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truama as anxietu depressipn from aces hidvtruamavin work retired and more truama has caused total turmoil needs emotional not met as personality disorders erupted with ocd mow in total physical and emotional upset also affecting family badly
I’m 76 and suffering from the result of 3 traumas . An emotionally abusive mother, a violent husband and recently losing my wonderful second husband who was the first person to love me unconditionally from a cruel 7 year dementia
Christine I am sad for your lost. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason to how this world works…. I hope your husband added solace to your life and you to his 🥹
Sounds like my story only thank goodness I still have my second husband but he's 9 years older than me and in his seventies. I have enormous health issues from all the trauma I suffered and my husband is in effect my carer. In fact I actually moved out of the house to give him a break because I feel I'm going to be the cause of him dying...with exhaustion. I empathise and sympathise with you and question why some people just get it so tough. It's not easy❤. ❤❤❤
@@karendornan7447 You can not resolv the lives of others not eved that of the most loved ones. "First put on your oxigen mask before helping others" we hear it when we fly - remember, it is a profound truth.
Anybody gets angry or negative, and my body freaks out. I see a cop and my body starts shaking even though I'm not doing anything wrong, and all of a sudden, I can't drive well. Anyone even says something negative to me and my body starts shaking. I cry so easy and I know it's how I learned to release some of the energy but I haven't been able to regulate myself, which makes it very hard to work with or around people. I do work around people, but there are many types of jobs I avoid because of this.
The trauma in my body shows as depression, anxiety, catastrophic thoughts, a feeling of hopelessness and that my body and mind just shut down and became chronically tired.
That’s how I feel about my trauma: disconnected, tense, sense of unease, expecting punishment or humiliation, just dead, unwilling to breathe - holding my breath.
Yeah same, feels impossible to get better. I know this has all come from not being able to express my emotions or talking about specific traumatic events. I’m at the stage where I know I need therapy but that also terrifies me 😳
I am a 75 year old retired Psychologist who worked with complex trauma survivors for much of my years in practice. I have been practicing Mindfulness and my work brought me to videos on trauma. And now i must acknowledge that I have never worked through my own history of trauma. My own trauma starts at age 9 months when I became paralyzed from the next to feet from the Polio virus. I spent the next 6 months living in a hospital, went home to my parents, and "worked through" the effects of Polio. At age 12, I was run over by a school bus mainly on my paralyzed leg. I realize today that it is time for me to use my Mindfulness practice and more to work through my own trauma as it continues to affect my life and my relationships. Thank you for this video.
I had an accident that left me with a dis regulated nervous system and a lot of anxiety. I educated myself about anxieties and how the symptoms manifested so that every time I experienced anxiety I learned not to be scared. It took me some time but I eventually learned to accept the symptoms. Education, meditation and deep slow breathing that’s what helped me. I still on occasions feel light symptoms of anxiety but they are manageable and infrequent.
Although I've worked through trauma for many, many years by now, it was only in the last couple years that I really started understanding that my body is actually where the trauma is held and manifested, not so much my mind. Pivotal for this realization was an experience I had during an osteopathic treatment that got me in touch with a specific part of my childhood trauma. The therapist was brave and skilled enough to "tickle" the rage of a fight response out of me while all the while I had been stuck in freeze mode and fawn response. This particular experience has started a lengthy process of finding access to an inner strength that I never tapped into and that allows me to say no and at least consider defending myself. I'm still not really anywhere near a healthy regulated state, and in the past six to eight months I've dealt with lots of very visceral anxiety and "mindfuck" (sorry for the poor choice of language). But I consider that progress, because at least I'm not in freeze mode and I'm processing all those fears and am slowly starting to look into what it means to live instead of just surviving. Physical manifestations of trauma for me have been: muscle and joint pain since as early as 17 y.o. (possibly autoimmune but evasive in most bloodwork that's been done), inclination towards inflammation, constant muscle tension leading to back and neck pain and frequent headaches, low energy, hormonal imbalances and very painful periods, recurring low moods, sensitivity to gluten, imbalanced gut biome, Hashimoto's disease, bruxism and lots of dental issues connected to that, recurring systemic herpes activations, hypersensitivity and proneness to sensory overload. That's a long list of symptoms, but no doctor ever seems to understand why any of that would be wearing me out or even incapacitate me to the point of being unable to work.... 🤷♀️ because they never look at the full picture. I've suffered from not knowing who I am and what I want or need for most of my adult life and currently feel a painful sense of failure due to this lack of direction, motivation, and courage in my life. But I'm starting to work my way out of that old state of helplessness, overwhelm and paralyzing fear into something that feels more alive and more like me. I do wish I had more help with this. Good therapist with experience in recovery from childhood trauma are extremely hard to find.
Thank u so much for sharing. Very insightful and so relatable. Your detailed description really helps to see all the texture of this experience. I beleive our wounds die the way they were born. So i start from reparenting the little child inside of me where i meet all the needs that werent met by our caregivers and became the wounds we carry with us. By meeting those needs we heal those wounds while in the process learning who we actually are. The revenge is defining ourselves the way the nature designed us to be...just being and breathing is already enough. Sending u lots of healing. I ll keep rereading your post.
I got most of these even though (trauma, ) journal therapy with a highly experienced psychotherapist had basically made the depression all but disappear, the fibromyalgia of over 30 years (no inflammatory markers for rheumatoid arthritis, ) is getting even worse. I've also got hashimoto's thyroiditis, like almost every female in my family, both grandmother's, mother, me, only sibling and granddaughter have autoimmune thyroid disease... also allergies to foods, mets, some cleaning g products. I eat live bio culture yoghurt, this has made IBS disappear. One thing that helps me regain my balance and helps me manage pain a little better is my daily swim in the sea. Best wishes.
I'm a sleep clencher to 10th power. I wear mouth guards and have only now found one that can handle my bite force. That, and by monitoring my moods throughout the day, I see that every few hours I oscillate between at peace with the world to "everyone is out to get me". Thank you Alex, I know in my heart that you actually care about us healing RUclipsrs.
Hi, i,m 57 , living in Europe. My story..... After getting a neuromusculaire disease called Myasthenia Gravis when i was young, it happened at age 18. It was an very traumatic experience, couldn,t talk properly, couldn,t eat,swallow,or drink. I was a rebel before that ( but i always struggled with insecurity and low self esteem ) This horrific period lasted more than a year before getting Surgery. They removed the thymus via open heart surgery. I developed an anxiety disorder, agoraphobia and severe depression. The surgery was successful , i recovered mostly but have some restsymptoms but i,ve never got rid of the trauma which caused psychosomatic symptoms in the mouth/ throatarea., still do. It took 30 years before i had EMDR, no psychiatrist or whatever doctor ever mentioned PTSD like you talk about.Wish they had they had the knowledge just as you explained me in the video. I worked, didn,t last very long each time. A 23 years relationship/ marriage with someone with BPD traumatised me on another level, but i was very codependent. In the meantime the last three years my parents died who were always my biggest support, my dog died who was my biggest friend and my partner for who i sacrified so much dumped me with just a text message because i crashed and got ( not notacible on the scan) braindamage from ten years care taking for my elderly mother with dementia. Emotional exhausted, no support from any doctor.I,ve been completely on my own for the last years fighting every day to heal from this all. What a story Hey? There are many man who want me but i can,t Although i want it so badly. I wish i could end my life. This is how difficult it all is. Thanks for reading, i,m glad that i can share this anonymous
I have ‘found’ you recently Alex, and I’m so glad that I did! I have fibromyalgia and MS and have suffered for years with my health problems. I went missing as a small child at the seaside and was found 3 hours later with a man. My mums memory of the events was very sketchy, but I never knew what happened to me, although I have been on the edge of memories about it, as it happened at the seaside, and I have felt something in my gut at times near promenade shelters, and steps down to the sea. I have also had other traumas as a child (being grabbed by a man between the legs when I was 9 and almost abducted) and lots of other stressful life events. I had both my knees replaced in March, and since then I shave been having horrendous regret, (what on earth was I thinking!?), a massive flare up of my MS symptoms and very deep depression and distress. I am having hypnotherapy, and have seen a MH nurse, and know I need to do ‘the work’. I know I have trauma trapped in my body, so now I feel motivated to help myself by going gently into releasing that trauma. I need to find a good therapist like you! Thank you……💕
I needed to understand myself better after dealing with domestic violence and abuse, and actually I can with your explanations. You are doing something very significant for many people. Thank you, honestly, a lot.
Personal therapy and my own training in counselling has helped me understand the physical affect trauma has had on me, and also has on so many others I have worked with. I have worked through, understood and processed the effect on my own mental health, but physically I still have a long way to go and am unsure if or how it would be possible to recover from this. I had been sexually abused for a number of years as a young child. It stopped in my early teens, and as I didnt start to feel 'unwell' until my late teens, it took me a long while to connect them. Drs were of no help and I was unable to fully describe what was wrong, any blood tests always came back as normal so I just learned to live with it - I felt constantly tired, had brain fog and recurring bladder infections. I tried hypnotherapy as I felt as if I was tense, but I did not feel stressed, just 'tight' in my neck and shoulders. In my 20s my dad died and a year later my mum also passed away from overdosing on prescribed medication. As well as the other physical issues I continued to have, I also started having recurring throat infections, toothache, hormonal alopecia and my bowels began to reacted badly to certain foods. I saw a homeopath who confirmed my immune system was compromised and explained my adrenal and nervous systems were most likely depleted also. I was intolerant to many foods and spent a number of years working with him on improving and resetting my systems by eliminating certain food groups for periods of time. During those years I came across Buteyko breathing, and learned how unhealthy my breathing pattern was. I feel as if this was the moment I started to recognise the effect the trauma in my life had physically had on me. Often feeling breathless when under stress or once a period of stress had passed, and once I started breathing exercises my immune system also started to significantly improve. I feel this links to everything you describe in this video - my fight or flight response was constantly on, and this was reflected in my breathing, even during sleep where i'd clench my teeth and wake up with headaches. By forcing my breathing pattern to change and turning off this response in my body things did improve, along with help from my homeopath. I felt the best I had ever felt and managed to stop the recurring infections, my hair grew back and my bowels started to work normally again. I never did manage to get to what was considered a healthy breathe pause, and the tiredness and brain fog improved but was still there. After a while the uncomfortable feeling of suffocating by trying to breath with my mouth closed, not yawn, constantly count my breath etc meant I didnt stick with it beyond a few months once things improved, although I am aware I still try to keep my mouth closed at night and belly breath as much as possible. Im not sure how long id have had to perservere before my system would have reset itself rather than breathing having to be a conscious thing, but I do still wonder if I would feel 'better' now had I stuck with it... The biggest long term health affect I feel is now, at age 50, I have very bad, unexplained Osteoarthritis which has been getting progressively worse. Consultants are surprised I have had no injuries or a physically demanding job, and any tiredness is now attributed to having constant pain. I am a volunteer counsellor with a national mental heath charity, and recommend your channel to clients when we end sessions if they are interested in continuing to learn, understand and work on their mental health once our allocated sessions end and thank you for giving access to this support to everyone and not just those that can afford to pay for ongoing therapy. I look forward to watching future episodes on this topic, and hopefully learning of ways to help myself and my clients recover as much as possible from our trauma.
Definitely a mind body connection. Learning to breathe correctly is so important. It calms the mind, but first your mind must learn to tell your body and lungs how to breathe properly.
I have suffered from flatulence my whole life. A few years ago I started working through my anxieties caused by trauma. One day it was like a storm coming out of my buttocks. Since that day my flatulence problem is much better. My body released the pain, the hurt, the anxiety and the burden of trauma. I still have some anxieties and a lot of work to do. I still have got some stubborn trigger points which need healing. However I feel at peace with my past and my life has improved a lot.
I've become sick from every virus going around and I've had problems from malfunctioning stomach and intestines: constipation, allergies, sensitive skin, excemas, intolerances to food, sunlight and heat. Also, once in a mobilizing treatment from my naprapath (and good friend, meaning I felt completely safe in his care) he tried a new stretching grip to try and loosen the tight blockage in my lower back and when nothing happened and it was okay for me, he stretched even further... and then I emotionally fell" down into complete darkness, terror and massive anxiety. He thought he'd harmed me but it didn't hurt physically. I couldn't tell what happened, other than it was horrible emotionally and I immediately burst into tears, of course. To this day, some 20 years after, I still don't know why or what the position of my body reminded me of, but my body obviously knows and remembers. I have several Big T traumas so my qualified guess is the reason to the strong reaction in me was caused by a resemblance to one of the occasions I was sexually abused as a small child. 😥
These videos are so helpful to understand more about trauma and how to find ways back to homeostasis. But there is one aspect I find highly difficult. In the of your videos you invite people to leave a comment and promise an answer, what you don't do. I highly recommend not to make promises, you can't keep.
I have histamine intolerance, meaning that my body makes so much histamine that foods containing histamine cause a lot of symptoms. This was most likely caused by low-level ongoing trauma during my childhood. I also keep too many muscles too tight, more than are needed at any given time, revealing my constant freeze mode. (Fight and flight were punished in childhood.) I've had a lot of talk therapy over the years, but EFT in the last few years has helped so much more.
Narcassistic personality disorder can result too. They don't show up in therapy i can tell you! But the fall out around them does, me. These utubed have been incredibly enlightening to me. Brilliant.
Good afternoon, Alex. Thank you for creating such a clear and detailed video. I am beginning to deal with childhood sexual abuse and trying to understand the reasons why I have always struggled with certain aspects of life. It has taken me 48 years to get to this point and I must admit it is extremely scary and mind blowing. Your descriptions of ECHO really resonated with me. As for how I have noticed changes in my body, which I have always just brushed off as life or stress or genetics!!! I am accepting that the decades of holding onto my trauma, as well as layering this with other life issues, always layering on top of the core trauma, which is making it such a scary and unimaginable aspects to unpick and deal with. I have IBSC, physical aches and pains but mostly in my arms, shoulders and neck. I suffer with tension headaches daily and always feel a sense of panic is looming whereby my heartbeat races for no apparent reason. I have been saying to the doctor for years, when they review my antidepressants, that I know I am stressed as my arms feel heavy and I loose focus. I can sometimes zone out and stare at things, my mind is blank! and other times when I can not switch it off at all. As you said, I find times when I am energetic then I crash and burn. Thank you for your insight and expressional way of explaining things. Regards Donna Durston
My friend happened to recommend your series to me . This is very much related to me . Childhood trauma, young adult trauma, and then more recent job and hospice for my mom. Last summer in the span of 2 days i was laid off from state job, our dog died all while out of state providing hopsice for my mother (very complicated relationship) I have autoimmune disorders, possibly Lupus, fibromyalgia, etc. I'm looking forward to more of your aeries.
Must be why I am often told to relax. I remember in childhood I didn't know what mood or outburst would next appear from my parents, so I tried to be ready for the "correct "response. This has stayed with me all my life. Thankyou Mr. Alex for this insight.😊
I’ve been wired since teenage years and then tired. Now that has stopped me living. So going through the process of regulating my nervous system and working with my trauma. And remembering how to live again.
I can relate… I heard that expression from a therapists platform that was offered. ‘Tired and wired’ or tired and lethargic’ which rang true in nature. Very tiring in either mode especially oscillating between the two and so so so much of life just mis-used. We can only hope to learn from it. All the best.
To be honest with everything I've been through in my life I've have had quite a few from muscle tension, eating disorders, drug-addiction, compromised immune system and short term memory loss. But the one that has effected me the most is the physical effect my body has the emotional reaction to even the thought of asking someone for help. Living a traumatic childhood I finally worked up the courage to seek help from my abuser when I was 14 and was badly raped by the family friend I asked for help. The thought of needing help courses my body to feel violently ill. Even now after 23 years 😞
That’s such a sad story and it’s completely understandable how you’re afraid to seek help or healing but do, you are so worthy and have the right to receive it and start a kinder relationship with yourself I wish you every success and love, remember light a candle, don’t curse the darkness ❤️
I think I could relate to your video as I have been suffering from seizures in my sleep from 12 yrs & no medication has worked till date. Also I have gut issue & hormonal imbalance. My personal life has a very stressful home environment due to a broken marriage(divorce in court),6 yr child to look after
I had a recent response to an individual whose behaviors were very similar to my dysregulated father, someone who has been dead for 30 years. I became immediately constipated, just like I was with my childhood. I recognized my responses, moved to free myself from this individual. My digestive system returned to normal.
At first I did not realize the Trauma. I thought that was everyday life and completely normal. In my family it was normal! Took me some 45 years to realize that I had quite strong reactions to some situation like very pursuasive or angry people, when beeing accused of something I had not done etc. Working to much, tense and eventually got very tired and depressed. I also believe, after having seen this video, that my autoimmune Psoriasis comes from a homeostatic imbalance during many years of childhood and continously also as grown up.
I just realized that my long illness, impossibility to get surgery, pain and mind symptoms during the pandemic were definitely a very traumatic event. I feel as if I was having constant surges of adrenaline/cortisol. That is my way of responding to that event. 🤔🥴😣
Alex Good Stuff! I suffered serve domestic violence as a child up to the age of 16 when I moved out of my house. I do not know what a normal childhood would feel like. I have always wondered how different my life might have been. I tried to drink that pain away. I am now 28 years sober. I still have a problem with overeating / sugar to regulate my mood. I am hopeful with talks like yours on the subject of trauma. Trama is something that is very common in the country. Making a change to understanding it will have a profound effect to a better life. My journey has started to that new life with your help. Thank You! Love your clear understanding of how trauma impacts people's lives. Keep your videos coming!
I’ve been a very anxious person all my life. I was the youngest of seven children from quite a poor family (compared to my friends) I felt embarrassed about our living conditions was very sensitive & shy…blushing caused me great distress. Now retired I’m still a worrier and have some anger issues.. (plus acid reflux)
Covid-19 since 2021when I had an attack three times has Left me so traumatized that am still working out means of coping with post covid side effects including PTSD
My father died aged 47 with cancer. I was 9 years old. I now have health anxiety. I’m sure the reason for this was the death of my father and me being so young.
Same here except leukemia with my cousin I was very close to. He died at 21. I've had this nagging fear and feeling of foreboding ever since that I will also die young and that something is catastrophically wrong with me. It now is affecting my sons as they see this fear in me and are beginning to adopt that same fear. I need to change it.
First, thanks for this video and for the Trauma super conference. It was not only fascinating but so helpful and I got more from it than I thought I would. And I am learning so much. You are amazing. I am in my 50's now but I was an abused child in many ways, the sexual abuse is the hardest get through. I am so lucky to have come across you as the trauma caused me a kind of nervous break down a few months ago and I am only starting what I thought I had dealt with in therapy over 25 years ago. Anyway sorry so long. From this video because I never thought how the trauma had affected my body or was stored. I gathered that you said something about allergies and I have been having a lot of problems with that over the last 10 - 15 years. I keep getting a new food allergy it never stops. And I have skin sensitivity with allergies as well. And now things are happening and the doctors can't figure out why certain things are happening so they don't know how to help. Do you think that as I move through my journey now of healing this trauma I may find relief from some of my allergies? Thanks again and thanks for being you.
I've spent decades constantly feeling like "10 minutes before the start of an exam". Alcohol abuse helped with that, until it became unsustainable. With the help of AA I became sober, but then myself and my marriage really started to fall apart, because I didn't know what was going on at the root (I thought drinking WAS the problem) and never developed alternate coping tools.
It is changing all the time. It was depression which turned into eating disorder. I had period of eating disorder and depression. I dealt with the eating disorder but then started the anxiety and now I have depression, anxiety, chronic pain, chronic fatigue and type II diabetes.
Trauma,for me, played out through my arms and legs by developing red skin, like a very bad sunburn, that constantly burned, just like a very bad sunburn. It was diagnosed as nerve damage by a dermatologist.
Meditate on how much you love yourself..hold your arms, touch them lovingly if not to painful and send the love there and throughout your circulation system. 2 x 3 times per day for as long as is comfortable. Should clear up!
My teenage trauma comes with double sudden tragic losses of my beloved family members..its never been easy dealing & coping with it at a very young innocent age too. Luckily i've had some strong religious background to pull through all life tests that came my way. However, when we think deeply its also part of a life blessing to make us stronger, bolder & wiser. Aamiin. Love & light💖🙏💖🙏💖
I will be following this with interest Alex. I was a patient at the Clinic many years ago. I know I have Trauma, with me, it has been more recent than childhood although there was some events there too. I have had Covid 3 times, M. E. for 20 years and, many bereavements during the Pandemic, where I wasn't able to see people before they died. I am wired and very jumpy all the time, anxious, but depressed, no concentration. I hope your videos might help me. Thank you Alex.
I get triggers from my past and used to attract bullies ..but I pulled away from this type of people and found myself feeling safer nor having people in my home ( although I have started slowly slowly ) and finding my boundaries ..not easy but I have at least started to recognise these things ..I find my shoulders stiffen and I feel exhausted when I try to think thing through .
My trauma (or some of it) is the result of finding my hisband dead in our back yard. It has manifested itself in my digestive system, overwhelming fear at times, and crippling depression. It's been over 8 years now. I need help!
Alex, I feel that Trauma has been stored in my body through chronic stress by way of Anxiety, Depression, Panic attacks as well as always feeling on edge. I have been dealing with many types of trauma since I was a child and have been trying to work through it but I feel like this will never get better..
Hyper-control. I could regulate whether my body would register cold; wake up in the morning with a sore throat or upset stomach and decide I'd rather not be sick, get up, and walk it off; be awake and at work before most people were opening their eyes; and have a hyper-acute reflexive strike if touched without warning (even an accidental brush up against me.) [My roommates in college set me up with a couple dates, but warned them ahead of time not to touch me.] Can still retreat to sitting on my collar bone and stareing out my eye-sockets while deciding if I want to interface with the world or not. Time, a good psychiatrist over the last 20 years, and a current counselor who projects extreme acceptance and safety are winning me back into humanity.
I think maybe I have trauma stored in my body but I am not sure as I have been suffering from seizures at night in my sleep for last 12yrs & no medication has provided relief till date. Even my neurologist has cannot find a cure. Also I have hormonal imbalance & suffer from a unloving & stressful atmosphere at home as nobody understands my true feelings or listens properly. I have a lot of repressed grief due to this because I am just coping with my unhappy personal
Alex thank you for another brilliant video. I keep looking out for episode 14 of Katie's sessions i really hope she is doing well a beautiful woman with a kind heart her life resonates with mine.❤
Ive broken my neck a year ago, by God's grace He saved me from dying or being paralyzed but I had trauma fits for a year. I didnt have seizures for 6 months now, but get anxiety just thinking of that night. I don't go out a lot anymore, I'm always scared I fall again. I walk every day but just around or near the house
This is pretty much it. After growing up in an alcoholic home and dealing with mental illness, poverty, job loss, death of parents et cetera Yeah you end up traumatized. I want to find a way to move it out of my body.
I was sexually abused, raped, by 2 men for at least 5 years that I know of - it was possibly longer - between the ages of 4 and 9 when it stopped but I think it started when I was 2. And I found out when I was 30 through hypnosis but didn’t remember myself till I was 54 when I started having flashbacks after being abused by a student at work. I have suffered from major chronic depression since I was 24 since having my first child and I’m now 64. I’ve dissociated since then and have no idea when I’m doing it. I’ve been married since I was 20, happily mostly but have felt guilty about it since I I began to suffer from depression and worse since I found out about the abuse, my husband didn’t sign up for this - I should have left him and let him get on with his life but I couldn’t manage without him now. I have a severe big spider phobia and am hyper vigilant and always have been. One of the things that drew me to my husband was that he made me feel safe and I had never felt that way before.
I have developed an anxious twitching in my body, that gets worse when I am under stress. I have had an mri and seen a neurologist for this...all testing was normal.
It does not show on scans because it is stress induced and not caused by the brain and works on the nervous system. You can read up on different type of seizures.
About the trauma stored in my body, I can tell you a little story. The experience of having a narcissistic mother is the first and deepest trauma for a child. During my young years I read books which were above a child's level and created my own universe, I became a lonely child. Later on in life I was dedicated to my career, loved nature, dancing and reading. Until some envious and evil people who couldn't understand why I don't mingle with them, spread evil rumours about me which were not true. I felt helpless in dealing with the gossip and it affected me deeply. Every time I visit my hometown where all this happened before, I have sleepless nights, I change totally, I look worn out, I sweat profusely.This is how trauma is still active in my body and I can't control it, it controls me. In order to escape it, you retire into your own universe and so loneliness has become a reaction to the events in my life.
I grew up in a high state of arousal, scared and full of fear...this echo has been with me all through life.. ive worked with lots of therapeutic modalities. Im 56 now and I have just started Tre somatic exercises..any comments, suggestions welcome. Thankyou.
I believe trauma is in the body, that's why I think I had seizures, and while I was young I was paralyzed in the right side of my body for a week with no explanation from the doctor
@@Believe-h5u they were called grand mal seizures,(at least as a child I heard that) but I would remember them at night it would wake me up, I would feel numb and tingly and shaking all over
hi Alex thanks for vid eo I was abused I n my child hood by ty dad I have forgiven him but I still live in the past I have anarexia navona I use food as a way to cope with all the pain I feel, I lash out mainly at my mom I am finding your videos helpfull if you have any advice I would love that thanks Sarah,
I'm new at watching your RUclips videos,If all counselors, therapist and psychiatrists would watch your videos we would have less mental health in the world. Great!!Do you do one on one therapy?
If I don't do T.R.E soon I fear for myself. I found something local and I'm setting up an appointment. I throw up clear thick liquid whenever my mother is around me for too long.
My stomach .. I've had stomach aches since I was little ( when the trauma was present ) which has continued my whole life and I'm 50 years old. I have struggled with bulemia since I was 15... I have had countless hours and years of counseling... Mostly for trauma as a young adult... Never really touching the child the stuff ... I just would like to find a counselor that could actually help me...
Please would you not play music in the background, as I found it very distraction, and I want to concentrate on your wise words Alex. Thank you for those wise words. xxx
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truama as anxietu depressipn from aces
hidvtruamavin work
retired and more truama has caused total turmoil needs emotional not met as personality disorders erupted with ocd mow in total physical and emotional upset also affecting family badly
Depersonalization/ Derealization
Chronic Pain Disorder and personal estrangement from family, etc, etc.
I’m 76 and suffering from the result of 3 traumas . An emotionally abusive mother, a violent husband and recently losing my wonderful second husband who was the first person to love me unconditionally from a cruel 7 year dementia
Christine I am sad for your lost. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason to how this world works…. I hope your husband added solace to your life and you to his 🥹
So sorry for your loss
Sounds like my story only thank goodness I still have my second husband but he's 9 years older than me and in his seventies. I have enormous health issues from all the trauma I suffered and my husband is in effect my carer. In fact I actually moved out of the house to give him a break because I feel I'm going to be the cause of him dying...with exhaustion. I empathise and sympathise with you and question why some people just get it so tough. It's not easy❤. ❤❤❤
Sending love ❤
@@karendornan7447 You can not resolv the lives of others not eved that of the most loved ones. "First put on your oxigen mask before helping others" we hear it when we fly - remember, it is a profound truth.
I currently have so much of this, I also have a constant state of anxiety and ITS EXHAUSTING!! I am crying right now and can't stop!!
Anybody gets angry or negative, and my body freaks out. I see a cop and my body starts shaking even though I'm not doing anything wrong, and all of a sudden, I can't drive well. Anyone even says something negative to me and my body starts shaking. I cry so easy and I know it's how I learned to release some of the energy but I haven't been able to regulate myself, which makes it very hard to work with or around people. I do work around people, but there are many types of jobs I avoid because of this.
The trauma in my body shows as depression, anxiety, catastrophic thoughts, a feeling of hopelessness and that my body and mind just shut down and became chronically tired.
That’s how I feel about my trauma: disconnected, tense, sense of unease, expecting punishment or humiliation, just dead, unwilling to breathe - holding my breath.
same .. borderline mother and 7 foster moms .. always felt scared
To me, its been stored in my body in the form of depression, anxiety, panic attacks and disorder, chronic pain, and fatigue.
Exactly the same with me. To a tee
Yeah same, feels impossible to get better. I know this has all come from not being able to express my emotions or talking about specific traumatic events. I’m at the stage where I know I need therapy but that also terrifies me 😳
Please read books by Dr John Sarno x
I feel the same, jaw pain, body pain, anxiety, tired, fear
same . depression , panic attacks , eating disorder , hashimoto’s disease . Narcissistic mother, bipolar mother , schizophrenic father , 7 foster homes ..
I am a 75 year old retired Psychologist who worked with complex trauma survivors for much of my years in practice. I have been practicing Mindfulness and my work brought me to videos on trauma. And now i must acknowledge that I have never worked through my own history of trauma. My own trauma starts at age 9 months when I became paralyzed from the next to feet from the Polio virus. I spent the next 6 months living in a hospital, went home to my parents, and "worked through" the effects of Polio. At age 12, I was run over by a school bus mainly on my paralyzed leg. I realize today that it is time for me to use my Mindfulness practice and more to work through my own trauma as it continues to affect my life and my relationships. Thank you for this video.
❤ bless you .. thank you for giving your heart and work to others
Wow I see you as hero for going through those situations so early in life.
@@tulinbeyduz920 thank you so very much
@@wesleyshelby8163 wow- I don't know what to say, other than Thank You
Try Qigong or other type of somatic work (feldenkrais, yoga), it is in your body.
The trauma surfaces as anger, being a victim, health issues, feeling of being unsafe to where I am always on guard.
I had an accident that left me with a dis regulated nervous system and a lot of anxiety. I educated myself about anxieties and how the symptoms manifested so that every time I experienced anxiety I learned not to be scared. It took me some time but I eventually learned to accept the symptoms. Education, meditation and deep slow breathing that’s what helped me. I still on occasions feel light symptoms of anxiety but they are manageable and infrequent.
Although I've worked through trauma for many, many years by now, it was only in the last couple years that I really started understanding that my body is actually where the trauma is held and manifested, not so much my mind. Pivotal for this realization was an experience I had during an osteopathic treatment that got me in touch with a specific part of my childhood trauma. The therapist was brave and skilled enough to "tickle" the rage of a fight response out of me while all the while I had been stuck in freeze mode and fawn response. This particular experience has started a lengthy process of finding access to an inner strength that I never tapped into and that allows me to say no and at least consider defending myself. I'm still not really anywhere near a healthy regulated state, and in the past six to eight months I've dealt with lots of very visceral anxiety and "mindfuck" (sorry for the poor choice of language). But I consider that progress, because at least I'm not in freeze mode and I'm processing all those fears and am slowly starting to look into what it means to live instead of just surviving.
Physical manifestations of trauma for me have been: muscle and joint pain since as early as 17 y.o. (possibly autoimmune but evasive in most bloodwork that's been done), inclination towards inflammation, constant muscle tension leading to back and neck pain and frequent headaches, low energy, hormonal imbalances and very painful periods, recurring low moods, sensitivity to gluten, imbalanced gut biome, Hashimoto's disease, bruxism and lots of dental issues connected to that, recurring systemic herpes activations, hypersensitivity and proneness to sensory overload.
That's a long list of symptoms, but no doctor ever seems to understand why any of that would be wearing me out or even incapacitate me to the point of being unable to work.... 🤷♀️ because they never look at the full picture.
I've suffered from not knowing who I am and what I want or need for most of my adult life and currently feel a painful sense of failure due to this lack of direction, motivation, and courage in my life. But I'm starting to work my way out of that old state of helplessness, overwhelm and paralyzing fear into something that feels more alive and more like me. I do wish I had more help with this. Good therapist with experience in recovery from childhood trauma are extremely hard to find.
Thank u so much for sharing. Very insightful and so relatable. Your detailed description really helps to see all the texture of this experience. I beleive our wounds die the way they were born. So i start from reparenting the little child inside of me where i meet all the needs that werent met by our caregivers and became the wounds we carry with us. By meeting those needs we heal those wounds while in the process learning who we actually are. The revenge is defining ourselves the way the nature designed us to be...just being and breathing is already enough. Sending u lots of healing. I ll keep rereading your post.
I got most of these even though (trauma, ) journal therapy with a highly experienced psychotherapist had basically made the depression all but disappear, the fibromyalgia of over 30 years (no inflammatory markers for rheumatoid arthritis, ) is getting even worse. I've also got hashimoto's thyroiditis, like almost every female in my family, both grandmother's, mother, me, only sibling and granddaughter have autoimmune thyroid disease... also allergies to foods, mets, some cleaning g products. I eat live bio culture yoghurt, this has made IBS disappear.
One thing that helps me regain my balance and helps me manage pain a little better is my daily swim in the sea.
Best wishes.
For me it’s been severe episodes of anxiety and histamine intolerance, where I can’t eat much without the anxiety being triggered.
I relate to lots of what you shared and I have similar health issues.
You might want to try somatic exercises. Check YT and do them every morning.
I can relate to your story ...
I'm a sleep clencher to 10th power. I wear mouth guards and have only now found one that can handle my bite force. That, and by monitoring my moods throughout the day, I see that every few hours I oscillate between at peace with the world to "everyone is out to get me".
Thank you Alex, I know in my heart that you actually care about us healing RUclipsrs.
Hi, i,m 57 , living in Europe. My story..... After getting a neuromusculaire disease called Myasthenia Gravis when i was young, it happened at age 18. It was an very traumatic experience, couldn,t talk properly, couldn,t eat,swallow,or drink. I was a rebel before that ( but i always struggled with insecurity and low self esteem ) This horrific period lasted more than a year before getting Surgery. They removed the thymus via open heart surgery. I developed an anxiety disorder, agoraphobia and severe depression. The surgery was successful , i recovered mostly but have some restsymptoms but i,ve never got rid of the trauma which caused psychosomatic symptoms in the mouth/ throatarea., still do. It took 30 years before i had EMDR, no psychiatrist or whatever doctor ever mentioned PTSD like you talk about.Wish they had they had the knowledge just as you explained me in the video. I worked, didn,t last very long each time. A 23 years relationship/ marriage with someone with BPD traumatised me on another level, but i was very codependent. In the meantime the last three years my parents died who were always my biggest support, my dog died who was my biggest friend and my partner for who i sacrified so much dumped me with just a text message because i crashed and got ( not notacible on the scan) braindamage from ten years care taking for my elderly mother with dementia. Emotional exhausted, no support from any doctor.I,ve been completely on my own for the last years fighting every day to heal from this all. What a story Hey? There are many man who want me but i can,t Although i want it so badly. I wish i could end my life. This is how difficult it all is. Thanks for reading, i,m glad that i can share this anonymous
finally getting my head around this after years of suffering. there are people that cause issues like this
I have ‘found’ you recently Alex, and I’m so glad that I did! I have fibromyalgia and MS and have suffered for years with my health problems. I went missing as a small child at the seaside and was found 3 hours later with a man. My mums memory of the events was very sketchy, but I never knew what happened to me, although I have been on the edge of memories about it, as it happened at the seaside, and I have felt something in my gut at times near promenade shelters, and steps down to the sea. I have also had other traumas as a child (being grabbed by a man between the legs when I was 9 and almost abducted) and lots of other stressful life events. I had both my knees replaced in March, and since then I shave been having horrendous regret, (what on earth was I thinking!?), a massive flare up of my MS symptoms and very deep depression and distress. I am having hypnotherapy, and have seen a MH nurse, and know I need to do ‘the work’. I know I have trauma trapped in my body, so now I feel motivated to help myself by going gently into releasing that trauma. I need to find a good therapist like you! Thank you……💕
Wish you all the best with your 'trauma work'. 💞
I needed to understand myself better after dealing with domestic violence and abuse, and actually I can with your explanations. You are doing something very significant for many people. Thank you, honestly, a lot.
Personal therapy and my own training in counselling has helped me understand the physical affect trauma has had on me, and also has on so many others I have worked with. I have worked through, understood and processed the effect on my own mental health, but physically I still have a long way to go and am unsure if or how it would be possible to recover from this.
I had been sexually abused for a number of years as a young child. It stopped in my early teens, and as I didnt start to feel 'unwell' until my late teens, it took me a long while to connect them. Drs were of no help and I was unable to fully describe what was wrong, any blood tests always came back as normal so I just learned to live with it - I felt constantly tired, had brain fog and recurring bladder infections. I tried hypnotherapy as I felt as if I was tense, but I did not feel stressed, just 'tight' in my neck and shoulders. In my 20s my dad died and a year later my mum also passed away from overdosing on prescribed medication. As well as the other physical issues I continued to have, I also started having recurring throat infections, toothache, hormonal alopecia and my bowels began to reacted badly to certain foods. I saw a homeopath who confirmed my immune system was compromised and explained my adrenal and nervous systems were most likely depleted also. I was intolerant to many foods and spent a number of years working with him on improving and resetting my systems by eliminating certain food groups for periods of time.
During those years I came across Buteyko breathing, and learned how unhealthy my breathing pattern was. I feel as if this was the moment I started to recognise the effect the trauma in my life had physically had on me. Often feeling breathless when under stress or once a period of stress had passed, and once I started breathing exercises my immune system also started to significantly improve.
I feel this links to everything you describe in this video - my fight or flight response was constantly on, and this was reflected in my breathing, even during sleep where i'd clench my teeth and wake up with headaches. By forcing my breathing pattern to change and turning off this response in my body things did improve, along with help from my homeopath. I felt the best I had ever felt and managed to stop the recurring infections, my hair grew back and my bowels started to work normally again. I never did manage to get to what was considered a healthy breathe pause, and the tiredness and brain fog improved but was still there. After a while the uncomfortable feeling of suffocating by trying to breath with my mouth closed, not yawn, constantly count my breath etc meant I didnt stick with it beyond a few months once things improved, although I am aware I still try to keep my mouth closed at night and belly breath as much as possible. Im not sure how long id have had to perservere before my system would have reset itself rather than breathing having to be a conscious thing, but I do still wonder if I would feel 'better' now had I stuck with it...
The biggest long term health affect I feel is now, at age 50, I have very bad, unexplained Osteoarthritis which has been getting progressively worse. Consultants are surprised I have had no injuries or a physically demanding job, and any tiredness is now attributed to having constant pain.
I am a volunteer counsellor with a national mental heath charity, and recommend your channel to clients when we end sessions if they are interested in continuing to learn, understand and work on their mental health once our allocated sessions end and thank you for giving access to this support to everyone and not just those that can afford to pay for ongoing therapy. I look forward to watching future episodes on this topic, and hopefully learning of ways to help myself and my clients recover as much as possible from our trauma.
Definitely a mind body connection. Learning to breathe correctly is so important. It calms the mind, but first your mind must learn to tell your body and lungs how to breathe properly.
I have suffered from flatulence my whole life. A few years ago I started working through my anxieties caused by trauma. One day it was like a storm coming out of my buttocks. Since that day my flatulence problem is much better. My body released the pain, the hurt, the anxiety and the burden of trauma. I still have some anxieties and a lot of work to do. I still have got some stubborn trigger points which need healing. However I feel at peace with my past and my life has improved a lot.
I was sent to a neurologist who thought I had MS.... I didn't, it was stress from trauma.
I do have MS from a childhood of abxse 😥 I'm glad that you don't have this disease, it stops you from doing so many things.
I've become sick from every virus going around and I've had problems from malfunctioning stomach and intestines: constipation, allergies, sensitive skin, excemas, intolerances to food, sunlight and heat. Also, once in a mobilizing treatment from my naprapath (and good friend, meaning I felt completely safe in his care) he tried a new stretching grip to try and loosen the tight blockage in my lower back and when nothing happened and it was okay for me, he stretched even further... and then I emotionally fell" down into complete darkness, terror and massive anxiety. He thought he'd harmed me but it didn't hurt physically. I couldn't tell what happened, other than it was horrible emotionally and I immediately burst into tears, of course. To this day, some 20 years after, I still don't know why or what the position of my body reminded me of, but my body obviously knows and remembers.
I have several Big T traumas so my qualified guess is the reason to the strong reaction in me was caused by a resemblance to one of the occasions I was sexually abused as a small child. 😥
These videos are so helpful to understand more about trauma and how to find ways back to homeostasis. But there is one aspect I find highly difficult. In the of your videos you invite people to leave a comment and promise an answer, what you don't do. I highly recommend not to make promises, you can't keep.
I have histamine intolerance, meaning that my body makes so much histamine that foods containing histamine cause a lot of symptoms. This was most likely caused by low-level ongoing trauma during my childhood. I also keep too many muscles too tight, more than are needed at any given time, revealing my constant freeze mode. (Fight and flight were punished in childhood.) I've had a lot of talk therapy over the years, but EFT in the last few years has helped so much more.
Narcassistic personality disorder can result too. They don't show up in therapy i can tell you! But the fall out around them does, me. These utubed have been incredibly enlightening to me. Brilliant.
Good afternoon, Alex. Thank you for creating such a clear and detailed video. I am beginning to deal with childhood sexual abuse and trying to understand the reasons why I have always struggled with certain aspects of life. It has taken me 48 years to get to this point and I must admit it is extremely scary and mind blowing. Your descriptions of ECHO really resonated with me. As for how I have noticed changes in my body, which I have always just brushed off as life or stress or genetics!!! I am accepting that the decades of holding onto my trauma, as well as layering this with other life issues, always layering on top of the core trauma, which is making it such a scary and unimaginable aspects to unpick and deal with. I have IBSC, physical aches and pains but mostly in my arms, shoulders and neck. I suffer with tension headaches daily and always feel a sense of panic is looming whereby my heartbeat races for no apparent reason. I have been saying to the doctor for years, when they review my antidepressants, that I know I am stressed as my arms feel heavy and I loose focus. I can sometimes zone out and stare at things, my mind is blank! and other times when I can not switch it off at all. As you said, I find times when I am energetic then I crash and burn. Thank you for your insight and expressional way of explaining things.
Regards Donna Durston
My friend happened to recommend your series to me .
This is very much related to me .
Childhood trauma, young adult trauma, and then more recent job and hospice for my mom.
Last summer in the span of 2 days i was laid off from state job, our dog died all while out of state providing hopsice for my mother (very complicated relationship)
I have autoimmune disorders, possibly Lupus, fibromyalgia, etc.
I'm looking forward to more of your aeries.
Must be why I am often told to relax. I remember in childhood I didn't know what mood or outburst would next appear from my parents, so I tried to be ready for the "correct "response. This has stayed with me all my life. Thankyou Mr. Alex for this insight.😊
Wild triggers 😭I’ve been home bound 4yr and currently working with a trama therapist but always searching beyond
I’ve been wired since teenage years and then tired. Now that has stopped me living. So going through the process of regulating my nervous system and working with my trauma. And remembering how to live again.
I can relate… I heard that expression from a therapists platform that was offered. ‘Tired and wired’ or tired and lethargic’ which rang true in nature. Very tiring in either mode especially oscillating between the two and so so so much of life just mis-used. We can only hope to learn from it. All the best.
Addiction for reading and snacking to escape reality, diagnosed Fybtomyalgia, sometimes super exited and energetic, but mostly tired
Thank you. wow ,it's about nervous system shift.I have anxiety, tense,perfectionist.
I've experienced muscle tension, migraines, left side numbness, anxiety, depression, paranoia, plus I catch myself shutting down
To be honest with everything I've been through in my life I've have had quite a few from muscle tension, eating disorders, drug-addiction, compromised immune system and short term memory loss. But the one that has effected me the most is the physical effect my body has the emotional reaction to even the thought of asking someone for help. Living a traumatic childhood I finally worked up the courage to seek help from my abuser when I was 14 and was badly raped by the family friend I asked for help. The thought of needing help courses my body to feel violently ill. Even now after 23 years 😞
That’s such a sad story and it’s completely understandable how you’re afraid to seek help or healing but do, you are so worthy and have the right to receive it and start a kinder relationship with yourself
I wish you every success and love, remember light a candle, don’t curse the darkness ❤️
I think I could relate to your video as I have been suffering from seizures in my sleep from 12 yrs & no medication has worked till date. Also I have gut issue & hormonal imbalance. My personal life has a very stressful home environment due to a broken marriage(divorce in court),6 yr child to look after
I had a recent response to an individual whose behaviors were very similar to my dysregulated father, someone who has been dead for 30 years. I became immediately constipated, just like I was with my childhood. I recognized my responses, moved to free myself from this individual. My digestive system returned to normal.
You have described what is happening to me exactly following the death of my husband - Thank you for explaining so succinctly 🙏
At first I did not realize the Trauma. I thought that was everyday life and completely normal. In my family it was normal! Took me some 45 years to realize that I had quite strong reactions to some situation like very pursuasive or angry people, when beeing accused of something I had not done etc. Working to much, tense and eventually got very tired and depressed. I also believe, after having seen this video, that my autoimmune Psoriasis comes from a homeostatic imbalance during many years of childhood and continously also as grown up.
I just realized that my long illness, impossibility to get surgery, pain and mind symptoms during the pandemic were definitely a very traumatic event. I feel as if I was having constant surges of adrenaline/cortisol. That is my way of responding to that event. 🤔🥴😣
TRE Trauma release exercises is helping me release trauma from my system
Alex Good Stuff! I suffered serve domestic violence as a child up to the age of 16 when I moved out of my house. I do not know what a normal childhood would feel like. I have always wondered how different my life might have been. I tried to drink that pain away. I am now 28 years sober. I still have a problem with overeating / sugar to regulate my mood. I am hopeful with talks like yours on the subject of trauma. Trama is something that is very common in the country. Making a change to understanding it will have a profound effect to a better life. My journey has started to that new life with your help. Thank You! Love your clear understanding of how trauma impacts people's lives. Keep your videos coming!
I’ve been a very anxious person all my life. I was the youngest of seven children from quite a poor family (compared to my friends) I felt embarrassed about our living conditions was very sensitive & shy…blushing caused me great distress. Now retired I’m still a worrier and have some anger issues.. (plus acid reflux)
Covid-19 since 2021when I had an attack three times has Left me so traumatized that am still working out means of coping with post covid side effects including PTSD
me too
My father died aged 47 with cancer. I was 9 years old. I now have health anxiety. I’m sure the reason for this was the death of my father and me being so young.
Same here except leukemia with my cousin I was very close to. He died at 21. I've had this nagging fear and feeling of foreboding ever since that I will also die young and that something is catastrophically wrong with me. It now is affecting my sons as they see this fear in me and are beginning to adopt that same fear. I need to change it.
This is absolutely brilliant. I really relate to this thank you so much x
Great concise content!!! Keep doing, please. Thank you.
First, thanks for this video and for the Trauma super conference. It was not only fascinating but so helpful and I got more from it than I thought I would. And I am learning so much. You are amazing. I am in my 50's now but I was an abused child in many ways, the sexual abuse is the hardest get through. I am so lucky to have come across you as the trauma caused me a kind of nervous break down a few months ago and I am only starting what I thought I had dealt with in therapy over 25 years ago. Anyway sorry so long. From this video because I never thought how the trauma had affected my body or was stored. I gathered that you said something about allergies and I have been having a lot of problems with that over the last 10 - 15 years. I keep getting a new food allergy it never stops. And I have skin sensitivity with allergies as well. And now things are happening and the doctors can't figure out why certain things are happening so they don't know how to help. Do you think that as I move through my journey now of healing this trauma I may find relief from some of my allergies? Thanks again and thanks for being you.
I've spent decades constantly feeling like "10 minutes before the start of an exam". Alcohol abuse helped with that, until it became unsustainable. With the help of AA I became sober, but then myself and my marriage really started to fall apart, because I didn't know what was going on at the root (I thought drinking WAS the problem) and never developed alternate coping tools.
It is changing all the time. It was depression which turned into eating disorder. I had period of eating disorder and depression. I dealt with the eating disorder but then started the anxiety and now I have depression, anxiety, chronic pain, chronic fatigue and type II diabetes.
This video is excellent!! Thank you so much
I would say I have experienced everything you listed. Thanks.
Trauma,for me, played out through my arms and legs by developing red skin, like a very bad sunburn, that constantly burned, just like a very bad sunburn. It was diagnosed as nerve damage by a dermatologist.
Meditate on how much you love yourself..hold your arms, touch them lovingly if not to painful and send the love there and throughout your circulation system. 2 x 3 times per day for as long as is comfortable. Should clear up!
Brilliant Alex your style and clarity is super
My teenage trauma comes with double sudden tragic losses of my beloved family members..its never been easy dealing & coping with it at a very young innocent age too. Luckily i've had some strong religious background to pull through all life tests that came my way. However, when we think deeply its also part of a life blessing to make us stronger, bolder & wiser. Aamiin.
Love & light💖🙏💖🙏💖
I now have thyroid issues, borderline diabetic depression insomnia I believe my trauma that I've gone through still affects me
Fibromyalgia,depression,anxiety,headaches/migraines
I will be following this with interest Alex. I was a patient at the Clinic many years ago. I know I have Trauma, with me, it has been more recent than childhood although there was some events there too. I have had Covid 3 times, M. E. for 20 years and, many bereavements during the Pandemic, where I wasn't able to see people before they died. I am wired and very jumpy all the time, anxious, but depressed, no concentration. I hope your videos might help me. Thank you Alex.
I get triggers from my past and used to attract bullies ..but I pulled away from this type of people and found myself feeling safer nor having people in my home ( although I have started slowly slowly ) and finding my boundaries ..not easy but I have at least started to recognise these things ..I find my shoulders stiffen and I feel exhausted when I try to think thing through .
Very enlightening. Thank you.
Thank you the great explanation and wonderful video.
Everyone's got it
My trauma (or some of it) is the result of finding my hisband dead in our back yard. It has manifested itself in my digestive system, overwhelming fear at times, and crippling depression. It's been over 8 years now. I need help!
ibogaine therapy , ayahuasca throaty or san pedro .. or ketamine or mdma therapy .. check them out
Alex, I feel that Trauma has been stored in my body through chronic stress by way of Anxiety, Depression, Panic attacks as well as always feeling on edge. I have been dealing with many types of trauma since I was a child and have been trying to work through it but I feel like this will never get better..
I noticed that I'm in constant fear that I'm going to be triggered by the same event.
Hyper-control. I could regulate whether my body would register cold; wake up in the morning with a sore throat or upset stomach and decide I'd rather not be sick, get up, and walk it off; be awake and at work before most people were opening their eyes; and have a hyper-acute reflexive strike if touched without warning (even an accidental brush up against me.) [My roommates in college set me up with a couple dates, but warned them ahead of time not to touch me.] Can still retreat to sitting on my collar bone and stareing out my eye-sockets while deciding if I want to interface with the world or not. Time, a good psychiatrist over the last 20 years, and a current counselor who projects extreme acceptance and safety are winning me back into humanity.
I think maybe I have trauma stored in my body but I am not sure as I have been suffering from seizures at night in my sleep for last 12yrs & no medication has provided relief till date. Even my neurologist has cannot find a cure. Also I have hormonal imbalance & suffer from a unloving & stressful atmosphere at home as nobody understands my true feelings or listens properly. I have a lot of repressed grief due to this because I am just coping with my unhappy personal
Alex thank you for another brilliant video. I keep looking out for episode 14 of Katie's sessions i really hope she is doing well a beautiful woman with a kind heart her life resonates with mine.❤
Ive broken my neck a year ago, by God's grace He saved me from dying or being paralyzed but I had trauma fits for a year. I didnt have seizures for 6 months now, but get anxiety just thinking of that night. I don't go out a lot anymore, I'm always scared I fall again. I walk every day but just around or near the house
Have you done some research on perimenopause and menopause Alex?
This is pretty much it. After growing up in an alcoholic home and dealing with mental illness, poverty, job loss, death of parents et cetera Yeah you end up traumatized. I want to find
a way to move it out of my body.
I was sexually abused, raped, by 2 men for at least 5 years that I know of - it was possibly longer - between the ages of 4 and 9 when it stopped but I think it started when I was 2. And I found out when I was 30 through hypnosis but didn’t remember myself till I was 54 when I started having flashbacks after being abused by a student at work. I have suffered from major chronic depression since I was 24 since having my first child and I’m now 64. I’ve dissociated since then and have no idea when I’m doing it. I’ve been married since I was 20, happily mostly but have felt guilty about it since I I began to suffer from depression and worse since I found out about the abuse, my husband didn’t sign up for this - I should have left him and let him get on with his life but I couldn’t manage without him now. I have a severe big spider phobia and am hyper vigilant and always have been. One of the things that drew me to my husband was that he made me feel safe and I had never felt that way before.
Excellent!
I have developed an anxious twitching in my body, that gets worse when I am under stress. I have had an mri and seen a neurologist for this...all testing was normal.
It does not show on scans because it is stress induced and not caused by the brain and works on the nervous system. You can read up on different type of seizures.
About the trauma stored in my body, I can tell you a little story. The experience of having a narcissistic mother is the first and deepest trauma for a child. During my young years I read books which were above a child's level and created my own universe, I became a lonely child. Later on in life I was dedicated to my career, loved nature, dancing and reading. Until some envious and evil people who couldn't understand why I don't mingle with them, spread evil rumours about me which were not true. I felt helpless in dealing with the gossip and it affected me deeply. Every time I visit my hometown where all this happened before, I have sleepless nights, I change totally, I look worn out, I sweat profusely.This is how trauma is still active in my body and I can't control it, it controls me. In order to escape it, you retire into your own universe and so loneliness has become a reaction to the events in my life.
I grew up in a high state of arousal, scared and full of fear...this echo has been with me all through life.. ive worked with lots of therapeutic modalities. Im 56 now and I have just started Tre somatic exercises..any comments, suggestions welcome. Thankyou.
Wow .. iv been messed up for years 😕
I’m stuck in that state of maladaptive stress
My has shown up as mental disorders (Bipolar, BPD, CPTSD, and ADD) and as cyclic angry outburst states that can last for hours
I see things like pulsetto or nurosym working on the vagus ? Could this work? Meditating is not really working for me. I’m way to restless
I have trauma every time I’m in Dallas traffic or watch the news.
Smoking and having arthritis ra and osto i was incouraged to smoke as a child and used smoking to help
I believe trauma is in the body, that's why I think I had seizures, and while I was young I was paralyzed in the right side of my body for a week with no explanation from the doctor
@janoahtindell what type of seizures did you get?
@@Believe-h5u they were called grand mal seizures,(at least as a child I heard that) but I would remember them at night it would wake me up, I would feel numb and tingly and shaking all over
It’s a strange feeling that appears in the body, and I think here’s the anxiety in the body. I feel scared
hi Alex thanks for vid eo I was abused I n my child hood by ty dad I have forgiven him but I still live in the past I have anarexia navona I use food as a way to cope with all the pain I feel, I lash out mainly at my mom I am finding your videos helpfull if you have any advice I would love that thanks Sarah,
Are there online group therapy „gatherings“ as a first step toward dealing with trauma?
For those who need help but don’t want to be seen or touched?
I would like to know this as well.
How to recover from past bad memories? After Dilution illness and depression?
I’m storing trauma in my throat because of a recent loss
Trauma and DPDR
Uncomfortable state thats simply stop letting you or take a first step
I'm new at watching your RUclips videos,If all counselors, therapist and psychiatrists would watch your videos we would have less mental health in the world. Great!!Do you do one on one therapy?
How do you fix your nervous system???
Thank u a lot it was really beneficial
May you shut this music in background it's annoying
If I don't do T.R.E soon I fear for myself. I found something local and I'm setting up an appointment. I throw up clear thick liquid whenever my mother is around me for too long.
My stomach .. I've had stomach aches since I was little ( when the trauma was present ) which has continued my whole life and I'm 50 years old. I have struggled with bulemia since I was 15... I have had countless hours and years of counseling... Mostly for trauma as a young adult... Never really touching the child the stuff ... I just would like to find a counselor that could actually help me...
Sometimes the feeling of anxiety from trauma just pops up in the body for no particular reason …..could just be relaxing at home for example
Exactly
Please would you not play music in the background, as I found it very distraction, and I want to concentrate on your wise words Alex. Thank you for those wise words. xxx
Autoimmune disorders.
I’m A NHS Keyworker (dyslexic =🫥 Evicted to a lock up garage on Lockdown day @ 11am 24.03.2020 by North Ayrshire Council 🏴 … all 11 year old daughters & my belongings put in storage…. as I was at nhs dealing with an emergency ‼️
No contact No Help …🫥 Mental health gone …💀 What do I do ……..
This video is of NO HELP AT ALL! Why would I subscribe and sign up for more of the same? USELESS!
That’s if your not …🫥 Dyslexia…Speak copy paste Is it right? 🫥