Ask Us ANYTHING- Improving Communication and Conflict Resolution
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
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00:00 Communication, conflict and boundaries
01:00 Setting boundaries
02:45 Thrive summit
05:00 Setting boundaries can be healthy
07:44 Communicating negative feelings
09:52 Facing criticism
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I really appreciate the commentary about loving someone who doesn't understand my boundaries.
I tend to set a lot of boundaries can’t help but think the reason for it is because I don’t trust anyone I’m around and my spaces have always been invaded and my feelings are never taken in consideration , I set boundaries to feel safe even though biggest part of the time I don’t feel safe I’m treated like I’m the arrogant one or the ignorant one or a special snowflake and that’s not the case , people go by there first judgements of me and that’s on them , the only advice I have is to stick to your guns because you know you better than anyone , and don’t be afraid to let certain people in , sorry if this comes across as weird , I get told i’m weird a lot 😅
How to self-soothe during conflict?
How do I know if I am just calming because of soothing or shoving it all down?
How to avoid exploding when the feels bucket tips over?
Healthy ways do deal with the overwhelming urge to explode? Does it mean I have anger issues if I struggle with this?
Thank you!
I really struggled with boundaries. This is really helpful. Thank you❤
You're so welcome!
This reminds me of Luke and Lorelai during season 5 of Gilmore Girls when Luke tells Lorelai he needs space instead of communicating with her.
I am so happy you guys keep going with your content, even through the seperation, it's great to listen to you two. If it doesn't work for you two, I would of course understand too, though. But I am grateful for the content that you guys still make
Boundaries only work if you have some power. It doesn’t work with people stuck like teenagers with abusive parents. With friends though you can set boundaries and if they try to harm you in any way they weren’t meant to be friends.
Thank you for this video
Being assertive when setting boundaries is my go-to. “I hear what you are saying. What I need from you right now is ____.” If the other party cares, they will respect that boundary willingly and consciously.
Example piece: you’re doing homework and your friend wants to text you a lot. You can say “I hear that you are going through a lot right now. I’m going to have to ask that you keep the text messages to a minimum. I’ll respond as soon as I can, I just really need to focus on my schoolwork because a big test is coming up.” Wasn’t mean, rude nor harsh. Just expressing needs in a healthy way.
Great example! Assertive boundary setting is also my go-to, although, over the years, I’ve learned to also add a touch more sympathy and/or empathy so I don’t come off as cold or callous. Piggybacking off your example, I’d likely say something like “It sounds like you’re having a hard time right now and I’m so sorry to hear that. I’ve definitely been there! At the moment, I’m busy handling xyz; that said, I’d love to pick this convo back up at a later time/date that works for us both.” Setting my boundary but also letting them know I still care. ♥️
@@bxrosie04 Great start! Also I would recommend replace the word “sorry” with “sad”. Indicating that you are sorry someone went through something is a subliminal indication of sympathy, and in order to express empathy, use your feelings to relate to the person. Not that sympathy is inherently wrong, it is just often met with “you didn’t do it why are you apologizing”.
Could you pretty please make another Bluey episode? 🥺
"People are gonna people" 😂 I love this one!
So I was selected for a staff position at a university. The department chair and the professors were very supportive and respected my skills and background. But I got a lot of "criticism" and the cold shoulder from many of my peers. It turns out I was selected over another person they knew and who they felt should have have been hired instead. They never supported me. Fortunately, my work was primarily with the faculty.
Hey great video, I currently have struggled with feeling very overwhelmed at my current job at a local coffee shop where I feel like the "correction" am given is at many times "valid" but other times if comes of as nubulous/nitpicky or even micromanagey. I'm new to being a barista but some of the work dynamic I don't feel like as set me up for success or maybe the expectations/assumption put on me seem to be a bit unrealistic. I feel like I am open to correction, and learning but I also don't always feel like my co-workers are as emotional mature to communicate understanding or grace to me when I do make a mistake or do something that they don't seem to like. Sometimes it's more of a "coffee-shop" standard thing but others it just feels like it happens consistently enough to where I just feel like I can't really do anything right? What are you thoughts on that kind of situation? I've had a lot of stress, not just from work, but from outside of it (just in life in general) and it creeps in both ways. I can't find any true rest for my emotions, body etc. My work "performance" feels as such - a performance that feels like it is either mediocre or not good enough. At least that is vibe I get. I don't know if that is actually how they feel about me as a person but the question really boils down to: How do I stand up for myself when I feel like I am being wrongfully micromanged/made assumptions etc. in the workplace? How do let some comments "just slide off" and not worry about them and take them for what they are without being discouraged? and what are your thoughts don't this: Is there a time and place to recognize that maybe this specific job and dynamic is not the right fit for me and that is okay.....and I can find something else more sustainable elsewhere? Becuase sometimes it doesn't feel sustainable - financially, emotionally, physically, and practically,
1:59 what was 1?🤔
How do you get rid of your own contempt and disrespect for your partner?