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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2022
  • sorry this one is shit
    back in England in 2 weeks bby, I can't wait to wear my scarf and post content that doesn't look like it was filmed on a flip phone
    love you

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  • @oz6805
    @oz6805 Год назад +1935

    she articulates everything so well, she could say anything and i’d nod

    • @filippersson5256
      @filippersson5256 Год назад +4

      Anything i doubt that lol

    • @rexyz5875
      @rexyz5875 Год назад +13

      Shes like ben shapiro, rambles a lot but speaks nothing

    • @BLCKSMTHApparel
      @BLCKSMTHApparel Год назад

      She says a lot of words that mean absolutely nothing. The most basic self help middle class white girl

    • @BLCKSMTHApparel
      @BLCKSMTHApparel Год назад +3

      @@rexyz5875 spouts all this nonsense and basic self help shit like she isn’t dating central Cee. It’s not that deep

    • @BLCKSMTHApparel
      @BLCKSMTHApparel Год назад

      She waffles so much with the most basic middle class white girl self help tips

  • @Shailendra2819962
    @Shailendra2819962 Год назад +1254

    Imo she’s meant to be a communicator in life, as she’s very articulate, entertaining and motivated to speak. Love the bluntness and authenticity

    • @redouane2602
      @redouane2602 Год назад

      articulate i doubt that lol

    • @jwgaia
      @jwgaia Год назад +15

      @@redouane2602 articulate = able to communicate coherently

    • @aduhmbased
      @aduhmbased Год назад

      There was nothing said here. lol

    • @user-np8yf8fj2w
      @user-np8yf8fj2w Год назад

      @@aduhmbased yeah maybe that’s true if you’re stupid

  • @moreofvera
    @moreofvera Год назад +862

    That part about being just sensitive kid and people not knowing how to take care of sensitive kid hit too close to home. Made me realise some things so thanks a lot

    • @peacewrlddd
      @peacewrlddd Год назад +4

      so true

    • @slax4884
      @slax4884 Год назад +1

      Everyone that's going to be a good parent thinks they're going to be terrible parents. And the wing it brigade are the one that are bad parents

    • @laurenbates3759
      @laurenbates3759 Год назад +20

      right, whenever i cried i was sent to my room and i feel like my parents should have maybe talked it out with me and let me express my feelings

    • @moreofvera
      @moreofvera Год назад +9

      @@laurenbates3759 same!! whenever something was wrong/i was struggling as a kid they thought it's nothing and can't be that bad cuz being an adult is harder. but when you're a kid a lot of things seem bigger than they're are and parents should be compassionate and validate your feelings!! not ignore you and just say you're gonna be fine!

    • @1LYYVAL
      @1LYYVAL Год назад

      @@laurenbates3759 fr

  • @juanitavargas5915
    @juanitavargas5915 Год назад +415

    the amount of comfort i feel knowing that someone else has had the exact same emotions and thoughts as me is astonishing 😭

  • @tjemilua3724
    @tjemilua3724 Год назад +230

    23:00 onwards spoke to me in my core. Not wanting to mother a young child, not sure if you’ll end up with man, feeling like you’re most fulfilled alone just with great friends, low maintenance friendships because you practically thrive in solitude 💭 I could resonate so much

    • @OscarTheGrouch755
      @OscarTheGrouch755 Год назад +8

      “Most fulfilled alone with great friends” basically means she’s going to buy a dog and die alone. It amazes me that you don’t realize how horrible that actually sounds… it’s a recipe for depression, more trauma, and a lifetime full of regret once you get to a later age.
      Men and Women were put on this earth to pro create. That’s one of our biggest if not THE biggest purpose in our lifetime. Women aren’t going to be happy long term or fulfilled “being alone with great friends”. It’s been scientifically proven that most women derive happiness from having children and having a family.
      So unless shorty is just in a permanent hoe phase, or just hasn’t been able to lock down the right kind of man, she won’t be happy. She’s only happy for right now. And a lot of guys are going to be turned off by the fact that she’s content with just being lonely… “like ok this girl wants to be alone and is just content with having good friends, running up her body count, and not being in a committed relationship with a man long term? AND on top of that she doesn’t even want kids of her own? Red flag.”
      That’s exactly how guys think in their minds secretly. They just won’t ever tell you that to your face because they’re either a simp or they’re just trying to smash you and don’t want to fuck things up.
      I seriously hope shorty reevaluates her life decisions and which direction she wants to go in life. This sends a bad message to younger women.

    • @theresa7062
      @theresa7062 Год назад +4

      @@OscarTheGrouch755 Who said she’d be alone she could live with her friends at a later age. I’ve never been in a relationship or with anyone for that matter and when I think of it romantic relationships don’t look very fulfilling. I’d probably end up creating a chosen family/poly PLP and raising kids with my friends if they want too. Not everyone gets fulfilled with romance and that’s fine.

    • @midnightaesthetic3830
      @midnightaesthetic3830 Год назад +3

      @@theresa7062 true. We all have different choices. And no scientific thing could replace a human’s personal thoughts. Yes that misagony in our brain that we’re supposed to be with someone is still there. But it’s ur choice. Whatever you choose, I hope y’all are happy with it unconditionally. Either with children, with a loving partner or spending quality days with yourself ❤️. Periodt no more

    • @cookieking1996
      @cookieking1996 Год назад

      Everything she is saying is totally cap. Women especially are programmed to want to reproduce. Wait until she hits 40 and then has a crisis because she struggles to find a man who wants to have a baby with her

    • @mathis1083
      @mathis1083 Год назад

      @@OscarTheGrouch755I totally agree with you the fact that so many women think they will be happier without a husband and children genuinely scares me imo this generation is fucked

  • @kannaasano
    @kannaasano Год назад +125

    i love you girl. you just make me feel so calm and that’s so special 🫶🏼

  • @frankie51518
    @frankie51518 Год назад +286

    These podcast type videos calm me down so much more than the other fast talking shorts. Really enjoying these!

  • @0.abbi.0
    @0.abbi.0 Год назад +65

    It’s good to keep in mind that you can also be traumatised by things that didn’t happen to you. Like not being given the basic things you needed to function as a child and grow. A safe consistent place to sleep, food, attention, family not supporting your accomplishments, not being listened to. You don’t have to be physically abused as a kid to be traumatised. This worsens as a child gets older when they realise people around them had those things growing up when they didn’t. Why does everyone else get that and they don’t? What’s wrong with them?

  • @bethhanyy
    @bethhanyy Год назад +9

    this might be my fav episode so far, a lot of it rlly resonated w me & I loved hearing ur perspective on healing etc!

  • @Lintonz
    @Lintonz Год назад +91

    I love how comforting these podcasts are, even though some of the stuff isn’t relevant to me at all I love listening. You really are a great talker, very suited to this solo podcast style. Keep them up and hope you’re good!

  • @sophiaellenn
    @sophiaellenn Год назад +54

    the trauma thing makes so much sense, although i have 2 main things that caused me trauma i always feel like there is more to it and things i dont know about that have caused me trauma but the little things we subliminully pick up on can definately affect us

  • @matildawall1679
    @matildawall1679 Год назад +9

    Listening to this made for the best bus ride to college, your ramblings are so relatable and calming

  • @tayconde_
    @tayconde_ Год назад +30

    I love how you're able to express everything on your mind, I could listen the whole day, pls keep making these 💕

  • @blaaaahhbleeh3194
    @blaaaahhbleeh3194 Год назад +59

    this is like therapy for me honestly. i love u so much, never stop with these podcasts i beg

  • @chloenicole6434
    @chloenicole6434 Год назад +42

    I enjoy listening to you ramble, very calming

  • @BeautyFashionandMe
    @BeautyFashionandMe Год назад +25

    I just listened to this while making cinnamon rolls and had the best time ever I was so invested please never stop sharing every single thought that enters your brain with us

  • @ali-py7yy
    @ali-py7yy Год назад +13

    I’m always so happy when u post new videos 🤍 they always make my mood so much better 😭

  • @rubydelahunt9297
    @rubydelahunt9297 Год назад +16

    my god??? the thing you said about accumulating small traumas due to sensitivity as a child just completely broke my brain. this is completely me!! thank you madeline!!

  • @louisefox361
    @louisefox361 Год назад +139

    Timestamps for my future self:
    0:37 Sisterhood
    1:30 school w sibling
    3:17 - 3:50 knife story
    ‐----
    4:47 thoughts on getting a pet
    5:32 previous pet
    ----
    6:20 experience being in New Zealand
    7:02 new friendships/how friends can affect your behaviour
    ---
    9:32 going to a garage as a woman
    12:32 - 19:00 therapy/childhood
    19:00 thoughts on healing from trauma/cutting people off
    21:59 raising a child
    24:33 friendships

  • @Avam100
    @Avam100 Год назад +18

    Girl you are my new favorite podcaster so easily!! You’re so amazing ❤

  • @anna-isabel
    @anna-isabel Год назад +39

    i live for these, i do. don’t you dare to ever stop posting.

  • @andrewa7405
    @andrewa7405 Год назад +9

    Madeline’s voice is like idk how to describe it but so Lovely In a comforting way

  • @annaohashi8568
    @annaohashi8568 Год назад +39

    My core memory of my playground is eating any plants I deemed edible. I ate everything. Blueberries, mint leaves, rosemary…I miss that.

    • @86aidan31
      @86aidan31 Год назад +8

      I’d just eat leaves on the playground. Not mint or anything, just random leaves.

    • @gingerape707
      @gingerape707 Год назад +5

      @@86aidan31 There was a kid at my school who used to eat the tiny stones off the playground and got everyone else doing it so eating stones had to be banned

  • @anna-isabel
    @anna-isabel Год назад +45

    i love this woman with my whole heart

  • @Danvichie98
    @Danvichie98 Год назад +23

    i think some people can do healing in a community setting but you mentioned you’re more inclined to solitude, i’m like that and i think it’s a quality that i like about myself. however when i go through dark periods, the shadow side to that character trait does lead to pushing people away without even being consciously aware. there’s this tendency to complain about my isolation and feel lonely whilst also sabotaging my only chances of connecting with people, my chances of commune and letting others connect with whatever grief and heaviness i’m holding onto. cos the thing about healing with people is, you actually kinda have to be with people and like let them really see you unhinged and vulnerable, ugly and tainted with grief. most people will see perceive it anyway tbh but to make the active choice of handing someone that part of you to sit with and observe and lull into dormancy. that’s something i’m yet to have the balls to do i think. and its scary that idea of going through something horrible and feeling like the only one on the outside but there are people that will be present with what you have and i have to be realistic on where i sabotage myself in that and take the seemingly easy route of attempting to piece myself together again on my own

    • @julez7661
      @julez7661 Год назад

      I can't even express how much I relate to this 😶‍🌫 good to know I'm not alone

  • @leiimiguel1544
    @leiimiguel1544 Год назад +5

    I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I COULD CRY AT THE INTENSITY OF IT! 😭💗.

  • @ali-py7yy
    @ali-py7yy Год назад +2

    I love the way u talk about things and the way u tell stories and explain everything 🤍🤍

  • @hayleyscarlett3290
    @hayleyscarlett3290 Год назад +2

    Literally you said so much that helped lol I jotted down notes for therapy ❤ thank you for being vulnerable and honest

  • @chok3m3
    @chok3m3 Год назад +10

    wow. your perspective on everything seems so grounded. I never want kids because I also worry about bringing them into chaos. But everything you said was agreeable and I enjoyed listening, thank you ❤️

  • @bijanlove8000
    @bijanlove8000 Год назад +7

    This always feels like a facetime :) These are the best

  • @ml37856
    @ml37856 Год назад +3

    it’s crazy how i was having this realization again this past week and then you post a video about it

  • @jessloudixon
    @jessloudixon Год назад +11

    ‘You acted like a child who was responding to exactly what was in front of you’ that just healed my inner Child self

  • @marly2.080
    @marly2.080 Год назад +9

    this was more healing and more validating than any psychotherapist I’ve ever went to

  • @kpopff
    @kpopff Год назад +7

    I absolutely love this little podcast 😭

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall Год назад +45

    The whole hidden trauma part was so interesting to think about! Listening to you speak is like having a conversation with myself, I LOVE IT

  • @brittloyen9962
    @brittloyen9962 Год назад +1

    the way how this just described my whole mental well-being and thought process. you read me without even knowing me, holy shit

  • @fayetopias
    @fayetopias Год назад +3

    this is the first video i’ve ever watched from your channel and i’ve never felt more seen. i can relate with 100% of this video

  • @Carlosediaz543
    @Carlosediaz543 Год назад +72

    This was entertaining. This podcast definitely wasn’t shit, generally enjoyed it. The perceptive story is huge, that totally make sense. Our life experiences, are really based on how we perceive things

  • @mazzyt490
    @mazzyt490 Год назад +8

    That trauma thing you mentioned just clicked with me. I was always told as a child that I was my mature for my age as I was able to perceive adult conversations so as a child i was aware of the disparities in my life.

  • @hannah1444
    @hannah1444 Год назад +1

    I would listen to the unfocused camera podcast too! i love how honest you are it's the nicest thing to hear

  • @avasmth
    @avasmth Год назад +51

    I would literally pay money for her to be my older sister

  • @erikaarroyo6215
    @erikaarroyo6215 Год назад +1

    I am in my car watching while I haven’t been home in over 12 hours.love this

  • @mmissmodular
    @mmissmodular Год назад +35

    FYI, an indoor cat is totally fine, they're v happy if they have enough toys and a windowsill, or a friend. u should get one :)

  • @xosuranneleigh
    @xosuranneleigh Год назад +1

    you help me so much with my mental health i love u so much idk what id do w out your vids

  • @S3khm3t._
    @S3khm3t._ Год назад +6

    i understand completely. postpartum depression was so difficult for me; i wouldn't wish it on anyone

  • @y4nic519
    @y4nic519 Год назад +9

    the unconscious trauma point is so valuable. thank you for sharing this!

  • @Ziggywooo
    @Ziggywooo Год назад +4

    these videos are so comforting

  • @june8436
    @june8436 Год назад +6

    Spring is a bit hit and miss in NZ, especially Auckland, we're a subtropical climate so it's very humid and can be very wet! January-March is very hot and we have a drought every summer

  • @KeyBoard-io8nl
    @KeyBoard-io8nl Год назад +5

    Thank you for sharing all those very touching stories, and the warm goodbye was really really magic. Thank you ❤

  • @babadabahp
    @babadabahp Год назад +3

    she just be speakig her mind, and I just be learning new things from her stories

  • @chantalirvine
    @chantalirvine Год назад +9

    new zealand is notorious for having 4 seasons in one day :)

  • @sophiaellenn
    @sophiaellenn Год назад +1

    these podcasts are my favourite things

  • @akapeegly6463
    @akapeegly6463 Год назад +126

    ik this sounds so odd, but seeing her gives me hope of finding a good girl in the future. this girl is truly just different from anyone ive ever seen online or offline and thefact ppl like her exist warms my heart. she truly is peak human😭

    • @hiskarma
      @hiskarma Год назад +21

      this is beautiful bro. love it when ppl give each other hope

    • @user-np8yf8fj2w
      @user-np8yf8fj2w Год назад +7

      A good girl? Wtf do you mean lol she’s just talking about very normal things

    • @akapeegly6463
      @akapeegly6463 Год назад +10

      @@user-np8yf8fj2w funny, smart, charismatic, entertaining, self made, very good at giving a point across, its not the things she dows, its how she does them lol, she seems peaceful af idk how to explain

    • @recall2880
      @recall2880 Год назад +3

      Don’t talk daft. She’s just an ordinary girl like everyone else

    • @paigetaylor5226
      @paigetaylor5226 Год назад +1

      @@recall2880no she’s not, she’s special

  • @davidyunghans3569
    @davidyunghans3569 Год назад +4

    its crazy how similar people can be even when growing up thousands of miles apart. Also, four videos and a 100k+ subs, crazy; great job!

  • @user-qk2th5gr3d
    @user-qk2th5gr3d Год назад +6

    ur so real. it's so rare for me to see other women wanting to be alone

  • @christinahustead
    @christinahustead Год назад +2

    Everytime I watch theese podcasts i learn smth new about myself

  • @issy..
    @issy.. Год назад +2

    This probably sounds literally so weird but I want to be your friend so bad I love watching these podcasts because they're so uniquely relatable

  • @florence2345
    @florence2345 Год назад +5

    Love how her friends just chilling in the back 😂

  • @_BrianFitz
    @_BrianFitz Год назад +1

    Looking forward to seeing more content from you when you're back in England! Keep up the great work.

  • @Lillyschrodter
    @Lillyschrodter Год назад +4

    No cause the whole therapist talk has made me have a self realisation lmao.

  • @Grace-it5vi
    @Grace-it5vi Год назад +1

    SO much sense was spoken in this video. Thank you

  • @meznabatool3304
    @meznabatool3304 Год назад +5

    The trauma thing was soo relatable

  • @domclegg1225
    @domclegg1225 Год назад +6

    i fucking love this podcast please never stop

    • @domclegg1225
      @domclegg1225 Год назад +2

      but pleasefor the love of god put it on spotify!!!!!!!!!

  • @elohoukwade9293
    @elohoukwade9293 Год назад +1

    lmaooo i felt that temporarily being a better version of yourself 🤣

  • @alyssah2839
    @alyssah2839 Год назад +3

    I need to find a better therapist. It's amazing how the right one can make such a difference.

  • @user-kz7pe8di7e
    @user-kz7pe8di7e Год назад +6

    About the traumatic thing. My mum and dad were both depressed when I was born (ironic huh) and now that my mental health is showing a lot as a teenager, my therapist told me "So you feel the need to be good at everything or you'll let everyone down". And she told me how I'm probably depressed and so perceiving because I had to walk on eggshells around people and got better at noticing behavior at a young age and it weighed on me since I was 6 till now

  • @nickiTheAwsome
    @nickiTheAwsome Год назад +19

    Me staring at the person in the background 😂

  • @ali-py7yy
    @ali-py7yy Год назад +3

    ur videos always make me feel comfort 😭

  • @Usere3456
    @Usere3456 Год назад

    Seeing u happy has become my fav thing

  • @cbrown8148
    @cbrown8148 Год назад +20

    She really knows how to express herself and is so eloquent.

  • @santana4428
    @santana4428 Год назад +1

    Why did you just made my whole life make sense

  • @zitaridgett
    @zitaridgett Год назад +3

    I love how her friends just chilling in the back of the car😂😂😂

  • @claudia2053
    @claudia2053 Год назад +5

    I hear that they make sunscreen for your scalp now like in powder form. Maybe that could help with the scalp sunburn next time? Have a great rest of your trip!!

  • @zoezelada772
    @zoezelada772 Год назад +4

    this was healing

  • @Hannah-kg
    @Hannah-kg Год назад +5

    The needs of the day have been met, back to bed it is.

  • @Recyclable89
    @Recyclable89 Год назад

    You and kennedy walsh are my alpha sigma grind inspiration

  • @websssss
    @websssss Год назад +1

    literally my fav person ever

  • @veronicadredd22
    @veronicadredd22 Год назад +7

    The random NPC casually doing what they do in the backgrund

  • @annabelletiller1150
    @annabelletiller1150 Год назад +2

    the thing about "community healing" is so true

  • @bimbozo5652
    @bimbozo5652 Год назад +1

    More podcasts please I am obsessed

  • @delonejuanderer
    @delonejuanderer Год назад +4

    As a younger sibling who was 🤞 growing up with my older sister, our relationship turned sour because I was shoved up her ass before coming my own person which I'm only now exploring as a 27 y/o man. I recommend keeping space between you and her since SHE MOVED AWAY, I doubt she wanted you to tag along or want you to convince her to move home. Learn how to become yourself with out her. Not saying to lose touch but yall both are your own person now and need to respect each other's lives. Just my two cents since me and my sister can no longer stand each other.

  • @kayleahsmith3935
    @kayleahsmith3935 Год назад

    Ugh I love you. Fr the only reason I come on RUclips

  • @y9__
    @y9__ Год назад +1

    I love ur podcast smmmm

  • @aliciadavie991
    @aliciadavie991 Год назад +1

    girl it's spring here it rains like every single day you should've come in summer when it's dry and hot af

  • @m4deleines
    @m4deleines Год назад +7

    nz weather isn’t normally this bad like last year november was so hot and sunny 😭

    • @FakAmerica
      @FakAmerica 11 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah it’s all over the place aye

  • @andrewma9975
    @andrewma9975 Год назад +1

    That was the single most validating thing I heard in my entire life 😅

  • @gingerape707
    @gingerape707 Год назад +3

    Everything you say is either what my brain says or what my brain needed to hear

  • @julianblair4764
    @julianblair4764 Год назад +2

    oh my god I can listen to her for hours

  • @Isaiqhhh
    @Isaiqhhh Год назад +2

    Madeline you should look into free roaming a rabbit as a pet!!

  • @fletcher447
    @fletcher447 Год назад +1

    this has got to be my favourite episode yet !!

  • @sashah-elabd
    @sashah-elabd Год назад +1

    i’m begging for you to put this in spotify rn

  • @christoforobarra875
    @christoforobarra875 Год назад +1

    I love this message. I also have a few screws loose, socially. How is anyone supposed to fix a social problem in isolation? Of course this is a better way

  • @avasmth
    @avasmth Год назад +2

    omg I’ve never agreed with something more in my life about the having a trauma u can’t remember cuz I function as a person who has had a bunch of trauma but literally nothing happened to me

  • @dougburke7249
    @dougburke7249 Год назад +2

    I used to use a voice recorder to get all my thoughts out when I was your age, now they have youtube and the whole world can watch you work your thoughts out.

  • @Kevin-nr7zf
    @Kevin-nr7zf Год назад +1

    man, this was really helpful

  • @tiames9800
    @tiames9800 Год назад +1

    I think you should watch some of Gabor mate’s interviews and lectures about childhood trauma/parenting !! love u🫶🏼

  • @nikolawojcikiewicz1645
    @nikolawojcikiewicz1645 Год назад +1

    you're literally my therapy

  • @pixiebeanx
    @pixiebeanx Год назад +2

    If you search for a cat that prefers being inside, there are some cats that would despise being outside! Alot of shelters will specify this in the profiles of the animal xo

  • @oz6805
    @oz6805 Год назад +1

    this is all i look forward to

  • @kayalima
    @kayalima Год назад +6

    Is that central cee in the back😭