Sometimes having AuDHD can feel like "Ik this shiny new thing looks sick, and there's no reason you shouldn't try it out, but wouldn't you rather enjoy this old burnt out thing you already know about? Besides, new things are unfamiliar and they suck"
Sounds like me sticking to older movies, shows, and videogames from the 80's - 2000's, even though I think newer stuff today looks interesting. I didn't even know that was part of our gift, until I read your comment. Awesome. We rule (w/honor of course)
I have a bit of both too (Autism and ADHD) and I feel a mix of both on time management. don't plan things out. I like to do my day randomly however when I have plans with people I don't like that they get late and I am extremely ponctual.
Frrr Like, my parents keep telling me to write down what homework I have instead of keeping it in my mind... My ADHD doesn't wanna hyper focus on that cause, ew. My autism has always remembered (sorta) what hw I have and I can't just randomly switch
I'm diagnosed with neither but express both 😎 what happened here please someone explain cuz otherwise I'm just going to remain overwhelmed and confused because I feel completely isolated
I have adhd and my friend has autism. This is spot on and we make a great team. He is completely unhinged and doesn't know social bounds like normal and I just love every bit of it. He supports my drive for spontaneous ideas amd adventures and pushes me to lead us to do them because he knows no bounds anyways. He's the only guy who actually listens to me. Takes my insanity serious. And sees it as possible. Than we together make it possible. Others don't believe in him sometimes because he's slow. But I know he just needs time to process. Cause like me we require a lot of information. All the information. When diving into a new adventure. We've started a food truck together even! Nobody took us seriously until we actually did it.
and then we question ourselves wondering why we say we’re gonna do something then forget about it just to remember it a day later then going “eh nvm sounds boring now” THEN proceeding to backtrack deciding it isn’t boring. A harsh circle, I JUST WANT A DAMN MOMENT OF DEDICATION FOR MORE THAN A WEEK.
Ah yes, the time honored AuDHD tradition of meticulously planning a schedule just to not be able to follow it and then give myself massive amounts of anxiety by not having a structured day. 👍
Literally couldn’t even wake up on time for my schedule OR do everything on time, but at least I got everything done 😭 probably not gonna stick with schedules
@@pinkqqqsolution plan your schedule for you not wanting to wake up and stuff I set an alarm for 9:00 a.m. when I usually sleep through it or half wake up and just silence it
It's fine I'll do the dishes after this, I will only play this game for 10 minutes. 4 hours later, Hell yeah I'm finally a full-blown freestar ranger! Wait ...... Was I supposed to do something? Oh yeah the dishes, It's fine I'll just start the vanguard questline and do them after the intro. 34 hours later: wow this game is really cool but why the hell am I so hungry I could have sworn I just ate a few minutes ago Wait Wait I forgot the damn dishes!!
I have both. Which means that I paradoxically plan my day rigorously, but can never follow plans; hate surprises and uncertainty, but become depressed and restless on a repetitive and structured schedule. On top of that, I’m quite ambitious, but very unstable in my passions and productivity. It’s like I’m two different people at once, and words can’t describe how exhausting it is to accommodate and reconcile these different aspects of myself on a daily basis.
this... resonated with me a lot.. but I'm only being diagnosed with autism and they don't think I have adhd.. maybe that's something to contest in future
Hi! I can't thank you enough for being a familiar voice. I'm the exact same as you and I gaslight myself so much into believing I'm faking my AuDHD because I'm not time blind and overplan. Thank you so much for showing that some AuDHD people can be like this too!
Try having both XD I plan super detailed and end up being time blind, love spontaneity but don't want to leave my room - and social ques are my worst nightmare as I hyper fixate on expressions and body language. No one gets when I'm joking or I'm serious. That's fun
This. All of this. When I was working, people would have a hard time figuring out if I was joking around or not unless they knew me better. I tend to go along with some things as if I was serious about it and that would make people think that I was actually serious.
THIS. ALL OF THIS. THIS IS WHY I THINK I HAVE BOTH. IVE HEARD ITS NOT THT UNCOMMON TO HAVE BOTH but i was only diagnosed with adhd ;*; i swear i havw bothhhhh
It is actually very common to have "stacked" mental disorders or behavioral health issues. You CAN have Autism, ADHD/ADD, Bipolar disorder, Major Depresssion, Anxiety, and PTSD-C (using myself as a reference). **** PTSD-C is a "nurture over nature" disorder, so it's not something you are born with. But as labels are, I know these exist inside of me- and in order to move on I've accepted them as apart of me. I don't let them interfere as much as I can with what I can do work-wise. At some point I might do a reddit post about my brain. Who knows? Or I'll just forget I even commented back LOL
@@cyberneticangel50 can I ask if you are a female? (I am female) - females have different signs of Autism than males do, because we have a "social mask" to fit in (or try to fit in) with others it makes it SUPER hard to properly diagnose. It's actually a whole thing to research on because it is THAT different.
Diagnosed 2 weeks ago at 37. It’s been life changing to realize that all these things I’ve struggled with all my life are real. I’m not making excuses, lazy, moody, or imagining things.
Same here, though I'm a bit older. All the times my parents were like, sit still, settle down, why can't you focus on one thing? No, this is definitely a discipline problem (Proceeds to spank the living hell outta me)! She's an actual genius! My daughter is just naturally gifted. (And then several years later, after putting me through 27 random talent classes and gifted programs, which I did do well at, but burnt out after) why didn't you live up to your potential? You had so much going for you! You're *SUCH*... a *DISAPPOINTMENT*! And they wonder why I joined the Air Force, married, and moved across the country from them.
@@Super-Mario-Evan1227 All at the age of 10! Lol, I joke, I joke... I was 11. I'm kidding, I was actually 22 when I joined the Air Force, so I got called mom or grandma in my flight, but it's fine. Everyone, well, almost everyone, looked to me for guidance, as if I had some secret knowledge they didn't have, when in reality we were all in the same sinking boat with a cartoon like cork in the boat hole. All it took was a good pull and that boat started gurgling its way to the slimy, trash filled bottom of the icky ravine that was basic training. 1 chick was jealous of me, for some reason, and pushed me down the stairs (2 flights of concrete stairs, 16 steps each, just polished to a pristine shine by yours truly... the irony) and got me excused from PT for the rest of training, all I had to do was suffer a life changing shoulder injury! 🙃 I honestly could have skadooed out of there after that, as the injury was one that is cause for dismissal, if the doctor wrote it down as such. He asked me "How... *into* the service are you? Because this could be your ticket home, if you wanted it to be". Thanks, but no thanks! I worked too hard to get here just to go home? Nope. So he wrote it down as some other shoulder malady and I'm still suffering today! 😁 It's actuality the AF that eventually moved me where I am, 2000 miles away from my parents, which is closer that I'd been in a while, honestly, since I'd been overseas in places unmentionable (as in, you mention, we reserve the right to undo your existence) for quite a while beforehand. That's where I owied my entire right side via big bada boom 💥. But that's a whole different conversation inandofitself. Ahhh ha! You see that? That was the info dumping they mentioned in the video. Which was that, the ADHD or the Autism, I can't remember. Ah well, have a great day, fantastic tomorrow, and a truly amazing rest of your life. In the meantime, here's some words to reflect on: "I do not envy the headache you'll have when you wake up. Until then, sleep well, and dream of large women!" - The Man in Black (I'm truly sorry, I haven't slept well in over a week. Actually, take out the word "well". I just haven't slept!)
How do you mean you're not making excuses? Can you give a couple of examples? I'm making excuses the whole time, at least I think I do. But I suspect to have both autism and ADHD
@@LeonSKennedy7777 There's always gonna be some people looking for medications for reasons other than prescribed, however, to say we've been diagnosed at such an older age for "the drugs" is absolute horseshit! I'm not taking any meds for it, I just needed help adjusting my lifestyle and figuring out how it's going to affect my treatment of my other ailments. I have no interest in any medications, other than what I've already had to take for things I've been treated for over the last... well, let's just say for several years, and I don't even want to take those, but I kinda need to. Getting blown nearly half to hell by an IED will do that to you.
I don't like unfamiliarity either but sometimes it makes me focus and function more, but that wears off after two weeks and I start breaking down if I can't get comfortable or return to my comfort after 2 weeks
As a person with ADHD and Asperger, when I was young, I really can’t read social skills. But then after my undergraduate studies, I started to be a mind reader and read through everyone’s gestures I was a messy and inattentive person And now a very orderly and hyper focused person
The term Asperger is phased out and is a part of ASD now. Important to note that the younger generation often refer to Autism as anywhere on the ASD, not as "classic" autism that was often seen as very severe.
@@jackeriksen6753 I know but frankly it doesn’t mean the two are the same even DSM-5 list them both as autism Even they list Asperger like this doesn’t mean they are correct, the clinical manifestations are completely different
I have ADHD and my sister has Autism, this video is very accurate as me and my sister, despite having different a diagnosis, relate to each other a lot because of similar patterns and difficulties
Both me and my younger brother have both. We connect in a way I feel like a lot of neurotypicals wouldn't understand or would cock their head at if they watched us being siblings and bonding. Like, we recently beat portal two together and it was great to bond but sometimes we'd snap and scream lol Normally the screaming didn't last long and I made a wise crack or smth 😂 We can connect even tho we don't have super similar interests, we both like info dumping, can understand different over stimulation, and can understand eachothers ADHD talk (my ADHD brain does a lot of thinking but it's so hard to translate my thoughts that're jumbled with ADHD into actual English, coherent words and sentences. Especially if I have a brain fart or forget a word that's pretty vital to explaining what I'm trying to say lol
I have ADHD and my God brother has autism and we understand each other because well most people don't understand us and people say I might also have autism so I might have to see that
As someone with both, it feels like the two are constantly fighting each other inside my mind. Sometimes I like to make a schedule, sometimes I want to go somewhere spontaneously, sometimes I hyperfocus but sometimes I get distracted… it’s really a wild card.
This was super helpful. About an hour ago I went to a doctor's appointment to evaluate me for ADHD and left with a referral to a developmental doctor to get evaluated for autism. This helps me understand why my doctor put in that referral.
I would also seek a second opinion. I don't trust any single diagnosis, but that's just me. The overlapping aspect to these conditions is super perplexing. @@kittencohort1766
I'm diagnosed with autism and have suspected adhd (according to online tests, these videos, my friends and one of my specialists). It is insanely hard to manage, sometimes my adhd and autism will agree and other times they disagree and shit hits the fan in my head. Like, my autism will require a certain routine to be done but, I will get stuck in an adhd scrolling paralysis made worse by the added anxiety from not doing my routine cause by my autism. Other times, I'll get a hyperfixation on something that happens to calm my autism so, in that case, my adhd is helping my autism. It gets confusing and I've had friends tell me that they wished they knew what happens in my head for only 5 minutes but, when I explain how my head works, they get lost within 2 minutes and wonder how I survive 😅
I have ADHD and I have 2 siblings with autism. It’s so funny how the two overlap but are so vastly different at the same time. My autistic siblings and I were counting cars passing by for HOURS cause we all get hyper focused, but if I want to move my iPad charger to a specific outlet on the wall my brother or sister will get upset bc that’s “their” outlet but I plug my phone in wherever and always lose it 😂
@@abn2488yes, my brother was the only one to understand me from 3 years old to 5 years old. Around 5 years old, my parents started being able to understand but, not many other people. People started to be able to understand my speech around 8 years old and, even then, it took a couple of minutes (sometimes up to a couple of days) before anyone new could understand me until high school. Even now, when I get too tired, people stop being able to understand me unless they've known me for years. I was in speech therapy from a very young age (not sure what age but probably 2-3 years old) and kept it up until about 8 or 9 years old at which point the focus changed to my writing and grammar (still with a speech therapist) until I was 12.
i have both and it’s a struggle. i have little routines that i don’t like to change (like sitting in the same seat on the bus or the exact same spot in a hallway every day for lunch), but i also hate making daily plans. like, i don’t want to plan out my entire day, because i won’t stick to it.
@bill cipher that sounds horrible fir both of you. I'm just ADHD and that sucks enough, and from what I know, that must be like a constant argument going on in your brains.
the AuDHD experience is REAL! One of my favorite things about grad school was that each day was different from the others, but every Monday was the same as other Mondays, Tuesday was the same as other Tuesdays, etc. It was the right balance of variety and routine. Also! Having alarms can be a life saver if I have enough and also different sounds to know what it's for if I forget to label it. For instance, my general "another five minutes has passed" getting ready alarm is different than my "YOU ARE LEAVING IN FIVE MINUTES THE NEXT ALARM MEANS YOU MUST BE OUT THE DOOR!" alarm.
Ok. Ok. OKAY....you are me! I have alarms set on my phone starting at 6:30am until 8:15am which is the absolute latest I can leave my house and get to work on time.
You have inspire me to change my “get the heck out the door now (or in 10mins)” alarm to a different sound. Thank you greatly for that! Wishing you, & all who may read this, a lovely day/nigh/life 💚
I literally started using an alarm for studying purposes in order to give myself those breaks. Ex: Study for 1 hour, take a 10-15 min. break, then get back to studying. But this also depends on my mood. In terms of alarm clocks, our cat is now mine and my mom's alarm clock waking at 6 am every morning if not earlier than that at times. If I had to be somewhere early in the morning, I would legit set 3 alarm clocks lol. Our cat rarely lets us sleep in, so now I'm on an auto-pilot 6 am wakeup which tbh isn't too bad b/c I used to do that during the summer time to take my dog out in the mornings.
As a member of the ADHD community just wanna say, I HATE unfamiliarity and things that aren’t specifically how I like it, if my day to day life changes I try as best as I can to fix it
I resonate with both. I have such a hard time with social cues and I'm acutely aware of it. I don't think about it until after its happened, then I'm like "whoa.. probably should've done this instead". I HATE changes unless I'm told it's coming, then I can prepare for it.. but I stress to the highest degree in new situations and I spazz out (crying fits, fits of anger, ect). I'm fine after adjusting though.
Same first issue. What I don’t miss I can’t interpret at the time. I think it is sensory overload. If I’m watching other people interact and none of it is directed at me, I pick up on a lot more … my head doesn’t overload as easily. Meanwhile, I like people being spontaneous with me … otherwise, I’d keep to myself most of the time.
I never guess right how people really feel about me. And yes, 99% of the time I discover them actually liking me but to find it out it takes a very devastating and hurtful journey
Fr, hate all the videos that are like "ADHD/Autism traits!" and then don't make any effort to distinguish which brings what to the table. Seems like every similar trait just gets written off as autism these days because nobody cares about the _cause_ of the trait.
For those with both, I truly feel for you. I’ve worked with many people and students with ADHD and Autism and with both and its awful how much the symptoms can butt heads when its both and lead to a lot of anxiety. Love you all so much and keep being your amazing selfs 💛
Just got ADHD diagnosed last month before turning 52, autism at 31 (totally unexpected for autism at the time, though I went in, needing to understand why I had a pattern of inertia in behavior (autistic inertia) that had no emotional component, that caused me issues). It's a combination of traits that are both sides of the same coin that leave you on edge. The funniest thing is I managed to find a role of employment in tech that combines a pretty regular schedule of randomness and novelty for work. I don't think there are many roles quite like doing developer support.
In some way having both helps compensate for the autism rigidity and the ADHD lack of structure, but the stress threshold is definitely lower than NT's. Something broke in my head trying to keep up, and I will not be able to work again. Pity, as I was pretty competent if I wasn't being pushed too hard. Society's loss, I warned them. Sadly I didn't have the diagnosis back then to defend myself with ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯
I have both. I need a routine and get stressed without one, but can’t keep to one and get stressed by the time limits, schedule and my inability to follow it.
Me: remembering how I used to make unnecessary schedules, lists, and plan everything out to the last second Also me: I'm neurotypical My raads-r score: your in denial
Me: plans things out fairly thoroughly Also me: So its like friday right? (it was a tuesday) I swear I don't have either adhd or autism as far as I know, just social anxiety and mayhaps a dash of ptsd for spice
Or not. It’s called executive disfunction and it can create a sense of time blindness and/or a difficulty with switching tasks and/or an inability to gauge the weight/importance of different tasks.
i have both of them and it’s crazy- craving order and routine yet never being able to keep a routine, going from very understimulated to very overstimulated, sometimes wanting to try new things but then changing my mind last minute, trying to plan stuff but failing, etc.
I feel that, I got diagnosed with both as well, two month ago (big relive life up until now wasn't really a life). Reading things like that really helps to not feel alone. Reading symptoms of ADHD or Autism was confusing, because some of them can't really coexist. That makes it really hard to understand myself and everything is just very overwhelming. Hope you are alright and i wish you the best.
Trust me, you're better off with out it. Pretty much all she does on this channel is make up fake mental disorders in order to have excuses for her irresponsible or negative behavior. So, while this particular video may be slightly different than the rest, you should really try your hardest to avoid her videos. Just some friendly advice from a concerned citizen that accepts my negative behavioral traits and actually tries to constructively change them in a healthy way, rather than just make excuses so I don't have to try and better myself and grow as a person.
Hey there! On the side of my screen (while watching on my phone) are 3 white dots. When I click those dots, there's a list of options. Captions (auto-generated) is the second option. I double checked just now, and they are accurate but do leave out punctuation. I hope this helps!
I'm starting to think that friends are overrated. And communicating with neurotypical people should be avoided, they're more trouble than they're worth.
“..Do they not like me? Do they all hate me? What if they’re saying things about me behind my back… what if they think I’m too needy.. what if I am too needy I mean it’s greedy of me to want to join their personal thing. Maybe I’m being a bitch…”
Not everyone with ADHD likes unfamiliarity. Structure and consistency is safe for some people. I think that’s more so a personality trait than a neurodivergence.
I thought the same thing, I don’t know a single person with ADHD myself included who likes unfamiliar things. People with adhd that i know anyways hate being too far outside of their comfort zone
I have adhd and I love structure and familiarity! I just CANNOT for the life of me keep it so it results in me being unhappy and a lot of self hate and blame...its utterly maddening.
Yes, the difficulty is I have both. I love making schedules and planning routines, yet when the time comes to fulfill those, I can never get anything done
Somebody exactly like that became a time management coach for a living. She said she gets all the fun of making the plans, and then never has to do them!
I'm not officially diagnosed ADHD but my psychiatrist suspects I am. I've always struggled from hormonal migraines and even with my medicine, it's hard for me to focus at work if I start getting blind spots and the dull ache is still there. I always feel terrible because when I have a flare up, I have to leave work early, and I start to feel like I'm slacking and get anxious that I'II lose my job.
Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, adhd and aspergers(autism). Imagine carrying heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone . Believe it or not i have never felt more relieved in a couple years.
@@teddcraycraft5297 Autism is often marked by co occurring ADHD. Got my ADHD diagnosis at 29 and at 31 1 notice the autism, lots of pills with side effects,hospitals etc..still didn't get the help i need no matter how hard i try , it’s very frustrating. I live in UK ,anyway you could give insight on how to go about psychedelics meditation that work?
@@wilsonjennings323 Look them up and they will help out with that. However, it's very inspirational that you proved to yourself how strong you can be . In case you see this comment, I'm Sending lots of love and positive energy.
@@wilsonjennings323 True!, having a place to turn for real help.. It's expensive, it takes forever to get in somewhere and then your symptoms get minimized for you be you don't come off as depressed.. the search is too gd expensive to find a decent doctor and so depressing on it's own you give up. It's too much of a fight.
@@green-spectre what.. your dead mum? I don’t understand how that’s funny..unless she was just an awful person. Just the way you wrote that seems so wrong lol
My mom never got me diagnosed, but I've always been socially crippled. For many years I toiled over "conversation" and how it worked, I couldn't get over the panic of how unpredictable talking to people irl is. I'm so glad as an adult I took the time to figure out these things about myself and why it took me until high school to even make 1 friend at school.
You are lucky you figured this out in high school. I didn't figure out, until I was diagnosed, that I had autism in my mid-40s and ADHD in my late 40s. When I grew up this stuff was rarely talked about and there was not much info on it. I did not dislike high school, and don't think any one there disliked me, but I also did not have any friends. That's awesome you were able to figure this out when you did.
i have just adhd and struggle getting up literally every day :,) i cant imagine how much more of a struggle it is to have autism and adhd 😭 yall are really doing it all out here and doing it amazingly
I am NOT a doc. But there is a SECRET. Please look into camel milk- life changing Squeeze ice cube for anxiety. No such thing as adhd- sorry they lied. U will find out the truth. Breathing exercises. Food is linked to many things. Feng Shui interesting because where you place your bed is important in your room WHY - your head and feet facing certain direction. north east South West important. EARTHING::: - lean against a tree, walk bare feet on real grass, rub your feet souls on bark of tree.
@@ohkaygoplayI am NOT a doc. But there is a SECRET. Please look into camel milk- life changing Squeeze ice cube for anxiety. No such thing as adhd- sorry they lied. U will find out the truth. Breathing exercises. Food is linked to many things. Feng Shui interesting because where you place your bed is important in your room WHY - your head and feet facing certain direction. north east South West important. EARTHING::: - lean against a tree, walk bare feet on real grass, rub your feet souls on bark of tree.
I have both autism and adhd, and I spend most of my time listening to music. One way that I satisfy both my need for familiarity and novelty is to find songs that I know well, and look for new versions of them. Sometimes it completely different genres.
So as an AuDHDer I love familiarity: same place, same people, same objects... So I can come up with different chaotic ways to interact with them each day. Today, I'm gonna cook the same pasta I've been eating forever *for breakfast* .
Once again coming to the conclusion that I probably have both. I struggle to understand social cues and also I need the unfamiliar for the new sensations it brings.
What type of social cues give you the most difficulty? Does someone have to explicitly invite you into a social situation for you to feel comfortable? Or more nuanced social cues like facial expressions, etc.??
I have both, plus OCD and schizophrenia and it's really hard. I really hope anyone with any sort of mental illness gets the help they need, I'll be praying for everyone
Good god- I just had a notification pop up in the middle of watching this, read an entire news article and then came back to the middle of this video and pressed pause to comment. It’s been 15 minutes. HELP. 🤣 Edit: finally watched the rest of the short
@@-Ca1y3b_Iz_Ind3ciziv3- According to Dr. Amen, there are seven types of ADHD: 1.) Classic ADD: The three core symptoms associated with Classic ADD include inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Classic ADD is similar to what the American Psychiatric Association describes as ADHD-combined presentation. This is the typical hyperactive/impulsive child who also struggles with staying on task. Brain mapping commonly reveals excessively slow brainwaves in the frontal regions of the brain, and frequently abnormal connectivity within and/or between the prefrontal cortex and parietal lobes. 2.) Inattentive ADD: Patients suffering from Inattentive ADD often have difficulty with executive functioning such as organization, planning, prioritizing, time management, and self-monitoring. These individuals are easily distracted and/or lack the mental stamina for completing routine tasks that are non-preferred. They typically are not a behavioral problem since they are not hyperactive nor impulsive. 3.) Over-focused ADD: In addition to the core symptoms of Classic ADD, those patients suffering from Over-focused ADD have difficulty shifting their attention from one task to the next. In this scenario, qEEG brain mapping frequently shows the brain being stuck in excessive fast brainwaves of overstimulation, whereby the brain is also functioning in a more rigid and inflexible state. 4.) Temporal Lobe ADD: Individuals suffering from Temporal Lobe ADD can be over-reactive or moody, and prone to tantrums or meltdowns in childhood. This type of Temporal Lobe ADD can be associated with memory problems and difficulties in auditory processing. 5.) Limbic ADD: In addition to the core symptoms of ADHD, sufferers of Limbic ADD may experience increased feelings of guilt, possible moodiness, and, in some cases, damaged self-esteem. Limbic ADD affects a group of structures within the brain involved in our “flight” or “fight” response system, leaving the individual feeling excessively and unrealistically threatened at times by stressors. 6.) Ring of Fire ADD: Ring of Fire ADD is characterized by over activity in a global sense, meaning that the brain is over stimulated in multiple areas. Those suffering from Ring of Fire ADD may experience an increase in anxiety, racing thoughts, difficulty falling asleep or sleeping through the night. This person might also be emotionally over reactive and quick to anger. 7.) Anxious ADD: Sufferers of Anxious ADD are often afflicted by additional symptoms of stress which may include headaches, digestive problems, difficulty falling asleep and low self-esteem. Brain mapping reveals dysregulation in brain networks involving the prefrontal cortex, limbic areas, and the insula. I hope is helps and is informative. ☺️
I don't understand how those are different things? Not being able to _keep_ a routine doesn't mean you don't _like_ them. A lot of people with ADHD are stressed _because_ they can't stick to a routine, and they'd _like_ to. It's the executive function and lack of dopamine getting in the way - not whether or not they like routines. That's certainly my case - I like a routine, I just get anxious and stressed because I can't seem to follow them well.
Really great wee video and its so nice to hear this subject talked about in such a normal way to show that these neurological aspects are something we all have in one way or another!!
This is so helpful. My daughter and I both have ADHD, and of her 3 kids - 2 have autism and the other one might grow to have ADHD (undiagnosed at this point). It really helps to see this next to each other, because now we know the differences between the issues we deal with and how it affects them.
Make a longer video of this! Please! :o I'm fine that it's just general statements but getting into specific cases would take forever so no worries! Helped me out with understanding each one focuses on! Thanks for the help! ❤️💚💜💙🧡
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I do tend to be at appointments on time because of time blindness. I always leave stupidly early, in a panic, and get there’s 20-30 mins too soon. And I feel rushed the entire time
Your videos are awesome. As someone who has both ADHD & Autism I can relate to them and they make me notice things about myself I did not notice before.
i’m just watching this with me and both my autism and adhd being like, yep this unfortunately is how my brain and my mental mindset is like on a daily basis
My older sister is autistic and I have ADHD! This is pretty accurate if I'm honest. Focus and time are really hard for me, it's like all of my thoughts are at full volume and I can't pick one thing to focus on without another catching my attention. My sister, however, highly hyperfixates on her schedule. I hate working, as I constantly turn to other things and get sidetracked with things I'd rather do. My sister commits a schedule and cant do anything outside of that schedule without getting upset/confused/angry about it. She's always had a hard time socially, and so have I, as I constantly don't know what response to give with my brain running a mile a minute, and she simply cannot grasp what people are talking about. We get along well despite our hard time with others and often hyperfixate on similar things! I feel like I can talk to her about anything, and her the same.
I'm autistic and 3 family members are ADHD, the messes drive me crazy but learned more about ADHD thru channels like yours, and it's helping me to understand them better so there's less frustration and misunderstanding 😊 especially when dirty socks are left on the table 😂
I already know that I'll manage to be late for my own funeral, I've lost so many jobs due to lateness, it's only about 5 mins usually but businesses do not care, they say 8am they mean 8am. I can wake 2 hours before, I'll still be late. Also I was only diagnosed a year ago, I'm 28 now.
The only reason I wasn't late to my wedding is because my husband drove but I'm going to be late to my own funeral. And I'm on the verge of losing my job too but I just recently learned that my lateness issue is an ADHD thing I just thought it was me
@@krystalrose5874 hang in there, I just lost a job again due to latenesses and absences, they couldn't really be helped by hey there you go, as I said the businesses will not care, I had even told them about ADHD and the fact that it will cause some issues surrounding timekeeping etc, the main thing I have always taken away is that my actual job performance has always exceeded their expectations, I learn new things fast and we'll, given something with structure and routine does help to some degree but always found the jobs where there are different things to do all the time better (convenience store work/night stocking one particular isle every night) but it did present issues with hyper focus (4-5 hours spent reorganising shelves in a medical supplies cupboard lol)
@@spaggle9911 So in other words, you're incredibly irresponsible and rather than changing yourself and getting your crap together you look for excuses to justify your irresponsible behavior. How about just leaving earlier for work? If 2 hours isn't enough time to get ready (which in itself is kind of ridiculous) then wake up earlier so you do have enough time to get ready and get to work on time. If you're always 5 minutes late, wake up 20 minutes earlier than you have been, that way you have an extra 15 minutes, just in case you're running behind, or something unexpected happens. This isn't rocket science. It sounds like you just need to grow up and get yourself together, rather than look for excuses inorder to feel better because you think you'll be able to justify your irresponsibility. The reason you continue to get fired is because nobody cares about or wants to hear your excuses. All they want is a dependable employee that can act like a responsible and mature adult, rather than an overgrown child that has nothing to offer but excuses.
I had autism at 30 never knew I had ADHD until recently I was diagnosed and I am happy I did, I was recommended cbd oil and microdosing shroom as way to go and it's been pretty amazing , unlike other medications with poor results and much side effects.
@@edbrook1188 Thank you for this information, any way I could get cbd oil or the mushrooms , prior to what I had tried vyvanse and strattera with poor results and lots of side effects.
As a person with autism and ADHD, even though I do live like this, I think of it more as a gift than it is a curse because yeah, there may be some kinks that they’re not Romo but if you work with them right they become a complete balance of how you think and people can be very intelligent because of these two disabilities
As someone with both I can confidently say the following about my day to day life: AAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Thank you very much, also never touch me but hug me constantly at the same time
I do not have autism, but I have generally inattentive presentation ADHD, and I also have some leftover OCD tendencies (worked through most of it)…so I actually LOVE living by schedules, routines, and planning ahead, but I am dismal at understanding how they work and how to keep them. So for those of you saying the ADHD description doesn’t fit you, that’s totally possible! Both of these diagnoses are far from cookie cutter experiences. She’s just describing a few common symptoms which could be differences. 😊
i have both (: i need a schedule but struggle to follow them, enjoy new things but they must be planned before absolutely no surprises, i cant keep a conversation cause i zone out cause ive learnt i wont be able to figure it out. i also have chronic pain meaning i typically have to adjust said schedule based on how i feel that day which i cant know beforehand
i get SO upset when random shit like pain flares up and i can't follow the schedule i set up for myself 🫠 or someone randomly asks me to do smth out of nowhere. only diagnosed w ADHD tho but rly been...,,,,seeing how many of these autistic specific symptoms show up esp on my meds when i'm not a dopamine fiend :/
Do you need actual stimulation to be overstimulated? I can stare at a blank wall and be overstimulated. I'm still searching for the office switch for that big spongy thing in my skull.
@@julie.m023 thanks for replying. I am worried as we have a kid in the family with dual diagnosis n he is taking time to catch up with language. Hoping he can get there soon.
I have both, and it makes a pretty weird mix lol I absolutely love to try out new things! ONLY when i want to and feel like it. If someone comes up with something unexpected like a change in my schedule that i didnt plan for I implode
Yup, I have ADHD and my bf is autistic. He reminds me of stuff and keeps me on track, while I help him experience unfamiliar things and with social cues.
God I have the worst time management. I’ll literally plan down to the minute, on my notes app. Also tried writing it on paper. Wake up 20 minutes Breakfast 40 minutes (time for chilling) Shower 20 minutes (extra time always incase) Make up and get dressed 1 hour Last minute stuff 10 minutes. That’s what the list will kinda look like, usually more detailed. Then I’ll work backwards to figure out what time to wake up. Giving myself seriously ample time for each task, yet I am ALWAYS late. It’s like my brain sees how much time I allowed for ‘waking up’ for example and instead of watching RUclips in bed for maximum 20 minutes, I’ll go way way over that subconsciously because I allowed extra time all over the place and I’ll just speed up the time for something else because surely I won’t take that long to example: shower. But I do. I take even longer than I thought I would. Every damn time. Madness.
and I have both :) I like something's unplanned but other stuff too be planned. like getting ready for bed, I have a routine and if it gets messed up it's really upsetting. and because I get distracted a lot I have to start it an hour or more before I plan on going to bed even tho it should only take a few minutes to get ready.
@@CrowJoestar Definitely:( but the mix of understimulation and overstimulation is horrendous, especially when you don't know what you need when understimulated so you're just stuck with the feeling for hours. Kind of like an itch which can't be itched lmao
@@Bea-rq1uf Yeah it sucks. I’m almost always understimulated so I want to just go out and do something but my need to plan everything makes being impulsive impossible.
@Mari B Im very organized but at the same time distracted, when it comes to objects I place them in a specific place and straight, but when it comes to schedules Im very messy, and forget about many things as well, in the social part I get really stressed and similar autism, loud noises and physical contact triggers me
i have both and its madness in my head, i make a schedual yet i can never keep it…
Same
Same, also just found out it's very likely that i have dyslexia lol
@@funkyfresh2053 i wish you goodluck its hard to coop with it all when you just find it out. so i wish you well and lots of luck and love.
@@MrFriend97 Good luck to you! I know it gets hard, but you are a very strong person.
WHY CAN I RELATE OH YA I HAVE BOTH *casually flops over and dies to to brain over load*
Sometimes having AuDHD can feel like
"Ik this shiny new thing looks sick, and there's no reason you shouldn't try it out, but wouldn't you rather enjoy this old burnt out thing you already know about? Besides, new things are unfamiliar and they suck"
Sounds like me sticking to older movies, shows, and videogames from the 80's - 2000's, even though I think newer stuff today looks interesting. I didn't even know that was part of our gift, until I read your comment. Awesome. We rule (w/honor of course)
I have a bit of both too (Autism and ADHD) and I feel a mix of both on time management. don't plan things out. I like to do my day randomly however when I have plans with people I don't like that they get late and I am extremely ponctual.
Yes!
either that or “I’d prefer the usual, and I’ll breakdown if I don’t have it… but… oooooh shinyyyyy”
I've given them two different names.
the fact you can have both feels like a crime, my brain feels criminal
Frrr
Like, my parents keep telling me to write down what homework I have instead of keeping it in my mind...
My ADHD doesn't wanna hyper focus on that cause, ew. My autism has always remembered (sorta) what hw I have and I can't just randomly switch
I'm diagnosed with neither but express both 😎 what happened here please someone explain cuz otherwise I'm just going to remain overwhelmed and confused because I feel completely isolated
@@vexayen1675 get diagnosed 🤷♀️
OmG same, it's like I'm crazy sometimes
@@BeowulfandMelody I just feel like it's an inconvenience to everyone else to attempt that and even so, with what? I don't even know where to start :(
I have adhd and my friend has autism. This is spot on and we make a great team. He is completely unhinged and doesn't know social bounds like normal and I just love every bit of it. He supports my drive for spontaneous ideas amd adventures and pushes me to lead us to do them because he knows no bounds anyways. He's the only guy who actually listens to me. Takes my insanity serious. And sees it as possible. Than we together make it possible. Others don't believe in him sometimes because he's slow. But I know he just needs time to process. Cause like me we require a lot of information. All the information. When diving into a new adventure. We've started a food truck together even! Nobody took us seriously until we actually did it.
This is the world’s cutest comment. 😍
Omg I'm so glad what is the truck called??
Same im autistic and my bestie has adhd
This was me with my bestie and we’re married now lol
@@Raiish911gorgeous! Congrats
having both is a nightmare- i cant explain how much i want a schedule but never follow it 💀💀💀
FR SAME
I like your pfp also I hope life is treating you well
I don't have ADHD but same...
Samee
OMG SAME
I have both, life is constantly a struggle between “wow that looks fun!” & “for the love of the gods just keep something consistent”
Same
Same. I'm like "OOOH WOW THAT LOOKS SO FUN and there's no way I'm doing it. Nope"
Same, gotta try not to overdo it on either front to be ok, balance ay
and then we question ourselves wondering why we say we’re gonna do something then forget about it just to remember it a day later then going “eh nvm sounds boring now” THEN proceeding to backtrack deciding it isn’t boring. A harsh circle, I JUST WANT A DAMN MOMENT OF DEDICATION FOR MORE THAN A WEEK.
Preach!
Ah yes, the time honored AuDHD tradition of meticulously planning a schedule just to not be able to follow it and then give myself massive amounts of anxiety by not having a structured day. 👍
Literally couldn’t even wake up on time for my schedule OR do everything on time, but at least I got everything done 😭 probably not gonna stick with schedules
@@pinkqqqsolution plan your schedule for you not wanting to wake up and stuff I set an alarm for 9:00 a.m. when I usually sleep through it or half wake up and just silence it
It's fine I'll do the dishes after this, I will only play this game for 10 minutes.
4 hours later, Hell yeah I'm finally a full-blown freestar ranger! Wait ...... Was I supposed to do something? Oh yeah the dishes, It's fine I'll just start the vanguard questline and do them after the intro.
34 hours later: wow this game is really cool but why the hell am I so hungry I could have sworn I just ate a few minutes ago Wait Wait I forgot the damn dishes!!
@@anarchyandempires5452agreed do things at first though and dont let the other voices distract you
I'm just full on retarted like ADHD crack head energy and I'm a adrenaline junky so yeah
I have both. Which means that I paradoxically plan my day rigorously, but can never follow plans; hate surprises and uncertainty, but become depressed and restless on a repetitive and structured schedule. On top of that, I’m quite ambitious, but very unstable in my passions and productivity. It’s like I’m two different people at once, and words can’t describe how exhausting it is to accommodate and reconcile these different aspects of myself on a daily basis.
to be honest, even reading your explanation felt exhausting. I'm saying that with love, trying to figure out if my daughter is dealing with this at 7.
this... resonated with me a lot.. but I'm only being diagnosed with autism and they don't think I have adhd.. maybe that's something to contest in future
Hi! I can't thank you enough for being a familiar voice. I'm the exact same as you and I gaslight myself so much into believing I'm faking my AuDHD because I'm not time blind and overplan. Thank you so much for showing that some AuDHD people can be like this too!
this is me!! I know this feeling, Its so overwhelming.
Haha, that's totally me. Maybe I should diagnose myself
Try having both XD I plan super detailed and end up being time blind, love spontaneity but don't want to leave my room - and social ques are my worst nightmare as I hyper fixate on expressions and body language. No one gets when I'm joking or I'm serious. That's fun
This. All of this. When I was working, people would have a hard time figuring out if I was joking around or not unless they knew me better. I tend to go along with some things as if I was serious about it and that would make people think that I was actually serious.
I have both too sadly no one even know I had Autism until a few years ago so everyone just thought I was crazy
THIS. ALL OF THIS. THIS IS WHY I THINK I HAVE BOTH. IVE HEARD ITS NOT THT UNCOMMON TO HAVE BOTH but i was only diagnosed with adhd ;*; i swear i havw bothhhhh
It is actually very common to have "stacked" mental disorders or behavioral health issues.
You CAN have Autism, ADHD/ADD, Bipolar disorder, Major Depresssion, Anxiety, and PTSD-C (using myself as a reference).
**** PTSD-C is a "nurture over nature" disorder, so it's not something you are born with.
But as labels are, I know these exist inside of me- and in order to move on I've accepted them as apart of me. I don't let them interfere as much as I can with what I can do work-wise.
At some point I might do a reddit post about my brain. Who knows? Or I'll just forget I even commented back LOL
@@cyberneticangel50 can I ask if you are a female? (I am female) - females have different signs of Autism than males do, because we have a "social mask" to fit in (or try to fit in) with others it makes it SUPER hard to properly diagnose.
It's actually a whole thing to research on because it is THAT different.
Diagnosed 2 weeks ago at 37. It’s been life changing to realize that all these things I’ve struggled with all my life are real. I’m not making excuses, lazy, moody, or imagining things.
Same here, though I'm a bit older. All the times my parents were like, sit still, settle down, why can't you focus on one thing? No, this is definitely a discipline problem (Proceeds to spank the living hell outta me)! She's an actual genius! My daughter is just naturally gifted. (And then several years later, after putting me through 27 random talent classes and gifted programs, which I did do well at, but burnt out after) why didn't you live up to your potential? You had so much going for you! You're *SUCH*... a *DISAPPOINTMENT*!
And they wonder why I joined the Air Force, married, and moved across the country from them.
@@tiggerdcatTHE LAST SENTENCE LMAO
@@Super-Mario-Evan1227 All at the age of 10!
Lol, I joke, I joke... I was 11.
I'm kidding, I was actually 22 when I joined the Air Force, so I got called mom or grandma in my flight, but it's fine. Everyone, well, almost everyone, looked to me for guidance, as if I had some secret knowledge they didn't have, when in reality we were all in the same sinking boat with a cartoon like cork in the boat hole. All it took was a good pull and that boat started gurgling its way to the slimy, trash filled bottom of the icky ravine that was basic training. 1 chick was jealous of me, for some reason, and pushed me down the stairs (2 flights of concrete stairs, 16 steps each, just polished to a pristine shine by yours truly... the irony) and got me excused from PT for the rest of training, all I had to do was suffer a life changing shoulder injury! 🙃 I honestly could have skadooed out of there after that, as the injury was one that is cause for dismissal, if the doctor wrote it down as such. He asked me "How... *into* the service are you? Because this could be your ticket home, if you wanted it to be". Thanks, but no thanks! I worked too hard to get here just to go home? Nope. So he wrote it down as some other shoulder malady and I'm still suffering today! 😁
It's actuality the AF that eventually moved me where I am, 2000 miles away from my parents, which is closer that I'd been in a while, honestly, since I'd been overseas in places unmentionable (as in, you mention, we reserve the right to undo your existence) for quite a while beforehand. That's where I owied my entire right side via big bada boom 💥. But that's a whole different conversation inandofitself.
Ahhh ha! You see that? That was the info dumping they mentioned in the video. Which was that, the ADHD or the Autism, I can't remember. Ah well, have a great day, fantastic tomorrow, and a truly amazing rest of your life.
In the meantime, here's some words to reflect on:
"I do not envy the headache you'll have when you wake up. Until then, sleep well, and dream of large women!" - The Man in Black
(I'm truly sorry, I haven't slept well in over a week. Actually, take out the word "well". I just haven't slept!)
How do you mean you're not making excuses? Can you give a couple of examples? I'm making excuses the whole time, at least I think I do. But I suspect to have both autism and ADHD
@@LeonSKennedy7777 There's always gonna be some people looking for medications for reasons other than prescribed, however, to say we've been diagnosed at such an older age for "the drugs" is absolute horseshit! I'm not taking any meds for it, I just needed help adjusting my lifestyle and figuring out how it's going to affect my treatment of my other ailments. I have no interest in any medications, other than what I've already had to take for things I've been treated for over the last... well, let's just say for several years, and I don't even want to take those, but I kinda need to. Getting blown nearly half to hell by an IED will do that to you.
As a person with ADHD and not autism, I DO NOT LOVE UNFAMILIARITY
*runs back to bed screaming*
SAMEEEEE
@@user-km3ve7nh7m I just like working on my hundred hobbies by hyperfocusing in the comfort of my own home
Same here 😂
I don't like unfamiliarity either but sometimes it makes me focus and function more, but that wears off after two weeks and I start breaking down if I can't get comfortable or return to my comfort after 2 weeks
Same, I hate going places spontaneously. Maybe it's because of my anxiety lol.
As a person with ADHD and Asperger, when I was young, I really can’t read social skills. But then after my undergraduate studies, I started to be a mind reader and read through everyone’s gestures
I was a messy and inattentive person
And now a very orderly and hyper focused person
The term Asperger is phased out and is a part of ASD now.
Important to note that the younger generation often refer to Autism as anywhere on the ASD, not as "classic" autism that was often seen as very severe.
@@jackeriksen6753 I know but frankly it doesn’t mean the two are the same even DSM-5 list them both as autism
Even they list Asperger like this doesn’t mean they are correct, the clinical manifestations are completely different
@@jackeriksen6753people can call their condition whatever they want! Stop policing people, with your “education” it is so invalidating!
@@Jae-by3hf "Asperger's syndrome" is a term created by a nazi scientist to label the "useful ones". It's really not a good term to keep using.
@@lilliputianlily are you saying Asperges is a completely different (but similar) condition to high functioning autism?
I have ADHD and my sister has Autism, this video is very accurate as me and my sister, despite having different a diagnosis, relate to each other a lot because of similar patterns and difficulties
Having both is clearly the superior option
Take your time make a decision
God bless you both😊
Both me and my younger brother have both. We connect in a way I feel like a lot of neurotypicals wouldn't understand or would cock their head at if they watched us being siblings and bonding.
Like, we recently beat portal two together and it was great to bond but sometimes we'd snap and scream lol
Normally the screaming didn't last long and I made a wise crack or smth 😂
We can connect even tho we don't have super similar interests, we both like info dumping, can understand different over stimulation, and can understand eachothers ADHD talk (my ADHD brain does a lot of thinking but it's so hard to translate my thoughts that're jumbled with ADHD into actual English, coherent words and sentences. Especially if I have a brain fart or forget a word that's pretty vital to explaining what I'm trying to say lol
I have ADHD and my God brother has autism and we understand each other because well most people don't understand us and people say I might also have autism so I might have to see that
sam about me and my sis
As someone with both, it feels like the two are constantly fighting each other inside my mind. Sometimes I like to make a schedule, sometimes I want to go somewhere spontaneously, sometimes I hyperfocus but sometimes I get distracted… it’s really a wild card.
FR its like the angel and devil on the cartoon characters shoulders
Same
I feel you. We must stay strong!!!
frr its chaotic
These videos make me want to self diagnose but thats cringe. So I just try to do my best. And not seek any diagnoses.
This was super helpful. About an hour ago I went to a doctor's appointment to evaluate me for ADHD and left with a referral to a developmental doctor to get evaluated for autism. This helps me understand why my doctor put in that referral.
Is everything alright?
@Panzerfaust_1939 yeah, I mean my whole world was turned upside down but I'm fine now
@@kittencohort1766Wish I could get help too, struggling through high school as an adult is not an ideal situation.
@@shyryTsr2k yup.
I would also seek a second opinion. I don't trust any single diagnosis, but that's just me. The overlapping aspect to these conditions is super perplexing. @@kittencohort1766
I'm diagnosed with autism and have suspected adhd (according to online tests, these videos, my friends and one of my specialists). It is insanely hard to manage, sometimes my adhd and autism will agree and other times they disagree and shit hits the fan in my head. Like, my autism will require a certain routine to be done but, I will get stuck in an adhd scrolling paralysis made worse by the added anxiety from not doing my routine cause by my autism. Other times, I'll get a hyperfixation on something that happens to calm my autism so, in that case, my adhd is helping my autism. It gets confusing and I've had friends tell me that they wished they knew what happens in my head for only 5 minutes but, when I explain how my head works, they get lost within 2 minutes and wonder how I survive 😅
I have ADHD and I have 2 siblings with autism. It’s so funny how the two overlap but are so vastly different at the same time. My autistic siblings and I were counting cars passing by for HOURS cause we all get hyper focused, but if I want to move my iPad charger to a specific outlet on the wall my brother or sister will get upset bc that’s “their” outlet but I plug my phone in wherever and always lose it 😂
Did u have a speech delay in childhood?
@@abn2488yes, my brother was the only one to understand me from 3 years old to 5 years old. Around 5 years old, my parents started being able to understand but, not many other people. People started to be able to understand my speech around 8 years old and, even then, it took a couple of minutes (sometimes up to a couple of days) before anyone new could understand me until high school. Even now, when I get too tired, people stop being able to understand me unless they've known me for years. I was in speech therapy from a very young age (not sure what age but probably 2-3 years old) and kept it up until about 8 or 9 years old at which point the focus changed to my writing and grammar (still with a speech therapist) until I was 12.
Get better soon
i have both and it’s a struggle. i have little routines that i don’t like to change (like sitting in the same seat on the bus or the exact same spot in a hallway every day for lunch), but i also hate making daily plans. like, i don’t want to plan out my entire day, because i won’t stick to it.
I relate to this so much
I do this aswell I use to get so irrationally upset if someone took my spot i didn’t realize ppl didn’t do that until i got older!
This 👆
THIS RIGHT HERE
Yep, definitely yep.
Did u have a speech delay in childhood?
I am both and I feel so called out-
@bill cipher that sounds horrible fir both of you. I'm just ADHD and that sucks enough, and from what I know, that must be like a constant argument going on in your brains.
@bill cipher nice! I've like that you found something so positive
Yeah I also feel very called out lmao
Same here! Lol.
Same 🥹
the AuDHD experience is REAL! One of my favorite things about grad school was that each day was different from the others, but every Monday was the same as other Mondays, Tuesday was the same as other Tuesdays, etc. It was the right balance of variety and routine. Also! Having alarms can be a life saver if I have enough and also different sounds to know what it's for if I forget to label it. For instance, my general "another five minutes has passed" getting ready alarm is different than my "YOU ARE LEAVING IN FIVE MINUTES THE NEXT ALARM MEANS YOU MUST BE OUT THE DOOR!" alarm.
Ok. Ok. OKAY....you are me! I have alarms set on my phone starting at 6:30am until 8:15am which is the absolute latest I can leave my house and get to work on time.
You have inspire me to change my “get the heck out the door now (or in 10mins)” alarm to a different sound. Thank you greatly for that!
Wishing you, & all who may read this, a lovely day/nigh/life 💚
I often wonder if I have both because I have such a high need for both stability and novelty.
@@LaLadybug2011same but for school
I literally started using an alarm for studying purposes in order to give myself those breaks. Ex: Study for 1 hour, take a 10-15 min. break, then get back to studying. But this also depends on my mood.
In terms of alarm clocks, our cat is now mine and my mom's alarm clock waking at 6 am every morning if not earlier than that at times. If I had to be somewhere early in the morning, I would legit set 3 alarm clocks lol. Our cat rarely lets us sleep in, so now I'm on an auto-pilot 6 am wakeup which tbh isn't too bad b/c I used to do that during the summer time to take my dog out in the mornings.
As a member of the ADHD community just wanna say, I HATE unfamiliarity and things that aren’t specifically how I like it, if my day to day life changes I try as best as I can to fix it
How do you "fix" things? I have ADHD and autism and I'm curious.
I resonate with both. I have such a hard time with social cues and I'm acutely aware of it. I don't think about it until after its happened, then I'm like "whoa.. probably should've done this instead".
I HATE changes unless I'm told it's coming, then I can prepare for it.. but I stress to the highest degree in new situations and I spazz out (crying fits, fits of anger, ect). I'm fine after adjusting though.
Same first issue. What I don’t miss I can’t interpret at the time. I think it is sensory overload. If I’m watching other people interact and none of it is directed at me, I pick up on a lot more … my head doesn’t overload as easily.
Meanwhile, I like people being spontaneous with me … otherwise, I’d keep to myself most of the time.
I never guess right how people really feel about me. And yes, 99% of the time I discover them actually liking me but to find it out it takes a very devastating and hurtful journey
Heh… “resonate”😊
Are you me?
Yep. Me too.
This woman is a blessing from above for finally explaining things like this to the world
Indeed, I hate long videos where they explain everything so slowly going in circles etc. These right to the point shorts are the best.
@@veronical3135 It’s kinda funny given that this is an ADHD video lol
Fr, hate all the videos that are like "ADHD/Autism traits!" and then don't make any effort to distinguish which brings what to the table. Seems like every similar trait just gets written off as autism these days because nobody cares about the _cause_ of the trait.
I agree, her content is gold ✨
For those with both, I truly feel for you. I’ve worked with many people and students with ADHD and Autism and with both and its awful how much the symptoms can butt heads when its both and lead to a lot of anxiety. Love you all so much and keep being your amazing selfs 💛
Just got ADHD diagnosed last month before turning 52, autism at 31 (totally unexpected for autism at the time, though I went in, needing to understand why I had a pattern of inertia in behavior (autistic inertia) that had no emotional component, that caused me issues).
It's a combination of traits that are both sides of the same coin that leave you on edge.
The funniest thing is I managed to find a role of employment in tech that combines a pretty regular schedule of randomness and novelty for work. I don't think there are many roles quite like doing developer support.
I really do think I have both but since "It doesnt affect my education" Im not going to be able to get actually diagnosed anytime soon :P
In some way having both helps compensate for the autism rigidity and the ADHD lack of structure, but the stress threshold is definitely lower than NT's.
Something broke in my head trying to keep up, and I will not be able to work again.
Pity, as I was pretty competent if I wasn't being pushed too hard.
Society's loss, I warned them.
Sadly I didn't have the diagnosis back then to defend myself with ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯
Having Both Of These It’s Good To Understand Both Aspects! Thank You! ❤
I have both. I need a routine and get stressed without one, but can’t keep to one and get stressed by the time limits, schedule and my inability to follow it.
Oh the stress
Oh my goodness right 😭😭
You're speaking my language.
Miss girl you are not alone 😢 it’s so fuckinf hard
Did u have a speech delay in childhood?
Me: remembering how I used to make unnecessary schedules, lists, and plan everything out to the last second
Also me: I'm neurotypical
My raads-r score: your in denial
Me: plans things out fairly thoroughly
Also me: So its like friday right? (it was a tuesday)
I swear I don't have either adhd or autism as far as I know, just social anxiety and mayhaps a dash of ptsd for spice
THIS 😂😭
You're
What was ur raadsr score?
Or not. It’s called executive disfunction and it can create a sense of time blindness and/or a difficulty with switching tasks and/or an inability to gauge the weight/importance of different tasks.
"and that is my worst nightmare" described me in two sentences 💀
Me to
i have both of them and it’s crazy- craving order and routine yet never being able to keep a routine, going from very understimulated to very overstimulated, sometimes wanting to try new things but then changing my mind last minute, trying to plan stuff but failing, etc.
I feel that, I got diagnosed with both as well, two month ago (big relive life up until now wasn't really a life). Reading things like that really helps to not feel alone.
Reading symptoms of ADHD or Autism was confusing, because some of them can't really coexist. That makes it really hard to understand myself and everything is just very overwhelming.
Hope you are alright and i wish you the best.
@@A.Ravioli thank you so much
I wish you had this subtitled for those of us who need it
Trust me, you're better off with out it. Pretty much all she does on this channel is make up fake mental disorders in order to have excuses for her irresponsible or negative behavior. So, while this particular video may be slightly different than the rest, you should really try your hardest to avoid her videos. Just some friendly advice from a concerned citizen that accepts my negative behavioral traits and actually tries to constructively change them in a healthy way, rather than just make excuses so I don't have to try and better myself and grow as a person.
There should be a green button on the right side of the screen, if you click it you can turn on the subtitles 🤍
Hey there! On the side of my screen (while watching on my phone) are 3 white dots. When I click those dots, there's a list of options. Captions (auto-generated) is the second option. I double checked just now, and they are accurate but do leave out punctuation. I hope this helps!
“We have similar neurodivergent communication patterns like… connecting over shared interest”
THATS WHY I CANT MAKE FRIENDS
Lmfao
No friends share interest?
I'm starting to think that friends are overrated. And communicating with neurotypical people should be avoided, they're more trouble than they're worth.
Anxiety: “they left me out. Again.”
Depression: Same here
You ran out the door-
Ocd: 😐
“..Do they not like me? Do they all hate me? What if they’re saying things about me behind my back… what if they think I’m too needy.. what if I am too needy I mean it’s greedy of me to want to join their personal thing. Maybe I’m being a bitch…”
ALL THREE BAYBEE
This channel is so clear and helpful. Thank you to everyone involved 😇.
Not everyone with ADHD likes unfamiliarity. Structure and consistency is safe for some people. I think that’s more so a personality trait than a neurodivergence.
Ya I have adhd and I HATE different and new things
I thought the same thing, I don’t know a single person with ADHD myself included who likes unfamiliar things. People with adhd that i know anyways hate being too far outside of their comfort zone
@@Blok456 SAMMEEEEE
Maybe it’s talking about how new experiences produce lots of dopamine, which people with ADHD are deficient in?
I have adhd and I love structure and familiarity! I just CANNOT for the life of me keep it so it results in me being unhappy and a lot of self hate and blame...its utterly maddening.
Yes, the difficulty is I have both. I love making schedules and planning routines, yet when the time comes to fulfill those, I can never get anything done
Somebody exactly like that became a time management coach for a living. She said she gets all the fun of making the plans, and then never has to do them!
That's the biggest win I've ever heard. @@heathertoomey7068
@@heathertoomey7068brilliant!
Yes frfr
I'm diagnosed with ADHD, and for my whole life me, psychologists, and my family, have thought I have ASD, and I feel this in my entire body.
I'm not officially diagnosed ADHD but my psychiatrist suspects I am. I've always struggled from hormonal migraines and even with my medicine, it's hard for me to focus at work if I start getting blind spots and the dull ache is still there. I always feel terrible because when I have a flare up, I have to leave work early, and I start to feel like I'm slacking and get anxious that I'II lose my job.
I can relate mate, it's so fustrating but you should never forget you are strong and can always pull through.
Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, adhd and aspergers(autism). Imagine carrying heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone . Believe it or not i have never felt more relieved in a couple years.
@@teddcraycraft5297 Autism is often marked by co occurring
ADHD. Got my ADHD diagnosis at 29 and at 31 1 notice the autism, lots of pills with side effects,hospitals etc..still didn't get the help i need no matter how hard i try , it’s very frustrating. I live in UK ,anyway you could give insight on how to go about psychedelics meditation that work?
@@wilsonjennings323 Look them up and they will help out with that. However, it's very inspirational that you proved to yourself how strong you can be . In case you see this comment, I'm Sending lots of love and positive energy.
@@wilsonjennings323 True!, having a place to turn for real help..
It's expensive, it takes forever to get in somewhere and then your symptoms get minimized for you be you don't come off as depressed.. the search is too gd expensive to find a decent doctor and so depressing on it's own you give up. It's too much of a fight.
I have autism. For some reason, I feel anxious with new experiences, but yet I get bored if everything is the same! Never at peace.
You may have ADHD as well as autism, and they're competing in your head. It's maddening!
My brother who was born first has autism
And I was born after and I have ADHD
Thx for the likes and comments
It's the opposite for me, I have autism and he has ADHD 🤣 so does my dad and dead mum!🤣
Same here
Sameeeee we are 22 month apart
Same
@@green-spectre what.. your dead mum? I don’t understand how that’s funny..unless she was just an awful person. Just the way you wrote that seems so wrong lol
My mom never got me diagnosed, but I've always been socially crippled. For many years I toiled over "conversation" and how it worked, I couldn't get over the panic of how unpredictable talking to people irl is. I'm so glad as an adult I took the time to figure out these things about myself and why it took me until high school to even make 1 friend at school.
Samee
You are lucky you figured this out in high school. I didn't figure out, until I was diagnosed, that I had autism in my mid-40s and ADHD in my late 40s. When I grew up this stuff was rarely talked about and there was not much info on it. I did not dislike high school, and don't think any one there disliked me, but I also did not have any friends. That's awesome you were able to figure this out when you did.
DANGER DAYS PFP
A fellow killjoy i see
@@venomghoul forever will be! I was revenge frank for Halloween lmao
i have just adhd and struggle getting up literally every day :,) i cant imagine how much more of a struggle it is to have autism and adhd 😭 yall are really doing it all out here and doing it amazingly
Same tho 😭
You want to borrow my Autism for a while? I could really use a break from all the in-brain fighting.
Hi, I have both. I would like to tell you that what mood I'm on or how I'm feeling depends on how bad it is.
I am NOT a doc. But there is a SECRET. Please look into camel milk- life changing
Squeeze ice cube for anxiety.
No such thing as adhd- sorry they lied. U will find out the truth.
Breathing exercises.
Food is linked to many things.
Feng Shui interesting because where you place your bed is important in your room WHY - your head and feet facing certain direction. north east South West important.
EARTHING:::
- lean against a tree, walk bare feet on real grass, rub your feet souls on bark of tree.
@@ohkaygoplayI am NOT a doc. But there is a SECRET. Please look into camel milk- life changing
Squeeze ice cube for anxiety.
No such thing as adhd- sorry they lied. U will find out the truth.
Breathing exercises.
Food is linked to many things.
Feng Shui interesting because where you place your bed is important in your room WHY - your head and feet facing certain direction. north east South West important.
EARTHING:::
- lean against a tree, walk bare feet on real grass, rub your feet souls on bark of tree.
I have both autism and adhd, and I spend most of my time listening to music. One way that I satisfy both my need for familiarity and novelty is to find songs that I know well, and look for new versions of them. Sometimes it completely different genres.
That actually makes sense!
Thank you! This makes sense. And I feel less confused now. Would be interesting to see Autism vs ADHD vs CPTSD.
It's madness 🤪🤷😢🐔😱🤔🥸 with all three competing in your head 😮
@@chriscohlmeyer4735I got used to it but yes madness is one way of putting it
Ooh, yeah! Having all 3 is a messy nightmare lol
Care to explain what CPTSD is? Because my dumbass mind can’t figure it out.
@Wolfie54545 it's short for "complex post traumatic stress disorder" similar to ptsd, but is caused by repeated and lasting trauma. Hope this helped:D
THANK YOU FOR THIS. Especially the time blindness 😭
I’m 28 and was diagnosed with ADHD ten years ago, being an info dumper is so natural for me and wanting to get to know people ❤️💯
So as an AuDHDer I love familiarity: same place, same people, same objects... So I can come up with different chaotic ways to interact with them each day. Today, I'm gonna cook the same pasta I've been eating forever *for breakfast* .
Once again coming to the conclusion that I probably have both. I struggle to understand social cues and also I need the unfamiliar for the new sensations it brings.
it's fairly common to have both, so here they do the 2 diagnostics at the same time.
What type of social cues give you the most difficulty? Does someone have to explicitly invite you into a social situation for you to feel comfortable? Or more nuanced social cues like facial expressions, etc.??
I have both and totally agree, I love schedules and routine but I do like to switch it up ever so often.
Same my guy
Adhd autism thank you for being here 😢
I have both, plus OCD and schizophrenia and it's really hard. I really hope anyone with any sort of mental illness gets the help they need, I'll be praying for everyone
"all right lets start off with social cues"
adhd:"huh"
True haha
lol underrated
"Uhmm I forgot to litsen...."
-Me every time someone gives me important information including the time/date that something is gonna happen.
Good god- I just had a notification pop up in the middle of watching this, read an entire news article and then came back to the middle of this video and pressed pause to comment.
It’s been 15 minutes.
HELP. 🤣
Edit: finally watched the rest of the short
baby steps 💕
Noice!
I've done this before
Relatable 😂
It is important to note that there are two types of adhd (according to my adhd friend); one loves routines and one cannot stick to them.
According to Psychiatrists, there are actually 7 different types of ADHD.
@@SlimPickens419I've only heard of three (3) types before 👀
Is very curious
@@-Ca1y3b_Iz_Ind3ciziv3- According to Dr. Amen, there are seven types of ADHD:
1.) Classic ADD:
The three core symptoms associated with Classic ADD include inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Classic ADD is similar to what the American Psychiatric Association describes as ADHD-combined presentation. This is the typical hyperactive/impulsive child who also struggles with staying on task. Brain mapping commonly reveals excessively slow brainwaves in the frontal regions of the brain, and frequently abnormal connectivity within and/or between the prefrontal cortex and parietal lobes.
2.) Inattentive ADD:
Patients suffering from Inattentive ADD often have difficulty with executive functioning such as organization, planning, prioritizing, time management, and self-monitoring. These individuals are easily distracted and/or lack the mental stamina for completing routine tasks that are non-preferred. They typically are not a behavioral problem since they are not hyperactive nor impulsive.
3.) Over-focused ADD:
In addition to the core symptoms of Classic ADD, those patients suffering from Over-focused ADD have difficulty shifting their attention from one task to the next. In this scenario, qEEG brain mapping frequently shows the brain being stuck in excessive fast brainwaves of overstimulation, whereby the brain is also functioning in a more rigid and inflexible state.
4.) Temporal Lobe ADD:
Individuals suffering from Temporal Lobe ADD can be over-reactive or moody, and prone to tantrums or meltdowns in childhood. This type of Temporal Lobe ADD can be associated with memory problems and difficulties in auditory processing.
5.) Limbic ADD:
In addition to the core symptoms of ADHD, sufferers of Limbic ADD may experience increased feelings of guilt, possible moodiness, and, in some cases, damaged self-esteem. Limbic ADD affects a group of structures within the brain involved in our “flight” or “fight” response system, leaving the individual feeling excessively and unrealistically threatened at times by stressors.
6.) Ring of Fire ADD:
Ring of Fire ADD is characterized by over activity in a global sense, meaning that the brain is over stimulated in multiple areas. Those suffering from Ring of Fire ADD may experience an increase in anxiety, racing thoughts, difficulty falling asleep or sleeping through the night. This person might also be emotionally over reactive and quick to anger.
7.) Anxious ADD:
Sufferers of Anxious ADD are often afflicted by additional symptoms of stress which may include headaches, digestive problems, difficulty falling asleep and low self-esteem. Brain mapping reveals dysregulation in brain networks involving the prefrontal cortex, limbic areas, and the insula.
I hope is helps and is informative. ☺️
@@SlimPickens419 i greatly appreciate this message /gen
I don't understand how those are different things? Not being able to _keep_ a routine doesn't mean you don't _like_ them. A lot of people with ADHD are stressed _because_ they can't stick to a routine, and they'd _like_ to. It's the executive function and lack of dopamine getting in the way - not whether or not they like routines. That's certainly my case - I like a routine, I just get anxious and stressed because I can't seem to follow them well.
Really great wee video and its so nice to hear this subject talked about in such a normal way to show that these neurological aspects are something we all have in one way or another!!
Whew. Again, something I needed to hear.
I can plan my day perfectly and then get to the end of the day and realize the plan did not happen. At all.
OMG I felt this sooooo hard! 😂🤦♀️
This was perfectly communicated, thank you! ❤️
This is so helpful. My daughter and I both have ADHD, and of her 3 kids - 2 have autism and the other one might grow to have ADHD (undiagnosed at this point). It really helps to see this next to each other, because now we know the differences between the issues we deal with and how it affects them.
It’s so fun when you have both😭
Make a longer video of this! Please! :o
I'm fine that it's just general statements but getting into specific cases would take forever so no worries!
Helped me out with understanding each one focuses on!
Thanks for the help! ❤️💚💜💙🧡
They both seem really nice
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I do tend to be at appointments on time because of time blindness. I always leave stupidly early, in a panic, and get there’s 20-30 mins too soon. And I feel rushed the entire time
And when the two come together, it is a wonderful Union!
Your videos are awesome. As someone who has both ADHD & Autism I can relate to them and they make me notice things about myself I did not notice before.
I love how you explained it so well girly!!
Not me spending an entire week preparing and making a schedule for this semester
Then things Start fall off track about a week or two in lol
@@ccutehoney it took 5 days for me to get off track 😭😭
i’m just watching this with me and both my autism and adhd being like, yep this unfortunately is how my brain and my mental mindset is like on a daily basis
adhd and autism: *falls in love and has a kid*
the kid: *literally me*
Ahh I guess we must be siblings then!! :)
sibling >:)
@@sportsloverbaseball we must cause chaos as siblings.
Me after having a SIP of coffee:
JINDFDJUHCIFJJKHOFJNCFUHEFHNCFNNHFRUUFHFUHFRNHVGIRCJNFCRUKNVIUJGJHFIJFDMHCUGFMJUIGF MILK POTATOOOOOOOO
I have both and agree with you
This is so true!! Thank you so much for bringing awareness, 3 people in my immediate family have autism and the other 2 have ADHD. 💜
Your exactly like me I want to get to know you.
As someone with an autistic dad and an adhd mom this was very helpful
This is an excellent way to help differentiate the overlapping symptoms. Thank you! #audhd
My older sister is autistic and I have ADHD! This is pretty accurate if I'm honest. Focus and time are really hard for me, it's like all of my thoughts are at full volume and I can't pick one thing to focus on without another catching my attention. My sister, however, highly hyperfixates on her schedule. I hate working, as I constantly turn to other things and get sidetracked with things I'd rather do. My sister commits a schedule and cant do anything outside of that schedule without getting upset/confused/angry about it. She's always had a hard time socially, and so have I, as I constantly don't know what response to give with my brain running a mile a minute, and she simply cannot grasp what people are talking about. We get along well despite our hard time with others and often hyperfixate on similar things! I feel like I can talk to her about anything, and her the same.
I'm autistic and 3 family members are ADHD, the messes drive me crazy but learned more about ADHD thru channels like yours, and it's helping me to understand them better so there's less frustration and misunderstanding 😊 especially when dirty socks are left on the table 😂
This sounds oddly familiar 😅
Table?! That's not ADHD, that's a slob, haha.
time blindness 😻😻
I always joke I would be late to my own wedding because I am late no matter how much I want to be somewhere
I was late to my wedding...
I already know that I'll manage to be late for my own funeral, I've lost so many jobs due to lateness, it's only about 5 mins usually but businesses do not care, they say 8am they mean 8am. I can wake 2 hours before, I'll still be late. Also I was only diagnosed a year ago, I'm 28 now.
The only reason I wasn't late to my wedding is because my husband drove but I'm going to be late to my own funeral. And I'm on the verge of losing my job too but I just recently learned that my lateness issue is an ADHD thing I just thought it was me
@@krystalrose5874 hang in there, I just lost a job again due to latenesses and absences, they couldn't really be helped by hey there you go, as I said the businesses will not care, I had even told them about ADHD and the fact that it will cause some issues surrounding timekeeping etc, the main thing I have always taken away is that my actual job performance has always exceeded their expectations, I learn new things fast and we'll, given something with structure and routine does help to some degree but always found the jobs where there are different things to do all the time better (convenience store work/night stocking one particular isle every night) but it did present issues with hyper focus (4-5 hours spent reorganising shelves in a medical supplies cupboard lol)
@@spaggle9911 So in other words, you're incredibly irresponsible and rather than changing yourself and getting your crap together you look for excuses to justify your irresponsible behavior. How about just leaving earlier for work? If 2 hours isn't enough time to get ready (which in itself is kind of ridiculous) then wake up earlier so you do have enough time to get ready and get to work on time. If you're always 5 minutes late, wake up 20 minutes earlier than you have been, that way you have an extra 15 minutes, just in case you're running behind, or something unexpected happens. This isn't rocket science. It sounds like you just need to grow up and get yourself together, rather than look for excuses inorder to feel better because you think you'll be able to justify your irresponsibility. The reason you continue to get fired is because nobody cares about or wants to hear your excuses. All they want is a dependable employee that can act like a responsible and mature adult, rather than an overgrown child that has nothing to offer but excuses.
You explained this so beautifully for my brain 🩷
I have both. I can relate to every symptom listed and it's madness.
I had autism at 30 never knew I had ADHD until recently I was diagnosed and I am happy I did, I was recommended cbd oil and microdosing shroom as way to go and it's been pretty amazing , unlike other medications with poor results and much side effects.
@@edbrook1188 Thank you for this information, any way I could get cbd oil or the mushrooms , prior to what I had tried vyvanse and strattera with poor results and lots of side effects.
@@isabellabrook8932 It's much of a coincidence the Brooks are on helping each other out lol, Find albovegateway
.....On Instagram, I get mine from them, I'm Sending lots of positive energy❤
I just realized I explained all of my trauma to someone on discord because you mentioned info dumping
Relatable
Frr I update my friends with the most random things too bc I have to tell someone
As a person with autism and ADHD, even though I do live like this, I think of it more as a gift than it is a curse because yeah, there may be some kinks that they’re not Romo but if you work with them right they become a complete balance of how you think and people can be very intelligent because of these two disabilities
Did u have a speech delay in childhood?
Great way to highlight some similarities and differences, thanks!! Interesting and illuminating.
I have both. I want to plan, but then I forget. I want to do new stuff but then I get anxious because I don’t have my routine 😬😂.
I also have both and I do the same thing, it’s like a constant battle we’re no matter what you chose your never satisfied
As someone with both I can confidently say the following about my day to day life:
AAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Thank you very much, also never touch me but hug me constantly at the same time
Every day, I'm getting more and more sure I have adhd and this is really concreting that
With that pattern of colors in your pfp, I’m pretty certain your father doesn’t like you.
I have autism, my mom ignores that all the time 😅
My poor brother has both but he’s the sweetest boy ever
And when you got both it can feel like there's a literal battle of two people going on inside you body and mind.
I do not have autism, but I have generally inattentive presentation ADHD, and I also have some leftover OCD tendencies (worked through most of it)…so I actually LOVE living by schedules, routines, and planning ahead, but I am dismal at understanding how they work and how to keep them. So for those of you saying the ADHD description doesn’t fit you, that’s totally possible! Both of these diagnoses are far from cookie cutter experiences. She’s just describing a few common symptoms which could be differences. 😊
I always explain that ADHD and ASD are like best friends. Many time seen together but not connected at the hip.
You are amazing.Thank you for being you. You are the coolest person 😊 i could watch your video over and over. You would be a blast to hang out with😂
I have both and insomnia so they just play All Through the Night😂❤
i have both (: i need a schedule but struggle to follow them, enjoy new things but they must be planned before absolutely no surprises, i cant keep a conversation cause i zone out cause ive learnt i wont be able to figure it out. i also have chronic pain meaning i typically have to adjust said schedule based on how i feel that day which i cant know beforehand
Having both is indeed a pain in and of itself. Considering I'm the same.
i get SO upset when random shit like pain flares up and i can't follow the schedule i set up for myself 🫠 or someone randomly asks me to do smth out of nowhere. only diagnosed w ADHD tho but rly been...,,,,seeing how many of these autistic specific symptoms show up esp on my meds when i'm not a dopamine fiend :/
This is why nothing ever happens and I'm always over stimulated 😭😭
Do you need actual stimulation to be overstimulated? I can stare at a blank wall and be overstimulated. I'm still searching for the office switch for that big spongy thing in my skull.
i have diagnosed ADHD and i have a need for routines 😭 i don’t like when plans change or too much unfamiliarity it overwhelms me pretty quickly
Did u have a speech delay in childhood?
@@abn2488 i actually had a speech impediment but i didn’t have any delays in speech
@@julie.m023 thanks for replying. I am worried as we have a kid in the family with dual diagnosis n he is taking time to catch up with language. Hoping he can get there soon.
@@abn2488 oh i see i hope he gets there soon too. I wish you all the best
@@julie.m023 thanks 👍
I love routines and hate them at the same time. Gotta love having both
I have both, and it makes a pretty weird mix lol
I absolutely love to try out new things! ONLY when i want to and feel like it. If someone comes up with something unexpected like a change in my schedule that i didnt plan for I implode
Every person with spectrum disorder needs a friend with adhd because we counteract each other
Yup, I have ADHD and my bf is autistic. He reminds me of stuff and keeps me on track, while I help him experience unfamiliar things and with social cues.
Must be so fun to have both
God I have the worst time management. I’ll literally plan down to the minute, on my notes app. Also tried writing it on paper.
Wake up 20 minutes
Breakfast 40 minutes (time for chilling)
Shower 20 minutes (extra time always incase)
Make up and get dressed 1 hour
Last minute stuff 10 minutes.
That’s what the list will kinda look like, usually more detailed. Then I’ll work backwards to figure out what time to wake up. Giving myself seriously ample time for each task, yet I am ALWAYS late. It’s like my brain sees how much time I allowed for ‘waking up’ for example and instead of watching RUclips in bed for maximum 20 minutes, I’ll go way way over that subconsciously because I allowed extra time all over the place and I’ll just speed up the time for something else because surely I won’t take that long to example: shower. But I do. I take even longer than I thought I would. Every damn time. Madness.
Lmao or you’ve got both and every day is like war in my head.
Is that why we're tired all the time?
and I have both :) I like something's unplanned but other stuff too be planned. like getting ready for bed, I have a routine and if it gets messed up it's really upsetting. and because I get distracted a lot I have to start it an hour or more before I plan on going to bed even tho it should only take a few minutes to get ready.
This explains everything (ADHD) thank you for making me remember one of my disorders another one I remember is processing language disorder.
I have both 😃 aha they contradict eachother constantly
When you want to be impulsive but your need for having the exact same stuff wins out. Planning vs impulsivity, man.
@@CrowJoestar Definitely:( but the mix of understimulation and overstimulation is horrendous, especially when you don't know what you need when understimulated so you're just stuck with the feeling for hours. Kind of like an itch which can't be itched lmao
@@Bea-rq1uf Yeah it sucks. I’m almost always understimulated so I want to just go out and do something but my need to plan everything makes being impulsive impossible.
Me having neither of them but doing very similar things with OCD and social anxiety…
Genuinly interested, do you have any examples?
@Mari B Im very organized but at the same time distracted, when it comes to objects I place them in a specific place and straight, but when it comes to schedules Im very messy, and forget about many things as well, in the social part I get really stressed and similar autism, loud noises and physical contact triggers me
@@lin.._.0 trying to figure the anxiety stuff out. Thanks, thats helpful! Some say anxiety can look like adhd too.
@@mari97216 there’s various types of anxiety, some may do buy others maybe don’t
@@lin.._.0 yeah generalized anxiety.
This is a safe space😌✨ bestie really made this a real safe space
Having both makes life HARDDDD