Props to you, Oscar. I saw you on The Dad Challenge Podcast and have been rooting for you, I think we all are lol. You're headed in the right direction and should be proud of yourself!
Unsolicited advice: Staying busy is good for the beginning of a breakup, but eventually you will have to dive straight into your pain & process it or it will manifest in other ways. Journaling your feelings helps!
Agreed!! Talk therapy (even short term) is also a great way to process big life changes/challenging events. Sometimes it takes an unbiased stranger to help get through tough situations!
Oscar if I can offer you any advice, date an older woman who has been single for awhile (at least a year or more). _Most_ of us who are single have been through so much, feel the exact same as you say you do, are independent, settled and happy with ourselves, know what we want, won’t waste either of our time if we know it won’t work, etc.
I absolutely LOVE this style of videos! Where it jumps back and forth to different time points. I do realize it takes a lot of editing though, so we appreciate it! Pls keep doing videos like this :)
I really hate that she ruined your trust 🥺 that’s such a hard thing to get back. I know you will find someone so great for you, anyone would be so so so lucky to have you in their life and love you unconditionally ❤❤❤
What i have to say about loneliness is.. DO NOT hurt some else’s feelings because YOU dont want to feel lonely. DO NOT use someone to fill in that gap. Make sure you are ready as an individual to find someone to actually love.
That is such a deep thing that you said “I don’t know if I can ever trust somebody enough to believe that they unconditionally love me”. I feel that. So sorry you feel that pain Oscar! You deserve to be loved. Btw those zig zag frames look amazing!!! - maybe they will look better some place else but that zig zag layout is really cool!
I think you are doing great right now. After being in a toxic situationship, I waited for 2 years until I met a person who is good for me and I'm good for him. What you need is to heal and get yourself together and not to jump on another relationship. Trust the process ❤️
I 100% agree!! I was married for 23 years. Divorce was final in September 2022. He remarried in October. I have to make sure I am healed before i enter into another relationship. I have to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else.
@@Rubatheva she will never admit it. And he is to much of a good man to say it. He may want to believe she didn’t. But he knows she did. If not physically for sure mentally. Which is just as bad. He basically said it in the breaking up video. She just didn’t want it to come out. She’s a snake that’s or sure.
Instead of finding someone to fill the void, pick yourself! You are EXCELLING in improving yourself as well as being the father you want to be! Keep it up!
You'll be just ok in your own. It takes time, but you will be. Learning no to depend on anyone is a process, but you'll get there and you will love it. Talking from experience. You are talented, and a great father and person. All the best for you ✌️
I just got out of a toxic marriage with a 5 year old son and I'm 20 weeks pregnant. We're still married but we're separated and trying to coparent is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I'm sure you guys make it look more graceful for the internet, but even then I'm just waiting to get to where you are right now. Congrats on everything you have accomplished on your own so far and being such a great dad to your Littles. 👍
It’s so difficult. Every time I wanted to say something negative I would just imagine one of my kids was standing there next to me. It’s taken me so many years. We are now amicable. I can be in the same room as him and remain pleasant. All I try and remember is that the only thing that matters is my kids. They don’t need to know what he did to me. They need a dad. Maybe one day they’ll find out the truth. It won’t be from me. It’s hard but that’s what matters ultimately. I wish you happiness. One day you’ll have that.
It kind of makes me sad that Oscar thinks someone wouldn’t unconditionally love him, with time and more confidence I’m sure he might change his mind but seriously there are so many redeeming qualities about him. Oscar you will find love, don’t look for it. God will bring it to you as you continue to be the amazing person you are.
So sad that people are damaged by others that their view on marriage is skewed. However, I do believe everyone is meant to find their one true love and this is when it shows you what celebrating love is all about. Hang in there Oscar!!
Ye I feel like he needs to stop worrying and start working on himself how he deserves love and then it pops into ur life. I had such a story in my life and every single day I’m still in awe how I met my person.. feels like miracles
Oscar you're really out here raising the bar for these single dads and I love it. You're doing absolutely amazing! I believe time heals and I believe you will find the woman of your dreams, if that's what you want eventually.
You should get an animal to replace loneliness after your cousin leaves. When my daughter is gone, my pets keep me from being lonely and seeking companionship elsewhere.
That’s what I was thinking maybe not a dog that’s a lot of work but a cat or even a little beta fish or hamster to talk to 😂 Like it would be so cute too kids love it lol
I do this too. I just got a puppy to keep me busy and keep my mind off things when I am alone after the kids leave. It got real bad at the beginning I had to have a pet.
I dated a guy in my teens who was a childhood friend of my brothers. I was so infatuated with him it wasn't funny. I feel he did things on purpose to make me feel jealous and then he broke up with me and his excuse was that he wanted to focus on himself and two weeks later I found out he was dating a girl I introduced him to. I was heartbroken but two years later I found the love of my life. We met at work, I wasn't even looking and he caught my eye, worked up the nerve to ask him for his number...first time I ever asked a guy out and here we are about to celebrate 15 years of marriage and our oldest turned 14 today. I feel old and you know what happened to the guy who broke my heart when I was a teenager, the one I was so infatuated with? Well a few years ago he ended up making advances at his 12 year old step daughter...wow, did I dodge a bullet, even my brother said he was glad I didn't end with him.
Wow girl! You DEFINITELY did dodge a HUGE bullet. My fiancé and I have been together for a solid 17 years! I was with my oldest daughters father for four years until it ended abruptly because he cheated on me with my cousin in our bed with me sleeping in it!! But to be perfectly honest it was a relief because he wasn’t my true love and I knew my current fiancé at the same time and was head over heels for him he was always so attractive to me and gave me butterflies just by being in the same room with me! So I happened to call and ask if he wanted to go to a concert with me and he was dating someone at the time that he completely ditched to come hang out with me! My daughter was ten months old at the time! He has raised her ever since! And we have two kids together as well! It’s been an amazing ride and I j is that this is the man I’m meant to share my everything with! He’s my soulmate! I know Oscar will find his forever person! And I can’t wait to see it!
Exactly. My husband and I got married at a B&B, only had 3 people there and it was romantic. We had a hot tub in our room, a fireplace at the foot of the bed and a private entrance to our room. We went on a horse and carriage ride and a drive in zoo. It was so romantic.
They actually say that the more a wedding costs the more likely it won’t last. But not sure if that’s true. My wedding was on a budget and I loved every minute. 11 years married this year. When you are with the one you are meant to be with you just know and marriage comes naturally. If you keep putting it off etc it means it’s not right. That’s my opinion anyway
Oscar, all of your feelings in this video are completely valid. The fact that you are so self-aware of how you think and feel is what will keep you on the right path. Nothing but respect xx
I'm really proud of you to recognize that getting back together would not be a good idea. So many people in dysfunctional relationships get back together after breaking up and just repeat the cycle!
After my fiancé of 12 years cheating on me ( with a married woman) he kicked me out of our home so she could move in!! That was 18 months ago. I’m a lot older than you but I’m disabled so I was terrified!!! I was planning on waiting a year b4 I started dating but after 6 months I went on a one date with him and we just clicked! I don’t live in a huge fancy house anymore BUT I own my own mobile home and I’m debt free and am much happier now than I was before. I’m not saying that I didn’t go through some dark times but with therapy and learning about narcissistic behavior I’ll never go back. We have to love ourselves first. I love your new place and I’m glad you have your kids to keep you busy.
If she didn’t cheat, there would be no reason not to trust. If she can be the kind of person that can be with her BEST FRIENDS husband then she would absolutely be the type to cheat. Doesn’t take a guinness to figure that out.
I agree Oscar, I feel the same way - I would love to get married .. but I highly doubt someone will actually be committed to me and love me the way I love them lol!
Time really does heal. When you get out of a long term relationship it takes a while to even want another person again. You are doing amazing! Keep it up
Everyone can agree that you are doing absolutely great and I pray it gets greater for you and your kids. Just so you know, we see you are doing well so far. I’ve been following OKbaby since 2015 and although it is very sad that it ended BUT I am so glad and happy that you are this committed with your channel because you being you on this channel is putting smiles on your viewers/fans like me. So THANK YOU OSCAR!!! ❤
Marriage is vowing before God, which is a commitment to Him. Until a person understands what that is about, they don’t understand marriage. Life isn’t easy, nor is marriage. It isn’t meant to be. We don’t learn from everything being easy we learn through trials and difficulties, to give and receive. To not loose hope and to be faithful to the vows we take. And to God, who created marriage and everything we have. Read and study the Bible. Find a Solid group of friends, go to church, . Read therapy and goto therapy. your own self and grow. Being busy all the time is not good for the long run. Having faith and believing helps you. Love and prayers 🧡🙏
A man as wonderful as you will have a lot of women coming his way, but it’s worthwhile to wait for the right one, and she will make her way to you dude
Man’s happiness does not consist of wealth, honor, fame, glory, power, the goods of the body, or pleasure. In fact, man’s happiness cannot consist in any created good at all, since the ultimate object of man’s will, the universal good, cannot be found in any creature but rather only in God, who is the source of all good.
I think I’m in a similar situation family wise. Don’t rush into getting into a relationship if you’re not ready, allow yourself time to work through everything that happen and just find yourself again, therapy could definitely help, I have a great psych and she really helps me see things I never thought or just make sense of my 100s of thoughts. For me I can’t get into a relationship right now cause I put my daughters dad before myself for so long (he cheated) that I lost myself and I genuinely couldn’t name one thing I enjoyed for myself, also just all the trust issues I have cause of him I just couldn’t date right now cause I feel I would start taking things out of that person cause of my issues cause of him and that wouldn’t be fair on them. So I’m just taking time to work on myself, find things I enjoy and working on becoming a better mum for my daughter and just spending time with her. You’re doing such a great job and you’re a great dad, you should be so proud of yourself for how you’ve handled this very difficult situation and the patience and grace you’ve shown. Loving the videos 😄
Oscar you are so right. Once trust has been broken you can never go back. Continue to build on th co-parenting relationship. You and your children will benefit from that being strong. You won’t 6:16 need to look for someone special. They will find you! A soul so good and loving as yours will not be alone for long. Love all your goals and wishing you all the success in the world achieving them! 💖🥰👍
Legally getting married means if something happens to one of you and you’re in the hospital then you’ll be the sole decision maker ie instead of someone in their family.
Hey Oscar, I'm a newer viewer. I follow KKandBabyJ. I had a thought to share. Congratulations on your new place! That is awesome! So, so happy for you and your new journey. When I saw your video on showing your new place, I thought he should maybe consider a registry to help with needed and/or wanted items. Like Target, Walmart etc. Then provide your viewers the link. It's safe and private. Just go through and pick out all kinds of stuff you need and want. You have a lot of fans (to include myself). Anyway, I thought it would be a fun idea and maybe helpful too. Have an awesome day and again congratulations!
AWHHH THAT IS SO SWEET! I would just feel too guilty taking stuff from you guys! Y'all do enough just by taking the time to watch these videos 🥲 Thank you tho!
Be careful you don’t find someone just because you’re lonely. Check out codependency. Props to you for being vulnerable about your emotions. Wishing you the best!✨
Oscar not saying anything your doing is unhealthy or that you seem like you need it. But I think you’d benefit so much from therapy. Specially navigating those lonely feelings. You should really look into it
OSCAR WE LOVE YOU!!❤ YOU where the ONLY reason I fell in LOVE with Okbaby keep your head up! You will find a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN who is made for you!🥹 praying 🙏🏼 you get everything you want in life!❤️
It's weird how differently I see you now... when you were with Kira you just seemed like a diffrent person but now you seem happier and your happiness is contagious .... you were limited before though the content posted wasnt just yours
I agree with another commenter, rest and meditation when your alone. Recharge when your kid free and things will fall into place for you. Your a great guy Oscar, it’s been refreshing seeing you pick up your pieces after everything. I’ve been watching for awhile so I’m happy you both are moving in positive directions. ♥️
Oscar one day you will find someone special. Remember don’t look for the one you can live with… look for the one you can’t live without.. you are awesome man and a great father.. I’m glad you said that y’all will never get back together because she has to have everything her way and that’s not fair. She is some of guys problem now .. not your 😁
When I divorced I got two jobs and started school to not feel lonely, and hopefully to have better life style for my kids and I. Also went to church. Kept myself and kids in a more positive environment.
Oscar once your cousin moves out maybe having a temporary room mate can help with loneliness and most importantly help pay some bills in the apartment since they’ll be paying you rent and that’s a little financial relief for you. Maybe a year lease agreement and that will help you save money
I feel like you’d really enjoy working part time at your climbing gym or something! Just for social stimulation!!! Ya know talking to people, new faces can be really beneficial!
She did u bad man I’m so sorry she did whatever she did to hurt u bro because you’re a catch you’re a beautiful guy inside and out and the girl that will be with u one day . She will be so lucky and you will be in love one day and that day will come when it’s supposed to come and by the way the pictures looked beautiful up there, but I agree it was just a little bit too busy looking.
This is something I had to learn the last year while moving away from all my family and friends and that is to learn to be okay with being alone. That is why we search for the next thing to fill the void because we never learned how to just do it by ourselves. I’m still learning everyday but rather than running away from our problems, we gotta face them head on or you will always hold onto it.
Oscar I pray you find unconditional love. You were very young, and have a full wonderful life ahead of you . Believe me your kindness and light shine through. As a Mom of grown sons. I've seen go through the same thing. They have both found true love and are very happy and fulfilled. So when you find each other , it will be wonderful. You are a amazing father and son. So be patient, because with patients comes great reward. Take care. From Ontario, Canada 🇨🇦✨🌟🙏
Marriage, even when it blossoms from love, is a commitment to effort. Love is something you have to do everyday. That should only come when you're ready.
I am a single mum of 2 and i divorced from my husband when my youngest was 2 ( now 8) after a very toxic abusive relationship filled with being cheated on. I was devastated we had been together since we were 14 had our 1st child young (19). So i knew nothing but him i never thought id find anyone else and if i did could i trust. Well ive now been with my beautiful kind sweet loving partner for 6 years and he had to be so patient took me over a year before i introduced him to my kids we are currently buying our 1st house together but that took 5 years before we lived together. What im saying is the right person will understand and they will love you and take it as slow as you need the right person will stand with you in life and they will take every broke piece of you and put it back together with love, support, kindness and grace. Now 6 years later we have just started talking about marriage. I never in my life thought i would be loved. So trust me when i say the right one will turn up one day and it will be when you aren't looking you might not even be ready for her but she will show you a love you've never experienced. Good luck you are an amazing father and an amazing man.
You are doing a fabulous job and your life right now oh, I'm so proud of how far you've come! You are much better off now without "Forehead" in your life, she is/was nothing but toxic so let someone else deal with her! You are such a better person without her! Your true love will come when you least expect it, just be patient!
I miss you buddy. I was here for your 44 vlogs to start the year. I didn’t miss one. Seeing the change from a man’s point of view is honestly something I appreciate. From how you build your life to how you care for your kids is empowering. Thank you for sharing your life with up
We love to see an evolving Libra!! ✨️ Happy for you. Love to see you develop into a stronger, more efficient, and more aware version of yourself. We truly love to see it.
When the TRUE unconditional LOVE does haopeneds, you will know its a very different feeling!! You Oscar are.... rocking the roll .... you are in at the moment!! Keep it up!! Seriously you are doing an amazing job!!
I love your videos Oscar I feel like a marriage is something that God has ordained us to do, I know times are a lot harder right now for relationships but I feel like something we are truly called to do, ❤ “and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?” Matthew 19:5 NIV
The right person will come along for you and then you’ll know. Maybe not now but one day soon for all you know!! But I’m so proud of you guys for how you’ve both carried through this situation together. You are a special person and the right person is out there for you! ❤
I have a saying "I would rather be lonely, than to be a fool by anybody's side!" " Once a fool, twice a fool, always a fool! You said i! It would be a recipe for disaster!
You will find somebody one day that'll treat you the way you want to be treated. And you can treat them the way that they need to be treated to. Never try to rush into anything
I feel I'm in Oscars spot now my baby's dad started dating someone new and we only have been separated for 6 1/2 months and just here trying to work on myself and to try to co-parent the best way possible
Oscar- Keep doing you It's all we can do. If you feel like my e a date, go 9n one. Whatever you want it's your choice. Period. I only want you to be HAPPY! The kids and you be happy. I feel like success is in your blood. As long as you stay in your lane. Everything will fall into place. Good people positive outcomes. It's what you deserve and need. 1 million subscribers again and some. Let's do this.
Zac and Kyla being there for Oscar is the sweetest thing ever. Really showing their character and the great people they are.
Props to you, Oscar. I saw you on The Dad Challenge Podcast and have been rooting for you, I think we all are lol. You're headed in the right direction and should be proud of yourself!
Right I was just gonna say that
Same! Never watched him and Kyras videos before and now I'm a fan of Oscar's videos!
I think a lot of us new followers are from dcp.. I’ll watch as long as he doesn’t show the kids much.. good videos!
I love Dad Challenge Podcast!
@@meaganmh09 especially his snark videos lol
Unsolicited advice: Staying busy is good for the beginning of a breakup, but eventually you will have to dive straight into your pain & process it or it will manifest in other ways. Journaling your feelings helps!
Great advice!!!
Agreed!! Talk therapy (even short term) is also a great way to process big life changes/challenging events. Sometimes it takes an unbiased stranger to help get through tough situations!
Yess recommend cbt therapy
Yes and there are stages of healing of such a devastating betrayal that take time.
When my life was turned upside down I wrote a letter to my past self catching up with her , really helped , alot of crying 😖🤣 but it helped x
We love when a Narc gets the consequences of their actions. Definitely self-reflect and do better so you don't ruin someone else's life
This is the best time of your life! No need to rush into anything.
Oscar if I can offer you any advice, date an older woman who has been single for awhile (at least a year or more). _Most_ of us who are single have been through so much, feel the exact same as you say you do, are independent, settled and happy with ourselves, know what we want, won’t waste either of our time if we know it won’t work, etc.
Once you find the right person your going to feel different about love 😊
Pictures are PERFECT there :(
I absolutely LOVE this style of videos! Where it jumps back and forth to different time points. I do realize it takes a lot of editing though, so we appreciate it! Pls keep doing videos like this :)
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I really hate that she ruined your trust 🥺 that’s such a hard thing to get back. I know you will find someone so great for you, anyone would be so so so lucky to have you in their life and love you unconditionally ❤❤❤
What i have to say about loneliness is.. DO NOT hurt some else’s feelings because YOU dont want to feel lonely. DO NOT use someone to fill in that gap. Make sure you are ready as an individual to find someone to actually love.
That is such a deep thing that you said “I don’t know if I can ever trust somebody enough to believe that they unconditionally love me”. I feel that. So sorry you feel that pain Oscar! You deserve to be loved.
Btw those zig zag frames look amazing!!!
- maybe they will look better some place else but that zig zag layout is really cool!
I think you are doing great right now. After being in a toxic situationship, I waited for 2 years until I met a person who is good for me and I'm good for him. What you need is to heal and get yourself together and not to jump on another relationship. Trust the process ❤️
I 100% agree!! I was married for 23 years. Divorce was final in September 2022. He remarried in October. I have to make sure I am healed before i enter into another relationship. I have to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else.
@@saradantonio7934 Dear Lord. You are a warrior.
Well said!
I waited about 2 years ❤ I was 20 in 2016 with toxic ex and I was 22 and a half by the time I started my relationship with my boyfriend in 2018.
@@christoperaaron8218 I hope it goes well for you love 💕
If she broke your heart once , what makes you think she won’t do it again??
Never get back with an ex
When someone cheats on you, you lose trust, no matter the situation! Even if it's about them finding them self or some crap excuse.
It’s not confirmed if she cheated
@@Rubatheva 💀💀💀
It’s not confirmed but it’s pretty obvious ;(
@@Rubatheva she will never admit it. And he is to much of a good man to say it. He may want to believe she didn’t. But he knows she did. If not physically for sure mentally. Which is just as bad. He basically said it in the breaking up video. She just didn’t want it to come out. She’s a snake that’s or sure.
@@ladyp5828 dont know why everyone idolises him do you not remember the time he flew a drone into his child face?!
Instead of finding someone to fill the void, pick yourself!
You are EXCELLING in improving yourself as well as being the father you want to be! Keep it up!
You'll be just ok in your own. It takes time, but you will be. Learning no to depend on anyone is a process, but you'll get there and you will love it. Talking from experience. You are talented, and a great father and person. All the best for you ✌️
I just got out of a toxic marriage with a 5 year old son and I'm 20 weeks pregnant. We're still married but we're separated and trying to coparent is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I'm sure you guys make it look more graceful for the internet, but even then I'm just waiting to get to where you are right now. Congrats on everything you have accomplished on your own so far and being such a great dad to your Littles. 👍
You will get there mama
It def took a lot of work and meeting in the middle but I’m sure you’ll get there :) and thank you!
It’s so difficult. Every time I wanted to say something negative I would just imagine one of my kids was standing there next to me. It’s taken me so many years. We are now amicable. I can be in the same room as him and remain pleasant. All I try and remember is that the only thing that matters is my kids. They don’t need to know what he did to me. They need a dad. Maybe one day they’ll find out the truth. It won’t be from me. It’s hard but that’s what matters ultimately. I wish you happiness. One day you’ll have that.
Your videos are becoming daily motivation to us 💞 please keep up with this & keep rising 🙂
It kind of makes me sad that Oscar thinks someone wouldn’t unconditionally love him, with time and more confidence I’m sure he might change his mind but seriously there are so many redeeming qualities about him. Oscar you will find love, don’t look for it. God will bring it to you as you continue to be the amazing person you are.
So sad that people are damaged by others that their view on marriage is skewed. However, I do believe everyone is meant to find their one true love and this is when it shows you what celebrating love is all about. Hang in there Oscar!!
Ye I feel like he needs to stop worrying and start working on himself how he deserves love and then it pops into ur life. I had such a story in my life and every single day I’m still in awe how I met my person.. feels like miracles
This is lovely. Thank you. One bad marriage and completely damaged.❤. I never expect to find another, your words are lovely.
Oscar you're really out here raising the bar for these single dads and I love it. You're doing absolutely amazing! I believe time heals and I believe you will find the woman of your dreams, if that's what you want eventually.
You should get an animal to replace loneliness after your cousin leaves. When my daughter is gone, my pets keep me from being lonely and seeking companionship elsewhere.
That’s what I was thinking maybe not a dog that’s a lot of work but a cat or even a little beta fish or hamster to talk to 😂 Like it would be so cute too kids love it lol
I do this too. I just got a puppy to keep me busy and keep my mind off things when I am alone after the kids leave. It got real bad at the beginning I had to have a pet.
I dated a guy in my teens who was a childhood friend of my brothers. I was so infatuated with him it wasn't funny. I feel he did things on purpose to make me feel jealous and then he broke up with me and his excuse was that he wanted to focus on himself and two weeks later I found out he was dating a girl I introduced him to. I was heartbroken but two years later I found the love of my life. We met at work, I wasn't even looking and he caught my eye, worked up the nerve to ask him for his number...first time I ever asked a guy out and here we are about to celebrate 15 years of marriage and our oldest turned 14 today. I feel old and you know what happened to the guy who broke my heart when I was a teenager, the one I was so infatuated with? Well a few years ago he ended up making advances at his 12 year old step daughter...wow, did I dodge a bullet, even my brother said he was glad I didn't end with him.
Wow. There’s a reason for everything. He was a creep and you sure did dodge that bullet
Wow girl! You DEFINITELY did dodge a HUGE bullet. My fiancé and I have been together for a solid 17 years! I was with my oldest daughters father for four years until it ended abruptly because he cheated on me with my cousin in our bed with me sleeping in it!! But to be perfectly honest it was a relief because he wasn’t my true love and I knew my current fiancé at the same time and was head over heels for him he was always so attractive to me and gave me butterflies just by being in the same room with me! So I happened to call and ask if he wanted to go to a concert with me and he was dating someone at the time that he completely ditched to come hang out with me! My daughter was ten months old at the time! He has raised her ever since! And we have two kids together as well! It’s been an amazing ride and I j is that this is the man I’m meant to share my everything with! He’s my soulmate!
I know Oscar will find his forever person! And I can’t wait to see it!
A wedding doesnt HAVE to be a big splashy event. Its REALLY about the 2 people and their bond, their love, their vows.
Exactly. My husband and I got married at a B&B, only had 3 people there and it was romantic. We had a hot tub in our room, a fireplace at the foot of the bed and a private entrance to our room. We went on a horse and carriage ride and a drive in zoo. It was so romantic.
Yes i agree. My husband and i got married at the courthouse just us and our 2 kids. No one else knew until after
This! We had a beautiful wedding. My dress only cost $127
💯 we got married in our preachers living room. Just us, the preacher, the preachers wife and his son. I wouldn’t change anything.
They actually say that the more a wedding costs the more likely it won’t last. But not sure if that’s true. My wedding was on a budget and I loved every minute. 11 years married this year. When you are with the one you are meant to be with you just know and marriage comes naturally. If you keep putting it off etc it means it’s not right. That’s my opinion anyway
Oscar, all of your feelings in this video are completely valid. The fact that you are so self-aware of how you think and feel is what will keep you on the right path.
Nothing but respect xx
Ty for being a good dad. Mine wasn’t the best. However, I don’t agree with your marriage debate according to Gods word. Sending you the best!!!
I'm really proud of you to recognize that getting back together would not be a good idea. So many people in dysfunctional relationships get back together after breaking up and just repeat the cycle!
Coming from a toxic narcissist relationship… it will take awhile for you to trust again . 💔🙏🏼
After my fiancé of 12 years cheating on me ( with a married woman) he kicked me out of our home so she could move in!! That was 18 months ago. I’m a lot older than you but I’m disabled so I was terrified!!! I was planning on waiting a year b4 I started dating but after 6 months I went on a one date with him and we just clicked! I don’t live in a huge fancy house anymore BUT I own my own mobile home and I’m debt free and am much happier now than I was before. I’m not saying that I didn’t go through some dark times but with therapy and learning about narcissistic behavior I’ll never go back. We have to love ourselves first. I love your new place and I’m glad you have your kids to keep you busy.
I love how open and honest this channel is!
I’ll be gutted if you stop these vlogs I love them so much and your editing is TOP notch
If she didn’t cheat, there would be no reason not to trust. If she can be the kind of person that can be with her BEST FRIENDS husband then she would absolutely be the type to cheat. Doesn’t take a guinness to figure that out.
You’re doing so well .. don’t go looking for love. Keep being you and you will find it in no time. You are an amazing man!
I agree Oscar, I feel the same way - I would love to get married .. but I highly doubt someone will actually be committed to me and love me the way I love them lol!
Love how open you are. Nothing fake about you
Time really does heal. When you get out of a long term relationship it takes a while to even want another person again. You are doing amazing! Keep it up
Everyone can agree that you are doing absolutely great and I pray it gets greater for you and your kids. Just so you know, we see you are doing well so far. I’ve been following OKbaby since 2015 and although it is very sad that it ended BUT I am so glad and happy that you are this committed with your channel because you being you on this channel is putting smiles on your viewers/fans like me. So THANK YOU OSCAR!!! ❤
oscar :( my heart. i hope you do find unconditional love in this life you deserve it !!!!!!
My wife just broke up with me your videos helping me a lot trying to focus on life thanks ossi
Marriage is vowing before God, which is a commitment to Him.
Until a person understands what that is about, they don’t understand marriage. Life isn’t easy, nor is marriage. It isn’t meant to be. We don’t learn from everything being easy we learn through trials and difficulties, to give and receive. To not loose hope and to be faithful to the vows we take. And to God, who created marriage and everything we have. Read and study the Bible. Find a Solid group of friends, go to church, . Read therapy and goto therapy. your own self and grow. Being busy all the time is not good for the long run. Having faith and believing helps you.
Love and prayers 🧡🙏
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A man as wonderful as you will have a lot of women coming his way, but it’s worthwhile to wait for the right one, and she will make her way to you dude
Man’s happiness does not consist of wealth, honor, fame, glory, power, the goods of the body, or pleasure. In fact, man’s happiness cannot consist in any created good at all, since the ultimate object of man’s will, the universal good, cannot be found in any creature but rather only in God, who is the source of all good.
I think I’m in a similar situation family wise. Don’t rush into getting into a relationship if you’re not ready, allow yourself time to work through everything that happen and just find yourself again, therapy could definitely help, I have a great psych and she really helps me see things I never thought or just make sense of my 100s of thoughts. For me I can’t get into a relationship right now cause I put my daughters dad before myself for so long (he cheated) that I lost myself and I genuinely couldn’t name one thing I enjoyed for myself, also just all the trust issues I have cause of him I just couldn’t date right now cause I feel I would start taking things out of that person cause of my issues cause of him and that wouldn’t be fair on them. So I’m just taking time to work on myself, find things I enjoy and working on becoming a better mum for my daughter and just spending time with her. You’re doing such a great job and you’re a great dad, you should be so proud of yourself for how you’ve handled this very difficult situation and the patience and grace you’ve shown. Loving the videos 😄
Oscar you are so right. Once trust has been broken you can never go back. Continue to build on th co-parenting relationship. You and your children will benefit from that being strong. You won’t 6:16 need to look for someone special. They will find you! A soul so good and loving as yours will not be alone for long. Love all your goals and wishing you all the success in the world achieving them! 💖🥰👍
You are your own best company. Being alone is not necessary the worst. Use it for a time for meditation and rest 🙏
I just want to say Oscar is growing and he is an amazing dad …..and his videos are top notch
Legally getting married means if something happens to one of you and you’re in the hospital then you’ll be the sole decision maker ie instead of someone in their family.
Me waiting for Oscar to start dating like ☺️🥰
Hey Oscar, I'm a newer viewer. I follow KKandBabyJ. I had a thought to share. Congratulations on your new place! That is awesome! So, so happy for you and your new journey. When I saw your video on showing your new place, I thought he should maybe consider a registry to help with needed and/or wanted items. Like Target, Walmart etc. Then provide your viewers the link. It's safe and private. Just go through and pick out all kinds of stuff you need and want. You have a lot of fans (to include myself). Anyway, I thought it would be a fun idea and maybe helpful too. Have an awesome day and again congratulations!
AWHHH THAT IS SO SWEET! I would just feel too guilty taking stuff from you guys! Y'all do enough just by taking the time to watch these videos 🥲 Thank you tho!
@@0scarmorales , anytime! It is always a pleasure. Remember, far or near, friends and family help each other. We are all here for you.
Be careful you don’t find someone just because you’re lonely. Check out codependency. Props to you for being vulnerable about your emotions. Wishing you the best!✨
Oscar you’re a huge inspiration! Keep being the posting person you are and great things will follow! Keep the vlogs coming!!!
The fact that he repeated the words "trust" and "loyalty" says alot💯
Oscar not saying anything your doing is unhealthy or that you seem like you need it. But I think you’d benefit so much from therapy. Specially navigating those lonely feelings. You should really look into it
"They're probably not gonna change anyways." 100% accurate.
OSCAR WE LOVE YOU!!❤ YOU where the ONLY reason I fell in LOVE with Okbaby keep your head up! You will find a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN who is made for you!🥹 praying 🙏🏼 you get everything you want in life!❤️
It's is always good to be single than being in a wrong relationship
It's weird how differently I see you now... when you were with Kira you just seemed like a diffrent person but now you seem happier and your happiness is contagious .... you were limited before though the content posted wasnt just yours
I agree with another commenter, rest and meditation when your alone. Recharge when your kid free and things will fall into place for you. Your a great guy Oscar, it’s been refreshing seeing you pick up your pieces after everything. I’ve been watching for awhile so I’m happy you both are moving in positive directions. ♥️
I completely agree with you about marriage, though I am married I don't need the legal piece of paper to show my commitment to my husband
OSCAR WHERE ARE U??? All your followers miss you!! Please come back and just at least give us an update!!❤❤❤
Oscar one day you will find someone special. Remember don’t look for the one you can live with… look for the one you can’t live without.. you are awesome man and a great father.. I’m glad you said that y’all will never get back together because she has to have everything her way and that’s not fair. She is some of guys problem now .. not your 😁
Happy Sunday Oscar. Your apartment looks great!
When I divorced I got two jobs and started school to not feel lonely, and hopefully to have better life style for my kids and I. Also went to church. Kept myself and kids in a more positive environment.
Dude, I admire you so much
Oscar once your cousin moves out maybe having a temporary room mate can help with loneliness and most importantly help pay some bills in the apartment since they’ll be paying you rent and that’s a little financial relief for you. Maybe a year lease agreement and that will help you save money
I love your Q&A'S you always pick the best ones people want to hear about. Also I love the relationship with your cousin☺
I feel like you’d really enjoy working part time at your climbing gym or something! Just for social stimulation!!! Ya know talking to people, new faces can be really beneficial!
Like I enjoy my alone time WAY MORE after I see/ talk to a lot of people!
She did u bad man I’m so sorry she did whatever she did to hurt u bro because you’re a catch you’re a beautiful guy inside and out and the girl that will be with u one day . She will be so lucky and you will be in love one day and that day will come when it’s supposed to come and by the way the pictures looked beautiful up there, but I agree it was just a little bit too busy looking.
This is something I had to learn the last year while moving away from all my family and friends and that is to learn to be okay with being alone. That is why we search for the next thing to fill the void because we never learned how to just do it by ourselves. I’m still learning everyday but rather than running away from our problems, we gotta face them head on or you will always hold onto it.
Oscar I pray you find unconditional love. You were very young, and have a full wonderful life ahead of you . Believe me your kindness and light shine through. As a Mom of grown sons. I've seen go through the same thing. They have both found true love and are very happy and fulfilled. So when you find each other , it will be wonderful. You are a amazing father and son. So be patient, because with patients comes great reward. Take care. From Ontario, Canada 🇨🇦✨🌟🙏
Been following since 2016 and Im so inspired by you! Look so much up to you, keep up the good work Oscar
You have to learn to be by yourself not depending on someone else concentrate on you and your children.
Lean into Jesus.
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Jesus the way the Truth & Life ...
Marriage, even when it blossoms from love, is a commitment to effort. Love is something you have to do everyday. That should only come when you're ready.
maybe change out the black picture frames for white ones, would look way more clean and calm :)
I am a single mum of 2 and i divorced from my husband when my youngest was 2 ( now 8) after a very toxic abusive relationship filled with being cheated on. I was devastated we had been together since we were 14 had our 1st child young (19). So i knew nothing but him i never thought id find anyone else and if i did could i trust. Well ive now been with my beautiful kind sweet loving partner for 6 years and he had to be so patient took me over a year before i introduced him to my kids we are currently buying our 1st house together but that took 5 years before we lived together. What im saying is the right person will understand and they will love you and take it as slow as you need the right person will stand with you in life and they will take every broke piece of you and put it back together with love, support, kindness and grace. Now 6 years later we have just started talking about marriage. I never in my life thought i would be loved. So trust me when i say the right one will turn up one day and it will be when you aren't looking you might not even be ready for her but she will show you a love you've never experienced. Good luck you are an amazing father and an amazing man.
I'm with you on the independent buzz Oscar!
The place is really coming together and looking like a home! So proud of you. ❤
You are doing a fabulous job and your life right now oh, I'm so proud of how far you've come! You are much better off now without "Forehead" in your life, she is/was nothing but toxic so let someone else deal with her! You are such a better person without her! Your true love will come when you least expect it, just be patient!
The pics are too high to enjoy the actual pics up there.
I miss you buddy. I was here for your 44 vlogs to start the year. I didn’t miss one. Seeing the change from a man’s point of view is honestly something I appreciate. From how you build your life to how you care for your kids is empowering. Thank you for sharing your life with up
You should have left all those pictures up there. It looked absolutely wonderful.
Totally agree
Ex's are an ex for a reason
Wedding is a luxury not a necessity kinda needed to hear that lol
Love the way you film these q&as
I love how genuine and authentic you are! I look forward to your videos every day. Keep pushing -you're doing amazing!
We love to see an evolving Libra!! ✨️ Happy for you. Love to see you develop into a stronger, more efficient, and more aware version of yourself. We truly love to see it.
When the TRUE unconditional LOVE does haopeneds, you will know its a very different feeling!! You Oscar are.... rocking the roll .... you are in at the moment!! Keep it up!! Seriously you are doing an amazing job!!
I love your videos Oscar I feel like a marriage is something that God has ordained us to do, I know times are a lot harder right now for relationships but I feel like something we are truly called to do, ❤
“and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?”
Matthew 19:5 NIV
The right person will come along for you and then you’ll know. Maybe not now but one day soon for all you know!! But I’m so proud of you guys for how you’ve both carried through this situation together. You are a special person and the right person is out there for you! ❤
Pls don’t be tht RUclips person tht talks about their ex all the time
Keep doing what your doing....You'll fall in to a relationship when you least expect it. It will probably just happen! 💕🤗💕
I have a saying "I would rather be lonely, than to be a fool by anybody's side!" " Once a fool, twice a fool, always a fool! You said i! It would be a recipe for disaster!
You will find somebody one day that'll treat you the way you want to be treated. And you can treat them the way that they need to be treated to. Never try to rush into anything
I feel I'm in Oscars spot now my baby's dad started dating someone new and we only have been separated for 6 1/2 months and just here trying to work on myself and to try to co-parent the best way possible
Love the videos!!!! So proud of you!
Oscar- Keep doing you It's all we can do. If you feel like my e a date, go 9n one. Whatever you want it's your choice. Period. I only want you to be HAPPY! The kids and you be happy. I feel like success is in your blood. As long as you stay in your lane. Everything will fall into place. Good people positive outcomes. It's what you deserve and need. 1 million subscribers again and some. Let's do this.
Oscar you’re killing these consistent vlogs!!!
Honestly love who you are becoming. keep it up!
If you want to post more on tik tok I feel like filming moving in and putting ur house together would be such a fun series to watch