HOW to get THE RING & make him stay for a LIFETIME

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 Год назад +412

    29:36 if he doesn't romantically love you... he is settling for you as a placeholder. It's sad and you will internalize the rejection as low self worth. Leave. Go where you are loved, wanted and are their dream girl.

    • @ladanpeach8915
      @ladanpeach8915 Год назад +5

      What If Im so lonely and If I leave nobody would ask how is my day or how am I doing

    • @MRWOLF360
      @MRWOLF360 Год назад +15

      Make a friend- even online! Go out and talk to people. Good people.

    • @KandyKoatedKrafts
      @KandyKoatedKrafts Год назад +8

      Get a dog!!

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 Год назад +26

      Don't be fooled; when a guy meets his "dream girl" he can also abandon HER years later. Men are truly unpredictable. Not worth the stress and heartache. I'm 41 and have checked out. Men have destroyed me and my self worth too much for my broken heart to handle any longer.

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 Год назад

      A dog is not the same a human being. They don't ask you how your day was, or hug you, or have true emotional intimacy much less physical. Don't get me wrong, I love dogs and they are great company for loneliness but let's not try to actually convince each other that a dog is a substitute for a human man. (Whether that's a good thing or a bad thing, is of course subjective person to person).@@KandyKoatedKrafts

  • @catcat9582
    @catcat9582 Год назад +60

    I'm so glad I realized there's nothing u can do to keep someone

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 Год назад +263

    14:00 it's the toxic men who gaslight women that marriage is "just a paper" but it's a legal contract that grants the wife benefits and rights to protect herself, children and their assets. If its "just a paper" then why not just sign it lol. Children are emotionally and mentally stronger when their parents are committed as husband and wife too.

    • @omh186
      @omh186 Год назад +2

      Maybe they aren’t religious at all???

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Год назад +26

      @@omh186 it's a *legal* contract, not just religious if you add on religious ceremony which is optional.

    • @unvaccinatedamerican9620
      @unvaccinatedamerican9620 Год назад +11

      @basicinfo2022
      This mindset is exactly why some men will never sign a marriage license. You go into the contract and expect guarantees from the man, enforceable by the State, while providing him no such guarantees yourself. What you want is financial leverage in the relationship at his expense, even if he does nothing wrong. On a whim you can go to court, take half of his assets and get monthly payments for child support. You want equal rights to work and compensation, but unequal rights in marriage. What a joke.

    • @Petunia1738
      @Petunia1738 Год назад +4

      As a woman, I actually think it’s just a piece of paper as well. I don’t need a materialistic ring and a wedding to feel committed.

    • @electricbop
      @electricbop 9 месяцев назад +16

      @@unvaccinatedamerican9620She is giving you years of her life, children, and basically staking her life on you as a partner. Why should she get nothing if things go south. Older women have a more challenging time rebuilding their life. A woman risking years on you has some value

  • @purpleskies4553
    @purpleskies4553 Год назад +252

    I love your style of content especially how you deliver it, no nonsense, straight up but with love. It really resonates ❤

  • @lizmartin4555
    @lizmartin4555 Год назад +49

    Gift giving is a really common love language for avoidants.

  • @nancykenessey7889
    @nancykenessey7889 10 месяцев назад +54

    You're like the best friend I never had margarita! I'm learning to love living in my own skin finally, and Getting to Know Myself and who I want to be. I can't get enough of your train of thought and thought process. Thank you for sharing it and being of so much service!

    • @Kattykat63
      @Kattykat63 9 месяцев назад

      What if he's treating you indifferently, you feel in your gut something isn't right yet he denies his behavior?

  • @si.rascol
    @si.rascol Год назад +97

    I really felt the need to have a chat with this guy who’s been hot and cold with me but as I was listening to you I’ve calmed down and realised that it’s not worth it. Thank you for what you’re doing!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 6 месяцев назад

      Men need space but if you feel something is off..then it is. He can at least communicate.

  • @ShopgirlNY182
    @ShopgirlNY182 5 месяцев назад +15

    In my marriage I basically convinced him to get married and did the chasing, Margarita is correct (as always) that is not a life you want. We got divorced which was a good thing but it took 18 years to finally decide this is not for me. Then I thought I found someone special we dated a year back and forth long distance and I was doing a lot of effort and being in the masculine, now I realize my mistakes and am working towards being in my black cat feminine energy and just being and not doing. It really hit home when Margarita said along the lines in one of her videos they don’t value you more just because you’re doing more. I now am taking all that energy I wasted on them and putting into myself.

  • @zulupilotgirl
    @zulupilotgirl Год назад +88

    You are so wise. You’re like a virtual big sister who has ALL the information. Please can we have more videos like this. I love you ! ❤

  • @AnyeshaV
    @AnyeshaV 9 месяцев назад +15

    "sister friend" I screammeeeddd!!!I love everything you say. Keep doing the lords work sis !

  • @asl6299
    @asl6299 Год назад +17

    One of my love languages is quality time although I’m an introvert and spend so much time alone (and enjoy it). But I believe time is the most expensive currency bc everyone has only 24h a day. You can always make more money but can never turn back time.

  • @missiejin
    @missiejin 3 месяца назад +3

    23:10 I can repeat this a hundred times. Every word here is gold and 100% true

  • @surpriseimblack
    @surpriseimblack Год назад +7

    I don't know who this lady is but she is speaking straight facts...

  • @DearYoungerSelf111
    @DearYoungerSelf111 Год назад +26

    Your dry sense of humor is what I live for! I like to be a little cheeky myself - glad to know ita others who express in this way.

  • @lauraruseno
    @lauraruseno 10 месяцев назад +2

    Anything that give me struggle life, remove it from existence. 🙌🏻

  • @MarissaLaipsker
    @MarissaLaipsker Год назад +26

    Margarita, you opened my mind to see things I’ve heard in the past that I never fully understood (nor could I put into practice because, for me, it’s difficult to put something into practice that I don’t fully understand the reasoning behind). You effectively convey information with relatable rationales by chopping each idea up and feeding it to me in such a clear and effective way for my understanding. Thank you for being the first who has been able to do this for me with the topics you integrate into your content. I needed this, and I appreciate you as I would an older sister who loves me and wants the best for me! You’re so gifted, and I am grateful you chose to create content that is so helpful for me and countless other women worldwide.
    ❤🙏🏻 thank you!

  • @anyaz77
    @anyaz77 Год назад +43

    I love listening to these on Spotify and then revisiting a day later and seeing you talk it through! And yes please have guests too!

  • @nedjlanedjladz6597
    @nedjlanedjladz6597 11 месяцев назад +4

    I slept praying to god to make you happy margarita,you are changing me

  • @Illuminatelove36
    @Illuminatelove36 Год назад +17

    ❤❤❤
    You are soo healing, therapeutic, honest, and encouraging ❤
    THANK YOU
    CONGRATULATIONS 🎊 ON BABY #2

  • @Linda-uo8hh
    @Linda-uo8hh Год назад +13

    Thank you Margarita this episode was very straight foward. I am working on being in my feminine energy, as being the head of my elderly family members health and estates fell into my lap. I have been single and celibate for 2 years now after a failed long term relationshp that didnt end in marriage. This time I plan to casually date and voice the vision of my future to men. If we do not see eye to eye early on, I will amicably move on and wish them the best. I am saving myself for the right one who will commit and share the same values as myself, so I can allow him to lead when the time comes. ❤

  • @adelialestiya8090
    @adelialestiya8090 Год назад +6

    Hola darling!
    I am from Asian country.
    in my place, still minim about this discussion.
    About self acceptance, self development, feminine energy and relationship.
    btw, I went to translation so I could watch and comment on your channel hahah lol OMG sorry.
    This is quite in tune with the gradual training.
    so I really like and enjoy your content.
    I find it strange that still most people don’t see the gift what’s in front of them...
    And I found a diamond. yeay!!!
    Blessings and good health to you Margarita! Balanced and consistent great woman.
    thank you thank you and I Love you

  • @MihadGesey
    @MihadGesey Год назад +11

    Me being a married women yet I'm still watching this video because Margarita is just a beautiful relatable women...love your videos ❤❤❤❤

  • @annettemoorshead7019
    @annettemoorshead7019 Год назад +35

    Always lovely, inspirational, thought-provoking, and spot-on - love these talks!! 😊❤

  • @angelslove13
    @angelslove13 Год назад +10

    I just had a crazy thought. If he’s not paying bills, that’s absolutely ok. As long as he makes my life easier and minimizes my expenses 😊 27:19

    • @babytg93
      @babytg93 3 месяца назад

      It's not crazy but I'm not sure I understand. If he's not paying bills, how is he minimizes your expenses?

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 Год назад +34

    25:27 as soon as he asks me for exclusivity and to take myself off of the market for him while dating, he has to provide and take care of me. It sets the standard and proves that he will be a provider when married.

    • @ajnaughtin1
      @ajnaughtin1 Год назад +7

      As I guy with money I disagree. Margs is correct. Asking for this is not wife materiel. Guys will pay but not take you seriously, its disrespectful.

    • @karenrusso3773
      @karenrusso3773 Год назад +3

      I NEVER expect a boyfriend to pay my bills. As a matter of fact, I enjoy and expect myself to contribute to the relationship by occasionally paying for dinner out, cooking for him just as he sometimes cooks for me, making plans for us just as he does at times. I want my independence and I’ve found that men respect that. What man wants to be used as a provider for a woman’s needs/wants just because they are girlfriend & boyfriend? I don’t want a man expecting the same from me as he would a wife unless we have committed to that type of relationship.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Год назад

      you dont get to set the standards a woman has for her life and self when in a long-term exclusive relationship with a man. if you dont like her standards, go find another woman. @@ajnaughtin1

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Год назад

      ok, pickmeisha. @@karenrusso3773

    • @vuyisekaluphuzi8249
      @vuyisekaluphuzi8249 Год назад +3

      @@ajnaughtin1I respect women giving out advice on relating with men. But I tend to believe it more when it comes from men themselves. I take care of myself financially and it makes me feel confident and comfortable in a relationship. I cannot imagine myself asking for anything from my boyfriend. And he is quite successful and does have the money. But it makes me feel empowered to have my own life that I finance myself.

  • @mekenaharvey
    @mekenaharvey Год назад +2

    I was nodding after every sentence you said. I’d love more content around advice on attracting a high value man.

  • @itsYourChance
    @itsYourChance 11 месяцев назад +2

    This is so good. I must be more of a masculine woman yet im also feminine outwardly. Cuz i do not emotionally dump with other women and i dont liek them doing that to me. And i dont pick mens brains or get needy. I think i relate so much more to men in many ways.

  • @alessa6964
    @alessa6964 Год назад +22

    I do love these episodes! you are so good at what you do and thank you for always being real!

  • @sarahsophie4532
    @sarahsophie4532 Год назад +8

    Please, I would just loove to have a conversation with you. (!) This podcast blew my mind- I am so grateful for your insights sister. Thank you for being here with us and sharing! Xo Sarah

  • @samco63
    @samco63 Год назад +2

    I personally LOVE the luxury brand megaphor ❤
    Inspires me to raise my standards for myself and make sure I don’t settle.

  • @Anna_annua
    @Anna_annua Год назад +1

    "you are the fountain of absolutely everything amazing" 😍😍

  • @cajunnbeauty
    @cajunnbeauty Год назад +4

    Margarita just SNATCHED my life together! Thanks I needed this❤

  • @absolute3112
    @absolute3112 Год назад +2

    holy shyt, U said : Uncle Google
    I say that all the time.
    Love your channel, you speak to me directly and yes, right off I sense... Leo-sque (Queen of Wands) energy in you, as with me.
    You're giving to me, what Ive given to others my WHOLE ADULT LIFE! I really needed this, thank you for sharing.
    I am in the process of rebuilding my life, into something MORE AMAZING than before.

  • @jitkaharazimova2714
    @jitkaharazimova2714 Год назад +7

    Dear Margarita , i love these episodes. Please, continue with this work. It is great and rational. Great JOB❤️❤️

  • @ladyindigo1649
    @ladyindigo1649 6 месяцев назад

    "We relax and breathe through it!" Love it. Hello? That's what a metaphor is. The opposite of literal. Thank you for the tips.❤️🙏🏽

  • @Eng4555
    @Eng4555 8 месяцев назад

    an authentic woman calls her man that is pure normal !! i know this relates to one of your podcast

  • @Alexistxsj
    @Alexistxsj 4 месяца назад

    girl, it is like the Holy Spirit speaks through you thank you for this advice. The best advice I’ve heard from you yet. Is you can not take back a reaction but you can always say how you feel, later on. 🥵💯 i’m learning to be more in my feminine thanks to you. 💕💕💕💕💕

  • @NawrasMatee7
    @NawrasMatee7 Год назад +2

    I had never been this excited to see someone's uploads in my life❤❤❤❤❤

  • @rachelhantz9644
    @rachelhantz9644 Год назад +3

    The last point Margarita makes about not being in your feminine energy if you have to work, grind, and provide, made me a little hopeless because it's hard for me to imagine not having to work so hard. Otherwise, I loved this video so much. Thank you!

    • @nikkibreezy6058
      @nikkibreezy6058 11 месяцев назад +1

      You can do all those things and still be in your feminine energy when u with your man and outside of work

  • @thelavenderdancer
    @thelavenderdancer Год назад +2

    such great tips. you talk so well. love your little accents and wordplay

  • @normalandaverde7763
    @normalandaverde7763 2 месяца назад

    That’s exactly how I do it in the beginning of my relationship, I told a guy in my first date the I want to get married again. I thought he listened to that. No he didn’t, after 6 months in a relationship I brought it again and he pull away. Which it hurts at the time but I am glad it happened

  • @sarahpeyton1640
    @sarahpeyton1640 Год назад +2

    Wow. Very eye opening! Like how have I NEVER considered the deference in men and woman and how we process

  • @OurFavouriteClips
    @OurFavouriteClips Год назад +4

    You’re the Auntie I always needed x

  • @roxy7255
    @roxy7255 3 месяца назад

    So true about chatting it out to release those toxins. I don’t have the community or village but i do this with my beauty therapists!!

  • @estherharing7430
    @estherharing7430 4 месяца назад

    Very good content. Love these kind of episodes. I finally get the fountain of feminine energy flowing inside of me. I was so much in my head with men, now I am in my body and just embracing my feelings and authenticity. You have to be polarizing. Weed out the men that aren't vibing with you and wishing them well. I am deserving of a man that feels good, like home and a bit like heaven.

  • @peacefulwarrior3429
    @peacefulwarrior3429 Год назад +3

    Margarita, you are such a blessing girl! Listening to you on repeat, soaking in. Lots of love from Russia💜

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss Год назад +6

    If you're reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.💗🙏🏼

  • @smile15kz
    @smile15kz Год назад +5

    Love the format! Thank you, Margarita for being so honest and open!

  • @margaritanotacocktail4912
    @margaritanotacocktail4912 Год назад +6

    I love all your content, thank you so much for doing all of this, especially when you're heavy preggers but still giving us the content! And my thoughts on you having guests - feel like I wouldn't want to see guests on your podcast. I really like listening to YOU and that's what brings me back to your page.

  • @EleHeath12
    @EleHeath12 8 месяцев назад

    This was SO good-please do more videos in this format, like a good mix of both single themes and these Q&As.
    I love your mindset, thank you for your wisdom always ✨🤍☀️

  • @danettecook2709
    @danettecook2709 Год назад +7

    I loved this episode. So practical and sensible. Thank you.

  • @КалинаКостова-ъ5з
    @КалинаКостова-ъ5з 6 месяцев назад

    Маргарита, съдържанието ти е уникално, изключително полезно и поднесено с толкова хумор! Страхотна си!

  • @londonlevyn
    @londonlevyn 9 месяцев назад +1

    Girl. First of all you are hilarious. Second, I absolutely love it 🥹

  • @cocoaocean
    @cocoaocean Год назад +1

    Congratulations! Baby on the way!! ❤❤😊

  • @onyagnes6192
    @onyagnes6192 Год назад +3

    i love listening to all your vids, so eye opener

  • @GoddessGirl555
    @GoddessGirl555 16 дней назад

    I always come back to this video! Such beautiful gems you provide for us ❤

  • @evelinvahter4255
    @evelinvahter4255 Год назад +3

    Omg.. it is so good, it's so honest and simple and so good how you Margarita explain the real life what we have lost in ourselves. Thank you for doing that!

  • @chanellecoates4541
    @chanellecoates4541 Год назад +9

    Thanks so much for your efforts with these videos Margarita. This one was particularly great! I’m still wondering if marriage is necessary for me. If it was, I would definitely align myself with the advice you’re giving, and learn to set boundaries around this topic.

  • @sarvinozsaidakhmedova3156
    @sarvinozsaidakhmedova3156 6 месяцев назад

    dear Margarita, i absolutely love each and every video of yours!!! i feel extremely grateful for finding your channel. I'm gaining a lot of new knowledge. THANK YOU!!! MUCH LOVE FROM UZBEKISTAN❤❤❤

  • @garlicheadrecipes
    @garlicheadrecipes 11 месяцев назад +1

    Margarita you are literally my favorite creator - thank you so much for this wisdom! I love this style of video and would really be interested in hearing your thoughts on how to ensure you're in your feminine energy at work. I really struggle with this and would love to not "force" things and really just stay in flow (the last question of this video). Your advice would be so interesting!

  • @MonikaKowalinska
    @MonikaKowalinska Год назад +3

    Margarita thank you for your wisdom. Never married I am still hoping for a beautiful relationship, and I guess at 50 it is too late to hope for a wedding one day

  • @CupTheCakeMasta
    @CupTheCakeMasta Год назад +1

    Can’t wait for the guest videos! Margaritas voice officially in my head and guiding, I am making better choices for myself 🥳

  • @PetraChaloupkova
    @PetraChaloupkova Год назад +1

    Damn, this was simply beautiful, straight, honest, feminine...I'm inspired. Thank you Margarita!

  • @kitascorner7227
    @kitascorner7227 6 месяцев назад

    Love your sense of humor and straight forward personality… loved listening to this one!

  • @suziandchopstix
    @suziandchopstix Год назад +4

    Second time watching this. You are literally my teacher I love these topics thank you ❤️ love all your videos!

  • @apichinim
    @apichinim 11 месяцев назад +1

    Margarita, I'm listening you from Brazil and I can't explain how good it feels to hear you bringing about all this issues to us.. I've watched a lot of your other videos and I'm just obsessed. THANK YOU!!! keep going!

  • @kimkean6216
    @kimkean6216 8 месяцев назад +2

    Love this brilliant 😂😂 very black and white! 😘

  • @pinksealight
    @pinksealight Год назад +2

    I’m about to watch and I WILL do everything you tell me to do

  • @nicolemercado2214
    @nicolemercado2214 Год назад +2

    Hi Margarita! Love from the Philippines 🇵🇭

  • @ycantucmesssmile
    @ycantucmesssmile Месяц назад

    15:27 - I feel like that’s only “young” men, if only in mentality. I’m so judgmental and dismissive at this point in my life and I look for outward markers of cleanliness, intelligence, manners, truth and trustworthiness, loyalty.

  • @aubriannarowe634
    @aubriannarowe634 11 месяцев назад +1

    Listening to your podcasts gives me so much peace and direction. Loved this one!

  • @afroaesthete3701
    @afroaesthete3701 Год назад +2

    This was gold! Gem after gem 💎

  • @MRWOLF360
    @MRWOLF360 Год назад +1

    You’re my favourite RUclipsr! Thank you for your free content - I can’t afford much but this is amazing ❤😂🎉❤❤❤
    I need to work on being lighter and playful!

  • @ycantucmesssmile
    @ycantucmesssmile Месяц назад

    Loving your videos on my first full day off in a long time 😁

  • @maritamaltezaki8588
    @maritamaltezaki8588 Год назад

    I find you amazing because you are very close and feel very comfortable with your feminine energy!❤

  • @vauoia6064
    @vauoia6064 Год назад +3

    Thank you for your channel, You have become such a big part of my healing journey 🙏🏼 I’m also interested in the content episodes 😅 congratulations on your pregnancy!

  • @alinaowo1141
    @alinaowo1141 2 месяца назад

    i agree with everything this woman says

  • @Nicole-jc8hl
    @Nicole-jc8hl 11 месяцев назад

    One of the best videos I’ve seen in a long time! I’m very glad I watched. You’re speaking truth through and through. Loved it!

  • @bonisiwegwala5705
    @bonisiwegwala5705 Год назад +7

    can we get her to 1Million subscribers please!!!

  • @LizHKWealth
    @LizHKWealth Год назад +312

    "I don't care if you marry a crocodile 😂❤."

  • @iprosper8395
    @iprosper8395 Год назад +2

    I hope u see this message ❤️❤️❤️ u changed my life ❤️❤️ please keep talking keep enlighten us and help us in the. Journey of our feminine energy..
    i have a question if how to know if my boyfriend is a provider of not ?

  • @lizzy_qtin
    @lizzy_qtin Год назад +1

    I am so grateful for u and your videos, their my reminders

  • @arquitetaleticiaspada3466
    @arquitetaleticiaspada3466 Год назад

    establish barriers----taking notes

  • @sandyvazquez9210
    @sandyvazquez9210 Год назад +3

    I’m enjoying your content so much. Thank you

  • @Luuwixx
    @Luuwixx Год назад +2

    I love these videos, they're so eye-opening ♡

  • @deliafb
    @deliafb Год назад

    😅” but I don t need a solution, I need to talk right now “ 😘💖 you re soooo sweet and smart !
    Merci

  • @bonisiwegwala5705
    @bonisiwegwala5705 Год назад +4

    Hi margarita love from South Africa❤

  • @kandiblick3822
    @kandiblick3822 Год назад +1

    ❤❤❤ Sincerest thanks! You have such a warm and beautiful smile. Wishing you a wonderful day 😊

  • @ericatori
    @ericatori Год назад

    Congratulations on your new baby❤ you’re beautiful!

  • @bodrugmaria9179
    @bodrugmaria9179 10 месяцев назад

    Girl, you know all the good stuff but is your sassiness that made me subscribe.

  • @Lifeistooshort-hateless
    @Lifeistooshort-hateless Год назад +1

    Your mother sounds amazing ❤

  • @durusu4255
    @durusu4255 Год назад

    I’m glad to find you on TikTok, I love your content and your great personality.
    Lots of love from Germany ❤️

  • @joalanemohobane5273
    @joalanemohobane5273 Год назад +2

    I love these...i recently just discovered you...thank you

  • @nfgbanshee
    @nfgbanshee 3 месяца назад +1

    How to transition in a long term relationship from acting Wifey (or mothering) back to black cat.
    How do you just stop nurturing suddenly without it seeming like a pouty protest ?
    I am guilty of acting like a wife to a black cat man ( dismissive avoidant) and I'd love to turn the tables to be in my feminine 😊
    Also, can't wait to get your book 😍😍

  • @Legacychaser_777
    @Legacychaser_777 Год назад +5

    I love all of your content! Although a more mature age, I find something I can learn from & new tips & tricks to keep me refreshed!
    Thank you❤

  • @brigittestrijder1744
    @brigittestrijder1744 Год назад +6

    Margarita , I hope I’ll look beautiful while pregnant. Just like you 🥰
    Thank you for everything that you are teaching us ❤

  • @misssunshine7650
    @misssunshine7650 6 месяцев назад

    margarita such a beautiful name( my grandma’s name Margarita)💗.
    Girl I just love love love this type of content! You bring such value to RUclips community 🌸

  • @sacredgem8732
    @sacredgem8732 11 месяцев назад

    Your analogies are so funny yet so accurate and I’m here for it 29:45

  • @marieotero8843
    @marieotero8843 Год назад +2

    You are so inspiring I love hearing you

  • @priyankap250
    @priyankap250 9 месяцев назад

    Can yu pls do more of these Q&A. Love it when you are pissed! Its like the kick i needed in kickstart!😄