Man I don't dress like that and I still get played. They tell me in the beginning that they want a relationship then when I take my guard down their no longer interested
I had the same problem and at some point I realized that what I understood as letting my guard down was actually letting them disrespect my personal boundaries by disrespecting my personal boundaries and needs myself. I don't know if it helps or not but I really had the same problem which I do not have anymore. I had other problems though 😊
they tell you what they want to hear... Listen to man when he talks about dark stuff only, that's usually a warning to what you might need to deal with. The rest is pure nonsense to numb your brain, watch for their actions and if nothing is done by 3-6 months max, move on ruthlessly and don't look back. Keep "bedtime" for much later and avoid it altogether if possible.
I literally wear jeans or jogging pants all the time😭 You can still see my shape because I’m curvy. I don’t go out half naked or anything. Some men are just immature. Like you say it’s about what you allow to be attracted to your reality and your mindset. Because I ignore those immature type of men.
Most women dress reasonable and are quiet. Men will still want to play. I think he summed it up best when he compared the 10 year old girl and boy playing. The little girls grow up mentally but the boys don't and still want to "play."
Hey, I hear you. I don’t dress revealing or anything like that, but I am still attracting the same type of guys who seem to desire me for mainly sex. I don’t have very low self-esteem, but I have to believe there’s something I’m doing that’s attracting these great guys with great careers, education, and money; yet still all seem to enjoy me for mainly the “fun”… never willing to be in a committed relationship. So after listening to your video, I’m deleting numbers and asking God to reveal to me and fill me where I have empty spaces and strengthen me so I no longer respond to cheap thrills. Thanks 😊
💯You should ALWAYS dress the way you want to be addressed. You can dress decently & be very smart & fashionable. That way people will respect you more & take you seriously. It's a harsh reality but it's very true.
Right they will approach you regardless its all in your discernment and the standards You throw at them that will determine whether they will go far with you or not!
Not one tale detected.💯 I love your directness & honesty!! Back in my day....my Dad would say "You have to leave something to the a man's imagination"! No man wants something for himself, permanently that he may feel has been passed around or as they say today "Have a high body count"!! Do what's comfortable for you. Remember 1st impressions are indeed lasting!! Thank you Kirk for your point of view!! 🤔💬 A man's 1st hand experience is always better than room full of women trying to figure it out!!🤷🏽♀️
Dress tye way you feel good and comfortable ladies. What we need to focus on is valuing ourselves and protecting ourselves. Men will use and play with women no matter how they're dressed. It comes down to what women allow.
I don't want to be approached ever, but as someone else said, you can see a curvy shape. You can wear a damn bag and they will see it. And I really don't want to be a zebra getting eaten by a lion.
My man, You ain't NEVA lied...and your delivery is flawless!Wisdom stands even in this degenerate generation. Because so many dont get it very few are truly happy. So sad.
According to everyone I've ever met I'm "unapproachable" which makes sense because I avoid people at all costs outside of work... Not sure how I'd feel about being more open to interactions. Food for thought. Oh shoot but I gotta stay out of my head 🤣
I think it depends on how you are built. A man can see through a coat. Most women today wear stretch pants which are very revealing. Your reaction to him will show him who you are. Men are visual creatures. If you don’t attract him he won’t pay attention to you. I’m not saying go outside half naked or anything, but be comfortable with who you are. It’s not always the provocative dressing women that are fast. Don’t let the plain Jane’s fool you. Just be you.
I'm 36 years old and I've been married, in relationships both platonic and romantic. My experience has changed my perspective on a lot of things and these comments reflect listening without understanding. As women you're allowed to have your own style and sex appeal in your womanhood however y'all are defensive to the fact that men perceive you as such regardless of it being TRUE or not that's their preference. You don't have to like it but try to understand it and apply it rather than find the flaw in it.
I think they treat the scantily clad women one way and the respectfully dressed women, another way... Neither style of dress, will make them treat a woman nicely though. The "respectfully" dressed one is gettin' dawged out the same way, once she gives him one thing. That's all.
Not Tru y'all 🤣🤣 this is an opinion it makes sense but its not every mans reality.. . One person cant speak for everyone we are all different men women we all dont think the same ..
@@bertaalvarez349😂😂😂. You must dress like it because you are hurt by my comment! I don’t dress like this either, but I’m happy to hear someone talking about this. You have a good one 😂😂😂
Hey bro frist time watching loving hair you are telling truth omg we love you ladies take notes stop showing your bodies cover up have respect for your self thanks for sharing blessings 🙏❤️
My husband used to buy me sexy clothes to flaunt me😂 I walk and dance around my house in silk sexy stuff. I need wear sexy dresses and can't walk out in jogging pant unless I'm in a mood. I can tell in his eyes what he's after. And I just got proposed to again today by a good guy.. .......
I dont judge men based on what they wear. He could wear a suit at work and sag after for comfort. Men however...it dont matter what you wear. If your not an easy target it might take them longer but they gonna get what they want an bounce.
King a friend of mine introduced me to your live , thanks for being so real and honest to the point where it hurts 😢 but it's so true,I appreciate you king for your insight ❤💛💚🌄
You right the way you act carrying yourself all of that been new all this in the 60s 70s I grew up in rhe 60s and are really right how you are that's and be that's the kind of men you get. Because there are mess up women like mess up men you are so right.
Thank you! New subscriber here!! I’m the quiet one. This helps because i believe that is what had happened currently… ugh 🤷♀️ what to do! Thinking just offline and only RUclips here. Thank you!!🙏
So true! Because I dress modest, and I gave lots of good things going for myself and I’m celibate! And never get chosen!! But I always see other ladies get approached and then I start wondering why?? 😢
At the end of the day a man will play with you only IF YOU ALLOW HIM TO! Stand on business & never allow ANYONE to play with you in life and there’s your solution!!
U are soooo right! But alot of the young generation don't believe it. I know cuz I try to explain this to my younger daughter who is 18. I'm older wiser more experienced. But I guess it depends on what your preference is. To each his own🤷♀️
I was with someone for six an half years an whenever we went out say in the evening or anywhere he would always look at other women an i just hated it !! Especially woman who didnt have much on ! It really was awfull !!!
I’m a masterpiece whether I’m in scrubs, a nice pant set, or a sundress, and I treat me as such, but I’m honest, a bit nerdy, comical at times and flirty too so men try to have a conversation to further evaluate me until they realize😂😂 study me you won’t pass, I’m not the average book😉
@@pedroquiver9489I’m in my own lane babes, but, going back to the zebra, I don’t disrespect myself or the men that approach, I just observe, be myself and act accordingly. I am a supporter of love, men power and family, nothing like a victim honey🥴
I agree. If a man is a playa it doesnt matter because they will use you for what they want regardless. If a woman dresses more conservatively than provocatively, they can get approached by the wrong guys and played too. Yes they might take you slightly more seriously, but some men will deliberately misrepresent who they are and their intentions regardless of how you dress.
I think the point of this convo is...... if you dress a certain way the players that's attracted to that players will come out. If you dress like a soccer player, you will attract soccer players. If you dress like a baseball player, you will attract the baseball players. The man you're desiring you dress to attract him if you are attracting men you do not want maybe you need to change something up.
I love that i dress simple..BUT!! When i go out with friends or on a date i am very fashionable without looking half naked. Having a natural sex appeal is a gift, no need to over do it...
Some women wanna play The Game like men do the roles have reversed and a lot of ways, But the game is dead. It's been dead to all those who like to play. Just remember 1 day you might be played. Like you play them.😂😂😂😂
Ok so we can't win for losing. Im in the category of men won't approach.plus i was bore with a nice body and i cant hide it to save my life. I either dress nice or dress like an old women. As far as roles, thats so sexiest bcus women are always blamed for busted dusty empty males. I come from old school, i was taught to dress modest not matronly but leave something to imagination. I look like i have money and my shit together an i have always been this way. I still get those with breast milk on they breath or old enough to be my great gpa. Then i get those that aren't serious. My self esteem has been stepped on so many times. Even the highest of esteem can't stand after that. I'm always asking myself whats wrong with me. Im easy on the eyes keep a job and nice car, cook clean and a great mother to an adult son now.
It still appears that we have to kiss a lot of frogs until we find out Prince charming. 🤴 We have to let them prove themselves first without giving them a damn thing! No honey, no money until they reveal their true intentions. It's a waiting game.
If you are a people pleaser and always doing the most for said people that will get you dogged out. If it's a habit you gotta break that and also have standards with whomever you meet
I wear revealing tight clothes and i notice the opposite men pursue me more and want a relationship. I reckon its because most of these men soon find out im not sleeping with no one! In fact i was a virgin up until 20 and only been with one man. Looks can be decieving
I’ve always dressed accordingly… I only reveal (just a peak), when I’m in a commited relationship, going out at night with him… My body type, gives my attire class, no matter what the attire…😌
A MAN AND BOY ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS Some men are confuse and done know up from dowm dome men do marry shall i say ina man eyes loose why do u guys keep talking sbout woman's clothing those woman's who dhow ev do get marry before a women's who are clothes up you know something U guys need to get yourself together u don't know that u can't speak for all men You are talking about yourself because u cover that don't make u good u have alot to learn pray anf seek the lord awomsn must value herself and aman need to do the same😊
Alot of men will lust you but not love you! Powerful 💪
Listen up Women/Sisters!
Wish we had fathers who would of warned us the way he is. Thank you Kirk!
So nice to hear a real man speak real truth
I appreciate you 🙏🏼💪🏼
I'm Starting To Believe They Will Play With Anyone Just Leave Me Alone!!!
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Man I don't dress like that and I still get played. They tell me in the beginning that they want a relationship then when I take my guard down their no longer interested
I had the same problem and at some point I realized that what I understood as letting my guard down was actually letting them disrespect my personal boundaries by disrespecting my personal boundaries and needs myself. I don't know if it helps or not but I really had the same problem which I do not have anymore. I had other problems though 😊
@@JohannaGOETZ770same, and if it didn’t help her, it helps me. Thanks 😊
Same. I realize I have to do something different to end this cycle….currently processing and praying.
@@sylviakinley8484 I'll pray for you too.🙏☺️💖
they tell you what they want to hear... Listen to man when he talks about dark stuff only, that's usually a warning to what you might need to deal with. The rest is pure nonsense to numb your brain, watch for their actions and if nothing is done by 3-6 months max, move on ruthlessly and don't look back. Keep "bedtime" for much later and avoid it altogether if possible.
I literally wear jeans or jogging pants all the time😭 You can still see my shape because I’m curvy. I don’t go out half naked or anything. Some men are just immature. Like you say it’s about what you allow to be attracted to your reality and your mindset. Because I ignore those immature type of men.
#Same 🙂
I understand. I can’t wear any type of fitted pants, skirt or shorts because of the print.
I was just finna say this...I dress modest and men will still approach me in a lustful way....
Most women dress reasonable and are quiet. Men will still want to play. I think he summed it up best when he compared the 10 year old girl and boy playing. The little girls grow up mentally but the boys don't and still want to "play."
@@SheenaMarie05 hey I agree with you always wear long shirts over my pants men are predators just saying thanks for sharing blessings ❤️
Alot of money men are players too. They use money to catch fish.
Hey, I hear you. I don’t dress revealing or anything like that, but I am still attracting the same type of guys who seem to desire me for mainly sex. I don’t have very low self-esteem, but I have to believe there’s something I’m doing that’s attracting these great guys with great careers, education, and money; yet still all seem to enjoy me for mainly the “fun”… never willing to be in a committed relationship. So after listening to your video, I’m deleting numbers and asking God to reveal to me and fill me where I have empty spaces and strengthen me so I no longer respond to cheap thrills. Thanks 😊
💯You should ALWAYS dress the way you want to be addressed. You can dress decently & be very smart & fashionable. That way people will respect you more & take you seriously. It's a harsh reality but it's very true.
This not all true! Some but not all! Some men just fucked uped!
lol. Some truth to this statement too
Right they will approach you regardless its all in your discernment and the standards You throw at them that will determine whether they will go far with you or not!
Exactly. Most Men Are Lustful And Will Tear Down People's Lives To Chases After Their Lust. I Know From Experience Divorcing From Said Experience.
he said ABUSERS. not men
Not one tale detected.💯 I love your directness & honesty!!
Back in my day....my Dad would say "You have to leave something to the a man's imagination"!
No man wants something for himself, permanently that he may feel has been passed around or as they say today "Have a high body count"!!
Do what's comfortable for you. Remember 1st impressions are indeed lasting!!
Thank you Kirk for your point of view!! 🤔💬 A man's 1st hand experience is always better than room full of women trying to figure it out!!🤷🏽♀️
Dress tye way you feel good and comfortable ladies.
What we need to focus on is valuing ourselves and protecting ourselves.
Men will use and play with women no matter how they're dressed. It comes down to what women allow.
💯
Muslim men leave their well covered women for the 2nd,third,fourth wife
Men are funny idiots
I don't want to be approached ever, but as someone else said, you can see a curvy shape. You can wear a damn bag and they will see it. And I really don't want to be a zebra getting eaten by a lion.
My man, You ain't NEVA lied...and your delivery is flawless!Wisdom stands even in this degenerate generation. Because so many dont get it very few are truly happy. So sad.
According to everyone I've ever met I'm "unapproachable" which makes sense because I avoid people at all costs outside of work... Not sure how I'd feel about being more open to interactions. Food for thought. Oh shoot but I gotta stay out of my head 🤣
😂😂😂 stay out your head
Real TALK.
Very true on that about how you carry your self plays big part in the dating
I think it depends on how you are built. A man can see through a coat. Most women today wear stretch pants which are very revealing. Your reaction to him will show him who you are. Men are visual creatures. If you don’t attract him he won’t pay attention to you. I’m not saying go outside half naked or anything, but be comfortable with who you are.
It’s not always the provocative dressing women that are fast. Don’t let the plain Jane’s fool you.
Just be you.
So glad I’m a very respectful dresser. N have never had a problem meeting a respectable gentleman.🤗
I'm 36 years old and I've been married, in relationships both platonic and romantic. My experience has changed my perspective on a lot of things and these comments reflect listening without understanding. As women you're allowed to have your own style and sex appeal in your womanhood however y'all are defensive to the fact that men perceive you as such regardless of it being TRUE or not that's their preference. You don't have to like it but try to understand it and apply it rather than find the flaw in it.
I think they treat the scantily clad women one way and the respectfully dressed women, another way... Neither style of dress, will make them treat a woman nicely though. The "respectfully" dressed one is gettin' dawged out the same way, once she gives him one thing. That's all.
Well said 😂
Right that's why I said what I said previously
Thank you for the wisdom
Decency is underrated. There's nothing to learn if everything is out there..... sometimes being mysterious is way more interesting
Not Tru y'all 🤣🤣 this is an opinion it makes sense but its not every mans reality.. . One person cant speak for everyone we are all different men women we all dont think the same ..
I love and appreciate your knowledge…
🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️
I appreciate you breaking things like this down for us all!!! ❤️
Wrong. Stop generalizing. Because I don't dress that way
@@bertaalvarez349😂😂😂. You must dress like it because you are hurt by my comment! I don’t dress like this either, but I’m happy to hear someone talking about this. You have a good one 😂😂😂
You’re absolutely right and love ❤️ your directness!!
Hey bro frist time watching loving hair you are telling truth omg we love you ladies take notes stop showing your bodies cover up have respect for your self thanks for sharing blessings 🙏❤️
My husband used to buy me sexy clothes to flaunt me😂
I walk and dance around my house in silk sexy stuff. I need wear sexy dresses and can't walk out in jogging pant unless I'm in a mood. I can tell in his eyes what he's after.
And I just got proposed to again today by a good guy.. .......
I dont judge men based on what they wear. He could wear a suit at work and sag after for comfort. Men however...it dont matter what you wear. If your not an easy target it might take them longer but they gonna get what they want an bounce.
So True, I agree with you 💯 Thank you for your transparency
U are my brother i never had,thank u ,i'm above 40 never married but i never know this but thank u for helping me
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Thanks for ALWAYS keeping it real.
You right!!! You are very right!!... thank you for telling the truth, it's hard for some to hear but you telling truth
King a friend of mine introduced me to your live , thanks for being so real and honest to the point where it hurts 😢 but it's so true,I appreciate you king for your insight ❤💛💚🌄
Ty for ur message
Thank you for sharing wisdom! I will definitely take heed!!
You right the way you act carrying yourself all of that been new all this in the 60s 70s I grew up in rhe 60s and are really right how you are that's and be that's the kind of men you get. Because there are mess up women like mess up men you are so right.
PREACH!!!!!!!
Thank you Sir for sharing your truth and information. This is why I Love You Sir you always keep it 💯. A REAL MANS conversation. 😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Come on brother...Love your content, so on point!❤️💯🙏🏽🔥
Thank you sir❤❤
Thank you for speaking truth to us ❤
Thank you! New subscriber here!! I’m the quiet one. This helps because i believe that is what had happened currently… ugh 🤷♀️ what to do! Thinking just offline and only RUclips here. Thank you!!🙏
I really love your videos i appreciate the message 💯💯
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So true! Because I dress modest, and I gave lots of good things going for myself and I’m celibate! And never get chosen!! But I always see other ladies get approached and then I start wondering why?? 😢
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At the end of the day a man will play with you only IF YOU ALLOW HIM TO! Stand on business & never allow ANYONE to play with you in life and there’s your solution!!
Good points, I am turned off by men at the gym who are constantly showing off & seeking attention. I prefer guys who are more modest.
I never looked at it that way but I think you're right.
Word up 💯
True ,play role,do or don't ❤play part in it
When a womens mind and heart is intune with pure intentions. She will dress accordingly having respect for her temple.....GodBody like.
This is reallllll good
U are soooo right! But alot of the young generation don't believe it. I know cuz I try to explain this to my younger daughter who is 18. I'm older wiser more experienced. But I guess it depends on what your preference is. To each his own🤷♀️
Mean business. You are 👍 right
Speak the truth
I always wondered why men will look at me, but not appropriate me. I get their respect tho!
Very true
I was with someone for six an half years an whenever we went out say in the evening or anywhere he would always look at other women an i just hated it !! Especially woman who didnt have much on !
It really was awfull !!!
Agreed!
You right what you saying
Still hurts when i think about it !
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
It’s crazy 🤪 but true
The ones that don't know their worth!
I’m a masterpiece whether I’m in scrubs, a nice pant set, or a sundress, and I treat me as such, but I’m honest, a bit nerdy, comical at times and flirty too so men try to have a conversation to further evaluate me until they realize😂😂 study me you won’t pass, I’m not the average book😉
You are what he is talking about. The zebra. LOL. All women think they are the masterpiece.
@@pedroquiver9489I’m in my own lane babes, but, going back to the zebra, I don’t disrespect myself or the men that approach, I just observe, be myself and act accordingly. I am a supporter of love, men power and family, nothing like a victim honey🥴
The lion will seak a lioness to live with, not a zebra that will be eaten so Keep it on mind 😎
That part
I dress professionally so I guess it's certain men that are just jokes.
I would not to take u seriously...seriously 😂
U dont have to look in specific way when man is a player 🤦
I agree. If a man is a playa it doesnt matter because they will use you for what they want regardless. If a woman dresses more conservatively than provocatively, they can get approached by the wrong guys and played too. Yes they might take you slightly more seriously, but some men will deliberately misrepresent who they are and their intentions regardless of how you dress.
I think the point of this convo is...... if you dress a certain way the players that's attracted to that players will come out. If you dress like a soccer player, you will attract soccer players. If you dress like a baseball player, you will attract the baseball players. The man you're desiring you dress to attract him if you are attracting men you do not want maybe you need to change something up.
That's true. You just have to wait them out. Learn to spot them out quickly.
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I love that i dress simple..BUT!! When i go out with friends or on a date i am very fashionable without looking half naked. Having a natural sex appeal is a gift, no need to over do it...
Some women wanna play The Game like men do the roles have reversed and a lot of ways,
But the game is dead. It's been dead to all those who like to play. Just remember 1 day you might be played. Like you play them.😂😂😂😂
👏👏👏
I'm the one a man would need to take serious
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Ok so we can't win for losing. Im in the category of men won't approach.plus i was bore with a nice body and i cant hide it to save my life. I either dress nice or dress like an old women.
As far as roles, thats so sexiest bcus women are always blamed for busted dusty empty males.
I come from old school, i was taught to dress modest not matronly but leave something to imagination. I look like i have money and my shit together an i have always been this way. I still get those with breast milk on they breath or old enough to be my great gpa. Then i get those that aren't serious. My self esteem has been stepped on so many times. Even the highest of esteem can't stand after that. I'm always asking myself whats wrong with me. Im easy on the eyes keep a job and nice car, cook clean and a great mother to an adult son now.
It still appears that we have to kiss a lot of frogs until we find out Prince charming. 🤴
We have to let them prove themselves first without giving them a damn thing! No honey, no money until they reveal their true intentions. It's a waiting game.
If you are a people pleaser and always doing the most for said people that will get you dogged out. If it's a habit you gotta break that and also have standards with whomever you meet
@@montecito12 that is so true...I'm what they call stingy 😂
Mean business
Yes
Which one are u player?😊
I wear revealing tight clothes and i notice the opposite men pursue me more and want a relationship. I reckon its because most of these men soon find out im not sleeping with no one! In fact i was a virgin up until 20 and only been with one man. Looks can be decieving
I’ve always dressed accordingly… I only reveal (just a peak), when I’m in a commited relationship, going out at night with him…
My body type, gives my attire class, no matter what the attire…😌
A MAN AND BOY ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS Some men are confuse and done know up from dowm dome men do marry shall i say ina man eyes loose why do u guys keep talking sbout woman's clothing those woman's who dhow ev do get marry before a women's who are clothes up you know something
U guys need to get yourself together u don't know that u can't speak for all men
You are talking about yourself because u cover that don't make u good u have alot to learn pray anf seek the lord awomsn must value herself and aman need to do the same😊
So we should dress like nuns. Come on ladies let's get in the 1930s again to get respect 🤣
Love the message but can you not yell my migraines and flair ups like lupus starts with loud screaming
What about the women that don't dress revealing and still men don't approach
How do men knows that
Did he tell one lie?
Kirk, this is old school talk. What love got to do with it? It's a woman's place to look sexy ALWAYS...😊
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WOW GEM 💎 WISDOM 💎 TRUTH
GAME PEEPS GAME
I put on a full ARMOR OF GOD
satan and his minions is a LIAAAAAAAA 😅
WHO cares about these losers?
You are not god good byee