I don't know I think the biting may be a part of the chewing as stimming, I think when they are comfortable and soothing themselves when using the biting as a playful thing. when used as a response to their anger and to hurt someone or defend themselves., it's when they feel threatened and or stressed about their environment. so I think its' important to address the oral issue first and then review it with the child when they feel the anger and the urge to hurt people either by hitting or scratching how they can deal with their feelings and self regulate by resisting the urge to bite. -like the resist the urge to throw something or hit someone. Yes look at the whole picture.
These situations need to be addressed, so people should not be concerned more so on being scared but knowing the truth behind the child's behavior. So, this is a very good video to watch.
My child is 5 years old, autistic, non verbal, his just started learning words but he can't communicate to u to let you know verbally what's wrong. My problem is when he's in pain, or really hungry he lashes out by scratching, pinching, biting to the point where he's peeled off my skinz I have claw marks, looks like freddie kruger went to town on me. He doesn't do it to his dad, he will aim his frustration at me. What can I do, I have tried telling him no, n Holding his hands to stop scratching, biting me, but he's strong for his age, n I don't want to hurt him, when I'm restraining him, I'm scared he's going to get hurt. I let him know, that it's not good, it's bad, n say no, he gets that. I understand he's in pain or suffering, but even when he's not, he's still doing it, what can i do to stop him, I really need ur help, plz help me, I would really appreciate it. Thanks
You can use my proven strategies to increase language, keep problem behaviors near 0, and keep him safe, while increasing independence and happiness. Start by joining my free workshop at Marybarbera.com/workshops
My 3 year old bite when told no or when frustrated..he bites himself or beats his head off stuff. No clue how to get him to stop. He leaves bruises on self.
I do wish there were more straightforward quick solutions but handling our kids aggressive behaviors requires a bit more work. I have a 7 year old daughter that has Not been diagnosed with Autism but shares a lot of characteristics. She’s a big time biter. I’ve learned her triggers and try my best to prevent the escalation that gets her there. A lot of times it’s still unavoidable (my daughter bites when upset or when she feels playful, happy and excited) so I try to do my best to find things that soothe her and quickly calm down the instinct to bite. I give her space so I can protect myself and have tried giving her teething toys (not her favorite) however she really loves fabric so I’ve started giving her old socks or shirts to chew on when she’s feeling extra “bitey”. All in all I think prevention is key but let’s be honest...it can’t always be prevented. I believe the next best thing is learning to work With them and not against their instinct. We all know our child best and we can try to set up a space for them that’s most comforting/soothing. Sometimes there’s just going to be bad moments..and to that I say, you’re not alone. It’s tough. Just know there’s a lot of us out there and we need to be compassionate to ourselves as parents.
My son is the same. He bites himself when he is stress, angry or anxiety. That behavior had died down but could happen unexpectedly. Most of the time he is happy but when it happens so hard to protect/ restrain him in a why. I ended up buying him biteproof gloves from bitepro. U can also purchase clothing to protect yourself. I know its tough, but this too shall pass. Hang in there and leave it up to GOD. I pray all our kids to get better and healed
I have a kid who bites only parents and when he demands things and he catches them from behind so they cannot defend themselves. Plus he is getting stronger now he is 7 stronger than his mother.
Hi Ma'am I bought the kindle version of your book "Turn autism around" for my girlfriend in Cameroon but it's doesn't open. It seems the kindle version can't be used out of the United States. Please can we get the book for those of us in Africa
What if it is biting that happens during a meltdown? Saying "no" is a trigger and makes her more upset. If you try to remove yourself and the child just keeps coming after you, trying to bite.
We want to spend 95 percent of our time preventing problem behavior. So I would find ways to prevent the meltdowns by taking data and assessing the whole situation.
I babysat a 6 year old girl who had Autism and she was the same way, she didn't like the word "No," so instead of saying no we told her "maybe later" and she liked that much better. There were no melt downs and she let go whatever it was she was wanting with no complaints .
Hi!! I work with triplets ( two identical girls and a boy) they are 26 months old and the boy has always been sort of behind the girls, tooth girls started talking waaaay before than the boy did, he also pushes his jaw about and he has probably about 100 words while the girls have 1000 more, and the ones he says he is always pushing his jaw out but we have already checked and there is nothing wrong with his jaw,bite ir teeth … he also walked way later than the girls and he can’t jump yet and he runs but he keeps twisting his legs and he obviously falls down, we have speech and development specialists that see him regularly but they haven’t been really helpful, he has the worst tantrums, he bites himself in his hands an arms all the time, he has no problem solving the way the girls do, he just gets frustrated at the first try and melts down, he also shows signs of a very serious OCD , with basically everything, if the bed is crooked or if his shirt is nor straight …. He is also incredibly into different textures and the couple of things that calm him down is to just get under a lot of heavy sort of pillows, help please?? We have no idea what to do…. One development lady said to buy him a straight jacket and just put him in it when a tantrum ….
As the video says, you want to first look at a dental appointment and a medical evaluation. Look at what is triggering the tantrums and if you were given 1000 dollars to even go an hour without any issues, what would you have to do and you may need to start there! I do have online courses that can help. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops
Does she have other delays and behaviors? If so sign up for a free workshop bit.ly/3GZjn7m . We want to work to prevent the behavior as much as possible, this may mean a one to one who can be near her at preschool to support her and prevent this.
Thank you mum.I work with a 20 yrs + person with autism but in his case he suddenly attacks to bite or try to attack with some sort of pressure like pouncing on you.He firsr bit my right arm then on the next attack which was more of a pounce,he tried to bite my right arm.The observation i made was he suddenly refuses to engage in an activity and attempts to bite.so am wondering if this" no biting approach can work on him because once he bites you and runs off,he actually makes an attempt to bite any other person he sees until he is calm or kept in a sensor room.Please what other strategy can be applied.looking forward to hearing from you soon.Thank you
I have a 6-year-old boy, and biting and hitting are a big problem for him in school. He did not start hitting or biting other people until he started school. He also does not hit or bite me or any family members. It's only at school that he is hitting and biting his teacher. I know he does it when he is stressed or frustrated. I'm afraid he will end up being removed from school. How do I correct behaviors that aren't happening at home? I have tried ABA in school which helped him last year but his hours have since been denied by insurance, so he won't have an RBT this school year.
What if the biting is out of frustration? My 3 year old is starting to bite all the time, at home to his twin sister, at daycare and now at his special ed preschool he just got into! I'm worried he is going to be kicked out soon if we don't get control of it. But it happens so fast, as soon as someone takes his toy or makes him upset he immediately bites hard. He says words, but is not understandable, so he can't communicate when he is uspet yet. Help!
he likely needs someone at daycare or preschool right beside him to help him in those situations. for special ed preschool , you should be able to advocate for more supports in his IEP .
I'm curious, is there any helpful literature on autism in teens and them biting themself. As I read it could be boredom, overstimulation, or frustration but what could be the best way to battle it
The idea is preventing the behavior before it happens. We can achieve this by taking data on what happens directly before the behavior, while the behavior is occurring, and what happens directly after. You can learn more about taking data on problem behaviors in my online courses (in your case, you'd sin up for the Verbal Behavior Bundle). For more info, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
Hello first time here I work with a 17 year old girl now I started working with her when she was 9-10 years old I left her a year and a half ago because I ha da baby and iam back again but she got worst her biting takes up to 30 or 1 hour dad has to pick her up hold her tight then if she gets to the floor she hits her head forhead nose obviously now she tried to bite us too the other day she even hit me so bad pull my hair so I tried taking my hair of her and she tried biting me then she punch me so strong on my head to the point I got really dizzy it make me so sad to realize how bad she’s getting she was prescribe 2 different medications to calm her down but dad doesn’t want to use it I have to mention she only do this bad nonstopable bittings with dad only is like she likes to make him feel like this because she doesn’t do that with me alone or anyone alse she does tries I tell her no removed her hands then she sadly cried out and that’s all any recommendations anything is really appreciated dad is single dad mom left them for another men so this case is too much she didn’t get the help she needed sooner thanks to mil been jealous of the female workers been in the house thank you for your info god bless this kids and me to have the right choices to help her 🙏
Oh my goodness, that sounds like a really tough situation. If her language level is that of a 1-5 year old, you might consider reading my book: www.TurnAutismAround.com or joining my mini course "Turn Tantrums Around" (and adjust accordingly for her size and abilities. marybarbera.com/turn-tantrums-around-mini-course/. Otherwise, I'd recommend hiring a BCBA to assist with her programming.
My son is 14 years old he has autism he is 6 feet tall 240 pounds he pinches me in the face and bites me , because he wants to keep ordering junk food and I keep canceling the order please help
As biting is one of the most serious problem behaviors. You can try to respond calmly but firmly to communicate that biting is not acceptable. I have a blog on biting that can help: marybarbera.com/autism-and-biting/ Learn other strategies when you join my free workshop at Marybarbera.com/workshops
Thank you o recently got a call from my kid kinder garden he was suspended for biting his teacher witch he doesn’t do that at home , I ll work on in but your video did help a lot
What can i do if my 3 year old son bites his knuckles, it has come to a point where my gf and i do not know what to do. the doctor diagnosed him with autism and we do not know what stage it is i bought him alot of different toys for him to bite on but he keeps biting his hand, we have told him "no" and that only makes it worst, can you please help me!!!
This sounds like a difficult situation. It could be really helpful to pay attention to when he's NOT biting and increase those types of situations. I can help you much more effectively in my Toddler Course, where you'd get access to my team and I to help you navigate problem behaviors + increase his language. Visit MaryBarbera.com/courses to get started. My other resources can be found at MaryBarbera.com/links-yt.
31 days in the hospital - 6 I don’t remember- two emergency surgeries to keep me alive - (the child carried three types of strep - a carrier - didn’t have them.) Take bites seriously get a tetanus shot. Learn form my mistake.
I don't know I think the biting may be a part of the chewing as stimming, I think when they are comfortable and soothing themselves when using the biting as a playful thing.
when used as a response to their anger and to hurt someone or defend themselves., it's when they feel threatened and or stressed about their environment. so I think its' important to address the oral issue first and then review it with the child when they feel the anger and the urge to hurt people either by hitting or scratching how they can deal with their feelings and self regulate by resisting the urge to bite. -like the resist the urge to throw something or hit someone. Yes look at the whole picture.
These situations need to be addressed, so people should not be concerned more so on being scared but knowing the truth behind the child's behavior. So, this is a very good video to watch.
My child is 5 years old, autistic, non verbal, his just started learning words but he can't communicate to u to let you know verbally what's wrong. My problem is when he's in pain, or really hungry he lashes out by scratching, pinching, biting to the point where he's peeled off my skinz I have claw marks, looks like freddie kruger went to town on me. He doesn't do it to his dad, he will aim his frustration at me. What can I do, I have tried telling him no, n Holding his hands to stop scratching, biting me, but he's strong for his age, n I don't want to hurt him, when I'm restraining him, I'm scared he's going to get hurt. I let him know, that it's not good, it's bad, n say no, he gets that. I understand he's in pain or suffering, but even when he's not, he's still doing it, what can i do to stop him, I really need ur help, plz help me, I would really appreciate it. Thanks
I also have the same challenge. He would skip everyone in the room and come directly to me. How do we handle this.
You can use my proven strategies to increase language, keep problem behaviors near 0, and keep him safe, while increasing independence and happiness. Start by joining my free workshop at Marybarbera.com/workshops
My 3 year old bite when told no or when frustrated..he bites himself or beats his head off stuff. No clue how to get him to stop. He leaves bruises on self.
Attend a free workshop today to get started with helping your son with biting as well as other problem behavior: MaryBarbera.com/workshops
I do wish there were more straightforward quick solutions but handling our kids aggressive behaviors requires a bit more work. I have a 7 year old daughter that has Not been diagnosed with Autism but shares a lot of characteristics. She’s a big time biter. I’ve learned her triggers and try my best to prevent the escalation that gets her there. A lot of times it’s still unavoidable (my daughter bites when upset or when she feels playful, happy and excited) so I try to do my best to find things that soothe her and quickly calm down the instinct to bite. I give her space so I can protect myself and have tried giving her teething toys (not her favorite) however she really loves fabric so I’ve started giving her old socks or shirts to chew on when she’s feeling extra “bitey”. All in all I think prevention is key but let’s be honest...it can’t always be prevented. I believe the next best thing is learning to work With them and not against their instinct. We all know our child best and we can try to set up a space for them that’s most comforting/soothing. Sometimes there’s just going to be bad moments..and to that I say, you’re not alone. It’s tough. Just know there’s a lot of us out there and we need to be compassionate to ourselves as parents.
you may google mary barbera chewing or mary barbera biting as there may be some blood work you could do to make sure it isn't a medical issue!
@@marybarbera thank you! I hadn’t thought about that. I’ll look into it
My son is the same. He bites himself when he is stress, angry or anxiety. That behavior had died down but could happen unexpectedly. Most of the time he is happy but when it happens so hard to protect/ restrain him in a why. I ended up buying him biteproof gloves from bitepro. U can also purchase clothing to protect yourself. I know its tough, but this too shall pass. Hang in there and leave it up to GOD. I pray all our kids to get better and healed
I have a kid who bites only parents and when he demands things and he catches them from behind so they cannot defend themselves. Plus he is getting stronger now he is 7 stronger than his mother.
Hi Ma'am I bought the kindle version of your book "Turn autism around" for my girlfriend in Cameroon but it's doesn't open. It seems the kindle version can't be used out of the United States. Please can we get the book for those of us in Africa
That is odd. I would contact amazon kindle for customer support on that issue. Try going to turnautismaround.com and clicking international.
What if it is biting that happens during a meltdown? Saying "no" is a trigger and makes her more upset. If you try to remove yourself and the child just keeps coming after you, trying to bite.
We want to spend 95 percent of our time preventing problem behavior. So I would find ways to prevent the meltdowns by taking data and assessing the whole situation.
I babysat a 6 year old girl who had Autism and she was the same way, she didn't like the word "No," so instead of saying no we told her "maybe later" and she liked that much better. There were no melt downs and she let go whatever it was she was wanting with no complaints .
@@vanessavanessa4892 you
I’m just tired. 😢
Sending hugs, naps, and a perfectly made coffee your way!
Im tired to, i get it
I feel that in bones
Hi!! I work with triplets ( two identical girls and a boy) they are 26 months old and the boy has always been sort of behind the girls, tooth girls started talking waaaay before than the boy did, he also pushes his jaw about and he has probably about 100 words while the girls have 1000 more, and the ones he says he is always pushing his jaw out but we have already checked and there is nothing wrong with his jaw,bite ir teeth … he also walked way later than the girls and he can’t jump yet and he runs but he keeps twisting his legs and he obviously falls down, we have speech and development specialists that see him regularly but they haven’t been really helpful, he has the worst tantrums, he bites himself in his hands an arms all the time, he has no problem solving the way the girls do, he just gets frustrated at the first try and melts down, he also shows signs of a very serious OCD , with basically everything, if the bed is crooked or if his shirt is nor straight …. He is also incredibly into different textures and the couple of things that calm him down is to just get under a lot of heavy sort of pillows, help please?? We have no idea what to do…. One development lady said to buy him a straight jacket and just put him in it when a tantrum ….
As the video says, you want to first look at a dental appointment and a medical evaluation. Look at what is triggering the tantrums and if you were given 1000 dollars to even go an hour without any issues, what would you have to do and you may need to start there! I do have online courses that can help. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops
@@marybarbera Thankyou!
My granddaughter whos nearly four is biting children at preschool i am at a lost what to do 😭 i am really worryed
Does she have other delays and behaviors? If so sign up for a free workshop bit.ly/3GZjn7m . We want to work to prevent the behavior as much as possible, this may mean a one to one who can be near her at preschool to support her and prevent this.
Thank you mum.I work with a 20 yrs + person with autism but in his case he suddenly attacks to bite or try to attack with some sort of pressure like pouncing on you.He firsr bit my right arm then on the next attack which was more of a pounce,he tried to bite my right arm.The observation i made was he suddenly refuses to engage in an activity and attempts to bite.so am wondering if this" no biting approach can work on him because once he bites you and runs off,he actually makes an attempt to bite any other person he sees until he is calm or kept in a sensor room.Please what other strategy can be applied.looking forward to hearing from you soon.Thank you
The first place to start is a medical assessment and then to plan how you can prevent the behavior.
I have a 6-year-old boy, and biting and hitting are a big problem for him in school. He did not start hitting or biting other people until he started school. He also does not hit or bite me or any family members. It's only at school that he is hitting and biting his teacher. I know he does it when he is stressed or frustrated. I'm afraid he will end up being removed from school. How do I correct behaviors that aren't happening at home? I have tried ABA in school which helped him last year but his hours have since been denied by insurance, so he won't have an RBT this school year.
Join me for a free online workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
What if the biting is out of frustration? My 3 year old is starting to bite all the time, at home to his twin sister, at daycare and now at his special ed preschool he just got into! I'm worried he is going to be kicked out soon if we don't get control of it. But it happens so fast, as soon as someone takes his toy or makes him upset he immediately bites hard. He says words, but is not understandable, so he can't communicate when he is uspet yet. Help!
he likely needs someone at daycare or preschool right beside him to help him in those situations. for special ed preschool , you should be able to advocate for more supports in his IEP .
I'm curious, is there any helpful literature on autism in teens and them biting themself. As I read it could be boredom, overstimulation, or frustration but what could be the best way to battle it
The idea is preventing the behavior before it happens. We can achieve this by taking data on what happens directly before the behavior, while the behavior is occurring, and what happens directly after. You can learn more about taking data on problem behaviors in my online courses (in your case, you'd sin up for the Verbal Behavior Bundle). For more info, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
Hello first time here I work with a 17 year old girl now I started working with her when she was 9-10 years old I left her a year and a half ago because I ha da baby and iam back again but she got worst her biting takes up to 30 or 1 hour dad has to pick her up hold her tight then if she gets to the floor she hits her head forhead nose obviously now she tried to bite us too the other day she even hit me so bad pull my hair so I tried taking my hair of her and she tried biting me then she punch me so strong on my head to the point I got really dizzy it make me so sad to realize how bad she’s getting she was prescribe 2 different medications to calm her down but dad doesn’t want to use it I have to mention she only do this bad nonstopable bittings with dad only is like she likes to make him feel like this because she doesn’t do that with me alone or anyone alse she does tries I tell her no removed her hands then she sadly cried out and that’s all any recommendations anything is really appreciated dad is single dad mom left them for another men so this case is too much she didn’t get the help she needed sooner thanks to mil been jealous of the female workers been in the house thank you for your info god bless this kids and me to have the right choices to help her 🙏
Oh my goodness, that sounds like a really tough situation. If her language level is that of a 1-5 year old, you might consider reading my book: www.TurnAutismAround.com or joining my mini course "Turn Tantrums Around" (and adjust accordingly for her size and abilities. marybarbera.com/turn-tantrums-around-mini-course/. Otherwise, I'd recommend hiring a BCBA to assist with her programming.
My son 11 months old always biting me and other people who carry him what should i do ? Is it normal?
Attend a free workshop to get tips and learn techniques: MaryBarbera.com/workshops
How about bite a toys or nails?its a sign?
it depends on the age and if it is coupled with other delays.
Sangat beruntung menemukan video ini. Saya punya beberapa murid yang sering perilaku menggigit orang terdekatnya
Thank you ❤
My son is 14 years old he has autism he is 6 feet tall 240 pounds he pinches me in the face and bites me , because he wants to keep ordering junk food and I keep canceling the order please help
As biting is one of the most serious problem behaviors. You can try to respond calmly but firmly to communicate that biting is not acceptable. I have a blog on biting that can help: marybarbera.com/autism-and-biting/
Learn other strategies when you join my free workshop at Marybarbera.com/workshops
Thank you o recently got a call from my kid kinder garden he was suspended for biting his teacher witch he doesn’t do that at home , I ll work on in but your video did help a lot
I'm so glad you found this video helpful! I know this is a challenging behavior to prevent, but it's really important.
My son started buting his own hand when excited or.mad
That can be challenging. I do have techniques in my online courses that can help. www.marybarbera.com/workshops
What can i do if my 3 year old son bites his knuckles, it has come to a point where my gf and i do not know what to do.
the doctor diagnosed him with autism and we do not know what stage it is i bought him alot of different toys for him to bite on but he keeps biting his hand, we have told him "no" and that only makes it worst, can you please help me!!!
This sounds like a difficult situation. It could be really helpful to pay attention to when he's NOT biting and increase those types of situations. I can help you much more effectively in my Toddler Course, where you'd get access to my team and I to help you navigate problem behaviors + increase his language. Visit MaryBarbera.com/courses to get started. My other resources can be found at MaryBarbera.com/links-yt.
31 days in the hospital - 6 I don’t remember- two emergency surgeries to keep me alive - (the child carried three types of strep - a carrier - didn’t have them.) Take bites seriously get a tetanus shot. Learn form my mistake.
I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you! Biting behavior can be complicated and difficult. I'm glad you're okay!
Thank you.
You are welcome!
👍
Free workshop to start helping your child: bit.ly/3GZjn7m
😍😍❤️❤️💙💙
Stop wrestling and that is it :(
Attend a free workshop: MaryBarbera.com/workshops