How To Charm And Impress A High Status Person

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    It’s frustratingly common to get completely tongue tied when we’re in front of people we’d like to impress. Which is doubly unfortunate because it’s often those situations that could lead to us landing a great new job, connecting with a mentor, or even dating someone we’re smitten with.
    That’s why in this video I want to cover how you can avoid that awkward trap and impress the people you admire by standing out in a positive way. To do that, we’ll be referencing someone who has done it many times: Sean Evans of Hot Ones.
    ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
    1:38 - #1: Ask questions beyond the obvious ones.
    3:09 - #2: Use the question preamble.
    4:48 - #3: Steer conversation towards things that elicit emotion.
    7:40 - #4: Tease playfully / have fun.
    9:18 - #5: Comfortably express disagreement.
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  • @bradenboyko
    @bradenboyko 4 года назад +7301

    *At a Job interview:*
    Me: so how are your 3 kids doing? Is your daughter still on the volleyball team?

    • @kushzei
      @kushzei 4 года назад +375

      Easy way to impress interviewer for sure! :D

    • @Gabriel.4190
      @Gabriel.4190 4 года назад +170

      They’ll think your a stalker

    • @smokejc
      @smokejc 4 года назад +371

      @@Gabriel.4190 that was the joke

    • @manchul
      @manchul 4 года назад +419

      10/10 if you apply as a hacker

    • @Th3Colossus7
      @Th3Colossus7 4 года назад +144

      Who are you and what are you doing in my living room?

  • @AscendedMasculine
    @AscendedMasculine 4 года назад +22921

    Treat someone like a celebrity and they'll treat you like a fan

  • @HvyMetal4Ever
    @HvyMetal4Ever Год назад +150

    "see them as a human"
    Indeed
    I got to meet one of my musical heroes some years ago. It was backstage at a show, and everyone was losing their minds, asking for autographs and pictures. He wasn't in a great space at the time. His band-mate and dear friend passed away just 6 months prior.
    I approached him, and said "I'm so sorry for your loss"
    He was caught off guard. I think it was that human moment that so many skipped past all night.
    I saw him again a few months later at another show backstage. I made a comment, and I think it clicked who I was. It's like he was genuinely happy to see me. Such a great experience

    • @AutomHatter
      @AutomHatter 5 месяцев назад

      Was that musical hero Dave Grohl?

    • @HvyMetal4Ever
      @HvyMetal4Ever 5 месяцев назад +5

      @@AutomHatter Chad Gray from Mudvayne / Hellyeah. It was shortly after Big Vinnie passed.

  • @nak3dxsnake
    @nak3dxsnake Год назад +666

    Damn Sean Evans can even tease and joke with people who aren't funny and still relate to them. Thats always been next to impossible for me.

    • @MoltenPlastic
      @MoltenPlastic Год назад +15

      I find it helps to just switch off your brain for a moment and take the plunge. A bit like diving into cold water. After a respectful tease the whole conversation can get so much more relaxed.
      Don't forget that high status people are used to people tiptoeing around them and often bored of it.

    • @BD-zg7is
      @BD-zg7is Год назад +4

      practice. he's done hundreds of hundreds of interviews. just go practice with ppl :)

    • @corail53
      @corail53 Год назад +1

      Because he himself is not funny.

    • @Sorayan13
      @Sorayan13 7 месяцев назад +3

      This is such a wrong view. Every person has humor, just not the same humor.
      So it's not because you don't find them funny that they aren't funny. It's just your opinion.
      Sean, or his team behind the curtains, have a talent of finding out everything there is to know about the celebs, even their kind of humor.

  • @adels.185
    @adels.185 4 года назад +5783

    Boss: Do you have any questions?
    Me: So do you have any weird fantasies?

    • @sal_strazzullo
      @sal_strazzullo 4 года назад +23

      Lol

    • @chiepah2
      @chiepah2 4 года назад +104

      No longer potential Boss: Um... nooo.

    • @acc1541
      @acc1541 4 года назад +68

      Also boss: nope, but i do have weird fishes.

    • @babybu8452
      @babybu8452 4 года назад +13

      hahahaha killer question! nail it!

    • @seohyunism1
      @seohyunism1 4 года назад +31

      actually this is a good way to crack a joke in a serious situation, I think it's good

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 4 года назад +2028

    I appreciate a genuinely curious person.

    • @danparish1344
      @danparish1344 4 года назад +38

      Curiosity is probably my biggest asset to my company - I like to know every little detail when I problem solve.

    • @aidanh999
      @aidanh999 4 года назад +7

      Why?

    • @PowerRedBullTypology
      @PowerRedBullTypology 4 года назад +8

      What is the best and the worst comment you've ever written? ;)

    • @weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006
      @weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 4 года назад +5

      @@PowerRedBullTypology Man, do you ever think, "wow I wish I wrote that comment"?

    • @PowerRedBullTypology
      @PowerRedBullTypology 4 года назад +1

      @@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 Yeah when they have a lot of thumbs up I sometimes do..other than that not really. Why?

  • @ragtop63
    @ragtop63 2 года назад +279

    Sean is definitely a unique host. Make no mistake, there is a team of people, including the creator of Hot Ones, Chris Schonberger, doing the research and digging up the topics Sean presents during his shows. His delivery is definitely his own but all credit must be given where due.

    • @CristinaTringali
      @CristinaTringali Год назад +17

      I guess I’m watching a different show then all these other people. I see a super awkward guy reading prepared questions and never knowing how to follow up with anything interesting. The questions are good but they are delivered in a wooden manner and he can’t say or do anything clever on the fly.

    • @kevinbasto5611
      @kevinbasto5611 Год назад +4

      @@CristinaTringali 100% agree, its like he's reading these questions for the first time, like the room is empty...

    • @TNEQL
      @TNEQL 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@CristinaTringali The "awkwardness" is exactly the appeal of the show. Nobody wants to see rich people in suits stroking their own egos and pretending they're kings anymore.

    • @davidc2838
      @davidc2838 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@CristinaTringali Show us how it's done... Make something SUPER Successful that MILLIONS of people watch and love.

    • @davidc2838
      @davidc2838 10 месяцев назад

      @@kevinbasto5611 Nonsense. Not a single bit of confusion or uncertainty on his part. Clearly you don't perform or have a huge following. He's ALSO eating Scorching Hot Wings of Death, WHILE doing the Interview. Go show us how it's done...or shut yer pie hole.

  • @SyrillSilly
    @SyrillSilly Год назад +90

    I am not sure if anyone has noticed how GREAT these videos are for people who struggle with pragmatics. I am an intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations.
    These videos are gold and an unexpected gift that emerged from the virtual void 🤩

    • @ramonew7815
      @ramonew7815 10 месяцев назад +6

      Seeing people past what they represent to you and looking at the human beneath is absolute dynamite practical advice.

    • @dadadadave9652
      @dadadadave9652 Месяц назад +1

      "intervention specialist who has to help students on the spectrum learn how to interact with and/or read people in social situations" sorry, can you tell me more on this? what is this job and how do you go about doing so? sounds kinda fascinating!

  • @ZacharyLaid
    @ZacharyLaid 4 года назад +7437

    Treat the person you admire as if they are just a normal friend.

    • @JoeSmith-oy3hk
      @JoeSmith-oy3hk 4 года назад +352

      Treat the person I admire as if they are imaginary, got it.

    • @Michael-nq4rc
      @Michael-nq4rc 4 года назад +38

      ...Unless it's Robert De Niro.

    • @keiranleonard1301
      @keiranleonard1301 4 года назад +31

      @@Michael-nq4rc or Kim Jung un...

    • @Snow_Pulse
      @Snow_Pulse 4 года назад +5

      Zachary Laid Finding Freedom You sir know what’s up Woke

    • @99999george
      @99999george 4 года назад +79

      @@JoeSmith-oy3hk another good tip is to not overuse self-deprecating humor

  • @TimeFliesTimeManagement
    @TimeFliesTimeManagement 4 года назад +5759

    *Confidence is silent, Insecurities are Loud*

    • @daithiocinnsealach3173
      @daithiocinnsealach3173 4 года назад +310

      My insecurities make me silent.

    • @polaroidandroidjeff6383
      @polaroidandroidjeff6383 4 года назад +45

      Damn man with deep thoughts like this you should have your own RUclips channel.....

    • @TheRightLadder
      @TheRightLadder 4 года назад +65

      Confidently releasing silent farts

    • @scotthannan8669
      @scotthannan8669 4 года назад +29

      Dumbest statement ever
      Confidence is not silent, insecurities are not loud, this is just a silly statement made for people who are insecure to feel better about themselves by thinking the opposite of the truth

    • @scotthannan8669
      @scotthannan8669 4 года назад

      bookmarkthis haha

  • @karabelles5142
    @karabelles5142 2 года назад +27

    I love that we are now analyzing Sean’s interview and research skills. That’s how good he is. Thanks for this. Super helpful.

  • @rapzad3623
    @rapzad3623 2 года назад +60

    The problem with doing this, at least with “peers” (like someone you want to date) is if you “do research” and start asking in-depth questions about things you wouldn’t know about without that research you’re probably going to creep them out

    • @rileywiebe3512
      @rileywiebe3512 Год назад +7

      Maybe do it in an uncreepy way-like comment on something obscure about a recent (not old) post. Like something or someone in the picture

    • @libertyandjusticeforall6435
      @libertyandjusticeforall6435 Год назад

      You sound like an ugly person

    • @themonsterunderyourbed9408
      @themonsterunderyourbed9408 Год назад +3

      When you start thinking with "my date is higher status than me."
      You've already failed (especially as a man).

    • @user-wg9hf8ly2f
      @user-wg9hf8ly2f 2 месяца назад

      I think the research aspect would just force it anyways. There’s much to be said for asking unique and interesting questions but for dating I think the focus should just be on “what do you want to know about this person” rather than “how can I make this person like me”.

  • @thescoobymike
    @thescoobymike 4 года назад +3720

    "This is such a good interview, good research"
    Sean: so are you!

    • @tychobrahe6379
      @tychobrahe6379 4 года назад +258

      "Y-y-you too"

    • @FrenchToast663
      @FrenchToast663 4 года назад +48

      Sean Evans is my favorite late night host

    • @Lenduya
      @Lenduya 4 года назад +191

      Why are you leaving things out?
      K Stewart: This is wild...
      Sean Evans: So are you

    • @TheReal_Dirty_Dan
      @TheReal_Dirty_Dan 4 года назад +26

      At least he was aware so he doubles down by repeating it lol

    • @thescoobymike
      @thescoobymike 4 года назад +7

      @@Lenduya oh I didn't catch that lol

  • @saralind2032
    @saralind2032 4 года назад +1080

    "look at us. Hey. Look at us. Who would've though? Not me."

    • @anna_thema3732
      @anna_thema3732 4 года назад +26

      thanks for the chuckle

    • @saralind2032
      @saralind2032 4 года назад +1

      anna_thema didnt even think anyone would see this lolll

    • @Treyzor8989
      @Treyzor8989 4 года назад +5

      Thought*

    • @inh6940
      @inh6940 4 года назад +3

      Look at us.
      Hey, look at us.
      Say it again.
      Look at us.

    • @duhvnlocs
      @duhvnlocs 4 года назад +6

      classic Rudd

  • @aramislucas3281
    @aramislucas3281 Год назад +322

    Back when I used to be a treinee at a gym, there was a girl that I became friends with and I noticed she even used to became blushed and nervous when I talked to her, as if she was interested, and then when we followed each other on Instagram I discovered that she was a singer from a considerably popular local band that I had never happen to know because I'm not a big fan of that specific music style. But it was interesting to see how I behaved naturaly just because I didn't knew who she was. I didn't ask her out btw, I was not single at the time lol

    • @princesmith8008
      @princesmith8008 Год назад +14

      Bruh....

    • @Goyleguy266
      @Goyleguy266 Год назад +11

      L

    • @alanalycan3986
      @alanalycan3986 Год назад +14

      Aww c'mon we was all anticipating a love story here lol. I admire you though of course being faithful to your lady !!! 💙 Kudos

    • @1337-Nathaniel
      @1337-Nathaniel Год назад +4

      You're a real one. What's her band called though?

  • @punkinkng
    @punkinkng Год назад +234

    As highlighted in this video, Sean's real talent is predicting people's deaths.
    "Have you ever killed anyone?"
    "We haven't heard from Coolio in a while."

    • @BabyJesus66
      @BabyJesus66 Год назад +12

      He killed Coolio

    • @Pb4Au
      @Pb4Au Год назад

      😬 i cringed at that

    • @jumpieva
      @jumpieva Год назад +1

      I caught that too, didn't age well lol

    • @djramennoodles
      @djramennoodles Год назад +18

      ​@@jumpieva neither did Coolio

    • @Vanden_Vanden
      @Vanden_Vanden Год назад

      Poor Coolio, did great work for children ,and had an interesting interview before his passing. "Coolio Joined The Hip Hop Uncensored Podcast To Talk about being approached to do some weird stuff while he was and artist. "

  • @lokidecat
    @lokidecat 2 года назад +4848

    Sean is the best interviewer hands down. He's respectful, funny, well-read, and has great banter. So great to watch a master at work.

    • @daweihuang9687
      @daweihuang9687 2 года назад +59

      Really? He sounds like a robot trying to recite a script to me.

    • @orti1283
      @orti1283 2 года назад +33

      @@daweihuang9687 I don't think so, but even if he was, the script is very good

    • @lokidecat
      @lokidecat 2 года назад +42

      @@daweihuang9687 to each their own opinion. he's garnered much respect in the industry for his style and conversational tone. You don't have to like it.

    • @riderzinc
      @riderzinc 2 года назад +31

      Sean Evans and Nardwuar are my favourite interviewers

    • @Noobie2k7
      @Noobie2k7 2 года назад +40

      @@riderzinc Natdwuar is on a whole different dimension.

  • @lokimorginstjarna33
    @lokimorginstjarna33 3 года назад +1771

    Sean Evans deserves everything he's made of himself. Him and his superb team host one of the best talk shows in history.

  • @pastrana21
    @pastrana21 Год назад +4

    never get tired of how often sean impresses guests with his questions. though at the same time sean has said that he does a massive amount of research prior to any interview/guest

  • @e.l.2734
    @e.l.2734 Год назад +2

    The way you put together those scenes really makes Sean's genius show.

  • @EricMarlow
    @EricMarlow 4 года назад +2774

    HOW TO IMPRESS SOMEONE YOU ADMIRE (summary)
    1. ask killer questions beyond the obvious ones 00:28
    2. use the question preamble to connect on a personal level 03:09
    3. steer conversations towards the other persons emotion or passions 04:52
    4. tease playfully and have some fun 07:37
    5. comfortably express disagreement 09:12
    This is an awesome video and this summary doesn't do it justice. Watch it all the way through. Thank me later. 🙂

    • @dougm6106
      @dougm6106 4 года назад +13

      Actually, ty in advance =)

    • @Sabadoe2013
      @Sabadoe2013 3 года назад +12

      I clicked on the first time stamp you wrote. I didn't pause the video a single time after that.

    • @Santhanaram
      @Santhanaram 3 года назад +9

      Thank you for creating the summary Eric...love the engagement

    • @Sneha-fh3uh
      @Sneha-fh3uh 3 года назад +3

      Thanks

    • @abelarvizu2898
      @abelarvizu2898 3 года назад +4

      this is awesome, thank you!

  • @Harsh-bx2mf
    @Harsh-bx2mf 4 года назад +2451

    Do I need to eat 4000 gallons of hot sauce before I can be like Sean Evans

    • @calebf612
      @calebf612 4 года назад +41

      Most likely, be strong

    • @tomothy527
      @tomothy527 4 года назад +10

      not in one sitting, do it in increasing amounts over the course of months.

    • @csnoopy
      @csnoopy 4 года назад +8

      Heck no. You need 5000

    • @farwakhan4423
      @farwakhan4423 4 года назад +3

      yes

    • @ClarkieReidri
      @ClarkieReidri 4 года назад +14

      Yes, this is coming from someone who subjects themselves to the hottest sauces they can find, once you have drank a half bottle of Da Bomb, nothing can scare you anymore. No person or object will hurt you as much as that will.

  • @1989red13bfc
    @1989red13bfc Год назад +4

    Sean is a gem. That’s why his show has done soo well.

  • @cameronjadewallace
    @cameronjadewallace Год назад +1

    I've been listening to this channel all day after it came up in my autoplay, and I've been trying to learn how to human properly lately. I've been feeling like I'm out of sorts, but my self-confidence (that I've built on my own just by listening to NF) has gotten in my way. Now... I've been seeing flaws in my character and how I can fix it.
    I mentioned to my coworkers that I've found this channel today and been listening to it ravenously and they asked how it's been going... I laughed and said "Well, it's just Day 1!!!" And they found it hilarious.
    I've always been known for my humor, and now ... I actually think this is helping me be more personable, instead of relying on shock value.
    I love this channel. I hope it helps me human better.

  • @kobetiu8628
    @kobetiu8628 4 года назад +921

    Sean: Hey what's your name?
    Person: *that's a great question*

    • @G33KST4R
      @G33KST4R 4 года назад +58

      Person: Wow. You really did your research.

    • @thedynamitepriest2755
      @thedynamitepriest2755 4 года назад +32

      Most likely question fro Sean:
      Imagine you live in a fantasy world and you wanted to get out of it. What name would you pick for yourself?

    • @Frdnnd
      @Frdnnd 4 года назад +21

      @@thedynamitepriest2755 that's a great question

    • @yourmajesty3569
      @yourmajesty3569 2 года назад +1

      That is exactly what Sean doesn't do. And exactly how people don't respond.
      How are you funny?????

    • @nobodyishere
      @nobodyishere 2 года назад +12

      @@yourmajesty3569 r/woooosh

  • @eliseerickson5994
    @eliseerickson5994 4 года назад +520

    On the way into my first job interview I noticed a sign outside that stated the company was the oldest in its industry and the year it was founded. (exactly 200 years before!) When I was asked how much I knew about the company, I brought that up and asked if they were doing anything special for its anniversary. They called me the next morning with a job offer.

    • @TheRightLadder
      @TheRightLadder 4 года назад +6

      Did they do anything?

    • @eliseerickson5994
      @eliseerickson5994 4 года назад +89

      @@TheRightLadder they gave me the job

    • @christophergonzalez8598
      @christophergonzalez8598 4 года назад +11

      @@eliseerickson5994 They have you a job because you are White.

    • @Rytoast99
      @Rytoast99 4 года назад +71

      Christopher Gonzalez no lol troll stfu

    • @eliseerickson5994
      @eliseerickson5994 4 года назад +38

      @@christophergonzalez8598 unfortunately, this is probably true :( white privilege is real asf

  • @katomlife8635
    @katomlife8635 Год назад

    Sean Evans is such a talented interviewer.
    What makes highlight and lowlight questions so interesting to the interviewee...
    Highlight questions will bring them joy and make you sound interested in them.
    Lowlight questions sound like you care and will create a connection with them.

  • @ezra9401
    @ezra9401 2 года назад +3

    I usually would gloss over RUclips videos these days, even the educational ones that I usually like. This video was really grabbing my attention and provides a great perspective and information. Kudos.

  • @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862
    @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862 4 года назад +525

    Be genuine, be yourself. If they don’t like you, move on

    • @fadeskywards1245
      @fadeskywards1245 4 года назад +2

      Right

    • @montanerdz
      @montanerdz 4 года назад +37

      Yeah, until nobody likes you 😂 then what?

    • @Carlos1234jfk
      @Carlos1234jfk 4 года назад +31

      @@montanerdz then you're free

    • @AlexanderMoen
      @AlexanderMoen 4 года назад +78

      Be careful. Lots of people use the "be yourself" reasoning as an excuse to not better themselves, or to justify jerk-like actions.

    • @jk3838
      @jk3838 4 года назад +4

      The person you want to be is the person you really are inside

  • @Miketz
    @Miketz 4 года назад +597

    Boss: "Do you have any questions?"
    Me: "Have you ever killed anybody?"

    • @jamesgarrett7844
      @jamesgarrett7844 4 года назад +32

      Can’t wait to use this at my next interview

    • @satyamprakash7030
      @satyamprakash7030 4 года назад +5

      Maybe😋😋

    • @fistbomb3368
      @fistbomb3368 3 года назад +1

      @@jamesgarrett7844 so how did it went?

    • @anotherstockcivic
      @anotherstockcivic 3 года назад +4

      Was it good for you too?

    • @miseno31
      @miseno31 3 года назад +25

      And if you have, what were the highlights of killing, and what were the most frustrating things about it?

  • @CharlesChacon
    @CharlesChacon 8 месяцев назад

    At a former job, I used to do a lot of job interviews and I loved asking questions like this. I always reviewed the resume of the candidates not to judge their qualifications, but to find talking points to start a personal connection and this led to some really good trust with every candidate we eventually went with

  • @thomaschezik9769
    @thomaschezik9769 6 месяцев назад

    I totally stumbled on this video, but this is one of the most valuable 15 minutes of education that anyone could have in learning how to network and connect with a stranger that they are interested in partnering with or learning from. HUGE HIGH YIELD how to.

  • @thescoobymike
    @thescoobymike 4 года назад +254

    When Sean Evan's is impressed, you know you made it

  • @haythamhakla
    @haythamhakla 3 года назад +121

    I remember I had an interview in a high tech company and I was extremely under qualified. I researched the interviewer online before the interview and found out he had a couple of patents. I brought that up while he was walking me from the lobby to the interview room. He was so shocked I even knew about it and I got the internship the next day.

    • @JustMe-ob3nw
      @JustMe-ob3nw Год назад

      What a terrible idea. I would’ve thought you were a freak, an adulator. It also makes you look like someone who is calculating. I would have you escorted out by security on the spot. Amazing you actually got the position. This person is probably very naive for having hired you. Also, people who behave like this are the reason why toxic working environments exist. I would bet you probably have very strong back stabbing’ tendencies too.

    • @Parallaxxx28
      @Parallaxxx28 Год назад +1

      That’s actually a really good skill. How did you get to know who your interviewer was?

    • @ThinkBeFree99
      @ThinkBeFree99 Год назад +4

      How did u ask this though. Could be kinda creepy for some lol

  • @callmejeff9272
    @callmejeff9272 Год назад

    Honestly this one of the best vids I’ve come across. Became a standout at my current job because of asking those great questions at the end of the interview

  • @kaalen24
    @kaalen24 2 года назад +29

    I love how Sean and his show is getting well deserved recognition for how incredibly skilled he and the show is at these interviews. Better than anything you will find on TV. Shout out to Dustin Poirier for doing the show!

    • @Swordifsh1
      @Swordifsh1 4 месяца назад

      I didnt see Poirier here? Or did you mean in a diff video?

  • @drbelli
    @drbelli 2 года назад +620

    Sean makes guests feel like not being interviewed at all, instead he plays inside the spicy wings game and the questions feels more like an excuse to engage those invited, rather than the focus of it all, Hot Ones format is unique and fresh, and is a display of good things to come. Sean is a talented guy, bright yet humble, a good content maker/contributor .

    • @CidGuerreiro1234
      @CidGuerreiro1234 2 года назад +11

      Agree, the show is great. I normally don't give a flying about celebrities, but Sean makes the conversation interesting to watch by asking really good question (and actually letting them answer, unlike some hosts who wants to be in the spotlight 100% of the time).

    • @SStupendous
      @SStupendous 2 года назад +3

      @@CidGuerreiro1234 That last part applying to Kimmel. I really like this guy. ACTUAL interview. Instead of how many talk-show hosts are.

    • @katec5105
      @katec5105 Год назад

      Very true

    • @mummyjohn
      @mummyjohn Год назад

      feels similar to Craig Ferguson. I'll have to check this guy out

  • @zanemiracle6121
    @zanemiracle6121 4 года назад +1726

    Before watching video:
    Guy: How's it going? ❌
    After watching videi;:
    Guy: Imagine how you're feeling right now. Now take that same situation and imagine that you're on Mars. So fellow martian, how's it going? ✅

    • @raphaelmotta7630
      @raphaelmotta7630 4 года назад +131

      That actualy made me smile, if someone said that to me in real life I'd instantly conect with them. haha
      I'm gonna use this!

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 4 года назад +20

      still the same thing, but only on Mars...

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 4 года назад +5

      @Alan Hardcastle A story?! that's not even a story, they absolutely randomly pick Mars and the rest of it is just a totally RANDOM ramble.

    • @potenti4l
      @potenti4l 4 года назад +5

      Vadim Galperin I think you’re missing the point 😂 it entices your imagination

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 4 года назад +1

      @@potenti4l How so?

  • @syedali1401
    @syedali1401 Год назад +2

    Eye contact is the most powerful thing to keep someone connected to you for a while.
    It helps me a lot, its just makes the other person in a trance like state. I dont know exactly how it works. But this thing is powerful

  • @jesseowens4652
    @jesseowens4652 Год назад

    It helps a lot to keep your mind open and be truly curious about the person. If you are genuine it will show in a very obvious way and they will respect you for that.

  • @ALLROY240
    @ALLROY240 4 года назад +122

    0:49 I think that question would have floored most interviewees.

    • @kichapps
      @kichapps 4 года назад +15

      Yeah. That's a really long sentence to comprehend...

    • @DustyyBoi
      @DustyyBoi 4 года назад

      @@kichapps no? I'm gonna guess English isn't your first language

    • @meat.
      @meat. 4 года назад +26

      Alojzija it’s a pretty complicated question. We don’t all watch rick and morty like you

    • @yanited7603
      @yanited7603 4 года назад +5

      @@DustyyBoi Rude. You might need to watch more charisma on command.

    • @blackharpy7468
      @blackharpy7468 4 года назад +3

      @@DustyyBoi Stop judging and start self-developing. You need to.

  • @marc-andrecote2948
    @marc-andrecote2948 2 года назад +630

    Got it, so killer question on first date: so do you think your insecurities in relationship are the fruit of a long and heartfelt grief from the fact your dad did not love you?

    • @CaneSr
      @CaneSr 2 года назад +27

      Dayumn

    • @XIVDock
      @XIVDock 2 года назад +82

      Not open ended enough. Can still boil it down to yes or no, assuming the person decides to answer instead of immediately throwing themselves at you

    • @TheManhwaSummary
      @TheManhwaSummary 2 года назад +2

      Hahahahahaha

    • @earlyangelo5704
      @earlyangelo5704 2 года назад

      Noted. Thanks

    • @Bryan-kl5rr
      @Bryan-kl5rr 2 года назад +3

      This should help with my dating life, or lack thereof. Thanks 🤙

  • @FatimaFarmer
    @FatimaFarmer Год назад +2

    Your channel is amazing! He is my favorite interviewer and this breakdown was so well done!

  • @SirGlacius1
    @SirGlacius1 2 года назад +6

    I really like to watch hot ones. Sean is without a doubt a great host so you get to meet celebrities you love engaged in a warm and fun conversation.

  • @silvervixen007
    @silvervixen007 3 года назад +1756

    As someone who is socially awkward and maybe even on the autism spectrum... this channel surprisingly helps me a lot! 🙆‍♀️

    • @shadmanhasan4205
      @shadmanhasan4205 2 года назад +19

      Same.

    • @davecullins1606
      @davecullins1606 2 года назад +40

      In my experience, if you start to *heavily* self-identify with something you see as fundamentally limited, then you're more likely in general to doubt your own abilities which is just going to lead you to give up on seizing a lot of opportunities you wouldn't otherwise have given up on if you hadn't let that thing be at the center of your identity. That thing being autism in this case.
      That has been my own experience as an autist, and I have also seen other autists suffer from not following that advice.

    • @jasperw.2701
      @jasperw.2701 2 года назад +11

      I don't find that surprising. I'm kind of in the same place. This guy is a genius!

    • @viper505th
      @viper505th 2 года назад +7

      The tools they give me confidence to carry on through the awkwardness haha

    • @wesleygraham335
      @wesleygraham335 2 года назад +25

      I think Dave is right. If you put yourself in box or category such as labelling yourself as ‘maybe even on the autism spectrum’ you’ve now created a belief in your mind which is not helping you. If you can remove the labels that society places on us we become more free to express who we are without caring. It takes work though. Your awkwardness is most likely due to suppression in society because you do things differently. Just a theory from someone that used to think the same things.

  • @samtoshner8002
    @samtoshner8002 4 года назад +312

    Sean Evans deserves an award for his abilities as a talk show host.

  • @reverendpant9392
    @reverendpant9392 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this video it has this really changed my perspective on asking questions and I'm sure this new found knowledge will come in handy.

  • @Mike_In_Idaho
    @Mike_In_Idaho Год назад

    Great video -- I really appreciate the tips to crack a joke occassionally, and how to assert yourself in a disagreement without offending. And now I want to go watch (and rewatch) more of Sean's videos!! :D

  • @Benisued
    @Benisued 4 года назад +280

    damn man the quality of this channel is soaring

    • @CC-bu2gv
      @CC-bu2gv 2 года назад +5

      so what are some of the highlight and lowlights of the videos you've seen so far?

    • @Benisued
      @Benisued 2 года назад +1

      @@CC-bu2gv
      highlights:
      5 easy ways to start a conversation
      why good relationships turn bad
      turn anxiety into charisma
      lowlights are difficult, I understand videos from this channel end up being pretty personal, a charisma lesson that I need will be different than what you need, but the reaction videos that they started making, I think, are their weakest link right now

  • @evolicious
    @evolicious 2 года назад +273

    Sean is this generation's greatest interviewer. He is light years ahead in connecting to celebrities in a modern way and knows how to treat everyone so equally and respectfully. Everyone WANTS to be on this show because of Sean and his team.

    • @joshuapikal7578
      @joshuapikal7578 2 года назад +28

      yes, but then there's Nardwuar

    • @yeldarb1880
      @yeldarb1880 Год назад +3

      3 letters, jre

    • @karenphan8046
      @karenphan8046 Год назад

      @@joshuapikal7578 you

    • @orbit1894
      @orbit1894 Год назад +4

      @@joshuapikal7578 Nardwuar is the goat

    • @Elurin
      @Elurin Год назад

      @@orbit1894 Nah, he is a goat, or perhaps eats goats?

  • @jhouseholter
    @jhouseholter Год назад +1

    Fantastic video. It feels like being curious and interesting are at the core of this technique. More importantly, it explains how to be both.

  • @errolwebber
    @errolwebber 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for making this video! It reminded me of some important cues, while also reaffirming the strategy I used in an interaction I had with someone just yesterday. Excellent content!

    • @joy_villa
      @joy_villa 2 года назад

      Errol! Hey my friend!!

    • @errolwebber
      @errolwebber 2 года назад

      @@joy_villa Well, hello there!

  • @itsokbabygirl
    @itsokbabygirl 3 года назад +45

    Sean Evans is like the celebrity whisperer! Also, his humility is a definite plus. He’s the right balance of admirer, intelligence, and chill! I love him. ♥️🙌🏼💯

  • @seanpowlesland1703
    @seanpowlesland1703 4 года назад +56

    Another thing that makes Sean so great is his how he takes his time. He never rushes his guests and takes his time asking questions. He's also comfortable in silence and doesn't feel pressured to ask killer question every time

  • @laurafedora5385
    @laurafedora5385 Год назад +61

    It’s hard to ask questions beyond the obvious ones if you don’t know the person that well though.
    Sean has the luxury of being able to do some research on celebrities’ interests or new work. If you did that to your crush, you’re a creepy stalker 😆

    • @JamesDavisakaRemguy
      @JamesDavisakaRemguy 11 месяцев назад +1

      Good Point, let's hope he responds at some point in the (near?) future. I'm sure he can come up with some way of presenting this "research" so that it's not interpreted as a creepy invasion of one's privacy. If done (adroitly or adeptly?) done GOOD...ly(?!), it can come off as very flattering that you sacrificed the time/effort/blood/sweat/tears to go to these lengths, but that's probably part of the risk-taking that he refers to in this video. *It's all in the delivery* - which itself would make a great by-line for Charisma University!

    • @mrmatiti3405
      @mrmatiti3405 7 месяцев назад

      Not sure CoC agrees with this but my approach is to just be interested in what they are doing or where they have been, even though I am not familiar with it. For example, I met someone who worked with building electric excavators. My first response was "Well, that sounds a little unpractical because they require a lot of energy. How long does it last before it's out of battery?". It lead to a very interesting conversation where he got to give me some insights on electrical excavators.
      I am also the type to ask if someone wore hula skirts if I find out they lived in Hawaii. That either leads to a good laugh or a good story if they actually did wear one.

  • @Antichaos111
    @Antichaos111 Год назад

    Awesome callout to Sean, guy has an amazing presence and does an amazing job as a personality.

  • @AlexPlatinumAdvice
    @AlexPlatinumAdvice 4 года назад +360

    This is a lot of great info, whenever I go out on a date I typically ask 5 in depth questions with the girl, then get into more detail.
    Also, in the past when I would have interviews I would always study up on the company. When they were founded, who founded them, what their goal and values are.
    I almost always got hired for every job I applied.
    Good stuff my man.

    • @Ana-bx6fn
      @Ana-bx6fn 4 года назад +36

      Could you give examples of the questions that you asked during the interviews?

    • @chag3406
      @chag3406 4 года назад +16

      ^ and the first 5

    • @drpizzagames1015
      @drpizzagames1015 4 года назад +8

      Nothing to comment just want the notification when/if you respond to the replies

    • @NelemNaru
      @NelemNaru 4 года назад +1

      Do you have a set of questions to asks on dates, or are they different depending on the girl?

    • @nexo8742
      @nexo8742 4 года назад

      What are the 5 deep questions?

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini 2 года назад +220

    Self confidence impresses anyone. Being intelligent is huge. It might seem geeky to you, but it's vital. Thanks for the video!

    • @7ylerD
      @7ylerD Год назад +10

      People don’t respect intelligence, per se; people respect competence. They like when you are able to effectively interpret and respond to what they’re saying, but they don’t like when you come off as a know-it-all.

    • @romancetips365
      @romancetips365 Год назад +1

      I have both and I still don't have any friends, go figure... :-P

    • @MikeD-hn9hf
      @MikeD-hn9hf Год назад +2

      I think if recent history has taught us anything it's that you don't have to be intelligent to be confident.

    • @corail53
      @corail53 Год назад

      ​@@7ylerD If you claim you are intelligent is shows how insecure you are - that is what turns people off. The folks who have to brag about how smart they are etc. People respect people being themselves and not having to one up or brag about things like that.

    • @corail53
      @corail53 Год назад

      @@MikeD-hn9hf You don't.

  • @bonniecreevy2642
    @bonniecreevy2642 13 дней назад

    I love Sean Evans. You always learn something new about the celebrities and he doesn’t bait them just for views. I think he’s the best interviewer I’ve ever seen

  • @SohItGoes
    @SohItGoes Год назад

    This such a well put-together video. Really so thoughtful! Thank you.

  • @lexilowe4928
    @lexilowe4928 4 года назад +275

    Sean Evans is an awesome interviewer. He inspired me to start asking people more and better questions about themselves, and it's made my social life so much better. And for job interviews, I do a ton of research on all the people I'll meet. Probs not as much research as Sean and Chris do, but it would be weird if I tried to do an "Explain that Gram" on a job interview.

  • @Nero_2276
    @Nero_2276 4 года назад +50

    I loved the line about asking a job interviewer about what they like about working there. That can lead into many directions.

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 4 года назад +2

      I ask that on very interview Iźve been on. They always say"the people". Ironically, I worked a job (setting up stages) where the people I worked with and the environment were VERY hastle.

    • @janetmiller2160
      @janetmiller2160 4 года назад +1

      @@JaysonT1 hostile, jicywi

  • @jesseworkme
    @jesseworkme Год назад

    you, and your team, are good at interviewing people ill give you that .. its frustratingly common for "influencers" and "celebrities" to believe they are better than the rest of the population

  • @MindLifeFlow
    @MindLifeFlow Год назад

    Great video and topic! This will help so many people who struggle with questions to ask to impress someone etc....

  • @JS-th7ow
    @JS-th7ow 4 года назад +66

    Just wanted to thank you. This channel has helped me a lot. Due to medical conditions I spent my teen years in isolated. I’m 20 now and this channel has helped me a lot in terms of socializing and being a more confident person overall.

    • @romanpabianczyk8870
      @romanpabianczyk8870 2 года назад +7

      Maybe if it helped you then maybe it can also help me, because I was an outsider and scapegoat whole my life and I would like to create more social mind.

  • @scotthullinger9955
    @scotthullinger9955 4 года назад +68

    The way you impress me is by not trying to impress me. Humility says a lot.

  • @ZachariahMerrill
    @ZachariahMerrill Год назад

    thank you for this video, this is so helpful. Its so funny how everytime i try out what you say in your videos it always works!

  • @emory4258
    @emory4258 5 месяцев назад

    These questions are also being asked while they are eating spicy food! This makes an even interesting conversation because not only are they concentrating on the heat going on in their mouth but they are also thinking about the conversation. So far this is the most interesting video so far for me in my opinion that I've watched from you. I haven't seen them all but so far.....

  • @warbylpunkaz8797
    @warbylpunkaz8797 4 года назад +101

    "We haven't heard from Coolio in a long time" - SE

  • @QueenZsWorld
    @QueenZsWorld 4 года назад +77

    See them as human. Talk to then like you would a friend

  • @THERICKMATTHEWS
    @THERICKMATTHEWS 2 года назад

    one of the most useful video I've watched, it inspired me to amp up my hosting and interviewing skills. thank you for this

  • @ericsarchive7718
    @ericsarchive7718 Год назад

    The Evans Ramsey interview is maybe one of my all-time favorites.
    Every Hot Ones is a Master Class.

  • @1chaplain
    @1chaplain 4 года назад +74

    The day Sean gets featured in Charisma in Command, is the day I'm satisfied with the internet. Great content

  • @TheDonkyGamePlay
    @TheDonkyGamePlay 4 года назад +21

    I once commented how good of an interviewer Sean is, that his questions really make the other side open up and he really digs a lot of information about them. Never got so many disagreeing comments hah. Glad you pointed this out

  • @ceacea364
    @ceacea364 Год назад

    Makes So much sense after you flawlessly explained it Thank you!!

  • @joannesuzieburlison7128
    @joannesuzieburlison7128 Год назад

    This was very helpful. I think looking for that emotional charge is the best advice I've heard.

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 4 года назад +174

    Never reveal your merits/accomplishments - let them do the digging by asking questions
    It's more interesting to uncover than to be served

    • @x.invictus6597
      @x.invictus6597 4 года назад +16

      I wonder how I can block a channel.

    • @GladiatorPower
      @GladiatorPower 4 года назад +2

      @@x.invictus6597 😂😂

    • @GladiatorPower
      @GladiatorPower 4 года назад +10

      Stop commenting on every video I watch.

    • @SharpDesign
      @SharpDesign 4 года назад

      No place this would make any sense.

    • @elektrotehnik94
      @elektrotehnik94 4 года назад +1

      I'd say make a tease about you accomplishments, then let them do the digging if it sparks their interest

  • @blakeglosson
    @blakeglosson 4 года назад +10

    Insightful and tangibly helpful. I love the idea of being playful with higher-profile people, rather than always speaking/responding in literal terms. Will definitely be using this. Thanks, Charlie!

  • @davidcummins8125
    @davidcummins8125 Год назад +2

    It is funny how much of the status thing is an illusion. A friend was star-struck in a bar when he saw the DJ of his favorite radio station. He would never have approached him. I didn't know who the heck he was, so I just dragged my friend over and had a 5 minute conversation with the guy. The real thing is the human connection. Another time I was at a conference and blew off a boring session. I ended up bumping into the guest speaker for the whole event in the cafeteria and bonding over how terrible the food was. I appreciate these videos for making the good moments more reliable, not just "a weird thing that happened to me".

  • @dontmindme6995
    @dontmindme6995 9 месяцев назад +3

    For me the most important thing about conversations and questions is to ask something you're actually interested in.
    Sean asks phenomenal questions, but his job is to get information out of people for the sake of informing and entertaining viewers and listeners.
    When I'm in a conversation, I want this information for myself, so there is no point in asking something you don't care about.
    Also it gives the conversation genuity which can make even ordinary, uncreative questions feel natural and interesting

  • @devam7768
    @devam7768 4 года назад +5

    That mindset is golden! It's been a true game-changer in my own life. Sometimes we put the people we admire on a pedestal instead of seeing them as a fellow human being. This prevents us from connecting with them and making a lasting impression.

  • @wilbeugre
    @wilbeugre 4 года назад +28

    So I was right: treat human beings as human beings and be kind to anyone; it doesn't mean that you'll agree on everything but that is ok ☺️
    Keep up the great work guys! 👍🏿

  • @NathanHarrison7
    @NathanHarrison7 2 года назад +6

    Great advice. Great practical points to implement, use, with anyone who 1) respects you enough to want to engage with you on an “emotional” level and 2) see number 1 above. If they don’t basically nothing you say, or do, will matter. If someone simply doesn’t feel comfortable around you, they might not even consciously know why they feel that way, they’ll quickly find a conscious reason not to. At that point all meaningful conversations are over before they start no matter how you phrase the questions.

  • @p3rsi4n1
    @p3rsi4n1 Год назад

    Great video and really highlighting something that I think is very underrated in our society which is effective communication.

  • @lizicadumitru9683
    @lizicadumitru9683 4 года назад +28

    You know the more I think about what this channel does and promotes the more I'm surprised at the genius of it 👍

  • @jakedouglassmith8779
    @jakedouglassmith8779 2 года назад +34

    GREAT LESSON!!! Too many people lack basic communication skills let alone these kind of skills that take you to the next level. Well Done!

  • @Jo3W3st
    @Jo3W3st Год назад +2

    He has a whole team including him who comes up with these amazing questions. He's just the face of the channel, asking the questions. Yes he does improve a lot but the writers don't get recognition honestly and if you're in the entertainment industry, you should have known this already.

    • @dumdum9367
      @dumdum9367 Год назад +1

      He a natural, has charisma, someone who draws you in while letting you be, this man should be studied in university

  • @ASortedCollection
    @ASortedCollection Год назад

    Taking the time to investigate your interviewee, know your audience, and provide personalized service and care is worth it to make people remember you, make them feel special, and set you apart from all others. It helps to cultivate meaningful, engaging and edifying relationships. Taking an interest in others is invaluable.

  • @ZachWeiss
    @ZachWeiss 4 года назад +828

    How to impress someone you admire: “Be unapologetically yourself”
    Done.

    • @peterDcontact
      @peterDcontact 4 года назад +25

      i am sorry, this is the kind of advice Tony Robbins would give, the kind that i hate, what does that even mean?

    • @ZachWeiss
      @ZachWeiss 4 года назад +48

      peterDcontact it means to stop trying to watch advice on how to be something other than how you would normally be. If you put on a show, the facade will fail at some point and that person you were trying to impress won’t stick around. If you don’t try to impress them from the get-go, if it’s meant to be, they will stay anyway.

    • @adels.185
      @adels.185 4 года назад +5

      @@peterDcontact Means (if I got it right) that you are yourself and stick to your opinions and beliefs unapologetically

    • @ben-asinus
      @ben-asinus 4 года назад +25

      Yeah, but to be able to do that you have to be the best person you can possible be. And that is hard or nearly impossible. So it is useful to be aware of the fact that you are not perfect. And it is good to be modest and to ask for apology every time you were wrong.

    • @ZachWeiss
      @ZachWeiss 4 года назад +6

      ben yeah of course. When you are objectively wrong on something. I do like the tips on this video, it’s more like in my opinion, when you act like yourself without restraint then you tend to polarize people and the only people who stick around are the ones who count. 😊

  • @MH-dv2cz
    @MH-dv2cz 4 года назад +55

    So what I'm hearing is that my stalker skills are going to come in handy

  • @GustavoSilva-ny8jc
    @GustavoSilva-ny8jc Год назад +1

    2:24 WOW, that's amazing. There must be a very serious, scientific, work on how to interview and make the best experience possible. To use Tony's scene really send the image home.
    I'll try to be more like this with all my studies.

  • @kyrareneeLOA
    @kyrareneeLOA Месяц назад

    Oh man, I am so glad I stumbled upon this video. Sean is an amazing question asker. ❣ It is so interesting!

  • @HiddenLunarWings
    @HiddenLunarWings 4 года назад +627

    Basically just be bald. Bald guys have all the charisma.

    • @witchbitchgirl
      @witchbitchgirl 4 года назад +76

      That's the price you have to pay...

    • @alis7135
      @alis7135 4 года назад +13

      @@witchbitchgirl lmao that was on point 👌

    • @jusayalex
      @jusayalex 4 года назад +16

      Saitama made the right decision

    • @kirkjohnson9353
      @kirkjohnson9353 4 года назад +10

      Why are bald homeless guys such a rare thing?

    • @josephd53
      @josephd53 4 года назад +2

      Especially Seth Everman

  • @xingmenneigong
    @xingmenneigong 4 года назад +9

    I have a sarcastic dry sense of humour and it serves me well. I feel I need to change too much when I watch your videos. Causes me to over think, forget, then never say anything at all to people. Charisma comes through practice, intuition, empathy and a whole host of other skill sets learnt over time. To sum up your videos in one phrase "think outside the box", as cliche as that phrase is, it suits you perfectly. Stay confident, congratulations on your original RUclips channel and best of luck in the future.

    • @__-fi6xg
      @__-fi6xg 2 года назад +1

      I think everyone has His own Magic, at.least If you are good with communication.
      I conciously decide to be less social and its Just the part of me who wants to be alone from time to time. You either Accept me as i am or Not, i dont care.

  • @sweatiegonzalez9732
    @sweatiegonzalez9732 6 месяцев назад

    Sean is inspiring. I'll come back for inspiration any time I ever need to interview with anyone.

  • @nawwk79
    @nawwk79 2 года назад +1

    Being yourself and not bombarding your brain with all this "How To" videos is the best way to impress someone genuinely.

  • @calmman32
    @calmman32 4 года назад +4

    Little gratitude here, I have used your teachings on interviews, for my agents and team leads to help them make better connections. Thank you for sharing

  • @phoqueme
    @phoqueme 4 года назад +4

    The main reason this channel is awesome! For beginners or shy people, this is a great course and checklist, and for seasoned charisma veterans, you can still get some great tips for your own strategies. Very well spoken

    • @kirbylover37
      @kirbylover37 Год назад

      Beginners of social interaction? So babies?

  • @XinneH
    @XinneH Год назад

    thank u so much. watched this vid before making my interview questions. im using this knowledge for uni, for now.

  • @realityorfiction
    @realityorfiction 2 года назад

    I did the low light high lights question on a job interview, and it worked. I ended up getting the job. I has saved it for when the interview asked me if I had any questions .