Thank you. I am a stroke survivor, different but similar. Your adventures give me patience and hope for a changed future. Keep going, you are admirable.
@@ferninthehouse I was fortunate. Out like a light in less than an hour after it started. In a sort of coma for a month. That was 5 years ago. I just found out the girl fron NCIS had a big one. It is a weird "handicap" . So many ways how it affected different people. This channel is incredible for me. This young lady faces so many things that I can total relate to. Her current adventures with a wheel chair we stroke survivor face. Some times it is a stepping stone. Sometimes it is all there is. I learned a lot of how frail we are. Her wound you can see. Neurological symptoms are all over the map. I never know if it is real or something to ovwercome. I don't wish this on any one. Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it.
"Power through, push through" is especially bad for me because it makes me really really sick, like days of bedrest sick if I overdo it. It took me a ridiculous number of years to recognize it too! I build my endurance better by being gentle and not triggering bedrest. Congratulations to learning this lesson and enjoy your sleepy napping puppies.
Same! If you're like me, and it's a/multiple chronic illness/illnesses that isn't/aren't visible to others, it is all the more difficult. People assume you are just being lazy, or a whiner, that "you just don't want to work". I am very willing to do the work, I just know that I will pay for it by not being able to function for many days or sometimes weeks afterwards. I grew up in a home where if you weren't being productive at all times you were a failure, and it has been so hard to learn that it is okay to be gentle with myself. I still don't always manage it, but I am trying to learn not to berate myself for that either!
@@amandabaker4678 My body has a hard time digesting everything I eat, and there have been many times where during PE I don't have enough in my body, and I have to push myself to a point where I feel light headed in order to keep up with class. Not to mention asthma and sleep issues.
Yes! Same with me. My 21 year old was with me for almost a week. I have been having extra health issues lately. I hadn’t realized how much stress and overdoing things for almost a week would exhaust me. I dropped the kiddo off for college on Thursday. I have been mostly in bed since! I’m really hoping that I can get out and do some errands tomorrow. I also have a huge amount of housework that has piled up to do.
As someone with chronic pain accepting limits and actually sticking to them is one of the hardest parts. Sometimes we know we can’t do things and we still try to power through because a “normal” person would be able to do it. I’m so happy you’re finding and accepting your limits ❤️
I hate the phrase "no pain, no gain". Hate, hate, hate it. I'm in pain 24/7/365. There is no gain with a chronic pain condition. None. Thank you all for letting me vent. 🤗
I have started answering my coworkers question "how are you" with "everything hurts and I'm tired. But it hurts marginally less than yesterday so I'm good for today. How are you?" It probably helps that I'm an IT professional and we are accepted as being surly and odd.
Its a hard pill to swallow but recognizing those limits keep you going on to other adventures and opportunities that await! The dominoe effect when things go wrong, alone out in the wilderness isn’t worth risking, you did the right thing. That Never Give Up spirit is alive and well in you as well as being smart about situations. You are ALWAYS an inspiration!
Thank you so much for this video. I stayed home instead of going camping in a festival this years even though I waited so long for it, but I saw I couldn’t do it. I am proud of myself to listen to myself too. This is the hardest part of the journey
Same here and I was what I like to call a "high energy" person so to still be high energy but not have the type of body to back me up anymore is not only depressing but also very limiting. Because I have chronic pain from my legs I'm a fall and faint risk now as well and when I'm sometimes allowed "zoomies" I end up bed ridden for the next 3 - 6 days.
@@tallvinesbs1595 ugh 😩 I do the exact same thing. I have to really focus on not being mad about laying in the bed. I have osteoarthritis degenerative in my right hip arthritis in my right ankle and I just feel old. My body does, anyway. Thanks for sharing. I honestly feel less alone. And less angry that I can’t just get up and go check the mail or do little things. Hang in there. 🫂
@@Jitmommy33 hang in there too hun ;-; and trust me it's not just you even though it's frickin awful this started for me at 18 - 19 years old and I'm 21 now and I definitely feel old lol my mom jokes that I'm older than her because she has to help me all the time and I walk with a cane. I wish you the longest zoomies ;-;
@@tallvinesbs1595 I’m 20 with lots of physical pain and health issues for someone my age so I relate. It can be really discouraging dealing with debilitating health issues. It takes a toll on you mentally. And is so hard to cope especially at a young age when you’re supposed to be getting started with your adult life and stuck at home because of health issues. I am managing things better now and have a job but it is still a daily struggle.
Yeap, the most important thing I learned very early in life is to listen to my body. It's fun to push your boundaries, but if something starts to really hurt , stop.
I've been struggling a lot with this recently, I have chronic fatigue symptoms and injure very easily but having recently come out of a depressive episode I'm having to completely re-learn my limits now that I have the motivation to do things. I have pushed myself too far a few times lately and they've landed me needing a lot of rest and/or in a lot of pain. It's tough.
When our limitations become the parameters within we plan our life, the things we truly can do become so much more possible. I struggle with this every day. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Jo!
I feel you. I love your videos. I learn so much from it. This one is particularly touching for me. English is not my 1st language and I've not been through your fights, far from that, but a couple of years ago I started to have knees big injuries and I had to learn how to cope with the sadness of my body limitations. My happiness was only found through climbing, mountaineering and when I was stressed I could always take my running shoes and go outside. But now I can't. This is very depressing to learn these new limitations and I hope this is not disrespectful to say all these things. Dreaming of these activities and knowing when you wake up that this is not possible anymore is harsh. Thank you for finding a bright side from it : protect your body and recognizing your limits. I really feel you and will continue following you. What you sharing is really precious.
I had a pretty serious accident 10 years ago that forever changed my life. I get angry and frustrated because I still FEEL like I should be able to do “all the things” and sometimes it drives me nuts that I can’t. Thanks for your powerful and positive messages.
Well done you! That's an amazing thing to do for yourself! I suffer with chronic pain and after years I still struggle to recognise that sometimes I can't do things because of pain, and I can't do things the way I used to when I didn't have pain. I'm learning and trying but it's hard and to see someone else going through a similar situation and being so open and kind to themself about it is wonderful and encouraging 💜
I have a neuromuscular disease called Charcot-Marie-Tooth (it has nothing to do with teeth! Tooth is the name of one of the people who identified the disease) I'm 66 and mostly full of energy. I live alone with 3 small dogs and a cat. Recently I've recognized that I have more limits than ever before! I hate asking for help but I'm learning! I'm also learning to live within these limits. I could sit around and complain or be sad about it, but what fun is that? Thank you for your positivity! You are an inspiration.
This is something that I have struggled with too. I think that coming to terms with this is hard for those with disabilities. We are always trying hard to prove that we are just as good, real, capable etc just like those who don’t deal with a disability. Thank you for all the posts that you do. They are so encouraging.
You are a true Wise Woman! 💖 Understanding that none of us are perfect AND are abilities change (especially as we get older as I have), you are so wise…working with what we have and feeling blessed that that knowledge keeps us safe and able to continue doing everything we can do. Thank you for sharing that wisdom with us all! ✨💖✨
I do understand. I was an female athlete running cross country who ran 4:30 miles as well as triathlons, mountain climbing, skiing, scuba diving, etc. When I had a catastrophic snow skiing accident in 1987 at 28 yo I was unable to run or do pretty much anything including walk. Running was the one thing that kept me sane and I LOVED it. Finally in 2015 I had to have both knees replaced. The first question I asked my surgeon was when will I be able to run. His shoulders dropped and he said “never.” He then said I could but my implants will wear out sooner and revisions aren’t as successful the 2nd time. I was devastated. I assumed new knees, old life. I walk instead which isn’t as fun but at least I can walk instead of asking the number of steps to a business. I dream about running which is exhilarating but frustrating when I wake up to reality🤣. I’m 100% glad I got new knees but like you I have to recognize my limitations. I love your channel. You bring honesty and truth out about being disabled that give me hope! Ty for the content. Don’t stop. 🙌❤️🤩🥰
Thank you - I was diagnosed with a life-changing condition over a year ago, and am still royally pissed. This is what I needed to hear, especially the part about there still being a lot of beauty in it. Stay well!
Having to understand and accept my limitations has been very hard. I'm recovering from an eating disorder and have essentially been living at an underweight state for a year and a half now; I was always a stubborn person and was raised to be independent but through this difficult process of recovery I've had to just...accept (sometimes by force) that some days you just can't, and honestly even on days you can maybe you shouldn't and that's very hard. Even though our struggles are very different I've found some comfort in your videos because even though you may be talking about your leg it feels like someone understands my struggle and some days that's what I need to keep going.
Hugs, hon. The 1960 "push past it - you have work" attitude has been detrimental to both my physical And mental health. I took a Whole day off to start physical therapy and my cousin actually applauded me. Protect YOU. It's the only YOU you get.💝‼️
Thank you Jo, I have had four surgeries that 3/4 of were to fix the damage the first did and I gained a bunch of weight and pitied myself. Once I recognized my limits and was able to use that to do fun shit and work hard but limit myself. It sucks but it has made me a stronger person and I do other fun non physical things when I can't do the harder stuff. You're a wonderful person and thanks for sharing this for those that haven't gotten to the point of acceptance and understanding your limits and respecting them. You're awesome Jo. Have a great weekend and hope you're doing well :)
Has anyone ever told you that your words of wisdom apply to all types of people? Thank you for sharing the highs, the lows, the positives, the negatives and your humanity🙏🏽🙏🏽💗
One observation I've made that has only become more and more apparent is how talented you are with speaking. You tell your audience about your experiences in a way that allows us to become more educated and empathetic. I find myself paying much more attention to those around me. There are people in my everyday life facing challenges that I don't know anything about whatsoever. You face constant adversities in your life. The obvious one being an amputee, but there are things like phantom pain which I wouldn't have known anything about without being told first. You have helped me become more considerate of my friends and strangers alike, regardless of how they present externally. The world could use a little more kindness, empathy, and equity.
Self care is so valuable. Honestly there is a beauty in slowing down. Enjoying life in a slower manner no matter where you are. Peace is a state of mind not where you’re at 💕
I’ve done this too. I have adhd and autism and for too many years I just pushed through and fought to somehow get rid of my diagnosis. I had constant burnouts and only a few years ago I started accepting that my life will never be like everybody else’s and that that is okay. Thank you for talking about it ❤️
I really needed to hear this. I’ve been struggling with massive blood loss from Crohn’s disease and had to come to terms with the fact that I won’t be able to take my master’s exam until I can get help. Thank you so much for making this video!
Mad props on recognizing a limitation you had and not breaking yourself to prove it. I’m still learning to accept my limitations and your right it really sucks.
I have dysautonomia, POTS and HSD. It is extremely hard as someone with unseen disabled because I had myself convinced that it was just something that if I tried hard enough I can just ignore it. After several hospital trips and many many days of bed rest because I hurt myself, I'm now learning some self compassion and respect for my body and it's limits. I'm still working on it but doing better. I'm glad you recognized you needed to respect your limits and stayed safe.
I have long Haul COVID, and over the past year it's been a real struggle to admit there are things I can't do anymore (run, walk up hills without stopping, enjoying a sunny day without the fear of a migraine, and so many more), and gently reminding those around me I can't do certain things without them trying to be too supportive with things like "but you can do it, just try, just keep going and breathe through it" and so on. Disabilities suck, but we're adjusting. I know mine isn't the same, and mine might heal, but nearly 2 yrs after getting COVID it shows no signs of slowing.
It also took me three decades to learn to trust my body and it’s capabilities. I’ve gained confidence in my choices. It’s so important to be able to rest, relax, and recharge. Feeling guilty about taking care of yourself is counterproductive. When I look after myself, I can achieve more of what I want to do on the good days. It all balances out, and feels much better. It’s getting easier to tell if something is beyond my capacity at the time, or if I kind of can’t be bothered but could push through. I now question whatever needs to be done, why, and what value it will add to my life. It’s ok to say NO to others or yourself. People may not understand but if they care, they should listen and trust that you know your own body and mind.
I can relate. I have spinal issues and chronic pain and over the years I've had to admit to myself that there are things that I can do, and things that I can't do. I am learning to take joy in the things that I can do and im alway on the lookout for new things that I can enjoy doing. The world is full of them!
I really struggle with my limitations. You calling it really beautiful very helpful. Chronic pain has been difficult to live with. Your content is very helpful for me
This video means alot to me. I struggle with anxiety, and am on vacation with my family. I have had to realize that this vacation wasnt best for me and ive felt really guilty about it. You sharing your story makes me feel seen, I think its ok that I cant do this so thank you
I’m neurodivergent and very sensitive so I can relate to this. I often have to take myself out of situations that will lead to a breakdown, which often leads to feelings of guilt but if I don’t I will be in physical and mental pain. It’s hard but you are definitely leading by example.
You were talking about trying to hold back the dogs, I had this funny image pop into my head … your two large pups bounding along enthusiastically, harnessed as a team, and you in a small chariot roaring along behind.
Totally agree with you here hun, growing up I've always been very active, doing lots of sports etc....but back in 2010 after having surgery, I started suffering with back issues to find that my disc had ruptured, obviously had the operation but turned out they should've removed a 2nd disc too but didn't, this one caused a lot of damage and I'm now a full-time wheelchair user. Although many years have now passed, and I'm 45yrs old, I still get very frustrated at not being able to do things I used to do with such ease, easy things like getting dressed, making food or a coffee. My depression and anxiety went sky high and I was in one hell of a dark, deep, pit that I was contemplating taking my life, especially when my wife passed away in 2016....but, I ended up making some really good friendships and these people became my family, they gave me my strength back, to keep going and I'm so grateful to all of them, as now my attitude is very much different to how it once was. Yes, there's always going to be hurdles, but now I've learnt that although I can't jump them, I can certainly ride on through them 😀 much love and respect to you hun, you're doing great, just keep going ❤️ 💙 💖
Keep in mind that exhaustion makes the mind/brain slow down and weaken. You can study for a million years, but if you don't rest properly while studying, when it is exam time, your brain is going to be too exhausted to remember anything you studied. Think of it like this...we kind of 'condition' our brains, in a way. So, for instance, the way that certain smells trigger certain memories (limbic system), likewise certain repetitive activities trigger your brain to react the way it does when doing that activity. Eating certain foods can trigger our brains, depending on situations in which we usually eat that food (example Thanksgiving makes us think of turkey, because that's what our brain associates with Thanksgiving). So, if you are studying a certain subject to the point of exhaustion, then when you begin to go over that subject for the exam, your brain is going to associate that subject with what made you exhausted and slow down to 'rest'. One of the best ways to study is to associate a flavor or smell with what you are studying, and then use that same flavor or smell during the test. If you chew peppermint gum (or eat peppermint candy) while studying (but don't just randomly chew it during other things), then chew it while taking the test, your brain will associate that activity to the subject and the studying, and help bring that information back. Or, consciously sniff some peppermint scented something (pure essential oil would be best, due to the chemical constituents that promote focus and energy), while you're studying, and do the same while you're taking the test...your brain will bring back focus to what you were doing while eating/sniffing peppermint. (Doesn't have to be peppermint. I just used that as an example because it is good for focus.) Good luck on your exam...but make sure you rest up!
Turning back was the correct thing to do. In Norway we have what in English might be called “the mountain common sense rules”, and one of the most famous and most important rules is the second to last one: Turn back in time-there is no shame in it. If health, weather or other factors that you didn’t foresee indicate that it’s not a good idea to go as far as you intended, the sensible action is to recognise that, and turn back before you’ve gone too far. The last rule says to save your energy and seek shelter as necessary, and home is your best shelter.
Absolutely. Limits suck but they're so important to learn and accept. It's not about giving up it's about letting your body rest instead of harming it. It's a hard thing to learn but especially as a disabled person, a very important one.
I'm in the position now where [it seems like] I'm suddenly aging, to the point where I need to recognize my limitations, instead of doing what I've always done (push through!) Thank you for this video - I'm doing the same thing for a different reason, and it's hard. "My mind's writing checks that my body can't cash."
It's such a good thing to realize I wish I had a few years ago and saved myself some injuries but tbh my current pregnancy has really taught me this. I'm on modified bedrest rn and have struggled to not do all the chores, etc.
Thanks for this vid 💛 was diagnosed with fibromyalgia a few months ago (in hindsight, super obvious) and am still relearning how to think about how my body deals with stress and 'doing too much' now. Like, 'toughening through' something, and the 'no pain no gain' thing was like the norm for me, bc pain has been a normal constant for so long😅 legit thought someonr were lying about them being a 0 on a pain scale, thought it was just for reference🤯 Relearning what is best for my body is taking a lot longer and is harder than I expected. Getting better at reading myself, but it's easy to slip back into old habits that simply doesn't work now... This vid hit a sore spot so to speak, cause I'm browsing yt shorts whilr waiting for painmeds to kick in so I can finally sleep, bc I was too active and on my feet working all day, even though I already felt stiff and 'off' right from the morning. I didn't do the sensible thing like you, but ignored warning signs (like, yknow, just a little stabbing pain in my hips and pelvis, the uszh! just do this one thing... and then one more...). I'll try to finally take the lesson to heart Anyway, sorry for rambling and if you're reading this, thanks for sharing your story 💛 a few recent vids of yours, like the one about you wearing a 'disabled' shirt and it not being a dirty word, and how long it took for you to get fully used to walking with the prosthetic, has been a big help mentally right now. I haven't gotten the support I wished for around me, and have a few other 'invisible' disabilites, so seeing someone with a totally different experience than me but still having the same mental hoops to work through helps a lot💛 ...meant to write a quick comment and say thanks for sharing but accidentally wrote a personal essay🤦 keep up the good content, gnight💤
You are an amazing human for sharing your experiances. The Good, not great, snd $hit storm kind of days. Helps to have your words on my pain days. Keeps me positive that its not "wrong" to adjust an slow down sometimes.
I would like to mention that you mentioned something near subconscious “you can do it RIGHT NOW” your limits can be pressed against and broken but you can’t break it by pushing, you have to stay back and get a running start
Knowing ourselves is the greatest challenge we face as humans. It’s empowering to understand yourself as to strengths & limitations. Those relate to both mentally and physically. Like it or not, at some point in our life….everyone will have to.
I feel really called out 🙈 I always want to power through and not listen to my body. But the reality is that crippling anxiety and severe depression limits what I can do. I'm currently trying to work on my unhealthy mentality and your video really helped me today :)
The power through, pain no gain mentality was the worst thing we pushed on our kids as a society. For years I ignored my limits and thought it was weak and lazy if I didn't push myself until I was sick. As a society we need to recognize we all have limits, some more than others and it's not healthy to keep pushing through the pain
Yep. And it gets better! All your aches and pains start to go away, you notice how much faster your reflexes are, you get so much stronger too! Even my eyesight is getting better as i get older! keep it going kiddo, there will be a way to do whatever you want to do, just maybe not how we imagine it to be!❤
I'm on vacation for the first time after breaking my ankle. I'm on 9.5 years of disability and I'm relearning my limits because healing has been so slow. I've definitely pushed myself too far today and I'm not looking forward to the next 5 days here. Thank you for the reminder that its ok to recognize my limits and that I am human
That you only really had to recognize that recently is mind blowing. Your problem is way worse than mine, yet mine forced me to recognize my limits before I even turned 20. Maybe I should have continued trying to pretend I don't have limits but being a bundle of anxiety pretty much my whole life, that was it. It was over.
Same happens as we age. Adjusting to a new set of limits plays a real game with your head. I had to learn to appreciate life in a different way. It's part of the human experience. So I try to embrace every stage of life. 💞
Thanks to an accident I wasn’t supposed to survive, and a more recent chronic health issue, my limitations grow more and more all the time. Frustrating doesn’t even begin to cover it. I was such an energetic fireball in my younger adulthood. In my mind, there was nothing I couldn’t do. I really miss those days. Life since then has been a daily struggle for acceptance. Don’t waste your days, y’all. A year is not as long as it seems. I have had to give up dogs in favor of cats. They don’t require as much of my energy. Just food, water, naps, and a lot of love.
I don't have a physical disability as extreme as this, but you've recently come onto my feed somewhat more, and I think it's the universe telling me that yes, some stuff I've been thinking about is indeed ok to think about.
Either trust both dogs or just the one that you can trust the most to either let one stay on a leash and the one you trust go without a leash or trust both of them without a leash
It's also very hard for me to accept my limits. I am a teenager with chronic pain and I have 50 allergies including WATER. I know that sounds crazy but it is possible you can search it up (aquagenic urticaria). Because of this as an athletic kid I've had to give up many sports that I loved because it hurt to much or I was having allergic reactions to my sweat. I really sucks and my medical file is so unbelievable that I sometimes times don't even believe myself and think im making it up. Watching your videos is so amazing to see someone who accepts their limits, but continues to live to the fullest. You honestly give me hope for my future as a kid whom has to educate their doctors on their conditions.
It must be tough, especially when you had someone to help you through the painful times before. But you are stronger for realising that you had hit your limit and admit it. Hope your leg starts feeling better soon
I always tell people “you have to become an expert on yourself.” Learn to use your strengths and compensate for your shortcomings. And whatever you do, don’t hate yourself for not being perfect.
As someone with an invisible illness I regularly push myself more than I should. Ive recognized that I do that to myself to fill the able body society thinks I have. I was raised with understanding I have limitations from one parent. But the other was very much, push through it, its not that bad. Society then pushes this "you're too young to have these issues" etc. Im 26 with the bones of an 80 year old and looking down the barrel of a hip replacement. Im terrified of my aging body as I have all these disabilities and issues. Its a grieving process for sure.
Everyone, at some point, has to face the fact that they have limits. I'm 56 and have all the original parts I was born with, but they aren't necessarily working as well as they used to. Over the past few years I've had to face the fact that there are now things I can't do as well as I could 20 years ago.
I started working at Starbucks recently. That’s made me notice that my hearing has become noticeably worse than everyone else in that environment. I’m 27, so it’s not just old age. Ive gone through my first experience with accommodations and Starbucks found some special earplugs for me. They help, but I still can’t hear as well. It’s been a weird few months realizing the manifestation of either a psychological or structural disability.
Recognizing your limitations is also just part of transitioning from young adulthood to full adulthood. Even without your disability, you would probably start to notice that you can't do at 30, what you did in your 20s and would realize that your actions now can have profound consequences down the road. I remember my shock at 30, when a good night's sleep was no longer enough to recuperate from a cold or the flu or an injury. I needed more downtime for the same effect. So welcome to adulthood.
Whenever a disabled person has a physical limitation, things are thrown in their face like the legless dude who climbed mount everest... that won't help me when I can't get out of bed when I'm having a severe vomiting episode 🤷🏻♀️ Respecting limitations is super hard, but super important ❤️
You’re dog reminds me of my old dog. He passed away in January and even made me cry a bit. I love seeing dogs that look like my dog..! (his name is Bailey and he was so sweet but lazy)
I've been gaslit by so many doctors and relatives (and successfully pushed through so many times) that now I gaslight myself... I have such a hard time telling the difference between my limits and laziness.
Well done , it’s not easy to have your body change so much , that it has serious limitations. I have severe M.E and nerve damage and weakness all down one side that means I’m bed bound mostly or in a wheelchair. It’s taken a journey of 10 years to come to terms with what I can’t change but now I make the most of smaller accomplishments and days when I try to be positive about my life .
Happens to everybody eventually, even if they don't have any physical disabilities. You grow old and stuff wears out. Suppose it's just a thing all of us gotta come to terms with eventually
I completely relate!! I have hypothyroidism, osteoarthritis, large & small fiber nerve damage & a bunch of other crap so I can't do a lot like I used to be able to. I pass out in the heat, I get overheated easily, ugh so annoying!!!! In response, I have a million hobbies & my creativity has never been higher tho 🤷 it's a trade off. I wish I had done more when I was younger (I'm 40). But I'm not dead, so I can still have low key adventures, as long as I take ppl who understand my physical limitations..because being with ppl who just don't get it because I "look normal" is really difficult & frankly can end up in me getting bullied. I gotta protect myself emotionally & physically. 🙌 a hard lesson to learn...lots of new lessons in this phase of my life.
It took me about 30 years to recognize that as well! But when I started missing out on like in general because I pushed myself to do it all myself, I found I was running out of spoons way quicker than I wanted. Instead I ask for help from friends and family and am able to spend more relaxed time with them because my debilitating fatigue isn't wracking me down so hard.
Thank you. I am a stroke survivor, different but similar. Your adventures give me patience and hope for a changed future. Keep going, you are admirable.
I was just on a video about a news anchor who started having a stroke on air. It’s a scary thing. Hope you’re doing well now.
@@ferninthehouse I was fortunate. Out like a light in less than an hour after it started. In a sort of coma for a month. That was 5 years ago. I just found out the girl fron NCIS had a big one. It is a weird "handicap" . So many ways how it affected different people. This channel is incredible for me. This young lady faces so many things that I can total relate to. Her current adventures with a wheel chair we stroke survivor face. Some times it is a stepping stone. Sometimes it is all there is. I learned a lot of how frail we are. Her wound you can see. Neurological symptoms are all over the map. I never know if it is real or something to ovwercome. I don't wish this on any one. Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it.
"Power through, push through" is especially bad for me because it makes me really really sick, like days of bedrest sick if I overdo it. It took me a ridiculous number of years to recognize it too! I build my endurance better by being gentle and not triggering bedrest. Congratulations to learning this lesson and enjoy your sleepy napping puppies.
Same! If you're like me, and it's a/multiple chronic illness/illnesses that isn't/aren't visible to others, it is all the more difficult. People assume you are just being lazy, or a whiner, that "you just don't want to work".
I am very willing to do the work, I just know that I will pay for it by not being able to function for many days or sometimes weeks afterwards. I grew up in a home where if you weren't being productive at all times you were a failure, and it has been so hard to learn that it is okay to be gentle with myself. I still don't always manage it, but I am trying to learn not to berate myself for that either!
@@amandabaker4678 My body has a hard time digesting everything I eat, and there have been many times where during PE I don't have enough in my body, and I have to push myself to a point where I feel light headed in order to keep up with class. Not to mention asthma and sleep issues.
Yes! Same with me. My 21 year old was with me for almost a week. I have been having extra health issues lately. I hadn’t realized how much stress and overdoing things for almost a week would exhaust me. I dropped the kiddo off for college on Thursday. I have been mostly in bed since! I’m really hoping that I can get out and do some errands tomorrow. I also have a huge amount of housework that has piled up to do.
I had Chronic Fatigue and that is exactly what made it worse. Learnt the same lesson as you too :)
FullOfLethons it's ok if you don't want to explain but I'm just curious what chronic illness do you have?
As someone with chronic pain accepting limits and actually sticking to them is one of the hardest parts. Sometimes we know we can’t do things and we still try to power through because a “normal” person would be able to do it. I’m so happy you’re finding and accepting your limits ❤️
Any puppy weekend is a great weekend!! If the pups are there, it doesn’t matter what you do - they’re just happy to be with you!
I hate the phrase "no pain, no gain". Hate, hate, hate it. I'm in pain 24/7/365. There is no gain with a chronic pain condition. None. Thank you all for letting me vent. 🤗
I have started answering my coworkers question "how are you" with "everything hurts and I'm tired. But it hurts marginally less than yesterday so I'm good for today. How are you?"
It probably helps that I'm an IT professional and we are accepted as being surly and odd.
💜💜 this is something I'm still struggling with, knowing my limitations and being okay with cutting out
Its a hard pill to swallow but recognizing those limits keep you going on to other adventures and opportunities that await! The dominoe effect when things go wrong, alone out in the wilderness isn’t worth risking, you did the right thing. That Never Give Up spirit is alive and well in you as well as being smart about situations. You are ALWAYS an inspiration!
Thank you so much for this video. I stayed home instead of going camping in a festival this years even though I waited so long for it, but I saw I couldn’t do it. I am proud of myself to listen to myself too. This is the hardest part of the journey
This is one of the most difficult things for me and my family to recognize. Thanks for sharing your journeys🙂
I was the same as you, pushing through and now I’m almost bed ridden. I spend a lot of time resting/recharging/sleeping.
Same here and I was what I like to call a "high energy" person so to still be high energy but not have the type of body to back me up anymore is not only depressing but also very limiting. Because I have chronic pain from my legs I'm a fall and faint risk now as well and when I'm sometimes allowed "zoomies" I end up bed ridden for the next 3 - 6 days.
@@tallvinesbs1595 ugh 😩 I do the exact same thing. I have to really focus on not being mad about laying in the bed. I have osteoarthritis degenerative in my right hip arthritis in my right ankle and I just feel old. My body does, anyway. Thanks for sharing. I honestly feel less alone. And less angry that I can’t just get up and go check the mail or do little things. Hang in there. 🫂
@@Jitmommy33 hang in there too hun ;-; and trust me it's not just you even though it's frickin awful this started for me at 18 - 19 years old and I'm 21 now and I definitely feel old lol my mom jokes that I'm older than her because she has to help me all the time and I walk with a cane. I wish you the longest zoomies ;-;
@@tallvinesbs1595 awe haha “wish you the longest zoomies” That was so cute. 🥰 It made my heart smile. 🥹 Right back atcha!
@@tallvinesbs1595 I’m 20 with lots of physical pain and health issues for someone my age so I relate. It can be really discouraging dealing with debilitating health issues. It takes a toll on you mentally. And is so hard to cope especially at a young age when you’re supposed to be getting started with your adult life and stuck at home because of health issues. I am managing things better now and have a job but it is still a daily struggle.
You don't really find out until you put yourself in that kind of situation. It happens to the best of us!
Yeap, the most important thing I learned very early in life is to listen to my body. It's fun to push your boundaries, but if something starts to really hurt , stop.
I love your channel you have inspired many people and I hope your channel continues to grow
You are such an inspiration 😭 it's so hard to admit that your body has limits. I love your channel
I've been struggling a lot with this recently, I have chronic fatigue symptoms and injure very easily but having recently come out of a depressive episode I'm having to completely re-learn my limits now that I have the motivation to do things. I have pushed myself too far a few times lately and they've landed me needing a lot of rest and/or in a lot of pain. It's tough.
I just did that last week, had motivation to work out but then I slept for a day and a half because my body wasn't ready to do that.
When our limitations become the parameters within we plan our life, the things we truly can do become so much more possible. I struggle with this every day. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Jo!
I feel you. I love your videos. I learn so much from it. This one is particularly touching for me. English is not my 1st language and I've not been through your fights, far from that, but a couple of years ago I started to have knees big injuries and I had to learn how to cope with the sadness of my body limitations. My happiness was only found through climbing, mountaineering and when I was stressed I could always take my running shoes and go outside. But now I can't. This is very depressing to learn these new limitations and I hope this is not disrespectful to say all these things. Dreaming of these activities and knowing when you wake up that this is not possible anymore is harsh. Thank you for finding a bright side from it : protect your body and recognizing your limits.
I really feel you and will continue following you. What you sharing is really precious.
I had a pretty serious accident 10 years ago that forever changed my life. I get angry and frustrated because I still FEEL like I should be able to do “all the things” and sometimes it drives me nuts that I can’t. Thanks for your powerful and positive messages.
Well done you! That's an amazing thing to do for yourself!
I suffer with chronic pain and after years I still struggle to recognise that sometimes I can't do things because of pain, and I can't do things the way I used to when I didn't have pain. I'm learning and trying but it's hard and to see someone else going through a similar situation and being so open and kind to themself about it is wonderful and encouraging 💜
I have a neuromuscular disease called Charcot-Marie-Tooth (it has nothing to do with teeth! Tooth is the name of one of the people who identified the disease) I'm 66 and mostly full of energy. I live alone with 3 small dogs and a cat. Recently I've recognized that I have more limits than ever before! I hate asking for help but I'm learning! I'm also learning to live within these limits. I could sit around and complain or be sad about it, but what fun is that?
Thank you for your positivity! You are an inspiration.
This is something that I have struggled with too. I think that coming to terms with this is hard for those with disabilities. We are always trying hard to prove that we are just as good, real, capable etc just like those who don’t deal with a disability. Thank you for all the posts that you do. They are so encouraging.
You are a true Wise Woman! 💖 Understanding that none of us are perfect AND are abilities change (especially as we get older as I have), you are so wise…working with what we have and feeling blessed that that knowledge keeps us safe and able to continue doing everything we can do. Thank you for sharing that wisdom with us all! ✨💖✨
I do understand. I was an female athlete running cross country who ran 4:30 miles as well as triathlons, mountain climbing, skiing, scuba diving, etc. When I had a catastrophic snow skiing accident in 1987 at 28 yo I was unable to run or do pretty much anything including walk. Running was the one thing that kept me sane and I LOVED it. Finally in 2015 I had to have both knees replaced. The first question I asked my surgeon was when will I be able to run. His shoulders dropped and he said “never.” He then said I could but my implants will wear out sooner and revisions aren’t as successful the 2nd time. I was devastated. I assumed new knees, old life. I walk instead which isn’t as fun but at least I can walk instead of asking the number of steps to a business. I dream about running which is exhilarating but frustrating when I wake up to reality🤣. I’m 100% glad I got new knees but like you I have to recognize my limitations. I love your channel. You bring honesty and truth out about being disabled that give me hope! Ty for the content. Don’t stop. 🙌❤️🤩🥰
Thank you - I was diagnosed with a life-changing condition over a year ago, and am still royally pissed. This is what I needed to hear, especially the part about there still being a lot of beauty in it. Stay well!
Right there with you Jo, chronic illness and disability sucks. I hope we all have a cozy, restful weekend ❤️
The simplest thins take me so much longer now because I am always fighting for balance to not fall over. You're awesome and a great person!
Having to understand and accept my limitations has been very hard. I'm recovering from an eating disorder and have essentially been living at an underweight state for a year and a half now; I was always a stubborn person and was raised to be independent but through this difficult process of recovery I've had to just...accept (sometimes by force) that some days you just can't, and honestly even on days you can maybe you shouldn't and that's very hard. Even though our struggles are very different I've found some comfort in your videos because even though you may be talking about your leg it feels like someone understands my struggle and some days that's what I need to keep going.
Your doggos are happy to be with you where ever you are. Look at all that love!
Hugs, hon. The 1960 "push past it - you have work" attitude has been detrimental to both my physical And mental health.
I took a Whole day off to start physical therapy and my cousin actually applauded me. Protect YOU. It's the only YOU you get.💝‼️
Thank you Jo, I have had four surgeries that 3/4 of were to fix the damage the first did and I gained a bunch of weight and pitied myself. Once I recognized my limits and was able to use that to do fun shit and work hard but limit myself. It sucks but it has made me a stronger person and I do other fun non physical things when I can't do the harder stuff. You're a wonderful person and thanks for sharing this for those that haven't gotten to the point of acceptance and understanding your limits and respecting them.
You're awesome Jo. Have a great weekend and hope you're doing well :)
Has anyone ever told you that your words of wisdom apply to all types of people? Thank you for sharing the highs, the lows, the positives, the negatives and your humanity🙏🏽🙏🏽💗
One observation I've made that has only become more and more apparent is how talented you are with speaking. You tell your audience about your experiences in a way that allows us to become more educated and empathetic. I find myself paying much more attention to those around me. There are people in my everyday life facing challenges that I don't know anything about whatsoever. You face constant adversities in your life. The obvious one being an amputee, but there are things like phantom pain which I wouldn't have known anything about without being told first. You have helped me become more considerate of my friends and strangers alike, regardless of how they present externally. The world could use a little more kindness, empathy, and equity.
Self care is so valuable. Honestly there is a beauty in slowing down. Enjoying life in a slower manner no matter where you are. Peace is a state of mind not where you’re at 💕
You did soo much in one weekend!
I’ve done this too. I have adhd and autism and for too many years I just pushed through and fought to somehow get rid of my diagnosis. I had constant burnouts and only a few years ago I started accepting that my life will never be like everybody else’s and that that is okay.
Thank you for talking about it ❤️
I really needed to hear this. I’ve been struggling with massive blood loss from Crohn’s disease and had to come to terms with the fact that I won’t be able to take my master’s exam until I can get help. Thank you so much for making this video!
Mad props on recognizing a limitation you had and not breaking yourself to prove it. I’m still learning to accept my limitations and your right it really sucks.
I have dysautonomia, POTS and HSD. It is extremely hard as someone with unseen disabled because I had myself convinced that it was just something that if I tried hard enough I can just ignore it. After several hospital trips and many many days of bed rest because I hurt myself, I'm now learning some self compassion and respect for my body and it's limits. I'm still working on it but doing better.
I'm glad you recognized you needed to respect your limits and stayed safe.
I have long Haul COVID, and over the past year it's been a real struggle to admit there are things I can't do anymore (run, walk up hills without stopping, enjoying a sunny day without the fear of a migraine, and so many more), and gently reminding those around me I can't do certain things without them trying to be too supportive with things like "but you can do it, just try, just keep going and breathe through it" and so on. Disabilities suck, but we're adjusting. I know mine isn't the same, and mine might heal, but nearly 2 yrs after getting COVID it shows no signs of slowing.
It also took me three decades to learn to trust my body and it’s capabilities. I’ve gained confidence in my choices.
It’s so important to be able to rest, relax, and recharge. Feeling guilty about taking care of yourself is counterproductive.
When I look after myself, I can achieve more of what I want to do on the good days. It all balances out, and feels much better.
It’s getting easier to tell if something is beyond my capacity at the time, or if I kind of can’t be bothered but could push through.
I now question whatever needs to be done, why, and what value it will add to my life. It’s ok to say NO to others or yourself.
People may not understand but if they care, they should listen and trust that you know your own body and mind.
I can relate. It is a painful realization. However, it’s great how you worked thru it & redirected this. I thank you for sharing this!
I can relate. I have spinal issues and chronic pain and over the years I've had to admit to myself that there are things that I can do, and things that I can't do. I am learning to take joy in the things that I can do and im alway on the lookout for new things that I can enjoy doing. The world is full of them!
I really struggle with my limitations. You calling it really beautiful very helpful. Chronic pain has been difficult to live with. Your content is very helpful for me
This video means alot to me. I struggle with anxiety, and am on vacation with my family. I have had to realize that this vacation wasnt best for me and ive felt really guilty about it. You sharing your story makes me feel seen, I think its ok that I cant do this so thank you
Feeling compassion towards oneself is so important but yes, also beautiful and gentle.
I’m neurodivergent and very sensitive so I can relate to this. I often have to take myself out of situations that will lead to a breakdown, which often leads to feelings of guilt but if I don’t I will be in physical and mental pain. It’s hard but you are definitely leading by example.
You were talking about trying to hold back the dogs, I had this funny image pop into my head … your two large pups bounding along enthusiastically, harnessed as a team, and you in a small chariot roaring along behind.
Hugs. I feel you! Glad you're looking at it in a positive light! Love the fur babies!
Totally agree with you here hun, growing up I've always been very active, doing lots of sports etc....but back in 2010 after having surgery, I started suffering with back issues to find that my disc had ruptured, obviously had the operation but turned out they should've removed a 2nd disc too but didn't, this one caused a lot of damage and I'm now a full-time wheelchair user. Although many years have now passed, and I'm 45yrs old, I still get very frustrated at not being able to do things I used to do with such ease, easy things like getting dressed, making food or a coffee. My depression and anxiety went sky high and I was in one hell of a dark, deep, pit that I was contemplating taking my life, especially when my wife passed away in 2016....but, I ended up making some really good friendships and these people became my family, they gave me my strength back, to keep going and I'm so grateful to all of them, as now my attitude is very much different to how it once was. Yes, there's always going to be hurdles, but now I've learnt that although I can't jump them, I can certainly ride on through them 😀 much love and respect to you hun, you're doing great, just keep going ❤️ 💙 💖
Thank you for this Jo.
I’ve been preparing for an exam for 10 days with little to no sleep.
I needed a reminder that i too have limits
Keep in mind that exhaustion makes the mind/brain slow down and weaken. You can study for a million years, but if you don't rest properly while studying, when it is exam time, your brain is going to be too exhausted to remember anything you studied.
Think of it like this...we kind of 'condition' our brains, in a way. So, for instance, the way that certain smells trigger certain memories (limbic system), likewise certain repetitive activities trigger your brain to react the way it does when doing that activity. Eating certain foods can trigger our brains, depending on situations in which we usually eat that food (example Thanksgiving makes us think of turkey, because that's what our brain associates with Thanksgiving). So, if you are studying a certain subject to the point of exhaustion, then when you begin to go over that subject for the exam, your brain is going to associate that subject with what made you exhausted and slow down to 'rest'. One of the best ways to study is to associate a flavor or smell with what you are studying, and then use that same flavor or smell during the test. If you chew peppermint gum (or eat peppermint candy) while studying (but don't just randomly chew it during other things), then chew it while taking the test, your brain will associate that activity to the subject and the studying, and help bring that information back. Or, consciously sniff some peppermint scented something (pure essential oil would be best, due to the chemical constituents that promote focus and energy), while you're studying, and do the same while you're taking the test...your brain will bring back focus to what you were doing while eating/sniffing peppermint. (Doesn't have to be peppermint. I just used that as an example because it is good for focus.)
Good luck on your exam...but make sure you rest up!
Turning back was the correct thing to do. In Norway we have what in English might be called “the mountain common sense rules”, and one of the most famous and most important rules is the second to last one: Turn back in time-there is no shame in it.
If health, weather or other factors that you didn’t foresee indicate that it’s not a good idea to go as far as you intended, the sensible action is to recognise that, and turn back before you’ve gone too far. The last rule says to save your energy and seek shelter as necessary, and home is your best shelter.
Absolutely. Limits suck but they're so important to learn and accept. It's not about giving up it's about letting your body rest instead of harming it. It's a hard thing to learn but especially as a disabled person, a very important one.
hey way to go girl!! that kinda call is always a real pain in the ass to make but it's so important to take care of yourself. proud of u jo
You are so positive, it's really amazing makes me feel really guilty for complaining
I'm in the position now where [it seems like] I'm suddenly aging, to the point where I need to recognize my limitations, instead of doing what I've always done (push through!) Thank you for this video - I'm doing the same thing for a different reason, and it's hard. "My mind's writing checks that my body can't cash."
It's such a good thing to realize I wish I had a few years ago and saved myself some injuries but tbh my current pregnancy has really taught me this. I'm on modified bedrest rn and have struggled to not do all the chores, etc.
Thanks for this vid 💛 was diagnosed with fibromyalgia a few months ago (in hindsight, super obvious) and am still relearning how to think about how my body deals with stress and 'doing too much' now. Like, 'toughening through' something, and the 'no pain no gain' thing was like the norm for me, bc pain has been a normal constant for so long😅 legit thought someonr were lying about them being a 0 on a pain scale, thought it was just for reference🤯
Relearning what is best for my body is taking a lot longer and is harder than I expected. Getting better at reading myself, but it's easy to slip back into old habits that simply doesn't work now...
This vid hit a sore spot so to speak, cause I'm browsing yt shorts whilr waiting for painmeds to kick in so I can finally sleep, bc I was too active and on my feet working all day, even though I already felt stiff and 'off' right from the morning. I didn't do the sensible thing like you, but ignored warning signs (like, yknow, just a little stabbing pain in my hips and pelvis, the uszh! just do this one thing... and then one more...). I'll try to finally take the lesson to heart
Anyway, sorry for rambling and if you're reading this, thanks for sharing your story 💛 a few recent vids of yours, like the one about you wearing a 'disabled' shirt and it not being a dirty word, and how long it took for you to get fully used to walking with the prosthetic, has been a big help mentally right now. I haven't gotten the support I wished for around me, and have a few other 'invisible' disabilites, so seeing someone with a totally different experience than me but still having the same mental hoops to work through helps a lot💛
...meant to write a quick comment and say thanks for sharing but accidentally wrote a personal essay🤦 keep up the good content, gnight💤
It's awesome to see you say this. I think I need to push myself to literally my end to make myself "useful and interesting" to the point of burnout
You are an amazing human for sharing your experiances. The Good, not great, snd $hit storm kind of days. Helps to have your words on my pain days. Keeps me positive that its not "wrong" to adjust an slow down sometimes.
I would like to mention that you mentioned something near subconscious “you can do it RIGHT NOW” your limits can be pressed against and broken but you can’t break it by pushing, you have to stay back and get a running start
Knowing ourselves is the greatest challenge we face as humans. It’s empowering to understand yourself as to strengths & limitations. Those relate to both mentally and physically. Like it or not, at some point in our life….everyone will have to.
Totally with you! Some times we have to change our plans. Not the same but with RA it has taught me much.
I feel really called out 🙈 I always want to power through and not listen to my body. But the reality is that crippling anxiety and severe depression limits what I can do. I'm currently trying to work on my unhealthy mentality and your video really helped me today :)
The power through, pain no gain mentality was the worst thing we pushed on our kids as a society. For years I ignored my limits and thought it was weak and lazy if I didn't push myself until I was sick. As a society we need to recognize we all have limits, some more than others and it's not healthy to keep pushing through the pain
Yep. And it gets better! All your aches and pains start to go away, you notice how much faster your reflexes are, you get so much stronger too! Even my eyesight is getting better as i get older! keep it going kiddo, there will be a way to do whatever you want to do, just maybe not how we imagine it to be!❤
I'm on vacation for the first time after breaking my ankle. I'm on 9.5 years of disability and I'm relearning my limits because healing has been so slow. I've definitely pushed myself too far today and I'm not looking forward to the next 5 days here. Thank you for the reminder that its ok to recognize my limits and that I am human
That you only really had to recognize that recently is mind blowing. Your problem is way worse than mine, yet mine forced me to recognize my limits before I even turned 20. Maybe I should have continued trying to pretend I don't have limits but being a bundle of anxiety pretty much my whole life, that was it. It was over.
listening to your body is a strength. glad you chose to enjoy yourself, even when plans change
Same happens as we age. Adjusting to a new set of limits plays a real game with your head. I had to learn to appreciate life in a different way. It's part of the human experience. So I try to embrace every stage of life. 💞
It's good that you had some rest. I understand wanting to push yourself but sometimes it's not always possible.
Thanks to an accident I wasn’t supposed to survive, and a more recent chronic health issue, my limitations grow more and more all the time. Frustrating doesn’t even begin to cover it. I was such an energetic fireball in my younger adulthood. In my mind, there was nothing I couldn’t do. I really miss those days. Life since then has been a daily struggle for acceptance.
Don’t waste your days, y’all. A year is not as long as it seems.
I have had to give up dogs in favor of cats. They don’t require as much of my energy. Just food, water, naps, and a lot of love.
I don't have a physical disability as extreme as this, but you've recently come onto my feed somewhat more, and I think it's the universe telling me that yes, some stuff I've been thinking about is indeed ok to think about.
Thank you so much , I really needed this ❤️
Either trust both dogs or just the one that you can trust the most to either let one stay on a leash and the one you trust go without a leash or trust both of them without a leash
Absolutely! I struggle so much with my limitations. It makes me sad and angry. Someday I hope I can embrace it.
It's also very hard for me to accept my limits. I am a teenager with chronic pain and I have 50 allergies including WATER. I know that sounds crazy but it is possible you can search it up (aquagenic urticaria). Because of this as an athletic kid I've had to give up many sports that I loved because it hurt to much or I was having allergic reactions to my sweat. I really sucks and my medical file is so unbelievable that I sometimes times don't even believe myself and think im making it up. Watching your videos is so amazing to see someone who accepts their limits, but continues to live to the fullest. You honestly give me hope for my future as a kid whom has to educate their doctors on their conditions.
i have fibromyalgia and this hit me so deep. having limits sucks, tbh, but in the long run its always better to recognize them.
I pushed myself past my limits and now have tendonitis in my wrist. Whoever says, "You can't hurt yourself by playing the piano," you can.
It must be tough, especially when you had someone to help you through the painful times before. But you are stronger for realising that you had hit your limit and admit it. Hope your leg starts feeling better soon
I always tell people “you have to become an expert on yourself.” Learn to use your strengths and compensate for your shortcomings.
And whatever you do, don’t hate yourself for not being perfect.
Same. Chronic health issues suck so much potential out of my life, and sometimes that makes me feel some things.
Recognize your limits vs your body’s limits. Good message.
I am so thankful I found your channel, i have the same attitude… If I say I can do it I will! Thank you.
As someone managing a chronic autoimmune disorder I feel EVERY piece of this!
As someone with an invisible illness I regularly push myself more than I should. Ive recognized that I do that to myself to fill the able body society thinks I have. I was raised with understanding I have limitations from one parent. But the other was very much, push through it, its not that bad. Society then pushes this "you're too young to have these issues" etc. Im 26 with the bones of an 80 year old and looking down the barrel of a hip replacement. Im terrified of my aging body as I have all these disabilities and issues. Its a grieving process for sure.
Everyone, at some point, has to face the fact that they have limits. I'm 56 and have all the original parts I was born with, but they aren't necessarily working as well as they used to. Over the past few years I've had to face the fact that there are now things I can't do as well as I could 20 years ago.
I started working at Starbucks recently. That’s made me notice that my hearing has become noticeably worse than everyone else in that environment. I’m 27, so it’s not just old age. Ive gone through my first experience with accommodations and Starbucks found some special earplugs for me. They help, but I still can’t hear as well. It’s been a weird few months realizing the manifestation of either a psychological or structural disability.
Recognizing your limitations is also just part of transitioning from young adulthood to full adulthood. Even without your disability, you would probably start to notice that you can't do at 30, what you did in your 20s and would realize that your actions now can have profound consequences down the road. I remember my shock at 30, when a good night's sleep was no longer enough to recuperate from a cold or the flu or an injury. I needed more downtime for the same effect. So welcome to adulthood.
Whenever a disabled person has a physical limitation, things are thrown in their face like the legless dude who climbed mount everest... that won't help me when I can't get out of bed when I'm having a severe vomiting episode 🤷🏻♀️ Respecting limitations is super hard, but super important ❤️
You’re dog reminds me of my old dog. He passed away in January and even made me cry a bit. I love seeing dogs that look like my dog..! (his name is Bailey and he was so sweet but lazy)
I've been gaslit by so many doctors and relatives (and successfully pushed through so many times) that now I gaslight myself... I have such a hard time telling the difference between my limits and laziness.
Am a LBKA and learning to walk on prosthetic leg and feel your pain and struggles *hugs* ❤ x
Well done , it’s not easy to have your body change so much , that it has serious limitations. I have severe M.E and nerve damage and weakness all down one side that means I’m bed bound mostly or in a wheelchair. It’s taken a journey of 10 years to come to terms with what I can’t change but now I make the most of smaller accomplishments and days when I try to be positive about my life .
Happens to everybody eventually, even if they don't have any physical disabilities. You grow old and stuff wears out. Suppose it's just a thing all of us gotta come to terms with eventually
I had to recognize my limits after hip surgery. It takes time to come to terms with but you learn how to cope.
Defending my limitations is the hardest for me. Especially to my boss. I don't know how to explain
I am so glad to hear this cus im not good at calling quits and yup your spot on with the feeling
Thank you for showing people what happens. Also LOVE your puppies
I completely relate!! I have hypothyroidism, osteoarthritis, large & small fiber nerve damage & a bunch of other crap so I can't do a lot like I used to be able to. I pass out in the heat, I get overheated easily, ugh so annoying!!!! In response, I have a million hobbies & my creativity has never been higher tho 🤷 it's a trade off. I wish I had done more when I was younger (I'm 40). But I'm not dead, so I can still have low key adventures, as long as I take ppl who understand my physical limitations..because being with ppl who just don't get it because I "look normal" is really difficult & frankly can end up in me getting bullied. I gotta protect myself emotionally & physically. 🙌 a hard lesson to learn...lots of new lessons in this phase of my life.
It took me about 30 years to recognize that as well! But when I started missing out on like in general because I pushed myself to do it all myself, I found I was running out of spoons way quicker than I wanted. Instead I ask for help from friends and family and am able to spend more relaxed time with them because my debilitating fatigue isn't wracking me down so hard.