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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - My brother is getting married to my ex and invited me to the wedding.
r/BestofRedditorUpdates - NEW UPDATE WITH ANSWERS: Two tampons mean my marriage is over
r/BestofRedditorUpdates - AITA for saying my in laws treat me like a live in maid & wanting to move out?
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second story the husband should definitely be arrested for endangering minors! when divorcing him she should lean into the gaslighting and mental anguish he has cause because that is abuse. not all abuse is physical and this is definitely one.
Story 2: OP needs to go for full custody, as husband has shown that he is willing to allow his sister to be near the kids.
2nd story: OP needs to have a psychologist interview her kids. It’s likely the sister in law got back into their lives because she saw an opportunity to be a predator with her young children. And her husband pretty much served those little girls up on a platter to his predator sister.
I agree! That's so scary. She was grooming them for sure and could have very evil intentions 🤢🤮 I would have immediately called the police to be honest, since the sister in law was court ordered to stay in her area.
Makes one want to vomit. I think you’re right.
I would disagree with this if the husband hadn't kept it secret and she hadn't been planting the tampons as some sort of mind game. Also, having just gotten out of the second stint of rehab. Keep an eye on her until she improves and shows she's better now.
@@northwestfreckles OP said she would right away, thankfully. At least for now, it's a good idea.
First op: his brother wants his money from the trust fund. Op's wife is the voice of reason. If op's brother really cared about him, he would have cut all ties with Melissa the minute he got caught.
Oh for _sure_ this is the case, otherwise the audacity & manipulation of ‘I’m marrying her’ almost immediately followed up with ‘I just can’t forgive myself I can’t go through with the wedding’ is off the charts. Lil bro proved he’s still an idiot who cannot take care of himself. Honestly kudos to OP for holding so strong a grudge, it would be tough.
Agreed
Oohhh that makes sense
well, to raise the bar if he cared he wouldn't have sticked it to her to begin with
@@lawrencelopez9839 agreed 💯%
Story 2: It’s not only reprehensible that OP’s husband allowed a registered sex offender to be around their children, it’s also criminal. The predatory sister has broken the most basic terms of her release and OP’s husband knows that, so he’s equally as culpable. OP most definitely needs to go scorched earth and ensure that he loses all custody of their children, only getting supervised visits in a court appointed facility. He has proven to be an unsafe person who can never again be trusted to protect their children. Those poor babies need to get assessed to ensure they weren’t groomed and/or molested by that sex offender and will need therapy.
I kinda wonder if the sister in law was gas lighting and manipulating the husband as much as he was OP. Not thats any excuse but i li da wonder if its learned behavior in the husbands family
Story 2: OH MY GOD! As a mum to a toddler I felt SICK hearing how the story ended. I did not expect that at all, I would rather my partner be cheating ☠️
Literally! You could never love a man that would do that to your kids. You KNOW the sister saw the daughter naked and touched her because she dressed her. It would be hard to not be violent with them. Now they need therapy to find out if they've been molested.
100%, I would be in jail if it were my husband and offender sister.
It would be so much better if it was cheating.
@@B.Harper7 You have to think about the kids. You can't protect them if you are in jail. Even if you unalived both of them, who would they end up with? Foster care could be just as bad. As a mom, I know it's hard but she did the right thing.
The idea of letting a known sex offender near children is so disgusting, I hope he never sees those girls again. He put them in so much danger.
I know right! I would rather find out my husband is cheating on me. Then find out he let someone like that around our children.
@@Hurt_mama absolutely I agree 💯
Surely he’d be guilty of Child Endangerment? I hope…
The first time I wish it was just cheating in that 2nd story😳
Story 2: bragging about a relationship still being in the honeymoon phase years into a marriage is a massive red flag to me. Relationships are meant to evolve, they are meant to change. The fact that it turned out that OP's husband gaslight her is utterly unsurprising. I bet if OP looks back she'll realise that the emotional manipulation goes back far further. I hope OP gets custody and her husband is left with nothing.
“There’s always earlier red flags!” -OKOP
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He wasn't bragging, OP clearly said he "jokes" about it. I wouldn't necessarily call that a red flag as there isn't an exact a time limit on the honeymoon phase. In some relationships it does last years before they move to the next stage & that doesn't automatically mean that the relationship is unhealthy or a red flag as every relationship is different & evolve differently.
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@@erikaashley5189yea I agree. My husband and I stayed in honeymoon phase for the first 4 years and then BAM! We went through some shit got better and went through more and yet again but now we’re doin so good. It does take fights and even leaving at times for months at a time to realize you love and need each other. I know for a fact that we’ll be together till one of us dies. Hopefully in the very far future. We’ve been married since 2012❤
Story 2: not only did he let a registered SO around his children, he made her believe she was going crazy. But said SO was PLANTING THE TAMPONS. She found them in the car between the seats in the back and in her sock drawer. Definitely the sister trying to make it worse.
Yeah, that’s really twisted. Wtf
I would disagree with OP being upset if the husband hadn't kept it secret and the sister hadn't been planting the tampons as some sort of mind game. Also, having just gotten out of the second stint of rehab. Keep an eye on her until she improves and shows she's better now.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v I'm sorry but I would NEVER let a registered spicy sleep offender around my damn kids and no rehab is going to supposedly reform someone like that that's just not realistic tbh and imho it's so wrong and disturbing that the husband thought that was OK in any way, shape or form!
@JeshikaDanna Fair take, but recidivism rates say otherwise to your claim. Sex crimes (please stop using childish euphemisms, for fuck's sake) have the second-lowest recidivism rates. Violent crimes have the highest, except murder, and that's with the caveat that murder tends to have decades to life in prison.
@@JeshikaDanna I agree that not everyone changes, but if the person is young, there's a good chance they will. We should encourage people to be productive members of society, not incentivize them to commit more crimes.
Story 3: "since I announced the gender they've all gone quite silent." In that moment I knew OP was having a daughter. I'm so glad she's escaped that toxic situation
same! What a completely twisted and terrible family !
I was thinking it was lucky for both OP and the baby that it's a girl. Sounds like they won't want much to do with either of them, and that's good.
Third story: although I agree the husband is being a child, OP didn't call him "only a child", but "an only child", meaning he would get the house once the parents die anyways.
As a mom, story #2, id be so mad id be worried about being the main topic of a true crime podcast, but my kids wouldnt be in that situation anymore...
For story 2; holy fuck, I wasnt expecting that twist at the end. The fact that the husband let a sex offender, regardless of gender or relationship, near his children is disgusting. I would take him to court and use the ring video to get full custody, as it would be illegal for him to facilitate the sister being around children.
Story 2 is scary bc he left those little girls with their predator aunt … dad is sick asf for that no cap
Story 2: If OP wants to keep her kids, calling police is the ONLY way to go, if she let this go, it could come back to haunt her. I hope she followed through on reporting it to police AND CPS. I also hope she pushed for supervised visitation, only, in a gov't facility. She would almost certainly get it!
2nd story HE DID WHAT??? Okay yeah that’s so much worse than I thought. Keep her away from the kids!!!! I can’t believe the husband let her near his children
It felt as though husband was acting like his sister was his wife. She slept in their bed, she bought clothes for the baby and changed her.
I wonder if the sister preyed on her brother when they were younger.
This entire thing is scary. OP needs to call the cops, take the girls and run.
I would disagree with this if the husband hadn't kept it secret and she hadn't been planting the tampons as some sort of mind game. Also, having just gotten out of the second stint of rehab. Keep an eye on her until she improves and shows she's better now.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v If hubby had been completely open about it and OP was okay with everything happening, including the SIL dressing their kids, then there wouldn't be a Reddit story because there were be no secrets and no conflict.
Yes, SIL should be watched/helped after rehab, but this was not the way to go.
If the brother was actually sorry he would've cut all ties with the ex. Time passing does not mean the issue is resolved. I personally would've just told him the only way for me to think about forgiveness is if he permanently cut ties and even then its not a guarantee.
I wholeheartedly agree. Something I can’t wrap my head around is how a 16 year old was granted custody of a 10 year old.
Story 1: I wouldn't forgive. This comes from someone who, as OP, has had to sacrifice a lot of my childhood helping raise my brothers. Op's brother broke his trust and broke his heart.
I'm actually loving the longer episodes!
Being early is great, but now I can't read the gossip in the comments 😭
I know lol, I hate it when that happens
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The gaslighting from the husband is so evil, she had all this trust in him and tried to rationalize everything. What a horrible husband
Second story; the sil in this case probably reconnected with the husband because he was an easy mark or enabler of her previous behaviors.
Either that or he just wanted to reconnect with her because she's his sister. Junkie/offender or not, family is family. However, the husband kept it secret and sis likely planted the tampons as some sort of mind game. Also, having just gotten out of the second stint of rehab. I would've kept an eye on her until she improves and shows she's better now.
Story 2 to answer Johns Question: yes most period havers have our brand TM for menstrual products. Like I only buy 1 type of pad, have for 15 years
Same here, why mess up a good thing when you know the brand works.
So the brother was jealous of OP and so slept with his gf. If i was OP, my brother would be catching hands. OP gave up everything to raise his brother rather than letting him end up in the system. If the situation had been reversed the brother would not have stepped up to raise OP because he'd be jealous.
story 3: So glad you got out!!!! Good luck to you and your daughter!!!
Me during 90% of the second story:
Hire a PI. Hire a PI. Hire a PI. HIRE A GOD DAMN PI.
44:33 if anyone else was confused af too, the post says “he’s an _only_ child” 😂 thanks for making me think so damn hard in the morning John!
Great job John on doing 2 long stories solo.
For the 1st story: I'm glad OP is doing better but his brother did this to himself. He has no obligation to rekindle their relationship and I'm not sure how you would do that after such a deep betrayal. OP should remain no contact and move on with his life. I agree while the brother does seem remorseful, getting back with the ex and then nearly marrying her showed that he doesn't really get it and will probably just hurt him further. The ex got exactly what she deserved. I do have to say, that forgiveness isn't a pass for people who wrong you. It has nothing to do with them or if they deserve it. It's all about you and how you look at the situation. Forgiveness is really about letting go of the anger and moving on. The person doesn't have to be involved, be alive or know about it. However, forgiveness doesn't mean they get off and everyone goes back to "normal". Consequences remain and people have every right to protect themselves even after forgiving someone.
For the 2nd story: First, after the 2nd tampon, I think OP had every right to install a camera. She also had every right to check his phone. Those are huge red flags. The real issue is that her husband lied, gaslit her and endangered their children. It would have been better if he was cheating since that would just be hurting their marriage. He intentionally put his kids in danger and hit it from OP. That is absolutely divorce territory. If he wanted to have some kind of relationship with his sister, fine. No kids and OP should have been told. He could have met her in planned, open meetings. Not at their house, in secret and around their kids. He even let her stay the night. WTF!!
For the last story: John is completely right, hire out help. All of them were working so they could afford a maid service and even a meal service. Hell, throw some frozen pizzas in the freezer and have those around for back up. OP should never have been burdened with all the chores, even if she worked from home. She WORKED, not stayed home. With that many able bodied people all working, the should have setup a chore list and taken turns on meals. Of course, all that went out the window after the baby fiasco. Her husband was completely unwilling to change and was actively supporting his family in taking over OPs motherhood. She did the right thing by leaving and I hope she gets protects herself from her MIL. OP is the mom which means she's in charge. What a toxic, crappy family.
I have a sister who is like my baby and I love her with all my heart but I wouldn’t forgive my sibling ever if they betrayed me to this extent. Ahh! The audacity to sent him the wedding invitation 🙄 Bro, Can’t you find someone else in the entire whole world?
Story 1: I pretty much would have done exactly what OP did and go no contact. I also probably would have been petty and told other people so they know what happened. I've personally had too many people backstab me and my trust so going nuclear is just the best option for my own mental health long term.
Hubby may have been SA victim of the sisters growing up, and it is just sickening to hear all this.
The reason the brother went back to Melissa was because he had no one else. He lost his brother, He lost his friends, and the ones that stuck around judged hm harshly. He and Melissa ended up back together because no one else wanted them.
I'm a house cleaner and I'm sure that I've saved marriages. People argue over money and chores. Let me take chores off the table for you. That's my sales pitch, it gets 'em every time.
Story 3: I think the GF, to them, is a baby maker (for the lack of a better term). They didn’t really respect her and only thought of her for her purpose which is to make a baby, preferably a male one and someone they can ask to do chores for them. There was this ytber who got involved with a foreigner, and weirdly the MIL was super hands-on with the baby, always instructing them what to do. Apparently, they are illegal baby sellers and they sell her son’s babies to rich couples who can’t conceive. She lets her son get on with white women because i think that was a preference or something. This story is giving similar vibes.
I feel like i have to say it. Was the ex grooming the brother. Because the age gape, situations, and how the affair was active in the home op own with how op was caring for brother. She giving gold digger vibes trying to dig 2 mines at once
John, how the heck did you manage to claim that OP called her husband a child when it says that he is an only child (No Siblings) 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤣
I was criticizing him through my phone screen. I don't think he could hear me though.
@@redbunny22 😂
I wish more therapists and counselors knew to make the distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation/trust because those are two completely separate things. Forgiveness is not like wages that are earned and owed, it is only given. - it cannot be earned. If forgiveness can be earned, it can be owed, and because forgiveness is never owed, it is therefore not something that can be earned.
It seems OP is confusing forgiveness with the trust it takes to extend second chances, which is a completely separate thing from forgiveness. You can forgive someone and wish them well in life without ever having to interact with them again. You don't have to let them back into your life in order to stop wishing destruction upon them. You are wishing destruction upon yourself when you wish it upon someone else; unforgiveness does not serve anyone.
You give the pain more power to hurt you when you demand a debt be paid for the pain you were caused when there is no price high enough to pay it off. It's only when you cancel the impossible, stifling debt and clear the slate that there is room for new life.
I’m so excited I’m early!!!! 🤣 First story: NTA, for sure!!! I honestly don’t think I could forgive my brother if he did that BS either. No contact is honestly the best option.
Second story: The husband’s mistress is leaving tampons in places like that on purpose for sure. Plan, pack up and think about safety if you’re going for the divorce route. Personally, if I were in her shoes, I wouldn’t say 💩 to my husband after the first question I ask. I’m say something once, afterwards if you don’t confess or whatever, I’m doing my own full investigation. While I’m investigating, you ain’t gonna know anything. I’m gathering evidence and documenting every suspicion I have. I also placing a dash cam in any cars and gonna tell you about it. For “safety”, of course. I don’t play when it comes to BS like that because not only are you putting my safety at risk but you’re also endangering my children. You will be labeled a threat until I deem otherwise and you won’t even know it.
OH HELL NO! The ending was worst than I thought! KEEP YOUR CHILDREN AWAY FROM BOTH OF THEM!!! And she put her tampon in your drawer too??? GIRL GET YOUR KIDS AND RUN!!!
Third Story: THANK GOD she saw those signs before the baby came and got out before it was entirely too late. I don’t think her husband cared about her at ALL and honestly he sounded lazy as hell. Probably wanted to stay on his mommy and daddy’s good side to inherit the house. Sounds like he didn’t even have anything properly going for himself and his family is misogynistic WHICH THATS CRAZY!!!
Story 3: Hell no to the no no no. It’s time to go!
OP did everything for his brother. Then he repays him by cheating with his GF. Melissa is gross too. There are so many things more important than the boom boom. And, she didn't even try to discuss that with OP.
How were either of them sorry if they were going to get married. Go full NC with them both. It's not petty or cruel
Definitely cruel! He already did no contact! He basically threw him away like garbage. That isn't okay. Karma will get him, though!
The husband swore on his life about the outfit on the baby, so now he must forfeit his life....Thats all.....and its his own words lol
The last story even if she moves out sounds like hubby is the exact same way
“You remember what Sam and I always say?”
Me: DI-VORCE DI-VORCE DI-VORCE!
“Are there red flags earlier?”
Me: oh.
😂😂 we say that too. Time for divorce chant merch? 🤔
@@OKOPShow I just discovered your channel and I really like it but I need to know before supporting it: Do you ever give S.A. warnings for your listeners who’ve survived those particular assaults?
1st story: younger brother made an awful, terrible mistake. broke up with the woman. tried everything to apologize etc to older brother, but wasn't able to get word to older brother. younger brother's friends all rejected younger brother. older brother cut off younger brother's access to everything.
Older brother was wronged, but there was no history of previous mistakes or cruelty from younger brother.
the woman sounded manipulative, and the younger brother sounded naive.
The older brother sounded hurt -- rightfully so -- but does not seem to see how completely younger brother's life was ruined after older brother left.
After a time, all younger brother had left was to go back to woman, and so he did.
yes, younger brother was wrong, but he never was given a chance to fix his mistake.
older brother left younger brother in the dust.
older brother now sounds insecure, but also hardened.
It sounds like he resented what he perceived as the ingratitude of the younger brother, especially as older brother says he sacrificed so much to raise him.
now, older brother seems happy to play the part of the wronged victim, for ever and ever.
Maybe older brother should think one minute about how younger brother has tried in many ways to make up for his terrible mistake, and has had no response from older brother.
older brother has failed younger brother.
older brother should tell younger brother he would like to be there for younger brother, but he cannot if younger brother got back together with woman.
older brother should also ask younger brother to go to therapy, because there is obviously some problems for younger brother not knowing how to move ahead, and not understanding destructive way woman has influenced him.
older brother continues to say how he was parent to younger brother.
now older brother should pick back up the parent role, which he, as of now, has failed at, and bring the younger brother back into the family that the younger brother was jettisoned from after the terrible mistake.
yes, older brother was wronged, but now he is ok, and he needs to grow up and be the older brother again, and stop punishing his younger brother, who was clearly not taught boundaries, and was easy to manipulate.
older brother sees that younger brother is not ok.
older brother needs to grow up now.
Story 1. There is a Mexican song about this situation. The brother and GF are so bad. Horrible. Poor op
38:53 An affair would have been less traumatic than THIS!
Yep.
Final story I’m so proud of you 👏🥰🥰
Op1 way of handling the unstable toxic younger brother is petty normal and standard. he got to the point of ending his life in a very brutal violent way! bringing him back to his new better life will cause only regret and destruction. blood connections doesn't justify abuse or an inherit right to forgiveness and unconditional love is a myth.
37:03 Gaslighting is abuse.
He’s guilty of Child Endangerment, for sure.
Sexual abuse goes from generation to generation. Hopefully, brother/husband wasn't abused like his sister.. If so, there would be a common bond (secret) that the siblings share. The brother was able to see his sister through his "inner child's eyes" While he probably wouldn't condone his children being damaged, his possible "SA" moral line may be blurred. He and his sister share a past that transcends everybody. this is messy. no doubt and op and her kids need to flee as soon as possible.
The sister knew what she was doing when she left the bread crumbs. She likely deep down wanted to get caught and has already done something to at least one of the kids. Something like this happened to me as a child. People always say kids are resilient and they bounce back. Wrong! It is a hurt burned into you forever. Get that women away from your kids. You can't trust your husband. This is so much worse than cheating. Please save your kids
Same here. I wish there’d been a trigger warning - I have severe c-PTSD so I don’t know if I should subscribe to this channel.
I’m so sorry you went through the hell of S.A., but I’m sure impressed by your strength.
She's a con artist she has him as a back up plan and he haven't notes. 😂😂😂
OMG the last story as soon as I heard they moved away from their friend's and family RED FLAG CENTRAL. Isolation is the main tactic of an abuser and I have seen this happen if it wasn't for my sister driving to visit her friend who was in a similar situation, that would be her. she was in an abusive relationship that treated her like a maid and bank account me and my sister were constantly say " you need to leave" she was so scared she finally left when he threw a beer can at her and we finally convinced her that his behaver was not ok.
Last story they've made you a whole slave. Leave this mumma's boy here and get a divorce
Nope, move out of the in-laws house. If he doesn’t see your side, divorce him.
FR.
The wife should call police get lawyer keep the proof and she needs to take the kids away from her husband for good
Hey! Love ya guys so much! I do appreciate your solo episodes but it doesn't hit the same . Y'all's banter is like 70% of the show. Hope y'all are doing okay ❤️
I’ve been waiting for the end of the tampon story for what feels like forever.
No offense to any Melissas’; just any Melissas in my lifetime have been f’d. For example, secret half sister, crazy ex-sister in law, two exes cheated on me with a Melissa. And if any Katie’s (has to be a K and nickname for Kathleen, not Catherine) come along I get nervous too lol. They just find me, man.
Very smart of the last story lady to not buy a house until she is divorced. The husband might have owned 1/2 in some states.
Absolutely!
Tv dinners, fast food etc. let them make themselves sandwiches. Never feed them. Set up a chore schedule with everyone on it….you are not the cook/maid.
Darn straight!
The last story really boiled my nerves, cause like who wants to get punched first? They’re so annoying and I would’ve moved tf out whether my husband is coming or not 🤷🏻♀️ he could be a mommy’s baby boy or come be a man 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️, and it would’ve been A LONG TIME AGO cause I’m not finna be respectful for long 🤦🏻♀️!
Last story - Who wants food from a sick person.? Not me, I don't want to get sick.
Second story gonna give me nightmares.
Same 😢
44:59 Her in-laws and her husband sound like my own mother’s. Except only half as cruel. Which is off the charts because those in-laws are absolutely horrible! Run, run, run! My mom didn’t leave & my “father” abused her to death. Yes, literally.
- Oh thank god OP ran, ran, ran away! She and her daughter will be all the better for it!
Story 3 NTA OP! Move out and go no contact with hubby and in laws!
Ooooomg the sister ones so bad. I can see talking together about meeting her when she's clean but should never be alone W the kids wtf! Does he know that's child abuse? They could get their kids taken away
The first story, oh man OP I am so sorry you sweet sweet man. You cared for your brother at the tender age of 16. Your entire life ahead of you, that must’ve been so scary to become mom and dad and to be so selfless so young..literally an angel. Your ex is an idiot who ruined a good thing with a great man. I understand you cutting ties. And honestly, your brother should’ve broke it off with Melissa regardless out of respect for you, and maybe just maybe you two could begin mending your relationship. The fact that he is marrying her,
I yt hey wouldn’t blame you for not wanting to ever speak to him again. I do think though that somewhere in there he is still that boy that you won’t secured for and loved. And he is still your brother and I hope that someday you can work things out and be a family again. There’s definitely a way to be close to him without having to see his wife. the pain from the betrayal will always be there, but it will just hurt less than less as time goes on. Obviously, it won’t be something you’ll ever be able to forget, but hopefully something that you will be able to forgive for the sake of your brotherhood. Whatever you do, you are definitely not in the wrong and are allowed to feel however you want about the situation.
Last story: wow I cannot believe that husband! Like, yeah toxic families can definitely have you under their thumb but you need to kick it into gear and be better than that for your new family 😠 It’s sounds like he became complacent just living with his parents and didn’t seem to really care about his partner. Truly sad, but good for her now that she’s out.
Agree 100% that cleaning needs to be a shared task. However, I also think we need to address that the issue of our disposable society and buying much more than we need is also a huge part of the problem. It has been cited by several sources that 40% of cleaning is due to clutter in your home. If we try to streamline our items (not saying you need to be a minimalist but just live a bit more intentionally) and stop buying so much it would save time on the cleaning. I’ve spent the last 5 years doing this and I absolutely see a difference in the amount of time it takes for me to clean. Just my personal story.
Is this a John only episode??? I kinda enjoyed it!!
Last one-she got out smart. Baby daddy is a douche bag
Lmao Melissa got cheated on. That's karma. What goes around, comes around. But if OP's brother was truly sorry, he would've had nothing to do with her, got help and therapy and maybe find someone else and be truly faithful. Poor OP. Melissa and the brother suck ass
Story 1: OP talks as if he's never made a mistake in his life. Forgiveness sets you free.
Story 1: Agree with OP. Forgiveness is a tool created by cowards who don’t want to confront the pain and damage they’ve caused people, so instead of taking accountability, they shove the responsibility of handling their guilt onto you. By saying you don’t hold it against them, it absolves them of responsibility for what they did as well as their guilt.
Story 1: how much older was Melissa than OPs brother? How old was OPs lil bro. This reaction seems very extreme for someone he loved 🤷🏿♀️
Forgiveness doesn’t mean no boundaries or even that they have to have a relationship. OP has to find a way to release all of the pain and heal or it will always be the elephant in his subconscious soul. He was good to his brother and deserves all of the good thing he has and more but I do think forgiveness is important. I personally have been hurt before MAJORLY but I had to let the pain go and heal but I don’t speak to the person anymore. But I’m not going to let pain or what some did to change me for the negative. Melissa would have never been good for OP and the brother needed to stand on his on two feet. Brother has ISSUES because being jealous of his brother was more important to him than all of the things OP had done for him to the point to cheat with OPs girl WHEW! Forgiveness is letting weight of the pain go and not retaliating with the hateful energy that was sent to you. When you do this and heal you build you’ll be whole and that person loses out unless they truly show change and deep remorse.
Story 3: I think OP meant her husband was an only child, rather than calling her husband a child 😊
2nd story: I could NEVER trust that woman around my kids, ESPECIALLY alone! And now, I could never trust my husband after all the lies and trickery to keep this "other woman" hidden. Make no mistake, she is the "other woman" even tho he wasn't sleeping with her. I'd leave him and take custody. The fact that he would put the kids in harms wablogging. ALL the while keeping the secrets from his wife and essentially making her think she's crazy is just mind biloggling. This is called crazy making. OP was recognizing anomalies and oddities, and her husband would rather make her feel insane than to tell the truth RED FLAG. RUN! NOW OP can't really know if husband cheated, if he is this willing to lie and hide things, I wouldn't doubt it.
Story 2 made me sick to my stomach
Same. Definitely needed a trigger warning.
For the first story, it is hard to say how I would respond. Growing up i helped raise my siblings, my dad had to work and my mom was not around. If my brother took my gf like that, i would be devastated. I wouldnt go to the wedding for sure.
To the story with lady with the tampons. Never confront the cheater, work in the shadows and gather as much info as you and once you have it and you know he is cheating you take it to a lawyer and take everything he has. Omg he was gaslighting her. Idc how much he says he is in love with his wife, no one makes someone else feel crazy that they love. Wow!! Just completely lying and making her feel crazy.
Honestly, I don’t think the ex or the ex in-laws in story 3 are gonna try for custody considering the baby’s a girl 😬 sad, but it seemed like they were hellbent on a boy and went quiet when they found out it would be a girl
In a way, it is a blessing in disguise that it is a baby girl *phew*
@@girlgaara9448 Right? Maybe it means they’ll give up parental rights without a fuss
@@girlgaara9448 true, and now she doesn't have to worry about that side of the family anymore her daughter can be raised around her cousins and family on her moms side... I hope they have a happy life.
I mean, sure criminals deserve a second chance but... just no.
edit:
wait what. She didn't call her husband a child, she called him an only child. You know, someone who has no siblings
Definitely just no. Absolutely not. The execution was horrifying.
(Unintentional pun)
Thank you for correcting the “only child” statement; that’s been bugging me too.
That woman’s husband wtfh doing that to her especially her children just omg
That's one thing I couldn't forgive for sure yeah I def divorce him
Story 2: Whyyyyyyy?! Was he a predator too?
That poor dude. My freakin sister got mad at me bc I was gonna get custody of her son bc she was running wild and gettin messed up.
She took off to my first baby daddy and told him and my daughter I left them for drugs and all kinda crap. She damn well knows I left because my first was extremely abusive mentally and physically. I left because I couldn’t take being beat down anymore. Yea I just so happened to do drugs a bit after I left but I never left to do drugs. That’s just lame. And I never ever left my daughter. My sister convinced her that I did. And my daughters dad is also a brainwashing Jehovah’s Witness and she’s so caught up in the crap she just dropped me on Monday actually. It’s hurtful. And I still help my sister take care of her son. She’s doing better but she’s not what I raised her to be either and it’s disappointing and honestly would I be an ass if I filed for custody of her son now? I still keep him more than she does. She just gets benefits for him and keeps him maybe 3 days a week.
Ohmyunholygod! Hell nah. They sound thoroughly evil, and I’m so sorry you’re enduring all that!
Story 1, just how old was younger brother when Melissa started to potentially “groom” little bro? Was he still a minor?
Holy smokes, didn’t think about that! Yikes…
35:50. OP needs to Divorce and get 100% custody
36:19 S.A. TRIGGER WARNING ‼️
Paying someone to clean must be nice.
The last story, the only thing that comes to mind, is the fact that there is a time that a man is supposed to separate from the parents and be joined to his wife. He never separated from the teet, and he chose his parents over his own personal family. He's TAH
Thank you for also reading the comments now! Sometimes there are informations those only revealed in the comments
OP is right. Forgiveness is overrated. People always say forgiveness is not for the person that wronged you; it’s for yourself. I think that’s bullshit.
The brother story: OP was right!!! Family comes first and he was betrayed by the brother he raised. He is so hurt that he did so much for him and still his brother broke his trust.
One reason that I'm glad I can't carry a pregnancy to term safely is that, since I could only ever have a child via surrogacy, it hopefully won't be possible to be treated like an incubator. People treat pregnant women like public property and its disgusting, but totally socially acceptable. At least a woman darling enough to lend her womb to someone in need is actually signing on, and even then there will be tons of legal protections to ensure she's treated fairly and humanly. And she'll not have to deal with people demanding she breastfeed or not, demanding what the baby will be named, and all the other ridiculous demands families wrongly feel entitled to. I just see how people go from being treated as individual human beings and then, the second they get pregnant, every crawls out of the woodworks to tell them what they can and can't do with their body, their baby, their life, as if the person actually doing the immensely difficult, painful, long process of creating and popping out a full new human shouldn't have any say in the matter.
Like, as if humans didn't already one of the longest and worst pregnancies and birthing processes of any creature, on top of it you have to deal with being permanently demoted to a useful object in most people's eyes.
That’s some good food for thought!
Story 1. 3:21 how is it a "very very, arguably" unforgivable situation?!
Its an undeniable fact that its something that cannot be forgiven, and if it is, its because the person who forgives have no self respect.
God the stress story 2 gave me