LA trip debrief and why I'm avoiding therapy - Podcast

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  • Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
  • explaining why im scared of seeing my therapist lately, why I felt silly in LA and talking shit on my ex's once again
    new upload day is Sundays and were back to weekly uploads baby. were almost on Spotify and apple, fingers crossed by next week it'll be on all platforms.
    love you thanks for being here

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  • @jinjunior4674
    @jinjunior4674 Год назад +827

    The comfort this podcast gives me is unmatched

    • @natalii8366
      @natalii8366 6 месяцев назад +1

      Literally 🩷 the way she simply says honestly what she feels and thinks makes me feel more and more confident in expressing what I feel and think

  • @emmaalman4041
    @emmaalman4041 Год назад +347

    If u think imma sit here for 20 mins listening to you talk about random bs, you are completely right.

  • @saraigonzalez5955
    @saraigonzalez5955 Год назад +360

    Why does she literally have my exact thoughts and it’s so comforting

    • @martaecala
      @martaecala Год назад

      yesss

    • @mariatheresa8462
      @mariatheresa8462 Год назад +1

      right??? i feel like she's a british better looking version of me like i don't think anyone's brain could be more like mine at this point

  • @ameerac4432
    @ameerac4432 Год назад +152

    one thing therapy has taught me is that no amount of perceived self awareness will tell you EVERYTHING about yourself. there is always something you’ll need to hear from someone else

  • @lovesicksis
    @lovesicksis Год назад +96

    i love madeleine sm, shes literally one of the only relatable people on the internet

  • @anna-isabel
    @anna-isabel Год назад +578

    you better have us not waiting that long next time 😤

  • @spacebrickz
    @spacebrickz Год назад +21

    i think the forgetting how much fun u have with people as soon as u leave them is a defence mechanism like ur brain makes u forget u felt love for them and be happy because it’s scared to get hurt so u don’t remember them making u feel a strong positive emotion, because that also means those same people could make you feel a strong negative emotion

  • @Thatsevie
    @Thatsevie Год назад +19

    I’ve never had a podcast which makes me feel so UNDERSTOOD like you just word everything that I can’t seem to perfectly verbally identify, I absolutely love and appreciate you and this podcast

  • @janetimney
    @janetimney Год назад +47

    I can relate sm to being so bad at responding to people through text/call and I often find myself thinking I don't need to hangout with anyone and I love being alone until I push it too far and get really lonely then hang out with people again and have sm fun and then I forget abt it and its a cycle

  • @cinnamonspider1
    @cinnamonspider1 Год назад +36

    STOPP IM SO HAPPY THAT YOU POSTED your podcasts are the most comforting thing ever im having a rlly hard time rn and they help so much ily

  • @isabelmae1397
    @isabelmae1397 Год назад +9

    I relate to almost everything you’ve said, especially about friends, relationships & texting. it’s actually so comforting knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way

  • @saxon681
    @saxon681 Год назад +37

    There is nothing wrong with you. You like your own space when you want it. Then when you feel like it, you want a cuddle and human contact. That sounds normal to me. Most people settle for being with someone full-time because a potential partner wouldn't accept the alternative. The urge to be alone with your own silence and then the flip side of that a day later is fairly common I would say. The issue as with most things is over analysing the detail. If you have an itch - scratch it. If you are thirsty - drink something. If you need human contact - reach out. If you don't need human contact - be content with yourself.

  • @jchvrch4269
    @jchvrch4269 Год назад +77

    These podcasts are worth the wait

  • @kikiswerld
    @kikiswerld Год назад +10

    ive NEVER been able to sit for a podcast but this one is just so comforting and down to earth. love the vibes.

  • @sherbvb
    @sherbvb Год назад +15

    The autism stuff, the living with other people, not knowing if wanting distance and low maintenance in relationships is a trauma response or just what you want as a person, and the therapist? How is she so real oh my god, so many things that I’ve thought but never said

  • @MillAdams
    @MillAdams Год назад +36

    Totally agree with the therapist thing… I get discharged because I say what they want to hear infact my last session she said ‘you can therapise yourself’ it was just purely false positivity. I did it when I was in like year 8, year 11 & in my twenties it’s horrifying how shit it is

  • @AA-qb7ni
    @AA-qb7ni Год назад +320

    Madeline is that girl you feel like you're friends with even though you don't know her at all 😂❤

  • @RyanAllThingsPossible909
    @RyanAllThingsPossible909 11 месяцев назад +2

    Listening to you I realize a top quality in a friend, for me, is someone who will leave me alone with no questions

  • @natalie0227
    @natalie0227 Год назад +9

    im so glad that i found someone who feels the same way about friends! i’m 21 and im just not feeling my close friends anymore & im always left out etc! but i love my own company more? but then being alone also makes me sad bcos i wanna spend time with friends! its so confusing 😭

  • @lilly-kk8kc
    @lilly-kk8kc Год назад +4

    this is so real. i am actually so scared to move out from my mums house because i love coming home to her and talking to her and sitting with her. being home is what truly makes me happy and i have no idea how to replicate that feeling when i move out. she is unmatched

  • @doubledeckyomom
    @doubledeckyomom Год назад +130

    This podcast literally gives me brain cells 😊

  • @kianazafshar2330
    @kianazafshar2330 Год назад +2

    i love you sm we literally have the same brain. also its so comforting to know other people have a fear of being sick, especially how you even hesitated at the word is so real. ily

  • @natashabaker4142
    @natashabaker4142 Год назад +8

    When you said I think I’m sad I’m still in my home town & living with my mum literally that’s what I’ve been feeling this past 2 weeks.
    You are not alone so many people have had to move back home I don’t know many renting especially not on their own.
    You are very self aware it’s refreshing honestly don’t think that you can’t grow at home because as a person just seeing the difference between the few months of your podcasts, you change more and more in good ways.
    Your videos are so helpful too. Feels like a free therapy session. I am a cancer ♋️ too, not that I over read into those things but I relate to my zodiac personality traits alot. Even the bad ones.
    I stopped therapy because l started lying to my therapist.
    I liked her and her dog too much so started to worry what she was thinking of me and also didn’t feel like her techniques were useful enough for me like my mum is a great listener so I didn’t need to pay a lot of money for a stranger to do that.
    Plus I’m quite self aware so I needed more helpful techniques for when I have to leave the house (I get anxious to put it mildly someone though I was having a seizure but off topic this comments already too long)
    Your therapist sounds incredible 😂
    I never moved away even for uni. Health meant I didn’t go but I’m looking at open uni now, (psychology if I can) possibly doing it from my parents home.
    Cannot afford rent already in debt and that’s with my partner. Who I probably shouldn’t have let manage the money, he has adhd so impulse spending is a thing but I wanted him to feel independent and I’m terrible at maths so yeah…learning.
    I moved out with my partner two years ago but just 15 mins up the road from my parents because I worry about my them even though they are fine I freak out about their health, our rescue dog & I don’t like how it’s the norm to move away and then come back when they are sick and end of life etc. I hate regrets.
    My mums like my best friend too. When it comes to calling people friends I completely understand what you mean.
    Also aware I haven’t been the best one recently. Anxiety has been bad and I struggle to leave the house always have since I was 5.
    I’m so bad with change to my routines and being out in public so it’s affected every friendship understandably.
    I stopped making plans because it was better than being the flakey friend. Time is valuable and I didn’t want to waste theirs.
    It’s made life quite lonely but like you I am happy in my own company and I’m not someone who gets bored easily at all.
    Having said that I am maybe having too much time alone with my own thoughts and I would like friends my own age.
    My partners 10 years older than me and we get along great but I would like girl friends. I am so closer to my sister I never felt the need to go and find close friends but I miss that ‘sisterhood’ .
    I don’t want a big group I’d just love to meet new people and have new POVs and someone to hold me accountable to my growth.
    Your podcast has been a godsend for that.
    I have you on whilst I clean and shit (not literally ) round the house. Been on my own for a few weeks so haven’t left the house (I don’t tend to without my partner or my mum. Something I need to find a good therapist for. These podcasts really have stopped me going stir crazy.
    Thank you Madeline x

  • @macselena5
    @macselena5 Год назад +5

    You re abreath of fresh air and the thing you said about the fact that we as humans aren t meant to even understand the concept of money is so true and eye opening. Keep going🌟

  • @franturner6308
    @franturner6308 Год назад +1

    i love how authentic and honest you are infront of a camera, just speaking your truth. Keep it up, because lately I have been sick of the toxic positivity online! Sending you love xx

  • @llailataylor
    @llailataylor Год назад +3

    you are literally the first person ive ever heard agree with my take on how much i want to be around my partner ima relationship. Like I am so “low - maintenance” in the sense that I just don’t feel the need or want to be around someone allll the time

  • @frankie51518
    @frankie51518 Год назад +4

    I’m probably a lot older than your normal demographic, but I just love your insights. You’re very introspective in the best way and your videos are very calming to me.

  • @v.jstans9222
    @v.jstans9222 Год назад +7

    I want the unedited version of your podcast, your chaotic mind is addicted🥰

  • @julialumina1615
    @julialumina1615 Год назад +1

    Love listening to your talk about literally anything.

  • @colettee2752
    @colettee2752 Год назад +7

    I just NEEDED a podcast from madeline rn

  • @y4nic519
    @y4nic519 Год назад +8

    your timing is golden

  • @dakotadanrivers
    @dakotadanrivers Год назад +10

    never met someone so relatable

  • @LaurenBrodauf
    @LaurenBrodauf Год назад +4

    new madeline upload god bless

  • @Alice-tr5fq
    @Alice-tr5fq Год назад +6

    omg you are speaking my thoughts when it comes to relationships, i HATEEEE texting and intense relationships and it's definitely to do with object permanence, if i'm alone i'm enjoying my alone time like i can't deal with the constant pressure to please another person 24/7

  • @shadysnapshot
    @shadysnapshot Год назад +4

    that ending was a cinematic masterpiece

  • @celrak7667
    @celrak7667 Год назад +5

    I saw you, in paris, from very far, but it was definitely a really nice moment

  • @Empty-su5bg
    @Empty-su5bg 4 месяца назад

    Please keep going no need to stop 😭 I love u I even watched the whole add I think they will pay u better ❤ cheers mate

  • @qvfjsdh.1856
    @qvfjsdh.1856 Год назад +10

    her self-awareness is insane

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall Год назад +9

    Oh my god I relate so strongly to being so happy alone and thinking “fuck everyone and everything”, but then when I am with people I’m like “oh, this isn’t as terrible as I remember it being, it’s kind of nice”. But then I’m alone again and I’m like “yep, this is deffo my preference”.

  • @sophia-qm9uw
    @sophia-qm9uw Год назад +2

    she described my hate for texting so well omg

  • @FLYINCHANEL
    @FLYINCHANEL Год назад

    the silence after the talk gave me so much peace took everything in fr

  • @pearjuiceesc2987
    @pearjuiceesc2987 Год назад +2

    oh my freaking god yes i’ve been waiting for thisss

  • @erindaly7751
    @erindaly7751 Год назад +6

    I was literally thinking today that I wanted to listen to a new episode ❤

  • @theultramarinblau
    @theultramarinblau Год назад +7

    your therapist sounds wonderful

  • @mikami096
    @mikami096 Год назад

    i feel u about not wantint to be in a relationship or live with someone after having an intense relationship like, im so good being alone. dont need that

  • @lmvdam
    @lmvdam Год назад +1

    Dont take this the wrong way but this made me feel less bad about my own mental bs. Also i wanted to say i really admire how despite all this ur taking such good care of urself like going to therapy, reflecting on shit. Just keeping it going. ❤

  • @sarayromero3486
    @sarayromero3486 Год назад +3

    You are quite literally my favorite person

  • @elisazouza
    @elisazouza Год назад +1

    welcome backkk!!! you make me wish I could afford therapy alsooo congrats on almost 200k!!!!

  • @07stardrop
    @07stardrop Год назад +3

    omg finally !! missed the podcasts so much

  • @dcrawlz
    @dcrawlz Год назад +1

    felt this! especially the stuff about self care/self sabotage stuff

  • @jacksonueland
    @jacksonueland Год назад +10

    This grabbed my attention instantly
    Can’t wait for more!

  • @theultramarinblau
    @theultramarinblau Год назад +5

    new podcast omg 😍

  • @zoe.theyogi
    @zoe.theyogi Год назад +3

    omg i misssed U sm, only thing keeping me sane!

  • @sadiesawatzky3196
    @sadiesawatzky3196 Год назад +2

    dude I just had a therapy session and this podcast helped me more then that 225 dollar 55 minute zoom call.

  • @LauraSmith-pk9lo
    @LauraSmith-pk9lo Год назад

    I so feel her right now. Just saying things out loud and seeing what sticks. Ur not the only one Madeline

  • @crabmcmuffins
    @crabmcmuffins Год назад

    she is literally the most realest person ever

  • @esh3x575
    @esh3x575 Год назад +5

    Seaszn hoodieee ❤️‍🔥

  • @WhatsAOlivia
    @WhatsAOlivia Год назад

    Everything you said about relationships, friendships, and living alone… I all relate ah😭

  • @maddenmarin5645
    @maddenmarin5645 Год назад +5

    Please don’t leave us for that long again I was scarier 🙁🙏🏼

  • @ivyjirsa2533
    @ivyjirsa2533 Год назад +4

    hey girl i was cackling when you kept bringing up autism- i do similar things and my therapist said that often it is a trauma response and a lot of the time when low scale autism is diagnosed it’s actually misdiagnosed so babe it’s ok

    • @HS-ie8tj
      @HS-ie8tj Год назад

      Yes we’re in a place today that autism having been once under diagnosed is now handed out like a bandaid.

  • @SophiaPelc
    @SophiaPelc Год назад +5

    Never related to someone more in my whole entire life !!!

  • @lilyyy111
    @lilyyy111 Год назад +4

    i needed this thank you madeline argy

  • @ginsengstrip2002
    @ginsengstrip2002 Год назад +3

    wake up babe new madeline podcast

  • @violetslit
    @violetslit Год назад +1

    my fav episode so far. idk i just related so hard to your hatred of texting lol & never wanting roommates/preference to live alone

  • @Asdf__.
    @Asdf__. Год назад +1

    Saving this podcast for my inevitably long train journey to London (commuter life slay)

    • @owenpriestner7498
      @owenpriestner7498 Год назад +2

      Play it on 0.25 speed then it will last longer

    • @Asdf__.
      @Asdf__. Год назад

      @@owenpriestner7498 playing as we speak :)

  • @jule3146
    @jule3146 Год назад +4

    The way I checked your RUclips an hour ago to see if you have uploaded smth new

  • @StephenBelcher-sr3zk
    @StephenBelcher-sr3zk 3 месяца назад

    Your Driving The Distraction “s Tour Truck Today , Madeline?”❤😂

  • @lookingathimhurts9139
    @lookingathimhurts9139 Год назад +5

    missed these

  • @cinnamonrollss
    @cinnamonrollss Год назад +5

    Finallllyyyy!!

  • @sofia-fs1ym
    @sofia-fs1ym Год назад +2

    you make me feel so understood!!!!!!

  • @zxz8866
    @zxz8866 Год назад +12

    20 minutes after making us wait months😧😧😧

    • @zxz8866
      @zxz8866 Год назад +6

      still worth it tho ha

  • @naomaillle6573
    @naomaillle6573 Год назад +1

    16:51 i was litteraly reflecting on this topic 2 days ago. Humans are animals, at first we were in the nature but now we are in school, working and stressing tf out everyday. As human race we are living now in an environment that we created ourself= our own bird cage and we are suprised to not be happy. We don’t live as human anymore (like human race at his basic) but as money makers, society tools which doesn’t go well with our original self. Idk may go living in a forest

  • @Hannah-kg06
    @Hannah-kg06 Год назад +2

    These videos r my free therapy tbh

  • @katharina.maaria
    @katharina.maaria Год назад

    this video format is amazing 🤎

  • @samzc2577
    @samzc2577 Год назад +10

    At least you laughed coming out of a therapy session

  • @BM-xi4kd
    @BM-xi4kd Год назад

    I also have ascendant in sagittarius and it's crazy how relatable and how oddly weird in the exact same way I am she is sometimes😂 she even has the same fcking issues in communication like picking up on other peoples emotions etc.. I literally love her, finally someone on youtube whom I relate to almost a 100 percent because we behave with the world around us so similar :))

  • @Suepergurl
    @Suepergurl Год назад

    this makes me feel so calm, thank you!!

  • @fil44ls
    @fil44ls Год назад +1

    "am I a good mother?" - drops the dog
    lmao

  • @aprillyons1401
    @aprillyons1401 Год назад

    I feel like your in my brain, this relates on every level

  • @mariaariadna212
    @mariaariadna212 Год назад

    Are we twin souls? Literally worrying about everyone else before ourselves and realizing we need to remember we are supposed to think of ourselves. Living with our moms but knowing we’re moving? Literally the last couple weeks I’ve had these convos with myself, even autism - my fyp has me convinced it’s PDA which besides public displays of affection, it’s apparently also a type of autism that I’ve been successfully masking. Never related to a video more - but with NYC instead of London. Except now I’m thinking Miami is the better plan, more room for my dogs.

  • @abib8330
    @abib8330 8 месяцев назад +1

    I need this therapist because none of them can get to the nitty gritty of me

  • @eve930
    @eve930 Год назад

    this is the most relatable video i have ever seen

  • @shamitekeste
    @shamitekeste Год назад +1

    thank you mother 🫶🏽

  • @Star-2619
    @Star-2619 Год назад +4

    Yuhhh finally

  • @erinjack9610
    @erinjack9610 Год назад +3

    Needed this

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall Год назад

    Could listen to you forever and ever

  • @nacolebb8213
    @nacolebb8213 Год назад +1

    This is my first video seeing you and ur so Comforting

  • @freeze_cardamone
    @freeze_cardamone Год назад +1

    TI AMOOOO MADELINEEEE

  • @1bh2nd3md
    @1bh2nd3md Год назад +3

    Have you heard of Avoidant Personality Disorder? It’s something I have sadly
    19:19 do you feel like the (possibly?) lack of connections with people, in which those connections are perhaps more surface-level than deep, leads to a lower chance of them knowing what’s going on in your life meaning they’re unaware of things you’ve maybe achieved? Hence why the things that you’ve done, which might be good or considered an achievement, are unknown to everyone but you and so you’re not receiving positive feedback from others that you might subconsciously would like to hear? If you received this, would you feel like you’re a better person than what you currently view yourself as?

  • @ltqteehee
    @ltqteehee Год назад +3

    🫶 yayy new podcast ep

  • @Swiftaylor
    @Swiftaylor Год назад +1

    Please please please put this on apple podcasts

  • @OWTwales
    @OWTwales Год назад

    The sound thing you described is called misophonia, I suffer with it too. Worth looking into, I thought I was crazy until I could put name to it

  • @sabi8625
    @sabi8625 Год назад

    I also cannot stand when there is someone talking behind a closed door and all I hear is mumbled noise from their voice, it makes me go feral. Same with what you said about the other noises out of my control, like someone walking. It makes living with someone hell on earth

  • @hannahdoxey2625
    @hannahdoxey2625 Год назад

    I relate so hard to your friendship dynamics

  • @lisaburke860
    @lisaburke860 Год назад

    Favorite pod

  • @ameliarobinson9273
    @ameliarobinson9273 Год назад

    finally someone else who has a fear of throwing up aghh

  • @andrewa7405
    @andrewa7405 Год назад +1

    At least he didn’t pull up the lyrics to “hate being sober” - chief keef

  • @aaizahtahir2108
    @aaizahtahir2108 Год назад

    UGH THE NOISE THING IS SO REAL - it's the main reason I believe I have adhd

  • @fangirlinneverland6335
    @fangirlinneverland6335 Год назад +1

    "By next week it will be on all platforms" its been 5 months girlie😭

  • @josiec2093
    @josiec2093 Год назад

    love these!