I haven’t worked for 13 years. Im 49. I struggle with mental health problems but honestly there have been times I could’ve volunteered and then worked. My mental health has only got worse being out of work. I need to turn things around. This is no way to live
Look into antidepressant medication, they may help as a crutch to get you out of a hole, you can try other lifestyle factors like diet, exercise, meditation etc first and if they all dont work then add a small amount of meds If you feel ok trying them
You’re a good, kind, gentle human being, so you DO contribute to society just by being alive. Every time you are polite or kind, or you smile at someone, you make life a little bit better for everyone else. We need you in this world. We need as many good, kind people as we can get. It’s the cruel, rude, nasty, greedy, spiteful people who are a drain on society. They make the world a slightly worse place - you make it a slightly better place. Also, your videos help people. They help me. I feel less alone when I watch them. 😊x I’m glad you exist Gerald. I’m sure everyone who watches you is glad you exist. Just keep being you. That’s enough.
A man in your financial situation should minimise their expenses, the dogs. Stop believing depression and anxiety should stop you from working. Entry level work like warehouse or factory work is available. These jobs dont require much social skills or strategic thinking, just a strong work ethic.
exactly Gerald, you are talking about a level of consciousness and spiritual calling that the mainstream don't understand. Talking with us, that need no explanation, is helping you discover yourself. God has isolated you to preserve you for a reason. What you have is priceless, and you don't even see it, yet. You should trust yourself, and not others that can't see the things that you see. **hugs from New Zealand** - seriously, research the chosen ones and hsp's.
You're not mentally ill Gerald, you're traumatized. Multiple events and systemic and familial failure leads to cptsd, which is a set of protective instincts our nervous system runs to protect us. The anxiety and depression comes from being victimized for responding to trauma instead of loved and supported to overcome the bodily process that is stronger than our mind. We are made to feel inferior by a society that is ignorant.if we don't conform to it's secular rules. Cptsd is an injury to the nervous system, not an illness. Pills and talk therapy from people who don't even acknowledge the effects of trauma on the nervous system is so unfortunate and harmful. I'm in recovery, I have been for 20 years, since I woke up, where you are at, when I was 33. I've had 20 years of introspection. Be very careful whose opinion you listen to. The most important thing is to give yourself the compassion you need to heal. Evidence is in the fact you hadn't heard of CPTSD till I brought it to your attention, and others here could identify it too. We're not broken, we're just different. I could write a book... oh yeah, I am. Good work Gerald.
I am glad to read your comment as I was positive I had fast onset ad. I lost my wife of 40y last October through medical incompetence. She died in my arms and it ripped my world apart as we were together from age 15. I havent work since and my physical and mental health has suffered. I am the shadow of the man I was. I find it hard going through conventional means to get better because I do not trust the system no longer. Thank you.
@@steverads8816 That sounds horrific, it will take a lot of grieving and processing to get through that ordeal, I'm sorry you had to go through, are going through, that. Once I found out about PTSD that led me to CPTSD - I went through years of systemic directed guidance of talk therapy, all sorts of therapists, anti-depressants (several kinds), hypnotherapy, equine therapy, reiki, you name it, I tried it. I eventually realized (through educating myself on youtube and the internet) that I wasn't getting better because I wasn't being treated for my injury, I was being treated like I was mentally ill and something was wrong with me mentally - it's normal to grieve, but not in modern society that lacks understanding, that's when they label us as 'unwell'. I've come leaps and bounds since I became my own expert. Be kind, gentle, and loving to yourself. and understand that you have much to grieve and grieving is a normal, long hard process that takes as long as it does to heal. There's so much great stuff to help educate people on here, youtube. Also, look into Polyvagal theory, it's a game changer. **hugs 4 u & your healing journey**
@@steverads8816 I did write you a long reply but it's vanished. I understand completely what you are saying. CPTSD is marked by a shattered reality, which yours has been. You will never be the same person as you were. Accepting that instead of trying to 'fix' yourself is integral to overcoming trauma. You have to grieve. The grief cycle is also a helpful understanding. Polyvagal theory is life changing in its understanding. The physical aspects of trauma and grief are real. Good luck on your journey of recovery. Molly from New Zealand.
There's a few REAL genuine people coming up on my feed. At least they come off that way. Telling their own stories. I'm really enjoying it. You're one of those people. Keep on going xx
I inherited 60 acres from my parents so i made a big garden but my health prevents me from maintaining it. Im lucky i had great parents. My wife still isn't around, and I'm still alone. I'm 65 and retired at 57. I almost died and none of my remaining friends called twice to see how I am. I am my own best friend. If you don't live yourself, your doomed. Did you start working out yet?
Im sorry about your friends, I can be your friend, but when you have no money and no health ppl don't like to be friends anymore usually. What is your problem my friend maybe I can help.
I understand how you feel. I had the exact same thing happen to me. It really let me know that I didn’t have any real friends. It’s not cool. I have no use for fair weather friends either.😊
Some of us have talents that are difficult to monetise. Your talent is telling stories. You have such a nice voice, maybe you could record audio books as a side hustle. In the meantime I hope this channel takes off and gives you an income.
Gerrald reminds me of an old friend who has suffered from depression and anxiety all his adult life. They develop a self obsession that comes across as self pity and narcissism. It can bring out resentment in us ‘normies’ who work, pay our way, bring up kids etc.
I see myself in you, only thing is I'm 25 and going through the stresses of long-term unemployment. I too was very shy and reserved growing up, which I think has contributed to my non-existent career and selling myself. I often feel misunderstood and feel so along. Also on the autistic spectrum and have quite a few allergies and intolerances. But your videos are amazing, keep it up!
You dont have to explain yourself to anyone gerald! An no one should judge you because you haven't worked in 35 years. God bless you mate an get better soon 💙🙏
Being a sensitive person doesn't meet expectations of society, being sensible person is necessary in order to survive as a sensitive human and in addition to the fact you're very reflective intelligent person. Not many people this day want to share real, authentic stories of their own lives. I personally miss your kind of people. Never enough😊
Be a man, not an alpha male. Just be the best version of yourself you can be, discipline, exercice, no proscratination, getting shit done... and you will attract the good people, and you will know that you have nothing to be blamed for while living an honest life. Have a nice day Gerald !
Your freedom and peace is worth more than what you might lose. When you're out of that situationship, your whole health will improve. Ok, im shutting up now lol
Hi Gerald, hello from Penang, Malaysia. I am "like" #99 on this video. I first started watching your videos because of your incredibly well behaved German shepherd dogs, but now I am absorbed by your life story, because you are such a curiosity to me. I do not disbelieve anything you say, but I also can't help feeling sorry for you. Although you mentioned that you have gone through your entire life without a job, you are referring to a permanent job, of course, not the numerous low-paying odd jobs which you have taken. I am sorry that your entire life sounds like a long, continuous struggle with multiple health and mental issues. You did not address in this video, how you are staying in this house which you are planning to sell. Is this your parents' house? And for a person with so many problems, you managed to get married and father children. Do tell us, living such a sheltered life with your parents, how did you get a wife? Consider that an accomplishment, Gerald. Also, you managed to go to China and live there, all on your own. That too is another accomplishment. At times when you are down and feeling miserable, think of your accomplishments. Sorry that that marriage has soured, and you will possibly be looking at a divorce in the near future. I cannot understand why you should buy a house for your future ex-wife and put it in her name. And if you refuse to do that, then what? It is good that you have this RUclips channel, which hopefully can earn you some side income, but I would caution you not to put all your eggs in one basket. Often RUclips channels get demonetised and shut down for no apparent reason. If you are able to, consider starting a second RUclips channel that offers some sort of value. For example, a channel on raising German shepherd dogs. In case something should happen to one channel, you still have another one as back up. If you are broke, do not entertain the idea of moving to Thailand or the Philippines. Unless you are a cash cow that can be milked, you will have a horrible time there. Too many naive Westerners found that out the hard way. (Just look in RUclips for their stories). I will continue to watch your videos because even a talking head in the car can be so absorbing. But I want to wish you the best of luck, and may your situation improve, as bleak as it appears now.
Been following you for the last week Gerald. Good honest open videos which take courage. I suffered from the flush syndrome as well. When my aunts asked me a question, I used to go red and break out in a sweat. Silly really but not at the time. You are working doing these insightful vids. Keep up the good work. Cheers!
I had that as well. When I was a 20 yr old (female) I worked on a factory floor with 90% men. They knew I would blush and teased me every day to make me go red. They wouldn’t get away with it now, it was very inappropriate. In the end just asking me what the weather was like would make me blush. It took a long time to grow out of it. My sympathies are with anyone else who suffers like that.
Hi Gerald, it’s sad to hear you tell your story because some people think your lieing, Just delete them, don’t even get yourself upset over them, they are not your friend, no one has walked in your shoes, so they have no right to criticize you, I am wishing for the best for you, ❤
Ignore people on the internet, empathy requires a certain level of intelligence some people genuinely don’t have and can’t comprehend somebody else’s situation. I really think you need to start believing in yourself and trust that you can deal with much more than you feel is possible. Past trauma is something that stays with people their entire lives and along with parents that are too kind can limit ones self belief.
@@gerofiore9695 once divorce is on the cards people show a different side. I’ve been there. You could argue the same… Why does she need it in her name? Doesn’t she trust you? It’s mind games mate and I feel you’re too nice.
Enjoy your videos but you can’t make excuses about not working or working for yourself. No man can sit by and wait on another man laborto feed them. You will feel better about yourself if you got out there
I'm going to pray for you Gerald see if God can help you out. The last 6 people I prayed for have all improved their situation. It's honestly quite astonishing so I'm going to pray for you and see what happens.
Why not have just one dog? Six dogs is only exacerbating your struggles, financially and physically. Choosing one dog out of six won't be easy...but you have to reach a point when your own needs must be a priority.
I agree, but can't do it, the mum is my old dog she gets separation anxiety if Im not near her or when I leave home, she is super loyal, but Timmy chose me out of all the dogs seeing as he felt afraid or nervous in the litter and always stuck to me whilst the others played, he is very loyal to me, the same as Betty, Jerry has a Dog at home order from the police which means I cannot give him or sell him to anybody, only to the police if I cant for any reason handle him(depression, financial trouble etc) and they will destroy him when that happens, Dave is my daughters dog so he can go with her, BOB and SALLY?? ... I just can't do it, I know that on some level you make sense, but I just cant.
@@gerofiore9695 They're your family Gerald, of course you can't... another part of your Indigo Child personality. So many labels lol - You could start a 'Buy a dog a bone' account next to your 'Buy me a coffee' account? I really feel this channel will take off for you... it's the new dream job you know, having a successful channel, you're doing great sharing your vulnerable authentic life. I agree totally with one of the other members here, each time you are on here, you are working. that's how it works with being an entrepreneur. You're doing great.
Wrote my last comment about pip whilst watching before you mentioned it You should try and get it but it takes so long I have tons of disorders and should be on pip but have not applied because of the stress of doing it. I hope your channel gets tons more subscribers ❤
I enjoyed your story time Gerald. I understand and believe you about the anxiety/social phobia, not being able to go out to work. I’ve been dealing with it for 20 years.
Again, I enjoyed your content for its authenticity and how I could relate to it. I don't sense any fabrication to your story - nothing inconsistent etc. I think that from your use of language, and thought process, that you are fairly intelligent and that you can carry yourself with dignity. So *some* who look from the outside might think that there is no reason for you to have future financial worries. Anyone outside has not been in your shoes. Also, in my opinion, the way capitalism is structured, its a 'winner take all situation', many do not 'measure up', and the system unfairly makes many into 'losers'. Yet many people are fairly capable, and would do a fine job, if they are given just a little humane support.
When you have certain mental health issues you may want to work, you may choose to work, but you may be incapable of working. You can have problems breathing, you can be unable to do the job in an adequate manner because of your symptoms (e.g. waiter with trembling hands), you may have disproportionate emotional reactions to real or imaginary threats (e.g. excess fear response), and you may react out of proportion (and character) to stessors that overwhelm you (but not others) - e.g. a demanding client, boss, or colleague. Many people don't get this. I do. Have faith in God and in yourself! You will overcome your problems!
The mental/emotional issues you describe fall under Complex Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. It stems from not having emotional needs met in a healthy way as a child continuously. You have traumas added on top of that. Almost all psychological conditions stem from this. Just dealing with the current symptoms don't ever fix the underlying issues. Drugs don't help either. If you want some insight you can lookup Daniel Mackler, Tim Fletcher, and Pete Walker for some insight. Brother, I understand exactly the way you feel. I wish you the best.
If you had a job it would improve your life in 3 areas. 1. Financial 2. Less time to think about your troubles/ introspect. It would get your mind of things and provide a distraction. 3. Improve your confidence and sense of self worth. I watched your video but I'm still at a loss as to why you can't get some type of paid employment. You come up with good topics for this channel - hopefully it works out well and creates a decent income.
This was more intriguing to me than someone describing all the different jobs they had all they're life.I never understood why everyone cares about if someone works or not,I could care less if someone works/worked or not,that mentality is big in this area,at the same time we have several alcoholic homeless types who have zero interest in getting a job,there was a time, when I was younger,I would have judged them for being lazy,but now that I'm more experienced with these folks, I see there's some underlying mental issues that most people don't understand.Things aren't always what they seem.Thanks for the videos.
Mental health and future financial worried!. Big spot at these days. I' m so gratefull with my life, because i started with my bussiness when i was 21 years old, of couse i started to work when i was 17. Even with my family support!. You know i was finishing my high school !. My family is hard worker !. They taught us the meaning of the work and as i told you Gerald on one of your videos, i'm getting into my 50s and i'm completly realized, i'm still working by myself with other people like me and i feel so great because my 2 doughter and my son are working for our company and they are independent person!. So that's why i told you about to keep on your son and doughter. I 'm devorced i didn't recieve support by my ex husband but i decided to go ahead and here i'm. When you decide to be the best version of yourself no one is going to stop to you!. Try to be strong . MY say is always " Mental health should be iqual to well being ever!. It depends what i said before !. A good work is so important for your future and your family!. Bye Gerald and thank you for this video!. Go ahead man ❤!.
Remember, don't be pleased with women, you are very handson!. Come on why to be depressed!. Come on. Life is good Gerald ❤. My best friend ziggy is half italian and tell me something , do you speak italian?. Let me know!. I would like to be sharing with you in italian too😁👍
To not being pleased doesn't mean that you are not a gentleman!. I'm a sensitive woman as you are, but i'm not a depressed person. But sometimes people think that you are weak because you are sensitive. You have to be stronger❤.
@@gerofiore9695 you have to be stronger. Here you have a New friend that will be supporting you. !. I don't need external validation!. Why ? my insight is perfect 👌 😂🤣😁!. Oh my God it's not fun!. But that's me Gerald. It is what it is !.
If you collect job seekers allowance your NI contributions are paid for you. I think you should do that for the next 10 years so you can claim an old age pension at 67
You might not like hearing the truth so you call them Trolls when the fact is youve never worked and basically lived off your mam and Dad who both worked hard. You live above your means scrimping and saving yet you live in a massive has in the country it dosent make sense mate. Also not working and stimulating your brain causes depression and bad mental health. A man is a provider he goes and kills the mamouth or goes to work which stimulates his brain and makes him feel good as a provider for his family its natural. I cannot stand it when people say i cant coz im depressed or mental health ect. You need to work to help stimulate your brain like going to the gym/exercise,anyway rant over i hope you take this as helpful and im not a troll im just a man who suffers but works 6/7 days a week because if i dont my brain goes daft thinking because i have too much time on my hands.
I never worked for a boss cause of clinical depression and anxiety which has been medically confirmed, if a person has no limbs then that is acceptable but depression/anxiety and nobody cared or thinks ahh that person can work no problem, that's the mistake ppl make, clinical depression is an actual illness that needs medication which I've taken for 30yrs, I know what you mean and can understand what you are saying but you don't understand that those with real mental-illness cannot just shrug it off, you say you cant stand ppl who say they have mental health issues they can't do something, I understand you very well, teething about filling your time with stuff I understand too, some ppl who have mental health issues cant FILL their days they will mentally and emotionally burn out, its like you working 24hrs in a day and not sleeping, cause our brains work differently, your brain is normal, mine is anxious and perceives MORE, it sees and feels MORE, and its exhausting, believe me you gets stressed-out,headaches and life gets too much living what you would call a normal life cause our brains work on different levels, if you don't believe me you can look into this.
Brain Differences in Depression and Anxiety vs. Typical Functioning Stress Response: Anxiety: Increased activity in the amygdala and stress response systems leads to heightened vigilance and a constant "fight or flight" state. This results in higher energy expenditure and quicker fatigue. Normal: Balanced activation of stress responses with efficient energy management. Emotional Regulation: Depression: Reduced activity in the limbic system results in difficulties in mood regulation and increased mental effort to manage persistent negative thoughts. Normal: Stable mood regulation with less cognitive and emotional effort. Perception and Fatigue: Anxiety and Depression: Both conditions cause increased sensitivity to stress and emotional exhaustion, making everyday tasks feel more draining. Normal: Less emotional strain and more efficient energy use in managing daily activities. In essence, individuals with depression and anxiety experience greater mental strain and quicker exhaustion due to abnormal brain activity and heightened stress responses.
Gerald I understand your pain I also suffer from anxiety depression ocd eating disorders catastrophising,but it's a catch 22 situation we need something to take our minds off ourselves and our troubles which if your poor only comes thru working I only work parttimr but it helps and I'm a carer so I find satisfaction in knowing I'm helping others the thought of work depresses me but when I leave work I feel good about myself you can do it Gerald try to work parttime you seem like a very caring kind man you would make a very good carer for an elderly sick or disabled person it really does that your mind off of ourselves when we focus on helping those less fortunate and those suffering I hope you find a way out of your current situation may God bless you as you try something different
I think we all at some point in our life are mentally ill or at least depressed. It's all about how we approach a problem and if you review the world. It is not too late to collect for retirement. Find something to occupy your mind and give you a sense of tomorrow. Marzena❤
Anyone who doesn’t believe your stories must be radio rental. They are obviously true - from the heart. Have to say I’m absorbed by your stories especially the bullying one.
You mentioned that you loved art when you were young Gerald. Why not get back into now? I loved drawing cartoons when I was a kid (I used to copy Asterix comics), but then adolescence and social anxiety and bullying f-d me up. Now, in my 40s, I’m starting to get back into it again. Once you’re back on your feet, buy some paper and art equipment and spend your time drawing and painting. It costs very little. That’s how I plan to spend the rest of my life.
I wouldn’t talk about this in a public forum…. The dole will likely catch wind of it and they’ll be wanting to know if you’re making any $ from RUclips and they’ll penalize you for it or just cut your dole off completely.
Thanks mate, your name sounds like mine, Im the Italian version of you, your Italian double, Gerald Fiore. Yeah, that first month I got a lot of views from that one video but its dried up completely but I still do videos as it helps some guys who are suffering from mental health in silence, RUclips pays very little if you get the kind of views Im getting now, maybe £100 (sometimes zero depending on the subject matter) a month, its not worth it to produce and upload videos apart from just maintaining contact with your subscribers
@@gerofiore9695 Nice to hear from my Italian double👍 Thanks for the content! I do enjoy your videos, you’re down to earth and real. No sugarcoating bs. You’re just a regular guy with regular guy problems and I can and do relate! Sorry to hear you’re not making much from YT but I’ll be happy to send you a coffee!
You found your new success u tube story telling and I have a feeling you going be big because your voice is so soothing your story telling is gripping and imagine maybe now this is your time maybe now this is your new phase of happiness and spreading love❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
It's true, it has been a while since he had a job. Bless him I suffer from anxiety, depression and trauma from the war, I have so much trauma, going to work helps me a lot rather being alone in my head.
With all due respect, a lot of this doesn't add up. There's no way you and your wife and dogs and kids can live off 200quid!!! If you are long term unemployed with mental health issues you will be in receipt of Esa, IS, PIP, Housing benefit. Your wife will have child benefit and also be on your joint claim. If you're not then go to the Citizens advice and get a benefit calculation. Also 6 dogs?!!! They will all have to have vet cover. 🤔
Thankyou, I can make it add up for you. Cause of mental health issues I left all the paperwork, and any benefits to my wife, but obviously she doesn't know about the benefits you mentioned, I have heard of PIP recently cause others have mentioned this, I will check or look into the benefits you mentioned, thankyou, £200 quid is for one week, yh it is hard to manage
Not trolling but im left wondering as well. I was waiting to hear how you got 6 dogs.. you said u didn't go out and buy them, so they followed u home or how? Wondering how you funded all the trips to china. Most people save for years to fulfil a dream like that. How can u handle the lack of oxygen on the crowded jumbo on the tarmac there without going nuts? I get the parents supporting when you were young and single.. but then how did u come to acquire a house if u didn't work? Even if u left it all to your wife to go to the govt dept, wouldn't you need to prove first u could support her to bring her back and stay in uk? either tax returns attached to visa application or being on disability pension.. or some other man of means
move to north Scotland sounds easy to say but 60k will get you a 2 bed place with land. lodge the room out Monday to Friday there's a small income, long enough away for you to build up to it
You should buy one of these large sacks of rice to give the dogs instead of the spaghetti..it might be cheaper. Also, i remember my mum giving liver to our dogs as it was much cheaper and seemingly good for their coats. If you have a garden, try planting your own veggies.
You have Depression and anxiety....because you feel guilty..you have never worked...it's a risk...you chose..you would have felt more confident if you had....just my opinion.....😊
I have been on disability since I was 23 I'm 39 now. I don't think it's a con. It is just because of the economy. There was a major building project in my town when I was 21. Now there really is not much of anything. I have had jobs but as I have got older it has been harder and harder.
All you need to do is just do a bit of free work for some references. So something like dog walking or cleaning or being a chaperone taking elderly people out to do a bit of shopping. Just baby steps. Now is the time to not do nothing. Now is the time for change and growth. You can't stay in that same relationship being stagnant. Because what's going to happen when or if you lose your youth? You're still relatively young and fit x
As another commenter mentioned you can definitely get pension credits if you have not paid enough "stamps". I dont think its far off the state pension either. If you have a record of mental health issues you may get invalidity benefit. Also i dont think you get so much hastle to find work from the dole as you get older either. Yes, voluntary work is a great way to get out, I used to do conservation volunteering and some people would just do an hour and leave, but that was fine. On the paid side doing a bit of freelance gardening is a good one. You can drive and have a car, very useful, what about Uber? In the countryside there are loads of people who cant get about because there is no public transport. I think the abuse you suffered at school was a catastrophe, society totally ignores abuse in school as its so huge but its the single biggest destroyer of peoples lives.
I want to help the elderly or older ppl, that would give me satisfaction,I think I may have to ask a person for help in order to see which benefit to apply for, thankyou.
Those drugs drs gave you didnt help at all,took them so long like yourself and im in similar circumstances in france without children.Keep talking as you are helping yourself and it helps me unpack my own issues
I'm a gluten free vegan & I eat pretty well, lots of rice, potatoes & lentils & other veg, oats, soy milk, yogurt & tofu, peanut butter, dark chocolate, fruit etc would take me ages to write a full list of everything I eat.. I also eat some plant based meats like beyond burger & a few others occasionally. There's quite a few places now that do gluten free+vegan pizzas so that's a nice treat every once in a while.
Enjoy your videos, Gerald. I also appreciate your honesty. With regards to not working or just little bits. You have missed out a lot. Fulfilment, direction, goals, challenges, interactions, and friendship. Not to mention money. We're about the same age, and unfortunately, you'll never get that time back.
Its clear now that you actually have had a variety of jobs in your life. Even for short periods. You have just spent more time unemployed than employed, due to circumstance. There is still plenty there to tell your biological parents, if and when that time comes. You come across as well spoken and have a fairly bright personality too, so if you meet them, be up front, regardless of any failures and struggles. BTW you also mentioned the industrial shredding job that you worked at for years at some kids channel??
@@gerofiore9695per PIP Parla con qualcuno presso il tuo ufficio locale MIND, sarà in grado di dirti se sei adatto e passare attraverso l'applicazione con voi.
So the first money you get is to waste it? Why not just a little home made cross or something more personal because it'll only be for other people to see, a stone. You feel like you owe your parents something the only thing you owe them is to make somethig of your life. You can do this. So many people on here believe in you and want you to be better. You should blame your wife she doesn't give a crap. And you don't have to pay her debts, either. Or care who she goes out with in the future. You HAVE got rights!!
Minced beef, tinned sardines oats, carrots, salmon oil, mixed veg and an egg cracked on top. I know husky sled teams who have been fed on this and they've been great
Hi Gero Per favore scusa mio povere Italiano non e mio primo lingua. Ho seguito il tuo canale per un po. Sono sicuro che hai gia parlato con un avvocato, se non lo fai ora. Non tollero il modo in cui ti trattano per altri 30 secondi. Essere piedi di testa e avera una stratagia per tutto cio che pottrebbe decidere di fare. Assicurati di sapere al centesimo che cosa si riceve, ottenere un buon diritto di famiglia/ divorzio avvocato. Prova la mediazione e assicurarsi che si sa cosa questo per evitare di corte, ma se lei sta andando ad essere testardo su di esso ho paura che dovrete essere doppiamente così.
Life is difficult, following your journey recently has been intriguing... Trying to chase youtube fame, fortunes is very risky and although your chats may be helping you release....the chasing numbers/views will not be helping your mental health. All the best
If you don't want to reveal that's fine, and I don't know your history, but is there childhood abuse? Most people don't understand that the trauma with childhood abuse gets worse with age, not better. When we're younger we push aside trauma to focus on breeding, hooking-up, family, career, buying homes and cars, etc ... But when we get older and realize all that was worthless and a failure, and we stop pursuing all the ego stuff, the trauma comes to the surface and it can be debilitating. This is where I'm in life and I'm your age. I too could never keep a job and did spurts of employment to get by. I was recently diagnosed with autism, Asperger's, and trauma.
Gerald, apply for an Italian passport now (it takes a while to sort out the paperwork) and after you’ve sold up & divorced, get the hell out of Dodge. Things in the UK are only to get worse and your kids will appreciate the chance to spend quality time away from there. Just an idea. I’m of similar vintage to you, with Italian dad & Irish mum, and the pathway to an EU passport is a valuable asset. Best of luck mate.
I'm trying to help my daughter and her husband adopt a child from Ukraine. My father and his family was from Ukraine, so I can go to the church, and hopefully, they can assist us because I don't speak Ukrainian. Progressive rock rules.
Gerald. Your only letting yourself down by not working. I'm out of work at the moment and can't wait to get back into work. As for paying your way in society and paying taxes and contributing to the system. That's all a load of b*****ks. Look at what's going on in the news. I'm not saying anything about it. I'm not brave enough. You work for your own good. So give it a try. Find a part time job that you would enjoy doing 😊.
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Your channel is a god send !!!!!
Thankyou
Your very honest thanks I did not work for 40 years plus I,m handicapped
Not throwing any " shade". I had three strokes at 55. I didn't work for a year. For me working is a therapy which brought me back
You don’t owe anyone an explanation , it’s your privacy. I watch the next one ❤
If you put your life out on you tube then expect people to be curious and have an opinion about you , it’s the human way..
He is very open about very personal issues in his life , so I’m sure he can handle opinions, even if some are negative towards him..
@@jillmartin5734they didn't say anything about that but OK, way to poo poo a kind and comforting comment lol
Blessings, Gerald. You are working on this channel. It's an honest income. People criticize what they don't understand.
Thank you
@@jonktrades1454 eew, it's people like you that disgust me. You're what's known as a Troll, fyi.
@@jonktrades1454get a grip john the smelly scammer..
@@gerofiore9695Creating a Utube channel is work.😊💞🇺🇸
I haven’t worked for 13 years. Im 49. I struggle with mental health problems but honestly there have been times I could’ve volunteered and then worked. My mental health has only got worse being out of work. I need to turn things around. This is no way to live
Look into antidepressant medication, they may help as a crutch to get you out of a hole, you can try other lifestyle factors like diet, exercise, meditation etc first and if they all dont work then add a small amount of meds If you feel ok trying them
@@gerofiore9695What type of antidepressant would you recommend?
@@gerofiore9695Do you take meds and which ones?
You’re a good, kind, gentle human being, so you DO contribute to society just by being alive. Every time you are polite or kind, or you smile at someone, you make life a little bit better for everyone else. We need you in this world. We need as many good, kind people as we can get. It’s the cruel, rude, nasty, greedy, spiteful people who are a drain on society. They make the world a slightly worse place - you make it a slightly better place. Also, your videos help people. They help me. I feel less alone when I watch them. 😊x I’m glad you exist Gerald. I’m sure everyone who watches you is glad you exist. Just keep being you. That’s enough.
That’s exactly how I feel. That’s a kind comment!💞
I agree wholeheartedly,that was a great comment too.
A man in your financial situation should minimise their expenses, the dogs. Stop believing depression and anxiety should stop you from working. Entry level work like warehouse or factory work is available. These jobs dont require much social skills or strategic thinking, just a strong work ethic.
nice comment. very encouraging & practical!❤️
Warehouses kill you, not a job for someone with depression. But yeah he's doing nothing
exactly Gerald, you are talking about a level of consciousness and spiritual calling that the mainstream don't understand. Talking with us, that need no explanation, is helping you discover yourself. God has isolated you to preserve you for a reason. What you have is priceless, and you don't even see it, yet. You should trust yourself, and not others that can't see the things that you see. **hugs from New Zealand** - seriously, research the chosen ones and hsp's.
You're not mentally ill Gerald, you're traumatized. Multiple events and systemic and familial failure leads to cptsd, which is a set of protective instincts our nervous system runs to protect us. The anxiety and depression comes from being victimized for responding to trauma instead of loved and supported to overcome the bodily process that is stronger than our mind. We are made to feel inferior by a society that is ignorant.if we don't conform to it's secular rules. Cptsd is an injury to the nervous system, not an illness. Pills and talk therapy from people who don't even acknowledge the effects of trauma on the nervous system is so unfortunate and harmful. I'm in recovery, I have been for 20 years, since I woke up, where you are at, when I was 33. I've had 20 years of introspection. Be very careful whose opinion you listen to. The most important thing is to give yourself the compassion you need to heal. Evidence is in the fact you hadn't heard of CPTSD till I brought it to your attention, and others here could identify it too. We're not broken, we're just different. I could write a book... oh yeah, I am. Good work Gerald.
@Kahikatea22
terrific comment. many thx. 🧡
I am glad to read your comment as I was positive I had fast onset ad. I lost my wife of 40y last October through medical incompetence. She died in my arms and it ripped my world apart as we were together from age 15. I havent work since and my physical and mental health has suffered. I am the shadow of the man I was. I find it hard going through conventional means to get better because I do not trust the system no longer. Thank you.
@@steverads8816 That sounds horrific, it will take a lot of grieving and processing to get through that ordeal, I'm sorry you had to go through, are going through, that. Once I found out about PTSD that led me to CPTSD - I went through years of systemic directed guidance of talk therapy, all sorts of therapists, anti-depressants (several kinds), hypnotherapy, equine therapy, reiki, you name it, I tried it. I eventually realized (through educating myself on youtube and the internet) that I wasn't getting better because I wasn't being treated for my injury, I was being treated like I was mentally ill and something was wrong with me mentally - it's normal to grieve, but not in modern society that lacks understanding, that's when they label us as 'unwell'. I've come leaps and bounds since I became my own expert. Be kind, gentle, and loving to yourself. and understand that you have much to grieve and grieving is a normal, long hard process that takes as long as it does to heal. There's so much great stuff to help educate people on here, youtube. Also, look into Polyvagal theory, it's a game changer. **hugs 4 u & your healing journey**
@@steverads8816 I did write you a long reply but it's vanished. I understand completely what you are saying. CPTSD is marked by a shattered reality, which yours has been. You will never be the same person as you were. Accepting that instead of trying to 'fix' yourself is integral to overcoming trauma. You have to grieve. The grief cycle is also a helpful understanding. Polyvagal theory is life changing in its understanding. The physical aspects of trauma and grief are real. Good luck on your journey of recovery. Molly from New Zealand.
There's a few REAL genuine people coming up on my feed. At least they come off that way. Telling their own stories. I'm really enjoying it. You're one of those people. Keep on going xx
Unfortunately, I am, these are real, Thankyou.
@@gerofiore9695 That's a good thing as far as I'm aware. Life isn't all Rose's is it ? Everyone has a different path
I inherited 60 acres from my parents so i made a big garden but my health prevents me from maintaining it. Im lucky i had great parents. My wife still isn't around, and I'm still alone. I'm 65 and retired at 57. I almost died and none of my remaining friends called twice to see how I am. I am my own best friend. If you don't live yourself, your doomed. Did you start working out yet?
Im sorry about your friends, I can be your friend, but when you have no money and no health ppl don't like to be friends anymore usually.
What is your problem my friend maybe I can help.
I understand how you feel. I had the exact same thing happen to me. It really let me know that I didn’t have any real friends. It’s not cool. I have no use for fair weather friends either.😊
Some of us have talents that are difficult to monetise. Your talent is telling stories. You have such a nice voice, maybe you could record audio books as a side hustle. In the meantime I hope this channel takes off and gives you an income.
THanks, I didn't think I had a nice voice, what stories would you like to hear about?
@@gerofiore9695Tell us about the Happiest Times that you’ve had in your life so far. Or maybe some of your wildest adventures.😊💞
Gerrald reminds me of an old friend who has suffered from depression and anxiety all his adult life. They develop a self obsession that comes across as self pity and narcissism. It can bring out resentment in us ‘normies’ who work, pay our way, bring up kids etc.
The winds of grace are always blowing but one needs to raise the sail
Such a good saying!
I hear you, my friend. from this desert island, I'm building my raft setting my sails and taking steps to navigate toward the promised land
I see myself in you, only thing is I'm 25 and going through the stresses of long-term unemployment. I too was very shy and reserved growing up, which I think has contributed to my non-existent career and selling myself. I often feel misunderstood and feel so along. Also on the autistic spectrum and have quite a few allergies and intolerances. But your videos are amazing, keep it up!
You dont have to explain yourself to anyone gerald! An no one should judge you because you haven't worked in 35 years. God bless you mate an get better soon 💙🙏
Thanks
You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.
Thanks Red
I appreciate how you telling the story of your life, you sound very honest, I don't read this as an explanation but more as a story, take care Gerald
Being a sensitive person doesn't meet expectations of society, being sensible person is necessary in order to survive as a sensitive human and in addition to the fact you're very reflective intelligent person. Not many people this day want to share real, authentic stories of their own lives. I personally miss your kind of people. Never enough😊
@@davewordsworth1251you are one of those WEAK people also, WEAK IN HUMANITY
You may be eligible for Pension Credit when you reach the state pension age, look it up.
Alright
Be a man, not an alpha male. Just be the best version of yourself you can be, discipline, exercice, no proscratination, getting shit done... and you will attract the good people, and you will know that you have nothing to be blamed for while living an honest life. Have a nice day Gerald !
Thank you, you too
Your freedom and peace is worth more than what you might lose. When you're out of that situationship, your whole health will improve. Ok, im shutting up now lol
I think you are right mate
Hi Gerald, hello from Penang, Malaysia. I am "like" #99 on this video. I first started watching your videos because of your incredibly well behaved German shepherd dogs, but now I am absorbed by your life story, because you are such a curiosity to me. I do not disbelieve anything you say, but I also can't help feeling sorry for you. Although you mentioned that you have gone through your entire life without a job, you are referring to a permanent job, of course, not the numerous low-paying odd jobs which you have taken. I am sorry that your entire life sounds like a long, continuous struggle with multiple health and mental issues. You did not address in this video, how you are staying in this house which you are planning to sell. Is this your parents' house? And for a person with so many problems, you managed to get married and father children. Do tell us, living such a sheltered life with your parents, how did you get a wife? Consider that an accomplishment, Gerald. Also, you managed to go to China and live there, all on your own. That too is another accomplishment. At times when you are down and feeling miserable, think of your accomplishments.
Sorry that that marriage has soured, and you will possibly be looking at a divorce in the near future. I cannot understand why you should buy a house for your future ex-wife and put it in her name. And if you refuse to do that, then what?
It is good that you have this RUclips channel, which hopefully can earn you some side income, but I would caution you not to put all your eggs in one basket. Often RUclips channels get demonetised and shut down for no apparent reason. If you are able to, consider starting a second RUclips channel that offers some sort of value. For example, a channel on raising German shepherd dogs. In case something should happen to one channel, you still have another one as back up.
If you are broke, do not entertain the idea of moving to Thailand or the Philippines. Unless you are a cash cow that can be milked, you will have a horrible time there. Too many naive Westerners found that out the hard way. (Just look in RUclips for their stories).
I will continue to watch your videos because even a talking head in the car can be so absorbing. But I want to wish you the best of luck, and may your situation improve, as bleak as it appears now.
Thankyou
Been following you for the last week Gerald. Good honest open videos which take courage. I suffered from the flush syndrome as well. When my aunts asked me a question, I used to go red and break out in a sweat. Silly really but not at the time. You are working doing these insightful vids. Keep up the good work. Cheers!
I had that as well. When I was a 20 yr old (female) I worked on a factory floor with 90% men. They knew I would blush and teased me every day to make me go red. They wouldn’t get away with it now, it was very inappropriate. In the end just asking me what the weather was like would make me blush. It took a long time to grow out of it. My sympathies are with anyone else who suffers like that.
@@mydanshi9683 very true. It’s not nice and they don’t know the damage they are doing. All the best 🙂
Hi Gerald, it’s sad to hear you tell your story because some people think your lieing, Just delete them, don’t even get yourself upset over them, they are not your friend, no one has walked in your shoes, so they have no right to criticize you, I am wishing for the best for you, ❤
Thanks for the video. Im 50 and work every day. 2 fulltime jobs, and i also do a minimum of 200 push-ups daily. I hate life though. Just saying.
Ignore people on the internet, empathy requires a certain level of intelligence some people genuinely don’t have and can’t comprehend somebody else’s situation.
I really think you need to start believing in yourself and trust that you can deal with much more than you feel is possible. Past trauma is something that stays with people their entire lives and along with parents that are too kind can limit ones self belief.
Do not under no circumstances buy her a house under her name. You’ll be making a massive mistake.
I know, I dont trust anyone anymore mate, she goes 'don't you trust me'
@@gerofiore9695 once divorce is on the cards people show a different side. I’ve been there. You could argue the same… Why does she need it in her name? Doesn’t she trust you? It’s mind games mate and I feel you’re too nice.
Enjoy your videos but you can’t make excuses about not working or working for yourself. No man can sit by and wait on another man laborto feed them. You will feel better about yourself if you got out there
I'm going to pray for you Gerald see if God can help you out. The last 6 people I prayed for have all improved their situation. It's honestly quite astonishing so I'm going to pray for you and see what happens.
Wow, thankyou
@@gerofiore9695 Don't thank me. Thank God.
I want to point out that just the fact that you exposed your employment history is very commendable and honest.Thanks for the videos!
Thankyou
Why not have just one dog? Six dogs is only exacerbating your struggles, financially and physically. Choosing one dog out of six won't be easy...but you have to reach a point when your own needs must be a priority.
I agree, but can't do it, the mum is my old dog she gets separation anxiety if Im not near her or when I leave home, she is super loyal, but Timmy chose me out of all the dogs seeing as he felt afraid or nervous in the litter and always stuck to me whilst the others played, he is very loyal to me, the same as Betty, Jerry has a Dog at home order from the police which means I cannot give him or sell him to anybody, only to the police if I cant for any reason handle him(depression, financial trouble etc) and they will destroy him when that happens, Dave is my daughters dog so he can go with her, BOB and SALLY?? ... I just can't do it, I know that on some level you make sense, but I just cant.
@@gerofiore9695 They're your family Gerald, of course you can't... another part of your Indigo Child personality. So many labels lol - You could start a 'Buy a dog a bone' account next to your 'Buy me a coffee' account? I really feel this channel will take off for you... it's the new dream job you know, having a successful channel, you're doing great sharing your vulnerable authentic life. I agree totally with one of the other members here, each time you are on here, you are working. that's how it works with being an entrepreneur. You're doing great.
Give up ur dogs, are u fucking kidding me? Really exposes ur character, and it’s not good
Wrote my last comment about pip whilst watching
before you mentioned it
You should try and get it but it takes so long
I have tons of disorders and should be on pip but have not applied
because of the stress of doing it. I hope your channel gets tons more subscribers
❤
Yes this is what I worry about, the stress of it all, what videos would you like to watch? Im doing some market research, thankyou
I enjoyed your story time Gerald. I understand and believe you about the anxiety/social phobia, not being able to go out to work. I’ve been dealing with it for 20 years.
Again, I enjoyed your content for its authenticity and how I could relate to it. I don't sense any fabrication to your story - nothing inconsistent etc. I think that from your use of language, and thought process, that you are fairly intelligent and that you can carry yourself with dignity. So *some* who look from the outside might think that there is no reason for you to have future financial worries. Anyone outside has not been in your shoes. Also, in my opinion, the way capitalism is structured, its a 'winner take all situation', many do not 'measure up', and the system unfairly makes many into 'losers'. Yet many people are fairly capable, and would do a fine job, if they are given just a little humane support.
When you have certain mental health issues you may want to work, you may choose to work, but you may be incapable of working. You can have problems breathing, you can be unable to do the job in an adequate manner because of your symptoms (e.g. waiter with trembling hands), you may have disproportionate emotional reactions to real or imaginary threats (e.g. excess fear response), and you may react out of proportion (and character) to stessors that overwhelm you (but not others) - e.g. a demanding client, boss, or colleague. Many people don't get this. I do. Have faith in God and in yourself! You will overcome your problems!
The mental/emotional issues you describe fall under Complex Post Tramatic Stress Disorder. It stems from not having emotional needs met in a healthy way as a child continuously. You have traumas added on top of that. Almost all psychological conditions stem from this. Just dealing with the current symptoms don't ever fix the underlying issues. Drugs don't help either. If you want some insight you can lookup Daniel Mackler, Tim Fletcher, and Pete Walker for some insight. Brother, I understand exactly the way you feel. I wish you the best.
If you had a job it would improve your life in 3 areas. 1. Financial 2. Less time to think about your troubles/ introspect. It would get your mind of things and provide a distraction. 3. Improve your confidence and sense of self worth. I watched your video but I'm still at a loss as to why you can't get some type of paid employment. You come up with good topics for this channel - hopefully it works out well and creates a decent income.
This was more intriguing to me than someone describing all the different jobs they had all they're life.I never understood why everyone cares about if someone works or not,I could care less if someone works/worked or not,that mentality is big in this area,at the same time we have several alcoholic homeless types who have zero interest in getting a job,there was a time, when I was younger,I would have judged them for being lazy,but now that I'm more experienced with these folks, I see there's some underlying mental issues that most people don't understand.Things aren't always what they seem.Thanks for the videos.
such raw honesty. thank you for your vulnerability.
There are doctors on RUclips that address these issues. Good luck, Gerald.
Mental health and future financial worried!. Big spot at these days. I' m so gratefull with my life, because i started with my bussiness when i was 21 years old, of couse i started to work when i was 17. Even with my family support!. You know i was finishing my high school !. My family is hard worker !. They taught us the meaning of the work and as i told you Gerald on one of your videos, i'm getting into my 50s and i'm completly realized, i'm still working by myself with other people like me and i feel so great because my 2 doughter and my son are working for our company and they are independent person!. So that's why i told you about to keep on your son and doughter. I 'm devorced i didn't recieve support by my ex husband but i decided to go ahead and here i'm. When you decide to be the best version of yourself no one is going to stop to you!. Try to be strong . MY say is always " Mental health should be iqual to well being ever!. It depends what i said before !. A good work is so important for your future and your family!. Bye Gerald and thank you for this video!. Go ahead man ❤!.
Remember, don't be pleased with women, you are very handson!. Come on why to be depressed!. Come on. Life is good Gerald ❤. My best friend ziggy is half italian and tell me something , do you speak italian?. Let me know!. I would like to be sharing with you in italian too😁👍
To not being pleased doesn't mean that you are not a gentleman!. I'm a sensitive woman as you are, but i'm not a depressed person. But sometimes people think that you are weak because you are sensitive. You have to be stronger❤.
@@YvonnePatiñoOrdaz Yes I agree, Thankyou.
@@gerofiore9695 you have to be stronger. Here you have a New friend that will be supporting you. !. I don't need external validation!. Why ? my insight is perfect 👌 😂🤣😁!. Oh my God it's not fun!. But that's me Gerald. It is what it is !.
Get frozen mixed veg, i assume they retains their nutrients but dont quote me on that.
Yes they do, frozen veg is frozen at the peak of its freshness, I read it’s just as healthy as buying unfrozen veggies.
If you collect job seekers allowance your NI contributions are paid for you. I think you should do that for the next 10 years so you can claim an old age pension at 67
Thanks mate, when I sell this house, I will see what benefits I can go for, if any.
These people have got nothing better to do As long as you know the truth Look after yourself waiting for next video keep smiling 😃😄
You might not like hearing the truth so you call them Trolls when the fact is youve never worked and basically lived off your mam and Dad who both worked hard. You live above your means scrimping and saving yet you live in a massive has in the country it dosent make sense mate. Also not working and stimulating your brain causes depression and bad mental health. A man is a provider he goes and kills the mamouth or goes to work which stimulates his brain and makes him feel good as a provider for his family its natural. I cannot stand it when people say i cant coz im depressed or mental health ect. You need to work to help stimulate your brain like going to the gym/exercise,anyway rant over i hope you take this as helpful and im not a troll im just a man who suffers but works 6/7 days a week because if i dont my brain goes daft thinking because i have too much time on my hands.
I never worked for a boss cause of clinical depression and anxiety which has been medically confirmed, if a person has no limbs then that is acceptable but depression/anxiety and nobody cared or thinks ahh that person can work no problem, that's the mistake ppl make, clinical depression is an actual illness that needs medication which I've taken for 30yrs, I know what you mean and can understand what you are saying but you don't understand that those with real mental-illness cannot just shrug it off, you say you cant stand ppl who say they have mental health issues they can't do something, I understand you very well, teething about filling your time with stuff I understand too, some ppl who have mental health issues cant FILL their days they will mentally and emotionally burn out, its like you working 24hrs in a day and not sleeping, cause our brains work differently, your brain is normal, mine is anxious and perceives MORE, it sees and feels MORE, and its exhausting, believe me you gets stressed-out,headaches and life gets too much living what you would call a normal life cause our brains work on different levels, if you don't believe me you can look into this.
Brain Differences in Depression and Anxiety vs. Typical Functioning
Stress Response:
Anxiety: Increased activity in the amygdala and stress response systems leads to heightened vigilance and a constant "fight or flight" state. This results in higher energy expenditure and quicker fatigue.
Normal: Balanced activation of stress responses with efficient energy management.
Emotional Regulation:
Depression: Reduced activity in the limbic system results in difficulties in mood regulation and increased mental effort to manage persistent negative thoughts.
Normal: Stable mood regulation with less cognitive and emotional effort.
Perception and Fatigue:
Anxiety and Depression: Both conditions cause increased sensitivity to stress and emotional exhaustion, making everyday tasks feel more draining.
Normal: Less emotional strain and more efficient energy use in managing daily activities.
In essence, individuals with depression and anxiety experience greater mental strain and quicker exhaustion due to abnormal brain activity and heightened stress responses.
Gerald I understand your pain I also suffer from anxiety depression ocd eating disorders catastrophising,but it's a catch 22 situation we need something to take our minds off ourselves and our troubles which if your poor only comes thru working I only work parttimr but it helps and I'm a carer so I find satisfaction in knowing I'm helping others the thought of work depresses me but when I leave work I feel good about myself you can do it Gerald try to work parttime you seem like a very caring kind man you would make a very good carer for an elderly sick or disabled person it really does that your mind off of ourselves when we focus on helping those less fortunate and those suffering I hope you find a way out of your current situation may God bless you as you try something different
I believe you
God helps those who helps themselves...being a victim...does not work..
shut up you absolute sausage
I think we all at some point in our life are mentally ill or at least depressed. It's all about how we approach a problem and if you review the world. It is not too late to collect for retirement. Find something to occupy your mind and give you a sense of tomorrow.
Marzena❤
Anyone who doesn’t believe your stories must be radio rental. They are obviously true - from the heart. Have to say I’m absorbed by your stories especially the bullying one.
You mentioned that you loved art when you were young Gerald. Why not get back into now? I loved drawing cartoons when I was a kid (I used to copy Asterix comics), but then adolescence and social anxiety and bullying f-d me up. Now, in my 40s, I’m starting to get back into it again. Once you’re back on your feet, buy some paper and art equipment and spend your time drawing and painting. It costs very little. That’s how I plan to spend the rest of my life.
I wouldn’t talk about this in a public forum…. The dole will likely catch wind of it and they’ll be wanting to know if you’re making any $ from RUclips and they’ll penalize you for it or just cut your dole off completely.
Thanks mate, your name sounds like mine, Im the Italian version of you, your Italian double, Gerald Fiore. Yeah, that first month I got a lot of views from that one video but its dried up completely but I still do videos as it helps some guys who are suffering from mental health in silence, RUclips pays very little if you get the kind of views Im getting now, maybe £100 (sometimes zero depending on the subject matter) a month, its not worth it to produce and upload videos apart from just maintaining contact with your subscribers
@@gerofiore9695 Nice to hear from my Italian double👍 Thanks for the content! I do enjoy your videos, you’re down to earth and real. No sugarcoating bs. You’re just a regular guy with regular guy problems and I can and do relate! Sorry to hear you’re not making much from YT but I’ll be happy to send you a coffee!
You found your new success u tube story telling and I have a feeling you going be big because your voice is so soothing your story telling is gripping and imagine maybe now this is your time maybe now this is your new phase of happiness and spreading love❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
it's complicated!
Totally agree 🫡
You might feel better about yourself if you got a job
It's true, it has been a while since he had a job. Bless him
I suffer from anxiety, depression and trauma from the war, I have so much trauma, going to work helps me a lot rather being alone in my head.
It's better late than never to get a good job for your retirement Gerald !. The best wishes for you❤
Love won't pay your bills but money will do it !. Do you understand?. Love yourself a bit better!.
That's what we want for you. A better life , a positive life man !.
@@YvonnePatiñoOrdaz Thankyou
@@gerofiore9695 you are wellcome man!.
With all due respect, a lot of this doesn't add up. There's no way you and your wife and dogs and kids can live off 200quid!!! If you are long term unemployed with mental health issues you will be in receipt of Esa, IS, PIP, Housing benefit. Your wife will have child benefit and also be on your joint claim. If you're not then go to the Citizens advice and get a benefit calculation. Also 6 dogs?!!! They will all have to have vet cover. 🤔
Thankyou, I can make it add up for you. Cause of mental health issues I left all the paperwork, and any benefits to my wife, but obviously she doesn't know about the benefits you mentioned, I have heard of PIP recently cause others have mentioned this, I will check or look into the benefits you mentioned, thankyou, £200 quid is for one week, yh it is hard to manage
Not trolling but im left wondering as well. I was waiting to hear how you got 6 dogs.. you said u didn't go out and buy them, so they followed u home or how?
Wondering how you funded all the trips to china. Most people save for years to fulfil a dream like that.
How can u handle the lack of oxygen on the crowded jumbo on the tarmac there without going nuts?
I get the parents supporting when you were young and single.. but then how did u come to acquire a house if u didn't work?
Even if u left it all to your wife to go to the govt dept, wouldn't you need to prove first u could support her to bring her back and stay in uk? either tax returns attached to visa application or being on disability pension.. or some other man of means
@@cruiser6260bank of step mum and dad maybe
move to north Scotland sounds easy to say but 60k will get you a 2 bed place with land. lodge the room out Monday to Friday there's a small income, long enough away for you to build up to it
You should buy one of these large sacks of rice to give the dogs instead of the spaghetti..it might be cheaper. Also, i remember my mum giving liver to our dogs as it was much cheaper and seemingly good for their coats. If you have a garden, try planting your own veggies.
Although rice may be cheaper it goes right through them and I end up using up kitchen rolls faster, liver is good though
You have Depression and anxiety....because you feel guilty..you have never worked...it's a risk...you chose..you would have felt more confident if you had....just my opinion.....😊
Do what ever you have to do , to care for yourself!
I have been on disability since I was 23 I'm 39 now. I don't think it's a con. It is just because of the economy. There was a major building project in my town when I was 21. Now there really is not much of anything. I have had jobs but as I have got older it has been harder and harder.
All you need to do is just do a bit of free work for some references. So something like dog walking or cleaning or being a chaperone taking elderly people out to do a bit of shopping. Just baby steps. Now is the time to not do nothing. Now is the time for change and growth. You can't stay in that same relationship being stagnant. Because what's going to happen when or if you lose your youth? You're still relatively young and fit x
Fifty seven isn't young. Doing free work you will just get used. If you have never worked at nearly sixty, you never will
As another commenter mentioned you can definitely get pension credits if you have not paid enough "stamps". I dont think its far off the state pension either. If you have a record of mental health issues you may get invalidity benefit. Also i dont think you get so much hastle to find work from the dole as you get older either. Yes, voluntary work is a great way to get out, I used to do conservation volunteering and some people would just do an hour and leave, but that was fine. On the paid side doing a bit of freelance gardening is a good one. You can drive and have a car, very useful, what about Uber? In the countryside there are loads of people who cant get about because there is no public transport. I think the abuse you suffered at school was a catastrophe, society totally ignores abuse in school as its so huge but its the single biggest destroyer of peoples lives.
I want to help the elderly or older ppl, that would give me satisfaction,I think I may have to ask a person for help in order to see which benefit to apply for, thankyou.
Those drugs drs gave you didnt help at all,took them so long like yourself and im in similar circumstances in france without children.Keep talking as you are helping yourself and it helps me unpack my own issues
I'm a gluten free vegan & I eat pretty well, lots of rice, potatoes & lentils & other veg, oats, soy milk, yogurt & tofu, peanut butter, dark chocolate, fruit etc would take me ages to write a full list of everything I eat.. I also eat some plant based meats like beyond burger & a few others occasionally. There's quite a few places now that do gluten free+vegan pizzas so that's a nice treat every once in a while.
Enjoy your videos, Gerald.
I also appreciate your honesty. With regards to not working or just little bits. You have missed out a lot. Fulfilment, direction, goals, challenges, interactions, and friendship. Not to mention money. We're about the same age, and unfortunately, you'll never get that time back.
volvo , built to last.......reliability means low costs if maintained....usually ... older cars are the way forward , frugality
I agree but its Diesel, the way things are going not sure if the price of Diesel will go up and up
The large bones from the meat counter are good for nutrition and perhaps saving your computer mouse.😅
Yeah
Cmon Gero...you can still do it.
Your name always makes me laugh, thanks
@@gerofiore9695 lol fake. Real first name is tony..ps..my sister married a Fiore and moved to foggia.
Keep hearing that squeaky noise in your car everytime you move. Get some WD40😊👍🏾
Identify as an immigrant and come from Dover on a boat. You'll get everything.
Thats a point
Thanks for video
I would love to sit down in a pub with this guy and talk about life over drinks..mentally I can very much relate to him.
Alcohol would temporarily reduce his anxiety. Would need to be your shout though
Is there a virgin olive oil that tastes nice not bitter?
There are pension credits if you don't get state pension?
Yes, the light versions taste of nothing, the more bitter the more polyphenol content
Its clear now that you actually have had a variety of jobs in your life. Even for short periods. You have just spent more time unemployed than employed, due to circumstance. There is still plenty there to tell your biological parents, if and when that time comes. You come across as well spoken and have a fairly bright personality too, so if you meet them, be up front, regardless of any failures and struggles. BTW you also mentioned the industrial shredding job that you worked at for years at some kids channel??
I’m sure you would qualify for PIP.
Best wishes 😊
Thank you Tanya, Do I go to my GP for that I wonder?
@@gerofiore9695per PIP Parla con qualcuno presso il tuo ufficio locale MIND, sarà in grado di dirti se sei adatto e passare attraverso l'applicazione con voi.
So the first money you get is to waste it? Why not just a little home made cross or something more personal because it'll only be for other people to see, a stone. You feel like you owe your parents something the only thing you owe them is to make somethig of your life. You can do this. So many people on here believe in you and want you to be better. You should blame your wife she doesn't give a crap. And you don't have to pay her debts, either. Or care who she goes out with in the future. You HAVE got rights!!
Thankyou
Wait, 40 years without work? How do you survive then? Where do you get your money?
Minced beef, tinned sardines oats, carrots, salmon oil, mixed veg and an egg cracked on top. I know husky sled teams who have been fed on this and they've been great
Hello, Gerald. How you doing. I will watch this video and hopefully I can give you good, friendly advice.
In ‘lower’ jobs you often get all the jobs others don’t want.
What is this kible meat your talking about ? Is it prosessed ? How do you spell it ? Also have you tried MISO for your SIFO ?
No money, no honey
Hi Gero
Per favore scusa mio povere Italiano non e mio primo lingua.
Ho seguito il tuo canale per un po. Sono sicuro che hai gia parlato con un avvocato, se non lo fai ora.
Non tollero il modo in cui ti trattano per altri 30 secondi.
Essere piedi di testa e avera una stratagia per tutto cio che pottrebbe decidere di fare.
Assicurati di sapere al centesimo che cosa si riceve, ottenere un buon diritto di famiglia/ divorzio avvocato. Prova la mediazione e assicurarsi che si sa cosa questo per evitare di corte, ma se lei sta andando ad essere testardo su di esso ho paura che dovrete essere doppiamente così.
Grazie Enzo
Life is difficult, following your journey recently has been intriguing...
Trying to chase youtube fame, fortunes is very risky and although your chats may be helping you release....the chasing numbers/views will not be helping your mental health.
All the best
If you don't want to reveal that's fine, and I don't know your history, but is there childhood abuse?
Most people don't understand that the trauma with childhood abuse gets worse with age, not better.
When we're younger we push aside trauma to focus on breeding, hooking-up, family, career, buying homes and cars, etc ... But when we get older and realize all that was worthless and a failure, and we stop pursuing all the ego stuff, the trauma comes to the surface and it can be debilitating.
This is where I'm in life and I'm your age. I too could never keep a job and did spurts of employment to get by. I was recently diagnosed with autism, Asperger's, and trauma.
Gerald how did you move from London to Norfolk?
Do you miss London
I had to move to free up funds for Dad's carehome expenses, I do miss London but not the stress and crime etc
Thanks Gerald , good luck.
Gerald, apply for an Italian passport now (it takes a while to sort out the paperwork) and after you’ve sold up & divorced, get the hell out of Dodge.
Things in the UK are only to get worse and your kids will appreciate the chance to spend quality time away from there.
Just an idea.
I’m of similar vintage to you, with Italian dad & Irish mum, and the pathway to an EU passport is a valuable asset.
Best of luck mate.
I'm trying to help my daughter and her husband adopt a child from Ukraine. My father and his family was from Ukraine, so I can go to the church, and hopefully, they can assist us because I don't speak Ukrainian. Progressive rock rules.
Gerald how to contact directly ? I can help you with leaky gut case. I have some supplement from USA, ( Dr Gundry MD Yt Chanel). TOTAL RESTORE
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How old are your children that you have to give your wife your car?
I think you need to see a psychiatrist or a psychologist Gerald. If you have in the past, they haven’t done their job have they?
Gerald. Your only letting yourself down by not working. I'm out of work at the moment and can't wait to get back into work. As for paying your way in society and paying taxes and contributing to the system. That's all a load of b*****ks. Look at what's going on in the news. I'm not saying anything about it. I'm not brave enough. You work for your own good. So give it a try. Find a part time job that you would enjoy doing 😊.
I feel were twins
Is it cheaper to make your own bread?
Yh, it probably is, but when I try to make it it either comes out like a rock or falls apart 😅
Asda pork kidneys and liver cheap for dogs 🐕 really nutrious
You are so brave, Gerald. I wish you a better health🤗
You are not alone…stay strong 💪🏼 F**k trolls!!
Love and light🤍
You don't have to prove yourself to anyone. Especially, trolls. 😂💜✌