Handling Aggressive Behavior in Children with Autism

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  • Опубликовано: 11 июн 2024
  • Dr. Mary Barbera talks about how to deal with aggression and autism. Handling aggressive behavior in children with autism can be complex but doesn’t have to be impossible.
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    Aggression in early childhood isn’t uncommon in children with autism. In fact, mental health and aggression can be closely related especially in young children with autism when demands are too high, and reinforcement is too low. Because of this, in today’s video I’m giving some reducing aggression strategies and tips on how to reduce aggression in children with autism. I’m also going to share a couple of stories of how problematic this problem behavior can become, and what steps to take for managing aggressive behavior.
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  • @MyPeace4eva
    @MyPeace4eva 2 года назад +6

    Dr. Barbera... So, I work with learning and developmentally challenged kids between the ages of 2 to 5. Some have been diagnosed with autism. One child in particular has been acting out aggressively out aggressively for the past month. I have been bit, punched, slapped, kicked, spit on and have had toys thrown up my head. He has also done the same to my coworkers and other classmates. The agency I work for implements a coddling approach in dealing with this behavior. We are prohibited from giving timeouts. The agency also prides themselves themselves on helping these children blossom into adults that lead enviable lives. Yet, his aggression aggression has greatly increased. Today, for example, he acted out more than 10 times. Obviously, the approach that the agency I work for isn't working. If nothing changes, nothing changes. This child in particular is diagnosed with autism. I personally feel that consequences need to be implemented. When this child grows up, if he is aggressive toward another, he's not going to be coddled and redirected... he's either going to jail or, God forbid, physically hurt or killed by the person he assaulted. How do you think I should handle this? Thanks in advance.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      i am pretty against being reactive at all. We want to assess what is happening and PREVENT this problem behavior. My no more timeouts mini course would be really helpful for you and the organization

  • @erikajohnson743
    @erikajohnson743 4 года назад +28

    This video made me cry. My 5 year old DS has severe Autism. Teacher called today. DS has been aggressive and struggling at school. He is non verbal. I get beat up daily. We get services but seems not helpful. I'm struggling. Not getting any answers. Professionals are amazed at his severity. I'm lost. I'm glad I found you! Thank you.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад +3

      Thank you for watching. I am sorry that things are escalating with your son. Have you watched my free workshops?
      bit.ly/2EBvDKH . I hope they can help.

    • @sydneyd2094
      @sydneyd2094 3 года назад +1

      put him into a separate room until he calms down maybe

    • @alexandraeliadis7153
      @alexandraeliadis7153 3 года назад +2

      This sounds like my daughter.... your a strong mama❤️

  • @AmartyaRay20
    @AmartyaRay20 5 лет назад +40

    Great ideas. For parents and teachers, learning these are an ongoing process. I keep revisiting Mary's videos time and again. I really wish to show these to a large majority of ei professionals who have no clue in dealing with students with autism

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад +2

      Thank you so much for watching and sharing. I have a toddler workshop ei professionals may like as well marybarbera.com/toddler

    • @jamaalhadley1985
      @jamaalhadley1985 2 года назад +2

      I agree each child is unique and everyone has some abilities that they do well more than others. You have to work on your child's weaknesses through their strengths. My child was diagnosed at 34 months. We turned the TV off and the whole family doesn't use their phones for three hours a day is family time. We went to our next appointment they said she is fine. I'm not a doctor but try turning off the TV and spending true quality time with your child.

  • @georgesmart2602
    @georgesmart2602 3 года назад +88

    My brother is autistic I believe, he started out a nice boy then he became aggresive and expectant that my mom would do anything for him, he shouts loads now and also kicks and punches my mother, she ends up crying a lot now, hes only 8 and he has this sort of control over our family, I really dont know how this cycle will end. I have hope that he might become normal at 10 or 12

    • @yashmistry1945
      @yashmistry1945 3 года назад +9

      My brother (22 yrs) started this behavior since last 2 3 years. I am an introverted, not-to-good with people kind of guy.
      Facts....
      Parents and me give less to no attention to him.
      We do scold him if he doesn't listen.
      His tantrums lasts for less time, but I'm afraid it will get worse if I don't do anything.
      He is smart enough to lie at times.
      Remedies (That I think will help)....
      Spending more time with him.
      Appreciating him more.
      Using little politics at times to win his trust.
      Reply if you think I need to do more or anything else... thank you

    • @asiyah9926
      @asiyah9926 3 года назад +18

      My son is the same and he is 9. I have no idea what to do.

    • @lolitalolita7561
      @lolitalolita7561 3 года назад +14

      Hi there, I have a 9 yr old son with aggressive behavior. I ask him to use his words . If he wants something we work towards earning it using a token system. I also learned not to point out the negative behavior and praise his good actions and efforts. It is still a work in progress but these strategies have been very helpful. It is up and down so behaviors will diminish and come back every so often. ABA is very helpful . Also we have tried several strategies some work, some don’t. Taking data or keeping a journal is helpful for documentation of how often the behaviors occur.

    • @lolitalolita7561
      @lolitalolita7561 3 года назад +18

      @@asiyah9926 hi, my son has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. He also has sensory issues and impulsive behaviors of biting, kicking, pinching, pulling hair and yelling words that don’t make sense. He also used to run away from me when we would go on community outings. It helps to give him a sensory toy like a fidget, or play dough to keep his fingers busy. He also loves to squeeze play dough. He has a hard rubber chew toy that helps with the biting. He displays these behaviors when it comes to non preferred activities such as doing homework. Using a token chart reward system has helped reduce the behaviors. At first, he couldn’t even stay seated for 5 minutes and he displayed those behaviors to seek negative attention. So I used the token chart and issued a point for staying seated for 5 minutes. Also checking in at every five minutes interval before giving the point, by asking:
      Did you stay in your seat? ✅
      Did you keep your hands and feet to yourself? ✅
      Did you keep your teeth in your mouth? ✅ (Because he was constantly biting me or the persons working with him)
      **You can adjust your rules according to your child’s behaviors**
      ✅✅✅= 🙂
      We checked in every 5 minutes and issued a point if the answer was “yes” to complying to all three, and then gave him a happy face (3 check marks earns the token 😊). This can also be used for completing daily tasks. I learned this from the ABA services my child has been receiving. We still face challenges but I would not have known any of this without a diagnosis that was acquired through an evaluation. Which qualified him to receive the ABA therapy. Some strategies will work, some will not. Also keep in mind that if a certain behavior stops, it is likely to be replaced with a new behavior, but don’t give up. I hope this can be useful to you. I thought it was going to be impossible and I have been impressed with all the progress my child has made. He has come a long way.

    • @kimmiely2546
      @kimmiely2546 2 года назад +13

      Unfortunately, children don't magically grow out of behavioral problems. They just become stronger and more strategic at pushing your buttons. Your parents need to reach out for help asap and make the necessary changes in how they're handling him. Your brother might just have ODD. Some kids need more discipline and structure while others need more empathy and attention. He needs to be evaluated by a child psychiatrist so they can get to the root cause. I'm sorry for what you're going through. That must be tough on you as well.
      Just realized that it's been a year. Hope the situation has calmed down some.

  • @justinesmith18
    @justinesmith18 3 года назад +28

    Starting my BCBA coursework now and it is so nice to hear your perspective. I fortunately haven't been hurt by a client either but I like working with kids with aggression because I feel like it I can help reduce it it makes a big difference for the family and their quality of life. But of course yes rule out a medical problem! That is so important for us to not practice beyond our scope. Glad you made this channel because I feel like BCBAs are so busy all the time so this is a great resource.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      Thanks so much for watching. Congrats on starting your course work!

    • @MK-ci5gv
      @MK-ci5gv 3 года назад +4

      some therapist says -donot use any medicine. but medicine is necessary with therapy in some behavioural problems.

  • @missbooks8539
    @missbooks8539 5 лет назад +6

    I am VERY EXCITED!! I just purchased the bundle!!!! Can't wait to start watching all the videos and CEUs. Thank you Dr. Barbera for sharing your expertise.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад

      Thank you for signing up and watching .

  • @Stalemarshmallow
    @Stalemarshmallow 10 месяцев назад +1

    I am so grateful for you Mary, I am a newcomer to being an ABA therapist and I am so motivated to learn as much as I can!!!!!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  10 месяцев назад

      That's great! Hope you can attend a free workshop: marybarbera.com/workshop

  • @marlysebingham3309
    @marlysebingham3309 4 года назад +4

    What about is aggression is entirely random? Sometimes baths calm, other times it causes flailing. Sometimes food calms, other times it causes flailing. Sometimes going outside calms, other times it causes flailing. Sometimes movies calm, other times it causes flailing. So there is absolutely nothing that never causes meltdowns or aggression. And by flailing I mean anything from arching back and falling backwards. Other behaviors are biting, ripping out caregivers hair, head butting, hitting child’s own head, or hitting head into walls or other objects. Sometimes he can’t sleep, sometimes he wakes up nice, other times wakes up aggressive. Sometimes won’t eat, other times won’t stop eating. Child is age 3 and entirely nonverbal. Also been diagnosed with AHDH. On medication for day and night but not working consistently. Caregivers are out of options. Medical professionals keep saying nothing is medically wrong, but none offer any solutions or relief for parents. Any ideas of what could be done?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      It sounds like child needs a full assessment by a BCBA . All behavior has a function. Sometimes on and off behavior can be medical but there can be many factors like what happens before a behavior and what happens after. I talk about all this and more in my courses. They can help! check out www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @leticiacarrillo4606
    @leticiacarrillo4606 3 года назад +2

    Thank you so much for all the information 😊

  • @laurieherman1215
    @laurieherman1215 2 года назад +8

    My daughter has busted my chin eyebrows and lip wide open, she will hit selfharm/hit me and throw toys at me but she has never bitten anyone. My tone of voice, kind actions and words do not help. Honestlly the claimer I am during the aggressive times the more she looses her mind. Oddly enough my daughter has never hurt another child, big or small, its only adults and mostly Papa and myself. We give positive praise every time she does anything good and she loves it. Then some days she hates positive reinforcement and only wants the negative. My other spectrum children are so sweet kind and loving I fee like a bad mommy this time around. I know I am not doing something right I don't know what it is though. I am buying your book today I need more guidance I can reread as many times as it takes for it to.sink in properly. Thank you

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад +3

      That sounds really challenging. You may also want to contact a local behavior analyst.

    • @fragjijreiosgeriota7509
      @fragjijreiosgeriota7509 2 месяца назад +3

      My aggressive, severely autistic brother was put on Risperidone 5mg as a child. It stopped him from biting us. There is hope.

  • @functionalmeals1262
    @functionalmeals1262 3 года назад +3

    Thanks for sharing your expertise!

  • @CamiDiscerns
    @CamiDiscerns 2 года назад +5

    My non-verbal autistic son is only aggressive at school, he gets violent outbursts of throwing things and crying out in frustration but at home he doesn't have this behaviour.... I don't know what to do to help the IEP team because the behavior he displays at school is so different from his behavior at home. It's getting scary and dangerous because he's 12 now and another bigger and stronger. Thank you for this video. I'm going to watch the rest of them.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад +1

      Thanks for watching.

    • @scorpioroyalty6942
      @scorpioroyalty6942 Год назад +3

      This is my son! He’s verbal and he’s 5…only at school. He rarely cries at home but at school it’s an uphill battle 😢

    • @Chick4Biden2024
      @Chick4Biden2024 Год назад +2

      I have the same issue. Tomorrow I'm telling his team we need a bcba, I'm not signing until he gets qualified help. I'm too tired & burnt-out to homeschool him but since he's been aggressive now at school I had to pick up his work. It's hard to stay strong.

  • @ataveras5123
    @ataveras5123 4 года назад +7

    I love how clearly you explain topics. Your videos have given me such a great understanding and sense of relief in dealing with autism.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      Thank you so much for the great feedback!

  • @kaydonato8367
    @kaydonato8367 4 года назад +12

    I appreciate the fact that you emphasize looking for medial reasons for aggressive behavior. I have found that, in our family, medical or physical reasons are almost always the cause of aggression or other serious negative behaviors. I plan to share this video with my subscribers.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад +1

      Thank you so much for sharing! It is a really important topic.

    • @darlenesmith1298
      @darlenesmith1298 2 года назад

      Look into PANDAS/PANS/AE.

    • @kaydonato8367
      @kaydonato8367 Год назад

      @Azim Premji That's fantastic!

  • @lorynici
    @lorynici 3 года назад +3

    Thank you so much for your help 🙏

  • @shaguftamoeen5231
    @shaguftamoeen5231 3 года назад +1

    Thanks alot for guidance

  • @ejsilk2101
    @ejsilk2101 3 года назад +4

    Thank you Dr. I have been working with DD/MI community for 10 years in supported employment. I recently began working with younger more acute cases. Thank you for your instruction. I will definitely subscribe. :)

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      Thanks for being here! I also have online courses. You can learn more here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @Wisdomisfreedom_
    @Wisdomisfreedom_ 3 года назад +10

    Thank you so much, I though I was the only one going though this. Again THANK YOU

  • @charlieneibel400
    @charlieneibel400 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for this information

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      Thank you! i appreciate you watching.

  • @marklowe7431
    @marklowe7431 2 года назад +2

    This is the first video on the topic i've found that is productive. Phew! No PowerPoint slides just meaningful info. Thank you.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thank you for watching!

  • @yvonneroebuckjones5884
    @yvonneroebuckjones5884 3 года назад +3

    Thank you. Your videos help me with my son and his 6 year old son who is autistic and non verbal.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      So happy to hear it! I also have online courses. Learn more here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @phelhadsu4080
    @phelhadsu4080 3 года назад +4

    Thank you ma’am my time didn’t go to waste I appreciated it 🙂

  • @psychoangus
    @psychoangus 7 дней назад

    My daughter hit puberty around age 9 and went very aggressive. Would lose control, try and hit us, smash objects she knew were dear to us etc. Wouldn’t go to bed, would follow us around the house demanding answers to her questions. Very draining. We started off taking the high road I.e not fighting back, trying to reason with her. But she never wanted to reason, she wanted to argue. This went on till she was 11 or 6th grade when she was getting quite strong. One night she refused to go to bed and staged one of her sit ins in our bedroom until her demands were met. I just thought, no, you don’t have the power here, and man handled her into her room. She tried coming out and I would put her back in. This carried on for an hour until we were both pretty exhausted and it was heart wrenching, to the point where she did give up, and hasn’t tried pulling that again. Then she went to high school and the hormones calmed down a bit and she’s relatively normal and lovely now! Her height accelerated over that 9-11 age so I knew it was hormonal, and she’s stopped growing now. But it was a really, really dark time for our family for two years. You just never knew when the next explosion was round the corner.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 дня назад

      That sounds tough. Free workshop to start helping your child: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

  • @meenahirani2381
    @meenahirani2381 3 года назад +2

    I worked in a care home.all staff were bitten. Adult Clients had austism and staff had no training or support. Nothing to help them reduce aggression.
    Thanks for helping and advising.
    Tganks.

  • @vh7637
    @vh7637 5 лет назад +4

    Thank you for this video. I just subscribed

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад +1

      Thank you for watching. I have more information on my free video workshops here bit.ly/2ELvSnM

  • @yayarwh
    @yayarwh 3 года назад +9

    Thank you so much Dr. Barbera for sharing your wealth and knowledge of ABA with the world. I have a nine-year-old non-verbal son with autism and his aggression has spiked during COVID-19. I am on my way to becoming a BCBA as well and my ABA skills have definitely helped a lot. It is a unique time though with this pandemic but his ABA team and myself are doing all we can. Again, I admire and appreciate what you’re doing for the autism community!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +2

      Thanks so much for the great feedback. I appreciate it!

    • @riffboogie6529
      @riffboogie6529 2 года назад +1

      Our nine year old autistic non verbal son also started aggression once COVID started as well so far no luck.

  • @rapperak18
    @rapperak18 3 года назад +3

    Thank you ma'am for this wonderfull motivation speech😍

  • @SD-rm5ty
    @SD-rm5ty Год назад +2

    I recently noticed my emotions and anxiety affect my son's mood and behavior and I myself as his mom am trying to be more aware of that around him so he doesn't feed off my emotions aside from whatever else is triggering him.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  11 месяцев назад +1

      It takes a really great mother to gain that self awareness

  • @stephaniehack5701
    @stephaniehack5701 4 года назад +9

    Ok I'll give it a try. I'm afraid if I don't get my 9 year old extremely aggressive child under control soon, he may end up killing me. And I am not exaggerating; I am literally covered in bruises and bites. I have everything to gain from trying this. I'll order it.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад +2

      Thank you for watching and being candid. It can be so difficult. Do you have a BCBA working with you?? try googling verbal behavior bcba(insert your area) to find one near you. My free workshops may also help: bit.ly/2ELvSnM . I recently did a podcast with a mom who has a child with severe autism, and this may also help marybarbera.com/20

    • @Ummyusi
      @Ummyusi 8 месяцев назад +1

      Did anything improve? Going through the same thing with my 20 mo for months now

  • @ThomasDoubting5
    @ThomasDoubting5 4 года назад +12

    Can you do a video on neuro typical tribal aggression and how to cope bullying and nonsense hierarchical orders that serve no purposes other than stopping neuro typicals from killing each other

  • @marlaina9195
    @marlaina9195 3 года назад +2

    Love you Mary! Happy Mother's Day!💐💗

  • @ellegee8801
    @ellegee8801 4 года назад +2

    As a mom of a 4 year old son who is non verbal I can now more than ever see it's about understand them n the fact that he is expressing himself when he bites or acts up he doesn't express himself like other he has a disablity so I need to understand him I not the disabled person I here to take care of him he is my responsibility and my God gift.... Hopefully other can please understand there own children
    GOD BLESS N CARE FOR THESE SPECIAL ANGELS N THERE FAMILY'S 💕

  • @mahlakomahlodi2646
    @mahlakomahlodi2646 3 года назад +4

    I am so happy I found this programme. I am a grandma that has a grandson who is 11 years old with autism. He does not talk and is agressive at most times we don't even know how to deal with him. He bites pinches and screams in most cases.
    We took him to a special school with down syndrome and autistic children but it didn't help because he was left in the sand pit most of the time because he loves it more than all other activities. This situation was very frustrating and we took him out. Is there anything that we can do to ease off the situation?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      my online courses can really help you. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

    • @mahlakomahlodi2646
      @mahlakomahlodi2646 3 года назад +1

      @@marybarbera Thank you for your response. I will check them and give you feedback. God bless your heart.

  • @rafamorales8713
    @rafamorales8713 3 месяца назад

    very helpful. thank you

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 месяца назад

      I'm so happy you found this helpful! If you're ever looking for more resources, visit MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

  • @forZohal
    @forZohal 2 года назад +1

    Thank you🙏💙

  • @Jazba-lifestyle
    @Jazba-lifestyle 3 года назад +2

    Before your intro I subscribed instantly !!!

  • @Frogger790
    @Frogger790 Год назад

    Am here to learn. Trying to see how to decrease aggression & talking back from my child. 🤓

  • @sinclairlanier4081
    @sinclairlanier4081 2 года назад

    Thank you Thank you Thank you!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      You're welcome! Thank you for watching.

  • @patriceferguson6350
    @patriceferguson6350 5 лет назад +3

    Hi I would like to thank you for your sharing this information. My 28 month old has some serious aggression issues with tantrums. And he is non verbal. While he does say a word out of a blue moon nearly perfectly. It is nearly parroting what you said. But only 1 word and has only done it 2 times since he turned 2. He is not hearing impaired on the least and very engaginging with other kids but he does not get group play. He seems not to understand what others are doing in group play.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад

      That sounds very challenging!! I created free workshops for families in your situation. I hope my free workshops can help marybarbera.com/workshops

    • @IamKarryanne
      @IamKarryanne 4 года назад

      Jon Boll Are you real? And are you serious?

  • @dee0731
    @dee0731 4 года назад +9

    Thank you Mary, I work with children that have autism. I just subscribed to your RUclips account. Your videos are very informative and are helping me a lot to be a better behavior technician. I work under a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. Thank you for all you do to help others to understand Autism better!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад +3

      Thank you for watching and following!! Have you watched my free video workshops? they could help in your professional life marybarbera.com/workshops

    • @dee0731
      @dee0731 4 года назад +1

      Yes, I watched the free video workshop today. It was a great help for me very informative!

    • @emadhussain2731
      @emadhussain2731 Год назад

      can you please give me your email i need a little bit of help with my brother i hope you read this and can help me

  • @debbiewatts8665
    @debbiewatts8665 Год назад

    My 20 yr old daughter has just started working with a 9 yr old boy. I have sent your link to her.
    THANKYOU
    Sending love from AUSTRALIA xx

  • @daniellepatricia8394
    @daniellepatricia8394 2 года назад +2

    Any tips for a pre k student who gets aggressive when coloring work that needs to be done? Getting aggressive when going back into class after playground time? And getting aggressive when you redirect them to not do something?

    • @HigoIndico
      @HigoIndico 4 месяца назад +1

      Look into PDA.

  • @rachaelhodge8878
    @rachaelhodge8878 2 года назад +4

    I work with an adult with autism in the individuals home. Sometimes when I let him nap, he will wake up furious and grab for my hair. When this happens, he pulls as hard as he can and sometimes im scared he won’t let go. I’ve talked to his parents about it but haven’t found a great strategy to defend myself. Of course, now I don’t let him take naps, but im still afraid the aggression will come back at random. Any advice?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      It is best to contact a local behavior analyst!

  • @crownedempresscollection2420
    @crownedempresscollection2420 2 года назад +1

    Very helpful

  • @anybody2949
    @anybody2949 2 года назад +3

    Just found your channel, great content keep up the good work. I have two year old twins, like chalk and cheese, now I have a better understanding of how to deal with one of my boys who has started showing signs of autism for a while now. So thanks for your help. Subbed 🇬🇧👍

  • @Nini51963
    @Nini51963 3 года назад +7

    Just discovered you , my son is 38 you have a lot of information that I do appreciate . I know you say you should get professional help , I think that’s unheard of . When my son was school age I ended up going through the fair hearing process in two counties in California won but got very little help . Adult programs are not capable of understanding autism . Thank you for your information .

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      There are BCBAs who specialize in adult services. Google BCBA adult services (your area)

  • @mrsanonymous414
    @mrsanonymous414 3 года назад +2

    Hi, the parents of the little girl Im mentioning don’t really seem to think there is anything they can do and are not too concerned... they also don’t like when I share resources with them and advice even though they want my help in her improvement. She will get mad and hit, kick, holler in your face, and push when being told what to do or asked something (generally midday-night). She has a fascination for throwing things at you and poking eyes. Telling her to stop only encourages it. When she gets mad she talks about hitting, kicking, ‘throwing you’, and not loving/liking you. This usually isn’t detected as anger to her parents though because she is sometimes smiling, or saying it in a funny voice, like they do when they tease. However I noticed she says these things when I do something she doesn’t like, so I have reason to think it is related to anger especially when her parents are saying something and she’ll turn to me and say “I need to throw her away” upsettly. How do I help this situation? I’m sorry for commenting so much, I just really care for my sister in law, and as long as I’m a caregiver I’m going to feel obliged to help her not regress. They have asked more of me than my job description when it comes to teaching and therapy and exercise and play... but i don’t know how to approach that either. Thank you.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      If they don't want your input then it's tricky. Making sure you have a clear role in your job will be helpful. If you haven't watch www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @Ari2_cute
    @Ari2_cute 5 лет назад +4

    I take care of a teenager nonverbal boy who is very autistic hes been attacking me and I am having a hard time figuring out the triggers and how to positively solve it besides running away from him and removing myself...its bad and I want to solve it and tell his mom but I dont know how..any suggestions? Anyone can answer this thanks 🙏❤

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад

      It sounds like lots may be going on here. I have workshops for parents and professionals which may help you get started with increasing language and reducing problem behavior. bit.ly/2ELvSnM

  • @asmasarmad3009
    @asmasarmad3009 3 года назад +2

    Hi I’m so happy I finally found something helpful I have 6 year old autistic son I’m really interested to do ur course

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      I hope you can join me. Have you taken a free workshop?? www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @jimeagle1155
    @jimeagle1155 Год назад +1

    So what do you do when you're 7 year old autistic daughter has been being aggressive for the last 3 months and you're trying to help figure it out but the school doesn't have any interest in helping your child seems like they only want to punish her. And you can't get any help anywhere, messages emails everything goes nowhere just waiting list and nothing. I don't know what to do anymore .

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  Год назад

      Join a free workshop today: MaryBarbera.com/workshop

  • @Jennypegz
    @Jennypegz 3 года назад +2

    I have a five year old, we've not been diagnosed yet but ruled out everything else. Due to school holidays we're having major issues with pinching while clenching his teeth during a tantrum. We're trying to work on calm time, sugar free. Time outs im becoming black and blue in bruising - several incidents a day now and at a very low ebb. Any advice please?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      That's so challenging. Can you call a bcba to work with you? The best thing you can do is prevent the behavior as much as possible. If I gave you a million dollars how could you stop it.

  • @shecanpivot8934
    @shecanpivot8934 7 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for this! I'm so happy that I've discovered your channel. As an elementary sub, I spend a great deal of time in the Special Ed classroom. I'm sooo tired of being abused! We get screamed at, hit, slapped, kicked, scratched, clawed, pinched, bitten and spit on. Additionally, we have a chronic eloper, and she can run FAST. I didn't sign up for any of this, and I'm tired. We're all so tired and discouraged. Thank you for being such a resource.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  7 месяцев назад

      So glad to bring hope. Keep going!

    • @immortalityevolution
      @immortalityevolution 5 месяцев назад +1

      it's time to change professions, hon 👋

  • @BadJuju222
    @BadJuju222 3 года назад +5

    I love all your videos and tips. It's great to hear and get help from people going through similar issues. Thank you so much! ❤

  • @isabelandrews2360
    @isabelandrews2360 4 года назад +1

    hi Mary i work in an afterschool club for elementary age kids we share a classroom hut which school uses throughout the day, an autistic child we care for experiences aggression moment with his support teachers so in turn when class is finished for the day, he and his other class mates with same issues, are taken back into main school building,and then we bring him back into the class hut and he's always angry and unconsole-able cos he is reminded of the bad times he had earlier, we are at a loss how to help him as the teachers don't engage with us on what made him angry at the time.so every day is a bad day.wanting so much to turn this around for him hes 8.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      That is very upsetting. The best way is to pair the place up with fun...but that will be challenging if there is such negativity.

  • @syedaleemuddin6804
    @syedaleemuddin6804 Год назад

    Thank you and appreciate a lot from India 🇮🇳

  • @MK-ci5gv
    @MK-ci5gv 3 года назад +2

    what is difference between son rise programme and ABA therapy? which one is best therapy for autism?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      There are many many differences. ABA would be my recommendation. Learn more about my approach by checking out a free workshop www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @neillgockelen4823
    @neillgockelen4823 5 лет назад +2

    My autistic son charlie has been very aggressive lately,so im going to discuss the topics in this video with his teacher tomorrow!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад

      That is too bad you are dealing with that problem behavior but happy my video helped. Try checking out my free workshops too and sharing with his educators bit.ly/2ELvSnM

  • @braveheartrv2946
    @braveheartrv2946 3 года назад +10

    What about reducing aggression in adults with autism who have never knew or be taught how to deal with things in life? My husband has a lot of signs and gets really angry easily. I'm trying to help him notice what triggers him.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +3

      It would be best to search for a psychologist or behavior analyst in your area to help support this.

    • @rozanewyorklife155
      @rozanewyorklife155 Год назад +1

      Can’t serch for my 16 years old son hi is now so aggressive nobodies help, my Insurance Fidelis with Medicaid What do I have to do

    • @BC4150
      @BC4150 Год назад +1

      Many can't afford this option!

  • @paulb217
    @paulb217 4 года назад +9

    Very lenghty intro for sure.
    This family has tried a lot of different techniques/medicines with this very physically agressive teen but he keeps going back to aggression... hitting/biting/screaming/runing away! He does have speech problems (only capable of articulating basic sentences) but is very receptive capable
    He's now tall and strong thus increasingly more difficult to keep from hurting himself and/or others. He does have proffesional help as well as medical, ultimately none seem to help.
    Has someone successfully dealt with such an extreme case? Plz help!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      Sometimes it can come down to skills. My courses may be able to teach skills that can help www. marybarbera.com/quiz but ultimately you likely need someone local who specializes in this.

    • @frickfrack7075
      @frickfrack7075 4 года назад +7

      This is just basic shit every body says. "Unless you buy my stuff you can't have the answers! " Until you buy the book and lo and behold nothing to help in there either. This woman seems like a total scam.

    • @robertaumpierres8366
      @robertaumpierres8366 3 года назад +2

      She cannot give any solutions to this kid's problems since she is not the kid's BCBA. The kid needs to be evaluated first and then the BCBA plans a specific program for the kid based on the assessment. The problem is that many parents think that there is a magic formula for all the kids' problems and there is not. Each child is different .

    • @frickfrack7075
      @frickfrack7075 3 года назад +3

      @@robertaumpierres8366 exactly so what the point of implying you do have some kinda secret knowledge and "help" ? All parents look to people like her for help because we get lost. As a parent of a child on the spectrum, this is the same crap we here time and time again. It doesn't help and it's just useless and annoying. Don't list a video saying as much if this is all you have to say.

    • @robertaumpierres8366
      @robertaumpierres8366 3 года назад

      @@frickfrack7075 Why don't you take her courses then?The more knowledge you have, the better.You will be able to help your child if you study more about your child's condition.She cannot help you by just answering your question. I watch her videos and she seems to be a great professional.

  • @fearlesskitten80
    @fearlesskitten80 4 года назад +5

    My child doesn't have autism but she suffers from extreme behavior disorders. she's been isolated from the other classmates since the 4th grade. And now she is a freshman in high school. This cannot be good for her development and her transition into adulthood. She's in a behavior program with the Arlington Texas School district called C.E.A.S.E
    She she want the chance to be able to interact with the other students and have normal classes and not be isolated to one classroom. I am at my wit's end with my child School district. Can you explain what my options are as my child's advocator?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      This varies from state to state. I would reach out to local advocates. If you have an autism society near you they can likely put you in contact with an advocate.

    • @martinafairydust6179
      @martinafairydust6179 4 года назад +1

      Hi Eva
      We just went through the same for a half year, it was horrific. We had to pick him up several times from school, he was getting more and more aggressive from this Isolation! We were desperate. Now he was thrown from school, changing to a different special needs school. My Boy has ADHD and ASS with behaviour Problems. Please change school if possible

  • @mrs.patricia296
    @mrs.patricia296 4 года назад +3

    What do you recommend to someone who is on Medicaid, which doesn't cover all the professionals that you mentioned in your video?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      It can certainly be difficult if you cannot get the needed supports. Are you able to get a bcba?? All sates have mandates that say they must provide aba. I am not sure about the level of your child or how dangerous the aggression is, but my free workshops may help bit.ly/2ELvSnM

    • @cassandragarcia2581
      @cassandragarcia2581 4 года назад

      I am in Texas and you can not afford ABA if you do not have private insurance. My kid is going to see a Developmental Pediatician on Thursday.

  • @stephanieobra6276
    @stephanieobra6276 3 года назад +3

    Hi ma'am, thank you for sharing this information. Im glad I found your video. Im as Special Needs Education student and we're currently studying aggressive behaviour. This really helped. Salamat po :)

  • @autismsocietyofflorida1749
    @autismsocietyofflorida1749 3 года назад +2

    Great video 😊

  • @psyckchyck
    @psyckchyck Месяц назад

    I believe the necessary ratio should be 1:1 when there is a history of aggression. But, that is impossible for most educational institutions. It's quite unfortunate that the individualized attention is more costly than most schools can afford.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  Месяц назад

      I agree. It is unfortunate and extra support would definately prevent problem behaviors!

  • @kristengant2117
    @kristengant2117 3 года назад +1

    The link to the 3 step guide with the assessment tool doesn't seem to be working. Is it still available?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      Yes, it should. Try going to www.marybarbera.com/join

  • @masi7iyah140
    @masi7iyah140 2 года назад +2

    I have a 2 year old baby cousin and he has autism. he pushes and hits alot and he bites me really hard. It’s abit overwhelming to look after him because i don’t know how to stop him doing this and he is non verbal too. he doesn’t understand when you talk to him

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      That is challenging for sure. Think about ways you can prevent it and stick with that! sometimes joining him in what he likes can help.

  • @veronicalascurain7013
    @veronicalascurain7013 2 года назад +2

    I am really struggling with my 14 year old son. He was diagnosed with HFA last July and he gets aggressive when he doesn’t get his way. This is really exhausting for the whole family.
    How can I handle his anger??

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      That sounds tiring! We mostly want to work to prevent the behavior at first so that it doesn't escalate that way. You also likely need to call a bcba to come do an individualized assessment.

    • @veronicalascurain7013
      @veronicalascurain7013 2 года назад

      @@marybarbera Thank you! Yes, I will look into that!

  • @cynthiaabe2027
    @cynthiaabe2027 2 года назад +1

    Hello , what can I do to help my 5 y.o autistic son with behaviors in school . He does pretty well at home with behaviors but cannot sit through a full day of school with out behaviors . Such as a hard time transitioning, running away , saying “no” , shutting out . I’m not sure what to do . He’s only in the kindergarten and I’m just so afraid of what’s to come .

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      It would be good to send your school team to my free workshops as my courses will help them be able to teach him. Check it out here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @asmamehreen3141
    @asmamehreen3141 4 года назад +2

    My child is unable to answer my questions properly. Please suggest me some thing he is having problems in school as well. Need ur help cant afford assessments or sessions

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад +1

      Without knowing your child, it is challenging for me to directly help. Have you watched the free workshops?? bit.ly/2ELvSnM

  • @rachelring2542
    @rachelring2542 4 года назад +19

    Thank you. I have only been punched and bitten once in the years I have worked with the students. Head off the problem before it escalates🤗

  • @krztinacombs6010
    @krztinacombs6010 2 года назад +2

    Hi Dr Barbera. Is there a possibility that aggressive behavior towards other people, if not resolve, could escalate to SIB? I am currently looking for an article, but still haven't seen one. Thank you.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад +1

      Many individuals have both aggression and sib

    • @krztinacombs6010
      @krztinacombs6010 2 года назад

      @@marybarbera But what if a child has no SIB and the child just developed aggression due to aversive event, will there be a chance, if not treated, that aggression could escalate to SIB? Or could SIB be developed when aggression is not treated?

  • @tma957
    @tma957 3 года назад +3

    My 8 years old brother loves to throw things at me all day and it’s really frustrating. He does it and he laughs and grabs another thing to throw at me. It happens sometimes that he throws dangerous things at me when i am busy doing something.When he is angry he startes crying and screaming and breaking everything on his way and the first one he thinks of hitting and biting is me
    At night he gets stressed and starts screaming and doesn’t sleep until 3 am
    And in the morning when he gets up he’s always in a bad mood and starts the process all over again.
    I think he has digestive issues but we couldn’t diagnose him
    Hope we can find a solution for him 😢

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      That sounds really challenging. Tell your parents to watch this www.marybarbera.com/workshops and perhaps look for a local bcba.

    • @tma957
      @tma957 3 года назад

      @@marybarbera Thanks 🙏

    • @ethieanmcpherson3050
      @ethieanmcpherson3050 Год назад

      Less sugar and more natural foods and u will be amaze how he will change.

  • @psychic-friend-toy-freddy
    @psychic-friend-toy-freddy 11 месяцев назад

    As an autistic person i have had violent behaviour ever since December 31st 2020 which was what started my violent behaviour and i want to stop it and i hope this video helps

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  11 месяцев назад

      I hope so too! You can also join a course to try other strategies: MaryBarbera.com/courses

  • @MK-73stars
    @MK-73stars Год назад

    Hi Ms Mary Barbera! I watch your videos which help me a lot. I have two kids, the older has ASD and he is almost 14 years old, a teenager. He's obsessed with routine. But the big problem is that he just wants his 11 years old brother, to do some things the way he does, one example is, to put on socks every day when he takes his pajamas off and puts on shorts, shirt. If his brother doesn't put socks on, he gets mad, aggressive, he bites him, they fight. He also doesn't want him to put on socks with pajamas, evennif it's a cold winter. This is not easy. His brother is growing and I don't want this to keep happening. You can imagine. Could you make a video related to this obsession and repetition. How could I stop this? His brother feels scared sometimes. I'm a single mom and it's a really hard full time job. He receives ABA, but this is a continuous issue at home. Please, help me.
    My best regards,
    Maggie.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  Год назад

      My online courses can help teach you how to take simple data to prevent problem behaviors like this. For more info, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

  • @user-dy2et4hv9e
    @user-dy2et4hv9e Месяц назад

    Is the assessment guide still available

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  Месяц назад

      Great Question! To learn more about the assessment, attend a 💻 free workshop to help young children increase talking, decrease tantrums, and improve picky eating, sleeping, potty training and more: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

  • @jtcarrey
    @jtcarrey 3 года назад +2

    Apparently my 5 year old son only attacks everyone except his dad, my arms are scared with scratches, bites, bruises and bites, I don't know what to do. His dad laughs at me and says he never deals with that, I don't see how this is possible, my son attacks everyone I've known including peers at school. Am I a bad person to be around?

    • @mattbgrass
      @mattbgrass 3 года назад +1

      Please don’t take it personally..

    • @jtcarrey
      @jtcarrey 3 года назад

      @@mattbgrass I’m trying not to :(

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      Aggression is very hard. It sounds like it is quite serious. Contacting a bcba locally will be helpful.

    • @jtcarrey
      @jtcarrey 3 года назад +1

      @@marybarbera it is, it’s also difficult because he’s profoundly deaf so it’s hard for him to communicate his wants and needs

  • @dianearmstrong9766
    @dianearmstrong9766 3 года назад +4

    Going to check this out sounds good. My grandson has started hitting, ticking and pulling hair. Its hard to watch.

  • @kiranmayinallam6539
    @kiranmayinallam6539 2 года назад +1

    Hello .. My child is 8 yrs old and he gets aggressive if I ask him to read and write.. I’m trying to develop interest in him to read and write but it is not working out . Can you suggest me any techniques to do this

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      It sounds like the demand is too high and reinforcement too low. We want to use a lot of strong reinforcement and very small demands to pair up the task with fun.

  • @faryalriaz8257
    @faryalriaz8257 4 года назад +1

    Hello, my child is 2 yr old, he is non verbal but he is vry aggresive child, he cry non stop nd also bitting on his hand... Sometime slap or bitting me, i am worried, plz help me wht cn i do?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      That sounds challenging. My free video workshops can help increase language and decrease problem behavior. Try watching here bit.ly/2ELvSnM

  • @peggysullivan6760
    @peggysullivan6760 3 года назад +2

    Turns out my 2.5 year old grandson has been biting scratching his babysitter and her children , he’s been through 2 babysitters in one month . He hasn’t had an evaluation yet he’s on a waiting list because of covid . He also doesn’t speak . I knew it was autism 😪

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      It can be challenging when they have no language and are in group settings. I have online courses that can help you and your son/daughter help your grandson. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @carolhurt8130
    @carolhurt8130 2 года назад +1

    Today is January 27, 2022 . I have been court appointed to a child that both bio parents are drug addicts. I have had full custody for 2 years now. When this child was able to walk. He developed a habit that I have not found a way to stop. I have 2 mini Aussie's. I desperately need ideas how to stop / break the habit of the child from kicking the dogs. He has a cousin on his bio mother side that has Server Autism I have recently found out. I have the child involved in our local HeadStart Program. The teachers and their mental health case worker have requested that I have a neurological brain scan on the child due to type of drugs both parents history & family health information. What are your thoughts. The child also had shown aggressive behaviors in his classroom. They have started using some Autism learning techniques with him. I feel lost due to I am in my 60's age range. I need some help to guidance 😕 🙏. I want to do the best for the child.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      It sounds like there may be a lot going on but the good news is, regardless of diagnosis, I have techniques that can help you to teach him. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

  • @barikopman5550
    @barikopman5550 Год назад

    I have a behavior person and I get frustrated with and I lash out but I also been restrained and now I have to understand that I can’t have those behavior
    But other wise I love her

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  Год назад

      Hope this helps: marybarbera.com/autism-and-hitting-resolving-autism-aggression/

    • @barikopman5550
      @barikopman5550 Год назад

      Thanks

  • @xxkingxdijonxx8118
    @xxkingxdijonxx8118 Год назад +1

    I like this. For every negative you need 8 positive.

  • @shabanakhan-iy8ms
    @shabanakhan-iy8ms 3 года назад +1

    Is the 3 step guide free ?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      Yes! Click on the link in the comments and there will be a 3 step guide there.

  • @muhammadmusa9920
    @muhammadmusa9920 5 лет назад +5

    I have a son of 9 yrs old with autism..he is non verbal and very aggressive ..plesse help me how to deal him i dont understand what to do ?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад

      That sounds very difficult. The first thing we always want to check is medical issues. I just did a podcast about severe autism here marybarbera.com/20 or you can also check out my free workshops to learn more about reducing challenging behavior bit.ly/2ELvSnM

    • @alanparedes2034
      @alanparedes2034 5 лет назад +1

      Have you helped him or just put a heart?

  • @Bluejeans87
    @Bluejeans87 4 года назад

    Do you know any resource, particularly RUclips that discusses aggressive behaviour in autism ie punching, kicking, slapping and how to de-escalate this quickly and to not be intimidated and let this damage the relationship with this person?

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад +1

      I do not as this is quite specific and individualized information. A BCBA trained in these behaviors and various crisis prevention methods could be investigated.

  • @yamiasmr
    @yamiasmr 3 года назад +4

    I just found you, thank you for making this channel.

  • @Lovelin786
    @Lovelin786 2 года назад

    Mam I am a single parent my son is suffering from ADHD he is 15 yrs old and he stop his schooling he often gets aggressive when my mom or me give him some household work he starts hitting us, shouts loudly and throws things here and there.. plz help me Mam how to deal with him

  • @sashkirby6770
    @sashkirby6770 3 года назад +1

    Hi my 2 year old get aggressive when he doesn't wants to eat, is this normal, he refuse to eat.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      feeding can be tricky. if there are things he happily eats you may want to prevent this with that while you can get a plan in place.

  • @alysworld747
    @alysworld747 5 лет назад +3

    Hi I am a teacher in a Montessori School and it is my first time teaching in the environment. I have a child diagnosed with autism in my classroom and I was also informed that his past teachers had hard times handling his aggression I would like to ask if you could suggest an activity that I could do with him before starting the class like a therapy or calming activity that would prepare him, stimulate his sensitivity and calm him down in preparation for the class.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  5 лет назад

      It is great you are looking for resources for him. Unfortunately it is challenging for me to comment on individual children. I'd remember when dealing with problem behavior that they often occur when demands are too high and reinforcement is too low.

    • @reetlalwani
      @reetlalwani 3 года назад +1

      I am very glad to see your concern, responsibility about the kid.
      I had a sweet autistic child in my classroom. I tried giving him little more attention, love and pamper to make him calm and happy and it thoroughly did the magic..
      All we need is love.. 😊
      Love from India..

  • @wandamedina4964
    @wandamedina4964 Год назад

    My great grandson is 3 years old and he only says about 3 or 4 words. He gets frustrated and he hits himself. He also is not potty trained. He is on a 2 year waiting list to be assessed. Do you have any recommendations that can help in the mine time? Thanks.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  Год назад

      Waitlists can be extremely frustrating, because we just cannot wait that long to help our children/grandchildren gain important skills. My online courses can help you help you teach him with just a few affordable materials. Join me for a free workshop to learn more: www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

  • @punjabdikuri5599
    @punjabdikuri5599 4 года назад +2

    Hello mam my son is autism he is 13year old. always he is runing around playing. But he didn't speek yet. But i notice now some time he is very quite no playing some time he is criying only minit than stop most the time he love biscuits crips but now he not playing not runing round since this morning i notice he is criying only minit than. Stop plz telll me why he is doing this. After week he is better becoz i notice last month is willl same problam is same problam.

    • @punjabdikuri5599
      @punjabdikuri5599 4 года назад

      Can u reaply me plz

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 года назад

      It sounds like finding a behavior analyst would be helpful. Without knowing your child I cannot give specific advice.

  • @katepeterson3749
    @katepeterson3749 4 месяца назад

    I'm in north idaho. My son became aggressive at 17. He's now 21 in 3 mo. I'm at my wits end. Lots if therapy. Tired of being injured

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 месяца назад

      Sorry to hear that. You can join a course to start helping your son: MaryBarbera.com/courses

  • @dlcg5685
    @dlcg5685 2 года назад

    Where can someone find a behavior analyst?

  • @misschristymarie
    @misschristymarie 2 года назад +1

    As a mother to two sons on the spectrum; ages 8 and 5 I can relate to many of the comments. My youngest is extremely attached to me to the point of not wanting others near me or me enjoying my time with others, other than him.
    I can’t work much because his energy is too much for most to handle and I’m trying to find more patience to understand him (he’s non verbal).
    Can’t thank you enough for sharing all this info, come here often for guidance and assistance 🤍✨

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  2 года назад

      Thank you so much for watching and for sharing your experience here.

  • @mounikakiranmai2507
    @mounikakiranmai2507 3 года назад +1

    Hii ma'am my son is in mild autism... My son bites his hand frequently while watching phone or playing with his sister and he bites when anyone shouted at him when he is anger sad or happy he bites his hand and he gets excited by watching peppa pig or any cartoon he bites his hand... Please guide me how to avoid to bite himself

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад

      Google Mary Barbera biting. Ultimately this is self injury and serious. If you can find a bcba that would be best.

    • @mounikakiranmai2507
      @mounikakiranmai2507 3 года назад

      We had provided him behaviour and occupation therapy... Therapists are saying it should reduce on its own by age ... Here in India at my place it's difficult to find the therapists who can help him with this problem... Could you please suggest any techniques to control my son at home.... Thank you in advance

  • @laceyjoHorne
    @laceyjoHorne 4 месяца назад

    My son jjst attacked me today . Im starting aba next week thank u Mary just bought your book cant wait 2 read

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  4 месяца назад

      I'm so sorry to hear that this happened. My book will help. If you're ever looking for more resources, visit MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

  • @bunnyoneful
    @bunnyoneful 3 года назад +1

    My Grandson gets aggressive when he is told no, when the internet goes down and sometimes when given his medication. His sister gets aggressive when told no, asked to get up for school, he is non verbal/servere Granddaughter can talk, read, and spell. Both have beat up my daughter their mother....help!!

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  3 года назад +1

      That sounds really tricky. You likely will want to work with a local behavior analyst to find preventative strategies or teach skills to help him.

    • @bunnyoneful
      @bunnyoneful 3 года назад

      Thank you!

  • @victoriathurston5326
    @victoriathurston5326 7 месяцев назад

    Hello i live in the uk
    I have 3 children my oldest who 11 years old he does hand flapping he counts his toys all the time and he could be watching a tv show and then shout. I been asking for help with his old school. And then on his last week before we moved then senco said yep we have seen some hand flapping i been crying for testing. He has hit me push me into the fridge and push me down the stairs.
    My second child who 9 years old is behind 2.5 years in school (covid) and we got a dr at the hospital she said she has 2 mild genetic disorder and hypertelorism.
    My 5 year old who was diagnosed with autism she does get upset and pulls hair and hits.
    We do try not to get to that point we have a cushion where we sit her down and try to calm her down.
    We do now and next boards and we tell them what happened
    I just like to know what else i can do
    As i done video and a book on them too.

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  7 месяцев назад

      We have members from the UK, Take a free online assessment here and attend a free workshop: MaryBarbera.com/freeassessment

  • @candy-sj
    @candy-sj 8 месяцев назад

    Yes its so challenging with my son, i am trying everything before medication. 😢

    • @marybarbera
      @marybarbera  8 месяцев назад +1

      I understand where you're coming from! If you're looking for more help, check out my other paid and free resources here: MaryBarbera.com/resources.