a gay dude on my work literally complimented me and said that i look different and he added "but in a positive way" 💀. i dont know how to feel about that
But look at him. He‘s not the „attractive“ guy that you think about when he says that girls and boys compliment them. He‘s at maximum average. He doesn‘t get hit on all day every week ever. Honestly it‘s enough, if it happened to you once or a few times. just think, you probably just forgot it. Also he‘s like 35-40 so if you are 18 and haven‘t been hit on at 16 that‘s normal
This is one of the few videos that made me feel a lot better about myself. I tend to always go off of how I was judged in middle school for my looks.. its sometims hard to get passed that.
Good looking boys get bullied and hated on in school because the other boys are envious of their looks. Once you grow into a man and realize your true potential you pass all those losers up and they stay beneath you where they belong.
Most of the girls that compliments me or tries to get with me are the ones I am not attracted to, I get DM's from them all the time. And the ones I am attracted to really acts like I don't even exist in the room, but some of them surely are attracted to me. I have found that out after asking my crush out, I have been crushing on her since 9th grade, but she said she'd been crushing on me since 5th grade, isn't that insane?😅 till 9th grade I didn't even know she existed. I asked her out and told her I had a crush on her after school, after 10th grade, in summer holidays. If I hadn't asked, she would have never either. She'd been crushing on me for 5 years but never even tried to hold a conversation till 10th grade. She is shy, like really shy, but she's is really the sweetest person I have ever met, it's been 2 years since we officially started a relationship. And I'm happy than ever. She, also told me that a few other attractive girls found me attractive too but never cared much. The girls I thought are not attracted to me are actually attracted to me. So guys, don't forget to shoot your shot! You'll never know for sure if someone is attracted to you or not, not until you shoot your shot.
I don’t find myself ugly but neither all that crazy in attraction value, I’ve had girlfriends before and they’d call me handsome, I probably have a solid jawline. But altogether I try to make up for any physical attraction by being confident, funny, and just generally stoic. Make sure you look people in the eyes, keep up conversation, be confident in your answers, and just seem like you know what you’re talking about. Being a man means knowing to think in grey, but speak in black and white.
I could have really used this video years ago when I was a young single man looking for love. Like most guys then and now, I was pretty clueless. So hopefully you’re helping a lot of young men feel better about themselves. Heaven knows it’s hard to be a dude, especially today, and way too many young men are confused and lonely. You’re doing some good things.
Same. Our fathers really dropped the ball. I feel like when we become adults we become both student/teacher through experiences. Unfortunately experiences only happen as time passes and then when you 'figure it out' it's pointless at that point. Not just relationships just in life in general. I wish I had youtube when I was like 12 lol
especially today? i completely disagree. life is easier and it becomes too easy that you can be too weak and yet survive. i don't say that there aren't any strugglers that is life we struggle and be strong to overcome them every time they come men of the past weren't clueless to women and their behavior. it mostly western (westernized cultures) who have no idea, my because of all the brain was of disney stories and media and being raised by single mothers and non masculine men and a school system designed in a way that suits female development...etc.
Older women and overweight women always go out of their way to talk to me and I never thought much of it, but you bring up a good point. It's still female attention, even if it's undesired female attention, so perhaps women do actually find me attractive.
The reason less attractive girls are more likely to hit on you is because they have less choices. The really good looking ones have guys coming up to them, so when girls don't have that luxury, they have to be the ones making the move.
I thought I was unattractive cause I was fat my whole life then lost weight and started consistently training and sticking to a diet. I generally live in a small town until I went to the club. I complimented a girl whilst I was drunk. She was a 10/10 in my eyes and she said back “is that what you say to all your hoes” and after that I went to the bar to get a few drinks… a random lady came to up to me and asked for a picture with me as she was on a “scavenger hunt” for pics with cute guys. All this seems like bullsh*t. But it’s actually true, i went home the next day thinking about it all and the conversations I had that night: generally made me rethink about my self and potential. Stick to a consistent diet, train, and focus on yourself and watch your world around you change, it’s quite beautiful.
You did just remind me when I actually went to the gym there was a 2 week stint (literally the last 2 weeks before I dropped off) where 2 girls seemed to actually notice me instead of the other people I was with at the bar. Really odd for me as the undesirable one of the group. I mean by way of experience, that is my identity. It was so odd that I didn’t know what to do, said thanks to a compliment and didn’t go into a conversation with her then my friends slapped me around like dude what was that?! She came up to you! They never do that!
There is a logical reason why women rarely tell a man he is good looking. A) She doesn't find you attractive. B1) She finds you attractive but isn't interested so she doesn't want to mislead you. B2) She finds you attractive but IS interested so she doesn't want to seem too easy.
@@mail-qh2qc I didn't say there is NO way to tell. I didn't say she NEVER tells you. If you know how to read body language you can meet 100 women and pick out the one who likes you the most.
@@baldeagle4710 If a woman tells a man he is good looking she is overwhelmed with attraction for him (in that fleeting moment). But women's QUEST these days is to prove that NO man is good enough that she should ever have to be nice or make a sammich.
I really needed this. Some guys question their level of attractiveness too much. I admit to this. Another thing worth mentioning about attractiveness for both guys and girls. In high school, competition can get pretty high between your peers, and it's usually with the kids who are top quality in how they look. She's drop dead beautiful and he's got the right kind of build, you get the idea. It's the nerds and jocks that struggle that nobody cares about, and in high school, you think in order to be successful, you have to look good physically. The harsh truth is, as kids, you're still growing and learning, and part of that is understanding how your body changes as you get older. Believe it or not, once those nerds and jocks reach college, they are the ones that shine better, both academically and physically. This made me turn my head as well, but those kids that were everyone's best friends in high school.....kinda loose their physical looks, due to the fact that they peaked earlier than most high schoolers would have. Going into high school, I was the overweight autistic who could seem to control his own weight, let alone attract a young lady. Now that I'm in my late 30s, I feel great becase I lost all that weight, and I've got a great job that keeps me physical during the week.
@@Pikiaaa I'm almost to a full year on Instagram, and you'd be surprised as to how often I get girls hitting on me. I get it, but I'm also seeing a disturbing trend, the women are online will practically throw themselves at you, or give you the speech on how, "You're my only hope!!" like, seriously??
6/6 For me, Glad to know I'm doing well haha, Interesting point about the unattractive girls as I always noticed this and wondered if it was a LACK of being attractive was the case but as you've explained well its the opposite, I never thought of it in that way. Also the compliments from male friends was one i noticed a lot too, often get compliments like "you're looking dapper, smart etc, save some jawline for the rest of us" funny things like that. Finally the "other people noticing girls looking at you" is one that has always made me laugh as I never tend to pay attention to it but friends, family mention it happens. I went shopping and started to pay more attention recently to find a fair amount of young woman staring as I walked past. Great enlightening video dan keep it up mate!
me too bro i thought i only attracted the grenades cuz i wasnt that attractive. but i noticed that my guy friends that are good looking said i was a a good looking fella too. then i noticed attractive women act shy and clumsy around me, seen some girls trip on themselves or drop weights on them at the gym too
@537 me too bro, getting attention from unattractive, ill-mannered girls and married women, male friends surprised at me being single, and girls I find attractive act shy, clumsy and occasionally standoffish. Yet here's the problem, how do you get those attractive girls to open up to you. Not to mention most of the attractive girls I meet are taken already
That’s a powerful thumbnail! I’ve been looking in the mirror and seeing exactly that. I let myself go a bit when I was with my toxic ex. Last year no one gave me a second glance and I was in a dark place. I got my shit together about 3 months after we split up, got back in the gym, started training Muay Thai again started looking after myself and I started getting all the things mentioned in the vid. This year has been one of the best years for me attention-wise and hopefully only going to get better. Fella’s you got this 💪
And if u think of it, it's really balanced, u can't get the girl the one that u like and they can't have u because u're not into them so ure just like those unattractive girls hitting on u
@@kamartaj3010Don't lower your self esteem boy. You see women have more options than men. They know exactly what they are doing. Be happy and live your life wisely. Trust Jesus Christ God. Thank you
@@AdiyyGordo125 nah bro you got it wrong. The hot girls are attracted too but they got a way bigger ego and a lot of them got low self esteem too. Its just dummy, we gotta make the moves no matter what. Trust me man if you come confident and charming, you will get a lot girls
beauty truly is, in the eye of the beholder.. some will think you're fine, some won't... get with the ones who think you are, NOT the ones who don't... if you do, you're just asking for trouble, further down the line.
This showed up on my feed, and noticed I tend to get this a lot. Although I'm a short man, I learned to accept what I'm dealt with, instead I focus on myself and what I can change. My buddies at work are always complimenting, saying I have captain america physique and their role model. More people hitting the gym, asking me for tips and pointers. They start dressing better. Girls make eye contact more and smiling. Married woman, like you say are not afraid to break the flirting boundaries and make small talk. At the end of the day, I'm just who I am, keeping the promises made for me. If you cant even keep a promise to yourself and lie to yourself constantly, you have NO reason to take on any others responsibility. Not black pilled, red pilled or any of that bs it's toxic and goes no where at the end of the day.
I'm almost 36, and recently I noticed that older women tend to give me some compliments on how good I look. Last year, one of my coworkers, who is 45, is married and has two sons, even told me that she has feelings for me. Another one asked me if I have a girlfriend. I said no and she says "why not? It's impossible". Also, generally I have always been invisible to girls, except a few that actually showed some interest, even cute ones. But I just shrugged it off thinking that they were just being friendly and that there's no way that she could like me. But I'm sure that these were just exceptions. I know what I see in the mirror, there's no way that I can be classified as "attractive", trust me 😂
I found that by the time the hot 40 year old women complimented me, the 16 year old hostess was hugging me (in front of her mom and aunt who work at the same restaurant). Young women have a healing energy for men. No need to have sex with them. It's much better just to be next to them.
Omggg had same exact situation last year with this crazy co-worker 40 something year old Vietnamese married woman with 2 teenage daughters.. She asked for my # and wanted to go out to dinner.. she was very persistent and obsessive too.. was always up my ass at work.. Kept saying my husband is away doing training in Boston for 3 weeks 😳🤦🏻♂️ she was seriously bat shit crazy!
@@Nick_315_Palumbo dude, same for me. She didn't desperately try to convince me to get intimate, but kept texting me for months saying that she misses me, that she cares a lot about me and so on. I kept my mouth shut because she's a great worker and I would be in the deepest of shit if she stopped working with me. But it got annoying after a while. She still keeps texting stuff like that, but less invasive. It pisses me off to an extent. Always been invisible to girls I like, but get "love bombed" by a woman I have zero attraction for.
@@yokiweyy4770 ohhh I know all too well! I stupidly gave her my # just being nice but this broad kept texting me “my heart is finally healing b/c of you” God wants us to be together and I’m the only 1 for her with tons of 😘😘😘Wtf!!! Honestly non stop texting me for 2 weeks straight! Literally woke up a few mornings with 40 texts and 10 miss calls from her! 🤦🏻♂️😵💫 I literally only knew her for about a month.. Gave her very little incline I wanted to pursue an affair! But she wouldn’t stop harassing me 😳 Felt bad blocking her so went to my sup to sit her down 😬 she quit like few months later phew
I think I’m actually very good looking. I’m in great shape and get plenty of looks and flirts but I still don’t talk to women well. It’s like I’m too serious cause I just have too much stuff on my mind that I feel is important. When I talk I drag people into that world of seriousness. Only other serious people can handle it and actually like it. Most women are not serious people. They want jokes and fun.
Thanks for helping to put this into perspective. I get hit on by gay dudes and cougars ALL the time, but I've always felt completely invisible to women my age/ women I'm attracted to.. They show me little to no attention at all. So I'm never quite sure what to believe about myself honestly. Edit: Third category, I also often get attention from bigger women as well lol. Not tryna "body shame" or whatever, but I'm generally not attracted to women heavier than I am.
As a gay guy, I can speak to this. Remember that for us, hitting on a guy can be very risky if we don't know his sexuality - the chance of rejection is far higher and it also carries the risk of violence. It's nerve-wracking. If we hit on you, it's because we're so sincere about it that we've overcome the fear. So accept it with a friendly smile and a "thank you," let him know straight up that you're not gay, and wear the compliment as a badge of honor. If we see it, so do women. If you really want to make him blush, give him a compliment in return.
Yea, I was an ugly duckling for most of my life (I'm 21 now). My opinion of my looks has always been that I'm not ugly, but my looks aren't doing me and favors. Recently though I started to change how I see myself. I grew my hair out super long and have been wearing it in a bun for a few years. Took me a few years to notice just how good that hairstyle looks on me. Now I have to figure out how to take care of a pretty short beard, because I look more like a baby than clean cut when shaved. Also gotta buy better fitting clothes and find a style that compliments my tall height. I don't really get out of the house because of my work though so it's all a bit hard to justify when I could be working on my own application outside of work.
This video popped up in my recommended at just the right time. I think some of it’s contributed to self improvement as well, woman can smell the pheromones on you, especially when you’re on your grind, really didn’t pay it much attention until recently in my life.
If you don't have self confidence, you'll always seek external validation, and it never lasts. If you're good looking and you're not sure, you're wasting your talent. You have to know what you have, because one day you won't.
I think when it comes to younger guys in range for example 16-20, where you don't meet this much people who are married, you can catch some other guys' girlfriends looking at you or coming straight to you even tho they are in a relationship. For me it is common to catch some girls on the gym who are with their boyfriends at the same time to look at me. Also I had almost an identical situation as mentioned in video: I was on this party where my friend came over with his girl. We did catch good chemistry quickly and if he wasn't there, I know we would at LEAST kiss. Sometimes it makes you feel weird, because you obviously cant hit on those girls in front of their guy's but at the same time it makes you aware that you are really good looking and attractive.
Yep, I can relate to all of this. When I workout at the gym unattractive people always hit on me but the people I find attractive always stare at me but I feel like they don't want to say anything to me because they're too nervous.
To be honest I'm not a bad looking guy, thing is, before my "glow up" like a couple years ago I was a nerd, not in the studying kind of way, just kinda like lacking social skills and weird overall. I've glown up, got nice clothes, cool hairstyle, go to the gym, etc. However, I only get signs of attraction from women that have not met me before my glow up, for example, the girls at my highschool aren't really interested in me, however I've met women online and outside school that are. Kinda fucks me up cause the highlight of my day is basically school since it's the time when I socialize the most, and since I'm not able to attract women there, it sometimes makes me question my attractiveness. That's why I'm watching this lmfao.
You haven’t figured out the people around you don’t matter. Their opinions mostly have no further value. You need to meet new people to get valuable opinions on your new state.
Same, Like when ppl Look at me when im going Shopping or something i Always think ITS because i Look weird or im Walking strange or my Outfit Looks weird but never ever i think ITS because im looking good even tho i got told that many times
@@algirdasltu1389 Hey man, just keeping working on yourself, and act confident even if you're not. Any man who isn't literally disfigured has the possibility to become a very attractive man.
What is interesting is that most men actually overestimate their attractiveness when you look at most studies. The dude here is kind of an example of that. He is not bad looking, but from a scientific standpoint, he does not have many attractive facial markers at all. Yet with his examples, he is hinting at the fact that he himself thinks he is attractive/handsome. He is an average guy by looks alone. But that also means you don't have to be extremely attractive to get attention. If his stories are true.
@BuddyMac69 He is not above average in the face. White is not an advantage in Western countries. Only being tall. But in the end, physical appearance is important but overrated nowadays.
Attractiveness of a man is internal. Attractiveness of a woman is external. A slob of a man can be attractive because cool comes from the inside. Women can not know how to read or speak a language just need to be skinny to be attractive
@ballislife9924 100% fully disagree. White people in dating apps are by far the most hitted on by any female except from black girls. White is an advantege, if he is tall its an ENORMOUS advantage and his face i agree its average.
I'm 60 years old now, so i am starting to take on some of the aspects of an old person, but when i was younger, i never considered myself very attractive. However, i didn't really notice this till my brother said, "I've seen you talking with those good-looking girls," so in retrospect, maybe i was just a wee bit more appealing than i gave myself credit for.
Ohhh, so that's what it is. I work in a restaurant and dudes in the drive-thru call me "boss" all the time and even though I know it's a compliment, I never really knew exactly what they could be complementing.
Thanks for clarifying the boss thing. I get guys who will be like whats up boss or uh oh the boss is here. I always just ignored it and never understood it
Being in my early 20s and having issues with my confidence, i really needed this. My female and guy friends all tell me i look good but i cant get many matches on dating apps or have the confidence to approach someone
Friends don't want to hurt your feelings. If you don't get any attention from girls in real life, or even get ghosted sometimes and if you, on top of that, don't get any matches in online dating, then you are probably simply unattractive
It's most likely not you. Dating culture, globally, especially with social media is an absolute rock bottom shit show. No one, especially women, know how to act anymore. One of the reason beings is because social media has made people so vain to the point it's hard for them to give out compliments and rather they seek to be complimented, you most likely are handsome but society is absolutely whack right now
@clochard8318 like he said in the video, people won't bring up your looks unless they think to some degree that you are attractive and also I did realize I have missed a lot of signs that a girl was into me. I can get matches but not many was point
Only the top 10% guys are getting matches on dating apps. Those apps are for whores looking to screw hot guys. The top 10% guys are screwing all 100% of the girls on those apps. Those girls would rather share a top tier guy than have an average guy all to herself. If you want to find a decent girl it will never happen on an app.
1. Unnatractive Girls: Yeah, it hapenned to me a lot weirdly enough. They were the weirdest one of the bunch, doing weird stuff for attention while not directly communicating what is going on. But they're friendly nonetheless, just weird on most cases. 2. Friend Catch Girls: A lot too. Recetly a girl was staring at me on college and I mever really noticed until a friend told me. On metro too, but I'm the one noticing it . 3. Comment From Guys: Not necessarily gay men, but I can recall a straight dude in school being really petty with me for some reason. Never knew it was that "intend" or not, and another dude tried to kiss me again, on school. On college it isn't much. 4. Non-Physical Traits: I've been with some female friends, they tend to say I'm a great person and all, but it's hard to get to know me at first, since I don't open myself at all, only if needed. Some of them said I'm not going anywhere with this attitude, some said it makes me more interesting somehow.
LMAO average guys are getting gaslit into thinking they are attractive. Guys, if a man is truly attractive, girls WILL let him know. You just have to spend time with an attractive male friend. You will SEE how differently women behave around those guys. If you are an older dude now and regret that you didn't notice "subtle signs" from women in your past, then chances are, that there simply were no signs at all.
@@seventhkeyomegasghost8233 Problem is, that most men fall under the "average" category and have also only average looking friends. Thats why many guys never see with their own eyes how different the life of a good looking guy really is.
It is absolutely impossible to to have a girlfriend and get a date. I was told that I am too short and no girl will talk to me outside of work. I am the poster child for the word loser. The good thing is I get to keep all my money, I am a fantastic artist also.
@@fivebooks8498 I am 54 now, have not ever been on a date. I feel cursed. This is the absolute truth. The last time I actually tried I was told that I was too short, she liked tall men. I wish I was taller and better looking.
Dude, I struggled getting women all my life. Then I hit my 30s and let me tell you something, I get more women interested in me than my teens and 20s combined!! I worked on losing some weight, my beard grew in much fuller, I groom much better and focus on a cool clothing style. I’ve had 18 year olds ask for my number, I literally had 5 ask for my number in the last 3 months. It feels great, however I don’t consider myself good looking, although I’ve been told that I’m cute and I guess that’s all you really need to get a good looking woman. Just yesterday I had 2 girls who work at my gym stop me to talk to me, all the girls who talk to me are VERY attractive. To be honest this has been a bit overwhelming for me because I went from almost getting no women to having women approach. Currently, I have a feeling that I have a friends family member even interested in me, lol. I don’t know how to handle all this fairly new attention and I need to work on my communication skills with women because I think I developed anxiety every time I talk to them. 😂 I feel like I need a lot of practice talking to them, I even went to a strip club and worked on talking to them and it went REALLY well, even my friend was pleasantly surprised. I’m no player and truth be told, I’d rather have a girlfriend whom I can grow with. I would love some tips on how not to get nervous talking with women and instead start building friendships and relationships. Anyway, if I can get women interested in me, so can you guys! Got to stay focused on self improvement, boys. It’s not easy but it’s definitely worth it, good luck. 💪🏻
I always had women check me out at jobs I worked and the BF's would get in my face for just being there. I would always have to defuse the situation. One girl was looking me up/down and walked into the wall. 😂 Then her BF started saying "pretty boy" and other shit under his breath as they left. I'm thinking "How is that my fault?" LOL BTW : When you lift and are fit, you get WAY more attn from other men. Random guys give me props at the gym or park, or they'll ask for my routine, etc..All based on thinking they need to get fit to get women. But women don't care nearly as much as guys think they do.
This whole video is straight facts, spoken concisely, without wasting words. I experience all of the six signs mentioned, and if you know how to engage with people (without being fake) when these signs are presented, it will make your persona absolutely magnetic to others. You don't even have to be tall, or be the most handsome person. I'm only 5'8," but I'm well-presented and well-spoken. Good video. 👍
I did to. Crazy to think that my phone camera was lying to me all this time. phone cameras have very little depth preception so it makes you look fat and flat faced
A dude at my boxing gym said I reminded him of Tyson Fury, a pretty famous boxer these days. I thought about it for a second and realized bro was straight up just calling me tall, bald and fat in a roundabout way. He wasn't even lying or anything, just took me by surprise.
I know I am not attractive and been told so many time in my life (especially now in mid life). But I found love by being myself and true to those in my life. I am not rich nor a stud so I know people in my life are in it for non superficial reasons.
not really, I remember working at a downtown café and this mixed female blk/wht came up to my job a few times before she decided to asked me out, she was NOT ugly BUT i was shook cause this girl could get any dude she wanted to she chose to ask me. She worked at a para-legal firm. At the time of me being 22 yr old and she was a bit older than me. I didnt even kiss her fudge at the end of the date, I wish what i know now i would of done that whole date over the right way.!!! Oh ya and this took place in the late 90's so ya - very different era back then NO SOCIAL MEDIA!!!
Women were always and eagerly utilizing every means to be more obnoxious and to appear exclusive. Answering machines, headphones, sunglasses, caller ID, email, cell phones, smart phones, Tinder.
1 and 2. No woman ever hit on me. 3. No friend ever caught a woman looking at me. 4. No men say something like this. 5. When I was younger (in my 20s), people said I look like Mr. Bean 6. No clue if that is as a compliment, but I get the usual from female friends, coworkers, etc: "You are such a nice guy, I can't understand, how you did not find someone yet.".
I relate to this in a few ways. I've always had less attractive women be attracted to me. I've even had women tell me that I was out of their league. I've had many gay men hit on me and that's happened since high school and it still happens. I've had both men and women call me a pretty boy. I agree with what he said about attractive women not coming forward and for me it sucks bc yes I'm attractive but I have a really good personality. So I wish more attractive women would approach me. Sometimes they do but its never for anything long term which makes me feel used. Other times, the women that are attractive who approach me often have self esteem issues and don't even believe they are attractive.
0:20 - Interesting point. But when unattractive women hit on me (which hardly ever happens anyway) I don't view it as a sign that I'm attractive. I conclude that they see me as being in their league and a more realistic option than a man who is actually attractive. I'm still grateful for the compliment, though.
Wow. I’d expect this is normal all of this has happened to me getting hit on my married woman, the attraction part looking at the comments. Seems like guys haven’t experienced all the things Danny says in this video. But everything is spot on this video. Iykyk
Been through all phases until it got to the guy comments,nothing to add there,happy that aint happened such. Women may/are looking at you from distance,not showing anything thinking they are tough, but at the end of the day they are the one to blame themselves for being single for not putting effort for revealing how they feel more directly from close distance, and doesnt have to be direct talk. When the close distance signs like smiles,direct look regularly everytime you pass each other by at you are missing,even if they look from distance that aint matter shit. Plus add finding out they have children or boyfriend or catching them with someone who they have just fun with but in status they are single. That experience happened at work the majority of it. Similar stuff to the gym. Directly those types from the past were immediately burnt and kept moving on. So no,starings even if its a lot aint matter shit guys and before doing anything do your research. its a MUST.
Literally in the same week I had a woman tell me I have nice arms, another women checking me out at a store, a 60 year old woman flirting with me after a class…and a 13 year old kid telling me my face is my biggest flaw. Literally cannot tell if I’m good looking or not. I’ll have a bunch to really good experiences with women flirting with me or looking at me and smiling, and then someone tells me I’m ugly or something.
An unmentioned experience is that other men just assume that you could easily pull any attractive women or even scout them out for you. Other men just assume that you have zero difficulty attracting women, so they always make comments suggesting that you should easily approach and pick up any attractive woman despite them being complete strangers. Another is that people become unsolicited personal matchmakers or publicists for you. You will have acquaintances voluntarily work on your behalf despite you never asking. They all just know a single attractive woman that you should meet.
Or you're just an average dude, lol. OR perhaps you haven't looks maxed yet. Taking care of your skin, trimming your eyebrows, nose, ears, using lotion, getting plenty of QUALITY sleep and drinking enough water can all help with that. Then amply doing something physical for enough of the week, while not overeating, will help with the body. After that, it's up to you to work on the confidence. But doing the above first, if you haven't already (and I'm betting that you haven't), will greatly increase how much better you feel about yourself, and in turn, make your confidence skyrocket.
Some guys dont straight up tell a girl shes beautiful. Girls that are beautiful either know they are, or the guy who sees them assume that they already know so they dont tell them. They just look at them lovingly. A guy can look at a girl lovingly and she should know shes beautiful by the way they do that I think. Not all the time, girls notice this though.
I have a different opinion on sign number 1. If ugly girl holler at you that mean that they think they are pretty enough for you therefore you are not that attractive but just good looking enough. If a 5 holler at you that usually mean you are around that level. If you are truly handsome , they will begin to know their place and will be more subtle and will avoid you, because a one way crush is too taxing on the mind. This is my experience.
Eh it depends I think. Think about it, women can be just as horny or desiring as men at times and let's face it, some very unattractive men can approach stunning women and act like they're James Bond and doing her a favor. I think the point is that, if unattractive women are going out of their way to approach you and give you their number or blatantly hit on you, it's a good sign you're attractive because women IN GENERAL do not want to make the first move. The idea with attractive women not hitting on you is that they probably already have lots of dudes constantly approaching THEM and so they know they are a hotter commodity and don't benefit from approaching the guy since they might actually be similar in attractiveness to themselves and therefore it's more sensible to just have men chase after you as a sexy woman who will then be weeded out and prove themselves in some way to be the guy they'd really want. In other words, physical attraction alone isn't as desirable for attractive women precisely because they could date a SUPER hot guy if they wanted to because physically hot men are always approaching THEM first.
@@wowomah6194 Women are the true predators of the game, but women are very insecure (example Megan Fox), this is the paradox. They are horny, but they must act like they are not desperate. The unattractive girl usually have confidence around guys that they perceive that they can bag, and the unattractive guys are virtual invisible. Hate to break it to you, but women usually make the first move all the time, but they do it differently more subtle. The ugly Jame bond doesn't know he is ugly, and the really true incel doesn't really approach and the unattractive women doesn't really know she is ugly ( in her mind she think she still pretty enough for you). You are what you attract, if you are invisible to hot women then you are not that attractive, if you have average women swarming you then consider yourself above average. Above average is not handsome. The Super hot guy you are talking is what I call handsome.
The reason ugly girls hit on attractive guys is because attractive guys screw ugly girls all the time. This is causing average girls to over value themselves. The attractive guy never stays with her but she thinks she just didn’t play her cards right and one day one of those guys will fall in love with her. Never gonna happen but she hopes. Top tier men screwing all the girls including average and below average girls is messing up the dating market. It’s causing women to price themselves out of the market.
@@wowomah6194 I find attractive women usually date the ugliest guys. Maybe they just don't want a partner who is more beautiful than them. Dating an attractive man is a huge risk for a woman. She could invest a lot of time into an attractive man, and he could potentially be stolen by another woman. In her mind at least. Or maybe they just feel bad for them. This is the generation who grew up watching Shrek after all lmao. Their boyfriends are their idealized troll, with a heart of gold. As well like with Prince Charming, male beauty is associated with various negative traits in their minds. Beautiful on the outside, with a heart of black coal. Of course, these are just modern media stereotypes. The unattractive girls on the other hand, have nothing to lose by hitting on very attractive men. The ugly dudes aren't interested in them either, so they might as well shoot their shot and see if they can fish a lonely attractive guy who the attractive girls are ignoring. Like when the Bearded Woman hits on Prince Charming in Shrek, and Charming gets angry because Fiona is ignoring him. It all comes back to Shrek.
@@wowomah6194 I get along with most females but it's mostly the women I find attractive that approach me while unattractive women barely look at me (I wouldn't know anyway cause I don't pay attention to them) so by that logic I would be ugly lol. On the flip side most men approach just about any woman, so by that logic every woman thinks she is a 10 anyway.
This video is garbage. It's easy to believe that attractive women "just don't want to feed your ego" but watch that attractive women when she's around a guy you know is hot. She's got no problem being flirty, outgoing, and giving him compliments. This guy is trying to take advantage of insecure men for views by telling them what they want to hear.
I hate to burst your bubble dude, but I've been there with the married women. In the end the reality is they hate they're husband, they're insecure, and they're desperate for attention. I thought it was cool at first than I watched them do the same thing with other not very good looking guys.
@@pwabd2784 lol this is confusing and you're gonna try one up me anyway. You've been the married woman? Or do you mean you've cheated? Or do you get off thinking others are ugly? Bruh stfu
I personally not consider myself attractive nor unattractive. I do no have so much confidence but I let these things go and I find out the life is easier (for me) alone. I have no interest to start an action.
I think we need to love ourselves more. My friend invited me to drinking games on a zoom call with a bunch of people during Covid and I just had fun for once. I didn’t try to stress out about social environments like I usually do irl and at one point the entire chat room stopped and literally asked if I had a girl. That felt so random. One of the guys or maybe one of the girls idk but it was during a kind of intermission where like 2 people were in the bathroom but I was like nah I’m single af. They asked why and I basically said “idk I just don’t attract a lot of people like that.” They basically all were like “ah that’s not true. I don’t believe that.” It was really nice of them. I actually only just remembered it watching this video…it reminds me how hard I am on myself while people see a different person. I hate me, but they liked me.
I’m def not attractive lol, I’ve dated attractive people , but they always seem to loose interest. I’m at the point now where I don’t have self confidence and I simply don’t care anymore about finding anyone lol
Man this is powerful. I’ve come into knowing I’m attractive awhile ago.. too many compliments to stay stuck on stupid. For me it’s “my level” of attractiveness I wonder about. Specifically as a masculine man to women. I know I’m no model looking guy… but I also have done amateur modeling in the past and I’ve had some very attractive partners here and there. I’m also 6/6 here. My biggest problem is wondering how attractive I am to the women that are 8’s and above because as is mentioned in the video, attractive women won’t usually compliment men (though it has definitely happened that I’ve had random women I would consider 8’s or 9’s tell me I’m super attractive) but that’s like .00001% of the attractive women I meet. Most just ignore me or act like I’m creepy, but now because of this video.. I’m figuring out that those attractive women don’t want to give me a big head.. which now that I’m thinking about it, makes sense since I’ve alway been told that I’m very confident, bordering on stuck up (which I certainly don’t try to be stuck up as I don’t think I’m better than ANYONE. But ye.. this makes perfect sense. Why am I just now noticing this 🤦🏽♂️ it also makes sense now why women that have lightly flirted with me in the past.. rejected me when I put forth some effort. It’s low self esteem on their part plus more than likely thinking I’m a player and might cheat on them etc etc… DAMN! This is good stuff! I’m subbing NOW!!
I'm a 50yr old male. Never had trouble getting women. However, I've lost my confidence over the last 3 years. Anyhow, I went through a tough divorce 8 years ago. But only 5 years ago, I would catch women looking at me. I've had women hit on me at bars and on the street. Even now with some grey in my hair, I managd to get women to look at me. Here's my problem; I always think I'm ugly. It's been difficult seeing myself 30lbs heavier from threw years ago. To my point; this year, I am on a mission to lose the excess weight, work out and groom well. I want a partner in life, I will not sit around and lose this leverage to be able to find a good woman. This time around, I will be careful to not choose the wrong woman again. Interesting video.
This video changed my life. I am now 100% sure that I actually am ugly af. Thank you!
Same here lol
same
Same):
I already knew I was ugly. Just trying to prove it.
Welcome to the "80%" club ;)
So basically how to tell if you’re attractive:
1. Girls hit on you
2. Women hit on you
3. Bros compliment you
a gay dude on my work literally complimented me and said that i look different and he added "but in a positive way"
💀. i dont know how to feel about that
@@lekoraxx5406probably you look very uncommon
@@lekoraxx5406 there is a hole in every trench my friend... JK RUN AS FAST AS U CAN MY BROTHA
@@lekoraxx5406 wear a belt and a steel underwear
@@lekoraxx5406he is just being nice to make you feel good but you are disgusting wtf
Thank you. You helped me realize I am not attractive even in the slightest. 😀
same i couldn't relate to any of these at all lmao
😂😂😂
If not even the overweight women hit on you it's over man
But look at him. He‘s not the „attractive“ guy that you think about when he says that girls and boys compliment them.
He‘s at maximum average.
He doesn‘t get hit on all day every week ever.
Honestly it‘s enough, if it happened to you once or a few times. just think, you probably just forgot it.
Also he‘s like 35-40 so if you are 18 and haven‘t been hit on at 16 that‘s normal
@@vincevangoat1 how’d you know my age lol
Before watching this I thought I was ugly, but now I can now proudly confirm that my thoughts never changed.
Yep same
😂
He had us in the first half, ngl
blob opera profile pic is nice
At least you got some closure to the question
So basically everything I'd expect to happen to me if I was attractive is a sign I am attractive.
😮😮
The joy of being old is i no longer care whether others find me attractive or not. The pressure is off.
It's not really joy......it is more resignation.
@@alohaohana901 Yes i suppose it is. But my opinion still applies. I'm not interested anymore.
It sure gets easy with age.
Yet here you are
Sounds like copium @@carltwidle9046
Thanks, I’m official ugly! Not a single one checked 😂
Same here, 0 for 6.
Same, bro.
Its ok I checked some of these boxes and am still single.
Being ugly ain’t fair, but someone has to do it!… kidding! lol I’m sure y’all’s good looking lads ✊
😂😂😂😂
This is one of the few videos that made me feel a lot better about myself. I tend to always go off of how I was judged in middle school for my looks.. its sometims hard to get passed that.
Same here. It's always the little traumas that have the worst affect on us
People in middle schools are the biggest haters. Don't listen to kids they just tryna get a reaction out of you.
Didn’t make me feel better about myself. Made me realize how unattractive I actually am.
Good looking boys get bullied and hated on in school because the other boys are envious of their looks. Once you grow into a man and realize your true potential you pass all those losers up and they stay beneath you where they belong.
Yeah.. opposite for me... :(
I got no one throwing themselves at me. But i have a loving dog who gives all her love with no conditions.
Weird flex but ok 🤨
Just fuck the dog 😊
This guy makes me feel good, now when an attractive woman thinks nothing of me i'll think, she's thinking about me, honestly makes me feel good
Ha ha ha ha.....same here
Most of the girls that compliments me or tries to get with me are the ones I am not attracted to, I get DM's from them all the time. And the ones I am attracted to really acts like I don't even exist in the room, but some of them surely are attracted to me. I have found that out after asking my crush out, I have been crushing on her since 9th grade, but she said she'd been crushing on me since 5th grade, isn't that insane?😅 till 9th grade I didn't even know she existed. I asked her out and told her I had a crush on her after school, after 10th grade, in summer holidays. If I hadn't asked, she would have never either. She'd been crushing on me for 5 years but never even tried to hold a conversation till 10th grade. She is shy, like really shy, but she's is really the sweetest person I have ever met, it's been 2 years since we officially started a relationship. And I'm happy than ever. She, also told me that a few other attractive girls found me attractive too but never cared much. The girls I thought are not attracted to me are actually attracted to me. So guys, don't forget to shoot your shot!
You'll never know for sure if someone is attracted to you or not, not until you shoot your shot.
I don’t find myself ugly but neither all that crazy in attraction value, I’ve had girlfriends before and they’d call me handsome, I probably have a solid jawline. But altogether I try to make up for any physical attraction by being confident, funny, and just generally stoic. Make sure you look people in the eyes, keep up conversation, be confident in your answers, and just seem like you know what you’re talking about. Being a man means knowing to think in grey, but speak in black and white.
I bet you're a total Chad ❤
She said my tip was small😔
I could have really used this video years ago when I was a young single man looking for love. Like most guys then and now, I was pretty clueless. So hopefully you’re helping a lot of young men feel better about themselves. Heaven knows it’s hard to be a dude, especially today, and way too many young men are confused and lonely. You’re doing some good things.
Same. Our fathers really dropped the ball. I feel like when we become adults we become both student/teacher through experiences. Unfortunately experiences only happen as time passes and then when you 'figure it out' it's pointless at that point. Not just relationships just in life in general. I wish I had youtube when I was like 12 lol
especially today? i completely disagree. life is easier and it becomes too easy that you can be too weak and yet survive. i don't say that there aren't any strugglers that is life we struggle and be strong to overcome them every time they come
men of the past weren't clueless to women and their behavior. it mostly western (westernized cultures) who have no idea, my because of all the brain was of disney stories and media and being raised by single mothers and non masculine men
and a school system designed in a way that suits female development...etc.
summary: People tell you you are handsome
Older women and overweight women always go out of their way to talk to me and I never thought much of it, but you bring up a good point. It's still female attention, even if it's undesired female attention, so perhaps women do actually find me attractive.
Smash and dash on those bulky and gilf women
Yeah, exactly.
The reason less attractive girls are more likely to hit on you is because they have less choices.
The really good looking ones have guys coming up to them, so when girls don't have that luxury, they have to be the ones making the move.
yea I noticed older women and girls I'm not interested talk to me. The ones my age, normal and attractive just ignore me lol
Imagine old fat man attracted to good looking women.
I thought I was unattractive cause I was fat my whole life then lost weight and started consistently training and sticking to a diet. I generally live in a small town until I went to the club. I complimented a girl whilst I was drunk. She was a 10/10 in my eyes and she said back “is that what you say to all your hoes” and after that I went to the bar to get a few drinks… a random lady came to up to me and asked for a picture with me as she was on a “scavenger hunt” for pics with cute guys. All this seems like bullsh*t. But it’s actually true, i went home the next day thinking about it all and the conversations I had that night: generally made me rethink about my self and potential. Stick to a consistent diet, train, and focus on yourself and watch your world around you change, it’s quite beautiful.
You did just remind me when I actually went to the gym there was a 2 week stint (literally the last 2 weeks before I dropped off) where 2 girls seemed to actually notice me instead of the other people I was with at the bar. Really odd for me as the undesirable one of the group. I mean by way of experience, that is my identity. It was so odd that I didn’t know what to do, said thanks to a compliment and didn’t go into a conversation with her then my friends slapped me around like dude what was that?! She came up to you! They never do that!
I would break down in tears if that happened to me
There is a logical reason why women rarely tell a man he is good looking.
A) She doesn't find you attractive.
B1) She finds you attractive but isn't interested so she doesn't want to mislead you.
B2) She finds you attractive but IS interested so she doesn't want to seem too easy.
So basically women are just never going to tell a man he's attractive. Explains why men have to do literally all the work with dating lol.
Women get told they are attractive on a daily basis….and then they get offended by it
@@mail-qh2qc I didn't say there is NO way to tell. I didn't say she NEVER tells you. If you know how to read body language you can meet 100 women and pick out the one who likes you the most.
@@baldeagle4710 If a woman tells a man he is good looking she is overwhelmed with attraction for him (in that fleeting moment). But women's QUEST these days is to prove that NO man is good enough that she should ever have to be nice or make a sammich.
@@mail-qh2qc Me: "Women RARELY tell"
You: "You did just say that you cannot tell".
I really needed this. Some guys question their level of attractiveness too much. I admit to this. Another thing worth mentioning about attractiveness for both guys and girls. In high school, competition can get pretty high between your peers, and it's usually with the kids who are top quality in how they look. She's drop dead beautiful and he's got the right kind of build, you get the idea. It's the nerds and jocks that struggle that nobody cares about, and in high school, you think in order to be successful, you have to look good physically. The harsh truth is, as kids, you're still growing and learning, and part of that is understanding how your body changes as you get older. Believe it or not, once those nerds and jocks reach college, they are the ones that shine better, both academically and physically. This made me turn my head as well, but those kids that were everyone's best friends in high school.....kinda loose their physical looks, due to the fact that they peaked earlier than most high schoolers would have. Going into high school, I was the overweight autistic who could seem to control his own weight, let alone attract a young lady. Now that I'm in my late 30s, I feel great becase I lost all that weight, and I've got a great job that keeps me physical during the week.
Ppp
Ok Chad
Judging your attractiveness takes 5 minutes. Load up tinder, bumble and hinge, your results give you accurate feedback
@@Pikiaaa I'm almost to a full year on Instagram, and you'd be surprised as to how often I get girls hitting on me. I get it, but I'm also seeing a disturbing trend, the women are online will practically throw themselves at you, or give you the speech on how, "You're my only hope!!"
like, seriously??
@@jeffreyelya9996share some with us bro, some don't have it as easy 😅 (not me tho I get plenty of girls obviously :'))
6/6 For me, Glad to know I'm doing well haha, Interesting point about the unattractive girls as I always noticed this and wondered if it was a LACK of being attractive was the case but as you've explained well its the opposite, I never thought of it in that way.
Also the compliments from male friends was one i noticed a lot too, often get compliments like "you're looking dapper, smart etc, save some jawline for the rest of us" funny things like that. Finally the "other people noticing girls looking at you" is one that has always made me laugh as I never tend to pay attention to it but friends, family mention it happens. I went shopping and started to pay more attention recently to find a fair amount of young woman staring as I walked past. Great enlightening video dan keep it up mate!
me too bro
i thought i only attracted the grenades cuz i wasnt that attractive. but i noticed that my guy friends that are good looking said i was a a good looking fella too. then i noticed attractive women act shy and clumsy around me, seen some girls trip on themselves or drop weights on them at the gym too
ugly girls never hit on me. only cute girls have ever tried to hit on me.
@537 me too bro, getting attention from unattractive, ill-mannered girls and married women, male friends surprised at me being single, and girls I find attractive act shy, clumsy and occasionally standoffish. Yet here's the problem, how do you get those attractive girls to open up to you. Not to mention most of the attractive girls I meet are taken already
That’s a powerful thumbnail! I’ve been looking in the mirror and seeing exactly that. I let myself go a bit when I was with my toxic ex. Last year no one gave me a second glance and I was in a dark place. I got my shit together about 3 months after we split up, got back in the gym, started training Muay Thai again started looking after myself and I started getting all the things mentioned in the vid. This year has been one of the best years for me attention-wise and hopefully only going to get better. Fella’s you got this 💪
#1 happens a lot to me. I get a lot of signals from women im not attracted to but the women that i like mostly dont even look at me😂
And if u think of it, it's really balanced, u can't get the girl the one that u like and they can't have u because u're not into them so ure just like those unattractive girls hitting on u
Same and that piss me off and gave me low self esteem
@@kamartaj3010Don't lower your self esteem boy. You see women have more options than men. They know exactly what they are doing. Be happy and live your life wisely. Trust Jesus Christ God. Thank you
Why some girls that we like rarely don't feel attracted to us but some unattractive girls attracted towards us?
@@AdiyyGordo125 nah bro you got it wrong. The hot girls are attracted too but they got a way bigger ego and a lot of them got low self esteem too. Its just dummy, we gotta make the moves no matter what. Trust me man if you come confident and charming, you will get a lot girls
beauty truly is, in the eye of the beholder.. some will think you're fine, some won't... get with the ones who think you are, NOT the ones who don't... if you do, you're just asking for trouble, further down the line.
After e certain treshold yes.
Now I understand why Grandmother said I was handsome. Respect to my Grandma
This all is so obvious but yet you had to point these things out so i could see them.... Thank you for that, it really helps.
Production value, the calm and kind word choice and cadence of this is just great. Youre doing great my man
Even the specific examples like "boss man" are so on the money and happen in the real world. Good stuff!
Sooo... are you hitting on him now?
This showed up on my feed, and noticed I tend to get this a lot. Although I'm a short man, I learned to accept what I'm dealt with, instead I focus on myself and what I can change. My buddies at work are always complimenting, saying I have captain america physique and their role model. More people hitting the gym, asking me for tips and pointers. They start dressing better. Girls make eye contact more and smiling. Married woman, like you say are not afraid to break the flirting boundaries and make small talk. At the end of the day, I'm just who I am, keeping the promises made for me. If you cant even keep a promise to yourself and lie to yourself constantly, you have NO reason to take on any others responsibility. Not black pilled, red pilled or any of that bs it's toxic and goes no where at the end of the day.
I'm almost 36, and recently I noticed that older women tend to give me some compliments on how good I look. Last year, one of my coworkers, who is 45, is married and has two sons, even told me that she has feelings for me. Another one asked me if I have a girlfriend. I said no and she says "why not? It's impossible".
Also, generally I have always been invisible to girls, except a few that actually showed some interest, even cute ones. But I just shrugged it off thinking that they were just being friendly and that there's no way that she could like me.
But I'm sure that these were just exceptions. I know what I see in the mirror, there's no way that I can be classified as "attractive", trust me 😂
I found that by the time the hot 40 year old women complimented me, the 16 year old hostess was hugging me (in front of her mom and aunt who work at the same restaurant). Young women have a healing energy for men. No need to have sex with them. It's much better just to be next to them.
fbi open up@@bigneiltoo
Omggg had same exact situation last year with this crazy co-worker 40 something year old Vietnamese married woman with 2 teenage daughters.. She asked for my # and wanted to go out to dinner.. she was very persistent and obsessive too.. was always up my ass at work.. Kept saying my husband is away doing training in Boston for 3 weeks 😳🤦🏻♂️ she was seriously bat shit crazy!
@@Nick_315_Palumbo dude, same for me. She didn't desperately try to convince me to get intimate, but kept texting me for months saying that she misses me, that she cares a lot about me and so on. I kept my mouth shut because she's a great worker and I would be in the deepest of shit if she stopped working with me. But it got annoying after a while. She still keeps texting stuff like that, but less invasive.
It pisses me off to an extent. Always been invisible to girls I like, but get "love bombed" by a woman I have zero attraction for.
@@yokiweyy4770 ohhh I know all too well! I stupidly gave her my # just being nice but this broad kept texting me “my heart is finally healing b/c of you” God wants us to be together and I’m the only 1 for her with tons of 😘😘😘Wtf!!! Honestly non stop texting me for 2 weeks straight! Literally woke up a few mornings with 40 texts and 10 miss calls from her! 🤦🏻♂️😵💫 I literally only knew her for about a month.. Gave her very little incline I wanted to pursue an affair! But she wouldn’t stop harassing me 😳 Felt bad blocking her so went to my sup to sit her down 😬 she quit like few months later phew
You nailed all 6 of these for me.
You just earned a sub.
I think I’m actually very good looking. I’m in great shape and get plenty of looks and flirts but I still don’t talk to women well. It’s like I’m too serious cause I just have too much stuff on my mind that I feel is important. When I talk I drag people into that world of seriousness. Only other serious people can handle it and actually like it. Most women are not serious people. They want jokes and fun.
"Girls just wanna have fun" - Cindy Lauper, Foremost Expert of Female Nature
Preach. Shit sucks dude.
Same here.
THIS. Someone said it. It feels like women and most people live in a comedy movie, totally different genre of life.
Thanks for helping to put this into perspective. I get hit on by gay dudes and cougars ALL the time, but I've always felt completely invisible to women my age/ women I'm attracted to.. They show me little to no attention at all. So I'm never quite sure what to believe about myself honestly.
Edit: Third category, I also often get attention from bigger women as well lol. Not tryna "body shame" or whatever, but I'm generally not attracted to women heavier than I am.
Same. Most people who have hit on me have been gay dudes or older women
As a gay guy, I can speak to this. Remember that for us, hitting on a guy can be very risky if we don't know his sexuality - the chance of rejection is far higher and it also carries the risk of violence. It's nerve-wracking. If we hit on you, it's because we're so sincere about it that we've overcome the fear.
So accept it with a friendly smile and a "thank you," let him know straight up that you're not gay, and wear the compliment as a badge of honor. If we see it, so do women. If you really want to make him blush, give him a compliment in return.
Boi, get you some of that poon pie! Yolo
@michaelsutherland5848 if a gay dude hit on me, I would take that as a compliment! Thas wusp broham!
@@joalvarez6252 I'd guess about 3/4 of straight guys are like you. I haven't encountered many who don't take it well. But it happens :-/
Yea, I was an ugly duckling for most of my life (I'm 21 now). My opinion of my looks has always been that I'm not ugly, but my looks aren't doing me and favors. Recently though I started to change how I see myself. I grew my hair out super long and have been wearing it in a bun for a few years. Took me a few years to notice just how good that hairstyle looks on me. Now I have to figure out how to take care of a pretty short beard, because I look more like a baby than clean cut when shaved. Also gotta buy better fitting clothes and find a style that compliments my tall height. I don't really get out of the house because of my work though so it's all a bit hard to justify when I could be working on my own application outside of work.
Absolute confidence crusher
This video popped up in my recommended at just the right time. I think some of it’s contributed to self improvement as well, woman can smell the pheromones on you, especially when you’re on your grind, really didn’t pay it much attention until recently in my life.
If you don't have self confidence, you'll always seek external validation, and it never lasts. If you're good looking and you're not sure, you're wasting your talent.
You have to know what you have, because one day you won't.
Lies beauty never fades
wow, so witty, not
And when you dont know what you have, you are probably average looking I guess. This was my conclusion (if not below average lol)
I think when it comes to younger guys in range for example 16-20, where you don't meet this much people who are married, you can catch some other guys' girlfriends looking at you or coming straight to you even tho they are in a relationship. For me it is common to catch some girls on the gym who are with their boyfriends at the same time to look at me. Also I had almost an identical situation as mentioned in video: I was on this party where my friend came over with his girl. We did catch good chemistry quickly and if he wasn't there, I know we would at LEAST kiss. Sometimes it makes you feel weird, because you obviously cant hit on those girls in front of their guy's but at the same time it makes you aware that you are really good looking and attractive.
Danny’s content is absolute quality!
I read daddy lol
WTF? Open your eyes, watch through appareance maybe and analyze what's being said?
Strongly agree with the 6 points you said.
Yep, I can relate to all of this. When I workout at the gym unattractive people always hit on me but the people I find attractive always stare at me but I feel like they don't want to say anything to me because they're too nervous.
"She came outside and pulled me to the side"... yeah in your dreams bro😂😂😂😂😂
To be honest I'm not a bad looking guy, thing is, before my "glow up" like a couple years ago I was a nerd, not in the studying kind of way, just kinda like lacking social skills and weird overall. I've glown up, got nice clothes, cool hairstyle, go to the gym, etc. However, I only get signs of attraction from women that have not met me before my glow up, for example, the girls at my highschool aren't really interested in me, however I've met women online and outside school that are. Kinda fucks me up cause the highlight of my day is basically school since it's the time when I socialize the most, and since I'm not able to attract women there, it sometimes makes me question my attractiveness. That's why I'm watching this lmfao.
You haven’t figured out the people around you don’t matter. Their opinions mostly have no further value. You need to meet new people to get valuable opinions on your new state.
Glow up doesnt exist. You just elevated your looks. Dont let society put down
By meeting online do you mean dating apps?
@@newtfigton8795 nah social media
Literally every single one of these applied to me, but I've always been too social anxious to even think that it was me being attractive.
Same, Like when ppl Look at me when im going Shopping or something i Always think ITS because i Look weird or im Walking strange or my Outfit Looks weird but never ever i think ITS because im looking good even tho i got told that many times
Well damn i got 0 of AND the anxiety. Fun.
@@algirdasltu1389 Hey man, just keeping working on yourself, and act confident even if you're not. Any man who isn't literally disfigured has the possibility to become a very attractive man.
Me too and im always thinking that they arent really looking at me, its only in my head that they are looking but they are not😅😢
Bro boosted my confidence by 1000 times
What is interesting is that most men actually overestimate their attractiveness when you look at most studies.
The dude here is kind of an example of that. He is not bad looking, but from a scientific standpoint, he does not have many attractive facial markers at all. Yet with his examples, he is hinting at the fact that he himself thinks he is attractive/handsome.
He is an average guy by looks alone.
But that also means you don't have to be extremely attractive to get attention. If his stories are true.
Spot on
He’s tall, white, and above average in the face. All that combined is going to give you great results
@BuddyMac69 He is not above average in the face. White is not an advantage in Western countries. Only being tall.
But in the end, physical appearance is important but overrated nowadays.
Attractiveness of a man is internal. Attractiveness of a woman is external. A slob of a man can be attractive because cool comes from the inside. Women can not know how to read or speak a language just need to be skinny to be attractive
@ballislife9924 100% fully disagree. White people in dating apps are by far the most hitted on by any female except from black girls. White is an advantege, if he is tall its an ENORMOUS advantage and his face i agree its average.
Thanks for confirming I'm ugly AF.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Join the club bucko
In the same boat.
I'm 60 years old now, so i am starting to take on some of the aspects of an old person, but when i was younger, i never considered myself very attractive. However, i didn't really notice this till my brother said, "I've seen you talking with those good-looking girls," so in retrospect, maybe i was just a wee bit more appealing than i gave myself credit for.
Ohhh, so that's what it is. I work in a restaurant and dudes in the drive-thru call me "boss" all the time and even though I know it's a compliment, I never really knew exactly what they could be complementing.
Wow. I always thought having girls that I wasn’t quite attracted to showing interest in me meant that I was unattractive…I guess not
Thanks for clarifying the boss thing. I get guys who will be like whats up boss or uh oh the boss is here. I always just ignored it and never understood it
Thank you for helping me confirm that I am unattractive. Appreciate it. 👍
then do 1000 pushups and stop being a beach
Even if that fails mate, just look to this old saying. "No money 💰, No honey 🍯". 🙂
Being in my early 20s and having issues with my confidence, i really needed this. My female and guy friends all tell me i look good but i cant get many matches on dating apps or have the confidence to approach someone
Friends don't want to hurt your feelings. If you don't get any attention from girls in real life, or even get ghosted sometimes and if you, on top of that, don't get any matches in online dating, then you are probably simply unattractive
It's most likely not you. Dating culture, globally, especially with social media is an absolute rock bottom shit show. No one, especially women, know how to act anymore. One of the reason beings is because social media has made people so vain to the point it's hard for them to give out compliments and rather they seek to be complimented, you most likely are handsome but society is absolutely whack right now
@clochard8318 like he said in the video, people won't bring up your looks unless they think to some degree that you are attractive and also I did realize I have missed a lot of signs that a girl was into me. I can get matches but not many was point
Only the top 10% guys are getting matches on dating apps. Those apps are for whores looking to screw hot guys. The top 10% guys are screwing all 100% of the girls on those apps. Those girls would rather share a top tier guy than have an average guy all to herself. If you want to find a decent girl it will never happen on an app.
You're better off deleting dating apps. Go do some volunteer work, or sign up at a yoga studio that's close to a college if you wanna meet women.
Came for the comments. They did not disappoint.
1. Unnatractive Girls: Yeah, it hapenned to me a lot weirdly enough. They were the weirdest one of the bunch, doing weird stuff for attention while not directly communicating what is going on. But they're friendly nonetheless, just weird on most cases.
2. Friend Catch Girls: A lot too. Recetly a girl was staring at me on college and I mever really noticed until a friend told me. On metro too, but I'm the one noticing it .
3. Comment From Guys: Not necessarily gay men, but I can recall a straight dude in school being really petty with me for some reason. Never knew it was that "intend" or not, and another dude tried to kiss me again, on school. On college it isn't much.
4. Non-Physical Traits: I've been with some female friends, they tend to say I'm a great person and all, but it's hard to get to know me at first, since I don't open myself at all, only if needed. Some of them said I'm not going anywhere with this attitude, some said it makes me more interesting somehow.
LMAO average guys are getting gaslit into thinking they are attractive. Guys, if a man is truly attractive, girls WILL let him know. You just have to spend time with an attractive male friend. You will SEE how differently women behave around those guys. If you are an older dude now and regret that you didn't notice "subtle signs" from women in your past, then chances are, that there simply were no signs at all.
Yep, I had a few "Tyrone" associates and "it" just fell into their laps no difficulties, no mixed subtle messages.
@@seventhkeyomegasghost8233 Problem is, that most men fall under the "average" category and have also only average looking friends. Thats why many guys never see with their own eyes how different the life of a good looking guy really is.
@@clochard8318 Yeah it helps to see LEGIT Chad and Tyrone's at work, or should I say "not working at all."
I'm just now slightly getting compliments from women when my hot ass friend had some girls he knew come up and gave them ASS ratings...
The video is about being more attractive than they think they are. Not believing their are diamonds among the trash.
5 out of 6 for me, you just gave me a boost to start my day! Some of these were ones I had never thought about before, very insightful.
Heres another boost: I saw you the other day and i thought to myself, "now there is one handsome dude".
@@DonTrump-sv1siit’s true, I was with him
it's true. i was behind him@@Eric-oq2yu
It is absolutely impossible to to have a girlfriend and get a date. I was told that I am too short and no girl will talk to me outside of work. I am the poster child for the word loser. The good thing is I get to keep all my money, I am a fantastic artist also.
Dang dude. Is it that bad? Impossible to get a date??
Even if you’re a troll, I’ve seen some women that are hideous. There’s somebody for everybody.
@@fivebooks8498 I am 54 now, have not ever been on a date. I feel cursed. This is the absolute truth. The last time I actually tried I was told that I was too short, she liked tall men. I wish I was taller and better looking.
@@fivebooks8498I can sympathize with him. I find it difficult too
How tall are you?
@@schroederluck7984 5'6"
I had bad expectations but this video was actually very good
Dude, I struggled getting women all my life. Then I hit my 30s and let me tell you something, I get more women interested in me than my teens and 20s combined!! I worked on losing some weight, my beard grew in much fuller, I groom much better and focus on a cool clothing style. I’ve had 18 year olds ask for my number, I literally had 5 ask for my number in the last 3 months. It feels great, however I don’t consider myself good looking, although I’ve been told that I’m cute and I guess that’s all you really need to get a good looking woman. Just yesterday I had 2 girls who work at my gym stop me to talk to me, all the girls who talk to me are VERY attractive. To be honest this has been a bit overwhelming for me because I went from almost getting no women to having women approach. Currently, I have a feeling that I have a friends family member even interested in me, lol. I don’t know how to handle all this fairly new attention and I need to work on my communication skills with women because I think I developed anxiety every time I talk to them. 😂 I feel like I need a lot of practice talking to them, I even went to a strip club and worked on talking to them and it went REALLY well, even my friend was pleasantly surprised. I’m no player and truth be told, I’d rather have a girlfriend whom I can grow with. I would love some tips on how not to get nervous talking with women and instead start building friendships and relationships. Anyway, if I can get women interested in me, so can you guys! Got to stay focused on self improvement, boys. It’s not easy but it’s definitely worth it, good luck. 💪🏻
I always had women check me out at jobs I worked and the BF's would get in my face for just being there. I would always have to defuse the situation.
One girl was looking me up/down and walked into the wall. 😂 Then her BF started saying "pretty boy" and other shit under his breath as they left. I'm thinking "How is that my fault?" LOL
BTW : When you lift and are fit, you get WAY more attn from other men. Random guys give me props at the gym or park, or they'll ask for my routine, etc..All based on thinking they need to get fit to get women. But women don't care nearly as much as guys think they do.
This whole video is straight facts, spoken concisely, without wasting words.
I experience all of the six signs mentioned, and if you know how to engage with people (without being fake) when these signs are presented, it will make your persona absolutely magnetic to others.
You don't even have to be tall, or be the most handsome person. I'm only 5'8," but I'm well-presented and well-spoken.
Good video. 👍
I did to. Crazy to think that my phone camera was lying to me all this time. phone cameras have very little depth preception so it makes you look fat and flat faced
The ampunt negative energy and sabotage is draining af... stalkers, haters etc. No wonder I hid my potential for so many years 😢
I feel a lot better about myself after watching this video
Good deal you handsome devil you! And save some chill for the rest of us ugly b**tards!
This channel is so underrated
if you`re really good looking people are intimidated by you, you can see it by the way they behave.
Illuminating. Thank you Danny!
A dude at my boxing gym said I reminded him of Tyson Fury, a pretty famous boxer these days.
I thought about it for a second and realized bro was straight up just calling me tall, bald and fat in a roundabout way.
He wasn't even lying or anything, just took me by surprise.
Hahaha, that's crazy
I know I am not attractive and been told so many time in my life (especially now in mid life). But I found love by being myself and true to those in my life. I am not rich nor a stud so I know people in my life are in it for non superficial reasons.
Great content and great excellent delivery.
*Such an empowering video!*
not really, I remember working at a downtown café and this mixed female blk/wht came up to my job a few times before she decided to asked me out, she was NOT ugly BUT i was shook cause this girl could get any dude she wanted to she chose to ask me. She worked at a para-legal firm. At the time of me being 22 yr old and she was a bit older than me. I didnt even kiss her fudge at the end of the date, I wish what i know now i would of done that whole date over the right way.!!!
Oh ya and this took place in the late 90's so ya - very different era back then NO SOCIAL MEDIA!!!
Women were always and eagerly utilizing every means to be more obnoxious and to appear exclusive. Answering machines, headphones, sunglasses, caller ID, email, cell phones, smart phones, Tinder.
Let me guess, you are white?
1 and 2. No woman ever hit on me.
3. No friend ever caught a woman looking at me.
4. No men say something like this.
5. When I was younger (in my 20s), people said I look like Mr. Bean
6. No clue if that is as a compliment, but I get the usual from female friends, coworkers, etc: "You are such a nice guy, I can't understand, how you did not find someone yet.".
absolutely brutal
I relate to this in a few ways. I've always had less attractive women be attracted to me. I've even had women tell me that I was out of their league. I've had many gay men hit on me and that's happened since high school and it still happens. I've had both men and women call me a pretty boy.
I agree with what he said about attractive women not coming forward and for me it sucks bc yes I'm attractive but I have a really good personality. So I wish more attractive women would approach me. Sometimes they do but its never for anything long term which makes me feel used. Other times, the women that are attractive who approach me often have self esteem issues and don't even believe they are attractive.
I think what everyone needs to remember, is that the people that really matter don’t give a shit about how you look.
real
Thank you for the video. Just as I suspected, I scored 0 out of 6!
0:20 - Interesting point. But when unattractive women hit on me (which hardly ever happens anyway) I don't view it as a sign that I'm attractive. I conclude that they see me as being in their league and a more realistic option than a man who is actually attractive. I'm still grateful for the compliment, though.
i mean looking into a mirror seems like a good option too
I finally got 100% on a test 😂
you are a very underrated youtuber thank you for your wisdom
What wisdom. It's obvious all he said.
I don't think I'm good looking but I've always done very well with women. I think it's my confidence or the way I carry myself.
Is that you in the pic?
No it's your mother @@greganderson2239
We need a video about the downside of being handsome
Nothing
@@Jacob-nu4ndthen you aren't a good looking guy. I hate to break it to you...
@@Jacob-nu4ndyou have no idea the levels of jealousy I’ve experienced from my old circles just because of how girls reacted to my looks
@@Xoulrath_ if women find you attractive, that’s all that matters
@@bibzykravitz001 who cares what dudes think
This.. was a confidence booster
Out for 10, I'm a -1. Yeah man.
Wow. I’d expect this is normal all of this has happened to me getting hit on my married woman, the attraction part looking at the comments. Seems like guys haven’t experienced all the things Danny says in this video. But everything is spot on this video. Iykyk
💯
I've experienced some of these events which you just listed 👍
Been through all phases until it got to the guy comments,nothing to add there,happy that aint happened such. Women may/are looking at you from distance,not showing anything thinking they are tough, but at the end of the day they are the one to blame themselves for being single for not putting effort for revealing how they feel more directly from close distance, and doesnt have to be direct talk. When the close distance signs like smiles,direct look regularly everytime you pass each other by at you are missing,even if they look from distance that aint matter shit. Plus add finding out they have children or boyfriend or catching them with someone who they have just fun with but in status they are single. That experience happened at work the majority of it. Similar stuff to the gym.
Directly those types from the past were immediately burnt and kept moving on.
So no,starings even if its a lot aint matter shit guys and before doing anything do your research. its a MUST.
Literally in the same week I had a woman tell me I have nice arms, another women checking me out at a store, a 60 year old woman flirting with me after a class…and a 13 year old kid telling me my face is my biggest flaw. Literally cannot tell if I’m good looking or not. I’ll have a bunch to really good experiences with women flirting with me or looking at me and smiling, and then someone tells me I’m ugly or something.
Dude, even a man like Brad Pitt has his haters.
13 y/o's are mean and insecure so I wouldn't worry too much about it
You're the letter N, of course you can't tell.
An unmentioned experience is that other men just assume that you could easily pull any attractive women or even scout them out for you. Other men just assume that you have zero difficulty attracting women, so they always make comments suggesting that you should easily approach and pick up any attractive woman despite them being complete strangers. Another is that people become unsolicited personal matchmakers or publicists for you. You will have acquaintances voluntarily work on your behalf despite you never asking. They all just know a single attractive woman that you should meet.
None of this 6 happens to me. 🤨😁 guess you'll have to make one more video with another 6 signs, maybe I'll be more lucky in the next one. 😂
😂😂😂
Or you're just an average dude, lol. OR perhaps you haven't looks maxed yet. Taking care of your skin, trimming your eyebrows, nose, ears, using lotion, getting plenty of QUALITY sleep and drinking enough water can all help with that. Then amply doing something physical for enough of the week, while not overeating, will help with the body.
After that, it's up to you to work on the confidence. But doing the above first, if you haven't already (and I'm betting that you haven't), will greatly increase how much better you feel about yourself, and in turn, make your confidence skyrocket.
Some guys dont straight up tell a girl shes beautiful. Girls that are beautiful either know they are, or the guy who sees them assume that they already know so they dont tell them. They just look at them lovingly. A guy can look at a girl lovingly and she should know shes beautiful by the way they do that I think. Not all the time, girls notice this though.
I have a different opinion on sign number 1. If ugly girl holler at you that mean that they think they are pretty enough for you therefore you are not that attractive but just good looking enough. If a 5 holler at you that usually mean you are around that level. If you are truly handsome , they will begin to know their place and will be more subtle and will avoid you, because a one way crush is too taxing on the mind. This is my experience.
Eh it depends I think. Think about it, women can be just as horny or desiring as men at times and let's face it, some very unattractive men can approach stunning women and act like they're James Bond and doing her a favor. I think the point is that, if unattractive women are going out of their way to approach you and give you their number or blatantly hit on you, it's a good sign you're attractive because women IN GENERAL do not want to make the first move.
The idea with attractive women not hitting on you is that they probably already have lots of dudes constantly approaching THEM and so they know they are a hotter commodity and don't benefit from approaching the guy since they might actually be similar in attractiveness to themselves and therefore it's more sensible to just have men chase after you as a sexy woman who will then be weeded out and prove themselves in some way to be the guy they'd really want. In other words, physical attraction alone isn't as desirable for attractive women precisely because they could date a SUPER hot guy if they wanted to because physically hot men are always approaching THEM first.
@@wowomah6194 Women are the true predators of the game, but women are very insecure (example Megan Fox), this is the paradox. They are horny, but they must act like they are not desperate. The unattractive girl usually have confidence around guys that they perceive that they can bag, and the unattractive guys are virtual invisible. Hate to break it to you, but women usually make the first move all the time, but they do it differently more subtle. The ugly Jame bond doesn't know he is ugly, and the really true incel doesn't really approach and the unattractive women doesn't really know she is ugly ( in her mind she think she still pretty enough for you). You are what you attract, if you are invisible to hot women then you are not that attractive, if you have average women swarming you then consider yourself above average. Above average is not handsome. The Super hot guy you are talking is what I call handsome.
The reason ugly girls hit on attractive guys is because attractive guys screw ugly girls all the time. This is causing average girls to over value themselves. The attractive guy never stays with her but she thinks she just didn’t play her cards right and one day one of those guys will fall in love with her. Never gonna happen but she hopes. Top tier men screwing all the girls including average and below average girls is messing up the dating market. It’s causing women to price themselves out of the market.
@@wowomah6194 I find attractive women usually date the ugliest guys. Maybe they just don't want a partner who is more beautiful than them. Dating an attractive man is a huge risk for a woman. She could invest a lot of time into an attractive man, and he could potentially be stolen by another woman. In her mind at least. Or maybe they just feel bad for them. This is the generation who grew up watching Shrek after all lmao. Their boyfriends are their idealized troll, with a heart of gold. As well like with Prince Charming, male beauty is associated with various negative traits in their minds. Beautiful on the outside, with a heart of black coal.
Of course, these are just modern media stereotypes.
The unattractive girls on the other hand, have nothing to lose by hitting on very attractive men. The ugly dudes aren't interested in them either, so they might as well shoot their shot and see if they can fish a lonely attractive guy who the attractive girls are ignoring. Like when the Bearded Woman hits on Prince Charming in Shrek, and Charming gets angry because Fiona is ignoring him.
It all comes back to Shrek.
@@wowomah6194 I get along with most females but it's mostly the women I find attractive that approach me while unattractive women barely look at me (I wouldn't know anyway cause I don't pay attention to them) so by that logic I would be ugly lol. On the flip side most men approach just about any woman, so by that logic every woman thinks she is a 10 anyway.
am i the only one who thinks he is Deadpool ...?
Yes, he is
It's always a freaking letdown when a average looking girl likes you. It's never the girl you want.
This video is garbage. It's easy to believe that attractive women "just don't want to feed your ego" but watch that attractive women when she's around a guy you know is hot. She's got no problem being flirty, outgoing, and giving him compliments. This guy is trying to take advantage of insecure men for views by telling them what they want to hear.
Fr i got approached by like 5 average girls this year and only like 2 good lookin girls this year😭
You guys getting approached by girls?
if another guy is calling you boss, and he's not your employee, he's a Philippino.
As a half Filipino, I agree with you on this one haha
Heck yeah, massive ego boost. Love the married woman section, makes sense now.
Time to hit the gym and earn this.
I hate to burst your bubble dude, but I've been there with the married women. In the end the reality is they hate they're husband, they're insecure, and they're desperate for attention. I thought it was cool at first than I watched them do the same thing with other not very good looking guys.
@@pwabd2784 lol this is confusing and you're gonna try one up me anyway.
You've been the married woman? Or do you mean you've cheated? Or do you get off thinking others are ugly?
Bruh stfu
I personally not consider myself attractive nor unattractive. I do no have so much confidence but I let these things go and I find out the life is easier (for me) alone. I have no interest to start an action.
Now I know I'm *really* unattractive
I think we need to love ourselves more. My friend invited me to drinking games on a zoom call with a bunch of people during Covid and I just had fun for once. I didn’t try to stress out about social environments like I usually do irl and at one point the entire chat room stopped and literally asked if I had a girl. That felt so random. One of the guys or maybe one of the girls idk but it was during a kind of intermission where like 2 people were in the bathroom but I was like nah I’m single af. They asked why and I basically said “idk I just don’t attract a lot of people like that.” They basically all were like “ah that’s not true. I don’t believe that.” It was really nice of them. I actually only just remembered it watching this video…it reminds me how hard I am on myself while people see a different person. I hate me, but they liked me.
I’m def not attractive lol, I’ve dated attractive people , but they always seem to loose interest. I’m at the point now where I don’t have self confidence and I simply don’t care anymore about finding anyone lol
Join the club!
You got that cute guy look going on though and if your personality is nice you'd be absolutely lovable I think.
@@totallynotalazyguy737 why thank you :)
Man this is powerful. I’ve come into knowing I’m attractive awhile ago.. too many compliments to stay stuck on stupid. For me it’s “my level” of attractiveness I wonder about. Specifically as a masculine man to women. I know I’m no model looking guy… but I also have done amateur modeling in the past and I’ve had some very attractive partners here and there. I’m also 6/6 here. My biggest problem is wondering how attractive I am to the women that are 8’s and above because as is mentioned in the video, attractive women won’t usually compliment men (though it has definitely happened that I’ve had random women I would consider 8’s or 9’s tell me I’m super attractive) but that’s like .00001% of the attractive women I meet. Most just ignore me or act like I’m creepy, but now because of this video.. I’m figuring out that those attractive women don’t want to give me a big head.. which now that I’m thinking about it, makes sense since I’ve alway been told that I’m very confident, bordering on stuck up (which I certainly don’t try to be stuck up as I don’t think I’m better than ANYONE. But ye.. this makes perfect sense. Why am I just now noticing this 🤦🏽♂️ it also makes sense now why women that have lightly flirted with me in the past.. rejected me when I put forth some effort. It’s low self esteem on their part plus more than likely thinking I’m a player and might cheat on them etc etc… DAMN! This is good stuff! I’m subbing NOW!!
Story of my life
Edit: lol I've used 'GQ' in a playful/joking matter when I run into men I feel are more attractive than me
I'm a 50yr old male. Never had trouble getting women. However, I've lost my confidence over the last 3 years. Anyhow, I went through a tough divorce 8 years ago. But only 5 years ago, I would catch women looking at me. I've had women hit on me at bars and on the street. Even now with some grey in my hair, I managd to get women to look at me. Here's my problem; I always think I'm ugly. It's been difficult seeing myself 30lbs heavier from threw years ago. To my point; this year, I am on a mission to lose the excess weight, work out and groom well. I want a partner in life, I will not sit around and lose this leverage to be able to find a good woman. This time around, I will be careful to not choose the wrong woman again. Interesting video.