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I had my best friends last 3 recorded heart beats tattooed on my shoulder. I was in a really bad space so I got them done so that I had to keep going to keep his last heart beats Alive. He died when we were 13 from cancer. But he was my world! Having his heart beats on my shoulder keeps me going to live for all the things we never got to do together.
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Omg that just made me cry
I'm so sorry for your loss. He loves you and appreciates you. In sure hes watching over you and is grateful for everything you've done for him. Hes seems so brave to go through that scary thing.🥺❤
Oh that’s really sad 😢
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I have a leg sleeve that took me almost 3 years to finish and several grand, and it’s such impressive art. In times when I have the darkest thoughts, I’ve thought “I have to stay around because my artist worked so hard on this, and if I’m gone, no one can see it.” Thanks for putting this into a great story!
I made my tattoo artist cry with me at the reasoning for one of mine. When it was done, we both cried again. There is pride in good art and taking care of it.
You are so brave and your worth it.🥺❤
This actually makes a lot of sense. I know quite a lot of people who deal with suicidal thoughts do body modifications, to keep going.
As an attempt survivor who had the word “survivor” tattooed on me years prior to my attempt, I can appreciate the logic behind your reasoning. Much love to you. I look forward to your videos every week.
I paused at 2:38 because i said this to my friends the other say, that i struggle minute to minute to stay alive, and...hearing that you went through that made my sigh in relieved, like...ok, i am not the only one. I now, in this moment, feel my chest lighter. So...thank you.
I've been through it too so I know how strong you are
you are most definitely not alone. I have been there, many people have been there. you can get through this, I hope you find your light and hope soon. *hugs*
You’re one of the first people online I’ve come across who has spoken about the feeling of trying to keep yourself alive minute by minute and trying not to hurt yourself and that little part of you who wants to stay alive. I can very much relate and also the reasonings to stay - even though it sounds odd. I don’t think people speak about severe depression enough.
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You explained how I feel perfectly.
I can't do it any other way than think day by day about my future and go minute by minute to convince myself to stay alive. It's hard..
@@oceanstaiga5928 It is hard. I’m getting help. Hopefully each day will look brighter for us.
You are so brave and worth it.🥺❤btw your dogs cute.
Last year I was hospitalized 3 times for wanting to hurt myself. I have three beautiful children, but I was going through a terrible divorce which involved him immediately getting a new family and getting her pregnant (we were planning #4), and I was falling apart. As much as I wanted to pull it together for my kids, that's not what saved me.
I got 4, yes 4, tattoos that year. I dyed my hair, pink and then blue, and then I cut it all off. I took family photos and went camping and made RUclips videos no one watched. I cried and journaled, I wrote suicide letters and did an entire Self Love workbook. I attended counselling and psychiatry appointments. I took my meds, I checked myself into the psych ward when I needed to, I posted way too much on Facebook, I put my heart out there even when people told me I was wallowing in it and making it worse - and I survived it. My best friend forced me to eat and shower and get dressed, until I could do it on my own.
I am a huge advocate of doing whatever the hell keeps you alive. I adopted a hedgehog, I have gotten 10 mice (5 wild ones I raised from newborns), my hedgie passed and I eventually got a new baby hedgie, I took classes and did fun things with my kids and I found hope again. Do whatever the hell sets your soul on fire and don't let anyone tell you that how you dig yourself out of that is wrong. 🖤
Best wishes to you. 💖
i always pictured my dog. what would happen to him after i took my life? he would be alone and be put in a shelter and wonder where i was. or maybe, if no one found me soon enough, he would be starved and dehydrated and pass away. i could have been the reason for his death...hearing all the "you have so much to live for!" shit did nothing. looking at the future or dreaming of happiness wasnt enough. it was the little things. who would babysit my nieces every monday wednesday and friday? where would my beloved, signed billy joel poster go; would they just throw it away when they sold my house? how would my favorite show have ended?....it was the small things. sometimes looking at the big picture is useless when you should be looking at the mundane, day-to-day normalcies.
For me as well, my dog is basically a lifesaver. :)
ooh stay alive for your dog
I got a cat for the same reason.
I don't trust anyone to take care of her.
Oh this breaks my hesrt
@@douglascampbell9809 I second this
When I tried to OD my best friend found me floppy on the kitchen floor and I just said "I don't want to die in this shirt" because it was art my friend did and I didn't want her to carry that weight. (He changed me into a t-shirt i just got him as a gift that I proceeded to ruin with vomit)
You think of the weirdest stuff when you're in that kind of low. It's not stuff a normal headspace person would think of.
(It's been over a year since that night and I have 4 more cats now. Two of whom are special needs and couldn't find homes haha)
For some reason my brain thought it was going to be a tattoo that says like "sulfa allergy" or something like that? Haha
Also I've been suicidal in the past due to a childhood of abuse, so I relate and send my love and support
I thought something like blood type. I thought way too literal.
Same here.
Me as well
You are so brave to go through that.🥺❤
Oh, I’m so sorry you visited that dark place. Please don’t do it. Much love ❤️. God bless you and your family.
A friend of mine was killed in a murder suicide just before I turned sixteen and it was a really hard time for me. I started to draw a heart on my wrist every day to hold on to his memory and get myself through the grief (he was more family to me than anyone had ever been). Six years later I still do the same thing and I've been debating getting it tattooed, but the act of drawing it myself feels so personal, like renewing our promise, so I've been putting it off.
You could tattoo it and then color it in in different colors
No need to tattoo it. It sounds like doing what you have been doing is just the way you need to do it!
I got the eating disorder recovery symbol tattooed so that I would have accountability, always, no matter what. It was like, as you said, an insurance policy. It’s a public statement that I am making the choice to embrace myself instead of the eating disorder. This tattoo has certainly saved my life, too. Thanks for sharing this story and all that you do ❤️
i have one too!!
I held my best friends hand through her journey. I saw how hard it was for her.
I'm so proud of both of you for finding your strength and pulling yourselves up. 💜
@@furbycakez you must be such a lovely friend. thank YOU for being there for her! support means everything during a time like that 💗
April 30 is my birthday I’m a below the knee amputee also
@@furbycakez thank you so much!! I’m so glad your friend has support from you
Interruptions for puppy cuteness will always be welcome :)
I definitely relate to the delayed reaction to trauma, going through medical trauma most times I have come home and been like “yeah that sucked but I’m fine” and then months or even years later I am torn to pieces and it builds up and is the gift that keeps on giving.
My depression has been so bad since my first service dog passed almost exactly a year ago, she was my biggest reason to stay and helped me stay alive through the worst 10 years of my life. And the only reasons I made it through the last year was her little brother and service dog in training Flynn who, as my mom said in passing not even realizing that her words would be some that saved me, “he already lost his best friend, but thank God he has you to hold onto”
I also remembered that exact poem and immediately wrote down my list (and still have somewhere) of reasons and every time I feel like I did I make it again and again with things just like you said! Seeing the next season of Greys Anatomy, hearing Taylor Swifts next album, going to concerts, being in a relationship, having kids, becoming an aunt, etc etc etc.
I love that tattoo and the meaning behind it and I plan to (if I ever have the money) get a tattoo of the words “because these things will change” almost as a double meaning of even though things are shitty and awful, things will never stay stagnant and there is always the possibility of things getting better BUT ALSO as a reminder that 10 years ago I could do things I can barely dream of doing now and that the abilities I have now may not be here 10 years from now and I need to stay mindful and be grateful for what I still have.
Also Flynnie and I are sending you and the 3 pupsketeers (a kitty) many germ free and loving hugs and hope you’re feeling better 🤟🏻🥰♥️
that note about your pet needing you around for them to be taken care of brought me to tears. I have my adorable Golden for about 14 years now. my therapy, my pure expression of unconditional love. no way I am leaving this buffy fluffy living thing alone ❤ stay strong and take courage, our beloved Jo, we got your back and count on yourself you also got yours
One of the most healing things I did in the middle of my divorce was getting a tattoo. It was part of reclaiming myself and being allowed to have a voice. I could put something on my body for me. It is a butterfly and looks like a total teenage girl tattoo but I love it. Amazing video concept.
Well I can't say no to a dogo can I? Great tattoo! Sometimes the unplanned things are exactly what we need.
Thankyou Jo. I've really been struggling with depression for the lasy couple of months and have just lost my car to an accident. This video is really helping me and is making me hopeful for the future. It's funny too cause I just got your 'Anchor yourself in hope shirt' today in the mail.😊
one of the reasons my cat found me i didnt save her she saved me
I remember in a past video seeing the word, 'Hope' on the bookshelf that is by the window.
Yes indeed 😊 We recently moved it during some house cleaning/rearranging!
I was five or six when I found out that my mom used to have a brother. My dad said, "You're just like your uncle George, destined to blow your brains out because you're too smart to live in this world". Inoculated me against suicide, for sure. Couldn't make him right, eh?
He's a lot nicer nowadays. And I'm still working on my symptoms from this intergenerational disease so I can't complain too loudly about his symptoms, especially since back then I used my mind to fight back...
I'm below knee, right. ;-)
The idea of finding someone with that tattoo... It just breaks my heart. I am so glad you chose to stay alive. I am so glad you continue to experience every day. If it keeps you alive, it's not ridiculous. Anything is with living for.
Conditioner and shampoo at the same time? Never happen, does that make me invincible?
After my wife died I did feel invincible for a while. I was hurting so bad that no thing, no event, and no person could hurt me any more than I was already hurting. So after six months I got in my car and drove away, spent two weeks traveling to various nudist resorts doing what my wife and I had talked about for 30 years. Then I went and talked to a shrink for three months and she said I was as good as I was going to get. Another three months and I invited a friend to lunch, but she was busy and it would have to be dinner. Ten months later we married, and that was nine years ago.
The bizarre stuff is indeed sometimes what gets you through. Thank you, Jo!
You're so good telling about this intimate topics!
You make me feel a bit less alone, you make me feel heard and human.
Sometimes when I think about the inner world of each human I'd like to just transform myself in a big hug and hug everyone struggling on planet Earth.
When I'm in my darkest places I always go back to my cat. He would never understand and he would be confused and sad and scared, and no one knows how he likes to cuddle the way I do, and no one knows how to play with him the way I do, and while sometimes being alive feels like suffering for me, I would suffer everyday so my cat doesn't have to suffer for one.
Me too
Your so brave and it shows you love your cat he seems very cute.🥺❤
I was in the same place as you one December a few years back, I wore an elf hat every time I was alone for the same reason. My survival voice said ‘you can’t do that to the first responder, they can’t find you like that with that hat this close to Christmas.’ I’m glad you found your life preserver to hold onto in the darkness.
Thanks for making this. I think a year ago, this was exactly where I was at. While I was in this rough place, I planted an avocado that I made guacamole from. It grew, and grew and I promised myself that I would not let this plant die under any circumstances. It has its ups and downs, but still grows strong. I feel connected to this plant because it was there, when I cried, when I was mad at the world but also when I recovered. This plant is my life, and it continues to grow in my house as a reminder that it’s life depends on mine but my life depends on it too. Thanks Jo.
That was really beautiful, I have friends who get tattoos as a form of coping with their mental health. I personally find planning my tattoos, a trip or anything to look forward to really helps me in my struggles.
I'm intrigued by the title
Same
This gave me hope. I have had bad depression and anxiety for a while. This motivates me to live my life the best I can. I may be odd to others, but, I’m not letting them control me. I’m me and no one can change that. I love this video so much because of this. Yes, it will get better. It might take 5 days, it might take 5 years. Who knows? It WILL get better. Trust me. I’m getting better everyday. Everyone who hates me, I don’t care. I’m not going to change because people told me to. God bless y’all! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍
This was exactly needed in this world, you are amazing and an inspiration. I am proud of you and so thankful of this message. I got a semicolon tattooed exactly where yours is, and I have the same thoughts about " what if the coroner sees this, right after I quit. How embarrassing". Thank you so much for the well needed push. I love your work.
I took the last voicemail I had from my mom before she passed away, saying "I love you, and you're always with me, never give up on yourself", and gave it to a friend who converted the message into the sound waves of her voice for a tattoo. Looking at it and replaying that message has kept me going through so many disasters that I would have ended myself from. Sometimes the only reason I'm still here. She was my rock and she still is.
My sister and I tried ending our lives (didn't know this until my she called me, screaming and crying because she didn't know if she could keep herself from jumping). I got help because I wanted to help her and I couldn't do that if I was gone. It's been three years. Still surviving, usually it's breath by breath, but sometimes I can do for a couple days feeling okay.
I love your story it’s really inspirational especially because I have a friend that was depressed because she had to get amputated but she started to watch your videos and it really helped her
My dogs are the reason I'm still here today. They'll be the reason I'm here tomorrow. So many people don't get that. I have been told so many times to give them up until I'm in a more stable living situation... Except if I give them up, even temporarily, I'm not going to end up in a more stable living situation. Without them, I have no reason to have a more stable living situation, no reason to wake up tomorrow. My dogs are my reason. They are my safety. They are my reason for continuing to breathe. Thank you Jo, for posting this video. I've been in a dark place lately and this video just made me realize that its ok to hold onto my reason for breathing even though no one else gets it. Thank you. I
You've literally posted this the day I got a foot tattoo... My first tattoo was also the symbol of me getting through the worst parts of my depression too. Thank you for getting this out there for people! It's so important!
Thank you so much for this. I’ve needed to hear this so so bad because I’ve been in such a bad place lately and this was a sign for me that things won’t be like that forever
Thank you for making this video. A little over 9 years ago my mom passed away. ( I was 5 ) Recently I have been super sad and hurt and angry. Some days I can talk about her without crying, but other days I can just think of her and I would be in my room on the floor crying until I can't breathe. I have slowly gotten more angry and out of control. This video really helps me see the light in the dark. Yes, my mom passed away, but I got an amazing step mom and a little brother out of it. I realized that I want to see how this life turns out. Thank you so much! ❤❤❤
I got a cat to keep me going. He needs me around so some days I'm hanging in there just for him.
This reminds me of the Mountain Goat's song "Amy aka Spent Gladiator 1" it's about doing whatever you need to do to stay alive and contains the stanza "People may laugh at your tattoos/when they do get new ones in completely garish hues." Not totally thought out tattoos and that song have both gotten me through a lot.
Been watching your videos for a while now. I think I first found your IG reels on FB. And I know you've had a rough few years since you made this video and got this tattoo. Thank you for sharing this. I'm glad you're still here.
When I no longer want to be alive I think about how, without fail, every single time I get home from work or even just a short errand my dog gets so so excited that he has to run around and throw his toys and jump all over the place and then come and sit on me on the couch and lick my face because he’s just so happy simply because I exist in his world. And I think about if I died, he would never do that again. And that thought usually makes me very upset and cry, but it also makes me want to stay alive just for him.
Jo, your reasoning makes total sense. You know what, that would be a great shirt or sweatshirt. Stitched just like your tattoo.
Your words are beautiful. I’m so glad you carried on and I wish you love and happiness always.
i know everyone is writing out huge paragraphs but literally just thank you. that’s all i have to say. thank you so much.
You got this💙
I know that place of darkness too. Things that have helped me stay, wanting another tattoo. On kinder days recording an audio of myself, saying things I would need to hear in the dark times.
Have found community on side by side. There are others there with mental health issues. We help each other in the dark time and companion each other, without judgemment.
What someone finds helpful is a personal and individual thing.
Thanks for sharing this. Mental health deserves awareness every day
Having something that relies on you to survive has helped several people I know hold on throughout their dark times. Wether it be a pet, a garden, or just one potted plant there were times they valued the lives of their pets/plants more than their own and it kept them afloat in a time where it was very difficult to do so. It’s vital to find what works for each person because it will always be different. Thank you for sharing your story with us
I needed this today. So much. Less then some other times but when those dark times come, I hope to god I will remember these words, your cute dog and your utterly pointless reason to stay alive that makes so much effing sense. Thank you for this. I may go cry now.
I got my first tattoo last year, its my sons same on the side of my wrist so no matter what I do , to my self or decisions I make ...I will think about him before I do it. It saved my life as well. while in the midst of an abusive relationship ( same kind as you.. :(... ) , depression and struggling every day with not wanting to live and not having the strength to live anymore. 5 months after I got it I finally got enough courage and strength to leave and rescue my son and I from the hell we were living in. 8 months later my son and I are thriving and happy! It has been a long hard road and its not over with but we have come so far. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
I really needed to watch this video today. Thank you so much. It made me cry because you are so right. The little reminders help me fight everyday. Im glad im not alone. ❤️
Brought me too tears. So much truth in her words
I just want to say I'm sorry you felt that way and I'm so glad you're still here. 💖💕💜
The way you are with the word hope is how I am with love. I have it tattooed on me in multiple different ways. A Peter pan quote "never say goodbye because goodbye means leaving and leaving means forgetting". An auroraboris(spelling lol?) An oxytocin molecule. An anatomical looking heart made out of different creatures with Greek for all creatures are equal over it.
It's been awhile since you posted this and you're probably not going to see this, but... It took me a long time to figure out how to make it through those dark. I've been doing therapy for what feels like forever, but my therapist isn't there 24/7 so I needed to find a coping mechanism that works and that is music. When I get into those super dark places I say to myself: I'm gonna write an album. I pick up an instrument(I play many) and start banging out songs with a long set release date. I write out all my feelings and put them to record and usually by the time I'e got it done I feel a lot better and can reflect on these song and hope that someday someone will hear them and in hearing them can get the kind of help they brought me writing them. I don't think I'll ever be some famous musician or anything, but that doesn't matter. It is simply the act of doing that helps me.
I think renouncing to what we think is necessary to continue living is a way of feeling suicidal, but leads you to accept whatever is going on in your life and planning towards a life that might not be ideal but it's reality, and that wont ever cease to exist, you make yourself hope proof.
I finally got tattoos on my arms last year and that has been the number one thing to reduce self harm. The tattoos are so beautiful that I don't want to ruin them, so I haven't done any self harm to the areas where my tattoos are. I hope to get enough money soon to get more, to cover my arms completely.
this video came up on my youtube recommended and i wasn't gonna watch it but for some reason i did and im really glad i did watch it thank you
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I saw a tiktok that said something like "dont kill yourself or people who barely know you will post about it for clout. Dont give them that power." Sometimes something a little petty or unconventional is the push you need
You made me cry for 7 minutes straight. Thank you.
I can totally understand you. I have a tatt in that place too "everythingoes" i know that word doesnt exist, its the name of a song that i love sooooo much, and the lyrics are that thing that i need the most when im down.
Wow! This was so POWERFUL! I loved this!
Hey, whatever worked. I really admire your strength that you found through it.
Sending love from Prague, Czech Republic
I had sepsis, which is why I lost my leg. I was so ill that I had to make the choice to live. I was not ready to go. Too many things to do, experience, and I didn't want people who knew me, to grieve. Life is definately a difficult path sometimes but what is around the next bend or over the next ridge makes my curiousity pull me forward up the trail. But yes tattoos have been a help too. I have 8, all after life changing events. Thank you for you videos
"Hope" is a great plan. I like your tattoo. Be Well.
My son is the reason I'm still alive. And yesterday, he confessed to me that the thought of leaving me alone in this cold, cruel world kept him from offing himself. We lost 13 family members in 2010, and now it's just us.
Thank you for sharing that. It resonated with me.
I have 'Give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference' tattood across my back, from shoulder to shoulder. I know that it's 'silly', but sometimes it pushes me to try a little harder. And just that little bit of strength, or courage, across a lifetime, can make a whole lot of difference.
Thank you so much for sharing your mental health journey with us. It helps keep me strong on days like today. I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome, and today I was stuck in bed all day, sick and in lots of pain. I'm also a survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault. Hearing you talk about what helped you helps me cope with my journey. Thank you so much for being here.
PS I'm in Aurora, CO! We're basically neighbors. I am not an amputee but I do use a wheelchair and I have autism. I appreciate seeing someone else who is differently-abled on here.
2 years ago I had undiagnosed anxiety that finally caused me to go 3 days, no sleep and on a constant pure adrenaline rush which had my blood pressure so high I was near stroke level when hospitalized. My suicidal thoughts went on for over a month, day to day fight with not leave behind 2 young children just to end my hell on earth feeling. I look back and realize that I was almost a lost victim to how far mental health can push a person. Go get help. Now, if you ever get even 10% as far into darkness as I did.
Anxiety is an evil monster. I figured out that I was codependent (I didn’t know that term) and that was causing a LOT of my anxiety. I’m working on that issue at the moment. I have 2 girls who I live for, because I want to see how they turn out! 🥰 I hope you find an outlet for your anxiety that is healthy. Best wishes. 💖
I got my dog 1 month before my freshman year of college, which confuses a lot of people. But I needed a reason to live, and years later, my dog is still my favorite being on this earth, and I'm no longer suicidal. I have a girlfriend who I love so much, and it is so sad to think that I would not have met her if I hadn't kept living. Please keep living, things DO get better. I used to hate my life, and now I love my life.
Hi miss Jo, I'm also a above the knee Amputee and your videos help me in my pain that I also using that word HOPE that I can pass the pain like u did.
I remember when I was younger I was thinking of the possibility of suicide, but the fear of how my family could handle it made me put it away.
For me RUclips videos are often entertainment, and usually educative. I never thought that watching one of them would be a privilege and an honor. Until today.
Thank you Jo. Your video helped (and still help) me going through darkest times of my life! Cannot express how much you, your words and your work mean to me. You are priceless, an amazing soul and person. Thank you
I can totally relate with you! I struggled alot with severe depression and self harm because of PTSD from an abusive childhood that ended up with my dad committed suicide, my mom having a mental breakdown and giving up custody of me, and seeing a bunch of scary stuff. I also have alot of chronic health problems that no one believed up until recently when I started to have chronic fevers and have now been mostly bedridden for about 3 years. Anyways, when i was 15, I was so depressed but also numb that on Mother's Day I slashed my forearm open. It was truly awful and bloody. Took about 14 stitches from a judgmental resident, and I was sent to an ultimately emotionally abusive "rehabilitation school" in Utah for about 2 years.
Fast-forward, alot of shit has happened including 2 NDE from health problems which strangely enough helped my depression because my family finally saw my struggles and began to not put so much pressure on me or judge me. Even so, seeing the huge scar would seriously trigger me when I hit the deep lows, so I made a decision to get a tattoo that means alot to me. It helped that though my family didnt immediately love the idea, they respected it and understood. To others, it may seem silly (I have had people laugh at it even after I told them the meaning which obviously hurt) but it is a cloud that covers the whole scar with closed eyes and a smile. It also has raindrops falling form it. I absolutely LOVE the rain and I resonate with rain so much deep in my soul. It comforts me, it invigorates me, etc. It makes it even better that i got the tattoo while on a trip to my favorite place in the world, Seattle! Seeing my tattoo instead of the ugly scar with obvious stitches (like Frankenstein stitches) has helped my mindset so much! I used to look at the scar when I was depressed to pretty much purposely trigger myself into killing myself, and now it reminds me of the happiest times of my life.
Im never truly happy unless its raining and cold (I live in SD where it barely ever rains and cant afford to move) and I absolutely love Seattle/Washington with all my heart. My dream before I got too sick to go to college was to go to the University of Washington ever since I was 12, just to put it into perspective with you. Same age I decided I wanted a tattoo someday that meant alot to me. I got another little tattoo on the opposite wrist that says sing when I realized I was loosing my hearing even to the point where my hearing aids dont help which makes it more difficult to sing. Singing well despite being HOH was always a point of pride for me and i was scared and devastated of loosing my eharing to the point where I couldnt hear and started to sing badly. Singing and music has been a huge part of keeping me alive, so you can understand how bad it felt. I dont sing as near as well now but the smaller tattoo is a reminder to sing even when I feel like I sound horrible because its my passion. Anyways, thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
People who have ment something to me I have a tattoo with there initials. Pets too. It reminds me that they wouldnt want me to come there before my time. I also keep donating my hair for kids with cancer as a way to remind myself that I have a reason to keep going, a reason to keep moving forward. I have so much love to give the world, and hope yo help make it a better place. "And even though I do not know you, may never meet you, I love you." V for vendetta, great quote and it holds true
I rely want to thankyou for posting this. In the begging it kind of got to me about and brought up some stuff. But in the end a lot of what you said hit home and helped. So thanks you for been open and talking about this even though it's hard,
Very touching! Thank you for sharing!
My two gaming tattoos remind me, that there will be better times again, so I can relate.
Did you hear about that tattoo 'trend' from Germany (and maybe other countries)? There is a tattoo symbolizing saving lives after yours has ended: many people get Organ Doner Tattoos, so Rescue Workers would know, if anything happens and can't save someone.
Hi =) I am so glad you are here and thank you for sharing your message =) The Tattoo i want ... I am Enough!
i have a semicolon tattoo behind ear
i cant see it but i know it's there
it reminds me that my depression thoughts are temporary and my wishes are etched onto me permanently
I'm glad you're here💜
I appreciate you sharing yourself and your vulnerability. This was a great video!
I love this video so much. the thing that could get you demonitized if I mention it has been on my mind a lot these days, it's been so hard to do the things necessary for me to be a person and it feels like I'm way too old to be in the phase of life that I am, dependent on my family to survive. the thing that's been keeping me alive for the past few months has been the constant recognition that I would never let anyone else treat me the way I've treated myself lately. the girl who took all the cash from the wallet of an asshole who treated her like garbage and then treated herself to fancy doughnuts with it would not end everything right now, and I'll be damned if I stopped being that girl.
Oh my the way you describe how you felt brought tears to my eyes as I knew exactly what you were saying. It’s the most painful crushing feeling. I got through it but the memory of it stays and I don’t ever want to get to that ever again. Thank you for putting into words how so many feel
I think that joe is the most inspiring person to have a YT and she has kept me motivated that just bc i have one leg just live your life to the full
No matter what just keep going
I can relate so much to this, for me my tattoo.... my statement saved my life and has become a resource when things get hard
Xoxo
Jo. I have too many words about why I needed this video. Just know that you are a ray of hope in a dark place. Thank you so much.
Thank you... for beeing here too.
I had/have a really hard time with Depression and suicidal thoughts but as you sad i found a way out or i'm still finding my way out and you help me a lot with the positive realistic thinking part.
So thank you for helping and beeing you :)❤
Thank you for sharing! I didn't know about World Mental Heath Awareness day and it just so happens that I got the tattoo of my cats on that day. They help with my anxiety when I am home with them and now when I am at work too (now that they are tattooed on my arm). I love your videos and your message! Thank you!
I needed this so much thank you so much for making and posting this video
as someone who has wanted nothing more than to drive my car off a bridge, or into a tree, or any other way to hurt myself or possibly not keep myself alive, at 2:50, when you said that, I felt seen. in the greatest way. I still struggle, and while i'm so much better than i was a few months ago, i'm still going through it. so thank you Jo. You are amazing, and such an inspiration to me.
Thank you for talking about this.
Oh god! Thank you 😭💖❤️
"Anchor yourself in hope"....😊
I'm so glad i watched this video. Really needed to hear this...
You have no idea what this video did to me ❤️ thank you for this
Thanks for taking the time to spread this message :) hope you are having a good day
You're a treasure, I understand completely, 22 cats. Half rehomed now, makes sense to me , Thank you
I needed this today my fiance passed away from a aneurysm 2 weeks ago sleeping by me and I been soooo depressed and found out because of covid the grief therapist place doesn't have a opening for another 2 weeks and 2 weeks feels to long to wait so thank you for this ...... don't even know how I found it
Oh that makes a lot of sense. I completely understand that!!