A real problem I’ve got with the whole “why buy the cow if you’re already getting the milk” mentality is it really diminishes the true meaning of marriage and love. Using sex as an incentive for marriage I think is a terrible way to blind yourself into picking the wrong partner. I believe you should marry someone who you love as a person, rather than marrying someone so you can have their body.
Then don't. Trust me, people change their mind quickly. It happened to me, I did it and then what? The person left me and now I gave something sacred and special away for nothing.
I agree with a lot of this. I used to be abstinent but then thought that it was completely pointless. I had been having premarital sex for almost 2 years now in a relationship that I have been in for almost 4 years and now that I found christ, both me and my boyfriend are choosing to become abstinent again. It will be hard because we were sexually involved for 2 years but we both understand how important this is and it can give you time to work on other aspects of your relationship. It will be hard but I have faith that we can both do this.
Nani Taysha Way to go! Are you and your boyfriend involved in a good church and connected to people that can help hold you accountable to those boundaries?
Was there ever a point where one of you wanted sex and the other one didn't so it caused arguments? Did you all have to pull back in many areas that had become comfortable such as, seeing each other less, no kissing, hugs, holding hands, not talking all the time and etc.?
To all the people reading the comments, I pray that God blesses you and leads you to His truth. It is sometimes hard to interpret the word of God and scripture, and even more challenging is that so many different perspectives can be found in teachings across the Internet. I’m not here to assert an opinion on this topic, but rather to maybe make other people dealing with these issues feel less alone in the confusion. Remember to love one another and try not to condemn. We do not want to push other people away from the Lord. It’s good to share your viewpoints and how you feel God has led us to live. Let’s just bare in mind people searching for answers do really need truth but also really need love, compassion and reassurance that God can and will forgive us of and deliver us from our sins. God promises to double what we forfeit. So even if we “give up” something, it’s my understanding that He has something better for us when we choose not to give into the flesh. This is a tricky area to deal with, but I have faith the Lord will deliver us to righteousness. Again, may God lead you to peace, joy, love and bright futures in His glory. ❤️❤️
Where do I start, im not sure. I'm not trying to justify myself or my actions. It is a tough situation for me. So I will start by admitting that I've engaged in sexual sin and pornography was a huge addiction for me growing up. It really became an addiction for sure. So anyway, my girlfriend and I have been living together and she has a son of 8 turning nine here in a bit. The boy was a mess, her former boyfriend used to hit him when she was at work and he was a drunk who stole her money and didn't work. Since I've come into the picture, the boy has changed dramatically, not afraid of me nor through in tantrums and even though I did spank him once I havent had to do so in 5 months and he even asked me to stay that weekend longer just the next day. So last week I asked her to marry me, I couldn't afford a proper ceremony if I wanted to and covid has just ruined my job prospects....I was on the verge of being homeless so I moved in with my woman. I've been praying and confessing and begging forgiveness. And I guess I've had this issue on my heart because I don't want to assume that I'm doing the right thing. When I look at the stability, happiness, joy, and peace that my presence has brought to this family, I cannot bear to leave her on the uncertainty. Honestly asking her to marry me was put on my heart and it came out of me like I had no way to not say the words. I can only ask Jesus to forgive us and to help us. I fear God, but I love her and won't do the sin of turning her away now. I find myself looking at how Jesus accepted the woman at the well who was living with a man she wasn't married to. I just ask that he is merciful to us. Because wouldn't it be yet another sin to turn her away now, leave her to fend for herself particularly when I do love her. Maybe I'm just not good enough and that does terrify me. But yet I've never felt so needed and selfless as I do with this woman. I'm a sinful man I make no excuse. I've committed worse sins too. I just know God is merciful and loving and my hope is in His heart. Ultimately, if I go to hell for my sinful nature and life, then it will be justified by His authority. I cannot argue God's word
That whole “Fear God” thing sounds like tyranny to me. Like you’re worshipping god and submitting to his will because you’re afraid of suffering in hell forever if you don’t. Those are the tactics of a tyrannical dictator, who uses fear as a method to motivate us to submit to his laws.
@@TheWaynelds I definitely see your point. However, there are times when fear is a rational response. For example, you would fear a lion if you were in its presence. Due to its nature, fear is the appropriate response. Even the police are to be feared, these days particularly, challenging their authority is likely to invoke their ire, which is cause for fear. Or even in the context of a relationship, you wouldn't say cheat out of fear of reprisal. Of course with people corruption is such a temptation. Fear of the Lord is more in regards to having a healthy understanding of your place versus God's. As a believer I fear God because of His awesome power while at the same time I have tremendous love for Him as well. The idea of good versus bad in Christianity is that all people are bad by nature and hell is the place for everyone who hasn't been recognized by the Son. Having good reside in you to wash away the bad. The kind of reaction to a tyrant doesn't apply because the tyrant doesn't take on suffering for you to escape their punishment. And to not do things for the self serving purpose of escaping hell is to miss the point of Christ. In isaiah is says that even your good deeds are filthy rags before God (since they are self serving).
@@LordBlk You sound like a good man brother, give that child the father figure he needs and the woman the love, leadership and husband she needs. God bless
@@randylahey2933 yeahb11 months ago I said that. Update, We are married and our son is more articulate, more stable, more focused, and happy. Tells me. He loves me. Oh and we just fot 2 rabbits.
Pray for discernment from the Holy Spirit of your partner's character. God will reveal their TRUE intentions. If it is too late for this step, the Bible say's a man/woman shall only divorce his/her wife/husband in the event of adultery. Unfortunately, we are fallible creatures and divorce happens apart from God's standard....I pray this helps. Message me back for clarification. Thanks.
Nobody would marry anyone only for sex unless they were totally stupid. Desiring sex is normal and natural but if you are waiting for marriage for sex somebody who is impatient to have sex with you is not going to try to marry you for sex, instead they will try and seduce you before marriage. And if they fail to do that they will go to somebody else. If they also believe that sex is for after marriage, they would also be dumb to marry just for sex because a person like that is taking marriage more seriously. It takes love and patience to wait for marriage and not give in to desire right away. If they are marrying you, desire for sex will be a part of it and you should be having sex in a healthy marriage but it will definitely not be the only reason or the main reason they will marry you.
I feel that a Man is the one who should actually step up and not just have sex with any woman, it's not just about girls/women who should initiate celibacy. Men should be the ones on the forefront saving themselves till marriage. That's why they are to be the Heads, they should lead by example!
@@brigitteprince5402 He is saying what's in the Bible, not his own opinion. I Corinthians 7:9 - But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1) Bible said this because you can wait until you marry 2) If you do not have the patience to wait, it is better for them to marry than committing sexual sin.
@@user-78436 right, but it’s also foolish to rush in and get into a marriage driven by lust. So why don’t we agree that there’s more to this than some legalistic rule.
See here's the thing about sex before MARRIAGE. The definition of marriage is "the legally or FORMALLY recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman)." So it doesn't have to be a ceremony. It could just be two people who really and truly love eachother since we recognize that we are two people in a personal relationship. This is what my Christian mother thought me, that as long as you BOTH truly love and cherish eachother/ are committed to Eachother then you can have pure sex.
Holland Oates I challenge you to read a few books. The church is literally destroying lives with this one size fits all nonsense. JUST BECAUSE you don’t have sex before marriage does not mean that your marriage will be better or more special ... sorry hate to burst ya bubble. Allot of believers struggle because they were told it was a sin for so long and then can’t perform in a marriage. The Bible calls us to purity and sexual integrity... not these rules and words made by men in an effort to control others and shrink God and put Him in a box . I dare you to read Shameless by Nadia Boltz Webber or Linda Kay Clines book Pure.
It gets even stranger when you realize that the marriage customs of the 1st century Hebrews to which scripture refers are very very different than the white dress and tuxedo of 21st century.
first, MALES and females are not supposed to participate in sex before marriage. This guy only spoke to females. the Bible says, It is good for a man NOT TO TOUCH a woman. but let each man have his own WIFE. Also, there is no such thing as a "Christian" participating in sex before marriage. Christians dont have sex before marriage, non-Christians do. so if that happening, the parties must repent and stop sex before marriage and all sin by giving their life to Christ by grace thru faith. the Bible says, God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. 4 Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor- 5 not in lustful passion like the pagans ( non-Christians ) who do not know God and his ways. 6 Never harm or cheat a fellow believer in this matter by violating his wife (adultery), for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. 7 God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives. 8 Therefore, anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting God 1Thess4
This is a hard subject because in biblical times from a Jewish perspective it was OK to sleep with your spouse as long as it led to marriage I've made this mistake it's very hard to overcome once you've opened the door 🙏
This is my exact situation: I’m a Christian and my boyfriend is also a Christian. We found ourselves involved in premarital sex. Ofcourse I feel guilty and so hypercritical going to church. So we talk about it and we stop then we get caught up again having sex. He uses the excuse that he doesn’t think it’s bad because God created it. So fast forward to now I’m so nervous that I can’t marry him because we made this horrible mistake and I almost don’t feel like he is the right man for me because he’s okay with having premarital sex. Can someone give me advice 😞
I think a period of fasting and praying and repenting would be good. And really be clear on marital expectations. Like be clear you want to be married. I was in this situation with my wife who was my girlfriend at the time. We struggled for a while but we knew we wanted to be married. And we are now. Got married this year and are healthy and happy and holy, because of Christ
This comment section is unreal... So many people who claim to be Christian who are really arguing for premarital sexual relations... Even to go as far as to say fornication doesn't include premarital sex.... Wow. This is ridiculous. Let us all remember that Christ will one day say to many who call him Lord "depart from me you workers of inquity (sin)." Many of you should be ashamed and I pray you find repentance before it's too late!
And the woman at the well? Or forgiveness seventy times seventy? I'm not trying to make excuses, but we all fall short. By your logic, that means instead of marrying my girlfriend, I should abandon her and her son whom has become a kid again. I can't look at that boy of hers and not think that I am the father he needed. Before I came into the picture, her son had been abused by the former boyfriend and damaged. Now this child is a kid again. Maybe I will go to hell for it. Whatever will come will be Justified by God's goodness. I just have to accept it. But he isnt calling me to abandon, no he called me to commit to her. To be a father to the fatherless. Sin is sin, I get it. But the Sinner is who Jesus came for.
@@dotticus but still, gotta say, the woman at the well was living with a man who wasn't her husband and he told her he would give her living water. And we do repent, but as it says in deutoronimy 22:28-29 that if you lay with a woman you should marry her. So there is room for forgiveness in that. I'll have many sins to ask forgiveness for before the Judge. I'll just have to hope on the mercy of Jesus in the end. My heart is repentant, but the flesh is weak. In the lords eyes, she is already my wife. Its just her and I and her son is my son. I'm not justifying my actions, im fearful yes. But I can't deny that we are married in spirit now, the paper work is in the works. We are so poor it'll take us a long time to get the cash to get everything together.
@@LordBlk it's like 50 bucks for a license. And recall the story of the woman at the well brother, Christ acknowledged that she was married five times thus confirming she was married five times. But He said she wasn't married with the man she was living and sleeping with. Use your brain my brother. Marry your woman if you love her and if the Lord is calling you to. Stop playing games and making excuses.
If you are a true christian and love God and know that your body is a temple of God then you will not want to defile your body with anything unclean or sinful like giving your body to a man that has not committed to you in his heart or has respect for your body.
A number of comments are going far off the focus...as if God is a joy-killer who sets all these ridiculous boundaries which make us unable to enjoy sex. In fact, it is the opposite - sex is the most beautiful thing. The reason He wants unmarried people to flee from sexual sins is because of His great love for us that He wants to help us save what is best till the appropriate time. For those people who insist that there is nothing wrong with premarital sex after hearing the teaching - my genuine advice is PLEASE GO AHEAD and enjoy yourself because indeed sex was created for your enjoyment as a gift. 1 Corinthians 10:23: "Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial." Ecclesiastes 11:9 says: Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things God will bring you to judgment." God will not forsake you as His children just because you are having premarital sex. He loves you for who you are, regardless of what you do. But if you consider your faith to be a core pillar of your life, you might want to pause a minute and re-examine your relationship with God. When you really love Him with all your heart, mind, and soul, you would naturally want to obey His commands (or try to move towards that direction). There is no excuse. Hope this helps.
My biggest issue is that I don’t have any interest in ever getting married, or to even go beyond casual dating, and I feel that I shouldn’t have to be a life long virgin because of that either. I’d be a very sexually frustrated 40 year old virgin with blue balls today if I abstained from sex.
Well, we just don’t see any reason why we should. None of us ever chose to have sexual desires or whether or not we find someone sexually attractive, so we don’t feel that it’s a sin if we indulge since it’s natural and hard coded into our brain.
I’m a Christian man and have had premarital sex and have turned away from it, but part of me keeps wanting to pursue it cause I feel like I’m “missing out on fun.” The world says that when you’re young to sew your wild oats. Why am I struggling with this so much if I know it’s wrong?!
Because you’re a guy. God made you to feel this way. It’s not that hard. However, if you call yourself a follower of Christ, the greater call is to abstain.
I think because it’s a natural tendency of our flesh but We should walk by the spirit and not by the flesh. This is not to punish us but for us to enjoy Gods gift of sex to the maximum. That doesn’t mean it’s easy. It’s hard but worth it!
I come across so many videos that usually give guys advice for sexual sin and i love that this one really gets to help the females, to break down the lies te devil and the world tells us. In those 5mins👏 he spoke some direct truths
I think if this was the case people would hurry into marriage just to have sex and that isn't right . What if you never marry and you are like 40 to 55 are you supposed to be a virgin or wait that long , doesnt seem right . Seems to me you cant do anything and I am a believer but doesnt seem to make sense at times .
@@dasarchitect5114 You're lost my man . Look in the Bible and it will tell you the truth that churches dont teach . We were made this way especially men . You seem upset that you arent getting laid , is that it ? Just sayin ... God bless !
Tbh this comments section brought me more valid information than this video. This video was mostly the legalistic, finger-pointing bull that a great many people decide to latch onto. Thank God Jesus wants us to follow him and not man.
What...is he serious. Abuse goes up!??!? Just because you have premarital sex...you're gonna get abused? That's so messed up! "Sex outside of marriage will knit you into an unhealthy relationship". I can't disagree enough. Having sex outside of marriage has nothing to do with whether the relationship will be unhealthy. If there is abuse in the relationship, it has nothing to do with sex. They are in an abusive relationship period.
Laurie House I can understand it though. Sex isn't supposed to be a thing that happens outside of marriage. When it does happen.... You tend to be more emotionally inclined and develop into more of a solid bond too fast with someone who you have not taken the time to know. So even if lets say that person leaves or down the road things happen and you really get to know them... You feel violated, angry, and vengeful. There's people who rush into relationships and form certain things way too early only for their partner to leave or hurt them. And the fall out can be huge. Some people kill themselves. And there are abusive people who do push and use people for sex. There's lots of ways that someone can abuse another. Even a husband who uses his role and position to get things that he wants and self serve can be considered abusive and is abusing his authority. Or if he uses the role of his wife to make her feel guilty for many things including not wanting sex to get sex. It uses faith as a guilt trip.
Sex clouds your judgment to who a person truly is. Sex is also a form of a manipulation and control which is witchcraft. This can backfire and your spouse can become a violent person. These things are not always carnal but spiritual
well i say stay, whit your bf or gf . confessing of sins is very important, so ask god if he can help you to marry the person you whit after that go on about your life's, asking god to forgive you both don't leave the person you whit because you have all reedy bean together for so long, confessing of sins help am in a place like that and still god comes true for me every time because am telling god my sins asking him to forgive me that is all it takes god bless
🌟 MORNING STAR⭐️ if sex is that big of a priority for him, it’s a problem. Your relationship with god and each other should come far before sex. Sex is so unimportant.
NEVER SURRENDER. EITHER HE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY TO MARRY YOU, OR HE CAN GO TO HELL. IF HE RAPED YOU, CALL 911, GET A GOOD LAWYER TO SUE HIM FOR MAXIMUM RESTITUTION FOR THE DAMAGE HE'S CAUSED YOU
@B0omer96 it is unimportant at the end of the day. It should not be a priority. If it is, you are prioritizing your flesh and your desires instead of prioritizing glorifying God and doing your very best to follow His laws.
@EliteAthlete15 Men should get their priorities straight. If a man puts his desires before the laws of God, he is weak. We all stumble sometimes but it is very unwise to marry quickly just so you can be sexually satisfied.
I once lived that life of condemnation and guilt until I found out otherwise. The Bible never mentions getting married as a wedding ceremony so idk where these Christians get that from. But I found out since I was once Christian, they are always saying something is in the Bible that is simply not there. They call fornication or sexual immortality premarital sex when fornication in the Bible is adultery and idolatry. The practice of celibacy is not biblical and it only makes you so hot you marry the first so call nice guy you meet. I haven't had the best sex that has kept me in an unhealthy relationship. An unhealthy mindset does that.
Your Bible says something is only a sin if one believes their in sin so if I found out otherwise then there's no need of repentance. You should repent of your misjudgment. You don't know my relationship with Yahweh and what I do repent and don't repent of.
How do I deal with taking a girls purity. My ex girlfriend and I were dating and we were each others first. I truley did love her we talked about marriage and everything. But she decided she loved the last guy she talked to more than me after I had done something sinful. I asked for forgiveness from the lord and her. Now I struggle with the fact that I took her virginity and no longer have mine.
Through out human history a man and woman had to go thru some form of ritual to be recognized as a husband and wife. Today in some countries a ceremony must take place. They also must apply for a license. They vow before eye witnesses that they are entering a contract. The man and woman will be issued a license which states they are husband and wife. The vow they make and the license they are given are viewed as a verbal and written contract.
With regards to pre-marital sex, scripture absolutely does NOT condemn sex before. What it outlines is marital commitments between the male and female. An example…, 2 teenagers engaged in a premarital sexual relationship, I would consider that sinful. Because the “man”, the teenage boy, has not made the necessary preparations to be the provider and protector of that girl. Her father is currently doing that. But a man who is independent of his parents and understands the Biblical mandates for a husband to lead, provide, and protect for his wife, he could take a wife and never be “married” by license or ceremony. Although the state makes provisions for that. It’s called a common law marriage. It was instituted mainly to protect women. Ceremony was never biblical. Marrage in scripture is not state mandated contractual ceremony. Its a mutual commitment. Once 2 ADULTS realize this commitment the biblical marriage starts at sex. The act of sex is the consummation of that commitment. The signing of the contract so to speak. So therefore, having sex is a really big deal. And post “marriage” commitment it is the continuation of that contract. Not to sound misogynistic, but for a woman to continue to give herself to her husband is to renew that commitment over and over again. Very meaningful stuff even though we take it all for granted.
@@HillbillyBlack you are 100% correct in the Bible. There is no such thing really as. “Wedding rings “ or having to sign these legal documents that is not actually what marriage is marriage is the commitment if you already have true love and not lust for your partner and you guys of already agreed that you’re gonna be together for the rest of your life on earth, and love and worship God together than your married. That’s it simple as that, there’s also no such thing as a “ fiancé” in the Bible the marriage process is a lot simpler than culture makes, I see a lot of questions who are waiting until they are wedding night to have sex which nothings really wrong with but if they truly read the scripture, then they would understand that the wedding does not actually make you married, and if you’ve already proposed to her, then you already are married. What’s your opinion on that?
@@andrewlockhart2622 commitments everything according to how scripture to find it. Leave your mother and father and cleave to your wife. I’ll look at it as simple as that. But this is only applicable for Christians. Nonbelievers will simply exercise, similar values and it’s still sin. Their life is one giant sin
Why is it the woman needs to be enough for the man ?? Why is it not the same for women ? I’m disgusted you are slapping Gods name on this I have never been so irritated!
What if she has done it, and now she doesn't want it, leaving me insecure why she could've just let that happened while she won't let that happen with me?
@@JC-du4rh Exactly!!! That guy is probably seeking her validation by acting needy, unworthy, feminine, waiting on her hand and foot, and putting up with her BS, which will turn any woman off. If Mr Brain Scoop would act like a man and stand up to her, she’d be screwing his Scooped Brains out. Beta males never get laid or respect.
Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free? Well the idea is you want someone who wants the cow for other things besides milk. No reason to feel like a horrible person for giving people milk especially if you enjoy giving milk, and the person enjoy receiving milk, and their is a mutual respect between each other and their milk trading relationship.
@@spoon7753 little did the consumer know that the free milk was of the lowest quality with odors of foul smell tainted by saliva from thieves who consumed the milk before packaging, and that the milk has already gone past beyond its date of expiration, rendering it worthless to the farmer who decided to dispose of it in the same manner as a pile of refuse anyway
Exodus 21:20-21 “Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property.” Christians, does this sound moral to you? This is a simple “yes” or “no” answer, context is irrelevant, unless you’re trying to make excuses for your immoral book. If you’re willing to follow a book that condones this shit, then you’re in no position to be giving moral advice.
Des Gardius 2012 yes but exodus is the second book of the Old Testament. The OT describes a time after the fall from God when we were living in sin. The New Testament tells us how we should live and act through parables and teachings etc. and they say very different things to the OT
@EliteAthlete15 damn, it's sad when your religion had poisoned your weak mind into thinking slavery of any form is ok. You're severely dumb, and your god and religion is immortal, deal with it
"Sex outside of marriage will knit you into an unhealthy relationship." I do not agree with you on this statement. If you are in a very committed and mature relationship, you shouldn't be worried about this subject. The only way it knits "unhealthy relationships" is if you approach the act/subject in an immature manner or go about the act in an immature way. I am a reconnecting Christian, with a Christian significant other (boyfriend). We shouldn't coarse ourselves to follow everything that the Bible lays down for us to follow because Jesus wouldn't want someone to unwillingly give something up for His love. We have to give our unconditional and truthful love to Him. If we didn't, then we are all just lying to Him and ourselves in forms of love and commitment. It's the equivalent of changing your own personal being to suite the fancy of another person. You shouldn't change yourself in order to find or be loved from anyone, including Jesus. Both of our love is unconditional towards the other. And that's what should be important.
Couldn't agree more. It actually upset me that he said that abuse will go up in couples that are engaging in premarital sex. That couldn't be farther from the truth and made no sense what so ever.
This is probably the most satanic and outright false comment that I have read in a while since it is contrary to everything the gospel is. Yes you are to change yourself to follow Jesus (Matthew 16:24-26; Mark 10:17-31) and if you do not you are not worthy to follow him. We are to be come new creatures (2 Corinthians 5:17). This is unconditional love when you love without conditions and give up everything to follow Jesus.
You just contradicted yourself. "This is unconditional love when you love without conditions and give up everything to follow Jesus,". So the only way to "unconditionally" love Jesus is if we give up everything that may or may not hold importance to us and follow him. That seems very unconditional (sarcasm). And maybe you should think twice before judging someone whom you've never met before and don't even know. That was very un-Christian of you, especially for someone who is scolding me about how I interpret things.
Hailey Edsall There is no contradiction and you have it twisted. When you feel that one can only truly love Jesus because of requirements such as allowing one to remain in sin you are proposing conditions and your love is not aunthentic. *You are only willing to love Jesus only if he allows you to remain as X" But this is completely false according to the Bible (see Matthew 16:24-26; Mark 10:17-32; 2 Cor 5:17 etc) as we are to be transformed and born again. When you "give up" everything to follow Jesus you are giving him your full commitment and love without clinging to material or worldly things as conditions (Matthew 16:-24-26). One cannot serve two masters (Matthew 6:24). As far as judging you I am judging you with righteous judgment (John 7:24) which is to look at a person's heart rather than appearance because out of abundance of the heart the mouth speaks (Luke 6:45). Jesus said, "you will KNOW them by their fruits" (Matthew 7:16) and falsehood is not a fruit of the Spirit and therfore you are not a true follower of Jesus since you love your fleshly passions more than Jesus' words which is not to commit fornication. Therefore you should repent and turn to Jesus.
***** You are attacking straw-man and you clearly don't know what I was responding to. First of all your view of the gospels is erroneous since the message of grace is taught throughout the four gospels. This same gospel of grace was passed to Paul from Peter and John with guidance of the Holy Spirit who unlocked this understanding in Paul. Secondly the gospels are not for "law abiding Jews". The gospels are the words of Jesus. Don't you believe his word is true? Then why did you complain that I only quoted the gospels? You think Jesus and Paul contradict each other? If you do then you need to reexamine your faith. The message of the Gospel is grace not law. The law is referring to the law of Moses given on mount Sinai and the Torah. We are saved by faith and not by works, but true faith bares fruit (Ephesians 2:9, James 2:14-26) also grace is not an excuse to continue in sin (Romans 6:1). This is how you can tell a true Christian from a false Christian as Jesus said (see Matthew 7:21-23) Now the woman I was responding to believes that she can continue commiting fornication and she believes that if Jesus really had unconditional love for her, he should respect her belief to remain in the sin of fornication. She feels that if she has to give up her lifestyle or change for Jesus then Jesus doesn't have unconditional love which is lie. She chooses her own understanding of life and she wants Jesus to respect her sinful desire which is a doctrine of demons and not what Jesus wants for us; allowing his creatures to continue in darkness is not love. Jesus' unconditional love is demonstrated in the fact that despite us being sinners and deserving damnation he died for us and will removes our sins when we put our faith in him. It is demonstrated in the fact that no matter how gruesome the sin is or how long you have sinned Jesus will forgive you and make you holy. Ehphesians 4:21-24, *_when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus.You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness._* So if someone truly has faith and trust in Jesus their heart and their thinking would change and they would see their own sin. But some people love their sin more than Jesus and are not willing to trust in him in order that they be saved and born again. 1 John 2:4 _"Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him"_
There is NO prohibition against sex before marriage in the Bible. The word often translated as 'Fornication' is the Greek word Porneia, which in the 1st Century AD mean to sell yourself into slave (spiritually and/or physically). Another Greek word often distorted into 'Fornication' is Koitai, which meant to be lazy or slothful. It is also highly possible that 1 Corinithians 7:38 gives men the option to remain unmarried to 'their young woman' 'heautou parthenon...' should they wish it.
Many faithful servants of the Lord had multiple concubines/girlfriends to go into, including Priests. God gave them many beautiful women to delight in. (Abraham, King David and many more). Please check the bible and do not simply listen to what man says.
This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. You are blatantly promoting irresponsible relationships and basically saying that your marriage won’t be the same if you have premarital sex. This is so damaging
Well, here’s how I see it. God is the one who gave us those sexual desires in the first place, so he has no reason to be so offended by anyone engaging in premarital sex. Same with homosexuality. We don’t get to choose whether or not to have sexual urges/desires, or even who we’re attracted to.
A real problem I’ve got with the whole “why buy the cow if you’re already getting the milk” mentality is it really diminishes the true meaning of marriage and love. Using sex as an incentive for marriage I think is a terrible way to blind yourself into picking the wrong partner. I believe you should marry someone who you love as a person, rather than marrying someone so you can have their body.
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why does all of the examples include girls who have had sex. What if I 'm a girl who is with a guy who wants to have sex. :?
Then don't. Trust me, people change their mind quickly. It happened to me, I did it and then what? The person left me and now I gave something sacred and special away for nothing.
I agree with a lot of this. I used to be abstinent but then thought that it was completely pointless. I had been having premarital sex for almost 2 years now in a relationship that I have been in for almost 4 years and now that I found christ, both me and my boyfriend are choosing to become abstinent again. It will be hard because we were sexually involved for 2 years but we both understand how important this is and it can give you time to work on other aspects of your relationship. It will be hard but I have faith that we can both do this.
Nani Taysha Way to go! Are you and your boyfriend involved in a good church and connected to people that can help hold you accountable to those boundaries?
don't give your man blue balls
Was there ever a point where one of you wanted sex and the other one didn't so it caused arguments? Did you all have to pull back in many areas that had become comfortable such as, seeing each other less, no kissing, hugs, holding hands, not talking all the time and etc.?
amen that's what me and my fiance are doing
Why not get married
To all the people reading the comments, I pray that God blesses you and leads you to His truth. It is sometimes hard to interpret the word of God and scripture, and even more challenging is that so many different perspectives can be found in teachings across the Internet. I’m not here to assert an opinion on this topic, but rather to maybe make other people dealing with these issues feel less alone in the confusion. Remember to love one another and try not to condemn. We do not want to push other people away from the Lord.
It’s good to share your viewpoints and how you feel God has led us to live. Let’s just bare in mind people searching for answers do really need truth but also really need love, compassion and reassurance that God can and will forgive us of and deliver us from our sins. God promises to double what we forfeit. So even if we “give up” something, it’s my understanding that He has something better for us when we choose not to give into the flesh. This is a tricky area to deal with, but I have faith the Lord will deliver us to righteousness. Again, may God lead you to peace, joy, love and bright futures in His glory. ❤️❤️
Thank You ❤ That was very kind
Where do I start, im not sure. I'm not trying to justify myself or my actions. It is a tough situation for me.
So I will start by admitting that I've engaged in sexual sin and pornography was a huge addiction for me growing up. It really became an addiction for sure.
So anyway, my girlfriend and I have been living together and she has a son of 8 turning nine here in a bit.
The boy was a mess, her former boyfriend used to hit him when she was at work and he was a drunk who stole her money and didn't work.
Since I've come into the picture, the boy has changed dramatically, not afraid of me nor through in tantrums and even though I did spank him once I havent had to do so in 5 months and he even asked me to stay that weekend longer just the next day.
So last week I asked her to marry me, I couldn't afford a proper ceremony if I wanted to and covid has just ruined my job prospects....I was on the verge of being homeless so I moved in with my woman.
I've been praying and confessing and begging forgiveness. And I guess I've had this issue on my heart because I don't want to assume that I'm doing the right thing.
When I look at the stability, happiness, joy, and peace that my presence has brought to this family, I cannot bear to leave her on the uncertainty.
Honestly asking her to marry me was put on my heart and it came out of me like I had no way to not say the words.
I can only ask Jesus to forgive us and to help us.
I fear God, but I love her and won't do the sin of turning her away now.
I find myself looking at how Jesus accepted the woman at the well who was living with a man she wasn't married to.
I just ask that he is merciful to us.
Because wouldn't it be yet another sin to turn her away now, leave her to fend for herself particularly when I do love her.
Maybe I'm just not good enough and that does terrify me. But yet I've never felt so needed and selfless as I do with this woman.
I'm a sinful man I make no excuse. I've committed worse sins too. I just know God is merciful and loving and my hope is in His heart.
Ultimately, if I go to hell for my sinful nature and life, then it will be justified by His authority. I cannot argue God's word
That whole “Fear God” thing sounds like tyranny to me. Like you’re worshipping god and submitting to his will because you’re afraid of suffering in hell forever if you don’t. Those are the tactics of a tyrannical dictator, who uses fear as a method to motivate us to submit to his laws.
@@TheWaynelds I definitely see your point.
However, there are times when fear is a rational response.
For example, you would fear a lion if you were in its presence. Due to its nature, fear is the appropriate response.
Even the police are to be feared, these days particularly, challenging their authority is likely to invoke their ire, which is cause for fear. Or even in the context of a relationship, you wouldn't say cheat out of fear of reprisal. Of course with people corruption is such a temptation.
Fear of the Lord is more in regards to having a healthy understanding of your place versus God's. As a believer I fear God because of His awesome power while at the same time I have tremendous love for Him as well.
The idea of good versus bad in Christianity is that all people are bad by nature and hell is the place for everyone who hasn't been recognized by the Son. Having good reside in you to wash away the bad.
The kind of reaction to a tyrant doesn't apply because the tyrant doesn't take on suffering for you to escape their punishment. And to not do things for the self serving purpose of escaping hell is to miss the point of Christ.
In isaiah is says that even your good deeds are filthy rags before God (since they are self serving).
@@LordBlk You sound like a good man brother, give that child the father figure he needs and the woman the love, leadership and husband she needs. God bless
@@randylahey2933 yeahb11 months ago I said that.
Update,
We are married and our son is more articulate, more stable, more focused, and happy.
Tells me. He loves me.
Oh and we just fot 2 rabbits.
Honestly, i ask this respectfully as possible but what if that person wants to marry you for only sex and then divorces you?
Pray for discernment from the Holy Spirit of your partner's character. God will reveal their TRUE intentions. If it is too late for this step, the Bible say's a man/woman shall only divorce his/her wife/husband in the event of adultery. Unfortunately, we are fallible creatures and divorce happens apart from God's standard....I pray this helps. Message me back for clarification. Thanks.
Nobody would marry anyone only for sex unless they were totally stupid. Desiring sex is normal and natural but if you are waiting for marriage for sex somebody who is impatient to have sex with you is not going to try to marry you for sex, instead they will try and seduce you before marriage. And if they fail to do that they will go to somebody else. If they also believe that sex is for after marriage, they would also be dumb to marry just for sex because a person like that is taking marriage more seriously. It takes love and patience to wait for marriage and not give in to desire right away. If they are marrying you, desire for sex will be a part of it and you should be having sex in a healthy marriage but it will definitely not be the only reason or the main reason they will marry you.
That's what I fear.
I feel that a Man is the one who should actually step up and not just have sex with any woman, it's not just about girls/women who should initiate celibacy. Men should be the ones on the forefront saving themselves till marriage. That's why they are to be the Heads, they should lead by example!
I wanna have sex with one female even tho I’m not married or planning on getting married soon. Marriage is something I want to get involved in.
Why are you answering to women and not to men? Give advice to men who don’t know what to do.
Exactly
Yeah I’m a guy and I need answers too.
I'm a male and I need the answers
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Because usually not always but usually women are the ones who need to give consent. Men are the ones who pursue by instinct.
DOESNT CORITHIANS SAY IF YOU CANT CONTAIN YOURSELF ,MARRY. GREAT TEACHING-THANK YOU.
VERDE VALLEY so rush into a marriage because you want to have sex ? Yeah .. that sounds Sooooo healthy SMH
@@brigitteprince5402 He is saying what's in the Bible, not his own opinion.
I Corinthians 7:9
- But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1) Bible said this because you can wait until you marry
2) If you do not have the patience to wait, it is better for them to marry than committing sexual sin.
Yeah, pretty much, so?
@@user-78436 right, but it’s also foolish to rush in and get into a marriage driven by lust. So why don’t we agree that there’s more to this than some legalistic rule.
@@guardianangel4514 I don’t necessarily think that’s the case . Because what would be the incentive on getting married if there was no sex ?
See here's the thing about sex before MARRIAGE. The definition of marriage is "the legally or FORMALLY recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman)." So it doesn't have to be a ceremony. It could just be two people who really and truly love eachother since we recognize that we are two people in a personal relationship. This is what my Christian mother thought me, that as long as you BOTH truly love and cherish eachother/ are committed to Eachother then you can have pure sex.
Bri The Tree and how do we classify "truly" loving someone? What verses did she use to justify this position?
Holland Oates I challenge you to read a few books. The church is literally destroying lives with this one size fits all nonsense. JUST BECAUSE you don’t have sex before marriage does not mean that your marriage will be better or more special ... sorry hate to burst ya bubble. Allot of believers struggle because they were told it was a sin for so long and then can’t perform in a marriage. The Bible calls us to purity and sexual integrity... not these rules and words made by men in an effort to control others and shrink God and put Him in a box . I dare you to read Shameless by Nadia Boltz Webber or Linda Kay Clines book Pure.
Bri The Tree nope that’s a false teaching
It gets even stranger when you realize that the marriage customs of the 1st century Hebrews to which scripture refers are very very different than the white dress and tuxedo of 21st century.
first, MALES and females are not supposed to participate in sex before marriage. This guy only spoke to females. the Bible says, It is good for a man NOT TO TOUCH a woman. but let each man have his own WIFE.
Also, there is no such thing as a "Christian" participating in sex before marriage. Christians dont have sex before marriage, non-Christians do. so if that happening, the parties must repent and stop sex before marriage and all sin by giving their life to Christ by grace thru faith. the Bible says, God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. 4 Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor- 5 not in lustful passion like the pagans ( non-Christians ) who do not know God and his ways. 6 Never harm or cheat a fellow believer in this matter by violating his wife (adultery), for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before. 7 God has called us to live holy lives, not impure lives. 8 Therefore, anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting God 1Thess4
You make the most sense
This is a hard subject because in biblical times from a Jewish perspective it was OK to sleep with your spouse as long as it led to marriage I've made this mistake it's very hard to overcome once you've opened the door 🙏
What if you have lived together for 5 years and are engaged?
nothing, because the bible does not condemn pre-marital sex.
@@qetoun what you mean by this?
@@qetoun yes it does
@qetoun I beg your pardon! Hebrews 13v4 Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled for God will judge adulterers and whoremongers..
This is my exact situation: I’m a Christian and my boyfriend is also a Christian. We found ourselves involved in premarital sex. Ofcourse I feel guilty and so hypercritical going to church. So we talk about it and we stop then we get caught up again having sex. He uses the excuse that he doesn’t think it’s bad because God created it. So fast forward to now I’m so nervous that I can’t marry him because we made this horrible mistake and I almost don’t feel like he is the right man for me because he’s okay with having premarital sex. Can someone give me advice 😞
Or plan on marrying each other.
You give a test drive
I think a period of fasting and praying and repenting would be good. And really be clear on marital expectations. Like be clear you want to be married. I was in this situation with my wife who was my girlfriend at the time. We struggled for a while but we knew we wanted to be married. And we are now. Got married this year and are healthy and happy and holy, because of Christ
Yeah break up....or get married...I mean if he’s your boyfriend and if he wants to honor you he would marry u
Move on.
This comment section is unreal... So many people who claim to be Christian who are really arguing for premarital sexual relations... Even to go as far as to say fornication doesn't include premarital sex.... Wow. This is ridiculous. Let us all remember that Christ will one day say to many who call him Lord "depart from me you workers of inquity (sin)." Many of you should be ashamed and I pray you find repentance before it's too late!
And the woman at the well?
Or forgiveness seventy times seventy?
I'm not trying to make excuses, but we all fall short.
By your logic, that means instead of marrying my girlfriend, I should abandon her and her son whom has become a kid again.
I can't look at that boy of hers and not think that I am the father he needed.
Before I came into the picture, her son had been abused by the former boyfriend and damaged.
Now this child is a kid again.
Maybe I will go to hell for it. Whatever will come will be Justified by God's goodness.
I just have to accept it.
But he isnt calling me to abandon, no he called me to commit to her.
To be a father to the fatherless.
Sin is sin, I get it. But the Sinner is who Jesus came for.
@@LordBlk no, repent and marry your girlfriend. That's my logic. Stop having sex with her immediately and marry her.
@@dotticus okay man, getting right on that.
@@dotticus but still, gotta say, the woman at the well was living with a man who wasn't her husband and he told her he would give her living water.
And we do repent, but as it says in deutoronimy 22:28-29 that if you lay with a woman you should marry her.
So there is room for forgiveness in that.
I'll have many sins to ask forgiveness for before the Judge. I'll just have to hope on the mercy of Jesus in the end.
My heart is repentant, but the flesh is weak. In the lords eyes, she is already my wife. Its just her and I and her son is my son.
I'm not justifying my actions, im fearful yes.
But I can't deny that we are married in spirit now, the paper work is in the works.
We are so poor it'll take us a long time to get the cash to get everything together.
@@LordBlk it's like 50 bucks for a license. And recall the story of the woman at the well brother, Christ acknowledged that she was married five times thus confirming she was married five times. But He said she wasn't married with the man she was living and sleeping with. Use your brain my brother. Marry your woman if you love her and if the Lord is calling you to. Stop playing games and making excuses.
If you are a true christian and love God and know that your body is a temple of God then you will not want to defile your body with anything unclean or sinful like giving your body to a man that has not committed to you in his heart or has respect for your body.
+Angela Mergist LMAO
+7lol2007 What's funny?
+LogosTheos None of your business?
7lol2007 RUclips is everyone's business. I just wanted to know your particular worldview and set of values, that's all
So if you are engaged you can do it? I don't know. Commitment or not doing sex outside weakens the bond
A number of comments are going far off the focus...as if God is a joy-killer who sets all these ridiculous boundaries which make us unable to enjoy sex. In fact, it is the opposite - sex is the most beautiful thing. The reason He wants unmarried people to flee from sexual sins is because of His great love for us that He wants to help us save what is best till the appropriate time.
For those people who insist that there is nothing wrong with premarital sex after hearing the teaching - my genuine advice is PLEASE GO AHEAD and enjoy yourself because indeed sex was created for your enjoyment as a gift.
1 Corinthians 10:23: "Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial." Ecclesiastes 11:9 says: Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things God will bring you to judgment."
God will not forsake you as His children just because you are having premarital sex. He loves you for who you are, regardless of what you do. But if you consider your faith to be a core pillar of your life, you might want to pause a minute and re-examine your relationship with God. When you really love Him with all your heart, mind, and soul, you would naturally want to obey His commands (or try to move towards that direction). There is no excuse. Hope this helps.
My biggest issue is that I don’t have any interest in ever getting married, or to even go beyond casual dating, and I feel that I shouldn’t have to be a life long virgin because of that either.
I’d be a very sexually frustrated 40 year old virgin with blue balls today if I abstained from sex.
This is the wisest thing I have ever read! Thanks :)
Repent. Walk from it or get married. Hebrews 13v4 Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled for God will judge adulterers and whoremongers. "
How can consensual intimacy between adults ever be anyone else's business? What gaul to presume to judge. Don't fall for this nonsense.
"The path to Eden is clear for those who have faith."
- Faith
THIS IS NOT FARCRY 5 NO MATTER HOW GOOD THE GAME IS 😂😂
My woman don't went any sex anymore in that is still a sin
Marry... make it moral and legal!
Exactly
Lol guess the ppl who disliked the video do not plan on stopping premarital sex 🤔
Well, we just don’t see any reason why we should. None of us ever chose to have sexual desires or whether or not we find someone sexually attractive, so we don’t feel that it’s a sin if we indulge since it’s natural and hard coded into our brain.
I’m a Christian man and have had premarital sex and have turned away from it, but part of me keeps wanting to pursue it cause I feel like I’m “missing out on fun.” The world says that when you’re young to sew your wild oats. Why am I struggling with this so much if I know it’s wrong?!
Because you’re a guy. God made you to feel this way. It’s not that hard. However, if you call yourself a follower of Christ, the greater call is to abstain.
I think because it’s a natural tendency of our flesh but We should walk by the spirit and not by the flesh. This is not to punish us but for us to enjoy Gods gift of sex to the maximum. That doesn’t mean it’s easy. It’s hard but worth it!
I come across so many videos that usually give guys advice for sexual sin and i love that this one really gets to help the females, to break down the lies te devil and the world tells us.
In those 5mins👏 he spoke some direct truths
I think if this was the case people would hurry into marriage just to have sex and that isn't right . What if you never marry and you are like 40 to 55 are you supposed to be a virgin or wait that long , doesnt seem right . Seems to me you cant do anything and I am a believer but doesnt seem to make sense at times .
You're lost. Look for a Bible teaching church. God bless.
@@dasarchitect5114 You're lost my man . Look in the Bible and it will tell you the truth that churches dont teach . We were made this way especially men . You seem upset that you arent getting laid , is that it ? Just sayin ... God bless !
@@dasarchitect5114 did you wait? Speak for yourself
This is all bullshit !!! What’s the difference before or after marriage
God commands it. Hebrews 13v4.
Tbh this comments section brought me more valid information than this video. This video was mostly the legalistic, finger-pointing bull that a great many people decide to latch onto. Thank God Jesus wants us to follow him and not man.
He still is right though. And actually better than most preachers. He is fair
@@thatswhatsup712 no he's not
Can we have holy matrimony after we repent from pre martial sex?
What...is he serious. Abuse goes up!??!? Just because you have premarital sex...you're gonna get abused? That's so messed up! "Sex outside of marriage will knit you into an unhealthy relationship". I can't disagree enough. Having sex outside of marriage has nothing to do with whether the relationship will be unhealthy. If there is abuse in the relationship, it has nothing to do with sex. They are in an abusive relationship period.
Laurie House I can understand it though. Sex isn't supposed to be a thing that happens outside of marriage. When it does happen.... You tend to be more emotionally inclined and develop into more of a solid bond too fast with someone who you have not taken the time to know. So even if lets say that person leaves or down the road things happen and you really get to know them... You feel violated, angry, and vengeful. There's people who rush into relationships and form certain things way too early only for their partner to leave or hurt them. And the fall out can be huge. Some people kill themselves. And there are abusive people who do push and use people for sex. There's lots of ways that someone can abuse another. Even a husband who uses his role and position to get things that he wants and self serve can be considered abusive and is abusing his authority. Or if he uses the role of his wife to make her feel guilty for many things including not wanting sex to get sex. It uses faith as a guilt trip.
Laurie House it’s a sin that is lust
Of the flesh
Sex clouds your judgment to who a person truly is. Sex is also a form of a manipulation and control which is witchcraft. This can backfire and your spouse can become a violent person. These things are not always carnal but spiritual
Yep I agree
My brother lived with his girlfriend for 10 years and having premarital sex. They've been married 26 years.
Deuteronomy chapter 22 verses 28 and 29, Deuteronomy chapter 22 verse 13 to 21 Galatians chapter 5 verse 19 Hebrews chapter 13 verse four 1st theologians chapter 4, verse 3 to 8.
Read 1 Corinthians 7th chapter, it will explain that premarital sex is fornication which is sin. The Holy Bible is the word of God which is God Law.
well i say stay, whit your bf or gf . confessing of sins is very important, so ask god if he can help you to marry the person you whit after that go on about your life's, asking god to forgive you both don't leave the person you whit because you have all reedy bean together for so long, confessing of sins help am in a place like that and still god comes true for me every time because am telling god my sins asking him to forgive me that is all it takes god bless
So am I wrong for stopping the sex. He said I’m giving him an ultimatum to marriage . How do you feel about this? It’s been a month without
It's a conflict I was in. He can go. Just not willing to.keep disobeying
🌟 MORNING STAR⭐️ if sex is that big of a priority for him, it’s a problem. Your relationship with god and each other should come far before sex. Sex is so unimportant.
NEVER SURRENDER. EITHER HE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY TO MARRY YOU, OR HE CAN GO TO HELL. IF HE RAPED YOU, CALL 911, GET A GOOD LAWYER TO SUE HIM FOR MAXIMUM RESTITUTION FOR THE DAMAGE HE'S CAUSED YOU
@B0omer96 it is unimportant at the end of the day. It should not be a priority. If it is, you are prioritizing your flesh and your desires instead of prioritizing glorifying God and doing your very best to follow His laws.
@EliteAthlete15 Men should get their priorities straight. If a man puts his desires before the laws of God, he is weak. We all stumble sometimes but it is very unwise to marry quickly just so you can be sexually satisfied.
I once lived that life of condemnation and guilt until I found out otherwise. The Bible never mentions getting married as a wedding ceremony so idk where these Christians get that from. But I found out since I was once Christian, they are always saying something is in the Bible that is simply not there. They call fornication or sexual immortality premarital sex when fornication in the Bible is adultery and idolatry. The practice of celibacy is not biblical and it only makes you so hot you marry the first so call nice guy you meet. I haven't had the best sex that has kept me in an unhealthy relationship. An unhealthy mindset does that.
Instead of trying to justify an act of sin you should just repent of it and never do it again.
Your Bible says something is only a sin if one believes their in sin so if I found out otherwise then there's no need of repentance. You should repent of your misjudgment. You don't know my relationship with Yahweh and what I do repent and don't repent of.
La Shonda Brown Thanks for your comments. Do you mind sharing where in the Bible it says "something is only a sin if one believes their in sin?"
Sure James 4:17...the same concept is in Romans 14...but you could've googled it you know.
La Shonda Brown This is a very twisted and baseless assertion. Where do you derive this reasoning from?
can you actually provide any citations for these supposed abuse figures?
How do I deal with taking a girls purity. My ex girlfriend and I were dating and we were each others first. I truley did love her we talked about marriage and everything. But she decided she loved the last guy she talked to more than me after I had done something sinful. I asked for forgiveness from the lord and her. Now I struggle with the fact that I took her virginity and no longer have mine.
So you won't have premarital sex again?
Through out human history a man and woman had to go thru some form of ritual to be recognized as a husband and wife. Today in some countries a ceremony must take place. They also must apply for a license. They vow before eye witnesses that they are entering a contract. The man and woman will be issued a license which states they are husband and wife. The vow they make and the license they are given are viewed as a verbal and written contract.
Awesome video!
Thanks a lot.. 8 years later haha
"If you're already gettin the milk, why buy the cow?" - lmaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaao! hilarious
sex is nasty. Sex is only for making babies.
With regards to pre-marital sex, scripture absolutely does NOT condemn sex before. What it outlines is marital commitments between the male and female.
An example…,
2 teenagers engaged in a premarital sexual relationship, I would consider that sinful. Because the “man”, the teenage boy, has not made the necessary preparations to be the provider and protector of that girl. Her father is currently doing that.
But a man who is independent of his parents and understands the Biblical mandates for a husband to lead, provide, and protect for his wife, he could take a wife and never be “married” by license or ceremony.
Although the state makes provisions for that. It’s called a common law marriage. It was instituted mainly to protect women. Ceremony was never biblical.
Marrage in scripture is not state mandated contractual ceremony. Its a mutual commitment. Once 2 ADULTS realize this commitment the biblical marriage starts at sex.
The act of sex is the consummation of that commitment.
The signing of the contract so to speak. So therefore, having sex is a really big deal. And post “marriage” commitment it is the continuation of that contract. Not to sound misogynistic, but for a woman to continue to give herself to her husband is to renew that commitment over and over again.
Very meaningful stuff even though we take it all for granted.
I agree with you 100%
@@andrewlockhart2622 is t it astounding how culture screws scripture?
@@HillbillyBlack you are 100% correct in the Bible. There is no such thing really as. “Wedding rings “ or having to sign these legal documents that is not actually what marriage is marriage is the commitment if you already have true love and not lust for your partner and you guys of already agreed that you’re gonna be together for the rest of your life on earth, and love and worship God together than your married. That’s it simple as that, there’s also no such thing as a “ fiancé” in the Bible the marriage process is a lot simpler than culture makes, I see a lot of questions who are waiting until they are wedding night to have sex which nothings really wrong with but if they truly read the scripture, then they would understand that the wedding does not actually make you married, and if you’ve already proposed to her, then you already are married. What’s your opinion on that?
@@andrewlockhart2622 commitments everything according to how scripture to find it. Leave your mother and father and cleave to your wife. I’ll look at it as simple as that.
But this is only applicable for Christians. Nonbelievers will simply exercise, similar values and it’s still sin. Their life is one giant sin
Why is it the woman needs to be enough for the man ?? Why is it not the same for women ? I’m disgusted you are slapping Gods name on this I have never been so irritated!
Brigitte Prince flee fornication seek fruits of the spirit not lust of flesh
Comfortably Uncomfortable guess we will just find out one day when we get to heave ❤️
Because Biblically women are supposed to be quiet, just saying you can't be feminist and a christian
Josse Cepeda 😂
Comfortably Uncomfortable 😂
er.....get out of it....
What if she has done it, and now she doesn't want it, leaving me insecure why she could've just let that happened while she won't let that happen with me?
Because she is not aroused by you. Women break rules for alphas and make rules for betas.
@@JC-du4rh Exactly!!! That guy is probably seeking her validation by acting needy, unworthy, feminine, waiting on her hand and foot, and putting up with her BS, which will turn any woman off. If Mr Brain Scoop would act like a man and stand up to her, she’d be screwing his Scooped Brains out. Beta males never get laid or respect.
Tough to say, but theres a real possibility that she does not have a true burning desire for you. Thats a tough place to be in as a guy.
Its been three years since your comment, I wonder if you’re still with her?
Wise preacher
Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free? Well the idea is you want someone who wants the cow for other things besides milk. No reason to feel like a horrible person for giving people milk especially if you enjoy giving milk, and the person enjoy receiving milk, and their is a mutual respect between each other and their milk trading relationship.
>pile of horseshit coming out of a morally bankrupt fraud thief who attempts to justify scamming free milk
I prefer 2% . And Almond milk ain’t bad
@@InitiaLeo the farmer was having a free milk day
@@spoon7753 little did the consumer know that the free milk was of the lowest quality with odors of foul smell tainted by saliva from thieves who consumed the milk before packaging, and that the milk has already gone past beyond its date of expiration, rendering it worthless to the farmer who decided to dispose of it in the same manner as a pile of refuse anyway
@@animator_anon sometimes you need a sniff test before throwing the milk away, expiry dates ain't all that!
AGENTS OF SATAN!!!!
Where did he get these statistics
This is the truth
Exodus 21:20-21 “Anyone who beats their male or female slave with a rod must be punished if the slave dies as a direct result, but they are not to be punished if the slave recovers after a day or two, since the slave is their property.”
Christians, does this sound moral to you? This is a simple “yes” or “no” answer, context is irrelevant, unless you’re trying to make excuses for your immoral book.
If you’re willing to follow a book that condones this shit, then you’re in no position to be giving moral advice.
Des Gardius 2012 yes but exodus is the second book of the Old Testament. The OT describes a time after the fall from God when we were living in sin. The New Testament tells us how we should live and act through parables and teachings etc. and they say very different things to the OT
@@officialsimplyollie God condoned slavery. Your god is an immoral thug just like you if you worship him. Dim witted moron
@@Kamingo170 slavery is only seen as harsh because of southern slavery, and we humans did too in the past, what makes you any better than God?
@EliteAthlete15 damn, it's sad when your religion had poisoned your weak mind into thinking slavery of any form is ok. You're severely dumb, and your god and religion is immortal, deal with it
There are so many other research studies that say otherwise
meghan jean such as?
100% read Linda Kay Clines book or Shamless by Nadia Boltz Webber
@@brigitteprince5402 Or just watch the TV show Shameless HAHA 😂😂
Perfect proof of how destructive promiscuity is
Are one of those studies called The Bible?
"Sex outside of marriage will knit you into an unhealthy relationship."
I do not agree with you on this statement. If you are in a very committed and mature relationship, you shouldn't be worried about this subject. The only way it knits "unhealthy relationships" is if you approach the act/subject in an immature manner or go about the act in an immature way. I am a reconnecting Christian, with a Christian significant other (boyfriend). We shouldn't coarse ourselves to follow everything that the Bible lays down for us to follow because Jesus wouldn't want someone to unwillingly give something up for His love. We have to give our unconditional and truthful love to Him. If we didn't, then we are all just lying to Him and ourselves in forms of love and commitment. It's the equivalent of changing your own personal being to suite the fancy of another person. You shouldn't change yourself in order to find or be loved from anyone, including Jesus. Both of our love is unconditional towards the other. And that's what should be important.
Couldn't agree more. It actually upset me that he said that abuse will go up in couples that are engaging in premarital sex. That couldn't be farther from the truth and made no sense what so ever.
This is probably the most satanic and outright false comment that I have read in a while since it is contrary to everything the gospel is. Yes you are to change yourself to follow Jesus (Matthew 16:24-26; Mark 10:17-31) and if you do not you are not worthy to follow him. We are to be come new creatures (2 Corinthians 5:17). This is unconditional love when you love without conditions and give up everything to follow Jesus.
You just contradicted yourself. "This is unconditional love when you love without conditions and give up everything to follow Jesus,". So the only way to "unconditionally" love Jesus is if we give up everything that may or may not hold importance to us and follow him. That seems very unconditional (sarcasm). And maybe you should think twice before judging someone whom you've never met before and don't even know. That was very un-Christian of you, especially for someone who is scolding me about how I interpret things.
Hailey Edsall There is no contradiction and you have it twisted. When you feel that one can only truly love Jesus because of requirements such as allowing one to remain in sin you are proposing conditions and your love is not aunthentic.
*You are only willing to love Jesus only if he allows you to remain as X"
But this is completely false according to the Bible (see Matthew 16:24-26; Mark 10:17-32; 2 Cor 5:17 etc) as we are to be transformed and born again.
When you "give up" everything to follow Jesus you are giving him your full commitment and love without clinging to material or worldly things as conditions (Matthew 16:-24-26). One cannot serve two masters (Matthew 6:24). As far as judging you I am judging you with righteous judgment (John 7:24) which is to look at a person's heart rather than appearance because out of abundance of the heart the mouth speaks (Luke 6:45). Jesus said, "you will KNOW them by their fruits" (Matthew 7:16) and falsehood is not a fruit of the Spirit and therfore you are not a true follower of Jesus since you love your fleshly passions more than Jesus' words which is not to commit fornication. Therefore you should repent and turn to Jesus.
***** You are attacking straw-man and you clearly don't know what I was responding to. First of all your view of the gospels is erroneous since the message of grace is taught throughout the four gospels. This same gospel of grace was passed to Paul from Peter and John with guidance of the Holy Spirit who unlocked this understanding in Paul. Secondly the gospels are not for "law abiding Jews". The gospels are the words of Jesus. Don't you believe his word is true? Then why did you complain that I only quoted the gospels? You think Jesus and Paul contradict each other? If you do then you need to reexamine your faith.
The message of the Gospel is grace not law. The law is referring to the law of Moses given on mount Sinai and the Torah. We are saved by faith and not by works, but true faith bares fruit (Ephesians 2:9, James 2:14-26) also grace is not an excuse to continue in sin (Romans 6:1). This is how you can tell a true Christian from a false Christian as Jesus said (see Matthew 7:21-23)
Now the woman I was responding to believes that she can continue commiting fornication and she believes that if Jesus really had unconditional love for her, he should respect her belief to remain in the sin of fornication. She feels that if she has to give up her lifestyle or change for Jesus then Jesus doesn't have unconditional love which is lie. She chooses her own understanding of life and she wants Jesus to respect her sinful desire which is a doctrine of demons and not what Jesus wants for us; allowing his creatures to continue in darkness is not love. Jesus' unconditional love is demonstrated in the fact that despite us being sinners and deserving damnation he died for us and will removes our sins when we put our faith in him. It is demonstrated in the fact that no matter how gruesome the sin is or how long you have sinned Jesus will forgive you and make you holy.
Ehphesians 4:21-24, *_when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus.You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness._*
So if someone truly has faith and trust in Jesus their heart and their thinking would change and they would see their own sin. But some people love their sin more than Jesus and are not willing to trust in him in order that they be saved and born again.
1 John 2:4 _"Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him"_
Wow this video is really good
There is NO prohibition against sex before marriage in the Bible. The word often translated as 'Fornication' is the Greek word Porneia, which in the 1st Century AD mean to sell yourself into slave (spiritually and/or physically). Another Greek word often distorted into 'Fornication' is Koitai, which meant to be lazy or slothful. It is also highly possible that 1 Corinithians 7:38 gives men the option to remain unmarried to 'their young woman' 'heautou parthenon...' should they wish it.
I beg your pardon. You lack knowledge. Hebrews 13v4 Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled for God will judge adulterers and whoremongers.
@@patrickcannell2258 That has no relation to what I wrote and you know it. The marriage bed is not to be defiled by adultery.
You don't need to commit - you can just have sex and respect that it's a biological function.
Many faithful servants of the Lord had multiple concubines/girlfriends to go into, including Priests. God gave them many beautiful women to delight in. (Abraham, King David and many more). Please check the bible and do not simply listen to what man says.
so i cant give my gf the long meat stick???
U might have to wait until marriage
This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. You are blatantly promoting irresponsible relationships and basically saying that your marriage won’t be the same if you have premarital sex. This is so damaging
Also makes Christians look bad ! Quit putting God in a box HE is way bigger than this legalistic nonsense ❤️
Brigitte Prince it’s truthful the Bible is clear about fornication
Men don't suffer the consequences of premarital sex like women do.
Give out proof
Yes they do… they end up cheating and lusting after other women…
Well, here’s how I see it. God is the one who gave us those sexual desires in the first place, so he has no reason to be so offended by anyone engaging in premarital sex. Same with homosexuality. We don’t get to choose whether or not to have sexual urges/desires, or even who we’re attracted to.
Wrong
@@gregb1216 You can’t imply that I’m wrong without backing up your claim as to why, Other wise it’s invalid.
Well, good luck with contracting STD's