Swearing and the overuse of “like”, “literally”, “um/uh”, etc. is usually due to a lack of vocabulary. Sure everyone has a basic vocab, but then there are people who can articulate what they need to say without the filler.
Loukes , agreed. Swearing not a useful commodity for my family nor will it be. That said when I need to be persuaded to push it past 10, in a mental or physical setting (even if it's usually just me telling myself these days), a "GET YOUR F$CKING A$$ UP!!" goes a lot farther with me than a "come on man ". lol
You dont need to curse all the time, it's kind of a passive aggressive/aggressive way of communicating with other people so it's just better to not curse. They are just a waste of time unless they are "tactical" funny but it's the truth. It's like saying "uhhh" but in a way that makes you look even more stupid. Lol
Same here. Usually when people start using swearing they’re substituting profanities for words they can’t recall or articulate. The amount of cursing someone does is a good indicator of whether or not they have control of the situation themselves.
@@lieutenantflyboy swearing a lot is actually a sign of intelligence and increased vocabulary, but as usual people's social inhibitions, brought on by the stodgy influence of 'polite' society, have lead people to a false conclusion
@@AeneasGemini you're statement sounded good when i was immature. You grow up and realize articulating a point with all the love without curse words requires the most intelligence.
Swear words are verbal tools. A skilled individual knows when, where, how, why, and with whom to use cuss words. It’s another example of using extreme ownership and discipline to make what you say stand out and get your point across, which in conversation, clarity of thought is essential.
“Don't use words too big for the subject. Don't say infinitely when you mean very; otherwise you'll have no word left when you want to talk about something really infinite.” CS Lewis
Yeah, but it has to be used with care and precision, like all tricks. I swear almost never, but when I do, all the heads turn just because it's so rare and that why it's so effective carrying the point home. Jocko pointed out that same. Strategic swearing. Same kind of effect happened with my father. I think I saw him angry maybe 2 times while I was growing up, but boy those times. Also it did not mean that he lost it completely or anything like that, but the contrast was simply so huge it was scary. This rule also applies to many other things, especially in the language. When everything is Epic, nothing is.
I really appreciate that as a stay at home mom. I listen as I'm doing things throughout my day. By the end of the day I don't have much time to say *now* I'm going to have dedicated time to listen to a profanity-laced podcast. That time goes to my husband so either I can listen in front of my children or not at all. I've dropped a bunch of podcasts/channels. THANK YOU!!!
I love listening to your podcasts with my teenager and really appreciate the clean language among some horrific war stories. I know the military has it’s own language, and a lot of the swearing is just filler, like saying “like” or “uh”. Being clean makes you and your guests sound more intelligent and no one will ever say “I wish they would swear more”.
When I’m with my family or in public it doesn’t even come into my mind but then when I’m fucking around with my friends I don’t even think about it and it just comes ya know
Lol finally someone who has brought this up I think it’s the way our parents raise us and the reason we swear only with our friends is because of their influence
I think it ties into "reading your surroundings". Being able to feel people out and learn their behaviour and base your decision of formal or casual language on that.
It’s very frustrating behavior. I do it. It actually offends me when others swear, but I talk like a sailor, hell like a SEAL, when I really get going. I feel it’s ignorant, and a sign, if your angry, that you’ve lost control. It’s a learned behavior that I’ve done since I was in my teens, and now it’s a bad habit that I’m constantly trying to sensor myself over.
Jocko, I have my four kids listen to you all the time because the things you say are incredibly valuable for their growth. I very much appreciate how you abstain from swearing. I’m not a saint either, but it’s something I don’t do in front of my kids or in our home. Thank you
My dad was a WW2 Marine and combat veteran. He was also a university professor of literature after the war, and he could swear with a fluency and imagination that defied gravity. He could swear in colors. The thing is, he rarely did so. When I was about 14 or 15, I unconsciously dropped an F-bomb in front of him. I tried to pretend like I hadn’t said it and kept talking. When I’d finished, he said "you know son, if you talk like that all the time, there will come a time when you really need to free your mind, and people aren’t going to believe you because that’s how you talk all the time." A few years later, and I was married to my first wife, and my father in law and I were doing a valve adjustment on a car together. He was torquing down a bolt and the wrench slipped off the bolt head and he barked his knuckles on something. "SSSHHHHIIIIIITTTT!!!!" came out of his mouth. I put my hands up and backed away from the car. In all the years I’d known him, that was the first and ONLY time I ever heard him say a cuss word. He was a veteran with 20+ years in the Army as a pilot, including combat tours over Europe and Korea, so he was no stranger to the use of bad language; but he was also a straight-laced Minnesota Lutheran, and he didn’t cuss. Like EVER. So when he swore that time he busted his knuckles on a valve cover, I *knew* he meant it. It was the perfect illustration of my dad's lesson to me. Do I cuss? Yeah, sometimes. But it’s not something I’m proud of, and I make a conscious effort not to. But old habits die hard, and I’m not perfect in this regard; so it’s a daily and deliberate act to control it.
I thought of an old boss I had that was known for keeping his cool, and come to think of it. The guy never swore or joked about others, guy was intense, but approachable. It's gotta deal with keeping your cool.
I can really respect someone who doesn't joke about others,it's very important and natural,joking,taunting,bringing down others is like you put yourself in a superior place than them and guess what,you will not get respect from anyone who has a functional brain and good heart.
Agreed. Boss was an Australian farm manager, tough as nails, dropped exactly one F-bomb in 2 years of working with him. I was impressed, as drought and dying cattle can inspire some justifiable profanity at any time. Never talked bad about anyone but he’d let ya know ASAP if he had a problem with you. Best boss ever.
@@icecorgi1387 Let's see... 1st National Park (Yellowstone) 1st National Monument (Devil's Tower 1st State to give women the vote 1st female Postmaster General So, yeah, it exists, but thankfully most people don't notice it. My favorite bumper sticker says: "Welcome to Wyoming. Consider everyone armed."
I have to say that I really appreciate the fact that you take this approach. My daughters have really enjoyed your books and listening to The Warrior Kid and The Jocko Podcasts.
@@SKBottom yes like condoms or food. Put two together on at once and they cause friction and explode! Food. You don't put a hot dog between a hamburger, do you? That beats the whole experience of just right. Yes YES YEEEEES
I'm accused of the same thing. I think it's more a plea for validation of comprehension in most cases. It comes from too often having to explain common sense to supposedly intelligent people.
@@clever7658 Funny... I don't have any trouble with public speaking whatsoever. Nor did I claim my "cause" to be noble... I wasn't even claiming to know for certain what the underlying reason is for another person's behavior (least of which, someone I don't personally know). After all, that might well be considered pompous, ignorant, and/or completely assumptive among other things - none of which would be very "clever".
Jesse Turner Well, if my comprehension is correct, you did state that you have to explain common sense to these “intelligent people,” and in phrasing such a sentence, it seems as if this happens often, and you state yourself as the superior individual since you have to explain this “common sense.” My question is, how can you assume that these people consider themselves as intelligent beings? Of course, you would have to assume the trait. It seems a bit hypocritical to mock these people for the purpose of justifying your own claim, and proceeding to state that assuming a trait is ignorant and would not be “clever” according to your “wise” remarks. I’m not looking for conflict, but your remarks are simply contradictory, or better yet, hypocritical. This is simple deduction backed by common sense is it not?
"When I want it to stick, I give it to them loud and dirty". - George Patton. Cussing is a tool. If you use it right, it helps. If you use it wrong, you look like a fool. Some people cuss because they don't have the vocabulary to say what's on their mind.
@@AeneasGemini ok but why though? Like if you have such a diverse vocabulary at your disposal then why limit yourself to a finite list of curses that as often as not don't make sense in the context
This is one of the reasons I love your podcast. -I can share it with my preteens. Thank you so much for being a positive role model!!! Your reasons are the same as mine ☺️
I appreciate you making this choice. It allows me to listen with my wife and daughters. They understand the contextualization of the times it occurs as compared to mindless chatter 👍🏻🇺🇸
Excessive swearing is the problem just like saying “like” or “Um” is a problem we all say those words and they aren’t bad but there’s a limit to everything
There's nothing wrong in it. It's just average Joes like that you take these small details too seriously. Continuous swearing is a different, unacceptable thing. Not everyone is as equal in terms of speaking fluently without stuttering. It's a skill.
Thanks, Jocko. I hear ya on the higher level. I've often said you can't work with horses or cattle long without cussing. But, I also learned how to turn it off as my folks never swore so I wouldn't do it around them. Thanks for all these mini-pods. Blessings, Amigo.
I couldn’t agree more with every aspect of the discussion. This is the ultimate form of situational awareness. The way we communicate with others in our environment is vital to daily success.
Congrats, you guys are exactly the kind of stupid people pointed out in the video. Not swearing isn't hard. It's a choice. There was a brief time where I started swearing a lot because of my friends, and when that caused a conflict between some of my other friends, I realized I had only started doing it to fit in. So I stopped.
I used to swear - a lot. Then, after my second assignment overseas, I was listening to some music with a lot of swearing … and I'd listen to it loudly in my dorm room . Then, one day in my ear - clear as a bell, I heard someone say "turn it down...you're offending others"... and, well, I'm not a religious person -- but I do believe. I turned it down and then refined my speech. Plus - I started realizing that discipline, especially personal discipline - takes practice and mastering of yourself...flaws and all. I even apologize to my parents if I swear in front of them...
Exactly right about listening to this w my kids. I am grateful to have these vids/podcasts during my workouts. Very inspiring/encouraging. I was listening to someone else during my 75 Hard and he was inspiring as well but every other word was a cuss word. Sheeesh... my kiddos would have to be asleep for me to put that one on. TY, Jocko. You are awesome an an excellent role model. We are reading the 2nd Warrior Kid book🙌
I was raised not to swear and for the most part I don’t. I don’t mind when others do but I think you kinda spoil an asset you could have when you swear every other word. I have a friend of over 10 years and he’s heard me swear once and he still brings up that occasion because he recognizes how genuinely pissed I was at that time. All about using them right.
Jocko was in the SEAL Teams so I'm sure he has heard every swear word that people can imagine and I agree with his perspective on coarse language. I was never in the military(although I am considering joining an Army reserve unit) but I enjoy listening to Rock & Roll music as well as Rap, I was always a big fan of comedy and I love movies(a decent portion of them are R-Rated ones), also, I went to a tough public school. I'm fairly certain that I have heard every possible combination of curse words and every possible type of curse word that people can imagine-and some that I'm sure they would rather not. But I personally don't swear a lot because like yourself, I was raised not to. Every now and again, I'll swear but very rarely but I'm not bothered when other people do it. As some others on here have noted, I feel that there is an appropriate setting and place for foul language and people need to know where and when it's ideal and appropriate to use profanity. Just like you said, it's all about using it right.
True alpha! Listen to how Jocko admits he mistakenly used the word "humbled", but even in a mistake he owns it. There's such a respectable quality in owning mistakes, especially when most people just lie instead. It's all about integrity, which takes a healthy amount of confidence.
I agree 100% with every emphasis of this podcast. I teach leaders every moment is different. A good leader will adjust to each moment. But one constant is to forget profanity in groups. I also think that uneducating yourself at right moments if a key feature to leadership, which helps in these moments.
I'm new to Jocko's podcasts. When I first clicked the link, I was expecting to hear something like, "yeah I swear all the fucking time, it's for for your kids to hear, it makes them tough." So I was really relieved (and encouraged) that that was not trs message. It seems he was saying that there's a time and a place for it. Swearing/cussing/foul language isn't all bad not is it all good, it has its place and can be useful when used appropriately. And when talking about his son and how he wants toughness for him, but is still concerned about his innocent ears, it's encouraging to see such a badass show such a tender heart. Much respect Jocko.
I never swore until a couple years after I joined the Army. But it is a choice. It's relaxed language. There's a time to talk more relaxed and a time to talk more proper. It is hard, though, when it become habitual. When you're trying to reach broader audience, why alienate the group of them that are offended or don't like it when the group that does swear won't care if you don't. Appreciate what you do, Jocko. Thank you.
This channel always amazes me by them talking about a seemingly boring topic and diving really deep into it and it’s always really interesting and informative, thanks
I think excessive swearing comes off as unintelligent. There’s a time and place for different language and I think an intelligent person can differentiate between a bad and good time.
Same. Every time I hear someone who cusses excessively it's as if they don't have the vocabulary to express their thoughts or feelings intelligently lol
Thank you, Jocko and Echo. Was messing up in life; still not perfect, but I am trying to improve myself. I was working at a bakery from 4:30am-1 starting around October. Your videos were always the best to listen to at 3:45-4am on the way to my job. I was 285 in October, I am 215 now, at 6ft6. I went into the recruiter and scored a 79/99 on the prelim Asvab. Not sure if i will be able to qualify for any branch at MEPS, as I had spent time in a hospital over drug-related issues in my early 20s, but I am trying to figure out ways I can still serve my country if I do get declined over medical history.
As a Marine NCO in the late '70s and early 80's we took great pride in our ability to verbally berate non rates. It's wasn't until I became a WO that I began to rethink the language. I worked for an LDO Major, very soft spoken. He would encourage all senior enlisted and officers to clean up their language. His philosophy was, the ability to concisely express ourselves without the colorful language displayed our mastery of the English language AND it was another means of separating ourselves from the subordinates. I'm proud to say I've pretty much been swear free since the early 90's. I retired as a CWO3 in 1999. Thanks Major Sablan
Nailed it for me. Respect and control is what I tell my children it is about. My children are 30 to 13 and they do NOT cuss in front of their mother. They know I refuse to cuss. It is not that I couldn’t do it but I explained that it was a matter of my controlling my tongue. I had plenty of exposure in my life and always felt is showed weakness. (Lazy talk) I like what you said about linguistic control. It shows intelligence. Cuss like a sailor in your head but control what comes out of your mouth. If we watch a movie or show with cussing I say, “Bad word”. I did it because I wanted the younger children to not become desensitized. Now it is a running joke. Now they know if Mother says a foul word she is truly mad or suffering a head injury. Thank you for talking about this. Something simple but a powerful lesson.
In podcast 185 your guest threw quite a few f bombs and you did not curse once.i was impressed with that, it showed how much character you have and knowing when to turn it on and turn it off.
Dropping f bombs to many times looses its effect, and creates the same effect as "like" or "ummm". It just becomes filler. Or I consider it thinking time for the speaker to gather their thought.
Thanks Jocko, for your correction of the use of “humbled” vs. “honored”. I hear this incorrect use of “humbled” a lot, and it puts me off every time. Thanks
I’m an ER nurse, not a charge nurse or manager, and I swear ALL THE TIME. It’s situation dependent. When I have a dude on the table who just threw up 2L of blood, blood pressure in the shitter, and he throws up another liter and goes unresponsive; you can bet the resuscitation team says “oh FUCK”. There’s nothing else to say that can convey the urgency of the situation. It’s how and when it’s said that matters.
Your one of the only pods I sent my son's to, one of them is sticking with you. For this, coming from being a vet myself (USAF) and swear my self ( I try not to but it slips at times ) I can agree with you on this issue.
It seems to me the people who cuss for fun or when they're feeling happy or making a joke can pull it off better than someone who is ranting and raving.
Jocko wrote a series of books for kids, Warrior Kid series. Soooo good. I've read them all with my son and together we learned a lot about character, motivation, failure, etc... Get em - they're worth it.
Swearing is often used in a lazy way. There is a better word, if we put some effort into thinking about what we are trying to convey. To not put the mental acuity into finding a better word is a sign of an unfocused mind. When you need a sledgehammer it is time to swear. When you need precision, use the word that conveys the meaning with laser focus.
From a writing perspective, I always saw swearing in books, etc. as lazy writing. You have time to plan out the right words to reach the maximum number of people and yet you choose words that limit your audience. That's a hallmark of laziness and/or a lack of skill. In conversation, I notice that people who frequently swear don't often do so around me (without me ever once telling them not to). This shows me they CAN control it but that when I'm not around, they CHOOSE not to. Logically, this makes them look unrestrained and weak and THIS is what makes those who do swear less influential. It isn't that they are being judged for swearing so much as they prove they can control themselves and then just don't.
I don’t think that makes them weak. They have the power to control themselves when they know it’s not wanted, and swear in appropriate situations. That’s self-control, unless you see swearing as somehow morally offensive.
My parents always raised us that swearing was for people who had a limited vocabulary and couldn't find the correct words to express themselves. I'm no saint, but I try to remember there are many other words in the English language to express emotions besides cuss words.
Honestly dude who gives a fuck. If you are articulate and have a good vocabulary it really doesn’t matter how much you swear. There are numerous ways to express how and what you are feeling, and sometimes cuss words are the best ways to express things. 🤷🏽♂️
@@thomasgarcia8118 I think we are saying pretty much the same thing. "there are numerous ways to express how and what you feel". Yep, that's what my parents taught me. "sometimes cuss words are the best ways to express things". Yep, totally agree. The problem is when people use cuss words as a crutch and it becomes the ONLY way they can express themselves.
My old preacher, who served as a Marine and has a family legacy of 300 years of military service, called cuss words "emergency words," saying there was a time and a place. I've adopted that mindset. I think everyone has their own line for where they'll start cussing, and personally, mine is when I'm getting shot at, but I like this discussion.
I once heard a Colonel address a graduating class of Officers that caused me to challenge my thoughts on this. He said, " Use the language that communicates your directives. Swearing is the evidence of the level of education you have". Since then, I found that swearing comes from emotion and causes one to communicate emotion, not clear thought or direction. To choose not to swear causes a person to find another word to communicate and advance their own vocabulary as well as become more articulate.
Dramatic emphasis. In the effort of getting after it. It adds Intensity and motivation. And a hard life. But I was walking in a busy area and I thought.. What if a little girl heard me right now.. And I'm trying to stop cursing. But I'm just going to keep it on the table be consistently conscious about it.
Those two things are hardly comparable. Though funnily enough, the most honest people I've met swear the most. But keep on with your elitist bullshit because you think avoiding a couple "bad words" makes you somehow better than everyone else.
@@Anthony.462 I've never met anyone from Cork, most of my Irish friends come from the North, but my first guess was it's the people of Co. Cork who would talk like that.
I’ve taught my kids that people who constantly swear lack the mental aptitude to think of something better and the self control to be respectful of the people around them. I’m no swearing prude, however I’ve set the bar high knowing that when they do swear it will mean something.
I don't personally know Jocko, but I don't see him insulting, or questioning someone's intelligence behind their back. As far as the episode with Mr. Aguilar goes, the amount of f-bombs were grating because of the rarity of that type of language on this podcast. However, the language conveyed to me how much Mr. Aguilar cared about his experiences in the teams. There is a lot of meaning that can be attributed to a four letter word. Ultimately, I don't have any problem with that particular episode because an interesting story was being shared.
I've told people basically the same thing. There is a difference between calling someone a name or swearing at them vs just peppering in a "vulgar" word when the situation is appropriate.
Normal people: bitching and moaning
Jocko: *tactical swearing*
😭
Is it tactical?
Or strategic?
🤔🤔🤔🤔
People using ‘literally’ every other word is the worst.
oh man, that is literally the worst.
Tyler it’s the worst, literally.
literally the worst
Or if they use it waaaaay wrong. "I literally died." No, you didn't moron.
Swearing and the overuse of “like”, “literally”, “um/uh”, etc. is usually due to a lack of vocabulary. Sure everyone has a basic vocab, but then there are people who can articulate what they need to say without the filler.
I agree. Swearing can be great when needed but if overused and misplaced it's quite the cringe.
Loukes Bollocks.
WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK ARE YOU FUCKING TALKING ABOUT???
Loukes , agreed. Swearing not a useful commodity for my family nor will it be. That said when I need to be persuaded to push it past 10, in a mental or physical setting (even if it's usually just me telling myself these days), a "GET YOUR F$CKING A$$ UP!!" goes a lot farther with me than a "come on man ". lol
@@phatsdonahue2516 Yes 100%! Swear words have a lot of power if used correctly.
"It's fucking raw." -Gordon Ramsay
that one guy: "bruh, cussing is authentic"
Jocko: "it's ridiculous"
that one guy: "it's ridiculous"
Jedi mind trick
Yes sir it’s ridiculous
I love How I know exactly who you’re talking about.
its just talking how you want.
You dont need to curse all the time, it's kind of a passive aggressive/aggressive way of communicating with other people so it's just better to not curse. They are just a waste of time unless they are "tactical" funny but it's the truth. It's like saying "uhhh" but in a way that makes you look even more stupid. Lol
My dad always tells me swearing is a sign that person is either in full control or has totally lost that control. 90% times it's the latter
There's a huge difference between "fuck yea" and "oh fuck"
Same here. Usually when people start using swearing they’re substituting profanities for words they can’t recall or articulate. The amount of cursing someone does is a good indicator of whether or not they have control of the situation themselves.
@@lieutenantflyboy swearing a lot is actually a sign of intelligence and increased vocabulary, but as usual people's social inhibitions, brought on by the stodgy influence of 'polite' society, have lead people to a false conclusion
@@AeneasGemini you're statement sounded good when i was immature. You grow up and realize articulating a point with all the love without curse words requires the most intelligence.
Thats a real good observation and advise to know how to see through a person.
The ONLY thing ive learned is "STRATEGIC SWEARING" from this vid.
Good.
sounds like tactical bullshit to me
This comment is FUCKING GOLD
*tactical cussin'
Or how about Tactical Swearing? :D
I think you mean David FUCKIN Goggins
I laughed out loud at this for so long I had to put my phone down. Thank you.
He lives life on hard mode though
Justice9111 yet inspires thousands of people to better themselves and motivate themselves.
Truth hurts
I would have expected him to say some shit like "Swearing is easy, and I only do things that are difficult."
That is a very good quote lol. It’s very easy to let words slip out rather than think of more intelligent words to say.
He basically did @13:00 lol
Underrated and ironic
I figured he would just say "it's discipline"
@@GGtheRealest good. U thought wrong and learned to be more open.
Swear words are verbal tools. A skilled individual knows when, where, how, why, and with whom to use cuss words. It’s another example of using extreme ownership and discipline to make what you say stand out and get your point across, which in conversation, clarity of thought is essential.
Exactly
“Don't use words too big for the subject. Don't say infinitely when you mean very; otherwise you'll have no word left when you want to talk about something really infinite.” CS Lewis
Swearing, done correctly, can convey a level of honesty that transcends the linguistic facade of deceit.
Yeah, but it has to be used with care and precision, like all tricks.
I swear almost never, but when I do, all the heads turn just because it's so rare and that why it's so effective carrying the point home. Jocko pointed out that same. Strategic swearing.
Same kind of effect happened with my father. I think I saw him angry maybe 2 times while I was growing up, but boy those times. Also it did not mean that he lost it completely or anything like that, but the contrast was simply so huge it was scary.
This rule also applies to many other things, especially in the language. When everything is Epic, nothing is.
"Piazza" always and i mean always makes me think of pizza. #Supreme
"Linguistic facade of deceit"
Just being honest, that fucking blows
huh
What?
I really appreciate that as a stay at home mom. I listen as I'm doing things throughout my day. By the end of the day I don't have much time to say *now* I'm going to have dedicated time to listen to a profanity-laced podcast. That time goes to my husband so either I can listen in front of my children or not at all. I've dropped a bunch of podcasts/channels. THANK YOU!!!
I am one of those dads that listen to this with my sons. I’m so thankful you don’t swear much. I believe it speaks to your security.
I'm glad you refrain from swearing on your podcast, it makes it easier to share it with more people then.
petrolhead001 I wish you could read into what you said.
I love listening to your podcasts with my teenager and really appreciate the clean language among some horrific war stories. I know the military has it’s own language, and a lot of the swearing is just filler, like saying “like” or “uh”. Being clean makes you and your guests sound more intelligent and no one will ever say “I wish they would swear more”.
Levels of swearing:
1. Normal swearing
2. Sailor swearing
3. SEAL swearing
4. YT comments swearing
Level 5 - Australian swearing
Level 6 - Stepping on lego barefoot swearing
@Seven V Ya fucking right it is
5. Berserker growling
Tom1911 hilarious tom
It’s funny how we can filter ourselves without thinking about it depending on who we’re with.
When I’m with my family or in public it doesn’t even come into my mind but then when I’m fucking around with my friends I don’t even think about it and it just comes ya know
Lol finally someone who has brought this up I think it’s the way our parents raise us and the reason we swear only with our friends is because of their influence
I think it ties into "reading your surroundings". Being able to feel people out and learn their behaviour and base your decision of formal or casual language on that.
You have to at some point, even if subconsciously, decide who you will and won't swear around.
It’s very frustrating behavior. I do it. It actually offends me when others swear, but I talk like a sailor, hell like a SEAL, when I really get going. I feel it’s ignorant, and a sign, if your angry, that you’ve lost control. It’s a learned behavior that I’ve done since I was in my teens, and now it’s a bad habit that I’m constantly trying to sensor myself over.
Jocko, I have my four kids listen to you all the time because the things you say are incredibly valuable for their growth. I very much appreciate how you abstain from swearing. I’m not a saint either, but it’s something I don’t do in front of my kids or in our home. Thank you
My dad was a WW2 Marine and combat veteran. He was also a university professor of literature after the war, and he could swear with a fluency and imagination that defied gravity. He could swear in colors. The thing is, he rarely did so. When I was about 14 or 15, I unconsciously dropped an F-bomb in front of him. I tried to pretend like I hadn’t said it and kept talking. When I’d finished, he said "you know son, if you talk like that all the time, there will come a time when you really need to free your mind, and people aren’t going to believe you because that’s how you talk all the time."
A few years later, and I was married to my first wife, and my father in law and I were doing a valve adjustment on a car together. He was torquing down a bolt and the wrench slipped off the bolt head and he barked his knuckles on something. "SSSHHHHIIIIIITTTT!!!!" came out of his mouth. I put my hands up and backed away from the car. In all the years I’d known him, that was the first and ONLY time I ever heard him say a cuss word. He was a veteran with 20+ years in the Army as a pilot, including combat tours over Europe and Korea, so he was no stranger to the use of bad language; but he was also a straight-laced Minnesota Lutheran, and he didn’t cuss. Like EVER. So when he swore that time he busted his knuckles on a valve cover, I *knew* he meant it.
It was the perfect illustration of my dad's lesson to me. Do I cuss? Yeah, sometimes. But it’s not something I’m proud of, and I make a conscious effort not to. But old habits die hard, and I’m not perfect in this regard; so it’s a daily and deliberate act to control it.
Why would you be proud or not proud of language?
Just words man that's all it is.
Thanks for the advice, as a Scottish guy I swear a lot and needed to hear that - I'll reign it in.
@ Stuart Docherty I love it when Scots let loose. It's melodious. It doesn't sound like profanity.
@@christhorpe6281 That was just the women when getting chips.
Listening to billy Connolly swear is beautiful, the man has turned it into an art form.
I thought of an old boss I had that was known for keeping his cool, and come to think of it. The guy never swore or joked about others, guy was intense, but approachable. It's gotta deal with keeping your cool.
I can really respect someone who doesn't joke about others,it's very important and natural,joking,taunting,bringing down others is like you put yourself in a superior place than them and guess what,you will not get respect from anyone who has a functional brain and good heart.
Had a boss like that great guy. Only heard him cuss twice. Point was made both times.
Did you work at Los Pollos Hermanos?
Agreed. Boss was an Australian farm manager, tough as nails, dropped exactly one F-bomb in 2 years of working with him. I was impressed, as drought and dying cattle can inspire some justifiable profanity at any time. Never talked bad about anyone but he’d let ya know ASAP if he had a problem with you. Best boss ever.
"Swearing is the lazy mind's way of trying to express itself forcefully."
-- a sign in a gun shop in Wyoming
kinda ironic isn't it?
Nice, but does Wyoming even exist
@@icecorgi1387 Let's see...
1st National Park (Yellowstone)
1st National Monument (Devil's Tower
1st State to give women the vote
1st female Postmaster General
So, yeah, it exists, but thankfully most people don't notice it.
My favorite bumper sticker says: "Welcome to Wyoming. Consider everyone armed."
@@workin4alivin585 Found the Wyomingian
@@paganslayer8661 😃 🏅 Wyomingian is right!
Where did you pick that up? Most people say "ite," which sounds like a mineral. 😅
I have to say that I really appreciate the fact that you take this approach. My daughters have really enjoyed your books and listening to The Warrior Kid and The Jocko Podcasts.
I view swears and cusses as potent seasoning to be used in flavoring language, use too much and it becomes shit.
Yes. Like spices/condiments on food.
This. THIS. Perfectly said. Even just like pepper or salt. There's a fine line.
@@SKBottom yes like condoms or food. Put two together on at once and they cause friction and explode! Food. You don't put a hot dog between a hamburger, do you? That beats the whole experience of just right. Yes YES YEEEEES
@@RantTherapist Dude, I wrote condiments not condoms. Still, your statement is valid. Peace, bro.
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After they brought it up, I noticed how often Jocko says ”you know” 😁
Probably to get the listeners attention.
I'm accused of the same thing. I think it's more a plea for validation of comprehension in most cases. It comes from too often having to explain common sense to supposedly intelligent people.
@@clever7658, haha that's true
@@clever7658 Funny... I don't have any trouble with public speaking whatsoever. Nor did I claim my "cause" to be noble... I wasn't even claiming to know for certain what the underlying reason is for another person's behavior (least of which, someone I don't personally know). After all, that might well be considered pompous, ignorant, and/or completely assumptive among other things - none of which would be very "clever".
Jesse Turner Well, if my comprehension is correct, you did state that you have to explain common sense to these “intelligent people,” and in phrasing such a sentence, it seems as if this happens often, and you state yourself as the superior individual since you have to explain this “common sense.”
My question is, how can you assume that these people consider themselves as intelligent beings? Of course, you would have to assume the trait. It seems a bit hypocritical to mock these people for the purpose of justifying your own claim, and proceeding to state that assuming a trait is ignorant and would not be “clever” according to your “wise” remarks. I’m not looking for conflict, but your remarks are simply contradictory, or better yet, hypocritical.
This is simple deduction backed by common sense is it not?
Anybody else notice that everything Jocko talks about is almost poetic in the way he talks?
"When I want it to stick, I give it to them loud and dirty". - George Patton. Cussing is a tool. If you use it right, it helps. If you use it wrong, you look like a fool. Some people cuss because they don't have the vocabulary to say what's on their mind.
you're objectively wrong, studies show that people who swear a lot actually have a greater vocabulary than average
Yes, I know that. That's why I said "some people".
@@AeneasGemini ok but why though? Like if you have such a diverse vocabulary at your disposal then why limit yourself to a finite list of curses that as often as not don't make sense in the context
@@AeneasGemini What "studies"? You sound like one of those internet neckbeards who try confirming any batshit concept with "sTuDiEs ShOw"
This is one of the reasons I love your podcast. -I can share it with my preteens. Thank you so much for being a positive role model!!!
Your reasons are the same as mine ☺️
I appreciate you making this choice. It allows me to listen with my wife and daughters. They understand the contextualization of the times it occurs as compared to mindless chatter 👍🏻🇺🇸
Excessive swearing is the problem just like saying “like” or “Um” is a problem we all say those words and they aren’t bad but there’s a limit to everything
The 'like', or 'um' is a form of stuttering.
I think of them as "filler" words.
There's nothing wrong in it. It's just average Joes like that you take these small details too seriously. Continuous swearing is a different, unacceptable thing.
Not everyone is as equal in terms of speaking fluently without stuttering. It's a skill.
I am encouraged by this discussion. My favorite guidance on words is Ephesians 4:29
Thanks, Jocko. I hear ya on the higher level. I've often said you can't work with horses or cattle long without cussing. But, I also learned how to turn it off as my folks never swore so I wouldn't do it around them. Thanks for all these mini-pods. Blessings, Amigo.
I couldn’t agree more with every aspect of the discussion. This is the ultimate form of situational awareness. The way we communicate with others in our environment is vital to daily success.
i dont cuss or swear. it’s a healthy habit that has greatly improved my spiritual and mental life.
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Congrats, you guys are exactly the kind of stupid people pointed out in the video. Not swearing isn't hard. It's a choice. There was a brief time where I started swearing a lot because of my friends, and when that caused a conflict between some of my other friends, I realized I had only started doing it to fit in. So I stopped.
Tyler Schwalbe bloody hell you’re solid
@@Draeckon wait youre saying your friends were offended by swearing? Were they mormons?
@@Draeckon Not cussing is harder for some and easier others.
I used to swear - a lot. Then, after my second assignment overseas, I was listening to some music with a lot of swearing … and I'd listen to it loudly in my dorm room . Then, one day in my ear - clear as a bell, I heard someone say "turn it down...you're offending others"... and, well, I'm not a religious person -- but I do believe. I turned it down and then refined my speech. Plus - I started realizing that discipline, especially personal discipline - takes practice and mastering of yourself...flaws and all. I even apologize to my parents if I swear in front of them...
Denny don't worry abt that Lisa loves you too as person as a human bean
Shows a high level of intellect and control if you can get a point across without swearing. Nothing wrong with it but I love the self awareness.
Exactly right about listening to this w my kids. I am grateful to have these vids/podcasts during my workouts. Very inspiring/encouraging. I was listening to someone else during my 75 Hard and he was inspiring as well but every other word was a cuss word. Sheeesh... my kiddos would have to be asleep for me to put that one on. TY, Jocko. You are awesome an an excellent role model. We are reading the 2nd Warrior Kid book🙌
I was raised not to swear and for the most part I don’t. I don’t mind when others do but I think you kinda spoil an asset you could have when you swear every other word. I have a friend of over 10 years and he’s heard me swear once and he still brings up that occasion because he recognizes how genuinely pissed I was at that time. All about using them right.
REAL NIGGAZ EAT ASS
Yeah swearing when you usually don't tells other people that it's serious and they give you space and more respect at that moment.
Jocko was in the SEAL Teams so I'm sure he has heard every swear word that people can imagine and I agree with his perspective on coarse language.
I was never in the military(although I am considering joining an Army reserve unit) but I enjoy listening to Rock & Roll music as well as Rap, I was always a big fan of comedy and I love movies(a decent portion of them are R-Rated ones), also, I went to a tough public school. I'm fairly certain that I have heard every possible combination of curse words and every possible type of curse word that people can imagine-and some that I'm sure they would rather not. But I personally don't swear a lot because like yourself, I was raised not to. Every now and again, I'll swear but very rarely but I'm not bothered when other people do it. As some others on here have noted, I feel that there is an appropriate setting and place for foul language and people need to know where and when it's ideal and appropriate to use profanity. Just like you said, it's all about using it right.
When you use it sparingly it has much more impact.
I’m the same way. It’s a very rare case I curse, even when I’m by myself, but when people hear it they know I mean business
True alpha! Listen to how Jocko admits he mistakenly used the word "humbled", but even in a mistake he owns it. There's such a respectable quality in owning mistakes, especially when most people just lie instead. It's all about integrity, which takes a healthy amount of confidence.
“ Jocko, how do I stop swearing?” Jocko: “Train Jiu Jitsu”…lol
I agree 100% with every emphasis of this podcast. I teach leaders every moment is different. A good leader will adjust to each moment. But one constant is to forget profanity in groups. I also think that uneducating yourself at right moments if a key feature to leadership, which helps in these moments.
Right up there with literally is when people begin a sentence with "honestly"
Honestly, I was like literally thinking the same thing.
Or people that say "not (even) gonna lie" like lying is their default setting.
I'm new to Jocko's podcasts. When I first clicked the link, I was expecting to hear something like, "yeah I swear all the fucking time, it's for for your kids to hear, it makes them tough." So I was really relieved (and encouraged) that that was not trs message. It seems he was saying that there's a time and a place for it. Swearing/cussing/foul language isn't all bad not is it all good, it has its place and can be useful when used appropriately. And when talking about his son and how he wants toughness for him, but is still concerned about his innocent ears, it's encouraging to see such a badass show such a tender heart. Much respect Jocko.
I never swore until a couple years after I joined the Army. But it is a choice. It's relaxed language. There's a time to talk more relaxed and a time to talk more proper. It is hard, though, when it become habitual. When you're trying to reach broader audience, why alienate the group of them that are offended or don't like it when the group that does swear won't care if you don't. Appreciate what you do, Jocko. Thank you.
I'm bilingual, I speak fluent English and Foul Language.
I talk to my chickens. It is a variant form of Foul Language called Fowl Language.
i talk to people with bad breath. its called foul language ( i realized its the same spelling as you)
It’s like a whole fucking different language
This channel always amazes me by them talking about a seemingly boring topic and diving really deep into it and it’s always really interesting and informative, thanks
I appreciate the fact that I can share some of your podcast with the students that I teach in year seven.
Yea mate cmon you swear heaps
I'm 44
I never really swore before
I now don't have a problem swearing
When the moment calls for it
It's like a big hammer for big jobs
Ok princess👸
I think excessive swearing comes off as unintelligent. There’s a time and place for different language and I think an intelligent person can differentiate between a bad and good time.
Excessive swearing is actually linked to high intelligence which is funny.
What about Goggins?
Same. Every time I hear someone who cusses excessively it's as if they don't have the vocabulary to express their thoughts or feelings intelligently lol
Ness Bear no that’s not it it’s just that fuck is the best thing that can describe how I feel
@@davidpierce9949 Goggins dif lvl of mentality, he is real, authentic & raw. Guy is the embodiment of Nietzsche's Übermensch.
Thank you, Jocko and Echo. Was messing up in life; still not perfect, but I am trying to improve myself. I was working at a bakery from 4:30am-1 starting around October. Your videos were always the best to listen to at 3:45-4am on the way to my job. I was 285 in October, I am 215 now, at 6ft6. I went into the recruiter and scored a 79/99 on the prelim Asvab. Not sure if i will be able to qualify for any branch at MEPS, as I had spent time in a hospital over drug-related issues in my early 20s, but I am trying to figure out ways I can still serve my country if I do get declined over medical history.
"I don't consciously sit there and try and keep it clean, but, I try and keep it clean." -Jocko Willink
Thank you Jocko for providing an uplifting podcast that I can listen to with my kids.
I just realized I do this. Time to change
This comment displays a quality most people don’t genuinely have.
nice
Fuck yeah it is
Philmcreviss 2 same
Excellent example of extreme ownership.
As a Marine NCO in the late '70s and early 80's we took great pride in our ability to verbally berate non rates. It's wasn't until I became a WO that I began to rethink the language. I worked for an LDO Major, very soft spoken. He would encourage all senior enlisted and officers to clean up their language. His philosophy was, the ability to concisely express ourselves without the colorful language displayed our mastery of the English language AND it was another means of separating ourselves from the subordinates. I'm proud to say I've pretty much been swear free since the early 90's. I retired as a CWO3 in 1999. Thanks Major Sablan
In The Marine Corps it's punctuation :)
Nailed it for me. Respect and control is what I tell my children it is about. My children are 30 to 13 and they do NOT cuss in front of their mother. They know I refuse to cuss. It is not that I couldn’t do it but I explained that it was a matter of my controlling my tongue. I had plenty of exposure in my life and always felt is showed weakness. (Lazy talk) I like what you said about linguistic control. It shows intelligence. Cuss like a sailor in your head but control what comes out of your mouth. If we watch a movie or show with cussing I say, “Bad word”. I did it because I wanted the younger children to not become desensitized. Now it is a running joke. Now they know if Mother says a foul word she is truly mad or suffering a head injury. Thank you for talking about this. Something simple but a powerful lesson.
I swear a lot, like a sailor when I get comfortable. Thank you for enlightening me. I'll change. HOORAH COMMANDER!
Basically, don't use swearing as compulsive vocab filler words. "Like" or "um" or "literally" and other words are also often compulsive fillers.
In podcast 185 your guest threw quite a few f bombs and you did not curse once.i was impressed with that, it showed how much character you have and knowing when to turn it on and turn it off.
Dropping f bombs to many times looses its effect, and creates the same effect as "like" or "ummm". It just becomes filler. Or I consider it thinking time for the speaker to gather their thought.
Thanks Jocko, for your correction of the use of “humbled” vs. “honored”. I hear this incorrect use of “humbled” a lot, and it puts me off every time. Thanks
Thank you for not swearing. I do listen to these with my boys and it’s nice for them to see a grown man /men representing maturity.
I’m an ER nurse, not a charge nurse or manager, and I swear ALL THE TIME. It’s situation dependent. When I have a dude on the table who just threw up 2L of blood, blood pressure in the shitter, and he throws up another liter and goes unresponsive; you can bet the resuscitation team says “oh FUCK”. There’s nothing else to say that can convey the urgency of the situation. It’s how and when it’s said that matters.
You gotta do what you gotta do. ;)
Your one of the only pods I sent my son's to, one of them is sticking with you. For this, coming from being a vet myself (USAF) and swear my self ( I try not to but it slips at times ) I can agree with you on this issue.
I’ve noticed when Jocko drops an f bomb it really hits you and means something. I can appreciate when he swears it means s**ts about to get real.
Swearing like a sailor? It should be swearing like a mechanic. I've never heard more made up crazy foul language than watching mechanics work.
What's even worse is a mechanic who hates being a mechanic but he's good at it 🤣
Listen to truck drivers too lol
MegadethDude2001 Aye. That’s me, haha
@@maffew25 lol oh Lord, your right😂
Facts. I use to be a mechanic and use to swear like crazy. I don't swear anymore since I quit lol
I play your videos for my grade and highschool boys. Appreciate you guys and how you do the podcast. Great information.
It seems to me the people who cuss for fun or when they're feeling happy or making a joke can pull it off better than someone who is ranting and raving.
Ranting is blaming and most people who blame doesn't do much. People who doesn't talk much do actions. They are calm. They don't need to swear.
Totally disagree. Cussing isn't suppose to be casual but exclamation. Rant over! Lmao
@@clyde__cruz1 Some awfully wrong assertions you have there. But whatever makes you feel better, man.
@@Nyx_2142 eh that was 8 months ago. I'm sure it made me feel better back then lmao
I appreciate your commitment to keeping it clean. I often send your videos to my children to watch.
When a Navy Seal swears is that considered barking at you?
Jocko, thanks for your influence. I share your podcasts with my kid.
Can Gordan Ramsay be Ramsay without swearing?
Tbf to the Gord. When he does the quiet non shouty sweary thing, he’s equally watchable, but almost a different person.
I'm thankful you use your language effectively. You do things clean. I appreciate that. 👍
Parents: I signed my kid up for Soccer or Tae Kwondo
Jocko: I inoculated my son to machine guns, war, and death at an early age
Liked because Jocko set the record straight, it’s honored not humbled. Thanks for keeping it accurate.
1. Tough guy signaling (low self esteem)
2. Aggression leakage (self therapy)
3. Humor
4. Authentic expression
5. Highlighting
6. ?
OSOCO what does this mean?
@@jaimishra7779 I think it might be a list of why swearing occurs/ why people swear.
Eamon Crawford yah, thought so.. Thanks though😄
"Highlighting"
I like that description.
Agression leakage for sure.
I battle that one.
Frustration.
Listening to jocko is never a wasted second
I appreciate the family friendly environment of this podcast. Makes it even better
Jocko wrote a series of books for kids, Warrior Kid series. Soooo good. I've read them all with my son and together we learned a lot about character, motivation, failure, etc... Get em - they're worth it.
Swearing is often used in a lazy way. There is a better word, if we put some effort into thinking about what we are trying to convey. To not put the mental acuity into finding a better word is a sign of an unfocused mind. When you need a sledgehammer it is time to swear. When you need precision, use the word that conveys the meaning with laser focus.
Yep
From a writing perspective, I always saw swearing in books, etc. as lazy writing. You have time to plan out the right words to reach the maximum number of people and yet you choose words that limit your audience. That's a hallmark of laziness and/or a lack of skill.
In conversation, I notice that people who frequently swear don't often do so around me (without me ever once telling them not to). This shows me they CAN control it but that when I'm not around, they CHOOSE not to. Logically, this makes them look unrestrained and weak and THIS is what makes those who do swear less influential. It isn't that they are being judged for swearing so much as they prove they can control themselves and then just don't.
I don’t think that makes them weak. They have the power to control themselves when they know it’s not wanted, and swear in appropriate situations. That’s self-control, unless you see swearing as somehow morally offensive.
My parents always raised us that swearing was for people who had a limited vocabulary and couldn't find the correct words to express themselves. I'm no saint, but I try to remember there are many other words in the English language to express emotions besides cuss words.
Honestly dude who gives a fuck. If you are articulate and have a good vocabulary it really doesn’t matter how much you swear. There are numerous ways to express how and what you are feeling, and sometimes cuss words are the best ways to express things. 🤷🏽♂️
@@thomasgarcia8118 I think we are saying pretty much the same thing. "there are numerous ways to express how and what you feel". Yep, that's what my parents taught me. "sometimes cuss words are the best ways to express things". Yep, totally agree. The problem is when people use cuss words as a crutch and it becomes the ONLY way they can express themselves.
My old preacher, who served as a Marine and has a family legacy of 300 years of military service, called cuss words "emergency words," saying there was a time and a place. I've adopted that mindset. I think everyone has their own line for where they'll start cussing, and personally, mine is when I'm getting shot at, but I like this discussion.
I, like, literally, kinda like, appreciate your usage of clean language in the podcast, man.
Thanks for the content. Keep up the good work.
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One of the most unique ironic comments I have ever seen🤣🤣
I once heard a Colonel address a graduating class of Officers that caused me to challenge my thoughts on this. He said, " Use the language that communicates your directives. Swearing is the evidence of the level of education you have". Since then, I found that swearing comes from emotion and causes one to communicate emotion, not clear thought or direction. To choose not to swear causes a person to find another word to communicate and advance their own vocabulary as well as become more articulate.
This is great Advice
Yeah, I rarely swear so when I do it has more impact.
Jocko...you are the MAN! Thank you for everything you have done and I love your thoughts!
The moment when you realize Jocko says : " you know '' too much 😂
Both the word "honored" and "humbled" are appropriate for you to feel, Jocko. Shalom.
Dramatic emphasis. In the effort of getting after it. It adds Intensity and motivation. And a hard life. But I was walking in a busy area and I thought.. What if a little girl heard me right now.. And I'm trying to stop cursing. But I'm just going to keep it on the table be consistently conscious about it.
I only ever heard my grandmother swear once. The whole house fell silent for the rest of the day. That is the power of words.
@Tyler Durden That's a bit broad. The topic is swearing.
@@RustyOrange71 And yet nothing he said was wrong, so why attempt to brush it off?
swearing is like lying, avoiding it builds character.
Those two things are hardly comparable. Though funnily enough, the most honest people I've met swear the most. But keep on with your elitist bullshit because you think avoiding a couple "bad words" makes you somehow better than everyone else.
When I first started listening to your podcast and I remember wanting to know your viewpoint on swearing. Couldn’t agree more!
"Because I don't say it, don't mean I ain't thinking it."
@Devin Finneren Holy Wars . . . The Punishment Due
I just commented about this very issue on a recent RUclips video you guys just made and this just popped up in my feed from 6 months ago.
In Ireland I hear young people sound like Californians, saying "like" in every sentence. It sounds so dumb from native Irish people.
Mostly a thing in the south of Ireland! Cork and Limerick are very bad for it
@@Anthony.462 I've never met anyone from Cork, most of my Irish friends come from the North, but my first guess was it's the people of Co. Cork who would talk like that.
Us Irish have been saying like
Long before Your USA ever existed
There You go now shut Your pipe hole
I’ve taught my kids that people who constantly swear lack the mental aptitude to think of something better and the self control to be respectful of the people around them. I’m no swearing prude, however I’ve set the bar high knowing that when they do swear it will mean something.
It's funny this is coming right after Mitch Aguilar swear fest 😂
It could be a coincidence but somehow...I doubt it.
Ja Si was just thinking the same thing lol
I liked the podcast with Mitch, but it was my least favorite one if we are being honest.
I don't personally know Jocko, but I don't see him insulting, or questioning someone's intelligence behind their back. As far as the episode with Mr. Aguilar goes, the amount of f-bombs were grating because of the rarity of that type of language on this podcast. However, the language conveyed to me how much Mr. Aguilar cared about his experiences in the teams. There is a lot of meaning that can be attributed to a four letter word. Ultimately, I don't have any problem with that particular episode because an interesting story was being shared.
Ja, when i saw this "coincidentally" right after #185 i thought the same thing..lol
I've told people basically the same thing. There is a difference between calling someone a name or swearing at them vs just peppering in a "vulgar" word when the situation is appropriate.
Measured words seem to carry more impact.