'Don't prolong your pain' - thisss. I think as humans we constantly beat ourselves up over past mistakes just because we've become too comfortable with feeling bad about ourselves. You have to let it go sometimes.
letting go is the hardest part as well. i do the 5 second method where i count down from 5-1 until i no longer think about it before thinking of something else. also not berating myself for feeling that. also helps when you’re making excuses for procrastination on tasks.
I needed this!! I’ve been coming to terms with how I’ve been really shitty in one aspect of my life, something I thought I was past doing. It’s hard coming to terms with how it’s still something I struggle with, especially given how mindful I usually am, but I’m happy I’m feeling the guilt and regret of it now rather than never. I know I can be better, and realization is the first step in that.
I’m such a guilty person. Like someone’s nice to me and I feel bad. I FELT that when u said dw about them they’ll be fine. It’s soo true. Everyone’s looking inwards you’re only your own main character ❤ scary but when you come to terms with it you’ll be able to evolve
love this so so much because it resonates with what i have been going through recently. i keep punishing myself so much for the most minimal and humane mistakes and the thing about that is, you can't really grow out of shame. you grow out of love. you grow through loving yourself even if you make the worst mistakes, you know? yeah.
i always expect the world of other people and assume they are mature and sensible enough to never hurt me but they are just as small as me and have not fully grown to their full potential. the only person i can fully rely on to navigate this world is me, so letting everyone into my life without learning about them is never going to work out. i will never meet a perfect person so i need to be able to understand other people
I’ve always had a theory that when ur defending these people it’s becuase UR DEFENDING A TRAIT OF YOURSELF that you see in them!!! But u might not have that trait anymore and it’s okay to move on and let them fix that trait for themselves
i think it‘s not only about being well-rounded though why u might choose the wrong person , but also from trauma.. if u experienced a bad childhood and think it‘s normal to be treated this way ur gonna accept it in your relationships later on and it might take some time for you to find out that it‘s not right and why it has hurt u so bad..
love you so much i beat myself up so much over so many things and my anxiety starts to eat me up and i dont know how to control it even when people tell me its okay, but this really helped❤️❤️❤️
My ex boyfriend has been emotionally abusive and wouldn’t leave me alone. I recently reported him for harassment and showing up where i lived at my dorm late one night to rant about our relationship to the building managers. He did this in response to me blocking him after he texted the day of. I’m satisfied because I’ve started doing that “imaginary baby” thing, i remember this person is an adult and it’s more funny how a person can be so selfish and hurt others and expect everyone to keep playing their games. It’s more of a coping skill so I can find humor in a shitty situation and i don’t let the anger fester and consume me whole. I felt so guilty for dumping him until he began trying to “lovebomb” and manipulate me into getting back with him and blowing up when i refused to engage with his behavior and reminded him that he agreed to give me space and break up. I see him as a “baby” in that he’s an adult but is so emotionally dependent on people who never consented to be his therapist and then punishes them for not fitting needs he refused to communicate, much like a baby crying for food because it can’t speak. I like to think it’s not my job to fix someone who expects it but can’t properly communicate that they’re expecting that of you, and picking and choosing when you do.
I agree, it's so true. People are afraid of owning up to their mistakes and that's the difference between people who become better people and those who don't.
I also agree, but it can depend because not everyone will be aware of their mistake so they won't be able to hold themselves accountable. At least, not until the mistakes are highlighted.
Bro I hate the evil everywhere. The rudeness is closer than ever from not just my family but everywhere else in my life. Your awesome!!! Bless always ❤
the hot stove analogy is actually amazing. like u need to make mistakes to improve yourself, some people need a couple of stoves in order to know not to touch it, but you won't know its truly hot until you have done it at least once.
Creating healthy friendships and creating a healthy romantic relationship- these are 2 completely different things. Worlds apart because your romantic partner triggers you in so many ways your friends don’t plus if you have attracted partners who aren’t healthy for you, you need to make a shift, a true WANTED change to make this happen. And just like you say yourself- it’s a process
this video is very comforting, thank you Madeline💞! however it feels like you’re telling those words to yourself more than to us. like you’re trying to convince yourself
I love you videos so much. I am not an English speaker and I love practicing with you. Also I love the topic that you talk about and the way you are in general
To be honest, there are a few things wrong with such a rigid approach. We all have flaws. Certain things can never be fixed (like a hyper narcissistic person) but some other things can be fixed (like learning each other's love language). Couples therapy is a thing. Have a third person involved if needed. As long as your partner loves you and is not abusive, be kind to yourself and your relationship.
It baffles me to know that there are people out there that are actually incapable of taking responsibility for your actions. Like id rather you just take responsibility and try to tell me why you were justified rather genuinely believe youve done nothing wrong💀
these podcasts feel so much like a weekly catch up like just the bit about the car getting fixed is just its amazing edit: cuz like it’s been broken since last time you get what i mean
When you were talking about crying more about letting yourself get cheated on then them cheating on you this will not resonate with everyone but it did with me I completely understand what you’re saying and I went through that because when you self reflect on the situation entirely you have to take responsibility for your own actions and the reality is you are your own protector and sometimes when you’re in love you miss many signs and that is not to excuse what that person did to you is OK but it’s to remind yourself to keep your standards to keep your boundaries and to not let your vision get foggy for anyone
Because nine times out of 10 the matter of fact is they were showing you signs of who they were before the incident but you being in love didn’t see them and that is where the saying love is blind comes in don’t let anyone take your vision
@@Bigfoodhandl I also feel like when people miss red flags in others it’s not even the fact they’re in love with them it’s that a lot of the times humans fantasise over certain situations and people ect.. we fall for the best version of someone more than the reality of them. Everyone has the potential of being kind, loving ect but it can sometimes confuse our brains when a person is not always abusive and has shown us some sort of love because then our amazing fantasies of that person plus the kindness they’ve shown ignores all their negative traits as our brains fall for the potential.
Me with a needle phobia laughing and agreeing-I do make it so much worse than it has to be by putting up a fight against something that will not even actually harm me lol. It is a binary choice. I love the way you word things.
oh my god id love a drive with you just a driving video as you talked about anything or you went to a drive thru or literally anything that would be so fun
I have that strange thing going on, that I often get in the situation where I help someone - for example taking a stranger to hospital when injured and then they start texting me. I am ok having more good friends, but they just intend to date me. I refuse them, because I don't help people to get dates and they get hurt in the end. It actually feels bad knowing, that people are not used to kindness and expect that you fancy them if you do something nice for them.
Hi, Madeline and Happy Sunday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇬🇧💖💖💖💖💖💖🎇👍. These facts are incredible and the steps are so fantastic. I love it!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍. Also, I just turned 35 on my birthday last week. YAY!!😀💙🎂🎉🎇⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍
First off, let me applaud you for your honesty and transparency, truly impressive. When I was listening I thought of the ‘horseman and the horse’, the idea that the intelligent, rational ‘I’ (the horseman) tries to understand and control the irrational, emotional body (the horse). The horsewoman Madeline seems to have a lot of trouble leading her desirous horse and is befuddled why it wants to always take her in the wrong direction. But what if the ‘horseman and the horse’ is a distinction without a difference and you are more like a centaur? If the centaur is a better descriptor, then the battles you have in yourself are illusory and can’t be won. Maybe it’s more prudent to absorb life instead of always fighting it. BTW, after watching your video, I was fucking exhausted. (OK, I had to use your favorite word in at least one sentence! 😉)
I think that some mistakes are going to be made but avoiding obvious to reasonably avoidable ones is wiser than making them all. Predispositions are understandable but only until they are gone. Relying on such crutches should not be a lasting strategy and no excuses should be made if those predisposed can overcome the disadvantages.
I listened and really liked this topic, it feels on point. Really without mistakes, life remains the same and small and you don't know what you actually like or dislike. As for your shame mistake, do your best to let it go the universe and appreciate you are different now. Don't hold onto hot coals no more, your in a diff chapter XX 💜💜😊🙏
what podcast mic do you use madz? also i've been cheated on when i was 16 and i literally couldnt do anything about it also, there have been times where i've been naive/put shades on for red flags and not leaving early but that also comes ffrom living in a narcissist household and being completely different to my family / standing up to emotional abuse x
Haha £366 is a pretty good price to fix a car that seemed that hazardous. I recently went to the garage to get mine fixed because it goes into limp mode when too many revs are on it (3000+). Cost me £186 because they found a hairline crack in the coil pack but it didn't fix the limp mode issue 😭 I've tried doing a "phonic wheel reset" today and we'll see if that worked :s
6 juillet 2023, je n'ai pas réussi cette nuit du 5 juillet à rêver de vous. Certes madeline ne se trompe jamais. Mon rêve avait commencé, mais il s'est bloqué. Rêver aux deux adolescentes, comme ce fut l'une en 2021, l'autre en 2022, le rêve était ouvert dans la compréhension mutuelle. July 6, 2023, I did not succeed this night of July 5 in dreaming of you. Certainly madeline is never wrong. My dream had started, but it got stuck. Dreaming of the two teenage girls, as one was in 2021, the other in 2022, the dream was open to mutual understanding.
omg the dentist thing it was free for me bcs i have a condition but i refused to get my teeth taken out for a year because i would start panicking and crying.. i need to get another one soon and theres literally NO point in not getting it done
Madeline therapising us on a weekly basis > self-destructive tendencies out of sheer boredom
Even this comment sounds like boredom.
@@fernandochavez6449 boredom minus the self-destruction x
@@Asdf__. okay. All of the above.
She is nice but sometimes straight up narcissistic.
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idk why but these podcasts bring me so much comfort and like they make me feel like i am not alone. so thank youu !!
same
same!!
Sameee
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'Don't prolong your pain' - thisss. I think as humans we constantly beat ourselves up over past mistakes just because we've become too comfortable with feeling bad about ourselves. You have to let it go sometimes.
letting go is the hardest part as well. i do the 5 second method where i count down from 5-1 until i no longer think about it before thinking of something else. also not berating myself for feeling that. also helps when you’re making excuses for procrastination on tasks.
@@pixi3d3ath47 ty for technique!
she challenges my literal way of thinking and i love it
Same
genuinely obsessed w these podcasts, they’re always on topics i think about constantly. love u mad
Vauxhall/Opel ftw
I needed this!! I’ve been coming to terms with how I’ve been really shitty in one aspect of my life, something I thought I was past doing. It’s hard coming to terms with how it’s still something I struggle with, especially given how mindful I usually am, but I’m happy I’m feeling the guilt and regret of it now rather than never. I know I can be better, and realization is the first step in that.
DISCERNMENT does matter though. It's not about making mistakes, it's about having foresight to not MAKE those mistakes to begin with.
These podcasts are the highlight of my week
i love madeline she's so comforting
I’m such a guilty person. Like someone’s nice to me and I feel bad. I FELT that when u said dw about them they’ll be fine. It’s soo true. Everyone’s looking inwards you’re only your own main character ❤ scary but when you come to terms with it you’ll be able to evolve
love this so so much because it resonates with what i have been going through recently. i keep punishing myself so much for the most minimal and humane mistakes and the thing about that is, you can't really grow out of shame. you grow out of love. you grow through loving yourself even if you make the worst mistakes, you know? yeah.
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i always expect the world of other people and assume they are mature and sensible enough to never hurt me but they are just as small as me and have not fully grown to their full potential. the only person i can fully rely on to navigate this world is me, so letting everyone into my life without learning about them is never going to work out. i will never meet a perfect person so i need to be able to understand other people
I’ve always had a theory that when ur defending these people it’s becuase UR DEFENDING A TRAIT OF YOURSELF that you see in them!!! But u might not have that trait anymore and it’s okay to move on and let them fix that trait for themselves
Some of the things you said here are so specific to me. Feels like I was really supposed to see this. Thank you.
i think it‘s not only about being well-rounded though why u might choose the wrong person , but also from trauma.. if u experienced a bad childhood and think it‘s normal to be treated this way ur gonna accept it in your relationships later on and it might take some time for you to find out that it‘s not right and why it has hurt u so bad..
I'd kill for an everyday podcast
love you so much i beat myself up so much over so many things and my anxiety starts to eat me up and i dont know how to control it even when people tell me its okay, but this really helped❤️❤️❤️
My ex boyfriend has been emotionally abusive and wouldn’t leave me alone. I recently reported him for harassment and showing up where i lived at my dorm late one night to rant about our relationship to the building managers. He did this in response to me blocking him after he texted the day of.
I’m satisfied because I’ve started doing that “imaginary baby” thing, i remember this person is an adult and it’s more funny how a person can be so selfish and hurt others and expect everyone to keep playing their games. It’s more of a coping skill so I can find humor in a shitty situation and i don’t let the anger fester and consume me whole.
I felt so guilty for dumping him until he began trying to “lovebomb” and manipulate me into getting back with him and blowing up when i refused to engage with his behavior and reminded him that he agreed to give me space and break up. I see him as a “baby” in that he’s an adult but is so emotionally dependent on people who never consented to be his therapist and then punishes them for not fitting needs he refused to communicate, much like a baby crying for food because it can’t speak. I like to think it’s not my job to fix someone who expects it but can’t properly communicate that they’re expecting that of you, and picking and choosing when you do.
love this channel omg this is so refreshing hearing someone talk at me about the important stuff
This is my favourite video of yours. Definetely. I watch the ending often. I love you
I love these podcasts so much
i love these podcast and the topics u pic to talk abt are so relatable and somehow match what im going through atm thankyou! :)
Anyone can not be accountable to their actions and mistakes, its you who has to be willing to take responsibility. But most people aren’t.
I agree, it's so true. People are afraid of owning up to their mistakes and that's the difference between people who become better people and those who don't.
I also agree, but it can depend because not everyone will be aware of their mistake so they won't be able to hold themselves accountable. At least, not until the mistakes are highlighted.
LOVE LOVE LOVE
stan this
i love you so much, your podcasts help me
Bro I hate the evil everywhere. The rudeness is closer than ever from not just my family but everywhere else in my life. Your awesome!!! Bless always ❤
i look forward to sunday every week because of your podcasts oh my goshhh
the hot stove analogy is actually amazing. like u need to make mistakes to improve yourself, some people need a couple of stoves in order to know not to touch it, but you won't know its truly hot until you have done it at least once.
I want to say thank you. This spoke to me in a way that I needed to be spoken to.
This queen this car those seats the back ground gives me comfort. i know a youtube vid is your comfort?? yess yess it is f off 😭😭😭
Creating healthy friendships and creating a healthy romantic relationship- these are 2 completely different things. Worlds apart because your romantic partner triggers you in so many ways your friends don’t plus if you have attracted partners who aren’t healthy for you, you need to make a shift, a true WANTED change to make this happen. And just like you say yourself- it’s a process
Summary: hold accountability to whatever is holding you back, don’t feel bad about burning yourself on the stove too many time, keep moving.
Thanks seuss!
Just stop listening to her and LOOK AT HER OMG.... SHE'S LITERALLY SO BEAUTIFUL!
i hvae binged watched these podcasts for 2 weeks waiting for another episode to come out
this video is very comforting, thank you Madeline💞! however it feels like you’re telling those words to yourself more than to us. like you’re trying to convince yourself
I love you videos so much. I am not an English speaker and I love practicing with you. Also I love the topic that you talk about and the way you are in general
IT IS A BINARY CHOICE!!!!! EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN IT IS AN ILLUSION!!!!!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
To be honest, there are a few things wrong with such a rigid approach. We all have flaws. Certain things can never be fixed (like a hyper narcissistic person) but some other things can be fixed (like learning each other's love language). Couples therapy is a thing. Have a third person involved if needed. As long as your partner loves you and is not abusive, be kind to yourself and your relationship.
It baffles me to know that there are people out there that are actually incapable of taking responsibility for your actions. Like id rather you just take responsibility and try to tell me why you were justified rather genuinely believe youve done nothing wrong💀
these podcasts feel so much like a weekly catch up like just the bit about the car getting fixed is just its amazing
edit: cuz like it’s been broken since last time you get what i mean
When you were talking about crying more about letting yourself get cheated on then them cheating on you this will not resonate with everyone but it did with me I completely understand what you’re saying and I went through that because when you self reflect on the situation entirely you have to take responsibility for your own actions and the reality is you are your own protector and sometimes when you’re in love you miss many signs and that is not to excuse what that person did to you is OK but it’s to remind yourself to keep your standards to keep your boundaries and to not let your vision get foggy for anyone
Because nine times out of 10 the matter of fact is they were showing you signs of who they were before the incident but you being in love didn’t see them and that is where the saying love is blind comes in don’t let anyone take your vision
@@Bigfoodhandl I also feel like when people miss red flags in others it’s not even the fact they’re in love with them it’s that a lot of the times humans fantasise over certain situations and people ect.. we fall for the best version of someone more than the reality of them. Everyone has the potential of being kind, loving ect but it can sometimes confuse our brains when a person is not always abusive and has shown us some sort of love because then our amazing fantasies of that person plus the kindness they’ve shown ignores all their negative traits as our brains fall for the potential.
i’m obsessed with your podcasts! i always smoke a joint while listening to them :) you have such a calming voice
Me with a needle phobia laughing and agreeing-I do make it so much worse than it has to be by putting up a fight against something that will not even actually harm me lol. It is a binary choice. I love the way you word things.
That good on accountability and mistakes wow great
Tips too
Always so relatable and comforting . I just love u
oh my god id love a drive with you just a driving video as you talked about anything or you went to a drive thru or literally anything that would be so fun
Haven't watched the video yet but i know it's gonna be gooood
I enjoy listening her podcasts a little too much and agree 100%
I have that strange thing going on, that I often get in the situation where I help someone - for example taking a stranger to hospital when injured and then they start texting me. I am ok having more good friends, but they just intend to date me. I refuse them, because I don't help people to get dates and they get hurt in the end. It actually feels bad knowing, that people are not used to kindness and expect that you fancy them if you do something nice for them.
Skincare!!!! :) please. Just a description it's enough
She is so unhinged in the most honest and attractive way
I am a massive fan and listen and save everything!!! Your doing so good! Woo woop
please make a video about how to overcome the fear of being happy !! love ya
the amount of comments about women not taking accountability like bro why are you watching this if u hate women !
It's those red/sad/dumb/psycho pill freaks again coming from the mAnOsPhErE
Madeline serving us with amazing content once again!! 💕 We love to see it!!
not really she doesn't even saying that profound
@@rtt340 That's not the point of all this tho lmao
@@rtt340 well what would be profound to you 69Magnus69 ?
Hi, Madeline and Happy Sunday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇬🇧💖💖💖💖💖💖🎇👍. These facts are incredible and the steps are so fantastic. I love it!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍. Also, I just turned 35 on my birthday last week. YAY!!😀💙🎂🎉🎇⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍
thank you this really helped me to sort out my thouts and ware to take them in my head, again thank you.
“life is so short” but its the longest thing we experience
Thank you for speak your mind! You always make me feel better. Keep making these podcasts. Pls.
'there's nowhere else for me to go, so I continue to punish myself'
First off, let me applaud you for your honesty and transparency, truly impressive. When I was listening I thought of the ‘horseman and the horse’, the idea that the intelligent, rational ‘I’ (the horseman) tries to understand and control the irrational, emotional body (the horse). The horsewoman Madeline seems to have a lot of trouble leading her desirous horse and is befuddled why it wants to always take her in the wrong direction. But what if the ‘horseman and the horse’ is a distinction without a difference and you are more like a centaur? If the centaur is a better descriptor, then the battles you have in yourself are illusory and can’t be won. Maybe it’s more prudent to absorb life instead of always fighting it. BTW, after watching your video, I was fucking exhausted. (OK, I had to use your favorite word in at least one sentence! 😉)
My favorite weekly dose of big sis advice
Watching all the adds for this girlie
the freaking chokehold this woman has on me is unreal.
I just watched your recent video and here you are again, hell yeah
i get so happy when i see these on my home page
omgggg just listenend to ur last video in the train before and going to listen when i take the train back in a few hours :)
Couldn’t relate more, feeling like a normal person. I thought it was just me
She is naturally pretty :)
i love these weekly therapy sessions
I think that some mistakes are going to be made but avoiding obvious to reasonably avoidable ones is wiser than making them all.
Predispositions are understandable but only until they are gone. Relying on such crutches should not be a lasting strategy and no excuses should be made if those predisposed can overcome the disadvantages.
Weekly dose of empowerment Thankyou
YES MORE PODCASTS
Yasss queen another video XX I like the content and the distraction over my own thoughts 😊😊
I listened and really liked this topic, it feels on point. Really without mistakes, life remains the same and small and you don't know what you actually like or dislike. As for your shame mistake, do your best to let it go the universe and appreciate you are different now. Don't hold onto hot coals no more, your in a diff chapter XX 💜💜😊🙏
These are the highlight of the week
I LOVE U UR SO COOL U HAVE SUCH A COMFORTING VIBE
I love seeing u active
just finished binging all ur videos and I see this !!!!
what podcast mic do you use madz? also i've been cheated on when i was 16 and i literally couldnt do anything about it also, there have been times where i've been naive/put shades on for red flags and not leaving early but that also comes ffrom living in a narcissist household and being completely different to my family / standing up to emotional abuse x
this is my favorite video on the internet
I watch RUclips videos at 0.7x playback speed
thank you for always being right madeline - from another girl who is always right
Mental Health matters.
such entitlement! it's incredible and fascinatingly entertaining to watch
madeline when are you making the vlog channel
how tf is her skin so clear? I cant imagine being that clear as a man
Haha £366 is a pretty good price to fix a car that seemed that hazardous. I recently went to the garage to get mine fixed because it goes into limp mode when too many revs are on it (3000+). Cost me £186 because they found a hairline crack in the coil pack but it didn't fix the limp mode issue 😭 I've tried doing a "phonic wheel reset" today and we'll see if that worked :s
this episode was so amazing ily
Your podcast is matching my life rn
u are inspiring me to go back to therapy thank u
6 juillet 2023, je n'ai pas réussi cette nuit du 5 juillet à rêver de vous. Certes madeline ne se trompe jamais. Mon rêve avait commencé, mais il s'est bloqué. Rêver aux deux adolescentes, comme ce fut l'une en 2021, l'autre en 2022, le rêve était ouvert dans la compréhension mutuelle. July 6, 2023, I did not succeed this night of July 5 in dreaming of you. Certainly madeline is never wrong. My dream had started, but it got stuck. Dreaming of the two teenage girls, as one was in 2021, the other in 2022, the dream was open to mutual understanding.
omg Madeline you are enlightened
I dig your stuff.
I Love u for this video❤️
Nice content. I love you 💕😘 from💚💚🇵🇰
idol
Literally an older sister i wish i had❤
This is sooo important
👍
omg the dentist thing it was free for me bcs i have a condition but i refused to get my teeth taken out for a year because i would start panicking and crying.. i need to get another one soon and theres literally NO point in not getting it done
F Funny and so relatable at the same time