What’s going on in the child bully’s mind that he/she teases and physically beats her younger sibling chronically? And, yes, the antisocial mother didn’t care. She probably secretly enjoyed it.
There are adoptive parents ( foster kids ) that starve the children. What’s up with that? Also the case of the West boy’s in California City, California, those adoptive parents had the bigger kids beat the littler ones. They got murdered. So what’s up with that? I know sadism causes sexual stimulation and humor, laughing but what’s this torture and cruelty? Like people who beat dogs, it’s not for sex or laughing so what are they doing? Power and control? But like how, what does that mean? It’s not like they want the victim to do something specific. It almost seems as if, like an autistic child thumping its head repeatedly on a wall or swinging his bangs in his face for stimulation. How does it do something for them but it wouldn’t do something for a normal person? What is wrong with them?
This is good information, but, I’d like to hear more about the physical abuse of children. Having been abused myself, I think there’s a slight difference between a grown person who chooses to stay in a toxic relationship, versus a child who has no choice but to endure a toxic parent.
Reckless driving happened all the time in my relationship. Especially when i had a newborn. I would frantically try to quiet my babies so that he wouldn't hurt us. I soon learned that his behavior necessitated my driving unless it was unavoidable. It worked for him though. As I think about it, that really typified my relationship with him. He was totally inept when it came to anything that wasn't of personal value to him. I guess that included the safety of his family.
Another kind of physical abuse: My ex had multiple sex partners, outside of our supposedly committed relationship, without protection. He put my life and health at risk with his behavior, then, of course, got offended when I went for STD testing. When the tests were negative, it was proof that I had over-reacted.
If you haven't already, I would be super interested in a video about how isolation is utilized in different ways to abuse. I currently deal with N parents who refuse to let my siblings talk to me over the phone without supervision, and only really let my siblings be alone with me when they want to go on vacation every year. Not to mention, they homeschool - but thats another can of worms in the big stew of keeping the abuse quiet.
Trigger warning: I realized that my now ex boyfriend would have sexual intercourse with me while I was completely asleep. I take melatonin & a muscle relaxer for TMD so I’m totally out. I woke up to him on top of me (don’t think I need to explain the rest) I was frozen. Couldn’t speak or move. I’m so ashamed & embarrassed for allowing this loser to do all the things he did. Things that were hard to prove. Locking me in the car only to scream & berate me. Push me into the hallway walls, tripping me, pinching me, jolting me out of my sleep & screaming in my face. There is so much more I’m trying to process. My heart & spirit are broken.
A guy I dated in college had sex with me after I was dead asleep post drinking. Its not ok, its rape. You didn’t deserve that and Im sorry that happened to you
I believe I was drugged...specifically on three occasions when one time I had physical evidence of something happening to me but on asking what had happened he denied it. Another time when I have no memory of what had occurred but he told me and grinned and said I had appeared drunk and people were watching. Another time I had slept for 14 hours...something I never do. All puzzling at the time but I believe done to humiliate and degrade me, possibly using the date rape drug. Only when I went no contact and educated myself after discovering I had been with a Narcissist did I find out it was typical of their methods of degrading and punishing victims. Physical abuse is not always violent.
Some just block hallways when they talk, and slam doors/cupboards. But it's still physical violence. There is no such thing as only mental violence. There is always some physical subtle threat too. Like walking very near unexpectadly, very sudden moves near your face, etc etc.
I can’t believe everything you wrote & then some is what I experienced. It absolutely escalated to ripping things off the walls, punching holes in doors, RIPPING the door off the hinges… I’m just now realizing everything 😕
Thankyou Darren for this video! husband narc.did all that,but hit,he has threatened to hurt me though! I want to call the woman's resource center,but it's really hard when he Hoover's over me. He's on disability,and I'm retired.
It's another piece of the Narcissist enigma. But by bit regaining control and taking back power that is rightfully the victims' when we fully can understand the Narcissist then we have triumphed.
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household” (Matthew 10:34-36).
Wonder if it’s also abuse if totally by accident drop break a wine glass and wife goes bonkers threatening to break ur favorite cup along with verbal rear down of you being disrespectful, unloving, un caring etc. Or same issue, but from an accidental bump.
Please feel free to suggest any topics you might like me to cover in future videos
What’s going on in the child bully’s mind that he/she teases and physically beats her younger sibling chronically? And, yes, the antisocial mother didn’t care. She probably secretly enjoyed it.
There are adoptive parents ( foster kids ) that starve the children. What’s up with that? Also the case of the West boy’s in California City, California, those adoptive parents had the bigger kids beat the littler ones. They got murdered. So what’s up with that? I know sadism causes sexual stimulation and humor, laughing but what’s this torture and cruelty? Like people who beat dogs, it’s not for sex or laughing so what are they doing? Power and control? But like how, what does that mean? It’s not like they want the victim to do something specific. It almost seems as if, like an autistic child thumping its head repeatedly on a wall or swinging his bangs in his face for stimulation. How does it do something for them but it wouldn’t do something for a normal person? What is wrong with them?
I still have the on going fear of getting into trouble or being in trouble. The residues of growing up with domestic violence.
This is good information, but, I’d like to hear more about the physical abuse of children. Having been abused myself, I think there’s a slight difference between a grown person who chooses to stay in a toxic relationship, versus a child who has no choice but to endure a toxic parent.
Thank you Darren. Abuse is evil and we have to try to do everything we can to escspe from evil people and places.
Reckless driving happened all the time in my relationship. Especially when i had a newborn. I would frantically try to quiet my babies so that he wouldn't hurt us. I soon learned that his behavior necessitated my driving unless it was unavoidable. It worked for him though.
As I think about it, that really typified my relationship with him. He was totally inept when it came to anything that wasn't of personal value to him. I guess that included the safety of his family.
Yes, mine would drive reckless too. It was scary. We're divorced now tho.
Another kind of physical abuse: My ex had multiple sex partners, outside of our supposedly committed relationship, without protection. He put my life and health at risk with his behavior, then, of course, got offended when I went for STD testing. When the tests were negative, it was proof that I had over-reacted.
It is so, so precise. I have been through EVERY SINGLE one of those. EVERY SINGLE one.
If you haven't already, I would be super interested in a video about how isolation is utilized in different ways to abuse. I currently deal with N parents who refuse to let my siblings talk to me over the phone without supervision, and only really let my siblings be alone with me when they want to go on vacation every year. Not to mention, they homeschool - but thats another can of worms in the big stew of keeping the abuse quiet.
Trigger warning:
I realized that my now ex boyfriend would have sexual intercourse with me while I was completely asleep. I take melatonin & a muscle relaxer for TMD so I’m totally out. I woke up to him on top of me (don’t think I need to explain the rest) I was frozen. Couldn’t speak or move. I’m so ashamed & embarrassed for allowing this loser to do all the things he did. Things that were hard to prove. Locking me in the car only to scream & berate me. Push me into the hallway walls, tripping me, pinching me, jolting me out of my sleep & screaming in my face. There is so much more I’m trying to process. My heart & spirit are broken.
A guy I dated in college had sex with me after I was dead asleep post drinking. Its not ok, its rape. You didn’t deserve that and Im sorry that happened to you
No weapon formed against me shall prosper ! 🙏🏾😢
Amen ❤
Hmm... I didn't know some of these things counted as physical abuse... Thank you!
Thank you. This is excellent. I went "no contact" with my sister a few years ago, due in part to these behaviors toward me and others.
Working on that now
I believe I was drugged...specifically on three occasions when one time I had physical evidence of something happening to me but on asking what had happened he denied it. Another time when I have no memory of what had occurred but he told me and grinned and said I had appeared drunk and people were watching. Another time I had slept for 14 hours...something I never do. All puzzling at the time but I believe done to humiliate and degrade me, possibly using the date rape drug. Only when I went no contact and educated myself after discovering I had been with a Narcissist did I find out it was typical of their methods of degrading and punishing victims. Physical abuse is not always violent.
Do unto others as you want done to you
Abusers don’t abide by this
Some just block hallways when they talk, and slam doors/cupboards. But it's still physical violence. There is no such thing as only mental violence.
There is always some physical subtle threat too.
Like walking very near unexpectadly, very sudden moves near your face, etc etc.
I can’t believe everything you wrote & then some is what I experienced. It absolutely escalated to ripping things off the walls, punching holes in doors, RIPPING the door off the hinges… I’m just now realizing everything 😕
my fear is for being subjected to mind game
Thankyou Darren for this video! husband narc.did all that,but hit,he has threatened to hurt me though! I want to call the woman's resource center,but it's really hard when he Hoover's over me. He's on disability,and I'm retired.
the narc. broke my hand when i had one month to finish my yoga certificate-permanent damage i feel. Evil-jealous and monsters.
Oh my goodness, I am so so so sorry!!!! That’s something they absolutely would do bc they love to sabotage others. Wow.
It's another piece of the Narcissist enigma. But by bit regaining control and taking back power that is rightfully the victims' when we fully can understand the Narcissist then we have triumphed.
Why nobody believe the victim when telling their story? Why the victim go through so much meanwhile the prosecutor is free?
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household” (Matthew 10:34-36).
Feel Safe 💞
Thank you!
Pushing partner or shake arms by asking in anger is consider in abuse ?
Yes
Yes it is. I have handprints from my ex doing that.
Yes
The cure of abuse is getting some equal payback.
Wonder if it’s also abuse if totally by accident drop break a wine glass and wife goes bonkers threatening to break ur favorite cup along with verbal rear down of you being disrespectful, unloving, un caring etc. Or same issue, but from an accidental bump.
That's emotional abuse if it happens repeatedly
That's emotional abuse for sure !
I think my older brother is abuse
😈 evil
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Thou they devise evil against me they shall not succeed! 🫵🏽😈🐍👺🙏🏾🙏🏾