Thank you for doing this video. I am just researching being at home extremely fatigued and in pain. The doctor still tells me it's viral until next week and then we speak about chronic fatigue. In the time resting I had a call with time to talk and they diagnosed me with PTSD and the therapist said to me that it's so normal that I feel like this after probably having ptsd since the last 7 years. Its so helpful to see other people deal with similar things. I just find it so hard to earn money with this situation which obviously ads to stress.
I have to say, as I'm going through your me/cfs playlist, more and more of what you're talking about is just hitting home. I'm also diagnosed GAD and have been pushing myself a lot because of that. "It's only anxiety. Feel the fear and do it anyway". Bad idea! Thank you for sharing so much. This is really helping me and giving a different aspect of me/cfs that I haven't found before online.
Thank you so much for this lovely feedback. It's difficult with anxiety because the only way to overcome it is the, feal the fear and do it anyway' approach! The more we let anxiety keep us indoors, the worse it gets. But now, in light of what I'm understanding, I would and will be approaching my anxiety very differently! I plan a video on this soon!
This is such a brilliant way of framing what you're going through right now, m'love, and so much of it resonates with me....learning to be kind to ourselves is incredibly hard, and unfortunately if we don't listen to our bodies they have a way of forcing us to stop. Really wise words as always here - I hadn't even considered trauma to be physically manifesting as chronic illness but it makes total sense and gives me something else to think about with my own health challenges. xx
Hey lovely. No, I really hadn't considered it either! I have done such a great job with my mental health, so I thought I was fine! But, these things leave their mark on us on such a deep physical level, and so it does make sense and explains so much. Im now on a whole new journey! xx
Thanks for this video! I'm in the midst of an unprecedentedly long depressive episode at the moment, and it's really helped give me pause to reflect on my own circumstance and experience with trauma, to contextualise my difficulties, and give myself a bit more permission to not spend any spare spoon I happen to find on work, or the like. - At first, when you mentioned that living under constant stress can cause huge issues, I thought to myself "oh, that's not what I'm dealing with", but I quickly realised that actually, I absolutely have been. I have a close friend with chronic health issues, and the past few years there's been a crisis a couple of times a year (and a general anxious sense of "...we're due another crisis soon" in the meantime). Add to that my degree course, the pandemic, and the fact that I'm about four or five months away from starting T (!!!), and ... it's no wonder this is all a bit much for myself. Really thanks for the reminder to take things slowly, to be gentle with myself, and be a bit more understanding that, given everything, of course it's difficult. - I hope you start to see the benefit from some extended rest soon yourself!
Hey my friend, sorry to hear what you you are going through. Its tough isn't it, but these crisis episodes are in the long run so helpful in terms of seeing things more clearly and taking better care of ourselves! I like that you too are finding that from this, you are able to give yourself more permission to rest instead of spending yir precious remaining energy on work. We often overlook or underestimate how much we are going through. When you are in it, you just don't notice it ! Its the frog in the pot thing! Plus stress isn't just the bad stuff, it's any big change or event and I really hadn't taken that into account! I'm very very glad my video helped, it makes me happy to know you are now going to be even more gentle with yourself. Here is to much rest and healing for us both!
Hi Finn Now then come clean......I have had Post Traumatic Stress ,when my dear sister took her life without warning. So Finn I know this is a real problem, thank God I did not turn to alcohol but had pretty much the things you talk about, and for you to keep getting this out, you are also making people feel that they are not alone.....Thank-You and I send much love.
My goodness I cannot even begin to understand how traumatic that must be. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal thing with me. Dealing with all this, in a very new way is so hard, there is a lot which feels difficult to share, so knowing hese videos are helping folks makes the world of difference, thank you so much
I find my Childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) fatigue absolutely crippling at times. My brain feels foggy and I feel detached from others and even from what I'm saying at times. I know my fatigue has been impacted by an anxiety switch in my brain that rarely gets to switch off. Thank you for sharing. I'm going to treat myself for Christmas 🎄🎄🎄 with the book. Xx
Just started watching this video and before I watch anything more: Your waffles are probably my favourite thing about your channel. You have so much insight and so many interesting things to say that make me think about my own struggles and things. So thank you!
That means the world, thank you! I always worry when l waffle, as they are usually my longest videos, with little structure, so it's good to know they are appreciated and helpful! Thanks for watching and for your lovely comments! 😍
Thanks for this video! I'm dealing with a very similar situation right now, and while I'm not happy this is bringing you stress and anxiety, it's nice to know I'm not alone. 💜 I'll have to check those books out after finals are over.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me and all the other ones, Fin! 🙏🏼✨ You’re so good at explaining all the complicated stuff & by watching your video it really got me thinking about how much I’ve gone through these years since I was a teenager (I’m 31 now). I’m right now recovering from phalloplasty & I try to be mindful & be in the moment & work through things & let myself heal, but right now it seems like all I’m doing is going to the health care clinic to get help with redressing my arm & downstairs (but I got to take off the bandage on my thigh today, so yay now that’s free! I’m also living with GAD & also recurring depressive episodes & inattentive ADHD, so maybe it’s not that strange if I’m quite tried & haven’t learned how to exist in this world quite yet. I got my ADHD diagnosis a year ago now and I’m learning new things every day. So, now you got a waffle from me too, I hope that’s okay 🙈 Much love to you from Sweden! Kind regards / Kim
I love it when a waffle is shared! Im so glad I make sense and you find this useful . It is really tough to go through the things we go through and not get effected by stress. If I could go back and do things differently, I would give myself many many more breaks than I did. I now know a lot about the nervous system and I know I did not do as much as I coud have to calm myself in between. Its hard though isnt it? When we have to do things to look after ourselves like clinics, surgery etc. That takes care of one aspect of us, but often leaves other aspects of ourselves neglected. I know its common for those with ADHD to be able to meditate and do breathwork, so it might be worth looking up what kinds of nervous system support might work for you to help reset your body into a calmer state in between all the doing. Just a suggestion! Sending a ton of love!
It's really weird because when this came out I was having a super brain fog day after an anxiety attack. I'm now *finally* taking more time to be kind to myself and proactively think that way as much as I can, whether I like it or not. It seems to be helping, but on the other hand I have to accept that in some areas I'm not achieving much at the moment. But that's OK.
Hey my friend, that sounds very similar! Im having to CONSTANTLY let go of my worries of lack of achievement, and reframe them. Right now, achievement means looking after my physical needs and doing as little as possible. It doesnt quite yet feel the same as achieveing somehing 'concrete' but Im gradually growing this!
Thanks for sharing the things that you're going through, and the tools you are finding helpful. I have been in a long slump of fatigue (years) and not been able to get back on my feet, and it would be really neat to just be able to feel properly alive and have a distinct trickle of thriving without crashing down again within a week or two. Fatigue in itself can be so stressful when you fight it, and when you wonder if it will always be like this, and it is so easy to get stuck there even though I know from experience that I can start to feel better within a couple of weeks if I allow myself to rest and just let things be. Hope you get the rest you need!
Thanks for another thoughtful video Finn! I'm glad you're still able to upload even if it's not as often :) I too have mental and physical health challenges, and I find your videos helpful. I'm impressed with how self reflective you are! I will have to look up the book you mentioned. It sounds similar to another book I read recently, called "Burnout" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. It talks about the stress response cycle and how humans are not built for chronic stress! They talk about a lot of the latest research in that area, in an easy to understand way, very informative as well!
Thank you for your kind appreciation and lovely words! I worry these vlogs are quite long and 'waffley' so to know they are enjoyed and appreciated really helps! I love self reflection, its been somthing I have worked on for many years. Im facinated my human thought and behaviou, Ive studied psychology for many years, and I think I am my main subject! Thank you also for that book suggestion, I have added it to my to read list, thank you!
Yep! And I think I didnt put enough empasis on resting alonside pushing! These two books, decode your fatigue and laziness doesnt exist, are perfect companions! xx
Your point about trauma and its relationship to exhaustion really resonates with me. I wish I were better at navigating pushing through anxiety vs. listening to the warning signs my body is trying to give me. I'm currently reading the work of Dr. Peter Levine regarding trauma and its relationship with the body, and I am finding it quite enlightening. He seems to have some really interesting theories about where the physical symptoms come from and how to relieve them.
Thank you for that recommendation, you are the second person to.mention Peter Levine to me, he is on my to read list! And I agree, managing anxiety is traumatic in itself, and pushing through it causes additional trauma, which l really hadn't thought about until.l learned of chronic fatigue and the nervous system. This is the problem of mental health.and physical health so commonly being seen as seperate. I think we need a more holistic mental health approach, one that takes into consideration the effect of stigma and resulting trauma, the effect of managing anxiety itself, and the effect of pushing against it too hard. I certainly managing my mental health differently going forward! I plan to make a specific vlog about this soon Thanks for watching and for your comment!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Re: needing a holistic approach... 1000%! I have been thinking about that a lot lately. Hank Green made a video recently about fire not having a state of matter (fire is not matter, but a process) and it really started a whole rabbit hole for me. If we think of our mind as a process, rather than a thing in itself, it totally changes our approach to mental health. You don't boost a struggling fire by interacting with the flames directly (if you try, you will either burn yourself or blow it out). You have to add wood, make sure it has enough oxygen but not too much wind, protect it from moisture, etc.... I think the mind is much the same way. If our mind is struggling, we need to examine our body, environment, and relationships to find what's out of balance. I suspect in the next 100 years, we are going to see a revolution in mental health care that moves in this direction.
Great Fwaffeling. I don't know where to begin. As I've shared with you I've had SEVERE CFS/ME for over 30 years. The Trauma was unbearable being raised by a severely Narcissistic mother. I think high Stress is different than real Trauma. I shared a book with you called 'The Body Keeps the Score'. Just the name explains it. You my dear friend have lived with Trauma and a high level of stress. This is in the body. And I know for me I become disregulated often. I get Overwhelmed and overstimulated very easy and will have meltdowns. Out of control crying being angry over nothing really. Finn do you have mental symotoms as well as CFS? I know you have GAD but what does it look like? As I've allowed myself to STOP pushing through things I've really just become bed bound. Not all the time but most of the time. I feel I have little to give and be a high achiever. Which is ok by me. But allowing myself to rest has always been a challenge. But on the other hand it's simply my reality. You are in for a big journey. Relearning every thing!!. I just love you so mush. Your honesty, transparency, and your drive to become a healed well soul. Do you have other synptons besides CFS? I sure do. Anyway I am Fwaffleing. So glad you uploaded💜💜💜💜💜
@@kavitadeva thank you! I'm not ill thankfully but been through a lot. I'm so good at managing everything, keeping going but I realise the lack of opportunity to process and fine-process stuf (HSP) is affecting my physical and mental health.
@@stefaniedecoster2772 I truly get it. I am an HSP as well. It's definitely a real thing. Take good care Stefanie. If you don't mind me asking, why do you watch Finns video's?
@@kavitadeva one of his videos leading up to stage 1 bottom surgery popped up in my recommended list once and I clicked it, simple as that. Started commenting on videos and a lovely friendship grew from there! My background is different and I don't live in the UK but I'm only a year older than Finn and there are similarities in sugeries we've had even if the reasons for having them were not. So basically it started with my interest in how transitioning worked and became friends with a Finntastic fella. Also my youngest teenage son has GAD and both my teenagers are on the autism spectrum. Finn tought me a lot about mental health. Apart from being mum I've also been my kids' fulltime carer for 7 years now, and Finn cared for his mum. He lost his mum and I lost mine. It's great being able to support each other!
Hello there! 🥰It's so wonderful to see you Finn! 6:35 Yeah, that's quite a bit for one bloke to go through *extremely safe distance subscriber support hug* 🤗 I listen to a band called P.M. Dawn, they have a song that has a line in it: "A mental fighter, not a physical fighter, a warrior of the mind." I've tried looking it up on Google, but now I'm just listening to their album "The Bliss Album" because it's the one I found that night have the song on it, so far, no success, but One of their songs/albums has that in it. It's one of my favorite lines of theirs 🥰 If I find it, I'll update my comment. Thank you so much Finn, this actually answers quite a lot of questions for me as well. I've become a hermit again, but still get outside most every day to say hello to the sin/daylight. The sun sets around 4:25 here in Minnesota this time of year, so it's really hard getting through the winter months for sure! Much love to you and yours until next time! Take care, rest and self care is wonderful and quite needed 😊✌
@@FinnTheInfinncible Hey sweetie, how's you today? I've also bought 'The Body Keeps the Score', as an e-book. Not started reading yet, I just finished reading the BFG. You should read that too!
Definitely a helpful video. I've been questioning my gender for years and I shy away from it and instead focus on trying to build up my self worth through building muscle and gain social prestige to counteract the fact that I seem like one of those annoying gender wierdos to so many people by becoming successful. Part of me has even thought I'll probably be more successful if I never go to gender therapy and just keep doing this. But I have actually not been able to work out recently because I have been so fatigued and my heart has been bothering me. So yeah I should probably do things in moderation, try to do things I enjoy more and maybe actually go to therapy. Though at the same time, if I hadn't just thrown myself into an intensive course for the social prestige I would still be in my previous stage of financial anxiety when thinking about therapy.
Finn, just some random thoughts, but have you looked at therapies that deal directly with healing your body? It’s one of those things I filed in my head but have never got round too. If I remember correctly there may be one approach called somatic therapy, as I say I have not looked into it so I have no idea if it’s any use. I feel personally that my anxiety feels close to the way people talk about ptsd (I get sort of vertiginous waves of anxiety after the fact) and have wondered if looking into that might be useful? Also I don’t know if it’s your kind of thing, but one of the things that helps ‘wash my mind’ when I’m very fatigued is listening to music. It has to be the kind that I can get really lost in, purely instrumental stuff can be particularly useful if my language circuits are frazzled. There is also other activities that, as much as they take energy, also give me energy back. I find singing very healing because it is very gentle exercise, deals with your breathing, and is very grounding in the way it connects you with your body and emotions.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comments and suggestions. Music is something I love and is incredibly healing for me. I cannot sing, but I do anywhay....my poor fiance! I live your term washing the mind, I hadnt thought about it like that but music really does wash the mind doesnt it! Somatic therapy is interesting, I do have some experience with that, more in terms of sexual/sexualty/intimacy healing, but I wonder if there is somthing that would suit this fatigue? I am going to search, thank you! Somthing I plan to explore, once I get my official ME/CFS diagnosis, is to see if I can be reassessed by psychiatric services. I have many diagnosis, most of which I dont think fit and I think my addicition likely meant I was misdiagnosed. I can see, after much research, that my anxiety (and this fatigue) may well be a trauma diagnosis. This is a whole new journey! I will keep you updated!
Do you find it hard to rest? I feel even though I no longer work and rest physically all day, my brain is stressing and resisting all the horrible symptoms all day so I never can fully accept it. I feel I’m stuck in freeze state, not much anxiety anymore just tons of fatigue, pain and depression
I know buddy , RUclips are no help. To be posting incorrect and harmful info about trans folks is bad enough, but to be harassing individual people too, it's awful. Atbthe end of the day, my content reaches and helps the people it is intended for an I get a tin of appreciation for it, so these folks really don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Thanks for caring
@@FinnTheInfinncible I think she's in the states. If you were here you could sue her for slander. Her content is violent and damaging to all trans people and the comments are repulsive to say the least. My partner told her off and she didn't like it. I would but she probably would go after me next even though my content isn't worthy for show. She's a hideous soul!
@@hunterking4045 I know bud. She says she's doing it to help trans people but if that were true, why is she being so nasty! I'm just so tired of people who are hell bent on hurting others . I'm at the point now where I am just blocking and then Turing my focus to the people that matter, the people that need support the people that want to learn about trans lives. That's energy better spent.
Thank you for doing this video. I am just researching being at home extremely fatigued and in pain. The doctor still tells me it's viral until next week and then we speak about chronic fatigue. In the time resting I had a call with time to talk and they diagnosed me with PTSD and the therapist said to me that it's so normal that I feel like this after probably having ptsd since the last 7 years. Its so helpful to see other people deal with similar things. I just find it so hard to earn money with this situation which obviously ads to stress.
I never thought that constantly pushing yourself out of your comfort zone could be good for you.I totally agree with your new thinking about it.
Yep! I'm re-evaluating my advice on dealing with anxiety! Will update on this asap.
@@FinnTheInfinncible Looking forward to it.
I have to say, as I'm going through your me/cfs playlist, more and more of what you're talking about is just hitting home. I'm also diagnosed GAD and have been pushing myself a lot because of that. "It's only anxiety. Feel the fear and do it anyway". Bad idea! Thank you for sharing so much. This is really helping me and giving a different aspect of me/cfs that I haven't found before online.
Thank you so much for this lovely feedback. It's difficult with anxiety because the only way to overcome it is the, feal the fear and do it anyway' approach! The more we let anxiety keep us indoors, the worse it gets. But now, in light of what I'm understanding, I would and will be approaching my anxiety very differently! I plan a video on this soon!
This is such a brilliant way of framing what you're going through right now, m'love, and so much of it resonates with me....learning to be kind to ourselves is incredibly hard, and unfortunately if we don't listen to our bodies they have a way of forcing us to stop. Really wise words as always here - I hadn't even considered trauma to be physically manifesting as chronic illness but it makes total sense and gives me something else to think about with my own health challenges. xx
Hey lovely. No, I really hadn't considered it either! I have done such a great job with my mental health, so I thought I was fine! But, these things leave their mark on us on such a deep physical level, and so it does make sense and explains so much. Im now on a whole new journey! xx
Thanks for this video! I'm in the midst of an unprecedentedly long depressive episode at the moment, and it's really helped give me pause to reflect on my own circumstance and experience with trauma, to contextualise my difficulties, and give myself a bit more permission to not spend any spare spoon I happen to find on work, or the like. - At first, when you mentioned that living under constant stress can cause huge issues, I thought to myself "oh, that's not what I'm dealing with", but I quickly realised that actually, I absolutely have been. I have a close friend with chronic health issues, and the past few years there's been a crisis a couple of times a year (and a general anxious sense of "...we're due another crisis soon" in the meantime). Add to that my degree course, the pandemic, and the fact that I'm about four or five months away from starting T (!!!), and ... it's no wonder this is all a bit much for myself. Really thanks for the reminder to take things slowly, to be gentle with myself, and be a bit more understanding that, given everything, of course it's difficult. - I hope you start to see the benefit from some extended rest soon yourself!
Hey my friend, sorry to hear what you you are going through. Its tough isn't it, but these crisis episodes are in the long run so helpful in terms of seeing things more clearly and taking better care of ourselves! I like that you too are finding that from this, you are able to give yourself more permission to rest instead of spending yir precious remaining energy on work.
We often overlook or underestimate how much we are going through. When you are in it, you just don't notice it ! Its the frog in the pot thing! Plus stress isn't just the bad stuff, it's any big change or event and I really hadn't taken that into account!
I'm very very glad my video helped, it makes me happy to know you are now going to be even more gentle with yourself. Here is to much rest and healing for us both!
Hi Finn Now then come clean......I have had Post Traumatic Stress ,when my dear sister took her life without warning. So Finn I know this is a real problem, thank God I did not turn to alcohol but had pretty much the things you talk about, and for you to keep getting this out, you are also making people feel that they are not alone.....Thank-You and I send much love.
My goodness I cannot even begin to understand how traumatic that must be. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal thing with me. Dealing with all this, in a very new way is so hard, there is a lot which feels difficult to share, so knowing hese videos are helping folks makes the world of difference, thank you so much
I find my Childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) fatigue absolutely crippling at times. My brain feels foggy and I feel detached from others and even from what I'm saying at times. I know my fatigue has been impacted by an anxiety switch in my brain that rarely gets to switch off. Thank you for sharing. I'm going to treat myself for Christmas 🎄🎄🎄 with the book. Xx
Same...
@@redwolfdarkmoon5326 I recommend a channel called crappy childhood fairy if you have not seen. More assistance given there.
You are such a beautiful human being! You share so much and touch so many lives in more ways than you know. God bless you
Your kindness and appreciation means the absolute world. Thank you!
Just started watching this video and before I watch anything more: Your waffles are probably my favourite thing about your channel. You have so much insight and so many interesting things to say that make me think about my own struggles and things. So thank you!
That means the world, thank you! I always worry when l waffle, as they are usually my longest videos, with little structure, so it's good to know they are appreciated and helpful! Thanks for watching and for your lovely comments! 😍
Thanks for this video! I'm dealing with a very similar situation right now, and while I'm not happy this is bringing you stress and anxiety, it's nice to know I'm not alone. 💜 I'll have to check those books out after finals are over.
You are definately not alone my friend! And yes, I do recommend these books very highly indeed!
Thank you so much for sharing this with me and all the other ones, Fin! 🙏🏼✨ You’re so good at explaining all the complicated stuff & by watching your video it really got me thinking about how much I’ve gone through these years since I was a teenager (I’m 31 now). I’m right now recovering from phalloplasty & I try to be mindful & be in the moment & work through things & let myself heal, but right now it seems like all I’m doing is going to the health care clinic to get help with redressing my arm & downstairs (but I got to take off the bandage on my thigh today, so yay now that’s free! I’m also living with GAD & also recurring depressive episodes & inattentive ADHD, so maybe it’s not that strange if I’m quite tried & haven’t learned how to exist in this world quite yet. I got my ADHD diagnosis a year ago now and I’m learning new things every day. So, now you got a waffle from me too, I hope that’s okay 🙈 Much love to you from Sweden! Kind regards / Kim
I love it when a waffle is shared! Im so glad I make sense and you find this useful . It is really tough to go through the things we go through and not get effected by stress. If I could go back and do things differently, I would give myself many many more breaks than I did. I now know a lot about the nervous system and I know I did not do as much as I coud have to calm myself in between. Its hard though isnt it? When we have to do things to look after ourselves like clinics, surgery etc. That takes care of one aspect of us, but often leaves other aspects of ourselves neglected. I know its common for those with ADHD to be able to meditate and do breathwork, so it might be worth looking up what kinds of nervous system support might work for you to help reset your body into a calmer state in between all the doing. Just a suggestion! Sending a ton of love!
It's really weird because when this came out I was having a super brain fog day after an anxiety attack. I'm now *finally* taking more time to be kind to myself and proactively think that way as much as I can, whether I like it or not. It seems to be helping, but on the other hand I have to accept that in some areas I'm not achieving much at the moment. But that's OK.
Hey my friend, that sounds very similar! Im having to CONSTANTLY let go of my worries of lack of achievement, and reframe them. Right now, achievement means looking after my physical needs and doing as little as possible. It doesnt quite yet feel the same as achieveing somehing 'concrete' but Im gradually growing this!
Thanks for sharing the things that you're going through, and the tools you are finding helpful. I have been in a long slump of fatigue (years) and not been able to get back on my feet, and it would be really neat to just be able to feel properly alive and have a distinct trickle of thriving without crashing down again within a week or two. Fatigue in itself can be so stressful when you fight it, and when you wonder if it will always be like this, and it is so easy to get stuck there even though I know from experience that I can start to feel better within a couple of weeks if I allow myself to rest and just let things be. Hope you get the rest you need!
Decode your fatigue is an amazing book!
It really is! I've done a couple of his online events too, very powerful stuff!
Thanks for another thoughtful video Finn! I'm glad you're still able to upload even if it's not as often :) I too have mental and physical health challenges, and I find your videos helpful. I'm impressed with how self reflective you are!
I will have to look up the book you mentioned. It sounds similar to another book I read recently, called "Burnout" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. It talks about the stress response cycle and how humans are not built for chronic stress! They talk about a lot of the latest research in that area, in an easy to understand way, very informative as well!
Thank you for your kind appreciation and lovely words! I worry these vlogs are quite long and 'waffley' so to know they are enjoyed and appreciated really helps!
I love self reflection, its been somthing I have worked on for many years. Im facinated my human thought and behaviou, Ive studied psychology for many years, and I think I am my main subject!
Thank you also for that book suggestion, I have added it to my to read list, thank you!
Omg i can relate so much to what you’re saying! I’m so grateful somehow to have come across your channel!! Thank you!!
I'm grateful the universe sent you my way too! Welcome to the FinnFam! I look forward to seeing you in the comments section! 😃😃
Yup, GAD is a balancing act each and every day 😞 Need to read that book too now. You're keeping my book shelf topped up 😂 xx
Yep! And I think I didnt put enough empasis on resting alonside pushing! These two books, decode your fatigue and laziness doesnt exist, are perfect companions! xx
@@FinnTheInfinncible I'm really not good at resting and then I tend to crash 😞 Thanks for sharing. Sending a few virtual spoons 🥄🥄xx
@@natashamason3328 We both need to balance resting more, I have no spoons, but sending hugs! xx
🙏👍😎😃 Excellent way to put it!!! Thank You now I understand more that needs to be looked at!!! Thank You Brother!!!!
Thanks for watching my dear friend!
Your point about trauma and its relationship to exhaustion really resonates with me. I wish I were better at navigating pushing through anxiety vs. listening to the warning signs my body is trying to give me.
I'm currently reading the work of Dr. Peter Levine regarding trauma and its relationship with the body, and I am finding it quite enlightening. He seems to have some really interesting theories about where the physical symptoms come from and how to relieve them.
Thank you for that recommendation, you are the second person to.mention Peter Levine to me, he is on my to read list!
And I agree, managing anxiety is traumatic in itself, and pushing through it causes additional trauma, which l really hadn't thought about until.l learned of chronic fatigue and the nervous system.
This is the problem of mental health.and physical health so commonly being seen as seperate.
I think we need a more holistic mental health approach, one that takes into consideration the effect of stigma and resulting trauma, the effect of managing anxiety itself, and the effect of pushing against it too hard.
I certainly managing my mental health differently going forward!
I plan to make a specific vlog about this soon
Thanks for watching and for your comment!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Re: needing a holistic approach... 1000%! I have been thinking about that a lot lately.
Hank Green made a video recently about fire not having a state of matter (fire is not matter, but a process) and it really started a whole rabbit hole for me.
If we think of our mind as a process, rather than a thing in itself, it totally changes our approach to mental health. You don't boost a struggling fire by interacting with the flames directly (if you try, you will either burn yourself or blow it out). You have to add wood, make sure it has enough oxygen but not too much wind, protect it from moisture, etc.... I think the mind is much the same way. If our mind is struggling, we need to examine our body, environment, and relationships to find what's out of balance.
I suspect in the next 100 years, we are going to see a revolution in mental health care that moves in this direction.
Great Fwaffeling.
I don't know where to begin. As I've shared with you I've had SEVERE
CFS/ME for over 30 years.
The Trauma was unbearable being raised by a severely Narcissistic mother. I think high Stress is different than real Trauma. I shared a book with you called 'The Body Keeps the Score'. Just the name explains it. You my dear friend have lived with Trauma and a high level of stress. This is in the body. And I know for me I become disregulated often. I get Overwhelmed and overstimulated very easy and will have meltdowns. Out of control crying being angry over nothing really. Finn do you have mental symotoms as well as CFS? I know you have GAD but what does it look like? As I've allowed myself to STOP pushing through things I've really just become bed bound. Not all the time but most of the time. I feel I have little to give and be a high achiever. Which is ok by me. But allowing myself to rest has always been a challenge. But on the other hand it's simply my reality.
You are in for a big journey. Relearning every thing!!. I just love you so mush. Your honesty, transparency, and your drive to become a healed well soul. Do you have other synptons besides CFS? I sure do.
Anyway I am Fwaffleing.
So glad you uploaded💜💜💜💜💜
'The Body Keeps the Score'... thanks for mentioning it, I'm going to look that book up now!
@@stefaniedecoster2772 hi Stefanie best wishes. I hope your not too ill.
@@kavitadeva thank you! I'm not ill thankfully but been through a lot. I'm so good at managing everything, keeping going but I realise the lack of opportunity to process and fine-process stuf (HSP) is affecting my physical and mental health.
@@stefaniedecoster2772 I truly get it. I am an HSP as well. It's definitely a real thing. Take good care Stefanie. If you don't mind me asking, why do you watch Finns video's?
@@kavitadeva one of his videos leading up to stage 1 bottom surgery popped up in my recommended list once and I clicked it, simple as that. Started commenting on videos and a lovely friendship grew from there! My background is different and I don't live in the UK but I'm only a year older than Finn and there are similarities in sugeries we've had even if the reasons for having them were not. So basically it started with my interest in how transitioning worked and became friends with a Finntastic fella. Also my youngest teenage son has GAD and both my teenagers are on the autism spectrum. Finn tought me a lot about mental health. Apart from being mum I've also been my kids' fulltime carer for 7 years now, and Finn cared for his mum. He lost his mum and I lost mine. It's great being able to support each other!
Thank you so much for your video Finn I ordered them books and I'll let you know how it goes 🙂
Very glad this was helpful, I look forward to hearing how you find the books!
It's supposed to be here tomorrow so I'll start reading it as soon as it comes
Hello there! 🥰It's so wonderful to see you Finn!
6:35 Yeah, that's quite a bit for one bloke to go through *extremely safe distance subscriber support hug* 🤗
I listen to a band called P.M. Dawn, they have a song that has a line in it: "A mental fighter, not a physical fighter, a warrior of the mind." I've tried looking it up on Google, but now I'm just listening to their album "The Bliss Album" because it's the one I found that night have the song on it, so far, no success, but One of their songs/albums has that in it. It's one of my favorite lines of theirs 🥰
If I find it, I'll update my comment.
Thank you so much Finn, this actually answers quite a lot of questions for me as well. I've become a hermit again, but still get outside most every day to say hello to the sin/daylight. The sun sets around 4:25 here in Minnesota this time of year, so it's really hard getting through the winter months for sure!
Much love to you and yours until next time! Take care, rest and self care is wonderful and quite needed 😊✌
Thanks for the video sweetie, you're making a lot of sense as usual x
Thanks lovely, thats good to know! Thank you also, for your lovely comments about me and my content!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Hey sweetie, how's you today? I've also bought 'The Body Keeps the Score', as an e-book. Not started reading yet, I just finished reading the BFG. You should read that too!
Good talk Finn. Glad to know I’m not alone. ✌️
Thanks my friend, Im glad the video helped you to feel less alone!
@@FinnTheInfinncible 😎👍
Dr Nadine Burke Harris in the states has a couple of books about trauma and health problems. She also has some free Ted talk about it too.
Thanks for that recommendation, I shall have a look!
Definitely a helpful video. I've been questioning my gender for years and I shy away from it and instead focus on trying to build up my self worth through building muscle and gain social prestige to counteract the fact that I seem like one of those annoying gender wierdos to so many people by becoming successful. Part of me has even thought I'll probably be more successful if I never go to gender therapy and just keep doing this. But I have actually not been able to work out recently because I have been so fatigued and my heart has been bothering me. So yeah I should probably do things in moderation, try to do things I enjoy more and maybe actually go to therapy. Though at the same time, if I hadn't just thrown myself into an intensive course for the social prestige I would still be in my previous stage of financial anxiety when thinking about therapy.
I also have generalized anxiety it suuuucks torture
It really does suck! Taking things one day at a time, gently challenging, and resting, is the way forward!
You're not alone. I just want you to know that there are lots of people out there that know exactly what you're going through. Blessings to you.
I recommend reading and/or watching anything by Gabor Mate in regards to the link between trauma and addiction/mental health/behavioural issues.
Thanks so much! Added to my reading list!
@@FinnTheInfinncible No problemo :)
Finn, just some random thoughts, but have you looked at therapies that deal directly with healing your body? It’s one of those things I filed in my head but have never got round too. If I remember correctly there may be one approach called somatic therapy, as I say I have not looked into it so I have no idea if it’s any use. I feel personally that my anxiety feels close to the way people talk about ptsd (I get sort of vertiginous waves of anxiety after the fact) and have wondered if looking into that might be useful?
Also I don’t know if it’s your kind of thing, but one of the things that helps ‘wash my mind’ when I’m very fatigued is listening to music. It has to be the kind that I can get really lost in, purely instrumental stuff can be particularly useful if my language circuits are frazzled. There is also other activities that, as much as they take energy, also give me energy back. I find singing very healing because it is very gentle exercise, deals with your breathing, and is very grounding in the way it connects you with your body and emotions.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comments and suggestions. Music is something I love and is incredibly healing for me. I cannot sing, but I do anywhay....my poor fiance! I live your term washing the mind, I hadnt thought about it like that but music really does wash the mind doesnt it!
Somatic therapy is interesting, I do have some experience with that, more in terms of sexual/sexualty/intimacy healing, but I wonder if there is somthing that would suit this fatigue? I am going to search, thank you!
Somthing I plan to explore, once I get my official ME/CFS diagnosis, is to see if I can be reassessed by psychiatric services. I have many diagnosis, most of which I dont think fit and I think my addicition likely meant I was misdiagnosed. I can see, after much research, that my anxiety (and this fatigue) may well be a trauma diagnosis.
This is a whole new journey! I will keep you updated!
Do you find it hard to rest? I feel even though I no longer work and rest physically all day, my brain is stressing and resisting all the horrible symptoms all day so I never can fully accept it. I feel I’m stuck in freeze state, not much anxiety anymore just tons of fatigue, pain and depression
We do love your waffles!! Tasty!! :)
I LOVE that you do! Thank you!
Finn that witch put your video back up Exulansic. It's sickening!
I know buddy , RUclips are no help. To be posting incorrect and harmful info about trans folks is bad enough, but to be harassing individual people too, it's awful. Atbthe end of the day, my content reaches and helps the people it is intended for an I get a tin of appreciation for it, so these folks really don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Thanks for caring
@@FinnTheInfinncible I think she's in the states. If you were here you could sue her for slander. Her content is violent and damaging to all trans people and the comments are repulsive to say the least. My partner told her off and she didn't like it. I would but she probably would go after me next even though my content isn't worthy for show. She's a hideous soul!
@@hunterking4045 I know bud. She says she's doing it to help trans people but if that were true, why is she being so nasty! I'm just so tired of people who are hell bent on hurting others . I'm at the point now where I am just blocking and then Turing my focus to the people that matter, the people that need support the people that want to learn about trans lives. That's energy better spent.