Pretty girls don't have girlfriends either. We intimidate everyone. I just met my coworkers for the first time in person since the pandemic. I can tell that expression from the women. It's hard to describe their body language, but I'm aware when I notice it. It's like they're "displeased" to see that I'm attractive.
💯 Being even just cute can create enemies for no reason at all. I was told by one friend how to dress for a movie because she said I dress too attractive and that made her feel uncomfortable. Wow.
IF THIS AIN'T THE TRUEST THING! it's hard to find a true sister these days because they're either secretly jealous of you and actually want to see you fall. It's crazy.
Omg this is so relatable, i had a lot of toxic girlfriends in the past, while i thought they were my "besties", they saw me as competition, so they tried to put me down, make me look bad in front of ppl so they can make themselves look better and stand out
Lol this is the problem with society. A lot of men believe women should always be smiling like alien non-humans. No, PEOPLE don’t just walk around constantly smiling haha.
I’m an attractive 20 year old woman/girl (I feel like an exact mix between 15 and 100). I think it’s safe to say things definitely won’t get better from here haha.
cuz ur not. lol jk. it could be the body language factor. are u open? or closed. i remeber a story i read about an attractive women who would have to be on her phone or pretend to be because she would constantly get approached in public. but it was only after untill she realised she was giving off signs of availablity. even a less attractive girl can have more suitors because she knows how to smile, how to have open body language that's attractive to men so they will shoot a shot. a girl can be a beauty but if she has a RBF OR walks with her hands folded. it's to risky.
Thank your fellow women who have taught guys that frequent responses from a woman they are trying to approach are: being called "a creep", mockery or other cruelty, and even a formal complaint that the man was "harassing" her. Granted, a percentage (very small) of men are creeps and do harass. But punishing all men for it has led to the situation you are experiencing: men have learned the hard way that approaching a woman is dangerous. Anyway, approaching, or being approached by, strangers is not a good way to look for a life partner. Some serious matchmaking and vetting is in order. Watch Lauren Chen's video "Don't waste your time".
Women don't complain that they don't get approached, they complain that the certain type of guys or the only type of guys they like don't approach them
I get really uncomfortable when guys stare at me. Like they make me feel like I’m doing something wrong or I have something in my hair or teeth. But I guess I don’t.
see thats the issue with girls they always feel like they get stared at for the wrong reasons, when in reality your just cute and guys cant help but stare at you. You just gotta learn to take a compliment if someone is staring at you doesnt mean hes creepy it probably just means he thinks your pretty
Fr I’m at school, at the mall, or theme park and it’s not just guys string at me but it’s girls as well. I feel like I’m doing some wrong or I don’t look good and that’s why people are starring. People never talk to me or approach me. But I’ve been told all my life that I was beautiful, but sometimes I just don’t believe it.
Javier Sanabria listen....... you don’t need a girl to make you happy !!! Have a relationship with God. He’ll lead you to the right path. At the end of the day..... God isn’t the one that’s labeling people (based on their looks)..... it’s US (humans) that are labeling eachother (based on our looks). Love yourself !!!!! You were born with a purpose...... when I’ve read your comment...... I was literally crying because no one deserves to get treated that way. You are the way you are !!!!! God loves you for the way you are !!!! Shine as your true self !!!!!!! You’re great just the way you are. You don’t have to change a thing about yourself!!!!! Don’t change for anyone !! Not even for a girl.
I guess I get it now in the past I never understood this, all I got was stared at by men like they were deer caught in headlights lol but thankfully I'm married now so it's no longer a care of mine, even with my husband we were teamed up on a fun mission together on a cruise ship and just mutually clicked but if that had not of happened he admitted he would have been a lil intimidated to approach me... Thank God He set it up because I have a awesome hubby!
It is not so much that we are afraid of getting rejected in front of many people, It is that in general people are more reluctant to talk to a person who is with other people. Especially in a situation where it is going to be a private conversation. You see this everywhere even in the workplace.
that goes double for guys, if i see a cool guy with a group of friends i automatically get intimidated... even though i know hes just trying to boost his confidence, to me i feel like i cant enter his clique...
I kinda know why in my nearly 18 years of life I never got approached but I'm still here lol Few reasons for it 1) I have rbf on most of the time or show I'm uninterested (see it's natural or few times I intentionally act that way cause there are so many creeps and f boys who want to just use us so I've to act like I'm hard to get or I'm uninterested in this kind of shit, while this works keeping such creeps away it has it's own downfall too like that's why good guys can also get intimidated and won't approach🙃) 2) I fear relationship (Yes my surrounding plays important role here also it seems complicated, full of responsibilities and big risks) 3) I Have pretty high/good standards (I find my standard guys only in fictional characters😂) 4) I have strict parents so ig they are enough reasons for being single or not trying on my side But still why I sometimes complain more like wonder guys not approaching me is cause I like attention of good guys but want to be single for above mentioned reasons but I'll never put effort on getting attention so you can't call it toxic clearly.
I get some guys looking at me, but they don't talk to me. I just think they don't think I'm pretty enough. I do look younger than being 35, so maybe they don't like me. Makes me sad! 😭💔
Valerie Pinson Girl... You're gorgeous they're prob just intimidated. I always dress nice and attractive at same time n have a bitchy face.. I still think if I smiled they prob still wouldn't talk to me lol. I get approached every once in awhile though.
I never get approached. The guy who crushed on me never approached me and now we have tention between as. The relationship is ended before we even started.
Thank you so much for this video. For me personally, I'm usually out with my dad and/or my brother, so maybe that's a big part of it. I don't know though. It definitely gets discouraging though (that guys don't actually approach me but sometimes I see or feel looks). I keep just hoping it'll turn around one day. Even if it doesn't though, I just work to be okay with basically feeling nearly invisible to guys. ♥️ I've been told I can come off as stuck up or formidable which is crazy, because it's definitely not who I am. ♥️ You have to give a people a chance to actually get to know them and it would be nice if the right guy for me (if he even exists and one day possesses a real interest in me), would do that. ♥️😃 A girl can hope or at least try to hope, but that hope is fleeting. ♥️
It’s just too risky, i see lots of good looking young men. And lots of good looking young women. But young men already researched and know not to be a simp. It’s tough out there. Young women gotta step up now.
So basically I have to walk by myself and smile at everyone so they know I’m hot but also nice and they will feel safe talking to me? But wait, what about my safety? I don’t know if it is because I grow up in a pretty unsafe country or what but I don’t feel comfortable just putting myself at risk, like, maybe if I loose up to much this men will take advantage of me…nvm I’m going to therapy I just realised I have issues. Thank you, super enlightening video, everything makes sense now.
For me everyone from guys to ladies tell me am very pretty, each day I get complimented on my smile, my eyes my kindness, how warm I am but no man approaches me am short though maybe that's why🙄
Lol this cute guy told my mom i was pretty and asked my mom how old i was and she told him and and he said well its only a two year different and it was a party so someone smashed a cupcake in his hair so i helped him clean it off in the lake and yess we had bathing suits on
Im just so confused becuase many people have said that im pretty but i dont really think so, im always friendly. No guys ever approach me and i even get taunted or made fun of/not included in things at my school by guys, and i never understood why.
It’s kind of a lose lose when you think about it 😅 Can’t get approached when unattractive or attractive. I’ve never been approached by a girl and it makes me wonder why.
Bro most guys dont approach anyway. they are too scared. if i tell a guy right now to go approach a girl in the coffee shop i promise you he will easily come up with an excuse and run away. Even if he does ( which is very rare) he will be nervous as heck and get rejected by the girl. than the girl would file for sexual harassment and call him creepy. So yea most guys will never do it including myself. lol
😂😂😂😂 story of my life apparently most guys are intimidated to talk to me until they see me smiling then there more likely to smile or talk to me etc this is true 😂😂😂😂
This happens to me all the time and it actually started to make me have low self esteem because I was like dang....why they always stare at me but they never approach me like I'm single and very down to earth 😂 but I don't smile alot 😬
I just knew this video would be about why it's the woman's fault. It's always the woman's fault that the guy as no guts to approach. Why am I not surprised?
I’ve had people say I’m pretty (not counting my parents) because they’re biased. but yeah never approached not ever I don’t smile but I do have open body language
interesting study i read was that men are more attracted to women who exhibit signs of being avaliable rather than a 10/10 which of course we all are attracted to . BUT if a girl is let's say a 5/6 add some makeup , a flirtatious smile and charming personality vs the 10/10 with a resting bitch face...who do you think is going to get approached?
I'm average looking and there have been men who approached me (much to my surprise) and sometimes men walk right past me. It's all good in the 'hood because at the end of the day, I just keep it moving.
I’m tired of this. I’m 21 and never had a boyfriend. I get complimented a lot, I know I’m attractive. But the guys I like do not approach me, and the ones I keep ignoring always approach me. I don’t know if I’m wrong about myself, if I should lower my standards (I won’t), or if it’s my personality. I think I’m a fun person, I work on trying to be nice and approachable, have open body language but still be a little mysterious (that’s my personality too I’m a little shy). I don’t know what to do, to the point that I’m watching this kind of videos and questioning if I’m doing something wrong. Guess I’ll just keep going with my life and see what happens, just needed to vent a little. If you’ve read all through here thanks ig haha
Don't worry too much about it. I'm 10 years older than you but I got my first boyfriend at 20 or 21. He was an idiot lol. Just keep working on yourself, keeping your hobbies and keep smiling. I need to take my own advice because guys don't approach me either 😂
New Subbie right now June 19, 2018. But, men like pretty girls, and if he isn't willing to approach her for fear of being shot down, this is the epitome of a man or men with security issues, or low self esteem. Soooooo, why would any pretty or not so attractive woman desire a man with no self confidence approaching her in the first place? Of men are too insecure to approach pretty girls, this is their problem; not the pretty girls' problem(s). These type of brothers need to grow up.
@Henning Malland oh hush. Quit whining and justifying your shortcomings. Feminism, regardless of how anyone may feel about it, is a reaction to male-dominated society (patriarchy) and toxic masculinity which negatively affects everyone in society. Real men know that there's a balance and how to balance their various positions in society and other interactions. So stop whining, cause it only gives feminism more power and credibility, you dweeb. Men claim they're the logical sex but all I see is a bunch of emotions you don't know how to manage.
Guys have learned two things: that the odds are in favor of rejection (or perhaps even a cruel response), and that if a girl wants to get with a guy *she will find a way to let him know*. So, unless you (the woman) make it known that you want to be approached, a smart guy serious about a relationship will not approach. The guy who does approach you will be a player trying to pick you up or a naive romantic.
I've started doing this. So far it isn't working lol I had just got on the treadmill at the gym. I was trying to get my music set up. I pushed the start button and it didn't come on. A guy came up on the treadmill next to me. Before I hopped off, I asked if he could help me. He got it working (the button was really hard to push). I smiled , said thank you, and left one earbud out.
@@07ikkin I'll tell you why it doesn't work. Your subtle signals have been distorted by other women. Many women do what you are describing--dropping "subtle hints"--only to reject the guy's advances and to mock him if he does approach. You can thank your co-genderists (or is it co-genderettes?) for corrupting all subtle signals that ever existed. Some women even approach the guy themselves, and then later ghost him or, worse, abuse him. You can send a separate Thank You card to them. So, you've got an uphill battle ahead of you: overcome all the crap that your fellow women have laid on the men. Good luck.
People say that Im gorgeous pretty cute beautiful behind my back or as they walk pass me but don't actually approach me or ask me number or something lol. Idk maybe Im too shy and often walk away so fast 😂
Watching this because apparently at work my co-worker/friend overheard some guys saying that I’m pretty, but none of them approach me or talk to me. Ehh I’m not mad
I wish guys can just be fearless and tell me when they like me I doubt there’s been anyone who’s liked me but BRUH I never stop thinking about if someone has liked me while I’ve liked them
I found this video so randomly lmao, then was like "Oh it's short, let's see" I think I'm gorgeous, people tell me so, and I smile and keep my posture good, I never get approached still. If it's intimidation of some kind, I swear to god, I just want love lol.
Then he isn't really interested trust it's good to keep far from those kinda guys only want to sleep with you..if someone really likes you they'll make the effort don't just be out here smiling like your a clown that isn't always the key..
Hot Women are gorgeous, but many are very mean in terms of attitude. They will come around in being nice once they are 74 years of age. LOL. May 2023 USA.
if they stare they think your pretty but most guys wont approach nowadays because of the fact that we can be put in jail for even talking to a girl if she doesnt like us
@@deeppatel7496 I know like I want to approach people too you know and guys basically don’t want to get into any trouble. You know how one fish destroys the whole pond. Not all guys are bad, a lot of them are actually good people but even they get the bad reputation because of that small bunch. Generalisation is the worst ...❤️❤️❤️
I am dealing with this I am very beautiful and not getting approach! I am always alone never on my phone! I am very friendly I smile and says hi to everyone not sure why I don’t get approach!
I smile all the time and give eye contact I guess some aren't use to a smile so they just look and still don't approach. Some also assume I have a man already or I have to be married. Those men that think that usually are the ones that are drunks or crackheads at the gas station or not a prospect Im interested in. I believe that most of the decent men are already married or in a relationship.
When I was a teenager (like 12 - 14 years old), a few guys said that I was ugly. I wasn't picked out for being attractive. But as I grew older, I gained a lot of confidence and I started to get lots of attention, credit and compliments, until this day and I'm a grown-up woman now. It's all about confidence honey...don't let other guys tell you otherwise! 🍀 Most of the guys who are telling women that they are ugly, are ugly themselves.
I was told guys are afraid of me cause I'm a strong and independent woman. I'm friendly and funny. What am I to do been single for 6 yrs never been asked on a date since my husband's passing. I kinda had to be strong and independent I had no choice. Then went thru cancer on top of all that.
Louise Jackson I feel for you still. I myself am told my friends and family (the occasional strangers) that I am pretty yet I know i am fun and outgoing (evident from the laughs my fam & friends have with me) yet in social situations (particularly in work) know one wants to associate with me (but I have no clue why). Situations like these can be a confidence knocker (or shall I say beater) where people like us are left to feel alone and have to rely on our own devices. I know this is true because when I was younger (teen/young adult with extremely low confidence) I had the world of friends yet now because I have lost weight, learnt how to do makeup to suit me & believe in myself (#fixedmyselfup but not in a self righteous kinda way) they no longer want 2 know or chill with me anymore. My attitude has never changed (worsened over time) only improved (#goodvibes only) yet I have and still being isolated by what it seems everyone around me. Stay strong anyways...#youarestrong look at what you have overcome. I'm sure you will one day find yourself surrounded by like minded people like yourself who will appreciate then love you for the real you. Never change #knowyourworth and just remember nor everyone is a #naturaldiamond (evolved over time) most are #manufactured by #instafilters & #macmakeup (that they really can't afford) in other words a #CZ. I'd rather be a nature diamond shiny brightly pure and alone than be a replica a #clone found everywhere you look and go.
not saying I'm good looking but I guess I look somewhat foreign bc I'm dominantly Chinese but I do any certain European traits such as a crooked high nose thicker lips but then no one even notices me I also have a slight boyish attitude / fashion sense but can get very girly...I know I'm not as feminine but that's just me...lmao
I came here thinking this was for guys but it's still useful advice for the women and even the men. I guess this can apply to men too coz attractiveness can intimate people of both genders so I will try to smile more and be more open. I mean I do have some confidence from going to the gym but I guess coz I live a low status life and I'm young with no sense of purpose in the eyes of many around me (me doing RUclips doesnt sound good enough for them) I do feel down a lot and honestly my mindset of people has been skewed by social media and dating apps to the point that I have some hatred for people and often dont realise that not all people are bad and that I may look grumpy too often when I am in public. I'll do my best this year to look more friendly 😁
"deep eyed medusa to those who dare to love to stare into deep eyes stay forever divine medusa love struck statues frozen in time" -lekalina mean freeze when they see something beautiful.
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the audacity of me to even click on this video is surreal
Lmaoooooooo same
Lol. Me too. U just said what i was thinking
lmfaooo forreal
😂😂😂 .i know
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Pretty girls don't have girlfriends either. We intimidate everyone. I just met my coworkers for the first time in person since the pandemic. I can tell that expression from the women. It's hard to describe their body language, but I'm aware when I notice it. It's like they're "displeased" to see that I'm attractive.
💯
Being even just cute can create enemies for no reason at all.
I was told by one friend how to dress for a movie because she said I dress too attractive and that made her feel uncomfortable. Wow.
Lmfao. This is too real.
IF THIS AIN'T THE TRUEST THING! it's hard to find a true sister these days because they're either secretly jealous of you and actually want to see you fall. It's crazy.
@@bushra4906they they dont like you or youre not attractive? DUH
Omg this is so relatable, i had a lot of toxic girlfriends in the past, while i thought they were my "besties", they saw me as competition, so they tried to put me down, make me look bad in front of ppl so they can make themselves look better and stand out
I am pretty but I never really smile when I'm Out in public lol maybe that's why no guys approach me they just look at me lol
I wouldn't approach a girl who wouldn't smile. I'd think she wasn't in a good mood. No point in approaching someone when they're in a bad mood.
Lol this is the problem with society. A lot of men believe women should always be smiling like alien non-humans. No, PEOPLE don’t just walk around constantly smiling haha.
Onion Has Egg yolk tbh tho
Same lmao my smile is ugly
Do it only when your intentions are getting to know a man, not just to see how many guys approach you. If you like a guy smile at him.
I NEVER get approached
Purplegum ouch
same
When your a guy it’s natural you’ll get use to it after the 20th year won’t bother you anymore.
I’m an attractive 20 year old woman/girl (I feel like an exact mix between 15 and 100). I think it’s safe to say things definitely won’t get better from here haha.
Purplegum me too, except for online dating/messaging
and they say women are complicated
Lovorka B. Ikr
Yeah...!
They are. But smiling if you are interested in someone helps. We can't read your minds if you want us to approach or not.
They are you girls like to make drama
Lovorka B. They are
You're one of the best dating coaches on the net. Very clear and concise! Thank you!!
really, did date anyone since then
I just naturally walk fast lol but I do walk like I’m always in a hurry
just like meee
me too
I feel like I am cute but I hardly get approached or even complimented by guys. :/
Henning Malland wtf
cuz ur not.
lol jk. it could be the body language factor. are u open? or closed. i remeber a story i read about an attractive women who would have to be on her phone or pretend to be because she would constantly get approached in public. but it was only after untill she realised she was giving off signs of availablity. even a less attractive girl can have more suitors because she knows how to smile, how to have open body language that's attractive to men so they will shoot a shot. a girl can be a beauty but if she has a RBF OR walks with her hands folded. it's to risky.
Same here
Thank your fellow women who have taught guys that frequent responses from a woman they are trying to approach are: being called "a creep", mockery or other cruelty, and even a formal complaint that the man was "harassing" her. Granted, a percentage (very small) of men are creeps and do harass. But punishing all men for it has led to the situation you are experiencing: men have learned the hard way that approaching a woman is dangerous.
Anyway, approaching, or being approached by, strangers is not a good way to look for a life partner. Some serious matchmaking and vetting is in order. Watch Lauren Chen's video "Don't waste your time".
Women don't complain that they don't get approached, they complain that the certain type of guys or the only type of guys they like don't approach them
Exactly
Yep
They Want Physically Attractive Guy's
Couldn’t agree more
Facts
I get really uncomfortable when guys stare at me. Like they make me feel like I’m doing something wrong or I have something in my hair or teeth. But I guess I don’t.
its all in your head
see thats the issue with girls they always feel like they get stared at for the wrong reasons, when in reality your just cute and guys cant help but stare at you. You just gotta learn to take a compliment if someone is staring at you doesnt mean hes creepy it probably just means he thinks your pretty
@@deeppatel7496 it could be both ways, you never know 🤷♀️some times you could miss your blessings or dough a bullet
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Fr I’m at school, at the mall, or theme park and it’s not just guys string at me but it’s girls as well. I feel like I’m doing some wrong or I don’t look good and that’s why people are starring. People never talk to me or approach me. But I’ve been told all my life that I was beautiful, but sometimes I just don’t believe it.
I like how simple and crystal-clear you make each of your love/relationship concepts . . . and in far less than 90 seconds!!
I get the compliments and I get stared at by boys, but I never get approached.
are you anti-social or shy?
@@lazyrat6687I am 😢
i dont have friends and im always alone 😔 then yet no one approach me tf 😔😞
Lol! No friends, single and alone too 🤔 this sucks!
@@mts4428 a big suk life 😒
your a stranger stranger danger :D ha hah ha
+krogaan no friends means im smart enough haha lol, no bf 😞 then what i am?
good luck!
I can't be someone that i'm not.
Exactly if he aint want you there's nothing you or i can do to change that..
A woman once told me she was really surprised I was nice, she said she expected me to be a bi### because I was beautiful. So sad, though....
I don't approach Becuase the women I approach reject me horribly and lower my self esteem to the point I feel not worth a girls time or attention.
Javier Sanabria listen....... you don’t need a girl to make you happy !!! Have a relationship with God. He’ll lead you to the right path. At the end of the day..... God isn’t the one that’s labeling people (based on their looks)..... it’s US (humans) that are labeling eachother (based on our looks). Love yourself !!!!! You were born with a purpose...... when I’ve read your comment...... I was literally crying because no one deserves to get treated that way. You are the way you are !!!!! God loves you for the way you are !!!! Shine as your true self !!!!!!! You’re great just the way you are. You don’t have to change a thing about yourself!!!!! Don’t change for anyone !! Not even for a girl.
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Don't freeze
"I NEVER FREEZE"
... This is what my friends and I tell each other when we are going up to them cute girls
When I was in high school, this guy took me to my prom, to this day, I think he did it out of pity.
Lowkey answered my question
i don't think im ugly but i think because i look like a teenager, no one approches me..i really have a baby face lmao
I guess I get it now in the past I never understood this, all I got was stared at by men like they were deer caught in headlights lol but thankfully I'm married now so it's no longer a care of mine, even with my husband we were teamed up on a fun mission together on a cruise ship and just mutually clicked but if that had not of happened he admitted he would have been a lil intimidated to approach me... Thank God He set it up because I have a awesome hubby!
But you're not pretty
It is not so much that we are afraid of getting rejected in front of many people, It is that in general people are more reluctant to talk to a person who is with other people. Especially in a situation where it is going to be a private conversation. You see this everywhere even in the workplace.
that goes double for guys, if i see a cool guy with a group of friends i automatically get intimidated... even though i know hes just trying to boost his confidence, to me i feel like i cant enter his clique...
Now days you just can't do that it's all ways sexual harassment or something else that's why I don't date you just can't tell anymore.
I kinda know why in my nearly 18 years of life I never got approached but I'm still here lol
Few reasons for it
1) I have rbf on most of the time or show I'm uninterested (see it's natural or few times I intentionally act that way cause there are so many creeps and f boys who want to just use us so I've to act like I'm hard to get or I'm uninterested in this kind of shit, while this works keeping such creeps away it has it's own downfall too like that's why good guys can also get intimidated and won't approach🙃)
2) I fear relationship (Yes my surrounding plays important role here also it seems complicated, full of responsibilities and big risks)
3) I Have pretty high/good standards (I find my standard guys only in fictional characters😂)
4) I have strict parents
so ig they are enough reasons for being single or not trying on my side
But still why I sometimes complain more like wonder guys not approaching me is cause I like attention of good guys but want to be single for above mentioned reasons but I'll never put effort on getting attention so you can't call it toxic clearly.
I get some guys looking at me, but they don't talk to me. I just think they don't think I'm pretty enough. I do look younger than being 35, so maybe they don't like me. Makes me sad! 😭💔
Valerie Pinson Girl... You're gorgeous they're prob just intimidated. I always dress nice and attractive at same time n have a bitchy face.. I still think if I smiled they prob still wouldn't talk to me lol. I get approached every once in awhile though.
Men don't really approach anymore, it's from a bygone era.Its either social media, or getting acquainted through friends. Coming from a guy.
thats what you say right now. but if guys really approaches you, you will label him as a creep and run away. thats why we dont do it.
I never get approached.
The guy who crushed on me never approached me and now we have tention between as.
The relationship is ended before we even started.
there's an easy way to release that tension
i hesitate approaching pretty women because 99 times out of a 100, they are taken and not interested.
I go out by myself I have no friends
same lol
Too shy
In London… men don’t seem to ask women out… no matter what age. Online dating has ruined it.
Guys don’t approach me In person but I get hit on all the time online like guys sliding in my DMs. It’s frustrating :(
thats why your still single
Men have learnd certain things about women from their past experiences, that's another reason why they don't make the approach.
Thank you so much for this video. For me personally, I'm usually out with my dad and/or my brother, so maybe that's a big part of it. I don't know though. It definitely gets discouraging though (that guys don't actually approach me but sometimes I see or feel looks). I keep just hoping it'll turn around one day. Even if it doesn't though, I just work to be okay with basically feeling nearly invisible to guys. ♥️ I've been told I can come off as stuck up or formidable which is crazy, because it's definitely not who I am. ♥️ You have to give a people a chance to actually get to know them and it would be nice if the right guy for me (if he even exists and one day possesses a real interest in me), would do that. ♥️😃 A girl can hope or at least try to hope, but that hope is fleeting. ♥️
Thank you I never realized how unapproachable I am.
I hate that guys will only stare but never approach me. Even if I am trying to be friendly. And most of the guys that like me act awkward or shy lol
I’m always mean mugging...it’s a permanent fixture
It’s just too risky, i see lots of good looking young men. And lots of good looking young women. But young men already researched and know not to be a simp. It’s tough out there. Young women gotta step up now.
So basically I have to walk by myself and smile at everyone so they know I’m hot but also nice and they will feel safe talking to me? But wait, what about my safety? I don’t know if it is because I grow up in a pretty unsafe country or what but I don’t feel comfortable just putting myself at risk, like, maybe if I loose up to much this men will take advantage of me…nvm I’m going to therapy I just realised I have issues. Thank you, super enlightening video, everything makes sense now.
I know right. Lol. Be too accommodating and these men will use you
You do in fact have issues. It’s obvious.
Very true :)
u jus answered the question ive been trynna figure out
How to know if you are a pretty girl or ugly for a guys?
For me everyone from guys to ladies tell me am very pretty, each day I get complimented on my smile, my eyes my kindness, how warm I am but no man approaches me am short though maybe that's why🙄
We assume they have a boyfriend. So we don’t bother.
Never been really interested in any relationship advice but yours hit me like a freaking bombshell
How to smile without a reason??? People told me I look like a bully before they met me
Ps: I look creepy when I smile unnecessarily 😢
Lol this cute guy told my mom i was pretty and asked my mom how old i was and she told him and and he said well its only a two year different and it was a party so someone smashed a cupcake in his hair so i helped him clean it off in the lake and yess we had bathing suits on
hilarous
Plot twist: what if a guy approaches you along with his 5 other guy friends. Is that not intimidating for a “pretty girl”
j son It is for any girl
Just because you’re attractive doesn’t mean you’ll get approached there are lots of reasons guys won’t approach
Im just so confused becuase many people have said that im pretty but i dont really think so, im always friendly. No guys ever approach me and i even get taunted or made fun of/not included in things at my school by guys, and i never understood why.
I feel so sad hearing the fact that I’m pretty is an impediment. Being pretty makes it even worse ouch 😢
It’s kind of a lose lose when you think about it 😅 Can’t get approached when unattractive or attractive. I’ve never been approached by a girl and it makes me wonder why.
Bro most guys dont approach anyway. they are too scared. if i tell a guy right now to go approach a girl in the coffee shop i promise you he will easily come up with an excuse and run away. Even if he does ( which is very rare) he will be nervous as heck and get rejected by the girl. than the girl would file for sexual harassment and call him creepy. So yea most guys will never do it including myself. lol
😂😂😂😂 story of my life apparently most guys are intimidated to talk to me until they see me smiling then there more likely to smile or talk to me etc this is true 😂😂😂😂
This happens to me all the time and it actually started to make me have low self esteem because I was like dang....why they always stare at me but they never approach me like I'm single and very down to earth 😂 but I don't smile alot 😬
Being pretty is not the same as being sex appeal.
I just knew this video would be about why it's the woman's fault. It's always the woman's fault that the guy as no guts to approach. Why am I not surprised?
I’ve had people say I’m pretty (not counting my parents) because they’re biased. but yeah never approached not ever
I don’t smile but I do have open body language
interesting study i read was that men are more attracted to women who exhibit signs of being avaliable rather than a 10/10 which of course we all are attracted to . BUT if a girl is let's say a 5/6 add some makeup , a flirtatious smile and charming personality vs the 10/10 with a resting bitch face...who do you think is going to get approached?
I'm average looking and there have been men who approached me (much to my surprise) and sometimes men walk right past me. It's all good in the 'hood because at the end of the day, I just keep it moving.
I’m tired of this. I’m 21 and never had a boyfriend. I get complimented a lot, I know I’m attractive. But the guys I like do not approach me, and the ones I keep ignoring always approach me. I don’t know if I’m wrong about myself, if I should lower my standards (I won’t), or if it’s my personality. I think I’m a fun person, I work on trying to be nice and approachable, have open body language but still be a little mysterious (that’s my personality too I’m a little shy). I don’t know what to do, to the point that I’m watching this kind of videos and questioning if I’m doing something wrong. Guess I’ll just keep going with my life and see what happens, just needed to vent a little. If you’ve read all through here thanks ig haha
Don't worry too much about it. I'm 10 years older than you but I got my first boyfriend at 20 or 21. He was an idiot lol. Just keep working on yourself, keeping your hobbies and keep smiling. I need to take my own advice because guys don't approach me either 😂
New Subbie right now June 19, 2018. But, men like pretty girls, and if he isn't willing to approach her for fear of being shot down, this is the epitome of a man or men with security issues, or low self esteem. Soooooo, why would any pretty or not so attractive woman desire a man with no self confidence approaching her in the first place? Of men are too insecure to approach pretty girls, this is their problem; not the pretty girls' problem(s). These type of brothers need to grow up.
@Henning Malland oh hush. Quit whining and justifying your shortcomings. Feminism, regardless of how anyone may feel about it, is a reaction to male-dominated society (patriarchy) and toxic masculinity which negatively affects everyone in society. Real men know that there's a balance and how to balance their various positions in society and other interactions. So stop whining, cause it only gives feminism more power and credibility, you dweeb. Men claim they're the logical sex but all I see is a bunch of emotions you don't know how to manage.
@@kristenmoonrise you can lie to yourself all you want but it's still cancer 🤷🏻♂️
@@averagecitizen863 awesome!😎
Guys have learned two things: that the odds are in favor of rejection (or perhaps even a cruel response), and that if a girl wants to get with a guy *she will find a way to let him know*. So, unless you (the woman) make it known that you want to be approached, a smart guy serious about a relationship will not approach. The guy who does approach you will be a player trying to pick you up or a naive romantic.
I've started doing this.
So far it isn't working lol
I had just got on the treadmill at the gym. I was trying to get my music set up. I pushed the start button and it didn't come on.
A guy came up on the treadmill next to me. Before I hopped off, I asked if he could help me. He got it working (the button was really hard to push).
I smiled , said thank you, and left one earbud out.
@@07ikkin I'll tell you why it doesn't work.
Your subtle signals have been distorted by other women. Many women do what you are describing--dropping "subtle hints"--only to reject the guy's advances and to mock him if he does approach. You can thank your co-genderists (or is it co-genderettes?) for corrupting all subtle signals that ever existed.
Some women even approach the guy themselves, and then later ghost him or, worse, abuse him. You can send a separate Thank You card to them.
So, you've got an uphill battle ahead of you: overcome all the crap that your fellow women have laid on the men.
Good luck.
@@maslina10 well bummer lol
@@07ikkin Read "Men on strike," to learn what's going on and how to help fix it.
People say that Im gorgeous pretty cute beautiful behind my back or as they walk pass me but don't actually approach me or ask me number or something lol. Idk maybe Im too shy and often walk away so fast 😂
This was 4 years ago.. and you don't look old in your video 4 hours ago.
Watching this because apparently at work my co-worker/friend overheard some guys saying that I’m pretty, but none of them approach me or talk to me. Ehh I’m not mad
Thanks for the good advice, Isaac Hayes. Appreciate it!
Hey ! You explained it so well... thanks 😊
i get told i m pretty my name mercedes i get stare at a lot it like i just stay myself
I wish guys can just be fearless and tell me when they like me I doubt there’s been anyone who’s liked me but BRUH I never stop thinking about if someone has liked me while I’ve liked them
Why dont you approach. Females literally have a 99% success rate while men have a 10% success rate. It makes no sense
@@Metreh Can't do that. That would be "chasing". Men in the end don't value women who pursue them.
I always think it’s bc I’m not pretty enough
I found this video so randomly lmao, then was like "Oh it's short, let's see"
I think I'm gorgeous, people tell me so, and I smile and keep my posture good, I never get approached still. If it's intimidation of some kind, I swear to god, I just want love lol.
Io smile and I feel I am approachable..however they just stare...
And if you still smile at the guy, but he still seems intimidating, what to do? 🙃
Then he isn't really interested trust it's good to keep far from those kinda guys only want to sleep with you..if someone really likes you they'll make the effort don't just be out here smiling like your a clown that isn't always the key..
Hot Women are gorgeous, but many are very mean in terms of attitude. They will come around in being nice once they are 74 years of age. LOL. May 2023 USA.
This might be a dumb question but how do you know if your pretty...
They have
It has to come from within first.
dang i cant believe your blind girl.
I would love to be approached but every one stares and follow me but no one really loves me. Help me 😫.
if they stare they think your pretty but most guys wont approach nowadays because of the fact that we can be put in jail for even talking to a girl if she doesnt like us
@@deeppatel7496 I know like I want to approach people too you know and guys basically don’t want to get into any trouble. You know how one fish destroys the whole pond. Not all guys are bad, a lot of them are actually good people but even they get the bad reputation because of that small bunch. Generalisation is the worst ...❤️❤️❤️
Nor do I get approached well I hope my crush will approach me at the Christmas Party this year
Did he? And are you now married with kids with him?
How do i contact u privately
G Gal oooh 😯 (; lol
I am dealing with this I am very beautiful and not getting approach! I am always alone never on my phone! I am very friendly I smile and says hi to everyone not sure why I don’t get approach!
the one time I got approached the dude literally had psychopath vibes and again I’m okay with being left alone
That's whyyy... omg how did not I realise this after 16 years
Ahhhhhhh i'll try those advices ! ;) thank you :D
men do not care, and they only approach what ever that moves
I smile all the time and give eye contact I guess some aren't use to a smile so they just look and still don't approach.
Some also assume I have a man already or I have to be married.
Those men that think that usually are the ones that are drunks or crackheads at the gas station or not a prospect Im interested in.
I believe that most of the decent men are already married or in a relationship.
Dear guys. Stop working all the time. Go on an date
Thank you for bringing it into perspective.
But I feel like this as a girl.
Kawa Kreations how would a girl act if she's intimidated by a attractive guy
Lee Burchette she wouldn’t approach him?
Kawa Kreations exactly thats why you dont get approached bc you intimidate them bc youre beautiful just like youre intimidated by attractivd guys
K K any other signs other then she doesn't approach you?
I don't get approached but I don't think im pretty... I've been told I'm ugly by a lot of guys so I probably don't get approached because I'm ugly
When I was a teenager (like 12 - 14 years old), a few guys said that I was ugly. I wasn't picked out for being attractive. But as I grew older, I gained a lot of confidence and I started to get lots of attention, credit and compliments, until this day and I'm a grown-up woman now. It's all about confidence honey...don't let other guys tell you otherwise! 🍀
Most of the guys who are telling women that they are ugly, are ugly themselves.
Repent and Believe : Yes it is.
I was told guys are afraid of me cause I'm a strong and independent woman. I'm friendly and funny. What am I to do been single for 6 yrs never been asked on a date since my husband's passing. I kinda had to be strong and independent I had no choice. Then went thru cancer on top of all that.
Louise ?
Louise Jackson I feel for you still. I myself am told my friends and family (the occasional strangers) that I am pretty yet I know i am fun and outgoing (evident from the laughs my fam & friends have with me) yet in social situations (particularly in work) know one wants to associate with me (but I have no clue why). Situations like these can be a confidence knocker (or shall I say beater) where people like us are left to feel alone and have to rely on our own devices. I know this is true because when I was younger (teen/young adult with extremely low confidence) I had the world of friends yet now because I have lost weight, learnt how to do makeup to suit me & believe in myself (#fixedmyselfup but not in a self righteous kinda way) they no longer want 2 know or chill with me anymore. My attitude has never changed (worsened over time) only improved (#goodvibes only) yet I have and still being isolated by what it seems everyone around me. Stay strong anyways...#youarestrong look at what you have overcome. I'm sure you will one day find yourself surrounded by like minded people like yourself who will appreciate then love you for the real you. Never change #knowyourworth and just remember nor everyone is a #naturaldiamond (evolved over time) most are #manufactured by #instafilters & #macmakeup (that they really can't afford) in other words a #CZ. I'd rather be a nature diamond shiny brightly pure and alone than be a replica a #clone found everywhere you look and go.
I just saw an ad for widower dating. Try that 👍
Yeah,that's true
I don't know if I'm pretty but I smile all the time an I been single forever lol guess I'm not all that then
not saying I'm good looking but I guess I look somewhat foreign bc I'm dominantly Chinese but I do any certain European traits such as a crooked high nose thicker lips but then no one even notices me I also have a slight boyish attitude / fashion sense but can get very girly...I know I'm not as feminine but that's just me...lmao
Maybe they think you're not interested in a relationship
I came here thinking this was for guys but it's still useful advice for the women and even the men. I guess this can apply to men too coz attractiveness can intimate people of both genders so I will try to smile more and be more open. I mean I do have some confidence from going to the gym but I guess coz I live a low status life and I'm young with no sense of purpose in the eyes of many around me (me doing RUclips doesnt sound good enough for them) I do feel down a lot and honestly my mindset of people has been skewed by social media and dating apps to the point that I have some hatred for people and often dont realise that not all people are bad and that I may look grumpy too often when I am in public. I'll do my best this year to look more friendly 😁
If she doesn't know those things then I don't want to approach her.
Can this apply to guys too?
How would a girl intimidated by a guy's attractive looks
"deep eyed medusa to those who dare to love to stare into deep eyes stay forever divine medusa love struck statues frozen in time"
-lekalina
mean freeze when they see something beautiful.
I only got approached by 2 boys in my life
I'm not pretty but I wanna watch
I NEVER GET APPROACHED!!!
Thanks!