5 Reasons Why You Don't Like To Be Around People
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- Опубликовано: 4 авг 2023
- In this video, we're going to discuss why some people prefer to be around people and others don't. We'll explore the reasons behind these differences and provide tips on how to become a more social person. Although everyone is different, understanding why you don't enjoy being around others can help you come to understand and manage your personality better. In this video, we'll examine some of the reasons why some people prefer to be alone and provide some tips on how to become more social.
1). You surround yourself with the wrong people 0:33
2). Stress 1:15
3). You're an introvert 2:06
4). You're a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) 3:01
5). High intelligence 3:49
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Fishman, I., Ng, R., & Bellugi, U. (2011). Do extraverts process social stimuli differently from introverts?. Cognitive neuroscience, 2(2), 67-73. doi.org/10.1080/17588928.2010.527434
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Introverts raise your hand 👋
Just did lol
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Same 😞
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If you've been betrayed often enough, it's difficult to trust others. The older I am, the more selective I become.
Same here…. Our experiences truly shape us.
Absolute same here. Given my home environment as a kid, along with being horribly bullied at school (and pranked and scapegoated on at work. High school never really ends), and excluded from general social events even outside of school.
This makes me unsure if I'm really an introvert or if my experiences FORCED me into it because I find myself going back and forth between demanding my free time to myself one day to wanting to go someplace and meet people on another. But my pickiness always causes me to hesitate, due to my past experiences. I always have this underlying belief that people are out to trick or hurt me somehow.
Same here, it’s okay to be alone, nobody harm you
Facts
@@phatcat3705 High School never ends. How unfortunately true is that. 🤦🏾♀️
I dont like people not just because i like being alone, but because they make me *feel* alone.
when it's painful being around people it's just common sense to keep your distance.
here on the internet though, you get to connect with people who also don't like other people. so i guess it's just that you don't like physical interaction with people.
So can relate to this.
@@troywright359not really to me. It’s more like you were promised to have a time with someone, and they don’t show up or keep promises…that in my eyes makes me feel alone, when I am not alone technically. I am slowly getting numb to this feeling and more and more I feel like I don’t want to trust or hang with anyone.
I know how that goes. @@Wrathgir
When meeting new people I’ll either be incredibly open and treat people like a life long best friend within half an hour, or the complete opposite, could spend years together and I still wouldn’t be comfortable with them. No in between. I used to think I was socially awkward but I just simply have to feel a natural connection with someone.
I can relate to that, it's an awkward feeling
You sound like the guy I like who is very introverted. He is very selective in who he gets very close to. If he gets close early on, he sticks to you but if not, he moves on fast. There is no in between..
Maybe you are an HSP and/or highly intelligent person? Do you like deep, meaningful conversations over gossip and small talks? That makes the case, to which I can strongly relate
I relate to this so much
That's pretty interesting. Have you found any patterns as to why you're close to some and not with others?
This is especially difficult for work environments that require you to constantly communicate with your coworkers but you have nothing in common with them except work
I totally agree! 💯 I deal with this on a daily basis with the job I have. I enjoy helping others, but it can be a bit too much when a few latch on to you and have to share everything about themselves or them can't stop talking about everything they are thinking.
True 😢
Look into freelance work and investing. I work alone and all my transactions are faceless. I'm set to make more money than I ever have working in offices too.
I feel this is in my bones. I yearn to work alone.
@@jude9460 I agree, sometimes I have to LISTEN to other people when I don't want to. It's like......can't these people only talk to me about stuff I find interesting?
seriously, unless they literally attach themselves to you and are ringing you up or speak to you constantly without stopping, some listening about their boring life isn't the worst thing
Timestamps
1). You surround yourself with the wrong people 0:33
2). Stress 1:15
3). You're an introvert 2:06
4). You're a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) 3:01
5). High intelligence 3:49
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
106 likes and no replies? Let me fix that
And thanks alot for the time stamp btw
@@McDonaldswifirobloxbacon thanks for commenting
@@McDonaldswifirobloxbacon not a problem happy to help
All of the above. 😂
As somebody that prefers their own company, I have always noticed that people who have a large circle of friends always seem to be in some type of conflict with them. Falling out over something, people not being appreciative of an act, something somebody said, taking sides etc etc. I am happy not be involved in what can become a vicious circle.
@backrowbrighton exactly, me too. The drama drives me insane. I just like to be in my own thoughts. While I do enjoy a small handful of like-minded friends, I find that people tend to get defensive or pick fights due to different values or perspectives....
I like eccentric people. I don't like normal people.
Humans are full of unnecessary drama. I find that boring and a waste of time.
Society takes all sorts of people to get along. it's not easy. but it can be navigated, even with a large group of friends.
Thanks. I'm 62-years-old, and I've finally realized that people wear me out. When I'm in any setting with other people (office, friends, festivals & concerts, etc.) it's worn me out more as I've grown older. I realize that those times have always been treated in my mind like entertainment gigs. I'm there to put on my "public guy" image. It takes more energy than I've ever realized. Studying Stoicism has helped. Thanks again!
I’m also 62 and feel very similarly.
To all lone wolfs out there being alone is never a sign of weakness or a flaw. It is a choice that some people make for various reasons. One of them being trauma that they might have experienced with humanity, especially from their childhood. Trauma can leave deep scars on the psyche and affect the way one perceives and interacts with others. Some people may find it hard to trust, to love, or to feel safe around other humans EVER AGAIN. I feel like for one to come to this choice was because they have tried every trick in the book yet they still were taken advantage of by narcissistic, self-absorbed, egocentric persons. once upon a time these were the guys whom used to be nice guys but later turned scapegoats in society, never looking backwards...
I glad your sharing this take, it's one that is less seen but still valid to many people and needs to be acknowledged more
Well said and done . Friends are not forever . They can bk stab u or pretend they like u, but at the end, they use you . I choose to be alone and I'm ok with that . My best is my pet, lol.they are easy to please ❤
Interesting, people say they’re a lone wolf when those don’t actually exist, I just wanna wolf is looking for a mate and territory. It’s like them subconsciously knowing they just haven’t found their group yet.
Thank you for the kind yet powerful message. Solitude should never be looked down upon as loneliness or weakness. I believe that solitude and the enjoyment of it is one of the most powerful things you can practice for yourself. :)
Also thank you for your comment. I like to add the references to misanthropy (please don't misunderstand the definition in a wrong way), Schopenhauer and the hedgehog's dilemma, as some may benefit from it if understood correctly. Best philanthropic regards ☮
I kind of have the opposite problem, it's not that I don't like to be around other people but rather other people don't like to be around me. After being told "leave me alone" a lot, it made me leave everyone alone forever because it seems like no one outside of my family or friends wants to be around me and that they would get angry with me if I even start talking to them. Which is why I always wait for others to talk to me instead of the other way around because I don't want to be rejected nor do I want to be perceived as being annoying or desperate.
I feel the same
Oh gosh..yes..same same same.
Rejection is a difficult thing to endure. At least you recognise the benefits of social interaction. It can be hard waiting. Everyone in work, school, etc always tell you to leave them alone?
@@troywright359 It was mostly at school in the 4th Grade. After that, I just isolate myself because I was giving them what they want and it seemed like I was doing things wrong a lot so I don't even try to interact unless someone talks to me first. I just didn't want to annoy people or come across as desperate that's all if they want nothing to do with me.
Nothing makes me feel more drained and tired than being around other people. I don't even have to be forced to interact with others, just being seen and having to be among them saps my will to live.
Same. People are judgmental and you can feel the tensity in the air around them. I don't like the feeling at all. So I'd rather be alone. Alone I am at peace.
It's hard to live in society when you are authentic and society is wearing a mask.
I always hate it when people assume I don't want to be alone and try to make me part of the group.
Yes!
Same
This is actually quite common. I think it can be annoying because it's just not true that people always want to be a part of a group. Some people prefer being alone and that's okay.
You should not take it as an offense since they may not want to leave you out.
Had this problem with my class. Like, yes, I'm your classmate, but don't drag me to your mess... This is worse when it's class targered issue. It's not my fault if my classmate is using drugs and the class is defending him, I'm not involved in that sh!t...
Sorry, I kinda talked too much, but it feels better now. It's just build up rage from being in a catholic school while being athiest. (Unironically, I'm the only one of my class that doesn't drink and is not catholic. Talk about big irony.)
I was one of those awkward kids that the other kids bullied all through my school years. Not all the other kids fault. I brought a lot on myself. I am now 58 and practically live under a rock. To me, solitude is a luxury.
If you were bullied it is not your fault
I don't have all the details but it doesn't sound like it was your fault. However, it's great to know that you embraced your solitude. Outside of your solitude, do you spend time with others as well?
@@Psych2go Thank you for your kind words. Part of the bullying because as a child my mouth wrote checks that I couldn't cash. 😂 I do get out from time to time...mostly helping my friend with shopping, and her dad who has dementia.
Amen
You're not alone! I was from an isolated family and was bullied - so being around people can be uncomfortable, draining and unpleasant. I, too, am so grateful for solitude and independence. It is all about balance, though, because it's not fun to always be alone, either
I've definitely become more of an introvert as the years have gone by. I value my peace.
Me too… I am more of an ambivert but am getting more introverted as I get older. People are really troublesome and I enjoy my peace more.
People are judgmental and you can feel the tense energy in the air around them. I don't like the feeling.
Likewise.
Being undiagnosed ADHD for 40 years I've ended up not liking people and retiring from society. It's like a slow death, like removing pieces from the puzzle of life one after another in a gradual subconscious process of "That's it, I'm done"
I'm sorry to hear or in that case read that I hope your better now have a good day/night 👋
@@tsukiafton3585 Thank you for the nice words
very poetic though
Thanks for sharing something so personal with us. Have you considered getting a formal diagnosis? Do you think you'll ever open yourself up to people?
Feel bad for you and it is definitely more than just being an introvert. My second brother is an ultra introvert but he likes being around the right people and always craved a relationship. He married late in life as he was so antisocial. He loves staying home and rarely goes out. But he enjoys it every now and then, but needs time to recharge after going out. I hope you get better and can socialize again and have some fun with the right people. Life is short so hope you find the time and opportunities to enjoy.
My reasons are the 1, 2 and 3 !
I felt like socializing and being with my friends was a chore, I was always stressed that they judge me, and I felt like I couldn’t be myself, so it was exhausting…
But recently I made other friends and I’m so happy, I feel like we are the right friends for each other ! We have the same tastes, humor, dreams and motivations !
That's great to hear! What was the main difference between your new friends and your old ones? Why do you think you're able to be yourself with your current friends more so than your former group of friends?
I can relate. I know how it is. 😮💨😕
@@Psych2go wait a sec. why are you happy? i thought you only liked the comments that say 'all humanity is bad so i wrap myself in cuccoon away from evil humans'?
I was raised to be a people pleaser. But, I got used a lot by others. I don't trust people and I don't feel that they really like me. When I want to be liked or loved, I go out of my way to do things for that other person. I prefer being alone because I don't have that pressure or stress with myself. I relax and have fun all by myself, just like I did as a child who was not supposed to make demands.
I'm an introvert but I still enjoy socializing with quality people
I just hate being around people because they cause nothing but problems for me. Doesn't matter who it is. They always cause some BS down the line. Which is why I'd rather be alone.
I definitely fit the description of a highly sensitive person, and I am very sensitive to stress.. I find that being alone or around a smaller group that know me well is okay because I can take things in at my slower pace without feeling like there is something wrong with me.. I also find that while it is nice to spend time with others, I do feel I need time on my own to recharge and I am much better to be around once I have had that time 😊
Feel the same way brodie
This is me!! My friends sometimes don’t understand that I need time to recharge. That I love my quiet me time and there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes I like to socialize but with a small group of friends and then it’s ok to go on my own. I can literally eat, travel, go to the movies, etc all by myself and I am perfectly content! 😊
I’m the same….
I LOVE being alone and not around people. I’d rather be around animals and nature. People give me anxiety. Knowing they could easily manipulate, gaslight, or harm me physically, mentally, or emotionally. And not have my best interest at heart. Humans are very mean, insensitive, and judgmental.
Not everyone is like that. You just have to meet the right people and be the right person too.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fjtoo many in western society to be safe in my opinion. Humans are better in outer nations
I agree.
@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Not everyone is like that, but unfortunately, a lot are.
0:35 you surround yourself with the wrong people
1:16 stress
2:07 you're an introvert
3:00 you're a highly sensitive person (HSP)
3:49 high intelligence
Who?
I am the first one
I want to say I'm last one without being a 🤓 but yeah reading philosophy is better than any family meeting
Thank you for the time stamps!
@@Psych2go cares
Introvert here. I have zero social anxiety. I do not like small talk, conversations about other people, or current events. I enjoy talking about ideas, which most people are incapable of doing.
I feel like people deplete my energy. Theres so many people that always want something constantly and overdo in that area, or are malicious in their thinking and they are overly pushy in trying to attach themselves to you. I cant even go in the grocery store without someone asking me if i work there or to help them with something. And nothing wrong with helping people, but sometimes when i am out, i just want to do what i need to do and go back home. But I am an RN and a single mother so I am always drained in doing for others anyway. I also think that so many do not know how to look inwards or self soothe at all, that they are more inclined to dump their issues on those they perceive to have it all together. But in the end of the day, we are all humans with limitations.
People can be unpredictable, which my brain perceives as chaotic, and therefore something to avoid as much as possible.
And items 1 through 5 in the video, as well.
Me being an introvert: there’s more than 5 reasons.
you got that right!
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Preach!!! Amen😂❤
At least 7.8 billion reasons for me.🚽
It's not easy for introverts to meet like-minded souls ❣️
no it's not.
My favorite people to be around are the ones who are perfectly fine with peace and quiet every so often, including from talking. Extroverts often find silence "awkward", like they HAVE to fill that silence with talking or else they're uncomfortable. Myself, on the other hand, enjoys being able to talk and then take a break from talking without the other person trying to fill that silence. Like, it's okay to just be chill here and there. Stop making the silence awkward. It's only awkward if you force a conversation. Just let the convo come naturally
As an introvert I find it hard when an extrovert won't even give me a second to think about and respond to what they've just said, like even a second, before they talk again! Even texting, they don't give me chance to respond before they butt in with their next text! As a result I don't get to share my take on the subject because they've already moved onto the next thing! Arrrghhhh! 🤣 I need to start saying things like, "Just let me think for a second" to stop them butting in before I can respond.
I've learned to always make sure i'm not just self sabotaging (due to walls i've put up in the past) when avoiding social gatherings, feeling the craving for alone time. 🌱
I think that's an important distinction. Solitude doesn't mean anti-social and knowing the difference is very important!
You sure you aren't playing among us 💀🌞
I don’t have a lot in common with most people around me and my personality rubs people the wrong way so I just enjoy my own company more. I hate tedious small talk, I laugh with difficulty, I seem to think differently than others around me.
6. You’ve had enough of people’s sh*t.
Bingo 🎯
Being antisocial is not the same as being selectively social. Choose the people you decide to have around you carefully.
Timestamps:
0:33 - You surround yourself with the wrong people
1:15 - Stress
2:07 - You're an Introvert
3:01 - You're a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
3:49 - High Intelligence
Btw, I guess I'm an Introvert & an HSP 😅 I don't usually like being around people.. I don't find anything common between me & them.. And they won't understand the way I think😑 That's why I don't like usually being with people!
Very informative & Awesome video, Psych2go! ❤
So relatable 😭
I feel the same🥴
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I'm 100% introverted
Thank you for the time stamps!
When I was smaller, I hated trying to talk to new people mostly because of the overwhelming negative "what if"s and overall stress.
Nowadays, I actively enjoy talking to new people and even have fun doing so.
Great video also I really like the art style show in the video.
same goes for me. I get so anxious on what impression I make to the point I just hide away. The friends I've been with aren't helping either, with their consistent badgering and random outbursts of anger. Ive met some that im happy with but even then, the doubt continues to exist and eventually it drove away my only friend that stuck to me and actually talked to me. for now i think im fine with being myself. i also like the art style in the video, and i found the lineart similiar in Ibis Paint X.
I've watched this several times in a row and just cried. I've always felt like this and its been worse recently and I couldn't figure out why...I've felt so weird and damaged...I've been hating myself for this but seeing there can be innocent reason and it doesn't mean there's "something wrong" takes a bit of the weight off
Being at high school I was around the wrong group which did make me think I didn’t enjoy people’s company but that was just never true, at home I got along so well with my parents and brother, it was simply because i never liked my so called ‘friends’ in school they would bully or be very rude to other students and teachers, they would make jokes which would go beyond the limit and eventually lead to dramas or problems which I just never liked, even though they barely ever did anything to me it was clear they did not care about or saw me as a real friend, because I wouldn’t be apart of their behavior but since it’s high school you didn’t really have much of a choice in making friends.I just could not be comfortable with how they would treat others. I was always the quiet friend in that group, sometimes I just find a place where I could be alone and go home. Eventually I did find a few people just like me who were quiet and shared similar interest and I could get along with them well, for a time those fake friends made me believe I did not enjoy being with people if they weren’t my loving or trusting family but eventually I learned to not that hold me back and found better people who I can call real friends
There's a good few reasons why I don't like people (that I don't know)
1. I have a small friend group, just four guys who hang out and play videogames together frequently. I prefer smaller groups, as it keeps the drama down and the vibes up.
2. I only really stick to my close friends. With them I'm open and rambunctious, but around people I don't know I become quiet and reserved. I'm not shy, it's just me trying to get a read on the people around me.
3. The noise of a crowd gets to me easily. Even being in a bigger city makes me uncomfortable and on edge.
4. I don't trust people I don't know much at all. If someone is getting up in my face I will take that as a threat and will either try to disengage or get them to back off, usually the former.
5. I am a cynical person overall, with a nihilistic world view. This leaves me doubting the intentions of someone pretty often. If you're a friend of a friend you're probably ok, but I'll keep an eye on you. If I don't know you, and none of my friends really do, all bets are off and we aren't going to be anything more than acquaintances cause I don't trust you at all.
6. I don't have an amazing life, and my mental health has been in the dumpster for years now, so if I even smell the smallest amount of drama I'm peacing out. I can't deal with that bs. I basically dropped out of a friend group for that reason. People started dating, things got messy and sides were made. I decided to dip instead of take a side. I basically inadvertently started it by dating one of my best friends in that group, unfortunately she was a little crazy, and broke up with me after a few months, only to immediately start dating someone else (and then cheat on them). Our relationship was kinda forced by the rest of the friend group, so that left things in a rough place. I'm not too upset about it, but not a great first time experience for dating and probably why I have some of the trust issues I do now.
Anyways, that's enough of me ranting. I'm sure there are some people who feel similarly to me, so hi to you guys. If you don't feel similarly thanks for reading my bs. Hope you enjoyed the peek into the mind of a person with MDD (Major Depressive Disorder)
I personally have an avoidant attachment style because of trauma. I’d love to have more friends, but it’s simply just scary.
It is so tough for me to say I'm the fifth type, cause people either misjudge me as narcissistic or misunderstand it as sarcasm.
I think it's okay to say that you're highly intelligent and that you prefer intelligent endeavors. You're clearly not doing it to brag but rather to express yourself in a self-aware manner. If anything, it's far from narcissism!
I was looking for this one. We need a better term for this. I like "introspective", but it may be insufficient. I fit your description of #5 almost perfectly but intelligence comes in many forms. It becomes too easy to look down on those that don't see the world the way I do.
@@Psych2go thank you for the reply 😊
How do you deal with having to work with others?
Thank you for the video. I was just wondering why I’ve been being a hermit more than usual these days ❤
Turns out I’m just really annoyed with doing the same thing every day.. and it’s not serving me positively doing it.
It’s so hard sometimes :/ half the time I feel like I’m from another world or something. I’m just not “the norm”
I’m at peace with it now though ❤
Your videos always make me so calm and help me understand why I do the weird things I do lol
I really appreciate you being here! ❤
as an undiagnosed autistic person, socialising has always been incredibly difficult and overwhelming, and ive never been able to properly connect with people, as well as being made fun of and excluded lol. being around people is genuinely scary to me and can almost emd up in a panic attack lol.
Im in the same situation
@@amandak.4246 thats the thing though. i have tried to get one but my parents refuse to get me evaluated. ive done plenty of research on autism and have asked people who have been diagnosed what they think and all the signs point to me having it rather than not. and secondly, people who are diagnosed say its okay to self diagnose since not everyone has access to an official one. im sorry for any misunderstanding here. :)
@@amandak.4246 Its common for adults to have undiagnosed autism. The detection methods in the 90s and earlier missed a lot of less severe cases.
My brother is high functioning so wasnt diagnosed until his late 20s.
Who doesnt take autism seriously? I have never met anyone like that
cause people suffocate me
It's almost comical how my empathetic nature acts like a cosmic vacuum cleaner, effortlessly attracting all the debris of narcissistic and toxic individuals. I find myself unintentionally engulfing their negativity, like a black hole in the presence of their antics. It's not in my job description, but somehow I've mastered the art of unintentional magnetism. Blessed with a big-hearted empathy and a knack for attracting the negative, I'm like a superhero battling toxicity. Saving the day, one soul-sucking encounter at a time!
Despite the fact that in addition to being an introvert and probably an HSP I've been dealing with an illness, I have been feeling extremely guilty for not wanting to socialize at all lately. This helped me feel a little better, thank you!
Perhaps take a Meyers Briggs Personality test. Some ppl are just wired to be alone, such as INTJs. It could help you feel better about yourself and learn from others that are similar and how they deal with stuff. I found quite a bit of relief knowing I wasn’t ‘just weird’ and the only odd duck.
Being alone is ok. You shouldn't feel guilty about preferring your own company. Deliberately withdrawing from any socialisation to the detriement of anyone reaching out....that's something different.
I am deliberately withdrawing from any socialization. I don't like most people. I prefer my own company.@@troywright359
Introverts do like being around people but enjoy being alone too.
@@avatar-kn9znYup and some of my brothers are introverts too. They like being alone but they enjoy being around people too.
Yeah but we like to be around people who have same vibe/aura as us ❤❤
Not anyone random just some of our few friend.....and ofc alone 💘
@@misteratom1165 It depends as my brother is an ultra introvert but he married a major extrovert. It just depends. I am an ambivert but like a very introverted guy.
@@misteratom1165 not really, in fact i often become the extrovert to the people that are introverts. i have friend thats extremely extrovert and we somehow click.
I like being around ppl I actually have a genuine connection with.
After 4 years of not being in school the only person I liked was someone dying of alto immune disease, she, she wanted me to be happy and focus on my goals something that is incredibly rare (most people say that because of their job or because they knew my potential) you simply don't get people who genuinely just want you to be happy and shows great interest in your actions (nowadays people have too much pride or greed to really care or that they believe that you're just boring and they want to be with others)
So my guess is like 3/4 stress, different moral and beliefs and smart (despite the fact I enjoy being with high energy people (because it's indirect contrast to who I am today and because I like mimicking thing thusly making happy for a shot time) I simply find that they don't understand why I'm the way that I am and then I loose interest... )
All 5!
The first only to a certain extent but it hit right home.
What I love aboute your clips is, that they keep on reminding me in short, clear words, what I learnd in yearth of therapy. 😊
Thank you.❤
Most people suck to be around and contribute nothing but burdensome negativity, judgement and drama. It's far easier to be alone than it is to search endlessly for genuine connection cause it is hard to find these days and the longer the search draws on the more hopeless you feel.
It’s because people suck. Just kidding.
Very thought provoking video once again! Thanks😊😊
No but its true tho
Just like how school isn't the bad one, The people inside the school are the bad ones.
We do suck tho.....
Not really,
It just follows the standard guidelines related to the topic from an academic point of narrow view.
It's lazy at best.
No jokes.. That was truth.. people do suck
I would be happiest if I could be alone at least 90% of the time. I haven't been diagnosed but I KNOW I am an HSP. Even if I am alone there is a limit to how much music, tv, or anything that has sound that I can handle. I must have quiet time every day.
I definitely relate to multiple points. Thanks again for a great video!
This is relatable to me
My challenge is that so many people are uncouth, ingenuine, aggressive, combative and judgmental. The world seems to be teeming with jerks and few kind, empathetic people.
Omgggggg yes I hate people
Some people just prefer to be alone. Other people need to get over that and leave those alone who want to be alone. Being a loner is not a crime or a sin.
I can't really give a reason that I don't like people other than "hurr durr me special need"
my autism influences the way i talk to people, the people i talk to and what i say.
I prefer being alone and solving problems on my own, i get really nervous meeting people and i generally don't talk to people or go anywhere.
I've been told it's "bad for me" and that i should leave the house more and make new friends, but i don't want to.
Don't socialise if you don't want to. Not wanting or needing friends is perfectly fine.
Alright, i did not expect to see a video that i was wanting to see yesterday. The best timing. Love yall keep it up! ❤
I'm primarily a loner. However I can relate to a group when I have to. Frankly, for me, a lot of people really don't have anything interesting to say. My partner is HSP so we get along great. I also have a disability which makes people feel uncomfortable around me at times.
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thanks for this video back in my younger days i was a person that crys when im around to much people today im starting to work on it and i better at it
being betrayed, having people screw you over for selfish reasons or not stand up for you when things were clearly wrong. not wanting to bother because the rejection isnt worth it. not having enough in common with anyone to make them interested in the first place
For me, it's not because I'm being awkward or don't know what to do or what to say in front of people. But from my experience, people often seeking for trouble whether it's with me or other people. For example, I was just drawing cartoons in my class one day, and these girls start throwing rolled papers at me. Even though I don't bother & just continue what I do (and pick up the papers they throw casually for my drawing supply), sometimes I still wonder why people do such things. If only I asked them why...That's just one example, but this is the particular reason why I often avoid people as much as possible: because they are annoying.
I know what you mean and sadly there are so many messed up idiots in this world that do mean things for no good reasons at all. They are the ones with issues not you. There are good people too so you shouldn’t think all people are bad and annoying.
I mainly find it hard to be around others because I’m afraid that they will judge me harshly. I have always never considered myself to be attractive, and that never helped with me being socially awkward. I also put too much pressure on myself. I have been working on my self-esteem, and found out that I do have it thanks to the video “7 Signs you hate Yourself” by Psych2go. Thank you so much for posting that. I have much better self-esteem now and have tried to be easier on myself. I also realized I might have ADHD. I have all the signs, and others say that I have it. I could never focus in class, and I thought something was wrong with me, or I was dumb. I also get distracted SO easily, and I have always felt this way. I do know I have maladaptive daydreaming. It might just be that. I’m also a huge introvert. I prefer hanging out with my dog than my friends. Now you know me 😄
Thank you Psych2go. You have helped me so much. Hopefully someone can relate to me. Hope everyone who reads this has a wonderful day! 💜
I was actually avoiding your channel because I was jealous (not envy) of how well you could talk and… just help, but I’m happy I watch you now!
Referencing where your facts came from (eg. DARPA publications) make this a super great video! Thanks for posting this!
The reason why I don't usually like to communicate with people is because I hate to feel that I'm different or kinda off compare to others though conversation.
However, also, I'm struggling with loneliness.
You may have an abnormally large dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, studies show this can lead to a heightened sense of self awareness. If anything I kind of wish I was less self aware, let me be one of those obnoxious people the world revolves around.
@@b00g3rs21 me too, though im not sure if i really have that or do i care to get it checked out-- i wish i was like those people. like screaming, shouting, laughing loudly like a bunch of hyenas without caring for anything is somewhat what i wished i was like. it sounds selfish and honestly annoying, but im tired of going unnoticed and quiet my entire life. i hate the sudden realization that i dont fit in, and i hate how it suddenly makes me drive people away.
I love your videos hopefully. You will reach to twenty Million subscribers And I can relate to everything😂😂❤❤❤ Keep up the good work.
Aww, your little characters are so warm and cute! It makes me happy to just watch your videos, and hear your calming voice, and all this information is just a BONUS! Thank you @psych2go !!! P.S I'm an ENFP and an HSP, which I learned from you guys!
I can definitely say all of these are a factor to one degree or another (though I hesitate to agree to #5, only because it feels kinda narcissistic).
The thing is, when I find people who I genuinely enjoy being and interacting with, I form _very tight_ bonds with them- they're sources of genuine happiness in my life and I'm so happy to have them in it. But in the grand scheme of things, very few people end up being endearing enough to me to form those bonds, especially among crowds of strangers. A lot of the general public are extremely exhausting, in a number of ways for a number of reasons.
Amazing video ❤ you deserve the 10M subs
I can relate to this so much 🫶🏼
Yes! Thank you for this! I'm heavily introverted and I need this sm 🎉
I just love my peace and quiet, being in my thoughts and tbh if a person is moving on some weird way I’m done.
I feel more comfortable when I'm alone not to say i don't wanna be around amazing people i just find some people make me feel worse about myself
I find most make me feel worse about myself.
It’s a problem for me. I am an introvert and I don’t prefer being in groups of people. But, I also often feel better after having been in a group. My mind understands that socializing can be good for me, while my personality avoids it. The result is that have no close friends, though I would like to have at least one or two good friends.
I love the art style!!!!! ❤️
From when I was young i always had different making friends because I was to mature for my age so often solving my life problems I would prefer to do it myself, thinking in a different way than others and having a better understanding of things made it so much harder to find friends in middle school that matched my energy. I felt different and as if was the problem , I didn’t like to talk about gossip ,crushes or whatever , I loved talking about history, books ,crime,things happening around the world and the way are brains are fascinating and different in so many ways.
Being around people is tiring just the fact that they’re around I pick up on their vibrations their thoughts and even if we don’t speak I feel like we’ve had 30 minute nonsense conversations now I understand
I have always been shy my whole life but when i started middle school Everything changed, i’m not comfortable being myself or saying a single word cause everyone was judgemental and my classmates hated me for my past so i never said a single word to anyone in school for 3 years and they hated me even more for that
I really want to thank you, your videos really help
As an ENTJ, I am glad to have the opportunity to try to understand people who think differently to me. Thanks, PSYCH2GO.
I am an introvert. I don't trust people. Opening myself to people has often got me hurt. I get lost when I hear more than one conversation going at a time, which often happens in large gatherings. I do better in small groups, but often prefer to just put in my headphones and listen to music than to deal with people.
I like being alone not because I don't understand others, it is because I understand them too well.
Exactly.
This channel is the only thing in my life which feels Home.
I used to love being around people but after college things changed. It just takes so much mental energy to socialize now
I was ok until I joined the Military, now I don’t want to be around anyone. I find most people are just phony, they say one thing and do another. I have 3 friends, Me, Myself, and I.
Because people are unpredictable
I have my close friend group and I treat most others as distant as I can. It's difficult to get invested in other people when I'm comfortable with the people I know already. Still, it's nice to share in commonalities when I can find them in strangers.
spot on with all the points
I consider myself as an introvert by i started thinking that this may be my cover for not wanting to try communicate with people.
For an example, at school/university, im passing by a lot of people without saying a word, I see a friend on the halway or a crush maybe, but i feel uncomfortable getting close and talking. But when *they* approach me, Im acting like the most comfortable human. I assume this is happening due to the uncertainity. It's like i want to be 100% sure if they'll talk to me when I approach.
(Also bad English problem)
Sometimes you feel lost, sometimes you feel found. Both are part of living.
Isn't the point here that some of us don't want to be found?
For it is an ancient truth that not all who wander are lost
Thank you!❤❤❤❤
I'm an introvert with social anxiety and autism, and I've really wanted to actually get out of the house and meet a new friend group. But I tend to just sit in my room playing video games all day instead.
I'm at that point in life where I'm looking to transition into a full time job (with not many responses back) while being bored for most of the summer outside of gaming, listening to music, and watching RUclips. Taking a break from Twitter has only increased my boredom, despite being glad that I did it, as it made my social anxiety worse. The most activity I tend to have outside of the house (when I'm not with my parents) is grabbing a bite to eat, or running an errand for my father before returning home.
I need a vacation. Maybe another concert experience. IDK. I just need something to look forward to that isn't a random RUclips video, album drop, or game update.
Sometimes I just like to be alone and watch RUclips lol
Immediately clicked when I saw the notification lol
Finally a video that explains my problem around people
Psych2Go, remember I said I will follow your videos! This helpful and good video is my start! :D
Introvert people nailed it but being silent is a secret tool to know the weakness of your enemy ❤
Here's a question: How do you differentiate a Highly Sensitive Person from an Empath?
HSPs are sensitive to stimuli - things that affect a person’s sight, sound, touch, smell, taste. They have some crossover with empaths because of this, since they emotionally/physically/mentally react to the stimuli, but Empaths are strictly sensitive to social/emotional cues of people - not necessarily all stimuli that can be experienced on this earth, so not so similar to an HSP.
At least that’s how I understand it.
I go with #3,,, I can socialize for a short time and then I have to stop and decompress alone either reading a book or watching an old movie, maybe gardening. I also find doing things alone so much more satisfying.
I like how your art style changes constantly