6 Signs He Is Using You & Does NOT See A Future Together

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  • Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
  • I really think the worst thing is seeing a woman being strung along by a man who sees no future with her. Here are your 6 signs.
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Комментарии • 308

  • @misse39178
    @misse39178 8 месяцев назад +428

    1. If he lives on your expense
    2. He does not want to build a future
    3. He only connects w you when he’s sad
    4. Forgetfulness
    5. He only talks about himself
    6. If all responsibility is on you

    • @XZ858XZ
      @XZ858XZ 8 месяцев назад +9

      Thank you bestie

    • @semyaza555
      @semyaza555 8 месяцев назад +3

      I agree with everything except for #1

    • @misse39178
      @misse39178 8 месяцев назад

      @@XZ858XZ 💕💕

    • @misse39178
      @misse39178 8 месяцев назад +2

      @Contemporarygirl 💕💕

    • @AnnaPugacova
      @AnnaPugacova 8 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @bedanan
    @bedanan 6 месяцев назад +78

    "You are someone's dream" wow... So powerful that i almost cried.

  • @TheGoodLifeStarterPack
    @TheGoodLifeStarterPack 8 месяцев назад +156

    “If he’s not sure, he can be unsure not on your time.” ⬅️ THIS!

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss 8 месяцев назад +447

    If youre readinf this, i pray you receive the highest form of love. You are worthy, good enough and deserving of the best just for being you.💗🙏🏼

    • @kmonea9850
      @kmonea9850 8 месяцев назад +2

      ❤️🙏🏾

    • @eierinjhoi
      @eierinjhoi 8 месяцев назад +3

      Thank you

    • @amandaburleson2035
      @amandaburleson2035 8 месяцев назад +2

      if youre reading this, just date men below your leaugue. go for a shorter guy, or a guy that is balding or that uses glasses, or a guy that is brown skin, or a guy that is fat. date a guy below you in pysical looks by two points. !!! these men will die for you !!!

    • @claudiaclaudia8599
      @claudiaclaudia8599 8 месяцев назад

      @@amandaburleson2035that’s the sure recipe for a sexless marriage.

    • @EtherT
      @EtherT 8 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you 😊

  • @Coco-pr3rz
    @Coco-pr3rz 8 месяцев назад +129

    "Don't play the wifey role if you're not his wife. If you're just his girlfriend, do all the fun but don't do anything that comes with a sacrifice to you, don't do anything that makes you feel resentful towards him"

  • @spoofsister
    @spoofsister 8 месяцев назад +181

    Ladies - get yourself a good education, a well-paid job and make yourself independant of men. If the guy does not meet your standards, thanks next. Be your (and your kids) own provider so you do not need to put up with a cheater, user or lyer or any other type of man. It is better for kids to grow up partly in daycare than in a toxic family. Build up a network of girlfriends/mom- friends who help each other when needed.
    You need to stand on your own feet first, then romance can add to your life.

    • @prairie_dog_5443
      @prairie_dog_5443 8 месяцев назад +5

      Amen to that! ❤

    • @olive4naito
      @olive4naito 8 месяцев назад +10

      True. There are no guarantees in life for a proper husband no matter how hard you look. They need to teach this to all young women. Don't cling and bring down your self worth. A lot of men aren't looking for love. They're looking for desperate.

    • @aena5995
      @aena5995 8 месяцев назад

      she said our time is finite what if we education will take awhile??

    • @spoofsister
      @spoofsister 8 месяцев назад +5

      @@aena5995 Education is an investment in yourself, spending time with the wrong man because of dependency is a waste of your finite and therewith precious time.

    • @aena5995
      @aena5995 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@spoofsister yes so u education over marriage right ? but she talks about biological clock and stuff this stuff makes me overthink because 25 is probably when I can think about anything else after education is done as I had a bit of a gap 😕
      Not sure if I wanna think about kids just a life partner I can travel with XD

  • @aliceinwonderlandq
    @aliceinwonderlandq 8 месяцев назад +98

    I was a placeholder for 4 years. Fun fact: He left me for a girl he knew for one week. After our breakup he didn't even bother to wish me merry christmas or happy bday despite that he knew that it is really important tradition for me. These years meant nothing to him, so girls, please, first you see the signs of disrespect or being way too comfy, run! He is just a waste of time. Take care and much love 🥰

    • @sowmyaangel9787
      @sowmyaangel9787 4 месяца назад +2

      i have been a place holder for almost 10yrs it was so hard for me to leave that relationship as he was a narcissist i suffered so much in my entire life

    • @humilis42
      @humilis42 Месяц назад

      Can I ask how? Were you living with him? Did he try to build anything with you? Like talking to you about long term? Or was he just comfortable with doing very little?

  • @priestrat
    @priestrat 8 месяцев назад +249

    This video resonated with me. I dated a man for 4 years who always was lost, confused, didn't know what he wanted, just "wanted to see", when I told him I want something serious & long-term and to know that he's in it with me, he would say that he wants that as well, but his actions stayed the same. As you said, he would never bring up the topic himself. Still, my delusional ass believed in him, in us, always thought things would change. They didn't. He left as soon as another woman showed the slightest bit of interest in him and he thought he did not need me anymore. Our relationship had beautiful parts but I was left in my late twenties feeling used and incredibly heartbroken, knowing I stayed in that relationship for far too long and did not respect myself enough to leave. So please, if they show you that they are not as committed as you, BELIEVE them, choose yourself and leave!! Yes, you might love them deeply, and they might love you back, but your time and energy are precious and your needs are valid. You will find someone who loves you AND chooses you every day.

    • @kITTEN-999
      @kITTEN-999 8 месяцев назад +19

      I hate the fact so many people will say women are the sly and cunning ones when its really men who know what they want that are the most cunning and sly.

    • @missbevpowers
      @missbevpowers 8 месяцев назад

      there are many women who have kids at 40 plus... I had my first and only baby at 40. I largely agree with your stance as I usually do which is why I am a sub. You're my favorite RUclipsr you are a natural as you keep it real yet in a classy and decent manner. I know you must be beyond excited with the arrival of your baby girl.... so much to look forward to🤗✨🙏💖

    • @missbevpowers
      @missbevpowers 8 месяцев назад

      there are many women who have kids at 40 plus... I had my first and only baby at 40. I largely agree with your stance as I usually do which is why I am a sub. You're my favorite RUclipsr you are a natural as you keep it real yet in a classy and decent manner. I know you must be beyond excited with the arrival of your baby girl.... so much to look forward to🤗✨🙏💖

    • @alexialira3839
      @alexialira3839 8 месяцев назад

      @prttyprincess Nah, men show you they don't want/like you (ex: the story of the woman you're replying to), but you feed yourself delusions that they do.
      Women, on the other hand, can show AND tell you they like/want you but really, they don't. This is true in any relationship being romantic, family, relative, colleague or friendships. Women are queens of passive aggression and fakeness. It's Mean Girls way into adulthood, don't kid yourself.

    • @keylo2473
      @keylo2473 8 месяцев назад +1

      The same, but I'm in my almost 40....Feel absolutely lost after such relationships

  • @larabonomo2099
    @larabonomo2099 8 месяцев назад +192

    "You are someone's dream" That is so beautifully said Margarita, thank you for this amazing video once again!!

  • @Bmutation
    @Bmutation 8 месяцев назад +40

    “My time is more precious “ that hit me hard❤

  • @Etcetc_
    @Etcetc_ 8 месяцев назад +25

    Indeed, whatever his reasons, it will literally crush you to be with a man you choose but he isn’t choosing you back. Leave his a** now before you have to pick the pieces of your shattered heart on the floor.

    • @ce.379
      @ce.379 6 месяцев назад

      So true !!!

  • @shaynalee
    @shaynalee 8 месяцев назад +66

    My ex bf was like my pet. Followed me around everywhere and “helped” me like my assistant but couldn’t hold down a job. When we met he actually had a good job otherwise I wouldn’t have even considered dating him. He was sweet and like a 7 year old at age 30. No money to buy gifts or take me out even for a sandwich.
    Wanted to marry me too. I couldn’t take another day as I lost all attraction to him and became very masculine. I turned into a person I didn’t like or recognize. Went ballistic and kicked him out. I’d rather be single than with the wrong person. He met someone new and proposed in 8 months. They are now married 😂
    I dodged bullets!!

    • @EcoworksFL
      @EcoworksFL 8 месяцев назад +7

      Sounds like my experience too. Mine was living on me and wanted to marry me just to get hold of my assets. Don't ever get yourself into this situation ladies, make men pay for themselves, trust me, they are only using you. Don't lose your hard earned cash as well as your heart !

    • @EloraSelah
      @EloraSelah 6 месяцев назад +1

      He dodged a bullet girl. You didn't want him then after that whatever he decides is not your choice

    • @WildAntics13
      @WildAntics13 6 месяцев назад +3

      Some men marry for convenience 😂 not because of love trust me 😂

    • @shaynalee
      @shaynalee 6 месяцев назад +4

      @@WildAntics13 You are 100% correct. My ex has ADHD and BPD so he needs a mommy to take care of him.

    • @Dragonfly_magictarot
      @Dragonfly_magictarot 4 месяца назад

      Wow, good for you!

  • @PlusSizePreggo12
    @PlusSizePreggo12 8 месяцев назад +50

    I just left a 6 months relationship like this. He is very SELFISH and honestly didnt like me but loved the ego boost and emotional support. I remember being so sick thinking it was covid. Not once did he call to check up on me or ask if i need anything

    • @janellee_
      @janellee_ 8 месяцев назад +6

      Whew! Glad you left.

    • @PlusSizePreggo12
      @PlusSizePreggo12 8 месяцев назад +4

      @janellee_ yes girl he ghosted me for a week while I healed then popped back up saying I thought you needed space so you can get better smh

    • @Dragonfly_magictarot
      @Dragonfly_magictarot 4 месяца назад +2

      😢
      Goooood for you!!!!

  • @Ladydi9367
    @Ladydi9367 8 месяцев назад +26

    Thank you for posting this. I just left my husband after 30 years of being the place holder. I just found out he was cheating on me for at least 7 years - probably more. I wish someone would have told me these things years ago. Women of my generation - ( I am in my 50’s and older) were taught to be subservient to their husbands. This has been detrimental to women’s mental health and well - being. Women should be treated with love, honor, and respect. Actions speak louder than words. Listen to your intuition ladies. Honor yourself. I am grateful for your validation of my feelings about this topic.

    • @emmm6030
      @emmm6030 7 месяцев назад +1

      I hope you're doing okay!

    • @jessicahitchens6926
      @jessicahitchens6926 2 месяца назад

      Your mid 50s not 86... therefore you are Gen X. No women in the West from that age group were taught to be subservient unless incredibly religious 🤣

  • @natnat8759
    @natnat8759 5 месяцев назад +11

    I just realized that the 2 men I dated long term (1 year and almost 4 years)in my early twenties just used me, worst enough I was sexually objectified and alone in a foreign country, during that time I got acne issues, and lots brain fog, I even hated every inch of myself till the point I lived in isolation.. yes wasted a lot of time, but now at 26 I have my own concept of myself, I am confident in who I am and about the intrinsic value of my soul, I wake up everyday being grateful for my life as woman, I am aiming to create and have a formal relationship with a masculine man and I also hope more young woman hear your advice, there are good and responsible men willing to love and value a woman, but it is on us women to welcome this type of men ❣️

    • @Alhamd_laka_rabi100
      @Alhamd_laka_rabi100 5 месяцев назад +1

      At your age, I'm happy about that I hope we find someone who deserves us and loves us. I think we have to change and not give anything so that we are not put in the relationship of the giver who must do everything. It is my fault that I was sympathetic and always asked. This made people not care about me now. I try to be feminine and do not give anything and receive protection and security from men.

  • @Itswhitneyxxo
    @Itswhitneyxxo 5 месяцев назад +5

    I was a placeholder for 3 years now he’s realized the grass isn’t greener and he wants me back. Or maybe it’s his ego, either way it goes he’s wasted enough of my time. I am good on him, I don’t want him.

  • @misse39178
    @misse39178 8 месяцев назад +21

    I pray all woman are balanced in their divine feminine energy 🙏🏽

  • @gthktty666
    @gthktty666 8 месяцев назад +42

    someone said "men are emotional gold diggers and we don't talk about it enough" and AMEN. there are *so many emotionally immature men out there and they treat their partners like their mothers* - ie. expect them to completely emotionally and physically support him, teach him how to be a grown up, AND love him unconditionally - forgiving all thoughtless mistakes and draining shortcomings, but news flash - people are supposed to be emotionally responsible for themselves first and foremost. Only children live off others emotionally/financially/physically, use others as a base to grow from, leave all responsibilities up to others, don't contribute to building a future, don't manage their own emotions without someone else's help, and are only able to relate things directly back to their own personal experiences in life - therefore they lack awareness and empathy, and can ONLY talk about themself. (Bonus points if they have a substance/screen/exercise/shopping/gambling/food addiction)

    • @gthktty666
      @gthktty666 8 месяцев назад +3

      never put more time and effort into a man than you put into yourself.
      if he needs 100 hours of lessons from you on how to be emotionally aware aka not a selfish asshole, you better already be spending 200 hours on your own emotional awareness and self-care.

    • @nyuuuchan
      @nyuuuchan 7 месяцев назад

      THIS! 💯 ⭐

  • @TheSpiritWithin999
    @TheSpiritWithin999 8 месяцев назад +86

    I'm 29. I was married to this man for a year. With him for 8. He married me while he was *finally* excelling in his life (or so it seemed). Then quit his job shortly after and became the manifest of all 5 points you discussed in this video. Played WoW while I worked. The red flags were always there though, so I'm the fool. The biggest mistake I've ever made. I finally woke up and left. It took me hitting rock bottom and meeting the exact opposite man to realise what was happening. Exactly as you put it, my authenticity was gone. I was the mum and the masculine. Completely betrayed and lost myself. Your videos are so incredibly helpful 🙏 thank you for being the truth bomb we all need.

    • @Nycgoomba
      @Nycgoomba 8 месяцев назад +4

      Proud of you for recognizing quickly and leaving early while you're still young 👏🏽 a lot of people wouldn't have had the strength for that

    • @queenielynn9985
      @queenielynn9985 8 месяцев назад +2

      8 years? I’m asking because I want to be sure we’re in the same shoes as I was with mine for 10 years

    • @TheSpiritWithin999
      @TheSpiritWithin999 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@queenielynn9985 Yes, sadly. I met him when I was 20. We've been separated for 6 months now.

    • @TheSpiritWithin999
      @TheSpiritWithin999 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@Nycgoomba thank you so much 🙏

    • @ellejwrench1034
      @ellejwrench1034 8 месяцев назад +1

      So I’m 27, been with my partner 4 & a half years and I’ve felt the same for perhaps the last year or so. Ive never felt so drained. The amount of responsibility been in my hands alone while he’s just floated through,or complained of being tired if I try to share the load of every day life. I’m honestly at the point where I think I’d rather be on my own 💯. To anybody else in the same boat, I pray we find the strength to leave and find ourselves again❤

  • @Tamar-sz8ox
    @Tamar-sz8ox 8 месяцев назад +14

    Time is precious don’t waste it. Date with intention . Set time limits. Otherwise ,You’re better off getting to know yourself, investing in yourself , volunteering or supporting a cause you support. When I met my husband we had a discussion of what our expectations were . It was spelled out , no guessing . Closed on his end and closed on mine .

  • @sarajune444
    @sarajune444 8 месяцев назад +20

    I never want have babies. Im 44 and single. You are right. I waste 20 years with wrong partners as l always attract men who dont wante babies neither etc....Never waste more then 2 years with guy if he not make some move with you❤❤❤
    I wish met you in my 20y.old......😢

    • @ellen5276
      @ellen5276 4 месяца назад

      Dating when you don't want children/are finished having children is SO MUCH harder. SO MUCH. People do not understand. How do you find a man who wants something serious when they are the type of man who doesn't want children/a family? They have no reason to commit. Or men who have already had children/a family - you will always seem less than the ex. I struggle with it.

  • @nicolectheesthetician9235
    @nicolectheesthetician9235 4 месяца назад +7

    If he blames you for everything and says you are immature because your reaction to his behavior 😢

  • @rayna463
    @rayna463 8 месяцев назад +31

    “You are someone’s dream”🥹💕😭

  • @YourPainting1
    @YourPainting1 8 месяцев назад +55

    Im 31 and just ended a 6 year relationship. Took up the majority of my 20’s and never committed to me and never tried to have kids even though he said he did in the beginning of our relationship. I feel so strung on. Now I’m 31 having to start over and dating has become SO different in 6 years my god. What have dating apps done to people?

    • @Robert-ri7mt
      @Robert-ri7mt 8 месяцев назад +1

      You are a woman. All dating apps are win win for a woman. You can get 200 dates in 24 hrs. Goid luck 🙏🏻

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 5 месяцев назад +4

      Dont use dating apps. They are crap.

    • @happymood2278
      @happymood2278 4 месяца назад +4

      I feel exactly the same. 32 years old, been single for 3 years after a 5 year relationship. I was very naive and he was a manipulative little rat who did not have the balls to face reality.

    • @spunkymonkeym
      @spunkymonkeym 2 месяца назад

      I'm 30. After 5.5 years of being told that he was going to propose to me I'm finally giving up and walking away. I feel sad that it took me so long to realize that.

    • @Naomi11477
      @Naomi11477 2 месяца назад

      Six years- me too! This video hit the nail on the head

  • @maryannabaza8782
    @maryannabaza8782 8 месяцев назад +10

    you are literally describing my mother and father, I grew up watching him use her in every way possible, never took responsibility for once, and I feel resentful on her behalf 😭 I wish she watched your video 30 years ago😭😭😭😭😭

    • @WildAntics13
      @WildAntics13 6 месяцев назад +1

      Same like my mom! I don’t know why some women are dusties as well! Thats why wisdom is power

  • @user-ky9zq5kg2v
    @user-ky9zq5kg2v 8 месяцев назад +20

    I am 49 when I was 45 I discovered I had DDD degenerative disk disease and needed to stay in a rehabilitation and nursing home for a bit....my husband has still not picked me up I have been in a home for 3yrs...he has used every exuse...I know not to go back but sometimes I feel I have no other options...then I watch your podcasts 😊I am empowered to find a better man and life❤

    • @K1111A
      @K1111A 8 месяцев назад +9

      Please empower yourself. You are worthy of a good marriage and a good life. Divorce him, he will have to give you 50% of anything he has, including his job earnings. Make it your number one goal to get out of the home you’re in. Prioritize your health❤. There are programs out there that can help you get started looking for a place to live. You deserve so much more in this one short life you have💕

  • @AndiiBorrell
    @AndiiBorrell 6 месяцев назад +7

    This video has broken down a hard true realization for me. Although my partner and I don't have kids and he does work, I still pay my own bills, try to plan the future dates that don't end up happening, he forgets his responsibilities because videogames are of most value to him. So, I'm here getting my head up to put myself first unapologetically.

    • @Alhamd_laka_rabi100
      @Alhamd_laka_rabi100 5 месяцев назад +1

      Stop assuming his responsibilities, let him see the results of his actions until he feels and takes a step. By doing so, you are encouraging him to make a mistake and destroying yourself.

  • @Relativetoyou
    @Relativetoyou 8 месяцев назад +31

    Very true! I think a lot of my friends think and wants an "equal" partnership where they are independent from the partners and they can buy themselves flowers, be your own best friend etc. I also fell into that trap. While I think it's important to build yourself to that person, it's almost a detriment to have that mentality when you actually have a partner. Because if your partner (and that includes you too) isn't adding anything meaningful in your life then they aren't it. What's the point of having an almost roommate/friend relationship? Ask for more because you know you deserve it and you know you will give the same back. And if they can't or don't want to give you more then you know this person isn't for you.

  • @yolkyolk3148
    @yolkyolk3148 8 месяцев назад +11

    "you are someone's dream" 💕

  • @Moe90ies
    @Moe90ies 8 месяцев назад +13

    OMG! I always felt like he was only calling me because the girls he wanted didn’t want him, but I could never prove it, he would gaslight me into thinking I was crazy for thinking that. This just confirms my suspisions. I have moved on though

    • @mslancambridgesmart
      @mslancambridgesmart 6 месяцев назад +1

      Same thing happened with me

    • @Moe90ies
      @Moe90ies 6 месяцев назад

      @@mslancambridgesmart don’t be sad, we are better off 🫶🏻

  • @Gamingfluff6
    @Gamingfluff6 8 месяцев назад +4

    4 is a classic. My husband was like that for 15 years. Everyone told me "all men are like that" 😑😑😑

  • @Alicia_mcc
    @Alicia_mcc 8 месяцев назад +22

    I’ve recently just gone through a break up that has been really tough on me. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for taking the time to help other women❤️

  • @imfatima277
    @imfatima277 8 месяцев назад +25

    Watching this video made me realise that my bf that I’m dating now is doing all the opposite of those points. TBH it made me feel guilty because I’ve been acting very carful around him and questioning everything he dose and try to look at what is he doing wrong, so I’ll be watching this every time i suspect my bf. Thank you ❤

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever 7 месяцев назад +1

      Be careful. If you are together for 2 years plus and he didnt propose he will make you lose your precious time. Even if he sound like a dream man. They can change too.

    • @imfatima277
      @imfatima277 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@etcwhatever thank you so much for your concerns, and tbh I don’t except anything lol, i feel im always assuming he is going to show him real self one day (we’ve been together for 3 months so far) i don’t expect anything serious because him and i are in a long distance relationship and we both study, but he said he is thinking when we both finish our studying we should get married( we’re going to graduate in the same year). I’m always ready for the worse, i just hope this time I’m wrong and he is really serious.

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever 7 месяцев назад

      @@imfatima277 yes 3 months is very recent indeed. I hope hes the right one, but if a good man who is close by shows up i would start a friendship and leave all options open. Ive been burned too much so i wish younger women to fulfill their dreams and avoid problems.

  • @user-gp2bw6vn3k
    @user-gp2bw6vn3k 5 месяцев назад +3

    I allowed this to happen - the wrong man wasting my 20s and 30s. I hear your advice now and feeling mortified that I didn't know that earlier. To all the girls out there - be mindful of your time!

  • @aflurinia1657
    @aflurinia1657 8 месяцев назад +10

    this video helped me realize - or it's better to say accept - that i am being used like an emotional support in times of need while i get less than a bare minimum in terms of the support and care that i deserve. and also videos about detachment helped me with my situationship a lot. thank you, Margarita. i am in love with your channel, it's been so helping and reassuring for me these past few days. спасибо.

  • @Holly_honestly
    @Holly_honestly 8 месяцев назад +4

    The way you just describe my entire first marriage. WOW! Where we’re you 14 years ago? I desperately needed that advice then!

  • @candygirl1990
    @candygirl1990 8 месяцев назад +12

    I waited 4 years for my ex to propose to me and he dumped me because I wanted committment and he didn't. 4 years wasted, I'm 51 now and it's way too late to start again. I'm finished. Great video ❤❤❤

    • @kaylagomar5571
      @kaylagomar5571 8 месяцев назад +4

      It’s never to late everyone is on a different timing ❤️

    • @CF.
      @CF. 8 месяцев назад +10

      You can still find love. My grandma got a boyfriend at 85. They were together until he passed at 93. They were so good to each other and were so happy. It’s never too late to find love.

    • @candygirl1990
      @candygirl1990 8 месяцев назад +6

      ​@@CF. Hi. Thank you for your reply. I guess I'm just feeling down because I feel very single at 51. But you're story is sweet, so there might be hope for me ❤❤

    • @candygirl1990
      @candygirl1990 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@kaylagomar5571 thanks, I will try to remember that. ❤

    • @adaofcharles1217
      @adaofcharles1217 8 месяцев назад +2

      Never, say never.

  • @EcoworksFL
    @EcoworksFL 8 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for this video, women need to hear tbis, there is many users out there, we need to guard our hearts and our wallets, men can be gold giggers too and look for a woman to take care of them

  • @nursekillm
    @nursekillm 8 месяцев назад +6

    I wish I’d learned this 25 yrs ago! 😫

  • @bobbypigeon6243
    @bobbypigeon6243 8 месяцев назад +7

    Thank you Margarita. Now I can fully agree with everything. It’s sad sometimes we forget that time is one of the most important resources in the world, even more important than money.

  • @healingwithvee
    @healingwithvee 8 месяцев назад +2

    Good to know because looking back I always wonder, “was it real?” But no… he was def using me.

  • @samanthapregenzer923
    @samanthapregenzer923 7 месяцев назад +1

    NUMBER TWO!!!!! Thank you!!!! I recently ended a 6 year relationship because of NUMBER TWO. Thank you. It's true!

  • @RiyasPov
    @RiyasPov 8 месяцев назад +5

    I normally don't comment on any videos but I do listen to you religious but oh boy oh boy oh boy this video just hits home. thank you so much for helping all the woman out here in the world. you truly are doing Gods work and I loved your both courses, much love

  • @UniquelyHerz
    @UniquelyHerz 8 месяцев назад +8

    2 yrs & couldn’t even get a Merry Christmas or a gift.. some men egos are so far up their 🍑

  • @ap-yo4qc
    @ap-yo4qc 8 месяцев назад +9

    #1 Sign you played yourself: You need this video

  • @barbfoster3978
    @barbfoster3978 7 месяцев назад +2

    When I tell him something that happened to me, he says 'skip to the point' To be fair I think we actually have more of the student convenient relationship you describe at the beginning - pulling financial resources. However, your post makes me realise I want more x

    • @farwahbatool6247
      @farwahbatool6247 15 дней назад +1

      My man says "Come on! Pour out all the stories you've stored in your head!". He encourages me to talk and loves it when we talk and speak about every kind of stuff. Anything.
      Whereas, what you said that your guy says "skip to the point" to you, he's being mean to you. You know where you stand. You deserve better. When he starts speaking, you make him taste his own medicine by repeating his phrase back to him. Then he'll feel what his medicine tastes like to him.
      I wish you all the best! You're the best, and you'll find yourself a good man, soon 💐

    • @barbfoster3978
      @barbfoster3978 8 дней назад

      Thank you
      We are no longer together but still friends. He still says 'skip to the point'
      I sent him this recently
      'According to a survey, men can listen to their male friends for ages, but they can only listen to their girlfriend or wife for six minutes'
      He replied
      'Hahaha, so very very very true
      It's the delivery
      Men consolidate
      Women elaborate'
      Hopefully, one day I will meet a man like yours ❤

  • @mpho5664
    @mpho5664 8 месяцев назад +9

    You are amazing , a sister I never had ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom

  • @Skaykaykay
    @Skaykaykay 8 месяцев назад +19

    This gem of a woman posted again! ❤Your videos are consistently fantastic, and they've become a staple in my morning routine here in Amsterdam, dear!💕 Your insights and facts are always on point. Thank you, Margarita, for creating such great content that brightens up my mornings with so much wisdom Wishing you and your beautiful family a joyful holiday season! 🎄✨❤

  • @kimberlystokes3758
    @kimberlystokes3758 4 месяца назад +2

    I so needed to hear this today. Thank you!!! I am looking for a husband, not a pet! ❤

  • @annab3184
    @annab3184 8 месяцев назад +1

    Gold of a video. But to the editor:
    Audacity:
    Locate a section of your recording that's just your background noise, preferably a few seconds long, and select it.
    Go to Effects > Noise Reduction and press the "Get noise profile" button.
    Select all the audio for which you want to reduce the noise.
    Go to Effects > Noise Reduction again.

  • @dianaramae3030
    @dianaramae3030 8 месяцев назад +2

    But I have heard some stories where a guy talks about their future, the life they want to build together and everything and yet after the engagement, a few months later they still end up cheating 😔😔

  • @Thomassina1
    @Thomassina1 12 дней назад

    Great tips, a long time friend married such a guy (last three points). She did everything, adjusted her work schedule to fit his early one, raised the kids, did the finances, the house, etc. Today she's exhausted, v resentful, has health probs.

  • @Legacychaser_777
    @Legacychaser_777 8 месяцев назад +16

    This woman never fails! I love your realistic viewpoints & how you get straight to the video. Glowing so beautifully ❤

  • @rollierollout
    @rollierollout 8 месяцев назад +1

    This was so difficult to listen to because it's true and I've known it for 13 years.

  • @leonie672
    @leonie672 8 месяцев назад +2

    😮 I wish I seen this 6 years ago!! Very true!! Thank you!! ❤❤

  • @dacenebula
    @dacenebula Месяц назад

    omg margarita. 1, 2, and 6 made my blood boil. I’m watching this video in hindsight, after breaking up w my ex who exhibited these particular behaviors, and I’m so happy I had the foresight to clock it and understand that he had no intentions of building a future with me. Staying with him longer would’ve meant delaying his own growth so after countless conversations and what felt like begging him to step up for our relationship, i realized talking wasn’t going to do anything so I pulled the trigger for us and broke us up. He wasn’t going to do it. He was quite happy being coddled and I wasn’t going to do it any longer because it left me completely drained, resentful, and pissed at how much time I wasted (2 years). Ladies, the minute your intuition starts going off like crazy, please please please do not ignore those signs. Margarita’s right, we do not have an abundance of time to waste. Let’s take our power back.

  • @damianwildfong7278
    @damianwildfong7278 8 месяцев назад +3

    i reconnected with someone after 26 years and thought I found my person I wanted it to be casual and light and fun because it was long distance I was fine with that he did all these things for 2 years I found out he didn't talk to his family because he was abusive to them and he had multiple mental illnesses that he lied about I am glad it was long distance and he lived in an exciting city I like to say of that experience that Chicago was my boyfriend

  • @daryaqadernejad1231
    @daryaqadernejad1231 8 месяцев назад +2

    You all ways tell us something that nobody tell us
    Thank you margarita i failled again and i feel sad that again someone using me again and it is really hard to exept❤

  • @Mandycapetown
    @Mandycapetown 8 месяцев назад +2

    I’m the Amanda. I’ve been used so badly, found out yesterday his living a double life in a world of drugs. I’m so hurt.his lost 3 jobs in a year, constantly demanding money from me, blaming me that he has no clothes shoes etc. I wasted over a year of him destroying my soul.

    • @AmanpreetKaur-qb4gg
      @AmanpreetKaur-qb4gg 8 месяцев назад +1

      seen this happening all my life with my mom. I sympathise with her as I cannot do anything about it. I hope you're in a better place now and you definitely deserve better.

  • @keylo2473
    @keylo2473 8 месяцев назад +1

    Oh god.. i did all these mistakes you described unfortunately. Ive just realized he has someone else... im crying..

  • @Dragonfly_magictarot
    @Dragonfly_magictarot 4 месяца назад

    What johnny Depp quote gave me chills and brought me to tears…

  • @izabelazielak8963
    @izabelazielak8963 8 месяцев назад +1

    If thinking and talking don’t change him,maybe work will,or maybe he can just be himself and hang on 🤷🏻

  • @user-ky9zq5kg2v
    @user-ky9zq5kg2v 8 месяцев назад +3

    I truly am so happy I discovered your podcasts they're reminding me of who I used to be❤and I really need that ..thank you

    • @jayOG_2020
      @jayOG_2020 6 месяцев назад

      💯💯💯 I so agree with you!! ❤️

  • @lou15176
    @lou15176 6 месяцев назад +1

    Omg 😂I’m listening really intently and nodding along about some of these signs and got to the cat 🐱 sneeze 🤧 anniversary 😂😂😂😂 I had to pause the video to choke on my own laughter 😆 talk about bringing light into a somewhat serious subject. Brilliant 🙌 x

  • @ghaitsazahirashofa3605
    @ghaitsazahirashofa3605 8 месяцев назад +5

    this was brutal and thank you. i need this

  • @rayneljred
    @rayneljred 8 месяцев назад +3

    Wow, every time I watch your videos, I always learn something new.

  • @user-ix4fi3rz3l
    @user-ix4fi3rz3l 4 месяца назад +1

    1) He lives on your expense.
    2) He does not want to build a future with you. You are not in his future.
    3) He only connects with you when he is sad
    4)
    3)

  • @lailashah5851
    @lailashah5851 6 месяцев назад

    I have been watching so many of ur videos! Ur so healing and u make it simple: “have boundaries so you never have to heal”

  • @S.G.W.Verbeek
    @S.G.W.Verbeek 3 месяца назад +1

    Genesis 18:11-14
    Abraham and Sarah were old by this time, very old. Sarah was far past the age for having babies. Sarah laughed within herself, “An old woman like me? Get pregnant? With this old man of a husband?”
    God said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh saying, ‘Me? Have a baby? An old woman like me?’ Is anything too hard for God? I’ll be back about this time next year and Sarah will have a baby.”

  • @rachelmaunder3347
    @rachelmaunder3347 8 месяцев назад +1

    Brilliant yet again . Hitting a heart chord . Interesting … always was paying 😮 why the hell did I even bring out my purse 👛 . Learned many boundaries after this experience

  • @janawalnut4092
    @janawalnut4092 3 месяца назад

    You are amasing
    Is what I told to a man few weeks ago
    Thankyou so much
    I am watching you now every Day
    It is helping me so much...to feel I am allready ON m good way as a female

  • @LivingInKerala
    @LivingInKerala 8 месяцев назад +1

    Great video, I wish this video was around 15 years ago.

  • @xiomararodriguez17
    @xiomararodriguez17 7 месяцев назад

    I'm someone's dream girl

  • @Medina0205
    @Medina0205 8 месяцев назад +5

    I am so thankful for your videos!🙏

  • @VeronikaZ-gu7ge
    @VeronikaZ-gu7ge 4 месяца назад

    Said it before, will say it again - words of wisdom!

  • @user-mr3le4hs4e
    @user-mr3le4hs4e 8 месяцев назад +3

    Everything you mention is very true and important. Thank you. More similar subjects would be appreciated. How to spot the difference between real or fake pursuit? Real caring or just wanting a possibility for better country benefits/residency?

  • @user-ln4qe1sh8i
    @user-ln4qe1sh8i Месяц назад

    A guy I recently met online started Future faking, talking about trips, dinners etc. I called his bluff in telling him I was going out to dinner last week. He was sad he wasn't there 😂 like...I knew he was just full of 💩 I stopped trying and making any efforts. He's gone quiet again and he can stay quiet, I want a guy who demonstrates his actions instead of words. Talk is cheap but silence is Golden. It's a 'Me' season ❤

  • @Emillyy94
    @Emillyy94 Месяц назад

    Margarita you are a queen. 👑 Thank you for this video it really was inspiring!

  • @meftal_od
    @meftal_od 6 месяцев назад

    I’m 28 Indian medical degree girl…. we came into long distance since 1 year, dnt know all of sudden I started asking him when we gonna marry bla bla….he reply mayb aftr 2 years or once only my brother gets married……thank god I came across this video……btw it’s been 7 years we r committed 6 years in same place and 1 year long distance……dnt know I was so curious that I kept asking about marriage, but now I think I should stop

  • @Twalimo
    @Twalimo 8 месяцев назад +1

    Good to see/hear from you again. Will save this for later... On the move 💃🏾❤️

  • @Rachel.Nicole
    @Rachel.Nicole 8 месяцев назад +1

    I listened to the podcast yesterday and I’m still here!!!! Hi queen

  • @itsKochon
    @itsKochon 8 месяцев назад +1

    I must be a woman then bc I truly identify with almost everything you say in your attachment related content

  • @mariat2465
    @mariat2465 8 месяцев назад +3

    I could watch you all day !! You have the best videos 💕

  • @aes9639
    @aes9639 8 месяцев назад +1

    I appreciate the captions

  • @vanessa4397
    @vanessa4397 8 месяцев назад +1

    “What do you want? What do you want Amanda?”💀😂

  • @Harmony977
    @Harmony977 8 месяцев назад +1

    You are so spot on. I sent it to my friends and daughter 😊

  • @Antoinette617
    @Antoinette617 8 месяцев назад +3

    Everything you said makes sense. My advice until the ring 💍 is on your finger Ladies it’s all smoke & mirrors .

    • @zouitenghita7497
      @zouitenghita7497 7 месяцев назад +2

      I stayed with a guy for 5 years he end up putting a ring on my finger and told me 2 months after that that we were not compatible anymore and that we should stop our relationship - He took the majority of my twenties .. I moved to another country for him, I played the wife role for all those years we even were building a housse together ... I ve never felt so destroyed as lately ... I feel abused and used and devastated, I will never forgive him for steeling my precious years and making me believe about a future together for all this time. Believe me you never trust a guy until he have said yes and even after that, you should always keep putting yourself first and the priority above all. God damn it - how does people date at 30s ? :D :D

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 6 месяцев назад +2

      smoke and mirrors until legal, binding contract is signed - a ring is often a stalling tactic - engaged to be married is limbo

    • @Antoinette617
      @Antoinette617 6 месяцев назад

      @@truthseeker3967 💯

    • @Antoinette617
      @Antoinette617 6 месяцев назад

      @@zouitenghita7497 I’m so sorry you had to experience this.

  • @honeymayfair-rt9tc
    @honeymayfair-rt9tc 8 месяцев назад +1

    Such excellent content to share in chrismas break !!!🥂🎉👏👏👏, thanks a lot !!!

  • @MarCariB
    @MarCariB 8 месяцев назад +1

    Great video ❤thanks Margarita

  • @katieshelton7974
    @katieshelton7974 8 месяцев назад +3

    Took me 6 years to realize I was being used

  • @luaandlua
    @luaandlua 8 месяцев назад +2

    girls for you what means when you ask him if he still have feelings for his ex and he says he likes her friendship and they were so envolved?

  • @1kellygirl2010
    @1kellygirl2010 8 месяцев назад +2

    This is such valuable information. Can you direct the same topic to older women and relationships?

  • @reacting_to_stuff_
    @reacting_to_stuff_ 8 месяцев назад +6

    Gay MEN did this to me too, manipulators and narcissists

  • @Lanareicat
    @Lanareicat 8 месяцев назад +2

    Love your videos Margarita!
    Always down to the point and you use such good examples 🫶🏻

  • @PamZoellick
    @PamZoellick 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for sharing all your insights and knowledge. I wish I had known all of these things when I was younger, but it’s better late than never. You’re amazing!!

  • @sophieplv
    @sophieplv 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for This Video !
    You Look Stunning Margarita! As always🥰

  • @lavender_heartt
    @lavender_heartt 8 месяцев назад +1

    Маргарита, ты даёшь мне столько уверенности и вдохновения. Спасибо, что делишься такими важными знаниями. Я люблю тебя ❤

  • @svilenaninetta9838
    @svilenaninetta9838 6 месяцев назад +1

    I am so angry right now. Yes.. He wasted 12 years of my life. Now iam 47 no men no kids.. I am so angry. I wish i knew this 12 y ago. Yes you just remind me.. He never say happy b day to me for 12 years. He said " i m never sure is it on 24 or 25 jan. And as a metter a fact my b day is on 29th jan. Under 1 and under 2. Most correct.

  • @deirdre2564
    @deirdre2564 3 месяца назад +1

    Agggghhhh this is so my sister… I really hope she’s the happy one who just likes having a pet hamster. 😭

  • @darkvalkyrie5366
    @darkvalkyrie5366 5 месяцев назад +2

    there are a lot of women who love to be childfree by choice. even if you want a kid, you don't need a man, you just need a lot of money. wanting a family at all costs is internalised patriarchy. just sayin'