This video deflated a lot of pent up pain in my soul’s nucleus. I think I dislike therapy rn because I’m tired of talking especially after extensive inner talk. Listening did more improvements than explaining or showing. Thanks for being vulnerable, it helped me localize and connect.
i also hate therapy right now and i quit after 6 years because it’s not serving me anymore, doesn’t mean i’m fixed but it means i’ve just taken a step back
@@shelleylyme6402 i’m not promoting stopping therapy i’m just saying i love what she’s saying and how she talks about her feelings and that’s what worked for me
When you grow up seeing chaos in your environment, you eventually seek chaos without knowing. You might call this “passionate love/romance”. A relationship that’s calm and secure (called “boring”) feels unwelcoming or wrong, maybe something to fear because your brain is registering it as a “lack of love”. You ask yourself “where’s the passion? Do they not love me?”. They do. You’re simply used to chaos and pain masquerading as love.
Came back to this video since the break up. And this video makes a lot of sense after the context she gave with Alex Cooper. 100% around the time her and Central Cee were having problems toward the end of their relationship. I feel so bad for her… it sounds like she really tried to love him but his argument style was harsh and full of gaslighting. But like she said, it’s not her responsibility to stay with them. I hope she’s able to grieve, heal and move on happily into a new season in her life 💖
this is so healing and comforting to know that someone has been through the same thing I did:( thank you so much this video helped me a lot with my anxiety
i have never felt so heard ever. like i feel like i've needed someone else to tell me that toughing through hard times with others isn't a requirement as a form of validation that i'm not the only person who feels this way. your videos stay coming at the right time xx
This is a wonderful video, reading the comments felt so bittersweet as well. Knowing so many people have gone through the same thing as you have is eye opening and very grounding, but also incredibly sad to read. Well, look at us now! Until next week Madeline
Madeline I thought I was crazy too when I had a similar partner that kept convincing me I was things that were completely normal were wrong. I lost my mind and started doubting myself and thought I was a hypocrite. I kept thinking what my partner would say and he would just find the most outrageous and random bad things to say about me and kept gaslighting me. Anyway great video!!
Gaslighters are the worst types of people and I'm sorry you went through that. It's dangerous when someone tries and tells you who you are. It makes you feel crazy.
at 20:00 that doesn't sound like they hate you, that sounds like gaslighting and i think it's much deeper than just hatred. obviously idk because i wasn't in the relationship but that sounds so scary, proud of you for getting out!
Whoa, this video hit me right in the feels! 🙌🔥 You, my friend, have unlocked the secret to turning fighting into a currency of love. 🌪💔 Just listening to you brought more improvements than any explanation or demonstration ever could. 🎧✨ Your vulnerability had me feeling localized and connected, like we're in this emotional rollercoaster together. Thanks for being real and showing me that there's power in opening up. 🌟💪 This video is an absolute gem that deserves to be shared far and wide. Let's hit that like button, fam, and spread the wisdom and creativity that you've brought to the table! 🙏💙
i needed this- the timing is insane cos im fighting so much and my partner has literally emotionally cut off and we don't even talk like a couple anymore and he acts like he doesnt care like wtf???
madeline can u make a vid abt ur life story. like everything beginning to end, because i find u so interesting and the way u view things is so unique and i want to know what lead u to have this perspective on things.
the timing is crazyyyy cos i be fighting/giving sm in a relationship rn and my partner has been giving me nothing and i just dont want to be the only one fighting for love
It's not discussed enough the ability of people to make you think you're crazy or have a disability. A good friend of mine had an incredibly complex relationship with her father, but he had her questioning if she was autistic (she has been tested is not, and her dad is an asshole) More importantly, the ability to make that outsider thought to associate himself with a disability
Your such an amazing person I really love your videos I really hate people that cheat it is so bad to do I mean if you wanna sleep around don’t be in a relationship right? Your honesty so beautiful:) xxx
Literally, I was in this situationship. This girl and I met and it was instant connection. Later i found out we go to the same Uni, and the first 3 weeks it was going good until all of the sudden. She stonewalls me and then flakes on me. I was so surprised cause the next day. She sends me along paragraph stating that She had "resented me and our conversations all along." I was so confused because to my recollection she was engaging as much as I was we mutually made plans and weeks go by I feel our connection deepening and deepening And I remember us having genuine conversations that felt effortless and came naturally whenever we'd hang out-- About life, sexuality, childhood trauma, mental health. Our humour was amazing and I got to share a lot about me that I usually never share to anyone. I was getting to know her too on a personal level, she had asked a lot about me and I asked the same questions back Until this girl just cut if off suddenly and basically, felt like the narrative was completely rewritten from her end and just left me in the dark. And Im still grieving from that but tbh I know I got a lot of love to share and sometimes, some people cant handle that kind of love. Sometimes, they get scared and resort back to their own cycles. Anywayssss So yeah this podcast made me feel LESS alone so ty ty❤
the reason (most) friendships are a walk in the park and romantics are the opposite is because they are the second closest in terms of intensity to your parental relationships and that’s where the work is, they cause trauma and triggers to resurface. love is difficult and painful sometimes because if you’re actively trying to both heal old wounds, you’re working through years of conditioning on both ends. BUT it should not be abusive. that’s unacceptable. however authentic love isn’t always going to feel like peaches and cream, that unrealistic expectation comes from movies and the happily ever after programming. love is an active choice.
Hi. I am your subscriber in South Korea. I wonder if you write a script before shooting. Seeing you speak so naturally makes me think, 'You're really good at expressing yourself.' I always support your future. Thank you for your RUclips channel.🥰
Myself am 37 years old, together with my wife 16 years (married 6). Have 2 children. We sure have our ups and downs, its part of life and an relationship. And its really important that you can accept this in a relationship. Never ever will a relationship be perfect all the time. This is why probably so many couples shut their relationship, in seek of getting that thrill all over again. But then realise they hit the same dead spot again. iff i hear younger girls talk about men, i cant helpt but wonder how everything became so complicated on both sides. Its not science you know. You need to keep putting effort in each other, otherwise your doomed to fail and it will brake your relationship. I think, you are all over thinking everything. I dont know iff it is because people are to insecure. Or that in these days they lack mental toughness. Or that it all starts with not having the basic norms and values when meeting other human beings. I hope you will find a partner that can show it can ben really "normal" to be together without ever being toxic.
Had a toxic relationship a bit ago. So relatable. Got addicted to his love bombing after the worst fights, would always forgive them even i shouldnt...
6 minutes in and I haven’t heard you express any compassion or understanding for the other. You’re right, they have trauma. Often both sides. And it’s the lack of understanding of that inner child in one another that can be so destructive
no se ingles y esto se siente como escuchar musica de rap, ella habla tan rápido pero de igual manera me tiene aquí viendo el video entero sin entender absolutamente nada
I've never felt more heard by a youtube video! The narrow-mindedness of some people amazes me. I know what you mean about them always thinking you have ill-intentions and hating everything to say and do! And then you start to think you are crazy and misreading every situation. edit: "a projection of their fears onto you" - sounds like exactly what is happening here!
19:18 this is literally spot on how my dad makes me feel like literally i thought i was actually like smth was wrong w me and i literally thought i might be neodivergent or smth because he literally made me feel like there was smth rlly wrong w me like at first i always ignored him but at a certain point i actually like started being like is he right thoo??? and it confused me smmm 💀
That makes me wonder… IsAll The Boys I Loved Before, a trauma bond relationship? With all the blow-up’s they have, then thinking ‘we’ll be forever together’ after its fixed ‘bc we are strong together.’ It gives those vibes, right
I am a Japanese who is planning to study in Canada in December. It is wonderful to be able to study English while watching videos of such beautiful people. I look forward to it every time.
Hey Madeline, you talk a lot of great stuff about politeness and how to deal with situations, If I see or hear someone sneeze I think it’s correct to bless them as I did you, I think it’s expected and fair to receive a thank you?
good job for getting out of that shit my mom did not when she was younger and now we're all dealing with a piece of i don't even know what tbh this shit is dangerous for real wouldn't wish it on anyone
This video deflated a lot of pent up pain in my soul’s nucleus. I think I dislike therapy rn because I’m tired of talking especially after extensive inner talk. Listening did more improvements than explaining or showing. Thanks for being vulnerable, it helped me localize and connect.
ur so right im at the exact same place
i also hate therapy right now and i quit after 6 years because it’s not serving me anymore, doesn’t mean i’m fixed but it means i’ve just taken a step back
Say that again?? 🙄
@@shelleylyme6402 huh
@@shelleylyme6402 i’m not promoting stopping therapy i’m just saying i love what she’s saying and how she talks about her feelings and that’s what worked for me
When you grow up seeing chaos in your environment, you eventually seek chaos without knowing. You might call this “passionate love/romance”.
A relationship that’s calm and secure (called “boring”) feels unwelcoming or wrong, maybe something to fear because your brain is registering it as a “lack of love”.
You ask yourself “where’s the passion? Do they not love me?”. They do. You’re simply used to chaos and pain masquerading as love.
exactly
wow i didnt know this
i’m telling my therapist this
Came back to this video since the break up. And this video makes a lot of sense after the context she gave with Alex Cooper. 100% around the time her and Central Cee were having problems toward the end of their relationship.
I feel so bad for her… it sounds like she really tried to love him but his argument style was harsh and full of gaslighting. But like she said, it’s not her responsibility to stay with them. I hope she’s able to grieve, heal and move on happily into a new season in her life 💖
31 minute break from my mental breakdown thanks for doing what crisis lines can't madz hun
You will overcome that 💗
this is so healing and comforting to know that someone has been through the same thing I did:( thank you so much this video helped me a lot with my anxiety
This is a brilliant topic to discuss. We look forward to your videos. They're very insightful.
Prepared some tea with biscuits and grabbed my Paddington bear 🧸 ready to engage in today’s discussion 😊
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mads podcast is literally my entire life like i cannot physically live without this im so serious
yall have no idea how fast i pressed this
faster than it took my brain to process anything else other than madelines face :))
Real
Hi i am a big fan of you @Krish9423
@@jieun4543 HAHAHHHAAH HELP
I might know how fast
i have never felt so heard ever. like i feel like i've needed someone else to tell me that toughing through hard times with others isn't a requirement as a form of validation that i'm not the only person who feels this way. your videos stay coming at the right time xx
ruclips.net/video/J78PaTJcJj0/видео.html
Hope you love this video of a young man
ur videos mean so much to me. i love the human condition!!! suffering go brrr but so does childlike wonder
This is a wonderful video, reading the comments felt so bittersweet as well. Knowing so many people have gone through the same thing as you have is eye opening and very grounding, but also incredibly sad to read. Well, look at us now! Until next week Madeline
Madeline I thought I was crazy too when I had a similar partner that kept convincing me I was things that were completely normal were wrong. I lost my mind and started doubting myself and thought I was a hypocrite. I kept thinking what my partner would say and he would just find the most outrageous and random bad things to say about me and kept gaslighting me. Anyway great video!!
aww noo she was getting so consistent w the posts but it’s been 3 weeks 💔💔
I love your vids they literally became a therapy session for me
Gaslighters are the worst types of people and I'm sorry you went through that. It's dangerous when someone tries and tells you who you are. It makes you feel crazy.
she dropped this video in such good timing, heard what I needed to hear, love you Madeline
You, my friend, are so uniquely alluring. Obsessed. So happy every time I see you’ve posted!
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at 20:00 that doesn't sound like they hate you, that sounds like gaslighting and i think it's much deeper than just hatred. obviously idk because i wasn't in the relationship but that sounds so scary, proud of you for getting out!
Smart, INCREDIBLY BEAUTIFUL, and super funny. Madz we love you
Ви з України?)
Whoa, this video hit me right in the feels! 🙌🔥 You, my friend, have unlocked the secret to turning fighting into a currency of love. 🌪💔 Just listening to you brought more improvements than any explanation or demonstration ever could. 🎧✨ Your vulnerability had me feeling localized and connected, like we're in this emotional rollercoaster together. Thanks for being real and showing me that there's power in opening up. 🌟💪 This video is an absolute gem that deserves to be shared far and wide. Let's hit that like button, fam, and spread the wisdom and creativity that you've brought to the table! 🙏💙
I love this girl she knows everything
Thank you. You make me self aware, as well as understood ❤️
she's charming and so smart. can't believe how young she is, but so wise!
this genuinely came out at the most perfect time wtf
love this feminine rage
My comfort person you are now! Appreciate making that video
omg this did so much for me this gave me words i didn’t have before
ur timing is perfect all the time
madeline ur podcasts keep me going
i needed this- the timing is insane cos im fighting so much and my partner has literally emotionally cut off and we don't even talk like a couple anymore and he acts like he doesnt care like wtf???
breakup babe
i want to physically be in your car with you talking and ranting and laughing and occasionally hearing the rain fall
Same
i’m so excited for the vlog xxx
I'M SO EXCITED FOR THE VLOG
madeline can u make a vid abt ur life story. like everything beginning to end, because i find u so interesting and the way u view things is so unique and i want to know what lead u to have this perspective on things.
i badly needed this rn!!
the timing is crazyyyy cos i be fighting/giving sm in a relationship rn and my partner has been giving me nothing and i just dont want to be the only one fighting for love
I listen to these every single day on the walk to work and now I can’t listen to anything else now
It's not discussed enough the ability of people to make you think you're crazy or have a disability.
A good friend of mine had an incredibly complex relationship with her father, but he had her questioning if she was autistic (she has been tested is not, and her dad is an asshole)
More importantly, the ability to make that outsider thought to associate himself with a disability
OOOO THIS IS SUCH A GOOD TOPIC
Lurve the revelation & girl you’re very brave
so true they can feel the energetic withdrawal when you detach
the way you just called me out on literally every boy I’ve dated ever oh my god.
ah that feeling when u realize you are over someone who had so much control over your own life & thoughts.. omg :
madelines getting poetic with these titles
Your such an amazing person I really love your videos I really hate people that cheat it is so bad to do I mean if you wanna sleep around don’t be in a relationship right? Your honesty so beautiful:) xxx
Literally, I was in this situationship.
This girl and I met and it was instant connection. Later i found out we go to the same Uni, and the first 3 weeks
it was going good until all of the sudden. She stonewalls me and then flakes on me. I was so surprised cause the next day. She sends me along paragraph stating that She had "resented me and our conversations all along."
I was so confused because to my recollection she was engaging as much as I was
we mutually made plans and weeks go by I feel our connection deepening and deepening
And I remember us having genuine conversations that felt effortless and came naturally whenever we'd hang out-- About life, sexuality, childhood trauma, mental health. Our humour was amazing and I got to share a lot about me that I usually never share to anyone. I was getting to know her too on a personal level, she had asked a lot about me and I asked the same questions back
Until this girl just cut if off suddenly and basically, felt like the narrative was completely rewritten from her end and just left me in the dark. And Im still grieving from that but tbh I know I got a lot of love to share and sometimes, some people cant handle that kind of love. Sometimes, they get scared and resort back to their own cycles. Anywayssss
So yeah this podcast made me feel LESS alone so ty ty❤
the reason (most) friendships are a walk in the park and romantics are the opposite is because they are the second closest in terms of intensity to your parental relationships and that’s where the work is, they cause trauma and triggers to resurface. love is difficult and painful sometimes because if you’re actively trying to both heal old wounds, you’re working through years of conditioning on both ends. BUT it should not be abusive. that’s unacceptable. however
authentic love isn’t always going to feel like peaches and cream, that unrealistic expectation comes from movies and the happily ever after programming. love is an active choice.
This video couldn't have come at a better time
Love should be an enduring choice you make for each other.
20:27 😂😂😂😂😂😂 SHE HAD EVERY REASON TO HATE HERSELF
Madeline just gets it she's gets it all WHEN YOU DONT CARE THEY COME BACK!
This was such food of thought
You’ll attract better in the future. Best wishes
Hi. I am your subscriber in South Korea. I wonder if you write a script before shooting. Seeing you speak so naturally makes me think, 'You're really good at expressing yourself.' I always support your future. Thank you for your RUclips channel.🥰
Myself am 37 years old, together with my wife 16 years (married 6). Have 2 children. We sure have our ups and downs, its part of life and an relationship. And its really important that you can accept this in a relationship. Never ever will a relationship be perfect all the time. This is why probably so many couples shut their relationship, in seek of getting that thrill all over again. But then realise they hit the same dead spot again. iff i hear younger girls talk about men, i cant helpt but wonder how everything became so complicated on both sides. Its not science you know. You need to keep putting effort in each other, otherwise your doomed to fail and it will brake your relationship.
I think, you are all over thinking everything. I dont know iff it is because people are to insecure. Or that in these days they lack mental toughness. Or that it all starts with not having the basic norms and values when meeting other human beings. I hope you will find a partner that can show it can ben really "normal" to be together without ever being toxic.
thank you. loved this video
the way i’ve virtually never related to anything more than the call thing in my entire life
i started watching u just today and i already love u
Had a toxic relationship a bit ago. So relatable. Got addicted to his love bombing after the worst fights, would always forgive them even i shouldnt...
she really opened my eyes with this and im honestly hurt i think my first lvoe didnt love me lol
6 minutes in and I haven’t heard you express any compassion or understanding for the other.
You’re right, they have trauma. Often both sides.
And it’s the lack of understanding of that inner child in one another that can be so destructive
i love these videos sm
Sometimes it’s good to practice lying. It’s a tough world it doesn’t deserve all we are and our truths, and I say this as a truthful person
no se ingles y esto se siente como escuchar musica de rap, ella habla tan rápido pero de igual manera me tiene aquí viendo el video entero sin entender absolutamente nada
NO BC THIS IS SO WEIRD BC SINCE YOU BEEN GONE HAD SAVED ME TOO I WAS SO OVER AFTER IT I LISTENED TO IT ON REPEAT FOR DAYS AND I WAS DONE
Mads could say anything and it would change my point of view I love her so much
how has madeleine been in this many relationships.. i’m the same age and have been in 1 situationship that destroyed me and that’s it😭😭
Aw Bless you Madeline, what a bad time to have to sneeze, do you get hayfever? 🤧
I've never felt more heard by a youtube video! The narrow-mindedness of some people amazes me. I know what you mean about them always thinking you have ill-intentions and hating everything to say and do! And then you start to think you are crazy and misreading every situation.
edit: "a projection of their fears onto you" - sounds like exactly what is happening here!
you described my relationship exactly, i need to get out omg.
I only started watching recently and I started binge watching same videos when I saw this I actually clicked so fast imnl 😭
U put into words how i feel
19:18 this is literally spot on how my dad makes me feel like literally i thought i was actually like smth was wrong w me and i literally thought i might be neodivergent or smth because he literally made me feel like there was smth rlly wrong w me like at first i always ignored him but at a certain point i actually like started being like is he right thoo??? and it confused me smmm 💀
Just someone who's fallen in love with you, the video was very good. Such a nice watch.
Wait I needed this
Bless you. Cute sneeze
I’ve never had someone hate me in a relationship but what you’ve been through sounds horrible. I hope you find your soul mate soon :)
& happiness within urself which is so underrated!
She got a man
Ur such a good influence
madeline w another banger
i just can’t imagine central cee actually sitting down and watching this whole video 😭😂
Cench is chill
Why is the grandma dying part so real
there is a third relationship type: one that wrecks you during the relationship and after the break up lol..
girl where is the vlog😩😩
I LOVE YOU MADELINE
That makes me wonder… IsAll The Boys I Loved Before, a trauma bond relationship? With all the blow-up’s they have, then thinking ‘we’ll be forever together’ after its fixed ‘bc we are strong together.’ It gives those vibes, right
Love 💕 this chick 🐥🐣, talkative.
LoL 😂😆
Fuck you car convos are so good!
6:21 LMAOO is no one going to talk about that
She Was snapping
please post something mother I watched your videos over and over again 😭
if a vid drops my day is going to be good
Ngl, I think I'm in love
I am a Japanese who is planning to study in Canada in December.
It is wonderful to be able to study English while watching videos of such beautiful people.
I look forward to it every time.
im canadian! i really hope you love it here when you come to study :D
頑張れ^_^
You should do a vid of standing up for yourself
I LOVE YOU
Hey Madeline, you talk a lot of great stuff about politeness and how to deal with situations, If I see or hear someone sneeze I think it’s correct to bless them as I did you, I think it’s expected and fair to receive a thank you?
My ears hearing your voice at the beginning😭😭😭
ugh i just look forward to you ever week
good job for getting out of that shit my mom did not when she was younger and now we're all dealing with a piece of i don't even know what tbh this shit is dangerous for real wouldn't wish it on anyone
like when you were describing that person i was like wait wtf the similarities are uncanny they all play the same game
girl when is the Spotify ver coming out 🤨🤨
YESSS A VLOGGG