29 & Waiting Until Marriage | Ep. 1 Relationship Lies! | Melody Alisa
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Hey friends! Today's video is the start a new Godly relationship series here on my channel! In episode one - we are talking about Godly relationships, waiting until marriage, Christian dating boundaries, boundaries in dating, Christian dating advice for women, Christian purity/ purity advice/ sexual purity and ALL of the relationship lies that I used to believe/ non negotiables in a relationship. Be sure to like this video if you're excited for the new series and share it with someone who would enjoy it!
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Hi! My name is Melody Alisa - welcome to my channel. I lived in South Korea for two years where I met God and I documented my life as an English teacher (check out my Life in Korea playlist for more on this!) Now, I call Atlanta home. On my RUclips channel, I share my Christian faith and life as a creative, a newlywed, a soon-to-be first time mama through weekly new videos!
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your turn!! what are some relationship lies you used to believe & what are the truths God has replaced the lies with?
super common one that i always hear & actually experienced (believing this was the case) was that you HAVE to go through things/it’s okay to go through crazy hard times w/ your significant other in order to make your relationship stronger...just no. lingering in a toxic relationship is only going to make it harder to leave & hurt you more in the long run. let that toxic relationship go & stop blocking your blessings!!! know your self worth. (me telling myself that as well lol!)
That you must marry someone you had children with. I was so drained and hurt and felt out of myself and couldn't be free mentally. People kept telling me to think of the kids and how they'll be affected but I was like don't I matter? Only my mum and two best friends wanted me to leave the toxic situation. Thank God I did. I realized that I did make a mistake by having pre marital sex with a person I barely knew but It was not God's best for me. I read the Word of God one day and it said "...the blessing of the LORD adds no sorrow." & I cried so much because I knew God spoke to me through that. I was trying to find every Christian answer to stay with the toxic person...that the Holy Spirit will make it beautiful in its time, or I'd be a positive change when we get married. Nope! I lied to myself too. Thank God I found courage to pray to Him, the relationship had taken me far from God. I became so fleshy and I knew this is not right. When I started praying I got the strength to leave and I've not looked back. I am trusting God for His best. He led me to listen to Derek Prince on marriage and the sermons have opened my eyes and I am waiting on God's best. I surrendered this area to Him. I'm 29 too 😁. Sorry it's long 😂
Thank you for your video.
One relationship lie that really irks me, is the idea that you need to have sex with a man before for you marry him because if the sex is not good you don't want to be "stuck" in a relationship that does not satisfy you sexually. As a 23 year old virgin this really bothers me because I am a firm believer that sex is something that is learned and can be taught. You can teach someone how to please you just as well as a person can learn your body, so long story short I do not agree with this statement.
The trojan lie in the church that I once believed is: You can remarry if the man cheats. Many in the Church will NOT teach or Hold each other accountable for this truth that you are called to either keep the marriage vow for as long as you both shall live or if you separate remain single or be reconciled as stated in the bible in 1 Cor 7:10 11 unless you become a widow or widower. The road to righteousness is very Narrow Indeed. I hope this helps somebody because I already know most will Reject God's truth because it is totally opposite of this culture. We as believers must keep our Marriage vows even if we separate or divorce as long as the person lives...so ladies and gentleman Do Not Enter Marriage lightly ( 1 Cor 7:10). The word of GOD says "you are bound to your husband as long as he lives" (1 Cor 7:39). After deep study, I recognize that ONLY DEATH ends the marriage covenant so choose wisely before you say "I do." 1 Corinthian 7:10 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
I’m 15 and I plan to wait until marriage! So, if any other teenagers are watching this just know that you aren’t alone if you’re deciding to wait. Just because there’s other people doing it doesn’t mean that you have to follow the crowd. 😄❤️
Edit: For everyone liking and commenting positive things under this post, Thank you for taking time to share your stories and encourage others!
I'm 28 and waiting for marriage too. Be encouraged . It is one of the best decisions you will ever make for yourself.
@@ak-47intelligence75 Thank You for the advice! ❤️
Same!
Im 15 too and i gotta bf and im grateful that he's patient😭 because that isnt going to stop me from waiting until marriage.
@@darlynlopez2463 I’m glad you found someone who is willing to wait!
I used to believe that the godly character that is being developed in me was solely so I could become a good wife. I thought the achievements I had in this life would ensure I was “bringing something to the table” once I get married. The thing that I’ve been learning more recently though is that these good things will benefit my husband, family, friends, people I meet but ultimately, God is preparing me for Himself.
Us becoming more like Him benefits others yes, but it glorifies Him and He delights in that 💛 That’s been a huge mindset shift for me
wow. it all comes back to God at the end of the day
AMEN!
Wow this! ❤️✨💎👑
This is everything ❤️
Wow🤩
21 year old male and I'm waiting till marriage
Until then I'm continuing to build a relationship with god💯
I'm 21 years female
Wowww, Ajose Babafemi, just wanted to encourage you to keep it up.
Saw your name and recognized it's from western Nigeria.
Ku ise, Oluwa a so agbara dotun.
Dont let anyone sway you on your decision. I'm 29 and still waiting!😊
Sex IS marriage bro. Fornication for a man in particular are two things: and intercourse outside of the proper function of you and a woman in an organized, structured relationship and when you worship other gods other than the Most High (Idolatry).
@brightful5 lol
Stay on the path brother!!! Sex is powerful but in the right context (marriage)
Waited until marriage. Had our first child after our fourth anniversary now married for 6 years now. Still serving God together .And Intimacy keeps getting better and better. Society wants us to believe that you need experience or to be sexually compatible to get married. YOU DO NOT.
This is so encouraging!!
Beautiful
God bless you
Thank you, needed this
I stand behind that! There's such beauty in getting to discover each other. Keep the fires going. God bless
My husband and I courted for three years and we never had sex before marriage. He was very respectful, never pressured me, and he never asked. I am grateful for him. Vice versa I did not ask, pressure, and I respected him. It goes both ways. We encouraged each other
and honored God’s word to abstain from fleshly lust. It is possible.
Luckyy
🙏😇
@@babyc.3015 no blessed. Temptation came but we made a decision to live righteous. We set boundaries in place. Thank you sis
ma'am, where did you find someone like him? 😭
A lie I used to believe was, “You can change a man to love the Lord”. While yes you can motivate someone and can help someone give their life to Christ by your example you can never force someone to. Just because you love God and are trying to be close to him it doesn’t mean that just because a man likes you he will automatically have a genuine relationship with the Lord. It’s up to God to change him.
It's like trying to help someone who doesn't want to be helped. You'll never succeed
So true!!!
Hmmmmm then why do God bring such people our way in the first place,so confusing 😔
@@YEMIABIODUNBEAUTY When God wants to bless us He sends a man and also when the devil wants to destroy us he sends a man. Now we ought to pray for the discernment to know who sent who. Most of the people we just rush into been in a relationship without asking God if He agrees and when things get nasty we turn back to Him and now ask for His help. I don't doubt for a second that when we do so, God begins to ask us were was l when you got into this relationship, l never planned for you to be with this person. Ever since l got this teaching from my church (Kingdom Prosperity Ministries) l always ask God if it's the person for me and since l started practicing it in my life it's been working for me.
@@EdnaSewsToo and when God is silent?
I went on 3 dates with a lovely guy who treated me so well and was very respectful so on our 4th date I opened up to him and explained that due to my personal relationship with Christ I was waiting until marriage, but long before this chat I had been praying to God to show me his will. After I told him he took 24hrs to think it over and unfortunately decided it was not for him and he no longer wanted to pursue a relationship with me, needless to say I am gutted as it is all very recent but God is helping me through it and I am sure he has someone even better waiting for me, specially because I was rejected not something I did but for my belief and love for Christ, and decision to wait on him.
My prayers and love goes out to all those waiting for marriage Gods got you, if it was easy everyone would do it but I’m convinced it will definitely be worth it.
Kudos for being honest! And fortunately you only spent a month getting to know him...not years. Keep strong in your values 💪
😂 it makes sense if you are a virgin
Hello Afonoso how are u
Jesus Christ is a fictional character and not even an original idea. The story of Horus is three thousand years older than the story of Jesus and Horus was born of a virgin mother and called the son of god and the lamb and the way and the light. So we have one of two things going on here either 1. God is a big fan of ancient Egyptian mythology and likes to copy it word for word or Christianity is just another man made religion designed to control the masses.
🧢 you just wanted what you could get from him
The hugest lie I believed was he doesn’t exist, but God has been showing me that there are men after His heart, that truly have a deep love for God and a desire to live for Him!!!
same here!
Wow that's biggest lie
What evidence do you have that a god exist?
I’m 35 years and waiting until marriage, I honestly think it’s the best way.
It is. Less confusion
Me too sis
Me too🙌🏾🥰 i pray you all will be strong in the Lord!!
Me too! I'm 37 and finding that it weeds out the riff raffs.
@@BriaBarrows true, when your soul and emotions are attached to the wrong person (after having a sexual/spiritual unification with the wrong person), it's hard for your guts to speak to you. It's hard for you to get out even when you know it's wrong. And then you enter into a downward spiral of trying to make a relationship work that is not meant to be.
a lie i believed (and actually told myself) was that singleness was a bad thing. i’ve had friends who experienced way more than i have and most times, i found myself feeling like the outcast in my family because my siblings have their s/o and me, haha-well i’ve never been with anyone. i was feeling this lonilness and wanted someone to fill that void in my heart. but one day, the Lord spoke so clearly to me and told me that no one could satisfy me but Him. He showed me that singleness was His gift to me, and not to waste it looking for “the one” but be content with the One.
and me, being a virgin, i believe the Lord is hiding me in this long season until He reveals me to the one He has for me. He’s been teaching me about purity and highlighting areas in my life i need Him to come and cleanse. now, i look at my singleness as a season of freedom where i get to spend all of my time with God.
beautiful insight💚
wow, I relate to this SO much!!
The single season of a man's life is actually a gift... Many people just don't know
Stop looking for the one
Seek the kingdom of God and His Righteousness and everything will be added to you
Wow your testimony has totaly echoed my sentiments about this subject, we give glory to our risen Lord for believers like you
Coming from a man who follows the Lord, I have been single and abstinent for almost 7 years. The greatest lie I have dealt with has been, The reason why I’m not able to find the right one for me because there’s something else wrong with me. And when I continue to overcome things in life, there’s always another small issue that puts me in a place where I’m not good enough.
I’m starting to believe now that I have what it takes, I am a man after Gods heart and the right woman is coming!
If I may ask, what actions did you take or are you taking that made you to start believing that you are good enough and there’s nothing wrong with you?
It wasn't a lie. You overcoming things is testament to that. It's much better to understand this while you are single rather than finding yourself in a difficult relationship because you're being triggered by childhood wounds and traumas,, dysfunctional attachment style and other unhealed spiritual debris we carry around with us along with us. Much easier to navigate a relationship when that isn't an issue.
Chin up. If you've done the work then you have reason to be both happy and confident.
Nathan
@@MJBrabantNZL Thats an argument from ignorance
@@hughjanus2781 Yet you don't explain why, so just how seriously am I supposed to take your opinion?
The only ignoring that'll happen then is me ignoring you.
Waiting does really work. I waited until marriage and Now I am happily married.
Amen! I love to hear testimonies like this. It keeps singles in a state of expectation
Lol..He didn't wait.
Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day,
●"IF" you have ever been married before and that spouse is still living you are Sctipturally "ONLY" allowed to "GO BACK" to that very first spouse;
●1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse,
Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!!
May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all,
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Since God Is The Authority* *Over All Scripturual Marriages* *Let's us see what The* *Authority God Himself says* *about Marriage*
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DIVORCE IS SCRIPTURALLY NEVER EVER APPROVED BY GOD, NEVER!
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*MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV*
“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
*LUKE 16:18 NKJV*
18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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*1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV*
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
*1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV*
39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
*MALACHI **2:16** NKJV*
16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.
*MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV*
Jesus' Teaching on Divorce
19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.
2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"
4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,'
5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?
6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
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These Scriptures apply to
1. a male and female marriage only
2. those who are married to their very first spouse
☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture
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God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses
V/R
It’s different for everyone..life is just like that.I know someone who waited but now has her uterus removed because of fibroids.
@@nextlevelamazing7865 so I lost my virginity when I was raped. Are you trying to say I have to be with that man forever according to scripture?!
Since we are being vulnerable here, I believed that I needed a man to have value in society. And that all my exes I never Really liked them, I just wanted to be seen with someone. Total lie! That was a brick house off my chest. I am Gods child and that is more than enough. God bless!
Girl! I use to do the same thing i think. I really wanted to be in a relationship because i never dated much so i ended up with men i really didn't like so i convinced myself there was something about them i liked if that makes sense. I had to unlearn some things i saw in my family that a man is not everything and a man is not suppose to complete you. U have to love yourself and heal first. I also had to learn just because a guy gave me attention doesn't mean that's the one I'm suppose to be with
@@tbrown4284 preach
Hello
@@tbrown4284 hello
A relationship lie I use to wavier on was that my standards are to high .
Oh, that’s good! I had high standards, too, and I got most of what I wanted, but nobody gets every little thing. We’re human.
Ebony Rivers glad you didn’t settle and got most of what you wanted . I agree , no one’s perfect so we have to know what we’re willing to compromise on. :)
Oh wow, yes! That's me!
Yes! So true
Lies! Your standards are what God put in your heart. Someone will come along who meets those standards. I am not lowering my standards and neither should you!
Me and my husband waited til marriage, met 10 years ago this month, engaged at Christmas, married Feb, moved in same day we were married(married at courthouse). We both told God before meeting each other we were done with how we hadn't given that part of our lives to him. Guess what as soon as did that. BAM, God said, OK your ready to meet, now. Im so grateful to Him for showing me mercy in this area. Oh and gave us 5 beautiful babies along the way(we were pregnant for 6 almost 7 yrs). Lol God has a sense of humor.
GOD BLESS YOU ON YOUR NEW JOURNEY.
Wow! What a beautiful testimony.
This is so beautiful it made me smile❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾 God bless you! God bless your beautiful children and your family ❤️❤️
That’s good to hear, cos I was bout ready to throw the towel in 😂😂
Amen 🙏🏾
That’s just confirmation bias
I used to believe that I “owed” something to a man if he took me out and treated me nice and spent money on a date. Like, I couldn’t just receive his chivalry. Certainly there was a catch, right? WRONG. God freed me from that lie. I happily receive chivalry now lol. Praise Him!! 🙏🏽
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Its true you don't owe him. But be sure to thank him for his chivalry and express your appreciation by being ladylike and complementary.
@@mamachicken4602 that’s so good sis. Thank you!
I am a man and i absolutely agree with you but do you specify to those men who treat you and offer their chivalry that you have a rule to never have sex with anyone before they took you out and make those things for you ?
@@monkeymindfrance8356 Yes, I believe in being upfront.
I have not met one person who says their life changed for the better by having sex with someone who is not your husband but there are millions of lives ruined by having sex prematurely...
I think the problem there is feeling like you are missing out on something. When in fact you are saving yourself from the worst pain
Well said Zama
Neither have I,personally if I did that I'd feelnso violated, it'd be a nightmare for me
*feel so
I had sex outside of marriage and it didn’t ruin my life , I really enjoyed it actually. I then met Jesus and it all changed and now I understand what marriage really is . I think it’s a bit much to say lives ruined , many people who had sex before marriage have great relationships and build beautiful families
Amen
The best relationship is to ensure God is at the head.
Agreed!
Agreed!!!
Yaaaaassss,y'all comments gon make me cry😭😭💗💗💗I love this!!
So many people are waiting until marriage. You may be in the minority in your area, but the statistics show that it’s actually a fairly even split. My husband and I waited, and most of our friends and siblings waited. It is absolutely possible, and absolutely achievable, and absolutely NOT shameful, no matter how old you get. The bible says to literally RUN/FLEE from sexual immorality (the way Joseph did). We tend to be flippant in our culture about sex and even shame people who choose not to engage in sexual activity, but seeing as the importance of showing our love to God and His commandments, we will eventually understand that adultery (as is breaking any other command) is equivalent to idolatry. We idolize sex/physical gratification over God. But the Lord ALWAYS provides a way out from our temptation. People really insult our emotional intelligence and self-control when they perpetuate the lie that “no one waits” these days. I highly recommend listening to Pastor Voddie Baucham on “Love and Marriage” or “What Is Adultery?” He’s a phenomenal preacher of the Word who left Texas to head up a Christian university in Zambia. 😊
Are you in a southern city?
Thank u so much,we need people like you who are intentional on pleasing God no matter the chaotic world we live in. Thanks for the encouragement💖💕💗💞
Minimal Assembly That depends on what you mean by southern. 😂 I’m from all over the place lol, but I’ve lived in two of the least-churched regions in America most of my life so I’ve always been in the minority LOL! Currently, S FL.
This is refreshing to hear and I love it! Also encourages me that a man of God will cross my path one day that’s actually willing to wait with me. I’m in Los Angeles and waiting to marriage is very foreign to many people out here. I get weird looks when I tell both men and women I’m waiting until marriage. It’s like unheard of out here lol.
Alicia Janae Channel yup! I know the look! 🤣 My ex-coworkers in Miami said they didn’t know ANYONE who had waited to get married and that I was the first. We were all in our early twenties at the time and I had just gotten engaged so they were VERY curious about how this worked. 😅😅😅
I used to believe tht if I found the one or the right person for me it would fix all the problems in my life. I realized God is my source he is the only one that can meet my needs, and being in a relationship is to better each other’s relationship with the Father.
I waited until marriage. The Lord delievered me from depression and being so grateful I promised him to wait. I knew my husband was the one because he waited on me over 3.5 years until we got married. The Lord will bless you and your marriage if you wait. We will be married 13 years in 2023❤
I love and appreciate this video so much!! A lie I used to believe is that the guy I want wouldn’t be willing to abstain from sex until marriage, but God quickly showed me that the man that’s submitted to Him first will have no issue waiting and be disciplined enough to wait.
When I first started dating my boyfriend we were sleeping together until I decided I want to fully devote my life to the Lord and be committed to his word. I talked to him about being celibate and he was accepting and hasn’t pressured me since. We have been doing this for three months and our relationship has strengthened. It was the best decision I made for not only my walk with Jesus but relationship too. Praise Him!! The right guy will wait for you 🙏💕
@@sstewart907 ❤
That's awesome and wonderful that he respects that decision.
Yes they will. My husband and I courted for three years and we never had sex before marriage. He was very respectful, never pressured me, and he never asked. I am grateful for him. Vice versa I did not ask, pressure, and I respected him. It goes both ways. We encouraged each other
and honored God’s word to abstain from fleshly lust. It is possible.
@@sstewart907 hello Sinea, I encourage you to open the conversation and if he is not accepting of your values, talk to God and never doubt the little voice in your heart. God is Good and ALWAYS take the direction that will serve him cause he will never forsake nor harm you ❤️
@@sstewart907 Don’t be scared of any changes in your life, God always transform bad situations into Good ones
I am also 29 and waiting until marriage. I recently started experiencing doubts about whether I am making the right decision, so thank you for this message.
You're so right about God showing you a 'preview' of the good qualities we are looking for in a man even IF they arent THE one!
Here are the 5 relationship beliefs:
1. “Relationships don’t last”
2. “Nobody is really waiting until marriage”
3. “You should be happy 24/7”
4. “The type of man I want simply doesn’t exist”
5. “I don’t need God’s help - I got this”
Here are 5 beliefs with absolutely no evidence whatsoever.
1. God exist
2. God is love
3. A god created any thing
4. A man can only have one woman (wife)
5. Israelites were slaves in Egypt.
Im also waiting until marriage. And I am 28. It does get very lonely but pleasing GOD matters more to me than giving in to my flesh and have it lead me down the path of destruction. God bless you.
Thank you for the video.
Amen I’m 30 and waiting, I fight it but the Lord keeps bringing me back to Him that He wants to us our single period to bring us closer to Him. He desires intimacy with us. The man will come but in this season He’s been showing me we can enjoy singleness and truly delight in His presence
When I was younger, I used to think that finding a man that can “put me in my place” was a good find. NOOO ladies, that is toxic from all sides. It causes confusion, misunderstanding, and disrespect that will ruin any relationship.
I don’t think any woman wants a pushover guy though.
I have a baby created out of wedlock. It was one among my greatest falls in life but it showed me a lot about myself. I found out who God truly is through my pregnancy and I am grateful for Gods Grace and Mercy.
I am waiting for the Lord to send the right guy. Not sexing another soul without marriage. It can be 10 15 20 years I do not care.
I am encouraged in my faith walk. Now as a Christian fiction author, I am committed to walking out my best life for Christ. I am keeping my body for my husband. I must walk out the Word knowing I may fall but stumbling into anothers bed will never happen again.
If a man is not willing to wait the he is not My Man of God. True men of God will wait and walk out the Word with me.
#5 was a struggle point for me
What is your books called and also stay grounded in Christ and He will show up with your “Mr. Right”! I am always trying to find a good fiction book but that is Christian based
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What are the names of your books? Keep going with this mentality, it will serve you well.
Amen!
a relationship lie for me was that my standards were too high.
my non-negotiables are:
1.Godly man that can lead
2. Loyalty (no cheating especially) and Patience
3. No physical abuse (or any form abuse for that matter)
another relationship lie was that i couldn't go without sex. it's been 4 years now. to be honest, i slipped up once within those four years and honestly it was not worth it! i most definitely don't think..well i know for a fact i won't make that mistake again. God has protected me from a lot when it comes to sex and i thank Him for it all!
&& i believe wholeheartedly that whoever God has for me, He will bless it & i want Him in the center of it all! if He's not in the center of it, i much rather be single!
Amen sister same here!🤗💜
I totally can relate to your experience with slipping up & it NOT BEING WORTH IT, it’s like it never is after the heat of the moment has passed and your left feeling crazy and disappointed. I now anyways tell myself when my mind tries to go there “girl, BYE ! don’t even try it because it’s not gonna be what your flesh is craving ”
A man who can control his emotions and express his negative emotions calmly and respectfully has been moved into the top five non-negotiables on my list. I feel like often times churches brush over the spectrum of abuse as if physical abuse is the only abuse that exists. My ex was a man who had horrible anger management. He never laid his hands on me but he was very emotionally violent and disrespectful. He never spoke respectfully when he was angry and CONSTANTLY raised his voice and tone. My respect for him decreased everytime. I got tired. It was like you couldn't speak to him without him getting triggered and when he was upset instead of respectfully and calmly expressing his anger or sadness he got loud, angry, and reckless. That is the exact opposite of how a man of God should speak to his gf/wife/fiance or etc. We dated for almost a year and of course we are both Christians as we both attended our congregation. The breakup was hard as he was my first bf but I realized that I want a man who makes me feel calm and safe even if he's mad, sad, or etc. Anger management and expressing emotions respectfully is now a must for me. I will never again subject myself to tolerate horrible treatment.
Sade Lorraine Kecy Augustin 🙌🏼💕💕
akajazzy12300 sooo true! the disappointed feeling is always so strong && it’s the “girl bye” for me😂 i promise that’s me as well!
Sade Lorraine that is so exhausting!!! how does your previous situation that affect you today? have you truly moved on or does some part of you still hold on to hope that he’ll change?
you don’t have to answer this if you’re not comfortable^^
either way, i’m so happy you were strong enough to leave that situation🙌🏼🙌🏼
He is Faithfull
That's the best thing to do wait on God. He will keep you.
God's time is the best time.
The RIGHT time will BRING the RIGHT person. Not the way around. God time is the best. Ecclesiastes 3:1
Praise the Living Jesus. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Amen
These comments are beautiful, hearing so many woman of God share their experiences of false beliefs and accepting the love of God and his standard. Love it
The bible clearly said it and many of us has heard it numerous times before.. That we are not to commit fornication. Some people are led by their own temptation. Fornication are seen to be normalize in this day and age... Please remember that your sins carries spirits with you. If you want to be happy and bless you have to commit to God's ways and be deliver. Pray and seek God, life is pointless without Him.
As someone who is waiting and a virgin, just the Bible saying it won’t help everyone lol. I wish it was that simple but no. You gotta really have a personal relationship with God and seek His face. Praying for others and coming in love for them to seek God is also helpful. Because not everyone knows that God’s way will save them. This culture is destroying the mind sets of young people.
Life is absolutely pointless without Jesus
Exodus 35:2 also said:
"For six days, work is to be done, but the seventh day shall be your holy day, a day of sabbath rest to the LORD. Whoever does any work on it is to be put to death."
Let me know when we get around to this one.
I seen something and it said it is really simple that people fall over the simplicity, I happened to be one of those people . But I changed . It is simple but hard , God knows our hearts , he knows what we really want and what our desires are . Follow the Bible , resist sin . Resist the devil and he shall flee .
There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with waiting for marriage to have sex! I was in three relationships, and many a day I wish I had stayed a virgin. The last person was an ex (not always the BEST idea, but I'm happy that it worked out for HER, lol). Yah TOLD me not to get with the ex again, but ol' knucklehead me, lol. I've been abstinent for almost 5 years (come December), and I made up my mind to listen to Yah and wait for HIM to send me who He wants for me.
Actually there are negatives to waiting for marriage. As a man who has waited longer than you and has friends who are still waiting. One of the issues is you start to idolize appearances considering the fact this potential spouse will be your one and only forever. There are plenty of other negatives as well
I get you, but “idolizing appearances” is a reason why many people have sex in the first place. They see how “fine” the person is, and they want to find out if they can boink as good as they look, lol. Btw, I said I’m ABSTINENT almost 5 years. When I tell folks when I broke my virginity, they don’t believe me.
Such good advice. I wish so many people in my generation actually had this type of info sooner. I'm 25, never been in a relationship, waiting until marriage, and VERY particular in my choice of people I let into my life. I pray that you stay strong and have continued success.
One of the lies about relationships that I heard: Love is those butterflies that you have in your stomach when you are around the person. That is definitely not true.
Love is a choice accompanied by emotion that requires action on behalf of its object... in simple terms, you choose who you fall in love with by the amount of time you spend with them. At the end of the day love is a CHOICE that doesn't turn off because of happiness, jealousy, anger, sadness, or contentment. It is accompanied by emotion because when I a person you love hurts, you hurt as well. When that person is happy, you feel happy as well. Love is not simply an emotion, but it is not devoid of emotion either. Finally, if you love a person there are actions to show it. you will tell that person the truth. You will try to make them happy. You will respect them. These are the components of love that will be the foundation any working relationship (even romantic ones). Hopefully this makes sense and helps someone out there!
I am a Muslim woman and I am waiting till marriage too .
Greetings and love 🌹
God bless you...I hope we both experience and know the love of God
God bless you 😘😘😘
Merge Rogue
Jesus IS LORD
Repent
Do you see any lesbians waiting until marriage? NO
From someone that didn’t make good choices, and fell into many temptations. Trust me! It is better to live your entire life single if you had too. Rather than to sin against God, and fall into sexual immorality, fornications, etc. Love your own heart, and soul enough to know you are the protector, and gatekeeper of your Spirit the most sacred part of you. Don’t pollute yourself. We’re only here on earth temporarily. The choices we make, thinking no big deal, leave an imprint in your DNA, and can cause your future children to repeat the same mistakes.
My boyfriend and I decided to start on a clean slate and wait until marriage when I got baptized about a month ago. We had initially wanted this when we started dating, but we let things get in the way and fell into temptation. We're both allowing God to work in and through us. It is a journey of growth, I find encouragement in your videos Melody. May God continue to lead you as you lean on Him and continually seek His kingdom.
P.S: I only started watching your videos with the Daniel fast video yesterday and I could relate so much. Thanks for sharing these
Are you putting boundaries in place? I find that makes it easier to stay pure until marriage. God speed on your journey
Biblically speaking, you are already his wife. Once a man joins with a woman, she becomes his wife or concubine.
A lie I have believed up until literally last week, was that I won’t be content being single. God has really shown me that I can absolutely be content in this season of singleness
Finding Lauren,you deserve better
Loved this video! As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned how important it is to set the foundation of intentional friendship before intentional dating. I’ve also had to surrender my relationship goals to God, because He knows what’s best! Isaiah 55:9 ❤️
Amazing advice
One thing I've learned: Trust that God hears you. Some of us pray for years for a good spouse and feel like God doesn't hear us b/c we're not getting the answer we expected. But He's not deaf! He doesn't assign the same journey to everyone. He is the Potter, after all. And if he wants us to go through a longer season of singleness than others (most likely for our own good!) then that's OK. Be patient. Trust that God is good and wants what's best for everyone involved.
I know that there are young men waiting until marriage. May God bless you. Marriage can last even though it's challenging sometimes. It's possible when we put God first. I will be married 32 years in November. Keep it up. Great content.
So true.. don't settle.. I got married out of God's well, I was in love but because of influences. That is another topic "You", "Me".. "We" can talk about and it is this... " Being in the Church and pressuring to get married because of age, status or family background."
I hurt from it and had to pray so hard for forgiving and letting the pain go. Now I am in love with God so much more.. I am waiting in God..i enjoyed being here.
Did you get divorce or are you still married to person?
Stay encouraged in Christ. Don’t let what happened in the past or what other people say or think about it chain you down but let Jesus Himself be your perfect freedom now. Remember Jesus in His indescribable love for you didn’t just die for you...He totally gave Himself to you to be your new life now!
The being happy 24/7 lie is something I recently discovered I was operating in as well. It’s funny how culture influences our lives but 🤷🏿♀️
*Any brothers waiting till marriage here or am I the only one?* 25 and going strong 😂
Edit: some of you are getting me wrong. I’m not doing it to gain a wife. But it’s Gods will. Meanwhile focusing on building my relationship with Him, my body, and my finances. God bless!
Good on you 👏👏👏.
My 2 brothers, and 2 cousins also are!👏🏽
That's awesome!
Me 2 I'm 28
Me too and 22!
I definitely feel alone at times being that I made the commitment to wait to marriage. I worry about that sometimes when it comes to dating, but I know God has that special person for me.
Briana Reynolds It can be lonely at times, but that principle also rules out a lot of the rejects who think women owe them their bodies. You are precious to God, so he will give you just the right man to treasure that.
@@EbonyRivers1 you are right. I think in a way I shy away from dating because of that. But, all of my trust is in the Lord. I know it's all in His timing. Thank your for your kind words. God bless you!
Briana Reynolds ❤️ He did for me. He can do it for you. I speak it, in due season.
Both me and my bf are waiting. God will send you who you need.
how old are u?
God is so good. I believe He's used this channel to encourage me. I've been single 3 months now from my twin boys' father & I just went back to God and surrendered my all. I'm really just going to take a moment to reset and have conversations with God concerning my relationship. I don't want to pick cause in my picking I've made wrong choices. I need God to choose this time & to form me into the wife I need to be for my God fearing Christ submitting, tongue speaking, king & priest of a husband who'll not just love me but my twin boys as his.
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That's rough Hazel, sorry to hear. God often uses these moments to draw us into a deeper understanding of Him. God speed Sister
@@ThePilgrimsWay2024 thank you so much.
Stay on your path, Melody! Great video! I'll tell you like I tell my daughters... when you're laying on your death bed, know, and smile, that you lived the life you wanted to live, and you didn't live it how people thought you should live it! Stay happy, and always keep that beautiful smile! God bless!
I’m 18 and still a virgin. It’s so hard in this generation. But I know the most high will send me my husband in the future. 😊
Keep going dear, you are not alone, i am in my third decade,have also waited,and i am a 2023 bride to be,so hold up sis,the Lord helped me, He will help you.
We need this more and more. I’m 28 and have been abstinent for 9 years, and I honestly can say that I thank God that I’ve missed so much of the traumas that can come from unnecessary soul ties with those who I just randomly have sex with, by the world projecting that “something is wrong with you”, when you want to wait until marriage. It’s simply what works and have worked, thankfully for me.
And there’s definitely standards and expectations that we conceive in our minds and try to make others to become what we desire, that we haven’t seen. We must get off social media and believing that relationships are perfect.
@brightful5 lol That I am bro. Doing well
Thanks for sharing the lessons you've learned, Melody! I think it's amazing that you're waiting. I wasn't a virgin when I got married, but my now husband and I made the decision early on to wait when we started dating and it was one of the best decisions. It gave us an opportunity to communicate and learn about each other without all the emotional baggage that can come with being sexually intimate. When you take sex off the table, you understand true intimacy (being vulnerable with each on a deeper level).
I can relate to thanking God that my relationships with guys who weren't it for me didn't last long and thanking Him for showing me from those short-lived relationships that what I want in a man exists. God be coming through for real
I come across this video..I love it because reading from the comment section it gives me more reason to wait until marriage... by the way I'm 30 years old...I'm so proud of myself and everyone who is waiting until married 😍😍😍 may God blessed and send you your perfect partner 😍
Amen! Also, pray and seek. God can highlight someone you weren't thinking about 🤷♀️
I waited for marriage and so did my husband. It’s definitely a choice that people are making. I know others that have done the same.
Needed to hear this, I'm 29 & waiting, not in a relationship, not easy
The easiest way to crack is by not having accountability partners around you. Get your Godly friends involved to keep you on your path
Really I'm 29 and waiting as well it's easy to me cause it helps me sort out the weeds from the flowers if that make sense
It does make sense ..I have good people that God so graciously sent into my life, and I'm ever so grateful
Same here
lol how long again yall think u have befor the wall ?
I waited until marriage...never ever regretted it! I never regret doing God's will! I was 32 and he asked me to marry him after two weeks of courting. If women only knew how much power there is in waiting...
Omg 2 weeks? Wow...
@@shu-shu2702 that boy was READYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
2 weeks lol, that one of the reason so much marriages ends in divorce
@@madarauchiha-kq5xl no it's not. Finances are
@@wkhristafer yea finances is another, marrying in 2 weeks is reduclious , how much of the person do u get to know in 2 weeks lol, u could see a different side of that person after 2 weeks. Marrying to soon can lead to devotce
Really amazing ...Have really struggled with the logic of number 2 for sometime...'No one is waiting till marriage' such an encouragement people are waiting ...Still at 20though. Thank you
People ARE waiting. I was 32 when I got married. I didn’t want become a statistic or deal with the consequences, so I was adamant about waiting.
Just an advice, if you find a woman that has been waiting for a husband. She is a keeper because that right there shows you that she respects herself and what is important to her!!
I am 34 and still waiting. I use to be ashamed of my virginity as a young adult and actually lied to friends, telling them I had sex to feel less of an outcast since them sarcastically calling "Ms goody-two-shoes" or "virgin Mary" to be the butt of their jokes bothered me. Also, pressures and comments from family members always asking when I'll bring a "man" home always felt shaming, and sometimes it still does especially coming from family. In my quiet vulnerable moments these feelings rear up, bringing other feelings of discouragement and belief that I may die alone; BUT GOD reminds to keep trusting in him. He shows me those friends and family members struggling in their relationships with unfaithful or lazy or angry or drunken or dishonest or men who walked away from their responsibilities after having "fun" or just plain Godless partners and I thank God that he spared me of that. And I'm encouraged to wait on him just a little longer, to have just a little more faith.
Yes, thank you Melody! so many of us grow up thinking that all boys are the same and that there are no good guys based on our/ others experiences. And we think we have to settle but NO we don't. And the Lord showed me that in this season. And I just want to say Thank God! He is so good to us!
Amen, Melody! Thank you for your video. Your peers need to hear what you are saying . You are very encouraging - even to us older folks who have walked the path ahead of you. Everything you say in this video is important and true!
I just told my friend I started a "Meagan Good Tour"...I turned 40 in April & haven't had sex since then. I really want something so much more deserving of me!
Don’t give up, keep praying and God will send your husband your way. You got this girl!!!
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I'm waiting for you, can we get to know you?
Lies #2 & NO. 5, that "Nobody (for me no guy) is waiting until marriage" and "I don't need God's help I got this", I can really relate to that, and that only changed as I got into a deeper relationship with Christ and learnt to trust in God that in His own timing will reunite me with a guy that is on the same page as me spiritually and wherever that guy is, God shall find Him. Also I finally accepted to obey the Holy Spirit (after feeling a STRONG conviction) and left dating apps, after many failed dates that went nowhere because I was depending on my own self to search for the one instead of surrendering to God. Your relationship series is SO relatable and May God bless you for sharing :) I'm a new subscriber, so glad I subscribed.
Relationships aren’t to make you happy, they’re to make you grow.
I want to cry 😭 I love this video so much, I love the comments too… I’ve been having conferences trying to push this message ❤️God bless you, I love you so much…
Two more lies:
(1)everyone is called to marriage.
(2) God created soulmates for each of us
Number 2 is not a lie, the bible does say that everyone has a soulmate
Zola Mkhize Where does it say that? The last I checked the Bible does not mention God creating a romantic soulmate for us. That’s a new age principle
You are telling facts
@@MsLeticiaaaM agree!
I am especially passionate about these because they are terrible!!! We are called to serve Him first then all other things come down to wisdom and capacity
I can relate to all of this! So glad God took the veil off my eyes. Ladies keep God at the center and let Him lead/guide you in ALL relationships. ❤️
Me & my boyfriend are waiting 🙏🏾 It hasn’t always been easy but we’ve grown so much! I’m so thankful! 💕
#2 spoke to me and it was so refreshing to hear someone say they are walking it out. I started to feel like the odd woman out, bc I wasn’t seeing any examples of couples still wanting to wait until marriage. It was a little discouraging. Thank you for speaking on it ❤️
I am still waiting for marriage to have sex and to have a baby for the first time and I'm 38 years old even if these things don't happen I want these things to happen but even if it doesn't God is still good and still has a plan
are u in a relationship?
Just found your channel. And I love it!!!.....I am divorced and 31 and am waiting until marriage! So glad to see others out there and being open about it! God bless you!
Thats terrible to hear Kas. God heal you, divorce is no light thing
@@ThePilgrimsWay2024 Hi there. No I will be honest, it was not easy at all. And still sometimes very hard to swallow today. I have had my Lord and savior through it all and im blessed to have a very supportive family. But I would not wish divorce on anyone. I didn't want divorce but he chose to cheat and he chose to leave. GOD can work through horrible situations. Im still here and im still making it by myself day by day! God bless you and thank your for your sweet comment.
@@kaseytatum350 Adjusting to a new way of life also feels overwhelming when life itself is not quite settled so I truly pray God gives you the strength you need to get to 'normal' (I put that in quotations because the definition of that is unknown to us right now). All the best!
@@ThePilgrimsWay2024 Thank You. With God all things r possible! Sending Many blessings your way.
Yes!! Am waiting until marriage.. it's possible and it's worth it, not for anybody but for myself.
Hi 😊 I'm new to your channel and I enjoyed your video and the information you provided. I too come from a Divorce parents background where everything you said is true. Because I'm 32 years old and saving myself for marriage by choice it can be hard when you see friends have babies and in a relationship without the ring it makes me study more about what I can improve in my life. I believe that God has some beautiful woman and down to earth personality that brings favor in my life. Be blessed Queen!
I had someone tell me that we were “to old for that” when I said that I wasn’t gonna sleep with him 🤦🏾♀️
Good riddance
A guy called me childish once when I told him the same thing 🙃
"boy bye"
Thank you for spreading Godly content on youtube yes girl! Loved this, I'm 25 and waiting ✨🌹
"Falling in Love." It's just faith that your emotions will always wash over you, fueled by your desires being fulfilled; this person's beautiful, interesting, and yes, good-natured.
But I'm more interested in their relationship to Goodness, Truth, Nobility, Righteousness, Purity, Charity, etc. Those are the qualities I look for in all my relationships, romantic, platonic, or spiritual. That's what makes for those long-lasters you hear about xD
#4 was so me (the type of man I need does not exist) . I was searching for the nearest Build-A-Man workshop 😭 but I’m currently trusting Gods timing, not mine.
@akajazzy12300 he may not check all of your boxes; just make sure the inner qualities checks out. You can teach him how to dress :)
Denise Shaw, MBA lol period ! I agree on the last part sis :)
@@deniseshawmba91 hahaha okay.
same here
After my divorce is final in January, I will and wont to do it God's way period. Fast and detox out anything that is not of God. Someone that loves God and after His heart, things in common, value the same things and have a humble and willing heart to give to God's people and wants to have a child. Financially mentally, physically and emotional stable and willing to work through issues.
My lies are
“It doesn’t get any better than this, so make it work with the person you already have” and
“The love you dream of doesn’t exist”
Now I know that the perfect love, in my opinion, does exist ❤️
Great video Melody. Solid wisdom. I used to believe every lie that you highlighted due to not growing up in a household with healthy relationships. My parents split up when I was a toddler. Fast-forwarding as a Christian I have read a lot of self-help and relationship advice books. Three that I highly recommend are: "Boundaries", "Safe People" and "Boundaries in Dating"-by Dr. Henri Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. I am thankful for God healing my heart when I surrendered it to him. I also benefited from wise professional counseling. Now I am in a healthy relationship. Yes, Melody. I am waiting for marriage.
Really excited and ready to learn from this series. Thank you.
Love from South Africa ❤️
I absolutely love this! Thank you so much. I’m 24 and waiting until marriage as well. I’m the only one around me waiting so not only dating wise, but friend wise it feels like I’m fighting an uphill battle from time to time. I’m so grateful I came across your channel. Believe it or not, I came from your studio apartment tour and something about your spirit told me to actually scroll through your videos, I subscribed that day. Here I am two weeks later and I came across this video. I love it when God speaks. So purposeful.
Relationship lie: As you get older and start to settle into societal norms , certain things and desires you have, you end up having to settle and compromise for because the idea that there are “plenty of fish in the sea” actually isn’t true
It's true for men as they get older "plenty of fish in the sea"
People use to tell me that God couldn’t find my Mr. Right, which was wrong because He did, and love how He did it, I have been married for over a year and we were together for a good while before marriage. Another lie was if God picked the one I’m to be with it’s going to be perfect. No one is perfect therefore relationships will have moments of conflicts or disagreement. However because God chose that individual for you, both of you are given the grace to overcome any challenge.
I waited 40 years for #2! It is possible! Dont rush or settle- it's worth the wait, God knew what he was doing. #SaveYourselves
Thank you for your testimony.
Wow 🙏
If you waited 40 years to eat cake you’d think it amazing. But God knew what he was doing when he made us sexual beings and is saddened by your sacrifice of 40 years without the gift of pleasure he created.
Really great discussion thank you! - I’ve been happily married about 35 years. May God Bless you with a noble and loving husband and children too!
It’s hard to find a woman like yourself. I tried waiting with a woman and she cheated. This didn’t mean that every woman is like that but very few women or men can keep it in their pants. I’m not a virgin myself, but if I met a woman that is willing to actually wait until marriage and she means it, I’d definitely do it.
Sex IS marriage bro.
I am 32 years and a virgin,and yes,ill wait.All will fall in place at God's right time,futhermore,i am taking this single season to work on my life goals and allowing the almighty to guide me.Thanks for the nuggets.
#2 is such a common one but it's great to know people are still out here with that mindset #thewaytogo 🙌🏽🙌🏽
You are helping sisters Melody! Thanks for being obedient and letting God use your story to navigate others.
I am the Bride of Christ and unless (IF)God presents a vessel to pair me with on earth, Iv'e chosen to place my all in Him, through it All.
Totally totally enjoyed this video. I have learned all of these lessons within the last 3 years - especially to let go and give your relationship life to God including your friendships. God Bless!!
Beautiful Melody please do something about these trolls. There are many of them here. I understand freedom of speech but not when they are here in our spaces to ridicule us it’s hard enough finding safe spaces for us and our journey as virgins and we don’t need this type of hate. Thank you love ❤️
I waited until marriage until 29...got married at 29 ...so proud of you
Great advice! Especially #3! People don’t even try to work through relationships anymore. Any of them. They just roll out looking for the next one expecting it to be better. When the truth is, if we really put some effort in it might actually be the blessing we’ve been praying for. (That does not include abusive situations....I know I don’t need to say that....but you know! Lol) ❤️❤️
Wow. The Lord had to send this, I talk to my Son's about this all the time, they are twenty somethings, raised correctly by Jesus and their parents. Who have been married for over 34 years and Yes God told me to marry my wife from the start.. probably the only time I actually listened. They are saving themselves and being Godly men, tall and athletic talking things out with their parents helps and praying in Faith. I'm sending this to them first thing in morning before they go to work. Thank You for sharing Truth and May The Lord Keep you in His Strength.
God told me about a month ago now when I was just sitting in my room thinking about this person,....God said don’t ever get desperate wow. Meaning don’t settle, son you don’t have to settle Jesus wants the best for us.
Thank you so much! In a world today and the mindset of the majority sometimes makes me lose hope that there are people waiting for marriage like I am. So it is so reassuring that there is!!
Loved the video lol I’ve definitely thought a few of the things you mentioned here, but I suppose it’s all cause it’s pretty hard being 28 and waiting in a society where everyone is having sex casually . God has been faithful though and his grace in this area of my life has been evident
You are a rare gem indeed. A unicorn, so to speak.
I certainly would have liked to have had a "Hallmark" Donna Reed type marriage, but it just wasn't in the cards. If a man can find a woman like you, he has truly found a glittering jewel in the vast darkness of the dating world.