You should know... deep within our Inner Guidance will lead us or cause things to happen to keep us away from lower level energies 💯 but we can.play the game and learn. These situations can cause us to be on high level vibes and we see everything as a learning experience for elevation.
Being "prey" is a choice. Staying "prayed"🙏🏾 up, seeking relationship w/The MOST HIGH 1st, & loving YOURSELF, using Wisdom AND Discernment helps prevent presenting yourself as "prey".
I disagree that being prey is a choice. I'm learning things from my (male) best friend and Kirk today that I should have been taught by my father or other trusted male relative as a young lady growing up.
@@flooredjustfloored : thank you! I was never taught anything different except how to survive as "PREY." It was NEVER a "choice" for me. But now that I am old, it can be - if I can just learn it. And learn it and practice it I am and I will. Gracias = Grace.
We all have reasons for how we feel, and what we feel. My hind sight is 20/20. I can recall times when I was not necessarily "naive" but very much leaned towards giving others the "benefit of the doubt"; thinking people would think/behave a certain bc that's what I would do. I lived and I learned... My comment was in reference to the sentiments of having no other options but to be how predators perceive you/us (women) as. People, male and female, will take kindness as weakness. There are users and takers who are quite comfortable, feel entitled to, and have no intentions BUT to use and take. Just as there are those of us who naturally love, help, and enjoy giving. At some point, one must learn discernment, and be protective of the gem/jewel/Bright Light that we are. Cuz everyone don't love or even like you, from jump. For no DAYUM reason! NONE!😂 Just haters, lol. Once one has been a 🐑, learn the ways of the 🐺... then present one's self AND move accordingly. Predators/bully's treat you differently when you check their asses. Even if it's just with your energy; and again, how you present yourself and what you project. And that can all be done with and through Love. 🤗
Most times a woman does not knowing she is gonna be played but yet men expect them to open their hearts. Even if women didn’t have low self esteem they still got played. Even if the woman is beautiful she still got played. Even if the woman dressed good she still got played so what is the point? Yet they want to call women bitter or angry or stupid when she does not open her heart?! When we don’t open our hearts it because we are protecting ourselves.
Some of them will actually marry the placeholders-especially if it helps them get closer to where they want to be. If their word is not bond, a divorce can be seen as an easy part of their plan.
Once again Kirk, you've laid this out in perfectly plain English!!! No room for questions or wondering, it's clear and it makes all the dang sense in the world! It's also horribly sad and depressing but very eye opening. So thank you again, my man! Real quick... I've gotta knock myself because not only am I dealing with a man that's exactly as you described but even worse than that is that he said all these words that you said out your mouth to me directly! Now dig that?! 😂😂😂 He told me all this in the context of speaking about his past relationships and how he behaved with those women and it's exactly as you described here.. all the reasons why he thought she was going to always take care of him even if he got into a car accident she was okay they were sleeping together she wasn't bad but she wasn't who he really wanted but he'd rather be with that plus she needed a place to stay all of it!. My question is why would he tell me all this? But I guess it don't really matter because at the end of the day if he is still following the same behavior patterns, then he was just giving me fair warning and I cannot blame that man for any hurt that I'm feeling. I just need to do the healing that you're talking about stay the hell by myself because at the end of the day I'm not even sure if I want to be with anybody cuz I won't be sure i can trust anyone's motives any more , and honestly I don't have the patience to try. BUT you are absolutely wonderful for putting this out there for us ladies and giving us this insight into the mind of some men 😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗
poorly. Male and female. I am cutting almost everyone loose now. What will remain? "Just because you give him everything that he needs, doesn't mean that he wants you. BE CAREFUL."
Any man that thinks he must always be betwen the legs of a woman is undisciplined... same for women. 😊...use that energy for business building etc... 😊
Just like a man has needs, a woman also has emotional needs. It’s all the same, so when she finds someone that she likes and does not let go right then, it’s because she is fulfilling a need as well just like then man.
you know what,...this is what i cant handle confusion with both men and women, as far as i can see things, its best you have more self love and self respect,... these men out here is just waisting your time and energy not knowing that your being manipulated and controlled to get what they want...this is f**ked up....
I really don't know how to thank you for this piece because this is me right now. Met this guy, fell in love, actually he came for my friend but she was in a relationship and after a year plus, he asked me out and I accepted and we started dating. At first it was easy, beautiful and magical, but few months down, I started noticing his nonchalant attitude, his lack of communication and some other characters that messed my head up. He turned me to a nagging woman, full of insecurity. I wanted out so many times but he keeps coming back and still won't change. It was my first real relationship in my 30s and I played the naive girl that it almost destroyed me. Never knew that I would one day wished and really prayed for a better man and for me to survive the past few days, I don't think anything can kill me emotionally and mentally again😥 So God bless you really for this. It sure hit home ♥️
Happened to me 😂😂😂 I was with a man I didn't want then tables turned, I learnt he also wanted someone else who didn't want him then he ended up treating me like he was the prize meanwhile I knew I was too good for him from the start but I was going through sh*t...life was living 😂. Long story short, I got therapy. Never again
Kirk you are good thank you! I was with someone just like you described. He was toxic and is toxic. It is so sad tbat these men come out to use and destroy good women. I was strong enough to stop the situationship because he was stringing me along and i sensed it. I was hurt and now I need to heal. Im angry at him for being so manipulative. Could you believe he still wants us to be friends!
Peace and Blessings Forgive yourself Queen, continue talking to yourself like you’ve always done, I know you’ve had to do that a lot to stay peace. Keep your power it’s some good men out there.
Hes talking about desperate individuals who cant stand being alone to build themselves ,settle for any ounce of attention ,always gotta be in someones dm. pigoen vs the eagle
Sir they do marry the woman they don't really want. And they definitely get them pregnant to secure his situation...especially the clueless women that have a house and will take care of him and mostly everything else. Its sad
Love this content & facts! Long story short, this guy I met 30 yrs ago tried it. He tried to go for the gold back then & didnt get it. 30yrs later, he tried again & still didnt get it. He had my number for 6 months before we went out. Once he gave me his number, he put it on me. He told me to contact him when I was ready to out to eat. (That's why it took 6months. I never made that call).
It's cruel to show affection to a good person hope but then ignore them when they get close. Why keep them around? Let them find someone that wants them back. Why are people selfish?
Well who do they want? Because if you top grade they still lie & cheat… rather your married or not… it’s always some type of disrespect or distraction… what a mess… 🥴
Hey bro how are you doing I am love your channel great advice wisdom ladies listen to this man guy likes me not worth My time telling truth we love you thanks for sharing 💗
"And sometimes you don't know you're the lowest bidder..." Whew chile, that statement made me nauseous
You should know... deep within our Inner Guidance will lead us or cause things to happen to keep us away from lower level energies 💯 but we can.play the game and learn. These situations can cause us to be on high level vibes and we see everything as a learning experience for elevation.
Wildd 😵💫
@@cayennesinivassinel6977 yesss 👏🏾
Preying on vulnerable women. Heartbreaking
The messed up part about this is that you can be prey and not know it until you've been completely screwed over 🥺
Being "prey" is a choice. Staying "prayed"🙏🏾 up, seeking relationship w/The MOST HIGH 1st, & loving YOURSELF, using Wisdom AND Discernment helps prevent presenting yourself as "prey".
I disagree that being prey is a choice. I'm learning things from my (male) best friend and Kirk today that I should have been taught by my father or other trusted male relative as a young lady growing up.
@@flooredjustfloored : thank you! I was never taught anything different except how to survive as "PREY." It was NEVER a "choice" for me. But now that I am old, it can be - if I can just learn it. And learn it and practice it I am and I will. Gracias = Grace.
We all have reasons for how we feel, and what we feel. My hind sight is 20/20. I can recall times when I was not necessarily "naive" but very much leaned towards giving others the "benefit of the doubt"; thinking people would think/behave a certain bc that's what I would do. I lived and I learned... My comment was in reference to the sentiments of having no other options but to be how predators perceive you/us (women) as. People, male and female, will take kindness as weakness. There are users and takers who are quite comfortable, feel entitled to, and have no intentions BUT to use and take. Just as there are those of us who naturally love, help, and enjoy giving. At some point, one must learn discernment, and be protective of the gem/jewel/Bright Light that we are. Cuz everyone don't love or even like you, from jump. For no DAYUM reason! NONE!😂 Just haters, lol. Once one has been a 🐑, learn the ways of the 🐺... then present one's self AND move accordingly. Predators/bully's treat you differently when you check their asses. Even if it's just with your energy; and again, how you present yourself and what you project. And that can all be done with and through Love. 🤗
“We have to heal first” 🙏🏼
WOW wow wow! 😢 Tough to hear but very true.
Most times a woman does not knowing she is gonna be played but yet men expect them to open their hearts. Even if women didn’t have low self esteem they still got played.
Even if the woman is beautiful she still got played.
Even if the woman dressed good she still got played so what is the point?
Yet they want to call women bitter or angry or stupid when she does not open her heart?! When we don’t open our hearts it because we are protecting ourselves.
Schara, and they still really only want us to open our legs. They don't care about our hearts.
This is so true that is why I am single 😊❤
AMEN AMEN, Sister, Me 2, I #REFUSE 2 settle 4 LESSS...Anymore 🎉
Some of them will actually marry the placeholders-especially if it helps them get closer to where they want to be. If their word is not bond, a divorce can be seen as an easy part of their plan.
Happened to me
I am sorry to hear that 😔. Hope you are healing well.
@@mycrazylifeofficialsllc : and me. Twice by the same man. When will I learn? NOW I HOPE.
Once again Kirk, you've laid this out in perfectly plain English!!! No room for questions or wondering, it's clear and it makes all the dang sense in the world! It's also horribly sad and depressing but very eye opening. So thank you again, my man! Real quick... I've gotta knock myself because not only am I dealing with a man that's exactly as you described but even worse than that is that he said all these words that you said out your mouth to me directly! Now dig that?! 😂😂😂 He told me all this in the context of speaking about his past relationships and how he behaved with those women and it's exactly as you described here.. all the reasons why he thought she was going to always take care of him even if he got into a car accident she was okay they were sleeping together she wasn't bad but she wasn't who he really wanted but he'd rather be with that plus she needed a place to stay all of it!. My question is why would he tell me all this? But I guess it don't really matter because at the end of the day if he is still following the same behavior patterns, then he was just giving me fair warning and I cannot blame that man for any hurt that I'm feeling. I just need to do the healing that you're talking about stay the hell by myself because at the end of the day I'm not even sure if I want to be with anybody cuz I won't be sure i can trust anyone's motives any more , and honestly I don't have the patience to try. BUT you are absolutely wonderful for putting this out there for us ladies and giving us this insight into the mind of some men 😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗
poorly. Male and female. I am cutting almost everyone loose now. What will remain? "Just because you give him everything that he needs, doesn't mean that he wants you. BE CAREFUL."
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, Sister, I've #ALREADY DID it 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
This is spiritually deep
True. We see this happening all the time.
Any man that thinks he must always be betwen the legs of a woman is undisciplined...
same for women. 😊...use that energy for business building etc...
😊
Just like a man has needs, a woman also has emotional needs. It’s all the same, so when she finds someone that she likes and does not let go right then, it’s because she is fulfilling a need as well just like then man.
you know what,...this is what i cant handle confusion with both men and women, as far as i can see things, its best you have more self love and self respect,... these men out here is just waisting your time and energy not knowing that your being manipulated and controlled to get what they want...this is f**ked up....
I really don't know how to thank you for this piece because this is me right now. Met this guy, fell in love, actually he came for my friend but she was in a relationship and after a year plus, he asked me out and I accepted and we started dating. At first it was easy, beautiful and magical, but few months down, I started noticing his nonchalant attitude, his lack of communication and some other characters that messed my head up. He turned me to a nagging woman, full of insecurity. I wanted out so many times but he keeps coming back and still won't change. It was my first real relationship in my 30s and I played the naive girl that it almost destroyed me. Never knew that I would one day wished and really prayed for a better man and for me to survive the past few days, I don't think anything can kill me emotionally and mentally again😥 So God bless you really for this. It sure hit home ♥️
In other words, low-hanging fruit
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Yep, I'm no bodies place holder...
You better tell it facts 💯💯💯.
Happened to me 😂😂😂 I was with a man I didn't want then tables turned, I learnt he also wanted someone else who didn't want him then he ended up treating me like he was the prize meanwhile I knew I was too good for him from the start but I was going through sh*t...life was living 😂. Long story short, I got therapy. Never again
Kirk you are good thank you! I was with someone just like you described. He was toxic and is toxic. It is so sad tbat these men come out to use and destroy good women. I was strong enough to stop the situationship because he was stringing me along and i sensed it. I was hurt and now I need to heal. Im angry at him for being so manipulative. Could you believe he still wants us to be friends!
F him don't be his friend be his worst nightmare
Peace and Blessings Forgive yourself Queen, continue talking to yourself like you’ve always done, I know you’ve had to do that a lot to stay peace. Keep your power it’s some good men out there.
I understand thank you very much
Got that right ain’t that sad .
I approve this message👍🏾
A whole word💔❤️🩹
To use and abuse you😮 ughhh
Don't agree
I have standards and he kept coming for me , I don't want him.
Last sentence was a good summation.
Thank you, 😢😢
Interesting information! Thanks for sharing!❤
Hes talking about desperate individuals who cant stand being alone to build themselves ,settle for any ounce of attention ,always gotta be in someones dm. pigoen vs the eagle
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, Sister 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Sir they do marry the woman they don't really want. And they definitely get them pregnant to secure his situation...especially the clueless women that have a house and will take care of him and mostly everything else. Its sad
Sir
Thank You
I needed to hear
This wisdom
Thank you
So much ❤
Love this content & facts! Long story short, this guy I met 30 yrs ago tried it. He tried to go for the gold back then & didnt get it. 30yrs later, he tried again & still didnt get it. He had my number for 6 months before we went out. Once he gave me his number, he put it on me. He told me to contact him when I was ready to out to eat. (That's why it took 6months. I never made that call).
Thank you ❤
Wow, perls and diamonds of wisdoms ❤
It's cruel to show affection to a good person hope but then ignore them when they get close. Why keep them around? Let them find someone that wants them back. Why are people selfish?
Thank you. I really wanted to know that ❤
Go Dr kirk😊
Well who do they want? Because if you top grade they still lie & cheat… rather your married or not… it’s always some type of disrespect or distraction… what a mess… 🥴
Gross
gross? it is reality! better bitter truth than sweet lie!!! He said no lie here, not one!
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN,Sister 🎉🎉🎉
Actually makes sense , thank u
Scary😢
Can a man date a woman for 20 years with kids and still not married to that woman, why this
No. It means he doesn’t love the woman, he loves what she does for him.
Hey bro how are you doing I am love your channel great advice wisdom ladies listen to this man guy likes me not worth My time telling truth we love you thanks for sharing 💗
What does it mean when a man tells you he wants you to heal first?
Means that he think you’re not ready. That u have issues
@@konsciousKirk what should I do? I am working on my self
@@konsciousKirk I am 25 he’s 40
@@346bre you should leave him alone and continue to heal just like he said.
@@konsciousKirk he keeps texting and calling won’t leave me alone so I can heal
F***!
Amen 🙏🙏🙏