I’m Hung Up on Her Sexual History (Can I Forgive Her?)

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  • Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024

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  • @jdtreharne
    @jdtreharne Год назад +2432

    Accept her completely or break up with her. Those are the only 2 options that are fair to you and her.

    • @nellymiller7669
      @nellymiller7669 Год назад +113

      That's easier said than done ...

    • @frankirwin5684
      @frankirwin5684 Год назад +214

      @@nellymiller7669 no it’s not, stop being selfish. If he stays it leads to resentment. He needs to get out and be done.

    • @BigBobbyBoLo
      @BigBobbyBoLo Год назад +27

      @@nellymiller7669 is it really? It's only been 3 months

    • @zachary7710
      @zachary7710 Год назад +57

      Accepting is a process not a decision made once.

    • @WillIam79-c7f
      @WillIam79-c7f Год назад +33

      Break up.

  • @davidgerke7150
    @davidgerke7150 Год назад +2379

    There's nothing wrong with wanting someone who doesn't treat sex casually. And the fact that she lied about it is a huge red flag. Dude needs to go find someone else who matches his values.

    • @jjminor
      @jjminor Год назад +86

      This is a very good response! You make sense David!!

    • @phc14
      @phc14 Год назад +59

      You mean who matches with his body count… which means less count than him?😂

    • @jjminor
      @jjminor Год назад +38

      @@phc14 which means outside the US and UK. I would laugh if it wasn’t so sad.

    • @richwarrior777
      @richwarrior777 Год назад +98

      She lied because she knew he would judge her (she was right) if he knew the truth. HE was wrong for asking the question because no answer would have been the right one. She would either have had sex with too many men or too few. That's why no woman in her right mind should answer that question because I guarantee you that when an argument comes up, the man will call her a whore, "Ho" or the C word. He will NEVER let her forget it. She needs to move on to a man who thinks their future together is more important than her past. He's slept with many women, so he's not in a position to judge her. Men want sexually experienced virgins! . A woman's value isn't measured by her "body count". She's a human being, not a used car! BTW, what about all those women this guy slept with? Are they now damaged goods?

    • @tinasapienza6552
      @tinasapienza6552 Год назад +10

      Then he shouldn’t be wanting to propose!

  • @davidlatting3789
    @davidlatting3789 Год назад +1511

    Proposing after 3 months? No, just no! And the fact that they’re already fighting and during the fight she admits that she’s slept with more people than she initially told him. How can you trust someone that’s already lied and brought up her body count during a fight to hurt you?

    • @Sirchingsince
      @Sirchingsince Год назад +55

      Excellent point about the fighting. It doesn't seem like they are compatible.

    • @thexorode
      @thexorode Год назад +20

      why does the body count even matter?

    • @OfficialGundem
      @OfficialGundem Год назад +163

      @@thexorode It can definitely be a bit of a red flag. Can indicate promiscuity, unfaithfulness, or underlying mental health issues, low self esteem issues. Makes you also wonder why they person could not work out with any of their other past partners, or what drew them to partners who were not compatible, or what her risk tolerance is, or if she is more impulsive than average. Then there is also the part where you might start to compare yourself to her past partners, wonder if she's the same way with other guys, Wonder if you're actually special to her or has she developed a routine that she uses on each guy. Then you wonder if other ppl view her with respect, will people that know her or who have been with her disrespect you and her because of her sexual history, does she have other guys in her phonebook ready to hit her up etc. Our actions, even the ones of our past reflect our character and who we are in the present.

    • @Globewanderer000
      @Globewanderer000 Год назад +1

      @@thexorode it matters because I'm not settling for a man-whore. If you're "dicking" 50, 60, 100+ women, you're looking for some sort of fulfillment that I can't help you with. Get that addiction under control and then we can reconvene.

    • @DM-1111
      @DM-1111 Год назад +26

      Tbh I don’t know why you’d owe complete honesty to someone you barely just met lol in my opinion if I withhold information is because I don’t know you or trust you that well

  • @neonicblader
    @neonicblader Год назад +527

    If someone I'm dating lies straight to my face about something I care deeply about, we are done relationship is over!

    • @arroww1323
      @arroww1323 10 месяцев назад +21

      The man need to listen to his instinct, there is a good chance he won’t be the best she ever had and a single thought from her “I’m I settling” will destroy the man. He need to listen to his gut and let her out for the streets. It’s not his insecurities, it’s his instincts protecting him from a high chance of failure. Man, listen to your instincts it took is millions of years to develop that. You can’t and should not make a house wife out of a street queen! Terrible advise from the doctor on this case, dude clearly giving up his commitment in 3 month while his gut is trying to protect him

    • @timmytee734
      @timmytee734 10 месяцев назад +10

      Yea every single woman lies about that and rightfully so. Why do you deeply care about her previous relationships? Do you admit it when was the last time you watched p o r n ?
      Of course you don't!

    • @neonicblader
      @neonicblader 10 месяцев назад

      I watched porn yesterday around 12 some 1v1's and some gangbangs @@timmytee734

    • @AIRFGC
      @AIRFGC 10 месяцев назад +25

      ​@@timmytee734 don't project your insecurities and lack of integrity on others, people are different and relationships require effort and compromise. If one person is unwilling to divulge information that the other needs to be comfortable to be intimate with them or to commit to them long-term, they are culturally incompatible. A woman who feels the need to be dishonest about her past is trying to ingratiate herself with a man she does not belong with. A man who does not care will not ask.

    • @timmytee734
      @timmytee734 10 месяцев назад

      @@AIRFGC I'm happily married with zero insecurities. My husband never asked me that question and if he did, I would have lied and life goes on.
      It is your fault that women are not honest about this question. Your insecurities ruin the relationship so they lie. Like I said, all men lie about watching p o r n, so what are you whining about?
      The only reason why it's important to you is because you are a very weak insecure male.

  • @lorenzom8769
    @lorenzom8769 11 месяцев назад +505

    Oh.. and she threw her high body count in your face in an argument… that’s mad toxic bro. She’s trying to make you feel insecure and insignificant. She will break you down over time bro, 100%. You’ll be alone in fetal position in a world of tears, and much poorer, before you know it

    • @franziskani
      @franziskani 10 месяцев назад +16

      It is possible the HE brought it up and accused her or nagged her - and she admitted to more. We co not know whether she weaponized it. John should have asked deeper questions, because IF she weaponized it (instead of letting it slip after he pesters her) it is a bad sign.

    • @SeanNMathis85
      @SeanNMathis85 10 месяцев назад +6

      Facts

    • @alcyonae
      @alcyonae 9 месяцев назад +7

      Spotted the insecure dude

    • @lorenzom8769
      @lorenzom8769 9 месяцев назад +29

      @@alcyonaeAllowing a promiscuous woman to disrespect you like this is insecure? Do you understand the meaning of the word? A man who is secure would walk away in the knowledge that he deserves better and will find better. Marriages with promiscuous do not last as they are almost always incapable of pair bonding or being faithful… there’s psychological reason they were giving their body to so many men in the first place

    • @alcyonae
      @alcyonae 9 месяцев назад +6

      @@lorenzom8769do you hold the man to the same standard?

  • @ColeReynolz
    @ColeReynolz Год назад +1127

    Call me crazy but if someone lies to you about their body count and then uses that lie during an argument and it bothers you, probably not ready to be married.

    • @jjminor
      @jjminor Год назад +64

      And neither is she. Starting off with a lie is a great way for any relationship to go south fast.

    • @2L82Pray1
      @2L82Pray1 Год назад

      The term, Body count, is absolutely and disgustingly offensive. It's just another euphemism to justify the term "sl*t" and "wh*re". Also, I'm not a "body" to a past sexual partner. A body is something that lacks humanity, a dead person, a thing without a soul. I am not a "body" and my ex is not a "body". They are sentient human beings.

    • @MissteriousMisstress
      @MissteriousMisstress Год назад +22

      Body count is NONE of anyone else's business. Period.

    • @CompletePivot0302
      @CompletePivot0302 Год назад +105

      @@MissteriousMisstress so say its not your business don't lie about it

    • @hollystiener16
      @hollystiener16 Год назад

      @@MissteriousMisstress It sounds like she was a sugar baby as he mentioned that she had expensive sexual experiences.

  • @haleytruslow7200
    @haleytruslow7200 Год назад +1190

    Are we not going to address the fact that she tried to weaponize her number against him in an argument? That is a remarkably shitty thing to do and is a big red flag.

    • @TheUnique69able
      @TheUnique69able Год назад

      Which is why men refuse to be with a women long term that had an extensive past. A promiscuous woman is the biggest red flag and the most obvious tell that she is not fit for a relationship, especially with a man that values himself.

    • @thelucariamonarchs4889
      @thelucariamonarchs4889 Год назад +111

      That girl is a 304 and should be on the streets asap

    • @gregorylyon1004
      @gregorylyon1004 Год назад +67

      Her defensive position tells me that her body count is even higher than she stated. She was the town bicycle, everyone got a free ride. And now he's got what's left. Lol

    • @sydguitar99
      @sydguitar99 10 месяцев назад +16

      Maybe it's because he keeps using that against her? Have you thought about that, the dude is a gas lighting control freak

    • @elijahpiere5324
      @elijahpiere5324 10 месяцев назад +34

      @@sydguitar99Everyone wants control, he just needs to find someone that better align with his views on sex. I don’t know why most women try to shame men for wanting someone with a less promiscuous pass.

  • @BigRed2
    @BigRed2 10 месяцев назад +917

    She threw out the big number in a fight to tell you she can get anyone and doesn’t need you, run!

    • @nateriley4067
      @nateriley4067 8 месяцев назад

      Wrong, she threw out a low number to not scare him away. Women always lie on the low side about sexual partners, so they don’t seem like whores. Haven’t you heard the formula that you take the number of partners that a woman tells you, multiply it by 3 and subtract 7 to get the real number. For men, divide by 2 - because men over inflate their number (if they feel like they need to lie) because they want to seem like a stud. You’re right about one thing, RUN!

    • @isaactrujillo76
      @isaactrujillo76 8 месяцев назад +97

      You did a better job breaking this down. Better than the host, but he tends to be cuckish at times .

    • @davidl9155
      @davidl9155 8 месяцев назад +63

      Using your sexual past to hurt someone else is one of the most shallow, backwards and disgusting things ive ever heard. What an absolute vile human. I hope he finds someone worthy

    • @snowskimaster
      @snowskimaster 8 месяцев назад

      @@isaactrujillo76completely agree. What he should be saying is that she is completely incapable of pair bonding with him. Sex means nothing to her, she is a rotten promiscuous woman. Just because she is insane in bed does not mean she is wife material. he should use her for sex only. Marrying this woman would end in lifetime alimony and probably figuring out his future kids aren’t his. Hell, she sounds like the kind of woman who would cuck him to his face when he wouldn’t buy her a new Chanel bag. She has ZERO respect for him. If she respected him she would have never brought up her number. He is the nice guy she is settling with.

    • @bignickenergy723
      @bignickenergy723 8 месяцев назад

      She can get any guy to smash. Not commit.

  • @Whatorwellsaid21
    @Whatorwellsaid21 Год назад +856

    3 months and trying to propose already? This is why the divorce rate is 50%

    • @semosancus5506
      @semosancus5506 Год назад +62

      3 months might be somewhat quick but many go on for years. Paint or get off the ladder.

    • @erismana2105
      @erismana2105 Год назад +19

      Red flag

    • @l-train7876
      @l-train7876 Год назад +7

      Disagree

    • @rabrubaker296
      @rabrubaker296 Год назад +16

      He said "courtship". The basis of courtship is rush.

    • @JnikaJ
      @JnikaJ Год назад +35

      Facts. 3 months and he wants to wife her but I’m willing to bet big money another woman who may not look exactly like what he wants he will drag her through years and years dangling a ring 😂

  • @Wisdomandwar504
    @Wisdomandwar504 10 месяцев назад +737

    His leniency when assessing women seems real bias and dangerous for many men who are looking for his guidance. She lied to you, gaslighted you, and weaponized her experiences. This is just the beginning. It will magnify.

    • @iiiiy9860
      @iiiiy9860 10 месяцев назад +91

      Dude said it was about power and dominance and not the body count??? Like WHAT THE HELL

    • @backyardhooper06
      @backyardhooper06 10 месяцев назад +38

      Yeah the Dr is really bad for that.

    • @adrian3843ify
      @adrian3843ify 10 месяцев назад +60

      I've noticed the bias in a few videos too

    • @iiiiy9860
      @iiiiy9860 10 месяцев назад

      @@adrian3843ify I looked thru his vids cuz they kept getting recommended to me and he gives horrible advice to men dealing with terrible women and even worse advice to women who are terrible to their man.
      In one video he said to a women that she should give her man a road map to getting her more sexually interested in him cuz she hasn’t been sexually attracted to him in decades like what? How this guy get so many views

    • @sjejsj7615
      @sjejsj7615 10 месяцев назад

      Honestly looking at any male channel with a female dominated audience always has bias for women. This man basically told another man caller who’s wife cheated on him to just get 3 jobs and man up

  • @brucevann7129
    @brucevann7129 Год назад +511

    “Don’t save her. She don’t wanna be saved.”

    • @hollystiener16
      @hollystiener16 Год назад +23

      I got that too. He wants to save her

    • @jenniferlloyd9574
      @jenniferlloyd9574 Год назад +32

      @@hollystiener16 She's probably more attractive than who he's dated. He's an introvert with control issues and a saviour complex. She lacks impulse control, doesn't respect herself and is petty.

    • @thecramptons
      @thecramptons Год назад +1

      😂

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@hollystiener16 he’s emotionally archaic

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 10 месяцев назад

      @@jenniferlloyd9574Nothing to do with attractiveness, a woman with a high body count will hurt the man that loves them even though they don’t mean it. The word whore exists for a reason. Some junkies don’t realise what heroin does to them until it’s to late.

  • @bloqz8436
    @bloqz8436 6 месяцев назад +99

    I went through this in my past relationship. My ex told me about her past experiences, her number, and how close to the time that we met those events happened.
    It was torture. I couldn’t stop thinking about it every day we were together. Even if I tried to focus on the good and think about the future, the images and the fantasy of what I thought happened haunted me in a way that it was impossible to ignore.
    Take into account that if you’re not with the right person, it’s also a matter of trust and not just the sexual history itself.
    At the end of it all, I had to accept that I wasn’t okay with it instead of gaslighting myself. Anyone reading this message, if you’re not okay with the sexual history of your partner, that’s the bottom line. There’s no convincing yourself or forgetting that it bothers you. And anyone that tells you that you shouldn’t have a problem with it is someone who’s intellectually immature. Take some time alone, distance yourself, grow as an individual to where naturally those things don’t affect you or you just meet the right person.
    I broke up with my ex and it was the best decision I made. She’s not damaged goods, she does deserve love. But we weren’t right for each other and I didn’t have to force myself for that long to ignore something that genuinely and negatively affected me.

    • @simeonbinder4721
      @simeonbinder4721 2 месяца назад +2

      What was the body count?

    • @joelbellJB
      @joelbellJB Месяц назад

      Yeah no bro she is damaged goods by definition.

    • @AndreiGeorgescu-j9p
      @AndreiGeorgescu-j9p 7 дней назад

      She is damaged goods and does not deserve love.

  • @Joe-jc5ol
    @Joe-jc5ol Год назад +658

    She sounds really toxic to be throwing a "BTW I lied to you, I slept with even more people" during an argument. How does that even play into her argument?

    • @jjminor
      @jjminor Год назад +34

      Exactly. And she’s going to do it again in any future fights if she’s already done it once. I guess a positive would be that sometime in the next decade or so she might actually get close to the number that she’s actually slept.

    • @howlbeast
      @howlbeast Год назад +27

      She already lying n being petty.. LEAVE

    • @jenniferlloyd9574
      @jenniferlloyd9574 Год назад +16

      She sounds really immature and lacking in impulse control.

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart Год назад +4

      ​@@jenniferlloyd9574 yeah, we can't really assume any of that from this one video, unless someone can point to the specific place where I may have missed it. Just because they had an argument in a brand new relationship doesn't really mean anything. The host was right on when he said that his facial expressions and body language told her SO much when she first told him her "body count", which BTW is stupid, so I can understand her point of view in this.

    • @AugustusMcMillan
      @AugustusMcMillan Год назад +2

      i was waiting for The Doctor to address this. he didnt.

  • @og666
    @og666 Год назад +299

    love that john followed up with the "waiiit" at the same time i did while watching. a true man of culture

    • @mv7374
      @mv7374 Год назад +5

      No caller ever seems to be on it 😭

    • @rustyshackleford6637
      @rustyshackleford6637 11 месяцев назад

      This caller sounds like a bit of a dumbass

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 10 месяцев назад

      Yeah he's the best lol

  • @ATLCane
    @ATLCane 10 месяцев назад +60

    RUN! This will always eat away at you. You’re never gonna get over the fact that she’s been with 25 guys or whatever it is and you’ve only been with 3. You guys view sex differently at best. You’re wildly jealous of her sexual past at worst. Neither are good scenarios. If you have to justify something, then you know it’s wrong or you don’t agree with it. It’ll never change. Find someone that aligns with you better. Marriage is for life - do not compromise on something as big as this

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 9 месяцев назад +6

      If he was dating a girl with his own body count he wouldn’t be going through this

    • @beefsupreme694
      @beefsupreme694 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@Stanley_Babynot necessarily true. It's not a score/competition. If one of those 3 guys alpha widowed her, it will be a rotten deal for him. You have to be the best possible option in a woman's mind to have a healthy relationship

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 2 месяца назад

      @@beefsupreme694 You are less likely to be “alpha widowed” the lesser the girls body count. Or even better be the alpha yourself.

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 2 месяца назад

      @@beefsupreme694 Regardless I will always believe that the most special girl you can get will always be a virgin.

    • @easymoneypromotions
      @easymoneypromotions Месяц назад

      Facts!!!!

  • @kiesh82
    @kiesh82 10 месяцев назад +140

    Throwing the real number in his face during an argument is actually worse than her past. It’s a toxic way to fight and the relationship can’t last fighting like that.

    • @MANDEE7962
      @MANDEE7962 7 месяцев назад

      Yes

    • @Trolly.Troll.
      @Trolly.Troll. 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes it is. Which could also be an indication of a toxic sexual history.

    • @bdeezy2962
      @bdeezy2962 5 месяцев назад

      Not to mention just plain odd and gross..like as a woman you don't brag about how many men you've slept with..ESPECIALLY if your count is high and your saying it to your boyfriend!! What the hell

    • @timothydraper3687
      @timothydraper3687 3 месяца назад +1

      Yes, as somebody who can't see why it should matter anyway, I entirely agree. It wouldn't occur to me to ask about a partner's number of past partners regarding their 'value'.

    • @beefsupreme694
      @beefsupreme694 2 месяца назад

      ​@@timothydraper3687very solipsistic thinking your pov must apply to everyone else. Men and women evolved to be attracted to/repulsed by different things.
      Men caring about a woman's past is a evolutionary defense mechanism protecting Men from poor mate choices(promiscuous women are a bad bet for ensuring paternity).
      Women instinctually know this and will gaslight men by throwing around terms like "insecure" etc. thereby forcing the man to accept their poor behaviour/choices. Don't fall for it guys. You have EVERY right to know about the past of your potential relationship partner. As they do yours

  • @davemurphy8953
    @davemurphy8953 Год назад +348

    I married a girl that had a severe wild run in her twenties. We have been together for 13 years now.
    Honestly, hand on heart I wouldn’t recommend it.
    We are in love and are still together but I went into our relationship quite carefree and understanding about it, but experiences we had together socially in our community was super disrespectful and disappointing.
    It’s honestly broken me over time.

    • @jocbro1914
      @jocbro1914 11 месяцев назад +29

      Can you elaborate?

    • @davemurphy8953
      @davemurphy8953 11 месяцев назад +15

      @@jocbro1914 happy to, what do you want to know

    • @billy503
      @billy503 11 месяцев назад +1

      Did she cheat?

    • @jocbro1914
      @jocbro1914 11 месяцев назад +18

      @@davemurphy8953 what happened in more detail that causes you to not recommend it?

    • @someoneElse4229
      @someoneElse4229 11 месяцев назад +3

      How severe was her wild run?

  • @bluecat2741
    @bluecat2741 Год назад +537

    If you can't deal with her "horrible" past, then don't marry her. Probably you are simply not made for each other.

    • @AsnUnited
      @AsnUnited Год назад

      Made for each other?
      She was not "made" a whore. That's a lack of morals, unhealthy past, and no self control.

    • @SilverGoose1
      @SilverGoose1 Год назад +26

      No two people are "made for each other."

    • @hollystiener16
      @hollystiener16 Год назад

      I would say like the doctor said, she is infatuated with her. She obviously is very sexual and that is a lure

    • @jonathankabasele985
      @jonathankabasele985 Год назад +4

      @@SilverGoose1 you are naive 😊

    • @sushilsharma4202
      @sushilsharma4202 Год назад +11

      @@jlynn9451 If he had a problem he shouldn't have accepted you.
      Accepting someone and shaming them later is bad.

  • @100jakkk
    @100jakkk 10 месяцев назад +45

    She will throw the numberof partners at him everytime, cause she knows it makes him feel bad about it. RUN man, RUN!

    • @nateriley4067
      @nateriley4067 8 месяцев назад

      Because she knows that’s where his weak spot is. And women will use that against their men in arguments. Women are ruthless this way. A man may be having a disagreement with a woman, but he doesn’t want to destroy her, as evidenced by the fact that he doesn’t hit her. But women will use all the available tools at their disposal. Scientists have long documented that women are unbound from using logic in their arguments, but this just demonstrates it’s a bloodsport to them. (Ha, Ha - I just had to throw that last comment in there about the scientists)!

  • @RaffertyMBTI
    @RaffertyMBTI 11 месяцев назад +60

    It is NOT just vulnerability - it is wanting to know if you are being objectified and taken advantage of. THAT is masculine self preservation. You addressed this problem, as everyone does, through a feminine lens. It isn't about self worth or insecurity in every case.

    • @tracyaponte9491
      @tracyaponte9491 10 месяцев назад +5

      💯

    • @RaffertyMBTI
      @RaffertyMBTI 10 месяцев назад

      🙏@@tracyaponte9491

    • @ST-yc7uj
      @ST-yc7uj 3 месяца назад

      Thats what men do to women. Id like to know his body count.

  • @qualitygamingchannel5051
    @qualitygamingchannel5051 Год назад +450

    This will continue to pop up over the years in one form or another. DO. NOT. DO. IT. PLEASE.

    • @EDUAROSOLAS
      @EDUAROSOLAS Год назад

      Do people like you understand how transparently insecure this outlook is on somebody's body count? You are basically shouting "I'm a small, insecure person" as loud as you can.

    • @miab5409
      @miab5409 Год назад +3

      So true

    • @garybulwinkle82
      @garybulwinkle82 Год назад +43

      He's totally wrong on this one!!! Women and men love in entirely different ways. When a woman has been with a lot of guys, her ability to pair bond (develop a husband-wife coupling) is severely compromised! You will find that when there are problems later in the relationship she will be at the local bar looking for attention; it's almost guaranteed! Men, through out time, have been hunter gathers, but he always comes home to his wife and children that depend on him! He has responsibility, and is committed to his family!

    • @ekaski1
      @ekaski1 Год назад +24

      @@garybulwinkle82 that is such a weird belief. If that were actually true, why doesn't that happen in western Europe and Scandinavia where young women often have numerous sexual partners before settling down around 30? I've known women who had over 100 partners, and are now happily married 25+ years. I even know women like that who stayed faithful while HE cheated several times.

    • @camelio10
      @camelio10 Год назад

      ​@@ekaski1 those are prostitutes. 100 partners really?

  • @NIGHTMARE.ONLINE
    @NIGHTMARE.ONLINE Год назад +89

    She wouldn’t have lied about sexual past. Red flag. A lie is a lie.

  • @farmchick1464
    @farmchick1464 Год назад +189

    Met age 18, engaged 3 months later, married 6 months after that. 40 years and 5 kids later. Love him with my whole heart and soul and thank God every day for this man. Everyone's story is different. My mom got married at 16 and was happily married 50 years. This whole 'date for years until you are sure' or frolicking during the 20's to settle down finally in the 30's doesn't seem to be helping the divorce rate at all!

    • @Erick-zg6qr
      @Erick-zg6qr Год назад +20

      It may be today's culture. Social Media allows people to "explore" more options than before. Maybe is the lack of discipline/commitment/respect for your partner/family.

    • @kimjong-un5562
      @kimjong-un5562 Год назад +7

      Take away child support. Women don't need it

    • @1ButtonDash
      @1ButtonDash Год назад +7

      not in today's culture. he's in for trouble with this girl

    • @lot2196
      @lot2196 Год назад +12

      Nice story, but not today unless you are catholic or Mormon. We are Catholic and married 33 years, 3 children.

    • @siegfriedbraun5447
      @siegfriedbraun5447 Год назад +4

      Unicorn.

  • @acestclhigh1286
    @acestclhigh1286 11 месяцев назад +116

    I started dating a beautiful woman for about 2 months I really loved her. She had a few to many and told me she had been with 40 plus guys, I never looked at her the same again. It was a shame because I would have loved to spend my life with her.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 10 месяцев назад +23

      How do you love somebody after two months? That's lust.

    • @acestclhigh1286
      @acestclhigh1286 10 месяцев назад +4

      @@Veracityseeker7 I would say both love and lust was the only woman I ever felt that way about, we spent the first 2 months without even sleeping together.

    • @narcissistinjurygiver2932
      @narcissistinjurygiver2932 10 месяцев назад

      you think she was not getting any?@@acestclhigh1286

    • @jmjenkins97
      @jmjenkins97 9 месяцев назад +20

      You sound insecure

    • @thanksforreadindmyunusuall3346
      @thanksforreadindmyunusuall3346 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@jmjenkins97right, it couldn't possibly be the fact that everyone in his life disrespects him and his wife, nope hes just insecure. Why is it only women who were completely sluts have a problem with what hes saying? Its almost like you have a biased because your the same as her..

  • @vanessac0382
    @vanessac0382 Год назад +172

    As a woman she’s a red flag.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 10 месяцев назад +8

      They both are lol

    • @Slurpee_Burger
      @Slurpee_Burger 3 месяца назад

      But “she’s not less than” 😂
      Sometimes deloney sounds like a real c

  • @Nah-ah
    @Nah-ah Год назад +168

    Never mind the woman having a high body count…. Why is he trying to propose after 3 months? Even if she was a virgin, why only 3 months? You don’t know each other!

    • @dawnr6381
      @dawnr6381 Год назад +15

      I got engaged after only 5 weeks and married 8 months later. We’ve been married 32 years.

    • @Nah-ah
      @Nah-ah Год назад +46

      @@dawnr6381 1 person.. good for you! It doesn’t work that way for everyone

    • @Nah-ah
      @Nah-ah Год назад +24

      @@SarahConnor562 my point is outliers are not the norm! Not everyone proposes marriage in wks, let alone months!

    • @Nah-ah
      @Nah-ah Год назад +3

      @@SarahConnor562 More couples than not, don’t jump straight into marriages within months.

    • @deadbeats4417
      @deadbeats4417 Год назад +7

      @@dawnr6381 exceptions don't make the rule

  • @shananagar1601
    @shananagar1601 8 месяцев назад +21

    This is why you don’t get engaged in three months. My grandpa said “see them in all seasons”. When I was young I thought he meant be with someone a year. Now I believe he meant see how they handle different situations (grief, stress, windfall, ect) and it takes time for those moments to present themselves.

    • @brianbest6097
      @brianbest6097 4 месяца назад +1

      Late commenet but Ding Ding Ding. In life you'll be laid off, fired, suspended, hours cut, you'll go through a recession, depression, & death. So, you hit it right in the nail. Also, people can be great actors in the beginning. The only time their true selves are revealed is pregnancy, living with that person, or in a time of need.

  • @barryc9115
    @barryc9115 9 месяцев назад +7

    She lied, she’s gaslighting you and you have every right to be concerned about her past. A woman with a high body count is a huge risk in a relationship and there’s actual science to support that. You don’t need to accept lies, gaslighting or a woman who rode the carousel

  • @thejakelegion
    @thejakelegion Год назад +142

    Brother. I've been married 8 years. I have 5 brothers and 5 sisters. I've seen many marriages. My brother, this will return to haunt you. She is the same person today as she was back then. Find yourself a better woman. You deserve it. This will haunt your entire marriage and you will end up divorced. She'll cheat on you. If you were one of my 5 brothers, I'd beg you not to marry this woman.

    • @kylezarnowski8285
      @kylezarnowski8285 7 месяцев назад +8

      Spot on dude...couldn't have said it better myself.

    • @1Jasmin
      @1Jasmin 4 месяца назад

      Why would she cheat?

    • @ij4674
      @ij4674 4 месяца назад +2

      ​@@1Jasmin
      It's hard to change habits.

    • @1Jasmin
      @1Jasmin 4 месяца назад

      @@ij4674 But it wasn't a habit of hers because she did not cheat?

    • @ij4674
      @ij4674 4 месяца назад +1

      @@1Jasmin She had no habit of committing to just one person and now she want to do it for the rest of her life, in a lot of cases she will crave what happened before.
      Even if it is not the case, it's just gross to lot of people, but men with similar history might be okay with it.

  • @rachaelchavez8766
    @rachaelchavez8766 Год назад +60

    The society we live in today is like a giant pig pen, and when you live in a pig pen it's very hard to stay clean.

    • @Ratz_ow
      @Ratz_ow 7 месяцев назад

      just open the gate. there is plety of grass

    • @BigMichael78
      @BigMichael78 5 месяцев назад

      That's how false freedom works. There are whole industries built around the concept that tempting people is just fine if you can make money from it.

  • @officialtbhoops
    @officialtbhoops 8 месяцев назад +14

    The fact that she feels bad about it is a good sign she’s changing. The fact that she lied about it is a bad sign.

    • @R_S747
      @R_S747 2 месяца назад +2

      Disagree most people who sleep around feel shame about it most never change. They're using it to cover other emotions.

    • @BCbiker36
      @BCbiker36 13 дней назад

      The fact that she weaponized it in an argument is as bad of a neon flashing sign as they get.

  • @NickRaeff
    @NickRaeff Год назад +63

    This man is not fit for her. This woman is not fit for him.
    Cut your losses and run.

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 10 месяцев назад +9

      I mean is she cut for any man with self respect?

    • @AndreiGeorgescu-j9p
      @AndreiGeorgescu-j9p 7 дней назад

      She's not fit for anything except a brothel

  • @territ1231
    @territ1231 Год назад +69

    I love that you right out told him not to get engaged!!!

  • @ronaldnichols9945
    @ronaldnichols9945 Год назад +44

    He should look for a female with a low body count. The girlfriend is already throwing it in his face. Son. She doesn't love you. Move on.

    • @erismana2105
      @erismana2105 Год назад

      So your mom was never married?

    • @ronaldnichols9945
      @ronaldnichols9945 Год назад +15

      @db A high body count makes a person less likely to be capable to bond with a single individual. Plus, the lack of morality on her part is a glaring red flag.

    • @danielaramburo7648
      @danielaramburo7648 Год назад

      @db hoes are less likely to be good honest moral housewives.

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 Год назад

      @@ronaldnichols9945 the same goes for a man. Is it possible that your attention only lights up selectively. I'm sure you got this from the red pill and just like those guys there, your eyes close off to the men's chart and only open to the women's.
      So take it as community service. A man with a body count has no business judging a woman with a body count because his situation is just as bad.

    • @ronaldnichols9945
      @ronaldnichols9945 Год назад

      @@dearbrave4183 lol I get attacked and negative assumptions are made by you. Wow

  • @destroso
    @destroso Месяц назад +2

    Your instinct is right, high body count bothers you because it’s a sign of her character. You’ll never have her.

  • @cameronvandevelde4186
    @cameronvandevelde4186 Год назад +52

    from experience, this guy is not ready to get married! he's still holding her past over her, which is very unhealthy especially with him wanting to get married. if he continues to struggle her, he needs to talk to a Christian counselor about this issue because I can tell he has a pride issue like I did.
    if him and his girlfriend grieve both their past sexual sin and completely regret what they done and repent from it, they can work it out by the power of the Holy Spirit but if he regrets his sexual sin and she doesn't, then yeah he needs to consider to end it or both should talk with a counselor if they want to fight for their relationship because if he gets engaged thinking these thoughts will vanish when they get engaged & married, it will only get worse with time!
    I hope and pray they can work through this because I know it can be a hard issue since we all struggle with sexual sin/have a sexual past to some degree whether it be lustful thoughts, masturbating, watching porn, and having pre-martial sex you name it along with having pride in our hearts to a degree. like every other sin, sexual sin is sin

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 Год назад +5

      I don't think he is Christian. Which is why it's surprising that he carse about such things and it's even more surprising that he cares that she did exactly what he did

    • @OAlexable
      @OAlexable Год назад +4

      He's ready to marry, she's just the wrong one for him to marry its that simple.

    • @cristinarociu1575
      @cristinarociu1575 Год назад +15

      I think he regrets her past, not his past. He did not say anything about his body counts, or the girlfriend judging him. He just wants to be the first one, so the girlfriend cannot compare him with others. Huge redflag. The girl deserves better!

    • @devankurmitra4118
      @devankurmitra4118 Год назад +3

      Whole lotta cap dude

    • @1508-i-vladimirjosh
      @1508-i-vladimirjosh Год назад +6

      @@cristinarociu1575 he deserves better too

  • @manzano5620
    @manzano5620 Год назад +68

    The past does matter. It shows off thier charecter.

    • @karaa7595
      @karaa7595 Год назад +5

      Sexual abuse as a child is a thing that can get carried over into adulthood in the form of sex addiction.

    • @camelio10
      @camelio10 Год назад +4

      ​@@karaa7595 ok, but why try marry people and ruining their lives

    • @APrftCrclTempest
      @APrftCrclTempest Год назад +6

      what, that they are human and enjoy being intimate sometimes? quit judging people, ffs

    • @camelio10
      @camelio10 Год назад

      @@APrftCrclTempest unless you are Jesus or God, everybody judges. So please shut up

    • @naglfar6305
      @naglfar6305 Год назад +3

      @@karaa7595 its not upto any man to deal with your trauma

  • @JBCookies8885
    @JBCookies8885 Год назад +63

    I have to ask, is he one of them? Did he jump into bed within 3 months? If so, he is no better.
    If body count is that important, he needs to leave. It is so simple.
    Also, getting engaged to someone after only 3 months when you question if she is thinking about someone else when you both are together? Do not get engaged!

    • @nly4607
      @nly4607 Год назад

      Lol this is ridiculous. The divorce rate of women directly correlates to how many sexual partners they have had.
      For men the graph looks like a scattershot for women it is a linear increase as they are used and damaged

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 10 месяцев назад

      A man can’t be a whore, you know it I know it. Women degrade through promiscuity men don’t.

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 9 месяцев назад +2

      Yep, any guy would be haunted by her disgusting past

    • @badapanda1
      @badapanda1 9 месяцев назад +2

      Body count is always matter that's why PPL hide that. May be for men not so much but for women definately

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 9 месяцев назад

      @@badapanda1 When women fall out the first thing they call each other is hoes

  • @outsideview9052
    @outsideview9052 22 дня назад +2

    The reason why body count matters so much is because it is an indication of how faithful and trustworthy she would be to him if he was to marry her. He can think she is amazing in so many ways but if he also feels that she will always be looking for a better option than him (like she has been doing before him) then he should not settle or want her in his life.

  • @EricAndradeMusic
    @EricAndradeMusic 10 месяцев назад +7

    Bruh. Leave here. DO NOT DO THIS. Leave her. Ruin do not feel bad about not accepting her sexual past. That is your standard.

  • @mustangthings
    @mustangthings Год назад +137

    Sounds like a great foundation for a marriage.

  • @josephstratemeier8619
    @josephstratemeier8619 2 месяца назад +5

    I don't like how John immediately assumed the caller is controlling and after power. Caring about a partner's sexual past isn't about trying to control anyone, it's about what you value and what you want in your life. Unfortunately if you value commitment and don't take sex casually, it can be hard these days to find a partner.

  • @alcyonae
    @alcyonae 9 месяцев назад +9

    As a woman who has only ever been with one fiancé, past only matters insofar it informs future behavior. Are you afraid she’s going to cheat? Are you afraid you mean less to her because you’re one of many? What’s your insecurity?
    She may have a high past body count AND be a terrific human being and partner. It could also be that she thrives in seduction, and will seek validation outside of your relationship in the future. Figure yourself out first

    • @allinmybackyard3988
      @allinmybackyard3988 7 месяцев назад

      well nature programmed these feelings in men so that they don't get kuckolded to raise someone elses child and like any trait these feelings are distributed probably normally amongst men. It is a biological instinct that ensured survival of ones genes and not something that manifests as a psychological problem that women tend to minimise as an insecurity.

    • @krshnr
      @krshnr 6 месяцев назад

      Statistically, there's a high probability she thrives in seduction, and will seek validation outside. Divorce risk and not having a Happy relationship increases with each premarital partner - highest risk at 9+ premarital partners. Several studies over the years have proven this time and time again, yet many still want to deny it. The risk increase goes for Women and Men, however it's lower with Men. So yes, statistically the more partners a women has, the less likely you'll have a happy marriage.

  • @hayleylenort
    @hayleylenort Год назад +35

    John! I just learned about motivational interviewing and your “why 25 and not 24” question was the perfect example of developing discrepancy! So amazing to see this play out in a conversation! Great work.

    • @LSSYLondon
      @LSSYLondon 10 месяцев назад +1

      Yup I think that he had a number is 🚩

    • @ImDasCute
      @ImDasCute 10 месяцев назад +7

      @@LSSYLondon so it’s a red flag that he had a number in mind but not a red flag that the girl had that many past sexual partners or possibly more??

    • @angeleyes3386
      @angeleyes3386 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@ImDasCute Both are toxic as hell.

  • @Daniel-us8xi
    @Daniel-us8xi 3 месяца назад +3

    Run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is going to call you insecure and narcissistic when you call her out for giving men " the look". She will say she is people watching. Keep those gloves up me

  • @MMC-jp1gl
    @MMC-jp1gl 10 месяцев назад +4

    If she is just getting out of this "carefree" i.e. destructive behavior I would wait to propose. She needs to time to heal and mature from her destructive ways. If it's meant to be, God will bring her back into your life. God bless~

  • @Brandon-x8e
    @Brandon-x8e 26 дней назад +2

    Dude I dated a woman with well over 100 partners and I thought I'd get over it, I'm good in bed and big so I pushed it back for awhile.
    I couldn't let it go especially when I find out at some point every man friend and most associates have been inside her in one way or another.
    I appreciated the honesty, but I dont believe people really change THAT much.

    • @sidology1.0
      @sidology1.0 24 дня назад +1

      Is it that necessary to ask body count, either number women say either men dont believe it and think theyre lying or they cant handle the number. I think they should be asking for STD full panel results instead

    • @Courber99
      @Courber99 21 день назад +2

      @@sidology1.0 should be asking for both and also take a test if you decide to go without viable protection.... people love to operate in the grey area today lie, high body count, std, addicts and trans lying about their gender ... i am sorry but Learn to love what is good for you and not what make you feel good...😅🤨🤔

  • @GillAgainsIsland12
    @GillAgainsIsland12 Год назад +30

    I went through the exact thing this guy is talking about. It was absolute torture. Took me a long time to change myself and my attitude to overcome it. The important thing is it use it as an opportunity to examine yourself and who you really are beyond any other person in your life.

    • @RoseWhiteRoseRed
      @RoseWhiteRoseRed 11 месяцев назад

    • @elfascisto6549
      @elfascisto6549 10 месяцев назад +16

      Just find a woman with a better past instead of trying to get over a woman's terrible one in the first place

    • @dtosmanm4743
      @dtosmanm4743 10 месяцев назад

      this@@elfascisto6549

    • @haploid2k
      @haploid2k 10 месяцев назад +8

      I’m so proud of you man. When you are marrying the town bicycle, it’s always best to brainwash yourself into believing you’re the problem. Inward examination is always the best approach, because as Dr. Delaney always says, women are perfect angelic creatures and men are required to cover for their mistakes at all times. I’m praying she doesn’t bring home gonnorrhea too many times in your marriage to this saintly woman, and that at least one of your children is actually yours. When your are cleaning her up after her night with Chad, just remember that you are the problem.

    • @GillAgainsIsland12
      @GillAgainsIsland12 10 месяцев назад +8

      @@haploid2k I understand that you are full of bitterness. But that's because you obsess over women, instead of just improving yourself so that you can attract the right person that you can trust. Turning into a cynical, misogynist is not the answer.

  • @Justice098
    @Justice098 Год назад +19

    A man wants to know that a woman can keep her legs closed while he is providing and protecting. Her past gives you an idea of whether she can do that or not.
    Take it real slow

    • @JuniperLamplight16
      @JuniperLamplight16 10 месяцев назад +3

      You get it. Absolutely 100%. If she controls herself when she has EVERY opportunity, she can do so with the smallest opportunities.

  • @baigish100
    @baigish100 4 месяца назад +8

    Proportionality matters. If he's had 2 other partners and she's had 300 partners, that's a very different matter than him having 2 past partners and she's had 6.

    • @ST-yc7uj
      @ST-yc7uj 3 месяца назад

      But men of 300 want a virgin. Smh

  • @strangerthingsaresaid7655
    @strangerthingsaresaid7655 22 дня назад +2

    A high body count is something to be embarrassed and shamed about.

    • @Courber99
      @Courber99 21 день назад +2

      that part....🤔🤨🧐 the facts alone that she gave a lower number the first time around, is an indication that even her know its not even acceptable...😅

  • @ryangardner7709
    @ryangardner7709 Год назад +22

    The reason it’s important is because past behaviors are a good predictor of future behaviors.

    • @Stanley_Baby
      @Stanley_Baby 10 месяцев назад

      Sluts aren’t just for Christmas they’re for life

    • @anthill1510
      @anthill1510 10 месяцев назад +4

      Good to know. Of yourse every guy that partied hard and spent whole weekends with his buddies playing computer games when he was 20 will do exactly that for the rest of his life. Yes, I think it`s realistic to expect nothing to be different when he is 25 or 30. Nobody should get married to a man like that because as you know: His future will be exactly the same as his past. He will be out partying with his buddies the whole weekend, not sleeping and eating cold pizza when coming home at 6 in the morning when he is 30, married with two kids and in a manager position. Exactly like he did when he was 20, single and working at starbucks.
      You are right: Can`t trust a woman who was enjoying her single life when she was 20 to live any differently and have different priorities when she is 30.

    • @calebking2739
      @calebking2739 10 месяцев назад

      @@anthill1510That’s precisely why it’s important for a man to be disciplined and build himself up to be high value. He won’t have to settle for bottom of the barrel promiscuous women. Women who sleep around to have “fun” are literally the most immoral women. A woman who sleeps with multiple partners is showing that she doesn’t respect herself and has the wrong priorities. Hoes never get wifed up by good man and I’m sorry but your chances of ever finding yourself in a loving relationship with kids is slim to none. Men judge a woman by her past while a woman judges a man based on their future. That’s how it balances out and now you’re waking up to the fact that actions have consequences. Have fun feeding your cats while the good modest women out there get to be provided for and raise children. You’re past decisions have ruined your future and there’s no coming back from that. Sorry to break it to you hun

    • @CarlosRamirez-no2js
      @CarlosRamirez-no2js 10 месяцев назад

      Someone sleeping around vs being immature and drinking with friends are wayyyyy too different to compare. Sex Vs Non Sexual negative daily habits? What? I see not being with an immature boy but being promiscuous can’t be undone……

    • @CarlosRamirez-no2js
      @CarlosRamirez-no2js 10 месяцев назад

      Anthill

  • @DBS472
    @DBS472 Год назад +82

    RUN!! 3 months in and she’s throwing her body count in his face during a fight. He’s going to forget the milk one day and she’ll sleep with his father/best friend

    • @tjmcavoy-jensen871
      @tjmcavoy-jensen871 Год назад

      Yep, Can’t turn a hoe into a housewife, she’s used to getting ran through by tons of guys… what makes him think she’ll be able to just get rid of those other guys and be a good wife? No, she will always have that itch for dealing with many different guys she will cheat on him in the marriage… I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s been already cheating on him the entire time

    • @calebburghardt3391
      @calebburghardt3391 Год назад +12

      Based on what this guy said, she obviously does not feel comfortable being honest with him for some reason. I think that’s a red flag on the guys and not the girl.

    • @calebburghardt3391
      @calebburghardt3391 Год назад

      @@SarahConnor562 maybe I’m judging too soon but to me the guy sounds kind of like a creep who’s mad that he can’t be with a virgin

    • @ineedhoez
      @ineedhoez Год назад +3

      The red flag is that he is trying to marry her at 3 months in

  • @jts49780
    @jts49780 4 месяца назад +3

    I remember when my wife and I were dating we were discussing body counts she asked me mine in said would it change things if it was really high? She said no it wouldn’t so I asked her do you want the number? Or just know that it’s high? She said you don’t need to say it. Dr John hit the nail on the head that man deserves to have a woman with a low sexual experience if that’s what he envisions his married life to be but that woman also deserves to be respected and not feel judged by her past if she didn’t feel comfortable telling him the truth until they were in an argument this relationship is already not working don’t sacrifice your values for one person have the discipline to walk away and patience to find someone whose values they align with more

  • @jss1724
    @jss1724 13 дней назад +1

    Run. Find a new girl. Her past will definitely affect your future. We are the sum of our choices and decisions.

  • @calebburghardt3391
    @calebburghardt3391 Год назад +137

    I don’t think either party is wrong, but based on this call, they should definitely not be together.
    Also, I don’t think I heard him say anything about forgiving so I think the title of this video is unfair because it is WILD to think that you need to “forgive” someone for their sexual past unless it was actual cheating on you. If you are uncomfortable with someone’s past, that’s on you to get over.

    • @calebburghardt3391
      @calebburghardt3391 Год назад +2

      @@SarahConnor562 I don’t know I get the sense that he brought it up because he was hoping she was a virgin and she felt uncomfortable telling him the truth. Not saying that’s OK at all but I think the context matters.

    • @calebburghardt3391
      @calebburghardt3391 Год назад +32

      @@SarahConnor562 that’s my point. He’s allowed to have standards but if he’s choosing to stay with her than it’s up to him to get over it

    • @soulcake76
      @soulcake76 Год назад +1

      🙌👏

    • @granthoover9045
      @granthoover9045 9 месяцев назад

      Cuck

    • @icey2203
      @icey2203 7 месяцев назад +1

      He needs to forgive her for lying through her teeth and trying to use it as ammo in an argument. Did you even watch the video?

  • @zoraster3749
    @zoraster3749 Год назад +50

    Know what you are and are not willing to accept in a partner and do not negotiate with yourself. Too many men throw away standards because of the 🐱. Proposing after 3 months… absolutely reeks of a scarcity mindset.
    If her past is a deal breaker then cut her loose.

  • @myyt3824
    @myyt3824 Год назад +113

    Dude, this is a YOU problem. You can either leave the past in the past or leave her ASAP. You don't have to accept someone who has a lengthy list of bodies. If you try to look past it while already having an issue with it, you will resent her and the relationship will fail. If her sexual past has legitimate red flags that lead you to believe that she may cheat on you, then your apprehension is also legitimate. But FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY - DO. NOT. PROPOSE. TO HER. In fact, don't even speak or THINK of getting engaged. This is already off to a messed-up start.

    • @calebburghardt3391
      @calebburghardt3391 Год назад +12

      Someone with an ounce is sense! That’s exactly right. Some of these other comments are scary

    • @ineedhoez
      @ineedhoez Год назад +16

      I'm not being funny but how does having a high body count translate to cheating? One would assume that the reason you have a high body count is because you weren't in a relationship. You are free to mingle.

    • @sococomfort22s34
      @sococomfort22s34 Год назад

      Studies have shown that women with higher than 10 body count are more likely to divorce. I posted a link earlier but my comment was magically erased lol.

    • @fnordiumendures138
      @fnordiumendures138 Год назад +38

      @@ineedhoez If a person have the inclination, opportunity and habit of sleeping around, it's reasonable to expect that they might continue to do so.

    • @megalodon1726
      @megalodon1726 Год назад +30

      @@ineedhoez People with a high body count are very likely to cheat and/or end the relationship/marriage because they can't be happy with just one person for the rest of their life after sleeping with a different person every month or every week for several years.

  • @bch5513
    @bch5513 Месяц назад +2

    Multiply by 3. And if she is willing to hurt you like that in an argument. RUN

  • @joelbellJB
    @joelbellJB Месяц назад +6

    8:25 no she is less than, I’m tired of trad cons pretending that 304’s are ok, it’s not ok.

  • @noone-dv1jo
    @noone-dv1jo Год назад +8

    RED FLAG!!!!! break up with her, the fact she lied THEN used it against you to intentionally hurt you

  • @qubedinn1908
    @qubedinn1908 10 месяцев назад +5

    This is just the beginning. If it bothers him now, it’s just going to magnify over time. It’s best to let her go.

  • @jeremymadden8008
    @jeremymadden8008 8 месяцев назад +5

    Run bro. If you have an issue with her past that you can’t get over, it’s going to haunt you forever. Also, and I can’t believe this got skipped over, she took something that she knew would hurt you, and used it against you in an argument.

  • @MMAAQQ123
    @MMAAQQ123 7 дней назад +1

    There is nothing wrong with wanting someone with the same morals as you. I couldn’t get over my ex bf’s sexual history and it ended up manifesting itself in other ways. We were just incompatible

  • @damnatiomemoriae1894
    @damnatiomemoriae1894 10 месяцев назад +12

    I'm watching this 1yr later and pray to God they didn't get married.

  • @glicmathan1771
    @glicmathan1771 23 дня назад +3

    Marcus is completely right to be concerned about her body count as statistically, she’s not a good long term candidate. Furthermore, vetting her past early on is wise on his part. Three months is not long enough to delve into her past?Based on what logic? Time is of the essence. I’d like to see body count advertised on dating sites and socially acceptable to ask about upfront on first dates. The host is ill informed about the very real liabilities of a high body count for women. It’s very different for men. Blame biology and our hard wiring but it’s reality.

    • @the_all_blue_does_exist716
      @the_all_blue_does_exist716 2 дня назад

      Most of the host's audience is women so my guess is that he wants to stay in business, every man with a working brain knows that body count matters for both men and women. More so for women but still. There are dozens of reasons why body count matters.

  • @NA-sr9pv
    @NA-sr9pv 15 дней назад +1

    It is a masculine trait to want a woman with minimum previous partners. Don’t be shamed out of having a preference 👍

  • @cmf9984
    @cmf9984 4 месяца назад +5

    My wife and I talked about how many partners we've had before we got married. Turns out she lied as well! We got in a fight and I blew her past number up and she didn't deny the number I said...I could still be wrong on how many she's had. After watching certain podcasts I've learned how many red flags I didn't know about and how many I ignored. I also found out she cheated on me recently. I haven't left yet, but I am currently planning my escape lol. I don't want to be screwed in the departure. But take my personal advice, once a 304 always a 304! When they've been promiscuous, and have had a lot of bodies, to them, what's one more.

    • @MusiicRoolz
      @MusiicRoolz 3 месяца назад +3

      it's not sleeping with people that's the issue, it's whether you're far enough away from that past or not - which newsflash, most people aren't because no one goes to therapy or heals properly from anything before putting all their marbles into another relationship

  • @dragulamcfeisty199
    @dragulamcfeisty199 10 месяцев назад +4

    The fact that she lied about her body count is already a sign that even she knows she isn't kosher. If you gonna engage in a certain lifestyle then you either do it loud and proud or don't do it at all.

  • @bgandjsco1
    @bgandjsco1 Месяц назад +3

    I'm sorry but ALOT of sexual partners tells me this person is incapable of pair bonding for any length of time. He just met her, and my bet is she will move on shortly just like she has done so many other times.

    • @delltv9863
      @delltv9863 Месяц назад +1

      studies have shown that a higher n-count leads to less satisfying relationships

  • @randlejensen2621
    @randlejensen2621 5 дней назад +1

    This will be a problem for the entire relationship. Don't waste any more of your life on this woman.

  • @mcclaryo148
    @mcclaryo148 Год назад +19

    So many red flags here. She is not a wife. Don’t try to make her one.

    • @Dwights_trash_can
      @Dwights_trash_can Год назад +3

      He isn't a husband either. Lol he has jealous issues fr

  • @luckyg8971
    @luckyg8971 7 месяцев назад +5

    If your girlfriend has a sexual history that turns you off then let her go. It has nothing to do with "judging her"--that visceral disgust you feel does not go away if you stay with her long-term. Ive been there

  • @meganergle8665
    @meganergle8665 Год назад +18

    This conversation would have been very different if it was a woman.

  • @ElizabethPD24
    @ElizabethPD24 8 месяцев назад +5

    Red flag!! If you aren’t married and you find out they have slept around run. Especially for women; high body count can ruin women mental and spiritual really fast. I think it’s very normal for a man not to want to settle down with a woman who has a loose past.

  • @Daedgnivildlo
    @Daedgnivildlo Год назад +14

    This caller was A LOT. He needs to pack his bags and leave this poor woman ALONE.

  • @1ButtonDash
    @1ButtonDash Год назад +9

    Sorry but he's about to propose to a girl that's for the streets. The way he's talking she probably has over 100 hook-ups. This is not a wife to wed. She won't change her ways and she WILL cheat on him. Does he actually think a girl with an extensive body count is just gonna stop and settle down with 1 guy? He's trying to find a way to justify her past.

  • @tiaanbekker7703
    @tiaanbekker7703 28 дней назад +2

    My wife also had a more 'active' past than me. Work and a bad first marriage made me lose focus on this particular matter. We should remember that everyone makes bad decisions. I was bothered that she had no baggage even after more than 20 different partners and one night stands😊. She even shared with me on her ex relationship that she and her ex would 'do it' 6 times in one day. Lol I have a problem with once every two days. But I made peace with it and I dont blame her. She thought what she did was right and made a mistake, thats life. Move on, make peace and look foreward.

  • @thijsjong
    @thijsjong Год назад +31

    If this is a problem right in the beginning it will pop up in his head again and again and again.

    • @devankurmitra4118
      @devankurmitra4118 Год назад +2

      True

    • @anthill1510
      @anthill1510 10 месяцев назад

      I really wish he would look up OCD. There is a special type of OCD focused on this. Because having flashes in your mind of imagining your partner with her former partners is not normal. It`s obsessive.

    • @omerfarukkaratas2742
      @omerfarukkaratas2742 4 месяца назад

      ​@anthill1510 70% of Men have it in a large BBC Survey of tens of thousands of men across the UK. And those are the ones that ADMITTED it knowing that it's a politically incorrectly thing to admit to. It even has a term "Retroactive Jealousy"

  • @rosec8101
    @rosec8101 Год назад +22

    I do feel like it's natural for men to want women with a low body count. Also women aren't normally into showing a man the finer points in the bedroom. If you want a traditional marriage marry a traditional woman.

    • @sococomfort22s34
      @sococomfort22s34 Год назад +1

      The problem is he is in his mid 20’s. I would bet less than 1% of women his age are “Traditional”

    • @RepentImmediately
      @RepentImmediately Год назад

      ​@@sococomfort22s34oh well

  • @iwantfizzypop
    @iwantfizzypop 9 месяцев назад +4

    Good advice in this video. Wish I'd taken it... When you've been together 10+ years, have kids and all the sex stops it gets worse. Others have gotten the fun, young, adventurous version of your partner for zero cost, you get the full price version and all the baggage those low value encounters come with .... you get way less for more cost (i.e. time, effort, emotional & financial support).... its a terrible deal...
    My advice is get low body count partner, and the numbers they do have being from longer term loving relationships, ones built on respect and values... otherwise you never truly feel proud of the woman you're with... sad but true.

    • @dabadboyuzi
      @dabadboyuzi 5 месяцев назад

      Bro tell me your story? Im in a similar situation

  • @JRH6271
    @JRH6271 5 дней назад +1

    No one can force you to accept someone's sexual history. If they chose to treat sex casaully, that's on them. This is the consequence of that action. It sucks, it truly feels bad to be forced to walk away with no guarantee that anything better will ever come along for you, but there is no other choice. There is no other choice.

  • @americafirst9144
    @americafirst9144 Год назад +134

    The old double standard is alive and well.

    • @humansvd3269
      @humansvd3269 Год назад +44

      Protect all women, no matter what. Wife up a sloot!

    • @BeautyIsMyLife
      @BeautyIsMyLife Год назад +18

      Yeah, he's just not Man enough to be comfortable with the fact that she's more experienced than him. He's not mature enough to marry anyone.

    • @deadbeats4417
      @deadbeats4417 Год назад +56

      it will always be alive, us women should respect ourselves and not be toys to men that aren't our husband, we don't benefit from casual sex, it only causes women to be heart broken and have mental issues. Men shouldn't sleep around either cause they will get used to the variety and not be able to settle with one woman.

    • @patbhvac1
      @patbhvac1 Год назад +9

      Double standards go both ways... It's just the way it is. It is different.

    • @BeautyIsMyLife
      @BeautyIsMyLife Год назад +1

      @Michael Palumbo by that logic women marry whores all the time.

  • @sahink3062
    @sahink3062 11 месяцев назад +8

    I met her via dating app and hooked up one night. I knew she wasnt clean. But i was so lonely and desperate that days then i fell in love with her. She told me her body count which was 20 . I also saw her photos with other guys. Somehow i was just convinced myself that time by saying its just her past even though it was so hard to accept . Now it been a 1 year and im still struggling with her past its bothering me crazy. The stories she shared photos i seen from her gallery keeps coming front of my eyes. I couldnt break up because i felt so pain when i tried to . What should i do

    • @AxlZie
      @AxlZie 10 месяцев назад +2

      Break up duhhh why would out urself in that situation ? Ur just hurting urself more the more u think about it … it will hunt u no matter what! 😂

    • @narcissistinjurygiver2932
      @narcissistinjurygiver2932 10 месяцев назад +1

      how old is she?

    • @sahink3062
      @sahink3062 10 месяцев назад

      @@narcissistinjurygiver2932 24

    • @sahink3062
      @sahink3062 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@AxlZie I know brooo but somehow im attached to her and i even manipulated her some life changing moments like moving abroad. Now i would feel guilty if i break up

    • @AxlZie
      @AxlZie 10 месяцев назад

      @@sahink3062 see how this “hookup culture”, casual sex lead to???? One or the other person always will end up getting attached ! Idk if u believe in soul ties but that right there is already an example. See it like this either you are still gon be with her and accept her wholeheartedly, or break up with her completely cuz as I said the more u think about it the it gon hunt u! It’s called retroactive jealousy bruv ! 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @capnmattw.6210
    @capnmattw.6210 Год назад +37

    25 partners?....... she will never bond with you. move on Brother

    • @travmarquee3213
      @travmarquee3213 10 месяцев назад +2

      25 she admitted to. Likely more.

    • @Aiden-cl7cz
      @Aiden-cl7cz 10 месяцев назад +2

      Thats a low number for a 304. From age 15 females have secual options on a regular basis, girls who are outgoing will have sex without giving it much thought. A woman in her late 20s or 30s? By then they'd have had 100+ different partners, and about 1000+ sessions. 25 is a guys avergae number these days and men have it hard

    • @jenofthejungle3023
      @jenofthejungle3023 10 месяцев назад

      You do know that there was a full-blown prostitute in Jesus' lineage who married a priest. Seems like they bonded well enough. I wonder what would have happened if one of his friends told him her numbers were too high and move on. You want to know what the real issue is? The more men a woman has been with, the more she understands men. That's a problem for men who depend on naivety instead of integrity to function in the relationship.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 10 месяцев назад

      Y'all love 304, because 304 catered to your p0rn fantasies. That's why you Try to tame them, and ultimately will fall in love with them. You don't want women who are modest, quit lying.

    • @Int868
      @Int868 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@jenofthejungle3023 you are very defensive about what others value. It’s okay for you to have a different perspective on one’s past. But when someone is making a union for life, they have every right to make their criteria. If you don’t make the criteria so be it. Dont Shame them for their standards. If you fall short, seek someone who has the same standards as you.

  • @dustinpetersen7730
    @dustinpetersen7730 Месяц назад +1

    Her lying to him was wrong, but with his concerns, it seems like he is trying to lock her in by getting engaged. He can't control her past but he wants to control her going forward. They need to break up.

  • @endthemandates2567
    @endthemandates2567 Год назад +15

    If you have a big body count as a male, I would find that unappealing. To me it shows you have been reckless with your bed partners and maybe you cared more about casual sex than being in a serious relationship. just a big turn off.

    • @nly4607
      @nly4607 Год назад +1

      Women who say this are maybe 6's at best and just know they can't lock down those men and would just be a pump and dump he makes fun of after with his friends

    • @seosam652
      @seosam652 Год назад +1

      @@nly4607 lol or they know that men with a high body count are low quality men who will just be sex pests throughout the relationship. Doesn’t matter if a man is good-looking if he’s just same shallow dude bro who lacks impulse control and will sleep around with loads of women.

    • @endthemandates2567
      @endthemandates2567 Год назад +9

      @@nly4607 if that is true how do you explain jay z cheating on beyonce or adam levine cheating on his model wife? since you talking about women being 6s. those two husbands were not 10s.

    • @endthemandates2567
      @endthemandates2567 Год назад +8

      @@nly4607 by all means blame women for pumping and dumping..where does that leave you as a man? unfulfilled most likely and joining mgtow forums.

    • @nly4607
      @nly4607 Год назад

      @End the Mandates no I have money lol. As a man I can date 23-30 til I'm 45.
      Owning rentals in a college town is the goto for any unmarried guy with his stuff together

  • @MrGforce52
    @MrGforce52 10 месяцев назад +4

    "Do you share common values?" "Yes." CLEARLY NOT BRO. You are more conservative, and she is more liberal. You do not have the same values.

  • @CapeEniEer
    @CapeEniEer Год назад +53

    This just made me realize that my man never asked me bout my past and doesnt care that ive had more relationships than he did coz im his first girlfriend. Made me appreciate my man more

    • @Evil-Rod-Farva
      @Evil-Rod-Farva Год назад +23

      Until you get bored and realize he’s not asking because you’re the best he can do.

    • @funtimes7305
      @funtimes7305 Год назад +2

      just keep your past to yourself

    • @HaleyStark.
      @HaleyStark. Год назад +2

      @@abnattitude cool anecdote lol

    • @Va13chka
      @Va13chka Год назад +10

      @@abnattitudeOnly insecure men care about body counts if he not virgin himself.

    • @ElektroY400
      @ElektroY400 Год назад

      @@Va13chka If you go up to any man and ask would they be with someone with a high body count, they’ll say no. Anyone who says yes is lying

  • @BCbiker36
    @BCbiker36 13 дней назад +1

    Dont do it. Forget the math problem. She threw it in your face with the sole intent of harming you. Not the type of person you want to have a child with let alone share your deepest feelings and emotions with.

  • @Caritoooo
    @Caritoooo 8 месяцев назад +4

    I’ve been in this type of situation. I tried to shrug it off early on, but it comes back. I would just respectfully move on. Not worth your time. You’re still in the infatuation stage of the relationship, so it’s hard to make logical decisions.

  • @collectablegold7
    @collectablegold7 2 месяца назад +4

    What about girls who did stuff in past with a guy but then won't with you What does that have to tell you about her.

  • @Azav312
    @Azav312 Год назад +5

    You dont need to say all that!
    She lied and admitted it in anger!
    That's all you need to know.
    The body number is irrelevant!

    • @Rudebo
      @Rudebo 10 месяцев назад +1

      He’s probably thinking that but the dr is smart. With the state of modern women his show would immediately get cancelled if he held them to any sought of reasonable standard. The amount of times I have cringed when he tells women to leave their x and promises there will be multiple people out there who love them dearly and will thank God everyday for them in their lives. I really like his deep empathy and compassion towards women, that’s why I watch the show, but honestly “dating coaches” for modern women are really just snakeoilsalesmen. Modern societies relationship landscape is a broken gutter, and there’s more sh!t spewing out than any amount of psychologist degrees can shovel back in.

  • @SufianM
    @SufianM 3 месяца назад +3

    That was his animal instincts telling him to get away from that woman because her pair-bonding is messed up. It's completely different when a woman sleeps with a lot of guys, in an extremely negative way. But for a man, not so much because its our nature to want to be with loads of women, the same can NOT be said for a woman. Hopefully, this caller ended it and found someone else that gave him peace of mind :).

  • @AaronJ-hc8sx
    @AaronJ-hc8sx 4 месяца назад +9

    This guy doesn’t value himself, and lacks confidence. She had her fun with the bad boys, and now has found a “safe guy” who she can run over and she knows is going to put up with her disrespect and toxic behavior.

    • @catcat9582
      @catcat9582 3 месяца назад

      If he didn't value himself he wouldn't have called

    • @AaronJ-hc8sx
      @AaronJ-hc8sx 3 месяца назад

      @@catcat9582 If he valued himself and had boundaries, he never would’ve even been in this situation. Self value is something that has to be learned/taught to someone. Everyday is an opportunity to learn something new to better ourselves.

  • @zoejrhyne
    @zoejrhyne 11 месяцев назад +23

    my husband has a really hurtful and sad sexual past- it took a long time for me to be truly healed from it but with time and effort you can move on. he was honest and very apologetic. however, if your spouse chooses to lie and keep things in the dark, that’s a whole other beast. the person with the past needs to lay it all out on the table, nothing withheld or else your relationship will face some serious issues.

    • @georgemubanga1878
      @georgemubanga1878 10 месяцев назад

      Very good point. The difference as you've stated is that your husband was honest. People seem to not understand that once someone lies to you, it's hard to trust the words that come out of their mouths. And then people gaslight you saying you have trust issues, (like yes I have trust issues when I'm dealing with untrustworthy people)

    • @dtosmanm4743
      @dtosmanm4743 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@georgemubanga1878 the difference is also that he is a man. Let's not pretend that it is the same. It is far easier for women to get over it.

    • @Bri-nc8yp
      @Bri-nc8yp 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@dtosmanm4743no it’s not easier for women to get over it: no woman wants to marry a used up man that sticks it in any gross hole 🕳️ he sees just because it’s there.
      Men like that have no self control and are for the streets. She’s better than me because I would pass on a man like that. He’s used goods. 🤢🤮😷

    • @4656superman
      @4656superman 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@dtosmanm4743😅The truth will get you banned 😅😅

    • @iluop3623
      @iluop3623 8 месяцев назад +2

      For a dude, it's not looked down on but looked on favorably. But it's not the same for women.

  • @alevtinaberezhnaya1785
    @alevtinaberezhnaya1785 Год назад +11

    It is against male nature not to be jealous and suspicious of women who were promiscuous. Lesson for young women, don't go out in to the world to gain "experience ". It will ruin your happy future.

    • @Va13chka
      @Va13chka Год назад +1

      Only insecure men think like this.

    • @deadbeats4417
      @deadbeats4417 Год назад

      yeah then why has society been teaching us other wise? is everyone just trying to fail us?

    • @castiel4746
      @castiel4746 Год назад +1

      @@Va13chka loool ok so keep wh**ring around hope your future hasband and children will be happy with a promiscous woman, because they are not "insecure"

    • @Va13chka
      @Va13chka Год назад +2

      @@deadbeats4417 Society has been failing men since forever. Instead of focusing on how to restrict women men should focus on being better versions of them 🤷‍♀️.

    • @blacksquid270
      @blacksquid270 Год назад +5

      ​@@Va13chka I've noticed these days that the word insecure is often thrown at men who have the audacity to have standards and self-respect.

  • @BohemianKitsch
    @BohemianKitsch 12 дней назад +1

    hate to get all "red pill," but one of things that i actually agree with is that women who have had a lot of partners don't tend to bond well with serious partners later. they struggle to really be all-in.

  • @drewyetti
    @drewyetti Год назад +6

    It’s up to him but in my opinion, he should dump her because she lied about her past, which is being deceitful and manipulative. Hinting that she can’t be trusted and is likely to lie again.

  • @GabeDT567
    @GabeDT567 10 месяцев назад +3

    Few questions:
    1) is a "person", who who has no boundries in terms of sex, has any concept of loyalty?
    2) is the same person capable of raising a child in healthy atmosphere and protect the child from this overly sexualized society?
    I would be concerned about dating some one like her!