Men shouldn’t wear name brands, “luxury” brands like Gucci, blah blah y’all know are not real “luxury” you’re paying for brand names not brand material go by something 100% wool, 100% silk and see the difference in quality.
1. Sizing Proportions are off with your clothing 2. Over Accessorizing (Too Busy) 3. Not Keeping Up with Grooming Habits 4. Wearing Too Much Fragrance 5. Excessive Logos 6.Too Many Trendy Items (Quality vs Quantity) 7. Bright or Bad Color Combos 8. Wrinkles/Creases in Clothing 9. Leaving Little To Be Desired (ex. Wearing open button-ups nowhere near a beach/pool)
This... and the covering up is even worse cause you get announced pretty well but it just gets worse when you get into visual range. "Oh flowers!!! ... For a dead body?" 😅
Different colognes out there tho have very different projection and u need more to even last a few hours or be able smell it. It all smells good right away, but the cologne designers do it this way for money, as you use more and have to eventually buy more sooner. Most designer or niche fragrances do this. Can’t make this point enough, so her point isn’t valid
Awful lot of people out there, both men and women, don't understand this simple simple concept and instead you can SMELL one of them has entered the building before you can even see them.
Grooming habits is a big one. Not only does this make you look well put together, it communicates to others that you make the time to take care of your features.
There’s a balance to that, I often see that mindset with men who are already married or in a LTR so it’s easy to say if you’re not in the brutal dating pool, which of course you don’t want to “lead with money” but at the same time, you probably might want to quietly signal you’re financially comfortable somehow, right? 🤨
Never underestimate the power of an excellent and experienced tailor or seamstress! With clothing, even a cheap suit that fits perfectly will outshine an expensive suit in need of alterations.
Fake tan (possibly taking carotene) over age 45, under 5' 8", earrings, full sleeve tattoo, overpowering after shave, shaved head to hide the balding, just a hint of desperation and a beer gut. It is almost a classic look in my town. 😉
Amen bro, although I gave up the cargos for Dickies shorts. The canvas material really holds up. I can cycle the same 3 pairs of dickies shorts for 5 years before replacing them. Most cargo shorts i get tear up or disintegrate in less than a year. If you know a durable brand of cargo shorts, let a brother know!
@@OriginalTodzilla Oh yeah Dickies are great. I got a couple of black ones with the extra knee area pockets but aren't pouches for work and some shorts, they are made well. Cheaper stuff doesn't hold up like it does.
As a recently turned 50yr old guy I find wearing a plain black fitted v neck t-shirt, black jeans, classic converse chucks boots and a nice watch, works for me. And a black bomber jacket. Keeping it simple 😁
I laughed out loud when you mentioned guys wearing too much fragrance in high school. Guys apparently don’t change. In the late 1960’s, my high school was awash in guys wearing waaaay to much English Leather, Jade East, and British Sterling.
male perspective "less put together" vs. "cheap" -- opposites "attention to detail and style" -- signaling effeminacy? "accessory": "watch" -- big yes, especially if it can program the car and house, feed the dog on schedule, and alert you to spycams and radar. "bracelets", "tie", "rings" -- extrinsically needy grooming habits: "bathing" -- proactive problem solver "cutting hair every for weeks" "nail symmetry" -- soft "skin care routine" "fragrance" -- dysphoria "logos" -- name dropping to cover low self esteem "trendy" -- who cares? "wrinkles/creases" -- spends time on what's important "armpit stains" -- medical condition "other stains" -- no insecurities "immodesty" -- narcissist trying to distract you from other, massive insecurities
I appreciate enthusiasm for increasing men's awareness, Courtney. Your work is nothing short of masterful! Women, in my opinion, usually take the lead when it comes to elegance. Happier lives and experiences are the result of satisfying connections. Men will connect more effectively, dating or not, when their consciousness is raised. Your videos promote recovery, self-assurance, and wellness. Bravo!
Speaking of fragrance.... I read a story of a woman who liked a certain men's colonge and decided that if she wore it, she would attract a man who liked it. It didn't work, but she noticed that women in elevators stood closer to her.
Funny. In any case, listen to the advice of women what cologne you should wear - it's usually golden advice that they will give you. You need to find the one that fits -you-, and women are usually very honest about it and won't give you bad advice.
Why do men in the comments go out of their way to say they get women but don't care about their own clothing? I get a feeling that they actually DO care and won't admit it because they're too insecure.
I really like what you mentioned about the proper fitting of clothes, because that's a secret way men can save money while maintaining a sharp look. I have a friend who mastered this in college. He'd go to the thrift stores and buy clothes that fit him well for prices as low as $3 per shirt and $10 for pants. We used to laugh because we had a mutual friend who believed he had to wear the newest, most expensive designer clothes to attract women, and his budget consisted of $50 shirts and $100 pants. There really is a way to "ball on a budget" if you know where to look and what you're looking for. Also, funny psychological sidenote, the thrift store friend became an accountant while the expensive friend became a dentist. Both good people, but I can't help but see a connotation in their professions versus amounts of money spent.
Guys, just groom, smell good, wear something that fits, and work out. You don't need to do anything else. You don't need to blow a bag to make most of these ladies like you. They're not worth it. However, clean up and make yourself presentable for yourself and your work. The ladies will follow you when you're doing your mission
@@GW_01 It's not. Guys understand exactly what I mean. Are they working out? No. Are they smelling like they showered every day? No. Are they shaving their junks? No.
While it is incredibly important to look good, one should always know how to responsibly invest in their appearance. Plus, the item is only good if one feels confident when rocking it.
Unless you are very fashion forward (and in that environment, probably, or smth artsy) or flamboyant, when it comes to colors it's usually better to stick with the earthy, solid and less flashy. They are more masculine and elegant, IMO. Browns, blues, greys, dark greens, black. Maybe some dark red (I love burgundy and wine). I know I have trouble steering away from all things blue.
I’m not cheap, or broke, but I wear some of these and I get women and never had a problem with that. Attitude and personality is by far a bigger thing women look for and care about
….tell the world that you didn’t watch the video without saying you didn’t watch the video….. do you pull models in your 2 decade old cargo shorts and DMB graphic faded tees? Lolololols sure you do buddy… someone’s gotta keep the uggos company…..
I agree with the watch. I swap from my apple watch to my classic wrist watch when I am going somewhere nicer. while my apple watch cost 2x what my other watch does I like the look.
Before you start critiqing men or anyone else take a moment to reflect on yourself. I dare say you've got a lot of work to do personally regarding style.....fashion......hair and makeup. Have a nice day.
Black and white with a touch of brown here and there, maybe some olive green. That's it. You can't go wrong. Awesome content! You look cute and healthy!
Absolutely true… if it doesn’t fit you properly, it’s NOT going to look nice. When I was a teenager, I was guilty of this but I’ve learned my lesson lol
It's amazing how many guys check the boxes on multiple points at once. It's also amazing how many women let their man look like trash while they're squared away.
No matter where I go, men look slovenly, including even in church. I dress in a rather casual style, nothing expensive nor exceptional, and I get compliments, not because I look elegant, but simply because I avoid looking shabby. It is a sad state of affairs in our society.
00:05🤖 Courtney Ryan discusses aspects that can make men look less put together or cheap. 00:30🛡 Proper fit is crucial for a polished appearance; ill-fitting clothes can undermine any outfit's quality. 02:45💼 Avoid over-accessorizing; opt for a few well-placed accessories to maintain a minimalist and sophisticated look. 04:15🛠 Neglecting grooming habits can make you appear unkempt; maintain regular grooming for a polished appearance. 06:36🚫 Using too much fragrance can be overpowering and reminiscent of adolescence; moderation is key. 07:37💎 Excessive logos can appear flashy and detract from a refined appearance; opt for subtle branding instead. 08:58👔 Prioritize classic pieces over trendy ones for a timeless wardrobe that withstands fashion cycles. 10:57🎨 Be mindful of color combinations to avoid garish or mismatched outfits; understanding color theory helps. 12:40👕 Wrinkles and creases can make even expensive garments look cheap; invest in proper garment care. 13:36🙈 Avoid outfits that leave little to be desired; maintain modesty and class in your attire and behavior.
I think fragrance and hygiene you mentioned is very important in my opinion. Bonus added on is your body type body structure. If you take care of your body, your body will pick the right suit that suited you perfectly makes you look expensive.
Dressing well doesn’t have to be expensive! The majority of my clothes are Falls Creek brand from Meijer. FC plain tees are my favorite shirt. Their no tuck button ups and chinos are great as well. I will spend more on shoes and dress shirts. Florsheim oxfords are very comfortable and look good, and Van Heusen dress shirts always wear and launder well.
I use a toilette which has a higher oil to alcohol ratio so it lasts longer than cologne. Just one spray to the chest after a shower is plenty, trust me.
I'm just not a cologne person and just avoid wearing them because strong fragrances give me headaches same goes for perfume on women. Heck I tend to even avoid clothing stores due to the strong smells so it ends up being several battles whenever I go to malls and such.
Good advice. Throughout my years, I have definitely witnessed firsthand the difference. I usually just wear all black everything: cargo/straight trousers, hoodie/jacket, footwear. But, whenever I wear a slimfit white shirt, skinny black tie, trousers and comfortable wallaby type shoes, even women who work in the city doubletake sometimes. Especially if I have my hair canrowed at the time. Personally, I like to dress comfortable and skinny/slim fits just don't do it for me. I ask my brothers all the time how and why they want to wiggle and shake into their jeans lol. Open/cuffed cargos of dark colours, brightest I'd go is cream. White tees galore and tees with designs, usually anime or a comic book character or movie reference as they always tend to be a ice-breaker for me through the years, and a fresh pair of simple but not over-expensive trainers(sneakers).
You're supposed to get the girl first and then let her play Ken doll on you. Most men have a very utilitarian attitude towards clothing. Function over form. If she wants the product bad enough, she's not gonna worry too much about the packaging.
Overall, I love your video. It was packed with much good info, when we are at this level. Though, we have to remember that much of this is what we see on the outside of the man. Men have to know how to work on their life priority frame. This is a concept few understand. These life priorities are in the following order: mind, body, natural responsibilities (children, pets, etc.), home (with devices and utilities prioritized inside), media, work priorities, and friend/leisure priorities. Now, imagine a sliding frame. When it contracts, it drops down from friend/leisure priorities to mind priorities (mental health priorities). As we take care of our mind, body, natural responsibilities, and home (making sure we are completely filling them in), we can expand our life priority frame further to media, work, and finally to friend/leisure priorities. When we go on dates, it's supposed to be at the friend/leisure priority level in life. At that level, we can find men (or women) that have the perfect fitting clothes, accessorizes really well, and groom beautifully while having the right amount of fragrance, no visible logos, no wrinkles, and no bright colors. With all that going on, they can be a hot mess on all those other life priorities before the friend/leisure priority level, the one they have down pat and look good. Some people make fun of others who say "It's what's on the inside that matters", but it really does matter, a lot! Those with deficiencies in taking care of their life priorities will be prone to problems in life, and it makes them prone to dragging the rest of us into the holes in their life. I would love to hear you talk more about what you find on this subject, but I think your audience could only probably handle a sprinkle of this subject over time. In other words, even though I think this is such an important subject, I don't want to do anything that could contribute to you losing your audience... You help too many people out there to lose you! Peace Courtney!
You don't know how many times I've been to a classy restaurant and many guys dress business casual with dirty running shoes and ill fitting outfits.I mean seriously???
I will say, despite my below comment, I do most of the things you suggest here. I wasn't doing it before I met my wife, but she whipped me into shape. And... she's not a gold digger. She saw my potential and brought it out.😂
You're amazeballs. I used to buy Men's Health for style tips and guidance 20 years ago. You are the better, honest, genuine replacement for that need. Thanks for your vids Courtney, you are a real pro and a fun watch ;-)
Yeah I agree with little to no logos or words on shirts. Especially those shirts that say things like Just Walk Away. Never Underestimate a Man Born in September That Has A Short Fuse and Is a Father
I actively pursue being/looking cheap. Not only does it save me lots of money but it keeps women from considering any kind of attraction towards me whatsoever. I quite enjoy the invisibility.
Important things: 0:29 First Thing ÷ Proportions Are Off; 2:43 Second Thing ÷ Over Accessorizing; 4:14 Third Thing ÷ Not Keeping Up With Grooming Habits; 6:35 Fourth Thing ÷ Too Much Fragrance; 7:34 Fifth Thing ÷ Excessive Logos; 8:57 Sixth Thin ÷ Trend Takeover; 10:56 Seventh Thing ÷ Bright Or Bad Color Combinations; 12:38 Eight Thing ÷ Wrinkles And Creases: 13:32 Ninth Thing ÷ Leaving Little To be Desired; and 15:17 to summarize all the told here. I suggest that you should make a video of behavior and different things that men come across cheap, and my suggest that you should make a video of behavior and different things that women come across cheap as well Courtney. Among the all the told here, I might add things what is also looking cheap as well. And can apply to men, and women as well. That is Tenth Thing ÷ Behaving Very Poorly (like showing that they are the center of the world, or some other inappropriate way of behaving's in society, etc.). I totally agree that watching trends can be so hard, and annoying, cause it, very hard to follow them. And I can say that the Trend Takeover can also apply not just to clothes, but it can also be applied to hair, and bear styles (and to be honest, I don't like to see them like copy - paste). That can apply to either men, and women as well (like it or not). Also combination of clothes (in the case of not putting the right colors); putting too much things such as rings, necklaces, etc. can be applied to men and women. I always remembered one thing that my mom told me a thing when I was a little child. She told me this: "Son, don't dress up yourself to look like a parrot." I think what have you told here Courtney, that can also be applied to women as well. I also don't understand putting too much fragrances (and that are doing, either men, and women as well). I understand that we have to smell nice (and certainly not to stink), but don't overdo it with fragrance. I remember that I have seen once a quote that goes like (you can correct me if I'm wrong): "The best perfume (or fragrance, call it whatever you want) smell is the smell of a clean face." Thank you so much Courtney ❤💙🤍.
In high school, I was taking a trip with the family and my grandma and right before we left, I went to put cologne on and the bottle top came off and I spilled it all over my hands and shirt. I tried washing it off the best I could but we were leaving. About 10 mins into the car ride, the family was silently getting uncomfortable and agitated from the smell and from the backseat my grandma goes, "He's really trying to attract the mosquitos isnt he?". LOL.
I'm 73 and agree with you in just about every category. How about the gym? An incredible array of style, color and functionality. Give it a go! I can help!
Remember fellas, only 1 man in 1000 is a leader of men. The other 999 follow women. That said this is a good woman to follow. Here’s what makes a guy look cheap: Sandals Trucker hats Head to toe in a luxury brand Dirty sneakers Tires with a missing hubcap Fake watches Unkempt beards. (Well taken care of beards just look good and prosperous)
If you're trying to "get by" on cheaper denim for a season [before you get back into shape] and that pair of jeans comes with the "free" belt? Ditch the free belt BECAUSE everyone knows what kinda jeans the free belts come with. Replace the belt with a better looking Grosgrain belt (for preppy summer wear), or one of your better leather belts.
Please keep in mind that many people are highly allergic to fragrances. That goes for both men and women's perfume, body sprays, bathroom sprays, candles ect.
Color is important: I invented the CyMK screen which does not emit on Blue, - which is believed to disturb sleep -. It is used in industrial printingl, but I never saw it on homr-printers. Time to give it a shot....
My brothers of all races please stop letting these women tell you what to wear you are a grown man sir unless she understands your style language don’t listen to her
Men #3 cont'd...ear hair and nose hair; got to keep them under control. A $10 micro trimmer from a dollar store is the go-to. Additionally, keeping the neckline clean in between haircuts. If you know a lady, I am sure she will help. No one in interested in a chia pet with hair coming out of every orifice.
Most of the people don’t have much money but I don’t think they intentionally look cheap! Maybe they were raised by people with bad or dirty habits or had bad taste or saw beauty in a different way to you or were brought up in a different culture than yours or have different tastes but to treat someone who looks cheap is a strong statement specially without knowing a bit more about him to know why he is like he is! Thank you for the space!
I've worn nice clothes, fitted clothes, understated accessories, been in shape etc. I finally got comfortable in loose work pants, t shirts, dad sneakers or broken in work boots. If you don't like the blue collar look, it's in both of our interests for you to not be attracted.
Youre 100% correct on quality over quantity, clean and organized is where its at. Ponce-y brand logo shirts (et al) are ultra cringe-y and are IMO the epitome of tacky and needlessly and immediately make one look pretentious and materialistic, theres no real style there just posturing that falls flat. I bought a pair of Trickers Stow brogue boots, there are brands for a fraction of the price with an identical look but Trickers will and do last a lifetime, a sweatshop boot will not...Ive had a pair of Danner boots, not exactly inexpensive but they are still in tip top shape after 30 years. Words to live by that have never steered me wrong: Spend the money once on quality or you'll spend repeatedly on trash. Keep it classy gents.
The bit about logos is very true. I'll add that you shouldn't be someone else's billboard. They're not paying you to be a walking ad, so why look like one?
Hey Courtney, I was lucky enough to get some brooks brother's and Ralph lauren custom tailored shirts w, / the neck and shoulders tailored perfectly like they were made for me. Love ❤️ the ladies from the lakeshore in the ritzy part of town.
Meathead uniform: Below-the-knee cargo shorts, over-sized t-shirt (with gut touching the shirt before your chest), bad sandals, buzz cut hair, unmanaged goatee.
In my place, the talors aren't what they used to be. All they do is (often poor job) of fixing clothes, or make the larger ones smaller. They just dont make custom clothes anymore for some reason. You see some cool outfit online, but its not available at the stores, so you're "stuck" with whatever the store has at ofter overbloated price but with not so great quality. By the way cargo pants/shorts are awesome. It has the same function as your handbags (often a luggage size), that you ladies wear. As for watches it all depends. I own several, originals one of which is quite expensive piece, but I wouldn't wear that particular watch everyday, but some of the less expensive ones. You just need to be careful not to get scammed with cheap copies that are priced as originals. I also enjoy pocket watches, they have that unique thing about them, but of course its not something that should be worn while jogging for example.
Hey Courtney, great video classy and elegant never goes out of style, can you make videos like this for women I think it will be helpful for younger women who want to elevate the way they present themselves.
Hi Courtney! Can you do a video on men's dress and evening shoes? I'm looking to buy some formal black dress shoes to go with a suit but also some less formal "evening casual" shoes (brown, black, etc.) that would be great for an evening date or night out on the town. Something more elegant than sneakers but not super black-tie formal. A lot of this is personal taste, but I don't want to look too dated. I prefer laces and good traction/soles on my dress shoes for safety reasons tbh, and I don't like the casual loafers and bows on churchy dress shoes that Baby Boomers wear, so I'll avoid those. Thank you!
I appreciate the advice and it definitely makes sense. BUT... What is funny is I recently "dated" a woman who (for a first) actually complained about some of my choices in clothing...where she spent way too much time in mens unerwear and an old beat up t-shirt. I found it ironic. With that said, I don't think she was a "healthy" woman anyway. I've always had a certain "style" and have always had women compliment that, but the "modern" dating world is getting a little out of hand on expectations...when some of this really boils down to another game or excuse. Good luck out there fellas...........
Thank you. I would like to see a video on “how not to come off as being cheep”. I am frugal (another word for cheep😬) some would say that I am cheep. I would enjoy seeing your take on the subject. Thx and Merry Christmas!
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life. Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot. Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general. I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male. "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further. Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
Hello, I really do appreciate this video a lot, you rock indeed. Wishing you a wonderful evening and upcoming week. Btw, I do work with clothes and have a butik in down town! Cheers 🎉🎉❤
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men wearing immitations of name brands ( Gucci, Prada , LV, etc)
Men shouldn’t wear name brands, “luxury” brands like Gucci, blah blah y’all know are not real “luxury” you’re paying for brand names not brand material go by something 100% wool, 100% silk and see the difference in quality.
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As beautiful as you are I'm going to look cheap I want someone like you around me for me not my money and if we link I'll explain it to you
With the new year coming up in a few weeks I wouldn't mind seeing a behavior video.
1. Sizing Proportions are off with your clothing
2. Over Accessorizing (Too Busy)
3. Not Keeping Up with Grooming Habits
4. Wearing Too Much Fragrance
5. Excessive Logos
6.Too Many Trendy Items (Quality vs Quantity)
7. Bright or Bad Color Combos
8. Wrinkles/Creases in Clothing
9. Leaving Little To Be Desired (ex. Wearing open button-ups nowhere near a beach/pool)
Thanks bro!
I don’t get it, I need to hear her explain it with her classy demeanor and tone of voice 😌
Thank you. I like Courtney's advice but I don't want to watch a quarter hour video.
“Fragrance should be discovered not announced.” This one was a striking point. Thanks for your videos.
This... and the covering up is even worse cause you get announced pretty well but it just gets worse when you get into visual range.
"Oh flowers!!!
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For a dead body?" 😅
Different colognes out there tho have very different projection and u need more to even last a few hours or be able smell it. It all smells good right away, but the cologne designers do it this way for money, as you use more and have to eventually buy more sooner. Most designer or niche fragrances do this. Can’t make this point enough, so her point isn’t valid
Golden words. 👍
Awful lot of people out there, both men and women, don't understand this simple simple concept and instead you can SMELL one of them has entered the building before you can even see them.
Correct and if you get an EDP with more oil you spray less but get less so you end up in the same spot @@Grandpuba1069
Pro tip: Men who look expensive are usually broke and men who dress humble are sometimes mega loaded.
That run-on sentence doesn't make sense.
@@2mYgR Yeah it does because I'm giving people a tip, ie: look out for well dressed people who are most likely broke.
Common stereotype also poor man’s logic.
Facts
Grooming habits is a big one. Not only does this make you look well put together, it communicates to others that you make the time to take care of your features.
I choose to look cheap, no one needs to think I have money. If I look broke I get left alone.
Based Grey Man
All the people that “need” to know you have money are the very last ones that should know.
There’s a balance to that, I often see that mindset with men who are already married or in a LTR so it’s easy to say if you’re not in the brutal dating pool, which of course you don’t want to “lead with money” but at the same time, you probably might want to quietly signal you’re financially comfortable somehow, right? 🤨
I do the same! Is better not to attract attention
It is so women can evaluate your worth....why? So they can get a piece of it.
Never underestimate the power of an excellent and experienced tailor or seamstress! With clothing, even a cheap suit that fits perfectly will outshine an expensive suit in need of alterations.
FACTS👍🏽💯
I'll be buried in my cargo pants and cargo shorts... I will die on this hill, Courtney. 😂
Here here 😂
I'll drink to that brother.
Fake tan (possibly taking carotene) over age 45, under 5' 8", earrings, full sleeve tattoo, overpowering after shave, shaved head to hide the balding, just a hint of desperation and a beer gut.
It is almost a classic look in my town. 😉
Amen bro, although I gave up the cargos for Dickies shorts. The canvas material really holds up. I can cycle the same 3 pairs of dickies shorts for 5 years before replacing them.
Most cargo shorts i get tear up or disintegrate in less than a year. If you know a durable brand of cargo shorts, let a brother know!
@@OriginalTodzilla Oh yeah Dickies are great. I got a couple of black ones with the extra knee area pockets but aren't pouches for work and some shorts, they are made well. Cheaper stuff doesn't hold up like it does.
Thank you for telling people to minimise (or even better avoid) logos!
As a recently turned 50yr old guy I find wearing a plain black fitted v neck t-shirt, black jeans, classic converse chucks boots and a nice watch, works for me. And a black bomber jacket. Keeping it simple 😁
Chucks, the item that 11 year old girls, 50 year old men, and everyone inbetween can all wear.
@@Swearengen1980 trusty footwear. But nowhere near as comfy as they used to be 😆
I always wear black when I'm in the Matrix, too.
Thanks for sharing Fonzi.😅
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I laughed out loud when you mentioned guys wearing too much fragrance in high school. Guys apparently don’t change. In the late 1960’s, my high school was awash in guys wearing waaaay to much English Leather, Jade East, and British Sterling.
British Sterling is worthless now.
male perspective
"less put together" vs. "cheap" -- opposites
"attention to detail and style" -- signaling effeminacy?
"accessory": "watch" -- big yes, especially if it can program the car and house, feed the dog on schedule, and alert you to spycams and radar.
"bracelets", "tie", "rings" -- extrinsically needy
grooming habits: "bathing" -- proactive problem solver
"cutting hair every for weeks" "nail symmetry" -- soft
"skin care routine" "fragrance" -- dysphoria
"logos" -- name dropping to cover low self esteem
"trendy" -- who cares?
"wrinkles/creases" -- spends time on what's important
"armpit stains" -- medical condition
"other stains" -- no insecurities
"immodesty" -- narcissist trying to distract you from other, massive insecurities
I appreciate enthusiasm for increasing men's awareness, Courtney. Your work is nothing short of masterful! Women, in my opinion, usually take the lead when it comes to elegance. Happier lives and experiences are the result of satisfying connections. Men will connect more effectively, dating or not, when their consciousness is raised. Your videos promote recovery, self-assurance, and wellness. Bravo!
Speaking of fragrance.... I read a story of a woman who liked a certain men's colonge and decided that if she wore it, she would attract a man who liked it.
It didn't work, but she noticed that women in elevators stood closer to her.
There are some good smelling men's fragrance & some good looking men in Hollywood.
Funny. In any case, listen to the advice of women what cologne you should wear - it's usually golden advice that they will give you. You need to find the one that fits -you-, and women are usually very honest about it and won't give you bad advice.
@@winfriedmaus Women know exactly what they want, that's why every other marriage ends in divorce.
Why do men in the comments go out of their way to say they get women but don't care about their own clothing? I get a feeling that they actually DO care and won't admit it because they're too insecure.
i wear the finest balaclava and i sprint at lonely women with confidence and they still dont want to talk
Teddy needs to get a few of his buddies wearing cargo shorts and stop in all at once to see Courtney just to annoy her. ;-)
As a member of Team Cargo I support this suggestion
I really like what you mentioned about the proper fitting of clothes, because that's a secret way men can save money while maintaining a sharp look.
I have a friend who mastered this in college. He'd go to the thrift stores and buy clothes that fit him well for prices as low as $3 per shirt and $10 for pants. We used to laugh because we had a mutual friend who believed he had to wear the newest, most expensive designer clothes to attract women, and his budget consisted of $50 shirts and $100 pants.
There really is a way to "ball on a budget" if you know where to look and what you're looking for.
Also, funny psychological sidenote, the thrift store friend became an accountant while the expensive friend became a dentist.
Both good people, but I can't help but see a connotation in their professions versus amounts of money spent.
Guys, just groom, smell good, wear something that fits, and work out. You don't need to do anything else. You don't need to blow a bag to make most of these ladies like you. They're not worth it. However, clean up and make yourself presentable for yourself and your work. The ladies will follow you when you're doing your mission
@@estebanleon5826 Cliché, generic, vacuous advice that we all know isn't true.
@@GW_01 It's not. Guys understand exactly what I mean. Are they working out? No. Are they smelling like they showered every day? No. Are they shaving their junks? No.
@@estebanleon5826 Plenty of men including myself do all of those things and get no further forward.
While it is incredibly important to look good, one should always know how to responsibly invest in their appearance. Plus, the item is only good if one feels confident when rocking it.
Absolutely!
Classic,well cut clothing,dress, business or casual always gives the best impression.
Unless you are very fashion forward (and in that environment, probably, or smth artsy) or flamboyant, when it comes to colors it's usually better to stick with the earthy, solid and less flashy. They are more masculine and elegant, IMO. Browns, blues, greys, dark greens, black. Maybe some dark red (I love burgundy and wine). I know I have trouble steering away from all things blue.
I’m not cheap, or broke, but I wear some of these and I get women and never had a problem with that. Attitude and personality is by far a bigger thing women look for and care about
Congrats buddy your one of the lucky ones wheres i always treat them with respect but get nowhere
@@jamessmith7459careful before somebody say nice guy finish last
….tell the world that you didn’t watch the video without saying you didn’t watch the video….. do you pull models in your 2 decade old cargo shorts and DMB graphic faded tees? Lolololols sure you do buddy… someone’s gotta keep the uggos company…..
Then why are you watching videos like this?
I'm cheap and broke 😂
I agree with the watch. I swap from my apple watch to my classic wrist watch when I am going somewhere nicer. while my apple watch cost 2x what my other watch does I like the look.
Before you start critiqing men or anyone else take a moment to reflect
on yourself. I dare say you've got a lot of work to do personally regarding
style.....fashion......hair and makeup. Have a nice day.
Black and white with a touch of brown here and there, maybe some olive green. That's it. You can't go wrong.
Awesome content! You look cute and healthy!
Absolutely true… if it doesn’t fit you properly, it’s NOT going to look nice. When I was a teenager, I was guilty of this but I’ve learned my lesson lol
Happy Sunday Courtney.
A week until Christmas!
Happy holidays! ❤️
It's amazing how many guys check the boxes on multiple points at once. It's also amazing how many women let their man look like trash while they're squared away.
No matter where I go, men look slovenly, including even in church. I dress in a rather casual style, nothing expensive nor exceptional, and I get compliments, not because I look elegant, but simply because I avoid looking shabby. It is a sad state of affairs in our society.
It’s refreshing getting the point of view and helpful suggestions from a female. Extremely well presented. Thank you.
00:05🤖 Courtney Ryan discusses aspects that can make men look less put together or cheap.
00:30🛡 Proper fit is crucial for a polished appearance; ill-fitting clothes can undermine any outfit's quality.
02:45💼 Avoid over-accessorizing; opt for a few well-placed accessories to maintain a minimalist and sophisticated look.
04:15🛠 Neglecting grooming habits can make you appear unkempt; maintain regular grooming for a polished appearance.
06:36🚫 Using too much fragrance can be overpowering and reminiscent of adolescence; moderation is key.
07:37💎 Excessive logos can appear flashy and detract from a refined appearance; opt for subtle branding instead.
08:58👔 Prioritize classic pieces over trendy ones for a timeless wardrobe that withstands fashion cycles.
10:57🎨 Be mindful of color combinations to avoid garish or mismatched outfits; understanding color theory helps.
12:40👕 Wrinkles and creases can make even expensive garments look cheap; invest in proper garment care.
13:36🙈 Avoid outfits that leave little to be desired; maintain modesty and class in your attire and behavior.
I think fragrance and hygiene you mentioned is very important in my opinion. Bonus added on is your body type body structure. If you take care of your body, your body will pick the right suit that suited you perfectly makes you look expensive.
Healthy lifestyle paired with personal grooming or fashion style is best practice. Balanced overall look.
Brilliant Courtney as usual. I love your channel, thank you and take care, David.
As with all great Courtney videos, great advice…starting with fashion and ending with philosophy
Dressing well doesn’t have to be expensive! The majority of my clothes are Falls Creek brand from Meijer. FC plain tees are my favorite shirt. Their no tuck button ups and chinos are great as well. I will spend more on shoes and dress shirts. Florsheim oxfords are very comfortable and look good, and Van Heusen dress shirts always wear and launder well.
Good insights, Courtney - thank you.
Trim the nose hair. Trim, don’t pluck or wax, your eyebrows. Keep an eye on the hair on your ears, and trim. 😊
I use a toilette which has a higher oil to alcohol ratio so it lasts longer than cologne. Just one spray to the chest after a shower is plenty, trust me.
Happy Sunday everyone
Also an update I got a 96 on one of my finals
I'm just not a cologne person and just avoid wearing them because strong fragrances give me headaches same goes for perfume on women. Heck I tend to even avoid clothing stores due to the strong smells so it ends up being several battles whenever I go to malls and such.
Good advice.
Throughout my years, I have definitely witnessed firsthand the difference.
I usually just wear all black everything: cargo/straight trousers, hoodie/jacket, footwear. But, whenever I wear a slimfit white shirt, skinny black tie, trousers and comfortable wallaby type shoes, even women who work in the city doubletake sometimes. Especially if I have my hair canrowed at the time.
Personally, I like to dress comfortable and skinny/slim fits just don't do it for me. I ask my brothers all the time how and why they want to wiggle and shake into their jeans lol.
Open/cuffed cargos of dark colours, brightest I'd go is cream. White tees galore and tees with designs, usually anime or a comic book character or movie reference as they always tend to be a ice-breaker for me through the years, and a fresh pair of simple but not over-expensive trainers(sneakers).
You're supposed to get the girl first and then let her play Ken doll on you.
Most men have a very utilitarian attitude towards clothing. Function over form.
If she wants the product bad enough, she's not gonna worry too much about the packaging.
Overall, I love your video. It was packed with much good info, when we are at this level. Though, we have to remember that much of this is what we see on the outside of the man. Men have to know how to work on their life priority frame. This is a concept few understand. These life priorities are in the following order: mind, body, natural responsibilities (children, pets, etc.), home (with devices and utilities prioritized inside), media, work priorities, and friend/leisure priorities. Now, imagine a sliding frame. When it contracts, it drops down from friend/leisure priorities to mind priorities (mental health priorities). As we take care of our mind, body, natural responsibilities, and home (making sure we are completely filling them in), we can expand our life priority frame further to media, work, and finally to friend/leisure priorities. When we go on dates, it's supposed to be at the friend/leisure priority level in life. At that level, we can find men (or women) that have the perfect fitting clothes, accessorizes really well, and groom beautifully while having the right amount of fragrance, no visible logos, no wrinkles, and no bright colors. With all that going on, they can be a hot mess on all those other life priorities before the friend/leisure priority level, the one they have down pat and look good. Some people make fun of others who say "It's what's on the inside that matters", but it really does matter, a lot! Those with deficiencies in taking care of their life priorities will be prone to problems in life, and it makes them prone to dragging the rest of us into the holes in their life. I would love to hear you talk more about what you find on this subject, but I think your audience could only probably handle a sprinkle of this subject over time. In other words, even though I think this is such an important subject, I don't want to do anything that could contribute to you losing your audience... You help too many people out there to lose you! Peace Courtney!
You don't know how many times I've been to a classy restaurant and many guys dress business casual with dirty running shoes and ill fitting outfits.I mean seriously???
I will say, despite my below comment, I do most of the things you suggest here. I wasn't doing it before I met my wife, but she whipped me into shape. And... she's not a gold digger. She saw my potential and brought it out.😂
I follow other style channels but Court gets priority!! 👏👏👏
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You're amazeballs.
I used to buy Men's Health for style tips and guidance 20 years ago. You are the better, honest, genuine replacement for that need.
Thanks for your vids Courtney, you are a real pro and a fun watch ;-)
As a short muscular guy 5'5 180lbs. It's definitely been quite slow in terms of finding things that work.
Any plans on making color theory video? That would be interesting.
Yes
Videos like these are why I subbed
🫡 thanks Joseph!
@@CourtneyRyan🤙🤙
Yeah I agree with little to no logos or words on shirts. Especially those shirts that say things like Just Walk Away. Never Underestimate a Man Born in September That Has A Short Fuse and Is a Father
Looking cheap is good, it avoids gold diggers.
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I actively pursue being/looking cheap. Not only does it save me lots of money but it keeps women from considering any kind of attraction towards me whatsoever. I quite enjoy the invisibility.
That’s sad .. and not a little beaten .
@@serenityinside1 sad how? Last I checked I'm pretty happy.
Important things: 0:29 First Thing ÷ Proportions Are Off; 2:43 Second Thing ÷ Over Accessorizing; 4:14 Third Thing ÷ Not Keeping Up With Grooming Habits; 6:35 Fourth Thing ÷ Too Much Fragrance; 7:34 Fifth Thing ÷ Excessive Logos; 8:57 Sixth Thin ÷ Trend Takeover; 10:56 Seventh Thing ÷ Bright Or Bad Color Combinations; 12:38 Eight Thing ÷ Wrinkles And Creases: 13:32 Ninth Thing ÷ Leaving Little To be Desired; and 15:17 to summarize all the told here.
I suggest that you should make a video of behavior and different things that men come across cheap, and my suggest that you should make a video of behavior and different things that women come across cheap as well Courtney.
Among the all the told here, I might add things what is also looking cheap as well. And can apply to men, and women as well. That is Tenth Thing ÷ Behaving Very Poorly (like showing that they are the center of the world, or some other inappropriate way of behaving's in society, etc.).
I totally agree that watching trends can be so hard, and annoying, cause it, very hard to follow them. And I can say that the Trend Takeover can also apply not just to clothes, but it can also be applied to hair, and bear styles (and to be honest, I don't like to see them like copy - paste). That can apply to either men, and women as well (like it or not). Also combination of clothes (in the case of not putting the right colors); putting too much things such as rings, necklaces, etc. can be applied to men and women. I always remembered one thing that my mom told me a thing when I was a little child. She told me this: "Son, don't dress up yourself to look like a parrot."
I think what have you told here Courtney, that can also be applied to women as well. I also don't understand putting too much fragrances (and that are doing, either men, and women as well). I understand that we have to smell nice (and certainly not to stink), but don't overdo it with fragrance.
I remember that I have seen once a quote that goes like (you can correct me if I'm wrong): "The best perfume (or fragrance, call it whatever you want) smell is the smell of a clean face."
Thank you so much Courtney ❤💙🤍.
bullet point list bro
@@bawseeeee602 Thanks a lot pal.
@@Harikejn your welcome, always space for improvement
@@bawseeeee602 🧐🤓😎
In high school, I was taking a trip with the family and my grandma and right before we left, I went to put cologne on and the bottle top came off and I spilled it all over my hands and shirt. I tried washing it off the best I could but we were leaving. About 10 mins into the car ride, the family was silently getting uncomfortable and agitated from the smell and from the backseat my grandma goes, "He's really trying to attract the mosquitos isnt he?". LOL.
Summer for me is flipflops and cargo shorts.
I don’t care if I look cheap.
I'm 73 and agree with you in just about every category. How about the gym? An incredible array of style, color and functionality. Give it a go! I can help!
Remember fellas, only 1 man in 1000 is a leader of men. The other 999 follow women. That said this is a good woman to follow.
Here’s what makes a guy look cheap:
Sandals
Trucker hats
Head to toe in a luxury brand
Dirty sneakers
Tires with a missing hubcap
Fake watches
Unkempt beards. (Well taken care of beards just look good and prosperous)
Thank you! Thank you for saying about logos!! I have always hated big, garish logos, going around like a walking billboard. 👍
If you're trying to "get by" on cheaper denim for a season [before you get back into shape] and that pair of jeans comes with the "free" belt? Ditch the free belt BECAUSE everyone knows what kinda jeans the free belts come with. Replace the belt with a better looking Grosgrain belt (for preppy summer wear), or one of your better leather belts.
"Some of you might want to look cheap." Oh Courtney, thank you for being so accomodating. 🤣🤣🤣
Please keep in mind that many people are highly allergic to fragrances. That goes for both men and women's perfume, body sprays, bathroom sprays, candles ect.
Color is important: I invented the CyMK screen which does not emit on Blue, - which is believed to disturb sleep -. It is used in industrial printingl, but I never saw it on homr-printers. Time to give it a shot....
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My brothers of all races please stop letting these women tell you what to wear you are a grown man sir unless she understands your style language don’t listen to her
Men #3 cont'd...ear hair and nose hair; got to keep them under control. A $10 micro trimmer from a dollar store is the go-to. Additionally, keeping the neckline clean in between haircuts. If you know a lady, I am sure she will help. No one in interested in a chia pet with hair coming out of every orifice.
love ur content . thanks for sharing these different perspectives . it really clears my mind and stops me from overthinking :)
I wanna have a discussion with you ❤️ Above🛐🤦♂️
Thank you for your advice.... Listening and admit it to life. Made me look better and I'm more confident.
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Most of the people don’t have much money but I don’t think they intentionally look cheap! Maybe they were raised by people with bad or dirty habits or had bad taste or saw beauty in a different way to you or were brought up in a different culture than yours or have different tastes but to treat someone who looks cheap is a strong statement specially without knowing a bit more about him to know why he is like he is! Thank you for the space!
I have a 33 inch waist. It’s almost impossible to find pants that aren’t a 32 or 34. I always have to buy 34” - it really sucks.
She makes such great videos keep them coming
I've worn nice clothes, fitted clothes, understated accessories, been in shape etc. I finally got comfortable in loose work pants, t shirts, dad sneakers or broken in work boots.
If you don't like the blue collar look, it's in both of our interests for you to not be attracted.
Youre 100% correct on quality over quantity, clean and organized is where its at. Ponce-y brand logo shirts (et al) are ultra cringe-y and are IMO the epitome of tacky and needlessly and immediately make one look pretentious and materialistic, theres no real style there just posturing that falls flat.
I bought a pair of Trickers Stow brogue boots, there are brands for a fraction of the price with an identical look but Trickers will and do last a lifetime, a sweatshop boot will not...Ive had a pair of Danner boots, not exactly inexpensive but they are still in tip top shape after 30 years. Words to live by that have never steered me wrong: Spend the money once on quality or you'll spend repeatedly on trash. Keep it classy gents.
The bit about logos is very true. I'll add that you shouldn't be someone else's billboard. They're not paying you to be a walking ad, so why look like one?
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Hey Courtney, I was lucky enough to get some brooks brother's and Ralph lauren custom tailored shirts w, / the neck and shoulders tailored perfectly like they were made for me.
Love ❤️ the ladies from the lakeshore in the ritzy part of town.
Meathead uniform: Below-the-knee cargo shorts, over-sized t-shirt (with gut touching the shirt before your chest), bad sandals, buzz cut hair, unmanaged goatee.
Shoes are everything. They form the basis of looking cheap.
I like longer sleeves when I buy shirts. They shrink in the laundry after so many washes anyhow.
I enjoy wearing cologne
Thx, that's my wardrobe for 2024 sorted.
What..how dare you.. 😂😂😂..my wife buys all my clothes so I don't look like that anymore. Good content
When it did work for me all i wore was jeans with boots and tshirt with light jacket and always clean shaved
“Fit is King” I agree with that statement.
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Fit Function Fabric
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In my place, the talors aren't what they used to be. All they do is (often poor job) of fixing clothes, or make the larger ones smaller. They just dont make custom clothes anymore for some reason. You see some cool outfit online, but its not available at the stores, so you're "stuck" with whatever the store has at ofter overbloated price but with not so great quality. By the way cargo pants/shorts are awesome. It has the same function as your handbags (often a luggage size), that you ladies wear.
As for watches it all depends. I own several, originals one of which is quite expensive piece, but I wouldn't wear that particular watch everyday, but some of the less expensive ones. You just need to be careful not to get scammed with cheap copies that are priced as originals. I also enjoy pocket watches, they have that unique thing about them, but of course its not something that should be worn while jogging for example.
@-TeIegra.m_RealCourtneyRyan and why t.f. would I discuss anything with a scammer, pretending to be Courtney?!🤣
Hey Courtney, great video classy and elegant never goes out of style, can you make videos like this for women I think it will be helpful for younger women who want to elevate the way they present themselves.
Hi Courtney! Can you do a video on men's dress and evening shoes? I'm looking to buy some formal black dress shoes to go with a suit but also some less formal "evening casual" shoes (brown, black, etc.) that would be great for an evening date or night out on the town. Something more elegant than sneakers but not super black-tie formal.
A lot of this is personal taste, but I don't want to look too dated. I prefer laces and good traction/soles on my dress shoes for safety reasons tbh, and I don't like the casual loafers and bows on churchy dress shoes that Baby Boomers wear, so I'll avoid those.
Thank you!
I appreciate the advice and it definitely makes sense. BUT... What is funny is I recently "dated" a woman who (for a first) actually complained about some of my choices in clothing...where she spent way too much time in mens unerwear and an old beat up t-shirt. I found it ironic. With that said, I don't think she was a "healthy" woman anyway. I've always had a certain "style" and have always had women compliment that, but the "modern" dating world is getting a little out of hand on expectations...when some of this really boils down to another game or excuse. Good luck out there fellas...........
Thank you. I would like to see a video on “how not to come off as being cheep”. I am frugal (another word for cheep😬) some would say that I am cheep. I would enjoy seeing your take on the subject. Thx and Merry Christmas!
I literally just wear black t shirts from costco and northface khaki pants with a hidden leg pocket for my wallet. Fits in pretty much anywhere.
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It’s in the heart not always the outside
Just saw the AI ad you mentioned and reported it. Hopefully, there have been enough reports for it to be taken down soon and won’t happen again.
That pink and green together looked like a bowl of sherbet ice cream 😂
Thanks for the vid!
You forgot loose or wrinkled collars,v-neck’s included!!
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again.
I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing.
Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training.
It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
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Hello, I really do appreciate this video a lot, you rock indeed. Wishing you a wonderful evening and upcoming week. Btw, I do work with clothes and have a butik in down town! Cheers 🎉🎉❤
If you don’t mind me asking. What watch are you wearing?