57 year old woman here, divorced at 29. Best move I ever made. After a pleasant 9 year relationship after the divroce and subsequent dating I came to the conclusion that going solo was the best choice for me. I am also realistic that men do not want older women and I do not pursue relationships with them. I never thought life could be so content and peaceful.
Yes! Having peace and my sanity is important. Regaining independence and making important decisions. I am not afraid of being alone. I lived alone for 11 years before getting married. I put myself through college when I was single (including graduate school). My finances are good. I don't need a man in my life to make me complete or to support me financially. I did all of this when I was single and I'm still doing it now that I'm divorced. I am a survivor!
I am 68 in Cebu, Philippines. I have college girls fighting over me. I hear sub Saharan Africa is a good place for women my age. Some western women go there and have their pick of young African men that don't have food.
I'm 34 and my parents wonder why I am not married. What is the point when over half of all marriages end in divorce? I don't want to be drained financially and have to work into my 80's because someone has a change of heart 20+ years in.
@@mtgamateurnight absolutly. Marraige is a contract with the state and taxes. It has nothing to do with love. Stand your ground! You dont need to sign a paper to prove love. If you do, it's not love.
Well, you have to choose wisely and choose someone with who you have as much in common as possible and have common goals. You also want a person who values marriage and companionship. Long-term commitment and marriage is not always a bed of roses. You do have to compromise because it is no longer just about you. But there is an element of luck that someone doesn't drastically change and make the partnership unlivable. I have been married many years to a wonderful person and I highly recommend it.
Divorced at 56 after 32 years of marriage. He initiated it and I am grateful. I started online dating about a week later lol. I just wanted to get dressed up and go out, meet new people. It was a blast! Unexpectedly, I met a man with whom I connected and we’ve been together ever since (8 years). Never been happier ❤️
When I stayed with mom, dad was evil. Then when I stayed with dad, mom was evil. I was 11 - 16 I guess. Important years. I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, lifetime bachelor at age 60. It fucked me up pretty bad. I’m successful, happy with no regrets though. It is what it is.
It's interesting you say that because I was just telling my mother the other day that I'm soooo glad that she and my dad divorced when I was a little girl instead of staying "for the kids." They've been divorced nearly 30 years after a turbulent marriage and are good friends today. It's common for my dad to come and hang out with me and my mom for holidays and some weekends. I LOVE it this way, and I'm nearly 40 years old. I believe addressing the problem sooner than later is a lot better for "the kids" in the long run.
@@guybeingaguy I wish kids didn't go through that stuff. My son has his issues from our marital mess. We don't have to lead cookie cutter lives, and people who don't marry have energy to be community helpers, life lines for kids, and great uncles/aunts
@@elizabethheyenga9277 I don’t see it as an “issue” because you can’t miss what you never had. Luckily, I KNEW I was emotionally defective before my 20th birthday. There was no way I was going to be an acceptable husband/boyfriend. I removed myself for everybody’s well being, hers mainly. I installed an emotional switch a LONG LONG time ago. It’s always off, probably is broken anyways, but served me well all these years. Do I like it? NO. It’s the cards I was dealt, I’ve done what I thought and think is right. No regrets🍺👍
Don’t compare the reality of gray divorce of celebrities that have a lot of money to the middle class divorce. Often women are left with a very different lifestyle than when they were married. Read the studies before believing it is a ‘better’ life.
Exactly. The average North American female who divorces in middle age will face financial uncertainty unless she planned for this accordingly, has a great career, independent mindset and financial savvy and nest egg. Any major health setbacks can cause even more financial hardship. Women who are widowed fair better usually because they inherit their husband’s estate and not loose half of their net equity in a divorce settlement.
@micclay They could be whomever they want to be. Finances exist without a man. No need to cowtow to a man at the expense of your own happiness and identity.
As a 36 year old Millennial, I've been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. But I will never marry and I have to say nearly half my high school and college classmates have not married at this point. Marriage was once forced upon everyone. Not anymore. Freedom to love is pure.
I was only married once for 34 years. I agree that more seasoned women (50 and over) are getting divorced. My life is so much BETTER now. I like the woman that I have become -- I like having MY OWN time... Doing what I want to do. I am a baby boomer with NO children.
You’re so lucky! I love my child but I would have loved to have my life to myself at this point. If I had the chance for a do over I would not have children. Since childhood back in the day… women are conditioned that having children is the brass ring. I think that was a trap and is not the truth at all.
Oh but you see, others DO have to live with your choices! Your children, your family and your community pay the price when you decide to get a divorce. Maybe we can find a balance between personal needs and absolute selfishness.
@@Tourianthe children also pay the price when their parents stay in a loveless and toxic marriage. I speak from experience and witnessing this firsthand. Sometimes (often times) divorce is better than seeing your parents argue constantly. Worry about your own bs and stay out of everyone else’s.
The incredible pain of being faithfully married for 27 years, I was 52 years old, I discovered my husband’s affair with his married coworker. I was in shock. Some days it’s hard. So many triggers of what they did together while ignoring us!
Being cheated on is humiliating and hurtful. Other people don't know the pain unless it's happened to you. I know the pain, but in time, I got on with life and ultimately realized he did me a favor.
I know this pain! I’m 8 years since d day and will tell you, the dark days lessen. My dream is one day we all can come out of the shadows to really discuss this devastation of betrayal trauma. The pain is beyond anything
nearly 33 years with my man…hope it lasts forever. we spend a lot of time together and hope to continue to do that….we are 62 and 64. I also believe we are a really good example to family, friends and our kids. We love each other and support each other in every facet of life. And by the way, we are opposites in nearly everything.
I wish my marriage had lasted. Unfortunately, you can’t maintain a relationship when you have to do all the giving with someone who isn’t present or accountable. He was emotionally abusive and misogynistic. He was vicious and mean. Now, I am in my seventies, poor, and disabled by disease. I chose wrong, and I am paying for it. The isolation is devastating. If I were healthy, it would be different.
No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself and perhaps you can find online communities to connect with like book reading groups, etc. to widen your social circle.
My boss once told me a lot of couples stay together for the sake of the children. Freedom comes once kids go off to college. That’s when older couples decide to get divorced. 🤷♂️🤔🤷♂️
This should have been expected; women who entered the workforce and built up their own savings and investments eventually wouldn't want to stay in "shell" marriages. There are, of course, happy empty-nesters, but there are also partnerships where the relationship is on life support. People have to decide what works for their emotional, mental, physical well-being; either stay and work on it or move on. Life is short.
Let’s hear it for people who worked through the challenges and came out stronger and more in love and are sharing their most vulnerable years with the spouse who stood by them through it all.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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Unless you are very rich & still looking exceptional in your 60’s, 70’s, you won’t find any man or woman, so get a hobby, engage with your community, learn to live alone.
That's me, left at 58, and went through an identity crisis, had to rebuild my life, got through it all and loving my single independent life. Also, embraced my psychic abilities and started my own business and blogging about my journey.
How does everyone deal with the fear of being completely alone when you’re divorced and have no kids? Who’s going to look after a person’s interest if one loses their marbles?
As a happily never married or lived with a partner and childfree woman at 46, I'm most certainly seeing an influx of my peers go through divorce (sometimes for the 2nd time) and I can categorically say its only recently that I appreciate my life choices and how lucky I am. Unlike many come out of divorce I already have a strong and supportive community and friendship circle, own my own home, financially independent, good career, and often travel. Many people who are divorcing later in life are having to learn these skills for the first time. It's really interesting when I was younger and more susceptible to societal pressure I felt left behind, now often I feel way ahead. Its definitely funny and often unexpected how life turns out.
I don't see how you all can afford to get divorced so old. It takes both our incomes to live even a moderately comfortable life. When we can't work anymore, it would not be good. Poverty sucks.
But you'll notice they conveniently left out any mention whatsoever of socio-economic status. My guess is that it's the upper-income end of the spectrum which is seeing the highest percentage increases in divorce.
So no one talked about being a grandparent. This is a continuation of the "let's stay married until the kids are settled" idea....many people set the bar for divorce there. Never marry when both are young, that is a recipe of divorce as it is NOT love but infatuation and the angst of adult life.
I am 70. I would get divorced if it wouldn’t mess up my kids. My husband doesn’t want to touch me or even compliment me. He won’t even sit down and eat with me. He just wants to watch tv all day.
I think the happiest people for the most part are married men and single women. I am a 44 year old woman who ended a 10 year relationship (we were engaged) 10 years ago. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love my dogs, my work and hiking and skiing. I knew from a young age that I never wanted to be the marriage + kids type, but I felt so much pressure to "get engaged". I will definitely never marry, but I would like to find a man to partner with again long term. I don't envy friends with husbands and young kids. Their lives just seem so tiring and stressful.
Their lives are full, filled with laughter, wonderous moments, learning, loving, forgiving, growing, and amazement of how incredibly blessed they are to have children and a spouse who loves and supports them. Sadly all of which you will never ever know.
I have to laugh at humans who can’t commit and live with one person then can’t figure out they are the problem. Of the two groups, married and not, I find the married ones far more tolerable. As a nurse over 30 years, better hope you have a spouse somewhere. Someone who cares about you more than a paycheck. I love to read comments about “compassion” which few people actually have an ounce of more than platitudes. The less likable humans become the more difficult it is to even fake caring for them. You just do the job. And the narcissism and selfish nature of many make them a real job. Nothing wrong with going solo. If you can face your real flaws and work on them outside a partnership then you may end up with people who care about you.
If one is getting diminished returns in the relationship it seems it would be something to celebrate: freedom and energy better spent on something else. If it’s a “shell” marriage, a positive change is certainly something to celebrate. 🤷🏻♀️
It's upsetting to see any elderly . And her.. 72... gloating about divorce. That's just sad. Someone always hurts more. Sleep in seperate rooms. Clean up after yourself. D9nt leave one another. U will never have anyone like them again or share memories u have with them . At 72. Preditors want your money. Stay together for better sustainability.
Typical womanhater. One husband died and left her widowed. And her last husband was a joint petition, after their son turned 18. The truth is men die earlier, married men less early than single men. And many men leave their wives, when their wives are diagnosed with a chronic condition. The real question is why you had such an emotional reaction to a summarization of her life? Don’t be hysterical.
I don't blame ppl in the age range of 50's for getting divorced. That's like half your life with someone depending on how long one was married for. I'm in my 40's and I feel 40's are left for living. I am divorced and enjoy my single life and want to travel. Ppl are living longer, enjoying their lives, perhaps Thier sex lives. I have noticed I'm my 40's I'm enjoying it like when I was younger... interesting. Live ur life to the fullest ppl
More than likely these women made bank off the husbands. Got equity out of homes , took whichever husband had the highest social security payment, split assests including in vestments, and their own money from careers. None of them look like theyll be working cashiering in a supermarket to survive, or end up homeless living in their cars or on the street. Quite the opposite, look well to do. Trust me, if finances were and issue without hubs, theyd stay with him . Money is and always will be THE issue, in life.
@@christinahekbecause they don’t want to. They don’t want to get on the evolution and adaption train. Too many perceived benefits for such types. And those attitudes (among others) are what is holding all of society back. Well… let them stay behind while we wave bye bye from the caboose as they stand dumbfounded and angry on the track. After the goodbye… we can move up the train to the dining car and have a lovely meal, conversation and maybe even a glass of champagne to celebrate. 🎉. Enjoy the ride. 🎉
Yuck. My father in law’s girlfriend has been married three times. Women like that really know how to make a relationship work. She expects us to subsidize her life in addition to his life. The answer is no. I hope that these ladies enjoy giving out samples at Costco.
Not a good idea. Divorced at 52 I stiil miss the whole family time. I still mis being grandparents together. I still miss sharing the family history with your own husband and father of your children🙏
It’s easy to thrive to be single when you are healthy and independent. People that throw away relationships simply because they’re bored may regret that decision when they are in a hospital or have to pay for someone to help them or have a conversation.
I hear what you're saying, but the reality is that most older, married women wind up caretaking their husbands until they pass. So that essentially leaves her alone when she needs caretaking.
Married 1st time at 19, divorced 5 years later when the infatuation wore off. Was a lot smarter next time looking for someone who shared the same interests. Been together 45 years, Was it easy? Sometimes yes, others not so much. Came close to divorce once during the midlife crisis after 30 years. Both committed to doing the work and much easier now that we're both retired. Very happy to stay until the lights go out.
The devil is a made-up concept. It was made up by educated men, aka church men, who wanted to keep the great unwashed, the uneducated peasants down. The devil only exists in your mind. Evil is real but the devil is a fairy tale character.
57 here, divorced 6 months ago after 25 years of marriage. Just got myself a lovely little bungalow with my two dogs. My beautiful daughters aged 22 and 20 doing great, one at university the other working in childcare and having to live with ex just for a while as her job is in the same town he now lives in. Ex hubby moved his new woman and her 25 year old daughter into his new place 3 weeks after us finally ending everything. This year has been hard but bring it on 2025, time for me to come into my own ❤❤❤❤
Married life is the most difficult and most important University in Life. Not everybody is realizing that or do not want to go through all internal work on themselves in a first place. All people are different, but I believe this should be two-way conversations and it is always about both parties responsibilities and willingness to let the other person to have a personal space while keeping common space with shared ideas together. We were born separately , we will die most likely separately, and family is something we could go through together. On a soul level we are all One.
Sounds unrealistic to invest so much in marriage only to divorce in your golden years. Alimony vibes from these ladies, but I wish men were interviewed.
I love someone said a man is not a financial plan. Very true. No man deserves to have to be looked as a ATM. Love and live and then wherever that leads great.
I can't think of a greater time of freedom. Can there be too much freedom? Is responsibility compromised? I don't think so. As long as you live life within certain boundaries. You can drink of course but not to harmful excess, as an example.
Decently put, some times people grow apart as they grow older. People come and go in our lives. What matters most is the relationship you have with yourself. #redpill
Divorced people can never go back to being single. Single is a specific term for people who have never been married. Quit trying to hide from a failed marriage. A person who has never been married is considered single. The term "single (never married)" is used to describe someone who is not legally married and is not living with a common law partner.
And people can be and self identify as whatever they want. Not everyone would want an x partner attached to their identity. They are even talked about discarding obsolete “roles”. Why should someone be forced by tradition formalities to carry around an identity that no longer applies. Why can’t they start fresh as an individual on their new life?
I feel most people conform to society's rules and tenets. I am 55 and never been married. Reason, never found the right guy. I could have been married three times--I would have been divorced three times! If one is not married by the age of 28 something is wrong with that person, LOL..My mum thought I was a lesbian for the longest time. People marry way too young. I tell my 22 year old son, wait until you are at least 30 if you ever want to marry....Most people my age and older do not want to be with anyone----too much drama rama!
I guess do what's best for you OR as a team with someone. Its just draining that regardless of the time period, men want "their needs" satisfied without any regard to what "women need". Even when you don't have kids, you're still expected to be "pleasant". People shouldn't be changing their minds like the weather. Work as a team.
57 year old woman here, divorced at 29. Best move I ever made. After a pleasant 9 year relationship after the divroce and subsequent dating I came to the conclusion that going solo was the best choice for me. I am also realistic that men do not want older women and I do not pursue relationships with them. I never thought life could be so content and peaceful.
Yes! Having peace and my sanity is important. Regaining independence and making important decisions. I am not afraid of being alone. I lived alone for 11 years before getting married. I put myself through college when I was single (including graduate school). My finances are good. I don't need a man in my life to make me complete or to support me financially. I did all of this when I was single and I'm still doing it now that I'm divorced. I am a survivor!
I am 68 in Cebu, Philippines. I have college girls fighting over me. I hear sub Saharan Africa is a good place for women my age. Some western women go there and have their pick of young African men that don't have food.
@micclay They’re fighting over a green card.
Ikr,😂 he is an old fool@@karenmassey8354
If you want to be used….
I was divorced at 50, best decision, found the love of my life and have been married 12 years now.
I'm 34 and my parents wonder why I am not married. What is the point when over half of all marriages end in divorce? I don't want to be drained financially and have to work into my 80's because someone has a change of heart 20+ years in.
@@mtgamateurnight absolutly. Marraige is a contract with the state and taxes. It has nothing to do with love. Stand your ground! You dont need to sign a paper to prove love. If you do, it's not love.
I'm over 50, unhappily married, and I think you are absolutely correct!
@@annjohnson8437 im sorry for you. Nobody should have to accept a lifetime of unhappiness for anyone else.
@mtgamateurnight all I think of is, alright alright alright
Well, you have to choose wisely and choose someone with who you have as much in common as possible and have common goals. You also want a person who values marriage and companionship. Long-term commitment and marriage is not always a bed of roses. You do have to compromise because it is no longer just about you. But there is an element of luck that someone doesn't drastically change and make the partnership unlivable. I have been married many years to a wonderful person and I highly recommend it.
Most relationships last as long as they are tolerated.
So true😂. That's some hard work.
Divorced at 56 after 32 years of marriage. He initiated it and I am grateful. I started online dating about a week later lol. I just wanted to get dressed up and go out, meet new people. It was a blast! Unexpectedly, I met a man with whom I connected and we’ve been together ever since (8 years). Never been happier ❤️
Funny story. 😂
@ Cynical much?
Good for you! Life's much too short!
That’s awesome! Congrats
my parents were 50+ and got a divorce.. they should have gotten one sooner but stayed together "for the kids" 🤪
That never works. It just delays the inevitable.
When I stayed with mom, dad was evil.
Then when I stayed with dad, mom was evil.
I was 11 - 16 I guess. Important years.
I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, lifetime bachelor at age 60.
It fucked me up pretty bad. I’m successful, happy with no regrets though. It is what it is.
It's interesting you say that because I was just telling my mother the other day that I'm soooo glad that she and my dad divorced when I was a little girl instead of staying "for the kids." They've been divorced nearly 30 years after a turbulent marriage and are good friends today. It's common for my dad to come and hang out with me and my mom for holidays and some weekends. I LOVE it this way, and I'm nearly 40 years old. I believe addressing the problem sooner than later is a lot better for "the kids" in the long run.
@@guybeingaguy I wish kids didn't go through that stuff. My son has his issues from our marital mess. We don't have to lead cookie cutter lives, and people who don't marry have energy to be community helpers, life lines for kids, and great uncles/aunts
@@elizabethheyenga9277 I don’t see it as an “issue” because you can’t miss what you never had.
Luckily, I KNEW I was emotionally defective before my 20th birthday. There was no way I was going to be an acceptable husband/boyfriend. I removed myself for everybody’s well being, hers mainly.
I installed an emotional switch a LONG LONG time ago. It’s always off, probably is broken anyways, but served me well all these years.
Do I like it? NO.
It’s the cards I was dealt, I’ve done what I thought and think is right. No regrets🍺👍
Don’t compare the reality of gray divorce of celebrities that have a lot of money to the middle class divorce. Often women are left with a very different lifestyle than when they were married. Read the studies before believing it is a ‘better’ life.
Exactly. The average North American female who divorces in middle age will face financial uncertainty unless she planned for this accordingly, has a great career, independent mindset and financial savvy and nest egg. Any major health setbacks can cause even more financial hardship. Women who are widowed fair better usually because they inherit their husband’s estate and not loose half of their net equity in a divorce settlement.
That's why married women should always maintain some mannerr of individual finances as well maintaining a resume.
@@cinemaclassica492 they could be the type of wife no man in his right mind would leave.
I was gonna say this. Many are left with nothing and having to go work at like 70!
@micclay They could be whomever they want to be. Finances exist without a man. No need to cowtow to a man at the expense of your own happiness and identity.
As a 36 year old Millennial, I've been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. But I will never marry and I have to say nearly half my high school and college classmates have not married at this point. Marriage was once forced upon everyone. Not anymore. Freedom to love is pure.
Most women still want marriage though so I wonder how that would work for you.But hopefully your partner doesn’t want marriage just like yourself.
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
@@AnonymousC-lm6tc it is easier to part ways when the relationship runs it's course if there is no legal binding.
My parents should have divorced. They are both gone and I am still here working through the toxicity.
I am happily married. There, I said it.
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Lying is not good.
Yay!!!
@@Tony-Steel64over a decade now. She is my best friend. I was sick and lost my job and she still was by my side. 😅
I was only married once for 34 years. I agree that more seasoned women (50 and over) are getting divorced. My life is so much BETTER now. I like the woman that I have become -- I like having MY OWN time... Doing what I want to do. I am a baby boomer with NO children.
You’re so lucky! I love my child but I would have loved to have my life to myself at this point. If I had the chance for a do over I would not have children. Since childhood back in the day… women are conditioned that having children is the brass ring. I think that was a trap and is not the truth at all.
Life is short. Do what makes you happy. Who cares what others think? They don’t have to live with your choices, you do.
Amen
Oh but you see, others DO have to live with your choices! Your children, your family and your community pay the price when you decide to get a divorce. Maybe we can find a balance between personal needs and absolute selfishness.
@@Tourianthe children also pay the price when their parents stay in a loveless and toxic marriage. I speak from experience and witnessing this firsthand. Sometimes (often times) divorce is better than seeing your parents argue constantly. Worry about your own bs and stay out of everyone else’s.
@ if you don’t want people replying to comments, don’t publish them
@@Tourian if you don’t want people telling you to stay in your lane then don’t give then a reason to.
I think it's the best time to get divorced because you raised your family and your work is done.
To all you woman haters making comments…if you listen to the story, the husband is the one who initiated the divorce.
its funny too, because there is more than one woman's story being talked about in the video
@@te9238 there's more men haters than women haters ironic
Who hates women?
A man is not a plan.
So true
Amen
STOP WITH THIS HATE AGAINST MEN! One sided report only
Womens perspectives
Stop hating on man
Stop hating on men and stop deleting my posts
The incredible pain of being faithfully married for 27 years, I was 52 years old, I discovered my husband’s affair with his married coworker. I was in shock. Some days it’s hard. So many triggers of what they did together while ignoring us!
Sorry you went through this. Much love.
Being cheated on is humiliating and hurtful. Other people don't know the pain unless it's happened to you. I know the pain, but in time, I got on with life and ultimately realized he did me a favor.
I know this pain! I’m 8 years since d day and will tell you, the dark days lessen.
My dream is one day we all can come out of the shadows to really discuss this devastation of betrayal trauma. The pain is beyond anything
nearly 33 years with my man…hope it lasts forever. we spend a lot of time together and hope to continue to do that….we are 62 and 64. I also believe we are a really good example to family, friends and our kids. We love each other and support each other in every facet of life. And by the way, we are opposites in nearly everything.
I agree - I also am in a decades long marriage and it has been wonderful. It's very comforting to have someone who knows you so well.
30 years of marriage and don’t see myself with a divorce. Love my husband, hope he loves me as well 😂😂
Wonderful to hear!
I wish my marriage had lasted. Unfortunately, you can’t maintain a relationship when you have to do all the giving with someone who isn’t present or accountable. He was emotionally abusive and misogynistic. He was vicious and mean. Now, I am in my seventies, poor, and disabled by disease. I chose wrong, and I am paying for it. The isolation is devastating. If I were healthy, it would be different.
No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself and perhaps you can find online communities to connect with like book reading groups, etc. to widen your social circle.
Hugs ❤❤❤❤
This couple was my neighbors about 50 years ago, and they were in their 60s married over 40 years, and one day they just split up and divorced.
It really shows how people don't know their neighbors and don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
I am 63 and blissfully single. Never again will I subject myself to a terrible man
I hate to see people divorce…but there are times when it is necessary.
Reminds me of that line about someone who has been divorced three times: "I'm starting to think it might be me."
The wife divorced me at 50. Now at 55 I have seen the world for the first time. It's never too late to regain your freedom.
My boss once told me a lot of couples stay together for the sake of the children. Freedom comes once kids go off to college. That’s when older couples decide to get divorced. 🤷♂️🤔🤷♂️
Advice from a woman with 3 marriages, with supporting "evidence" from actors and movies...
She mentioned she was made a widow in one of those marriages.
Sometimes, enough is enough. You can only take so much.
This should have been expected; women who entered the workforce and built up their own savings and investments eventually wouldn't want to stay in "shell" marriages. There are, of course, happy empty-nesters, but there are also partnerships where the relationship is on life support. People have to decide what works for their emotional, mental, physical well-being; either stay and work on it or move on. Life is short.
These old women are delusional and will never admit they messed up
Left my covert narcissist husband at 54 . Nothing but peace and freedom now !
I am a widow. My child is my benefactor. I accept never being anything else.
I know why you’re never invited to parties.
@@guybeingaguy that is unkind, esp when her comment isn't rude, it's a personal statement
Dating is rigged today
Who wants to swipe on Tinder or Grindr and just "hook up"? Sounds pretty shallow.
Let's hear it for GRAY divorce 🎉!
Let's hear it for choices!!!
Let’s hear it for people who worked through the challenges and came out stronger and more in love and are sharing their most vulnerable years with the spouse who stood by them through it all.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
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Unless you are very rich & still looking exceptional in your 60’s, 70’s, you won’t find any man or woman, so get a hobby, engage with your community, learn to live alone.
That's me, left at 58, and went through an identity crisis, had to rebuild my life, got through it all and loving my single independent life. Also, embraced my psychic abilities and started my own business and blogging about my journey.
👏❤
How does everyone deal with the fear of being completely alone when you’re divorced and have no kids? Who’s going to look after a person’s interest if one loses their marbles?
As a happily never married or lived with a partner and childfree woman at 46, I'm most certainly seeing an influx of my peers go through divorce (sometimes for the 2nd time) and I can categorically say its only recently that I appreciate my life choices and how lucky I am. Unlike many come out of divorce I already have a strong and supportive community and friendship circle, own my own home, financially independent, good career, and often travel. Many people who are divorcing later in life are having to learn these skills for the first time. It's really interesting when I was younger and more susceptible to societal pressure I felt left behind, now often I feel way ahead. Its definitely funny and often unexpected how life turns out.
That’s interesting insight
Divorce isn't glamorous. People don't want to die alone
People don't invest in their partner anymore instead everyone is working on investing in things, money, and worldly ambitions. Selfishness.
Not necessarily. What if your spouse is a complete jerk?
@Amy-466 Then we have an understanding that he wasn't the type to invest positively long-term. He shouldn't take his eyes off what's really important.
I don't see how you all can afford to get divorced so old. It takes both our incomes to live even a moderately comfortable life. When we can't work anymore, it would not be good. Poverty sucks.
But you'll notice they conveniently left out any mention whatsoever of socio-economic status. My guess is that it's the upper-income end of the spectrum which is seeing the highest percentage increases in divorce.
Also if your a widow and married for at least Ten years you can collect your deceased spouse Social Security at 60 as long as your single! 👍
As a bartender, I’ve seen a lot of this trend happen
So no one talked about being a grandparent. This is a continuation of the "let's stay married until the kids are settled" idea....many people set the bar for divorce there. Never marry when both are young, that is a recipe of divorce as it is NOT love but infatuation and the angst of adult life.
I am 70. I would get divorced if it wouldn’t mess up my kids. My husband doesn’t want to touch me or even compliment me. He won’t even sit down and eat with me. He just wants to watch tv all day.
Give your kids more credit. They love you and want you to be happy above all else.
70 is still young, but your kids must be grown...they'll adapt.
Don’t be on your deathbed saying, well at least I didn’t upset anyone.
Your kids would want you to be happy. You only get this one chance!
Wait to be a widow, people are so much nicer to widows
They leave once the house is paid off so they get the most equity
I think the happiest people for the most part are married men and single women. I am a 44 year old woman who ended a 10 year relationship (we were engaged) 10 years ago. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love my dogs, my work and hiking and skiing. I knew from a young age that I never wanted to be the marriage + kids type, but I felt so much pressure to "get engaged". I will definitely never marry, but I would like to find a man to partner with again long term. I don't envy friends with husbands and young kids. Their lives just seem so tiring and stressful.
Their lives are full, filled with laughter, wonderous moments, learning, loving, forgiving, growing, and amazement of how incredibly blessed they are to have children and a spouse who loves and supports them. Sadly all of which you will never ever know.
I think I I’ve seen an article about this!!!! Married men and single women are the most happiest people.
@@kayi2140
No guarantee. You don’t know their lives.
Absolutely beautiful women!!
I have to laugh at humans who can’t commit and live with one person then can’t figure out they are the problem. Of the two groups, married and not, I find the married ones far more tolerable. As a nurse over 30 years, better hope you have a spouse somewhere. Someone who cares about you more than a paycheck. I love to read comments about “compassion” which few people actually have an ounce of more than platitudes. The less likable humans become the more difficult it is to even fake caring for them. You just do the job. And the narcissism and selfish nature of many make them a real job. Nothing wrong with going solo. If you can face your real flaws and work on them outside a partnership then you may end up with people who care about you.
Theres alot of men out there thieir age looking for a nurse and a purse. Liberate on ladies!
The reverse exists too, mostly single moms
Nurse and a purse😂
Im indifferent, yeah you can do it but is this really somthing to celebrate?
If one is getting diminished returns in the relationship it seems it would be something to celebrate: freedom and energy better spent on something else. If it’s a “shell” marriage, a positive change is certainly something to celebrate. 🤷🏻♀️
I agree.
It's upsetting to see any elderly . And her.. 72... gloating about divorce. That's just sad. Someone always hurts more. Sleep in seperate rooms. Clean up after yourself. D9nt leave one another. U will never have anyone like them again or share memories u have with them . At 72. Preditors want your money. Stay together for better sustainability.
Her ex is just hurting so bad. Selfish woman.
Typical womanhater. One husband died and left her widowed. And her last husband was a joint petition, after their son turned 18.
The truth is men die earlier, married men less early than single men. And many men leave their wives, when their wives are diagnosed with a chronic condition.
The real question is why you had such an emotional reaction to a summarization of her life? Don’t be hysterical.
And live in misery? Maybe the memories you share with them aren't all that great.
I don't blame ppl in the age range of 50's for getting divorced. That's like half your life with someone depending on how long one was married for. I'm in my 40's and I feel 40's are left for living. I am divorced and enjoy my single life and want to travel. Ppl are living longer, enjoying their lives, perhaps Thier sex lives. I have noticed I'm my 40's I'm enjoying it like when I was younger... interesting. Live ur life to the fullest ppl
Honestly it seems crazy to me .. might as well stick it out if you aren’t being abused .. there’s nothing better out in the world
Sometimes being alone IS better..
I agree
Situationships are where its at.
Once the celebrity divorces started, I went ahead and divorced my wife.
This is proof that wisdom DOES NOT come with age.
More than likely these women made bank off the husbands. Got equity out of homes , took whichever husband had the highest social security payment, split assests including in vestments, and their own money from careers. None of them look like theyll be working cashiering in a supermarket to survive, or end up homeless living in their cars or on the street. Quite the opposite, look well to do. Trust me, if finances were and issue without hubs, theyd stay with him . Money is and always will be THE issue, in life.
Why do you assume that these women didn’t have high paying careers of their own?
@@annsgal2025These dudes cannot conceive of women earning their own money.
@@christinahekbecause they don’t want to. They don’t want to get on the evolution and adaption train. Too many perceived benefits for such types. And those attitudes (among others) are what is holding all of society back. Well… let them stay behind while we wave bye bye from the caboose as they stand dumbfounded and angry on the track. After the goodbye… we can move up the train to the dining car and have a lovely meal, conversation and maybe even a glass of champagne to celebrate. 🎉. Enjoy the ride. 🎉
@@annsgal2025 Right? We are not in the 50s! Many women are the breadwinners in their families. I am one of them.
I'm a male and pushing 66, I don't have to worry about a divorce because I was smart enough to never marry,
Yuck. My father in law’s girlfriend has been married three times. Women like that really know how to make a relationship work. She expects us to subsidize her life in addition to his life. The answer is no. I hope that these ladies enjoy giving out samples at Costco.
3 marriages.She is definitely a winner.
Not a good idea. Divorced at 52 I stiil miss the whole family time. I still mis being grandparents together. I still miss sharing the family history with your own husband and father of your children🙏
It’s easy to thrive to be single when you are healthy and independent. People that throw away relationships simply because they’re bored may regret that decision when they are in a hospital or have to pay for someone to help them or have a conversation.
I hear what you're saying, but the reality is that most older, married women wind up caretaking their husbands until they pass. So that essentially leaves her alone when she needs caretaking.
and for that " end" caretaking, you should waste your "whole" life right?
Married 1st time at 19, divorced 5 years later when the infatuation wore off. Was a lot smarter next time looking for someone who shared the same interests. Been together 45 years, Was it easy? Sometimes yes, others not so much. Came close to divorce once during the midlife crisis after 30 years. Both committed to doing the work and much easier now that we're both retired. Very happy to stay until the lights go out.
i love both "it's complicated" & 'first wave club"
The devil fools anyone into thinking this is good.
Yes it’s always the Devil….. so scary….. 😮
That’s so true
The devil is a made-up concept. It was made up by educated men, aka church men, who wanted to keep the great unwashed, the uneducated peasants down. The devil only exists in your mind. Evil is real but the devil is a fairy tale character.
Women are more likely to begin the divorce, not a little.
57 here, divorced 6 months ago after 25 years of marriage. Just got myself a lovely little bungalow with my two dogs. My beautiful daughters aged 22 and 20 doing great, one at university the other working in childcare and having to live with ex just for a while as her job is in the same town he now lives in. Ex hubby moved his new woman and her 25 year old daughter into his new place 3 weeks after us finally ending everything. This year has been hard but bring it on 2025, time for me to come into my own ❤❤❤❤
We are all finally free 🙌
All of people do stay because of the kids.
Maybe the pill wasnt that great of an idea.
A marriage license should be renewed like all licenses.
My dad says this all the time. lol.
I don’t care ….
People are tired of each other at least they can leave :)
Don’t take people for granted
🤷🏻♀️ People have been unhappy for decades and decided to finally stop faking.
I am 58...have financial freedom...never married...wont say never say never but it would be nice to have companionship...
Married life is the most difficult and most important University in Life. Not everybody is realizing that or do not want to go through all internal work on themselves in a first place. All people are different, but I believe this should be two-way conversations and it is always about both parties responsibilities and willingness to let the other person to have a personal space while keeping common space with shared ideas together.
We were born separately , we will die most likely separately, and family is something we could go through together. On a soul level we are all One.
Waow, that sounds like a nice commercial for splitting couples! What about the downsides?
I’m glad she’s happy!
Why haven't we learned diversity in media?????????
There is nothing wrong with enjoying a good scru
Sounds like a resident of Disneyland 📈
Thanks for sharing!!!
Gone up 80 per cent since 2010 - online crap.
Sounds unrealistic to invest so much in marriage only to divorce in your golden years. Alimony vibes from these ladies, but I wish men were interviewed.
Almost nobody gets alimony anymore.
Windowing is so much easier and people feel sorry for you….
I love someone said a man is not a financial plan. Very true. No man deserves to have to be looked as a ATM. Love and live and then wherever that leads great.
Well if your not happy then leave.life is so short.
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I can't think of a greater time of freedom. Can there be too much freedom? Is responsibility compromised? I don't think so. As long as you live life within certain boundaries. You can drink of course but not to harmful excess, as an example.
Wonderful lady, inside and out.
Decently put, some times people grow apart as they grow older. People come and go in our lives. What matters most is the relationship you have with yourself. #redpill
Go sit down grandma... 😂😂
Right...without grandpa.
DIVORCE IS THE NEW MARRIAGE. CHEAPER❤
Divorced people can never go back to being single. Single is a specific term for people who have never been married. Quit trying to hide from a failed marriage. A person who has never been married is considered single. The term "single (never married)" is used to describe someone who is not legally married and is not living with a common law partner.
That’s ridiculous. People can call it whatever they want. I don’t think, for instance, that divorce is a “failure”. That’s my opinion.
And people can be and self identify as whatever they want. Not everyone would want an x partner attached to their identity. They are even talked about discarding obsolete “roles”. Why should someone be forced by tradition formalities to carry around an identity that no longer applies. Why can’t they start fresh as an individual on their new life?
@@mdp4022 Exactly.
Sure you can go back to being single what's wrong with you
I feel most people conform to society's rules and tenets. I am 55 and never been married. Reason, never found the right guy. I could have been married three times--I would have been divorced three times! If one is not married by the age of 28 something is wrong with that person, LOL..My mum thought I was a lesbian for the longest time. People marry way too young. I tell my 22 year old son, wait until you are at least 30 if you ever want to marry....Most people my age and older do not want to be with anyone----too much drama rama!
Edith is a fox
sad
I guess do what's best for you OR as a team with someone. Its just draining that regardless of the time period, men want "their needs" satisfied without any regard to what "women need". Even when you don't have kids, you're still expected to be "pleasant". People shouldn't be changing their minds like the weather. Work as a team.
Do they know these rates across race?
I am 68 and living in Cebu City, Philippiness. I have college girls fighting over me.
PUKE!
Their leaders are d..umb, if their leaders are smart like the Japanese then they would look down on you.
LOL!
@@micclay puke
They love money
Even older Modern day women divorcing !? There seems to be a lot of older divorced lonely females !?
Lol. Females are enjoying being single and taking trips with their girls. Men are the sad and broke - lonely ones.
coming from personal experience? It's ok, there is a right person for everyone
I meet them every day.
That's why they get cat's
But who says they’re lonely? Some of you sound threatened bc they’d rather be by themselves. Men don’t like that bc of their ego.