the most famous man on YouTub! This is not bragging! This is the truth! The truth will set you free, dear bru
@@AxxLAfriku LOVE your bode of Confidence. Greatest bet you can make is Yourself. Keep on trundlin' my man. Always have faith!
@@AxxLAfriku There is a differece between confidence and delusion.
@@TheSlimmshadyy 🙏🙏🙏
@@AxxLAfriku Omg!!! You're Pewdiepie??? O_o"
"... rather than stalking alone around the venue"
This one hit lolll
Great video! Sometimes the "out of my league" only exists in our minds. Plus, I think that these suggestions are great to enter in any kind of relationship 😊
A couple of friends dated. She was gorgeous and everyone thought she was out of his league.
He had good confidence, but the real problem was that she was a target of men every time they went out. Wingmen would try to split them up so their friends could hit on her.
She would rebuff the advances, but it made going out to be really problematic.
Those guys always get rejected anyway. I would make jokes encouraging my girl to talk with them but they would always come up nervous being way too corny trying to crack lame jokes every 5 seconds. Girls just like confidence and like to feel like they chose the guy.
Honestly it sounds like other ppl were the problem, rather than the couple. If someone tried to do that to me, I would tell them straight up “I’m in a life long relationship and I don’t cheat. Cheaters disgust me”. That makes it clear that I have a strong moral ground and no interest in leaving or betraying my So trust. Some people are just disrespectful bruh
@@march9177 remember something if you make up your own moral rules other people will make up their own moral rules that will bother and affect you adversely, so it's hypocritical to talk about someone else's morality if you don't have the STRICTEST morality yourself, that's why the word cheating sometimes is curious, if a person himself is cheating on A HIGH moral code. I'm sure this may be confusing to you but that's the reason why I wrote it because you seem confused like many other people.......MANY
@@jaredwilliams6853 Yeah they get rejected until Chad comes along
@@jamesevans2507 I am technically a “chad” and I don’t approach girls leaning all into their face like these creeps I see.
Great advice, per always. To that last point you made - one of my favorite things I’ve ever heard on that idea: “The ultimate purpose of the goal is not to achieve the goal; it is who we become to achieve it.”
Unknowingly I've be doing some of the things in the video and it works but with me it came with time and "failed" relationships. Those experiences just made me focus on myself because I realised that's the one person I will always be with. That thought and the gradual actions that I took to better myself shaped my mindset.
There is nobody out of your league unless you think there is. Confidence conquers all.
Failure/Rejection is training for success.
Success in dating is a numbers game, if you see someone you like just ask them out, you miss all the shots you don't take.
If you do ask someone out and they treat you with disrespect rather than a simple "sorry I'm taken" or similar you dodged a bullet be thankful they so readily showed their true colours..
Also point 7 in this video is the main one that matters. Date for connection & enjoyment not for external appearance.
Have fun, because if its not fun why bother?
Don't do this. Even thinking that someone is "out of your league", just sets you up for disappointment, and gives them power over your heart, mind, emotions, etc. Better to focus on becoming the best man you can be: kind, fair, and decent to everyone, as you don't know what a person struggles with in their life. But don't give them carte blanche. Respect should be earned, not automatically given, and if people give you a red flag, it's usually best to end it then and there. It's the best for both of you, as it may be that your values are incompatible. Life is too short, don't waste your breath on one who cannot even listen. Believe me, you will NOT end up alone if you stop taking the first offer; hold out for what you want.
Yes indeed!
Women dont want kind, fair and decent......replace with rich, wild and dominant.
@@asmrfoodieuk7965 That sounds like an incel mindset mate. It's not true, women want the former, but also self-confidence.
And not creepy, that's a big one. Don't be misogynistic, it won't get you anywhere and don't be creepy
@@steffenjensen422 I'm female so of course I know what females want. Keep being a beta and see where it gets you.
Yesss 🙌🙌🙌
Rule #1: don’t have the mind frame that anyone is out of your “league”. Because they’re not.
Ultimately it depends on the other person. So it might be true and that's ok.
Looks, sure. But if you're a bum with no life goals, or life outside of her, a smart girl will avoid you relationships wise, and that in itself is a league to overcome not just for her but for your own benefit
Yes they are if you do have that mindset is my philosophy.
@@ziloe
Yeah I like to think of league as internal and external achievements playing a good part in it rather than looks and only looks
Show me your receipts or else it is all wishful thinking mumbojumbo
They just cracked the code. Genuinely the most comprehensive, straightforward and actionable video on dating and anxiety I've ever seen. Holy crap!
Okay, here's a few points:
1. Did anyone notice that all the relationships is this video didn't last.
2. A good many of the guys showcased are douchbags.
and
3. A good many of the women had issues at the time, and still do.
Actually I have no clue which celebrity relationships lasted or didn't last.
What can I say? Being able to attract someone out of your league and being able to maintain a long term relationship are not the same thing.
@@saisameer8771 The fact people are telling themsleves someone is out of their league is the real problem rather than just wanting to treat them right.
By no means I respect anyone, I may appreciate the things I like about them, but by no means does thay mean I cannot criticize them. If you can't say anything bad about them then you're basically their slave.
Because the video is about how to GET someone, not how to keep them. Two very different battles, and charisma largely only focuses on the first.
It starts by getting rid of your limiting beliefs. Most men think that appearance is what matters most to women. So if they see themselves as "physically unattractive", then they've already taken themselves out of the dating game.
In reality, looks are one small piece of the puzzle. Accept there is so much more women find desirable under your control. Work on areas like your fashion, fitness, body language, eye contact, sense of humor, sense of independence, leadership, assertiveness, and flirting skills. You'll see how many women are excited to connect with you. -Nick
Appearance is not the most important thing for women but it is definitely important. Women are more likely to give you a chance if you are physically attractive. It's a fact. Women care about looks too, maybe not as much as men (on average) but they definitely do
@@patrickbateman882 especially on dating apps. One might have a chance in person but get rejected online every time
How thick your......wallet is.
Sadly men only cares about looks.
Actually the research shows that all that matters is appearance. In fact, only 4.5% of men are attractive now. About 9% are acceptable enough to be settled for. Back 12 years ago it was 20%. After the age of 38, women downgrade again and are willing to date down to around 27% but will be resentful for having to settle for less than they "deserve".
This is real data from the last 5 years and a progression of data from 2008.
There's nothing like dating out of your league lol. What kinda way of thinking is that? As soon as you assume your partner to be better than you, you view yourself as inferior to them and this isn't healthy for any relationship out there. You're worth, she's worthy and that's that lol.
And you can't just think it, you gotta know it
Yes there is. Looks, money, status, intellectual, academic education and so on
12:12 I do this at interviews. When I'm nervous waiting in the foyer I chit-chat to the person at the front desk. This helps to distract my thoughts/second guesses, warms up my communication, and establishes familiarity. I also make sure to repeat what they say, smile brightly and say "it was nice chatting with you" as the person who interviews me walks in. This way they see that I'm friendly.
Britney Spears' ex actually told her EXACTLY what she wanted to hear; that he is not all over her for her looks, that he's not interested in marrying her for her money, that he is only around because he loves her (love is a commitment yeah right), then turned around and did the exact opposite of every single word he said. A1 Game. I know the creator of this video does not think it's a game, but all you need to do to know if it is or it isn't is to compare all that was said to all that's been done later.
With the help of social media,I've come to terms that everyone is overrated.
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For the record: No one is out of your league, it either works out or not.
Be greater and stop putting people on pedestals.
At the end of the day, you have to stand up for yourself.
Period 👌🏻💪🏻
@@Unknown-ms3fh :D youre welcome!
Exactly, Thinking someone is out of your league is a sign of low self love so start with chasing your dream self. You'll attract high valued people in the long run.
Sumwhere in da parallel universe a 4 feet tall guy who's a 2 , read ur comment n got married with k Kardashian . He wants to thanks you🎉
I always felt I was missing information when talking to people or dating and needed something to mimic or learn from as I had not had any good or meaningful experiences that let me learn. This, this right here is fantastic.
Great video...very solid advice with goals to shoot for AND keeping it centered on actually being happy
Love to see a video about Johnny Depp. He's so quiet and shy yet so magnetic, and great at making people feel at ease and at telling funny stories. I could watch and listen to him all day. ♡
Speaking from experience, just be careful not to keep up some of these things once you're in a relationship. If you're always busy/holding back in order to create tension, some time into the relationship they're going to wonder why that hasn't changed, why you aren't more committed and into the relationship. I made this mistake before. I'm mindful not to make it again. Ultimately, if you love someone and want to keep them you have to make them feel valued and loved or they'll look elsewhere eventually.
guys for real this is the best video ive ever seen and actually worked other video or just thumbnail
Excellent, real world, advice, not only for dating, but for general social interactions. Thank you.
This is probably the most comprehensive facts I have ever seen on dating on RUclips
I have never thought someone was "out of my league" but I have never looked for someone based on looks. Intelligence, kindness, integrity, and a great sense of humor are much more important to me and I haven't found many good-looking people who have spent time developing these areas as much as others have.
I mean, if a person is too good looking, that's probably where a lot of their effort went to
13:37 is sooo true. I never had a good self esteem, and was always insecure of the way I look, talk, walk, and what not. Thank you for the video.Shall learn one thing at a time, and be better in conversation. :)
I waited all my life so that someone eplains it perfectly!
Thank you!
The speaker has a very weird idea about what "out of their league means". SNL comedians are obviously rich and famous, with a sense of humour and tons of confidence. Them dating a hot singer or actress is in no way "out of their league".
He’s talking about general social perception
@@egusisoup1826 the general social perception of a rich and famous comedian who is on a popular TV show is that a model, actress or singer is not out of his league.
@@timothyspool1399 The examples used were of people the general public responded to as them being out of their league. The actresses and singers are the top tier of celebrity, but modern SNL comedians are nowhere near that level of fame. The parameters he was using to define “out of league” was “attractiveness, wealth, fame, or social status; all things all of the girls in the video had more of in all four areas than their perspective romantic partners.
Comedy is often one of the most cited reasons for why guys can date out of their league, because when people traditionally talk about leagues, they’re not talking about personality but surface level attributes obvious at first glance
ikr. For example, a lot of average dude thinks Pete Davidson is average like them. He was only 24 when he joined SNL, which is like one of the best thing to do career wise for a comedian. He's tall, rich, famous, funny and in tune with his mental health. Most dudes haven't even figure out life at 24 and barely started their careers.
Yes warming up is great. I used to get to bars and clubs and befriend the bouncers , waitresses,and bartenders long before I approach the women / customers. If I was not scoring I was never alone and just started talking with the staff again. I bounced back many times.
I really appreciate your efforts for these videos I learned a lot from it. Keep going 💐💐💐
Dropping GEMS son! Much appreciated, great vid!
The unphased advice really works.
I worked in a warehouse of 20 guys. Everyone was always hitting on the receptionist. I never paid any attention to her or even interacted with, just cause I focused on work and didn't really think I had a chance with her. Sure enough, I was the one guy she had an interest in and even went out on a date with me.
did you slash? i bet some of the 20 did even without date
@@danielgatsby2217 Took me a min to realize you meant smash. Yeah, I did. Lol
Ultimately, it didn't work out and as far I know, no one else had hooked up with her up until that point.
@@bassicallyandre the guy in bed with her is always her first lol
Cause u r the cutesf
@@cronosrenovations 🤗
12:20 - This is good but only for social warm-up. If you're lucky, you're talking to someone and something happens or you end up hearing something interesting that might be of interest to bring up when conversing with your date. Extra subjects or information to develop whatever you're talking about never hurts :)
Thank you for making this video! Honestly, I have been working on how to let go
and not to be desperate for there response when I just met the person I like.
It was very very well put and said, Thank you very much. really appreciate it
There's a guy in college who's been acting like that around me 🙈 He teases me so much, but I think it's funny. And yes, now I'm head over heels for him.
Protip: don't get emotionally attached until you know for sure that she's crazy about you.
Whoever made this video definitely deserves a promotion. The content in this video and facts are incredible
Bro your videos are absolutely awesome!!
Attraction connection intimacy. It's not about what you do or say, it's about how you make them feel.
As someone who went through the pua, red pill, burnout, in love with someone out of their league cycle... this is all spot on.
Work on your attraction skills, then work on your social circle, then stop trying. 60% of the time, it works every time.
Bro.... This video is the biggest golden nugget on socializing. You hit on the nail..
Fellas Lady and X's.. These are millon tips. Your should have the card on back pocket
I love this channel and everything you do
I did this. I got the "hottest" girl in my college acting class at the time, wasn't trying. I didn't think I had a shot, there was a Super Chad in our class. I got paired with her in scene assignments, we spent a lot of time one-on-one. I teased her about her clothes, her doofus moments. I was also busy writing my own novel and poetry collection, she'd snoop in my poetry on food breaks. Little by little got introduced into her inner circle, parties etc, but I'd always wander off and look around. Not really a big party guy. Long story short, she was fun and pretty, but exhausting. Not all it's cracked up to be.
Don’t stop being nice. Stop seeking approval.
I can't wait to implement this stuff!
I watched Inventing Anna not too long ago and this is exactly how she got herself into those circles. Psychology is fascinating.
on this topic, i found that i can't say im attracted to someone UNTIL i learn about who they are as a person. or have them open their mouth and speak. they could be gorgeous and kill it in a heartbeat. i never really understood people thirsting after people based only on looks. (but, this makes dating hard for me since many people operate on only looks)
You got to have something going on for yourself. The taller you are the more you don't have to have anything going on and still get the same girl. If you have a great job or $ you might not have to be tall. But the more you have the better your chances. If you tall, handsome, rich, and a nice person then you will increase your chances. Then add a nice body on top of that then you increase your chances higher. Have no kids? That increases your chances. But the truth is sometimes no matter how good of a man you're some women will never see it. It's just life. But you got to level up no matter what. Level up for yourself and if a woman comes with it its a bonus not the goal.
Hell yeah - well said
Then there's intelligence and charisma. Intelligent men have a better chance with quality women. Charisma is a nebulous quality; some people say that you can learn to be charismatic, but it's iffy. It's a je ne sais quoi sort of thing. In any case, a quality woman will appreciate a quality man. Take it from a 66 year old woman.
@@edennis8578 intelligence s not appreciated as it used to be taken it from a millennial on his second degree.
@@edennis8578 I see many intelligent but physically unattractive guys who are single, virgin and no woman wants them. I also see lots of good looking bum dudes who has had many partners and sexual encounters. I do not know which world you live in. Fantasy world maybe.
Agree on this. There's no argument that these things: tall, $$$, handsome etc. make things easier. It will at least make it easier to start things off, but might not be able to carry the relationship.
With people who don't have these, it is a much steeper challenge just to start
So true, and all this is even better when You genuinely are not desperate or needy, when You are Spiritually settled in your own Being and keep it Playful. When our Joy comes from within or is from the outside but is in the moment people are naturally attracted to that. I've been to many concerts and numerous times when I'm feeling the music and dancing in a real natural way I'll have women come up and touch me or dance real close with an amorous look in their eyes, one really hot girl was undressing me, she wanted me to give her more attention but I was in love with The Eagles at that moment
Nervous and Excitement exhibit the same way. That helped me no longer feel nervous.
My only issue with charisma on command is since he's so amazingly detailed with how he explains a certain trick that I'm worried I'll overthink AF about it. I usually combat this by locking away these starts in the back of my mind. It'll definitely be hard without practice.
I love your RUclips channel
I like that last point you made. DATE SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU HAPPY
This video honestly kind of helped me
l personally believe that their aren't any leagues.. it all comes down to how you present yourself.. no one is truly out of your league.. you just gotta go in there in the right state of mind.. you'll get her/him
Happy holidays everyone and thank you for another video COC.
Guys, never forget.. NO ONE IS OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE!!
It’s always good to show the world your spirit/soul btw,be funny sweet and be yourself
Y'all are doing Pete so dirty lol. At least he's the talented one in their relationship.
"If you treat her like a celebrity,she will treat you like a fan"
-Ancient Indian Guru
Some of these can be a little misleading, but near the end it is closer to reality, and his final point is great.
Love the video, all is so true!
I fortunately had the experience of dating someone who I thought was way out of my league (at first).
But if you're attending a concert, seeing/hearing other men adoring her, with the knowledge you'll be the one she's sharing her bed with afterwards, you do feel like a king. 👑
All the 'out of your league' stuff dissappears, just like snow in the sun. It's (partly, there's still realism) in your head.
Perception plays a big part in how you feel, hence, where you'll put yourself on the dating 'hierarchy'.
(PS: A tip, just pick something you're really good at and make it an important part of your standards.
Hence, feeling 'out of you're league' becomes less likely if you try that.)
Highly likelihood of the partner cheating if leagues are mismatched
Distilling this down to one concept, "Fix yourself first. Become the person you wish to be and make you your utmost priority."
Just had flashbacks and my mind is blown in how different I treat people and how different people treat me based on preconceived notions on them🤯🤯🤯
Really good advice for life in general, not just about dating.
As someone who has Asperger‘s and is a college student ready to graduate I have a lot of issues with people and especially females.
My social cues are often what gets the best of me in these situations. Either made the person uncomfortable or they’re just not interested in me. I always walk out of the room wondering “what is wrong with me”?
I’ve been ostracized and I’ll casted most of my childhood so that feeling of not being wanted by others stems from that. It’s hard for me to find anyone to be a friend or partner.
This video really help me. Iplan on watching more.
You could try finding friends with the same condition as you. I have adhd which overlaps a lot with autistic traits and i get along best with autistic people and others who have adhd. My husband doesn't have adhd or autism but he does have weird quirks. Lol. I only dated "normal" guys before that and it was exhausting. I'm okay at masking but you can only keep it up so long.
Would be interested to hear from a woman's perspective. Great job! Super helpful info as always.
Women aren't honest about what they want or like tho
@@patricklindsay72what are you basing that on lmao
same
“Just be yourself”
@@patricklindsay72 ... That's false. It seems like women love a lot of qualities but men purposely ignore this
First of all, women are individuals and each one of them have their own standards.
But most of them like kind, sweet, funny not mysoginistic, hard working, well dressed man with passion
I do like the insight that choosing someone based on their perceived looks or value or wealth instead of how right they are for you is a losing approach. Another thing, beware anyone who claims they went from being a "lonely introvert" to an "outgoing extrovert", unless they're just throwing terms around.
It's worth mentioning that 2 out of the relationships shown here did not end up well. Ariana went on to call Pete a "distraction" and olivia wilde left Jason for Harry styles, possibly even cheating on him. Wonder if that somehow holds a significance 😭
Also Kevin and Britney and Katy and russel
I think it’s more so focused on meeting people or successfully starting up a relationship rather than any issues later on. You’re definitely not wrong to note that since interest can fizzle out overtime once the intrigue is gone, or simply if you change as a person. Idk I guess you always have to be yourself to some degree, cuz starting any relationship you start trying to be someone else is destined to fail.
To be fair, MOST relationships don’t “end up well”. Celebrities are just a good example because they are recognizable examples, but the vast majority of people who date will not end up together, and most people don’t view their exes in a very positive light
@@egusisoup1826 What I found interesting was the REASON those relationships ended tho-- because of one party losing interest or realising they did not have any interest all along. I was merely wondering whether it had anything to do with them punching above their weight lol
@@kayyp3053 definitely possible. I heard psychologists say people who date someone they view as similar in status to themselves (social status including looks) have healthier relationships because they view each other as equals. When one person is noticeably higher in social status humans have a tendency to act in ways that show they pedestalize or fear losing them. This is also why people tend to be friends with people of similar social status. It takes someone with exceptionally high self esteem and confidence in themselves to not treat those perceived as high status differently (why celebrities are rarely going to kick it with civilians; why attractive people tend to move in groups; etc)
I can’t even date someone in my league lol
Edit: this was a joke haha
You're self assessment may be off. Aim lower.
@@kenethsoberano 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@kenethsoberano how do I self assess 💀💀 I TRULY wish someone would hypnotize me into forgetting what I look like and then I could REALLY self assess
Damn lol
@@girlygirl336
Uhhh I don't know how accurate this method is but, I saw a theory that looking at a photo yourself from more than a few months ago is a good indicator for self assessing physical looks
Loved tips #3 and #5
I love the video! Thank you :)
Lol I waited a whole year and seeing her for a whole year at work before I made a move on my now girlfriend. Literally all I had to do was care about myself and my own goals as much as I could potentially care about this girl. She’s now the love of my life and we grow together. Remember just because you get the girl doesn’t mean that’s as good as it gets.
I mean not all the people are watching this, they're goal or purpose is to date specifically someone out of their league, but there's some people who actually met someone and connected and started liking that person but he/she feels like they're out of their league
Very helpful video!
Being funny and consistent
I don't believe in leagues so they can never hurt me, I look at girls and split them into two categories, the ones I'm compatible with and the ones I'm not.
Overly complimentary is true..I had two different women tell me guys they went on date with overly compliment them and they were turned off.
This is amazing, thank you
8:30 genuinely be busy
Ur the goat i wish u the best in ur dating life
the first thing you gotta do to start dating out-of-your-league people is stop believing you're out of their league. SELF-CONFIDENCE is KEY. Work in your confidence, start talking with new people, make new friends, work in your physique and smile.
And then she starts calling you "bro". 💀
@@lastandroid4487 bro what idc
As someone who married out of his league and got the girl to move across the country, I'm intrigued.
Terrific, terrific advice.
Great Video! Thank you.
these are really great tips! i‘m tired of seeing guys trying to humble women out of their league to make them insecure enough to date them
@Josh Skipka lmfao thank you
@Josh Skipka its ok