After Anne Boleyn was decapitated, her ladies in waiting refused to let the guards take her headless body. "The head and body were taken up by the ladies, whom you would have thought bereft of their souls, so languid and weak were they with anguish, but, fearing that their mistress might be handled unworthily by inhuman men, they forced themselves to do this duty."
@@Nauta222What happened to Queen Katherine’s remains remains a travesty looked upon vastly too flippantly by historians. Even as a profane individual, I have no regard for those that disturb the marked dead.
@@thearboretum6554 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
I think my favorite thing about this song is that it's not about death or what happens to your body after you die--- it's about the feeling of what people would do to you. The terror. The panic. The fear. About how even when you're dead, you need to be rotted to truly free of the eyes that want to ruin you.
Ancient Egyptian mummies discovered show women in much worse states of decay for this very reason. Families would wait until their women family members had started to rot a little before taking them to the priests to prepare for the burial, to try and stop any of the male priests who would be left alone with the bodies and prepare them from assaulting and defiling them in death.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
There is a line in this poetry book called “teaching my mother how to get birth“, there’s this line that never fails to chill me to the core: when the men come, sent yourself on fire.
When my grandfather found out that i had plans to get a tattoo, he told me "no man will ever find you desireable" and rather than feel hurt, all i could think was how i wished that were true.
"I’ll take the flame over desecration" Hits hard even more when you know the story of King Tamar of Georgia. She was an incredible ruler, a first women with the title of a King, and even in death, her legacy was fiercely protected. There is a story when a Mongol khan threatened her that he would get her doesn't matter dead or alive. but After her death in 1213, her loyal followers went to great lengths to keep her safe. The ones that knew where she was buried choose to die to keep it as a secret. Till this day no one knows where her remains are kept. Sad to see that even with this powerful title no woman were ever safe and were treated with disrespect.
@@cecilia-mareebernadette4022 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
@@aude4747 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
It hit harder when you know it was changed since the original was "for the first time since I was ten" but it seems ten was not young enough to stop some people.
I never imagined it would be a relief. Now, I own it At 65, men don't speak deceptively to me. If they speak, it is on the same level. They don't want to "own" me. And I'm loving it. I understand. They no longer expect me to be "malleable" GOOD. I am not your "project."
@@Lady_Rowansaw a doc were a woman said her dad told her when she was a child „if you are old enough to pee your old en…to f…“ and that still hunts me to this day
@@Lady_Rowan 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
as an indian woman, the timing of this song being released now just hits even harder after the Kolkata doctor case. women really aren't safe anywhere, even in death.
That case really made me so angry for that doctor 😢 she couldn’t even get peace from a hardship for someone to think he had the right to violate that doctor the way he did! I’m still outraged and pray that the doctor gets justice
In ancient Egypt it was custom for the bodies of young women to be kept in the family home for up to weeks at a time, until decay had set in in such a manner, that they were deemed safe from desacration by the embalmers. All day, every day, since the dawn of time, women have been through this. Not even safe in death.
I'll correct you: all bodies, not only of young women. Egyptians didn't trust the embalmers at all, they saw them as weird and dangerous because of their skills of cutting thw flesh and getting th organs, so they were waiting as long as they could with all of their bodies.
@@Itseliedits 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
It’s still insane that she changed it from “for the first time since I was ten I’m undesirable again” to “since I drew breath” and we all understand exactly why.
@@caciliaakuma3521she’s had a shorter version of this song she was been working on since at least 2022, the videos on her TikTok from around then have the lyrics as “since I was ten” instead of the “since I drew breath”
The line “I’ll tattoo it just so they think it’s ruined” to me speaks about how some people believe that tattoos “ruin” women- which is so stupid like bestie we’re not getting tattooed for you- and it also speaks to the desperation to not be harassed/be seen as desirable
I always think of animals who evolve to have bright colors to repel predators. That's how I feel when I walk around with my tattoos now. I've never felt safer, and that is very sad to me.
As a funeral director my coworkers and i have talks about that despicable man above Marilyn's crypt. We all agree, whoever was the director who buried him should be ashamed of themself. Granted at my firm, we have more women then men, so we especially dont let horrendous things like this fly. People are still people in death and deserve respect and dignity.
Maybe where you are from but unfortunately women like me still see and hear that, "we can't do a man's job." Not all firms, funeral homes, are old school but the funeral profession is and has been very slow to change. It greatly depends on your location and faith.
I have been obsessed with this since the first snippet was released. At that time, the song's final line was "For the first time since I was ten, I'm undesirable again". The fact that it changed to "For the first time since I drew breathe" makes this song painful in the most perfect way. Full circle of how women are not safe in death nor in birth. I love this so much.
So true I was sa'd at 5 yrs old and it still haunts me, it saddens me to know that no matter how old a girl is she will always be looked at like a piece of candy for men to take
"leave me to the beasts and bears" I CHOOSE THE BEAR we all say in unison "They cant reserve neighbouring plots, or request to be put on top" To this day, I still remember that disgusting excuse of a man who was buried on top of Marilyn Monroe. The fact he had that as a request is already disgusting, but the fact that it was not only acknowledged but also concreted? Thats fucking terrifying
would have been way cooler and true admiration to be buried with a sitting marilyn statue hovering on top. classical marilyn trying to keep her skirt under control is also nice
@@VplusMuffinPerpetuating what Marilyn tried to escape from through death, the sexualised dehumanizing of her person (moreso with the figure of her uplifted skirt, the ultimate symbol of her humanness being sacrified by dumbing-it down to a sexual object for men) is disgusting and just as repulsive.
not to mention the fact, that after she died people bribed the morgue for pictures of her body. and well as her naked body being put into playboy... and apparently her dead body went missing but im not sure if that was totally confirmed? but its so disgusting how fetishized her corpse was
The fact that she refers to her own body as "it" to show the disconnect between her and her flesh in the way she is perceived...and how she feels like her body is not her own when it is watched and coveted.
The way you smile at the line 'be undesirable again' really drives home how dangerous it can be to *be* desired...Thank you for this song, as well as your others.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen! God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
As someone who was sexually abused as a child, the line "For the first time since I drew breath, I'm undesirable again" is the most hauting and tragically beautiful reflection of how I've felt ever since. I couldn't have found a better way to describe the feeling if I'd tried. Thank you, Paris Paloma, for expressing our pain, rage and sadness when we can't find the words.
@@happyfox1560 I am so sorry that happened to you. May there be continued healing and some feelings of safety for you as women collectively gain strength. May ALL who have suffered find comfort and strength in this movement. ❤️
I pray for you and send you all my thoughts of hope, strength... Please, you have to know You are an angel. My mum suffered from incest, and had to live with this secret, it ruins her life. Please, be confident that many people will trust you, you deserve everything you want, peace in your life. You are just so courageous, please know that times are changing... Your voice will be heard ❤
I'm from India. We had a horrible crime take place. And ever since, the reporting of such violence has increased. In the fortnight between now and then, it has been cases after cases. This song, right now, just makes me break down. I want to cry. I want to scream. When do women get to live without fear????
"Or buy cuttings of my priceless locks" I know a neighbouring theme in this song is honouring Marilyn Monroe through highlighting how disgustingly she was treated after her death, and specially the way women are treated after death. I feel like that attitude is normalised with how acceptable it is to buy a complete stranger's possessions/parts of them, just because they have notoriety, it's weird and refuse to pretend it isn't.
I think it's also a reference to Catherine Parr's burial. They absolutely destroyed her body in so many ways everytime she was exhumed. For decades. Locks of her hair are still floating around as "family heirlooms".
I can’t get over the way this song completely nails the sheer exhaustion of having to constantly fight and be vigilant and fear male attack, the grief that lies that knowing that even in death women aren’t safe from men until they actually start to decay. As a victim of sexual assault I sob every time I hear this
YES - AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. IF YOU DON'T FEEL SAFE, YOU ARE NIT SAFE. LOOK AT THE STATISTICS. AND WOMEN WHO NEVER EXPECTED IT. THEY COULD NOT HAVE EVER THOUGHT THEIR BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND OR BROTHER FATHER NEPHEW GRANDFATHER OR FRIEND WOULD BE CAPABLE OF SUCH HORRIFIC THINGS. IF YOU FEEL UNSAFE EVEN ONCE, GET AWAY.
"leave me for a day or two, to make sure that I turn blue" made me cry so much. The feeling of not being able to be in peace and rest even when you just died.
It would be a true blessing to hear you sing with Aurora or Kiki Rockwell. The three of you have beautiful angelic voices; I'm convinced it would be world-changing. I've been a great fan of your work since The Fruits. You only had one job, and you nailed it. All you had to do was make music, you didn't have to speak about women's reality, give us a voice, or talk about female rage (or sadness), and yet you did. That's something I really admire about you. Love you so much, I'm so happy that I found you on TikTok when you launched The Fruits. 💗
Absolutely!! Kiki and Paris are two of my favorite artists of all time. I saw paris paloma live and it felt so amazing to dance how I wanted in a crowd of women.
I was horrifically little when it began happening to me. We are no safer in our cradles than in our graves. 💔 And from neither of those places are we able to speak! This song is like a sorrowful hymn yet also like an anthem. It speaks what we cannot, and it accompanies our voices when we can. ❤ You are a celestial star, Paris Paloma!
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose Your words are beautifully written. A sure testament to your innermost unbreakable core. May you continue to strongly speak your truth. You are also a Celestial Star.
This feels like a poem Sylvia Plath would've written. Which is to say something about Paloma's brilliant mind, I don't randomly compare an artist's work with Sylvia's mastery.
The truly sad part is that the early TikTok version of this song said “for the first time since I was 10” and so many women shared their stories of not being anywhere near 10 before they were abused, that the lyrics were adjusted to reflect that…
Idk if it is a reference, but the “leave me for a day or two to make sure i turn blue” makes me think of the fact that women would only be handed off for mummification after a few days so that they wouldn’t be assaulted in death Also in love with this song like i knew i would be
This song makes me think in agony about the many Hollywood actresses who were desecrated - or attempted to be desecrated- after their death. To guard a corpse before its final rest is an honor and a devastating responsibility. Beautiful song, poignant lyrics
It's horrid. And the mistreatment and abuse of women's bodies goes back so much further. Like with Catherine Parr, Julia Pastrana, Elena de Hoyos, and Sarah Baartman for example. And with Anne Boleyn's ladies in waiting being so protective of her body after her death because they knew what could possibly happen.
This song sent me on a rabit hole of the horrible things that woman have to deal with even after death. wow, this is a eye opening song, really powerful message
This is both cathartic and hard to listen to. But it’s nice to know I’m not alone in wanting to be released from the burden of living in a female body. 🩷 To all of you who relate to this song: I love you and I see you
This reminds me how many Egyptian mummies of women are more rotted than their male counterparts, which was a conscious decision by their families to keep grave desecrators from doing worse than stealing family heirlooms. Or how even now male morticians are not ever left alone with female dead bodies. Or the creep who requested his grave above Marilyn Monroe’s have him buried face down so she’s eternally “man on top.”
“For the first time since I drew breath, I’m undesirable again” made me CRY when I heard it at the Moroccan bookshop - one of the most powerful lyrics I’ve ever come across.
I really love how she throws Hugh Hefner under the bus with this one. And that creepy guy who wanted to be buried on top of her facing down. Apparently his wife moved him to a different crypt and sold that pot which I suppose it’s just going to invite another creepy man to be on top of her. I really wish that whoever runs her estate, would advocate to remove her, remains, and have them buried in a secret place that nobody knew about. On private property somewhere in a field full of flowers. An unmarked grave.
Stumbling across Labour all of those months ago is something I will forever be thankful for. It has been a privilege to listen to your voice and lyricism with every new release.
I have a longstanding fear of my body existing when I’m absent. Like being under for surgery, being in a vegetative state, burial instead of cremation. I think because I watched on the news of necrophilia at a very young age and it shook me to my core
just so people know and get the reference and how disgusting it is; "They can’t reserve neighbouring plots Or request to be buried on top" **After Monroe’s death in 1962, her ex-husband Joe DiMaggio held a private funeral for her at Westwood Village. Playboy founder Hefner later arranged to be laid to rest in a crypt next to the actor. “Spending an eternity next to Marilyn is too sweet to pass up,” he told the Los Angeles Times in 2009. The paper reported that Hefner, who died in 2017, had spent $75,000 to secure his spot in 1992.**
A man was also buried above Marylin, and as per his request he was buried facedown so he could stare at her for eternity. He had a wife, to whom he told her "if you don't put me upside down over Marylin, Ill haunt you for the rest of your life". His name doesn't deserve to be shared.
@@jennyx753 That was Dimaggio, her second husband. I'm sure they divorced for good reason, and he went and disrespected his wife at the time to be buried over Monroe
@HaleyJo1992 funny how when these sort of things arise, people insist on spreading, to put it charitably, misremembered, incorrect gossip. They don't seem to care about smearing reputations, albeit of the dead. Joe DiMaggio owned the two crypts in question and apparently handled the funeral of his ex-wife. At some stage, he sold the upper crypt to a businessman, who was buried there in 1986, according to the story. That man's widow reportedly sold the crypt in 2009 for $4.6million dollars and would have had to move his remains. So, if we want to talk about disrespect for spouses, or profiting from Marilyn, let's start with that lady. Let's go on to the widow of Marilyn's heir, Lee Strasberg, who after his death, commercially monetised Marilyn's image. As for the late Mr DiMaggio, there is nothing to say other than he loved his ex-wife.
I really enjoy the different style in the song. the rocky bit really gives the tone for the desperation women feel in the battle, singing to the tune of it and raising your voice showing how deep the cuts are. The silence after, shows the realisation we all have, that it’s fucked, and we should be free, but the reality is that we are still living here. So we would rather be in the forest with a bear rather than a man. I will forever be grateful for making music that heals, and that you are being an activist through it and other to get us all closer to being safe
This line "They can't reserve nеighbouring plots or request to be buriеd on top"... It reminds me of what happened to Marilyn Monroe. The neighboring places and the one over hers were actually reserved by some dudes. The one on top wanted to be buried there with his face turning down...towards her. Even in death she couldn't have peace from all of those men. It's heartbreaking.
I feel like men have a built in desire to fight for something meaningful within. When women are creating music like this, I hope even a handful of men will start to see where to channel that fight. Like we can't even die in peace without the risk of being violated? How is this even an issue 🤷♀️🤦♀️. Thank you Paris, for helping us get through difficult emotions as the women do our best to continue to evolve, constantly breaking the chains consistently thrown around us. 💙
i think the first sentance of your comment is grossly generalising and badly thought out , like your dichotomy is very insulting to both men and women , so what , women dont have fight violence and rage in them also , like there is plenty plenty men who are creating amazing art , the desire to fight and the traditional masculine image is not also not bad in itself the same way that girly girls are not offensive its well meaning i believe , but it would be more advisable to think out a little more these ideas also what an insult when hozier is existing sorry english is not my first language
@@louyou6614 I think they were saying that men are often fighting for the wrong cause and that, when women like Paris Paloma, create music like this, they hope that men can realise that they're fighting for the wrong cause
@batsf0rtea And these generalisations once again are a them vs us idea , the men vs the women Women and men are a crucial part of the patriarchy and equal crucial effort to upheld and same go for feminism These statements are rooted in a malignant misogyny and with the assumption that the male gender is inherently against feminine causes or more precisely that feminine causes are inherently against the male gender and an anthitesis to their nature, and this while being false just grow divide that in turn grow resentment by both parts They may seem innocent but their accumulations in the subconscious can be dangerous We can praise a person without putting down implicitly and this singer deserve more well thought , less insulting praises I don't want to sound like the not all men they get raped too annoying guy , but I hope my message came across English is still not my first language
@@louyou6614 You're right. My first sentence was badly thought out. Disregard that sentence. I appreciate the feedback. I like Hozier. My daughter loves him!
@aconnors8 Your daughter have taste madame Also it's such a breeze of fresh air to see people acting maturely to a comment , I was half ready to be insulted lol no offense to you tho just the way internet is
Can I just say that Paris Paloma's voice would've been a perfect fit as a Hunger Games movie soundtrack? I don't know how to further explain that, but she is just so powerful like that.
I felt "It will never be yours" coming a split-second before it did, even though I'd never heard the lyrics before. And I feel it so deeply in my soul. I don't want to be someone's prize. I want to be my own. 🖤🤍💜 💔
reminds me of the question “would you rather be trapped in a forest with a man or a bear?” And so many women chose bear because they know the worst the bear could do to them is kill them, while men could and might do much worse.
The song hit me so hard, I don't even know how I feel after listening it. Each sentence hurts, and at the same time, it's so peaceful, but it's a bittersweet peace.
About the tattoo line, I think it has a double meaning. The obvious one is that a tattoo uglifies, but another might that it is a mark of independence . Stealing a woman's honor and dignity even after her death can be seen as a way of possessing her, but if there is a tattoo, it can be a symbol that she already owns her body and can do whatever she wants with it. One of the tragedies of living under the patriarchy is understanding that women don't own anything, not even their own flesh.
As an argentine, even thought i understand the references she made were about Marilyn Monroe, i coudn't help but think of Eva Peron and the horrible history regarding her death where her body was "missing" for 20 years. No matter the politics associated with her, she was still a human but was treated worse than that just because she was a powerfull woman
The way you have me sobbing uncontrollably… You are such an amazing and powerful woman… Thank you for being loud, and I am sorry to anyone who knows the feeling I feel when listening to this song. Stay safe. ❤ -Sable
Her songs really hit a nerve every damn time like the strumming of a chord; reverberating through time. Today's nerve: Women aren't safe even in death. Even when a corpse has more autonomy it's still not safe.
I cant wait to see you again in Amsterdam. Last time I went with my child to your concert. It was full circle. Your music helped me heal and gave my pain a voice.
This song has something hauntingly beautiful in it. Both with vocals and the visuals. Its terribly powerful despite most of the song being sung really softly. And the fact the "since I was ten" from the first rafts was changed to "since I drew breath" is so heart breaking.
I love this so much, the way she puts a fear every woman has felt at least once, if not daily into the lirycs, and the references, this is a masterpiece
I’m actually sobbing. Thank you Paris, I’ve never been able to feel music as much as I’ve felt yours. You make me feel like I’m not alone anymore. Woman need to stand together. Thank you
I can't even begin to explain how much I love every song she puts out! and how much it speaks to me in a soul level. How much it has helped me push through my life and continues to do so. Paris Paloma, please never stop writting songs. This is what true talent and soul calling/gift looks like.
i remember seeing a snippet of this song on tiktok years ago, saving it and listening to it on repeat until the lyrics were burned into my brain so i could sing it in the shower. now years later its finally out and oh my god i am screaming
My father is suffering parkinson's disease.He tried to killed himself last week.He survived but he want to die The part of the song reminds me of him "I'll take the flame over desecration Promise you'll make all these arrangements Don't you dare think it's overkill I wouldn't wish the watching on anybody" So if for that reason only Swear to me you will
There's a line in the song that reminds me a lot of cleopatra and what is speculated that she had said before she died. No man will ever find my tomb. I wish we could all could never be found after death
I can’t explain how this song makes me feel but one thing is for sure; I felt it and it’s a true masterpiece. The meaning behind it? The lyrics? The music video? The rhythm? Everything is in perfection.
I'm glad I discovered such an amazing singer and songwriter. Every song has a story/message that makes me think and reflect. Don't loose your essence Paloma.
I can always count on Paris Paloma to write about topics so distinct and specifi. This song is so dark and subtly disturbing- it's brilliant. "don't you dare say it's overkill" because we're always told we're exaggerating what we know is the reality.
I follow every masterpiece you release like it’s my life’s mission. I play every song for my mom, we make references to your songs regularly. This is so hauntingly beautiful. You’ve done it once again, another masterpiece for the books.
I rarely cry to a song, but I don't even know how this moved me to tears so easily. I always thought there would be only few women who would also fear what's coming to us even after death.
remember hearing the first snippet on tiktok and was awestruck...rushed when I saw the video came out and PARIS PALOMA YOU NEVER FAIL TO AMAZE ME you truly have a gift of conveying womanhood as a whole encompassing every aspects that most artists wouldn't dare to touch upon
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So ridiculously excited. I’ve been listening to the TikTok’s and preview on repeat. I set an alarm for tonight, much love from Nashville, USA
thank you paris paloma. this is the song ive been counting down for days
SAME it was so good
Timely for those of us in my age of life & health….it can feel exactly this way. Stay Blessed 💖💖💖💖
this was so beautiful!!
After Anne Boleyn was decapitated, her ladies in waiting refused to let the guards take her headless body. "The head and body were taken up by the ladies, whom you would have thought bereft of their souls, so languid and weak were they with anguish, but, fearing that their mistress might be handled unworthily by inhuman men, they forced themselves to do this duty."
Katherine Parr's burial story proves that these ladies were entirely correct.
Wow 😢
@@Nauta222What happened to Queen Katherine’s remains remains a travesty looked upon vastly too flippantly by historians. Even as a profane individual, I have no regard for those that disturb the marked dead.
I learned recently that mortuaries tend to prefer to employ women…and yeah, that’s the reason 😞
@@thearboretum6554 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
I think my favorite thing about this song is that it's not about death or what happens to your body after you die--- it's about the feeling of what people would do to you. The terror. The panic. The fear. About how even when you're dead, you need to be rotted to truly free of the eyes that want to ruin you.
The idea that women are 'desirable' from *birth*, and past death, really says a great deal, sadly...and is not wrong :(
It's not about only after death.
That last line, though…
Powerful stuff!
Ancient Egyptian mummies discovered show women in much worse states of decay for this very reason.
Families would wait until their women family members had started to rot a little before taking them to the priests to prepare for the burial, to try and stop any of the male priests who would be left alone with the bodies and prepare them from assaulting and defiling them in death.
of what men* will do to you
"i'll take the flame over desecration" i am screaming crying throwing up at this line. the fact that we're not safe from being violated even in death
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
There is a line in this poetry book called “teaching my mother how to get birth“, there’s this line that never fails to chill me to the core: when the men come, sent yourself on fire.
@@RyanLivesForGodAlwayscoltism bot. Ew
When my grandfather found out that i had plans to get a tattoo, he told me "no man will ever find you desireable" and rather than feel hurt, all i could think was how i wished that were true.
Only if it was that easy
Talk about a grandiose victimhood complex. Get some help
Amen
"I’ll take the flame over desecration"
Hits hard even more when you know the story of King Tamar of Georgia.
She was an incredible ruler, a first women with the title of a King, and even in death, her legacy was fiercely protected. There is a story when a Mongol khan threatened her that he would get her doesn't matter dead or alive.
but After her death in 1213, her loyal followers went to great lengths to keep her safe. The ones that knew where she was buried choose to die to keep it as a secret. Till this day no one knows where her remains are kept.
Sad to see that even with this powerful title no woman were ever safe and were treated with disrespect.
And still people stood loyal to her and died without telling the secret. Creeps exist and in unity we defeat them
This needs to be a movie -epic
@@cecilia-mareebernadette4022 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
@@aude4747 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
the line of " for the first time since i drew breath I'm undesirable again " hits so hard, i don't even know what to say
It hit harder when you know it was changed since the original was "for the first time since I was ten" but it seems ten was not young enough to stop some people.
I never imagined it would be a relief. Now, I own it At 65, men don't speak deceptively to me. If they speak, it is on the same level. They don't want to "own" me. And I'm loving it. I understand. They no longer expect me to be "malleable" GOOD. I am not your "project."
That line broke me down in tears.
@@Lady_Rowansaw a doc were a woman said her dad told her when she was a child „if you are old enough to pee your old en…to f…“ and that still hunts me to this day
@@Lady_Rowan 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
as an indian woman, the timing of this song being released now just hits even harder after the Kolkata doctor case. women really aren't safe anywhere, even in death.
Agreed, behen.
As a resident of Kolkata: Yes. Yes. Yes.
Condolences from 🇧🇩😢
such a heart breaking incident happened truly horrifying 💔
That case really made me so angry for that doctor 😢 she couldn’t even get peace from a hardship for someone to think he had the right to violate that doctor the way he did! I’m still outraged and pray that the doctor gets justice
In ancient Egypt it was custom for the bodies of young women to be kept in the family home for up to weeks at a time, until decay had set in in such a manner, that they were deemed safe from desacration by the embalmers.
All day, every day, since the dawn of time, women have been through this. Not even safe in death.
I'll correct you: all bodies, not only of young women. Egyptians didn't trust the embalmers at all, they saw them as weird and dangerous because of their skills of cutting thw flesh and getting th organs, so they were waiting as long as they could with all of their bodies.
No not since the dawn of time, since the beginning of patriarchy. Patriarchy is not inevitable, it had a beginning and it will have an end
@@Laura-gd4ku
If women rise up it can end.
@@Laura-gd4ku Goddess bless you Sister!
@@magnarcreed3801 Goddess bless you too, Sister!!!
this is the poetic version of "i'd rather have the bear than the man"
Ooo Wanda Stan and facts
@@Itseliedits 1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
Modern day feminists: all I really want is to be a victim
@@danielmacaulay3105 women are already victims - dont need to want to be.
Reminds me of the line from the film Gangubai Kathiawadi, 'Tie her legs tightly, men cannot be trusted even with a dead body.'
This scene played in my head as well.
Exactly.
I guess this is why I considered becoming a mortician when I was a child 😢😢😢
It’s still insane that she changed it from “for the first time since I was ten I’m undesirable again” to “since I drew breath” and we all understand exactly why.
where did she changed it? Is there an old version of this song?
Where did you get that information? Are you just assuming that because ten rhymes better with again than breath?
@@caciliaakuma3521she’s had a shorter version of this song she was been working on since at least 2022, the videos on her TikTok from around then have the lyrics as “since I was ten” instead of the “since I drew breath”
@@KB-pw5kf thank you!
The line “I’ll tattoo it just so they think it’s ruined” to me speaks about how some people believe that tattoos “ruin” women- which is so stupid like bestie we’re not getting tattooed for you- and it also speaks to the desperation to not be harassed/be seen as desirable
I always think of animals who evolve to have bright colors to repel predators. That's how I feel when I walk around with my tattoos now. I've never felt safer, and that is very sad to me.
it resonated with me and reminded me of my scars when so many people told me i'd 'ruined' myself. little did they know thats exactly what i wanted.
Also reminds me of how Jeffrey Dahmer said he didn't like eating people with tattoos cause he said it "ruined the meat".
@@winchesnutt oh god that's.... i don't even know what to say to that
like kim kardashians lil quote 'you wouldn't put a bumper sticker on a bentley' like girl stfu
the marilyn monroe burial reference omgg
I WAS JUST ABOUT TO COMMENT THIS
gives me chills fr
I clocked it too, Jesus Christ.
This is the comment I was looking for. I realize what she meant when she repeat it the last time T-T
The visceral reaction I had to this song!
As a funeral director my coworkers and i have talks about that despicable man above Marilyn's crypt. We all agree, whoever was the director who buried him should be ashamed of themself. Granted at my firm, we have more women then men, so we especially dont let horrendous things like this fly. People are still people in death and deserve respect and dignity.
I have heard that funeral homes tend to favor hiring women for handling the bodies more than men to prevent necrophilia - is this preference true?
Maybe where you are from but unfortunately women like me still see and hear that, "we can't do a man's job." Not all firms, funeral homes, are old school but the funeral profession is and has been very slow to change. It greatly depends on your location and faith.
I have been obsessed with this since the first snippet was released. At that time, the song's final line was "For the first time since I was ten, I'm undesirable again". The fact that it changed to "For the first time since I drew breathe" makes this song painful in the most perfect way. Full circle of how women are not safe in death nor in birth. I love this so much.
I also like that it was changed, it allows even more connection to it while still maintaining that personal touch to it for the artist
noticing this felt like a sucker punch to the gut; the way that ten wasn't young enough...
So true I was sa'd at 5 yrs old and it still haunts me, it saddens me to know that no matter how old a girl is she will always be looked at like a piece of candy for men to take
@@that_one_gay_witch2427I am so sorry this happened to you! :((
"leave me to the beasts and bears"
I CHOOSE THE BEAR we all say in unison
"They cant reserve neighbouring plots, or request to be put on top"
To this day, I still remember that disgusting excuse of a man who was buried on top of Marilyn Monroe. The fact he had that as a request is already disgusting, but the fact that it was not only acknowledged but also concreted? Thats fucking terrifying
would have been way cooler and true admiration to be buried with a sitting marilyn statue hovering on top. classical marilyn trying to keep her skirt under control is also nice
@@VplusMuffinPerpetuating what Marilyn tried to escape from through death, the sexualised dehumanizing of her person (moreso with the figure of her uplifted skirt, the ultimate symbol of her humanness being sacrified by dumbing-it down to a sexual object for men) is disgusting and just as repulsive.
@@VplusMuffinhe desecrated her dead body
I CHOOSE THE BEASTS AND BEARS! If I screwed up, it will have been MY fault.
not to mention the fact, that after she died people bribed the morgue for pictures of her body. and well as her naked body being put into playboy... and apparently her dead body went missing but im not sure if that was totally confirmed? but its so disgusting how fetishized her corpse was
The fact that she refers to her own body as "it" to show the disconnect between her and her flesh in the way she is perceived...and how she feels like her body is not her own when it is watched and coveted.
'And they will come in such dismay, that they never did discover where I lay'
cleopatra!!!
That's what I thought of too
Same
The way you smile at the line 'be undesirable again' really drives home how dangerous it can be to *be* desired...Thank you for this song, as well as your others.
1 Peter 5:6-7 - Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Amen!
God loves you,, and if you believe in God, give your love to Christ and actually have a connection, because just believing but not knowing God makes it very easy for the things of the world to effect you in a bad way. Depression and other things will not have a effect on you IF your connection with God is strong enough. You will not have a strong connection with God overnight as I takes time for a good and healthy connection.
@@RyanLivesForGodAlways what is wrong with you?
As someone who was sexually abused as a child, the line "For the first time since I drew breath, I'm undesirable again" is the most hauting and tragically beautiful reflection of how I've felt ever since. I couldn't have found a better way to describe the feeling if I'd tried. Thank you, Paris Paloma, for expressing our pain, rage and sadness when we can't find the words.
@@happyfox1560 I am so sorry that happened to you. May there be continued healing and some feelings of safety for you as women collectively gain strength. May ALL who have suffered find comfort and strength in this movement. ❤️
Same friend. Sorry that happened.
@@dallasflynn5200 Thank you! Watching strong women rise and become more empowered has been a healing influence :)
@@rhys1264 Thank you friend! Your support means a lot :)
I pray for you and send you all my thoughts of hope, strength... Please, you have to know You are an angel. My mum suffered from incest, and had to live with this secret, it ruins her life. Please, be confident that many people will trust you, you deserve everything you want, peace in your life. You are just so courageous, please know that times are changing... Your voice will be heard ❤
I'm from India. We had a horrible crime take place. And ever since, the reporting of such violence has increased. In the fortnight between now and then, it has been cases after cases. This song, right now, just makes me break down. I want to cry. I want to scream. When do women get to live without fear????
I'm a Bengali. This is where the crime happened. আমরা সাক্ষী।
Never. Men are monsters.
Goddess bless you Sister ❤
“when I die leave my body in the woods for the wolves will be kinder than any man”
"I LOVE YOU, PARIS PALOMA!!" we all say in unison
I LOVE YOU PARIS PALOMA
I LOVE YOU, PARIS PALOMA
I LOVE YOU, PARIS PALOMAAAAAAAAA
I LOVE YOU, PARIS PALOMA
@@chunnamon I LOVE YOU, @PARISPALOMA !
"Or buy cuttings of my priceless locks" I know a neighbouring theme in this song is honouring Marilyn Monroe through highlighting how disgustingly she was treated after her death, and specially the way women are treated after death. I feel like that attitude is normalised with how acceptable it is to buy a complete stranger's possessions/parts of them, just because they have notoriety, it's weird and refuse to pretend it isn't.
They cut Eva Peron's hair after she was mummified.
@@chantellewilliams2542 oh great, I hate that
I think it's also a reference to Catherine Parr's burial. They absolutely destroyed her body in so many ways everytime she was exhumed. For decades. Locks of her hair are still floating around as "family heirlooms".
and the part "request to be buried on tops" relating to what happened to Marylin after her death, it's terrible :(
@@vicolaskennedy6656 I was about to say this! I thought of Katherine Parr and how a man stole some of her hair
I understand now what people mean when they say something is haunting yet beautiful
i’ve never felt like this before, it’s quite a… conflicting feeling
Her ability to make songs that feel ancient and modern at the same time is so amazing. She kills it every single time
the subtle picking the bear over man and reference to the men buried around Marilyn Monroe... So well done!
the best part is she wrote this song way before the 'Man v Bear' discourse...
I can’t get over the way this song completely nails the sheer exhaustion of having to constantly fight and be vigilant and fear male attack, the grief that lies that knowing that even in death women aren’t safe from men until they actually start to decay. As a victim of sexual assault I sob every time I hear this
Girls, if your man thinks this song is overkill, try to evacuate the relationship.
No cuz for real
@@shayne_has_landed2511 THIS!
YES - AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. IF YOU DON'T FEEL SAFE, YOU ARE NIT SAFE. LOOK AT THE STATISTICS. AND WOMEN WHO NEVER EXPECTED IT. THEY COULD NOT HAVE EVER THOUGHT THEIR BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND OR BROTHER FATHER NEPHEW GRANDFATHER OR FRIEND WOULD BE CAPABLE OF SUCH HORRIFIC THINGS. IF YOU FEEL UNSAFE EVEN ONCE, GET AWAY.
@@mtaylor7899 Absolutely agree 💯 %! Stay safe, Ladies!
"leave me for a day or two, to make sure that I turn blue" made me cry so much. The feeling of not being able to be in peace and rest even when you just died.
It would be a true blessing to hear you sing with Aurora or Kiki Rockwell. The three of you have beautiful angelic voices; I'm convinced it would be world-changing.
I've been a great fan of your work since The Fruits. You only had one job, and you nailed it. All you had to do was make music, you didn't have to speak about women's reality, give us a voice, or talk about female rage (or sadness), and yet you did. That's something I really admire about you.
Love you so much, I'm so happy that I found you on TikTok when you launched The Fruits. 💗
Absolutely!! Kiki and Paris are two of my favorite artists of all time. I saw paris paloma live and it felt so amazing to dance how I wanted in a crowd of women.
YES her and aurora would be so good
Paris Paloma has said that she’d love to do something with Aurora!!!!
Totally! Since the first time I listened to Kiki, I was like: "It would be amazing if she made a collab with Paris!" Hopefully one day!
if they collabed that would probably be my favorite song ever. and i’d probably die right then and there, but it would be worth it
I was horrifically little when it began happening to me. We are no safer in our cradles than in our graves. 💔 And from neither of those places are we able to speak! This song is like a sorrowful hymn yet also like an anthem. It speaks what we cannot, and it accompanies our voices when we can. ❤ You are a celestial star, Paris Paloma!
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose Your words are beautifully written. A sure testament to your innermost unbreakable core. May you continue to strongly speak your truth. You are also a Celestial Star.
This makes me wanna cry for you. :(
This feels like a poem Sylvia Plath would've written. Which is to say something about Paloma's brilliant mind, I don't randomly compare an artist's work with Sylvia's mastery.
The truly sad part is that the early TikTok version of this song said “for the first time since I was 10” and so many women shared their stories of not being anywhere near 10 before they were abused, that the lyrics were adjusted to reflect that…
Idk if it is a reference, but the “leave me for a day or two to make sure i turn blue” makes me think of the fact that women would only be handed off for mummification after a few days so that they wouldn’t be assaulted in death
Also in love with this song like i knew i would be
This song makes me think in agony about the many Hollywood actresses who were desecrated - or attempted to be desecrated- after their death. To guard a corpse before its final rest is an honor and a devastating responsibility. Beautiful song, poignant lyrics
It's horrid. And the mistreatment and abuse of women's bodies goes back so much further. Like with Catherine Parr, Julia Pastrana, Elena de Hoyos, and Sarah Baartman for example. And with Anne Boleyn's ladies in waiting being so protective of her body after her death because they knew what could possibly happen.
Paris can truly never write a bad song.
There's something incredibly soothing about hearing someone vocalise a thought that's been living in your head.
This song sent me on a rabit hole of the horrible things that woman have to deal with even after death. wow, this is a eye opening song, really powerful message
This is both cathartic and hard to listen to. But it’s nice to know I’m not alone in wanting to be released from the burden of living in a female body. 🩷 To all of you who relate to this song: I love you and I see you
Our bodies are glorious. The revenge is in the living. Keep spinning, keep creating.
I felt
This reminds me how many Egyptian mummies of women are more rotted than their male counterparts, which was a conscious decision by their families to keep grave desecrators from doing worse than stealing family heirlooms. Or how even now male morticians are not ever left alone with female dead bodies. Or the creep who requested his grave above Marilyn Monroe’s have him buried face down so she’s eternally “man on top.”
“For the first time since I drew breath, I’m undesirable again” made me CRY when I heard it at the Moroccan bookshop - one of the most powerful lyrics I’ve ever come across.
I really love how she throws Hugh Hefner under the bus with this one. And that creepy guy who wanted to be buried on top of her facing down. Apparently his wife moved him to a different crypt and sold that pot which I suppose it’s just going to invite another creepy man to be on top of her. I really wish that whoever runs her estate, would advocate to remove her, remains, and have them buried in a secret place that nobody knew about. On private property somewhere in a field full of flowers. An unmarked grave.
Nope! The sale fell through and that POS is still in the crypt above. I agree with your unmarked place idea.
The look in her eyes
She's made a soundtrack of that feeling
I love this song. It’s incredible that she made death feel almost empowering by having a choice of what to do with her body when she dies.
Stumbling across Labour all of those months ago is something I will forever be thankful for. It has been a privilege to listen to your voice and lyricism with every new release.
How many times have you played this song in the last hour?
Me: Yes.... yes I have.
same ahah (as well as interacting with the vid/comments to help get this work of art spread throughout the aether)
@@musingsofazebra it's such a good song like wow just wow
I have a longstanding fear of my body existing when I’m absent. Like being under for surgery, being in a vegetative state, burial instead of cremation. I think because I watched on the news of necrophilia at a very young age and it shook me to my core
Can relate💔
Time to cry again
just so people know and get the reference and how disgusting it is;
"They can’t reserve neighbouring plots
Or request to be buried on top"
**After Monroe’s death in 1962, her ex-husband Joe DiMaggio held a private funeral for her at Westwood Village. Playboy founder Hefner later arranged to be laid to rest in a crypt next to the actor. “Spending an eternity next to Marilyn is too sweet to pass up,” he told the Los Angeles Times in 2009. The paper reported that Hefner, who died in 2017, had spent $75,000 to secure his spot in 1992.**
A man was also buried above Marylin, and as per his request he was buried facedown so he could stare at her for eternity. He had a wife, to whom he told her "if you don't put me upside down over Marylin, Ill haunt you for the rest of your life". His name doesn't deserve to be shared.
@@jennyx753 That was Dimaggio, her second husband. I'm sure they divorced for good reason, and he went and disrespected his wife at the time to be buried over Monroe
@HaleyJo1992 funny how when these sort of things arise, people insist on spreading, to put it charitably, misremembered, incorrect gossip. They don't seem to care about smearing reputations, albeit of the dead.
Joe DiMaggio owned the two crypts in question and apparently handled the funeral of his ex-wife.
At some stage, he sold the upper crypt to a businessman, who was buried there in 1986, according to the story.
That man's widow reportedly sold the crypt in 2009 for $4.6million dollars and would have had to move his remains.
So, if we want to talk about disrespect for spouses, or profiting from Marilyn, let's start with that lady. Let's go on to the widow of Marilyn's heir, Lee Strasberg, who after his death, commercially monetised Marilyn's image.
As for the late Mr DiMaggio, there is nothing to say other than he loved his ex-wife.
@HaleyJo1992 not DiMaggio, it was Richard Poncher.
I really enjoy the different style in the song. the rocky bit really gives the tone for the desperation women feel in the battle, singing to the tune of it and raising your voice showing how deep the cuts are.
The silence after, shows the realisation we all have, that it’s fucked, and we should be free, but the reality is that we are still living here. So we would rather be in the forest with a bear rather than a man.
I will forever be grateful for making music that heals, and that you are being an activist through it and other to get us all closer to being safe
This line "They can't reserve nеighbouring plots or request to be buriеd on top"... It reminds me of what happened to Marilyn Monroe. The neighboring places and the one over hers were actually reserved by some dudes. The one on top wanted to be buried there with his face turning down...towards her. Even in death she couldn't have peace from all of those men. It's heartbreaking.
I feel like men have a built in desire to fight for something meaningful within. When women are creating music like this, I hope even a handful of men will start to see where to channel that fight. Like we can't even die in peace without the risk of being violated? How is this even an issue 🤷♀️🤦♀️.
Thank you Paris, for helping us get through difficult emotions as the women do our best to continue to evolve, constantly breaking the chains consistently thrown around us. 💙
i think the first sentance of your comment is grossly generalising and badly thought out , like your dichotomy is very insulting to both men and women , so what , women dont have fight violence and rage in them also , like there is plenty plenty men who are creating amazing art , the desire to fight and the traditional masculine image is not also not bad in itself the same way that girly girls are not offensive
its well meaning i believe , but it would be more advisable to think out a little more these ideas
also what an insult when hozier is existing
sorry english is not my first language
@@louyou6614 I think they were saying that men are often fighting for the wrong cause and that, when women like Paris Paloma, create music like this, they hope that men can realise that they're fighting for the wrong cause
@batsf0rtea And these generalisations once again are a them vs us idea , the men vs the women
Women and men are a crucial part of the patriarchy and equal crucial effort to upheld and same go for feminism
These statements are rooted in a malignant misogyny and with the assumption that the male gender is inherently against feminine causes or more precisely that feminine causes are inherently against the male gender and an anthitesis to their nature, and this while being false just grow divide that in turn grow resentment by both parts
They may seem innocent but their accumulations in the subconscious can be dangerous
We can praise a person without putting down implicitly and this singer deserve more well thought , less insulting praises
I don't want to sound like the not all men they get raped too annoying guy , but I hope my message came across
English is still not my first language
@@louyou6614 You're right. My first sentence was badly thought out. Disregard
that sentence. I appreciate the feedback. I like Hozier. My daughter loves him!
@aconnors8 Your daughter have taste madame
Also it's such a breeze of fresh air to see people acting maturely to a comment , I was half ready to be insulted lol no offense to you tho just the way internet is
Can I just say that Paris Paloma's voice would've been a perfect fit as a Hunger Games movie soundtrack? I don't know how to further explain that, but she is just so powerful like that.
I felt "It will never be yours" coming a split-second before it did, even though I'd never heard the lyrics before. And I feel it so deeply in my soul. I don't want to be someone's prize. I want to be my own. 🖤🤍💜 💔
“Leave me to the beasts and bears I’d rather that the feast was theirs” ❤️🔥
reminds me of the question “would you rather be trapped in a forest with a man or a bear?”
And so many women chose bear because they know the worst the bear could do to them is kill them, while men could and might do much worse.
The song hit me so hard, I don't even know how I feel after listening it. Each sentence hurts, and at the same time, it's so peaceful, but it's a bittersweet peace.
To be the last man alive would be heaven.
To be the last woman alive would be hell.
About the tattoo line, I think it has a double meaning. The obvious one is that a tattoo uglifies, but another might that it is a mark of independence . Stealing a woman's honor and dignity even after her death can be seen as a way of possessing her, but if there is a tattoo, it can be a symbol that she already owns her body and can do whatever she wants with it. One of the tragedies of living under the patriarchy is understanding that women don't own anything, not even their own flesh.
As an argentine, even thought i understand the references she made were about Marilyn Monroe, i coudn't help but think of Eva Peron and the horrible history regarding her death where her body was "missing" for 20 years. No matter the politics associated with her, she was still a human but was treated worse than that just because she was a powerfull woman
"for the first time since i drew breath I'm undesirable again" hit me like a punch to the gut
Seems fitting that this song should be released as the Dominique Pelicot story is unfolding where I live in France now. Truly devastating 🖤
WAITED SINCE THE TIKTOK. THANK YOU PARIS PALOMA. IT FEELS A HOLE THAT WAS LEFT BY YOUR DEMO
The pain in her voice makes my heart hurt because it's so true, this puts feelings into words 😢
thank u for being the voice for so many women, we love u paris
The way you have me sobbing uncontrollably… You are such an amazing and powerful woman… Thank you for being loud, and I am sorry to anyone who knows the feeling I feel when listening to this song. Stay safe. ❤
-Sable
Dearest Sable, I’m so very sorry you feel this horrific pain. I know it all too well myself, and I stand strong beside you! ♥️
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose Thank you. 🫂🖤
Her songs really hit a nerve every damn time like the strumming of a chord; reverberating through time. Today's nerve: Women aren't safe even in death. Even when a corpse has more autonomy it's still not safe.
paris paloma casually posting yet another masterpiece
I cant wait to see you again in Amsterdam. Last time I went with my child to your concert. It was full circle. Your music helped me heal and gave my pain a voice.
Words aren't enough to express how i love her every song
The pained bitter resignation somehow spoke so much louder than crying or fury would have
its a punch in the guts. That fear and panic of what they could do..
This song has something hauntingly beautiful in it. Both with vocals and the visuals. Its terribly powerful despite most of the song being sung really softly. And the fact the "since I was ten" from the first rafts was changed to "since I drew breath" is so heart breaking.
Paris Paloma is such a powerful voice. All of her songs are so important and need to be shared far and wide
I love this so much, the way she puts a fear every woman has felt at least once, if not daily into the lirycs, and the references, this is a masterpiece
THE WAY IVE WAITED FOR THIS FOREVER OMGG
I’m actually sobbing. Thank you Paris, I’ve never been able to feel music as much as I’ve felt yours. You make me feel like I’m not alone anymore. Woman need to stand together. Thank you
this song took my breath away when i first heard it randomly played. now i can't stop listening and keeps making me cry...
I can't even begin to explain how much I love every song she puts out! and how much it speaks to me in a soul level. How much it has helped me push through my life and continues to do so. Paris Paloma, please never stop writting songs. This is what true talent and soul calling/gift looks like.
This song & her voice would be absolutely incredibly amazing live in a church & a cathedral
You know what I'd love? A Paris/Hozier collab 😍
"I'd choose the bear" in a hauntingly beautiful song
After what recently happened in my country (India) this feels so haunting 😢
I am ready to bawl my eyes out for the I think fifth time this year 😭😭😭
The lyric change from "for the first time since I was 10" to "for the first time since I drew breath" omgg
i remember seeing a snippet of this song on tiktok years ago, saving it and listening to it on repeat until the lyrics were burned into my brain so i could sing it in the shower. now years later its finally out and oh my god i am screaming
My father is suffering parkinson's disease.He tried to killed himself last week.He survived but he want to die The part of the song reminds me of him
"I'll take the flame over desecration
Promise you'll make all these arrangements
Don't you dare think it's overkill
I wouldn't wish the watching on anybody"
So if for that reason only
Swear to me you will
There's a line in the song that reminds me a lot of cleopatra and what is speculated that she had said before she died. No man will ever find my tomb. I wish we could all could never be found after death
I can’t explain how this song makes me feel but one thing is for sure; I felt it and it’s a true masterpiece. The meaning behind it? The lyrics? The music video? The rhythm? Everything is in perfection.
As Eurovision fan I hope you represent UK at Eurovision next year 😍
I’m glad I’m not the only one who was thinking it 💙💜🩷
I'm glad I discovered such an amazing singer and songwriter. Every song has a story/message that makes me think and reflect.
Don't loose your essence Paloma.
"LEAVE ME TO THE BEASTS AND BEARS, I’D RATHER THAT THE FEAST WAS THEIRS"
AAAAAAAHHHHHHHH
There are no words for the emotions this evoked and how wonderful you’ve composed this song, absolutely beautiful 😭❤️
...Damn, I don't regret discovering Paris. She is amazing!
I can always count on Paris Paloma to write about topics so distinct and specifi. This song is so dark and subtly disturbing- it's brilliant. "don't you dare say it's overkill" because we're always told we're exaggerating what we know is the reality.
I follow every masterpiece you release like it’s my life’s mission. I play every song for my mom, we make references to your songs regularly. This is so hauntingly beautiful. You’ve done it once again, another masterpiece for the books.
I rarely cry to a song, but I don't even know how this moved me to tears so easily.
I always thought there would be only few women who would also fear what's coming to us even after death.
Listening to this on one of the worst days for American women
Girl stop being delulu. You and other women in America will be fine.
@@teverion2527 this may be news to you, but politics AFFECT our lives. Your definition of fine is "fine...for me".
remember hearing the first snippet on tiktok and was awestruck...rushed when I saw the video came out and PARIS PALOMA YOU NEVER FAIL TO AMAZE ME you truly have a gift of conveying womanhood as a whole encompassing every aspects that most artists wouldn't dare to touch upon