Why Is He Ghosting You? Should You Stalk His Social Media?
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- Break Up Rules. Why Is He Texting? Should You Watch His Social Media?Let's talk about moving on and why he is in your DMS, what it means. Does he want you back? Should you post your glow up?
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Brilliant. I became anxious in my last relationship, but because I understand social norms, I knew not to let him see this side of me. Also, I'm a business owner/homeschool mom who is really IS busy. But my insides were a mess and I was low-key obsessed and did stalk his social media. We were on and off for 3 years. So I ended up deactivating my social media and started focusing heavily into my mental health, physical health and career. Best move ever. Out of site, out of mind. Now that I'm more healed, the type of relationship he wanted to offer me isn't what I want anymore. He benefited from the unhealed version of me because I had no boundaries. I'm not the same woman thank God. ❤
Love this!!!
I'm one week into this and hope to get to healing like you did! ❤
I am a business owner and homeschool mom too. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago. Curious to know what your journey was like, is it possible to connect?
@@oljaaaaaaa awesome. Honestly, it took many months to get here. I had to look into all of the things that would cause me to feel triggered and trace it all the way back to past traumas. This is the way I learned to disassociate current situations where I feel triggered without tying them into my past if that makes sense.
For instance, when my ex would shut down, I took that as a sign that I was not worth the effort of working things out and also felt abandoned in those moments. The unworthy and abandonment wound stems from childhood and past relationships and had nothing to do with him. Him shutting down was him self-soothing and licking his wounds so to speak because he felt I was saying he's not good enough when I would bring an issue up.
So in turn I left and started working on myself and doing personal development work and starting pouring so much love into all areas of myself and meeting my own needs. I was abandoning myself before this and I won't treat myself this way any longer. As for him, he was just as unhealed as I was. We just have different wounds and triggers so I no longer hold resentment towards the way I was feeling and I wished him all the best. ❤️
“He benefitted from the unhealed version of me because I had no boundaries” girl just put this on a tombstone already because GOT DAMN! 🔥 🔥
Stalking some man’s social media of a man that doesn’t want you is so crazy to me. If you’re doing that then stop altogether. If someone rejects me I don’t look back. My value is higher than that and I’m moving forward. I have goals to accomplish.
If you’re reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You are good enough, worthy and deserving of the best.💗🙏🏼
I dont believe a Word
Thank u dear, the best for you too
If a man tests you and especially tests your boundaries in any way, just walk away. And if he comes back dont let him-unless he’s done a 180 and is consistent in how he is showing up now. But I feel like 99% don’t come back for love or really changed. A mature and healthy man, real man, will not purposely tests you or push your boundaries. If he really likes you he’ll move forward or if he’s not into you he’ll be honest and end things.
Agreed. This applies to people in general, not just men. Mature men and women don't play games as a 'test'.
okay day 1 of not stalking his social media starts now
Me too & im not replying anymore
I was a fool to leave him.
Watch videos on going no contact. They are so helpful. I'm 17 days no contact. Silence, distance, time and indifference is powerful. Give them space and time to miss you and fear losing you. If he doesn't then he wasn't the one for you.
No you weren't. If you had to doubt the relationship it wasn't the right one for you x better things are coming@@martiholmer-fernander2138
My day 1 starts today
”Men used to signal to women in wars and spartans, now he’s signaling to you with dj khaled”🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol
I just got the "How are you doing?" text 2 days ago.
I had a little meltdown, felt angry and sad but yesterday I replied "I'm good." Because I am.. doing good. Haven't heard from him since & moving on with my life, doing the things I love and having lots of fun :)
We can do this girls ♡
Aye
A guy who I dated long ago texted me after four years!! Four years!!
"I was born at night but not last night" really made me chuckle😂😂❤️ ur the best Margarita, made my night 🔥🔥
I wonder how many guys are watching you and really appreciate your advice. I know I do.
Girl, I needed this today. I'm working on healing my anxious attachment (thank you for all the other videos, you're helping so much with that as well!) and my ex is consistantly around. Trying to heal and move on and it is torture-I have to see him multiple times a week due to work. I know I contributed massively to our breakup with my attachment style...but thank you for reminding me of my worth again today and to continue to do my own work. Love you!
I texted him i am moving on from this situationship and he blocked me on everything the next day and i blocked him back. After 2 weeks, he unblocked me on social media. It's just bait and low effort to see if ill chase again i think. Time reveals all and no contact is powerful. We will see who is bluffing. Im not opening communication until bold, serious, direct effort to pursue me.
"Men used to be spartans, and now he's signaling you with a Dj Khaled post"😁
This is gold!!!! I would also strongly suggest to just remove him from your social media..no block, just remove him and that's how you stop seeing him everywhere and you can also post whatever you want in there
We have too many mutual friends. I blocked him and still see him in photos. It’s hard.
@@Mermaid03_03 girl, just mute them for a while...I just did it now with a mutual friend when my ex's photo appeared on my feed.. You are not going to bother me on my own phone, sir. At least till you break the "addiction".🥹🤗
Like.. i asked the universe today, help me detach.. and then this video! Arent you magical!
Now, i agree that i have been wanting a dopamine hit without even knowing.. i know that these videos are the only dopamine that ill need everyday.. What a brilliant morning and day its gonna be from now on..
lastly- I shall have no more fucks to give.
As women we really need to start raising our standards 👏🏽
I am not going through a breakup right now but I watch all of your videos because they resonate with me so much. I feel like everything you say is like a huge chunk of wisdom and you are truly engouraging me to be more confident! Keep up the content, it really helps me a lot!
Same. I’m not even going through a breakup but I clicked on this video so fast 😂😂😂
He sends you DJ Khalid smoke signals and you're running back 😂
I just immediately delete their social network including family and friends. All connections are cut. I even go as far as to delete every single photo of us. I replaced every single item in my home. I threw away his gifts (cause they weren't worth anything). Basta 🎉❤
Energy cleansing is important.
„I spent a whole summer communicating subliminally with Jake“ oh god I felt that 🥲
I deleted the app we used to communicate on so I don’t see him
that social media bit is timely as hell
I don’t know what is about him! I really started to like him within a week. We only texted for 2 weeks and he wasn’t even consistant but apart from that, he was exactly the type of guy that was according to my “league”. Yes I know this was the reddest flag and I confronted him and he changed drastically and became more available but things couldn’t work out and it was my fault and he ghosted me. My ego isn’t allowing me to double text him back but my heart is craving him so badly. It’s been a month and I cannot let it go and he is possibly dealing with someone new. I don’t know how to even process it. I am feeling so angry,depressed because I really thought I’m a changed person and do not obsess anymore. But I am. Maybe I got attracted to him because he left as he was something that I want in myself.
Thanks for calling me out because I’ve spent many years not responding but cackling at the sad messages from a man who broke my heart. Those “Remember when we went to/ate at/ laughed so hard at…” messages used to make me feel so vindicated but it’s all ego and totally useless to me. Thank you!
Treat him like a stranger/acquaintance if they are not serious about you and trying to play you again.
@@basicinfo2022having been on the receiving end of your suggestion, i can attest its quite unpleasant and painful. So if she wants to give him special medicine 😂 that would be the way. My first bf acted with total indifference and coldness and yes it stung. We both messed up but i hurt him badly so i accept it. And im moving on. This is a 7yr old story.
@etcwhatever I've been watching no contact videos like coach blac. It's the best way to go so they feel and fear the loss of you.
@@basicinfo2022 I know it’s bad to enjoy his feeling of loss but…
🤩 . Exactly what I needed to hear. I think I should start my mornings with this. As always, honest, logical and strong ❤❤❤
I cracked up with this video, love your style and how you express everything, it really puts things in perspective in such a funny way. Thanks Margarita ur the best 💝
Even if the topic isn’t relevant to me, I still watch all your videos just because your confidence and self assured attitude is so contagious and actually helps me start my day right.
I love your videos even if they do not fit in my life, my advice would be dont read into it, just keep moving forward, its a myth regarding money or house when u get a divorce he got it all, I received nothing.
"he is as useful as someone's random uncle" exactly
Great video really.From my experience,unless you turned him off really majorly,all men come back just like narcissists hover you after the breakup.It's exactly the same.They do this when they are either single or bored with who they are with.They go back to the list of exes cause nostalgia hits them and they want something.That is either: sex,psychological services from you,someone nice to go out with for a coffee in order to raise his social status and boost his ego and mood and of course to check if the gate is still open.It doesn't matter how long it takes,they always come back.My longest was 10 years.The best thing to do and the best revenge also is GHOSTING!
I liked before watching, that's how much trust I have in your potential ❤
I wish I had seen this video a few years ago😅 You’re describing my past self and how she struggled but at the same time it feels so good realising I’m not her anymore and don’t even feel tempted to stalk their social media bc I genuinely don’t care what they’re up to❤
Did you just give me a reality check? I'm laughing and crying at the same time 😂
THIS CAME AT THE PERFECT TIME
He does it on purpose cause he wants you to CHASE HIM ….ON TOP OF THIS HE IS CHEATING.
Dealing with breakup....and bingle watching your messages helps me. I am so grateful for this channel. I keep hearing "LEAVE IT" In my head every time i want to text him THANK YOU❤
I needed this today. I have an ex situation who came and went many times in the last 6 years because I allowed it - everytime it wrecked my mental health and gave me false hope. I finally blocked him with this video. Time will heal me ❤thank you
LMAO, DJ DJ Khaled
Universe thank you,i needed this podcast❤
Margarita I love your advice so much, this was especially amazing. You also had me laughing at the DJ Khaled part. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
My avoidant gf says that she is feeling out of love. And she cant afford to ruin my life and asks me to move on as i (me) deserve someone better.We were in a long distance last year also and same thing happend she ran away and after 7 8 months came back. First she was like i missed you and was acting as a friend but was asking me if i have moved on from her or not. When i said no she then wanted me to move on but slowly and gradually she came in again and started love bombing me and she was eager to marry me . Saying i cant imagine myself with anyone else now. I want a family with you. I was very happy with her such things. And i assured her we will fullfill our each wish together i asked her that time because i knew our past so i asked her what if she had the same phase again she said it wont jappen this time but i said if it happend she said if it happend be with me that time and dont give up on me. but then within a week out of a sudeen she fell out of love again.she says she feelz guilty when i show love and she cant reciprocate it. She says its not upto her to do so.she says she had asked herself a lot why is she behaving like this but she couldnt find a answer and at last she says to herself that she is fine this way only. She says if i let you go you will be hurt and if i let you stay you will get hurt that way also due to my ( her) behaviour. She also says she dosnt see herself as a loyal person now and cries. She tell me that if you will say these things to anyone else they will also say that she is not loyal. She herself says that what she isnt normal but she cant help it.she says she is very unpredictable and at this moment she dosnt see a future with me and why would you(me) waste your life on such a thing by marrying me. But i love her very much even in this situation she cares for me. And i could wait for years for her
Now she tries to avoid all this stuff and dosnt want me or her to discuss about it.
She also says that now at this points she has started to hate herself.
Please give me suggestion what should i do i dont want to lose her. I am becoming more anxious day by day and self sabotage my needs also .I love her with all my life.
Please help me.
What should i do.
Do you offer coaching at all ? One on one with being ghosted
Delete all traces of him and block on all socials
Omg for 4 years I was the obsessive subliminal communication person 😂😭 It’s crazy how much we change & grow💖
“Why do you care” is such a dumb question
Somewhat unrelated. I'm South African, and we actually used to have a DJ Somebody. 😂
He passed last year though.
Anyways, I love your videos. ❤❤❤
" They aren't running through the fields of sexual opportunity" LMAO!!! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
21:23 🔑🔑🔑👏
I broke up with him then sort of started to change my mind and then we hooked up and I was so upset for a few weeks when he said he didn’t want to stay in touch. then I blocked him. For good! The hookup was terrible and I don’t care if he wants me back. He is an alcoholic with poor stamina girl no thank you!
Thank you. This video means so much to me. I’ve had it on repeat all week.
I liked your video even before watching it! Your face was so determined, I was positive it will be worthy! 💋
The last reason about ego was literally I was 😧this face whole time lol brilliant
Girls!! Just block him! It ended for a reason.
Omg I needed this right now🙏
I wish I would’ve seen this video 2 weeks ago lol
I have to admit i struggled with this. We were married 20 years
This was so good!!! Got me laughing at the sig laying dj khaled 😂
You are awesome, Margarita ! ❤
You’re so inspiring!! I had a guy end things with me because I said I’d miss out on other men if he doesn’t want to peruse me, I ignore his messages & he comes back asking how I am & if we can be friends…still trying to understand what that means? Ladies? ❤
It means he wants to have access to you without effort. Stay far away from him and save yourself from potential manipulation.
LOL!!! ...Half-assed attempt..LOL!!! You've convinced me. Thanks. I enjoy your videos.
Best video ever❤🎉❤🎉❤
This was exactly what I needed. I blocked all his fb accounts and 2 weeks later (if that), he starts texting me asking why. I’ve still been checking his accounts from my business account but time to stop. I got a pt job and am really busy so that’s helping.
That means no contact is working. Hes starting to feel the loss and fear losing you. Be prepared to stand by your standards if you ever agree to see him again.
@@basicinfo2022 Yes, I wish I wouldn’t have responded to him at all now tho because I told him it was awkward seeing his name on fb and he didn’t respond back. Now I feel stupid for saying anything. He’s a DA and I’m an FA but lean anxious dealing with him. I should block his number too. So hard.
🤣super !!!!!!!!!
Thank you!!!!
& to think im paying for a counselor to get through my divorce. 😂
All I needed was Margarita.
Margarita I love your break-down of the DJ Khalid smoke signal song. It hurts to think we all know someone that pathetic. And that we might have actually been that person at one time.
My ex has blocked me everywhere randomly after 1 month of NC and tried breadcrumbing me last week. They were the one that dumped me and I’m trying so hard to heal being an anxious attached person. It feels like getting dumped round 2 and it really sucks. I hope I feel better soon..
I'm in a situation where I DO think he was a good man and a significant bunch of our relationship problems WERE actually me being insecurely attached; and he IS making an honest effort to get me back (he made it very clear he wants to restart the relationship that I broke off and outlined strategies how to handle the pitfalls that we had before), says he has way more emotional resource for that now after going through therapy etc. But I'm still sitting on the fence ans listening to this video because I am not sure. I'm very doubtful we can make it and pretty convinced my psychological patterns will kick in again, if not in any romantic relationship, then with this particular person for sure. And of course a part of me is questioning, "Is he though?? Is he a good man? Could you do better? Is he manipulating you in some invisible way?" Ugh.
I needed to hear this cause he’s trying to come back for a reaction. No real action just a lot of subliminals and I’m not about to sub and check Jake’s social media for 6 months. I don’t understand but I’m not about to waste my time trying to figure it out. *let me google some places I can volunteer at*
This crazy why do men and women giving the same advice both sides are saying the same thing about each opposite sex...
Straight talk, no chaser!!! This video is so honestly brutal… Lawd! 😅😅😅
Amazing! You are so wise and I felt so empowered by you, thank you!
Love you Margarita , thank you for your content for us women. God bless 😘
I agree with all of it. And I feel really called out. But despite that, I still obsess over him. It's SO HARD to let him go. Especially having kids together. I'm really anxious attached, and he is really avoidant so we split up for the classic reasons. But now that I've learned about the attachment theory, I long for him because I think we can fix ourselves and make it 😢 but I wait for him to actually want me back first.
This is so brilliant you are the ultimate hype girl and everything you say it’s so hilariously blunt and just so so true and honest in every way 😂 🙌
I will run and slide down a wall dramatically if I need to plus post lessons learned on social media bc once I’m done. I’m done. I don’t reach out. But I do allow myself to fully go through my process.
You look absolutely amazing in the thumbnail (and also in this and every other your video)
Absolutely love your channel! You explain things with such honesty...
Thank you so much, Margarita! This video has helped me stay on track to healing! 🧡
Resurrecting in large part because I have ppl like you in my head
Do we block or unfriend him?
Im new to this channel and im binge watching, love❤😊
The podcast about how to get an ex back seems to be closed to view, hidden
12:31 lol leading into that "how you doing?" love your insight and how down to earth you give it!!!
This video is a gem. Love the style, so eye-opening and witty, and yet very kind. 💎
Great advice. i will try this today!
why making yourself busy, when you can just chill and enjoy your peace 🙄
I don't understand people.
Cause you enjoy your peace, but then what? I like my life to be adventurous.
Margarita , i love you , i mentioned you in my book ❤
Love this video , thank you
Thanks.....I needed that one!
Thankkk you!!! 😂👌🏽❤️✨
He broke up with me because of trust issues and we went no contact for two weeks until he reached out last night on our what could’ve been “2 year anniversary” if we never broke up. But he still doesn’t want to be with me. Any advice?
Move on
I like you but what’s wrong about people from 3rd world countries?
Not smart showing of example from the sense of you are better than people. It’s narcissistic.
She was mocking first world people...not the other way around. She is saying we are vapid lol
Dang i needed to hear this
Thanks needed to hear 😊that
This was amazing 🙏
Love you🥰🥰🥰
May you please help me where to find that podcast about how to get an ex back
Spotify type her name in
Oh.i need this...God bless u❤
I love you
💖💖💖💖💖