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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - Would I be the AH if I exposed my sister’s affair to her husband?
r/BestofRedditorUpdates - Is my wife flirting with her coworker?
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For everyone saying that the OP did the right thing in story 1, there was an update. It turned out the BIL has a history of being physically violent with the cheating sister, but the OP justified it because apparently (and this is a direct quote) “she disrespected him” and it was “one extreme scenario” so “It wasn’t abuse because he didn’t lay hands on her before or after”
OP knew all of this BEFORE outing her sister’s affair, meaning she knowing told a violent man something that very likely could have caused him to become even more violent towards her sister. Cheating is horrible, obviously, but hitting your partner because they said some you didn’t like is much worse imo.
She also sounds very self righteous and like someone with a saviour complex rather than someone who’s looking out for family
@@XYandZ17 yes I agree! She just wanted to prove she's much better or something. I hope the sister gets out of this toxic relationship and the toxic sister too!!
The whole “moving to his hometown” sounded so fishy! Now it makes sense. Thank you for the update!
@@a.jpurple6515 classic isolating tactics a lot of abusers take,first your friends are toxic then family then everyone sucks and im the only one who’ll ever care for you
That's a whole different twist on the bf, too, because he wanted OP to tell BIL. Either sister didn't tell bf about her husband's abusive past, or he figured he would get abusive and she would run to him for protection. It's scary how every person in that story is against abused sister. Everybody just overlooks BIL's BS
story 1: I think OP's sister should have left the relationship? like i get that she needs physical intimacy but divorce would have been better. I don't get this need for duplicity.
Well she was probably scared because her husband was saying "I don't know how I'd go on without you" he was manipulating her into staying in a horrible marriage because she didn't know what he would do to himself
I'm gonna go out on a limb and say she should also leave the relationship. But my reasons are that the sister's husband is being manipulative, controlling, and not holding up his end of the marriage on all fronts. You can't be limp and demand your wife go without any kind of physical affection for 12 years! He doesn't get to demand exclusivity if he's not even using his membership amenities. 😅 take a viagra or something and do your husbandly duties if you want her to remain your wife. Don't bogart the cookie if you're not even gonna eat it
@@alekzandrialatimer5761So instead of leaving the manipulative and dead marriage, you start an affair and become just as toxic as you have accused your husband of being lol?
The thing is if he couldn’t satisfy needs by himself, there are other options like toys and learning what she likes to still connect to her in that way, but he doesn’t seem open to that. She shouldn’t have cheated, but the husband gives hard manipulative and controlling vibes.
Updates actually included comments that the BIL has a history of violence and abusive behavior. That is likely the real reason the OP’s sister was asking her not to say anything. OP purposefully excluded that info. When there is a legitimate fear for safety, the rules on the need for honesty change a lot.
First story: Husband hasn’t touched sis in 12 years AND he’s physically abusive….I’m staying out of it. I wouldn’t risk my sister’s life. It would come out eventually. I’d be advising sis that if I caught her she was gonna get caught and she needs to be wise and make some moves before it’s pops off.
he wasn't physically abusive the OP states she is aware she made people think that but he's not
The wife is way too comfortable with the coworker. She is gaslighting him. She realizes what she is doing. He is making excuses to soothe himself a bit. Her gaslighting is working. She definitely gets it. And that's why she reacted so strong towards him
yesssss! autism isn't an excuse for shitty behavior, she knew exactly what she was doing!
I have adhd/asd and I f*cking hate when people use it as an excuse for being a pos. I always Apologize to my husband when I end up doing something rude, mean, or disrespectful, there have been days that I am just so burnt out and over stimulated that I tend to lash out at people over the stupidest sh*t. But I also Apologize for my behavior and try to help myself not do it again. Now I will send a text everyday to my family and friends saying if it's a good day or bad day and if it changes I tell them. I give them a warning so they know to let me be and deal with my issues in my own way. Communication is key. But I also am very honest about how I feel because I want people to know how they effect others and myself. It helps alot. So I also tend to not have a filter and will say stuff that most people wouldn't. I tell my husband if I have crushes or not. But he also knows I would never cheat because I never have and never will. My reputation is what means the most to me.
Yeah idk how her husband thinks her autism is so bad that the coworker is as pretty much going to take advantage of her? Like would that make Op look like a creep for having kids with someone supposedly so low functioning they can’t tell what they’re doing with their own body/tone/words
Story 1 (hot take 🔥)- OP should’ve left well enough alone. That beginning half of her saying their relationship was a model for her to look up to, is not on them, grow up! It seems she has no idea what’s going on behind closed doors, like how she didn’t know about her brother in law’s “problem”. She doesn’t know what her brother in law is saying to keep her sister with him; for example, “if you leave me I’m going to power myself off” ☠️. What’s really astounding to me is that OP’s sister literally stuck it out with him to the point of being clinically depressed and physically sick. And at the end she’s still stuck with him 😒. If she leaves then she’s the bad guy.
Before OP opened her mouth and stuck her nose where it WASN’T needed, their relationship was thriving and no one was getting hurt. Clearly brother in law wants to be with OP’s sister “he’s the jealous/ possessive type” (love how OP can admit that), but still can’t satisfy her 😑.
Not here to encourage cheating, but if he’s not letting OP’s sister to leave without a humongous amount of guilt/ him threatening himself. What is she supposed to do?? Shame how OP’s sister is the only one suffering and stuck in this predicament.
I felt bad for the wife with three kids but OPs sister is also in a terrible position. I agree we have no idea what is really going on in that relationship and clearly OP doesn’t either. Now the sister can be depressed and alone in a city where she doesn’t know anyone. That should be great for her mental health ::sarcasm::
idc even knowing he hasn't touched her in 12 years idc then leave him :)
cheaters need to stop making excuses for betrayal.
if he really wasn't touching her why stay
12 years of no physical contact from your spouse when it’s something you desire is completely miserable. I wonder if they’re religious and so then she’d be even more trapped, esp with the sister’s husband saying he doesn’t want to be alive without her. I met and started dating my husband when we we were 19 in 2001 and we are just as touchy feely (obv in appropriate levels depending on where we’re at) with each other now as we were in the first few months of dating. I would also never get involved in my siblings’ marriages to this level. That’s my sibling. But we also have never had family drama so it’s not something I’ve had to worry about in my life. I just can’t imagine telling on one of them to their spouse lol
Same! What's her business anyway! Let the sister deal with her own marriage and troubles within it.
The plan to move back to the husband’s home town makes me think he wants to isolate the wife. Wife needs to leave, the sexless marriage isn’t working for her
@@zin6730letting someone remain oblivious to this when you're aware of the situation and also know the person who is cheating is going to continue to do so behind their spouses back without remorse is messed up.
then leave him and divorce him :) idc the reason cheating is never okay
Story 1: the OP's sister is the real victim here. The husband doesn't sleep with his wife for 12 years and expects her not to cheat? Is she a nun or what? Perhaps he should have let her keep a side relationship knowing of his handicap. That's abuse to deprive someone of sex.
he is physically incapable of getting it up, they said at the very beginning that he's impotent 💀 painting this as abuse is fucking bonkers. if you need sex that badly but he is uncomfortable with her being intimate with someone else (which is a perfectly normal way to feel?) then she should've left instead of resulting to doing this behind his back because obviously their relationship wasn't going to work out. she is not a victim of anything.
I don’t think she should involve someone else outside of the marriage but I agree it’s messed up that he just doesn’t touch her sexually for years. He isn’t totally innocent in this happening after neglecting her so much. “Marital aids” exist , oral is a thing, he has hands I assume. He is being selfish being like well since my 🍆 isn’t involved nothing can happen then.
He could straight up be asexual or just not like sex on top of his medical condition. Not having sex with someone is not abuse, no one is owed sex. This is the exact excuse men used to rape their wives in the past (and it still does happen today) because they though marriage meant their wives owed them sex. What they should do is divorce because their sexual needs are incompatible.
@@dogdog1913 you can do other stuffs instead which doesn't involve penetration. But not to touch her for 12 years, thats insane!!
@@zin6730 exactly!
I think OP in the first story is also a horrible person taking up for an abusive partner and one that doesn’t have any kind of intimacy in her marriage… wonderful sister. I HOPE she is able to leave
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I have a wild story. Both my biological grandfathers had bipolar and if you don’t end up with that you end up with a lot of anxiety, depression, autism, adhd. I figured out I was autistic at 17 and it took until I was 28 to realize also adhd and just how many people in my family have it. Literally we all thought we were normal and other people were weird because so many of us have adhd and fidget when sitting and do all these things to handle it 😂 like we really out here thinking this is the default setting lmao
The husband can’t get it up is jealous and won’t let her sleep with anyone else pick a struggle dude lmao. Also her still for some reason not leaving for the other guy who’s obviously done with his wife is funny she’s holding on to a rotten corpse of relationship it’s done lady go for the other guy already. People need to learn how to let go of lost causes.
100% agree!!
It also became an emotional affair so she should have let go, you right
I also don't know if I would trust a cheater. They always blame the victim for "not forfilling needs in bed". A lot of times in these Reddit stories (from the victim part) we hear that they still have multiple times per week sex life, until the cheater starts cheating then it suddenly goes to dead bedroom.
She's paying me back in cheating. Paying me back in gum is one thing, but cheating?? 😂😂
I do feel for the sister. I couldn't imagine my husband not touching me for 12 years. But, I would leave, not cheat.
I would've told BIL also. He deserves to know
They are both in sexless marriages and refuse to divorce? That doesn't make any sense. They prefer to cheat instead of leaving, that is disturbing. let the other person go and move on with your life.
I feel like OP shouldve had sympathy for her sister especially with her unique situation. her loyalty should've been with her sister. And tried to reason with her. OP'S sister even had proof about her incompetent husband.
The cheating couple
I can't even start with this un a nice way.
They definitely need to be divorced like the dude is unstable & codependent. He needs therapy no matter what. The relationship is doomed no matter what. She should never told anyone if she wanted it to be a secret. Not the AH They deserve their peace.
Idk about S1! In many countries 6 months of no sex is a ground for immediate divorce or annulment.
Either get a divorce, have an open marriage so its not cheating or get hubs some help with his ED. Being sneky about it is just going to hurt everybody
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Story one sucks all the way around.
I feel honestly really bad for the OPs sister.
12 years without a sex life?? I hope she doesn’t stay- that sounds impossible and honestly unlivable.
It’s unfair of her husband to expect that!!
It also came out in the comments that the BIL has a history of violence and controlling behavior. Now he’s moving them far away from what little remaining support network she has…
The real problem with the second story is that he considered it OK for her to have crushes within the confines of their relationship cute or acceptable in the first place. By okaying or enabling this behaviour in the past, he pretty much set himself up for this. It seems like people just don’t understand what a healthy relationship looks like these days. That was not healthy. Should’ve been nipped in the bud at that time or they should a parted ways if he’s uncomfortable with her being into other men.
I dont think having crush is something that we can control ? Like it happened. Thats not a choice. We are not robot able of controling our emotion. Just dont go talk to the person on an other hand is something we can do.
But when i had a crush its never a choice it happen Just like that.
I am built different or have we very different definition of a crush ???😂
For me a crush is something very Light as a feeling that obviously will exist if we have to talk to other People, like Just a living that came when you connect more with somebody wich is something we also cant chose.
The only thing we can choose is to not bond with the person by staying more than necessary with them if for example we have to work with them and stay away from them. But feeling of crush is a natural instinct like when we dont like somebody Just by instinct. Sometimes it Just happened
Hard disagree, attraction is a thing that just happens. A combination of sensory inputs lights up our brains without our conscious involvement. Commitment is a choice, an action we make day to day. It's pretty liberating to be able to tell your partner if you have a crush or are attracted to someone, especially if you have similar tastes. My partner and I sound like giggling school girls sometimes talking about attractive people.
As my mom always says "I'm married, not blind." Love doesn't magically make your eyes stop working, love and commitment are actions and choices you make to center someone in your life.
I feel for the woman, because they are older folks, and poly relationships/open relationships/consensual non-monogamy are so misunderstood. They should not have to split up. They should be able to find an arrangement that works for them. When I was 29, I went through this with my life partner. But we were able to make open, honest choices, because we are young, neurodivergent, and exposed all types of relationships.
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I feel kinda bad for the sister she should divorce instead of cheat but her husband is kinda awful I mean just because he can’t get hard he just doesn’t touch her for 12 years that seems very selfish on his part
i'm sorry but that whole story seemed like she was just trying to make her cheating seem justified. saying he's selfish because he is physically incapable of having sex is outright bizzare.
@@dogdog1913that part does seem selfish to me even if you have a medical issue that makes penetration impossible it’s unfair to just ignore that your husband or wife still has needs. He could still try to fulfill his wife’s needs in other ways but instead doesn’t do anything sexual with her for 12 years that’s horrible to me. I’d feel the same way if the situation was reversed. It doesn’t give her the right to cheat that is wrong but they should be trying to fulfill each others needs to have a happy marriage. A married person needs to care about the other person and being monogamous and married it’s unfair to handle it the way either of them has. Did he try to get help for that issue medication, a device etc? Then if those things don’t help doing other bedroom activities than what’s normally the main event. Just not doing anything with her for years wasn’t being a good husband in that aspect.
There's addition in the comment section, turned out the husband was abusive and manipulative. The reason OP's sister doesn't leave him is because she tried bringing up divorce once and he threatened to off himself if she did (or something like that, kinda fuzzy since its been a while since i read the story, but she did try to leave him and that was his reaction). And he hit her too once, but that's what OP said and i don't think OP knows the extent of the physical abuse, so we only have their word to go with. But still, he hit her once and that is one time too many already.
The worst part is that OP doesn't think BIL was being abusive. OP think it was well-deserved because sister wasn't being a very good wife. And that was before they knew she was cheating.
And the aftermath of BIL knowing about the infidelity was that they moved away to his hometown, so sister is now basically completely isolated from what little support system she had.
Not condoning cheating, really, but seeing how manipulated and abused she was, i just couldn't completely blame her for turning into infidelity for fulfilment. Sister's AP is an ass tho, hands down. Should've divorced his wife first if his marriage is as good as dead. Unless he's also in the same situation as sister, then i can't completely out the whole blame on him too. But what are the odds, right?
Overall, it's just a very messy situation and if something happens to the sister, the blame wouldn't solely be on OP, but a good share of it would still be.
He might be asexual too
For Story 1: After hearing so many reddit stories, I wouldn't have gone to the parents. For all the sister knew, the parents would have covered up for the sister and then would have gotten mad at OP for ruining the sister's marriage. I think going straight to the BIL was the best move OP could have done.
You guys have to do episodes covering the updates for some of these stories you cover because story 1 is wild
Nobody is ever an asshole for exposing a cheater
Really happy the autistic lady broke it off with the coworker, especially after hearing he had flirted without hers. It would have been horrible had she ruined her marriage only to be heartbroken.
ADD as a diagnosis got absorbed into the ADHD diagnosis due to new evidence found. I'm old enough to have been diagnosed with ADD 😅
Story 1: stupid sister thinks it’s true love, but I bet she’s just the side piece. The married affair partner is probably lying about his wife being frigid (who I bet is holding the majority of the workload and is just tired). Instead of helping around the house, he just wants to put his energy into more fun.
New information: husband was abusive? And OP thought it was a good idea to tell him something that would put his sister in danger?🤦♀️ Facing up to your mistakes is one thing, but she should have been moved to her parent’s house for her safety before OP said anything. What an idiot.
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6:58 the BIL is legit abusive.
2nd story- I have such a similar issue but it’s so not flirting and my husband is literally amazing. My best friend in the world is a heterosexual man and I’m a woman. He is legally blind and can’t see anything at night and has no depth perception or peripheral vision. This means if we hang out after dusk (which we do all the time with my husband and kids) I have to hold his arm and guide him through the event and make sure he doesn’t fall/run into something. People around us (like friends and extended family) will often act weird around us and start rumors that I’m cheating on my husband with my bff. It’s super annoying but I don’t let it get to me because my husband’s is the only opinion I care about. I say this to let other people know it’s not always what it seems and sometimes you need to kinda mind your own business. I’d understand if I did anything actually inappropriate (ie passionate hugging, any kissing, etc) but that’s never happened. And if I have to hold his hand, I grab his wrist so as to avoid anything that could be misconstrued as romantic. It’s kinda sad people could ever think I’d do something so disrespectful of my husband and family, and directly in front of my husband and kids no less. Anyway, just my two cents
Sorry, I am old school. MYOB!! Mind Your Own Business! My sister had a similar situation.. One of the best marriages I know. Sister really needs to back off!!!! Family is about loyalty. Sam wouldn't get involved in his sister's affairs.
If somebody is cheating, it's not the best marriage. It's a fool and a puppeteer. Family IS about loyalty. If you have any loyalty to your family, you won't let them be a fool, or be a demon, without bugging them about it.
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Story 1: Sister should have left when she felt lonely and neglected. OP did right by alerting the sister that she knew and gave her time to come clean. If she didn't, then OP would tell BIL. It's not OP place to tell parents as she shouldn't include even more people when it should be sister to tell her husband.
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Story 1: I have seen other channels and they always said 'when someone brings up an open marriage then they either have a partner already or have someone in mind'. Meaning they were already cheating in one form or another. He should get away from her and start fresh because she won't change.
With the second story, I call bs. She was def cheating. Probably still is. These stories sound a lot like the channel SSM. He does a lot of stories like this l especially when someone brings up an open marriage. I suggest people check it out when you are in this situation.
My friend’s brother & SIL hasn’t consumated their marriage for 7 years now. They met through blind date set up by friends & decided to get married… I’ll never understand why married when you want to act single. They’re just roomates at this point
story 1: if you have to meddle.. why don't you confront the husband and ask him to go to a partnership therapy. At least there you could have had a therapist at the site who accompanied both and offer helpful advice
oh and they are not in love. they are codependent
The music sounds like Final Fantasy
Me playing FFXIV and being confused af when I heard the FFVII music start playing.
It’s wild to see people in these comments think that just because someone is married means they are owed sex. The husband in the first story could just not like sex on top of his medical condition and that’s okay. I do think that they should get divorced because they are not compatible but calling him “selfish” and “abusive” for not having sex is wrong and we need to stop perpetuating that idea. The idea that in marriage partners are owned sex is what causes SA in many many cases and we need to stop thinking like this. If two partners are incompatible sexually and it’s a big issue in the relationship then they need to separate, the solution is not just “sucking it up and doing it anyway” like some commenters here are implying.
Honestly, cheating is cheating and it is bad. But there is a reson why they didn't just go their separate way (im copypasting this from my prev reply):
There's addition in the comment section, turned out the husband was abusive and manipulative. The reason OP's sister doesn't leave him is because she tried bringing up divorce once and he threatened to off himself if she did (or something like that, kinda fuzzy since its been a while since i read the story, but she did try to leave him and that was his reaction). And he hit her too once, but that's what OP said and i don't think OP knows the extent of the physical abuse, so we only have their word to go with. But still, he hit her once and that is one time too many already.
The worst part is that OP doesn't think BIL was being abusive. OP think it was well-deserved because sister wasn't being a very good wife. And that was before they knew she was cheating (or maybe even before she was cheating).
And the aftermath of BIL knowing about the infidelity was that they moved away to his hometown, so sister is now basically completely isolated from what little support system she had.
Not condoning cheating, really, but seeing how manipulated and abused she was, i just couldn't completely blame her for turning into infidelity for fulfilment. Sister's AP is an ass tho, hands down. Should've divorced his wife first if his marriage is as good as dead. Unless he's also in the same situation as sister, then i can't completely put the whole blame on him too. But what are the odds?
Overall, it's just a very messy situation and if something happens to the sister, the blame wouldn't solely be on OP, but a good share of it would still be.
@@oneregretzz if that's the case then yes he was abusive. However, my comment was mainly towards the people who thought that because they were married he owed her sex, and not wanting sex was abusive and selfish. Which is a very problematic mindest as no one is owed sex and people thinking they are often leads to SA
And witholding sex from your partner in a marriage _could_ be a form of abuse. Hear me out first, i promise it's not the typical misogynistic bull about entitlement to sex.
No sex itself isn't inherently abusive, but it usually part of the abuse in an already abusive relationship.
Like if it is meant to be a form of punishment, this is usually precedented with other toxic dynamic as well. A wife witholding it from her husband not because she doesn't want to but because she feels he isn't giving her the kind of lavish life she wants (i think there was a reddit post like this), or husband wotholding it from wife because he feels she's not pulling her weight with the chores around the house despite never lifting a finger to help or even tells her how he wants the chores to be specifically done.
If the party witholding sex because of any reason never even try communication on how to tackle the issue. Therapy, sexual aids, trying non-penetrative sex. If they deprive their partner intimacy with the sole reason being "we're married/in realtionship so if i can't have sexual gratification, so can't you no matter what, not even with toys."
If the other party unknowingly get into a sexless relationship when for them sex is also part of the joy of having that relationship. Because this is something that has to be communicated. No relationship is going to last if the parties involved all want different things from being in one but have no room for compromise.
These are all very different with someone forcing their partner to have sex because they feel entitled to it, because no, no one is entitled to sex even with marriage, but they all are entitled to have the informed choice to not want to get in that relationship if sex is an important facet of relationship to them.
grl plz!!!! The sister should’ve minded her own business! idc if she was cheating that’s your sister and her marriage is none of your business. if something were to happen to her sister then she would’ve wished she shut her mouth. ppl have marital problems and ppl from the outside should never get involved
how could you want someone to stay in a marriage with you and you don’t touch them for 12yrs. The sister definitely overstepped and i can’t believe ppl think it was ok to make their marriage her business!!! BFFR
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ADHD-Hyperactive
ADHD-Inattentive
ADHD-Combined
This classification change is recognizing that the disorder has the same root cause, regardless of if someone presents are more one type or the other. This makes sense because many adhd children with hyperactive behaviors learn to manage their hyperactivity as they become adults. Their disorder hasn’t changed, their ability to manage it has and that then changes the presentation. Further, women are often subjected to societal pressures that make them particularly quick to learn to control adhd hyperactive behaviors, because girls being disruptive, bossy, loud, or anything beyond quiet and meek is demonized in our society.
Honestly if you’re gonna cheat just leave . The marriage doesn’t seem happy or anything like that
13:58 if you wanna get really technical, it isn't called ADD anymore. It is just called ADHD now.
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10:25 That wouldn't have mattered anyway. What would be the point in telling the parents even if it was a thought in the mind to do so as if they thought that their words would be different than their sibling. She would probably still have the same thought process that she told to her sibling. Even if they threatened to tell him themselves which would have been the same situation that the original poster put her in and she refused so they would have told him themselves the same that original poster did. There really wouldn't be a difference
Sam I've been waiting for weeks for the tea! Wow that wasnt what I expecting. Also thats fucked up, so sorry sam.
First story: Yes she should have left her husband and it wasn't right how she went about it. She obviously wanted her cake and eat it too. That being said, 2 people that are married and haven't had a physical relationship in years and years are not romantic partners. They are friends, not lovers. I don't see how moving away is the solution. The husband still thinks she should just accept not being able to have sex for the rest of her life. They should go their separate ways.
Story1: Nah, she was having more than just a physical affair. It was emotional too and that tells me that she should have just left. Should have left sooner or seen a therapist idk
I don’t think I agree that one’s personal closeness to someone being cheated on should impact whether or not you tell them what’s going on. If it’s 100% certain that cheating IS happening (and having proof is helpful), that person’s feelings matter and they should be entitled to know what’s going on. I always really respect stories where someone goes out of their way to tell a stranger the truth
the amount of people saying cheating is okay when she could have just left her impotent husband for someone new :)
sorry cheating will never be justified idc if he's impotent betrayal isn't the answer
If he’s not sleeping with his wife and fulfilling her needs they should discuss that but if he’s still refusing than she’s obviously going to cheat he’s also refusing an open marriage which i respect I don’t think they should exist in the first place but just end this relationship because both parties are happy only because of the unknown affair so be honest with the husband
OP's sis in first story ABSOLUTELY owed it to her husband to speak and LEAVE after the hudband said no to having a sexually open marriage.
Asexual people exist & her hubby could have found one by now if she was just honest and he didn't like it.
I think affair partner and OP are right for wanting the truth out.
& who the hell gives their affair partner a ring?? Or keeps one from their affair partner?? So GROSS
Final fantasy 7 themes in the video and I honestly don’t hate it
We're a neurodivergent couple? Who talks like that?
This sounded really sus and I still think it is, but I'm glad they're getting therapy. This relationship has a ton of issues
That whole thing sounded weird and sus, somethings wrong about the whole thing I can taste it
ADD is not an official diagnosis anymore
12 years & bil didn't want to sort out his (ED) what in the world. The Blue Pil viagra or there are treatments to help, so he kind of brought it on his self if that's true. And for him to take her back is wrong as deep down she will never respect him as she cheated, betrayed him.
No male with a libido will just not sexually interact with his wife because of ED. Dude's clearly asexual
Idk the first story makes me feel like op was wrong. I could even see saying she wasn't cheating because she had no physical relationship with her husband. Op should mind her own business
About 1st story is so weird how they cheat because "I love him", she knew he didnt want her doing that, if it was that important for her she should have been honest and upfront that is something she needs and then try an amicable break up, you dont need to be married to someone to "love" them
The husband implied self harm if she left him
She didn’t have to be there either way but her feelings for him plus that definitely played a part in her sticking around
@@FirstLast-lw5wh im sorry but I do think that if you say "I will unalive myself if you stop being with me" thats another reason not to stay, many things happen in life so if you say you will do that you either need therapy to solve it or you are manipulating af
@@spinasoul why can’t it be both?
obviously to us outside of the relationship that’s a concerning red flag
But unfortunately for her within the relationship I understand feelings complicate things
OP’s sister also justified her husband slapping her out of anger so I don’t know if those flags are gonna have a color through rose tinted lenses
@@spinasoul I’ve also been unfortunate enough to have 2 different partners threaten to harm themselves before
It really does fvck with you especially if it isn’t just a baseless threat and they’re actually willing to execute
@@FirstLast-lw5wh well we could speculate about it the whole day and we still wouldnt know anything right? I still think only a fool would cheat while still claiming to "love", you know it would hurt the other person to know so thats only because of their own pleasure instead of because they loved their partner, thats my only take on it tbh
I think Op did the right thing.. I would not be able to live with myself knowing that type of information and not saying anything. Long story short I had a friend that was hooking up with a married man and had two other guys on the side. I stopped hanging out with her because of it.....
Ummmm my sister is in a sexless marriage and cheating she needs to leave him and I’m encouraging her to leave cause now u stuck in a town with no physical interaction with his family I’m not tell shat though she will
My marriage is the same way, and I think people should mind their own business. As a woman were still sacrificing our life for his impotence. I think you should stay out of grown folks marriage because of your own feelings. No one will ever tell you whats going on completely in their marriage. 15yrs here. Got married at 19 to someone 11 yrs my senior so i know alot about this subject. All the depression it puts on a woman as well as lifes gifts you'll never see causing lack of purpose as a women is devastating and hurts.
What the crap is a “milkworm husband” though? 🤣🤣🤣
…Pretty sure the word is “milquetoast” 😉
Definition from Oxford Languages:
Milquetoast
milque·toast
/ˈmilkˌtōst/
noun
a timid or feeble person.
The word is just as cringe as what it defines 😂