How To Avoid Being Socially Awkward
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We have all had moments in our lives where we were more awkward than we would like to be, and we have all had moments where we surprised ourselves with how charming, charismatic and confident we can be. The questions is: how do we go from one to the other on command?
I think that Elon Musk is a great example of someone that represents the best of both worlds. That's why in this video, I want to dive into some clips of Elon to see what you can learn, and how to turn those moments where you are awkward and turn them into ones where you are charming and charismatic.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro.
1:58 - #1: Elaborate on the question
2:33 - #2: Make consistent eye contact.
3:47 - #3: Crack an understated joke.
5:06 - #4: Embrace the silence.
6:08 - #5: Prime yourself.
7:22 - #6: Fully commit.
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A quick little bit of laughter can change everything
It can’t change my hairline can it? What I thought
I recently revealed the genders of my two girlfriends. It got a lot of hate and now has 30 times more dislikes than likes. I am really sad that people can be so mean. Sorry for using your comment to talk about my problems, dear jaxx
AxxL what are you talking about mate
@@socialclub6216 you might see him again on another youtube video, just ignore him
Too bad it doesn't cure depression haha
People love Elon because he is himself. He is awkward and embraces it. He doesn't try to put on a fake charismatic personality
Something strange about him
He's really not even that awkward. They make him look far more awkward than he is by cutting a few second clips out of hours of time and stacking them together. If you actually watched any of those interviews in full, his awkward level would be more like a 3, whereas the "cringe compilation" makes it seem like he's a 10. Sure, he's not as smooth as Jobs, or Russell Brand, but he's okay....
So is Zuck. Nobody likes him
Doesnt work for anyone
**cough** Zuckerburg **cough**
Turn awkwardness into charisma:
1)Eloborate the question
2)Make consistent eye contact while talking.
3)Crack an understandable joke.
4)Embrace the silence in awkward situations.
5)Warm up yourself before the interaction and it will be much smoother.
6)Fully Commit. This is key when telling stories,playing a character or dancing.
We still need a charisma breakdown of Captain Jack Sparrow.
Johnny Depp
Charisma University likely can’t get Disney’s permission to use some clips from Pirates of the Caribbean.
He did a lot of avenger characters
Ohh yea
@@supersmoo7377 Lol he doesn't need their "permission" to use some clips from the films. It's under so-called "fair use"; just like with all the other different clips that uses, all of the time, from other movies and shows in videos. Of course he could do that if he wanted to, and hey - maybe he will at some point. Who knows
Severe social anxiety: *allow me to introduce myself*
I felt that.
Yeah but people who don't have it won't care cause' they're fine.
Ree lucky bastards
Felt this to another level
In the Rogan interview, he's looking down because he's remembering a really hard year. It looks like he's still emotionally processing it. People don't have to make eye contact all the time they are talking, it's only human to sometimes withdraw into yourself when considering emotional subjects.
Agreed!
Yes, I agree. I interpreted him as going deep into emotons and memories. I felt he was being, or concidering being, very personal with Joe.
I am a robot. Overload. overload overload overload over-
He's on the spectrum. We avoid eye contact because, (for reasons we don't really understand ourselves), it just feels really uncomfortable.
Elon is less of a robot than Zuckerberg, bc he's such a meme
@MNI Andes yep, they're two types of memes, one is kinda wholesome and the other reeks of chaotic evil.
these people are just a type of introverts (INTJs) and I can relate to them as I am of the same personality. We didn't have any friends in schools and what we had for our 90% of ur lives is sitting in front of a PC, or thinking alone, or maybe reading a book, so that introversion makes the people of these personality a little wierd.
@@AsasinoManik If you didn't have any friends, it's either you or them. You can be an extrovert rejected by peers thus growing up awfully damaged.
elon:
well, i've been bullied, but hey, look what i have now, lets enjoy this WHILE I SAVE HUMANITY ON THEIR WAY TO INTERSTELLAR TRAVELLING
mark:
well i'm intelligent as hell and i like computers, HOW CAN I MAKE THE WHOLE PLANET THANK ME AND SELL MILLIONS AND MILLIONS OF PEOPLES PRIVACY AND PRIVATE PARTS TO THE GOVERNMENT?
elon's on his ownmade chris nolan LSD trip of a life.
mark is just a very greedy guy with psychopathic traits.
@MNI Andes
I think Zuck has some potential to improve if he tried harder.
“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
― Dale Carnegie
Stop
Wrong again
Even me who have Diogenes as my pic am not as scenic as you
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
― Dale Carnegie
Stop quoting fuckin dale carnegie in the comments
This statement is true though.
@@RachelASmith1990 not in every case 😁
@@RachelASmith1990 The first half is true. The second is overly pessimistic.
This statement is wrong
Elon just doesn’t care, that’s the key. Own it.
If he didn't care, he would appear more comfortable and less socially awkward. He cares, he just lacks social confidence and the communication tools to control the situation. He's probably better in a small setting or one on one.
Nope thats not it
I've seen your comments on Jocko Podcast!
I actually don’t mind his awkwardness. He is so intelligent and has done so much good for humanity that his awkwardness just makes him cooler somehow.
I agree that his awkwardness isn't a drawback but I don't know about the good for humanity part chief
What good for humanity, sorry?
@@islabee94 Thousands of jobs, cleaner transportation, and a great vision that we can unify under (Mars)
Agree. I much rather a sincere genius because it makes his every word have weight
@@user-wv3ee2ec4v are you forgetting his slaves? And also his hard on for busting unions.
Elon musk seems like he'd be a terrible public speaker give his stutter and other factors but he is quite interesting and entertaining
Yeah because he has that "F*** you" money as like the 5th richest person on the planet.
@@xMckingwill no its just cause hes a bit awkward at public speaking lol. Hes always been like this.
@@samkarman6717 no i meant that it doesnt matter that he is awkward because he is so wealthy.
@Tejin that's an awesome quote and now im going to make it my life philosophy
You guys are forgetting, he is a Stuttering BILLIONAIRE and we are not
This is Just my opinion. People admire his competence, intelligence, and the fact that he is a self-built engineer turned businessman who has"F- You money" and can do what he deems to be worth his time. So his character alone... wouldn't be as charming without knowing his history, that's not to say that he lacks charm. But it simply wouldn't be the same without his competence,
Khalse Fan What base? He was raised in a fairly wealthy family, but in the real world he started with basically nothing. He’s as self made as Steve Jobs and Bill Gates ffs.
@@levihuerta9393 you just said it. Raised by a wealthy family. That's not nothing, that means no stressing about money and trivial things, probably learned how to grow wealth from his parents, and connections in high places.
Michael M He’s the Chief engineer of SpaceX...
Am I missing something here because I have a feeling you’re trying to trivialize what this dude has accomplished...
@@levihuerta9393 Chief engineer is a title he gave himself. When you're the boss you can put whatever you want on your business cards.
Totally agree
I love how the picture in the background changes periodically
Thank you! Someone else noticed
I scrolled down for this
He is autistic, so the eye contact, stuttering, fidgeting etc and then becoming comfortable when discussing his interest is completely understandable. I am also on the spectrum, your videos are very helpful :)
yeah exactly he acts that way because he’s autistic
I pray who ever reads this becomes successful in life
Bruh
Me too. I just read it.
aww I really wanted to put a like, but I'm respectful enough to not break the mighty "69" number.
Fishing for likes aren't ya
@@ztrike4402 for that comment you get the like
I think Elon's awkwardness is a genuine and loveable part of his persona. I loved the Joe Rogan interview when he was that somber reflective person, it was as if he was showcasing his inner thought process. Apart from that, I feel like Elon has these slow start ups because when someone says something like "can you talk about ai?" his brain immediately floods with 1 million things about the topic and he needs to straighten out that flow of thought.
I have Aspergers and I’ve always wished a cool nerotypical person could talk about this stuff and this really helps me understand. That said, I’d love to eventually see some videos where you could elaborate more on why neurotypicals behave with certain social rules. For example, eye contact = good but why? Sometimes there’s an answer and sometimes there’s not but I always appreciate whatever info you have to offer.
A lot of the behaviours of neurotypical people are picked up from their families and peers throughout their childhood and adolescent years. This type of learning is most apparent, ironically, in neurotypical kids who don't get the normal levels of social interactions with their family and peers. It results in their social anxiety as a result of missing the boat in terms of developing those skills and therefore not being able to naturally interact with those around them when they reach adulthood.
As a person with Asperger's, your brain processes information differently to a neurotypical person which can hamper your ability to learn from others. Its a common trait for those with autism to fixate on certain topics, so it maybe that you fixate on the words spoken in a conversation and miss the body language used by others or inflections in the spoken words themselves.
I hope you aren't worried to much as, ultimately, a channel like this is only as successful as it is because lots of normal people also have lots to improve upon when it comes to social interaction.
I totally don't get the eye contact thing like, why do you want to stare into my soul, let's look at those plants they look nice😂
I know what you mean, there aren't enough explanations out there but for the eye contact thing at least I can make some guesses: facial expressions make up much of a person's body language so eye contact tells the other person "I'm listening to you(r face)". Basically it shows them you are interested.
I'm not very good at eye contact personally because 90% of people I talk to I'm not really interested in and I do a poor job at hiding that lol
I have aspergers aswell and I can give you a trick for the eye contact. Whenever you have to think, or are focused, you probably don't maintain eye contact as it gives you too much information to process. In those instances, just ignore the other person and don't worry about eye contact.
Then when it is the other persons "turn" and you listen: then make eye contact. Try to only focus on what they are saying and the sound it has. Try not to think ahead about what they say, but instead give your full attention. And give people the time to fully finish their part. If you make eye contact during this, it works and it is easier to do.
Ugh noticed my reply was really messy.
When you talk/think: don't worry about eye contact.
When they talk: give full attention and don't think ahead. You'll start looking at their faces automatically.
Since I’ve started watching this channel 2 years ago, I’ve really taken the advice of listening to music to put myself in a positive mindset before going to events. I sing, dance, and let myself laugh that way I come off as more charismatic when I go to work or class!
How to Go From Awkward To Charming: *BE A BILLIONAIRE :D*
doesnt seem to work for zuckerberg and trump
Have a great marketing team: I can't believe all of the people in the comments lusting after him. He's not charismatic at all.
@@izs6946 Trump is SUPER charismatic, maybe not likable, but charismatic
@@Aaron-kj8dv by
Wrong. The answer is do fun things, innovate and push the bar higher
I think this point was highlighted for just a second...Anytime you can point out the negative of your own argument or the situation (not their argument), the person your talking to either relaxes or becomes more agreeable
I think it also plays down to him talking about something he is passionate and deeply involved in versus talking chit chat at a random conference or interview. I find that when I talk about things that interest me or that I have a passion for I glow up and become much more confident as well
For an introvert professional it is hard to start speak about themes without sounding arrogant. Especially in front of a big group.
Being too smart in a tech field is hell when it comes to explaining those in front of ppl who not even understand basic lingo. It is just super awkward. Everything I say in these situations sounds harsh. But I also teach and my students get me, because they have interest and they ask without judgment.
Ali Aba and Tesla are two different world created by two different genius.
Yea you gotta work on yourself bro, because even this statement you’ve made comes off as arrogant.
@@yungchildsupport4445 okay bro. We all need to work on it.
I really like that you don't use jump cuts in your editing process, and instead when you make mistakes in talking, you let it happen naturally, then get back to the original point. Great job Charlie !
I love that you bring up the warmup in the car on the way to work/interviews/etc. I do this every morning! Sometimes it’s with music, sometimes it’s with these videos 👍
I love the impractical jokers clips for embarrassment.
I wish I can stop being awkward and despite how helpful this video is its too late like i need to start a new life with new ppl
I myself am on a journey of finding and analysing such character traits of people. I find your videos so interesting. Thank you for the valuable info and analysis.
I also go through awkward moments when I talk to people and I use the 3rd technique a lot.
Thank you so much again.
These videos are actually super funny and super insightful. Great content
Thank you guys, this was a grand video. I am really enjoying the content, the funky way of charisma ;)! The bigger message of the video speaks to me
Made my day to see Impractical Jokers clips in this! Also, I've mentioned it before but it bears repeating - please do a charisma video on Joe Gatto from IJ!! He's such a perfect example to use for confidence, humour and tenacity.
Additionally, so is Bryan Cranston :)
When you spkoke on elon needing to get warmed up i found that relatable. I guess its comes from me being an observer and just feeling out energies
I seriously love this guy such a good RUclipsr.
Charisma on command: “how to take a crap but still be charismatic”
I like the frame in the back that keeps changing pics 😄
4:00 ELON'S FACE IN THE BACKROUND 🤣🤣 it will give me nightmares 😂
I think its great that Elons socially awkward, makes me feel not so bad about myself when the richest man in the world is the same as me just way more successful
Nice videos. Thanks Charlie and Ben I've learnt some cool stuff from this channel.
You’re so cool. You remind me of my German teacher. I know he taught sociology too I bet he knew a lot of the tips on this channel. Thank you again for your videos
I think the visibility if his flaws make him more likable. Even though he stutters, he's fun to listen to.
Thanks Charlie great channel
Will you analyse the presidential debates? I am so excited! Please do one video on each! I need a deep analysis! 🥰
I love charisma on command! They inspired my sci-fi/futurist channel!!
I love how the hilarious illustrations of Elon behind the host keep changing as he speaks. 😆
Approved as helpful and entertaining. Pure quality man keep it up 👏
Agreed No Ge, glad you enjoyed this video - it's really informative!
To me watching Elon grow has been amazing. He is so comfy on stage now. I sound horrendous when I speak. His voice calms me down.
The picture at your back got me more than anything else*
The picture in the back cracks me up 3:57
Can you do a video that features King Alfred from "The Last Kingdom"? That character has an amazing screen presence and oozes charisma / conviction.
Thanks again Charlie!
Love the picture behind you keeps changing
RUclips put this in my recommended for no reason and I feel called out.
He stated about the Joe Rogan show. He was overwhelmed and tired of work. Stressed with work and it was difficult for him to be focused.
I'm a simple man, i see impractical jokers i give a like
A simple man indeed Isgarn!
Seeing another South African on your channel 😁😁😁 Love from Cape Town
I was at a brain regan show and the mic went out and he started cracking jokes at the top of his lungs so that everyone could hear him. It was one of the funniest things I’ve ever seen a true professional
*“You obviously want to try to make a little more consistent eye contact, when you’re communicating with people. And give some energy... He’s not doing either of those things here.”*
Well maybe he has no energy to give bro. Lol
I mean look at em... The poor guy looks like he’s upset and exhausted. Lol
i have a question. how charismatic person would react on someone telling them they’re in love with them? and how to react when you don’t like person back but would like to answer respectively and stay friends or end up at the good note?
I respect the clips of impractical jokers. Great source of awkward moments!
hey this was great! but can we get one specifically for zoom/voice only meetings where no one can use body language or eye contact anymore? i always come off like either awkward or jerkish online :(
Those are some awesome dad moves...love it
You should do a charisma breakdown on videogamedunkey, one of the most uniquely charismatic people I've ever heard of
awesome video!
i'm the most socially awkward person i've ever met, so being anything close to the opposite would be too much of a challenge i think, but i'll try and keep these suggestions in mind for the future. not the dancing or playing a character though lol, i can't dance or act to save my life lol
A video on groups, that would be phenomenal.
3:56 that picture behind you lmao😂
Man I wish you cited Howard Stark presenting the Hover Car In Captain America
in a cross reference to Elon and the Car. Its virtually the same scene
I'm a CU student! I love it! It's been AMAZING at helping me connect more authentically with people!
With quarantine, a lot of us are having to make an impression in large zoom sessions that aren't very personal. Could you talk a bit about how to make an impression over something like zoom without dominating the conversation too much?
Good one! Please do Charlie
You should Do more charisma analyses on the debates
*I'm really appreciating the Impractical Jokers clips.*
Believing in yourself is not for you; it's for every person who has touched your life in a significant way and for every person your life will touch the same way five minutes from now, or five centuries from now."
I think elon musk is pretty good at communication ,its just that there is a signal delay between him and this ailen planet , a good quality antenna should get the job done
Good job guys
Fantastic content 👍
7:11 "this is fire" killed me
0:58 - 1:10 notice how the painting changes
When you are a billionaire your awkwardness and weirdness is also taken positively and charming.
Decide who you want to be and act as if...life is a game PLAY YOUR ROLE🤘🔥🤘🔥BEST MINDSET FROM ANOTHER MANS CHANNEL
plot twist: Elon has been studying Charlies videos for the last 4 years
Elon is just a bit awkward because his aspergurs. He's constantly thinking on another level. He calculates just about every thought and how he's going to answer a question.
Hi, can you please do a video on Tekashi 69 and how to be charming when people want to hate you (something like that ). His interviews are very interesting.
People on the spectrum act differently with different people. Some people I can be the life and soul of the party and others can't even be near them, let alone look at them
Yo, the pictures hanging on the wall behind Charlie periodically change 😂
Finally...
Charisma on Command
Wim Hof breathing is a good way to get amped up.
Those pictures in the back had me dead
Please do a breakdown of Matthew Mconaughey 💯
I can't believe the cybertruck thing was a year ago
How about a video on warm up techniques. I have a couple of teenagers heading out for their first job interviews. 😉
That's a fantastic idea Andi, thanks for suggesting this!
Elon Musk is a genius. He thinks so fast, broad, and deep for simple-minded people to understand.
1:47 I found that interview sincere and therefore engaging. It had contents and not all form. I felt like I got to see behind a public figure's persona, and into their private struggles. Granted, Musk was stylizing the "Tortured Genius" role, but still... It's one of the Rogan interviews I've enjoyed the most. I'm very surprised CoC would use it as an example of low charisma.
Perhaps I have a different perspective as a European. I love America, but you have a taste for a fast pace and showmanship that many other countries think takes away from sincerity and depth. You also worship extroversion, and I think that comes into play in how CoC views this interview. Musk is perhaps a little introverted. He's introspective and sharing his thoughts and feelings. America isn't really _about_ _that,_ as you say.
Is it possible some people just deeply think before they respond? It reminds me of an old Bob Dylan interview from around 1967 where the reporters are asking him questions and he’s not responding for several seconds after each question and you can tell the reporters are uncomfortable and theyre laughing but you can tell he’s in deep thought
sorry off topic but I always think about how charlie (with good acting skills ofc) would make a great joker, or pennywise, or some sort of whimsical character in a tim burton film because of his smile. Like that kind of feature can't just be trained on an actor... tim curry has a really unique smile, so did bill skarsgard. No one cares I just had to put this out there
Fun off topic comment to think about A N, thanks for sharing with us, keep being awesome.
Really love Elon. You should do one of these on Joe from Impractical Jokers. Charismatic AF
It would be great to see a video breaking down Neal Caffrey from White Collar
YEEEEESSSSS 😁😁😁
3:57 the picture in the back right changes?🤔
I have a question for you. Have you ever studied sociology, psychology, or anything similar formally? Or do you just naturally make observations about people's charisma and social habits without any formal training? I'm super curious.
Elon is amazing, it is a lot harder for him to act charismatically or how people expect. He has Asperger's, it is really inspiring to me that he has done so well in the spotlight.
I like the photo in the background with elon 😂