Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Instead of thinking is this my future spouse, evaluate whether the person can be a potential good friend-which takes times and experience. Stephan is right
The inner self dialouge between is this my intuition or based on fear/ my old self limiting beliefs is REAL! I’m so proud of me for how far I’ve come along 🙌🏽
That first point is key! Focusing on the outcome allows us to be heartbroken and makes it harder for us to leave the man because of potential. Focusing on the experience allows us to get over the man a WHOLE LOT faster. Thank you for this. May God bless you and keep you.
Why do you think that women think that a man should give them security? What if a woman feels she only finds security in God, but just hopes to find an equal?
I’ve done online dating and giving them a try didn’t turn out so well because they weren’t honest (and as was I). With today’s, some don’t know how to communicate in person and that’s what irritates me. I got off the dating app in late 2023, and did go to an event a month ago and met someone there. He has asked me to go to other events with him, but my schedule is off from his. And I’ll be honest, I’m not physically attracted to him, but he seems like a nice guy. Thanks Stephan for this video 📹
Stephan u are the driving force behind me in my perception of dating men,and for this I say THANKS, next time I,ll be SWEETER😅😅😅😅 Enjoying the moment and to be present is KEY for an enjoyable date The FUTURE belongs to the future ,understand this !!!!!!!
Hello Mr. Stephen Just wanted to thank you for being a great resource my go too . I hope your career continues and doesn’t affect your personal growth in your household. So I just want to say a special thanks to your family and your support team. I hope they are trusting that what you’re doing is so badly needed for our community, families and personal growth and development. So thank you to your friends and most importantly your family again big time.
Up until recently I thought I was being too honest until I watched your video the other day where you talked about “a woman’s love & light brings out darkness” and how the wrong man won’t stick around. I also used to ignore my intuition, but I learned to embrace it.
I am guilty of not putting myself out there. I had to heal first. Didn't want to project my past experiences on a new person. I'm actually scared to talk to someone else. I had one guy try to talk to me at work, but he is married. I am married to but will most definitely be getting a divorce soon. I have been single for 3 years.
@melbaholloway3412 I've been focused on me for the last two years. I will continue to do that. I've found myself in these last two years. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either because I love LOVE. But it's scary out here. I've been locked down with one person for over 20yrs. I've endured so much mental, physical, and emotional abuse. I have pulled myself out of this darkness and finally realized that he will never change.
Excellent video!💯💯💯👏🏼❤️ My opinion… The garbage collector example… if he didn’t state what he does for a living, that doesn’t mean he lied. The right woman wouldn’t judge a man based on what he does for a living. I do understand that if a person is constantly dodging questions, it can raise questions of your own.
The outcome is just as important as the experience to me, because SOME people really do not like wasring their time and energy on things that lead to nowhere. Sure there are lessons people can pick.up from situations that did not turn out as expected, but people get tired of just that and want things that will lead to desired results.
Yes, but the outcome is out of your control. The outcome is two sided. You can only control what pertains to you, such as to enjoy the experience, presenting your true self, getting to know the other person to see if you are compatible, that kind of thing. Unfortunately, the potential of wasting one's time is just part of reality.
Dating is meant to be recreational. It is not a career goal or a job that you punch in the clock Monday through Friday 9 to five. Don’t use dating as a way to work on a relationship or work towards a relationship use dating as a way to establish a foundation or a friendship. To take the time and actually get to know someone to see if you even enjoy being around them or see if this is the type of person you want to bring around your family or friends. If you aren’t enjoying your time with an individual and you’re never gonna enjoy your life with them, you always have to crawl before you walk and walk before we run. Work is never enjoyed. Careers are. And nine times out of nine and an individual who has establish a career has started from the beginning, taking baby steps day by day or year by year to eventually get where they want to be in life. When you’re in college, you might start off with the idea of becoming a teacher, but after a few classes and working with a few kids and attempting a few lesson plans you might realize that this is not fun. I am not gonna be happy. I do not enjoy this. I do not want to be a teacher anymore. I would like to be a rocket scientist or a physical therapist because when I had gym class, I remember how much I enjoyed it when I was in science class experimenting on frogs all I could think about is how interesting and fun and intriguing it was and how all I wanted to do is return to that class And dissect another animal. So freshman in college my think they want to be a teacher and continue to try to work at being a teacher and realize that they are not gonna be happy being a teacher, but they’re happy in other places and they take that happiness and they grow it and expand it And they revisit it. Relationships should never be established because you worked on getting to that point in my opinion a relationship is the same as having a friendship. Nobody wants to be friends with somebody they have to work towards building their friendship with. We become friends with an individual because we can talk to them and we laugh with them and we have a good time when we’re together and we enjoy the same thing and we know how to communicate and we understand each other but you don’t need somebody can automatically start working on being their friend you meet a person and then eventually if it was meant to be y’all be telling friends because you enjoy each other‘s company
I’ve been meeting men after men (no sex) for two years and it’s disappointing I gave up a couple of times then after a few months without talking to anyone I get bored and try again to just be back to same dissatisfaction
When you're not desperate and you have the option of being in a position to choose. But you want to "feel" these men out and allow time for their true colors to show... This is a scenario where one can be entertained by 'situationships'. Eventually one will rise above the rest but you have to be patient...*Disclaimer: my opinion and my story only 😊
@shantwhite1981 Entertaining "sitionships" is telling the universe that is what you are manifesting in life..not your actual husband. So you end up in situationship loops.
Stephan. Do you have a guide per say on how to pray for your future spouse? I’ve been through the wringer when I comes to love. I would love to let God show me the way and lead me to the man that I am destined to be with.
God is selfish and you can love no man over him and the man that he has for you will have to have those same values. God can always bring you somebody who’s willing to marry you. Divorce could be a month later, but at least an individual was married as they asked. Or allow God to bring you someone who’s willing to up hold these vowels for you until death does us Part
Stephan, What is your take on meeting men in clubs or bars. As you stated “go to your place where you feel most happiest“. Well, I love going to the clubs I love to dance. I actually did ballet for over 20 years so dancing and music is embedded in Me. I love listening to loud music and I love to drink. Most importantly I love getting dressed up putting on make up looking sexy. I love having my hair done showing off my best, Or what I think is my best, physical attributes. Going to the club with my girlfriends and having a fun filled night is something I like to do that makes me feel the happiest. I do have a lot of mixed emotions and thoughts on whether it’s a good idea to meet men at night clubs. What do you think?
I'm guilty of letting people linger longer than they should. Sometimes, I just don't know how to cut it off especially if they are a nice person but just not right for me.
If a woman is more of a lover personality, it’s good to consider men who are more warriors. Opposites attract and compliment. We often look for people who are exactly like us, that’s usually not a long lasting, successful union. 2 lover types-nothing gets done. 2 warrior types-lots of butting heads.
Greeting stephan 🙏may I add..🤗 One simple thing let's acknowledge Submit comment to humanity with🤝 inn ✊️ super🙏power woman man, old young. That is the we inn one/the one we are🙏🤝
You gave me the courage to leave my narcissist ex thank you so much for that. I am going to get back out there once I am healed and I’m going to follow these tips. I really appreciate you!
People, especially women, lose sight of the fact that online meeting is going to result in a lot more meets, therefore, more non-matches. How many people meet eligible singles in real life?
I'm a widow of 3years...would like to date...but I realize the game has truly changed...and not for the better...some men...not all... the maturity level...is a bit scary!🤔😏
Ive made effort to go out but men arent approaching. Worked on being approachable. Both men and women tend to stick to the group they came with and socialize with their respective groups. Cant make men approach nor can i meet new friends in these settings. This society is getting weird. No socializing, nothing....
I thought I was alone in This world. I’m so used to to the man approaching the woman that it’s starting to effect (or affect) my confidence. Men don’t seem to have that behavior at all these days. Makes me feel like my dating timeframe has came to an end which sucks cause I would like to get married and have more kids
@@rhondacole4509 If you have faith, believe in God timing. God timing is always the best and He knows the best partner for you. All is well my friend. 🙏🏽💜
I learned this the hard way but finally got the courage to leave. STILL HEALING AFTER READING YOUR BOOK. I am on a dating site and going on my 1st date, moved in my apt. And at PEACE
Instead of thinking is this my future spouse, evaluate whether the person can be a potential good friend-which takes times and experience. Stephan is right
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
The best place to meet a man is when you're happiest..I've never heard that before and it absolutely makes sense 😊
Instead of thinking is this my future spouse, evaluate whether the person can be a potential good friend-which takes times and experience. Stephan is right
The inner self dialouge between is this my intuition or based on fear/ my old self limiting beliefs is REAL! I’m so proud of me for how far I’ve come along 🙌🏽
That first point is key! Focusing on the outcome allows us to be heartbroken and makes it harder for us to leave the man because of potential. Focusing on the experience allows us to get over the man a WHOLE LOT faster. Thank you for this. May God bless you and keep you.
Exactly!! 🙏
This was right on time Confirmation
Why do you think that women think that a man should give them security? What if a woman feels she only finds security in God, but just hopes to find an equal?
It feels so! The uncertainty 😭 and men want so much and I’m just so traditional 😩 …
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I'm the same. 😢
Don’t change.
Every time I think I want to get back out there, I see or hear a crazy story that makes me say never mind.
Just take your time 🙏
Right? Work on yourself, inner work, therapy, do what makes you happy and you will have increased discernment.
Same thing with me, the stories outside scares me coupled with my own heart break... I can say "I'm scared of men"
@ Terrified. A lot of these men are not okay.
I’ve done online dating and giving them a try didn’t turn out so well because they weren’t honest (and as was I). With today’s, some don’t know how to communicate in person and that’s what irritates me.
I got off the dating app in late 2023, and did go to an event a month ago and met someone there. He has asked me to go to other events with him, but my schedule is off from his. And I’ll be honest, I’m not physically attracted to him, but he seems like a nice guy. Thanks Stephan for this video 📹
OUTSTANDING " give everyone a clean slate " this will be wonderful
Blessings to u coach Steph 🙏
Thank you, I appreciate you 🙏
Thank you Stephan, you're preparing for a desirable result when I start dating. I'm now open to dating and I'm grateful for this information❤
Stephan u are the driving force behind me in my perception of dating men,and for this I say THANKS, next time I,ll be SWEETER😅😅😅😅
Enjoying the moment and to be present is KEY for an enjoyable date
The FUTURE belongs to the future ,understand this !!!!!!!
I appreciate that 🙏
Hello Mr. Stephen
Just wanted to thank you for being a great resource my go too . I hope your career continues and doesn’t affect your personal growth in your household. So I just want to say a special thanks to your family and your support team. I hope they are trusting that what you’re doing is so badly needed for our community, families and personal growth and development. So thank you to your friends and most importantly your family again big time.
I appreciate the support 🙏
Up until recently I thought I was being too honest until I watched your video the other day where you talked about “a woman’s love & light brings out darkness” and how the wrong man won’t stick around. I also used to ignore my intuition, but I learned to embrace it.
In person is always best.....
I needed this right now thank you you always come thru
I just saw 222 on the time which means balance, harmony, and trust(that you are on you are at the right place and time in one's life.)
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Lots of gems in this one bro 💯 Well done
🙏 thank you
😏. I enjoy these videos very much. Thank you again for your time and the effort you put into them. ❤
I'm glad you enjoy them 🙏
I am guilty of not putting myself out there. I had to heal first. Didn't want to project my past experiences on a new person. I'm actually scared to talk to someone else. I had one guy try to talk to me at work, but he is married. I am married to but will most definitely be getting a divorce soon. I have been single for 3 years.
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Wait until you are legally done. Then, focus on you first.
@melbaholloway3412 I've been focused on me for the last two years. I will continue to do that. I've found myself in these last two years. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either because I love LOVE. But it's scary out here. I've been locked down with one person for over 20yrs. I've endured so much mental, physical, and emotional abuse. I have pulled myself out of this darkness and finally realized that he will never change.
Gosh! This video was so helpful to me!! Thank you Stephan 😊
Excellent video!💯💯💯👏🏼❤️
My opinion…
The garbage collector example… if he didn’t state what he does for a living, that doesn’t mean he lied.
The right woman wouldn’t judge a man based on what he does for a living.
I do understand that if a person is constantly dodging questions, it can raise questions of your own.
Thank you so much 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome! 👍🏼
These men not even asking women out on dates no more...smh
It’s definitely happening a lot less
Some women are to masculine
@@user-fh1tr9zp3lbye troll. You’re in here trying to get tips to manipulate women.
Thank you Stephan! Noted!
My pleasure
Hi! Thanks for the upload.
No problem 🙏
solid advice at 6.47 enjoying life will attract like minded people and potential romance ❤
Practice SMILING at everyone! Men, women, couples, kids-any human. It can be awkward at first, but it lifts your spirits and create connections
28:13 😂😂😂😂😂😂 omigosh, he never fails to make me laugh -in a good way
The outcome is just as important as the experience to me, because SOME people really do not like wasring their time and energy on things that lead to nowhere. Sure there are lessons people can pick.up from situations that did not turn out as expected, but people get tired of just that and want things that will lead to desired results.
Yes, but the outcome is out of your control. The outcome is two sided. You can only control what pertains to you, such as to enjoy the experience, presenting your true self, getting to know the other person to see if you are compatible, that kind of thing.
Unfortunately, the potential of wasting one's time is just part of reality.
@eviep2 Which a time limit should be on that... Some.people don't just have frivolous time to waste. That part I can control...
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Dating is meant to be recreational. It is not a career goal or a job that you punch in the clock Monday through Friday 9 to five. Don’t use dating as a way to work on a relationship or work towards a relationship use dating as a way to establish a foundation or a friendship. To take the time and actually get to know someone to see if you even enjoy being around them or see if this is the type of person you want to bring around your family or friends. If you aren’t enjoying your time with an individual and you’re never gonna enjoy your life with them, you always have to crawl before you walk and walk before we run. Work is never enjoyed. Careers are. And nine times out of nine and an individual who has establish a career has started from the beginning, taking baby steps day by day or year by year to eventually get where they want to be in life. When you’re in college, you might start off with the idea of becoming a teacher, but after a few classes and working with a few kids and attempting a few lesson plans you might realize that this is not fun. I am not gonna be happy. I do not enjoy this. I do not want to be a teacher anymore. I would like to be a rocket scientist or a physical therapist because when I had gym class, I remember how much I enjoyed it when I was in science class experimenting on frogs all I could think about is how interesting and fun and intriguing it was and how all I wanted to do is return to that class And dissect another animal. So freshman in college my think they want to be a teacher and continue to try to work at being a teacher and realize that they are not gonna be happy being a teacher, but they’re happy in other places and they take that happiness and they grow it and expand it And they revisit it. Relationships should never be established because you worked on getting to that point in my opinion a relationship is the same as having a friendship. Nobody wants to be friends with somebody they have to work towards building their friendship with. We become friends with an individual because we can talk to them and we laugh with them and we have a good time when we’re together and we enjoy the same thing and we know how to communicate and we understand each other but you don’t need somebody can automatically start working on being their friend you meet a person and then eventually if it was meant to be y’all be telling friends because you enjoy each other‘s company
I’ve been meeting men after men (no sex) for two years and it’s disappointing I gave up a couple of times then after a few months without talking to anyone I get bored and try again to just be back to same dissatisfaction
I'll be praying for you 🙏
I don't see how anybody can be entertained by situationships only.
When you're not desperate and you have the option of being in a position to choose. But you want to "feel" these men out and allow time for their true colors to show... This is a scenario where one can be entertained by 'situationships'. Eventually one will rise above the rest but you have to be patient...*Disclaimer: my opinion and my story only 😊
@shantwhite1981 Entertaining "sitionships" is telling the universe that is what you are manifesting in life..not your actual husband. So you end up in situationship loops.
@shantwhite1981 There is a reason the saying is "be careful whom you give your energy too", but to each their own.
For many it provides companionship without the vulnerability, responsibility, and extra expectations
@MeetStephanSpeaks Understood, but some people like myself want that.
Hey Stephan,
For us in the early stages of being in a relationship (first few weeks/months), please could you provide tips for us?
Exactly how I feel atm 😢😂
Stephan. Do you have a guide per say on how to pray for your future spouse? I’ve been through the wringer when I comes to love. I would love to let God show me the way and lead me to the man that I am destined to be with.
God is selfish and you can love no man over him and the man that he has for you will have to have those same values. God can always bring you somebody who’s willing to marry you. Divorce could be a month later, but at least an individual was married as they asked. Or allow God to bring you someone who’s willing to up hold these vowels for you until death does us Part
Stephan,
What is your take on meeting men in clubs or bars. As you stated “go to your place where you feel most happiest“. Well, I love going to the clubs I love to dance. I actually did ballet for over 20 years so dancing and music is embedded in Me. I love listening to loud music and I love to drink. Most importantly I love getting dressed up putting on make up looking sexy. I love having my hair done showing off my best, Or what I think is my best, physical attributes. Going to the club with my girlfriends and having a fun filled night is something I like to do that makes me feel the happiest. I do have a lot of mixed emotions and thoughts on whether it’s a good idea to meet men at night clubs. What do you think?
I'm guilty of letting people linger longer than they should. Sometimes, I just don't know how to cut it off especially if they are a nice person but just not right for me.
If a woman is more of a lover personality, it’s good to consider men who are more warriors. Opposites attract and compliment. We often look for people who are exactly like us, that’s usually not a long lasting, successful union. 2 lover types-nothing gets done. 2 warrior types-lots of butting heads.
Greeting stephan 🙏may I add..🤗 One simple thing let's acknowledge Submit comment to humanity with🤝 inn ✊️ super🙏power woman man, old young. That is the we inn one/the one we are🙏🤝
You gave me the courage to leave my narcissist ex thank you so much for that. I am going to get back out there once I am healed and I’m going to follow these tips. I really appreciate you!
Ok
I think you and I should date I like you mannn❤
People, especially women, lose sight of the fact that online meeting is going to result in a lot more meets, therefore, more non-matches. How many people meet eligible singles in real life?
I'm a widow of 3years...would like to date...but I realize the game has truly changed...and not for the better...some men...not all... the maturity level...is a bit scary!🤔😏
Ive made effort to go out but men arent approaching. Worked on being approachable. Both men and women tend to stick to the group they came with and socialize with their respective groups. Cant make men approach nor can i meet new friends in these settings. This society is getting weird. No socializing, nothing....
Have you heard of zombies?
I thought I was alone in This world. I’m so used to to the man approaching the woman that it’s starting to effect (or affect) my confidence. Men don’t seem to have that behavior at all these days. Makes me feel like my dating timeframe has came to an end which sucks cause I would like to get married and have more kids
Online dating are full of scammers and crazy people.
Times have changed. Don't worry, things will reset. This lack of human connection isn't sustainable.
@@rhondacole4509 If you have faith, believe in God timing. God timing is always the best and He knows the best partner for you. All is well my friend. 🙏🏽💜
Dating hasn't even started
So I should delete tinder?
Not unless you want to. Go to sites that don't have the reputation for hook-ups.
Oh my goodness I have heard a woman say so what it's a free meal go on a date.... I didn't go.
Exactly!
I learned this the hard way but finally got the courage to leave. STILL HEALING AFTER READING YOUR BOOK. I am on a dating site and going on my 1st date, moved in my apt. And at PEACE
I'm learning how to love myself BETTER
RESONATING 🗣🤌🏽
I’m glad you’re finding it helpful
Instead of thinking is this my future spouse, evaluate whether the person can be a potential good friend-which takes times and experience. Stephan is right
28:13 😂😂😂😂😂😂 omigosh, he never fails to make me laugh -in a good way